Ah, it's working! Love that one shot where Foil is showing us what adult friendship apps and groups are really geared towards. Perfect blurred hand-movement in front of reaction face.
Imagine m’y life: I left the country I grew up in when I was 18, the strict religious sect I fell in with when I was 25, and grad school when I was 30. What chance is there to make life-long friends?
I got to know my childhood bestie because she randomly walked past my house and I asked her if she wanted to come see my bunny. Somehow I think that wouldn't be the best strategy as an adult.
This hit too close to home. Making friends when you’re an adult is so freaking hard. I miss the old days of being friends with someone just because we were in the same class at school.
But if you think about it, school is work for children, so you were making friends with people you worked with because that’s who you spend most of your time with…
The idea of being an adult and making friends is enough to induce a cold sweat. But, going forwards I shall select any new friends based entirely on their biscuit choices. Solid advice there.
This is unexpectedly true and deep. Really hard to make friends, have trips or lunches together and worthwhile conversations. The online world and media are really obsessed about sex.
So, a few years back I made a blog post about this. I called it "The Curse of the Thirties" . In my particular case I moved to a different city for college and stayed there in the end so here's what happens in that situation: - you leave your existing circle of friends behind; you try to stay in touch but over the years that fades and fades until it's gone - you make new college friends but some of them will eventually move back to their hometowns (very common thing to do in Croatia) and fade away - your new college friends who stay behind will settle down eventually - your college friends who stayed around and settled will get babies and if you don't have a child you'll be pushed out in favour of other people with children with whom they'll now hang out and have plenty in common - you will try to find new friends but you'll run into what I call "established circles" because people your age (thirties or so) will already have a circle of friends and most often there is no room for more because no one is willing to start the process afresh - you will try to squeeze in but you'll find out that these are not true friendships but rather "purpose-built acquaintances". - for example you'll find gym buddies, or you'll join running schools or you'll find D&D groups or boardgame groups and they might welcome you, BUT when your joint activity ends for the day those people will likely go back to their spouses, children or their existing circle of friends And it gets more and more difficult to penetrate these walls as you get older. I'm only 35 so I have yet to live and see what happens when you get very old, like 70+ I think at that point you'll be able to make new friends because most of the people around you will be alone sadly and/or they'll have PLENTY of time to kill. Very rarely you WILL be able to make new friends later in life but those will almost NEVER be as strong as your childhood friends because we are all adults with unique aspirations, abilities, wishes, opportunities etc. By the time we're 30+ we will have made some choices which define us and have duties, obligations and/or desires to pursue so even if you do find new friends you'll most often end up putting them on the back burner in favour of everything that happens in your life. And others will do this to you. And that's fine. Sometimes it IS a little bit difficult if you're 30+ or something and don't have that one person whom you can call out of the blue and make fart jokes or talk about nothing in particular but most often you'll find that having purpose-built acquaintances is all you really need and you'll quickly see which ones you could potentially upgrade to something more. Good luck.
All this is true - but I started to make lots of friends again after 50 yo (I’m 55 now) by getting involved in local associations and cultural movements - with people my age but with grown up children or divorced etc. Like a new teenage vibe. It helped also to move to the country where people are more keen to meet new people than in big cities.
As an autistic adult, I learned VERY quick that “do you wanna be friends?” doesn’t cut it anymore. My best bet has been the local karaoke circuit. Tons of nice people, usually drunk as hell but seeing as I don’t drink it’s fine and I save my money by just getting free water. Great for friends! Unfortunately the only people so far who’ve taken a romantic interest in me have been divorced men, which is weird because I’ve never been in a relationship before and I’m not comfortable with that difference in experience.
It's just hard to differentiate between all the different kinds of "friendships" that people are looking for. You can't be more straightforward than "Do you wanna be friends with me?" and people still interpret it weird 😂
You touched me.. The older you get the more you appreciate the people who know (really know) who you are and it takes so much courage to plunge into the deep end of making new friends pool :) especially if all you want is a wholesome conversation over a nice meal .. or hill walking. Thank you for being in this world and bringing so much fun (or should I say craic) to everyone who's been lucky enough to come across you! 😊
This clueless Foil character is great - not only funny but he also brings a great angle to look at this relatable topic from. The other two characters were fun too. So tame. With a nice punch line, he he.
It's because half the people are worried about how they come across and the other half are just judgment and preconceptions. Just start talking to someone who's somewhere find something in common. and talk about it. Then invite them to a barbecue or board games, or wrenching, whatever it is you like doing.
yeah, these I make friends with someone then find out they are a fascist of some flavor, either religious or just plain bigoted with a hard on for authoritarianism. so now when I meet someone new I just casually make fun of flat earthers and antivaxers, if they start with "well vaccines actually gave my my cousin's nephew's baby autism", I'M OUT. Those kinds of people also often cheat on their spouses and it's just awkward at christmas and birthday dinners to look them in the eye. Been there, don't wanna go through that again. It was so much simpler as a child, everybody liked pokemon, I liked digimon, but it wasn't such a big thing that I couldn't compromise and play pokemon with them. While now for moral stuff, I just can't anymore.
I think it is because we change what we "expect" from a friend as we age. Most of those childhood friendships were based on nothing more than proximity, and really weren't more than skin deep. I didn't know much about their home lives, I didn't expect them to turn up to help if I was in the hospital, I certainly wouldn't trust them to make life and death decisions for me. We just got along and had a nice chat for an hour or so every day - and the relationship completely disappeared when one of us moved away. That's what I call _colleagues_ now. We get along, have some laughs and pleasant conversation over lunch and around the water cooler for an hour or so each day, I know zilch about their real home lives, I don't expect them to turn up for me in my darkest hours, and I totally expect the relationships to fall through when one of us moves away. What I call _friends_ now, I expect a lot more from. Friendships that survive distances and friends who turn up in your darkest hours. Those are very rare in childhood too.
Not really. Get off the computer, go to your local pub, watch and discuss sports with other fans. Join a sports club, or group where you’ll meet folk with common interests. It’s certainly not impossible.
