I Was Gang Raped By 5 Men (Part 1) | Unpacked with Relebogile Mabotja - Episode 63 | Season 3

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  • @SaintxFate
    @SaintxFate 3 роки тому +1508

    As an 18yr old man, I am now taking an oath to do my best to protect the women in my life and otherwise. I will not abuse any woman in any way no matter what the circumstances may be. I vow to love and treat each and every woman with respect. This is my decree.
    Man is she brave💔

    • @sibandasibonginkosi8190
      @sibandasibonginkosi8190 3 роки тому +6

      Dannie luv

    • @sduduzomagena8283
      @sduduzomagena8283 3 роки тому +39

      We are proud of you Young Man ..God will make you shine and all other men will learn a lot from you

    • @thabstar2040
      @thabstar2040 3 роки тому +32

      You are exactly what this world needs. We thank you deeply for your oath. May all women have a real man like you in their life.

    • @mpendakiswahili3053
      @mpendakiswahili3053 3 роки тому +7

      At 31, I wish I heard such a conviction at your age...

    • @teresarussell2182
      @teresarussell2182 3 роки тому +10

      🥰🥰🥰

  • @potsomaake7916
    @potsomaake7916 3 роки тому +794

    Unfortunately we tend to refer to people as friends, but they're devils with invisible horns... This is really heartbreaking😔

  • @BonganiZulu877
    @BonganiZulu877 3 роки тому +870

    My gf back in High School was gang raped by 7 men and she later committed suicide. I literally dropped out of High School but later went back after counselling after that tragedy...I'm still traumatized to this day. They abducted her when they were robbing her home and ganged rape her the whole night, police started looking for her towards the start of the morning and the whole day but she later appeared at school at nearly about 2pm, she was so dirty and she couldn't walk properly 😭😭😭...I was so devastated, I didn't know what to do....when she took her own life later that week - we were all traumatized.... That's why I always advocate for people especially our so called celebs to stop toying around with this sensetive issue...the perpetrators deserves a death Sentence to be honest 😒

    • @dineomokgosi411
      @dineomokgosi411 3 роки тому +9

      💔💔💔

    • @ZoeBredan
      @ZoeBredan 3 роки тому +41

      How do 7 men rape, isn't it madness. No conscience at all

    • @nzeadidnazi8410
      @nzeadidnazi8410 3 роки тому +3

      gangrapped the whole night...you know how many hours we got in a night???

    • @shespaula8048
      @shespaula8048 3 роки тому +10

      That's so sad 😭

    • @narrimanduplessis7334
      @narrimanduplessis7334 3 роки тому +32

      Isaiah OMZ
      I'm so sorry for what you and your gf had to endure
      It's a death sentence to even survive...
      more than 50 years later
      I still cry for my lost childhood

  • @leratojulialeseo1990
    @leratojulialeseo1990 3 роки тому +1665

    Rape is a Curse,Once it happens to you it will happen again & again.
    I was raped in 2013 then I got raped by 4 men in 2017 I was from Varsity after my late class.The only thing I asked them is please do put Protection.They did that until I fainted,They thought I'm dead & they left me under the tree, because it's dark it's winter & people were in the houses,no one saw me.I woke up there bleeding,I couldn't even cry because of the pain.I took my phone called my Dad to pick me up.I slept there & woke up in the hospital.At least I didn't get HIV & I will be able to conceive.
    Rape changed my life it's like I'm crazy 🥺 Emotionally & Mentally,but now I'm okay my Therapy session helped me a lot at least I can talk about it.By the grace of God I studied LLB Law & I got my Bachelor of Law.I help other ladies who are victims like me to get justice.Im so sorry to all the victims ❤️

    • @mzolisimagatikele1136
      @mzolisimagatikele1136 3 роки тому +22

      💔💔💔💔💔

    • @hilariashiweda8557
      @hilariashiweda8557 3 роки тому +8

      💔💔💔💔

    • @learnwithme322
      @learnwithme322 3 роки тому +86

      My heart goes out to you! I escaped rape and was still traumatized for years,so I can only imagine what people like you go through!❤🤗🤗🤗

    • @leratojulialeseo1990
      @leratojulialeseo1990 3 роки тому +17

      @@learnwithme322 Thank you so much sis♥️

    • @njabulondlela5872
      @njabulondlela5872 3 роки тому +26

      As a man & a father I'm deeply hurt by stories like yours my sister may God keep u as strong as you are!!

  • @thelazysnapper
    @thelazysnapper 3 роки тому +1509

    As an adult I get it now why our parents were so protective of us with the friends we keep

    • @callmemrsdlamini
      @callmemrsdlamini 3 роки тому +21

      Me too

    • @nonhlanhlamaribe7050
      @nonhlanhlamaribe7050 3 роки тому +28

      Exactly n I'm a very protective mother ,I don't want anything my kids 2 boys)1big daughter,

    • @anelisamadikane6398
      @anelisamadikane6398 3 роки тому +1

      Me too 🥲

    • @shaylagiles8974
      @shaylagiles8974 3 роки тому +27

      Yesss didn’t understand it until I really seen how cruel this world is

    • @littlehersheygirl6876
      @littlehersheygirl6876 2 роки тому +31

      I’m not an adult but a teen. Not only does my mother get protective over my friends, she also doesn’t let me go over anyones house, and no one comes to mine. Even my best friends! I’ve only been over 1 of my best friends houses 1 time.

  • @elle_l808l
    @elle_l808l 3 роки тому +616

    This is why I'm comfortable being an indoor person, always been paranoid about what could happen to me in parties, there are cruel people out there

    • @snqobilemchunu7936
      @snqobilemchunu7936 3 роки тому +14

      Kodwa phela Lebogang Barrel they can break in your house and rape you there. There's no way to avoid rape at all, these monsters need to stop raping us period!

    • @mpendakiswahili3053
      @mpendakiswahili3053 3 роки тому +14

      The secret is women keeping off alcohol at all costs...

    • @yellmow
      @yellmow 2 роки тому +7

      I totally understand....

    • @sheniquamason7481
      @sheniquamason7481 2 роки тому +8

      I met a girl at work. We started going out but she got in a lil situation and she got pretty wasted but luckily she was good. I would never leave her there

    • @chikarayleigh4534
      @chikarayleigh4534 2 роки тому +5

      @@snqobilemchunu7936 prevent much you can by avoiding certain people(rapists, enablers and accomplices) , places and objects.

