How to Date a Finnish Man: AVOID THESE 10 MISTAKES!
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- Опубліковано 16 чер 2024
- Dating a Finnish man can be exciting and fun, but there are some things to keep in mind when it come down to dating a Finnish guy. Today I'm joined by Varpu from Her Finland to share you 10 mistakes to avoid when dating Finnish guys!
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Maybe i'm a different Finnish guy, but these things don't apply to me ! I have always pay a coffee etc. on the first date ! And i tell my feelings too... And if Girl put her hands around me, it's really okay to me...
Good stuff!
wow, that is great...dont you want to marry me ? (LOL..just joking. ) I am struggling to keep contact with one finnish guy , but I always get drained of positive energy and dissapointed when he sends me one sentence in reply after I write him two pages .
Nyéki Judit 😘
:)
Nyéki Judit
Jos
*kirjoitus-lahjasi*
Ovat tuota luokkaa kannattais miettiä novellin luomista?
Tai mistä mä sitä voi tietää vaikka olisit kirjoittanut muutaman romaanin jo.
Noni!
Excellent topic and video. I'm an American woman who is married to a Finnish man. The gender equality thing cannot be overstated. Our first few dates we took turns paying for everything, and the things that I was used to guys doing in the US (like holding open doors) are just not as common. Finnish people in general are also very reserved when you first meet them. It's very different from the US. I'm not complaining about it because I prefer it that way. As to learning Finnish, well, I'm trying but the conjugations are murder. At least my brain is getting a workout.
Thanks for the comment Carrie Costea! Don't focus too much on the complicated stuff, instead try to make it fun & useful. :)
@@AleksiHimself Wow, exaxtly. That's what I always say. Fun, interesting and useful stuff is the stuff you memorize the best.
so, no chivalry?
My husband is a finn, I am Salvadoran. We are so different but we complement eachother ❤🥰 He is the love of my life.
Finnish guy not shy when they drunk 😂
What if the guy's never drunk tho XDDD
True finnish guy is less shy and more sosal and flirty wen yhdy are drunk 😄 Depends really if they drink or not
Yep! :D
Canada and the USA are too
i have no idea why im here but i hope to meet someone from Finland one day. 😂
Good stuff!
Same 😅
Hello
Sounds like you DO have an idea.
Hello from Finland XDD 🇫🇮
The love of my life was a Finn. I impressed him (Yay!) because I was familiar with the Kalevala! And he reckoned that my Sima was just like his mother's! He was indeed very shy when we first met, but once we became more familiar with each other, he was very talkative. We did not last unfortunately. (My fault. I was young and stupid.) He wanted children and I could not give him children, but we have remained friends over the years. He is single again and his kids are now adults, and we still keep in touch . I would have him back in a minute. Beautiful man... Taught me how to make a Sauna from scrap! Hahaha....
Please tell me you guys are back together
I hope y'all are back together
Long live the talkative Finns !!!
Indeed! :D
😆
Hiljaisuus on kultaa puhe hopeaa
"silence is gold. Talk is silver"
@@riikkakauko8589 thats half way to a very lonely and miserable life
@@riikkakauko8589 mun oma lempi suomenkielinen sananlasku on: "oma maa on mansikka. Muu maa on mustikka".en oo varma, et muistan oikein. Mut todella pidän. 😊☺
Finnish guys are really shy and cute that way, but I would say they really wanna talk and express themselves but kinda feel awkward about it 😅
Yes!
Uuuh I experienced something a bit querky so far. They seem shy in the beginning, but then some of them go so fast from zero to 100. It's like those cars that speed up from 0 to 100km/h in 2 seconds. And they also tend to get pretty kinky. Not necessarily vulgar or something, but they seem very eager to do stuff with you... so to speak. 😉
@@loredanab4389 I think now I know the explanation how so shy guys get to sex on the 3rd date! XD
@@loredanab4389 oof... Greetings from Finland 🇫🇮... 😂
@@AnnaIsHere Tho still some would say no😅
Both speakers are wonderful. Thank you for sharing.Taneli
Thanks for the comment jazzbeau507!
So much commonsense in Finnish culture. I can really appreciate the value of personal space, shared responsibilities, and emotional reserve. Thanks for sharing your culture 😊 ❤️ from Wisconsin.