@@7oy I'm an introvert. My only friend is also an introvert who understands me, because she's an introvert, most people don't understand. Being a woman, if I go to the pub alone and attempt to talk to women I don't know, I'm not part of their friendship group, so they mistrust etc. If I talk to men, they think I'm up for it and I'm also putting myself in danger. I don't want to join a group because that's just too much for an introvert and people would misunderstand me. 😂
@@susanplatt5331 I don't know if it's popular where you live but in my city there's been a recent trend of doing "women's circles" and especially ceremonial cacao drinking (like the Japanese tea ceremony but with traditional cacao. Doesn't have to be cacao-related though). Admittedly a bit new-age-y but still a very supportive, encouraging experience. You might exchange contacts, you might end up not meeting those same women ever again, but in any case, it's a lovely feeling of being seen and heard by other women - often as introverted as you! - and spending a beautiful evening in their company without awkward small talk. I suggest you look up if they do any of those types of events in your area :>
This hit sooo many of my own personal difficulties with making friends- I'm asexual and people interpret friendly overtures it as 'confident and self-assured flirting' instead of 'hey, I am really enjoying playing this board game with you!'. I would rate myself on the wrong side of average, looks-wise, but I still seem to turn down a lot of people. So I guess the message here is that if you want a date, act completely clueless?
This hit so close right from the title that I feel more like crying than laughing. As an adult introvert who spends most of their time at work and the rest at home, with no energy left for social hobbies, it really is so hard to form genuine connections with people that don't also happen to live on the other side of the world 😭
Very good sketch about finding friends in adult age. I'm really bad at socialising, being an introvert, so it is comforting to see that also extros have issues in this world they so clearly own. And you guys were so amazing in Melbourne, thanks for the brilliant show, my face hurt so bad the next day!
Making new friends as an adult, especially a more introverted one is tough if not impossible… I gained some lovely long-term friends due to ‘joining’ the fandom of my then favourite band and I am so grateful. Although the band doesn’t exist any more, I still have my friends.
Arms has a perfect sad stare at 3:09. Also I watched the video assuming he was married to Hog, which enhances the "think I wish I was single" punchline.
Holy shit, McKenna's face when he heard about the "swing dance club" is killing me 🤣🤣🤣 P.S. I'm so glad you used the Brisbane outro, it was awesome being there when you filmed it!
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha In china, there was indeed this very (lonely) rich man , who decided to become Uber driver (in his luxury car), just to make new friends with people.
See, I always look for people to go hill walking with...or walking...or hiking...i literally just want to go for a walk and have a nice chat, nothing else!! How can that be so difficult? I feel you Foil😅
You hit your 30s and you've met everyone who's going to be at your funeral 😄 Swing dancers, easy mistake 🤭 Your Brissie opening night was fantastic! Thrilled to catch you guys, absolute riot.
Funnily enough this couldn't be better timing as I was having this conversation about making friends in your adulthood, although maybe not exactly as Foil turned out 😅 I love this sketch idea
@@foilarmsandhog sooo… are you coming to Scandinavia any time soon? Ps. Is there like a site or something where one can see schedule of your tour/performances?
Ugh, lads. You're the best. I can totally see why people keep coming back over and over again to your shows. Having the time of my life thanks to you!!! (and my new best friends who I love dearly but this comment is for you so they can suck it up and wait their turn). Thank you so much for coming 🥺 And for working so hard!!! 👏 And for staying to say hi ❤️ And for bringing the mouth trumpet 🤩 And for bringing Hog's hips 😆 And for bringing more batteries for your massager thing 😂😂😂 Now please excuse me while I pretend to go on strike from engagement driving because you didn't post a NZ immigration 😤
Showed this to my friend and she said you missed the opportunity to have the final line reveal that this guy just sat down at a table with two guys he didn't know and they were too awkward to chase him off again.
This is super relevant for men who often have few close friends or none. And for women as well finding someone who genuinely wants more friends is hard
I think a lot of men have trouble opening up to people in the first couple meets. You become friends through bonds, whether it's interests like sports or emotional bonds. My first friend at uni literally told me about all his issues with depression and it made me feel comfortable around him because he was so honest and open and so we have a good friendship.
The lines in this were priceless, Foil‘s clueless and frustrated delivery hilarious, but what really put it over the top were Arms‘ increasingly appalled expressions!😅😂😂
Very relatable! I was still single in my 30s and new friends seemed so hard to come by. But I guess if you learn the right strategy (like, e.g., taking a class on something you really like), you can make friends even in your senior years. Great video, as usual!
It's really difficult. I've had to cut communication with people I sought out to be friends because they clearly were interested in *maybe more*, not friendship
Foil should join Gig Buddies - it's a brilliant befriending project that pairs up adults with and without learning disabilities and/or autism who have similar interests, so they can go to gigs and other social activities together.
Thanks a lot for having the Swines stream last week!! It was such an amazing experience to watch it along with you all and others in the chat! 😍😍 Would you consider doing something like that again, a Patreon watch party when you have some free time after touring maybe? 🙂 And the Q&A was great too! You answered about 65 questions and a couple of more funny responses to a few more questions/comments! That's a lot of questions for 70 minutes! 😃 Thanks again for everything!
An accurate depiction of adult asexual struggles. "Would you like to be friends? What kind of benefits? Ah that kind. You'd like... right then. Carry on. Good luck with that."
It really is hard to make friends as an adult...especially when you move to a different country. 😅 But thanks to FAH for making it a bit easier, meeting nice like minded people at gigs and on Patreon!
I completely agree! Moved country last summer and still don’t really have any friends. I joined a poetry group and on the plus side I am friendly with the other members now. On the other hand, I am the youngest by at least 40 years.
Arms' facial expressions throughout the whole video are absolutely brilliant! 😂😂 In all seriousness though, I agree with Foil that making friends is bloody hard!