  • @ruthpongolani3117
    @ruthpongolani3117 3 роки тому +742

    Im always blown away by the strength these people show when telling their stories. You can see they have been hurt so much and went through a lot,but somehow they come out strong. I stan and applaud this lady for having the strength to share such a horrific and traumatising story. You ma'am, are a queen♥️

    • @peacebestill480
      @peacebestill480 3 роки тому +6

      I am quite impressed with this young womans journey❣️❣️❣️

    • @gaile.williams7717
      @gaile.williams7717 3 роки тому +2

      ❤️💯🥰💞😬🤯👀💎💦

    • @dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof
      @dogsalwaysbarkatbetamaleswoof 2 роки тому +7

      The body and mind have a great way of blocking things out as a protective mechanism. A lot of people who are near death remember nothing. It’s a blessing really.

    • @jeanonaichimatira8679
      @jeanonaichimatira8679 2 роки тому +1

      And yet so gentle too❤️

    • @mmcdonald1000
      @mmcdonald1000 Рік тому +1

      I agree. She is a beautiful, strong sister💜

  • @blatantlyblaaka
    @blatantlyblaaka 3 роки тому +405

    This happened to me 2 years ago.
    I lost 8 hours of my life.
    Woke up feeling extremely upset with my friend but didn't know why, I was extremely anxious and didn't know why.
    Went through all the emotions but had no idea where they were coming from.
    Didn't know I was raped until later that evening when I went to the hospital & did the rape kit. ( I woke up to consciousness that morning...so it took me the entire day to realize something might have happened).
    Having to take those HIV prep pills for 28 days was the worst thing constantly giving you a daily reminder that something sinister happened to you.
    I've cut that friend off and I'm personally grateful that I have no memory or flashbacks of the incident.

  • @sinazodamana3401
    @sinazodamana3401 3 роки тому +430

    This lady is like she's narrating my story something similar to this happened to me in 2007, so many similar aspects friend, nurses etc. I'm so proud of her for telling her story with such confidence I always break down without finishing the whole story.

    • @c_g1520
      @c_g1520 3 роки тому +11

      Strength to you Sinazo💛

    • @gamerboy7015
      @gamerboy7015 3 роки тому +8

      I'm really sorry you went through this my dear, love and light to you ❤️❤️

    • @Tee_Tee123
      @Tee_Tee123 3 роки тому +5

      ❤❤❤❤

    • @sinazodamana3401
      @sinazodamana3401 3 роки тому +1

      Thanks ladies❤️❤️

    • @lamenthibelang3270
      @lamenthibelang3270 3 роки тому +4

      May God comfort and heal you ladies

  • @tshegofatsomaupa9442
    @tshegofatsomaupa9442 3 роки тому +66

    My mom always preached me to not trust people I call friends and to never accept drinks from men or women that I’ve just met or even know.

    • @sheniquamason7481
      @sheniquamason7481 2 роки тому

      If someone decides to buy me a drink I walk with them to the bar with my friends of course and when the bartender brings the drink I grab it. I don't make anyone pass anything to me

  • @wandilebuthelezi6591
    @wandilebuthelezi6591 3 роки тому +135

    The amount of strength it takes to carry on with life after such a terrible ordeal i cannot fathom.

  • @nozizwenuku8905
    @nozizwenuku8905 3 роки тому +655

    I warn my daughter about friends every chance I get and this is another episode I'll share with her on the dangers of so called friends and also how toxic women can be🚮🚮🚮

    • @paidamichelle754
      @paidamichelle754 3 роки тому +56

      That's good but also teach her to choose friends wisely because we do need to have peers we connect with. A kind respectful caring loving friendship amongst women is very much possible but needs wise decision making, yes.

    • @LethoHali
      @LethoHali 3 роки тому +2

      So sad 😭

    • @thatgirlvee2
      @thatgirlvee2 3 роки тому +10

      She didn't expect this and it can be hard trying to avoid what you don't even expect to happen

    • @NomD05MZ
      @NomD05MZ 3 роки тому +8

      This is pure evil ,she was supposed to her guardian because her sister trusted her and she took advantage of her naivety , I wonder how does she sleep at night 💔😭

    • @Mimik70-w3t
      @Mimik70-w3t 3 роки тому +9

      @@paidamichelle754 but in this case the lady was not even her feiend. She was even older than her🤔The saddest thing is all the women failed her and blamed her😪Thanks to her sister who stood by her🤗

  • @Herthamary
    @Herthamary 3 роки тому +342

    This show deserves an award 😍

  • @cyliamotsoenengzengele
    @cyliamotsoenengzengele 3 роки тому +295

    The pain of knowing that you were violated but you do not remember what exactly happened to you and you keep wondering what they did you in your sleep.

    • @wandilebuthelezi6591
      @wandilebuthelezi6591 3 роки тому +2

      😭

    • @vuyimkhwanazi4833
      @vuyimkhwanazi4833 3 роки тому +5

      I know this personally, to this day I don't know what happened in 2017/8 and I can't even tell my partner.

    • @mariacollymore3924
      @mariacollymore3924 Рік тому +1

      @@vuyimkhwanazi4833wow it is important to heal that trauma. They stole enough from you don't let they take anymore. Face it and heal. They don't deserve your lighg

    • @mmcdonald1000
      @mmcdonald1000 Рік тому +2

      Unfortunately, this scarred her for the rest of her life. It's going to be hard for her to trust and even to get intimate with her future spouse 😭

    • @cyliamotsoenengzengele
      @cyliamotsoenengzengele Рік тому

      @@mmcdonald1000 very true.

  • @tearyb
    @tearyb Рік тому +13

    Rebogile is such an amazing interviewer, calm and collected, and knows just the right questions to answer. She does not shy away from tackling these difficult issues.

  • @The_torero
    @The_torero 3 роки тому +188

    This is why having the power of discernment is a gift. Many demons come disguised as friends/family. The important thing is to spot the signs early and always listen to that niggling feeling in your gut.

