I got the "why didn't you just leave" thing from a boomer therapist after saying I experienced domestic violence for nearly a decade. That was in 2013. I thought things had changed. Apparently not. That's why I avoid therapy, especially that since then I found out I'm autistic and regular therapists are rarely equiped for that.
Things have changed, like a lot, but like Kati said: It's like any job where some people are going to be good at it and some bad. I mean, would you avoid dentists or general practitioners after meeting a (or a few) bad ones? Some people would, but I think that's like using a shotgun for a haircut. Saying this as a black trans woman with ADHD, autism, and DID, who's had more negative than positive experiences with the *entire* medical system and can still say it's worth it to seek out good physicians, but can take time and be frustrating.
With autism all you need to do is figure out what part you want to work on the ocd the anexity maybe depression So instead of the autism part pick the side of it you want to work on it makes it easier and Kati uploaded a lot of videos about anexity and ocd I am unsure what type of ocd you got
I hate that happened to you both abuse and therapist. I was mobbed at work (psychological violence from multiple people ) of which my former therapist was affiliated w same university. I was very clear before the abuse and narrative gains momentum that there’s a high risk of perpetrating the abuse but she dismissed it. She said “or you could leave” and I realized she was already set with a belief and forgot early on when speaking with my bosses as the primary goal was not to leave. Additionally my pseudo trustworthy subordinate had been fabricating stories all the while knowing I was practicing the ability to trust w her. And she fully knowing the consequences destroyed it for asking about her neglect of responsibilities and the university never made her accountable for repeated negligence which I leaned then reinforces more lying. Shortly after termination she mentions she’s going on several months leave and I had to ask for a referral as usually her patients can contact her as needed otherwise resume when back. I had got so sucked into the abuser that I gradually withdrew from friends and family and once you’re out all your colleagues see you as the smear campaign so literally only 1 person of support and she didn’t seem to grasp the gravity of a career fantasy turn dream come true turn nightmare. It’s made my existence so much worse for 2-3 years several times a week I felt and knew that it was transactional, but it became very transactional and abusive once I was terminated.
@@nerds-nonsenseomg I can’t imagine the complexity of your life. Sending an abundance of compassion for the extremely challenging life you’ve been given
i can't stand summer either. That feeling of everyone being outside having the time of their lives while little 'ol me is all by myself stuck in the house. lol At least in the winter we're all stuck in the house.
Don't forget some mental health problems are caused by physical health. My mental health problems was caused by undiagnosed perimenopause. That can affect half the population. Since starting HRT my depressive symptoms have disappeared and I no longer so depressed I haven't ended in hospital or inpatient.
I find the better thing to "diagnose" yourself is to talk or listen to people who have the condition. Mental illness is pervasive and affects your entire life, it's likely everyone has symptoms sometimes but the real question is does your life mirror others who have the illness? I can listen to people talk about bipolar, ocd, depression but I never felt any connection until I listened to adults with ADHD describe their life story, the parallels are often shocking and eye opening.
just wanted to share a little something off topic i had therapy today and i’m really aiming to study psychology and become a psychologist myself one day. my therapist today told me that she thinks that i will be a great therapist one day and that i got the right qualities to become one! this made me really happy and i wanted to share it with sb thanks for all you do kati, loved this episode a lot! xoxo
Many years ago,i've done a research about my symptoms and diagnosed myself with dysthymia. Long after that,both my therapist and my psychiatrist told me i suffer from dysthymia. It kind felt good that i successfully diagnosed myself with my mental condition,i won't lie.
Validation of what we already think is so important. I also just had the confirmation of all 4 MH conditions I have: get depression, anxiety, bipolar, and c-ptsd.
Gotta be careful with confirmation bias tho. It's possible that you read about it, and told the professionals exactly what they had to hear, in order for them to give you the diagnosis. Psychology is quite tricky.
@@goblin1226 @goblin1226 interesting take. something to ponder, certainly. Once in a while, though, I think we come across something we hadn't heard of before, that just seems to check every box.