Thanks for the comment The Moonlit Quill!
So being a loner social inept is commonsense?
@@pedrobarbosaduarte3704 As far as i know, these conceptions, more than values, dont develop in social ineptitud in finland, just makes friend groups to be more sided and separated between each other, dont really know many people out of close contacts and all of that stuff; in contrast to, lets say the mediterranean, where thou there are friend groups, people tend to know everyone and have various groups of friends. And the emotional reserve.... well, there is that one gloomy statistic finland beats everyone in that may bring the answer to the consequences of this fact, but still, doesnt make em social inepts, they just bubble up emotions and dont know how to deal with them in any shape of form besides burial.
The two factors, thou have obvious downsides, generally also have upsides related to social and survival necesities in an unstable system that may as well go shit at any given time, be by for political, resource related, or climatic reasons, or all together; which given finns and finlands history until pretty recently, explains their disposition.
Hei!
Thank you so much for this! I am an American teen and I'm dating a Finnish teen, but we live in separate countries. It's hard because the only communication we have is over text and I can't call or facetime because he is self-conscious about his "English voice." We still have been together for almost a year and your videos have helped me understand more about his culture. Thanks to Varpu I am learning how to keep up a few more conversations in Finnish with my boyfriend, which he is proud of. She has helped me not be self-conscious of my "Finnish voice!" I have noticed that when we do video calls and stuff is when we are doing simultaneously something that he enjoys, such as playing Minecraft or some other video game. As for him being Finnish, I definently DID have to take the first step forward, but it was sooo worth it! Once you really get to know him, you can get past that small talk and really enjoy yourselves! My Finnish boyfriend is one very social boy who loves to make funny jokes and work in complements as well, he's very kind and thoughtful, and even though we talk less that I would with an American boy, somehow he seems to be smarter and more thoughtful than any American boy I've met, even though I'm the same way. Thank you for making this video, it was very helpful and I really resonated with Varpu!
Moi moi!
Thank you for this interesting video !!😊And thanks to HerFinland !! You are both amazing. Kindest regards from Paris, France.
Thanks for the comment Narciss!
My fiance is a Finns. Im blessed to have a lovely and godly Finnish man. ☺
I’m currently dating and I encountered all the things that you mentioned in the video! You’re amazing guys!
Thanks so much for the video, really helpful to know this. Honestly as an asian girl, this is not the way of a man that I like. But I'm sure finnish people are very honest, which is a good base for any relationship.
I was one poor (Finnish) guy having a relationship with this rich american woman but she still expected me to pay the bills. We were in love but that thing ruined everything. Two totally different cultures. Or maybe it's called greed? I pay the bill when I have money and know she/he doesn't. Common sense.
what i've learned is that if you want a reply to your message, you should insert a question in it : D
Well it does help to keep the conversation engaging at least. :D
Varpu has a smile that could light up a whole room. Aivan kaunis.
Her smile could sell a lot of frickin' toothpaste.
So glad I stumbled upon your channel 🙏🙏🙏 so much to learn from you about Finland and Finns🙏🙏
Awesome! Thank you!
Love your accents, especially Varpu's. Never heard a Finnish accent before.
Aleksi, thank you for these videos... It’s entertaining & helps me understand Finland, the people, and culture there.
After seeing this video, it seems like it takes more effort for women to “win the heart” of a Finnish guy. In my opinion, I feel there should be a mutual interest and effort from both sides when it comes to a relationship.
Great video you guys. I've been dating a Finnish guy for a month or so and it really has been going similar to what you said and the transition into a relationship seems like a little confusing one, probably because what you say, it happens naturally here without much talk. So it is helpful to know that. Cheers.
Thanks for sharing!!
I have never had a Finnish boyfriend but I did have a dear Finnish male friend. I think most of this about Finnish men is spot on. My friend was more outgoing than other Finnish men I’ve met. The egalitarian thing and strong, independent women is so true. I wouldn’t know about some of this because we were just very good friends.
Hi alexsi am a girl from Ethiopia I watch your videos and I get more knowledge about Finland and also laugh at same time you are interesting keep it up
The video we all women who like a finn needed!! Kiitos paljon!
Now Aleksi gotta be prepared for girls trying to date him xD.
