What Do Chinese Think About Leftover MEN? - Chinese Street Interview - Intermediate Chinese
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2024
- For many years, the world has been aware that in China, there is a phenomenon known as leftover women. Yet there also exist a related phenomenon that is growing by the day and will have several serious consequences in the country's future: China's leftover men. What do Chinese think of leftover men? Eileen hits the streets to find out!
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List of Questions Asked:
1. What does “leftover men” mean?
2. Why are they “left over”?
3. Is financial pressure a reason for the “leftover men” phenomenon?
4. Are women receiving more education
and making more money the reasons for “leftover men”?
5. Is gender imbalance a reason?
6. Any advice for “leftover men”?
7. What stereotypes do people have of “leftover men”?
8. Will this phenomenon bring any negative impact on society?
9. Do you know any “leftover men”?
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Day 15 of asking to make a video about why young Chinese men are not interested to marry anymore. Is it because Dowry system? Or housing prices? Or other economic and social issues. I just want to know.
And day 12 of asking to make a video explaining why white men think Chinese girls are easy. I really want to know.
Kindly consider my request.
What currency it is ? What dollar ?
@@rochmaes4635 USD.
Maybe it's not a Courage or Confidence issue that is the problem. Maybe it's a Men are not ATM's or Into dating A Female Masculine "Man" that is the Issue in America at least. The Women become the Man they are Looking for... Then Emotionally Abandoned 80% of American and now it's definitely not going to be the desired outcome for them. Population Collapse is an Extinction of a Nation. No Children.. No Future Adults.. Then a Weak Country.. Zero National Defense.. Finally No more Nationality.. Simple because then Dominos Human Species extinction event... Due to lack of Genetic Diversity... Good Luck
By the way 现实 keeps being translated as "materialistic" in the subtitles, but it also means to be realistic or pragmatic. Just thought I'd point out the nuiance in the discussion here. I enjoyed the video, thanks for sharing the perspectives of these people!
I was also surprised by that, but I think is a nice way to express the priority is the proof and or presence of economic solvency. In not so polite words "materialistic".
The last auntie is truly a woman of wisdom.
she's so frikkin ahead of all of her generation, so based.
I love your initial questions and follow up questions. They aren’t generic and it’s like listening to a real conversation between friends. You don’t just come out and say “Chinas population is falling” but how you say “Does left over men have a negative impact on society” -- it creates an opportunity for diverse ideas to emerge which is so satisfying. Not only learning Chinese and listening but getting real viewpoints. This channel is seriously underrated and I hope it becomes more popular.
This is the best channel for learning chinese, also to know people's opinion on different topics, a very insightful episode, last lady is amazing, what a precious mom🙌
i think so too
*List of Questions Asked:*
1. What does “leftover men” mean?
2. Why are they “left over”?
3. Is financial pressure a reason for the “leftover men” phenomenon?
4. Are women receiving more education
and making more money the reasons for “leftover men”?
5. Is gender imbalance a reason?
6. Any advice for “leftover men”?
7. What stereotypes do people have of “leftover men”?
8. Will this phenomenon bring any negative impact on society?
9. Do you know any “leftover men”?
Wow a new video! I've been downloading all your street interviews and listening to them all day, even the ones from 6 years ago. Great to see you're still doing them you're such a good interviewer and teacher 🙏
Wow, lots of accents in this one. Looks good, will save for later! Thanks!
if men must pay a dowry for a partner, that is not gender equality. Do women have equal pay? One girl said a dowry should be paid because her parents brought he up - well, who do you think brought up the man? He certainly didnt grow up by himself.
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Too slow.
The mindset a lot of the people in this video shared is also very common in the US. Definitely an interesting video and I definitely have my own opinions about it for sure.
This was a wonderful sampling of general attitude of people. These seem to be well educated and thoughtful people. Thank you.
我看过你的很多视频，这个视频里采访的人回答问题特别真诚，特别认真，我很感动。
The last woman you interviewed is very socially intelligent and wise. The Government should try to form policies around some of the points that she made to improve society overall.
I am Chinese but I was born and raised abroad. I don't think dowries are reasonable at all. Yes, my parents raised me and spent a lot of money, but I am not a pet nor cattle, and I am not being sold to another family. After marriage, I am part of two families/ we are one big family. And my parents had me because they wanted children, not an economic gain. I think a lot of the girls in the video only agree to dowries because they gain something but deepdown they know it is not right. It does not align with the "independent woman" theme.
