As a Mexican American I can verify that accepting the tamales was the right move. Food is a big deal thing for us as is showing appreciation. Rejecting the gift would’ve been offensive and would’ve hurt their feelings. Helpful tip, be careful when completing anything in a Mexican household as they might insist on giving it to you 😂
I believe it is a Latino custom. Most Latino family does the same. I traveled many places and met Latinos from different backgrounds and the closer the descendants are to their roots, they carry on this custom of food. I believe some Asian cultures do the same since food is a symbol of acceptance, integration to their group. I believe even some other nationalities have the same custom of giving their guest their home food or traditional dish and would expect the guest to accept it. Some people are just better in disguising their distate of being rejected and just say that to their family members and a reason why some of those guests never stayed friends with guest their brought home 😉
as a Brazilian I can totally confirm it, right now there is even a meme about this. it's a scale putting some countries like Germany that you won't even be invited to someone's house and in Brazil that people will offer food anytime you comes by, but also Minas Gerais, one of our states, where you'll be held captive until you accept some coffee with pão de queijo
From another Mexican person. That story was so touching. We often feel like the overlooked immigrants. The black sheep of American immigrants. Accepting and then telling them their tamales were delicious probably meant the world to them. Thank you for showing them such kindness.
As a latina, thank goodness you accepted the tamales. It would have hurt the family a lot if you didn't. You could have made them feel like you were looking them down or that you felt the food was unhygienic. I am so moved that this story means so much to you
Dr Curry watched the verdict today on Emily D Baker’s stream and sent her a super chat. I bet she (Dr Curry) would come on w/ you for an interview. I know there are things she can’t reveal, but I would be fascinated to watch an interview between my 2 idols in psychology
@@lizzyvega9612 I was wondering how many of Dr Honda’s people saw her. That was so cool that she dropped a hello and let us know she was w/ us. There are a lot of interviews I want to see after this trial (e.g. JD, Camille Vasquez, Ben Chew, Richard Marx, etc) but Dr Curry w/ Dr Honda is at the top of that list.
I think that Dr. Hughes probably is a very good psychologist with a plethora of experience in her field. But over the years as she's gotten older she starts to rely more and more on her experience and started cutting corners because she felt she is so experienced and then get put against the wall when a younger more tenacious and strict procedural oriented psychologist challenges her way of doing it. I think that is what happened, not out of malice or anything, but because she didn't do it properly from the beginning of the evaluation she ended up looking this bad even though she most likely is a great psychologist that has helped many many individuals. Dr. Curry also just comes across as so more prepared and believable in the way she formulate her points and present her reasoning and explain so even a layman can understand to a degree what she is talking about. She talks about everything with such confidence and stoicism which is really only possible if you believe in your heart and soul that you have done no errors in the procedural phase.
Keyboard warriorrrrrr, u kno he's making up fake scenarios from these Depp vs heard clips...like he's just making up a total fictional "diagnosis". I mean I find it to be stupid but his fanclub said that's wats going on. If anything his opinions were totally wrong from the actual result.
she didn't say in her first testimony that the score was't above 65, she said didn't remember and asked the lawyer to show the report so she could remember, but the lawyer ignored her request
To be fair, she had to spend time looking at the document to draw the conclusions she did and decide what to say in court. It seems that in Dr. Honda's opinion, if he had been the one reviewing the test scores and they were not above 65, he would not walk into the courtroom and suggest a diagnosis or imply one. I interpreted as though I was taking a college class and the pass/fail mark was 50%. Although I may not remember the exact score, I would definitely remember whether I passed or failed the course.
@@dianaadamo5574 he later said that above 60 is already considered by a lot as enough for the specific 3 6 code type. he isn't a forensic psychologist as he said because the work is so tedious and one has to review a lot of documents and prepare a lot of reports. so it is fair from his description to assume she could have forgot the exact number due to how much documentation and how many points she had to present
I just want to comment that the genuine emotion of the cuts of crying here are truly beautiful and I wholeheartedly agree that it will be an important threshold to share all of it some day when ready. I used to hate crying myself as well but now I embrace it, particularly for these types of touching moments. They’re so precious. I also think that it is just about the most healthy, emotionally competent AND secure authentic expression of positive masculinity? Whatever the opposite of toxic masculinity is. I know you’re married and this comment is just an objective one - but this type of display is extremely attractive. I wish more men were taught that this is not just okay, but lovely. I wish more men, including you, were given messages to feel free and at ease with such beautiful emotions. Vulnerability and openness to genuine emotions have been so underrated, but I highly doubt that I am the only woman who finds them attractive/ beautiful in others.
That last part is so true and I just wanted to share that I feel the same way. It was healing to see all of the men cry at the funeral of my dad. It was healing for me in a way because my father never cried in front of me. What I want to add though is that I also feel you on explaining that you don't intend to hit on Dr. Honda just because you're making this point. I hate it to the core of my soul that every single positive and friendly expression like that can and will be interpreted as an intend to flirt by some people if it doesn't even cross most people's mind. It's just another manifestation of the sexualisation of every friendly interaction especially people of different (-ly read) genders have. Why is that so common in humanity? Can we not differentiate between friendliness and flirting? It's one of the causes for so many interactions that border on assault and we need to collectively just stop reading more into friendliness then there is.
@@mariuzzac Thank you for this response - I'm so glad you had the catharsis for your father when you passed. Those losses are so hard. Also thank you for understanding the interpretation. I well know by now in seeing his reactions that Dr. Honda would take no offense and not take it inappropriately, but I know that our culture is still very toxic and although most of the time I don't even care I think on the day of writing this the trial was still going on and I was personally feeling vulnerable at having old traumas lightly triggered, and I just wanted to make a genuine comment without a bunch of trolling.
Thank you for all you do Dr. Honda. It changed my life when I started watching your channel, I know it's not a replacement for therapy but for those of us that can barely afford to get by, it's therapeutic, educational and uplifting. I still get attacked for crying so it's so nice to hear a man say it's not only ok but healthy. I have to stop watching this while doing makeup though because I cry every time (in a good way) and have to start all over again lol God bless you and yours, you're making a difference!
As a Mexican-American I know that you did the exactly right thing by accepting those tamales. Our food, we believe, only tastes good when we have intentions of love and positivity while making it. Also, you made me cry so hard today. Thank you for being such a kind human!
FYI Dr. Kirk: Dr. Hughes has done over 100 cases in forensic psychology including working on the R. Kelly case. She's had motions placed by lawyers in the past to have her testimony stricken on hearsay grounds for presenting information by the client as factual (such as the R. Kelly case). She also has a book on how to provide expert testimony in a forensic setting. I think that's why people question her credibility in the way she performed her tasks as an expert witness. Her bias was also shown in her testimony. Whereas, with Dr. Curry, I think people appreciated her transparency in demonstrating what a test can and cannot do. It gives the fact-finders (and the general public) the opportunity to determine for themselves what should be the outcome based on her testimony. I believe there was a stipulation placed on the actual finding of each test in terms of quantifiable data by the lawyers of both parties for a few reasons. Forensic Psychologists have to protect the tools available to them. If they start discussing the numbers when it is aired on the media there is a potential that a layperson may be privy to the knowledge of how to take these tests that is favourable for them in other legal proceedings. Also, the numbers won't mean much to the jury without the corresponding explanation which again most Forensic Psychologists want to avoid getting into. Lastly, it can also be seen as an invasion of privacy for both parties when it comes to their medical records. I think it's one thing to say what the conclusions are from the tests and a brief overview of the finding and a completely different ballgame entirely to expose every section of the test and the corresponding numbers. That would be taking it too far for both the plaintiff and defence. I mean no disrespect to either side, just wanted to clarify to Dr. Kirk who seems disappointed in being unable to provide us with a conclusive response based on both Dr. Hughes and Dr. Curry's testimony (and understandably so!). Thank you for creating a space of acceptance where we all can learn about the complexities of trauma and mental health and show compassion and kindness. At the end of the day, this is an unfortunate and troubling event for both individuals. I appreciate you for giving both sides the benefit of doubt.
