I’m disabled and I just wanted to let you guys know that most disabled people won’t mind if you use the term disabled! Most of us actually prefer disabled over differently abled! Of course this won’t be true for every disabled person on the planet but I have talked to a ton of disabled people in my lifetime and disabled is the term we all have preferred I’m not trying to be rude or anything I just wanted to let y’all know that disabled isn’t a bad term and it is more than okay to use it!
I know where I live it's illegal to abuse disabled individuals. If I was the brother I would have reported the parents. They are toxic and the disabled brother deserves better. And in most countries there are options of having caretakers. Both brothers should go no contact with parents
About the mother with the white dress: if she's really a narcissist she wouldn't have changed if someone called her out on it. She knew what she was doing and she did it on purpose to get attention. The wine bottle move was honestly the best thing the daughter could've done because a narcissist will always try to save face and it obviously worked. I applaud the daughter honestly
As a daughter and a used to be scapegoat of a mother with narcissistic tendencies, I am 100% with the daughter. She had to dump the wine on her poor excuse of a mother.
Agree with what you’re saying but I’m confused. They won’t change even if called out because they like the attention but they also always want to save face ? Is that not contradictory, can someone explain ?
Kinda irritating that she was like “why would you ever throw wine on someone”. She wore a wedding dress to someone else’s wedding. That has to be humiliating for the bride. It’s only right that she be humiliated as well 🤷🏽♀️
Oh yea i'm much more spiteful than that. I don't have a bad relationship with my bfs mom, but if she did that, I would go irritate. Narcs don't just sit there and listen to your logic either, they push and push until you break, and that's what MIL did.
The guy who is in the wheelchair, why did he get accused for “ruining a 15yr friendship” but his ex who left him in HIS time of need didn’t get accused of ruining the friendship?! Double standards 🙄 I’m so glad his brother didn’t take him to the wedding, not the asshole
Adams family was so worried about ruining a 15 year old friendship but not their relationship with their sons? Really shows were their loyalty stands and what their priorities are 😒 that really got my bpm up lol
The Prank story just made me so mad. I am not someone you can play a prank on. This girl deserves so much more. I think she dodged a bullet there with that toxic family and friends.
Samw, wouldnt marry him anymore. Like, I get that you wanna do a funny joke from time to time or little pranks. Like some pranks are funny and all. But if you do pranks like in this situation, that just screams childish to me. And not in a good way. You think thats funny? Ruining my big day? Sorry, you dont deserve me and can look for a new bride. Hell no
And if you wanted to do something funny, make it a HAPPY prank! Prank her with a secret photographer, a friend who said they couldn’t come magically shows up, do something to compound the joy not take it away
As for the mom wearing white - it doesn’t sound like if she would have pulled her aside and told/asked her to change she would have agreed. She most likely would have argued and made a scene and made everyone else to be the bad guy. You can’t reason with crazy. Nuclear really was the most effective option.
Fr she’s a 58 year old woman she should know better anyways 😩 it’s a wedding , her sons wedding at that, I would’ve dunked the entire bottle on her and more smh 😭
exactly. narcs don't listen to reason. the narc mom wore the dress SPECIFICALLY to start drama, to get someone to confront her so she could start a screaming tantrum, and the daughter knew that going nuclear would embarrass narc mom enough she'd bow out and change. bride and groom were both completely okay with it, and it avoided mom making a massive scene and ruining the entire wedding. i have to wonder if the hosts have never dealt with narcs, because a lot of the things they were saying clued me in.
Gonna throw this out for reassurance: it’s not a hard and fast rule that “anyone who knows anything about weddings knows that if there’s an objection then the wedding can’t continue”. I was married by an Anglican priest and if he ever had an objection he would pull that person aside to a private room and ask them for a legal reason the couple can’t get married. If there’s no legal reason, he will then escort the person out if necessary and the wedding continues on. (Didn’t happen at my wedding but that was his procedure)
I’m in Alberta, Canada. Our officiant told us the wedding can’t continue, it’s the law. It needs to wait a certain time after the objection. But, you don’t have to include it in your ceremony.
The mother who went to her daughter's ex-boyfriend's wedding is simply WOW. It is more than clear that he cheated on her with the girl he married! How can parents do this to their children? I mean, you have to be there for your daughter, comfort her and help her get over it! Don't go to the bastard's wedding! GODS 🤦♂️♾
@@cloudysunsets Her moms just toxic. I know how that is. My moms like that too. I deal with depression and social anxiety and my mom thinks its just a face. She always goes like "Yeah I know you are depressed and all but why are you crying over small things? Why arent you just happy? Why dont you just talk to people?" She literally doesnt understamd how depression works. So maybe her mom is the same. Thats why she was like "Yeah she takes meds because she is depressed but everyone is like that after a break up right?"
Honestly so upsetting! When I told my mum me and an ex broke up she blocked him on all social media, blocked his number and focused on me. Tbf it was also an abusive relationship which she didn't find out about until we broke up, but still! I expect loyalty, love and compassion from my mother..
Right, there is a reason she didn't disclose the reason for the break up to her own mother. My guess would be a lack of trust, wonder why! What a 🗑 mom.
That objection prank would be so humiliating. I can’t imagine how that must have felt to the bride- first in the moment of confusion and shock and then finding out it was a prank and her husband and his best friend respected her so little that they felt like pranking her on their most special day in front of everyone they love was okay and would be funny. Literally bye, never want to see you again.
That story with the guy in the wheelchair just broke my heart. I can't imagine being an adult and completely dependent on my parents again and then they literally use this situation to control me. I mean my parents would hopefully never do that but it must be so horrible. The sibling was amazing though for being respectful of the brothers choice.
Adam's parents are insanely selfish. He would have to watch his ex fiance walking down the aisle to marry another man, which could've been him if he didn't get in an accident?? :( that's so heartbreaking! Also, at the beginning of the story you said he was disabled from neck down.
With the prank one, I wouldn’t be able to go through with the rest of it either I’d be in tears if someone did that at my wedding and no way would I allow that to be swept under the rug if my partner and his mate organised that :/
Love you two, love this episode, just here to remind you (as a disabled person) that disabled isn't a bad word and that saying differently abled can make being disabled seen as a bad thing
I learned differently abled from a group of people in grad school that were disabled and wanted to be referred to in that way. Language is so personal, but see that disabled is the common consensus.
Make sure to insulate that barn if you make it a venue, I went to a barn wedding in Minnesota in October and it was 30 degrees in that barn and snowing outside
The guy who pulled his objection prank at the wedding and cause all that 16000k to essentially be spent for a wedding that couldn't happen anymore! I would call it off with my fiance for having such a friend and making that idea especially after the amount of effort put into it in the amount of overtime work etc. Then I would civil sue them not just for the $16,000 but also for emotional damages distress and wasted time planning a wedding. I would go to a lawyer and see what I could sue the hell out of these people for I don't care if they ever actually paid it I just want it to be in the court records what an asshole this man is. Because court records are public so someone could look them up hopefully his next wife and see what he did
I’m only 19 but and I do have a good relationship with my boyfriends mom, but that said, if someone made those remarks, treated me that way, treated her daughter that way, and wore not only white, but a floor length white dress I definitely wouldn’t mind if someone poured wine on her 😌
Plus, it also depends on the bride. Like, my sister would probably marry in blscl so she wouldnt give a damn if anyone wore white. She probably wouldnt care if anyone wore black either as long as its not a dress similar to hers. I wouldnt be ok with someone wearing white at my wedding. At all. So if you wanna wear white, or only have a white dress and no money for a new one or whatever reason you have, just ask if its ok. If the bride says no, then thats it. If she says yes, good for you!
