You should honour your parents because it’s the first intimate relationships you have in this world, and will therefore impact your other relationships as well 🙌
You should honour your parents because it’s the first intimate relationships you have in this world, and will therefore impact your other relationships as well
Basically if you don’t go out causing trouble you good. If you dealing with trauma from your parents just ask God for healing and just keep a good relationship with God you’ll be iight.
My mom and I suffer alot because of the way we react to each other . I pray she is able to still be happy no matter the struggles . I'm sorry mom . I don't mean too hurt you with what. / how I say things . I feel pain when we don't speak with empathy . I pray for the wisdom too understand you . And to notice your feelings in the moment we are not having a good talk . And to take action to help you . Not argue .
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I'm really in love with a woman I've come to know. I love her character, her beliefs, her spirit and soul. She's also expressed to me how she's in love with me like she's never been with anyone before. We are very compatible. The problem is that my mother would not accept my girlfriend because of her ethnicity and that really hurts. It's a culture that has been going on in my country since colonialism. Would I be dishonoring my mother if I continue the relationship with my girlfriend anyway despite her dislike towards that specific race?
My opinion is no , your honor in your heart and God knows that . This might be God's way of opening your mother's heart ...pray to God for guidance 🙏🙏🙏
I was not raised by my birth mother and my father abandoned me. I was taught to give her respect and love her. It has been a challenge to have a loving relationship with her. I have accepted that she has issues and I don't have to have her show love to me,as I have shown it to her. I am at peace not having a close relationship with her. I will do more to show love to my daughters and be available for them by opening conversations.
the long life that talks about is spiritual not physical, also the more base reason is that in this physical life it's very difficult to move forward when you hate yourself or dishonor yourself. if this statement is not easily understood it would make no sense me trying to explain it.
What about if you want something that is good, but your parents say no... AND TELL GOD IF YOU ANSWER THIS PRAYER THEN HE WILL NOT BE HONORING ME... Are our parents in control of our lifes?
Parents are also imperfect. God wants us to honour them at all times, even when they chastise us wrongly. I've been guilty of dishonoring my parents, carrying bitterness in my heart because of harsh words, reacting to their provocations in a bad way. But there was no blessing in that. I thought I was right, but God thought otherwise. Thank God I'm forgiven.
yes your right....well as of today 11 or so 20 minutes ago my mom cussed me or cursed she profanity towards me whatever she said you fucking idiot cause i overheated the cheese and we are a so called "catholic" family and I called her a Son of a bitch yeah ironic by the way we spoke in Spanish but i also cursed her out in English though then i regretted it because she thinks she won and blah blah blah that im wrong and wahtefer and honestly i wanted to cry we were never like this and or am i a pussy? for criying even though i called her that i guess i am huh well i still have the emontional damage as a kid but this time i didnt cry im 17 years old and i try to not accept things from her whatever it is im gonna kill myself to show her that she did this she didnt kill me but what she did caused her Son to kill himself and i Think shes gonna say oh no its your fault you decided to curse me you should have controlled your mouth and blah blah blah She is narcisistic and nonsense and i called ironic and contradictoary then she kept repeating it and she was really annoyed honestly who molds their kids? the parents? if its not the parents then what is it that makes me such a horrible person???!?!!!
@@IsraelCountryCube you are not your experiences ... When you become the person you need to be don't look back at the person you were with hate . Your mother may be stuck in her own pains and internal battle she has not realised she's dragged you into the battle as well .
While this is good to do but what if your mother and stepfather are physically mentally and emotionally abusive why should I honor that? I been honoring but nothing is being done with them I need an answer as to why are they not punished for their sins yet I stand up to them once all hell breaks loose
I got this knowing today...."father and mother" are the authorities that govern your expectations. In other words,it simply refers to the spiritual entity that holds the keys to your desires per time. It has nothing to do with your earthly parents.a very relatable example is this -stop seeking wealth and rather seek the spirit or authorities that owns wealth. (Fraudsters and workaholics don't live long because of this same law)
You shouldn't let her mistreat your son and you should absolutely not give her an opportunity to do so. However, you should still pray for God to help you to forgive her and even pray for her to wake up from her sin, whatever it may be. I'm sorry if she hurt you, I hope you and your child are doing well. God bless you sister or brother!
@Lilly Duff I don't mind forgiving her I just don't want to talk to her or don't want her around me, I can honestly say shes the person that has done most harm to me in my life, I don't wish her the best but I also don't wish her the worst, I just like to pretend like she doesn't exist.
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He said dont provoke your children to anger in the bible. They shouldnt have to throw devil signs UP to stop christians from harrassing them, or set THEMSELVES on FIRE, for some religious people to understand they know they not RIGHT.