Haha.. she got her testimony stricken? She's an advocate. Not an impartial forensic psychologist. Even slightly biased is fine. But when you're full blown trying to advocate for a position by twisting the science then that's a bad thing.
@@FlexGC yup it is indeed. Interestingly it was kept out of this case. I wonder if they had some stipulations on it because some of these motions are still on going.
That moment "...to tell them that they mattered" was so moving, I cried. I've been at the crossroads many times both at work and personally. It's when I realize I'm holding someone's heart in my hands and that there is nothing more important in that moment than their knowing that they are valued and that they matter. Thanks for sharing that experience with us.
I'm glad for the verdict today, but I really hope Amber has a good support network and a good therapist, and that she's able to focus her attention elsewhere, move on and heal and improve her life in healthy ways. I haven't believed her claims of violence, but I believe she's hurting, and I want her to be well
Same she needs to stop trying to get validation from us though, she needs help from a professional and I think she has the money for it so I don’t see why not
The story of the immigrant family and you accepting their gift of food as a small, yet not small, way of letting them know that they matter was very touching. My gf immigrated from Central America as well and I know that’s something she struggles with every day, some days more than others. Thanks for sharing that!
Ahhh, the story about the tamales was so heart touching! I come from a similar family and at first there were times when we had very little but cooking something for people that helped/supported us felt like the only way we could thank them. Also I can’t tell you how much joy a lot of Mexican immigrants feel when non-Latinos in the US are accepting/appreciative of their culture. I grew up around the undocumented Latino community and I too can’t help but feel touched when people talk about them as humans because growing up that wasn’t always how my parents were treated.
i doubt it's as simple as Dr Curry being closer to graduate school. I see it more in terms of different temperaments / styles - Dr Curry is very precise in her language, expressions and mannerisms . Dr Hughes is quite imprecise in her language and manner. Which may explain why so much of Dr Curry's focus is forensic work which rewards precision and meticulousness - whereas Hughes focus is more treatment and academic / activism which may attract someone more inclined towards creative impulse and empathetic connection founded on a deliberate assumption of belief
I cried with you Dr. Honda. Thank you for sharing. As a Hispanic person myself, I can tell you how much it means in my culture when someone accepts a gift no matter how small because often it’s all we have to give.
I love how you speculate reasons for why someone might have done something. I think there's compelling reasons to believe Amber is lying or exaggerating, but you give enough reasonable doubt as to why we shouldn't jump to conclusions, think in black and white, or completely side with Johnny or Amber. Life and people are messy. Thank you
I’m usually not the type of person to leave comments under videos but I’m a huge fan and as a Mexican, the wholesome story you shared made me cry. Thank you for helping that family and welcoming them. I hope to one day be that person for another immigrant family one day. You’re such an inspiration
@@bashmeesh this channel for sure! I’m really grateful for the community that is fostered here and I find Dr. Honda’s videos a fantastic contrast against what UA-cam sometimes mistakenly believes via the algorithms that I will be interested in. A thoughtful analysis of something that is bothering me from really any professional or ethical expert perspective for sure. But salacious and name-calling and especially the campaigning to bully particularly in aggressive and threatening ways… two wrongs never make a right. People can express their opinions and feelings but I’ve been a lot more interested in those who can remain empathetic or at least respectful in doing so. This is a good community.
At my therapists' practice, the group therapy room is covered in art that current and former clients have made and my individual therapist also has a few pieces from her clients. It's really cool to see how many talented artists are coming to that practice.
The food sharing story was lovely. The feeling of contribution and others needing you is a pretty primal need, so being the reason someone is happy about themselves in that regard is huge
Tamale story and the vulnerability during Kirk’s remembrance, absolutely beautiful and powerful. What a moment of strength to be touched by the family even in the recollection. These are the moments that I’m here for! Thanks Kirk!
The story about the tamales is so sweet (btw, you were pronouncing it correctly). I'm not Mexican but I lived in Mexico for 13 years and my husband is from Mexico. I'm glad you were able to accept that gift because I'm sure it meant a lot to the family as you said. I have definitely noticed that culturally a big way of saying thank you is to give someone food or help them in their life in a practical way. It's a very special thing to be a part of and I'm glad you got to experience that. Seeing you tear up about it made me feel emotional and grateful for so many memories I have with friends in Mexico that have become family ❤️🇲🇽
Thank you for letting us in. As a daughter of immigrant parents from Morocco, food has always been their way to show gratitude and appréciation. You describe how eating it was a way to show that they matter : I couldn't agree more. I've seen the way my parents hid, almost in shame, parts of their culture. Food was one of the rare aspect of their culture that got to thrive outside of our home, to see the light of day, as a way to connect with others. I'm so glad you accepted their food, such hospitality is so deeply felt. Thank you for sharing !
I think Dr Curry had also said in her previous testimony that AH answered the test as if she’s trying to outsmart it. Suppressing symptoms re. personality disorder Qs and extreme exaggeration of PTSD symptoms. I think Dr Curry didn’t mention numbers and figures to dumb it down for those of us that are non-psychologists and the test data means nothing to us. I think Dr. Hughes as a clinical psychologist and forensic psychologist approached this case like AH was a patient and administered tests as someone who is her client coming to her for treatment.
in all my years of existing, ive never met someone and thought of them as a role model, even as a child i never had someon i wanted to be like until now. As soon as i saw Dr.Curry on the stand and her composure, just the way she speaks is amazing to me. I feel super late but i can say that she's my role model.
I'm going to write same as a member wrote few weeks ago under one of your photos. I'm so glad for our community. That we're safe enough space that Dr. Kirk feels comfortable being vulnerable.
You did such an amazing thing taking the food and eating it. It means so much to other cultures. The base their whole social feel good moments around sharing food. Not just with family, but with neighbors and community. You made them so happy and made them feel worth, love, respect, and dignity.
How kind and respectful and humble that was. Thank you so much for having the biggest heart, being so fair and unbiased. You're my favorite and such an amazing person! ❤️
The tamales story is not only the purest thing I've ever seen on UA-cam, it's probably even the purest thing I've seen on this particular channel--and that's saying something! Thank you for the lovely story and just for being you, Dr H!