I actually have a talkative Finnish boyfriend! I just stumbled upon your channel because I'm learning Finnish and researching Finnish culture. That's nice. We traveled together and we kinda shared the bills, I had made the reservations and he paid for the food and rides, so we both made our effort in the subject which is refreshing. He likes to communicate and he thought he was very talkative for Finnish standards until he met me, hyahaha. I'm the most talkative person he's met.
About touch, what I enjoyed the most is that he always ask for consent before touching me, this is very respectful and I always feel safe and respected around him. He offered me a shoulder massage in our first sauna date
Tks for u video it's a bit helpful. I'm a latino girl dating a finnish guy. Thats kinda very hard sometimes. It's the communication, cultural differences, education. He is like an enigma to me. Don't know how to act many times.
Sounds like he's not very good at communicating.
there is no need to act every time, sometimes being together and being silent is enough.
I will keep this in mind! Ahihihi. Thank you!
Good stuff!
This video extremely makes sense❤ I’m going to date a Finnish guy tomorrow, we chatted for one and a half month on WhatsApp and it’s time to greet each other in real life after I arrive in Lahti. He’s a talkative guy online but who knows what’ll be in real cases, hope this video can help us get along well😊
How did the date go? :)
As respects my experience I can say that my now boyfriend who's Finnish he made the very first move and I was really shocked as I was not expecting that at all, but I am glad he did because that's how this all happened - Also, I totally agree about physical interaction, when he came to Mexico City (my hometown) I was really looking forward to sitting so close to each other, holding hands everywhere and maybe just a kiss every now and then, but it didn't happen so I actually was considering that he didn't like me at, but then we discussed about it and he realised that it was important to me, so now he does it (not that much but I admit is some progress) - And last, just to stress the importance of communciation specially if you are dating someone from a different culture, in my case if I do not like something or I get angry I usually tend to be quiet and not to speak, but my boyfriend used to understand this behaviour as just the opposite, like I was really chilled and cool about stuff, which just made me angrier and even more silent and he was like "oh wow this is really working out" so in the end naturally it was a mess until we again spoke about it and ended up laughing just because each one had a different vision about this way of acting. Really cool video Aleksi!
The same thing happened to me and my Finnish boyfriend. An incident occurred and i was very hurt/upset about it, but didn't say anything until 4 weeks later and he didn't even remember what had happened! He was like, " you stewed on that for that long? Just tell me if something is bothering you right away."
Like this video was made for Turkish people. You answered all question in my mind. Tysm
I just got ghosted by someone from Helsinki that I thought was the love of my life.. hail Finland
sorry to hear that :(
Noni!
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Opettavaisia tarinoita.
Tosin tämä ei enää deittaile.
Geep going!
GOOD STUFF!
Kiitti kommentista!
OMG! Wonderful video! I have lived with that and i make first movements... And I have had a nice husband. Those were the days... Now those days are over. But All good for my before relationships. And all good for you all !!
Thanks for the comment helena koivisto!
aleksi thank you so much it is a very helpful tips for me to do so🙏
You're so welcome!
This is so true! 😊😊😊
Thank you for these advices! I am kind of sort of dating a handsome Finnish guy and I was most confused about the exclusivity part. Now I know there might not be an official statement or clear line, but I will make sure to ask.
PS: sex is da bomb
Hmm, well if I ever decide to date a Finnish guy I'm all set.
Best advice is don’t think every Finnish guy is the same! And yes learn Finnish people love when you are learning their language ^-^
Thank you for all informations Finnnish woman and for your smile
And thanks Aleksi
Thanks for the comment Fouzia Nassar!
Greeting from Slovak living in Finland half a year, Thanks for the video I found it very true and helpful and I really like scene from 2:02 that is place in Bratislava, near Danube river and Eurovea promenade which is capital city od Slovakia :)
Good stuff!
Married to a Fin for 36 years and I can testify that everything they said in this video is absolutely true! They make the absolute best partners in life because they are easy to live with and are VERY faithful. If you're a homebody you need to marry a fin. Plus they're really cute!
Tip: if your Finnish boyfriend gets angry, do NOT tease him even a bit.
Angry Finnish man yelling is like a hypernova.
