Cheating feels so “normalized” nowadays especially in media and too many folks are accepting of it. I’m so glad you stood your ground. Cheating should count as a form of abuse imo.
I don’t think it’s normalised, people just actually talk about it now. Rather than accepting a cheater and staying together to save face, people are actually calling people out
And you have men who want to convince women to accept it especially if he has money as if that means anything. Cheating is even serious to God. So serious that us Christians are allowed to divorce because of it. So serious you can end up in hell for eternity
You're the first person I've seen say that and I completely agree! Cheating is abuse, we need to stop making fun of victims and blaming them for not leaving. Not everyone has the tools to remain calm and walk away. Why are cheaters never held accountable? Why are there no campaigns to sensibilise the public on the terrible effects on a person's mental health after being cheated on? Victims of cheaters suffer from depression, anxiety, PTSD after those events and its not to be taken lightly.
I have thought of it as such (abuse) since I first experienced it. It is completely agonizing and heartbreaking emotionally. It is pure mental anguish. It also affects ones physiologically; for example, it can put you in danger of lifelong illnesses and mental trauma (which affects your ability to feed your body nutritionally, and practice self care, hygiene--as she mentioned in the video). Additionally, it's not just the partner that suffers, but also if there are children in the family, they also suffer great emo/mental anguish that last a lifetime to undo and heal from. It can even bring death by way of aids, or suicide; to both to mother and unborn child/ren, or the baby can be born with STI's. Also, it can lead to addiction to alcohol and other drugs, which leads to an overall diminished quality of life. So much abuse! Lastly, it is also financial abuse, given that most cheaters are spending money that should be for the household on the person they are cheating with, i.e. dinners, dates, gifts, hotels (such in this case), gas to drive around, the list can be endless!! Cheating might fall under sexual abuse. I'll have to ask a qualified therapist and/or do research online. Thank you for this dialogue. I needed it. Anyone, please feel free to add to what I have added, or correct me if I'm wrong 🕊️ May God continue to bless you all with love and wisdom 🙏🏽💗🤯
If a man is depressed, having a midlife or financial crisis, or is not getting his needs met it is his responsibility to communicate and get the proper help. Please never feel like u r to blame for ur husband's disgusting behavior. U did what u could to keep the relationship and home together. U did ur very best. No excuse for cheating! Losing ur marriage & the person u loved is hard, but remember it's his biggest loss, not yours. It only goes up from here. Prayers.
Anyone who says you aren't pretty enough for your husband is green with envy. You don't deserve to be cheated on because he has issues. You are a strong female who deserves 100% commitment from her husband. I know everyone is cheering you on as you get over this cheating fool.
There's is always a reason there is always a choice.... Cheating has levels to it.... Some people cheat one time there whole life and regret it and never do it.... Some people cheat based off of hard situations death loss of job etc, some people are just born cheaters they don't know how to stop
29:46 unfortunately your relationship doesn't have to be rocky for a man to cheat. men don't really need a reason to cheat, all they need most of the time is a girl that is willing and that's all it takes. They don't even really think about it.
The people that were here from early remember how Daina was bullied online. I remember when she almost went to Korea for that facial surgery and God intervened. Stay strong sis we’re rooting for you!!!
Wtf? I'm very new to this, the first time I'm seeing her. As she was telling her story, I was admiring how pretty she is, and I'm loving her lips. I don't know what the husband looks like. He must be super stunning if they think she's ugly for him. I can't believe people thought her ugly, including HER! There's a lesson here for me.
I was reflecting on that moment too as she was telling her story. Thanks God an Angel spoke to her. She’s a beautiful women. I am proud of her and that moment spoke highly to me.
That’s probably the reason she never wanted to have kids with him. Women aren’t stupid. She knew it wasn’t going to last and didn’t want to be tied down with children.
I've seen pictures of him and I can't fathom that people thought he was out of your league. It was DEFINITELY the other way around. I'm so happy that you know your self worth and the way you handled it is an example to me and others. Your transparency is so admirable and going to help others going through the same thing. Sending you love and prayers ❤️
So proud to see more women speaking their truths . We need to stop defending and staying silent . You never know who needs to hear this . Well done hun ❤
I so agree! I spent years upholding my exes reputation and thinking that I would be the one embarrassed. It turns out when I finally spoke my truth to people closet to me, he was the embarrassing one. Daina found much strength to make this video despite her internet trolls.
Girl men aren't even worth it nowadays. Idk why they act like we need them in our life. If you're not a loyal, kind, and good lover no one needs you in their life man or woman. 🤷♀️
God was protecting you because imagine having a child with such a man and then having to co parent and keep seeing him, hearing about him after he did all that...idk how women do it 😪
Seriously, I look back and I’m soo grateful that I didn’t have a child with an ex. I can’t even imagine having to co- parent and knowing your child is out of your sight and that you can’t complain what women he brings around your child. Heck no.
A mans rejection is Gods protection..I know shes still hurting but when she looks back on this situation she is going to be so happy that she didn't have a child with him.
It pissed me off he booked hotel room but couldn’t pay his portion of the rent. The audacity and lack of consideration. Girl u r glowing now. Keep it up! Nuff blessings to you.
It’s him saying he slept with a random stranger he didn’t even know from a can of paint and he could’ve brought you back an STD/STI. All for what?! Smh. Men are so disgusting.
Any woman that cooks and cleans for their man and holds him down through financial difficulty and continues to respect him, you honestly deserve the WORLD - to treat her like this is a complete and utter disreagrd of a blessing
@Aqua Abundance I would advise women to not change but be wiser and give all of their love to good men deserving of it, not because they're good looking, not because they have money, but because they're consistent and always have your best interests at heart, that doesnt mean giving you what you want but always finding a way to give you what you need - get to know men before sleeping with them because the truth is its not about them its about you, women pick the man not the othwr way around so pick wisely
@@kole9158 Telling women they need to choose better is victim blaming, and it's not always that simple. Women don't get into relationships expecting to get cheated on, it just happens. Daina is a perfect example of that. A guy can seem "good" in the beginning of a relationship but things can quickly take a turn for the worse. Also, men and women choose each other. It's not a one-sided thing. Smh!
People don’t understand what it takes to sit down and tell your story to the world. This isn’t just a story but her life that she lived and her pain that she suffered. You’re amazing Daina and deserve so much happiness. I pray that for you 💛
One thing I love about you is that you just tell a story and you don't put no extra sauce on it. I'm so happy you are in a better place and can tell your story
It makes sense now why he was soooo scared when you did the STD prank years ago. He was genuinely worried. That aside, Daina there is no shame in being loyal. You’re stunning, funny and very transparent. I hope you find true love again. Things don’t happen to you, they happen for you. It’s turned out that you not having a child together was a blessing in disguise. Love this new chapter and that you are now speaking your truth ❤️❤️
Oooof, I remember that video but I could swear they were both in on that prank. I think they were making fun of other yt couples doing those prank videos
AHMET IF YOU END UP ON THIS VIDEO DONT GO DISTURBING MY SIS WITH YOUR NONSENSE RUBBISH, U SHOULD HAVE BEEN A BETTER HUSBAND🗣 This is her story to tell, let her tell it kmt
That's why you never idolize or "relationship goals" peoples relationship. You never know what people are going through. You only see what they allow you to see. I'm so sorry that you went through all of this, Daina. Glad you've grown and are continuing to build a beautiful life for yourself ❤️
I knew he was a scrote from day 1. I just didn’t know why she stayed. Sis can get any man and if I were her, I will make god damn sure the next man has a secure income and high income. Love is cute but it only goes so far. Women have too much to offer just by the virtue of being a woman that it’s dangerous to end up with a man who doesn’t have money. She is lucky she doesn’t have kids cause her life would have been 100x more difficult
@@newleft2254she can’t get “any man” 🤦🏾♂️. She 100% can get any man to f*ck her but getting that high value men to marry her? Is going to be super hard. So let’s not lie to her
@@intello8953 She is successful, attractive, in good health, can run a household and take care of a child including a man child. She is capable of a long term relationship and being faithful. Why exactly would it be “hard” for her to get a man? You sound like you’re bitter cause you can’t get someone like her. I bet you’re either short or unemployed.