They should normalise starting at the botton with your partner. Rent together, buy a house together, buy a car together. Build a life together. I always thought that was normal.
No wonder they have so many problems in China, they created their problem on their own. And I also know problems also arise because the parents od the couple is medding too much. Relationships should be focused on the two people in the relationship first, and the extended family second.
yeah they're trying to rationalize a practice (rooted in historical gender inequalities) from outdated/medieval times in modern society because it benefits them. im european married with a chinese wife, and her mum started whining when i told her there wont be any dowry. the father was cool and didnt care about it
@@plsrdI'm sure her mom will come around when she sees your wife is happy and financially in a good position.
You are so so right
It is desired to have a house for a man in South Korea when he marries. This is one of the factors for not marrying. A home is truly expensive in urban areas.
Thats right. Every girl wants a sugar daddy to take care of them, have everything set for them, to replace their dad. A house and car and plenty of money to buy them all sorts of presents they dont need. In reality, they appreciate these things less than they would if they grew up with the man, and went through every stage of becoming successful together to work for what they have. Instead, what happens is the woman will cycle through men, lose her virginity, get ran through until she finds a rich one she likes, to take advantage of his hard work and life savings. That is so crazy. What happened to true love?
When she said "they don't deserve a woman due to fate" that hit me hard.....
It's true, there's always going to be men who are left over who de alone. We need to just be honest with these men in a compassionate way instead of lying to them.
Finding a woman it's like finding a job, you need to improve your skills and don't have too high expectations.
love these vids because there's a lot of not standard mandarin, and when I talk to people with nonstandard accents in daily life I'm actually wishing I had Hanzi subtitles!
I will only plan to have kids once I am financially able to support an entire family. No point to put my kids through suffering due to financial inability.
You’re forwarding your anti natalist propaganda at the wrong people
Alot of people feel this way until they become too old and still not financially stable.
@@johnnytran800 So you would rather put your kids and potentially your partner and yourself through suffering?
@@synxcriptz huh? Suffering isn’t real. Furthermore there are programs which pay stipend for children,parents
You only suffer if you participate in the rat race rather than just live life
*What Do Chinese Really Think About Leftover WOMEN? :* ua-cam.com/video/qaGfP5sk7z8/v-deo.html
I never understood the concept of being "left over" sure nobody wants to be single forever but why put pressure on it? is it like a government campaign? people should respect other peoples live choices solo or not^^
a wise question to follow up on this interview, as a reason for why men are choosing to refuse to pursue women with the same will power as their parents, and grandparents, might be primarily due to the prevalance of internet porn. Also, excessive masturbation draining any desire to go out and find a women. it would be interesting to get this perspective from both women and men. this is a huge issue in america.
Great shi pin! Eileen Xie Xie ni! Your videos with subtitles are the best!
It's way more fun being a single man than a single woman, as long as you have a decent job and a couple of good friends.
No single women can just stream online and get dozens and dozens of suitors.
@aoeu256 until she hits the wall then those 'suitors' will go to the next 20 year old
Cool video! Helps me retain some of the Mandarin I've learned.
Does anyone else get the impression Chinese men are getting an ultra raw deal? So much work just to appease your partner's arbitrary 安全感. And the men interviewed here and in other videos don't seem to question a setup so obviously unfair towards them.
Can't afford hyper-inflated financial requirements that only apply to you and not her? Just use your parents' life savings. ??? What an insane response. How conditioned are these men to have so little self-respect?
ty for these interviews. very good listening practice for realistic chinese
Hope that the Government would focus more internally in helping people find happiness and make creating families a top social priority. Even more than other western nations. Making a happier and more fulfilling society may improve western impression of China and gain much more respect than militarily. May also help solve the population shrinkage that all nations face in developed countries.
If the guy at 5:10 thinks it may be because these men are ugly then he should consider himself lucky he has a partner
Ai ya ni shuo 🤦🏾♂️
他可能很有钱 😂
@ 20:00 what is this logic in the year 2024? last time i checked, raising sons also requires significant investment from parents. maybe money grow on trees if you have a son
"leftover" is such a harsh thing to say. I much prefer "single."