    • @chrisdipuo5132
      @chrisdipuo5132 2 роки тому

      🌸🌸♥️

    • @angelakwaramba9752
      @angelakwaramba9752 2 роки тому +1

      I know, my father was against being friends with anyone two years older than you

  • @nicolesakwe1973
    @nicolesakwe1973 3 роки тому +201

    I remember growing up I used to fight with my mom on a lot of things but mostly it was how "overprotective" she was. I missed out on a lot of parties and when I was allowed to go to some parties, I was always on high alert. Even to this day, there's literally no one I trust with my safety.

    • @msrain1235
      @msrain1235 Рік тому +6

      My mother was the same way. Finally she let me go, to a slumber party, but it turned out that I wasn't invited there because I was wanted. I was invited to be humiliated. The host's mom was also rude, to my mom, when she came to pick me up.

    • @janettamsing6022
      @janettamsing6022 Рік тому

      ​@@msrain1235 😮

    • @starr38127
      @starr38127 Рік тому

      ​@MsRain123 what? Why they do that?

    • @msrain1235
      @msrain1235 Рік тому +2

      @@starr38127 I was the only black girl there. I thought that I was invited there because I was friends, with the host, but it turned out that I was only invited because she wanted to humiliate me and her mother was a racist.

  • @jcalbain
    @jcalbain 2 роки тому +74

    What's really scary is the older sister may have been the original target or maybe they planned to target them both at once but realized it would be easier to just target the younger one.

  • @sibonginkosinyathi7580
    @sibonginkosinyathi7580 3 роки тому +92

    In real life friends are more DANGEROUS THAN ENEMIES rather have straight 💯%enemies than to have friends

  • @njabulo_space
    @njabulo_space 3 роки тому +122

    As a South African black man I'm so broken and hurt by this tragic stories of women getting raped it's so heart breaking I dont know what to do and we as men need to come up with a plan to protect women and children and put pressure on the government and men of this country
    I'm literally emotionally breaking down 💔💔😭😭

    • @kuselwa6715
      @kuselwa6715 3 роки тому +2

      This is really heartbreaking 💔

    • @mothofela2432
      @mothofela2432 2 роки тому +6

      "as men need to come up with a plan to protect women and children and put pressure on the government and men of this country". thank you njabulo. the saddest thing is that these manimals that do this are protected by their friends and families.

    • @janayserrano
      @janayserrano 2 роки тому +10

      Please put your words into actions. Talk to other men. They’re the main ones committing these heinous acts against us women, children, and INFANTS. We are not safe. Please help protect us 💔

    • @janerecluse4344
      @janerecluse4344 Рік тому

      Never even let another man joke about this stuff. Let them know they're disgusting, and will lose your respect. They don't care what women think, but the opinions of other men matter a lot.
      And teach your little sisters to fight.

  • @Србомбоница86
    @Србомбоница86 3 роки тому +139

    I have no friends,people scare me ,I have mental problems and I don't want people abusing me,my biggest fear is life after my dad dies ,people are awful

    • @ebonytriumph3816
      @ebonytriumph3816 3 роки тому +1

      ☹☹☹☹☹

    • @AJ-TheGr8
      @AJ-TheGr8 3 роки тому +6

      I feel you. 31 years old, traumatized AF. Sometimes it's hard to do anything.... but we push on.

    • @lucringo6798
      @lucringo6798 3 роки тому +1

      It shall be well 🙂

    • @portiamathapelop8574
      @portiamathapelop8574 3 роки тому +2

      I worry about my daughter who is 2 years old am also a loner cause people are heartless

  • @eulanda.mahlaba
    @eulanda.mahlaba 3 роки тому +181

    there's no way, the friend wasn't involved. I had a similar experience in high school - when i tell you, these people lack empathy, all they crave for is money. The money they'll received from recruiting you.

    • @nmg6248
      @nmg6248 3 роки тому +22

      Yes I’m sure that “friends” mother knew her daughter was involved and that’s why she tried to shame her into being quiet

    • @eulanda.mahlaba
      @eulanda.mahlaba 3 роки тому +4

      @@nmg6248 Facts

    • @trudy-annsmall9600
      @trudy-annsmall9600 Рік тому +1

      Money or the so call respect they will get from the friends like themselves

  • @mmathapelominniemahlangu
    @mmathapelominniemahlangu 3 роки тому +114

    How do men have the audacity to rape someone 😭😭💔💔
    I literally broke down 💔💔

    • @mpendulomkhonto818
      @mpendulomkhonto818 3 роки тому +13

      indeed someday we have to atone to all women who have experienced some form of abuse, and violation against them

  • @julietncube5249
    @julietncube5249 3 роки тому +283

    This is heartbreaking 😞....why are women so cruel towards eachother?😔

    • @melvamaribolla6323
      @melvamaribolla6323 3 роки тому +38

      Women are each other's worst enemies 💔🥺

    • @sonwabilembelekana1221
      @sonwabilembelekana1221 3 роки тому +5

      @@melvamaribolla6323 True and it's sad💔💔💔

    • @zinhlevilakazi4987
      @zinhlevilakazi4987 3 роки тому +4

      She was gang raped by women?

    • @kodak3619
      @kodak3619 3 роки тому +31

      Her "friend" was a woman which was cruel, but the rapists were also cruel so no women aren't just cruel to women but people in general

    • @miriamclarerujekomushaikwa
      @miriamclarerujekomushaikwa 3 роки тому +10

      @@zinhlevilakazi4987 A so-called friend led her into the trap.

  • @smileyuy5634
    @smileyuy5634 2 роки тому +70

    When I was growing up as a teenager, I was raised strictly no partying, no phone calling, I got all the responsible doing household chores raise like a mature responsible adult.. But it was good I'm away from trouble stay home do my school assignments.. I have no regrets raise by strict parents.. I thank God for them.. 🙏😇❤️

  • @randomcathyofficial
    @randomcathyofficial 3 роки тому +87

    It blows my mind that Women are the ones who are so mean to other women in these cases.. It's heartbreaking.. Especially hospital staff

    • @guguncube2308
      @guguncube2308 2 роки тому +1

      Sis its not that simple since many women have experienced such behaviour most women have their own trauma if they behave like that to preserve and protect their sanity can you imagine day in and out your dealing with victims and you havent dealt with your own ? You truly end up with a nervous breakdown so they are guarding and preserving their own sanity

  • @michellemothibedi1589
    @michellemothibedi1589 3 роки тому +63

    God bless the lady who helped you in the middle of the night.

