Imagine the fiancé finding out that someone walked down the aisle in his late wife’s dress. That’s just heartbreaking for him, he didn’t want to see anyone else but her in that.
@@Priceless_Paige THIS. It reminds me of that scene in 27 dresses where the main character's sister completely reshapes their dead mother's wedding dress that the main character was planning on wearing for HER wedding. It makes me so angry
Right?! I feel horrible for the mom trying to defend her decision all on her own. She has every right to say no. I would absolutely say no if I was in her situation.
The woman who lost her daughter needs a divorce in my opinion. It’s not like she’s been married to this girls dad since his daughter was 3 or very young and both girls were raised as sisters. That would be a similar relationship but his daughter was an adult when she met her current husband.
@@isabellaloignon5302 my parents have been married 32 years. I take marriage very seriously but I do think there are lines. Disrespecting your wife’s feelings and mourning over her dead daughter is Manipulative and could potentially be a sign of emotional abuse. OP was clear about her feelings and her spouse did nothing to validate her grief and engaged in emotionally devastating behavior.
@@isabellaloignon5302 This isn't an argument, this man is trying to emotionally manipulate his wife, on the back of her dead daughter. He's completely disreguarding her feelings, trying to guilt and manipulate her. If you really think this is an angrument that she should just forget about and get over it, Well I question the state of your upbringing, and really hope you never get married. Not for your partners sake, but or your own, if you can't even see the red flags here.
You know it would be a sweet sentiment if they grew up as sisters, but she was the age of graduating college when she met the step mom and her step sister and we’re only sisters for a couple months at best.
I can't believe they would even think her daughters dress would be an option. Yes in her honor, maybe, but losing a child is something a parent should never go through. Don't take the last memory she shared with her daughter and make her feel guilty for saying no. Stand in her shoes for one minute with losing your child and your opinion would 100% change.
I have been a babysitter for a wedding before and honestly the kids will enjoy hanging out, going to the pool, watching movies much more than the reception or anything like it.
My cousin brought her baby to my sister’s wedding, and the baby cried ALL the way during her vows. And I, at 16, was so pissed that no one did anything. Let alone my cousin have the decency to leave the sanctuary & go to the “crying room,” which was soundproofed & equipped with a window and speakers, so she would have been able to see & hear (and so would the rest of us). The good thing though is that my sister didn’t even notice, she was so caught up in her vows. Awww! But yeah, it’s been 21 years and I’m still not over it, HA. Oh- and said baby is getting married this summer! I (jokingly) to my mom, “I hope she doesn’t have a guest who brings a baby that cries during *her vows!” LMAO
Teens in the family should have a choice if they want to baby sit or not. Teens want to be a part of the family not just forced into watching crying kids!
@@zahra71908 it's not the crying babies fault lol it's the moms fault for not having the brain to understand the situation and get up to go to the room that is designated for this exact situation 😅 crazy people lol
About the second story, in Italy we have something called “animatori” it’s a group of people, usually in their 20s, who get hired to entertain kids during weddings or other ceremonies. They get a table and help them eat, tell them stories, make them dance, stuff like this or sometimes they even get a different room right by where the adults are celebrating and they make a lot of activities like draw, play games, puppet shows, you name it. It’s a compromise, adult have fun and don’t have to worry about their kids at home, they can just go check on their kids and make sure everything is ok and go back to celebrate
In Mexico I’ve seen the exactly same thing but usually only wealthy couples are who got them in their wedding since it’s a pretty decent amount of money you have to pay and we’re not used to that expenses hehe. It’s pretty normal here have babies and kids in weddings, and if they’re crying, the dad or mom just go out with them to not disturb the ceremony but sometimes some parents are too careless to do that and just let the baby cry, we can just look at them with a grin so they feel pressured or a relative just talk with them to calm the kid 😩😩
I have friends who's parents are pediatricians and for their wedding they hired a bunch of doctors in training for pediatrics to entertain all the kids in a suite at the hotel they were getting married at, the kids were all accessible, safe, and had a fun time. I loved that idea.
I have to say that it is not being selfish to not want kids at your wedding. You are literally paying, organizing and getting a lot of stress for YOUR day. Be respectfull of the laws that the event is having and don't bring kids to a place that is not for kids, It's literally the event of the couple not of the other families.
EXACTLY!!! I adore babies/kiddos (mama of 3) and I would NEVER be offended by not wanting kids at a wedding... That's so beyond understandable. Kids do not tend to handle overstimulating activities well and more than likely will be acting out more than usual. The sister in this story is being SO disrespectful!
I heard that if someone does say I object, you can’t get married that day. So if someone jokingly said I object then everything you put into the wedding goes down the drain. I heard someone did that to their wife as a joke at the alter and they couldn’t get married then and there💀 I can’t imagine having to spend to much money for someone to joke and do this.
uhm well, not not in Quebec, Canada... Unless you bring a case to court to object, your objection means nothing. The notary will prpably want to see why they objected and do verification if needed but the wedding should be able to go on in the next minutes / hours (if really serious reason but foun to be untrue)
Yea I’ve heard this is true in America. Legally the officiant can’t continue. There was a whole Reddit story about it happening and all the money they spent for the venue and everything was then just for a party because they couldn’t get married
Morgan and Alejandra sitting in front of a computer and speculating on the history of objecting at weddings rather than looking it up is a whole….something.
I had an aunt who ended up with sepsis because of a tooth infection. So what ended up happening was she didn't even know that there was an infection normally the tooth was perfectly fine. We don't even know how this developed. One day my uncle goes in to wake her up because she stayed in bed a little bit longer than him which was normal. And she wasn't moving. As he went to shrug her a little harder on her shoulders he noticed that on her pillow there was some blood coming out of her mouth. They took her to the hospital. They got her conscious again but essentially there was an abscess underneath her tooth that eventually ruptured and got into her bloodstream. She was feeling a little nauseous the day before but nothing major. They believe that's when it ruptured but it took time to get more into the system and blood. Took her over 6 months to fully recover and honestly if my uncle had not gone back and checked on her and had just gone to work thinking she was sleeping in she would have died that day. There are times where it can just kind of come out of nowhere but in most cases you already have a wound that you're fighting off and trying to get cleaned out and then it becomes septic
This reminds me of 27 Dresses when the little sister takes their mothers wedding dress and completely alters it to wear it despite the older sister wanting it for her own wedding one day.
