Ay sisi I literally cried while watching this story 😢 . I have four girls and your story just triggered the very fear I have everyday about my daughters. I pray that you find healing 🙏
This lady deserved an interviewer with sympathy because this guy seems like he just wanted izindaba but showed no emotion at all. My heart goes to you beautiful woman of God ❤❤❤I’m happy to see you being a living testimony , may the Lord continue to pour His love on you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
To every black person who has undergone trauma as a child, baby work hard & take yourself to therapy. Relieve your childhood and heal yourselves. Take yourself to every place you wished as a child. Because we make the mistake of looking for healing in other broken people , and re-traumatize the child & adult in us. All the best to this beautiful lady
You absolutely explained why she made the decisions she made. Coming from a video that criticised her actions as an adult only to hear what happened to her at 16 shows how as society we are quick to judge people on their decisions and actions. I somehow feel the host was insensitive when he chuckled and asked her to repeat about the knife. I wish she was interviewed by The CentTwinz for that part or another show hosted by a woman. It’s hard to listen further. May she find healing.
@faithsdollsville2662 yeah I couldn't believe the interviewer thought that was funny. I think he just wanted the scoop & missed an opportunity to be more sensitive. But the lady will heal the more she talks about her experience. I have never tried Cent Twin, will look up the channel. I hope she really truly forgives herself and kinder to herself. I just wanted to hug her !
@@katlego5077indeed she will heal. You should also check when they started it as the guests relating their experiences without an interviewer. You get to hear mostly what you typed above. It’s called “I’ve Been Through The Most” those testimonies gives us the viewers/listeners a sensitivity and understanding of how differently the world has hurt others. So we should not judge nje.
I am struggling everyday mtanasekhaya they is a lot going on never had a chance of being a child, don't know what a siblings and the parents relationship is. Never had a chance to meet my father not even sure if that's woman who left me with her mother was my biological mother because of hatred she had towards me😭😭😭😭😭. I worked so hard to build my future l studied and graduated without parents..... And here l am today relocated from KZN to Western Cape trying to get help ,breathing through oxygen concentration support machine, 😭😭😭😭. I am so touched and l just realised now that most of my wounds are old but they are still bleeding.
One big lesson that I drew from this was that when you pray for a big change, or for God to give you something you want so badly (like how she and her Pastors weee praying for her to get married), the devil listens too. And that vele he has nothing else to attack us with except to distract us with our past. This guy was a guy from her past, God probably had or was about to bring someone else, but the devil blocked her sight with this one. So, after asking God to give you something, I think we should also pray for a spirit to decern which answer came from Him (God). ❤
Childhood trauma is actually dangerous because it changes how you perceive yourself. It allowed other people to warp her perception of herself and make her feel ugly. She's a beautiful woman who didn't have a place to belong and from what I hear never felt at home with anyone. I can't blame her because as humans we all desire companionship and human company.
Uuhmmm😔😭😭😭💔💔💔💔 MNTASE YOU WENT THRU THE MOST,,, Your story has touched me so deeply... But now you're so strong uThixo akazange wakushiya usemhle ingapakathi lakho nangaphandle mntase womelele for abantwana bakho uThixo uyakuthanda ..❤
@@gomolemomuchngwa4413 It defeats the tradition of ilobolo. It's not like umakoti does not give back kwa mkhwenyana. people who arent ready to get married because of financial reasons should face that fact. do not pursue things you can't afford. we are too ruled by emotions. and that is where people get hurt and things get ruined. let men who can afford wives have wives. and men who cannot, work towards that. If he couldnt afford you. he will never feel deserving of you. and that will play at his masculinity. Do things properly for peace and integrity of them
Ntando I understand ur story, but I want to tell u one thing that u can do. Where is ur brother? Where is ur Uncle, ur aunt? I don't understand why do u go through all this alone? Why don't u divorce this man? U r young, beautiful n smart, working what do u need him for? Just the tittle n a piece of paper that u r married? Now u r vulnerable n u r out there on social media n all the vultures see u n can't wait to catch u like a fish so that they can do the same thing to u. If u ever able to divorce that man u must be careful. Where is ur church n ur pastor when going through all this? U r not the only person without family, some ppl. don't have au to, uncles or brothers. They have nothing. The worse, they r not educated nor working. At least u r much much better than most ppl. I know. U need to love urself girl, otherwise u r going to have it hard. Stop loving ppl. that u don't know just because u want a man. U have ur children n urself to love.
I just want to hug Ntando. She did not deserve any of this. What a beautiful, actual exquisite, and is clearly despite her pain, is so internally beautiful. I am so glad you are alive to tell the tale. You got this.
Not true a real man would never do that. That is why the Bible says “Seek first the Kingdom of the Lord and his righteousness and everything else will be awarded unto you”
To anyone who can come across this message who is near this lady please tell her God loves her.her story is so touching the world is praying for your restoration darling ❤❤
The interviewer is in the wrong career path. She literally spoke alone, he did not engage her as he should have, no sympathy and not even tissues in the studio and yet this was a very emotional interview. Big up to the lady for being a good storyteller, God has something bigger for you cc.
The only thing I can say after watching this is, fathers lets love our daughters, they will never feel alone and they will never experience what sis Ntando experienced. I am so sorry sis Ntando, you are so beautiful.
She appears to have had a good relationship with her father, she does not mention being abused by her father, her trauma is from the rape and created by her mother who beat her up after she had been raped, let us agree mothers can also cause wounds which can lead to daughters to search for love in wrong relationships. The parental wounds cause lasting damage unless a person goes for therapy and is connected to God as a source of healing and restoration. In this case, the spousal wound and trauma are another layer that needs to be addressed. Much healing my sister, ngikhala nawe, however our redeemer lives to take away all that you have gone through. You are loved by God Ntando despite what you went through. Hold on to God's unchanging hand of grace and mercy.