  • @ntokozozulu4284
    @ntokozozulu4284 3 роки тому +187

    Rape is the worst thing ever and as a women the knowledge that it can happen to you and there's nothing you can do to prevent is such torture😥

    • @bosses9820
      @bosses9820 2 роки тому +4

      please don't think like that, and remember to stay safe and vigilant

    • @krystingrant6292
      @krystingrant6292 2 роки тому +14

      Yes I was raped by my bf at the time. I was violated and confused because this was someone I was dating. I gave no consent and the manner I was found in I felt sick to my stomach. It's horrific

    • @chikarayleigh4534
      @chikarayleigh4534 2 роки тому +1

      There's a lot to do to prevent rape.

    • @khululiwekhuzwayo1436
      @khululiwekhuzwayo1436 2 роки тому

      @@krystingrant6292 does ur family know?

    • @ntokozozulu4284
      @ntokozozulu4284 2 роки тому +4

      @@chikarayleigh4534 like what?

  • @nthabisengpaiva9345
    @nthabisengpaiva9345 3 роки тому +36

    Words cannot describe how I feel hearing your story. As a mother to a daughter I was having a difficult time watching this. All I can say to you is stay strong, you are a surviver sweetheart. May God give you strength.

  • @jazzbo9903
    @jazzbo9903 2 роки тому +10

    I don’t know how I landed on your page but I’m glad I did. Your guests are so brave to tell their stories. So heartbreaking, so sad.😞

  • @mindfullness9217
    @mindfullness9217 3 роки тому +176

    We went to the same high school. Never would I have imagined that she went through such as Sally was always a bubbly person

    • @thatomatuna1147
      @thatomatuna1147 3 роки тому +13

      Dude!!!! We never understood why VDK loved her so much

  • @keepitfrankwithfentse
    @keepitfrankwithfentse 3 роки тому +137

    I have to say this story sounds a lot like an incident that happened to a girl that I attended University with. Sadly because we were all at this particular party a lot of us only heard a day after it happened. I was beyond shocked and disgusted. The girl in question was such a sweetheart and I only knew her cos we had the same comms class...she actually left school after it happened because she couldn't handle people talking bout her. We were all drinking heavily because we had just finished writing mid year exams so it was a bit out of control but never once did I think people would take advantage of any of us ladies who attended. Never moved the same at parties after that cos personally I knew it could have been any of us.

    • @queenzee520
      @queenzee520 3 роки тому +4

      I know the girl u talking about and my heart broke for her😥😭

    • @keepitfrankwithfentse
      @keepitfrankwithfentse 3 роки тому +1

      @@queenzee520 Hey babe. Which University did you attend?

    • @queenzee520
      @queenzee520 3 роки тому

      @@keepitfrankwithfentse UKZN

    • @keepitfrankwithfentse
      @keepitfrankwithfentse 3 роки тому +1

      @@queenzee520 No then we attended diff institutions. The University I attended was in Johannesburg

    • @queenzee520
      @queenzee520 3 роки тому +1

      @@keepitfrankwithfentse ohk doll, just that same thing happened in UKZN

  • @keepitfrankwithfentse
    @keepitfrankwithfentse 3 роки тому +82

    This young lady went through a lot. Glad she can talk about her trauma so openly. I am curious to know why the sister stopped being friends with this girl who led her into the trap. Wonder if something about this girl made her cut the friendship completely because often your intuition tells you something but we don't always listen to it.

    • @kawaiibratchan
      @kawaiibratchan 2 роки тому +2

      I was a similar situation in high school. She showed her true colors and in anger let me know that she got paid for what they did to me. It's a blessing no stds or anything happened. I'm very grateful my daughters have respect for themselves enough to cut people off at the knees as young as they are (7&6).

    • @keepitfrankwithfentse
      @keepitfrankwithfentse 2 роки тому +2

      @@kawaiibratchan I'm sorry you went through that. Hope you are doing better. People can be evil sometimes...yeah I'm an only child myself but I think my assertiveness has made me see through people real easily..

  • @NomD05MZ
    @NomD05MZ 3 роки тому +92

    This other girl and her mother I hope they're in prison for planning to hurt this child and I'm convinced it was not the first time they did this ,I'm sure they were getting paid by these guys oh Lord protect our girls

  • @shirleymadzivhandila5337
    @shirleymadzivhandila5337 3 роки тому +228

    I wonder how the so called friend felt after doing such a horrible thing. Some people are heartless. M so sorry for what you went through Sally

    • @AnEllisstanacc
      @AnEllisstanacc 3 роки тому +21

      They don't care, infact they really don't see a problem.

    • @IzzyBizzyBooBoo
      @IzzyBizzyBooBoo 2 роки тому

      If she felt anything it was probably a light happiness because she benefited from the other girl being gang raped.

    • @remiem-iw7uk
      @remiem-iw7uk Рік тому +1

      She may have been jealous of her.

    • @sylviaj270
      @sylviaj270 Рік тому +1

      She probably felt like she accomplished something.

  • @BatsiraiMusuka
    @BatsiraiMusuka 3 роки тому +135

    Jesus! 💔
    Thank God for the Good Samaritan. Thank God for the kind Policewoman. Thank God for the person who helped her in the store.
    We need more people like that. It’s a reminder to ALWAYS do our jobs with empathy. You just never know what a person you are interacting with has been through.

    • @lelodube4474
      @lelodube4474 2 роки тому +1

      And thank God that she is still alive after hitting her on her head. Maybe they were trying to kill her

    • @jeanonaichimatira8679
      @jeanonaichimatira8679 2 роки тому +1

      That part Batsi about being kind to people because you don’t know what they have been through!❤️🙏🏾

    • @BatsiraiMusuka
      @BatsiraiMusuka 2 роки тому

      @@jeanonaichimatira8679 it’s really required in our day…people are going through the most.