Same, though. I don't even have to know the bride. If she tells me that's happening and needs it to stop, I'd be like, "I got you," and the wine would fly. Then bam, you made a friend for life if you didn't know the bride well enough. 😂
Story 1: 7:30 (daughter's ex's wedding) Story 2: 15:30 (objection prank) Story 3: 26:53 (helped brother in wheelchair skip ex's wedding) Story 4: 40:33 (wine on mom) Also, who else wanted the gent in 3 and the lady in 4 to get together...
The last one reminded me of Ross and Monica from Friends and how Ross was always the golden child and Monica was constantly criticized. Such a petty situation
my rules with wedding attire (what i would wear to someone else’s wedding) are: -no white -no black -i check what colour the bridesmaids are wearing with the bride, and then avoid that colour -nothing to bright/ flashy, so you don’t outshine the bride my favourite dresses i have for weddings are sage green dresses and blush pink dresses, because they look absolutely gorgeous, and also blend into the background a bit more
@@kt3255wearing black to a wedding usually means you don’t believe in the wedding or and hope it will break I’ve heard. Since it’s funeral color. However ettiket might have changed 😅
I had a VERY cost efficient wedding (buying second hand dress, making my decor at home, MIL made the cake, no bridesmaids/groomsmen) and even then it was still easily 10k in total lol. Weddings are definitely pricey- every small thing adds up so fast
My wedding is about 10k as well. I just bought a second hand wedding dress from goodwill for $30! I can’t imagine spending tens of thousands of dollars for one day.
Mine was $800. I made my dress out of second hand curtains, decorations were wildflowers and I made fairy houses out of cardboard, and we served picnic food in picnic baskets. Our wedding bands are stainless steel, and we rented a park for the whole affair. The most pricy thing was the officiant.
Shout out to Adam and his brother, he stood up for him and did something that made him happy. The parents really tried to control their son because he can't walk and his brother stood up for him, good on them for standing against the parents
As someone who had a surprise period on her wedding day… the comment of planning ur wedding around your cycle is something to consider especially if you are prone to having ur monthly without any warning at times. I cried so hard when I realized I bled through my dress. Thankfully the owners of the venue acted fast and took my dress and cleaned it for me as I cried in the bathroom stunned at the fact it happened to begin with. To this day there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for that woman, I lost my mom to cancer before I could get married so I didn’t have my parents at my wedding and that act alone was such a monumental moment. She got the stain completely out, saving my wedding dress so that I could cherish it for a lifetime without the tragic reminder I ruined my own dress.
As a disabled person, I beg you not to use the phrase “differently abled”. Not unless a disabled person tells you to refer to them specifically that way. The disabled community as a whole prefers that you just call us disabled. The phrase “differently abled” was made by abled bodied people who thought that being disabled was such a bad, shameful thing that they needed to force a new more acceptable label on us. That mentality is ableist and is so harmful to us. Disabled is what we literally are, and to treat the word “disabled” like it’s something bad, shameful, and dirty is treating us like we’re bad, shameful, and dirty. I know you mean well and are just misinformed, so I hope from now on you quit using this harmful phrase. “Wheelchair bound” is another bad one but I know you were just repeating the story. The best term is wheelchair user. I use a wheelchair, I’m not bound to it. Just like I wear glasses, I’m not bound to them.
I agree with this for the most part (I am also disabled) but it is important to understand that some people actually ARE wheelchair bound. I think wheelchair bound is a tricky term to use because unless you know the person you don’t know if they are wheelchair bound but I do believe it is important to know that wheelchair bound can be the correct term to use depending on the person!
@@sugarcookie312 thanks for pointing that out. I just know that as a wheelchair user I dislike “wheelchair bound” and the other wheelchair users I’ve met feel the same, including people who are full time wheelchair users. But I guess you’re right, everyone is different and there might be some people out there who prefer referring to themselves as “wheelchair bound” and we should always respect that. I apologize.
@@UnguardedAngel I just feel like wheelchair bound is a term more widely used and less despised. Like I know I got uncomfortable when I heard them say differently abled even though I knew they meant absolutely no harm by it.
@@sugarcookie312 your opinion is totally valid. I just personally feel very uncomfortable with “wheelchair bound” and I know a lot of others do, too. I deal with a lot of ablism for using a wheelchair and people act like the wheelchair is chaining us down, when it’s actually the thing giving us some freedom back. So I guess this is our way of dealing with some of that ablism towards using wheelchairs. Plus we find it weird that it’s the only device to accommodate a disability that people say you’re “bound” to and that doesn’t feel right, especially when combined with how much ablism we face specifically just for using a wheelchair. Like my own family tried to stop me from getting one even though I was sick of being bedridden and stuck inside. I could talk all day about this but I just hope you get that we have valid reasons for being uncomfortable with “wheelchair bound” and I hope that you can respect that. I shouldn’t have forced my preference on anyone else, though. I was just under the impression that all wheelchair users felt this way but I feel bad about my mistake. I’m very sorry. I ask that everyone respect the terms that the individual wants to be referred to as.
@@UnguardedAngel yeah no absolutely! I wasn’t trying to say that your feelings about the term weren’t valid I was just trying to say that there are still people who use the term wheelchair bound and that it’s a little different from using the term differently abled because I’ve never met a disabled person that didn’t hate that term. I use a wheelchair as well most of the time which is the only reason I am speaking on the use of the term wheelchair bound because I use it because if I want to go anywhere I HAVE to bring a wheelchair or I am not going to get very far.
I’d take the house and then have a small wedding in the backyard. The wedding is a 1 night event that you won’t think about as often, the house is a lifelong thing
If someone objects where I live, they’ll need to provide a legitimate reason for objecting, otherwise the wedding would go on. And it would really mostly work in a church.
Early 2020, I went to my childhood friend's sister's wedding. I wore a forest green dress to the wedding, when I got there, I noticed the brides maid's dresses were the same color. I had no idea and I felt so embarrassed. I was unable to go home and change because it was an hour and a half drive both ways.
I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all. If you had no idea then what were you supposed to do. Also if it’s a problem for the bridal party, then it should be put on the invitations. Additionally, forest green is an unusual color for the most part so it’s not like you could have predicted that anyways.