No it’s EASY!! Just follow Foil Arms & Hog and you end up developing deep friendships with some of the most amazing people in the world! (As I said to you last week, it’s part of why meeting you was so wonderful - not only for your own sakes (which was huge in itself!), but also the connection to these other incredibly special people 💖)
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha Woah Nellie!! Lower your expectations there missy 😂 It’s going to be so incredibly bittersweet seeing you because when this happens WE’LL HAVE FAH ON KIWI SOIL!!!!!!!!!!!! but the tour will nearly be over 🙂🙃🙂
How to make friends as an adult: 1. Get a dog, 2. Walk the dog, 3. Finally ask people what their names are after six months of anonymous but shockingly chatty puppy playdates!
There has been a study done either showing or suggesting that the easiest way to make friends is to first spend regular, positive time with a group. They can’t run away! LOL But this explains why it was so much easier making friends in school and college. Everyone is being too exploited by their jobs to have time for special interest clubs now.
I'm from the southern part of the US and I can relate so hard to this. I tried making new friends in Washington state and everyone looked at me like I was holding them hostage while I chatted with them. My family up there had to explain that people in the Pacific Northwest don't just walk up to strangers and converse with them. I ended up moving back to the South where I have trouble making friends because my views are more aligned with people outside the South.
Still laughing from Wednesday night’s show in brisbane lads. Terrific live performance, hardest I’d laughed since Brisbane’s inception 15 minutes earlier.
Ah brilliant 😂 Now I know what not to do. That's one step closer to making new friends, I guess. This is so relatable and still so funny. Have a wonderful day and good luck for your upcoming shows.
Way too accurate haha. Great work on Tuesday lads, I way so happy to be at your first ever Brisbane show! The toast shot was one of the best highlights.
Great sketch! I was in the same situation, but you guys inspired me to start doing improv. Great way to make new friends as an adult. Life is insane now. Also had our first show for friends and family last friday. Was awesome!
I'm turning 36 this summer and I moved to a new place a year ago. I still don't know more about by neighbour next door than his name and the type of car he drives. My 7 year old on the other hand, she goes outside on the veranda, spot some kids on the road walking by, yells hello to them and 2 minutes later they're playing together. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't envious of this ability to make friends.
Watching that for the 2nd time and I just got the "healthy appetite for fruit and veggie" and it just killed me. I can be so innocent sometimes, just like Foil. 😂😂😂😂
Fantastic sketch! The key for me was to stick to old friends from school and family when possible, thats why moving away can be so difficult. Once you move to an entirely new area, single, alone, average looking guy in your 30s, you better think of something to figure out how to make connections with people as its actually really really dificult and everyon is busy with the friends they already have.
As entertaining as this is, I find it more heartbreaking than funny. Oh, the pathos. Too much rings true; if not in detail but sentiment. Good comedy reflects both the tragedy and farce of life. Well done, lads.
As you may have figured out after meeting some of us at your Aussie shows, one way to make friends as an adult is to find all the other foil arms and hog fans in your general vicinity (aka 2000km radius)
@@KamilkaOz Really! They were so much fun weren't they!! Damn, I'm sorry (for myself) I didn't get to meet ya. But I'm happy you got to see them! What did you think?
Hog playing a straight character always makes me laugh but I did love Foil's innocence. Also hope to see the doom dah from last Thursday night in Melbourne at some stage...
Very good sketch about finding friends in adult age. It's difficult, but I think not impossible, it was always hard for me because I'm an introvert. Foil's character was so much fun to watch, so innocent! 😊❤
Awwww poor sweet Foil! Great sketch! You lads are responsible for creating some lovely friendships between fans though! Hope your shows are going well.
I was thinking exactly this before going to one of your shows solo (couldn’t find anyone to go with me) and met some really lovely friends at waiting in line at your gig! 😅 YOU have made it a lot easier for me to make friends!
I am really bad at socialising, being an introvert, so it is comforting to see that also extros have issues in this world they so clearly own 😂 although I am pretty sure a few men would enjoy going on Foil's adventures! Thanks for the sketch lads.
@@FAHnGirl Well, at least once you are in the right environment you feel at ease and have fun, which is cool. Good for you 😃 two/three people is the max I can take. I am leaving for a holiday with 5 other people in a month, one I basically don't know, let's see how that goes 😂
I don't know, even as kids making friends can be hard. I offered to share my snack with a boy at primary school once and he said we now had to get married?!
"He died." "What?!" "Well...he's got kids." As a 30-something watching this while keeping a (CLOSE) eye on her seven-month-old playing on the floor...I felt that 😂 (or should that be 😢?)
As someone who once joined tinder, genuinely thinking that I could make new friends through it (back then tinder was pretty much the only such app in my country), it isn't a smart choice. It can get so awkward when guys can't wrap their heads around the fact that "I'm looking for friends" is the purely platonic truth with no hidden agendas.
Loved the sketch!! Maybe it shouldn’t be that hard, asking “do you want to be my friend” works surprisingly well as an adult. And having a passion/hobby definitely is key too. And also, perhaps we shouldn’t leave everything to others and should just take the initiative to really nurture the friendship we already have…
I literally had a situation like the ones Foil described with someone I met on a... "friendship and maybe more" kind of app and I asked them, "do you want to be my friend instead, actually? I enjoy talking to you but I can see we're not really that attracted to each other otherwise". They said yes! Fast forward 3 years, he's married and we're still friends, now with his wife too! (bonus friend)
Kill, Kill, Kill 😂😂 Great show in Brisbane. Absolutely hilarious from start to finish and awesome connection with the audience. My boy was so excited to meet ye after. Keep up the great work👏👏
'Since you guys got married' - my brain automatically interpreted that as 'to each other' and I spit out my tea! 'It's like they hit their 30s and they decided they've met everyone that's gonna be at their funeral' - priceless!!
Yes, been looking for this comment! Figured I can't be the only one who interpreted it that way 😂 Especially with the way they're seated, Arms and Hog close together. Great sketch, poor Foil!
I kept waiting for this to turn into an add for Bumble, I even checked the video description halfway through to see if there was an affiliate link hiding but I was pleasantly surprised. Very funny video lads😄
Gotta appreciate a man going to so much effort to find friends. Most men over thirty I know do with what they have or stay lonely and pretend they like it that way.
