*Gems in this episode* -Don't trauma dump (have other people you can talk to about certain things). -Therapy therapy therapy! -Honesty, vulnerability, express yourself firmly without "attacking" your partner/anyone else. -Enforce boundaries (don't fold, even for your partner) Help add more gems in the comment section ⬇️
it is so interesting to hear how different you process emotions, Audrey and Matthew! Audrey needs to vent first (i completely feel you !) and solutions come afterwards, and Matt is "complaining don't help, we find a solution NOW" 😀 And none of it is better or worse, it's just different approaches. Thank you for sharing and being so approachable ☺
I’m too much but I’m not enough- THIS. This felt so hard, I stopped doing whatever I was doing and I was just thinking about this. It was such a great conversation to listen to!
it seems to me that you have to know yourself very well in order to express your needs, what if i have a partner who doesn't know himself well and instead of saying what he needs he is just angry - is the relationship doomed to fail even though it may just be a misunderstanding or a different approach to dealing with issues? you could react angry to aurdrey and audrey could feel not being seen for her approach - both of you would feel not being seen and missunderstood - even if you love each other the relationship could end when stuff like this happens a lot..
This is a nice reflection. Speaking as a therapist not that I pretend to know it all all. However I think for a healthy relationship to blossom both partners need to be able to be open and able to grow together. Not everyone knows their needs and desires but they can learn them together.
Wow! Dream collaboration ❤ I have been listening Sabrina's podcast Do the work for some time. And i have always been thinking "wow, she reminds me of Matthew..." Amazing job 🎉 Congrats from Bulgaria 🇧🇬
Thanks Audrey - for being a gentle, kind & sweet host. Sabrina has a very hard & strong personality - I am not sure about her advice or views on relationships- as it’s based on her own projections of her own upbringing. It works for Sabrina now - because she is in a safe relationship with a partner that seems to have a huge bandwidth for her. But not all partner can hold up so long like this.
❤ wowwy...Brand-New to channel...too much all @ once! Lol.. it's xtrodinary to verbally diagram how the psyche jumps from protective mechanism to inseting/finding a hole/break to let something else guide you... to unburden yr psyche.. I'll have to come back to the video. UA-cam has literally been my guide to self-help.
When woman says< I have more guy friends and struggle with female friends, it gives pick me energy. She always repeats the same stories, everywhere I see her, nothing new
I did some reflection the other day and I have been with people who always needed me to be there to help them fix something about themselves and I never fixed myself during those relationships, I am currently dating someone who is perfect but I am having thoughts that she doesn't need me and lack of self confidence, what should I do?
She chose to stay with you. That is something you should trust in. If she is really a perfect person like you say, that means she sees something in you that you may not see in yourself. Relationships shouldn't be about "fixing" each other, but complementing each other while still maintaining individuality. Basically, you should be uplifting each other while still being able to stand on your own. Maybe you should consider if there's anything you can do to increase your opinion of yourself. Are there any hobbies or trainings you can do to make yourself more valuable (for example: being a great cook, being fit, being knowledgeable / cultured / well-read, being creative, being kind and socially conscious etc.)? Working on yourself is one way you can be more confident in yourself.
After plenty of relationship struggles, my biggest hurdle is what you talk about at the 28 minute mark. I was just talking to my friends about how puzzling it is to determine where my needs, wants, and desires eclipse or conflict with my partners’ and vice versa. I fear it will be a lifelong dissatisfying struggle and it makes me think I am not really able to have a healthy relationship.
I love the contrast between Sabrina's rapid spitfire and swearing style of speaking with Matthew/Audrey's softer, slower style of speaking. Love seeing these three talk!
Thank you. Very much validated our experience. Affirmed as audrey said that we are not the only one, it assures with the so much resemblance and kind of crazy that human behaviour is so specific and limited. Thank you all
I was put on this earth.To be happy and find love.My life has turned to be crap.my advice stay single.Its a better life.To many Golddiggers .Stay lonely.
