Value Your Time | Day 10 Know Your Worth
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- Value Your Time | Day 10 Know Your Worth
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amen 🙏
Love that you’re adding a little spookiness in the office every day 😄
Love this tough love, and needing to recognize where/how we spend our time to fill our cup! Still having to find the balance myself. Definitely value your advice and real talk!
I think I usually think of it as one afternoon out of 365. But you are so right, there are only 52 Saturday’s. Thank you for the reminder 🥰
I learned to say “No” years ago. Also, No is an answer. I do not have to explain my self to anyone!!!!!! This gave me peace!!!!!
Super big one.❤ So simple but important to have those healthy boundaries!
I do think to be happy people have to learn to give for others for sure but it's a balance. Too far one way or the other is not good.
I was raised to be a people pleaser and it's a journey building and maintaining the boundaries! I just recently said "no" to some gatherings family was pressuring me into. I want to do right by them and help them when it's viable, when it's important....but there are strict priorities. Including my mental and physical health. ❤ I don't NEED to be at a party. Lol If someone is seriously sick or celebrating a once-in-a-lifetime thing I'll do my best to be there. Otherwise it's at my discretion and I think that's how it should be for anyone's without guilt.
Yaaasss “no is a complete sentence”
Thanks, bestie. ❤️
Late to the party, Traveling for work!! But got caught up now on my flight home!!
Yes to that thank you. I didn’t show at my friends kids birthday party Saturday. My niece birthday is 3 days before and I took care of my niece first.
❤ Yes. I love that you were still there for family but knew your boundaries. It's about balance and priorities.
I have had family recently pushing my husband and I into attending parties that honestly aren't a priority. We said "no".
We have had too many family health issues to tend to and once-in-a-lifetime events (like marriage... Hopefully once* 😅), but even that takes a lot out of us. We don't unwind by attending these other parties, so we are working on not feeling guilty for turning them down.
We will do our best to be there when it's more important/special. They can get that or not. Lol
blessings 🤔 life is short and my time is valuable
Love this! I have gone to so many events that waste my time and I’m going to start saying no
The beginning music is so catchy lol. Love it! I find myself moving my head to the beat😂☺️
Ohhhh this was a good video. I do find myself doing things with my time that do not serve me! Thanks for this reminder!
10/31. I work in the healthcare field and only get 6 days off a month. I absolutely HATE having to run around and do errands (grocery shop, fill the car with gas, etc.) on my one day off a week/ every other weekend. I just want to stay home and relax. I’m an introvert and a homebody. Not to mention I’m a night owl sO, I stay up late and then sleep in. However, half my day is gone by the time I wake up😕.
I’m in healthcare as well and it’s so draining
Woman, I hear you. I was headed into that field myself and I'm glad I didn't continue. I am an introvert and it would've run my reserve dry.
I'd look into something else like administrative if you can easily carry that over, or even if you can consider something like travel nursing if you're single etc....and can then have that kind of schedule but then much more time off and better pay hopefully.
Apologies if this isn't the kind of work you do...idk but sounds like you're just going to keep being frustrated. Or if it pays well enough to stay- consider using that money for Instacart etc.
Time is money anyway. My husband and I know many times it's more profitable for us to work on stuff at home while we pay someone to shop for us. We tip as well as we can and usually it's still only about $35 extra (plus mark up of course) for us to get a large order. Saving gas, and our TIME is essential. Don't get me wrong, when we have low paychecks we will do it ourselves. But it's still costing us our time. Which is valuable. ❤
We also have a good rhythm when it comes to a plan for shopping efficiently. TBH I see SO many people perusing through stores and it drives me BONKERS. I am exhausted a lot when we shop, end of busy week, many times I got only a few hours of sleep each night but I don't get the slow stroll through somewhere like a grocery isle of Walmart. Get it done! Lol I don't want to waste my time under the florescent lights more than I need to. Also helps us save money. 😂
I want to echo what others have said. I'm meal planning and online shopping during the weeks now. I get gas after work. My goal is open weekends even if I sit at home and relax.
I have considered hiring someone to clean so that's one less task.
I feel this way about unecessary negativity for sure.
Shutdowns made my husband and I realise we were spending time with a lot of family that was too negative and in some ways abusive....and we don't need that.
But I think we all have sacrifices to make. Most of us would have very unhealthy addictions if we just took at face-value "what makes me feel good now" but of course the assessment part of that is vital.
Some critiques are necessary to improve. People need better coping skills I think, most of us are raised in a toxic way of not being able to handle constructive criticism. And yes others are too harsh on themselves and/or others.