It's hard to meet someone and think "I'd like to be friends with them" as an adult because you feel like you're intruding on their already-established life. Even though I have a great time meeting new people, any time I think "I should call them to go for a drink" or whatever, it's immediately followed by "Yeah, but I don't want to bother them".
i thought you guys are lucky your friendship created masterpieces. i can make friend and i want that friendship creates something too, but my time is limited by my job.
I love that besides failing at discovering friends, this bloke carved his way through a decent chunk of the female population without even registering his slaying. . . True man right there
I think this sketch explains all the social divisions and conflicts in society. People are afraid of listening to an opposing oint of view with an open mind because if they change their minds, they will lose their friends and they know how impossible it is to find new ones.
Life was so much easier when we were seven! It's so tempting to tell children, "you think this is bad - life gets much worse than this"! 🤣🤣 Lovely sketch, lads.
Funnily enough, I recently invited my coworker to watch a film at mine. She asked what kind, and since I don’t like films that are clearly meant for kids, I just told her “I dunno, a proper adult one.” Her choice ended up being utter crap though - it was just two women having sex constantly. No idea how it was supposed to convince me about the warmth of the colour blue.
First sketch we've ever used three cameras on. Meant we could do it all in one take and give that sitcom type vibe
Great framing, the three cameras really made a difference! Great sketch as always, too relatable
Ah, it's working! Love that one shot where Foil is showing us what adult friendship apps and groups are really geared towards. Perfect blurred hand-movement in front of reaction face.
You're going up in the world!
It worked really well!
I thought you'd done that in the unrealistic friend goals sketch as well. But I may have been mistaken...
"It's like they hit their thirties and they decide they've met everyone who's gonna be at their funeral" is such a good line.
Yessssss
The line is therapy at this point
Imagine m’y life: I left the country I grew up in when I was 18, the strict religious sect I fell in with when I was 25, and grad school when I was 30. What chance is there to make life-long friends?
I got to know my childhood bestie because she randomly walked past my house and I asked her if she wanted to come see my bunny. Somehow I think that wouldn't be the best strategy as an adult.
🐰 LOL!
i thought at first you were telling us how you'd remet your childhood bestie as an adult...
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😂😂😂
Haha!
This hit too close to home. Making friends when you’re an adult is so freaking hard. I miss the old days of being friends with someone just because we were in the same class at school.
It was so simple then
@@foilarmsandhog Complicated. But somehow more and less complicated at the same time. Most of all, I miss when the only phones were landlines.
SSOSOOOOOOOO TRUE 😭 *dies* I literally turned 18 recently and I’m like 😟 “Why is this world so hard?! Why is everyone so tense?”
So true. My school buddy is my best friend to date and my other best friend is from Uni. We bonded over PS2 and Nintendo Cube gaming.
But if you think about it, school is work for children, so you were making friends with people you worked with because that’s who you spend most of your time with…
The idea of being an adult and making friends is enough to induce a cold sweat. But, going forwards I shall select any new friends based entirely on their biscuit choices. Solid advice there.
Bourbon for the win… :)
@@bob_the_bomb4508 sorry Bob - always has and always will be a chocolate digestive!
@@heather5494 see, we’re not really suited. I could do a chocolate digestive as a casual fling but there’s no future in it :(
Oh crumbs....
I'm gluten intolerant, I feel so excluded.
This is unexpectedly true and deep. Really hard to make friends, have trips or lunches together and worthwhile conversations. The online world and media are really obsessed about sex.
So true!
To be fair, without sex, we dont exist. So its kinda big on the topic list.
True, I find the over sexualization of everything so invasive and gross.
Its the same everywhere... Sad but true... Greets from Poland
Or encouraging, divisive politics.
"I think I wish I was single" took the sketch to the whole new level 😂😂😂😂
He couldn't even rely on them to talk about other things 😂
Absolutely I wasnt expecting that one 😂😂
given the number of sexless marriages out there, i think most people saw that coming..
Does that mean that only Foil is not married?
Or that only Hug is...
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Dude, you are sooo spot on!
If we would be in a sports bar right now I would buy a beer 🍻
So, a few years back I made a blog post about this. I called it "The Curse of the Thirties" . In my particular case I moved to a different city for college and stayed there in the end so here's what happens in that situation:
- you leave your existing circle of friends behind; you try to stay in touch but over the years that fades and fades until it's gone
- you make new college friends but some of them will eventually move back to their hometowns (very common thing to do in Croatia) and fade away
- your new college friends who stay behind will settle down eventually
- your college friends who stayed around and settled will get babies and if you don't have a child you'll be pushed out in favour of other people with children with whom they'll now hang out and have plenty in common
- you will try to find new friends but you'll run into what I call "established circles" because people your age (thirties or so) will already have a circle of friends and most often there is no room for more because no one is willing to start the process afresh
- you will try to squeeze in but you'll find out that these are not true friendships but rather "purpose-built acquaintances".
- for example you'll find gym buddies, or you'll join running schools or you'll find D&D groups or boardgame groups and they might welcome you, BUT when your joint activity ends for the day those people will likely go back to their spouses, children or their existing circle of friends
And it gets more and more difficult to penetrate these walls as you get older. I'm only 35 so I have yet to live and see what happens when you get very old, like 70+ I think at that point you'll be able to make new friends because most of the people around you will be alone sadly and/or they'll have PLENTY of time to kill.
Very rarely you WILL be able to make new friends later in life but those will almost NEVER be as strong as your childhood friends because we are all adults with unique aspirations, abilities, wishes, opportunities etc. By the time we're 30+ we will have made some choices which define us and have duties, obligations and/or desires to pursue so even if you do find new friends you'll most often end up putting them on the back burner in favour of everything that happens in your life. And others will do this to you.
And that's fine. Sometimes it IS a little bit difficult if you're 30+ or something and don't have that one person whom you can call out of the blue and make fart jokes or talk about nothing in particular but most often you'll find that having purpose-built acquaintances is all you really need and you'll quickly see which ones you could potentially upgrade to something more.
Good luck.