@@newleft2254 I said she can definitely get any many to f*ck her, but let’s not get it twisted she wants that high earring man as well right? That’s going to be super hard. So again this ain’t Disney Hollywood fairy tail world, you only get a couple of chances in a good relationship unless she wants to be hoping from d*ck to d*ck. Also she’s getting older *which many of you ladies seem to forget* 🙄
most these relationships have so much fuckery you will scream.. i have friends that have perfect lifes on the internet but in real life its DV and cheating ..never idolize relationships
Omg I remember this era.. it’s crazy because we figured this and I was so disappointed in him and so angry because of how they still bullied you. You deserved so much better. Don’t ever feel silly for trying to work on your marriage. He lost a beautiful, talented, smart and dynamic woman that he didn’t deserve. Anyway!! On to better things ❤❤
I work in a food spot in central London and I see Ahmet come in to get takeout here and there. I ALWAYS take the long with giving him his order. Man can WAIT. Team Daina. A win is a win 🤫💞
I am so disgusted at him… Men with sexual addictions are the WORST. I remember you and Ahmet’s videos like yesterday, and now I feel like his presence was a lie. The betrayal hurts all of us. I am so sorry, Daina. You are so beautiful. Anyone that has been through infidelity knows it changes you inside and out. You are so strong, and I am so proud of you. I used to be embarrassed too for forgiving my ex for cheating, but you have to go through it until you realize you had enough and you love yourself more than you love someone that does that to you. Forgive yourself for doing what you could at the time ❤ I just know God has the man for you. I used to think a man like that didn’t exist after being cheated on. That I would never find a love how I love, but I finally found my person. You realize all the things you asked for wasn’t ever too much or silly. It’s really just the wrong person! I just want you to know it gets better. Letting go is the best way to get closer to what you deserve ❤
This was very vulnerable. Financial abuse in relationships deff needs to be discussed more often. It happens all the time and it’s not right. I’m glad you’re in a better space ❤
@Jean Grey You sound like a broke dusty...Men paying for women is the LEAST, they can do for women. Women have to carry your dusty children, go through dangerous labour, deal with so much sexism and harrasment from other men on a daily, whether it be at the gym, school or workplace. Men paying for women is the least that they can do them in my opinion. And women anyways pay for everything themselves, what makes you men think you are so special🤔
The guy is so dusty...I'am so sorry Daina,Even though men cheat regardless of whatever the situation is most of the time.Unfortunately there seems to be a bigger pattern, with men cheating on women who take on the role of being the breadwinner idk why...Maybe their big ego's cannot handle it, or because its out of the natural order of things. Even though i do believe it is good for women to be independent and have their own thing going on, i would still never build a bear(a man) up. Or go 50/50 with them...Nothing in society is 50/50, between men and women. I am not about to date a guy with serious intention to carry his children or marry him and go through such dangerous labour to go 50/50 with him, i am sorry couldn't be me though. I know broke men or the male identified women might come for me in the comments, but i dont care, ive noticed proper established men do not respect women, who pay for men, or go 50/50 with them, they respect a woman who has self preservation.
The stomach drop, the shaking... I experienced that on 4 separate days with my ex-husband, over 8 years, and 4 kids. It's so awful. I'm so sorry that you know the feeling, too. It's horrible. No human should do that to another human. Cheating is devastating. Also, looking through his emails for no reason randomly was how I found out his last affair. That totally sucked. When you said that, the feeling came back. I hated it. I'm so sorry. You're so strong and you have a beautiful accent!
Dear lord, why do when always resort to cheating when their ego is bruised? Your woman holds you down in a time of need and you’ve repaid her with infidelity?! A real man would of appreciated that and you WILL find someone that values your efforts.
I pray for Dainá, Heavenly Father please heal her from any trauma caused by the cheating and everything that she went through. May she turn to you and hear from you regarding everything concerning her. Amen 🙏🏾
The people who bullied Daina… who they don’t even really know… all because they were obsessed with her husband… who they also don’t really know are sick af. My goodness. I’m really happy she was able to rise above it all. I can’t imagine smh. Good for you, Daina ❤️ So happy you’re in a better place.
Unfortunately this happens to a lot of women online. They always assume that the man can do no wrong. It's annoying! Just look at how people treated Megan the stallion, and she was telling the truth.
It’s honestly psychotic! I’m actually scared there’s people out there doing this and thinking they’re normal! Literally having imaginary relationships with someone who doesn’t know you exist! For 5 years???? The weirdest people honestly
I could be wrong... but I always thought it was the woman(or women!) that he was cheating with who was/were the one(s) that were taunting Dainá. I remember back then seeing several of the types of comments that she's referring to in this video, and I remember thinking how a few of them seemed really personal--Like, idk they just seemed like they weren't _just_ a troll.
Wtf, what a husband. After hearing this I understand a women's rage. I'm blessed to not have ever experienced this but I promise everyone who has, love still exists ❤️
Lol Yh so does a multi-million dollar lottery win but very few actually find it. Waste of time, money, and sanity looking for it, odds are not in your favor.
@@alicedoors4826 yikes. this comment actually breaks me…. if you keep looking and EXPECTING things/people to be a waste of time, money, etc.. then it WILL keep showing up for you. i’m not even tryna be funny, that’s just how the universe works.
Whenever I hear of a man saying that he cheated because "I don't feel like myself" I ask if they feel like themselves now (after cheating)? The answer is usually no or a blank stare....I think they all use the same lines I'm sorry you went through that. As women we have to deal with so much. Much love sis ❤
Being cheated on really messes with you mentally. I am so sorry you went through this Daina, Ahmet ain't shit. I hope you're in a better place ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yea. I don't think couples ever get back to the way things were before. There's always something in the back of your mind. Doubt. Caution. No trust. Overthinking everything. Analyzing everything he does trying to make sure he's not cheating again . Etc. So many people cheat which is effed up.
My exfiance cheated on me. Had an affair in fact. And when I discovered the truth and confronted him, him saying to me “I’m sorry that I’ve fallen in love with someone else” crushed my world more than physical cheating. I’ve never expected that of someone who was so good to me to treat me like shit. I had rough months after that, was drinking a lot to cope with pain. 2 years later I’m feeling better, but have a lifelong trauma that I don’t think I’ll be able to get past and tryst someone again …
This is a prime example of why you should NEVER judge a book by its cover. This incredible, inspirational, strong woman was going through absolutely hell due to the man that wad meant to love, protect and cherish her. And then all of these disgusting people judging her without understanding or knowing the whole situation. Honestly so horrific how nasty people can be. Honestly, such a strong woman here on this platform. This is one of the first videos I've seen in this video. Never related to anything more, but can't imagine having to deal wirh the trolls at the same time. So so incredible strong!
When you said you were trying to make sense of it , it broke my heart because I know most of us that have been betrayed in relationships have done the same thing . Sis these men will have a woman trying make sense out of the nonsensical and make themselves the victim . ❤️ you are an inspiration to so many . Thank you for sharing .
