Signs of a FEMALE Narcissist! | How to Deal with this Woman | Stephanie Lyn Coaching

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 10 тис.

  • @jaredunity7164
    @jaredunity7164 4 роки тому +2388

    If you are suffering because of a narcissist. I love you and never give up on yourself!

    • @iniubongnkanga9390
      @iniubongnkanga9390 4 роки тому +8

      I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

    • @carmeliasj
      @carmeliasj 4 роки тому +4

      Thank U.

    • @emokiriemiabednegoabed2844
      @emokiriemiabednegoabed2844 4 роки тому +4

      Smartness is important in a relationship and cyberhackinggenius helped cloned my husband’s phone and I got access to all his dealings both on phone and social media without touching his phone. All I did was share my husband’s phone number with cyberhackinggenius and I was able to read both his new and deleted messages from my phone without having to touch his phone. My husband was a cheating Narcissist and I’m glad to find out all his secrets and infidelity with the help of cyberhackinggenius. I’m here in UK and able to access my husband’s phone messages with a link on my phone even while he was away in Canada cheating on me. I got to discover that my husband who is legally married to me here in UK is also recently married to another woman in Canada and I’m finally going through a divorce with lots of evidence against him. I read all his Whatsapp, Facebook,Skype,Instagram and Snapchat messages Including the deleted text and recent messages. You can contact this great Hacker Gavin via Gmail (cyberhackinggenius) or text and speak to him directly on his phone and WhatsApp : +19256795146 and don’t forget to thank me later.

    • @carmeliasj
      @carmeliasj 4 роки тому +14

      So what kinda scam yall running. with these THANK ME LATER closings? I could give a damn,,GOD SEES ALL,,,VENGEANCE IS HIS!! I'm too old to micromanage a grown ass man!

    • @jaredunity7164
      @jaredunity7164 4 роки тому +6

      @John Clayton don't give up my brother. I have been through a similar situation with my family and my father sexuality abusing me. Then I attracted women into my life that were narcissist. There is hope my friend. Sounds like you are doing the right thing. Love is the answer. This is something the narcissist will never understand. Sending love to my friend. Don't give up. You have got this and the darkness can be fruitful and a time to find your light.

  • @jonathanmoore1868
    @jonathanmoore1868 4 роки тому +2453

    The female narcissist usually tries to make herself look like the innocent victim and that she's pure and sweet. Behind closed doors however, the true beast shows up at the slightest provocation.

    • @andrewp1998
      @andrewp1998 3 роки тому +62

      @Dehlilia_ 8thHouseMoonRabbit and they say the ex husband is a jerk there are 2 sides to every story

    • @kinghinckson
      @kinghinckson 3 роки тому +20

      100%

    • @andrewp1998
      @andrewp1998 3 роки тому +40

      This woman in work is divorced and claims her ex is a jerk but she played games with me for a bit and she thinks she is a nice person? Wtf..

    • @defectdetectorrailvideos3186
      @defectdetectorrailvideos3186 3 роки тому +110

      Dude this was literally my ex. She "love bombed" me and made me believe that she was innocent, caring and just a wholesome soul. She always played the victim when talking about her past relationships and how I was just so wonderful and amazing... 3.5 months later I caught her cheating with my once close friend.
      But yeah, sweet girl.

    • @JasonBlack66
      @JasonBlack66 3 роки тому +41

      yeah, my one fires up like crazy for the slightest precieved criticism.

  • @AAsoberlife
    @AAsoberlife Рік тому +112

    You nailed my GF of the last 6 years. - Took me another year to get over her - My advice to everyone get out as fast as you can. I dropped 200K plus in helping in those 6 years. I was emotionally and finically damaged... Run away.. Yes, she's breeding a narcissist child

    • @mariejedlickova4226
      @mariejedlickova4226 Рік тому +13

      I think one year to recover from a 6 years of narc relationship is incredibly fast, you are doing amazing! After being gaslit for such a long time, the brain must do a lot of reality observing and recalculations. Hope you can replace this with a lot of kindness and love and rest. The best!

    • @stevenherd9799
      @stevenherd9799 Рік тому +4

      Been there done that 4 years took 2 to get over it best move I made was to walk away

    • @Enochulate88
      @Enochulate88 Рік тому +5

      Simp
      Someone idolizing mediocre 🐈

    • @CAMILAAMORIMB
      @CAMILAAMORIMB Рік тому

      Omg I dropped 800k and now he wants to fight for custody. Impossible when he tried to sell me our daughter. And he uses her to know everything about me. He's creating a big situation in our recoveries.....

    • @themoonbleu627
      @themoonbleu627 Рік тому +1

      The child will be a victim not a narcissist

  • @tedankhamenbonnah4848
    @tedankhamenbonnah4848 2 роки тому +135

    This just goes right through me. I'm stuck in a marriage with a narcissist due to our special needs child. Currently making moves to get us out, wish us luck.

    • @lokessylva9554
      @lokessylva9554 Рік тому +2

      Hope you do get out

    • @darwincollado8993
      @darwincollado8993 Рік тому +4

      Get out! It has been 19 years for me and they only get worse

    • @unknown-lf6zx
      @unknown-lf6zx Рік тому +1

      I’m so sorry

    • @joannemonique9039
      @joannemonique9039 Рік тому +3

      Be strong for your kid . You have the power ⭐️🙏🏽

    • @Spiritman597
      @Spiritman597 Рік тому

      So sorry, I was blessed in being able to cut those ties to getting entangled with her by the grace of God.

  • @crazzyross
    @crazzyross 5 років тому +3143

    I closed all social media accounts 5 years ago.
    I humbly recommend this to everyone.

    • @RileyElite11
      @RileyElite11 5 років тому +5

      Why?

    • @bigjorge863
      @bigjorge863 5 років тому +168

      @@RileyElite11 your life will change dummy

    • @4jrgolf
      @4jrgolf 5 років тому +51

      Terry Riley same here. Don't miss it a bit!

    • @aylajadadea8693
      @aylajadadea8693 5 років тому +187

      Good for you!!...i never ever opened a facebook or instagram account....!!my friends look at me like I m an alien...but all I really see is them competing constantly with eachother to who has the best picture....the best family....the best couple...the best holiday!!....instead of really focusing on LIFE....💚

    • @crystallizationofthesoul7095
      @crystallizationofthesoul7095 5 років тому +4

      Unless I want a internet job and expose my talents and my work!

  • @guitawrizt
    @guitawrizt 4 роки тому +1655

    *_Never make someone your priority while allowing yourself to be their option_* .

  • @edwardnelson3304
    @edwardnelson3304 Рік тому +8

    Yes, this is my second time listing to this and the saying you highlighted about "Insecurities are Loud and Confidence is Silent" was a light bulb moment for me that fills in the blanks. I thank you. Blessings

  • @Queenmotivation
    @Queenmotivation 2 роки тому +37

    I’m so glad someone decided to do something about a female narcissist! I asked myself often if I am one or have traits. Childhood trauma sucks and to heal is hard!

    • @karleehicks7126
      @karleehicks7126 2 роки тому +5

      A narcissist cannot be reached. They don't admit fault. Their manipulation is purposeful. If you are seeking truth, you aren't one.

    • @Shayla8319
      @Shayla8319 Рік тому +1

      Very true!!! I definitely have traits. I’m unlearning and praying

    • @Ariesadventures18
      @Ariesadventures18 Рік тому +1

      I agree, I tried to reason, forgive the female narcissist I am with and it was no hope.

  • @biozio186
    @biozio186 4 роки тому +1407

    I'm a man. And my ex used to physically abuse me. Then said it was my fault because of what I said. She also said that I deserved her reaction. We have a 2 year old daughter and I finally got the strength to leave. Fast forward a year later and I have my daughter full time. Live in another state. Still Learning how to be a single dad. Best decision I ever made was leaving

    • @mikelenetv6329
      @mikelenetv6329 4 роки тому +95

      You just gave me hope im trying to build evidence on my current spouse so i can get full custody of our son. Ive been secretly recording arguements and most of our arguments stems from her telling our colic 2 month old son to "Shut the f*ck up". Every time i call her out on it, she denies it and hits me in the face but were fighting a cps case currently because she refused to stop smoking marijuana while pregnant (we live in Texas so its illegal here) thats why I havent called the cops and with my luck i would go to jail with a bloody nose anyway and ever since she quit smoking since his birth she hates me like its my fault she got pregnant when she was always the one to want sex 1st even the 1st night we met. Im secretly saving up lawyer money and evidence because i know push will come to shove eventually and when it does i want to prove my innocence. I work from 6am to noon everyday at my new job and she always wakes me up to start fights around 3 am telling me "hes your son too, its your turn you watch him." When ive only been asleep for 3 hours or less and calls me worthless when i cant hold my eyes open and its affecting my job performance and my well being in general. My mom has been more of a mom to my son than his birth mother. Please pray for me

    • @johnsonbobo2376
      @johnsonbobo2376 4 роки тому +34

      Look how you said you were physically abused and only 2 comments. If that was a chick someone would of cared. Take that bitch to the cleaners like she would of done you if the situation was reversed. Nail her for Alimony, child support, and throw her in jail. Force her to take rehab. Coach your kid into saying she touched him/her. Annihilate her to the point she dont wanna live anymore like woman do to us

    • @biozio186
      @biozio186 4 роки тому +5

      @@johnsonbobo2376 word up

    • @biozio186
      @biozio186 4 роки тому +4

      @@mikelenetv6329 hope all is well

    • @jenniferwong4530
      @jenniferwong4530 4 роки тому +25

      I wish you and your daughter love, laughter and happiness together. Well done Dad! Best move you could have ever made!