What if you have a bachelors degree in psychology, you are furthering your education to be a clinician, and you seek treatment for mental health? I have access to my previous medical records and therapist notes, and it can get interesting. I think there is a level of needing an outsider's opinion because sometimes depending on the diagnosis, it's hard to have insight.
Here in the netherlands we have an 8 month waiting list for therapy. If you have an acute psychological problem, you only have friends, family and videos from therapists to help you.
I IMMEDIATELY thought of medical school syndrome when she read that first question. I wonder if that ever happens with mental health disorders too? I would think those would be harder to "trick" yourself into because most people have that problem for YEARS before they try to get help. I know that having like, imposter syndrome is a very real thing in relation to mental health though, because after going on my meds for a while, I’m like "I don’t even need these. I feel fine" and then I go off of them and SPIRAL, get back on them, and do it all again 😅
I’ve complained about my first therapist she disclosed her divorce and being in a verbally abusive relationship and being groomed by her ex husband. when I reported my therapist I called and emailed the director of the counseling center I went to and the director and I talked about what happened.. what came of it I can’t tell you bc I don’t know 🤷🏾♀️ but I felt super proud 🥲 of myself for reporting her toxic traumatic abusive behavior
The question about functioning, i find it difficult to even move, several times a day. I find myself just sitting there, for several minutes, kind of paralyzed. It's not anxiety, not sure if it has anything to do with depression. There are no thoughts nor feelings that occur along side this. It's just like my brain stops functioning for 10-15 minutes.
I have Hayfever June, July, August which effects My Mood and I usually end up doing something really Stupid during this Time Most of the Stupid things I've done are because I Fancy Someone or I'm Angry with Someone
Q5 if someone feels like they have traumas or failures using the search term NARM when looking for a therapist is extremely useful. Speaking from experience.
Kati, I hope you see this because I think your insight would be really beneficial. So I graduated with my MSW in 2022, and did the thing we do where we self diagnose because we’re learning about these diagnoses. Now, I knew years before I finally got a formal diagnosis that I have ADHD and ASD. I self diagnosed and I was correct. Now, I’m fairly certain I have OCD as well. But along with being neurodivergent as hell, having depression, anxiety, and PTSD, my therapist doesn’t think giving me an OCD diagnosis would be helpful to me. I see where he is coming from (and my fiancé agrees with him). When I finally got my ASD diagnosis, I stopped masking as much. So my fiancé just saw “she got an Autism diagnosis and now is acting more Autistic”. He and my therapist think that another diagnosis would just validate and intensify the cognitive distortions I already have. But I feel, like I did with my ADHD and ASD diagnoses, that an OCD diagnosis (if I’m indeed correct) would be extremely validating and help me to understand myself better. I also feel that it would benefit and make more effective my treatment plan. What do you think? I’d really appreciate your insight on this.
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33:21 When I think why I don’t speak in therapy its because I’m afraid that they will use it against me for example like harm intrusive thoughts, I know it’s irrational but I still believe it and the therapist could take advantage in the sense of hospitalising me which in-turn I know It would make it worse because It would force me to be around too many people. logically I mostly know that the therapist wouldn’t use it against me but some where in my brain I still believe that they will but nothing has even happened like that. Could the cause be something that isn’t the same but similar and has moulded over time like I was a social services kid and would be taken out of class a lot and talked to by the social worker and if I said like “I wasnt eating” the worker would take it at face value and wouldn’t question it they wouldn’t question whether I was being feed or whether it was a eating disorder, they just went straight to their supervisor and they assumed that I wasn’t being feed, which made it harder to say anything because they didn’t take my age into consideration or my vocabulary anything I said they would twist my words to make it easier for them.