Him trying to use his injury and depression as an excuse for his cheating is him trying to manipulate you into taking him back. And once you do, he will cheat again, and again and again but he will just get better at hiding it. That is why I will not advice any woman to ask a man to explain why he cheated. Some questions you just do not need answers too. Because all he is going to do is manipulate you with lies and fake tears while you're in your most vulnerable state. Just my thought.
how heartbreaking is it that we live in a world where the woman is getting hurtful comments and people coming at her for her MAN cheating while the man is being a terrible person and praised on the internet. i'm so sorry you had to go through this
I forgave a cheater before but it never works out,the relationship will never be the same…but marriage I’m out of there the 1st time. There’s no going back after that. I had ppl get my name tatted,tried to unalive themselves and everythinggg and will still cheat. I won’t be staying with an unfaithful husband there’s no excuse to cheat on the person you vowed to spend the rest of your life with .
I knew it. I just felt so sorry about your unhappiness because it was there. Look at you now sis! So excited for you! Big creative progressive Jamaican woman! I pray all your delayed dreams come rushing towards you. You did your due diligence as a devoted wife, never be ashamed of that, too bad it wasn’t reciprocated. Nothing can stop you now, so proud of you!❤
This is why women shouldn’t do 50/50 and why men should FULLY provide and protect I said what I said! Thank God you will make it through this love you girl take care of yourself.
Whew Daina girl, that feeling your body had when you didn’t want to sleep with him is LITERALLY the EXACT feeling I had when something was off with my man 😕 and unfortunately my intuition was right about him too!
@@iluvmj256 LEFT HIM!!! leaving was the hardest part bc I LOVED TF out that man!! I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, but nahh I couldn’t even see him the same
I feel that men don’t know what to do with themselves when they’re not providing, it’s in their dna. It brings them down. You choosing your own peace is so essential for your health! Much love and healing to you Dainá! 🫶🏽
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share this with us because you didn’t have to. I’m so sorry you went through that and are still dealing with the aftermath. You were doing your due diligence as a wife and you did right by him. Always know that nothing you did was wrong. You are beautiful inside and out. Keep moving forward and gracing the world with your presence. You’re doing amazing.
My ex gf cheated continuously on me, after we split , I started seeing a guy , I've never dated a guy , but we got to talking and it's been better, she saw me with him later,,she gets all mad about it, I think it was because it was a guy she caught me with
I totally get it. I’m the exact same way “ if someone does me wrong I’m leaving no second chances” but yet I stayed, I stayed with someone who would physically abuse me. But now I’m getting a divorce at 27. At the end of the day we both left our toxic situation we’re strong women who know our worth. So proud of you and I’m sorry you had to go through this 😢❤
I actually feel sick. This is sickening, he is evil, I’m sorry. He watched you invest soo much into keeping a roof over both of your heads and he didn’t help financially, but yet had money to pay for a hotel. I’m sorry baby girl, better is coming to you. God bless you, I’m soo sorry you experienced that. I’m livid
wow thank you for being so transparent and honest with us. most women wouldnt be able to share that with the world. you're so beautiful and strong. we love you daina and were rooting for you!!!!
This was honestly so refreshing to hear. I’ve been in a 5 year relationship(got together at 19) and of course dealt with cheating b/c this was our 1st adult relationship. Everyone…and I mean EVERYONE around me thought he was perfect b/c he took care of me…baby the cheating was devastating and ALWAYS caught me off guard b/c he NEVER missed a beat in our relationship, even when we did spontaneous things & had all his passwords, and even would randomly talk to his friends(ironically they genuinely didn’t know he was doing that). I felt like a clown for taking him back but like you said, when you love someone and he’s holding EVERYTHING down financially…you take them back. I’m at that point now where I’m ready to let the relationship go this year which is odd b/c I’m seeing alot of women cutting their relationships this year…
Same sis I’m 7 years in my first everything and my boyfriend doesn’t believe in depression so me having depression anxiety and adhd is baffling to him because for him he can flip a switch and be fine. And I’m trying to start a business and he’s complaining about sex and the fact that he shouldn’t have to help up keep the house because he takes the financial brunt of things because he has a stable job. I feel like I’m constantly talking to a brick wall. There’s other factors and details but I feel exhausted trying to get understanding and trying to figure out who I am doesn’t help.
@@alexandriagriffin4922 sis you have to get out of that relationship as soon as you can. He is not emotionally available for you and it could cause you a great deal of pain especially if your dealing with depression. and relationships are about understanding fuck beliefs. I hate to say this but a person can only love you at their level and if he truly loved and cared for u he would try to understand you as a woman and make sure your mentally good as his partner. He complaining about sex but isn't seeing his girl is depressed....how can she even present herself to you in the way she or you wants smh. If you do stay you have to buckle down and work on yourself and not depend on him to understand or emotionally be there for you ....once a man sees that you start to invest in yourself they react to that. That situation sounds like a lonely dead end. I'm saying all this with Love.
I know dem ones when you feel like you’ll still protect the man and your sanity by keeping the story to yourself… naaaahhh B, sharing your story is the most liberating thing. Good for you! Congratulations on reaching this resolve and we are rooting for you Daina!
Rah…. Just further proof that you can be absolutely stunning, hardworking, holding it down to the very end and STILL get f’d over!! Head up Dainá!! You’ve opened the universe for someone who will treat you like the QUEEN you are! ❤️ Edit: I’ve just finished watching and I can’t believe you were receiving so much hate, it’s funny because those throwing hate usually hate themselves the most, they have to attempt to drag the rest of the world down to their level! Also…. Middle fingers up to the world dainá! You live your gorgeous life with your gorgeous self how you want too! And ALWAYS know your worth!! You are worth your weight in gold! ❤️
Yeah.. this just reinforces my mindset of not holding a man down ( unless they prove their worth before hand) bc they won't appreciate it and will throw it in your face.
the "your success intimidated" excuse. when are you women going to get it through your heads, no one is intimidated by a women's success, it's the arrogance most of you women bring when it comes to your success. I'm speaking to you, not Daina.
@@toddleonard369 The fact you were so triggered to respond to someone you don’t know is the prime example of your arrogance. You’re opinion is irrelevant, move along sir.
He let himself down, not you! I even remember watching you guys on Don’t Tell The Bride…if you want to cheat be single, simple…glad to know you continue to shine ⭐️
Hearing you retell what happened and remembering exactly the times you’re talking about is crazy. It’s like a bff finally telling you the background of what you saw. I’m happy you’re healing and telling your story because so many relate to the bull ish. It’s like they have the same playbook for when they’re not genuine and it’s sad. My ex said and did a lot of the same stuff when I caught him. I give you the *BIGGEST* hug. 🤗 Let’s get another glass and have some more talks
People are evil miserable trolls. They don't think they're good enough, so they dont want you to be good enough either. I'm so glad for you that you know how beautiful, talented and how valuable you are. Don't let these demons come in between that. People be so wrong and strong at it. They have their karma.
our thought process was exactly the same after finding it out. It hurts how deeply we try to forgive and empathise with the people who would never offer us a single piece of that same decency and respect.
Preach! Going through it now, really tried hard still love him, I think but deffo love myself more couldn't do it on my own so filed for divorce 2 months ago after 36 years of marriage... Sh*t happens 😒
I can’t imagine how much more painful this is, not only getting cheated on by your husband but also all the fallout and bullying online which is your main source of income on top of it all!
I’m actually sitting trying to find the words. I know you’re not in the situation, at that time, anymore, but having gone through all of that in itself besides all that extra stuff online I CAN NOT START to imagine or fathom what you must have gone through. Physically and mentally. You are absolutely INCREDIBLE, Dainá!!!!! The fact that you chose to take him back takes NOTHING from you!!!! But I can’t start to explain the way I’m feeling in my heart watching you SET YOURSELF FREE whilst you’re talking about what you went through. Wow. The courage and the strength. You don’t deserve to take it anywhere but let that shit GO, literally. Get it OUT!!! I’m an Earth sign and know TOO DAMN WELL about pride and stubbornness and bearing shit with me. It eats me alive. We deserve better!!!! We are better than that! Ain’t no shame in our game. I can’t start to tell you how I truly admire watching your growth and you enjoying life as a single woman, getting back to what makes you truly happy! In terms of what you feel like you need to get off your chest, YOU DO YOU! We're a HELL OF A LOT of people out here that loves you, Dainá!!! ♥️♥️ Ain’t nowhere but fucking up, girl! I can’t wait to see everything you are going to accomplish for yourself ♥️❤️❤️❤️
Im finding so much strength in this. Just found out my husband has been cheating the whole time. He has abandon our home. Its been hard but this motivated me. Thank you
You explained everything so eloquently. I've been following you for a loooooooong time since you were Tootsie Time. You've come such a far way. I'm so proud of you. You've grown & you're growing into a beautiful person. 🌹 Hope you guys both heal. God bless you.