  • @CrimsonHazmat
    @CrimsonHazmat 6 років тому +1361

    Insecurities are loud, confidence is silent 👌

    • @akshayde
      @akshayde 6 років тому +30

      trouble is lack of confidence is also silent. actually shy. but most people confuse silence and shyness..

    • @torylee05
      @torylee05 6 років тому +2

      FACTS

    • @willtheangrydudeist9120
      @willtheangrydudeist9120 6 років тому +65

      The loudest one in the room is the weakest one in the room...

    • @patrickotshumbe4201
      @patrickotshumbe4201 5 років тому +1

      CrimsonHazmat Wooorrrd

    • @oneroad2935
      @oneroad2935 5 років тому

      CrimsonHazmat what a perfect line...

  • @sweetchinmusiq
    @sweetchinmusiq 2 роки тому +34

    I finally walked away after 7 years, and man it has been hard. I’m on Day 3 now. I can’t believe I stayed for so long but now I know.

    • @imnotcrazyaskkim6591
      @imnotcrazyaskkim6591 2 роки тому

      I’ll take her.

    • @dynomike502
      @dynomike502 2 роки тому +1

      2 months now after 8 yrs stay strong. Been really hard for me.

    • @disgamecheats5195
      @disgamecheats5195 2 роки тому +1

      @@dynomike502 leaning this way. absolutely dying inside. i know i have to get away just havent taken the leap.

    • @HighSpeedNoDrag
      @HighSpeedNoDrag 2 роки тому

      Keep on walking, pick Up the pace and never look back, Never.

    • @dynomike502
      @dynomike502 2 роки тому +1

      @@disgamecheats5195 You need to get away, she eventually cheated and moved on, but she still emails me daily, but she wont talk about what happened at all she acts as if it never happened, its a ploy. Its such a hard thing to be in love with a girl like this. Because inside you want to help, but she is an unfillable pit that requires happiness and that is delivered only in being a slave and buying gifts to make her "happy". Its shortly lived. Mine put me 15k into debt and is currently driving around In a lease I've paid for the last year or so. I figured after 8 years we can do something like this. DONOT CO SIGN for anybody on anything!

  • @Craigdna
    @Craigdna Рік тому +15

    The fact that you are a female and talk about female narcissism, displays your professionalism and dignity. Thank you for sharing. Narcissism is the biggest problem in our society, although, so many people think that narcissists are only men. another interesting perspective on narcissism, is that the prefrontal cortex in the brain is the newest part of our brains, and in Daniel Amen's book "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life, he talks about the different functions of each of the varying lobes. The prefrontal cortex is where empathy, introspection, retrospect, tolerance, perseverance, attention span, judgement, and most importantly, self objectivity, reside(as well as traits). In a narcissist, many of these abilities in the prefrontal cortex are seriously lacking. I thinks that we should focus on the lobes abilities to understand these problems, as a narcissist's attention span and judgement are focused on their sense of superiority over others. They lack empathy and are not very tolerant of others, in general. Certainly, conditioning plays a role as we have learned from the breaking of the bond between the mother and the child, spoilage, wealth, and also abuse, but narcissism definitely has many influences. thanks again Stephanie, you have a new subscriber. Now, if we can just clone you. Much appreciated.

  • @RG-ls2db
    @RG-ls2db 4 роки тому +905

    "Insecurities are loud, confidence is silent" - The empty can rattles the most.

    • @x1985
      @x1985 4 роки тому +3

      🖤

    • @D-NICE33
      @D-NICE33 4 роки тому +7

      well said.

    • @imusingadisabledoldpersons63
      @imusingadisabledoldpersons63 4 роки тому +3

      Prob right, maybe thats why that recent former coworker, couldn't quit (every hr atleast) talking crap , takin breaks , and whining about how bad his back hurt, the whole day. All the others who were more trained were silent, and he was just a laborer like me.I never heard that 1

    • @acharich
      @acharich 4 роки тому

      💯💯💯

    • @i.p.knightley6970
      @i.p.knightley6970 4 роки тому +3

      if the can is empty how will it rattle? An empty can will be silent, and so confident :-)

  • @briansoule1002
    @briansoule1002 3 роки тому +2362

    “Insecurities are loud, confidence is quiet.” That is a brain melter.

    • @TheReal1ThatGuy
      @TheReal1ThatGuy 3 роки тому +139

      The loudest person in the room, is the weakest person in the room.

    • @Richard-jq6mq
      @Richard-jq6mq 3 роки тому +34

      That is an excellent and profound statement. Every social event will give opportunity to observe both...

    • @naomi4836
      @naomi4836 3 роки тому +35

      Took me 25 years to learn this

    • @clusternova6278
      @clusternova6278 3 роки тому +5

      Wep not really true

    • @clusternova6278
      @clusternova6278 3 роки тому +1

      @@TheReal1ThatGuy and what ig you are at the rage against the machine concert?
      You just talking shit

  • @triforceconstruction8107
    @triforceconstruction8107 2 роки тому +13

    The best revenge is to move on and be successful in a new relationship. 100%

  • @abikelly1567
    @abikelly1567 2 роки тому +44

    Thank you! I really needed this. I needed this for myself especially. I grew up with a narcissistic mother and grandmother. Most of my family is cultivated with them because of this, and I’m trying to heal these traits within myself. So thank you so much for helping me gain awareness and clarity into where I’m falling short.

  • @erickrcisneros
    @erickrcisneros 5 років тому +2626

    Does anyone agree that Facebook/Instagram is a showing off platform,
    Also a place where people compare them selves with other’s. I truly believe that this is super unhealthy!

    • @hourglassesandphatasses
      @hourglassesandphatasses 5 років тому +104

      Facebook is misused excessively by certain personalities

    • @specialkaye3059
      @specialkaye3059 5 років тому +23

      Yes Erick Cisneros I definitely agree👍

    • @chandlerwhite8302
      @chandlerwhite8302 5 років тому +59

      Erick Cisneros Yes, especially Instagram. It exists for no other reason. Facebook at least has some legitimate social networking uses and allows friends to communicate.

    • @debbiegross3136
      @debbiegross3136 5 років тому +14

      Erick Cisneros There is way more to FB than just this.

    • @erickrcisneros
      @erickrcisneros 5 років тому +43

      Yes I’m Blessed
      Yes I know that. It wasn’t created to be that way, I believe it’s an unintended effect. I haven’t been on Facebook for almost 6 months life is better

  • @byrdmaniacsg2776
    @byrdmaniacsg2776 3 роки тому +633

    My son was married to a female narcissist. What I learned? You don’t deal with them, you eject them from your life.

    • @claudiamedina6500
      @claudiamedina6500 3 роки тому +21

      True. I learned the hard way. I tried so many times to have a relationship with my mom but she keep putting myself down. Talk nasty comments about my son and husband. I said no more. I want a healthy environment for my son and family. Enough is enough

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 3 роки тому +15

      my ex GF tried to turn my family against me and was jealous of trips we had gone on before I met her. every time when our relationship was on the rocks she would go to my other and portray me as a terrible abuser. one time she did this while drunk and had my mother on the phone for 3 hours crying and telling all kinds of lies. then when she finally got off the phone at midnight she decided to cook something and then fell asleep on the couch and the food burned on the stove. so sick of that insane drama all the time!

    • @eryn5826
      @eryn5826 3 роки тому +4

      Yup my sister in law

    • @bobbybero7452
      @bobbybero7452 3 роки тому +10

      Try doing that when society is gaslighting you to keep the birthrates up while every lady you meet sees you as a utility and has great contempt for you unless you give into her impulsive whims and demands.

    • @fighterflight
      @fighterflight 3 роки тому +9

      Same. My SIL. But how can you eject them without ejecting your loved one too when they control your loved one??

  • @dizzybusy1
    @dizzybusy1 Рік тому +1

    Thank you Stephanie! You have helped me understand a particular person in my life and her narcissistic behavior. Giving what she has done and continues to do now has a name and I know how to deal with her. I have my life back! Thank you for your informative videos!

  • @kwuiki23
    @kwuiki23 2 роки тому +25

    I was the victim of a narcassitic female personality for 30 years of my life. It eventually broke down when she assaulted me and thereafter somehow created a story that labelled me as the "abuser". Everyone socially everyone believed her story because she was a girl and played the female victim role well. I eventually became suicidal after 3 years but she never apologized. I'm sharing my story because I want the world to know that men get abused too. And it's not a trivial matter. But nobody ever talks about it. If nobody talks about the abuse of men an entire gender, I think it's not too much to ask women to think about what their negative behaviours might be traumatizing others and to not just laugh it off because it's a guy your doing that to. I now live a life where I have a tough time trusting people. And she still hasn't taken any ownership for her actions while continuously telling me that somehow I should even though it was a one sided assault (I made sure I didnt fight back). Anyways. Oh and the girl was my sister...and everyone thinks shes a gem still to this day even though they know what she has done. That's the world I guess. 40% of women exhibit passive aggressive violent traits while only 5% of men are physically violent yet it's never talked about. Who is the oppressor exactly. Something to think about.

    • @AkiTheLionz
      @AkiTheLionz 11 місяців тому

      My narcs is firstly my dad , then my sisters and wife and their reletives are enablers and helpers of them. I then was in a 6 year relationship where I stay loyal and loved her but ultimately due to her bpd she cheated on me with a "friend " and during discard she brutally devalued me and insulted me and behaved very rudely.

    • @Dointhamostcutz
      @Dointhamostcutz 11 місяців тому

      It frustrates me to no end how my wife gets away with everything shy of murder because she is a woman! It’s a shame the doubles standards!

  • @Shamilt3
    @Shamilt3 2 роки тому +653

    The very worst thing is the projection and gas lighting. Every "discussion" is an exercise in being wrong and being shown how youre the bad guy... So awesome.