Sounds like step daughter is jealous of her dad marrying again. She picked Lauren's dress as a way to start an argument. Maybe to ensure that her stepmother is not at the wedding
When I was planning my wedding, I found out this "nanny´s for events" that take care of babies and kids, bring things for them to play and need just a little bit of space. It was awesome!
I’m guessing that the wedding dress in the first story is worth a lot of money. A lot. Otherwise she would just go get her own - especially if she plans on changing it.
The best comment that I heard about weddings was from my therapist and she said to think of the wedding as the beginning of your marriage versus the end of your non-married life. It really helped put things in perspective AND it helps limit depression after the wedding. Its improved my marriage and made the day less stressful because the "its the best day of your life" narrative can be really toxic and make you more stressed than necessary.
I never went dress shopping for my wedding. I wanted something VERY specific and I knew I wouldn’t be able to find it locally so I had it made at a local dressmaker. It was an awesome experience, it took a long time though. It was a 4-5 month process and really gave me an appreciation for my wedding dress.
My cousin had a 21+ wedding I was 20 I didn’t get invited, she didn’t even invite her teenage nieces. My issue was they still had children at the ceremony as flower girl and ring bearer.
Flower girl and ring bearer are different and typically only stay for the ceremony and pictures. I understand your frudtration but they probably wanted to get lit without worrying about liability issues
With the first story, there is absolutely NO WAY I would give that dress away, especially if she wanted to change the size! Because her daughter was so close to the wedding when she passed, it’ll represent the size she was at the time, like a piece of her frozen in time ❤️
For the second story as a mother and someone who had been a bridesmaid. I could NEVER. Her dad is not in the picture and I even ask the bride which both had no problem having my mom come to include my daughter but also take care of her that day while I’m being a bridesmaid.
For dress shopping, I went with my MOH/bff, mother, grandmother, SIL/bridesmaid, and father, but not all at once. Made it less overwhelming and made it special so I could focus on the two or three people with me. Like only my dad went with me after I knew which one it was and I said “yes to the dress”. Seeing him get emotional is a favorite memory of him.
I had a child free wedding. I simply just put on the invites “adults only ~ open bar”, and it was respected for the most part, you will always have that one person that has to put in their 2 cents but ultimately it’s your big day!
Every time I listen to these weddings stories I’m so glad that the weddings in my husband’s culture don’t have a bridal party. It just seems like a lot of potential drama for no reason.
I love the content! I watch it as I do homework and I sometimes stop just to explain why I think the other person is wrong🤣🤣 I hope we get longer episodes!
Wedding dress shopping crew becomes a lot easier when people are out-of-state! I also did thrift/sale hunting for my dress at boutiques that were closing so I didn’t know when I would make the decision & therefore couldn’t plan a whole group
My sister was 4 when my dad and stepmum got married so they had a kid-friendly wedding. They hired a couple of nannies, served kid-friendly food at the kids table, and there was a separate room at the reception venue where they had a bunch of games and stuff so the kids had something to do when they got bored of what was happening at the reception.
My best friend got married when her baby was about 5 months old and since it was a small close knit wedding, so many different people took turns to watch the their baby so the bride and groom could have fun and get a little drunk. I loved it ❤️
The sister who wants to hold her baby, something not even mentioned is she’s only gonna be a couple weeks postpartum, she’s still going to be healing. I personally didn’t heal well and standing for long periods of time was actually super painful and not easy to do for over a month after having my child. So it might actually not even be feasible for her to be standing during the ceremony.
Alejandra, you handled your dad's situation better than me. I loved/ continue to my grandmother as she has passed and the fact that; she (only his wife) not blood and you're HIS DAUGHTER with lineage to YOUR BLOOD GRANDMOTHER coat given to his wife who didn't even meet her like Nah sis, you are better than me. I would get angry and sentimental that has an emotional connection to me it's more than just a coat.
The only way I would EVER ask for someone else's dress is if I was extremely close with them. Like if we were basically like sisters. Besides one of the biggest most special parts of being a bride is finding that perfect dress with family.
About the first story with a wedding dress; in my culture girls who died before marriage are getting buried in the wedding dress. So from my point of view, it seems impossible to wear a dress of a girl that never got to wear it because of her death. It is a dress of the dead, it doesn't belong to anyone in this world, it belongs to the girl who never got to be a bride. Due to this the story sounds so disrespectful and wrong to me, can't even get my head around it
Okay so I know this is an old episode but i just found yall like 3 days ago and have been bingeing every episode. My dress was bustled up with 22 buttons i literally layed across a table so my mom and bridesmaids could flip up the main layer to button it up. My bew husband waked in and asked where i was, the entire room burst into laughter only for him to realize i was under all the material. *I had security at the reception which had permission to throw anyone into a taxi that they saw getting too screwed up. *I had kids a my wedding and reception i hired two people and created a kids corner to occupy the kids. I had mini bowling, ring toss, blow up ball pit, along with candy confetti we even brought a tv and dvd player from home and a couple kids movies...there was never a problem with the normal im bored wahwahwah. *One of the bridesmaids had a baby that was about 3 weeks. We had the 💩planned to the T. Baby was breast fed only, we made sure 30 mins before start we started the countdown she fed him, we changed him, got him in some cozy jammies, placed the baby swing right next to the front row near the moms and grandmas everyone understood dont touch the baby unless it cries lol😂. Right before we started to walk in we swaddled him and got him in the swing. It was blissfully silent the entire 45 min ceremony. Weddings are hard, divorce is horrible. But the day was fun
if i was alejandra i would be so mad about the mink coat! coats dont last forever, they wear out with use. if her step grandmother is wearing it a lot it may be in a much worse condition by the time alejandra receives it
As someone who works in a bridal shop, I find that the more people a bride brings with her to her appointment, the more complicated it becomes with multiple opinions, pushy family members, emotions running high, etc. keeping your group smaller (3 people of less) tends to work out better for both the bride and the stylist!