    • @eagledice2008
      @eagledice2008 2 роки тому

      @@jeanonaichimatira8679 does anyone in your bloodline come from Mhondoro? We might be related

    • @jeanonaichimatira8679
      @jeanonaichimatira8679 2 роки тому

      @@eagledice2008 Yes!!!Vana Sekuru

  • @ksazobafit....2216
    @ksazobafit....2216 3 роки тому +119

    I don't care if people say I'm the problem I don't do friends and it's from experience ppl hate you and still force friendship and you have no idea why... I get very rude when I say I don't wanna drink and someone says no man dont be boring.. Like I'm grown enough to know what I want I'm soo sorry they took advantage of her good and trusting heart
    I had a "friend"who hated me being a virgin when she wasn't and would say you are being selfish not sleeping with these guys when you are soo hot walking around with sexy boobs..... I still ddnt do it though but after many weird encounters I stopped being "friends" with her

    • @thatayaonedick1663
      @thatayaonedick1663 3 роки тому +14

      You are Smart.Please continue to look out for yourself bcs no one will.You safety is Your Responsibility ❤️

    • @ksazobafit....2216
      @ksazobafit....2216 3 роки тому +1

      @@thatayaonedick1663 thank you, very true everyone really looks out for themselves

    • @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y
      @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y 3 роки тому +12

      I'm sorry that sounds awful.
      I'm glad you cut that person out of your life, they sounded like they had really bad self esteem .
      It's easier for a bad influence to drag you down, but it's near impossible for you to pull them out.
      Don't cast pearls before swine.
      May I suggest getting a dog, or other pets.
      They're cuter than human friends and they love you unconditionally .

    • @ksazobafit....2216
      @ksazobafit....2216 3 роки тому +4

      @@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y I think a cat would do hey and thank you soo much it's true I tried multiple times to pull her out but she refused ended up making me the bad guy

    • @danajacobs9097
      @danajacobs9097 2 роки тому +2

      Good for you. Preach

  • @sds2954
    @sds2954 3 роки тому +56

    Wow. What a traumatic experience this woman went through. She is exceptional brave to be sharing her story on such a public platform. I wish her nothing but the best for her future.
    Sadly her story is shared by so many women in South Africa. As a South African man, I am ashamed by the amount of violence against women and children in this country try by the hands of men. South African men, we need to do better.
    Relebogile is such a good interviewer. I love watching her show.

    • @kmj2000
      @kmj2000 2 роки тому +2

      Do you have any insight as to why the men commit violence against women at such a high rate?

  • @yourfavouritegirl90
    @yourfavouritegirl90 3 роки тому +53

    That girl set her up for her homies. Some people are evil.

  • @tabittahmoshitwa3461
    @tabittahmoshitwa3461 3 роки тому +93

    Most of Our Health care practitioners ,Are very Unsympathetic . It is very sad that even in this day and age women are still being blamed for violations . They may as well be the very perpetrators

  • @tracywhite413
    @tracywhite413 3 роки тому +56

    That's no "friend" that's a straight up enemy!

  • @WhyNotYou..
    @WhyNotYou.. 2 роки тому +51

    Being an adult, now I understand why my mom wouldn’t let me sleep over friends house and I had a strict curfew…My aunt used to always want me to spend the night but my mom would always say no ( mind you my mom was sexually assaulted over a period of time by my aunts dad when she was super young) I hated that she would say no but I didn’t understand until one of the few times (it was the 2nd time of me going with her but first time staying the night) she said yes I went with my aunt to one of her male friends house. The whole night one of them was flirting with me on the low- I was 14 but shapely for a 14yr old-. After it getting awkward I told him I was 14 thinking maybe he’d leave me be (he had to be mid late 20s/ early 30s) I wasn’t assaulted or anything but this man still gave me his number and told me to come hang out sometimes… I can only imagine what would of happen if I - trying to be “grown” would have went.

  • @yolandamngqolo3201
    @yolandamngqolo3201 3 роки тому +116

    😭😭😭😭Painful to watch, I was literally crying. Painful to see how a woman sold another woman out😭😭

  • @TJ-my9nh
    @TJ-my9nh 3 роки тому +40

    I am so sorry this happened to you my sister. Indeed there is life after that evil incident. God bless you more.

  • @luthosalaphi4971
    @luthosalaphi4971 3 роки тому +38

    This is why I don't have friends...

    • @realest_Tate
      @realest_Tate 3 роки тому +3

      Me too. I had a near experience in varsity when a 'friend of mine' pimped me out. I was saved by getting my own drinks that night

  • @them.r.s8945
    @them.r.s8945 3 роки тому +142

    I had a similar experience with a very close friend back in 2013 ..she invited me to a house party only to find out the people there are at the party were gangsters , the guy I came with left with some girl that was fighting with the person she came with everything happened so quick ...so I tell my friend I wanna go to the loo 🚽 she just tells me where it is and carries on with what she was doing and that was not how we operate especially at a place she knows I don’t know people .. I was pressed so I just went up when i got out of the toilet there were two guys waiting by the door in my head I’m thinking they wanna use the loo kanti noo they were there for me they pushed me in to the next room one stood outside while the other One wrestled with me lucky I was wearing my super tight jean that just hogs my body he took a hair clip from my head and pointed it my throat and told me to take of my pants or else coz already he had banged my head on the wall ,lucky I was sober so I was fully aware we wrestled for a good 20 min the other guy even went downstairs because the room we were in had a huge window where you could see the people on the other end and they can’t see you ...he finally managed to put me down and as I look by the window my friend is standing with the other guy and they just conversing and they go back to the party ...my underwear is off one side of the jean is off what was left was for him to just go in and I remember pleading to him to please put on a condom atleast ...my aunt taught me to carry condoms every time I go out ,but this guy was not keen on using a condom as he was about to penetrate my “friend “ walks in and starts screaming I didn’t even look I just slid under the guy and ran for my life when I got down there and explained what just happened people looked at me like I was crazy ...I asked to be taken home on the way the guy kept harassing me saying I’m lying why would he want to rape me who do I think I am ...I was so traumatized ....The guy died months later and apparently he was HIV positive ...

    • @phephilemyeni9012
      @phephilemyeni9012 3 роки тому +26

      I’m so sorry that happened to you 😔💔

    • @them.r.s8945
      @them.r.s8945 3 роки тому +4

      @@phephilemyeni9012 🙏🏽thank you ...a lesson was learnt🥺

    • @mercymsezeni838
      @mercymsezeni838 3 роки тому +4

      😭😭😭

    • @mercykalendi
      @mercykalendi 3 роки тому +9

      Jesus loves you

    • @kuselwa6715
      @kuselwa6715 3 роки тому +11

      OMG 😳
      You are the lucky few…big hug to you💜✨

  • @sanelisiwesanne1586
    @sanelisiwesanne1586 3 роки тому +20

    One thing I appreciate ngoLebo she will ask the relevant questions.......