16:20 that's exactly what she said the first time she testified LOL. She said she didnt write anything because she knows the answer and people can just look it up on her other notes hahaha
Thanks, Dr. Kirk, for being so caring and vulnerable. It's very healing for those of us who grew up around a lot of toxic masculinity. Also, I'm so happy you'll still be here in 20 years. It's strangely healing to hear you say that too. 🙏🤗
Honestly I think you already ARE at the place we are Appreciative to see because we don’t see men even admit to wanting to cry and this was just so powerful that your reasoning was so pure
I had a really rough day at work today. This video gift just brought me great joy. I always look forward to listening to your commentary. I think I listen to you talk more than I watch tv. Thank you, Dr. Honda! 💕
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt experience with the immigrant family. Crying is truly therapeutic, our tears will release specific chemicals depending on the trigger or purpose of the tears, helping out body release stress! I appreciate that you did it, regardless of whether you break down on camera. Emotion is swelling across our society lately and it’s great. You’re leading by example at your own pace. Grateful for your content & sending you healing energy! 🤍
Thanks Dr. Honda! Both together proved AH was feigning. The two approaches proved AH was feigning, claiming she had PTSD and trying to link it to JD (she probably have/had PTSD, since she allegedly had a rough childhood, and she kind of had an accident where her best friend died) yet the forensics proved she was exaggerating and lying in some symptoms and items/scales. Had Dr. Curry conducted tests to prove malingering we may have even not had case, or closed case in the end! Thanks again Dr Honda, I kept stuck to your podcast !! Very interesting material and treasured insights !!¡¡!!
Thank you for sharing that touching story with us 💜 I've learned so much from you since I started watching your channel last month, and I appreciate your commitment to remaining neutral on these various cases that you are commenting on. Thanks again for taking the time to review these cases with us!
I’m listening to this while I work and I did NOT anticipate crying for any reason other than pure frustration by my job. I’m so happy that my tears are due to something so beautiful
Leaving sections blank on a standardized test, invalidates the testing. In order for a standardized test to be valid, the prescribed protocol must be adhered to with rigid compliance. This is not "up in the air". Failure to do so does not meet professional standards of clinical practice and is therefore unethical. In a forensic setting (if done deliberately) can also be illegal.
I think you beautifully explained the difference between unethically accepting a gift from a client and ethically accepting a gift by this story about that Mexican immigrant family. Being able to offer you some food meant a lot to them, you accepting the offer meant even more. You might have been the first American citizen they perceived as being a part of their life and a friend, somebody who genuinely tried to help them in their difficult situation, so being able to thank you by "giving something back" meant the world to them. I think that your thought that you did something therapeutic by making an exception to the "no gifts from clients"-rule is on point.
It might help to know that AH was in a terrible car accident prior to meeting JD in which her best friend was killed. That could lend to the PTSD that she may have also.
@@oldandstillhere she was found at fault and her license was suspended for several years. It's still very sad and a horrific experience, of course, but that could be where the PTSD levels were showing up.
@@transmanj9443 but she was a juvenile at the time that occurred, so If she were involved, those records would be sealed. Is there a link you can direct me to?
I don't think I've ever even seen my own father cry, and it took my brother a long time to let tears out, so I always appreciate it when male presenting people even acknowledge that they cry. Thanks for being open enough to tell us that you stopped to cry instead of choosing to make something up. It's a step in the right direction.
your story about an immigrant family made me get choked up too, I’m from an immigrant family so it touches me a bit more when families are. I really deeply appreciate your emotion around it and your expression of it.
I´m very happy my therapist has been accepting my gifts so far. They´ve been cheap in terms of money but highly personal and made with a lot of effort. They´ve also not been gifts out of politeness on special occasions like Christmas. Two of them have been themed to funny coincidences in our lives that just seemed reasonable for me to use as an opportunity to show him how much I appreciate him and how much he does for me. The other one was an art piece I let him decide on the subject and then started to craft. I feel so seen because he understands how important it is for me to give something back to him symbolically.
Thank you for elucidating about the gift exchange rule. I accepted a bunch of roses from a client once: it was clearly a gift in the transference. His ex-wife was dying and his attendance at her sick-bed, while tolerated, was still too painful to the rest of the family for them to witness the exchange of a gift. Our session around my acceptance of it and the true symbolism of the gift was one of the most significant of our work. Rules are indeed necessary, but never absolute.
I wanted to say thank you fro allowing yourself to cry, or get close to it, my history makes it almost impossible to do so but seeing a person I greatly respect showing that vulnerability really does help. Thank you!
The story of the tamales reminds me of when I was a barely graduated reporter working at a mid-size newspaper. I went to someone's home to interview them because they had been displaced by Katrina-- several states away from New Orleans. I was writing an article on their story, but also highlighting the items the 3 new children would need and were asking for as Christmas gifts. It was a cousin's home who already had a few children, and of course, these additional kids had lost everything they owned. The grandmother gave me this huge tupperware of gumbo, and kept piling more and more to take home, asking me how many people I had (husband, one kid, etc) to feed. It was clearly a gesture of love because the article, a simple assignment for me, might help the family. Journalists are also not supposed to take gifts; there could be ethics issues involved with someone trying to sway you to write well of them or leave something out. But this was not that kind of story, and it just would have been WRONG to say no. It was very touching.
The story about the tamales was beautiful, it made me so emotional 😭 My first therapist closed her practice to study abroad and I gave her a parting gift. It meant so much to me that she accepted it. I gave her a small painting of hydrangea flowers that I did myself. Those are not only my favorite flowers but also have a meaning of gratitude for understanding.
Code types on the MMPI 2 don’t necessarily have to be 65 + to be clinically notable. You also have to look at them relative to other clinical scales and validity indices.
Fun fact: "Spiegel" means "mirror" in German. Maybe he indeed is a mirror of some individuals representing the field badly and more ego-driven than morally.
Dr. Huges did not properly administer the tests. Dr. Huges had made up her mind prior to administering the tests and skewed the results to that view. Dr. Hughes also has many ethics complaints regarding her testimony in several trials.
I am an LCSW and used to work with adults with serious mental illness (adults with disabling schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, etc so the people who have lost a lot of social skills and ability to socialize) and I had clients give me gifts. I was very careful to reiterate that it wasn't necessary, that it was my pleasure and job to help them, etc. But like Dr Honda's experience there can be a healing value with some of these things. Giving gifts is sometimes a very important social lesson or glue... and sometimes gift giving and gift receiving is repairative. It's important to be careful and reinforce that a gift isn't necessary, but therapists are fellow human beings in addition to being a helping profession. Having healthy human relationships is part of what we model for some of our clients.
I cried around min 25, that really was touching and you could feel the emotion through the screen. During all these hours of watching AH testimony I didn't feel that kind of emotion, not even closely...
As weird as I may sound. . . This is why I love watching your videos. They're way more than entertainment or Insightful. You're not only incredably intelligent but you're incredably inclusive, kind, genuine, and empathetic. Dare I get mushy and say you've become the healthiest male influence/mentor I've had my entire 31 years? Sure am. 😁
The tamales / tamalees brain fart moment was the best moment of the video. So relatable. I stumble upon your video. I'm binge watching them and I really like how you explain and break down everything.
I think you are focusing a lot on the differences between Dr. Hughes and Dr. Spiegel instead of looking at their similarities, which is much simpler, they were both paid to give a predetermined diagnosis and sell a narrative. And I'm not saying Dr. Curry doesn't have any biases but she is doing a much better job at presenting what's evidence instead of trying to sell a narrative or sell Amber Heard's self reports as facts.