For some people yes but good to get a professional to agree or disagree with it I am pretty much fully self diagnosed but nobody can say I am wrong with it My cousin an ex care giver told my parents I might be autistic I am pretty sure i might have been 2 or 3 at the time She picked up on the fact that I followed the sound of water over her voice I self diagnosed myself fir autism because I forgot about her asking me and my response to her being so young when she asked (I am about 5 when she asked) I said I do not know Whenever I tried to bring it up to my parents after I made the diagnosis myself I got called a liar for the longest time but I knew i am autistic and didnt care about being called a liar My borderline personality disorder something I was pretty sure around 13 I had that but called a liar dropped it dissociated in 2017 knew for sure and dont bring it up that I have it except to youtubers
Was just talking about the depression topic with my therapist, because they recognised the summer depression and I saw a documentary on the effects of pollen on that ua-cam.com/video/UnKqxUd63oE/v-deo.htmlsi=5KYcj8F-oKeZTBjX
Summer in itself does not cause depression. It is the external trigger. It is how we relate to this external trigger. How we contain the emotions and how we think (ruminate) about this external challenge.
18:29 people. we gotta start wearing long flowing outfits that obscure our body and drift in the wind. 1: our planet is getting hotter and you absolutely should cover more with natural fabrics to wick sweat. B: you look amazing. thirdly, no pants. + small modest clothing businesses will love you
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I got the "why didn't you just leave" thing from a boomer therapist after saying I experienced domestic violence for nearly a decade. That was in 2013. I thought things had changed. Apparently not. That's why I avoid therapy, especially that since then I found out I'm autistic and regular therapists are rarely equiped for that.
Things have changed, like a lot, but like Kati said: It's like any job where some people are going to be good at it and some bad. I mean, would you avoid dentists or general practitioners after meeting a (or a few) bad ones? Some people would, but I think that's like using a shotgun for a haircut.
Saying this as a black trans woman with ADHD, autism, and DID, who's had more negative than positive experiences with the *entire* medical system and can still say it's worth it to seek out good physicians, but can take time and be frustrating.
With autism all you need to do is figure out what part you want to work on the ocd the anexity maybe depression
So instead of the autism part pick the side of it you want to work on it makes it easier and Kati uploaded a lot of videos about anexity and ocd I am unsure what type of ocd you got
I’m on my 50’s and I find younger therapists are much better than a lot of older ones.
I hate that happened to you both abuse and therapist. I was mobbed at work (psychological violence from multiple people ) of which my former therapist was affiliated w same university. I was very clear before the abuse and narrative gains momentum that there’s a high risk of perpetrating the abuse but she dismissed it. She said “or you could leave” and I realized she was already set with a belief and forgot early on when speaking with my bosses as the primary goal was not to leave. Additionally my pseudo trustworthy subordinate had been fabricating stories all the while knowing I was practicing the ability to trust w her. And she fully knowing the consequences destroyed it for asking about her neglect of responsibilities and the university never made her accountable for repeated negligence which I leaned then reinforces more lying.
Shortly after termination she mentions she’s going on several months leave and I had to ask for a referral as usually her patients can contact her as needed otherwise resume when back.
I had got so sucked into the abuser that I gradually withdrew from friends and family and once you’re out all your colleagues see you as the smear campaign so literally only 1 person of support and she didn’t seem to grasp the gravity of a career fantasy turn dream come true turn nightmare. It’s made my existence so much worse for 2-3 years several times a week I felt and knew that it was transactional, but it became very transactional and abusive once I was terminated.
@@nerds-nonsenseomg I can’t imagine the complexity of your life. Sending an abundance of compassion for the extremely challenging life you’ve been given
i can't stand summer either. That feeling of everyone being outside having the time of their lives while little 'ol me is all by myself stuck in the house. lol At least in the winter we're all stuck in the house.
Don't forget some mental health problems are caused by physical health. My mental health problems was caused by undiagnosed perimenopause. That can affect half the population. Since starting HRT my depressive symptoms have disappeared and I no longer so depressed I haven't ended in hospital or inpatient.