  • @johnswife888
    @johnswife888 2 роки тому +56

    I was raped by my one of my brothers best friends when I was 13. It was devastating and took years of therapy and Jesus to get over. I pray for anyone who has experienced this kind of trauma.🙏🏽

    • @bennypeep3511
      @bennypeep3511 2 роки тому

      How did you get raped ? Where ?

    • @mmcdonald1000
      @mmcdonald1000 Рік тому +2

      So sorry that happened to you. God gave you the strength to heal🙏

    • @johnswife888
      @johnswife888 Рік тому +2

      @@mmcdonald1000 yes He did. It doesn’t happen over night but with God all things are possible 🙏🏽

  • @boipelomohlakoane7959
    @boipelomohlakoane7959 3 роки тому +10

    Wow! The strength exhibited by this woman in this interview… may God continue to strengthen and bless her.

  • @Mal_life
    @Mal_life Рік тому +5

    This is why my grandmother use to say you can't call everyone a friend ...there are people who are out there to just mess your life up smh

  • @phumelelazuma4704
    @phumelelazuma4704 2 роки тому +29

    Relebogile understands the assignment. I’m so fragile I would be scared to ask certain questions but she does so warmly that she doesn’t offend the interviewee but also ask the questions we all curious to know. I commend Relebogile skills of interviewing.

    • @relebogilemabotja215
      @relebogilemabotja215  2 роки тому +5

      Thank you!

    • @LaSaveurDeKettelie
      @LaSaveurDeKettelie Рік тому

      I was thinking the Same She's so professional She's so good She has a lot of Compassion She feels Her pain I applaud 👏 Her.

  • @mhlox654
    @mhlox654 3 роки тому +31

    As a human being and a man this was soo hard to watch and process😭💔

  • @sibong690
    @sibong690 3 роки тому +24

    Part 2 please 😭😭😭😭. This story is so touching and such an eye opener. Don't trust easily

  • @contenthub9046
    @contenthub9046 2 роки тому +10

    May God heal all abused women.
    May we educate our children both boys and girls.
    May we treat all women and girls with love, care and protection.

  • @herfamiller139
    @herfamiller139 3 роки тому +61

    As a mother, a sister and a woman this broke my heart, how could you do this to a friend!!! Lord please have mercy Father😰😰😰

  • @wanjirui.gitimu3059
    @wanjirui.gitimu3059 Рік тому +1

    The interviewer is so strong to carry this on with a straight face...they are both so beautiful . Love this show from kenya 🇰🇪

  • @nmg6248
    @nmg6248 3 роки тому +28

    I’m sure that “friends” mother knew her daughter was involved and that’s why she tried to shame her into being quiet

  • @leannavivian8235
    @leannavivian8235 2 роки тому +16

    why cant more men just have morals and standards.so many broken women out here including myself trying to recover from something we dont understand why it happened in the first place.

    • @All_royal
      @All_royal 6 місяців тому

      Parents need to raise them with morals.

  • @nonzwakazikhathi1214
    @nonzwakazikhathi1214 3 роки тому +70

    South African Nursing Council has to do something about poor care reported everyday ,I'm embarrassed to hear that a police treated her better than nurses , I'm glad I can never give such care ,u don't meet me in my department and walk away complaining never ,this whole behaviour is because the nurses that r in hospitals now r not called into nursing it's ppl who couldn't get other jobs and came to nursing as another option,nursing is a calling if u don't love ppl leave it and go and work with machines

    • @OK-xp5xi
      @OK-xp5xi 3 роки тому +1

      Same here in America. Nurses here are unsympathetic and only in it 4 the money. Patient could be in pain for hours and still don't care. They don't even speak to their patients when they walk into their rooms. give meds and walk out, no hi or how are you. This world lacks sympathy. May God help the good people.

  • @Muhatiacreative-gardening
    @Muhatiacreative-gardening 3 місяці тому +1

    This shouldn't happen to anyone.I'm really heartbroken just seeing this great lady and what she went through.Thanks to the interviewer,so calm, compost and empathetic.🇰🇪🇬🇧

  • @anabogosavljev7924
    @anabogosavljev7924 Рік тому +14

    Exactly what was happened to my childhood friend. She was beautiful like from fairytale and innocent and good person. After that, she was paranoid , anxious, depressed. It was worse and worse with time. After, she was diagnosed with schizophrenia. We are still in touch, we are both 43 and I still can’t believe how life has turned for this amazing girl😢😢😢

    • @Maya_benta
      @Maya_benta Рік тому

      How is your friend doing?

    • @anabogosavljev7924
      @anabogosavljev7924 Рік тому

      @@Maya_benta Not good. She had fears and voices and she is not capable to live alone and her mother is over 80 years. … She is my friend since we were babies. But only in summer. ( She lives in Germany, only spends part of summer in Serbia.

  • @them.r.s8945
    @them.r.s8945 3 роки тому +46

    I can relate the nurses behavior is really traumatic I was badly beaten by my baby daddy years back I had bruises everywhere ...they literally kept calling each other to come see the girl that got moered saying a lot of stuff not even asking I walked out of there without being helped lucky my big sister knows people and she got ahold of the HOD and explained the treatment I got there ...they kept calling and apologizing ,but I was not interested really because all that foul treatment was from females only it was the same story when I went to the police station ,the cops were insulting me literally telling me in my face that I pushed him to beat me up why am I getting him arrested why am I trying to ruin his life ...my sister had to intervene again but unfortunately it made matters worse I just dropped everything and went home ...I literally don’t go to hospitals and police stations because of this ...

    • @neoloanderson6676
      @neoloanderson6676 3 роки тому

      😪 Was this in an african country aswell?

    • @sharonbenson8120
      @sharonbenson8120 3 роки тому +1

      So Sorry 😞

    • @cynthia2570
      @cynthia2570 3 роки тому +1

      Sorry

    • @Chichithewitchy
      @Chichithewitchy 2 роки тому +4

      So sorry you had to experience such. A lot of these people have no emotional intelligence and/ or psychological training. I am surprised that nurses don't have this training not to make a traumatized person's experience worse but the police we know how they are hired. A lot of them were not even aiming for that job so they are apathetic to people' s emotional trauma. Some of them have done these very criminal things themselves because that's how they were brought up so they can't empathize. We pray for a reform in both fields.