Hi! Thank you for the video! I just wanted to ask, at 4:29 in my opinion the translation could be changed. I would write: "In pursuing a girl they are not enough passionate/decisive/driven" I don't think the lady meant aggressive, I think the lady meant they don't take enough initiative, that their dating approach is lame, but i could be wrong. anyway, love ya!
Financial insecurity, crazy property prices, not spending hundreds of thousands for a tiny dump, too many woman are pretentious and teo faced, raising kids to go through same hardships
感觉出现剩男和剩女的原因是你有很多选择。我们父母那一代没什么可以选的：家庭或者同事，朋友介绍的。现在只要你坐着厕所刷个手机也能找到对象。这就导致你一直希望遇见一个更好的人，结果肯定是贪多必失
您比较聪明😌
Sure, must be, definitely not because females can make more money so they only want even better men then actually literally no men can fit her requirements, and definitely not because after they can’t find for so long they simply can’t reproduce and no one wants them anymore.
你说的很对
Thank you for these videos! Very helpful!
there seems to be a typo in the title ... sure it was meant to say "..About Diamond BACHELORS?"
That's why people call 30 the "suicide age" if you didn't _____ then you probably won't, raising kids is scary you don't know how they're going to turn out.
__里面你想说了什么？
Gonna be real with you, if we had to pay dowry in the USA no one would be married 😂
We pay the dowry after divorce…to the court system not the parents and it’s called child support and alimony. One way or another men will pay.
@@Elephant_King_GjDowry is payment from bride family, in America it seems to be the other way around. Incentivised to get a divorce from the woman side.
喜爱这种对话。很感谢你
Really, really thankful I don’t (and won’t) have to deal with this bs. Being a young man (or a woman ftm) in China looks like an absolute nightmare.
我们剩男真的无所谓妹子的偏见，我们注意的是XBOX X和PS5的游戏是否有好好更新哦！
Thank you for the video. In which city are these interviews held? Interesting to have such a variety of dialects.
"Leftover" men and women is not a problem unique to China, but a problem endemic to first world nations where the belief that money and personal freedom are more important than children and family prevails. Even in the United States, it is not the wealthy who are breeding, but the poor and the immigrants. People care more about amassing as much hell money as possible than living a meaningful life. When you are young and myopic, there are few things worse in life than getting exactly what you wanted.
Smart people consider incentives. Parents spend a lot of money and time but don't get much support or respect from society. If society wants people to have kids willingly, parenthood must be made into less of a burden.
@@ollieanntan4478 People who require financial incentives to have children should never ever have children, because they reduce human life into a dollar amount. This worship of money above everything is the root of the problem.
Exactly right.
Another issue is, men and women are different on a biological level, and modernity goes completely against nature.
To put it simply, women don't care about men, which is why as bad as men might be, women in charge and with all the wealth is much more dangerous and destructive.
This is not a problem, there's nothing wrong with it if someone wants to live like that.
@@Glitch-txs it's a problem because it's based on a lie.
Population decline and quality of children as they grow to adults is a major problem all over the world. China must create a comprehensive change to creating larger families that will support a healthy society. This starts with matching right mates, to making childbirth easier, to having a robust and effective education system that embraces the traditional Chinese values.
I love chinese culture on the whole, its fascinating how they evolved culturally, financially and a economic power house that it is.But when it comes to the human side of how people are treated or even traded particularly women its miles and miles away behind. Why do parents put their sons and daughters under pressure to get married so badly in their 20 s? i watch tv dramas and the themes are all the same. no wonder the birth rate is dramatically falling and population shrinking. there is exodus of people leaving china particularly the young generation who wants to see the world and enjoy life.
where i came from people get married and find new partners at the age of 50 and 60s, there is no such thing like left overs, This is a term that we use for discarded food non edible. I think when they realise that love is more important than dowries and red envelopes, the population will grow much faster.
It’s a mess, the youth are rejecting tradition, but not finding loving relationships. Look at the west, has feminism and post modernism and materialism brought wellness and happiness? The answer is no.
Yes you are right i am too young to know about relationship. i am only 50. never mind. one can clearly say through yours comments are from a narrow minded person who probably is looking for love and it is not confident yet . i think you should go back to where you came from try to figure it out what that loving bind of yours is and be happy.
by the way it was just a comment i meant no offence. Remember FREE SPEECH probably not. you are not western.