All this is true - but I started to make lots of friends again after 50 yo (I’m 55 now) by getting involved in local associations and cultural movements - with people my age but with grown up children or divorced etc.
Like a new teenage vibe. It helped also to move to the country where people are more keen to meet new people than in big cities.
City life is sad.
Be happy!
Apparently the best way to make friends is to form a comedy group and tour the world together 😉
That'd be a NIGHTMARE if you didn't get along though 😂😂
I think there's high chance of already failing at "forming a group", lol
"When three people stick together, dirt turns to gold."
Arms: “What do you think the ‘maybe more’ stood for?”
Foil: “Hill walking.”
Props to the writing again!
Hill walking, is that a euphemism for looking at huge tracts of land?
@@kathilisi3019 Everything is an euphemism if you think long and hard about it.
@@PokhrajRoy. **spits out water**
(Metaphorically. I know better than to drink around these comments.)
@@PokhrajRoy. Right that's it.
SECURITY! Yeah, there they are!
@@IntensivePorpoise Haha hydrate carefully
As an autistic adult, I learned VERY quick that “do you wanna be friends?” doesn’t cut it anymore. My best bet has been the local karaoke circuit. Tons of nice people, usually drunk as hell but seeing as I don’t drink it’s fine and I save my money by just getting free water. Great for friends! Unfortunately the only people so far who’ve taken a romantic interest in me have been divorced men, which is weird because I’ve never been in a relationship before and I’m not comfortable with that difference in experience.
@@221b-l3t I do initiate conversation, especially via compliments; I love complimenting people. But I’ll try to do it more.
It's just hard to differentiate between all the different kinds of "friendships" that people are looking for. You can't be more straightforward than "Do you wanna be friends with me?" and people still interpret it weird 😂
Invitations to BBQs are hard to make sexual.
@@IRefuseToUseThisStupidFeature Well, you certainly can't with that attitude 😆
I think you have to do social clubs like sports or pub crawls.
@@IRefuseToUseThisStupidFeature Red hot sausage on offer?
It was so much easier as a kid in the playground. The answer was always one of two things: "okay" or a punch to the arm before they stormed off.
It’s not a comedy. It’s a documentary. Great job lads! 😂
Documentaries can be funny 😁
I thought it was a self help video when I started watching. It's funny - but in that uncomfortable 'it's so true' sort of way.
You touched me..
The older you get the more you appreciate the people who know (really know) who you are and it takes so much courage to plunge into the deep end of making new friends pool :)
especially if all you want is a wholesome conversation over a nice meal .. or hill walking.
Thank you for being in this world and bringing so much fun (or should I say craic) to everyone who's been lucky enough to come across you! 😊
Lovely comment, thank you
I love that word, Craic ☺️
Lads, this tight script has real, multi-season, sitcom feel. Starting a petition for more, please.
**signs petition**
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That's so true! And that's why the friendship between you three are so enviable for many people (especially for introverts like me)
Haha, Added Sugar lives ooonnnn 😂
We're very lucky!
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha I find this so funny and decide not to change it lol
@@grislovegood I'm so happy 😂❤️
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha 💖
This clueless Foil character is great - not only funny but he also brings a great angle to look at this relatable topic from. The other two characters were fun too. So tame. With a nice punch line, he he.
It's true.. making friends was much easier when we were kids.. nice sketch 😊
Thanks Dhyana!!
It's because half the people are worried about how they come across and the other half are just judgment and preconceptions.
Just start talking to someone who's somewhere find something in common. and talk about it. Then invite them to a barbecue or board games, or wrenching, whatever it is you like doing.
yeah, these I make friends with someone then find out they are a fascist of some flavor, either religious or just plain bigoted with a hard on for authoritarianism.
so now when I meet someone new I just casually make fun of flat earthers and antivaxers, if they start with "well vaccines actually gave my my cousin's nephew's baby autism", I'M OUT.
Those kinds of people also often cheat on their spouses and it's just awkward at christmas and birthday dinners to look them in the eye. Been there, don't wanna go through that again.
It was so much simpler as a child, everybody liked pokemon, I liked digimon, but it wasn't such a big thing that I couldn't compromise and play pokemon with them. While now for moral stuff, I just can't anymore.
I think it is because we change what we "expect" from a friend as we age.
Most of those childhood friendships were based on nothing more than proximity, and really weren't more than skin deep. I didn't know much about their home lives, I didn't expect them to turn up to help if I was in the hospital, I certainly wouldn't trust them to make life and death decisions for me. We just got along and had a nice chat for an hour or so every day - and the relationship completely disappeared when one of us moved away. That's what I call _colleagues_ now. We get along, have some laughs and pleasant conversation over lunch and around the water cooler for an hour or so each day, I know zilch about their real home lives, I don't expect them to turn up for me in my darkest hours, and I totally expect the relationships to fall through when one of us moves away.
What I call _friends_ now, I expect a lot more from. Friendships that survive distances and friends who turn up in your darkest hours. Those are very rare in childhood too.
@@whydoineedanameiwillneverp7790 Yet the closest friends people have tend to be those they made as children.
It’s wrapped up in a funny sketch, but as a person in my mid 30s, it is a hard truth that making friends at this age is an impossible nightmare.
Not really. Get off the computer, go to your local pub, watch and discuss sports with other fans. Join a sports club, or group where you’ll meet folk with common interests. It’s certainly not impossible.