It's a balance. When I was younger I legit didn't want to sleep because I already had sleep disorders and took literally "I can sleep when I'm dead". That was obviously super unhealthy. Set me up for failure.
The same can go for people who I know that are addicted to just smoking weed all the time. In the moment they feel it fills their cup, but too often they tell me they don't know where life is going and its depressing. No meaning.
Sometimes true meaning in life takes sacrifice. But I agree that it needs to HAVE meaning. Not just empty commitments!
Especially as a parent, there are times you should absolutely go to parties, and other events that your child goes to, even if you detest it. ✋ I usually do. Lol
But for my kids to flourish I know I am their guide (until they are raised of course), and being invoved is healthy, with balance. Younger kids and special needs kids need a parent or trustworthy adult there. It sucks sometimes, having a pre teen that still needs that much support. There are no parties/sleepovers w/o mom or dad. I'm not going to say "no more, kid" because I don't like it.
There are ways to make it more enjoyable! As I grew healthier boundaries in regard to other parents and coping skills with noisy crowds of annoying kids- I can put an ear plug in one ear, or even listen to an audio book if things go smoothly.
Or even chat with a parent I might not agree with/enjoy talking with as a whole. But using it as a way to better my social skills and to practice tolerance, perhaps have a good healthy debate that might open my mind or theirs.
If something is a necessity but not preferable, there are ways to make it tolerable at least, ans in the end it contributes to having time in the future if you're blessed with it. ❤ Never know what tomorrow brings but can't neglect responsibility for it. I think it's a thin line for many.
I so struggle with this one, watching tv at night with my husband and daughter...sure we are together and we chat about whatever we are watching etc but we could be doing way more productive things. Yes I do very much enjoy introducing the next generation to Gilmore Girls this Fall but what is something more productive we could be doing? Are we having meaningful conversations (although Gilmore Girls is a good one to spark some of those mother-daughter convos I will say). And after my daughter goes to bed, that is the only time me and my husband get together to watch our shows, which we end up staying up way to late and that messes with my morning routine. I never know where the balance lies.
Yes ❤ I feel you. TBH though I have times just hate how late my husband wants to have family time. But we talk about it and are working it out. He regrets late nights too but has ADHD and legit loses track of time way too often, gets easily offended if I don't remind him gently. Haha I plan to put some alarms on his phone in songs he likes. 😊
And I also like to be productive....my husband has had to get used to my distracting ways, he now understands it makes sense for me to be doing chores and things while also watching the movie with them. We have an apartment with kitchen, desks, and laundry all in view of TV. And mind you- multitasking is not exactly healthy....so it's good to take the time to unwind.
But if your way of doing that is solo- then make time. UA-cam is honestly just part of that time. Like now, but also I have a special self care routine once every week or two. And am working on less UA-cam and more of that! 😅
Take care ❤
ever spread myself far too thin? 🙋♀️
what am I doing with my time that is not serving me?
- people pleasing
- fixing
- staying too long and too frequently in venting conversations
We are valuable 💛✨️
oh my goodness!! this couldn't be any more if a real moment right here!! After going through treatments and surgery's and coming through the other side, I feel like I've lost myself and I honestly am not sure what lights my spark. Which is why I have bought your blueprint and hoping this will help me ❤
What happens if you're in a job that financially fills your cup but emotionally doesn't? It's a struggle every day. I'm closer to retirement age and finding a new job isn't an option. Hearing this really makes me want to make the most out of my Saturday's and Sunday's!
How about a new hustle job? That’s what Angie did and look what she’s done with her life. That’s what I’ve been focusing on a new job that’s going to make me the happiest. Ask yourself what would you like to do that could make you happier
@@rhondapycior1699Great advice. Not sure if I’m changing jobs at 58 years old but I definitely add in things during the work day that make me happy (getting outside, early morning meditations, making sure I get my “self care” sick days in 😂). Good luck with the job hunt! 😊
If there's any way to try to make your job more enjoyable...idk what it is so hard to say. Lol But perspective goes a long way. It's definitely about what's necessary vs not in a way....and we all have sacrifices to make to have meaning I think. Otherwise life will end up empty if all you do is stuff for yourself. But it's balance....not all for others nor yourself.
Also depends what exactly you like....audio books, music, learning a new language on Duolingo, or being part of a creative or sports club...DIY? There's so much out there.
I would love to travel. I don't know if we will ever have the means to- but I stay hopeful and in the meantime I watch fun docuseries about the places I'd like to go to. It's free, I can pause and rewind as I please...I can make time for it.