    • @bombay8802
      @bombay8802 2 роки тому +11

      Exactly.. spot on!

    • @trojan403
      @trojan403 2 роки тому +6

      YES!

    • @slotheatworld
      @slotheatworld 2 роки тому +5

      Yup

    • @davidkenneth3983
      @davidkenneth3983 2 роки тому +22

      I'm freaked out my ex I loved her a lot!!!!she was I think competing with me instead of being my partner it s plain bazaar.

    • @arrow4773
      @arrow4773 2 роки тому +2

      So fun

  • @joshuamerlin9905
    @joshuamerlin9905 4 роки тому +707

    Finally divorcing my wife of 2 years, been together for 7, we have 1 child together. I caught HER cheating with multiple side-boyfriends and she tries to play the victim once I start leaving her. She’s tried to destroy my career, paint me as this terrible person, and ruin me financially. I am so thankful for these videos and this community

    • @blackbeardtx371
      @blackbeardtx371 4 роки тому +36

      This is exactly what my narc ex did to me, multiple side guys, playing the victim including having me wrongfully jailed for domestic abuse, tried to run my finances dry. Once I got out it was like a weight off my shoulders.

    • @joshuamerlin9905
      @joshuamerlin9905 4 роки тому +27

      Chris H It’s insane behavior. Literally insane behavior.

    • @dennisconrad6124
      @dennisconrad6124 4 роки тому +24

      Joshua Merlin She did you a big favor by hitting you hard and fast. The slow drawn out torture is worse in my opinion.

    • @fgcpeak9591
      @fgcpeak9591 4 роки тому +3

      gross....

    • @Justincasethompson
      @Justincasethompson 4 роки тому +10

      Is she good looking?
      Pimp her out.

  • @BoydSmash
    @BoydSmash Рік тому +5

    Very well thought out. Was broken up with by a partner of just over three months last year who, I thought the reason was that I had inadvertently triggered past trauma she hadn't been completely forthcoming about. However, as a retired counselor mysel, it really messed with my head since there were things that weren't adding up or making sense at all, especially with her reactions and what she did after the breakup, isolating her friends from me by hinting about “emotional abuse”, saying “it got physical”, really hurtful stuff. I fell so hard and so fast for her which I've never done before; I had shared so much of myself and been so vulnerable with her in such a short period of time and could really see a future with this woman.
    I got completely stuck in self-blame, was worried that she’d continue pushing people away and continue the cycle of self harm, etc. While working with my own therapist and talking with a friend who has been married for 17 years to a woman with a diagnosed borderline personality disorder, I really got to thinking about it and wrote out the things she had said and direct observations I made about her behaviors, how she interacted with others, etc.
    Suddenly it all became clear. She likely had dealt with actual narcissists in past relationships and adopted some of those same traits as protective factors, but in doing so had become a narcissist herself. When reading back everything I wrote down, it painted a very clear picture. I did send her an email with as gentle a language as I could asking her if all those things sounded familiar and if she had run into people like that in her past relationships, so hopefully it will give her some insight and she’ll be able to make that commitment to work on herself.
    There’s certainly hope for people with NPD, and I’ve struggled with some of those dark triad traits myself in the past but have protective factors such as a close knit, loving and supportive family, and friends with different educational backgrounds, all of whom will call me out on my own BS when I start going down that road. You have to make that commitment to change though!

  • @thriveafternarc7454
    @thriveafternarc7454 2 роки тому +3

    This is such good information. I can definitely see where there are potential female narcissists in my life. If you are suffering from a narcissist in your life, never give up! Life can and WILL BE beautiful after abuse.

  • @robertbeckham3091
    @robertbeckham3091 3 роки тому +768

    They always have a horrible story about their ex boyfriend, they’re always the victim at work, she argues and has conflict with her friends, she judges other woman in public, and everything is always about her

    • @SavvySkye444
      @SavvySkye444 3 роки тому +14

      This was my ex fiancée

    • @JammaOG
      @JammaOG 3 роки тому +13

      truly exhausting lol

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 3 роки тому +33

      great comment - lived through those exact things with my ex. she had conflict with everyone - workmates, family members, friends and of course with me. always she was the innocent victim. everywhere we went she would have a judgement about how people looked or dressed.

    • @gregoryking9348
      @gregoryking9348 3 роки тому +10

      @@RedroomStudios I think we were seeing the same woman. Wouldn't surprise me...she was banging everybody behind my back.

    • @fighterflight
      @fighterflight 3 роки тому +6

      My sister in law lol always the victim always quits her job because she’s always being persecuted my poor brother has to be at her beck and call and she spent his whole inheritance 😭

  • @leogilbert7220
    @leogilbert7220 5 років тому +362

    "She's a bully." Thank you. I needed this today. I feel validated. 👍

    • @pietbliksem
      @pietbliksem 5 років тому +7

      Bully is just the old word for them. Narcissist makes them sound cool. My sister (adult) refers to her screaming public temper tantrums as 'Narcissistic Rage' as if it were a badge of honour.

    • @iniubongnkanga9390
      @iniubongnkanga9390 4 роки тому +1

      I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

    • @ciaphagray1063
      @ciaphagray1063 4 роки тому

      Sexual bully. Lol

    • @kidawesomeness123
      @kidawesomeness123 4 роки тому +1

      @@iniubongnkanga9390 will that evidence stand in court?

    • @guitawrizt
      @guitawrizt 4 роки тому

      Inflicting pain to 'elevate' them- their ticket to Hell.

  • @MetalockieMusic
    @MetalockieMusic 2 роки тому +3

    This was pretty spot on. Was discarded by my narcissist about 5 months ago and am still recovering. Alot of what you said about insecurity and drama causing was 100 percent spot on. The jealousy thing is interesting in hindsight. I never dealt with anything like it and am in therapy now. I hit rock bottom largely because I had no idea what was going on. I never even knew what a narcissist was until i constantly got called one by her. Do not ignore red flags. Much love to everyone suffering

  • @chrisriphagen3874
    @chrisriphagen3874 2 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much.
    Answers to my last 17 years, 4 kids. Now i know why she cant say anything nice about this time together when asked. All negative and i am to blame, every time.
    Thank you again, great info, beautifully presented.

  • @efthimios
    @efthimios 5 років тому +202

    Never compliment, never show appreciation, never show warmth emotion,-‘ always jabs you even when doing something good, always picking arguements over no reason

    • @mikeleschber33
      @mikeleschber33 5 років тому +10

      You have described my life to the letter.....

    • @redpillretail
      @redpillretail 5 років тому +3

      That's my wife total devil . Call me a cunt infront of my children? I never got guys to Hoover the car when I took it the car wash. Why.

    • @tomd1434
      @tomd1434 5 років тому +9

      Yeah I agree except she acted literally like an angel at first lol. You don't know until you know. Then you end up here hahahaha

    • @AEHudg
      @AEHudg 5 років тому +3

      That was my ex best friend.. she was just like that.. WOW!!!

    • @BigBux
      @BigBux 5 років тому +11

      I have felt so alone in this...But seeing these comments I know it’s not just in my head and I’m not alone in it. An example, “I would never have a child with you” (even though we have one already)...then after watching the Christmas lights with our Son we stop to get a snack at a drive through. She says “Ok, so I’ve been taking prenatal vitamins and they are almost out, should I just finish them and that’s it, or get more?”...I looked at her with complete shock at what she just said and asked her “what do you think?”. She got really angry about that and made sure to let me know I was such a horrible person for responding like that. Just something that came to mind first...but there are a million instances like that. Including her telling me we need to keep our personal life to ourselves...and then I find out randomly from others that she has talked at length with with people and made me look like garbage. I came to a point where I completely lost myself. She had completely stripped away any self worth...really anything. Everything with these people is so cunning and calculated...it’s hard to believe how well they spin their web.

  • @ghinso1967
    @ghinso1967 5 років тому +632

    I am so mad at myself by being caught up with a female narc. I lost so much of my life.

    • @Lightworker-uo9uh
      @Lightworker-uo9uh 5 років тому +20

      I know the feeling ..

    • @Dj-ve2hx
      @Dj-ve2hx 5 років тому +11

      Me too

    • @selbyclements8559
      @selbyclements8559 5 років тому +12

      A decade here! Chin up bro's

    • @mikemacgregor5650
      @mikemacgregor5650 5 років тому +9

      ghinso1967 ya me too . Then I thought I was stronger , smarter and let her reel me in again! Hope I’m really smarter now!

    • @sooptime
      @sooptime 5 років тому +21

      Completely understand. 2 years of hell and another 4 years of not even considering another relationship. Ironically, she has a UA-cam channel dedicated to dealing with a narcissist and is now scamming others.

  • @KristoffRand
    @KristoffRand 2 роки тому

    You have just gotit all together... Intelligent, insightful, empathetic, engaging and dont forget beautiful with out having to shove it in anyone's face... I mean wow... Profound video... I have listened many times before and thought maybe.. Maybe not... And this one you just hit every nail on every head... You even made me question myself and my own personality... And that is the sign of a great therapist... Someone that can lead you into introspection without even telling you to do it. You always help me sooo much... Thank you... Now if I can just be strong enough to resist...

  • @gregm3224
    @gregm3224 Рік тому +3

    You are a beautiful person, and I am NOT talking about your looks, I'm talking about the person you are in your heart.

  • @dadbodfolkpunk9433
    @dadbodfolkpunk9433 3 роки тому +405

    Covert is the worst, everyone thinks it’s you. Stop fighting , reacting and explaining and it is a whole new world. Gray rock it bro

    • @adamsabo3583
      @adamsabo3583 3 роки тому +25

      They'll picture her as a cute caring angel. I know I'm the only one seeing her demonic face, covert narcs tends to have two faces, that caring face to the public and the demonic face behind the closed doors.