Multiplayer online games are a great way to meet people. Chess, cards, strategy, that other kind of role-play, …
@@7oy I'm an introvert. My only friend is also an introvert who understands me, because she's an introvert, most people don't understand. Being a woman, if I go to the pub alone and attempt to talk to women I don't know, I'm not part of their friendship group, so they mistrust etc. If I talk to men, they think I'm up for it and I'm also putting myself in danger. I don't want to join a group because that's just too much for an introvert and people would misunderstand me. 😂
@@susanplatt5331 I don't know if it's popular where you live but in my city there's been a recent trend of doing "women's circles" and especially ceremonial cacao drinking (like the Japanese tea ceremony but with traditional cacao. Doesn't have to be cacao-related though). Admittedly a bit new-age-y but still a very supportive, encouraging experience. You might exchange contacts, you might end up not meeting those same women ever again, but in any case, it's a lovely feeling of being seen and heard by other women - often as introverted as you! - and spending a beautiful evening in their company without awkward small talk. I suggest you look up if they do any of those types of events in your area :>
@@7oy i dont like pubs and the only sport i like to watch is rugby, but i don’t understand all of the rules a d just shrug when the ref says something
This hit sooo many of my own personal difficulties with making friends- I'm asexual and people interpret friendly overtures it as 'confident and self-assured flirting' instead of 'hey, I am really enjoying playing this board game with you!'. I would rate myself on the wrong side of average, looks-wise, but I still seem to turn down a lot of people.
So I guess the message here is that if you want a date, act completely clueless?
"He died!" "He's dead?!" "Well, no, he has kids..!" Genius! Best line in the whole thing - apart from the last one, of course!
This hit so close right from the title that I feel more like crying than laughing. As an adult introvert who spends most of their time at work and the rest at home, with no energy left for social hobbies, it really is so hard to form genuine connections with people that don't also happen to live on the other side of the world 😭
So true, exactly the same here...
Same for me!
Same man
Very good sketch about finding friends in adult age. I'm really bad at socialising, being an introvert, so it is comforting to see that also extros have issues in this world they so clearly own.
And you guys were so amazing in Melbourne, thanks for the brilliant show, my face hurt so bad the next day!
Fall down drunk, you were?
Making new friends as an adult, especially a more introverted one is tough if not impossible… I gained some lovely long-term friends due to ‘joining’ the fandom of my then favourite band and I am so grateful. Although the band doesn’t exist any more, I still have my friends.
Arms has a perfect sad stare at 3:09. Also I watched the video assuming he was married to Hog, which enhances the "think I wish I was single" punchline.
I thought that too at first!!
Holy shit, McKenna's face when he heard about the "swing dance club" is killing me 🤣🤣🤣
P.S. I'm so glad you used the Brisbane outro, it was awesome being there when you filmed it!
Foil has such an innocent mindset it's so wholesome and funny 😂🥺❤ Hope you find a friend soon mate
Legend has it he started ordering Ubers just to chat with people.
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha Lol. A mate of mine one said to me I total seriousness when his golfing partner moved away:
"I've got a vacancy for a friend".
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha In china, there was indeed this very (lonely) rich man , who decided to become Uber driver (in his luxury car), just to make new friends with people.
See, I always look for people to go hill walking with...or walking...or hiking...i literally just want to go for a walk and have a nice chat, nothing else!! How can that be so difficult? I feel you Foil😅
Same, which is why I'm that weirdo always walking alone in the evenings. There's just no one I can call to come join me.
You hit your 30s and you've met everyone who's going to be at your funeral 😄
Swing dancers, easy mistake 🤭
Your Brissie opening night was fantastic! Thrilled to catch you guys, absolute riot.
Funnily enough this couldn't be better timing as I was having this conversation about making friends in your adulthood, although maybe not exactly as Foil turned out 😅 I love this sketch idea
There's defo a good chunk of reality deep down in this one
Same, Laura! 😅🤝💕
@@foilarmsandhog sooo… are you coming to Scandinavia any time soon?
Ps. Is there like a site or something where one can see schedule of your tour/performances?
I love that, as funny as this is, the heaping dose of frustrating reality is what sells it
Gosh darnit, they'll have me coming back next week too.
You just gotts keep trying
Ugh, lads. You're the best. I can totally see why people keep coming back over and over again to your shows. Having the time of my life thanks to you!!! (and my new best friends who I love dearly but this comment is for you so they can suck it up and wait their turn).
Thank you so much for coming 🥺
And for working so hard!!! 👏
And for staying to say hi ❤️
And for bringing the mouth trumpet 🤩
And for bringing Hog's hips 😆
And for bringing more batteries for your massager thing 😂😂😂
Now please excuse me while I pretend to go on strike from engagement driving because you didn't post a NZ immigration 😤
Thank you!!!
HEYO my friend! How’s it going Sam?
@@missrobinhoodie BINA TURTLE!!!! I'm doing SWELL thank you!!! Hogwash is absolutely amazing 🤣🤣🤣🤣
I met some of my friends at a pub quiz, so far I've been safe from the "and more".
Awesome sketch once again guys, you make my Thursday mornings great
They're just getting you ready for the pop quiz, that's where the "and more" comes in. :^)
Showed this to my friend and she said you missed the opportunity to have the final line reveal that this guy just sat down at a table with two guys he didn't know and they were too awkward to chase him off again.
This is super relevant for men who often have few close friends or none. And for women as well finding someone who genuinely wants more friends is hard
I think a lot of men have trouble opening up to people in the first couple meets. You become friends through bonds, whether it's interests like sports or emotional bonds. My first friend at uni literally told me about all his issues with depression and it made me feel comfortable around him because he was so honest and open and so we have a good friendship.
The lines in this were priceless, Foil‘s clueless and frustrated delivery hilarious, but what really put it over the top were Arms‘ increasingly appalled expressions!😅😂😂
Very relatable! I was still single in my 30s and new friends seemed so hard to come by. But I guess if you learn the right strategy (like, e.g., taking a class on something you really like), you can make friends even in your senior years. Great video, as usual!
It's really difficult. I've had to cut communication with people I sought out to be friends because they clearly were interested in *maybe more*, not friendship
I love this. This is me now. Suddenly after 30 I realize I can't create new friendships which used to happen so randomly before.
Foil should join Gig Buddies - it's a brilliant befriending project that pairs up adults with and without learning disabilities and/or autism who have similar interests, so they can go to gigs and other social activities together.
Thanks a lot for having the Swines stream last week!! It was such an amazing experience to watch it along with you all and others in the chat! 😍😍 Would you consider doing something like that again, a Patreon watch party when you have some free time after touring maybe? 🙂
And the Q&A was great too! You answered about 65 questions and a couple of more funny responses to a few more questions/comments! That's a lot of questions for 70 minutes! 😃 Thanks again for everything!