The gift giving reminds me of that scene in HBOs Band of Brothers where Winters reprimands Buck Compton for gambling with his men. His reasoning was that as an officer you should never put yourself in a place where you can take from your men. So it’s similar as a therapist don’t place yourself where you take from someone who’s dependent on you.
Omg, I wrote my previous comment way in the beginning of the video. I just came across the tamales story. So moving: thank you Dr Honda for being so real, it teaches me every time that it is worth to be vulnerable. I admire you a lot.
Dr Honda.. you are so awesome and give such a great example of strength and vulnerability..it's so encouraging because I'm hoping other men seeing this will also let themselves be as vulnerable and feel safe to cry and allow themselves to be an emotional human. And yes you said tamales right🥰
Thank you for your sharing your views on gift giving. I was about to say that I ugly cried but I was just emotional and crying. There’s no need to pathologize that. My mom makes tamales to “sell” but she makes absolutely zero profit and just makes them when people order them. She prepares her own masa, sources her chiles from stores all over town…She doesn’t keep anything secret and offers to teach anyone that’s interested. Recently, a friend of hers died and she hosted the rosary for her friend for the 9 days following the death. Every night she had something warm prepared for the people who came to pray to enjoy. I just love my mom and am so thankful for my culture. And thank you Doc for being vulnerable enough to show that you cried at all. I hope one day I can cry in front of people without wanting to leave the room immediately. And yes you are saying tamales correctly. A single one is called a tamal. 💕
Now that the verdict is out I really wish they'd both get psychological help... I am on Johnny's side and I'm glad he won but I feel like Amber is also hurting.
@QueenMushu Yep she still won 2 million and gets to spin this to the media they are even saying they both won. She also got lucky that Johnny couldn’t pursue more charges due to his lawyers advising him not to and the statute of limitations running out.
what she did, does it deserve condemnation? yes. but global humiliation as well as millions of debt? damn thats kinda harsh, and thats the thing when youre famous
But the thing about the 2 million it will help with the they both won vs if she got nothing. She is already pushing the narrative by what she posted on instagram. Apparently some sources say her house insurance is paying the attorneys fees.
@@Ilovegrunge123 nah, it killed a lot of her appeals options. Although, even if they found all the other factors Of defamation in her favor on that statement, idk how they got to actual malice, since Adam Waldman had a binder of evidence to support his theory.
I know You guessed one thing right. I distinctly remember Dr Hughes saying she only take very few cases per year, 2 or 3 may be. Dr Curry has done more in the Forensic setting i think. she said she works regularly as a independent forensic evaluator for state courts, law enforcement agencies and the U.S. military
Everyone loves tamales, particularly around Christmas! I’ve had clients that are children that will give me cookies they bake, or drawings they make, it’s very sweet, and it adds to their self esteem
As a Mexican, I can tell you that cooking for someone is one of the biggest ways we show love and affection. Our culture isn't well known for being good at communication, but we make up for that in our food. Making tamales isn't easy in the sense that making it taste good for everyone is a gift, so knowing that you enjoyed it is very satisfying. This is kind of like that story of Jesus and the poor woman, she gave everything she had, while the rich gave what was leftover. Surely the family that thanked you gave you all that they could at the time. Had they been capable of more, you would've gotten some Flan or Gelatina with it. Maybe even some Tres Leches. 😁
You’re so adorable, yes I’m happy you accepted the tamales. They are so time consuming to make and I’m sure it was made especially for you. I love watching your channel, makes me love people again. Lol
Many people don't always laugh at people in a horrible way, it can also be gallows humour which many people who have had trauma themselves and don't know how to react in a socially acceptable way.
I think the difference between Dr. Curry and Dr. Hughes highlights how much your personality being suited to a job affects how you come off. Dr. Curry may have brought just as much personal bias into interpreting her testing results as Dr. Hughes but she presents it in a way that focuses on the technical applications of the tools so it is far less apparent. For the MMPI, it might be that Amber's results were in a range that could be interpreted either way but where Dr. Hughes' explanations would tend to exaggerate Amber's credibility and just state the results in a "I'm the expert, believe me" way, Dr. Curry's approach is to explain the context and use it to baluster her opinions - ie. When we take the defensiveness scale - which we expect to be somewhat elevated but not the the extend Amber's was - in combination with the elevation in this section it indicates X. And actually, there is justification for a diagnosis of Y, but I am staying somewhat conservative and only diagnosing her with X. The effect of the presentation is much different.
Aw, Dr. Honda that was a beautiful story and your emotions are a breath of fresh air- Just beautiful all around. I’m so glad you ate the tamales. I bet it meant the world to them to show their appreciation of you and also that you accepted their gift. Boys should cry…
About 3 6 code type By this time the jury was able to see all the issues about Amber Heard personality highlighted by Dr Curry themselves with Amber being on stand for many hours so what Dr Hughes would argue is hardly relevant
As a Mexican American I can verify that accepting the tamales was the right move. Food is a big deal thing for us as is showing appreciation. Rejecting the gift would’ve been offensive and would’ve hurt their feelings. Helpful tip, be careful when completing anything in a Mexican household as they might insist on giving it to you 😂
I believe it is a Latino custom. Most Latino family does the same. I traveled many places and met Latinos from different backgrounds and the closer the descendants are to their roots, they carry on this custom of food. I believe some Asian cultures do the same since food is a symbol of acceptance, integration to their group. I believe even some other nationalities have the same custom of giving their guest their home food or traditional dish and would expect the guest to accept it. Some people are just better in disguising their distate of being rejected and just say that to their family members and a reason why some of those guests never stayed friends with guest their brought home 😉
It is also a middle eastern costum too! For a lot of middle easterners atleast not all
as a Brazilian I can totally confirm it, right now there is even a meme about this. it's a scale putting some countries like Germany that you won't even be invited to someone's house and in Brazil that people will offer food anytime you comes by, but also Minas Gerais, one of our states, where you'll be held captive until you accept some coffee with pão de queijo
Same for The Philippines. We love sharing food with people. I think eating with people is a good bonding experience
also correct pronunciation
From another Mexican person. That story was so touching. We often feel like the overlooked immigrants. The black sheep of American immigrants. Accepting and then telling them their tamales were delicious probably meant the world to them. Thank you for showing them such kindness.
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"Doctor Spiegel is gonna doctor Spiegel" that had me cackling and caught me off guard
Time stamp please, I'm watching from work 😭
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@@alishahrose2076 love you thank you ❤️
SAME!!!! loved it :-D
😂😂same
As a latina, thank goodness you accepted the tamales. It would have hurt the family a lot if you didn't. You could have made them feel like you were looking them down or that you felt the food was unhygienic. I am so moved that this story means so much to you
Dr Curry watched the verdict today on Emily D Baker’s stream and sent her a super chat. I bet she (Dr Curry) would come on w/ you for an interview. I know there are things she can’t reveal, but I would be fascinated to watch an interview between my 2 idols in psychology
I saw it, too! I got so excited because Dr. Curry is paying attention to UA-cam!
@@lizzyvega9612 I was wondering how many of Dr Honda’s people saw her. That was so cool that she dropped a hello and let us know she was w/ us. There are a lot of interviews I want to see after this trial (e.g. JD, Camille Vasquez, Ben Chew, Richard Marx, etc) but Dr Curry w/ Dr Honda is at the top of that list.