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 3 роки тому +27

      yep - she was an actor in public and in front of family so she could always claim to be the nice one and stab me in the back making me out to be an abuser! but she was like living with someone possessed by the devil. mine was on medication for anxiety and she was also an alcoholic. the anxiety medication specifically warned that it should not be taken with alcohol because when she did that the effects would be reversed and she turned into a raging paranoid nut case. thinking back on it now I dont know how I lived through the insane drama for so long (5 years). I wish I had it on film because trying to explain it to family and friends is so hard and they almost cant believe what you are saying.

    • @seano312
      @seano312 3 роки тому +4

      @@RedroomStudios Gone through a very similar thing recently (though just 1yr). Trying to explain it to people is so hard... I found writing it all down helps or putting screenshots together if this abuse occurred via message. Hope things get better for you.

    • @wesley6442
      @wesley6442 3 роки тому +6

      I grey rocked after she started hoovering me, then she started gaslighting me to hell, it was the most painful guilt trips I've ever felt

    • @lisaking4386
      @lisaking4386 3 роки тому +5

      Excellent advice. I just ejected from my life this narcissistic creep who was after me. He would even come up to my friends and ask them, 'Where's Lisa?' I told them I was ghosting him, so they wouldn't tell him, and it drove him wacko. I moved so he can't find me.

  • @johnbehneman1546
    @johnbehneman1546 5 років тому +252

    I noticed that narcists are not into self-improvement. I see self-improvement as a healthy sign to a healthy relationship. I am always learning and growing. I enjoy learning and growing. Great video.

    • @dtraversodt
      @dtraversodt 4 роки тому +14

      Unapologetic and no accountability for there actions and situations..trust me trying to show her was like pulling teeth

    • @jasonjib1354
      @jasonjib1354 4 роки тому +2

      John Behneman Great Point!!

    • @sarahliebie4730
      @sarahliebie4730 4 роки тому +14

      I totally agree! They enjoy asking for advice but never seem to ever do anything with it...

    • @atheliaecheverria7576
      @atheliaecheverria7576 4 роки тому +1

      That's a really good eye opener thank you for that.

    • @jasonwaterfalls9615
      @jasonwaterfalls9615 4 роки тому +3

      This is so very true. I myself am into self-improvement (which led me to this video) and my ex (narc) would never so much as pick up a book or make any real effort to improve herself.

  • @heartspeaks
    @heartspeaks Рік тому +4

    4 years ago… you were almost at 22,000 subscribers! That’s crazy! 💕 Now, you’re over 556,000! Amazing! Your content helps! 🥰

  • @justindivito1279
    @justindivito1279 2 роки тому

    Your amazing. Truely. I've done a lot of this work through counciling and it's sooo amazing to see you on UA-cam! I love the discussion

  • @BrotherTree1
    @BrotherTree1 5 років тому +486

    Human beings can be so damn evil. That's why I prefer being alone most of the time.

    • @jozzz222
      @jozzz222 4 роки тому +10

      BrotherTree1 me too

    • @antoniog.4821
      @antoniog.4821 4 роки тому +4

      Me to me to one deep 4life

    • @Punkpsychobilly
      @Punkpsychobilly 4 роки тому +16

      Yes sir. Love yourself and do your own thing.

    • @moonu2336
      @moonu2336 4 роки тому +14

      Sometimes it’s healthier.

    • @ambis99
      @ambis99 4 роки тому +1

      Same here

  • @BubblyAlexandra
    @BubblyAlexandra 4 роки тому +603

    I have these tendencies from growing up with a single mom who was very much like this. I would not say I'm a Narcissist but i know i have low self esteem with deep wounds. Not looking to date until I fix myself. Thanks for the insight.

    • @Fetchem1222
      @Fetchem1222 4 роки тому +46

      Alexandra Johnson I wish you the best. You are going to be alright! Keep working on you- it’s worth it.... you’re worth it!

    • @MichaelAChristian1
      @MichaelAChristian1 4 роки тому +45

      You can't fix yourself! Call upon the Lord Jesus Christ! Believe in Jesus Christ and you shall have everlasting life! Neither is there salvation in any other! Get a king james bible and believe.
      Read Matthew.
      Read 1 John chapter 4.

    • @messimess9985
      @messimess9985 4 роки тому +17

      Alexandra Johnson respects and credit to you. I’ll pray for you that you better your life in all aspects. Nothing wrong admitting your faults if you’re willing to work on yourself honestly.

    • @MichaelAChristian1
      @MichaelAChristian1 4 роки тому +18

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      @stephanieduncan9023 4 роки тому +2

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  • @andykay8949
    @andykay8949 Рік тому +44

    I dated a woman like that. Saw the red flags and ended the relationship early before it got to the abuse stage (I could see it coming). They see themselves as the centre of the universe, and get really annoyed when other people dont see it like that. Jealous, emotionally needy. She took the breakup very poorly - straight to tears and accusations that I am the bad guy, trying to guilt you into changing your decision. Dodged a bullet there.

    • @siddreddy1416
      @siddreddy1416 Рік тому +3

      I’m about to break up with my fiancé today and I know it’s going to go exactly like this LOL! Wish I could just send a post card and be done with it. Been watching these videos so I don’t feel bad and fall for any more of her stuff, I know she’ll be pulling out all the stops 😅

    • @jamesh8648
      @jamesh8648 Рік тому

      I spent 10 days with a narcissistic, that was enough for me. Called police to remove her from my flat.She was intimidating and abusive. They don't take responsibility for their actions. Taking time to recover. They are the bad guy. Take care, God bless.

    • @kimtarves1725
      @kimtarves1725 Рік тому

      Lucky you

  • @wildbill562
    @wildbill562 Рік тому +2

    Great video. I was married to a BPD woman from 1988-2000. 10 years of pastoral counseling was worthless. Now, after 23 years of blessed silence, she emailed me begging for money! Unbelievable. When I said NO, I don't care what happens to you, she began bombarding me with emails calling ME a narcissist. Her husband even got into the act. I blocked them both. You are doing a wonderful service for those of us who have been victimized by these psychopaths. They have convinced everyone else that they are righteous victims and we are the abusers, when in fact it's the exact opposite.

  • @rayjones201
    @rayjones201 4 роки тому +276

    "And she definitely doesn't want to spend her own money" . Couldn't have said it any better my self

    • @pamelawherey4583
      @pamelawherey4583 4 роки тому +6

      Ray Jones The Narc I know buys everyone all kinds of gifts so everyone likes gifts right?
      She found out early, that people can be bought pretty cheaply by her shiny things. When she was young she controlled my little brother with penny candy.

    • @nigeldupaigel
      @nigeldupaigel 4 роки тому +2

      This is mind blowing. I'm awakening I think.

    • @charlesadams4487
      @charlesadams4487 4 роки тому +1

      And that's where I started being played a fool. I pleased her using my money. Lucky for me we never went beyond friends.

    • @ritahanson1619
      @ritahanson1619 4 роки тому +2

      @@noreenstarck992 I understand completely. This is also my Sister. I have been widowed 4 yrs so I moved close to the town where my divorced older Sister lives, thinking this would be good. Boy, what a mistake. She is a loud mouth bully who insults everyone and says the most mean spirited things to me. I could go on and on but instead I think I will move to another state. I need to be away from her.

    • @natureandphysics403
      @natureandphysics403 3 роки тому +1

      "I have my own money." But she'll happily have him spend his on her.

  • @learneroftruth8025
    @learneroftruth8025 3 роки тому +626

    In my past codependent toxic relationship I was dating a professional female narcissist...but then also realized I was a narcissist. I finally woke up and got out of that toxicity and have developed some self awareness from witnessing someone who was worse than me. Who you date is a direct reflection of who you are. So accurate!!
    I have some growing up and healing to do..

    • @SherryONeill
      @SherryONeill 2 роки тому +17

      Peace To you Learner

    • @melgray019
      @melgray019 2 роки тому +17

      Needed to see this..

    • @vatovii5028
      @vatovii5028 2 роки тому +25

      Not in most cases, some times you don't know what your going up against because a Narcissist knows how to hold there composure. Play it out cool, mirror you without you being aware.

    • @vatovii5028
      @vatovii5028 2 роки тому +7

      Nothing to do with healing....just Snap out of it, & move on, but learn from your mistakes & experience be easy with yourself

    • @AnubisLuxor
      @AnubisLuxor 2 роки тому +34

      The fact that you could even realize that shows that you are definitely on the right path.

  • @Onein6billion72
    @Onein6billion72 Рік тому

    Thank you Stephanie! I needed to watch this. I just experienced all of this. Never, yes, I mean NEVER again! Once is all I need.

  • @kylejones5170
    @kylejones5170 Рік тому +1

    I really needed to see this. I just got out of a 2 year relationship that has completely destroyed my heart, mind, and my sense of self worth.

  • @dwrussell96
    @dwrussell96 4 роки тому +184

    Geez. I just got out of a relationship with a woman who matched this video. I was only with her for a year and a half and I feel like I wasted my life. Some of you guys were with them for years or even decades. I’m so sorry for all of you guys’ pain.

    • @ACEDIAMOND666
      @ACEDIAMOND666 3 роки тому +7

      Thanks. I put in 23 years. My life is fucked.

    • @airthrowDBT
      @airthrowDBT 3 роки тому +6

      @@ACEDIAMOND666 you can rebuild and you deserve to be happy

    • @melzfraser8033
      @melzfraser8033 3 роки тому

      @@ACEDIAMOND666 wow 23 years i did 18years and shes now still trying to get family and friends to get to me

    • @doreenevans5945
      @doreenevans5945 3 роки тому +1

      Don't look at it as a waste. You will be able to spot the next one that comes along. Use every experience to make yourself a better person.