Ntando stop beating yourself up my sister, forgive yourself we all made mistakes. I pray that God shows up for you in a big with healing and prosperity. You are here today because God loves you beautiful woman.
'God loves you' This is very powerful. This guy may not show any sense of emotions to Ntando but what I learned is he showed them spiritually. those words don't just come out of any person's words. Ntando my sister you are very brave and one thing I can say those tears you gave on this podcast showed that you did not lose anything but gained a lot out of your experience. I will repeat in bold that *GOD LOVE YOU*
I'm 39 no kids and not married. God knows I'm not married he will ordain the man and the time I will get married. And I will never lobola myself, thank you. Women do this out of desperation
@@randomladyand there’s nothing wrong with that honestly, because people are getting married for the wrong reasons nowadays,others don’t even respect or honour their marriage. Not getting married is not a sin and society needs to stop making women feel inferior or less of a woman because they are not married,
She is wounded, love one another and it is always the grace of God that carries us. Not by might or strength. Do not judge, no one is worthy except Jesus, be thankful and treat one another with love and compassion.
This lady’s story was truly moving. How she recounts her experience. I think platforms need to take a hard look at whether they have the care and ability to steward conversations of this nature before inviting guests to speak. It’s upsetting as a viewer to watch some very vulnerable moments not being handled with the care they deserve. Sisi- you are strong, I have taken so much from your story- our childhoods really shape our perceptions. Phephisa mama ❤️
I’ve never wanted to hug and love on stranger like I do with lo sisi. This story hurts wow! sending her love, strength, courage and best wishes for her future.
I just don't understand, why would someone treat another person like this. Someone who loves him dearly, someone who has given him nothing but love and had gone all out for him. This guy is so unfair. Using the word unfair to him is such an understatement, he has done so much to hurt this woman. That guy knows in his heart that this woman did not deserve all the treatment he gave her. This is such a wonderful woman with a wonderful character. Decent men would love to have a woman of such character as their lifetime partner. All that this guy did is spit in the face of such goodness. Life at times is really wicked and unfair. All that I can say to Ntando is that life was also unfair to Job. Job never understood the unfair difficulties he went through. In all of that, difficult as it was, Job kept his hope in God, to see him through. I pray that despite the difficulties you are going through, I plead with you not to remove God as your hope. In the same manner that God eventually came through for Job, may He come through for you in Jesus name. May God return double fold all that the enemy, the devil has taken away from you.
Well said @Daniel. Thank you. The trauma of People sometimes is exploited by others. This gesture would have been one of love between the couple but unfortunately the man did not have his heart in it instead he viewed it as a jackpot...which is sad. And now if forces women to vow never to do this. I just wonder in this volatile economy is a man that doesn't have money not pursue love? Since there are also vultures among them and there is no way to know. The only think I would love in this kind of arrangement is that both the woman and man do not use this to undermine or disrespect each other...ever. I pray God continues to comfort and heal my sister.
Although l have never suffered such upbringing- this lady deserves our respect and the interviewer equally conformed to the the emotional rollercoaster and experiences of this lady that provoked his past upbringing. Hats off to her and the young man eventually got it
Ntando your story is similar to mine. I have been through more or less the same. I went through the worst. But believe me Jesus saved my soul. Defeat and failure are things of the past. I like it because your best source is Jesus Christ. I wish I can know you in person. I'm a woman living in Joburg. I'm a professional and a Christian. May God locate you in his mercy
I was married and lost my husband in 2012 I've decided to stay single Grow my kids and grandkids I do lots of work in my church spend time with family and very happy
This presenter...haai, he is not good to handle emotional and sensitive interviews like this. The was a point where he laughed when the lady explained how the rapist took her forcefully with a knife. Sis! She was seeking to be loved that's why she ended up paying lobalo for herself. I don't blame her. I'm sorry for all that u went through girl and forward u go! Stay blessed ❤
Ntando is so beautiful to listen to yazi. Such a beautiful storyteller. As much as she shared heartbreaking stories, she did it in such a graceful manner. I am in awe of her. Wishing her only the best in her life.
It's amazing and shocking to hear such a beautiful lady thinking that she is not beautiful. It's important to have people around you who treat you with decency and respect, but sometime these are not always easy to find just like in her case. God bless you sis Ntando, and continue to love fully. God loves you indeed, wether you believe it or not but it is true.
Its so soothing to listen to someone shares their story without fear of judgment. So open, so honest, so detailed and owning their story. Sis Ntando you might not pick it up now but youve come far with your healing. May God show you mercy
You are so beautiful my sister Leave this crazy people. UJEHOVA inawe nabantwana bakho. UJEHOVA uyakuthanda sisi. Uzokuphindiselela. Love you beautiful girl
The interviewer kodwa could’ve had the conversation about the kidnapping and r*pe more sensitively. Saying things like “that’s crazy” is insensitive - there needs to be better journalistic skills
Ngaze ngamuthanda lo sisi, Everything she has been through. She doesn’t deserve. She has such a beautiful smile and her soul is sooo refreshing to witness even for a person that doesn’t know her personally. The fact that she could move away from everything and pick herself up, is a true reflection that her life story is a testimony of good faith and her situations aren’t gonna be her downfall, not before she serves her God given assessments… She’s such an amazing individual
Her story must be a TV drama or some sort of a movie for an awareness to other people out there not to fall in such traps.Both genders must not ignore red flags 🚩 in the relationships.This is the most painful story 🥺She’s an Angel..she deserves more Love ❤️
The society is putting so much pressure to us that we end up doing such thing because we want to belong .I'm so sorry cc that you went through so much in your life. may you heal and find happiness . never forget that you come first, never ever compromise urself no matter the situation.
My ladies we need to start loving and treating ourselves better. Before we love and treat other people better. No one will love, respect or treat us better if we don't value ourselves. Give Love to yourself my beautiful darling.