And they only promised 30 minutes!!! Ah, they're awesome 😊
I second that! More Q&As , more interactions with the FAHns!
An accurate depiction of adult asexual struggles. "Would you like to be friends? What kind of benefits? Ah that kind. You'd like... right then. Carry on. Good luck with that."
It really is hard to make friends as an adult...especially when you move to a different country. 😅 But thanks to FAH for making it a bit easier, meeting nice like minded people at gigs and on Patreon!
I completely agree! Moved country last summer and still don’t really have any friends. I joined a poetry group and on the plus side I am friendly with the other members now. On the other hand, I am the youngest by at least 40 years.
Good comedy skits are also good social commentaries. This is so spot on.
Arms' facial expressions throughout the whole video are absolutely brilliant! 😂😂
In all seriousness though, I agree with Foil that making friends is bloody hard!
You just gotta keep trying.
3:01 lol the widening of the eyes as he realizes what the club actually is
"He died?"
"No, he's got kids"
.....I DIED😂
As an aroace person I relate to Foil's struggles in this sketch so much😅
Haha that’s the energy I was getting too. Happy to hear you spot it.
Same!!
I’m ace and oh my god same
Yeah, the whole time I thought "yeah, every aroace ever..." XD
No it’s EASY!! Just follow Foil Arms & Hog and you end up developing deep friendships with some of the most amazing people in the world!
(As I said to you last week, it’s part of why meeting you was so wonderful - not only for your own sakes (which was huge in itself!), but also the connection to these other incredibly special people 💖)
I think I've genuinely made friends for life because of FAH. I CANNOT wait to meet you! THE LEGEND!
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha Woah Nellie!! Lower your expectations there missy 😂
It’s going to be so incredibly bittersweet seeing you because when this happens WE’LL HAVE FAH ON KIWI SOIL!!!!!!!!!!!! but the tour will nearly be over 🙂🙃🙂
💖🧁💖🎂💖
How to make friends as an adult:
1. Get a dog,
2. Walk the dog,
3. Finally ask people what their names are after six months of anonymous but shockingly chatty puppy playdates!
There has been a study done either showing or suggesting that the easiest way to make friends is to first spend regular, positive time with a group. They can’t run away! LOL But this explains why it was so much easier making friends in school and college. Everyone is being too exploited by their jobs to have time for special interest clubs now.
I'm from the southern part of the US and I can relate so hard to this. I tried making new friends in Washington state and everyone looked at me like I was holding them hostage while I chatted with them. My family up there had to explain that people in the Pacific Northwest don't just walk up to strangers and converse with them. I ended up moving back to the South where I have trouble making friends because my views are more aligned with people outside the South.
The looks on Arms’s face when he says swing dance 😂
Still laughing from Wednesday night’s show in brisbane lads. Terrific live performance, hardest I’d laughed since Brisbane’s inception 15 minutes earlier.
Haha, in all its long history! Great fun in brisbane
Haha cheers fair play
Ah brilliant 😂 Now I know what not to do. That's one step closer to making new friends, I guess.
This is so relatable and still so funny.
Have a wonderful day and good luck for your upcoming shows.
Way too accurate haha. Great work on Tuesday lads, I way so happy to be at your first ever Brisbane show! The toast shot was one of the best highlights.
Great sketch! I was in the same situation, but you guys inspired me to start doing improv. Great way to make new friends as an adult. Life is insane now. Also had our first show for friends and family last friday. Was awesome!
This is so cool!🤩
You're insane in a very good way! Well done!!
I was there at that Brisbane show - you guys are SO amazing at your live performances! Thank you!
Thank you for coming along!!
Arm's expression at 2:13 is absolutely priceless. 😂
I'm turning 36 this summer and I moved to a new place a year ago. I still don't know more about by neighbour next door than his name and the type of car he drives. My 7 year old on the other hand, she goes outside on the veranda, spot some kids on the road walking by, yells hello to them and 2 minutes later they're playing together. I'd be lying if I said I wasn't envious of this ability to make friends.
Watching that for the 2nd time and I just got the "healthy appetite for fruit and veggie" and it just killed me. I can be so innocent sometimes, just like Foil. 😂😂😂😂
Fantastic sketch! The key for me was to stick to old friends from school and family when possible, thats why moving away can be so difficult. Once you move to an entirely new area, single, alone, average looking guy in your 30s, you better think of something to figure out how to make connections with people as its actually really really dificult and everyon is busy with the friends they already have.
Saw you guys live in Brisbane a couple of nights ago, the show was excellent...even better than I expected. You guys are seriously talented.
I love the way Foil says "Because he lived across the road."
As entertaining as this is, I find it more heartbreaking than funny. Oh, the pathos. Too much rings true; if not in detail but sentiment. Good comedy reflects both the tragedy and farce of life. Well done, lads.
As you may have figured out after meeting some of us at your Aussie shows, one way to make friends as an adult is to find all the other foil arms and hog fans in your general vicinity (aka 2000km radius)
Kamilka! Which show(s) were you at? 😃
That's some radius! But it does seem to be working!!
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha Melbs 🙂
@@KamilkaOz Really! They were so much fun weren't they!! Damn, I'm sorry (for myself) I didn't get to meet ya. But I'm happy you got to see them! What did you think?
Watching your sketch is just the motivation boost I need for the day. Thank you! 🙌 And poor Foilee...so naive 😂
Enjoy your day!!! Make your goal to be as naive as Foil today. Go on, I dare you 😂
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha thanks! As tired as I feel it's not improbable that I will be like that today 😅
Hog playing a straight character always makes me laugh but I did love Foil's innocence. Also hope to see the doom dah from last Thursday night in Melbourne at some stage...
"It's like they hit their 30s and they decided they've met everyone that's going to be at their funeral" It's so true it's sad :)
I'm here to watch comedy and be entertained, not to get salt rubbed in my wounds.
Nice sketch, thanks! 😊
Bit of a sitcom vibe to this one lads, in a good way. So true too. Kids don't even need to know each others names to be friends! And the ending... 🤭
Spot on, very sitcom feeling!