I wanna see Dr. Honda and Emily D Baker discuss these clips together
@@henrysmith180 Dr. Honda was a guest on Legalbytes, I'm not sure which daily stream though.
I think that Dr. Hughes probably is a very good psychologist with a plethora of experience in her field.
But over the years as she's gotten older she starts to rely more and more on her experience and started cutting corners because she felt she is so experienced and then get put against the wall when a younger more tenacious and strict procedural oriented psychologist challenges her way of doing it.
I think that is what happened, not out of malice or anything, but because she didn't do it properly from the beginning of the evaluation she ended up looking this bad even though she most likely is a great psychologist that has helped many many individuals.
Dr. Curry also just comes across as so more prepared and believable in the way she formulate her points and present her reasoning and explain so even a layman can understand to a degree what she is talking about.
She talks about everything with such confidence and stoicism which is really only possible if you believe in your heart and soul that you have done no errors in the procedural phase.
Keyboard warriorrrrrr, u kno he's making up fake scenarios from these Depp vs heard clips...like he's just making up a total fictional "diagnosis". I mean I find it to be stupid but his fanclub said that's wats going on. If anything his opinions were totally wrong from the actual result.
Yea i love the scientific approach. It sounds unbiased and strong
she didn't say in her first testimony that the score was't above 65, she said didn't remember and asked the lawyer to show the report so she could remember, but the lawyer ignored her request
To be fair, she had to spend time looking at the document to draw the conclusions she did and decide what to say in court. It seems that in Dr. Honda's opinion, if he had been the one reviewing the test scores and they were not above 65, he would not walk into the courtroom and suggest a diagnosis or imply one. I interpreted as though I was taking a college class and the pass/fail mark was 50%. Although I may not remember the exact score, I would definitely remember whether I passed or failed the course.
@@dianaadamo5574 he later said that above 60 is already considered by a lot as enough for the specific 3 6 code type. he isn't a forensic psychologist as he said because the work is so tedious and one has to review a lot of documents and prepare a lot of reports. so it is fair from his description to assume she could have forgot the exact number due to how much documentation and how many points she had to present
I just want to comment that the genuine emotion of the cuts of crying here are truly beautiful and I wholeheartedly agree that it will be an important threshold to share all of it some day when ready. I used to hate crying myself as well but now I embrace it, particularly for these types of touching moments. They’re so precious. I also think that it is just about the most healthy, emotionally competent AND secure authentic expression of positive masculinity? Whatever the opposite of toxic masculinity is.
I know you’re married and this comment is just an objective one - but this type of display is extremely attractive. I wish more men were taught that this is not just okay, but lovely. I wish more men, including you, were given messages to feel free and at ease with such beautiful emotions. Vulnerability and openness to genuine emotions have been so underrated, but I highly doubt that I am the only woman who finds them attractive/ beautiful in others.
That last part is so true and I just wanted to share that I feel the same way. It was healing to see all of the men cry at the funeral of my dad. It was healing for me in a way because my father never cried in front of me.
What I want to add though is that I also feel you on explaining that you don't intend to hit on Dr. Honda just because you're making this point. I hate it to the core of my soul that every single positive and friendly expression like that can and will be interpreted as an intend to flirt by some people if it doesn't even cross most people's mind. It's just another manifestation of the sexualisation of every friendly interaction especially people of different (-ly read) genders have. Why is that so common in humanity? Can we not differentiate between friendliness and flirting? It's one of the causes for so many interactions that border on assault and we need to collectively just stop reading more into friendliness then there is.
@@mariuzzac Thank you for this response - I'm so glad you had the catharsis for your father when you passed. Those losses are so hard.
Also thank you for understanding the interpretation. I well know by now in seeing his reactions that Dr. Honda would take no offense and not take it inappropriately, but I know that our culture is still very toxic and although most of the time I don't even care I think on the day of writing this the trial was still going on and I was personally feeling vulnerable at having old traumas lightly triggered, and I just wanted to make a genuine comment without a bunch of trolling.
Thank you for all you do Dr. Honda. It changed my life when I started watching your channel, I know it's not a replacement for therapy but for those of us that can barely afford to get by, it's therapeutic, educational and uplifting. I still get attacked for crying so it's so nice to hear a man say it's not only ok but healthy. I have to stop watching this while doing makeup though because I cry every time (in a good way) and have to start all over again lol God bless you and yours, you're making a difference!
well said! I concur!
love from texas ❤️
As a Mexican-American I know that you did the exactly right thing by accepting those tamales. Our food, we believe, only tastes good when we have intentions of love and positivity while making it. Also, you made me cry so hard today. Thank you for being such a kind human!
FYI Dr. Kirk: Dr. Hughes has done over 100 cases in forensic psychology including working on the R. Kelly case. She's had motions placed by lawyers in the past to have her testimony stricken on hearsay grounds for presenting information by the client as factual (such as the R. Kelly case). She also has a book on how to provide expert testimony in a forensic setting. I think that's why people question her credibility in the way she performed her tasks as an expert witness. Her bias was also shown in her testimony. Whereas, with Dr. Curry, I think people appreciated her transparency in demonstrating what a test can and cannot do. It gives the fact-finders (and the general public) the opportunity to determine for themselves what should be the outcome based on her testimony.
I believe there was a stipulation placed on the actual finding of each test in terms of quantifiable data by the lawyers of both parties for a few reasons.
Forensic Psychologists have to protect the tools available to them. If they start discussing the numbers when it is aired on the media there is a potential that a layperson may be privy to the knowledge of how to take these tests that is favourable for them in other legal proceedings. Also, the numbers won't mean much to the jury without the corresponding explanation which again most Forensic Psychologists want to avoid getting into. Lastly, it can also be seen as an invasion of privacy for both parties when it comes to their medical records. I think it's one thing to say what the conclusions are from the tests and a brief overview of the finding and a completely different ballgame entirely to expose every section of the test and the corresponding numbers. That would be taking it too far for both the plaintiff and defence.
I mean no disrespect to either side, just wanted to clarify to Dr. Kirk who seems disappointed in being unable to provide us with a conclusive response based on both Dr. Hughes and Dr. Curry's testimony (and understandably so!). Thank you for creating a space of acceptance where we all can learn about the complexities of trauma and mental health and show compassion and kindness. At the end of the day, this is an unfortunate and troubling event for both individuals. I appreciate you for giving both sides the benefit of doubt.
Haha.. she got her testimony stricken? She's an advocate. Not an impartial forensic psychologist. Even slightly biased is fine. But when you're full blown trying to advocate for a position by twisting the science then that's a bad thing.
@@FlexGC yup it is indeed. Interestingly it was kept out of this case. I wonder if they had some stipulations on it because some of these motions are still on going.
That moment "...to tell them that they mattered" was so moving, I cried. I've been at the crossroads many times both at work and personally. It's when I realize I'm holding someone's heart in my hands and that there is nothing more important in that moment than their knowing that they are valued and that they matter. Thanks for sharing that experience with us.
I can’t emphasize how much interesting your videos are with your personal anecdotes. Story time is refreshing
I'm glad for the verdict today, but I really hope Amber has a good support network and a good therapist, and that she's able to focus her attention elsewhere, move on and heal and improve her life in healthy ways.