Karma never misses the address mtase. You never build your life with someone’s tears and get away with it. God loves you and is not a fool. you are very pretty and hearing about your past you have built your self. You’re very strong, I admire you. ❤
Hi Ntando God loves you over and over again, after my divorce I found this scripture in Isaiah 54:5 Your Maker is your husband, He is the Lord Almighty. I was revived and kept on reading until I believe what God says about me. I feel your pain may the Lord heal you completely. I recommend that you read this book: Destined to Reign by Joseph Prince❤
Your childhood experiences play a significant role in shaping your adult personality/character, especially if you haven't taken the time to heal. If I had valued the institution of marriage, I might have made the same choices. The way I used to engage in relationships was a reflection of how little I valued myself. Thanks for sharing sisi sibanintsi but it's time to heal.
They know exactly what they want. They want to be a traditional man role...they just don't have the resources- like this man they are talking about. I think women should just spend money on themselves and self-improvement and on their own families ( mother, father, grandparents, nieces, nephews, etc).
This is so touching! This manifest significantly in churches nowadays. It seems like most ladies in church are desperate for marriage. This serves as strong lessons to all of us.
U are soo beautiful Ntando.May God Heal ur inner child and restore u with a Husband that loves u more than u love him. Never let go of God's hand.He loves u❤
In all your errors, the root was marrying a wounded tiger that had developed survival skills in the jungle. Keep your trust in God and don't despair Ntando, this is a story of maturity. There's an awareness for all ages, gender and religion. I love your authenticity
I appreciate this kind of interviewer, no overtalking, no interrupting the guest, no changing trail of thought. The guest can express themselves in their own way.
Ntando u are a perfect human being, you were just unlucky to meet the DEVIL himself, let YOUR ANGELS FIGHT FOR YOUR SADNESS. YOUR STORY PAINS ME, PLEASE BE STRONG YOU WILL BE ANSWERED,
Weeeee Hai Sana Amadoda have Outdone themselves ke Apha! Yho.. & to think she was being kind & loving all along… his Karma is still being prepared I’m telling you… uxolo Ntando. You beautiful & deserving of all the good things in Life.. I Pray God Heals & restores😘
I am so hurt right now. Sisi Ntando you are a very strong women, not only that but beautiful and kind as well. Thank you for sharing this with us, I learnt a lot.
Ncese, you went through a lot, sisi ukulunkulu uyoku khumbula ngelinye ilanga. Just thank God that he gave you the strength during that difficult time. Ngoba inhliziyo ibuye isi lahlekise. Time heals Ntando, you will be fine. I'm very proud of you that you're not ashamed of the past. Love you ❤🤗🫂
Oh Sis Ntando... I am so speechless. Your story resonates so much.. Super sorry mntase that you are going through such a season . I'm sending my love and positive vibes. You going to pull through sis. Ndixakiwe noba ndithinin we really have a lot in common .. How i wish I could reach out to you on your mobile...strongs sis.. Ill keep you in prayer
Ntando, people do not take advantage of the foolish but the kind and strong. They stole from you thinking they would brake you but if you achieved all that under those circumstances what can you achive when you are free. You are strong beyond words, heal turn your broken heart to God, pour out your sorrows to Him. Remember the to put God first in everything and he will direct your path. I will keep you and all of us in my prayers, your story touched me.
Ntando you are so beautiful sisi, inside and outside. You've got a beautiful heart, infact you are such a beautiful soul. Please forgive and forget and move on with your life. Please put your trust in God and Please never look back. Just forgive yourself, pray to the Almighty because he loves you dearly although you might not see that right now, but you'll soon realize. Leave everything to the Almighty. You story touched me in a way that's difficult to describe, I'm sure many too. Keep it up girl, we love you.
Build on the right foundation. The right guy can be built upon (or rather, with). Problem (with both sexes), we like the baddies (/bad boys). We overlook the “boring” ones.
The lack of response and sympathy from the interviewer throughout the entire interview is sickening!💔 He's just there to get the story and get the views, it's pathetic. These are people's real life stories and if he does not have the emotional capacity to deliver them then maybe he shouldn't do this. This woman deserved someone who was going to really hear her out and not just sit there to only listen to her.
Yoooh aii kuningi bakithi... The rape part just hit home and brought all bad memories. I hope she gets better and heal completely coz such traumas may last for a lifetime. 😭😭😭😭😩😢
Sis Ntando, you are so beautiful daughter of the Most High...you going to beat this beast because your Father is a KING and owns a Castle and everything in it.
Oh Thixo such a beautiful lady to endure so much pain yhoooooo, but God will come and heal your heart,you deserve better and that better is approaching...❤❤
Sisi it good that you left him.i nearly got trapped like you by my ex fiance,he was so sweet n loving infront of people but a monster in the house..used to accused me of cheating but I was always with him engikhaph even to work,but when I became medically boarded at work,he then started beating me,n then I got out eventually.he knee that I was going to receive half of my salary.but I'm glad I didn't get married to him coz I would have shared my pension with him.sisi I love ur story n iyafundisa not to trust a man..❤
Ntando you are beautiful, your smile reflects your inner beauty, Nana UBAWO UYAKUTHANDA❤❤❤, you are a chosen God's Princess, we are learning and healing from your story...the Holy Spirit is comforting you as I speak, you are a GEM in GOD'S eyes, the minute I pressed this vedio I was like yhooo she is beautiful and hour glass wow Father God the works of your hands who is this, Baby Girl this vedio will heal many traumas our young sisters, cousins and old sisters who never had a chance to speak out. and see GOD CAN, you are strong Hun...May GOD work in you and through you & your calling...much love your sister in Christ...Beautiful Princess of the most HIGH GOD , GOD LOVES YOU, you were bought with a Price, that calling is what makes the devil send his agents to you to doubt God, pls never doubt GOD , HE WILL RESTORE YOU like HE DID TO JOB in the Bible 7×7...Amen❤❤❤ 🫂
Aiii this interviewer is insensitive, even the way he moved from sisNtando narrating her childhood trauma story It's like his saying enough about that awuzelanga lokho😢
May you find healing in the Lord sis Ntando. I know being a born again christian and allowing someone that is not born again into your life and trying by all means to make them fit into your life. Ngamaqhinga nje kasathane ufuna ukususa kuThixo. My story might not be the same as yours but it did speak to me as a born again christian, lendlela siyihambayo inde, siyarhuzuka endleleni. Sometimes you feel far away from God. 😩💔😭 I pray you find your way back to God. You are in my prayers ❤🤗
Thank You Justify and Thank y'all for watching. Thank you for your kindness and beautiful words 🫂❤️😭
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Ay sisi I literally cried while watching this story 😢 . I have four girls and your story just triggered the very fear I have everyday about my daughters. I pray that you find healing 🙏
God loves you mama and I love you too ❤ sending you hugs and kisses mommy.