    • @them.r.s8945
      @them.r.s8945 2 роки тому

      @@Chichithewitchy 🙏🏽they most certainly need prayers , most of them they are in those field of jobs just for the Salary.

  • @ribamamokgethi6982
    @ribamamokgethi6982 3 роки тому +26

    That's y I dnt have friends, just to avoid bad friends (people)

    • @banyana6515
      @banyana6515 3 роки тому +3

      Amen sis. I am a loner and proud of it. I have 4 cats and 2 dogs. Gorgeous loyal creatures.

    • @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y
      @B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y 3 роки тому +1

      @@banyana6515 I laugh not because it's funny, but because it's true...and a little funny because my dogs are lying at the foot of my bed

    • @banyana6515
      @banyana6515 3 роки тому +2

      @@B-I-G-N-A-S-T-Y you can never go wrong with animals. Ever. My tuxedo cat is expecting. I am going to be a grandma, so excited! I wonder what dogs you have. Enjoy your blessings, animals will enrich your lives in ways you never imagined. I like to take my babies for a drive. They love the windows down. Take care of your munchkins, they will never let you down. 😊

  • @tshegofatsokgokong3994
    @tshegofatsokgokong3994 3 роки тому +19

    😭😭😭😭😭😭this is so hard to watch .I can't begin to think how the victim felt or feels talking about what happened to her.

  • @meep2605
    @meep2605 3 роки тому +11

    Why do some girls do this?? It's really sick that men can say "eeew I won't ever sleep with this girl she's ugly" BUT feel it's wrong for a girl that they want, not to give consent.

  • @phumelelekunju5563
    @phumelelekunju5563 3 роки тому +14

    It’s heartbreaking that women go through this. It’s heartbreaking that so many women in the comments relate to this story. Being a woman in this world feels like a curse sometimes.

  • @kefiloegalane823
    @kefiloegalane823 2 роки тому +3

    I wish we got a back ground of who she was, how she was, where she grew up etc, prior to the main interview. I admire her strength to talk us through her unfortunate experience. much love

  • @bre970
    @bre970 2 роки тому +17

    That definitely wasn’t her friend, we have to be careful who we trust as friends so easily and quickly. Hopefully she is in a healed place now 🙏🏾

    • @ritageraghty3261
      @ritageraghty3261 Рік тому

      So very true. True friends are very scarce, a lot scarcer than we could ever know.

  • @malefasalemane
    @malefasalemane 3 роки тому +11

    Once again women continue to show that they don’t love each other. This is very heart breaking

  • @mahlatsilehlokwa1509
    @mahlatsilehlokwa1509 2 роки тому +4

    May God always protect the women and children of South Africa, as a mum this broke my heart 😢

  • @tkmothiba5573
    @tkmothiba5573 3 роки тому +30

    Yoh that fake friend and her mom are evil!!!😳😡

  • @jechdoli
    @jechdoli 2 роки тому +7

    She’s so strong, so important to talk about it and to put the shame where it belongs: at the perpetrators and their accessory.

  • @iinhle5532
    @iinhle5532 3 роки тому +11

    This is so painful 😓 I admire your strength sis🥺♥️♥️♥️♥️

  • @nontandondzotyana6326
    @nontandondzotyana6326 Рік тому +4

    I am actually watching this with my daughter .She needs t understand why I dont want friends and parties or sleep overs . 😢

  • @truth8027
    @truth8027 2 роки тому +7

    Stop calling her your friend because she has shown you that she is your enemy.

  • @katchrist_
    @katchrist_ 2 роки тому +8

    Society tells women to constant be careful, dress differently, but not telling men to not rape, you’re not entitled…… then things will change

  • @ms.karenwatkins286
    @ms.karenwatkins286 3 роки тому +3

    My first time here. I love the name, and what it stands for, UNPACK. As to lay down, take off, let go of, release it all, to finally take it all away from me. To unpack all of this baggage. UNPACK...GOD BLESS...THESE SISTERS

    • @kgomotsokefentse7233
      @kgomotsokefentse7233 2 роки тому

      Wow!! I didn't even pay much attention to the meaning.....🥰🙌🏾

  • @boledielizabethmaake8369
    @boledielizabethmaake8369 3 роки тому +7

    I AM SORRY QUEEN Sally and very upset with the so and so friend and very heartbroken and thank God that you have found it in your heart to forgive her, it is heart breaking we are living in a very sick world, where women judge each other without knowledge or understanding the whole story.
    You re a very strong person thank God for restoration in your life.
    Your mother and other women who judged you have their own internal problems that they have to deal with.
    Can we stand together as women and support each other please
    Praying that God will continue to use you in helping others, you are beautiful and strong

  • @nonoechibs2775
    @nonoechibs2775 3 роки тому +3

    Uuuuuuh m blown away with her courage to share such a painful life story

  • @mswifeycatlady7583
    @mswifeycatlady7583 2 роки тому +3

    I am so very sorry this brutal and horrific crime was done to you. Nobody, including you, ever deserves to this in life. The shame was never yours to bear and damn that woman for saying that to you! Victim blaming and shaming is appalling. And society needs to stop it.
    Thank you so much for telling your story 💐

  • @francinahmodise4487
    @francinahmodise4487 3 роки тому +18

    Good evening Lebo, our guest and lovely viewers

  • @lynnmothibeli325
    @lynnmothibeli325 3 роки тому +16

    God Will Avenge you, if He Already Hasn't. Stay strong, sister❤❤

    • @matzohgirl
      @matzohgirl Рік тому +1

      I agree. G-d will take care of this and will bless the survivors of rape. Noone should experience this ever.

  • @anastasimankesemokgobu1724
    @anastasimankesemokgobu1724 3 роки тому +36

    I have been avoiding watching this interview because it brings back a lot of memories. My cousin was gang-raped multiple times by the same group of 5 guys. The guys were the bf's friends and he would bring them almost every weekend to take turns raping my cousin. The problem Is the boyfriend was super abusive and almost everyone was afraid of him. The guys who were gang rapists enjoyed being associated with him because "uyasabeka" everybody in the village knew about the rape and where it happened and no one did anything to help the girl. She has never been the same person ever again. ohh and the guy's excuse was that she cheated so he was teaching her a lesson.