I haven't believed her claims of violence, but I believe she's hurting, and I want her to be well
Well said. I’m terribly concerned for her
Today was the only day she looked genuinely sad. I don't think she expected this.
This is too soft.
@@Beautycomesoutofashes That's your opinion
Same she needs to stop trying to get validation from us though, she needs help from a professional and I think she has the money for it so I don’t see why not
“Transparency is at the center of good science in general.”
I remember when she said that during her testimony and clapped for that response.
The story of the immigrant family and you accepting their gift of food as a small, yet not small, way of letting them know that they matter was very touching. My gf immigrated from Central America as well and I know that’s something she struggles with every day, some days more than others. Thanks for sharing that!
Ahhh, the story about the tamales was so heart touching! I come from a similar family and at first there were times when we had very little but cooking something for people that helped/supported us felt like the only way we could thank them. Also I can’t tell you how much joy a lot of Mexican immigrants feel when non-Latinos in the US are accepting/appreciative of their culture. I grew up around the undocumented Latino community and I too can’t help but feel touched when people talk about them as humans because growing up that wasn’t always how my parents were treated.
i doubt it's as simple as Dr Curry being closer to graduate school. I see it more in terms of different temperaments / styles - Dr Curry is very precise in her language, expressions and mannerisms . Dr Hughes is quite imprecise in her language and manner. Which may explain why so much of Dr Curry's focus is forensic work which rewards precision and meticulousness - whereas Hughes focus is more treatment and academic / activism which may attract someone more inclined towards creative impulse and empathetic connection founded on a deliberate assumption of belief
Adding to that, Dr curry also served in the military.
@@tomC-uz6ul Did not know that
This makes sense to me! I think that Dr. Hughes's approach to testing and diagnosis is acceptable in a clinical context, but not a forensic one.
Shes hot, brilliant, n well spoken. They just jealous of her. Hughes is a Maneater, she hates men, n probably put innocent ones to prison
I cried with you Dr. Honda. Thank you for sharing. As a Hispanic person myself, I can tell you how much it means in my culture when someone accepts a gift no matter how small because often it’s all we have to give.
I love how you speculate reasons for why someone might have done something. I think there's compelling reasons to believe Amber is lying or exaggerating, but you give enough reasonable doubt as to why we shouldn't jump to conclusions, think in black and white, or completely side with Johnny or Amber. Life and people are messy. Thank you
Really sweet story. As a Mexican Immigrant myself it’s great to hear that there are families out there getting mental health. 💕
I’m usually not the type of person to leave comments under videos but I’m a huge fan and as a Mexican, the wholesome story you shared made me cry. Thank you for helping that family and welcoming them. I hope to one day be that person for another immigrant family one day. You’re such an inspiration
Not sure if great or terrible timing to drop right at the verdict LOL! Thanks as always Dr. Honda - you're awesome!
I'm pleasantly surprised so far with the comments 🙏
@@bashmeesh this channel for sure! I’m really grateful for the community that is fostered here and I find Dr. Honda’s videos a fantastic contrast against what UA-cam sometimes mistakenly believes via the algorithms that I will be interested in. A thoughtful analysis of something that is bothering me from really any professional or ethical expert perspective for sure. But salacious and name-calling and especially the campaigning to bully particularly in aggressive and threatening ways… two wrongs never make a right. People can express their opinions and feelings but I’ve been a lot more interested in those who can remain empathetic or at least respectful in doing so. This is a good community.
@@Tcheera agreed! It's a breath of fresh air for the internet.
At my therapists' practice, the group therapy room is covered in art that current and former clients have made and my individual therapist also has a few pieces from her clients. It's really cool to see how many talented artists are coming to that practice.
The food sharing story was lovely. The feeling of contribution and others needing you is a pretty primal need, so being the reason someone is happy about themselves in that regard is huge
As a Mexican I was so touched by your story. God bless you Dr. Honda.
I cant wait to hear what he thinks of the verdict!
Tamale story and the vulnerability during Kirk’s remembrance, absolutely beautiful and powerful. What a moment of strength to be touched by the family even in the recollection. These are the moments that I’m here for! Thanks Kirk!
The story about the tamales is so sweet (btw, you were pronouncing it correctly). I'm not Mexican but I lived in Mexico for 13 years and my husband is from Mexico. I'm glad you were able to accept that gift because I'm sure it meant a lot to the family as you said. I have definitely noticed that culturally a big way of saying thank you is to give someone food or help them in their life in a practical way. It's a very special thing to be a part of and I'm glad you got to experience that. Seeing you tear up about it made me feel emotional and grateful for so many memories I have with friends in Mexico that have become family ❤️🇲🇽
Thank you for letting us in. As a daughter of immigrant parents from Morocco, food has always been their way to show gratitude and appréciation. You describe how eating it was a way to show that they matter : I couldn't agree more. I've seen the way my parents hid, almost in shame, parts of their culture. Food was one of the rare aspect of their culture that got to thrive outside of our home, to see the light of day, as a way to connect with others. I'm so glad you accepted their food, such hospitality is so deeply felt. Thank you for sharing !
I think Dr Curry had also said in her previous testimony that AH answered the test as if she’s trying to outsmart it. Suppressing symptoms re. personality disorder Qs and extreme exaggeration of PTSD symptoms.
I think Dr Curry didn’t mention numbers and figures to dumb it down for those of us that are non-psychologists and the test data means nothing to us.
I think Dr. Hughes as a clinical psychologist and forensic psychologist approached this case like AH was a patient and administered tests as someone who is her client coming to her for treatment.
in all my years of existing, ive never met someone and thought of them as a role model, even as a child i never had someon i wanted to be like until now. As soon as i saw Dr.Curry on the stand and her composure, just the way she speaks is amazing to me. I feel super late but i can say that she's my role model.
She would be a good one! A true professional and very sharp woman.
Dr. Shannon Curry and Ms. Camille Vasquez ! Seriously, amazing women.
I'm going to write same as a member wrote few weeks ago under one of your photos. I'm so glad for our community. That we're safe enough space that Dr. Kirk feels comfortable being vulnerable.
You did such an amazing thing taking the food and eating it. It means so much to other cultures. The base their whole social feel good moments around sharing food. Not just with family, but with neighbors and community. You made them so happy and made them feel worth, love, respect, and dignity.
How kind and respectful and humble that was.
Thank you so much for having the biggest heart, being so fair and unbiased.
You're my favorite and such an amazing person! ❤️
Your story made me cry! I’m a psychology student and you are such an inspiration to me!
I cried right there with you dr Honda! Thank you for seeing that gift for what it truly was. An act of love and appreciation.
The tamales story is not only the purest thing I've ever seen on UA-cam, it's probably even the purest thing I've seen on this particular channel--and that's saying something! Thank you for the lovely story and just for being you, Dr H!