Omg I miss that name ! 😭😭😭 and she is glowing ! I hope her success and she will definitely achieve it ! As that work ethic of here is strong, and wish her nothing but pure happiness too n good karma is coming 💞💞💞
They say a breakup or even losing a loved one is like experiencing death and it's so true. It's like everything u knew and loved just don't exist anymore.
He really lost a REAL one and he for sure knows it!!! Love your look on this video you glowing. You should be so proud of how you bouncing back from this betrayal and pain. You doing it with grace and wisdom. Well done. 🙏🏾✨
You're a stunningly beautiful, hard working, intelligent woman. No man has the right to treat you with disrespect. Do not ever let anyone bring you down. You are a strong queen.
I vaguely do remember the bullying that you got from being with him. But quiet as it’s kept your extremely beautiful. They called you ugly because they were jealous.
Men are some of the weirdest creatures. Don’t ever chalk up the fact that your husband cheated on you to something you’ve done. It has nothing to do with you! You did everything right, and he took you for granted. Smh. I know what it’s like to be cheated on too. It hurts. Bad.
Its like guys gain confidence off of bagging women. Women will make plans for ourselves and them making sure to include everybody into the vision but so many dudes are out here making plans that do not include the devoted women in their lives. Daina more power to you for trying to build with someone with a crumby state of mind.
Not him cheating and then coming home trying to be intimate with you in the same day!!!! So nasty
Very nasty 🤮
@@jaz2388 Yh she got pounded By the BBC i bet he got tired of having her boxes all the time while he wanted a new chick .
Disgusting in fact
He put her womb in danger. If she had done what he did, he would lose his mind even worse.
Dutty dog!!
Cheating feels so “normalized” nowadays especially in media and too many folks are accepting of it. I’m so glad you stood your ground. Cheating should count as a form of abuse imo.
I don’t think it’s normalised, people just actually talk about it now. Rather than accepting a cheater and staying together to save face, people are actually calling people out
And you have men who want to convince women to accept it especially if he has money as if that means anything. Cheating is even serious to God. So serious that us Christians are allowed to divorce because of it. So serious you can end up in hell for eternity
At the very least it should be considered disrespect & selfish as hell 😒
You're the first person I've seen say that and I completely agree! Cheating is abuse, we need to stop making fun of victims and blaming them for not leaving. Not everyone has the tools to remain calm and walk away. Why are cheaters never held accountable? Why are there no campaigns to sensibilise the public on the terrible effects on a person's mental health after being cheated on? Victims of cheaters suffer from depression, anxiety, PTSD after those events and its not to be taken lightly.
I have thought of it as such (abuse) since I first experienced it. It is completely agonizing and heartbreaking emotionally. It is pure mental anguish. It also affects ones physiologically; for example, it can put you in danger of lifelong illnesses and mental trauma (which affects your ability to feed your body nutritionally, and practice self care, hygiene--as she mentioned in the video).
Additionally, it's not just the partner that suffers, but also if there are children in the family, they also suffer great emo/mental anguish that last a lifetime to undo and heal from. It can even bring death by way of aids, or suicide; to both to mother and unborn child/ren, or the baby can be born with STI's. Also, it can lead to addiction to alcohol and other drugs, which leads to an overall diminished quality of life.
So much abuse!
Lastly, it is also financial abuse, given that most cheaters are spending money that should be for the household on the person they are cheating with, i.e. dinners, dates, gifts, hotels (such in this case), gas to drive around, the list can be endless!!
Cheating might fall under sexual abuse. I'll have to ask a qualified therapist and/or do research online.
Thank you for this dialogue. I needed it.
Anyone, please feel free to add to what I have added, or correct me if I'm wrong 🕊️
May God continue to bless you all with love and wisdom 🙏🏽💗🤯
If a man is depressed, having a midlife or financial crisis, or is not getting his needs met it is his responsibility to communicate and get the proper help. Please never feel like u r to blame for ur husband's disgusting behavior. U did what u could to keep the relationship and home together. U did ur very best. No excuse for cheating! Losing ur marriage & the person u loved is hard, but remember it's his biggest loss, not yours. It only goes up from here. Prayers.
Emphasis on * his responsibility * never save a man bc they will not appreciate it.
A lot of ppl need hear this 💯
@@sixteen.candles.4644A WORD!!
I don’t think she saw it as her fault. Just more of a reason on why his cheating had nothing to do with her that’s how i saw it.
Yup left my Army husband after 6 months he didn’t get us a place never looked back you can’t be cheap and a cheater 🙄but we must forgive
Anyone who says you aren't pretty enough for your husband is green with envy. You don't deserve to be cheated on because he has issues. You are a strong female who deserves 100% commitment from her husband. I know everyone is cheering you on as you get over this cheating fool.
Strong woman. Wtf is “female”.
right and shes absolutely gorgeous like what are they on
I don’t know how they don’t feel embarrassed 😩
Moving into a 3,000 place and you’re the only one paying rent ? That was a red flag right there
There is NEVER a reason why someone cheats / cheated. People cheat because they want to, it’s a choice Daina
I'd more say there is reasons but never excuses.
There are never any good reasons to cheat.
There's is always a reason there is always a choice.... Cheating has levels to it.... Some people cheat one time there whole life and regret it and never do it.... Some people cheat based off of hard situations death loss of job etc, some people are just born cheaters they don't know how to stop
@@LuzakJulekyou don't even need a polygamous partner nowadays. So many women are down with fwb and situationships, so there's no excuse
Womens intuition is ALWAYS correct!!!
ALWAYS!!! 💯
Facts always!!
Big facts!!
Always sis always on point
Say that again!!!
I love a story time that isn’t click bait and straight to the point but still engaging, very rare nowadays 😭
Because she’s an OG and real as they come. I love this about her.
Yeeessss
exactly!!
Right!!!
Fr
29:46 unfortunately your relationship doesn't have to be rocky for a man to cheat. men don't really need a reason to cheat, all they need most of the time is a girl that is willing and that's all it takes. They don't even really think about it.
I'm tired of women who are always carrying the heavy load. That is not a partnership. You are better off without him.
The people that were here from early remember how Daina was bullied online. I remember when she almost went to Korea for that facial surgery and God intervened.
Stay strong sis we’re rooting for you!!!
Oh yeah I remember that, she was really trolled
Yeah. She's beautiful the way she is.
Wtf? I'm very new to this, the first time I'm seeing her. As she was telling her story, I was admiring how pretty she is, and I'm loving her lips. I don't know what the husband looks like. He must be super stunning if they think she's ugly for him. I can't believe people thought her ugly, including HER! There's a lesson here for me.
I was just thinking about that !
I was reflecting on that moment too as she was telling her story. Thanks God an Angel spoke to her. She’s a beautiful women. I am proud of her and that moment spoke highly to me.
Men and their audacity will never fail to shock me. You supported him through depression and no job or income and that’s how he pays u back 😢
that wasn’t his payback, he just checked out simply
See that's bs
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@@Simonejoy well he “simply” could have been open and honest before she had to go digging, and he could have “simply” not gaslit her the day of so yh
That’s probably the reason she never wanted to have kids with him. Women aren’t stupid. She knew it wasn’t going to last and didn’t want to be tied down with children.