why not ask the mom if you BOTH can take the wedding dress to a bridal shop and get something as similar as possible, and alter the similar dress, it would be a win win situation and a little bonding moment
Hi from Indonesia! I have been binge watching the different stories & started listening to the full episodes. How i wish i could invite you to my wedding 🤣
We had a nearly kid free wedding. No kids in the ceremony and we were open about having an open bar and a party after. Everyone got a plus one. The line I set was after dinner and cake, they need to be headed out. Or the parents needed to be ok with their kids in an adult setting. We had only three kids there. This was a fight because my mother had remarried 9 months before and her new husband had an eight year old and an 11 year old. Their dad, mom's husband, would chew us out for getting rowdy/cussing/any sexual jokes/adult humor. They were so sheltered that he would pull the kids out of any school event against their christian beliefs I literally told them no kids or no kids after dinner, like all the other guests. They showed up with them anyway. The way I saw it, it was one evening of my whole life for them to just go with their mom or have a baby sitter. They left before the ceremony for other reasons. Two of our good friends got engaged and I'm current 7 months pregnant. They kept us involved in the date and some of the plans because my husband will be in the wedding. They were totally open to him not being in the wedding because we will have a toddler. I told them I will absolutely be able to handle the toddler on my own, plus, my father in law will be there too. I plan to sit at the back for the ceremony, just incase our daughter throws a fit, so I can quickly get her out before she routines the ceremony
When you guys mentioned about inviting YOU guys to our wedding, it made me happy sad 😭 I lost my friends because I moved towns and then I had to cut out one for being toxic, so I was picturing my friendless butt up in the church, I wish I had friends like you guys 😅 you guys seem so nice and funny, it's so strange to me, have I been around the wrong people?
I know this is an old episode and probably never will be seen, but in honor of Morgan & Justin's upcoming nuptials.. I work in the wedding/special event industry, and something that I have seen (that was brilliant) is a regular client's annual party, rent a video game/activity bus for all the kids. Comes with attendants, bunch of games, tvs line the walls, for the kids. They park on the property, and all the kids hang there and have a blast
Highly don’t recommend bringing a large group wedding dress shopping! I did this and was so overwhelmed and ended up just choosing a dress out of stress. Ended up regretting it and went back with just my mom and chose a dress I loved. Too many opinions is extremely stressful
Probably an unpopular opinion, but I had my wedding dress custom made. I had a say in literally everything about my dress and the matching veil. I had it preserved, which is what I think the Mom should do with her daughters dress. You can still see it and it's safe and sound. My dress will stay there unless my daughter wants to wear it as is. Size alterations would be ok, but that's it. It was my dream dress. I'd be more than happy to pay for her to have the dress of her dreams.
We had my great grandmothers fur stoles made into teddy bears. They are beautiful and amazing, this video is 5 months old so I’m sure you won’t see this. But the teddy bears were given as heirloom to her grandchildren.
My friend went all out for her wedding dress shopping. All the bridesmaids, maid of honour, mother’s. Champagne and all. We all cried when she found “the one”.
I invited my maid of honor and my mom to go wedding shopping with me. It was sweet and fun but my maid of honor got so drunk during it. She got very direct about her opinions on dresses, even talking about my body when it was unwarranted. The bridal consultant had to check on me because of how awkward she could tell I was. Afterward, she was so drunk she was throwing up all night. I’d say just be careful who you bring even if it’s someone important in your life, because their actions might taint the experience.
It takes a lot of time to get altered typically because there’s multiple dresses being altered at the same time so there’s usually a ten week turn around for that reason.
Me looking to the general direction of my stepmom(in another room) saying I would not bring you dress shopping and kissed the air. Bc that woman is a narcissist and have treated me like ass. I don’t have a good relationship with her nor would I want her there just for her to comment how ugly/fat/unflattering something is. I hear that everyday. Have heard it since I was 5.
Thank god you’re not going to invite her! Someone who treats you like that does not deserve to be included in any part of your happy experience! Dress shopping is stressful enough as it is, no need to add an unsupportive toxic B to it.
I’ve thought about hiring a few wedding day nannies for my future weddings because of all the kids I have in my life but I realized that’s not my job, especially not on my wedding day. I have been a wedding day nanny twice, once hired by the bride to watch her son/ringbearer and the other time by the flower girl’s parents to watch the girls in their hotel room after the ceremony. Both settings were NOT kid-friendly and yet so many kids - how inconsiderate of the happy couple to bring your kids when they specifically ask not to and even send the flower girl and ringbearer home?! Also it’s inconsiderate to all of the parents who hired babysitters for a kid-free evening. It sucks because you don’t want the kids to ruin the vibe, but don’t want the parents to go home, though if they’re disrespectful on your big day maybe you do. Idk, I’ll probably be a total bridezilla or say “eff it, I warned them” 😂
I understand the "dynamic" family that you're talking about. My "dad" disowned me because I had my mom and stepdad walk me down the aisle even though I had previously talked to him about being in a different part of the ceremony that he had agreed to. My dad wouldn't even drive an hour to be there as a guest, but my biological father made a 10-hour drive to be a just a guest.
Same like weddings are super adult events, some can plan a play room for kids but it’s kids and like I dunno if I was a kid I wouldn’t wanna go to a wedding Teens and mature kids are different though. And babies are a BIG NO. Since it’s a BABY. Baby plus fancy dress and having to be quite for a long time is well not a thing
For dress alterations, it’s not so much the fabric of the train as it is the beadwork on the rest of the dress. Most dresses have designs made to be specific worn over certain parts of the body or have designs that can go right to the seems, so the beading has to be removed, rearranged, and reattached in some cases. Wedding dress alterations are no joke when it comes to the details.