    • @gaminartube
      @gaminartube 3 роки тому +6

      Don't you kings fucking dare say your life is fucked. Yes, you lost time, but you will come back even stronger!

  • @chrishart763
    @chrishart763 4 роки тому +439

    Crazy level of self entitlement, loves drama, always a competition - so true. Thanks. Oh God, I have lost 10 years of my life

    • @bigNo13
      @bigNo13 4 роки тому +6

      @Druid VW stay strong, good luck

    • @allysonogston522
      @allysonogston522 4 роки тому +12

      Snap - I lost 10 years as well :(

    • @Nocturnal_Neil
      @Nocturnal_Neil 4 роки тому +12

      This sums it up for me. I have 2 kids though and don't see how I can leave them or take them with me. Woman always wins over man in law.

    • @GUURL101
      @GUURL101 4 роки тому +11

      The competition part is the CRAZIEST part!!!

    • @dadbodfolkpunk9433
      @dadbodfolkpunk9433 4 роки тому +8

      Better than 27 years....

  • @brianj5
    @brianj5 Рік тому

    Thank you for caring enough to make these videos to help victoms of narcissist and i hope you know that you have legitimately saved lives with ur videos and u are doing Gods work. I wish for you to have a blessed life and the happiness you deserve for getting people back on the right path and getting on with their lives. One of those lives u personally saved was mine and i owe you my life, thank you so much for saving me.

  • @r.romain9466
    @r.romain9466 2 роки тому

    This is the first video of yours I've seen. WOW Stephanie. You were bang on. That is exactly what I went through with my ex girlfriend. You described her to the letter. I wish I had of seen this when we started going out. It would of saved me a lot of grief, hurt and aggravation. Thanks. You really put things into perspective and were a big help !

  • @jamessimpson5636
    @jamessimpson5636 4 роки тому +319

    I have ptsd and just realized I was in relationship with a narcissistic woman. And she blamed me for her flirting, texting and talking to other men. Her favorite quote was “you better love me or someone else will.”

    • @jasonroberts8128
      @jasonroberts8128 4 роки тому +74

      No matter how much of a man you are, a narc woman will destroy it. Or try.

    • @kevinRamirez-vb6dz
      @kevinRamirez-vb6dz 4 роки тому +24

      Wtf... I thought I was crazy that happened to me before my ex said the same thing to me

    • @rvz77
      @rvz77 4 роки тому +34

      I got the "you better pay attention to me or you'll regret it one day when I leave you, and I'm not coming back."

    • @jamessimpson5636
      @jamessimpson5636 4 роки тому +6

      rvz77 I still don’t understand the logic behind it

    • @rvz77
      @rvz77 4 роки тому +35

      @@jamessimpson5636 a narc womans identity is incredibly fractured. And she refused to face her flaws.
      So she wants attention, adoration to feel WORTHY.
      She wants to feed off the attention you give her.
      That's all she cares about you...what YOU can do for HER.
      A full, solid person who loves themselves doesnt need others adoration, or attention to feel good about themselves.
      They enter rltnshps to SHARE the love they have within. There is no need for a happy person to TAKE.
      But to GIVE AND SHARE.
      Find a person who is happy on their own and who is content and doesnt need your adoration to achieve happiness or self worth.

  • @richardlepri9438
    @richardlepri9438 5 років тому +332

    I'm in a situation where I truly believe that narcissism RUNS IN FAMILIES.
    I looked for help by talking with my girlfriend's mother but she showed the EXACT same signs as her daughter.

    • @jessicathompson8231
      @jessicathompson8231 5 років тому +24

      Of course it runs in families! That's where narcissists are made!

    • @P4ulyAnon
      @P4ulyAnon 5 років тому +1

      I had a similar experience!

    • @angelaneucere3830
      @angelaneucere3830 5 років тому +3

      Richard Lepri yea I know how that is I’m dealing with the same thing with my husband n his mother

    • @munequa81
      @munequa81 5 років тому +3

      it usually does! my mother is narcisstic and my brother is worse than her.

    • @Dj-ve2hx
      @Dj-ve2hx 5 років тому +4

      Yes, it ruined Me, I was a tool for years, there way or no way, I was the blunt of there comments for 25 plus years.

  • @miekedemoen6589
    @miekedemoen6589 Рік тому

    Thank you, you give us courage, you give us the reason that we didn’t get from the narc, why they discarded us: jealousy.

  • @roxannesnyder5024
    @roxannesnyder5024 2 роки тому

    You have 20,000 subscribers because your really good at what you do!And it's very important to help people protect themselves

  • @bettyboossister3918
    @bettyboossister3918 4 роки тому +222

    When the narcissist woman throws you under the bus...she MAKES sure the bus driver reverses aswell to make sure you are DEFINATELY MASHED....

  • @reginaldblakey1441
    @reginaldblakey1441 3 роки тому +349

    A dynamic personality and attractive appearance can disguise a evil mind.

    • @mattblom3990
      @mattblom3990 3 роки тому +14

      I just learned this. Broke up with her 3 days ago.

    • @amandapryar4675
      @amandapryar4675 3 роки тому +5

      Friend I work with a female narc and what a bitch it's no good arguing because they suddenly become the innocent one!!!

    • @Alaskanman
      @Alaskanman 3 роки тому +8

      True, love can make you blind. But many aren’t blind, they tolerate it because they “love” their abuser

    • @LegacyKnight-zm6vz
      @LegacyKnight-zm6vz 3 роки тому +2

      This is literally what I went through with my narc

    • @lisaking4386
      @lisaking4386 3 роки тому +3

      That's why one should never judge by superficial appearances.

  • @krkbeats007
    @krkbeats007 Рік тому

    Thank you for this, your helping people keep their sanity. Because you start to loose track with reality dealing with individuals like this

  • @micheleshively8557
    @micheleshively8557 2 роки тому +1

    Hi! You just said you were glad to have 22,000 subs last year. A year later you're at almost half a million!! Congratulations! This disorder is becoming known finally 💙💜
    Today at the lunch table, I received my actual 1st (not kidding) compliment in 20 years from my MIL. I dyed my hair 2 days ago and she said it looked great and took lots of years off my age (I just turned 60). I almost spit out my salad. Wow. He passed away 2 months ago so now it's just me and his parents. Maybe she's changing?????? Having doubts but I don't think I ever had a sincere compliment from her

  • @brizzchizz7302
    @brizzchizz7302 4 роки тому +114

    How to deal with this Woman..... YOU DON'T.... YOU RUN

    • @primalway1317
      @primalway1317 3 роки тому +3

      then she'll accuse you of being a coward..

    • @Lee-lilo-Noto
      @Lee-lilo-Noto 3 роки тому

      @@primalway1317 right accuse u of abandoning her!🤦‍♂️

    • @mattblom3990
      @mattblom3990 3 роки тому +2

      @@Lee-lilo-Noto My ex did this of me and her other exes. However, we need to understand she doesn't deserve us to worry about HER narrative. She is sick and has pushed us all away...Not our fault.

  • @RealCoachLee
    @RealCoachLee 3 роки тому +441

    She wants to be worshipped and she wants you to feel like you aren't worthy of such worship. She is fueled by your lust and doesn't want you to feel what it is like to be lusted after by another person - that's part of her sense of feeling like your object of worship. If you worship her, she certainly isn't going to worship you. Gods don't worship each other. One is a god (or a goddess) and the other is a subject. Don't be her subject. If there isn't mutual lust and desire, leave her.

    • @reginaldblakey1441
      @reginaldblakey1441 3 роки тому +7

      Aggravated and she is drowning when her main victim distance him self from her need for refuel of false worship.

    • @topflighttv1143
      @topflighttv1143 3 роки тому +19

      Bro, any relationship you get in out of lust is bound to be taken away from you because it's idolatry for the simple fact you're putting it before the ONE & ONLY living God...

    • @eyesoffire2325
      @eyesoffire2325 3 роки тому +8

      The spiritual types behind this are Jezabel, Delilah, Lilith, Ahab, and the like. All required worship.

    • @ZRanchLady
      @ZRanchLady 3 роки тому +8

      I'm learning it takes a lot more than lust and desire for a real good relationship. If you know yours and your partners "Love Language", that is half the battle.

    • @marcovelasquez8998
      @marcovelasquez8998 2 роки тому +1

      Thank you man you keep taking me out of situations

  • @donald5032
    @donald5032 Рік тому

    This video is a fantastic resource for men to recognize female narcissists early on. Thank you and keep up the great videos!

  • @lauramatherne1049
    @lauramatherne1049 2 роки тому +2

    I was involved with a narcissistic abuser. I've been watching these videos and you say narcissists take the best care of themselves, then that they don't. I've dealt with narcissistic abuse much of my life and I don't want pity. I want them, the total strangers, and all narcissists to STOP. They've made it look like I'm the narcissist. They're trying to make me kill myself. I started reacting badly to it, being triggered by their lies and projections. I appreciate all of the good advice on how to deal with it. It's easier said than done when you have cptsd from decades of narcissistic abuse.

  • @pamelawherey4583
    @pamelawherey4583 4 роки тому +286

    This should be taught in high school. Perhaps even in middle school.

    • @justinwilliamson6355
      @justinwilliamson6355 4 роки тому +19

      It needs to start in Middle School and continue all the way through High School, to really ingrain that shit into the students.

    • @MYFATHEREMMANUEL
      @MYFATHEREMMANUEL 4 роки тому +10

      Yes it does people need to be more and more aware. I didn’t even know that such things existed and even when I started to I didn’t know the name for it. Just proves my ignorance at that time.😔😔

    • @imadn4147
      @imadn4147 3 роки тому +7

      Schools will never provide real life education. Schools are there basically to distract kids from real life.