Being cheated on is the worst, let alone as a public figure. Thank you for being transparent
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@@dominiquexo4772 What exactly is funny???
@@Og_Uchime a public figure
Who is her ex.? 👀 lol
@@dominiquexo4772 is she not in the public? She's on UA-cam with a following. Whether you agree or not there are people that know her.
I've seen pictures of him and I can't fathom that people thought he was out of your league. It was DEFINITELY the other way around. I'm so happy that you know your self worth and the way you handled it is an example to me and others. Your transparency is so admirable and going to help others going through the same thing. Sending you love and prayers ❤️
I was just thinking this.. this women is absolutely stunning
The way he just posted like 2 months ago blaming her, like 😶
@@kylieboyce827who is it
literally she is gorgeous
I went to look him up and.... The dust is real
You only caught him in one indiscretion. Trust me when you have found out about one usually there's more that have not been brought to light.
So proud to see more women speaking their truths . We need to stop defending and staying silent . You never know who needs to hear this . Well done hun ❤
Thank you!
I so agree! I spent years upholding my exes reputation and thinking that I would be the one embarrassed. It turns out when I finally spoke my truth to people closet to me, he was the embarrassing one. Daina found much strength to make this video despite her internet trolls.
@@heymsparker2816 Same babe same ❤️
Girl men aren't even worth it nowadays. Idk why they act like we need them in our life. If you're not a loyal, kind, and good lover no one needs you in their life man or woman. 🤷♀️
Exactly I'll never understand why women are made to feel ashamed for being cheated on. Only one person is responsible...
God was protecting you because imagine having a child with such a man and then having to co parent and keep seeing him, hearing about him after he did all that...idk how women do it 😪
Ikr
Seriously, I look back and I’m soo grateful that I didn’t have a child with an ex. I can’t even imagine having to co- parent and knowing your child is out of your sight and that you can’t complain what women he brings around your child. Heck no.
Yes ppl were trying to pressure them. Thank God it didn’t happen
A mans rejection is Gods protection..I know shes still hurting but when she looks back on this situation she is going to be so happy that she didn't have a child with him.
It pissed me off he booked hotel room but couldn’t pay his portion of the rent. The audacity and lack of consideration. Girl u r glowing now. Keep it up! Nuff blessings to you.
It’s him saying he slept with a random stranger he didn’t even know from a can of paint and he could’ve brought you back an STD/STI. All for what?! Smh. Men are so disgusting.
Women, never be selfless. You will lose yourself. BE SELFISH!
Any woman that cooks and cleans for their man and holds him down through financial difficulty and continues to respect him, you honestly deserve the WORLD - to treat her like this is a complete and utter disreagrd of a blessing
I would NOT advise that any woman do that because it NEVER pays off. Men always show how ungrateful they are. Ladies, take care of yourselves
@@aquaabundance4077 unfortunate facts
@Aqua Abundance I would advise women to not change but be wiser and give all of their love to good men deserving of it, not because they're good looking, not because they have money, but because they're consistent and always have your best interests at heart, that doesnt mean giving you what you want but always finding a way to give you what you need - get to know men before sleeping with them because the truth is its not about them its about you, women pick the man not the othwr way around so pick wisely
@@kole9158 perfectly said
@@kole9158 Telling women they need to choose better is victim blaming, and it's not always that simple. Women don't get into relationships expecting to get cheated on, it just happens. Daina is a perfect example of that. A guy can seem "good" in the beginning of a relationship but things can quickly take a turn for the worse. Also, men and women choose each other. It's not a one-sided thing. Smh!
People don’t understand what it takes to sit down and tell your story to the world. This isn’t just a story but her life that she lived and her pain that she suffered. You’re amazing Daina and deserve so much happiness. I pray that for you 💛
it’s Daina not Diana.
It's exhausting!!!
Ok girl relax lmaooo people get cheated on errday
@@9roselove9 read the room
wet kitty on my stick Imma clart it till it splits
One thing I love about you is that you just tell a story and you don't put no extra sauce on it. I'm so happy you are in a better place and can tell your story
She just left out all the things she did wrong, but no surprise because that’s what women do when talking about a breakup.
@jeangrey5952 I'm not sure why she would need to point out her own wrongs in this story when the title is so specific about this particular instance.
So would u divorce a man that slept with another woman if you found out?
@@jeangrey5952 Are you hearing yourself?
@@candyland0479 what’s wrong with what I said.
Personal trainers are a red flag icl 😭
It makes sense now why he was soooo scared when you did the STD prank years ago. He was genuinely worried. That aside, Daina there is no shame in being loyal. You’re stunning, funny and very transparent. I hope you find true love again. Things don’t happen to you, they happen for you. It’s turned out that you not having a child together was a blessing in disguise. Love this new chapter and that you are now speaking your truth ❤️❤️
Oooof, I remember that video but I could swear they were both in on that prank. I think they were making fun of other yt couples doing those prank videos
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AHMET IF YOU END UP ON THIS VIDEO DONT GO DISTURBING MY SIS WITH YOUR NONSENSE RUBBISH, U SHOULD HAVE BEEN A BETTER HUSBAND🗣 This is her story to tell, let her tell it kmt
I love that you called him out by name😂
😳😂😂
You mean Ahmet 😂
@@KingRose339 No she means Ahmed 🙃🤣
@@micksthomas281 I get you 🤣😂😂😂
He was definitely holding you back, you look so much better these days and your vibe is radiating! You go girl!
That's why you never idolize or "relationship goals" peoples relationship. You never know what people are going through. You only see what they allow you to see. I'm so sorry that you went through all of this, Daina. Glad you've grown and are continuing to build a beautiful life for yourself ❤️
I knew he was a scrote from day 1. I just didn’t know why she stayed. Sis can get any man and if I were her, I will make god damn sure the next man has a secure income and high income. Love is cute but it only goes so far. Women have too much to offer just by the virtue of being a woman that it’s dangerous to end up with a man who doesn’t have money. She is lucky she doesn’t have kids cause her life would have been 100x more difficult
@@newleft2254she can’t get “any man” 🤦🏾♂️. She 100% can get any man to f*ck her but getting that high value men to marry her? Is going to be super hard. So let’s not lie to her
@@intello8953 She is successful, attractive, in good health, can run a household and take care of a child including a man child. She is capable of a long term relationship and being faithful. Why exactly would it be “hard” for her to get a man? You sound like you’re bitter cause you can’t get someone like her. I bet you’re either short or unemployed.
@@newleft2254 I said she can definitely get any many to f*ck her, but let’s not get it twisted she wants that high earring man as well right? That’s going to be super hard. So again this ain’t Disney Hollywood fairy tail world, you only get a couple of chances in a good relationship unless she wants to be hoping from d*ck to d*ck. Also she’s getting older *which many of you ladies seem to forget* 🙄
most these relationships have so much fuckery you will scream.. i have friends that have perfect lifes on the internet but in real life its DV and cheating ..never idolize relationships
Omg I remember this era.. it’s crazy because we figured this and I was so disappointed in him and so angry because of how they still bullied you. You deserved so much better. Don’t ever feel silly for trying to work on your marriage. He lost a beautiful, talented, smart and dynamic woman that he didn’t deserve. Anyway!! On to better things ❤❤
They bullied her for getting cheated on?? 😱😮
Yes!
Facts Spoken here 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
We weren’t married.. but your story is so relatable. Just remember, it wasn’t your fault, he was the problem. Thank you for sharing ❤.