You are beautiful my love . Never doubt yourself.
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This lady deserved an interviewer with sympathy because this guy seems like he just wanted izindaba but showed no emotion at all. My heart goes to you beautiful woman of God ❤❤❤I’m happy to see you being a living testimony , may the Lord continue to pour His love on you 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
He allowed her to vent. When they ask questions others complain
You are please people so relax
I hated it, how do you laugh and say “people are crazy hey” when someone speaks of how they were kidnapped and raped as a child
@@BK-lf1nwdts my feeling too😪
I think he did a good job. Sometimes, it's good to be listened to without questions, and it makes one feel better
his laugh after she told him of her rape ordeal gave me the creeps
To every black person who has undergone trauma as a child, baby work hard & take yourself to therapy. Relieve your childhood and heal yourselves. Take yourself to every place you wished as a child. Because we make the mistake of looking for healing in other broken people , and re-traumatize the child & adult in us. All the best to this beautiful lady
You absolutely explained why she made the decisions she made. Coming from a video that criticised her actions as an adult only to hear what happened to her at 16 shows how as society we are quick to judge people on their decisions and actions. I somehow feel the host was insensitive when he chuckled and asked her to repeat about the knife. I wish she was interviewed by The CentTwinz for that part or another show hosted by a woman.
It’s hard to listen further. May she find healing.
You're so right!
@faithsdollsville2662 yeah I couldn't believe the interviewer thought that was funny. I think he just wanted the scoop & missed an opportunity to be more sensitive. But the lady will heal the more she talks about her experience. I have never tried Cent Twin, will look up the channel. I hope she really truly forgives herself and kinder to herself. I just wanted to hug her !
@@katlego5077indeed she will heal. You should also check when they started it as the guests relating their experiences without an interviewer. You get to hear mostly what you typed above. It’s called “I’ve Been Through The Most” those testimonies gives us the viewers/listeners a sensitivity and understanding of how differently the world has hurt others. So we should not judge nje.
I am struggling everyday mtanasekhaya they is a lot going on never had a chance of being a child, don't know what a siblings and the parents relationship is. Never had a chance to meet my father not even sure if that's woman who left me with her mother was my biological mother because of hatred she had towards me😭😭😭😭😭. I worked so hard to build my future l studied and graduated without parents..... And here l am today relocated from KZN to Western Cape trying to get help ,breathing through oxygen concentration support machine, 😭😭😭😭. I am so touched and l just realised now that most of my wounds are old but they are still bleeding.
One big lesson that I drew from this was that when you pray for a big change, or for God to give you something you want so badly (like how she and her Pastors weee praying for her to get married), the devil listens too. And that vele he has nothing else to attack us with except to distract us with our past. This guy was a guy from her past, God probably had or was about to bring someone else, but the devil blocked her sight with this one. So, after asking God to give you something, I think we should also pray for a spirit to decern which answer came from Him (God). ❤
So so true
Childhood trauma is actually dangerous because it changes how you perceive yourself. It allowed other people to warp her perception of herself and make her feel ugly. She's a beautiful woman who didn't have a place to belong and from what I hear never felt at home with anyone. I can't blame her because as humans we all desire companionship and human company.
And we watch our peers parent the same way yet again...
It really is dangerous😭
@@tsholofelojmodise6728 unfortunate but true
@alettaphalatsi477 so true
@@seniiisastunner1149 detrimental, so unfortunate
I’m so sorry for what you went through. Ladies never pay for your own lobola.
Splitting lobala and wedding bill isn’t such a bad idea
True
Uuhmmm😔😭😭😭💔💔💔💔 MNTASE YOU WENT THRU THE MOST,,, Your story has touched me so deeply... But now you're so strong uThixo akazange wakushiya usemhle ingapakathi lakho nangaphandle mntase womelele for abantwana bakho uThixo uyakuthanda ..❤
@@gomolemomuchngwa4413 It defeats the tradition of ilobolo. It's not like umakoti does not give back kwa mkhwenyana. people who arent ready to get married because of financial reasons should face that fact. do not pursue things you can't afford. we are too ruled by emotions. and that is where people get hurt and things get ruined. let men who can afford wives have wives. and men who cannot, work towards that. If he couldnt afford you. he will never feel deserving of you. and that will play at his masculinity. Do things properly for peace and integrity of them
Yho couldn't finish the SA part when she was young... Yho sorry sisi💔
Now I understand how Ntando got here, childhood trauma affects your self esteem in unimaginable ways. This broke my heart💔
Me too I now understand where she come from eish,life is not easy hey
This is so sad honestly.
Ntando I understand ur story, but I want to tell u one thing that u can do. Where is ur brother? Where is ur Uncle, ur aunt? I don't understand why do u go through all this alone?