I've done this before too. I knew the bridesmaids were wearing purple and I wore like a navy dress but it ended up being too similar. 🤦♀️ it wasn't a big deal but it was brought up to me numerous times during the reception 🙄.
in the catholic church marriage is considered one of the three sacraments of the altar, the ceremony is a solemn moment, playing with it is extremely disrespectful, obviously they would not let the ceremony continue
I was going to say this. I have been to at least 20 catholic weddings and a couple of my friends were told about that... Guess by whom? The priests themselves(and they don't even know each other)... 😂😂😂 They were both more old school types and they would see a prank in the middle of religious procedures the biggest sign of disrespect. So they gave the warning to every couple to avoid any problems. Every "funny" friend was warned by the bride and groom, just in case. 😂😂😂 I think more progressive ones could consider giving a pass depending on how the groom and his friend reacted after learning the wedding could be suspended. They wouldn't think it's funny but they usually are a little less strict and more forgiving of "naive" nonsense.
that first story… no one would’ve ever heard from or seen me again. I’m walking out, packing my bag, and headed to the airport in my wedding dress. so embarrassing 😫 16k wasted and you get humiliated? bye
I’m in a wheelchair a lot of the time and one of my worst fears with it is people moving me when I say no. It happened a lot at school when my arm would pop out of place. That story hurts me in my soul.
the wine throwing story made me think of my parents' wedding. my grandmother (dad's mom) literally FABRIC MATCHED my mom's wedding dress so she could "match the bride." idk if it was due to some sort of weird emotional incest between her and my dad, or if she simply couldn't handle not being the center of attention -- both are equally likely
I was in a wedding a couple years ago, and a guest wore the EXACT SAME DRESS as one of the bridesmaids [we got to choose our dress as long as it fit in the color scheme] and people kept mistaking her for the bridesmaid all day, it was crazy.
So Adam not going to watch his ex get married after she left him post injury hurts the 15yr friendship but that girl LEAVING THEIR SON AFTER HE WAS PERMANENTLY INJURED didn't hurt the friendship? Ohkay
My sis is a narcissist and I've spent 20 years dealing with her, she is so bad that she would spread rumors and lies about our parents (no one believed her because they all knew my parents) eventually it got so bad that my dad had to move her out into her own apartment that parents paid for. The psychiatrist that diagnosed her told my mom that if she didn't get away from her, she very likely die. To this day sis spreads lies about parents. She will do anything to get attention not caring if it was negative or if she hurts anyone in the process. I can feel for that girl and I would absolutely throw wine on sis if she pulled that shit at either mine or one of her kids weddings.
My mother has narcissistic tendencies(she will never go to a psychiatrist and take care of her obvious mental illnesses) and I am 100% with the daughter as I used to be the scapegoat(no longer am cause she's cut out of my life only exception is for my younger sisters). If my mother showed up to my wedding wearing white it is no questions asked wine on her no matter the color of the dress if she does not leave even with police involved. I'm suprised the daughter didn't say anything to her before she did it calling her names or something.
I’m here 2 yrs later just after Morgan & Justin shared their engagement and it’s funny just listening to Morgan talk about her future wedding and stick to the horse barn wedding venue idea!
controversial yet brave, but the bride is entitled to set outfit requirements for the wedding. i want wedding photos to include my guests, so i’d like everyone to look cohesive. setting a color palette really isn’t that big of a deal, and if you respect the bride then you shouldn’t have a problem
My worst nightmare is: its your wedding day months to years of planning so much money and attention to every little detail then SURPRISE it's a period 🤣🤣
My wedding was 8,000 it was venue, food, my dress and my wedding planner. 🥰 and me and my husband bought a house in the same year. It’s possible. Stop thinking a wedding is 30,000-100,000 wedding 😅😅
That’s just you babes. My wedding is already looking to be about 20,000. The dress I’m looking at alone is 6 grand. It all depends on the person and where. I want a fancy wedding. You seemed to have more of a frugle wedding (not a bad thing at all). But I want an open bar as most people do as well as a weed bar since it’s legal. So my wedding will be so far passed 8 grand 😂.
@ciara2393 Dude. I don't want to get married (I am Ace anywho), but I always said if I was to get married, I want an open weed bar. I always loved that idea.
The deep dive on the podcast sent me here, just wanted to share my wedding story after you said you didn't believe it would be the happiest day because of other people. My husband (26m) and I (24f) got married last October after being together for 4 years. Literally everything from getting my nails and hair done before to the last moment of the reception was ruined by other people there. I got my hair dyed black and my mom threw a fit (3 days before service), I had my nail appointment set up the next day for weeks and mom cancelled last minute so I went with my middle brother (#2 of 3 - this also caused another fit), I drove 30 mins from my home to get ready with my mom and I WAS LATE after she bought me lingerie that was 2 sizes too big and made me put EVERYTHING on before realizing it wouldn't work, MIL and FIL brought my husband's older brother (28m now) who was hard on drugs at the time, we had a service with the JOP during pandemic but all of them pushed to attend inside the office (at first JOP said we could have 2 guests, but he gave in), my mom invited her abusive mom and pedo stepdad who I refuse to acknowledge to the reception, BIL stayed for about 10-15 minutes before he left to pout in the truck because he DIDN'T LIKE HIS FOOD, then my husband spent about 70% of the remaining reception trying to get him to come back in. 🙄 Everyone but myself was on their absolute worst fucking behavior. I do have to say, now that it isn't so recent, I truly believe it was the best day of my life. I know that I expressed my deep love to my best friend and he returned that love to me in the presence of people we love. 💗
The "at the end of the day" drinking game goes hard on this episode, LOL. I'd be on the floor with how many times it was said. Love all of your takes on everything.
My uncle was a preacher, and officiates weddings, and from what I know- religious weddings with a priest/religious officiate will stop at objections because if a loved one, someone you trust enough to come to the wedding at all, objects to you marrying this person then they take that as someone who knows you better than you do. They take that as you trusting your loved ones to have your best interest. I dont know, I personally am not Christian. I don’t hold these beliefs at all, but that’s what I understand of it.
Me being raised by two narcissist’s I can totally understand where the girl who spilled the wine is coming from. My mom and my dad are not together so I had to relive over and over again the same tendencies, when you tell a narcisissist they can’t do what they want they will do it anyway no matter the situation, cause if it’s making them feel good about themselves then no one else matters, so if she had just told the mother to change clothes the mom would not have listen. I know the mom is saying “you could have just told me and I would’ve changed” but knowing my parents and their tendencies this would not have worked, so the girl just skipped a few steps and did what she would have end up doing anyways
I hate “differently abled”. people are DISABLED and that label is important for getting the proper (especially governmental) support. disabled is not a dirty word it’s the reality for a lot of people
"differently abled" no no no no no. As a physically disabled person who knows a lot of other disabled people, "disabled" is often the preferred term, and in general, "disabled" is not a 'bad' word. Trying to skirt around disability by finding a phrase that feels more comforting is...not the greatest way go about it. Also "wheelchair bound" is a no-go, too. You would rephrase it with "He uses a wheelchair." His wheelchair gives him independence and freedom that he otherwise wouldn't have. There's a lot more to unpack here that I don't have the energy to type out, but I just found your channel and I've been watching episodes at random here and there (they're ALL good! omg). I think it'd be super cool if you did an episode on disability/illness to better understand how to communicate about and to people with disabilities.
With the whole wedding or mortgage thing, when my mum was pregnant with me, my dad made her choose between a house they were going to get and me. How fucked is that?
i understand people would never “disrespect” their parents cause of upbringing simply because someone is their mother, but being a mother isn’t enough. u emotionally abuse your daughter and expect respect? ummm no
I broke off a three-year relationship and my ex was in a new relationship a month after. Good to know I'm not crazy for thinking that that was really fast on his part.