I work in a food spot in central London and I see Ahmet come in to get takeout here and there. I ALWAYS take the long with giving him his order. Man can WAIT. Team Daina. A win is a win 🤫💞
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😂😂😂
I’m screaming😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
lmmmmmmaoooo CRYYIIINGGGGG
a win is a win!!! Mek di piece a dog shit wait!!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
😢 I’m glad you are free from his toxicity
Me too !!!!!!
And not pregnant lol
Shes young, beautiful and knows her worth. She will find real love💕
Sis you are better than me £ 3000 rent and he cheats....somebody would have died that day. Disrespectfully
For real 😂😂😂
And I know it wasn’t going to be you 👀😮💨 smh
🤣
Facts
😂😅😅😅
I am so disgusted at him… Men with sexual addictions are the WORST. I remember you and Ahmet’s videos like yesterday, and now I feel like his presence was a lie. The betrayal hurts all of us. I am so sorry, Daina. You are so beautiful. Anyone that has been through infidelity knows it changes you inside and out. You are so strong, and I am so proud of you.
I used to be embarrassed too for forgiving my ex for cheating, but you have to go through it until you realize you had enough and you love yourself more than you love someone that does that to you. Forgive yourself for doing what you could at the time ❤
I just know God has the man for you. I used to think a man like that didn’t exist after being cheated on. That I would never find a love how I love, but I finally found my person. You realize all the things you asked for wasn’t ever too much or silly. It’s really just the wrong person! I just want you to know it gets better. Letting go is the best way to get closer to what you deserve ❤
as woman If I’m going to do 50/50 , I expect to do 50:50 on pregnancy , breastfeeding and period etc … I will never do 50/50 with a grown man 👏🏾👏🏾
Can we have a moment for the immaculate setup, lighting, outfit, and vibes for this video tho? ✨️ the new place is so nice!
Yaaasssss! The dress, the lips, the sign, the sign, the wine. All giving vibes
yesss especially the outfit
Yess she looks so good and I love the background and the cute wine glass 😩
Dainá looking sexy 😍
Does anyone know where the dress is from🥺🥺
This was very vulnerable. Financial abuse in relationships deff needs to be discussed more often. It happens all the time and it’s not right. I’m glad you’re in a better space ❤
Well said. This is financial exploitation. Daina is so strong.
Yes so many women go through it and they have kids with these men
@@87Lohan u mean so many men go through it, women that make a man pay for everything.
@Jean Grey
You sound like a broke dusty...Men paying for women is the LEAST, they can do for women. Women have to carry your dusty children, go through dangerous labour, deal with so much sexism and harrasment from other men on a daily, whether it be at the gym, school or workplace. Men paying for women is the least that they can do them in my opinion. And women anyways pay for everything themselves, what makes you men think you are so special🤔
The guy is so dusty...I'am so sorry Daina,Even though men cheat regardless of whatever the situation is most of the time.Unfortunately there seems to be a bigger pattern, with men cheating on women who take on the role of being the breadwinner idk why...Maybe their big ego's cannot handle it, or because its out of the natural order of things. Even though i do believe it is good for women to be independent and have their own thing going on, i would still never build a bear(a man) up. Or go 50/50 with them...Nothing in society is 50/50, between men and women. I am not about to date a guy with serious intention to carry his children or marry him and go through such dangerous labour to go 50/50 with him, i am sorry couldn't be me though. I know broke men or the male identified women might come for me in the comments, but i dont care, ive noticed proper established men do not respect women, who pay for men, or go 50/50 with them, they respect a woman who has self preservation.
The stomach drop, the shaking... I experienced that on 4 separate days with my ex-husband, over 8 years, and 4 kids. It's so awful. I'm so sorry that you know the feeling, too. It's horrible. No human should do that to another human. Cheating is devastating. Also, looking through his emails for no reason randomly was how I found out his last affair. That totally sucked. When you said that, the feeling came back. I hated it. I'm so sorry. You're so strong and you have a beautiful accent!
Dear lord, why do when always resort to cheating when their ego is bruised? Your woman holds you down in a time of need and you’ve repaid her with infidelity?! A real man would of appreciated that and you WILL find someone that values your efforts.
Diana is one classy girl full of integrity and grace. Such a loyal person.
All TRUE!!! Why do the greatest all get tested
His loss. The way you are with your niece, you are such an amazing mother figure. I’m sorry you had to experience this ❤️❤️
yea, she HELD IT DOWN HELD IT DOWN. shes such a strong woman. he was a leech.
So u don’t think she did anything wrong in the marriage, and Ann cheating is not a big deal, that’s all biology.
@@jeangrey5952I’m glad you and your boyfriend figured out his cheating. Wish you all the best in your relationship.
@@dee-3772 bro what are u talking g about?
@@jeangrey5952 your advice on why you stayed with your cheating man. Hopefully you were able to get fully past it.
I pray for Dainá, Heavenly Father please heal her from any trauma caused by the cheating and everything that she went through. May she turn to you and hear from you regarding everything concerning her. Amen 🙏🏾
That "grand gesture" should have been some bill payments and not some tattoo.
I'm sorry to hear that you had to go through this, you are so strong 💪🏿
That dresss and back ground for this story you WINE IT UP FORREAL LOVELY
The people who bullied Daina… who they don’t even really know… all because they were obsessed with her husband… who they also don’t really know are sick af.
My goodness. I’m really happy she was able to rise above it all. I can’t imagine smh. Good for you, Daina ❤️ So happy you’re in a better place.
Unfortunately this happens to a lot of women online. They always assume that the man can do no wrong. It's annoying! Just look at how people treated Megan the stallion, and she was telling the truth.
But women always like the men over the woman. Women are weird.
It’s honestly psychotic! I’m actually scared there’s people out there doing this and thinking they’re normal! Literally having imaginary relationships with someone who doesn’t know you exist! For 5 years???? The weirdest people honestly
I could be wrong... but I always thought it was the woman(or women!) that he was cheating with who was/were the one(s) that were taunting Dainá.
I remember back then seeing several of the types of comments that she's referring to in this video, and I remember thinking how a few of them seemed really personal--Like, idk they just seemed like they weren't _just_ a troll.
@@greatgownsbeautifulgowns yes. She hardly saw Charles
Wtf, what a husband. After hearing this I understand a women's rage. I'm blessed to not have ever experienced this but I promise everyone who has, love still exists ❤️
sigh i hope so,cus this generation is ruthless
Lol Yh so does a multi-million dollar lottery win but very few actually find it. Waste of time, money, and sanity looking for it, odds are not in your favor.
@@alicedoors4826 exactly and only time will tell
@@dlc2479 yup, it's a big gamble
@@alicedoors4826 yikes. this comment actually breaks me….
if you keep looking and EXPECTING things/people to be a waste of time, money, etc.. then it WILL keep showing up for you.
i’m not even tryna be funny, that’s just how the universe works.
Loveeeee the set up! You’re so clever with how you use your space to make your videos aesthetically appealing 👌🏿. Literally in every house
Thank you so much!!
IKR! and she looks amazing, that dress looks so gorgeous on her
It’s giving TAUUUURUS
@ PSALMS 95
1Come, let us sing for joy to the Lord;
let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation.
A man with no money in a relationship is problematic, especially when the women becomes the lead!
Whenever I hear of a man saying that he cheated because "I don't feel like myself" I ask if they feel like themselves now (after cheating)? The answer is usually no or a blank stare....I think they all use the same lines
I'm sorry you went through that. As women we have to deal with so much. Much love sis ❤
Being cheated on really messes with you mentally. I am so sorry you went through this Daina, Ahmet ain't shit. I hope you're in a better place ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yea. I don't think couples ever get back to the way things were before. There's always something in the back of your mind. Doubt. Caution. No trust. Overthinking everything. Analyzing everything he does trying to make sure he's not cheating again . Etc. So many people cheat which is effed up.