    • @chaosdweller
      @chaosdweller 3 роки тому +2

      🙏

    • @WATCHMANANDREW
      @WATCHMANANDREW 3 роки тому +1

      Has anyone ever been or claimed to be healed from narcissism? With evidence that supports its a genuine miracle. Cuz it would have to be. I believe there with the Bible calls reprobates and their conscience is seared with a hot iron and they cannot be saved and their mind is defiled and they're always Liars inventors of evil things Covenant Breakers proud boasters lovers of self never admitting wrong taking accountability always worried about clean and unclean Meats it says it all routes back to when they knew God they didn't honor him as God and started worshiping other things so God gave them over to a reprobate mind that they would do those things that were at the very least inconvenient it's a lot harder to be the way they are than it is to just be nice or the person they pretended to be to suck you in. That's what blows my mind because I've been the victim of a few of them on with one now and she did a good job acting I'll tell you that cuz I was trying to be extremely careful looking for the red flags and she put it on for like 4 months and she did a good job there wasn't one slip-up that I noticed that I've got really good discernment. I know I'm not perfect I'm not a narcissist either but at the same time I don't know how I missed it I almost want to blame myself not like punish myself to stay in this I'm currently trying to work out a way to get out of the spider's web if you know what I mean. I moved in with her so I live with her at her place and I'm unemployed right now with no vehicle I sold all my money in a hurry to get it fixed so we could both use it and now she doesn't even let me use it when I need to and I need to make sure I have secure employment with transportation and my own place to leave could actually if I got a vehicle I will get a van or a truck so I could just sleep in that leave immediately and just get back to enjoying being me. I mean I love me and I'm good friends with me myself and I but it's really hard to enjoy being me when I got to walk on eggshells and I'm constantly finding myself caring about someone who doesn't care about me and I know it I'm trying to figure out why they want to be that way even though I know what they are Holding Out for it and they know they are what they are but it's always I know you are but what am I I just don't understand why they even want to be that way cuz it's so much easier to not be that's what it says they do things that are inconvenient. That's a nice way of putting it cuz never found it hard to love God and others as myself or care about someone's well-being or be humble admit when I'm wrong take accountability and really get to know myself and love me and healthy way but it's like she won't even let me love her anymore and you can tell she's going to try to push me away cuz when she was faking it and pretending to love me and pretending to receive my love even though it wasn't the real her she seemed like she enjoyed it and I couldn't tell it was an act so it's absolutely mind-boggling to try to understand why or maybe that is the real her maybe not all narcissists are hopeless that's what I want to believe about her because I've really done my research on this has been around them and I know that that's where she is now maybe it's demon possession that's taking place prior to a person becoming a reprobate like Saul was on his road to Damascus and Jesus said the blind him and knock him on his damn ass cuz he was either going to repent and get saved or become a reprobate that very day I firmly believe it. And when someone's on the road to being one especially if they're really close to that cut off point cuz there's got to be a cut-off Point. Everybody's born that way it's hard to tell if they've already passed it or not and one of the things that really gets me is is there anything going on that is super evil that's like a plot not even just cheating which I don't believe there is but I think sometimes there's a larger agenda to either try and harm me or really just try to ruin me even if it takes her whole life I feel like sometimes she's having conversations with people talkin about their plans for me and it's disguised as other shit and I'm not a paranoid person and I'm not a person that thinks I'm that important that I'm more important than other people or something but I really don't try to just dismiss it with the same time when there's so many times that it just really screams out to me like this is obvious there's no such thing as a coincidence especially when there's too many coincidences and I don't like to stir the pot and I know they won't tell the truth but sometimes I like to just let her know that I'm really distrusting of her and I'm on to her and if there's anything going on it's going to be bad news for her cuz I'm a child of God and she will lose. And it seems like it gets her mad that she knows I know shit that I haven't been told and shouldn't figure out and that I'm right about what I'm saying. But it's not like she's mad because wrongly assuming falsely accusing her or even accusing me of making shit up that's crazy sometimes she just gets real quiet when I say shit to her that I feel is going on and I know if someone said that to me and I wasn't doing it I would not only be hurt that they thought that but I would wonder how they came to that conclusion I would want to make sure that not only did they know I love him with my actions every David make sure there's nothing wrong with them like paranoid schizophrenia but that's the thing I'm really observant and I have a sound mind and a good conscience towards god with a humble attitude when I say I have a lot of wisdom and I'm not stupid I'm not somebody that likes to be abused either but it's just so weird that she's quiet room even if she wanted to lie it would be so much better for her case if she just acted like it didn't bother or pretended it pissed her off that I was believing a lie but she sometimes just shuts down when I say shit that when I say it I wanted to not be true but it's so fucking obvious in I feel like it's so evil what's going on that I got to put it out there cuz I don't want it to be true but if it is I want to let them know that look all this shit that you're doing to try to gas me up so you can like me is just going to burn you cuz if it is what I think it is it's not just her it's a whole new group of people and they all work together I really feel like it's a koven and they're taking orders from and they're taking orders from probably Satan himself I also feel that's one of the reasons she changed I don't know where maybe she figured this would all have been over with and she got fed up with she's having to wait longer day get paid or get her reward will get out of the situation and go do what she wants or get on to the next victim but it's really obvious that something's going on. It's made me want to go out see other women to be honest. We're not married on government paper or any of that we believe in biblical marriage or at least I did and she lied about it but I still live here we sleep in separate rooms it's been about four months since we've been slow dancing in a burning room and I've been walking on eggshells and we haven't been intimate in all the last time we were it seemed like for that month it was a different person and she needed a good job of Faking enjoying a lot of shit including sex and love and all that stuff and then she acts like she did tests it now like she detest holding my hand when she used to be so affectionate I don't know but I don't want to overthink it and I don't want to assume shit that's not true I just know I have the discernment and I'm on to something but if they think they can take me down in any way they got another thing coming cuz Papa Jesus Got a Brand New Bag... of old tricks that are refined better than ever remember Elijah was calling fire down on them from heaven after he was calling them out publicly telling everyone why. Hates them and they would get hit with fire from heaven I mean could you imagine it and that's what all the narcissists are there reprobates reppy's I call him LOL

  • @ashton123256
    @ashton123256 3 роки тому +182

    Just got out of a tough relationship with a Narcissist, caught her in a lie and she went ballistic. Thank you for pointing out this information.

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 3 роки тому +26

      oh ya, they hate it when they get caught out! they make you go through hell for that!

    • @nopcshere6097
      @nopcshere6097 2 роки тому +14

      Yes, Ns react 1 of 2 ways when you try to hold them accountable. They either go ballistic (like my NMIL), or they ignore you & give you the silent treatment (my former wife did this a lot).

    • @music-ms6wr
      @music-ms6wr Рік тому

      @@RedroomStudios
      Haha heard that

    • @legacy4548
      @legacy4548 Рік тому +1

      @@nopcshere6097 facts im 7-9 days out of a relation with a narc and the both things you said she did and shes on #2 now

  • @christinat56
    @christinat56 Рік тому

    Thank you for addressing the Narc Mom. Holy cow you really helped me understand, you nailed it …looking forward to more info

  • @subotai91
    @subotai91 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you for finally explaining the common traits the narcissistic women in my life all possess, they seemed so different to me before, which was especially harmful because I kept thinking I must be the problem.

  • @metalphobos3632
    @metalphobos3632 6 років тому +405

    I noticed you have a video on how to get revenge on a narcissist. I haven't watched it, but in my own opinion the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to accept the fact they're their own worst enemy and that they will never be happy. They will ruin every good thing they have and leave a trail of destruction behind, but will never be satisfied.

    • @TheSimonScowl
      @TheSimonScowl 5 років тому +9

      The idea is literally to DESTROY THE NARCISSIST before he destroys somebody else. You DO THIS using the same tactics he uses to 'gaslight' with (except that we're not gaslighting but telling the truth, although the narcissist will ALWAYS condemn you for 'ad hominem' attacks, conveniently oblivious to the fact that it is the narcissist who always relies on character assassination). And I discovered that the only thing that was preventing me from speaking 'truth to narcissism'... was my OWN egoic need to be different from the narcissist (but I DO have a confident, aggressive and feisty side).

    • @eliciagarcia3601
      @eliciagarcia3601 5 років тому +33

      I actually think the best way to get revenge on a narcissist is to let them keep being a narcissist. For example my dad abandoned us for hookers and meth, so my revenge on him was letting him live a life of hookers and meth. Like what they are doing comes with its own revenge. My revenge on my ex is also just letting him be him. No girl unless she’s extremely insecure, manipulative, and abusive, will stay with him and he’ll never have a deep meaningful connection with someone because he doesn’t do that. It’s like the narcissism is their own revenge and if they stop it then they’ll be happy but also they’ll deserve to be happy cause they stopped it. It’s karma basically. Whatever they are doing they are doing to themselves to the equivlent. Just don’t reward their behaviour by giving them attention, even if it’s negetive attention. Cause “please don’t do this to me, I need you” is a stroke to their ego and motivates them to do it more for more of your approval. Just leave them and go be happy without them, that’s the revenge. The revenge is to let them be destructive and not let it affect you or bond to that.

    • @TheSimonScowl
      @TheSimonScowl 5 років тому +13

      +Elicia Garcia Appreciate everything you just said, but narcissists can be 'worn down'. The results are unpredictable (e.g.: they might KILL you), but they're actually very easy to 'defeat' as they're extremely predictable.

    • @garethmason9255
      @garethmason9255 5 років тому +7

      Drummers Eve I totally agree mate.. my ex wife has destroyed my relationship with my children and I said and done nothing but she mad my kids stop seeing me even bribing my daughter with a little pug big if she stops waning to see me.. she will get it all back someday from the kids.