Hi Matthew, thank you for this video. There’s a particular topic I don’t think you’ve covered that I wanted to seek advice on. What if you genuinely just don’t want to put in the effort to date? Is it ok to just fully let go and take a break? Sometimes I worry that I won’t come back from it but I genuinely don’t have the desire to date rn. Thank you 🙏
It’s funny the comments about Sabrina.. it’s sad cus I’ve seen her insta gram videos and was turned off by her too… she’s probably dealt with that a lot in life
Matthew touched on when is it too much in a relationship. Sabrina is a lot, and it seems that her partner doesn’t have the bandwidth to support her emotions. It is hard to gage, but your partner is not your therapist, and depending on them to emotionally dump on can cause a strain in the relationship- especially if it is one sided.
Audrey adds 300% to every episode, podcast, interview whatever she joins in on. Every person should add her to the discussion- they’d be nuts not to!
Agree. Would love to hear Audrey talk more about it from the woman’s perspective. She’s so insightful 😊
*Gems in this episode*
-Don't trauma dump (have other people you can talk to about certain things).
-Therapy therapy therapy!
-Honesty, vulnerability, express yourself firmly without "attacking" your partner/anyone else.
-Enforce boundaries (don't fold, even for your partner)
Help add more gems in the comment section ⬇️
Absolutely adore Audrey, such a compassionate and articulate woman. She's such and amazing addition to your work Matthew ❤️
it is so interesting to hear how different you process emotions, Audrey and Matthew! Audrey needs to vent first (i completely feel you !) and solutions come afterwards, and Matt is "complaining don't help, we find a solution NOW" 😀 And none of it is better or worse, it's just different approaches.
Thank you for sharing and being so approachable ☺
I’m too much but I’m not enough- THIS. This felt so hard, I stopped doing whatever I was doing and I was just thinking about this. It was such a great conversation to listen to!
Two women both have very different energies. Audrey is a gentle soul and Sabrina is quite a strong character
Thank you so much for this video! Sabrina, I totally feel you. I had a similar story in my childhood. God bless therapy! 🙌
I had the exact same childhood, but i had a malignant narc mother.
it seems to me that you have to know yourself very well in order to express your needs, what if i have a partner who doesn't know himself well and instead of saying what he needs he is just angry - is the relationship doomed to fail even though it may just be a misunderstanding or a different approach to dealing with issues? you could react angry to aurdrey and audrey could feel not being seen for her approach - both of you would feel not being seen and missunderstood - even if you love each other the relationship could end when stuff like this happens a lot..
This is a nice reflection. Speaking as a therapist not that I pretend to know it all all. However I think for a healthy relationship to blossom both partners need to be able to be open and able to grow together. Not everyone knows their needs and desires but they can learn them together.
I know Sabrina's story, but her personality is so strong that i could hear it a hundreds of other time
can i double-like?
i feel touched.
Wow! Dream collaboration ❤
I have been listening Sabrina's podcast Do the work for some time. And i have always been thinking "wow, she reminds me of Matthew..."
Amazing job 🎉
Congrats from Bulgaria 🇧🇬
oh and hello from one sensitive little ball of fire to another, Sabrina Zohar! : )
Thanks Audrey - for being a gentle, kind & sweet host. Sabrina has a very hard & strong personality - I am not sure about her advice or views on relationships- as it’s based on her own projections of her own upbringing. It works for Sabrina now - because she is in a safe relationship with a partner that seems to have a huge bandwidth for her. But not all partner can hold up so long like this.
arent matthew and audrey also projecting ... they re all tallking based on what they know worked for them really none of this is science lol
Sounds like you're the one projecting onto Sabrina 😂
I love Audrey so much🥹
Loved this interview so much.
❤ wowwy...Brand-New to channel...too much all @ once! Lol.. it's xtrodinary to verbally diagram how the psyche jumps from protective mechanism to inseting/finding a hole/break to let something else guide you... to unburden yr psyche.. I'll have to come back to the video.
UA-cam has literally been my guide to self-help.
When woman says< I have more guy friends and struggle with female friends, it gives pick me energy. She always repeats the same stories, everywhere I see her, nothing new
I resonate so much with the behavior and patterns Sabrina experienced! I love this episode so much!