Why don't u divorce this man? U r young, beautiful n smart, working what do u need him for? Just the tittle n a piece of paper that u r married?
Now u r vulnerable n u r out there on social media n all the vultures see u n can't wait to catch u like a fish so that they can do the same thing to u. If u ever able to divorce that man u must be careful.
Where is ur church n ur pastor when going through all this? U r not the only person without family, some ppl. don't have au to, uncles or brothers. They have nothing. The worse, they r not educated nor working. At least u r much much better than most ppl. I know. U need to love urself girl, otherwise u r going to have it hard. Stop loving ppl. that u don't know just because u want a man. U have ur children n urself to love.
I just want to hug Ntando. She did not deserve any of this. What a beautiful, actual exquisite, and is clearly despite her pain, is so internally beautiful. I am so glad you are alive to tell the tale. You got this.
I love how this interviewer gives this lady a chance to talk, very rare these days
I admire it too - i think it is all about the state of mind.
Definitely! He doesn't disturb her. I like it
I like it too, she is taking time to talk
True most interviewers push their own agendas
Well said
never tell a man your past .just focus on the present..coz uzohlekisa ngawe
That is true🤞🤞
Truth!!! ☝🏿
Not true a real man would never do that. That is why the Bible says “Seek first the Kingdom of the Lord and his righteousness and everything else will be awarded unto you”
I also don't think it's good keeping things from your partner. It means he's not the right one.
If its real person it would help him to know you better and better the relationship
I am 48 never been married ndi grand bafethu I know God loves.
And I'm 52,never married and happy. Marriage is becoming a scam.
@@Blessed_for_life_2023. Love is key. Marriage is no longer an institution of love and bonding
48 too single never been married ❤ hello my mate 😊
Lesson dont be too desperate to get married otherwise you will get married to a wrong person
I'm 29 single, aaai I'm joining you 😊I think I'm more happy ❤❤❤
She's strong after everything that happened to her she's still beautiful n u cab see she's a very kind n polite person ❤❤❤❤❤
Thank you for this positively propelling comment.
Strong indeed. Lenna ke a Mo rata.
And her beautiful smile❤❤❤
To anyone who can come across this message who is near this lady please tell her God loves her.her story is so touching the world is praying for your restoration darling ❤❤
The interviewer is in the wrong career path. She literally spoke alone, he did not engage her as he should have, no sympathy and not even tissues in the studio and yet this was a very emotional interview. Big up to the lady for being a good storyteller, God has something bigger for you cc.
He keeps laughing at some of the serious parts of her story
Leave the guy TF alone
He’s talking like a robot 😂😂😂
I have never been so charmed by an older person like this.... She's really beautiful 🥺
You too you wanna go eat her money ne
Right she is beautiful, well spoken, smart. She mush just love and protect herself
Ai usufuna imali yakhe. Cut, cut, cut
@@nomcebokubheka954 🤣🤣😂ndiyazisebenzela mna... Plus I wouldn't make it... Am staying at Vereeneging
😂😂😂😂😂uyambona koda@@nomcebokubheka954
The only thing I can say after watching this is, fathers lets love our daughters, they will never feel alone and they will never experience what sis Ntando experienced. I am so sorry sis Ntando, you are so beautiful.
So true my guy
Sometimes the fathers are not present in our lives.This is too much
She appears to have had a good relationship with her father, she does not mention being abused by her father, her trauma is from the rape and created by her mother who beat her up after she had been raped, let us agree mothers can also cause wounds which can lead to daughters to search for love in wrong relationships. The parental wounds cause lasting damage unless a person goes for therapy and is connected to God as a source of healing and restoration. In this case, the spousal wound and trauma are another layer that needs to be addressed. Much healing my sister, ngikhala nawe, however our redeemer lives to take away all that you have gone through. You are loved by God Ntando despite what you went through. Hold on to God's unchanging hand of grace and mercy.
Very true. Uthando luka Baba is crucial to the girl child.
Ntando stop beating yourself up my sister, forgive yourself we all made mistakes. I pray that God shows up for you in a big with healing and prosperity. You are here today because God loves you beautiful woman.
Praise God! He is faithful to redeem and restore us.
'God loves you' This is very powerful. This guy may not show any sense of emotions to Ntando but what I learned is he showed them spiritually. those words don't just come out of any person's words. Ntando my sister you are very brave and one thing I can say those tears you gave on this podcast showed that you did not lose anything but gained a lot out of your experience. I will repeat in bold that *GOD LOVE YOU*
Facebook brought me here.... This is so sad😢😢😢😢💔💔💔
Sad part is, the other women think they are winning a prize but they are all being played by that man.
Wanting to belong is a very dangerous thing... Ntando had a childhood wond 😭😭
Very dangerous!
1000000%
Wound
I'm 39 no kids and not married. God knows I'm not married he will ordain the man and the time I will get married. And I will never lobola myself, thank you. Women do this out of desperation
I totally agree with you .I got married last year i was 36 no kids .God's time is the best .Dont do things out of peer pressure or desperation .
You might also never get married too hey
Gods words never returns to Him void. It goes out to fulfill what He said it should do
@@randomladyand there’s nothing wrong with that honestly, because people are getting married for the wrong reasons nowadays,others don’t even respect or honour their marriage. Not getting married is not a sin and society needs to stop making women feel inferior or less of a woman because they are not married,
She is wounded, love one another and it is always the grace of God that carries us. Not by might or strength. Do not judge, no one is worthy except Jesus, be thankful and treat one another with love and compassion.
This lady’s story was truly moving. How she recounts her experience. I think platforms need to take a hard look at whether they have the care and ability to steward conversations of this nature before inviting guests to speak. It’s upsetting as a viewer to watch some very vulnerable moments not being handled with the care they deserve. Sisi- you are strong, I have taken so much from your story- our childhoods really shape our perceptions. Phephisa mama ❤️
Her voice is so mesmerising,she really should be a TV or radio host😍😘🥰😍Love & Light to you sis
I’ve never wanted to hug and love on stranger like I do with lo sisi. This story hurts wow! sending her love, strength, courage and best wishes for her future.