    • @PeaceNLiebe
      @PeaceNLiebe 5 років тому +9

      Gareth Mason I wish there was an easy way help children being raised by Ns as the kids will experience abuse and continue cycle. Kids will go through the same sick abuse and never being taken care of. Not given a choice, they and become either a narcissist like the mom or scapegoat (sometimes switching roles.) In my case I became a scapegoat and subconsciously tried to make it out getting good grades to go off to college but ultimately formed a stress induced illness that took me out, never being taken to the doctor and even child protective services not doing anything. I ran away to a family member who took me to a doctor and temporarily house me. Ended up also being very narcissistic and kicked me out last semester of HS. During this whole time never having anyone tell me I was set up for failure in the hands of these Npeople no matter how hard I try. Took me until mid twenties and an abusive partner to finally stumble upon this information and taking steps to finally take my life back and know who I really am and not this terrible person this Nfamily has painted me out to be.

  • @GUURL101
    @GUURL101 4 роки тому +380

    "The Female Narcissist is an Attention Seeker."

    • @danparish1344
      @danparish1344 3 роки тому +12

      Attention and promoting a fake image will be her number 1 priority. I feel like my life is shattered and I was only with her for 7 months.

    • @esmooth919
      @esmooth919 3 роки тому +16

      My ex was always trying to keep up an image, and my mentality was "Who the hell are we trying to impress??"

    • @echospace7347
      @echospace7347 3 роки тому

      @@danparish1344 exactly I need to fix this

    • @davidarthurkingsworth9683
      @davidarthurkingsworth9683 3 роки тому +6

      With my narcissist (Sister) she showed the worst when I started growing up and maturing, thus, living my own life and taking care of myself, reducing the attention that I was giving to her. Then I experienced some of the worst behaviors from this sort of people. In one occasion that she exploded, her attitude was the very of a little imp, was a very child with the body of an adult, which was pretty violent, there I realized this people in the bottom are crazy, cause her behavior in that particular occasion was the very definition of madness, was pretty scary but showed me who she really was. Very violent, gossiping all the time, manipulating and putting everyone against me (And basically all the family is narcissistic, with she being the worst, against me), trying to damage my reputation and destroying my moral by any mean.
      In my experience, I can tell you, there should not be place for tolerance. No man nor woman deserves to have this shit on their life; there shouldn’t be place to have this shit in your life, they should be thrown away as rubbish is thrown away.

    • @GUURL101
      @GUURL101 3 роки тому

      @@esmooth919 looooooool I had a few friends like this. They lived for the applause of men

  • @kennethmann3122
    @kennethmann3122 2 роки тому +34

    Thank you for this. I was feeling like I was the only one dealing with a woman like this. My god this has been a journey. It damages a person's 'own' self esteem: being in a relationship with this type of emotional abuse. Thank you.

    • @artemlifemusic7290
      @artemlifemusic7290 2 роки тому +2

      You got this brother, keep your head up.

    • @savanna.phoenix
      @savanna.phoenix Рік тому +1

      People recover from depression cause by this abuse when they remember to keep the narc out of they’re life, just remember to stay away and focus on yourself :)❤️ I’m feeling much more like my old self already and the world feels like a much safer place! 😅

    • @rielrelacion7566
      @rielrelacion7566 Рік тому +1

      Same here..

  • @belgiumghostdogg723
    @belgiumghostdogg723 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks for speaking about the fact there are female Narcisse as well I just end my relationship with one it was exactly like you say. In the beginning she was sweet, caring maybe to good to be true and she was suddenly when I was so in love with her she changed completely and the mental abuse started. I felt like I needed to save her but she didn't want to be saved she wanted to bring me down from then on it still took 2 years to get out of that relationship and she still try to bring me down but I'm awake now because I took distance from her and the storm is much clearer from a distance. Now I am healing and start to live again. Thank you and keep doing what you do because you help a lot of people this way. Bless you

  • @bill_y4762
    @bill_y4762 4 роки тому +101

    Don't try and "tackle the female narcissist". Just run away!!! (As fast as you can your life may depend on it).

    • @georgekershner6626
      @georgekershner6626 3 роки тому

      23 yrs of her playing the victim

    • @amandapryar4675
      @amandapryar4675 3 роки тому

      Can you imagine what would happen if female narc meets male narc⛏️☠️💀😳👹👹 I tried to find an exploding bomb but even that wouldn't qualify!!

    • @bill_y4762
      @bill_y4762 3 роки тому

      @@amandapryar4675 is it even possible by because the Nac believes they are The center of the Universe and all things revolve around their epic gravitational pull.
      Could you even have 2 centers? It's seems like narcs specialize in Drawing Co-dependants and ematha and rescuers and such (enablers). Also maybe borderlines. If two narcs met each other I'm suspicious they will hate each other with burning passion (how dare a second person claim to be the center of the Universe?). I bet some of the most heated rivalries if all time were two narcs just hating each other.

  • @4433giorgio
    @4433giorgio 5 років тому +162

    Worst thing that can happen to man, and then she discards you in an instance, then she doesn't give you closure, then she plays the victim when approached. Run for the hills the moment you see this.

    • @iniubongnkanga9390
      @iniubongnkanga9390 4 роки тому +2

      I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

    • @ronaldwhite4671
      @ronaldwhite4671 4 роки тому +8

      This is exactly what happened to me it's cold blooded shit y'all

    • @roshawngreene7069
      @roshawngreene7069 4 роки тому +1

      This is exactly how I was discarded by my narc ex-gf... So f***ing frustrating!

    • @pfzht
      @pfzht 4 роки тому +1

      they have a taste for military men like you wouldn't believe.

    • @pfzht
      @pfzht 4 роки тому +2

      @@mysticpizza02 that statement is true through the looking glass as well.

  • @ericstolz8119
    @ericstolz8119 Рік тому

    Great job on pointing out the making him feel like a man and the jealousy. Those two points stood out to me the most in the first phase of my experience with a female narcissist

  • @youflatscreentube
    @youflatscreentube 6 років тому +131

    She just described Facebook's effect on the general public.

  • @davidmorton2092
    @davidmorton2092 4 роки тому +175

    The worst is... Though I will never go back how I miss the fun we had, I was discarded and like a fool thought there was something worth fighting for, all the time I was played like a flute, literally.

    • @bilaltariq6456
      @bilaltariq6456 4 роки тому +4

      im really sorry man.

    • @chasingshadows1543
      @chasingshadows1543 4 роки тому +11

      literally????😀🖒

    • @Winterreise189
      @Winterreise189 3 роки тому +20

      They will discard you no matter what man. I owned a house with her, paid all the bills while we were engaged and she was pregnant with my daughter, doing everything for her and providing unconditional love even though I was treated like shit. She discarded me like it was nothing after I went grey rock for a bit, to move into the ghetto lol. They do not give a single flying fuck about anything

    • @malrvinmason4745
      @malrvinmason4745 3 роки тому

      Oxalis wife is debating now on breaking up a family. we all go thru it

    • @mymusic4821
      @mymusic4821 3 роки тому +13

      Sad but these people are heartless. Don't feel bad, God will bless you with a loving woman.

  • @roblincoln10
    @roblincoln10 2 роки тому

    This video has given me HUGE insight and is SPOT ON with the woman of 7 years that I just separated from. My Lord I am exhausted and heartbroken.

  • @michaellukeman697
    @michaellukeman697 11 місяців тому

    Man where was this BEFORE I got married! This may be five years old now but the descriptions are so spot on it’s scary.

  • @andreagomera
    @andreagomera 5 років тому +806

    if you want to know a woman remove lust and have long conversation with her.

    • @-_oOtianaOo_-
      @-_oOtianaOo_- 5 років тому +45

      💙 i love this comment

    • @andreagomera
      @andreagomera 5 років тому +9

      @@-_oOtianaOo_- 👍

    • @HeWhoHath
      @HeWhoHath 5 років тому +12

      Danny Adames right. If you’re feeling insecure about a woman’s beauty when talking to her, say to her what you would say to one of your most stupid or most humble friends when replying to her. This quickly breaks the ice.

    • @alexanderwalle3568
      @alexanderwalle3568 5 років тому +4

      I was trying to rap to someone else who was also hot who seemed to respond favorably but I couldn't: all that slap-ass had my mind in prison, I felt like I was taken so shouldn't when there was really nothing wrong with it, we weren't hitched yet. As a result of how it all turned-out I don't rap no more, at all; let someone else lose a fortune over it.

    • @-_oOtianaOo_-
      @-_oOtianaOo_- 5 років тому +17

      @Distilled PUA never thought of a man as his status. I can do things and handle my own very well.. I enjoy a man that has a good sense of humor. that's better than anything!! 😊

  • @terricaldwell4275
    @terricaldwell4275 5 років тому +135

    They mask their jealousy, envy, and low sense of self with a "grandiose image"!

    • @ianhallihan3666
      @ianhallihan3666 5 років тому +6

      Absolutely correct, trust your friends advice too, they can see it from the start, whilst you get wrapped up in her.

    • @jessehutchings
      @jessehutchings 5 років тому +1

      And they love bad boys with lots of money because they 'see through the facade' (actually, they just think all women are trash and enjoy watching them try but to a female narcissist the qualities of 'their man' plays into their grandiose image of themselves so they deceive themselves into thinking he knows their innermost desires even though he's really just playing along with whatever she says and having fun degrading her and bragging to his buddies about how stupid she is).