Awesome video, Varpu is so pretty and charming! So are you, Aleksi and funny too! One question, are older Finnish men more old fashioned? I just know my grandpa, but I haven’t dated Finnish men.
Thanks for the comment bebina! I guess you can say that.
What does older mean? I look at my Finnish colleagues who are older than me (in their 40's - 50's) and they don't seem old-fashioned at all. Quite on the contrary: they work out and stay fit, they're open-minded and active. I think I'd like a partner like that when I'm their age.
Loredana B I am asking about more mature, 50 plus, what are their attitudes toward women and dating. If it’s the same as 20-30 year olds or different.
@@lgfrades Oh, that is beyond my "area of expertise". The colleagues I'm talking to are usually up to in their 40's. And I don't talk about dating with them 95% of the time. 😁
I´m here for Finish Men, but this girl is insanely beautiful.
Nice tips and nice vedio
omg this is sooo true :D i love this video :D
Thanks for the comment Monika Havlíčková!
I’m dating a Finn and there coming from Turku to see me in England day after valentine.
I’m a little nervous but I think my excitement takes over that. 🙈🥰
It will be fine! :)
Jonathan Foster
Update pleace place?
I'll like to know?
Jaana Kari well everything went very well on our date and Iv been living in Turku for about two weeks now and it’s going very well. 🥰
I’m starting my study’s to learn finish and making a life for myself here. 😊👍
Jonathan Foster
Ouh yeah
good to hear!
Spring coming and then summer and everybody looks different like atm.
Cheers from
Turku-Pohjola.
Ps.
So you are from England?
I was born and raised in Germany but äiti on Suomalainen. Now I know I am not weird, it's just the Finnish genes in me 😄 Thanks for the video 👍
Fintastic videos XD. aika hyvä :D
Kiitti kommentista Ainoz :D!
Awesome video
Thanks for the comment espe ch!
Kiitos videosta :) I love you, Finns! And your country 😁 Especially I like comparing my culture to yours. Many years ago I heard Finns get married and decide to have children in late age (30-40?) is it true?
Average age for having a _first_ child is 29 years for a woman and 31 years for a man. Marrying for the first time is 31,5 years for women and 34 years for men. So you are right. This is due to finnish people being very educated, and that obviously takes some time. Also finnish culture is very individualistic, so it is considered to be important to do things and express yourself.
Pretty much like S K said!
i think finnish men wants to be able to raised their kids in rich home
Awesome vid! I started followimg Varpu coz of her beautiful blogs now im following Aleksi! Awesome vids!
I have a question though, how can you tell if a finnish guy is interested in you? I have been talking to this guy for 10 months but he hasnt iniated a phone conversation. We used to message a lot then it became lesser during the holidays. But he still sends me messages. If i dont text, he would initate a text conversation. Im just so confused 😐
Just ask him directly how he feels.
J JAV
yeah just ask.
Not a huge fan of the expectation to equally provide since I would want to stay at home with my kids as a young mom, but I suppose it's better than the alternative culture where women aren't as equally respected. Other than that dating a Finnish person has been good and I get along really well with his family, everything is very peaceful and stable.
My boyfriend is so shy also,but only at first but now he is talkative already we are almost two years in a relationship and long distance,He is a finnish and i am a filipina,I felt so lucky with my boyfriend he always expresses and say how much he loves me,And i am so thankful to God that he gave me a very thoughtful,handsome,understanding,nice,sweet,faithful,honest guy on earth😍😘.Every morning we spent talking two hours before i go to work,and at night we spent 4-6 hours talking through video call till i fell asleep and it is our routine for over a year.
To be with him it feels like heaven,i can't wait the day to be together.🙏💑
Good stuff!
Marialyn Juliane
Good stuff!
Wow I need a Finnish too
how did you meet him?
My Finn is broken then. 😳
He is the exact opposite on every aspect. He really pursuit me. He is very touchy and talkative. He texts and calls often. He paid for everything even when I offered to pay my half. I made sure to make it even by buying him presents. And he doesn’t like milk. 😁
Only the sex bit was accurate with him.
He is lovely.
That's great to hear!
Greetings from Greece! I want to live in Finland!
Thanks for the comment Sordid Mayhem!
Great video! So, what would be some examples of Finns expressing feelings in a non-verbal way? Does that apply for women as well?