"sigh" wish i lived closer to you Morgan, we'd get along so well! Been hooked on this podcast for 5 months now and I binge watch them while I work and put my two cents in every single time. Thank you for the content
I just want to sucker punch Adam's dad and give his little brother the biggest hug for being such a good-hearted, empathetic man. Also, if a "15 year friendship" was ruined due to Adam not going to watch his ex-fiance get married, then OBVIOUSLY they weren't that good of family friends. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
The “objection” wedding, dump and maybe even sue him for the money. Or something to legally obligate him to pay you back. Your own husband planned this, and should have researched what would happen. Like, if I were to do ANY prank, I would do research to make sure it wouldn’t backfire somehow. Look up customs behind objections, and you’d know that objections of friends/families will end the wedding in a religious setting. Yet, the husband planned this and even planned a party afterwards. It seems to me like he may have known of the possibility considering his sister planned the party afterwards that was separate from the reception. So nope, that sounds like you have to legally obligate him to pay you back. Because a man who does this deserves to be dumped, but when you dump him he will def decide to never pay you back. So, you’re gonna have to obligate him somehow to do so.
My dad and husband never ever cry, on my wedding day they both cried more than me haha, and when I gave birth to our son in which I didn't cry at all 😅
Y’all gotta get married in the South. $12K for just the venue is basically unheard of here. $8k is the high end and you can find “wedding” venues for as low as $1500!
I am FAR from a wedding expert, but I would think a lot of the reason modern weddings cost tens of thousands of dollars is because of the outrageous venues people select. Back in the day, most people just held weddings at their local church and receptions at their local Lion's Club (or something similar). I would imagine people could still have decently affordable weddings today if they didn't get so extravagant with it.
Does anyone else feel like it’s not fine for the guy in the wheelchairs parents to go to the wedding and continue the friendship because the ex fiancé could not love their sons for better or worse ? She tossed their son to the side and now it’s just okay and he just has to suck it up like nah bro
And then they go and call their own son selfish? The ableism is appalling and apparent in all of them except the brother. Who actually cares for what his brother wants.
Objections for weddings usually only work if they have a legal reason, not emotional ones ❤ you don’t have to worry about anyone doing this for the most part
As a disabled person, please don't use the term differently abled, it creates a stigma that calling someone disabled is a bad thing when it's a label, same as gay, straight, white, black, etc.
Addressed this is many other comments. And future ep. learned different abled from a group of disabled individuals that wanted to be referred to as that. Language is so personal that was their preference. However get that disabled is a more common consensus.
The first story, 6-7 months is extremely quick to be moved on to someone else and also a very short engagement period. That is probably the fastest that anyone could plan a wedding. That should have immediately told the mom that the ex had cheated and was likely rushing due to a pregnancy. Also i loved Alexandra's "you can respectfully decline, or disrepectfully decline" 😂
Here's my thing about the about second story - if you are the guy wouldn't you at least google it first? Or like email the pastor and ask or something?
2:16 Weddings from fifty years ago weren't as extravagant/as much of a show as they are now. Granted, issues like inflation weren't as much of a problem then, so houses were more affordable. But still, people are taking weddings too far; they've become shows instead of being the solemn and beautiful occasions they deserve to be.
Hannah, I totally agree with you. Sure explains the rise in divorce from the expenses of these bridezillas. I opted for a small, small Lake Tahoe wedding instead. My husband splurged on my ring instead. We saved our money for vacations and other future. We married late in life and we both each own our own homes.
Honestly I’d be so petty to do it when and if my fiancé friend was getting married. But actually tell the bride bc like I don’t wanna ruin her day. 🤷🏼♀️
On the prank wedding, I really love and agree with your idea. Kick out whoever isn't letting the wedding go on. Go through the motions of the ceremony. Have the reception and the party. Have your day. And go to the court house tomorrow to get a marriage certificate. Then go on your honeymoon. Don't let the best man's stupidity ruin a $16K wedding.
On the wedding prank, I would have handed him the ring at the alter and broken up with him on the spot. You ruin my day and embarrass me in front of my family, you bet money I'll ruin yours.
I’m planning my own wedding, it’s a month away and our engagement was 11 months, I’ve literally cried almost every day for the last probably 3-4 months of the wedding planning due to stress 😵💫 if I could I’d go back and either have a longer engagement or just go to Colorado and get married on a mountain by ourselves lol
I got married 2.5 year ago... I think we spent 5-6k for the whole thing... spent maybe 250 on both rings, and my dress was the biggest expense at 1,800$
I've seen this behavior so many times. People who've been in long term relationship, break up, and one of them ends up married before a year after the break up. It's so common but still very weird.
"differently abled" is actually considered not good by the disabled community. disabled isn't a bad word, please remember that. i just found this podcast/channel and i'm kind of put off by that as a disabled person :(
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I’m disabled and I just wanted to let you guys know that most disabled people won’t mind if you use the term disabled! Most of us actually prefer disabled over differently abled! Of course this won’t be true for every disabled person on the planet but I have talked to a ton of disabled people in my lifetime and disabled is the term we all have preferred I’m not trying to be rude or anything I just wanted to let y’all know that disabled isn’t a bad term and it is more than okay to use it!
Disabled too, can confirm
I came to comment this, so glad someone already did. Hello fellow disabled person!!
@@flikamadeus I completely agree! I never understood the point of the differently-abled.🤷🏾♀️
"differently-abled" always felt like a slight to me. Sincerely, someone who is neurodevelopmental disabled.
Yes, 100% this.
That girl who threw wine on her mom is a legend. Definitely not the asshole, more the hero for her sister in law
I'm definitely planning on supplying an "emergency outfit change" for my wedding. Probably a really ugly t-shirt /shawl/jumper/dress.
@@StrangeSparkoutfit changes that are giving “donated clothes given to the school”
As a disabled person my heart hurts so much for the paralyzed guy facing that abuse.
I know where I live it's illegal to abuse disabled individuals. If I was the brother I would have reported the parents. They are toxic and the disabled brother deserves better. And in most countries there are options of having caretakers. Both brothers should go no contact with parents
About the mother with the white dress: if she's really a narcissist she wouldn't have changed if someone called her out on it. She knew what she was doing and she did it on purpose to get attention. The wine bottle move was honestly the best thing the daughter could've done because a narcissist will always try to save face and it obviously worked.
I applaud the daughter honestly
As a daughter and a used to be scapegoat of a mother with narcissistic tendencies, I am 100% with the daughter. She had to dump the wine on her poor excuse of a mother.
That's what I was thinking honestly!
Maybe she's a narcissist, maybe she just has a histrionic personality disorder - any way, she was an asshole 😅
Agree with what you’re saying but I’m confused. They won’t change even if called out because they like the attention but they also always want to save face ? Is that not contradictory, can someone explain ?
How can you put all narcissists in one box? That is not an accurate statement.
Kinda irritating that she was like “why would you ever throw wine on someone”. She wore a wedding dress to someone else’s wedding. That has to be humiliating for the bride. It’s only right that she be humiliated as well 🤷🏽♀️
Seriously 😐 I like Alejandra better than Lauren but she was cringe here. There’s a lack of awareness and empathy
Oh yea i'm much more spiteful than that. I don't have a bad relationship with my bfs mom, but if she did that, I would go irritate. Narcs don't just sit there and listen to your logic either, they push and push until you break, and that's what MIL did.