Sepsis can come from any sort of infection. Often from toxic shock syndrome for girls using tampons. The first wedding story broke my heart. The mom is not the ahole. It’s totally understandable not letting anyone ever wear her dead daughters wedding dress that she never got to wear. Ugh my heart
Ok, so kid friendly weddings are possible and can be fun for both adults and kids. My aunt had a child entertainer who did games and such for the kids. Her daughter at the time was 2 and was part of the ceremony and all but her childminder was there and looked after her. Also, who the hell wants to be a bridesmaid so soon after giving birth??
The stepdaughter in the first story is so awful and manipulative. WTF. And the husband… why disrespect your SO’s feelings that way. He wasn’t even related to the dead daughter, why can’t he understand that he can’t necessarily relate to his wife’s feelings
The mink coat story triggered me hard. My mom did this with a gold necklace that she gave to my brother’s wife right in front of me. My sister in law said she can’t take it, and why not give it to me, to which my mom quickly said “no, she doesn’t wear gold” (I do but it’s whatever, we don’t see each other much anyway). Goes to show how some parents just don’t care
I think it should also be understood that brides keep their wedding dresses. Not only would the step daughter wear it, but she would probably try to keep it forever. It would change the meaning and feeling for the mom about the dress too I think. I would never give it up. It's not a typical item to be reused. It doesn't HAVE to be repurposed. The sister and dad are so inconsiderate.
Wedding objections started with the Catholic Church in the 12th century (not in the south). It was to ensure that it was a legal marriage (like if the person was already married, family, underage) . This is why they were also publicly announced; to give anyone time to come forward before the ceremony actually took place. Objecting in a wedding can cause it to be suspended pending further investigation. If it is something legit the wedding could be cancelled/postponed. If it was because the objector had an emotional context (in love with the bride, hurt that they weren’t involved in the ceremony etc) the wedding would more likely just be delayed for a few minutes and then move on. Nowadays, this is mostly obsolete as these things are done when you file for a license to marry.
@@cassninetyfour1238 that’s a great idea! I’m glad they gave you an option. If I were doing the ceremony and it came up, I’d just pull them aside have a conversation. It would be up to the bride and groom if it needed to be canceled or not.
I don't mean this in a mean way, I wish some of you guests would stop talking about themselves so much. Most of the podcast's are taken up with them talking about themselves, which is okay sometimes, but some of them just go off about themselves and I have to constantly fast-forward thro their conversations about who they want to invite to their weddings.
I remembered going to one wedding and one of the bridesmaids' said her husband wished they did a courthouse wedding instead of throwing a "party for other people" for certain families they didn't really get along with 😬 that really made me really feel better about doing a courthouse wedding before my deployment, but I still want a "real" wedding to certain extent.
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Imagine the fiancé finding out that someone walked down the aisle in his late wife’s dress. That’s just heartbreaking for him, he didn’t want to see anyone else but her in that.
This dress argument... where is the dead daughters fiancé in all of this??? I’m almost sure he would come to the moms defense
Agreed! He would be a good one to have keep the dress safe until the drama blows over.
That's where she should've stored it for safe keeping. He wouldn't let them have it.
Or how heartbroken would the mom be to see all the changes she made to it, if she agreed!
@@Priceless_Paige THIS. It reminds me of that scene in 27 dresses where the main character's sister completely reshapes their dead mother's wedding dress that the main character was planning on wearing for HER wedding. It makes me so angry
Right?! I feel horrible for the mom trying to defend her decision all on her own. She has every right to say no. I would absolutely say no if I was in her situation.
matron of honor= maid of honor who is married; maid of honor typically refers to someone still "single"/unmarried :)
Thank you!!! This is the first time we’ve ever heard matron 😂 just sticking to the MoH abbreviation from now on
@@TwoHotTakes no prob haha and btw im really loving this podcast!! keep it up :))
i would rather not be in the wedding than b referred to as matron
Oh, you learn something new every day
Never heard matron before either
Y’all really making me want to plan my wedding ahead of time to make sure none of these stories play out
The woman who lost her daughter needs a divorce in my opinion. It’s not like she’s been married to this girls dad since his daughter was 3 or very young and both girls were raised as sisters. That would be a similar relationship but his daughter was an adult when she met her current husband.
@@isabellaloignon5302 my parents have been married 32 years. I take marriage very seriously but I do think there are lines. Disrespecting your wife’s feelings and mourning over her dead daughter is
Manipulative and could potentially be a sign of emotional abuse. OP was clear about her feelings and her spouse did nothing to validate her grief and engaged in emotionally devastating behavior.
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I understand that but this is… not a small thing. This is her dead daughters dress. Thay means so much to her
@@isabellaloignon5302 This isn't an argument, this man is trying to emotionally manipulate his wife, on the back of her dead daughter. He's completely disreguarding her feelings, trying to guilt and manipulate her. If you really think this is an angrument that she should just forget about and get over it, Well I question the state of your upbringing, and really hope you never get married. Not for your partners sake, but or your own, if you can't even see the red flags here.
You know it would be a sweet sentiment if they grew up as sisters, but she was the age of graduating college when she met the step mom and her step sister and we’re only sisters for a couple months at best.
I can't believe they would even think her daughters dress would be an option. Yes in her honor, maybe, but losing a child is something a parent should never go through. Don't take the last memory she shared with her daughter and make her feel guilty for saying no. Stand in her shoes for one minute with losing your child and your opinion would 100% change.
I have been a babysitter for a wedding before and honestly the kids will enjoy hanging out, going to the pool, watching movies much more than the reception or anything like it.
i went to 1 weeding as a kid and it was BOOOOORING, would 100% preferred being anywhere else
The only podcast where I actually enjoy watching the full lengths episodes. Love you guys
Thank you for your support ❤️ so happy to have you!
My cousin brought her baby to my sister’s wedding, and the baby cried ALL the way during her vows. And I, at 16, was so pissed that no one did anything. Let alone my cousin have the decency to leave the sanctuary & go to the “crying room,” which was soundproofed & equipped with a window and speakers, so she would have been able to see & hear (and so would the rest of us).