Taking care of you, making plans, doing stuff for you, being there for you.
I just love listening to his voice
Thanks for the comment Toni Faulkner!
Wou there are some differences with South America, the guy here always pay in the first date and maybe in the second too, girls usually pay when they are going out with a friend, but this doesnt happen most of the time. Anyway, finnish guys are so handsome haha. Hi from Peru!
Thanks for the comment Sthefanie RM!
I'd like to add that don't give any mixed information when approaching to a finnish guy. Flirting is nice but if you don't actually mean it and the guy gets the wrong impression of your intension, thats not good.
Same goes both ways
Met a finnish guy recently I rlly like but all those things apply to him so well omg 😂 not an easy game
I'm Ukrainian learning Finnish language. I'm also shy and introverted so I think Finnish guy or girl would be perfect
I agree with everything.. it seems logical..
Good stuff!
Hey🖐 i will be coming to Lahti Finland for my studies next year and im hoping to make some good friends both men and women..
Lots of Love from Kenya.
Thanks for the comment Sarah and welcome to Finland.
You are very funny. "We still have feelings. We are still human beings." lol
Believe it or not :D
lol this is so true! I am in contact with a few Finnish guys and the texting is so difficult! I just can’t really get through to them! 😭😂
Keep it up! It's worth the struggle. :P
That sounds soo strange for me in many ways. Perhaps I will never date a Finnish man, cause I don’t want to be the one who starts relationship and initiates it
What do you mean by starting?
@@AleksiHimself being the one, who shows interest and invites for a date, for example
@@dianaskorn3137 in Finland it's common for ladies to take action in dating. When things work, it goes both ways. It doesn't mean you have to do all the work.
@@AleksiHimself I do understand that it’s ok for Finnish girls to take action. But it’s not common for me, that’s why I wrote that perhaps will not date a Finnish man. Just talking about myself 😌
Hi, id like to know since your are very quall between men and women in Finnish culture what about talking dating man to man and girl to a girl and how in your culture look at these kinds of relationships so I'd love to know ❤
I watched this to more understand Finnish men... I met a Finnish guy by natural encounter during the midsummer holiday, but these all stereotypes are completely inapplicable to him.. he is very straight forward and keeps jokingly talking about how much I love him...(even next day we met he completely sober) but he was a bit too negative at a time about his life in general, so I decide not to move forward with him, so we had a phone call, and we agree not to see each other again, but then he calls me again, saying that he wants to meet, and he said I can take care of you something like this, and I politely reject by making some excuses, he becomes really angry so I say we can meet other times, then he became calmer. so even though I am a foreigner but I really found this already violate my private space that needs to always meet his expectation and meet. Although all I want just to be friends and along but his move is really about serious dating by moving too fast that scared me a bit :/ I guess this is not a typical experience...
Doesn't sound that typical. Sounds kinda insecure guy. I think you should just forget him and move on. I think it's always better to say directly what you think about them.
I am very interested in the Finnish culture I want to get to know it better because you have the best metal music in the world. And the more I hear about the culture the more I like it . So I am looking for a long dark hair metalhead from Finland 🇫🇮I am trying to learn Finnish too 😃
Good stuff! 😃🙌
I'm from Kenya east africa we met on first date he's so cool you're right finish guys ain't good with texting lmao.
On the bills he payed mostly but I helped abit..But he's nice!!
Haha good stuff!
Yeah all that is very true! That's how i made it to get my finnish boyfriend :D .
They love so much that you have knowledge of their culture and language as foreigner. I've been into this love for Finland for many years already so it is already quite easy for me to make new finnish friends everytime. I guess that it is the MOST important thing to make friends and why not, a boyfriend.
For example I became a huge hockey fan and that has given me many more friends! They usually got too surprised that a mexican girl loves hockey. I'm fan of Jokerit team for example and even some guys have given me Jokerit's merch as presents (yeah for free) , so when you really touch their hearts, they're the most sweet people and they won't mind to give you some presents.
Nothing to add, i completely agree with every Tip for dating s Finn. I approve 😂.
Btw I'm going to meet some of my finnish hockey idols in a meet &greet. I really wanna hug them for a picture, would be that okay or bothering?? Many fans hug them but maybe is because they're used to it 😆.
Good stuff! Hugging should be ok, just ask first.