The guy who is in the wheelchair, why did he get accused for “ruining a 15yr friendship” but his ex who left him in HIS time of need didn’t get accused of ruining the friendship?! Double standards 🙄 I’m so glad his brother didn’t take him to the wedding, not the asshole
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Adams family was so worried about ruining a 15 year old friendship but not their relationship with their sons? Really shows were their loyalty stands and what their priorities are 😒 that really got my bpm up lol
The Prank story just made me so mad. I am not someone you can play a prank on. This girl deserves so much more. I think she dodged a bullet there with that toxic family and friends.
Samw, wouldnt marry him anymore. Like, I get that you wanna do a funny joke from time to time or little pranks. Like some pranks are funny and all. But if you do pranks like in this situation, that just screams childish to me. And not in a good way. You think thats funny? Ruining my big day? Sorry, you dont deserve me and can look for a new bride. Hell no
The fact that the fiancé didn’t care enough about the wedding not to do that makes me so mad. He should care about that day too.
On that note, at 18:42 A says, “That would put a taint on your wedding.” I perished laughing
If my future fiancé did this. They would no longer be a fiancé. I would never be able to look at them the same again.
And if you wanted to do something funny, make it a HAPPY prank! Prank her with a secret photographer, a friend who said they couldn’t come magically shows up, do something to compound the joy not take it away
As for the mom wearing white - it doesn’t sound like if she would have pulled her aside and told/asked her to change she would have agreed. She most likely would have argued and made a scene and made everyone else to be the bad guy. You can’t reason with crazy. Nuclear really was the most effective option.
Fr she’s a 58 year old woman she should know better anyways 😩 it’s a wedding , her sons wedding at that, I would’ve dunked the entire bottle on her and more smh 😭
I agree. That "It didn't occur to me not to wear white cause it's not really a wedding" excuse is so BS.
exactly. narcs don't listen to reason. the narc mom wore the dress SPECIFICALLY to start drama, to get someone to confront her so she could start a screaming tantrum, and the daughter knew that going nuclear would embarrass narc mom enough she'd bow out and change. bride and groom were both completely okay with it, and it avoided mom making a massive scene and ruining the entire wedding.
i have to wonder if the hosts have never dealt with narcs, because a lot of the things they were saying clued me in.
@dirty dan yeah I don't think either have dealt with narcs with how they were talking about her
Gonna throw this out for reassurance: it’s not a hard and fast rule that “anyone who knows anything about weddings knows that if there’s an objection then the wedding can’t continue”. I was married by an Anglican priest and if he ever had an objection he would pull that person aside to a private room and ask them for a legal reason the couple can’t get married. If there’s no legal reason, he will then escort the person out if necessary and the wedding continues on. (Didn’t happen at my wedding but that was his procedure)
I’m in Alberta, Canada. Our officiant told us the wedding can’t continue, it’s the law. It needs to wait a certain time after the objection. But, you don’t have to include it in your ceremony.
The mother who went to her daughter's ex-boyfriend's wedding is simply WOW. It is more than clear that he cheated on her with the girl he married! How can parents do this to their children? I mean, you have to be there for your daughter, comfort her and help her get over it! Don't go to the bastard's wedding! GODS 🤦♂️♾
She was on antidepressants too, the mom knew that and still like AITA? Like whattttt
@@cloudysunsets Her moms just toxic. I know how that is. My moms like that too. I deal with depression and social anxiety and my mom thinks its just a face. She always goes like "Yeah I know you are depressed and all but why are you crying over small things? Why arent you just happy? Why dont you just talk to people?" She literally doesnt understamd how depression works. So maybe her mom is the same.
Thats why she was like "Yeah she takes meds because she is depressed but everyone is like that after a break up right?"
Honestly so upsetting! When I told my mum me and an ex broke up she blocked him on all social media, blocked his number and focused on me. Tbf it was also an abusive relationship which she didn't find out about until we broke up, but still! I expect loyalty, love and compassion from my mother..
The worst part was the "I would have talked to her but she cries every time I brought it up." Like that is such an obvious reasons NOT TO GO!
Right, there is a reason she didn't disclose the reason for the break up to her own mother. My guess would be a lack of trust, wonder why! What a 🗑 mom.
That objection prank would be so humiliating. I can’t imagine how that must have felt to the bride- first in the moment of confusion and shock and then finding out it was a prank and her husband and his best friend respected her so little that they felt like pranking her on their most special day in front of everyone they love was okay and would be funny. Literally bye, never want to see you again.
That story with the guy in the wheelchair just broke my heart. I can't imagine being an adult and completely dependent on my parents again and then they literally use this situation to control me. I mean my parents would hopefully never do that but it must be so horrible. The sibling was amazing though for being respectful of the brothers choice.
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Let me get this... the friendship ruined because he didn't go to the wedding,but wasn't when the girl broke his heart?
WTF?!
Adam's parents are insanely selfish. He would have to watch his ex fiance walking down the aisle to marry another man, which could've been him if he didn't get in an accident?? :( that's so heartbreaking!
Also, at the beginning of the story you said he was disabled from neck down.
That was about the movie “me before you”
Right. Talk about mental abuse
With the prank one, I wouldn’t be able to go through with the rest of it either I’d be in tears if someone did that at my wedding and no way would I allow that to be swept under the rug if my partner and his mate organised that :/
Love you two, love this episode, just here to remind you (as a disabled person) that disabled isn't a bad word and that saying differently abled can make being disabled seen as a bad thing
I learned differently abled from a group of people in grad school that were disabled and wanted to be referred to in that way. Language is so personal, but see that disabled is the common consensus.
Dyeing the mom’s dress with the wine is just chef’s kiss. It’s literally pacha just right in a story
Make sure to insulate that barn if you make it a venue, I went to a barn wedding in Minnesota in October and it was 30 degrees in that barn and snowing outside
Omg how did they not have heaters or anything. Yes if we do it it’ll definitely be done right!
The guy who pulled his objection prank at the wedding and cause all that 16000k to essentially be spent for a wedding that couldn't happen anymore! I would call it off with my fiance for having such a friend and making that idea especially after the amount of effort put into it in the amount of overtime work etc. Then I would civil sue them not just for the $16,000 but also for emotional damages distress and wasted time planning a wedding. I would go to a lawyer and see what I could sue the hell out of these people for I don't care if they ever actually paid it I just want it to be in the court records what an asshole this man is. Because court records are public so someone could look them up hopefully his next wife and see what he did
I’d have the friend who objected pay back the money too. He’s just as much to blame.
100% agree
YES TO THIS COMMENT. This girl is entitled to every penny. 👏👏👏
In the future have your friend befriend this man's future wife and then object at their wedding. 'Just a joke, Whoops!'
Yes and get that money for your next wedding with the perfect man
I’m only 19 but and I do have a good relationship with my boyfriends mom, but that said, if someone made those remarks, treated me that way, treated her daughter that way, and wore not only white, but a floor length white dress I definitely wouldn’t mind if someone poured wine on her 😌
Plus, it also depends on the bride. Like, my sister would probably marry in blscl so she wouldnt give a damn if anyone wore white. She probably wouldnt care if anyone wore black either as long as its not a dress similar to hers. I wouldnt be ok with someone wearing white at my wedding. At all.
So if you wanna wear white, or only have a white dress and no money for a new one or whatever reason you have, just ask if its ok. If the bride says no, then thats it. If she says yes, good for you!
Plus. This isn’t Alejandra’s mother and she’s getting that mixed in with her response. She sounds like a doormat!