The good thing though is that my sister didn’t even notice, she was so caught up in her vows. Awww!
But yeah, it’s been 21 years and I’m still not over it, HA. Oh- and said baby is getting married this summer! I (jokingly) to my mom, “I hope she doesn’t have a guest who brings a baby that cries during *her vows!” LMAO
What a shame it would be if someone had an emergency and needed you to babysit that day........👀
Teens in the family should have a choice if they want to baby sit or not. Teens want to be a part of the family not just forced into watching crying kids!
I have a feeling karma is on its way LMAO!!! 😅😂
@@zahra71908 it's not the crying babies fault lol it's the moms fault for not having the brain to understand the situation and get up to go to the room that is designated for this exact situation 😅 crazy people lol
@@xviciouso yeah 21 years ago things like friends or babysitting services weren't a thing :)
Love how you post both the long episode and the shorter stories. Means I can fit you guys into any free time I have!
About the second story, in Italy we have something called “animatori” it’s a group of people, usually in their 20s, who get hired to entertain kids during weddings or other ceremonies. They get a table and help them eat, tell them stories, make them dance, stuff like this or sometimes they even get a different room right by where the adults are celebrating and they make a lot of activities like draw, play games, puppet shows, you name it. It’s a compromise, adult have fun and don’t have to worry about their kids at home, they can just go check on their kids and make sure everything is ok and go back to celebrate
In Mexico I’ve seen the exactly same thing but usually only wealthy couples are who got them in their wedding since it’s a pretty decent amount of money you have to pay and we’re not used to that expenses hehe. It’s pretty normal here have babies and kids in weddings, and if they’re crying, the dad or mom just go out with them to not disturb the ceremony but sometimes some parents are too careless to do that and just let the baby cry, we can just look at them with a grin so they feel pressured or a relative just talk with them to calm the kid 😩😩
I have friends who's parents are pediatricians and for their wedding they hired a bunch of doctors in training for pediatrics to entertain all the kids in a suite at the hotel they were getting married at, the kids were all accessible, safe, and had a fun time. I loved that idea.
I have to say that it is not being selfish to not want kids at your wedding. You are literally paying, organizing and getting a lot of stress for YOUR day. Be respectfull of the laws that the event is having and don't bring kids to a place that is not for kids, It's literally the event of the couple not of the other families.
EXACTLY!!! I adore babies/kiddos (mama of 3) and I would NEVER be offended by not wanting kids at a wedding... That's so beyond understandable. Kids do not tend to handle overstimulating activities well and more than likely will be acting out more than usual. The sister in this story is being SO disrespectful!
I heard that if someone does say I object, you can’t get married that day. So if someone jokingly said I object then everything you put into the wedding goes down the drain. I heard someone did that to their wife as a joke at the alter and they couldn’t get married then and there💀 I can’t imagine having to spend to much money for someone to joke and do this.
uhm well, not not in Quebec, Canada... Unless you bring a case to court to object, your objection means nothing. The notary will prpably want to see why they objected and do verification if needed but the wedding should be able to go on in the next minutes / hours (if really serious reason but foun to be untrue)
Yea I’ve heard this is true in America. Legally the officiant can’t continue. There was a whole Reddit story about it happening and all the money they spent for the venue and everything was then just for a party because they couldn’t get married
Morgan and Alejandra sitting in front of a computer and speculating on the history of objecting at weddings rather than looking it up is a whole….something.
I had an aunt who ended up with sepsis because of a tooth infection. So what ended up happening was she didn't even know that there was an infection normally the tooth was perfectly fine. We don't even know how this developed.
One day my uncle goes in to wake her up because she stayed in bed a little bit longer than him which was normal. And she wasn't moving. As he went to shrug her a little harder on her shoulders he noticed that on her pillow there was some blood coming out of her mouth. They took her to the hospital. They got her conscious again but essentially there was an abscess underneath her tooth that eventually ruptured and got into her bloodstream. She was feeling a little nauseous the day before but nothing major. They believe that's when it ruptured but it took time to get more into the system and blood.
Took her over 6 months to fully recover and honestly if my uncle had not gone back and checked on her and had just gone to work thinking she was sleeping in she would have died that day. There are times where it can just kind of come out of nowhere but in most cases you already have a wound that you're fighting off and trying to get cleaned out and then it becomes septic
So happy to hear your aunt did recover!! Sepsis can be such a sneaky yet serious thing. It’s quite easy surprisingly and nothing to mess with.
Dear lord it's stuff like this that terrifies me so much, how much your life can change due to a health issue in an INSTANT. Haunts me everyday 😭
This triggered my anxiety so hard
I'm so scared now. Glad your aunt is fine now
I’m inviting you both to my wedding omg
SAME please lmfao
We are in!!
PLEASE! 🙏🏼♥️
This reminds me of 27 Dresses when the little sister takes their mothers wedding dress and completely alters it to wear it despite the older sister wanting it for her own wedding one day.
I flipped to what she did to that dress! If she didn't like the dress, get a new one, not destory her mothers dress
Sounds like step daughter is jealous of her dad marrying again. She picked Lauren's dress as a way to start an argument. Maybe to ensure that her stepmother is not at the wedding
When I was planning my wedding, I found out this "nanny´s for events" that take care of babies and kids, bring things for them to play and need just a little bit of space. It was awesome!
I’m guessing that the wedding dress in the first story is worth a lot of money. A lot. Otherwise she would just go get her own - especially if she plans on changing it.
I think so too. Why are they fighting SO hard about it.
I was hired as a baby sitter/entertainer for a wedding once and it worked amazing bc the kids were with me in a whole separate room.
The best comment that I heard about weddings was from my therapist and she said to think of the wedding as the beginning of your marriage versus the end of your non-married life.
It really helped put things in perspective AND it helps limit depression after the wedding. Its improved my marriage and made the day less stressful because the "its the best day of your life" narrative can be really toxic and make you more stressed than necessary.