Rose Montelongo You are completely right mi reina👑💕😘😘
I think Finnish and Swedish guys are somehow alike. 🤔 The texting and ghosting part made sense now 😅
Hi im your new fan here im from Philippines and found my finn boyfriend and we have 1 year old son now
I just found this channel today. I recently worked with a lovely Finnish man to say sparks flew is an understatement. I'm French Canadian, Irish, Italian, and some other European cultures. Unfortunately he's married, but unhappily. I left the job for other reasons but would like to stay friends with him. Do Finnish men get divorced? Him and his wife live here in the USA.
Yes, Finns do divorce.
Being A US born citizen, But having Finnish heritage in my views are akin to these thoughts.
Very interesting video for my life, i guess I’ll never date a guy from Finland, specially because i never make the first move 😂😂 so no chance! Also im not interested in dating it is a lot of effort 😂
Same as Estonian guy, most of the Estonian guys don't make first move, so as Latvian guys as well
Thanks for the comment Multilingual_Kdog!
I'm dating a finnish man and I really think he's the one. Most of these are very spot on.
Sounds great!
My husband is half fin...and maybe it's his british side but he made a beeline for me and now im his wife
I think I was born in the wrong country. Might take my stuff and move to Finland because mannnn, they're MY kinda people!
I like personal space too. Is it ok to just ask if he is interested or should I be less forward?
Depends. If there are some signs of being interested then it's ok to just ask in my opinion. I'm not an expert in these things but I am a finnish guy :D
Like the comment above says, if he shows some signs of being interested like trying to make plans with you and communicating with you, and it's been a while I would ask :)
I personally would be bold & direct but in a good way. If you've already got to know each other, asking them out is ok.
I really like that you pay for yourself in the beginning, a man paying for you is so uncomfortable because I just sit there panicking wondering what's expected of me. Much better to be seen as an equal.
Good stuff! 😃🙌
"We are still human beings", ahahhaha XD
hahaha
My ex was a Finnish. This is so true: Every thing going well but he suddenly stopped texting and disappeared then few days later he show up and text me again. It seems that this is not just my ex's thing, most Finns are like this.
This can happen.
Exactly. It was so annoying. 😬
I can't believe someone would suggest calling a finn. I was under the impression that majority of us absolutely hate being on the phone and when someone calls you, they just don't pick up, especially when they don't know who's calling.
I see what you mean but I have got a good amount of feedback from the ladies when the guy had the balls to call.
How do you draw the conclusion that Finns hate being on the phone?
Moreover, how would you even call a girl who doesn't know you? If you've exchanged numbers, she most likely has saved your number too.
Lol 😂 “I was waiting for when Aleksi will ruin his marketing video”. She is funny and positive
"Baom chika waow waow... " I think I laughed a bit too hard there.
Hi Aleksi, first of all, I really enjoy your channel and especially the videos about dating. :) One thing that sprang into my mind while watching this video was the following: What are the life plans of Finnish men? I'm German and here in Germany, it seems there are only two extremes: very traditional men (marrying, kids, house in the countryside etc.) and very unconventional ones (only open relationships, working in a start up, travelling around - the typical "hipster", so to speak - often found in Berlin). I'm really curious what it's like in Finland. I'd appreciate your view on this and I do hope there are more nuances than in Germany. ;)
In general Finnish men wants to find a good woman and start a family, a job that provides enough but yet leaves time for life outside the work, traveling is something all Finns do, in general i guess about 1-2 trips in a year, usually in winter time when it is dark and cold here so getting under the sun is very tempting =)
I think it is somewhat general consensus that we also expect that our partner isn't dependent on us, it feels safer and more relaxed when you know that both will land on their feet if things goes south, also it keeps relationship more real.
In short: i feel we are not that different from our counterparts in Europe, though it seems we have much more variety than men in Germany, we are not that extreme =)
@@duhni4551 Thank you so much for your detailed reply! That helped me a lot! 😊 It's good to know that Finnish men have a greater variety of life styles! I really like the idea of the woman being independent, that this is even an ideal. That goes to show how evolved Finland is in matters of gender equality. 😊
@@simply_saskia You are welcome =)
I don't know is the equality thing going on here so much of an ideology as it is just natural way of life.