I find the better thing to "diagnose" yourself is to talk or listen to people who have the condition. Mental illness is pervasive and affects your entire life, it's likely everyone has symptoms sometimes but the real question is does your life mirror others who have the illness? I can listen to people talk about bipolar, ocd, depression but I never felt any connection until I listened to adults with ADHD describe their life story, the parallels are often shocking and eye opening.
16:51 start of question about depression in summer
Thx
just wanted to share a little something off topic
i had therapy today and i’m really aiming to study psychology and become a psychologist myself one day. my therapist today told me that she thinks that i will be a great therapist one day and that i got the right qualities to become one! this made me really happy and i wanted to share it with sb
thanks for all you do kati, loved this episode a lot! xoxo
1:14 - Q1
11:05 - Q2
16:51 - Q3
21:54 - Q4
26:31 - Q5
33:44 - Q6
Many years ago,i've done a research about my symptoms and diagnosed myself with dysthymia. Long after that,both my therapist and my psychiatrist told me i suffer from dysthymia. It kind felt good that i successfully diagnosed myself with my mental condition,i won't lie.
Validation of what we already think is so important. I also just had the confirmation of all 4 MH conditions I have: get depression, anxiety, bipolar, and c-ptsd.
Gotta be careful with confirmation bias tho. It's possible that you read about it, and told the professionals exactly what they had to hear, in order for them to give you the diagnosis. Psychology is quite tricky.
@@goblin1226 @goblin1226 interesting take. something to ponder, certainly. Once in a while, though, I think we come across something we hadn't heard of before, that just seems to check every box.
What if you have a bachelors degree in psychology, you are furthering your education to be a clinician, and you seek treatment for mental health? I have access to my previous medical records and therapist notes, and it can get interesting. I think there is a level of needing an outsider's opinion because sometimes depending on the diagnosis, it's hard to have insight.
Here in the netherlands we have an 8 month waiting list for therapy. If you have an acute psychological problem, you only have friends, family and videos from therapists to help you.
Hello to anyone still reading these comments I am just watching and listening right now sending late care and prayers your way people ❤🙏🏻
It’s not just me! ❤ every summer the last few years have been so much worse for me.
You saved my life
I'm glad you're here ❤
I IMMEDIATELY thought of medical school syndrome when she read that first question. I wonder if that ever happens with mental health disorders too? I would think those would be harder to "trick" yourself into because most people have that problem for YEARS before they try to get help. I know that having like, imposter syndrome is a very real thing in relation to mental health though, because after going on my meds for a while, I’m like "I don’t even need these. I feel fine" and then I go off of them and SPIRAL, get back on them, and do it all again 😅
Valuable topic❤❤ first comment. 😅
Where do you file a claim against therapists?
I’ve complained about my first therapist she disclosed her divorce and being in a verbally abusive relationship and being groomed by her ex husband. when I reported my therapist I called and emailed the director of the counseling center I went to and the director and I talked about what happened.. what came of it I can’t tell you bc I don’t know 🤷🏾♀️ but I felt super proud 🥲 of myself for reporting her toxic traumatic abusive behavior
Report the person/therapist to their particular licensing board...hope this helps!
What were the two apps kati mentioned? E mood and other one was what? Can someone reply?
emoods and the Clue period tracking app
@@LiliVanilli248 thanks
The question about functioning, i find it difficult to even move, several times a day.
I find myself just sitting there, for several minutes, kind of paralyzed. It's not anxiety, not sure if it has anything to do with depression. There are no thoughts nor feelings that occur along side this.
It's just like my brain stops functioning for 10-15 minutes.
I have Hayfever June, July, August which effects My Mood and I usually end up doing something really Stupid during this Time
Most of the Stupid things I've done are because I Fancy Someone or I'm Angry with Someone
Q5 if someone feels like they have traumas or failures using the search term NARM when looking for a therapist is extremely useful. Speaking from experience.
Kati, I hope you see this because I think your insight would be really beneficial.