I never went dress shopping for my wedding. I wanted something VERY specific and I knew I wouldn’t be able to find it locally so I had it made at a local dressmaker. It was an awesome experience, it took a long time though. It was a 4-5 month process and really gave me an appreciation for my wedding dress.
My cousin had a 21+ wedding I was 20 I didn’t get invited, she didn’t even invite her teenage nieces. My issue was they still had children at the ceremony as flower girl and ring bearer.
Flower girl and ring bearer are different and typically only stay for the ceremony and pictures. I understand your frudtration but they probably wanted to get lit without worrying about liability issues
The recommendation is to not bring too many ppl cause it gets overwhelming
"sorry for all the people who love babys"
Me:👁👄👁
Hahaha I think I redeem myself in an upcoming episode! I do like kiddos they just terrify me a bit 🙈😂
There is a difference in not wanting to like babies, and wanting to hurt them. Liking babies is not a requirement for living.
With the first story, there is absolutely NO WAY I would give that dress away, especially if she wanted to change the size! Because her daughter was so close to the wedding when she passed, it’ll represent the size she was at the time, like a piece of her frozen in time ❤️
For the second story as a mother and someone who had been a bridesmaid. I could NEVER. Her dad is not in the picture and I even ask the bride which both had no problem having my mom come to include my daughter but also take care of her that day while I’m being a bridesmaid.
For dress shopping, I went with my MOH/bff, mother, grandmother, SIL/bridesmaid, and father, but not all at once. Made it less overwhelming and made it special so I could focus on the two or three people with me. Like only my dad went with me after I knew which one it was and I said “yes to the dress”. Seeing him get emotional is a favorite memory of him.
I had a child free wedding. I simply just put on the invites “adults only ~ open bar”, and it was respected for the most part, you will always have that one person that has to put in their 2 cents but ultimately it’s your big day!
Sorry, but I think the bride should uninvite her sister if she’s going to be so difficult and disrespectful 🤷🏼♀️
Agree! Fourth kid, come on. Her being a mom is more important than being a sister to her dang sister! 🙄
Every time I listen to these weddings stories I’m so glad that the weddings in my husband’s culture don’t have a bridal party. It just seems like a lot of potential drama for no reason.
ugh i desperately need an update with the dress, did they end up taking the dress?? did the husband continue to take his daughters side???
I love the content! I watch it as I do homework and I sometimes stop just to explain why I think the other person is wrong🤣🤣 I hope we get longer episodes!
Wedding dress shopping crew becomes a lot easier when people are out-of-state! I also did thrift/sale hunting for my dress at boutiques that were closing so I didn’t know when I would make the decision & therefore couldn’t plan a whole group
It sounds like the stepdaughter procrastinated and is now looking for an easy "fix" to me. Poor time management and zero consideration.
The sister is Soo in the wrong... Like for Christ sake. Take a few hours from the baby or don't be in the wedding party.
Do you have the link to the original post? I would love to go see if there's an update since April is over :)
Did you ever find the original link?
My sister was 4 when my dad and stepmum got married so they had a kid-friendly wedding. They hired a couple of nannies, served kid-friendly food at the kids table, and there was a separate room at the reception venue where they had a bunch of games and stuff so the kids had something to do when they got bored of what was happening at the reception.
My best friend got married when her baby was about 5 months old and since it was a small close knit wedding, so many different people took turns to watch the their baby so the bride and groom could have fun and get a little drunk. I loved it ❤️
Listened to yall on my morning walk!! :)) love love love!!! but in the first story the step daughter is trippin and mad me so mad for no reason
The wedding story that Ale told is insane! Mostly, I can't believe the bride went thru with it regardless of how much money was spent.
OMFG can't belive you went through the same thing I did! I just had a stalker try to break my relationship! How can people be this crazy?
The sister who wants to hold her baby, something not even mentioned is she’s only gonna be a couple weeks postpartum, she’s still going to be healing. I personally didn’t heal well and standing for long periods of time was actually super painful and not easy to do for over a month after having my child. So it might actually not even be feasible for her to be standing during the ceremony.
Alejandra, you handled your dad's situation better than me. I loved/ continue to my grandmother as she has passed and the fact that; she (only his wife) not blood and you're HIS DAUGHTER with lineage to YOUR BLOOD GRANDMOTHER coat given to his wife who didn't even meet her like Nah sis, you are better than me. I would get angry and sentimental that has an emotional connection to me it's more than just a coat.
Did the mom come back with an update, did they steal it? What happened? I feel so bad for that mom.. I hope it wasn't more pain or drama after this ❤️
I literally want to hire you two to come to my wedding and just HAVE MY BACK in case weird family shit arose AT my wedding 🙃
The only way I would EVER ask for someone else's dress is if I was extremely close with them. Like if we were basically like sisters. Besides one of the biggest most special parts of being a bride is finding that perfect dress with family.
About the first story with a wedding dress; in my culture girls who died before marriage are getting buried in the wedding dress. So from my point of view, it seems impossible to wear a dress of a girl that never got to wear it because of her death. It is a dress of the dead, it doesn't belong to anyone in this world, it belongs to the girl who never got to be a bride. Due to this the story sounds so disrespectful and wrong to me, can't even get my head around it
Oh my gosh. I get married in a few weeks and I wish I had found this account sooner to have you both there!!
46:30 I’m not even dating anyone, but I would definitely invite you both. 😂 my moms and you guys would be the best part.
my wedding is in a month and a half- think it’s too late to send them an invite?!?😂
@@kenzimu Send it!!! 😂😂 Congrats also!!
@@laurenqualseth1804 im legit gonna track down their P.o. box!😂 and thank you!!! 😊😊
Stories like these are why so many people are starting to elope or do small destination weddings.
Okay so I know this is an old episode but i just found yall like 3 days ago and have been bingeing every episode. My dress was bustled up with 22 buttons i literally layed across a table so my mom and bridesmaids could flip up the main layer to button it up. My bew husband waked in and asked where i was, the entire room burst into laughter only for him to realize i was under all the material.