  • @lindelwamateza7273
    @lindelwamateza7273 Рік тому +2

    Can you imagine having a daughter right now , 10 years from now what kind of society will we live in. What type of world will we raise our daughters in?😢

  • @namisazulu1372
    @namisazulu1372 3 роки тому +34

    And the best response South African men have is... "not all men". Yes, "not all men🙄" but ALL women 🥺

    • @mpendulomkhonto818
      @mpendulomkhonto818 3 роки тому +9

      I'd beg to differ my Sister I know u speak from a place of emotion,frustration and anger because man are doing the opposite of what God has designed to do or fullfill our duty to women however I must correct u in using the phrase "all women" I believe that there are someone who are using the unfortunate circumstances of other women by sabotaging life's of other people n such people my dear sister do not even deserve the due recognition n respect u probably might believe they deserve

    • @namisazulu1372
      @namisazulu1372 3 роки тому +1

      @@mpendulomkhonto818 okay... 🙄

    • @mpendulomkhonto818
      @mpendulomkhonto818 3 роки тому

      @@namisazulu1372 🤷‍♂️

    • @nicosekano5942
      @nicosekano5942 3 роки тому +4

      Leave men alone. Not every woman in this world has been voilated sexually. Leave us alone.

    • @namisazulu1372
      @namisazulu1372 3 роки тому +6

      @@nicosekano5942 if my comment doesn't apply specifically to you, you should've kept scrolling. But if the shoe fits then wear it🙄

  • @bosses9820
    @bosses9820 2 роки тому +1

    The older I get, the more I understand my elders 😔 keore when I think about how me and my friend used to put ourselves in very compromising situations ke tseela gore ke motona I must now enjoy groove life oh my God!😭 I thank God for protecting me and my bestie! We got into that lifestyle at 19 and at 21 we are both out and wiser, nkase letlele my younger brothers and sisters to do what I did I've witnessed a LOT of nonsense and horrors going to di link ups/di house party.
    As for the guest! 😔💔Thank you for sharing your story ausi

  • @aginghappilywithhilda6625
    @aginghappilywithhilda6625 3 роки тому +3

    So touching a story. Thanks for sharing your story. We understand better why our parents were so protective. Bless you. You are awesome. Here supporting and looking forward to more.

  • @pawsation7719
    @pawsation7719 Рік тому

    Thank you for being so brave to share your story. You are a beautiful soul. Everyday is a day of healing.

  • @thembisaodendaal
    @thembisaodendaal 3 роки тому +18

    I'm so sorry beautiful angel for what you went through.God will make it right.This will make you stronger because it did not break you

  • @hangingoutwithsqu3202
    @hangingoutwithsqu3202 3 роки тому +8

    Yoh no ways this is so heartbreaking 💔 I’m so sorry you had to go through that. No one in the world deserves to be violated like that. I hope that anyone who’s ever gone through that finds healing eventually. Sending love and light 🤍

  • @nationmatoto3835
    @nationmatoto3835 3 роки тому +15

    This is very sad people can be more than animals my heart is bleeding

  • @simphiwengwenya4337
    @simphiwengwenya4337 3 роки тому +4

    caption captured me here , thank you for sharing with us .. fear friends yohhhh !!! evil those ones especially when they feel nice things are only for them....thissss is sadddd , so sorry you had to expirence such a tramatic experience sally ...

  • @dakaloentertainment9461
    @dakaloentertainment9461 3 роки тому +11

    Yhoo amazing questions that Relobogile asks. Another reason I love this show

  • @TheSARAFINA2000
    @TheSARAFINA2000 3 роки тому +9

    What's with the nurses and doctors in SA? most encounters are negatives, very few positives. l know they are good medical people but eeish, lots of stories from government hospitals or lokisini clinics, are scary. Can they teach ubuntu, interacting with people at their most vulnerable states, e medical school pliz pliz pliz. don’t become a nurse or dr just for the sake of professional status, work by the oath
    Sis l hope with time, you heal, it's a long road and lots of triggers, be strong, kuzobangcono ngokuya kwesikhathi.

  • @Nthabi_m
    @Nthabi_m 3 роки тому +4

    Sis lebo’s voice 😩❤️so refreshing 💝u are born for this hey never doubt that ❤️❤️

  • @km_6181
    @km_6181 3 роки тому +55

    I’m so sorry you went through something that traumatic Sally. I’m so proud of you for getting thru this and really grateful for the woman who found you💔
    Something similar happened to a girl I knew in high school. Also invited to a house party by a class mate of hers around grade 11. She took only 1 sip of a drink that her class mate mixed for her and she collapsed. She was found by the police outside the house where the party was taking place with just her top on. Because she couldn’t speak, the police had to ask the people in the house if anyone knew her and everyone (including her classmate) said no. That Monday at school her classmate had told the whole school what happened and that was the first time she found out what had happened to her.

  • @MissIngrilicious100
    @MissIngrilicious100 3 роки тому +16

    Oooh man, been there, but my rapist followed me to my dorm room, by the time I realized what was going on, he was standing behind me with the knife held to my throat.

    • @mamacitapurple
      @mamacitapurple 3 роки тому +5

      Sorry to hear that 😞

    • @mzolisimagatikele1136
      @mzolisimagatikele1136 3 роки тому

      Yoh

    • @MissIngrilicious100
      @MissIngrilicious100 3 роки тому

      @@mamacitapurple thank you. It's been a long time, but I will never forget it

    • @miriamclarerujekomushaikwa
      @miriamclarerujekomushaikwa 3 роки тому +1

      @@MissIngrilicious100 That pain never goes away. I wish they knew it... 😭

    • @MissIngrilicious100
      @MissIngrilicious100 3 роки тому +1

      @@miriamclarerujekomushaikwa it never does hey. You grow older with it, ebile now I have a 14 year old daughter, I'm so worried about her

  • @nicholusmaphakela10
    @nicholusmaphakela10 3 роки тому +28

    We still have people who betrayal our trust. Wolves wearing a skin of a sheep. This is evil, how does one recover from such an act. Yoh. Your story should reach to our sisters.

  • @zanelexopa6643
    @zanelexopa6643 Рік тому +4

    She's such a brave and courageous woman. Yoh!! Would I really be this strong.....I have my doubts. She put herself first, to be able to move with her life

  • @MY6797A
    @MY6797A 3 роки тому +13

    So painful.. Am so Sorry you had to go through that.