Sabrina is so real😊🎉 Love it ❤️
Emotional and embrace it!
I did some reflection the other day and I have been with people who always needed me to be there to help them fix something about themselves and I never fixed myself during those relationships, I am currently dating someone who is perfect but I am having thoughts that she doesn't need me and lack of self confidence, what should I do?
She chose to stay with you. That is something you should trust in. If she is really a perfect person like you say, that means she sees something in you that you may not see in yourself.
Relationships shouldn't be about "fixing" each other, but complementing each other while still maintaining individuality. Basically, you should be uplifting each other while still being able to stand on your own.
Maybe you should consider if there's anything you can do to increase your opinion of yourself. Are there any hobbies or trainings you can do to make yourself more valuable (for example: being a great cook, being fit, being knowledgeable / cultured / well-read, being creative, being kind and socially conscious etc.)? Working on yourself is one way you can be more confident in yourself.
@@Dragonboy55564 Thank you so much for saying this! I am trying to work on myself to read more, be more individualist and be healthy
After plenty of relationship struggles, my biggest hurdle is what you talk about at the 28 minute mark. I was just talking to my friends about how puzzling it is to determine where my needs, wants, and desires eclipse or conflict with my partners’ and vice versa. I fear it will be a lifelong dissatisfying struggle and it makes me think I am not really able to have a healthy relationship.
I love the contrast between Sabrina's rapid spitfire and swearing style of speaking with Matthew/Audrey's softer, slower style of speaking. Love seeing these three talk!
Yay, San Diego! It's still "challenging," but not that bad. It's all about your attitude.
We're all cut from the same cloth.😂
I love this guest. I really relate to her experience
Awesome episode! I gotta say watching Matthew emulate a New Yorker "f you, i don't give a f*ck" really got me laughing 😅
Can you please make one with Sadia Khan ❤
Thank you. Very much validated our experience. Affirmed as audrey said that we are not the only one, it assures with the so much resemblance and kind of crazy that human behaviour is so specific and limited. Thank you all
I was put on this earth.To be happy and find love.My life has turned to be crap.my advice stay single.Its a better life.To many Golddiggers .Stay lonely.
Hi Matthew, thank you for this video. There’s a particular topic I don’t think you’ve covered that I wanted to seek advice on. What if you genuinely just don’t want to put in the effort to date? Is it ok to just fully let go and take a break? Sometimes I worry that I won’t come back from it but I genuinely don’t have the desire to date rn. Thank you 🙏
Sabrina❤
Sabrina is speaking my story. Thank you for this 😮😮😮😮 In therapy for a bit for abandonment and setting boundaries.
I loved the book. I bought it at Barnes and noble thank you. I don’t read books a lot but I did yours.❤️
I LOVE AUDREY
Fantastic and relatable!
Thank you for a real conversation between three people who like and respect each other. Loved the blend of each energy and feedback. 🙏
awesome
This was a remarkable interview. I felt like I related to her quite a bit.
This whole 55 minutes were spot on and powerful 🥰😍
Matthew & Audrey are couple goals ❤
A really great and informative talk, thanks 🙌🏻
Great conversation! Learnt a lot from it, thank you 🙏
💜💜💜
40 minutes was key for me
Waiting for my book
Dating in London at 11pm
Woa
I've never been a first comment to a popular channel before. . . Very cool 😮
Thank you!🤍
Amazing ❤
Men please stay single.You will get ripped off .Women want to much.
It’s funny the comments about Sabrina.. it’s sad cus I’ve seen her insta gram videos and was turned off by her too… she’s probably dealt with that a lot in life
I don't like the way Matt says "her" or "she". Also don't like that he calls her complaining.
Matthew touched on when is it too much in a relationship. Sabrina is a lot, and it seems that her partner doesn’t have the bandwidth to support her emotions. It is hard to gage, but your partner is not your therapist, and depending on them to emotionally dump on can cause a strain in the relationship- especially if it is one sided.