16:20 that's exactly what she said the first time she testified LOL. She said she didnt write anything because she knows the answer and people can just look it up on her other notes hahaha
Thanks, Dr. Kirk, for being so caring and vulnerable. It's very healing for those of us who grew up around a lot of toxic masculinity. Also, I'm so happy you'll still be here in 20 years. It's strangely healing to hear you say that too. 🙏🤗
Honestly I think you already ARE at the place we are Appreciative to see because we don’t see men even admit to wanting to cry and this was just so powerful that your reasoning was so pure
I had a really rough day at work today. This video gift just brought me great joy. I always look forward to listening to your commentary. I think I listen to you talk more than I watch tv. Thank you, Dr. Honda! 💕
Thank you for sharing your heartfelt experience with the immigrant family. Crying is truly therapeutic, our tears will release specific chemicals depending on the trigger or purpose of the tears, helping out body release stress!
I appreciate that you did it, regardless of whether you break down on camera. Emotion is swelling across our society lately and it’s great. You’re leading by example at your own pace. Grateful for your content & sending you healing energy! 🤍
Thanks Dr. Honda!
Both together proved AH was feigning. The two approaches proved AH was feigning, claiming she had PTSD and trying to link it to JD (she probably have/had PTSD, since she allegedly had a rough childhood, and she kind of had an accident where her best friend died) yet the forensics proved she was exaggerating and lying in some symptoms and items/scales.
Had Dr. Curry conducted tests to prove malingering we may have even not had case, or closed case in the end!
Thanks again Dr Honda, I kept stuck to your podcast !! Very interesting material and treasured insights !!¡¡!!
Thank you for sharing that touching story with us 💜 I've learned so much from you since I started watching your channel last month, and I appreciate your commitment to remaining neutral on these various cases that you are commenting on. Thanks again for taking the time to review these cases with us!
I’m listening to this while I work and I did NOT anticipate crying for any reason other than pure frustration by my job. I’m so happy that my tears are due to something so beautiful
Leaving sections blank on a standardized test, invalidates the testing. In order for a standardized test to be valid, the prescribed protocol must be adhered to with rigid compliance. This is not "up in the air". Failure to do so does not meet professional standards of clinical practice and is therefore unethical. In a forensic setting (if done deliberately) can also be illegal.
I understand what you mean. By accepting their gift you honoured them.
I think you beautifully explained the difference between unethically accepting a gift from a client and ethically accepting a gift by this story about that Mexican immigrant family. Being able to offer you some food meant a lot to them, you accepting the offer meant even more. You might have been the first American citizen they perceived as being a part of their life and a friend, somebody who genuinely tried to help them in their difficult situation, so being able to thank you by "giving something back" meant the world to them. I think that your thought that you did something therapeutic by making an exception to the "no gifts from clients"-rule is on point.
I start crying whenever I sense someone else is about to cry. 😭 Beautiful story.
It might help to know that AH was in a terrible car accident prior to meeting JD in which her best friend was killed. That could lend to the PTSD that she may have also.
How awful!
@@oldandstillhere she was found at fault and her license was suspended for several years. It's still very sad and a horrific experience, of course, but that could be where the PTSD levels were showing up.
@@transmanj9443 where did you get this information? I ask because it’s been floating around but unverified as far as I know.
@@drako8343 the charges are shown on her criminal record.
@@transmanj9443 but she was a juvenile at the time that occurred, so If she were involved, those records would be sealed. Is there a link you can direct me to?
I don't think I've ever even seen my own father cry, and it took my brother a long time to let tears out, so I always appreciate it when male presenting people even acknowledge that they cry. Thanks for being open enough to tell us that you stopped to cry instead of choosing to make something up. It's a step in the right direction.
your story about an immigrant family made me get choked up too, I’m from an immigrant family so it touches me a bit more when families are. I really deeply appreciate your emotion around it and your expression of it.
I'm crying too. It is so special to see you cry. What a gift you are. Thank you for sharing that touching moment with us.
I'm not crying, you're crying! You are the. sweetest most empathetic person. It's amazing.
The verdict is in and it is wonderful!
I´m very happy my therapist has been accepting my gifts so far. They´ve been cheap in terms of money but highly personal and made with a lot of effort. They´ve also not been gifts out of politeness on special occasions like Christmas. Two of them have been themed to funny coincidences in our lives that just seemed reasonable for me to use as an opportunity to show him how much I appreciate him and how much he does for me. The other one was an art piece I let him decide on the subject and then started to craft. I feel so seen because he understands how important it is for me to give something back to him symbolically.
That story is so sweet, thank you for sharing.
Thank you for elucidating about the gift exchange rule. I accepted a bunch of roses from a client once: it was clearly a gift in the transference. His ex-wife was dying and his attendance at her sick-bed, while tolerated, was still too painful to the rest of the family for them to witness the exchange of a gift. Our session around my acceptance of it and the true symbolism of the gift was one of the most significant of our work. Rules are indeed necessary, but never absolute.
I wanted to say thank you fro allowing yourself to cry, or get close to it, my history makes it almost impossible to do so but seeing a person I greatly respect showing that vulnerability really does help. Thank you!
The story of the tamales reminds me of when I was a barely graduated reporter working at a mid-size newspaper. I went to someone's home to interview them because they had been displaced by Katrina-- several states away from New Orleans. I was writing an article on their story, but also highlighting the items the 3 new children would need and were asking for as Christmas gifts. It was a cousin's home who already had a few children, and of course, these additional kids had lost everything they owned. The grandmother gave me this huge tupperware of gumbo, and kept piling more and more to take home, asking me how many people I had (husband, one kid, etc) to feed. It was clearly a gesture of love because the article, a simple assignment for me, might help the family. Journalists are also not supposed to take gifts; there could be ethics issues involved with someone trying to sway you to write well of them or leave something out. But this was not that kind of story, and it just would have been WRONG to say no. It was very touching.
The story about the tamales was beautiful, it made me so emotional 😭
My first therapist closed her practice to study abroad and I gave her a parting gift. It meant so much to me that she accepted it. I gave her a small painting of hydrangea flowers that I did myself. Those are not only my favorite flowers but also have a meaning of gratitude for understanding.
Code types on the MMPI 2 don’t necessarily have to be 65 + to be clinically notable. You also have to look at them relative to other clinical scales and validity indices.
Fun fact: "Spiegel" means "mirror" in German. Maybe he indeed is a mirror of some individuals representing the field badly and more ego-driven than morally.
It's ironic because I wish he had a mirror to check his hair. 😐
Hauntingly beautiful
Same in Dutch. We just pronounce it differently.
Dr. Huges did not properly administer the tests. Dr. Huges had made up her mind prior to administering the tests and skewed the results to that view. Dr. Hughes also has many ethics complaints regarding her testimony in several trials.
I am an LCSW and used to work with adults with serious mental illness (adults with disabling schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, etc so the people who have lost a lot of social skills and ability to socialize) and I had clients give me gifts. I was very careful to reiterate that it wasn't necessary, that it was my pleasure and job to help them, etc. But like Dr Honda's experience there can be a healing value with some of these things. Giving gifts is sometimes a very important social lesson or glue... and sometimes gift giving and gift receiving is repairative. It's important to be careful and reinforce that a gift isn't necessary, but therapists are fellow human beings in addition to being a helping profession. Having healthy human relationships is part of what we model for some of our clients.
I cried around min 25, that really was touching and you could feel the emotion through the screen. During all these hours of watching AH testimony I didn't feel that kind of emotion, not even closely...
Oh Dr. Kirk, you are the best. 🥰 every family coming to a new home deserves a host like you. 👍
Just as the verdict is being read!