@@foilarmsandhog Perhaps a combination of script, acting, cameras and edit, I don't know. But the humour had a gentler, sitcom pace to it overall.
Very good sketch about finding friends in adult age. It's difficult, but I think not impossible, it was always hard for me because I'm an introvert. Foil's character was so much fun to watch, so innocent! 😊❤
That's why you have me - your personal extraverted introvert 😄😄
Awwww poor sweet Foil! Great sketch! You lads are responsible for creating some lovely friendships between fans though! Hope your shows are going well.
They keep getting better and better. It's so much fun. I think they are having fun too 😂
@@SamHOGISTHEBESTantha Ahhhh so pleased for them and you! Loved reading about you meeting them!
I was thinking exactly this before going to one of your shows solo (couldn’t find anyone to go with me) and met some really lovely friends at waiting in line at your gig! 😅 YOU have made it a lot easier for me to make friends!
That's awesome!
Yes! I think going places alone is key to making friends.
I am really bad at socialising, being an introvert, so it is comforting to see that also extros have issues in this world they so clearly own 😂 although I am pretty sure a few men would enjoy going on Foil's adventures! Thanks for the sketch lads.
@@FAHnGirl Well, at least once you are in the right environment you feel at ease and have fun, which is cool. Good for you 😃 two/three people is the max I can take. I am leaving for a holiday with 5 other people in a month, one I basically don't know, let's see how that goes 😂
@@FAHnGirl Thanks!!!
Actually... Would you like to be my friend? No seriously. All I want to talk about is this amazing Irish comedy trio...
I don't know, even as kids making friends can be hard. I offered to share my snack with a boy at primary school once and he said we now had to get married?!
Arms' variety of startled expression never fails to amaze me. 😅
"He died."
"What?!"
"Well...he's got kids."
As a 30-something watching this while keeping a (CLOSE) eye on her seven-month-old playing on the floor...I felt that 😂 (or should that be 😢?)
Yeah absolutely loved this line😂
I absolutely love this desperation on Arms's face by the end of the video😂 Does he also wish he was sungle😂
The volume of drinks in their glass speaks the volume.
Your device's speakers are feeling pretty unappreciated right now...
As someone who once joined tinder, genuinely thinking that I could make new friends through it (back then tinder was pretty much the only such app in my country), it isn't a smart choice. It can get so awkward when guys can't wrap their heads around the fact that "I'm looking for friends" is the purely platonic truth with no hidden agendas.
Yep, if believe that!
Lordy that's a lot of lines Foil! Well done, and funny as. See you all on Monday. Can hardly wait!
He'll be after a pay rise!
Loved the sketch!! Maybe it shouldn’t be that hard, asking “do you want to be my friend” works surprisingly well as an adult. And having a passion/hobby definitely is key too. And also, perhaps we shouldn’t leave everything to others and should just take the initiative to really nurture the friendship we already have…
I literally had a situation like the ones Foil described with someone I met on a... "friendship and maybe more" kind of app and I asked them, "do you want to be my friend instead, actually? I enjoy talking to you but I can see we're not really that attracted to each other otherwise". They said yes! Fast forward 3 years, he's married and we're still friends, now with his wife too! (bonus friend)
Kill, Kill, Kill 😂😂
Great show in Brisbane. Absolutely hilarious from start to finish and awesome connection with the audience. My boy was so excited to meet ye after. Keep up the great work👏👏
“ I got her to put on her dressing gown and we played PlayStation” made crack up.
'Since you guys got married' - my brain automatically interpreted that as 'to each other' and I spit out my tea!
'It's like they hit their 30s and they decided they've met everyone that's gonna be at their funeral' - priceless!!
Yes, been looking for this comment! Figured I can't be the only one who interpreted it that way 😂 Especially with the way they're seated, Arms and Hog close together. Great sketch, poor Foil!
Wait. They weren’t?
It made the last line so much more cold when I thought they were talking about each other!
@@llamasugar5478 I also initially thought he meant to each other then realised he probably didn't - but can be interpreted either way haha
I kept waiting for this to turn into an add for Bumble, I even checked the video description halfway through to see if there was an affiliate link hiding but I was pleasantly surprised. Very funny video lads😄
Another great sketch! Was amazing seeing you in Brisbane last night. True comedic talents these three
Gotta appreciate a man going to so much effort to find friends. Most men over thirty I know do with what they have or stay lonely and pretend they like it that way.
I'll be this guy's friend if he introduces me to some of the ladies he's met. As a gesture of friendship, of course.
It's hard to meet someone and think "I'd like to be friends with them" as an adult because you feel like you're intruding on their already-established life. Even though I have a great time meeting new people, any time I think "I should call them to go for a drink" or whatever, it's immediately followed by "Yeah, but I don't want to bother them".
i thought you guys are lucky your friendship created masterpieces. i can make friend and i want that friendship creates something too, but my time is limited by my job.
I love that besides failing at discovering friends, this bloke carved his way through a decent chunk of the female population without even registering his slaying. . . True man right there
That whip was the point when they considered that being single is better.
Their poor partners
I think this sketch explains all the social divisions and conflicts in society. People are afraid of listening to an opposing oint of view with an open mind because if they change their minds, they will lose their friends and they know how impossible it is to find new ones.
Life was so much easier when we were seven! It's so tempting to tell children, "you think this is bad - life gets much worse than this"! 🤣🤣
Lovely sketch, lads.
Reminds me of Arms mom character from “Exams are not important”
Funnily enough, I recently invited my coworker to watch a film at mine. She asked what kind, and since I don’t like films that are clearly meant for kids, I just told her “I dunno, a proper adult one.” Her choice ended up being utter crap though - it was just two women having sex constantly. No idea how it was supposed to convince me about the warmth of the colour blue.
Meanwhile there's someone very disappointed at the Fun, Friendship and Maybe Hillwalking App
If this is an app people feel needs to exist then I might put it on my List Of Future Projects haha
The deadpan ‘saw that coming’