When I'm in the mood to DIY I choose either quick projects or things that can easily be paused as well. I have a situation that requires that so I'm realistic about it (learned the hard way).
I didn't expect to end up where I did in terms of responsibilities and career, but it's been a blessing. I make the most out of it and generally feel pretty happy and complete. But a lot of it has been sacrifice too.
Balance. And most of all; God. Jesus helps me stay focused and balanced and our family has made it through hard times, always come out stronger thanks to Yeshua.
Find what fulfills your heart, and not necessarily what's only for "you" and I think you'll be happier. Even from a clinical psychological aspect this is proven to help people. ❤
@@ari3lz3pp oh I don’t hate my job by any means it’s just a lot of down/wasted time so I do what I can to make it more enjoyable. I’m grateful I have the job 😊
I'm tired of taking care of other people but my uncle is my responsibility. I have stopped putting as much time into a friendship that doesn't make me happy any longer.
I’ve gotten better about this with the time I spend with/on other people. But I spend too much time worrying about things, especially things I can’t control, instead of doing actionable things.
For me, it's the energy that I spend on non-sense.. but not recently.. I am holding on to the peace I deserve :)
Being a mamma of 2 VERY active boys and wife to an amazing and busy hubby, I decided I had to make time for myself by cutting other things out and it’s made all the difference!!
❤ People today push busy-ness and us moms are not immune. Lol I think many people also push busy-ness onto their kids that isn't always beneficial in the long run. Making time not only for ourselves but for quality bonding is vital! It's all about balance. 🕊️
Gaahhh again, not to keep saying it but a very emotionally draining job, 4 kids, husband, etc. I NEEEEED to start valuing my time a lot more!! This was helpful!
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This was tough love Angie but I really do appreciate it. Thank you so so much for this video. ❤ I’m a people pleaser and I need to weed out some people in my life and start prioritizing what’s important
Fellow people -pleaser here...well I like to think myself reformed. Lol By the grace of God and lots of introspection, work with healthy boundaries! ❤ So important for maintaining health.
I needed this today Angie
I’m in a job that doesn’t fill my cup emotionally or mentally, but I work it to pay my bills
I have started, on my own, cutting things out and/or making decisions that make my time more worth it for me and hearing in this video that that’s an ok way to live was very encouraging!!
Looks like a lot of us Moms spend a lot of time with our Children but my children are all adults now so hard to cut the cord man 😂
❤ It's about balance for sure. It's good to have fulfillment from supporting others, especially as someone used to nurturing children. Maybe if you have time to volunteer or something to fill your cup! 🙏
I realized yesterday that I spend so much time giving my children advice that they don’t want that they didn’t ask for and that they probably won’t use lol and then today you made me understand that my time is worth something too! I’m mind blown, now I can let that go and help both myself and them seems so simple and yet so profound! Thanks Angie seriously you help me remember things I’ve always known but forget on the daily! I appreciate you🧡
Thank you
Love this Angie! Ever since my mom passed 5 years ago I became very strict with my boundaries. Life is so short and I want to enjoy it not dread it. Currently nothing I need to cut out but always great to have a friend remind you it’s ok to do so! ❤
Man, I needed this bad today! ❤
Hey Angie
Thank you for your amazing videos❤
I learned this from you a while back and I cut all that out to focus on myself and my happiness. Making sure I’m spending time with people I want to spend my time with!
I feel like i almost overly value my time to where i actual devalue the time if that make sense.... im the type of person that just always feels like there is not enough time in a day so i try to jam pack my days or get overwhelmed and give up mid day because im exhausted...
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My job highly undervalues me so it’s taking way too much of my time. I’m trying to find a better way to make money while I work on my music career. I sleep too much and need to get control over that. And give too much of my valuable time to scrolling social media. I want to concentrate more on making the good content, not consuming it.
Girl u talked to me today!
But what happens when you have a job you aren’t fulfilled in but are having a hard time finding a new job? I’ve been on the hunt for 6 months for a new job with no luck because I have such high standards on what I wanna do? How do I combat this and not feel discouraged?!
Family drama!!!!
I’m always the last person that I think about.
Talk about my stepmom or give them my time .
Wasting time with obsessive thoughts
Family drama and people don’t care about you as much
Thank you so much...this one hit home hard today!!! 💛🩷🧡
learning to be selfish is hard because I've always been taught that being selfish is not a good thing...trying to change that in my mind is something I need to do as I know I am only as good to others if I look after myself first....