TikTok brought me here ke sana😭
Same😂
Same who is the guy 🙈
Me too😊
me too🤣🤣
Me too i just rushed here 😮
I just don't understand, why would someone treat another person like this. Someone who loves him dearly, someone who has given him nothing but love and had gone all out for him. This guy is so unfair. Using the word unfair to him is such an understatement, he has done so much to hurt this woman. That guy knows in his heart that this woman did not deserve all the treatment he gave her.
This is such a wonderful woman with a wonderful character. Decent men would love to have a woman of such character as their lifetime partner. All that this guy did is spit in the face of such goodness. Life at times is really wicked and unfair.
All that I can say to Ntando is that life was also unfair to Job. Job never understood the unfair difficulties he went through. In all of that, difficult as it was, Job kept his hope in God, to see him through.
I pray that despite the difficulties you are going through, I plead with you not to remove God as your hope. In the same manner that God eventually came through for Job, may He come through for you in Jesus name. May God return double fold all that the enemy, the devil has taken away from you.
This made me cry. Thank you for 😂encouraging her 🙏❤️
Well said @Daniel. Thank you.
The trauma of People sometimes is exploited by others. This gesture would have been one of love between the couple but unfortunately the man did not have his heart in it instead he viewed it as a jackpot...which is sad. And now if forces women to vow never to do this. I just wonder in this volatile economy is a man that doesn't have money not pursue love? Since there are also vultures among them and there is no way to know. The only think I would love in this kind of arrangement is that both the woman and man do not use this to undermine or disrespect each other...ever.
I pray God continues to comfort and heal my sister.
Pure narcissism personality problems are real
Although l have never suffered such upbringing- this lady deserves our respect and the interviewer equally conformed to the the emotional rollercoaster and experiences of this lady that provoked his past upbringing.
Hats off to her and the young man eventually got it
You are one of the few left here on earth, you remind me of my mother. You are very genuine, God bless you. Your story is about unconditional love
Ntando your story is similar to mine. I have been through more or less the same. I went through the worst. But believe me Jesus saved my soul. Defeat and failure are things of the past. I like it because your best source is Jesus Christ. I wish I can know you in person. I'm a woman living in Joburg. I'm a professional and a Christian. May God locate you in his mercy
I wish you can locate my dear.above all she needs to deal and heal with her rape trauma.Indeed Jesus heals.
Hey, did you ever get counseling? Would you like to?
Story of my life, its been 4 years now but one step at a time. Lets pray
this woman is so soft spoken but she is something special inside.u are strong as granite. God heal your emotional scars sisi.
Please spouses/partners never talk about all your traumas and mistakes- bad people use it against you
This shows men are not real ppl
so true
Who's ugly, oh please cc umuhle kabi
They had their own issues against you 🌷May God help you heal
I was married and lost my husband in 2012 I've decided to stay single Grow my kids and grandkids I do lots of work in my church spend time with family and very happy
Your story is different, I'm trying to figure out why you decided to share it
Oh Shem Ntando I could feel the pain in your voice from this childhood story. You are a very strong woman
Now am understanding uNtando much more as she opens up about her past....God she deserves loves and happiness
Ngulo Ntando kaTikitoki lona? Omg upholile kanti
This presenter...haai, he is not good to handle emotional and sensitive interviews like this. The was a point where he laughed when the lady explained how the rapist took her forcefully with a knife. Sis! She was seeking to be loved that's why she ended up paying lobalo for herself. I don't blame her. I'm sorry for all that u went through girl and forward u go! Stay blessed ❤
🤧🚮 He is very insensitive 🤧.
I also am not happy with him.. he doesn’t even sound interested
I am also not happy with that
Let's show him grace and allow him time to improve. He will grow into this and do better in future.
I agree he did not handle that part well.
Ntando is so beautiful to listen to yazi. Such a beautiful storyteller. As much as she shared heartbreaking stories, she did it in such a graceful manner.
I am in awe of her.
Wishing her only the best in her life.
This episode shows how people should CHOOSE wisely the platforms they use on UA-cam to tell their personal stories….
nomona nange bali eli lomntu? tjoooe
@@QhawekaziMlungu 😅😅😅😅😅hay ntombi ndihleli ndedwa kuzothwa ndhleka ntoni kangaka.
nam ndivele ndamangala
Yho Ntando 😞😭💔
As beautiful as you are cc. You really don't deserve this.
It's amazing and shocking to hear such a beautiful lady thinking that she is not beautiful. It's important to have people around you who treat you with decency and respect, but sometime these are not always easy to find just like in her case. God bless you sis Ntando, and continue to love fully. God loves you indeed, wether you believe it or not but it is true.
Becouse she was told she is not . Her family inlaw said it
Its so soothing to listen to someone shares their story without fear of judgment. So open, so honest, so detailed and owning their story. Sis Ntando you might not pick it up now but youve come far with your healing. May God show you mercy
I hope this woman finds peace and a man will truly love her, and treat her like a queen she is.❤
You are so beautiful my sister
Leave this crazy people. UJEHOVA inawe nabantwana bakho. UJEHOVA uyakuthanda sisi. Uzokuphindiselela. Love you beautiful girl
The interviewer kodwa could’ve had the conversation about the kidnapping and r*pe more sensitively. Saying things like “that’s crazy” is insensitive - there needs to be better journalistic skills
He even laughed before that I was So shocked
I agree with you
I cringed when he laughed
I've been looking for this comment, thought I'm the only one who noticed the lack of empathy from the interviewer
So was she raped and kidnapped
Ngaze ngamuthanda lo sisi, Everything she has been through. She doesn’t deserve. She has such a beautiful smile and her soul is sooo refreshing to witness even for a person that doesn’t know her personally. The fact that she could move away from everything and pick herself up, is a true reflection that her life story is a testimony of good faith and her situations aren’t gonna be her downfall, not before she serves her God given assessments… She’s such an amazing individual
It’s a pity she’s now broken you date her you get broken hopefully she’s healed
Her story must be a TV drama or some sort of a movie for an awareness to other people out there not to fall in such traps.Both genders must not ignore red flags 🚩 in the relationships.This is the most painful story 🥺She’s an Angel..she deserves more Love ❤️
Very painful
You're so beautiful and calm Ntando. Great things are coming your way. Be Blessed Sisi......God will take care of the for you.