It does not look you are western and i dont agree with your opinion but respect your say. Open your mind and look around you. you are not being realistic judging peoples traditions and values. If you dont want other people judging your opinion keep it for yourself.
14:00 lol, rich is youqian literally (having money)
Logically, no such thing as leftover men. When something is valuable...demand is high at the beginning where everybody is trying to grab for it...and if it is not taken but being left alone...then it is leftover. But men gain their value at 30 to 50....so leftover don't make sense.
I'm about to go back to University at 27 years old and single so if I do end up dating I will be a leftover man. So this video will probably be insightful
I think if you do end up dating you won’t be a “leftover man”, more if you don’t end up dating? Not that it matters either way
Don't let this made up term get to you. There's no such thing as a leftover man. Men can always continue to be sought after as long as they improve themselves. For women, it's a different story as they need their youth and fertility window to be desired by high value mates.
After getting into two good majors in college I was laughed at by some one I knew in church saying "it's so easy to get a woman, just go to a bar!".
Great topic ❤ thank you
Greating from "Sinegias Holisticas".
One thing I really hate is the bridge price. I just don’t understand it. And so high. How does the price get decided? I mean 30 years ago how much was it?
Supply/Demand ever heard of capitalism?
the more successful you are and can afford the lifestyle, you can have anyone that'll say yes.
How do you convince people to make interviews 😢😢
Great video! lots of different persons and views.
I don’t care 🤷♂️ what they think … I can live without a women !! My life won’t change much 😊
好喜欢老师了，谢谢老师
I think it’s important to get married to have someone potentially take care of you when you’re older. There’s no guarantee your kids will be good productive citizens and take care of you in your golden years. But it is more likely that no one will take as good of care for you as your family will. Plus I don’t see in China’s future there are enough kids being born today that are available in any field that will be able to efficiently take care of the Elders of tomorrow.
woww
Hanyu pinyin is the future writing system of China, so glad you’re already using it
All the local accents sound the same to me xD are they easily distinguishable to native speakers?
I'm not a native speaker, and I can notice the differences in accents.
How about wang Lao Hu?
There isn't really a "leftover man". A man is leftover the moment he is born. It is simply men with wealth and men without.
This 100% the term itself is nonsensical and you can tell it was just invented by salty/angry women who think they can apply the same logic the other around (which doesn't work as men aren't valued for their looks/fertility window, instead on their ability to lead or provide)
13:59 lie filter [OFF]
do a street video on 消费习惯
The stronger the woman, the better
Great ❤❤❤❤
I didn't know the dowry was still in China...and so high too. Think I won't be looking for a Chinese girl...
Girls from big cities don’t ask for dowry. I never heard of dowry in Beijing.
I love strong women, that's one of the reasons why my girlfriend is Chinese 😁
China is a country with 1B inhabitants, different cultures, provinces with more rural and traditional populations, others more urban and modern. Of course, dowry is not a rule that all Chinese people follow. To think this is so is to have no idea what China is. Throughout Europe, for example, we also have this dynamic between tradition and modernity and we find many populations whose traditions have been maintained for centuries...
Thanks for creating such great videos.
It’s sad , in China there is no Google , FB. Otherwise, people would view things differently in their society they are lived in.
Even with FB, google, etc. it's not gonna automatically change how society runs. South Korea has both and their society is still very conservative and hierarchical(much moreso than China).
I love your videos
Kawaii: living life like im in A DREAM
Finding a right is not easy as both need to love one another. If both cannot get along ..better dont marry as you will get heart sick along the way. Better dont get married. Left over man sometimes fit you better.
Leftover men don’t care.. can get along fine..
male and female's mating strategy and biological needs are different. generally male would prefer to spread their seeds wide and far while female would prefer to lockdown the best male so they can get to extract resources from him and gain protection for stability and security. marriage is compatible and beneficial to female but totally against male. females are considered a winner to be able to find the best deal they can get to marry them and it is a big mistake to use female's standard to measure on male's success. successful male measurement should be wealthy and be able to met his mating strategy and biological needs. i think dating or be in a relationship is still consider a win for male but once he get trapped into marriage then he is a loser. whenever i attend someone's wedding, i will always congratulate the bride and seldom congratulate the bridegroom unless his partner is an asset to him rather than a liability.
my young bro comes over close to the end of the video, he asked," what is leftover man?". I unironically said,"ME. Me is exactly that." He blanked then slowly nodded then walked away.