  • @DPOWER222
    @DPOWER222 2 роки тому

    Stephanie you are brilliant! This video was extremely insightful and helpful to me and everyone who listens to it. Thank you very much 👍🏽💜🙏🏾

  • @danielcronin9811
    @danielcronin9811 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Stephanie, this slant is necessary. Might be the reason I'm actually able to move out of a narc relationship, and start shedding the characteristics I picked up, and granted some were already imbedded, but uhg. Nothing worse than a narcistic couple sucking the air out of a room. I'm so so sick of ruining other people's good times.

  • @ednorton47
    @ednorton47 4 роки тому +201

    Why even bother with a counselor? Just tell her that you are going down to the corner to get a pack of cigarettes. Then, never come back. Leave no forwarding address.

    • @imusingadisabledoldpersons63
      @imusingadisabledoldpersons63 4 роки тому +2

      Big Fan

    • @kimmiec.peridore886
      @kimmiec.peridore886 4 роки тому +13

      Edward Norton that is what my dad did when I was 10.....LOL..I'm ok with it. Now that I am older I know why and it wasn't ME)))))

    • @renzocur
      @renzocur 4 роки тому +3

      kim peridore that’s the problem with this scenario. Dad’s destroy kids when they do this until they become adults.

    • @TheCrossPearls
      @TheCrossPearls 4 роки тому

      Edward Norton AMEN.

    • @Kevork1
      @Kevork1 4 роки тому

      Lol Edward

  • @chewygal69
    @chewygal69 5 років тому +108

    I have a degree in Forensic Psychology and a Master's degree in Psychology, and your description of a Narcissistic personality is on point!

    • @tarvisbickler3787
      @tarvisbickler3787 5 років тому +1

      Education is Freedom

    • @Michaelgracon
      @Michaelgracon 5 років тому +1

      You are a bad ass! I hope to get my masters one day.

    • @billyjimbob65
      @billyjimbob65 5 років тому +5

      I was raised by an EXTREMELY narcissistic father ( I also had a brother & sister ) dad was a very successful business owner/operator who was a totally different person in his professional life. Mom always tried to keep the peace and console us after all of the derogatory name calling, verbal assaults, hollering and screaming that was directed at us constantly as we were growing up. Mom was raised to "keep your family together at all costs" so she never left him and always made excuses for him.
      Now I am 54 YO and just learning what narcissism is and wish so badly Mom would have gotten us out of that house. Us 3 siblings all have extreme social anxiety ( I have also just learned what that is) --- mom always told us "y'all are just shy".
      I also now realize that all the girls I have dated in my life were narcissistic just like dad --- as well as my wife of 25 years. I was seeking out narcissistic partners for some bizarre reason.
      A few years back I figured out my wife was having an affair with my "best friend" (which was also her "best friends husband) and of course it was all my fault (and her friends fault). I have stayed in the marriage for the purpose of getting my daughter thru nursing school with no student debt but when she is finished I am out. This affair has led me to counseling and to open up to someone about all the feelings of inadequacy I have always had deep inside my head that I couldn't discuss with anyone.
      Now that I understand this type life/relationship is NOT NORMAL I regret raising my kids in the same type environment I was raised in (except with a female narcissistic parent). Unfortunately both of my kids refuse to go get counseling but I realize now they both exhibit same symptoms of myself and my siblings.
      Thanks so much for your videos as they help continue my education in how to recover my emotional health from a lifetime of narcissistic domination in my life.

    • @andreasleonlandgren3092
      @andreasleonlandgren3092 5 років тому +1

      Jack Wagon great insight i have had similar things happen 2 me.

  • @tinaharris7382
    @tinaharris7382 Рік тому

    Thank you So Much! Just found your videos today and Subscribed immediately❣️🙏🏼

  • @woop-dd8zn
    @woop-dd8zn 8 місяців тому +2

    I am a woman and this video is also helpful to avoid making friendship with narcissist women

  • @g-slack958
    @g-slack958 6 років тому +46

    " Insecurities are loud confidence is silent " ... very true !

  • @davidallen5776
    @davidallen5776 3 роки тому +124

    He that exalts himself shall be abased, and he that humbles himself shall be exalted!

  • @danieldondelinger4453
    @danieldondelinger4453 2 роки тому +1

    I was unaware of all this until recently .Am. 43 years old I wish I would’ve learned this type of Character in people when I was younger it would’ve changed my whole life on the people I chose to be around. Please keep playing more of the same stuff thank you very much .

  • @komodokhan
    @komodokhan Рік тому

    Hit the nail right on the head, my first ever girlfriend is a narcissistic I found out on September 19. She always thinking about herself & all other traits fall right in line. She basically used me but in return, everything worked out for me and she was going through alot this year in 2022. I was bless with alot of great things this year but not her unfortunately. But people like this sometimes can't change but we can only pray for them

  • @Jimpopal
    @Jimpopal 4 роки тому +166

    I wish we learned this in school, i needed this video when I was 20

    • @thecommentwith0likes
      @thecommentwith0likes 4 роки тому +2

      Exactly why tf do I need algebra

    • @bigleo1312
      @bigleo1312 4 роки тому

      Jim it need to be taught in school

    • @G20T
      @G20T 4 роки тому +1

      Jim schools don’t even teach you this shit🤦🏾‍♂️

    • @Melbester9
      @Melbester9 4 роки тому +1

      @@G20T For real. I dealt with a Narc and I took Psychology in college and they didnt mention Narcissism at all. Only that it's a DSM-5 and parr of all disorders but don't get in depth.
      Who would have thought that one semester of General Psychology would actually serve me in my situation with my Ex Narcissist GF.

    • @G20T
      @G20T 4 роки тому +1

      Melbester9 I feel you

  • @chrisresinger8222
    @chrisresinger8222 3 роки тому +46

    DAMN!!! This is SO spot on. If you have ever been in love with a female narcissist this lady describes her perfectly. It's so sad too. They manipulate you so much to love them. Then they turn into the biggest monster.

    • @owenarmstrong1915
      @owenarmstrong1915 3 роки тому +3

      Going through it right now, not sure if she's a full blown narcissist, but definitely ticks some of the boxes.

  • @BeNice524
    @BeNice524 11 місяців тому

    You were so excited for almost 22k subscribers 5 years ago and now on your way to a million 💜

  • @micahpratt6139
    @micahpratt6139 2 роки тому

    Your insight is greatly appreciated. This is my wife to the tee and now that I’m learning how to protect myself things are turning the corner.

  • @johnrodriquez1933
    @johnrodriquez1933 5 років тому +361

    Oh my GOD. I was so tied up in this girl. After watching this, thank you JESUS I'm outta there with no kids and no ring. 😅

    • @theemperor7500
      @theemperor7500 5 років тому +4

      Good on you :D They're real man

    • @GreatGingerBoy
      @GreatGingerBoy 5 років тому +3

      SAME LOL

    • @GreatGingerBoy
      @GreatGingerBoy 5 років тому +11

      Looks can be deceiving, even with a nice ass

    • @iniubongnkanga9390
      @iniubongnkanga9390 4 роки тому +3

      I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone, all i did was to share his phone number with (geniustracker) without touching his phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius. You can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701) and don't forget to thank me later

    • @MyRayray007
      @MyRayray007 4 роки тому +1

      John Rodriquez your so lucky 🍀 blessing

  • @Universal_exports87
    @Universal_exports87 4 роки тому +33

    "Insecurities are loud" "Confidence is Silent" Wow that just helped me deal with mine and find some closure. THANK YOU!!!!!!!

  • @amberleaf7
    @amberleaf7 Рік тому

    💕Thank you for your videos. Just listening to them helps me heal certain wounds and understand important things.

  • @abhijitc251083
    @abhijitc251083 2 роки тому

    A really mature coach whose talks sound less like gossip and more like real advice.

  • @stevenromano8708
    @stevenromano8708 3 роки тому +50

    Oh my word! Why did I not see this two years ago? Just ended a toxic 3 yr relationship with a woman that had me convinced she was IT! The sexuality piece is 100 percent accurate! I was emotionally abused and gaslighted for the better part of 3 years. Needless to say the healing process is taking time. Thank you for this video!

    • @RedroomStudios
      @RedroomStudios 3 роки тому +1

      toxic truly is the word for a relationship with these kind of people!

  • @toneman335
    @toneman335 4 роки тому +55

    When a Narc tries to fill their bottomless hole in their life the attainment of things, power, and people it's never enough and they are never satisfied !

  • @thatguybri7681
    @thatguybri7681 2 роки тому

    I need to talk with you because this video is amazing! I can't believe how much everything you said was detailed!

  • @deebee4622
    @deebee4622 Рік тому +7

    As soon as I feel like someone wants me to be jealous of them my guard goes up and I cease to tell them anything about my goals, accomplishments, etc., especially with female coworkers. Thank you Stephanie for your words of wisdom!

  • @melinahamezos8951
    @melinahamezos8951 3 роки тому +70

    She literally just described my old roommate. The sad part is I thought I was the problem, but the reality is she is a deeply insecure person that gets off on making people feel bad about themselves.

    • @reginaldkingii6057
      @reginaldkingii6057 3 роки тому +5

      Gynocentrism

    • @nachannachle2706
      @nachannachle2706 3 роки тому +7

      Yup. They are TOXIC.
      You can smell the negativity reeking out of them. They will try hard to cover their stench with all sorts of happy-vappy self-boosting self-care preachings, but sooner or later their sh!tty insecurities will pour out of their mouth like dengue vomit.
      Stay away to avoid the contamination.

    • @bobbybero7452
      @bobbybero7452 3 роки тому +6

      @@reginaldkingii6057 The lack of accountability leads the ladies to believe it could not be them but sadly A-W-A-L-T. They are wired differently. Took me many years to wrap my head around what used to be common sense.

    • @stanleed.harold5457
      @stanleed.harold5457 2 роки тому

      Me too