Ohhh Justice, thank you for your words of wisdom, ukhuthaza uNtando. May God increase you mightily.
The society is putting so much pressure to us that we end up doing such thing because we want to belong .I'm so sorry cc that you went through so much in your life. may you heal and find happiness . never forget that you come first, never ever compromise urself no matter the situation.
My ladies we need to start loving and treating ourselves better. Before we love and treat other people better. No one will love, respect or treat us better if we don't value ourselves. Give Love to yourself my beautiful darling.
You know when you didn't get love from your child hood it becomes very hard for you look for love everywhere
Karma never misses the address mtase. You never build your life with someone’s tears and get away with it. God loves you and is not a fool. you are very pretty and hearing about your past you have built your self. You’re very strong, I admire you. ❤
Hi Ntando God loves you over and over again, after my divorce I found this scripture in Isaiah 54:5 Your Maker is your husband, He is the Lord Almighty. I was revived and kept on reading until I believe what God says about me. I feel your pain may the Lord heal you completely. I recommend that you read this book: Destined to Reign by Joseph Prince❤
Your childhood experiences play a significant role in shaping your adult personality/character, especially if you haven't taken the time to heal. If I had valued the institution of marriage, I might have made the same choices. The way I used to engage in relationships was a reflection of how little I valued myself. Thanks for sharing sisi sibanintsi but it's time to heal.
Some men don't know what they want. They get a power woman, they can't handle her warmth. They dont know what they want.
They know exactly what they want. They want to be a traditional man role...they just don't have the resources- like this man they are talking about. I think women should just spend money on themselves and self-improvement and on their own families ( mother, father, grandparents, nieces, nephews, etc).
He failed to learn to love her, he lost a diamond, ye could have change his behavior
Those power woman they like to control too much my friend, talking from experience
When you do not know love and kindness...
powerful women should date powerful men , and leave weak losers alone, it's that simple
This is so touching! This manifest significantly in churches nowadays. It seems like most ladies in church are desperate for marriage. This serves as strong lessons to all of us.
U are soo beautiful Ntando.May God Heal ur inner child and restore u with a Husband that loves u more than u love him. Never let go of God's hand.He loves u❤
Oh Lord!, Ntando, we thank God for your life, sisi sibuya lapho sthandwa sikaThixo be healed sisi emotionally in Jesus Christ name
In all your errors, the root was marrying a wounded tiger that had developed survival skills in the jungle.
Keep your trust in God and don't despair Ntando, this is a story of maturity. There's an awareness for all ages, gender and religion.
I love your authenticity
😢this woman don’t deserve such may Allah bless her with a genuine love.
Sometimes what us men do to women is not fair. 😢
Allahu aman my
Aameen YaRabbil Alameen
You are beautiful Ntando. You deserve the best. Thank you sharing your story.
Muhle in and out futhi
God will bless and cover her under His wings
"lets get down why u are here actually " after being told such painful story... is something...
Dude... I felt like he was rather insensitive.
Very insensitive
@@Nakedi_Ruth Indeed he did not even marinate the question...
Dude that was sooooo cringe, I gagged!
He's only interest was on the lobola issue
This interview is a reminder to all the parents to be sensitive to our children, sometimes we do more harm than to nature them
I appreciate this kind of interviewer, no overtalking, no interrupting the guest, no changing trail of thought. The guest can express themselves in their own way.
Ntando u are a perfect human being, you were just unlucky to meet the DEVIL himself, let YOUR ANGELS FIGHT FOR YOUR SADNESS. YOUR STORY PAINS ME, PLEASE BE STRONG YOU WILL BE ANSWERED,
Yho! this video will always uplift me when I'm down. This girl has seen it all shame.
Weeeee Hai Sana Amadoda have Outdone themselves ke Apha! Yho.. & to think she was being kind & loving all along… his Karma is still being prepared I’m telling you… uxolo Ntando. You beautiful & deserving of all the good things in Life.. I Pray God Heals & restores😘
Ntando Almighty God is watching you and those tears God open his hands you are healed in the name of Jesus be blessed 🙏🙏🙏
You are a strong women indeed and this will be a stepping stone cc
You will look back and laugh
Shine girl❤
I am so hurt right now. Sisi Ntando you are a very strong women, not only that but beautiful and kind as well. Thank you for sharing this with us, I learnt a lot.
What a lovely lady, very lovable...hope she heals from all wounds of her past
Ncese, you went through a lot, sisi ukulunkulu uyoku khumbula ngelinye ilanga. Just thank God that he gave you the strength during that difficult time. Ngoba inhliziyo ibuye isi lahlekise. Time heals Ntando, you will be fine. I'm very proud of you that you're not ashamed of the past. Love you ❤🤗🫂
I watched this episode over n over and it's unbelievable... its heart braking 💔i feel for this beautiful lady 😢 she's been through the most 💔💔💔
Oh Sis Ntando... I am so speechless. Your story resonates so much.. Super sorry mntase that you are going through such a season . I'm sending my love and positive vibes. You going to pull through sis. Ndixakiwe noba ndithinin we really have a lot in common .. How i wish I could reach out to you on your mobile...strongs sis.. Ill keep you in prayer
Some people hurt others to survive. May the great God heal you and bless you
I agree with you am one of them
Ntando, people do not take advantage of the foolish but the kind and strong. They stole from you thinking they would brake you but if you achieved all that under those circumstances what can you achive when you are free.