Adam’s parents actually the ones being abusive and if they called the police they would have gotten in trouble for adult dependence abuse. Call APS.
I would 100% throw wine on someone if I was asked to handle the dress situation 🤷🏼♀️
MOH behavior tbh it’s expected 😂
Same, though. I don't even have to know the bride. If she tells me that's happening and needs it to stop, I'd be like, "I got you," and the wine would fly. Then bam, you made a friend for life if you didn't know the bride well enough. 😂
Story 1: 7:30 (daughter's ex's wedding)
Story 2: 15:30 (objection prank)
Story 3: 26:53 (helped brother in wheelchair skip ex's wedding)
Story 4: 40:33 (wine on mom)
Also, who else wanted the gent in 3 and the lady in 4 to get together...
The last one reminded me of Ross and Monica from Friends and how Ross was always the golden child and Monica was constantly criticized. Such a petty situation
The episode also reminded me of Monica expecting Chandler to put all his savings in a stupid wedding....
my rules with wedding attire (what i would wear to someone else’s wedding) are:
-no white
-no black
-i check what colour the bridesmaids are wearing with the bride, and then avoid that colour
-nothing to bright/ flashy, so you don’t outshine the bride
my favourite dresses i have for weddings are sage green dresses and blush pink dresses, because they look absolutely gorgeous, and also blend into the background a bit more
why no black, might i ask?
@@coralcoralcoral i think because you usually see it more in funerals. idk, I wear black every time tho
Many reasons why I love island/Hawaiian/African theme weddings. Colorful and barefoot options.
I have worn black to weddings, evening gown type things that say we are here to celebrate. Had no complaints yet.
@@kt3255wearing black to a wedding usually means you don’t believe in the wedding or and hope it will break I’ve heard. Since it’s funeral color. However ettiket might have changed 😅
I had a VERY cost efficient wedding (buying second hand dress, making my decor at home, MIL made the cake, no bridesmaids/groomsmen) and even then it was still easily 10k in total lol. Weddings are definitely pricey- every small thing adds up so fast
My wedding is about 10k as well. I just bought a second hand wedding dress from goodwill for $30! I can’t imagine spending tens of thousands of dollars for one day.
Like the cheapest wedding bands of pain 9k gold cost 400£ and you need 2
Mine was $800. I made my dress out of second hand curtains, decorations were wildflowers and I made fairy houses out of cardboard, and we served picnic food in picnic baskets. Our wedding bands are stainless steel, and we rented a park for the whole affair. The most pricy thing was the officiant.
Shout out to Adam and his brother, he stood up for him and did something that made him happy. The parents really tried to control their son because he can't walk and his brother stood up for him, good on them for standing against the parents
As someone who had a surprise period on her wedding day… the comment of planning ur wedding around your cycle is something to consider especially if you are prone to having ur monthly without any warning at times. I cried so hard when I realized I bled through my dress. Thankfully the owners of the venue acted fast and took my dress and cleaned it for me as I cried in the bathroom stunned at the fact it happened to begin with. To this day there’s nothing I wouldn’t do for that woman, I lost my mom to cancer before I could get married so I didn’t have my parents at my wedding and that act alone was such a monumental moment. She got the stain completely out, saving my wedding dress so that I could cherish it for a lifetime without the tragic reminder I ruined my own dress.
As a disabled person, I beg you not to use the phrase “differently abled”. Not unless a disabled person tells you to refer to them specifically that way. The disabled community as a whole prefers that you just call us disabled. The phrase “differently abled” was made by abled bodied people who thought that being disabled was such a bad, shameful thing that they needed to force a new more acceptable label on us. That mentality is ableist and is so harmful to us. Disabled is what we literally are, and to treat the word “disabled” like it’s something bad, shameful, and dirty is treating us like we’re bad, shameful, and dirty. I know you mean well and are just misinformed, so I hope from now on you quit using this harmful phrase. “Wheelchair bound” is another bad one but I know you were just repeating the story. The best term is wheelchair user. I use a wheelchair, I’m not bound to it. Just like I wear glasses, I’m not bound to them.
I agree with this for the most part (I am also disabled) but it is important to understand that some people actually ARE wheelchair bound. I think wheelchair bound is a tricky term to use because unless you know the person you don’t know if they are wheelchair bound but I do believe it is important to know that wheelchair bound can be the correct term to use depending on the person!
@@sugarcookie312 thanks for pointing that out. I just know that as a wheelchair user I dislike “wheelchair bound” and the other wheelchair users I’ve met feel the same, including people who are full time wheelchair users. But I guess you’re right, everyone is different and there might be some people out there who prefer referring to themselves as “wheelchair bound” and we should always respect that. I apologize.
@@UnguardedAngel I just feel like wheelchair bound is a term more widely used and less despised. Like I know I got uncomfortable when I heard them say differently abled even though I knew they meant absolutely no harm by it.
@@sugarcookie312 your opinion is totally valid. I just personally feel very uncomfortable with “wheelchair bound” and I know a lot of others do, too. I deal with a lot of ablism for using a wheelchair and people act like the wheelchair is chaining us down, when it’s actually the thing giving us some freedom back. So I guess this is our way of dealing with some of that ablism towards using wheelchairs. Plus we find it weird that it’s the only device to accommodate a disability that people say you’re “bound” to and that doesn’t feel right, especially when combined with how much ablism we face specifically just for using a wheelchair. Like my own family tried to stop me from getting one even though I was sick of being bedridden and stuck inside. I could talk all day about this but I just hope you get that we have valid reasons for being uncomfortable with “wheelchair bound” and I hope that you can respect that. I shouldn’t have forced my preference on anyone else, though. I was just under the impression that all wheelchair users felt this way but I feel bad about my mistake. I’m very sorry. I ask that everyone respect the terms that the individual wants to be referred to as.
@@UnguardedAngel yeah no absolutely! I wasn’t trying to say that your feelings about the term weren’t valid I was just trying to say that there are still people who use the term wheelchair bound and that it’s a little different from using the term differently abled because I’ve never met a disabled person that didn’t hate that term. I use a wheelchair as well most of the time which is the only reason I am speaking on the use of the term wheelchair bound because I use it because if I want to go anywhere I HAVE to bring a wheelchair or I am not going to get very far.
I’d take the house and then have a small wedding in the backyard. The wedding is a 1 night event that you won’t think about as often, the house is a lifelong thing
If someone objects where I live, they’ll need to provide a legitimate reason for objecting, otherwise the wedding would go on. And it would really mostly work in a church.
Early 2020, I went to my childhood friend's sister's wedding. I wore a forest green dress to the wedding, when I got there, I noticed the brides maid's dresses were the same color. I had no idea and I felt so embarrassed. I was unable to go home and change because it was an hour and a half drive both ways.
I don’t think you’re in the wrong at all. If you had no idea then what were you supposed to do. Also if it’s a problem for the bridal party, then it should be put on the invitations. Additionally, forest green is an unusual color for the most part so it’s not like you could have predicted that anyways.
I've done this before too. I knew the bridesmaids were wearing purple and I wore like a navy dress but it ended up being too similar. 🤦♀️ it wasn't a big deal but it was brought up to me numerous times during the reception 🙄.
in the catholic church marriage is considered one of the three sacraments of the altar, the ceremony is a solemn moment, playing with it is extremely disrespectful, obviously they would not let the ceremony continue
I was going to say this. I have been to at least 20 catholic weddings and a couple of my friends were told about that... Guess by whom? The priests themselves(and they don't even know each other)... 😂😂😂
They were both more old school types and they would see a prank in the middle of religious procedures the biggest sign of disrespect. So they gave the warning to every couple to avoid any problems.