*I had security at the reception which had permission to throw anyone into a taxi that they saw getting too screwed up.
*I had kids a my wedding and reception i hired two people and created a kids corner to occupy the kids. I had mini bowling, ring toss, blow up ball pit, along with candy confetti we even brought a tv and dvd player from home and a couple kids movies...there was never a problem with the normal im bored wahwahwah.
*One of the bridesmaids had a baby that was about 3 weeks. We had the 💩planned to the T. Baby was breast fed only, we made sure 30 mins before start we started the countdown she fed him, we changed him, got him in some cozy jammies, placed the baby swing right next to the front row near the moms and grandmas everyone understood dont touch the baby unless it cries lol😂. Right before we started to walk in we swaddled him and got him in the swing. It was blissfully silent the entire 45 min ceremony.
Weddings are hard, divorce is horrible. But the day was fun
if i was alejandra i would be so mad about the mink coat! coats dont last forever, they wear out with use. if her step grandmother is wearing it a lot it may be in a much worse condition by the time alejandra receives it
You guys are so funny, maid a honor as in maiden, matron means that you’re married so technically no longer a maiden
As someone who works in a bridal shop, I find that the more people a bride brings with her to her appointment, the more complicated it becomes with multiple opinions, pushy family members, emotions running high, etc. keeping your group smaller (3 people of less) tends to work out better for both the bride and the stylist!
Lol them says ‘it’ has me dyingggg
why not ask the mom if you BOTH can take the wedding dress to a bridal shop and get something as similar as possible, and alter the similar dress, it would be a win win situation and a little bonding moment
I love that Alejandra doesn’t know much about weddings! This is how I was when I got married 😂😂 glad I’m not the only one. ❤
I will literally invite you guys to my wedding next summer!! I need y'all to hype everybody up to dance 😂 (perk: I'm in the Midwest)
I only brought my mom and sister wedding dress shopping and I picked out my dress 3 days before the wedding lol
Omg....I have 4 sisters, my mom, grandma, stepmom, mil, sil, friends.....holy moly...that’s a whole entourage. 😶😅
Hahaha the part where you guys were like if you want two fun people to come to your wedding 😜. I’ll literally invite you in 5 years time 😂
Hi from Indonesia! I have been binge watching the different stories & started listening to the full episodes. How i wish i could invite you to my wedding 🤣
We had a nearly kid free wedding. No kids in the ceremony and we were open about having an open bar and a party after. Everyone got a plus one. The line I set was after dinner and cake, they need to be headed out. Or the parents needed to be ok with their kids in an adult setting. We had only three kids there. This was a fight because my mother had remarried 9 months before and her new husband had an eight year old and an 11 year old. Their dad, mom's husband, would chew us out for getting rowdy/cussing/any sexual jokes/adult humor. They were so sheltered that he would pull the kids out of any school event against their christian beliefs I literally told them no kids or no kids after dinner, like all the other guests. They showed up with them anyway. The way I saw it, it was one evening of my whole life for them to just go with their mom or have a baby sitter. They left before the ceremony for other reasons.
Two of our good friends got engaged and I'm current 7 months pregnant. They kept us involved in the date and some of the plans because my husband will be in the wedding. They were totally open to him not being in the wedding because we will have a toddler. I told them I will absolutely be able to handle the toddler on my own, plus, my father in law will be there too. I plan to sit at the back for the ceremony, just incase our daughter throws a fit, so I can quickly get her out before she routines the ceremony
Maybe they should ask the fiancé how he felt
When you guys mentioned about inviting YOU guys to our wedding, it made me happy sad 😭 I lost my friends because I moved towns and then I had to cut out one for being toxic, so I was picturing my friendless butt up in the church, I wish I had friends like you guys 😅 you guys seem so nice and funny, it's so strange to me, have I been around the wrong people?
I know this is an old episode and probably never will be seen, but in honor of Morgan & Justin's upcoming nuptials.. I work in the wedding/special event industry, and something that I have seen (that was brilliant) is a regular client's annual party, rent a video game/activity bus for all the kids. Comes with attendants, bunch of games, tvs line the walls, for the kids. They park on the property, and all the kids hang there and have a blast
I brought my mom and my Sister in law to my dress shopping :) my MIL lived across state or else she definitely would have been there too!
Highly don’t recommend bringing a large group wedding dress shopping! I did this and was so overwhelmed and ended up just choosing a dress out of stress. Ended up regretting it and went back with just my mom and chose a dress I loved. Too many opinions is extremely stressful
Even as a mother of 5 I still say a maid of honor or even a brides maid should not be holding the baby during the ceremony
Probably an unpopular opinion, but I had my wedding dress custom made. I had a say in literally everything about my dress and the matching veil.
I had it preserved, which is what I think the Mom should do with her daughters dress. You can still see it and it's safe and sound. My dress will stay there unless my daughter wants to wear it as is. Size alterations would be ok, but that's it. It was my dream dress. I'd be more than happy to pay for her to have the dress of her dreams.
We had my great grandmothers fur stoles made into teddy bears. They are beautiful and amazing, this video is 5 months old so I’m sure you won’t see this. But the teddy bears were given as heirloom to her grandchildren.
I’m sorry, but Alejandra’s dad was so wrong for giving his mother in law his moms fur coat and not Alejandra, even if it’s “coming back to her later”
And you never know what this mil could do to that coat. She could ruin it and throw it away, like what the hell
My friend went all out for her wedding dress shopping. All the bridesmaids, maid of honour, mother’s. Champagne and all. We all cried when she found “the one”.
I invited my maid of honor and my mom to go wedding shopping with me. It was sweet and fun but my maid of honor got so drunk during it. She got very direct about her opinions on dresses, even talking about my body when it was unwarranted. The bridal consultant had to check on me because of how awkward she could tell I was. Afterward, she was so drunk she was throwing up all night. I’d say just be careful who you bring even if it’s someone important in your life, because their actions might taint the experience.
It takes a lot of time to get altered typically because there’s multiple dresses being altered at the same time so there’s usually a ten week turn around for that reason.