This looks like response to videos after leftover women
Leftover society. You either settle for second best or you don't that simple. One chance in life.
Hi, do you have your material available in traditional characters?
Yes, supporters can access our videos' transcripts with traditional characters.
leftover men and women are leftovers. society already has had its fill of married couples; something must be wrong societally. if leftovers are eventually eaten, they may be past their prime and approaching expiration. some require aging to reach their prime, though it can be difficult to discern fermentation from rot.
It's not about being strong. Women worked in the WW2 factories with heavy equipment and we had a population boom, so someone was bonking strong women. Some people view "strong" as being full of hot air and contradictions. Truly strong women with ethics and morals, humility, and logical thought are very attractive. But it isn't easy to be strong. So there aren't very many truly strong women.
Majority is because they never dated and shy , ugly or poor
Mainland China and outside world different standards. Even in TW or SG even if 33 year old women not married is fine. For men maybe 40 45
Beautiful place.
Today i found out im a leftover man haha
Jeez and I thought the situation was grim in the west. China seems even worse off!
Hypergamy
很有意思的视频加油！ 我觉得 “剩女”的想算比较传统的。。。。越来越多人“晚一点”才结婚！
Then no one will marry her.
@@LittleRadicalThinker You're making my point - statistically, people are deferring marriage for a number of reasons. In 1500, you got married at 15, and had 6 children. Things change. Priorities shift. I think a man could be very interested in a woman over 30 - beautiful, capable of children, mature, and confident. What is there not to like?
@@RyanTheLaiEn I guess you don’t understand the point as a foreigner. Whatever your cup of tea, it’s JUST the financial pressure forcing all the marriage problems down the throats of Chinese, along with all the controls and all the money grabbings, and it will be worse and worse in the coming years. If the woman has money, most man can’t marry her because it will be too much pressure to be her husband, and if she becomes leftover, the man who has more money than her just won’t consider her at all when the man can easily find a younger and more attractive woman. There is no point to even consider any leftover woman in China.
China is facing a great catastrophe. China will either be another NK, likely not because Chinese know too much already, or become a “slavery” state under Xi like now, or a civil war will break out, and along with any of above, Great Depression and great famine will come too. China is at the very edge of great catastrophe. War time economy will be implemented for sure, life will be as cheap as tofu dregs like the current Russia, sending countless cannon fodders to Ukraine just to keep any territory for another day or two. The China catastrophe can’t be avoided unfortunately. Maybe it’s a crazy solution to the crazy marriage problem in China, either way, the China I know will be gone in some years. Learning mandarin is useless and pointless because the whole China will be totally different in maybe a decade.
我是一位富二代而且我没有爱人或者女朋友所以我非常高兴。😄
Maybe it’s a good choice. It’s just a good time to be alone, now in China only.
Be gay!
@@user-mr8gb3jo4f 您好🤗我们喜欢特别漂亮的有很多钱的不太聪明的中国女生们😶
我不是生男😅
A less male 🤫
那我是剩男了吧。😀
Message to all men : Do not believe this video there is no such thing as leftover men. Choice is a key word here.
We do not have the same biological restriction as women, we can marry and have children at 50-60 some even at 70 years old.
Can and will are different. If no one wants you, it will not matter. Men without money will always be leftover.
Why not go to a genius sperm bank?
Leftover men - in reality non-existent. A man is like a knife that can cut until blunt beyond sharpening.
That's well said
Only with money, otherwise he is useless.
Some of these women are evil lol
我有HSK3但是我一个汉字也听不懂， 为什么呢？ 我的天啊， 汉语是一个特别难得的语言!
No such thing. Only left over women
Oh really. No men are involuntarily single in China? 😅 you do know China has a much larger male population right?
Leftover man = poor man. Most men are poor.
8:25 cool answer. she believes in destiny. and she is giving up everything in a good way to the destiny. but those girls are quite manly. too much manly energy. maybe it is good for them. but it will be difficult for them to build a family.
Thank you for the long form videos! Can't wait to finish work so i can spend 2 hours noting new verbs❤❤❤
Well, I think the leftover men should get together with the leftover women. Match...match, win-win.
Leftover women will complain that they deserve better looking men and the guys will remain leftover.
Leftover women = very old, succesful at business, wants to boss men around
Leftover men = poor, ugly, old, bad at business, wants to boss women around