Every "funny" friend was warned by the bride and groom, just in case. 😂😂😂
I think more progressive ones could consider giving a pass depending on how the groom and his friend reacted after learning the wedding could be suspended. They wouldn't think it's funny but they usually are a little less strict and more forgiving of "naive" nonsense.
that first story… no one would’ve ever heard from or seen me again. I’m walking out, packing my bag, and headed to the airport in my wedding dress. so embarrassing 😫 16k wasted and you get humiliated? bye
I’m in a wheelchair a lot of the time and one of my worst fears with it is people moving me when I say no. It happened a lot at school when my arm would pop out of place. That story hurts me in my soul.
the wine throwing story made me think of my parents' wedding. my grandmother (dad's mom) literally FABRIC MATCHED my mom's wedding dress so she could "match the bride." idk if it was due to some sort of weird emotional incest between her and my dad, or if she simply couldn't handle not being the center of attention -- both are equally likely
I was in a wedding a couple years ago, and a guest wore the EXACT SAME DRESS as one of the bridesmaids [we got to choose our dress as long as it fit in the color scheme] and people kept mistaking her for the bridesmaid all day, it was crazy.
So Adam not going to watch his ex get married after she left him post injury hurts the 15yr friendship but that girl LEAVING THEIR SON AFTER HE WAS PERMANENTLY INJURED didn't hurt the friendship? Ohkay
I would 100% throw wine at someone if they wore white at my wedding, either that or something else that stains
My sis is a narcissist and I've spent 20 years dealing with her, she is so bad that she would spread rumors and lies about our parents (no one believed her because they all knew my parents) eventually it got so bad that my dad had to move her out into her own apartment that parents paid for. The psychiatrist that diagnosed her told my mom that if she didn't get away from her, she very likely die. To this day sis spreads lies about parents. She will do anything to get attention not caring if it was negative or if she hurts anyone in the process. I can feel for that girl and I would absolutely throw wine on sis if she pulled that shit at either mine or one of her kids weddings.
My mother has narcissistic tendencies(she will never go to a psychiatrist and take care of her obvious mental illnesses) and I am 100% with the daughter as I used to be the scapegoat(no longer am cause she's cut out of my life only exception is for my younger sisters). If my mother showed up to my wedding wearing white it is no questions asked wine on her no matter the color of the dress if she does not leave even with police involved. I'm suprised the daughter didn't say anything to her before she did it calling her names or something.
I’m here 2 yrs later just after Morgan & Justin shared their engagement and it’s funny just listening to Morgan talk about her future wedding and stick to the horse barn wedding venue idea!
The objection joke would have been funny at the rehearsal. I would be LIVID day of.
love your podcast - i watch every episode :)
controversial yet brave, but the bride is entitled to set outfit requirements for the wedding. i want wedding photos to include my guests, so i’d like everyone to look cohesive. setting a color palette really isn’t that big of a deal, and if you respect the bride then you shouldn’t have a problem
My worst nightmare is: its your wedding day months to years of planning so much money and attention to every little detail then SURPRISE it's a period
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My wedding was 8,000 it was venue, food, my dress and my wedding planner. 🥰 and me and my husband bought a house in the same year. It’s possible. Stop thinking a wedding is 30,000-100,000 wedding 😅😅
That’s just you babes. My wedding is already looking to be about 20,000. The dress I’m looking at alone is 6 grand. It all depends on the person and where. I want a fancy wedding. You seemed to have more of a frugle wedding (not a bad thing at all). But I want an open bar as most people do as well as a weed bar since it’s legal. So my wedding will be so far passed 8 grand 😂.
@ciara2393 Dude. I don't want to get married (I am Ace anywho), but I always said if I was to get married, I want an open weed bar. I always loved that idea.
The deep dive on the podcast sent me here, just wanted to share my wedding story after you said you didn't believe it would be the happiest day because of other people. My husband (26m) and I (24f) got married last October after being together for 4 years. Literally everything from getting my nails and hair done before to the last moment of the reception was ruined by other people there. I got my hair dyed black and my mom threw a fit (3 days before service), I had my nail appointment set up the next day for weeks and mom cancelled last minute so I went with my middle brother (#2 of 3 - this also caused another fit), I drove 30 mins from my home to get ready with my mom and I WAS LATE after she bought me lingerie that was 2 sizes too big and made me put EVERYTHING on before realizing it wouldn't work, MIL and FIL brought my husband's older brother (28m now) who was hard on drugs at the time, we had a service with the JOP during pandemic but all of them pushed to attend inside the office (at first JOP said we could have 2 guests, but he gave in), my mom invited her abusive mom and pedo stepdad who I refuse to acknowledge to the reception, BIL stayed for about 10-15 minutes before he left to pout in the truck because he DIDN'T LIKE HIS FOOD, then my husband spent about 70% of the remaining reception trying to get him to come back in. 🙄 Everyone but myself was on their absolute worst fucking behavior. I do have to say, now that it isn't so recent, I truly believe it was the best day of my life. I know that I expressed my deep love to my best friend and he returned that love to me in the presence of people we love. 💗
The "at the end of the day" drinking game goes hard on this episode, LOL. I'd be on the floor with how many times it was said. Love all of your takes on everything.
Morgan - I love that you say ‘rooned’ for ruined lol. Literally every time I hear it I can’t help but smile so big. You’re adorable & I
Thank you 🥺 your support means so much to me!! ❤️ glad you like my rooned too.
My uncle was a preacher, and officiates weddings, and from what I know- religious weddings with a priest/religious officiate will stop at objections because if a loved one, someone you trust enough to come to the wedding at all, objects to you marrying this person then they take that as someone who knows you better than you do. They take that as you trusting your loved ones to have your best interest.
I dont know, I personally am not Christian. I don’t hold these beliefs at all, but that’s what I understand of it.
For the first one: there definitely seems to be a reason the daughter is living with her dad 😬
Brooooo please do a raised by narcissist podcast!!
Me being raised by two narcissist’s I can totally understand where the girl who spilled the wine is coming from. My mom and my dad are not together so I had to relive over and over again the same tendencies, when you tell a narcisissist they can’t do what they want they will do it anyway no matter the situation, cause if it’s making them feel good about themselves then no one else matters, so if she had just told the mother to change clothes the mom would not have listen. I know the mom is saying “you could have just told me and I would’ve changed” but knowing my parents and their tendencies this would not have worked, so the girl just skipped a few steps and did what she would have end up doing anyways
I hate “differently abled”. people are DISABLED and that label is important for getting the proper (especially governmental) support. disabled is not a dirty word it’s the reality for a lot of people
My mom said she will still be in contact with my husband and invite him to stuff if we ever get divorced , my husband doesn't even like her lol
I’m just going to put this out for the prank scenario: there’s truth behind every joke 🎤⬇️
Exactly. I would take that to heart as a bride. Engagement over.