Yes it does because now I just assume everyone is full of sh*t
@@dominiquexo4772 same
My exfiance cheated on me. Had an affair in fact. And when I discovered the truth and confronted him, him saying to me “I’m sorry that I’ve fallen in love with someone else” crushed my world more than physical cheating. I’ve never expected that of someone who was so good to me to treat me like shit. I had rough months after that, was drinking a lot to cope with pain. 2 years later I’m feeling better, but have a lifelong trauma that I don’t think I’ll be able to get past and tryst someone again …
@@dominiquexo4772 well a lot of people are but shouldnt stop u from finding ppl who arent !!
All I can say is, Daina. I'm proud of you.
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Yes!!!
This comment ✅✅😂
That post divorce GLOW ✨✨✨ yasss girl!!
Y'all making singlehood look real good ❤️ my lonely nights are peaceful
There's nothing like peace
Same here
This is a prime example of why you should NEVER judge a book by its cover. This incredible, inspirational, strong woman was going through absolutely hell due to the man that wad meant to love, protect and cherish her. And then all of these disgusting people judging her without understanding or knowing the whole situation. Honestly so horrific how nasty people can be. Honestly, such a strong woman here on this platform. This is one of the first videos I've seen in this video. Never related to anything more, but can't imagine having to deal wirh the trolls at the same time. So so incredible strong!
When you said you were trying to make sense of it , it broke my heart because I know most of us that have been betrayed in relationships have done the same thing . Sis these men will have a woman trying make sense out of the nonsensical and make themselves the victim . ❤️ you are an inspiration to so many . Thank you for sharing .
I’m so glad you left that marriage without children. So glad you’re single and focused on you before deciding on getting into another marriage.
Him trying to use his injury and depression as an excuse for his cheating is him trying to manipulate you into taking him back. And once you do, he will cheat again, and again and again but he will just get better at hiding it. That is why I will not advice any woman to ask a man to explain why he cheated. Some questions you just do not need answers too. Because all he is going to do is manipulate you with lies and fake tears while you're in your most vulnerable state. Just my thought.
Facts! It will come with more lies and cheating. Never take a cheater back.
how heartbreaking is it that we live in a world where the woman is getting hurtful comments and people coming at her for her MAN cheating while the man is being a terrible person and praised on the internet. i'm so sorry you had to go through this
Girl my heart is on a long pause.
I completely understand. You’re so brave to share this to the world.
He cheated as he felt inferior to you. What a prick! So proud of how you’ve dealt with this 😢❤
I forgave a cheater before but it never works out,the relationship will never be the same…but marriage I’m out of there the 1st time. There’s no going back after that. I had ppl get my name tatted,tried to unalive themselves and everythinggg and will still cheat. I won’t be staying with an unfaithful husband there’s no excuse to cheat on the person you vowed to spend the rest of your life with .
You should always be out the first time. Marriage or not 🤨
@@TheRenegadeStarr girl stfu a lot of ppl took back a cheater the first time . Especially as teenagers
@@milanwrldthat doesn't change the fact that it's stupid.
I knew it. I just felt so sorry about your unhappiness because it was there. Look at you now sis! So excited for you! Big creative progressive Jamaican woman! I pray all your delayed dreams come rushing towards you. You did your due diligence as a devoted wife, never be ashamed of that, too bad it wasn’t reciprocated. Nothing can stop you now, so proud of you!❤
Sorry you went through this ! Strong lady!❤
This is why women shouldn’t do 50/50 and why men should FULLY provide and protect I said what I said! Thank God you will make it through this love you girl take care of yourself.
worst part is it was never 50/50 for her neither 😕
@@ofthesol444 all of it is bad but I get what you’re saying.
That’s not possible though, the most average men works jobs that pays them 45,000 a year.
Your logic makes zero sense. Women cheat too. How about both partners stay loyal to the relationship they’re in.
@@lesliejohnson-nelson4003 stop dating average men.
At this point I don’t think men can be faithful. Imagine us married women who trust our husbands. Sometimes if only we knew.
Girrrlll!!!! Facts!
Whew Daina girl, that feeling your body had when you didn’t want to sleep with him is LITERALLY the EXACT feeling I had when something was off with my man 😕 and unfortunately my intuition was right about him too!
Ugh. Hopefully you left him.
@@iluvmj256 LEFT HIM!!! leaving was the hardest part bc I LOVED TF out that man!! I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, but nahh I couldn’t even see him the same
@@ladybenin.2762 Good for you! 👏🏾👏🏾
I feel that men don’t know what to do with themselves when they’re not providing, it’s in their dna. It brings them down. You choosing your own peace is so essential for your health! Much love and healing to you Dainá! 🫶🏽
Thank you for being vulnerable enough to share this with us because you didn’t have to. I’m so sorry you went through that and are still dealing with the aftermath. You were doing your due diligence as a wife and you did right by him. Always know that nothing you did was wrong. You are beautiful inside and out. Keep moving forward and gracing the world with your presence. You’re doing amazing.
My ex gf cheated continuously on me, after we split , I started seeing a guy , I've never dated a guy , but we got to talking and it's been better, she saw me with him later,,she gets all mad about it, I think it was because it was a guy she caught me with
Men don’t know a good thing until it’s gone
I totally get it. I’m the exact same way “ if someone does me wrong I’m leaving no second chances” but yet I stayed, I stayed with someone who would physically abuse me. But now I’m getting a divorce at 27. At the end of the day we both left our toxic situation we’re strong women who know our worth. So proud of you and I’m sorry you had to go through this 😢❤
You have your whole life ahead of you hun. Think of all the years you’re gaining by leaving! So brave of you❤️. God bless
Love that for you 🥺❤️
Also had a divorce at 27 - here to tell you from the future at 32 years old 🙋🏾♀️ it all gets better. Much love to you 💕
@@candacethecreative much love thank you 🤍💖
I actually feel sick. This is sickening, he is evil, I’m sorry. He watched you invest soo much into keeping a roof over both of your heads and he didn’t help financially, but yet had money to pay for a hotel.
I’m sorry baby girl, better is coming to you. God bless you, I’m soo sorry you experienced that. I’m livid
wow thank you for being so transparent and honest with us. most women wouldnt be able to share that with the world. you're so beautiful and strong. we love you daina and were rooting for you!!!!
This was honestly so refreshing to hear. I’ve been in a 5 year relationship(got together at 19) and of course dealt with cheating b/c this was our 1st adult relationship. Everyone…and I mean EVERYONE around me thought he was perfect b/c he took care of me…baby the cheating was devastating and ALWAYS caught me off guard b/c he NEVER missed a beat in our relationship, even when we did spontaneous things & had all his passwords, and even would randomly talk to his friends(ironically they genuinely didn’t know he was doing that). I felt like a clown for taking him back but like you said, when you love someone and he’s holding EVERYTHING down financially…you take them back. I’m at that point now where I’m ready to let the relationship go this year which is odd b/c I’m seeing alot of women cutting their relationships this year…
Get out while your still young!👊🏾
Leave now I stood 10yrs and he wasted my young years and we have a 7 yr old now
Same sis I’m 7 years in my first everything and my boyfriend doesn’t believe in depression so me having depression anxiety and adhd is baffling to him because for him he can flip a switch and be fine. And I’m trying to start a business and he’s complaining about sex and the fact that he shouldn’t have to help up keep the house because he takes the financial brunt of things because he has a stable job. I feel like I’m constantly talking to a brick wall. There’s other factors and details but I feel exhausted trying to get understanding and trying to figure out who I am doesn’t help.