You are strong beyond words, heal turn your broken heart to God, pour out your sorrows to Him.
Remember the to put God first in everything and he will direct your path.
I will keep you and all of us in my prayers, your story touched me.
how can Ntando get help from
this circumstances Good people let's help her please please this is not in human nature this hyena needs to be locked.
That is a lessons to all ladies outside there don’t worry you will get a man will love you
Ntando you are so beautiful sisi, inside and outside. You've got a beautiful heart, infact you are such a beautiful soul. Please forgive and forget and move on with your life. Please put your trust in God and Please never look back. Just forgive yourself, pray to the Almighty because he loves you dearly although you might not see that right now, but you'll soon realize. Leave everything to the Almighty. You story touched me in a way that's difficult to describe, I'm sure many too. Keep it up girl, we love you.
I like the comforting words of strength the intervierwer gave Ntando at the end of this eye opening podcast.
What a closing remarks my brother, God bless you.
As ladies we tend to be bob the builders and it rarely never ends well 😢
Build on the right foundation. The right guy can be built upon (or rather, with).
Problem (with both sexes), we like the baddies (/bad boys). We overlook the “boring” ones.
Rarely is an understatement...IT NEVER...EVER...GETS WELL
@@ThandiweChoche-sf7my you rarely like the boring options😉
It always ends in tears
@@BatsiraiMusukayou cannot trick us. We will not build you
What a touching video. Strength and Love to the Lady ❤
The lack of response and sympathy from the interviewer throughout the entire interview is sickening!💔 He's just there to get the story and get the views, it's pathetic. These are people's real life stories and if he does not have the emotional capacity to deliver them then maybe he shouldn't do this. This woman deserved someone who was going to really hear her out and not just sit there to only listen to her.
Yoooh aii kuningi bakithi... The rape part just hit home and brought all bad memories.
I hope she gets better and heal completely coz such traumas may last for a lifetime.
😭😭😭😭😩😢
😢😢😢 I'm crying while watching this bcz we are many of us who went through lobuhlungu obakuvelela....😢😢😢😢 stay strong mama you are loved n umuhle
Sis Ntando, you are so beautiful daughter of the Most High...you going to beat this beast because your Father is a KING and owns a Castle and everything in it.
Yhoo Sis you went through a lot you didn't deserve all of that, thank God you came out alive and I pray God gives you strength.❤
Oh Thixo such a beautiful lady to endure so much pain yhoooooo, but God will come and heal your heart,you deserve better and that better is approaching...❤❤
Yoh for the interview to laugh and say "yoh people are crazy". Kanti where's sympathy?
You know
Sisi it good that you left him.i nearly got trapped like you by my ex fiance,he was so sweet n loving infront of people but a monster in the house..used to accused me of cheating but I was always with him engikhaph even to work,but when I became medically boarded at work,he then started beating me,n then I got out eventually.he knee that I was going to receive half of my salary.but I'm glad I didn't get married to him coz I would have shared my pension with him.sisi I love ur story n iyafundisa not to trust a man..❤
You are beautiful Thando. You deserve the world!!
Thank you for being such a gentleman Justice. Your closing statement drove me to tears,
One of the best podcast I have ever watched. Thank you sis Ntando for sharing and being a voice for the voiceless. ❤
Ntando you are beautiful, your smile reflects your inner beauty, Nana UBAWO UYAKUTHANDA❤❤❤, you are a chosen God's Princess, we are learning and healing from your story...the Holy Spirit is comforting you as I speak, you are a GEM in GOD'S eyes, the minute I pressed this vedio I was like yhooo she is beautiful and hour glass wow Father God the works of your hands who is this, Baby Girl this vedio will heal many traumas our young sisters, cousins and old sisters who never had a chance to speak out. and see GOD CAN, you are strong Hun...May GOD work in you and through you & your calling...much love your sister in Christ...Beautiful Princess of the most HIGH GOD , GOD LOVES YOU, you were bought with a Price, that calling is what makes the devil send his agents to you to doubt God, pls never doubt GOD , HE WILL RESTORE YOU like HE DID TO JOB in the Bible 7×7...Amen❤❤❤ 🫂
When you're spiritually gifted the devil will attack you're weaknesses, But God bless you sis❤
Yhoo azangenge ngibebuhlungu kanje umuhle cc God love's you qhaa wahlangana no sathan
"what kind of women who pays lobolo 4 her self" the way u ask ur question brother
Very desperate and wants people to feel pity😢, she was never asked or forced to do all these, blame it on childhood traumas
He's insensitive
Very insensitive,that disturbed me too.
Aiii this interviewer is insensitive, even the way he moved from sisNtando narrating her childhood trauma story
It's like his saying enough about that awuzelanga lokho😢
Don't cry ntandoo your story touch me
This is very painful to whole situation you look so happy and very strong. Life is
complicated you are the child of God.
I wish all the best
🙏🙏🙏
I must say your story is very interesting. Im sure you are now wiser and you protect yourself and your loved ones with everything you have.
May you find healing in the Lord sis Ntando. I know being a born again christian and allowing someone that is not born again into your life and trying by all means to make them fit into your life. Ngamaqhinga nje kasathane ufuna ukususa kuThixo. My story might not be the same as yours but it did speak to me as a born again christian, lendlela siyihambayo inde, siyarhuzuka endleleni. Sometimes you feel far away from God. 😩💔😭 I pray you find your way back to God. You are in my prayers ❤🤗
Oh God,when she share tears😭😭 thanks to you my brother to remind her that God love her❤