"differently abled" no no no no no. As a physically disabled person who knows a lot of other disabled people, "disabled" is often the preferred term, and in general, "disabled" is not a 'bad' word. Trying to skirt around disability by finding a phrase that feels more comforting is...not the greatest way go about it. Also "wheelchair bound" is a no-go, too. You would rephrase it with "He uses a wheelchair." His wheelchair gives him independence and freedom that he otherwise wouldn't have. There's a lot more to unpack here that I don't have the energy to type out, but I just found your channel and I've been watching episodes at random here and there (they're ALL good! omg). I think it'd be super cool if you did an episode on disability/illness to better understand how to communicate about and to people with disabilities.
With the whole wedding or mortgage thing, when my mum was pregnant with me, my dad made her choose between a house they were going to get and me. How fucked is that?
story 1 @7:55
story2 @26:53
story 3 @40:30
i understand people would never “disrespect” their parents cause of upbringing simply because someone is their mother, but being a mother isn’t enough. u emotionally abuse your daughter and expect respect? ummm no
I broke off a three-year relationship and my ex was in a new relationship a month after. Good to know I'm not crazy for thinking that that was really fast on his part.
"sigh" wish i lived closer to you Morgan, we'd get along so well! Been hooked on this podcast for 5 months now and I binge watch them while I work and put my two cents in every single time. Thank you for the content
I just want to sucker punch Adam's dad and give his little brother the biggest hug for being such a good-hearted, empathetic man. Also, if a "15 year friendship" was ruined due to Adam not going to watch his ex-fiance get married, then OBVIOUSLY they weren't that good of family friends. 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄
love the podcast I watch you guys when I’m working out and it keeps me entertained so thank you :)
The “objection” wedding, dump and maybe even sue him for the money. Or something to legally obligate him to pay you back. Your own husband planned this, and should have researched what would happen. Like, if I were to do ANY prank, I would do research to make sure it wouldn’t backfire somehow. Look up customs behind objections, and you’d know that objections of friends/families will end the wedding in a religious setting. Yet, the husband planned this and even planned a party afterwards. It seems to me like he may have known of the possibility considering his sister planned the party afterwards that was separate from the reception.
So nope, that sounds like you have to legally obligate him to pay you back. Because a man who does this deserves to be dumped, but when you dump him he will def decide to never pay you back. So, you’re gonna have to obligate him somehow to do so.
You two are my fav duo so far on the podcast love both your personalities! 💕 feels like I’m listening to my besties talk together lol
My dad and husband never ever cry, on my wedding day they both cried more than me haha, and when I gave birth to our son in which I didn't cry at all 😅
Recently found you guys ypur videos are addictive hope you have a good day ^~^
I agree I’d pick the house. You can have a small wedding and then have the reception later when you can afford it.
Came across your page on Tiktok, I've been obsessed ever since! I can't stop listening!
Y’all gotta get married in the South. $12K for just the venue is basically unheard of here. $8k is the high end and you can find “wedding” venues for as low as $1500!
Those prices are awesome. Please send of links!
Will try to remember this for the 10+ years ahead
I am FAR from a wedding expert, but I would think a lot of the reason modern weddings cost tens of thousands of dollars is because of the outrageous venues people select.
Back in the day, most people just held weddings at their local church and receptions at their local Lion's Club (or something similar). I would imagine people could still have decently affordable weddings today if they didn't get so extravagant with it.
There will be a designated wine thrower at my wedding
Also, why wasn’t the relationship between adam’s family and the fiancé’s ruined when she left him because he was disabled?
Does anyone else feel like it’s not fine for the guy in the wheelchairs parents to go to the wedding and continue the friendship because the ex fiancé could not love their sons for better or worse ? She tossed their son to the side and now it’s just okay and he just has to suck it up like nah bro
And then they go and call their own son selfish? The ableism is appalling and apparent in all of them except the brother. Who actually cares for what his brother wants.
Objections for weddings usually only work if they have a legal reason, not emotional ones ❤ you don’t have to worry about anyone doing this for the most part
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Omg yes yes yes I’m getting married next summer and a barn is my dream wedding!
Really pissed at Alejandra’s take on that last one sorry everyone knows if you wear white to someone else’s wedding you’re getting wined
As a disabled person, please don't use the term differently abled, it creates a stigma that calling someone disabled is a bad thing when it's a label, same as gay, straight, white, black, etc.
Addressed this is many other comments. And future ep. learned different abled from a group of disabled individuals that wanted to be referred to as that. Language is so personal that was their preference. However get that disabled is a more common consensus.
The first story, 6-7 months is extremely quick to be moved on to someone else and also a very short engagement period. That is probably the fastest that anyone could plan a wedding. That should have immediately told the mom that the ex had cheated and was likely rushing due to a pregnancy.
Also i loved Alexandra's "you can respectfully decline, or disrepectfully decline" 😂
I literally got a wedding ad before this video 🤣
Here's my thing about the about second story - if you are the guy wouldn't you at least google it first? Or like email the pastor and ask or something?
2:16 Weddings from fifty years ago weren't as extravagant/as much of a show as they are now. Granted, issues like inflation weren't as much of a problem then, so houses were more affordable. But still, people are taking weddings too far; they've become shows instead of being the solemn and beautiful occasions they deserve to be.
Hannah, I totally agree with you. Sure explains the rise in divorce from the expenses of these bridezillas. I opted for a small, small Lake Tahoe wedding instead. My husband splurged on my ring instead. We saved our money for vacations and other future. We married late in life and we both each own our own homes.
I also grew up in Duluth/hermantown area. I love your podcast, your accent is comforting and reminds me of home ‘ love you all
You guys are my comfort podcast, I listen every single day getting ready for work 🥰
We planned and wedding and renovated our home the same year. Only $3,000 went to our wedding day. Outdoor ceremony and a celebration dinner. No fluff.
Honestly I’d be so petty to do it when and if my fiancé friend was getting married. But actually tell the bride bc like I don’t wanna ruin her day. 🤷🏼♀️
On the prank wedding, I really love and agree with your idea. Kick out whoever isn't letting the wedding go on. Go through the motions of the ceremony. Have the reception and the party. Have your day. And go to the court house tomorrow to get a marriage certificate. Then go on your honeymoon.
Don't let the best man's stupidity ruin a $16K wedding.
The fiancé was in on the prank though. I wouldn’t marry his stupid face
On the wedding prank, I would have handed him the ring at the alter and broken up with him on the spot. You ruin my day and embarrass me in front of my family, you bet money I'll ruin yours.
I’m planning my own wedding, it’s a month away and our engagement was 11 months, I’ve literally cried almost every day for the last probably 3-4 months of the wedding planning due to stress 😵💫 if I could I’d go back and either have a longer engagement or just go to Colorado and get married on a mountain by ourselves lol
If my mom wore white to my wedding it would definitely turn red, whether or not its wine is debatable
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I got married 2.5 year ago... I think we spent 5-6k for the whole thing... spent maybe 250 on both rings, and my dress was the biggest expense at 1,800$
I've seen this behavior so many times. People who've been in long term relationship, break up, and one of them ends up married before a year after the break up. It's so common but still very weird.
"differently abled" is actually considered not good by the disabled community. disabled isn't a bad word, please remember that. i just found this podcast/channel and i'm kind of put off by that as a disabled person :(
When you only spent $400 for your wedding venue and got $200 back from the security deposit...
Dude aside from the smart comments on the discussion, you also have beautiful and sweet friends and family
If there's not a valid reason to object, the wedding can continue.