@@alexandriagriffin4922 sis you have to get out of that relationship as soon as you can. He is not emotionally available for you and it could cause you a great deal of pain especially if your dealing with depression. and relationships are about understanding fuck beliefs. I hate to say this but a person can only love you at their level and if he truly loved and cared for u he would try to understand you as a woman and make sure your mentally good as his partner. He complaining about sex but isn't seeing his girl is depressed....how can she even present herself to you in the way she or you wants smh. If you do stay you have to buckle down and work on yourself and not depend on him to understand or emotionally be there for you ....once a man sees that you start to invest in yourself they react to that. That situation sounds like a lonely dead end. I'm saying all this with Love.
Honestly I just got out of a 5 year relationship I met him when I was 20. If your soul is not happy seriously leave before he destroys it
I know dem ones when you feel like you’ll still protect the man and your sanity by keeping the story to yourself… naaaahhh B, sharing your story is the most liberating thing. Good for you! Congratulations on reaching this resolve and we are rooting for you Daina!
Rah…. Just further proof that you can be absolutely stunning, hardworking, holding it down to the very end and STILL get f’d over!!
Head up Dainá!! You’ve opened the universe for someone who will treat you like the QUEEN you are! ❤️
Edit: I’ve just finished watching and I can’t believe you were receiving so much hate, it’s funny because those throwing hate usually hate themselves the most, they have to attempt to drag the rest of the world down to their level!
Also…. Middle fingers up to the world dainá! You live your gorgeous life with your gorgeous self how you want too! And ALWAYS know your worth!! You are worth your weight in gold! ❤️
Yeah.. this just reinforces my mindset of not holding a man down ( unless they prove their worth before hand) bc they won't appreciate it and will throw it in your face.
Your success intimidated him. I’m so upset you had to go through that with your husband. I am just happy you’re in a better space now
the "your success intimidated" excuse. when are you women going to get it through your heads, no one is intimidated by a women's success, it's the arrogance most of you women bring when it comes to your success. I'm speaking to you, not Daina.
@@toddleonard369Why did her comment trigger you like this? 🤣
@@pastelpastry exactly, like I felt the rage in his comment 😂
@@pastelpastry he must be struggling to pay half the rent with his woman too 😂😭
@@toddleonard369 The fact you were so triggered to respond to someone you don’t know is the prime example of your arrogance. You’re opinion is irrelevant, move along sir.
He let himself down, not you! I even remember watching you guys on Don’t Tell The Bride…if you want to cheat be single, simple…glad to know you continue to shine ⭐️
Hearing you retell what happened and remembering exactly the times you’re talking about is crazy. It’s like a bff finally telling you the background of what you saw. I’m happy you’re healing and telling your story because so many relate to the bull ish. It’s like they have the same playbook for when they’re not genuine and it’s sad. My ex said and did a lot of the same stuff when I caught him. I give you the *BIGGEST* hug. 🤗 Let’s get another glass and have some more talks
Right?
Couldn’t agree more!
I feel the same. I’m so glad she’s moving on from that rough time in her life. So disappointed in him 😤
No but frr!!!
Forreal
Daina, this dress is everything. Goes well with the fire in the back. Queen of aesthetics.
People are evil miserable trolls. They don't think they're good enough, so they dont want you to be good enough either. I'm so glad for you that you know how beautiful, talented and how valuable you are. Don't let these demons come in between that. People be so wrong and strong at it. They have their karma.
our thought process was exactly the same after finding it out. It hurts how deeply we try to forgive and empathise with the people who would never offer us a single piece of that same decency and respect.
Preach! Going through it now, really tried hard still love him, I think but deffo love myself more couldn't do it on my own so filed for divorce 2 months ago after 36 years of marriage... Sh*t happens 😒
I can’t imagine how much more painful this is, not only getting cheated on by your husband but also all the fallout and bullying online which is your main source of income on top of it all!
I’m actually sitting trying to find the words. I know you’re not in the situation, at that time, anymore, but having gone through all of that in itself besides all that extra stuff online I CAN NOT START to imagine or fathom what you must have gone through. Physically and mentally. You are absolutely INCREDIBLE, Dainá!!!!! The fact that you chose to take him back takes NOTHING from you!!!! But I can’t start to explain the way I’m feeling in my heart watching you SET YOURSELF FREE whilst you’re talking about what you went through. Wow. The courage and the strength. You don’t deserve to take it anywhere but let that shit GO, literally. Get it OUT!!! I’m an Earth sign and know TOO DAMN WELL about pride and stubbornness and bearing shit with me. It eats me alive. We deserve better!!!! We are better than that! Ain’t no shame in our game. I can’t start to tell you how I truly admire watching your growth and you enjoying life as a single woman, getting back to what makes you truly happy! In terms of what you feel like you need to get off your chest, YOU DO YOU! We're a HELL OF A LOT of people out here that loves you, Dainá!!! ♥️♥️ Ain’t nowhere but fucking up, girl! I can’t wait to see everything you are going to accomplish for yourself ♥️❤️❤️❤️
Your heart is gold, I pray you get all you never expected and more.
She’s the only UA-camr that I can watch for 45 mins without skipping ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Me too
Same
Ini
No seriously lol
Me too 😊
Im finding so much strength in this. Just found out my husband has been cheating the whole time. He has abandon our home. Its been hard but this motivated me. Thank you
What are you going to do when he tries to come back
@@UnknownUnknown-yl1lt when she figures it out! I’m sure you’ll be the first to know weirdo. Let people grieve & heal in PEACE!
@@DiamondTia17 Lmaoooo “weirdoooo” 😂😂😂
@@DiamondTia17 They didn't ask anything wrong. Why you so mad.
@@kimberlybarry8357I was reading the response like huh? It’s a harmless question
People can be so extra I stg 😂
You explained everything so eloquently. I've been following you for a loooooooong time since you were Tootsie Time. You've come such a far way. I'm so proud of you. You've grown & you're growing into a beautiful person. 🌹 Hope you guys both heal. God bless you.
Omg I miss that name ! 😭😭😭 and she is glowing ! I hope her success and she will definitely achieve it ! As that work ethic of here is strong, and wish her nothing but pure happiness too n good karma is coming 💞💞💞
Eloquently 😂😂 jeezo she talks like geezer , there is nothing feminine about her, yes she is beautiful but that's it
Sounds like narcissistic abuse to me 🤷♀️ sorry you had to go through that
They say a breakup or even losing a loved one is like experiencing death and it's so true. It's like everything u knew and loved just don't exist anymore.
He really lost a REAL one and he for sure knows it!!! Love your look on this video you glowing. You should be so proud of how you bouncing back from this betrayal and pain. You doing it with grace and wisdom. Well done. 🙏🏾✨
This was so triggering cause i know exactly how you felt 🥺. You're strong. Sending you love and light and so proud of how far you've come 💓
You just ooze class and elegance. What a shitty thing to go through. Wishing you all the love and healing in your future
You're a stunningly beautiful, hard working, intelligent woman. No man has the right to treat you with disrespect. Do not ever let anyone bring you down. You are a strong queen.
I vaguely do remember the bullying that you got from being with him. But quiet as it’s kept your extremely beautiful. They called you ugly because they were jealous.
Men are some of the weirdest creatures. Don’t ever chalk up the fact that your husband cheated on you to something you’ve done. It has nothing to do with you! You did everything right, and he took you for granted. Smh. I know what it’s like to be cheated on too. It hurts. Bad.
Couldn't help but like at "the goal was always release..." as I witness you walking walking in your fruitfulness LOVE IT
Its like guys gain confidence off of bagging women. Women will make plans for ourselves and them making sure to include everybody into the vision but so many dudes are out here making plans that do not include the devoted women in their lives. Daina more power to you for trying to build with someone with a crumby state of mind.
She looks so familiar. Was her old UA-cam name Tootsie Time? So sorry she went through this 😢
Yes it is her !
Daìna you’re so good at telling stories. I always tune in from beginning to end.
I'm loving seeing Daina be vulnerable and tell her story on her terms. Love light and positivity for your future 💝