Nordics are harsh environments to live in and general consensus here is that it has forced men and women work side by side through out history, so it has just grown in to us.
Then again, i guess adaptation is evolution, go figure =)
Also our women are somewhat temperamental, if i would go and tell any of them to stay home and concentrate on cooking, my life span would be very short, so there is self preservation instincts at play too =D
@@duhni4551 Then I must be a Finnish woman! 😂 No-one gets me to play the house wife either. ;) This is the main reason why I wrote the question. It doesn't mean that German men are Neanderthals, but often enough, a couple falls back into traditional roles once they are married or children are there. I like the idea of men and women working side by side without anyone being superior over the other. I am up for more evolution! :D
@@simply_saskia I don't know how Germanys child care is but in Finland it is build to support the structure where both mother and father are working, it has huge infrastructure.
If Germany lacks that, i can see that it is lot easier and economical if only one works.
There are lots of German people working in Finland btw, so feel welcome to come and try it out how life is in here =)
My Finnish friend usually was the one who paid the bill when he was here, even when the time he was out of cash and I did pay first but then later he returned me the whole amount.
Wow that's rare.
Couldn’t that be one of a kind or couldn’t I be survived until next pay day. That was a good rhyme, wasn’t that.
I am married to a Finnish men, so I can relate to some things 👍😁😁
That's great!
Hahaha agreeeing hahaha i love these two vloggers 💕
You're the best!
Kind of ironic that the country home of Nokia which had texting on their phones long before other countries, yet Finnish men don't really like to text back and forth.
Haha good point. Times have changed since then.
Finnish guys are the best ,although they are not so talkative in the beginning and I thought he wasn’t interested in me . Kiitos for your video xx
Thanks for the comment Linda Gilberti!
I love both of you❤
To sum this up:
Girls need to act like a guy, be bold and make the first step while they're the shy one😂🤭
Exactly! I think that would be attractive if a girl did that.
@@AleksiHimself that's interesting 😄
Sounds like here in Sweden 😂
My husband is Finn. We met from Tinder, I chat him first and we met in the same day we got matched. He is so generous, funny and silly, full of dry jokes, but also very strong opinion.
He is not a romantic person, he is not using social media, don't like selfie which is l do really like those things about him. He thinks that l am very beautiful and he thought that l won't be interest with him when we first met. I asked him if l am that pretty then if we met in a gym not in Tinder, would he talks to me? and he said "Probably no, but l'll watch your butt 😂". A very wonderful person, rakastan sinua kulta.
how long does it take until he asked your number? was he active in texting?
@@sara66 when we got matched on Tinder, l asked him do you have any plan today? And then he said no. I asked him out then he asked my number so it will be easier and l gave him.
@@mushroomhunter1645 I have a case that looks very excited about me, but he didn't ask for my number and he became a kind of silent after the date! what does it mean?! This scenario happened two times! Another guy clearly said we should meet again and after the date, he only send 1 short and weird message!
@@sara66 actually l didn’t put any hope from Tinder at that time so l didn’t wait for him to contact me again because it was purely a really good time of conversation and felt like he can only be a good friend. But he did and he asked me out again, his office was really close to my home at that time so l usually asked him to just go with me because he has a driver at that time, he was an expat. And l picked him up from the office and we went dinner together. For your case, l think just play it cool and distract yourself from the thinking that he will contact you back if you met him from Tinder. If you meet a guy from any dating site, just put him as your friends and never more at least you are looking for some “fun” stuffs too. But you can do whatever you want as long as you are happy :) I think l met 5-7 guy from Tinder before, and we are become friends until now. From my experience, if you met a guy from dating site just be casual and normal. If you have limitation, make it very clear but in a good way. Everyone that l met before, really respectful. It’s just about have a good conversation. If you are looking for someone right now, l hope you will find the right one and don’t lose hope :) everyone case is different, but l can say put them as friends and relax.
Thanks! You are so nice and your husband is just lucky 💕 ❤ 💖
It was the bow chica wow wow for me 😅
Good stuff! 😃🙌
Ok Im planning on traveling to Finland but now Im worried. Even though in my country Im considered shy in Finland I would be considered an extrovert, I don't want to scare people away.
It's not that bad as you think. Just be a bit more considerate and subtle.