Or so we thought lol this is agony waiting
@@raemills3089 I agree 😂 but what a coincidence that dr. Kirk decided to post it in this historically moment! 😅
@@SicYennefer this is his posting time :D
@@vajolinda you're right, I didn't realize this 😱
@Laura Buchanan I'm so sorry 🥺 I hope you can find some peace 🌹
"Speigel's gonna Speigal" hahahaha - great analysis as always. thanks for sharing your tamales story
You made me cry! That's such a sweet story. You have such a lovely heart Dr honda
The Tamales story is beautiful, just a gift of appreciation and gratitude, the complete antidote to this trial we've been watching for weeks.
This made me cry! Thank you for sharing
As weird as I may sound. . . This is why I love watching your videos. They're way more than entertainment or Insightful. You're not only incredably intelligent but you're incredably inclusive, kind, genuine, and empathetic. Dare I get mushy and say you've become the healthiest male influence/mentor I've had my entire 31 years? Sure am. 😁
This is the cutest! It touches my heart how much that moment meant to you.
The tamales / tamalees brain fart moment was the best moment of the video. So relatable. I stumble upon your video. I'm binge watching them and I really like how you explain and break down everything.
'Dr Spiegel is gonna Dr Spiegel' legit laughed out loud
I think you are focusing a lot on the differences between Dr. Hughes and Dr. Spiegel instead of looking at their similarities, which is much simpler, they were both paid to give a predetermined diagnosis and sell a narrative. And I'm not saying Dr. Curry doesn't have any biases but she is doing a much better job at presenting what's evidence instead of trying to sell a narrative or sell Amber Heard's self reports as facts.
So it’s fair to say that we ALL cried with the tamales story, right?
"Dr. Spiegel is going to Dr. Spiegel". LOL!
The gift giving reminds me of that scene in HBOs Band of Brothers where Winters reprimands Buck Compton for gambling with his men. His reasoning was that as an officer you should never put yourself in a place where you can take from your men. So it’s similar as a therapist don’t place yourself where you take from someone who’s dependent on you.
Actually teared up at that story. How beautiful!!
Omg, I wrote my previous comment way in the beginning of the video. I just came across the tamales story. So moving: thank you Dr Honda for being so real, it teaches me every time that it is worth to be vulnerable. I admire you a lot.
Dr Honda.. you are so awesome and give such a great example of strength and vulnerability..it's so encouraging because I'm hoping other men seeing this will also let themselves be as vulnerable and feel safe to cry and allow themselves to be an emotional human. And yes you said tamales right🥰
Thank you for your sharing your views on gift giving. I was about to say that I ugly cried but I was just emotional and crying. There’s no need to pathologize that.
My mom makes tamales to “sell” but she makes absolutely zero profit and just makes them when people order them. She prepares her own masa, sources her chiles from stores all over town…She doesn’t keep anything secret and offers to teach anyone that’s interested. Recently, a friend of hers died and she hosted the rosary for her friend for the 9 days following the death. Every night she had something warm prepared for the people who came to pray to enjoy. I just love my mom and am so thankful for my culture. And thank you Doc for being vulnerable enough to show that you cried at all. I hope one day I can cry in front of people without wanting to leave the room immediately.
And yes you are saying tamales correctly. A single one is called a tamal. 💕
The story you shared about the tamales was very touching. Thank you for being vulnerable in that moment.
Now that the verdict is out I really wish they'd both get psychological help... I am on Johnny's side and I'm glad he won but I feel like Amber is also hurting.
@QueenMushu Yep she still won 2 million and gets to spin this to the media they are even saying they both won. She also got lucky that Johnny couldn’t pursue more charges due to his lawyers advising him not to and the statute of limitations running out.
I bet other types of criminals (who don’t happen to be high profile Hollywood females) are hurting as well, and yet people don’t seem to care as much.
what she did, does it deserve condemnation? yes. but global humiliation as well as millions of debt? damn thats kinda harsh, and thats the thing when youre famous
But the thing about the 2 million it will help with the they both won vs if she got nothing. She is already pushing the narrative by what she posted on instagram. Apparently some sources say her house insurance is paying the attorneys fees.
@@Ilovegrunge123 nah, it killed a lot of her appeals options. Although, even if they found all the other factors Of defamation in her favor on that statement, idk how they got to actual malice, since Adam Waldman had a binder of evidence to support his theory.
I know You guessed one thing right. I distinctly remember Dr Hughes saying she only take very few cases per year, 2 or 3 may be. Dr Curry has done more in the Forensic setting i think. she said she works regularly as a independent forensic evaluator for state courts, law enforcement agencies and the U.S. military
All your expressions before you cut out the crying got me going 😭😭😭😭❤️
Everyone loves tamales, particularly around Christmas!
I’ve had clients that are children that will give me cookies they bake, or drawings they make, it’s very sweet, and it adds to their self esteem
As a Mexican, I can tell you that cooking for someone is one of the biggest ways we show love and affection. Our culture isn't well known for being good at communication, but we make up for that in our food. Making tamales isn't easy in the sense that making it taste good for everyone is a gift, so knowing that you enjoyed it is very satisfying. This is kind of like that story of Jesus and the poor woman, she gave everything she had, while the rich gave what was leftover. Surely the family that thanked you gave you all that they could at the time. Had they been capable of more, you would've gotten some Flan or Gelatina with it. Maybe even some Tres Leches. 😁
You’re so adorable, yes I’m happy you accepted the tamales. They are so time consuming to make and I’m sure it was made especially for you. I love watching your channel, makes me love people again. Lol
Many people don't always laugh at people in a horrible way, it can also be gallows humour which many people who have had trauma themselves and don't know how to react in a socially acceptable way.
I find your analysis very interesting and I got emotional with your story. Thank you!
As latinos we express love and appreciation through food, so accepting the tamales was the right call.
I think the difference between Dr. Curry and Dr. Hughes highlights how much your personality being suited to a job affects how you come off. Dr. Curry may have brought just as much personal bias into interpreting her testing results as Dr. Hughes but she presents it in a way that focuses on the technical applications of the tools so it is far less apparent.
For the MMPI, it might be that Amber's results were in a range that could be interpreted either way but where Dr. Hughes' explanations would tend to exaggerate Amber's credibility and just state the results in a "I'm the expert, believe me" way, Dr. Curry's approach is to explain the context and use it to baluster her opinions - ie. When we take the defensiveness scale - which we expect to be somewhat elevated but not the the extend Amber's was - in combination with the elevation in this section it indicates X. And actually, there is justification for a diagnosis of Y, but I am staying somewhat conservative and only diagnosing her with X.
The effect of the presentation is much different.
Aw, Dr. Honda that was a beautiful story and your emotions are a breath of fresh air- Just beautiful all around. I’m so glad you ate the tamales. I bet it meant the world to them to show their appreciation of you and also that you accepted their gift. Boys should cry…
Is not Dr. Curry even more experienced in PTSD than Dr. Hughes?
Wasn't that Dr. Curry's focus in her career?
Love your channel. Keep learning new things. Please keep on w Depp v. Heard trial even tho verdict is in.
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By this time the jury was able to see all the issues about Amber Heard personality highlighted by Dr Curry themselves with Amber being on stand for many hours so what Dr Hughes would argue is hardly relevant