So I graduated with my MSW in 2022, and did the thing we do where we self diagnose because we’re learning about these diagnoses. Now, I knew years before I finally got a formal diagnosis that I have ADHD and ASD. I self diagnosed and I was correct. Now, I’m fairly certain I have OCD as well. But along with being neurodivergent as hell, having depression, anxiety, and PTSD, my therapist doesn’t think giving me an OCD diagnosis would be helpful to me. I see where he is coming from (and my fiancé agrees with him). When I finally got my ASD diagnosis, I stopped masking as much. So my fiancé just saw “she got an Autism diagnosis and now is acting more Autistic”. He and my therapist think that another diagnosis would just validate and intensify the cognitive distortions I already have.
But I feel, like I did with my ADHD and ASD diagnoses, that an OCD diagnosis (if I’m indeed correct) would be extremely validating and help me to understand myself better. I also feel that it would benefit and make more effective my treatment plan.
What do you think? I’d really appreciate your insight on this.
3:15
So you all interrogate your clients😂
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Can you self diagnose mental illness accurately? Of course you can. I do it every day. Sometimes several times a day.
I hope this was sarcasm
Wow, great information!!.😮 Ty Katie.😊
33:21
When I think why I don’t speak in therapy its because I’m afraid that they will use it against me for example like harm intrusive thoughts, I know it’s irrational but I still believe it and the therapist could take advantage in the sense of hospitalising me which in-turn I know It would make it worse because It would force me to be around too many people. logically I mostly know that the therapist wouldn’t use it against me but some where in my brain I still believe that they will but nothing has even happened like that.
Could the cause be something that isn’t the same but similar and has moulded over time like I was a social services kid and would be taken out of class a lot and talked to by the social worker and if I said like “I wasnt eating” the worker would take it at face value and wouldn’t question it they wouldn’t question whether I was being feed or whether it was a eating disorder, they just went straight to their supervisor and they assumed that I wasn’t being feed, which made it harder to say anything because they didn’t take my age into consideration or my vocabulary anything I said they would twist my words to make it easier for them.
My ex therapist like that terrible therapist and I've been scared to go back to therapy because of her
You don't need to be an expert to start learning. Otherwise experts wouldn't exist.
I think you learned WHEE from Daniel Benor, MD
I always get more depressed in the summer, and I’ve never understood it
I'm the same with the mosquitos. I take 5000 iu vitamin D and 50mg 5-HTP daily now to help with my mood due to depression in the summer.
For some people yes but good to get a professional to agree or disagree with it I am pretty much fully self diagnosed but nobody can say I am wrong with it
My cousin an ex care giver told my parents I might be autistic I am pretty sure i might have been 2 or 3 at the time
She picked up on the fact that I followed the sound of water over her voice
I self diagnosed myself fir autism because I forgot about her asking me and my response to her being so young when she asked (I am about 5 when she asked) I said I do not know
Whenever I tried to bring it up to my parents after I made the diagnosis myself I got called a liar for the longest time but I knew i am autistic and didnt care about being called a liar
My borderline personality disorder something I was pretty sure around 13 I had that but called a liar dropped it dissociated in 2017 knew for sure and dont bring it up that I have it except to youtubers
💖💖💖💖
Was just talking about the depression topic with my therapist, because they recognised the summer depression and I saw a documentary on the effects of pollen on that
ua-cam.com/video/UnKqxUd63oE/v-deo.htmlsi=5KYcj8F-oKeZTBjX
Summer in itself does not cause depression. It is the external trigger. It is how we relate to this external trigger. How we contain the emotions and how we think (ruminate) about this external challenge.
No absolutely not
18:29 people. we gotta start wearing long flowing outfits that obscure our body and drift in the wind. 1: our planet is getting hotter and you absolutely should cover more with natural fabrics to wick sweat. B: you look amazing. thirdly, no pants. + small modest clothing businesses will love you
Never trust the word just.
@katimorton. I can really understand and relate to summertime depression and mixed emotions and feelings I definitely could relate to question 3 😢❤🙏🏻