Me looking to the general direction of my stepmom(in another room) saying I would not bring you dress shopping and kissed the air. Bc that woman is a narcissist and have treated me like ass. I don’t have a good relationship with her nor would I want her there just for her to comment how ugly/fat/unflattering something is. I hear that everyday. Have heard it since I was 5.
Thank god you’re not going to invite her! Someone who treats you like that does not deserve to be included in any part of your happy experience! Dress shopping is stressful enough as it is, no need to add an unsupportive toxic B to it.
Yep leave her ass at home!
Catching this a year later, while I'm planning my wedding.
I want Morgan to give a speech and Alejandra to teach me how to dance at my wedding :)
wow we accept :') Tysm
I’ve thought about hiring a few wedding day nannies for my future weddings because of all the kids I have in my life but I realized that’s not my job, especially not on my wedding day. I have been a wedding day nanny twice, once hired by the bride to watch her son/ringbearer and the other time by the flower girl’s parents to watch the girls in their hotel room after the ceremony. Both settings were NOT kid-friendly and yet so many kids - how inconsiderate of the happy couple to bring your kids when they specifically ask not to and even send the flower girl and ringbearer home?! Also it’s inconsiderate to all of the parents who hired babysitters for a kid-free evening. It sucks because you don’t want the kids to ruin the vibe, but don’t want the parents to go home, though if they’re disrespectful on your big day maybe you do. Idk, I’ll probably be a total bridezilla or say “eff it, I warned them” 😂
Seeing the coat in the box and realizing what it was: 👁👄👁 WTF!!! NO!!!
I understand the "dynamic" family that you're talking about. My "dad" disowned me because I had my mom and stepdad walk me down the aisle even though I had previously talked to him about being in a different part of the ceremony that he had agreed to. My dad wouldn't even drive an hour to be there as a guest, but my biological father made a 10-hour drive to be a just a guest.
I saw this on your TikTok. I’m so glad I’m seeing the full thing
YES i agree with NO CHILDREN at weddings‼️‼️
Same like weddings are super adult events, some can plan a play room for kids but it’s kids and like I dunno if I was a kid I wouldn’t wanna go to a wedding
Teens and mature kids are different though. And babies are a BIG NO. Since it’s a BABY. Baby plus fancy dress and having to be quite for a long time is well not a thing
For dress alterations, it’s not so much the fabric of the train as it is the beadwork on the rest of the dress. Most dresses have designs made to be specific worn over certain parts of the body or have designs that can go right to the seems, so the beading has to be removed, rearranged, and reattached in some cases. Wedding dress alterations are no joke when it comes to the details.
Sepsis can come from any sort of infection. Often from toxic shock syndrome for girls using tampons. The first wedding story broke my heart. The mom is not the ahole. It’s totally understandable not letting anyone ever wear her dead daughters wedding dress that she never got to wear. Ugh my heart
Ok, so kid friendly weddings are possible and can be fun for both adults and kids. My aunt had a child entertainer who did games and such for the kids. Her daughter at the time was 2 and was part of the ceremony and all but her childminder was there and looked after her. Also, who the hell wants to be a bridesmaid so soon after giving birth??
I want to be your friends lol & you can obv come to the wedding.
Alex from call her daddy told that exact same story about the girl who used the wedding's instagram hashtag!
Who was it ?
@@dolma14 she kept the person anonymous as well
Brianna Ehland and Cory Perlson.. it was on pagesix! Groom threatened to sue the mistress after that lol smh
The stepdaughter in the first story is so awful and manipulative. WTF. And the husband… why disrespect your SO’s feelings that way. He wasn’t even related to the dead daughter, why can’t he understand that he can’t necessarily relate to his wife’s feelings
My wedding dress alterations took maybe 3 weeks, it’s the manufacturing of a dress that takes forever, especially now
The mink coat story triggered me hard. My mom did this with a gold necklace that she gave to my brother’s wife right in front of me. My sister in law said she can’t take it, and why not give it to me, to which my mom quickly said “no, she doesn’t wear gold” (I do but it’s whatever, we don’t see each other much anyway). Goes to show how some parents just don’t care
OMGGG i know exactly who the high profile couple is that Alejandra brings up, because I remember seeing news articles!
I think it should also be understood that brides keep their wedding dresses. Not only would the step daughter wear it, but she would probably try to keep it forever. It would change the meaning and feeling for the mom about the dress too I think. I would never give it up. It's not a typical item to be reused. It doesn't HAVE to be repurposed. The sister and dad are so inconsiderate.
matron of honor=Married, maid of honor= Not Married
Wedding objections started with the Catholic Church in the 12th century (not in the south). It was to ensure that it was a legal marriage (like if the person was already married, family, underage) . This is why they were also publicly announced; to give anyone time to come forward before the ceremony actually took place. Objecting in a wedding can cause it to be suspended pending further investigation. If it is something legit the wedding could be cancelled/postponed. If it was because the objector had an emotional context (in love with the bride, hurt that they weren’t involved in the ceremony etc) the wedding would more likely just be delayed for a few minutes and then move on. Nowadays, this is mostly obsolete as these things are done when you file for a license to marry.
Yeah it's optional now in ceremonies, our commissioner asked us if we wanted it in our ceremony and we said no 🥰
@@cassninetyfour1238 that’s a great idea! I’m glad they gave you an option.
If I were doing the ceremony and it came up, I’d just pull them aside have a conversation. It would be up to the bride and groom if it needed to be canceled or not.
Where do I send the wedding invite ?😂
I don't mean this in a mean way, I wish some of you guests would stop talking about themselves so much. Most of the podcast's are taken up with them talking about themselves, which is okay sometimes, but some of them just go off about themselves and I have to constantly fast-forward thro their conversations about who they want to invite to their weddings.
I remembered going to one wedding and one of the bridesmaids' said her husband wished they did a courthouse wedding instead of throwing a "party for other people" for certain families they didn't really get along with 😬 that really made me really feel better about doing a courthouse wedding before my deployment, but I still want a "real" wedding to certain extent.