I don’t understand the end of message . But the first sentence is correct . I don’t understand why no ones reads the entire scripture . It also say don’t cause your kids to anger . I hate when we only read part of scripture to fit us . And that cause others to not fully understand it
it is a general word. And as far as I can tell the greek and hebrew words interpreted as honor are general as well. All in all both of them hold in common the idea of high respect or esteem, which is a dictionary meaning of honor. It looks to be one area of interpretation where things were pretty much straight forward. Thank you for the question!
Shiloh Place Ministries No, it doesn't actually. If you look up the word in blue letter bible it doesn't say anything closely related to that. It says to make weighty and heavy, whatever that means. But not the honor that we're used to hearing.
@YeshuaJesusisking V I had a similar concern and found the following video very clear and helpful. Hope it can add to your understanding. ua-cam.com/video/OXiZy4osOPA/v-deo.html
Dk if anyone's gonna reply to this But how would you honour your parents if they are the one taught you how to disrespect them ??? And being raised that way why shoukl I be cursed when it's not even my fault ??
when we ho through that kind of trauma from our parents its because thats what they learned and chose not to learn another way of treating others respectfully in love. It is up to us as individuals even though treated the way we were trwated we come to a certian age in our childhood where we know thats not how we want to be treated and so we need to learn how to treat ourself better so we can treat others better then we were or still are being treated by our parents that way we can have thw knowledge and desire to treat our parents the way God teaches us to so we can have the promise He says we will. Because not only will we be respecting our parwnts, we will be respecting othwrs in the community like doctors, teachers, co workers and bosses ect and thats how we are remembered and recognized is by our actions. Regardless of our parents actions towards us or others in out lives we dont have to follow the negative traits. we have the choice to honor and make our own legacy's, traditions and/or our own way of how people percive us by how we conduct ourselves and how we treat other's.
If asking for help isn't too much I would like to ask for help with my parents. My whole life they have been unjust, unfair, and wrong in my eyes. I want to honor God but I can't do that because i'm human so i'm no perfect which means i respond to my emotions. I was born with an iron will so if I see something wrong I fight it til the end. My parents have been wrong to me and I need help with doing what God asks me to do because I can't honor God if my parents won't let me honor them. I just need some help to do what's right so I can be better. I don't want to leave and end up hating my parents for all eternity because in my opinion which is supported by facts and evidence they refuse to treat me like their son, and I hate that I can't be good for God because of the actions of my parents.
That still doesn't really clarify how to honor a parent or parents that are not good for you I grew up with a single mother and to her no matter what I did I was always a disappointment to the rest of my family I was only considered the bastard born the unwanted child and no matter what I did I was only ever seen as such how do I honor a parent that does that it is okay to honor your parents it is okay to love them and it is okay to forgive that does not mean that it should be excused for what they did I have forgiven my mother for what she did but that does not mean I will let her do it again but how do I honor a parent like that I would really like to know
That is excellent. It is good to honor your parents. Even when they haven't been good parents, the parents God intended, you can honor them. You honor them by recognizing any wrong they have done and forgiving them. You also set yourself free from sitting in the place of judgement. Only God should sit in that place. I realize in some instances this can be very difficult but holding on to unforgiveness only burdens you and no one else. Thank you so much for your comment. God bless.
He gave me love and affection spent every day with him i loved him he wound someone prettier than my mother and decided I'm going to make a new family and new children i call he doesn't puck up when i does its just excuses how can you do this to a six year old kid how am i supposed to honor you
I honor them how ever i can the curse at me hit me insult me but i stay quiet i suppress my rage and sit alone in the dark i say nothing back i think about hurting myself but I'm to much of a coward to do it at this time in life i can't cry anymore i dont know why
All my dreams and life choices get insulted tho i go to work every day i bring money to the house and even pay the water and electricity bills myself i am claimed to be useless but i take care of my handicap uncle shower him give him food take him to bed. I'm even been called to boring or not interesting enough so i have no friends how far should i go should i keep honoring the people that brings pain in all aspects of life.
@@jonathanconfiance6653 be kind to yourself you know your doing your very best ... Honour yourself find someone to talk to outside of your immediate situation .❤️💗honour the fact that they make you a stronger person
@@jonathanconfiance6653 Please be kind to yourself. I pray that God strengthens you and shows you your worth because the people around you clearly haven't. You were valuable enough for Jesus to die on the cross for you and you were literally made by God himself, and he doesn't make boring things. Now to your question, you can honor them by praying for them and by being respectful. Don't cuss them out and be forgiving, even when they really don't deserve it. God bless you very much, I hope you're fine.
I think respecting our elders even strangers teaches us to respect ourselves ... To know what it means to respect and be greatful to know those we are on this journey with .
@@sinai1687 My parents are by blood and love. My step-parents are very abusive to me. How are they still my parents. Their respect must be earned like it or not.
First of all. The Ten Commandments were sorely misinterpreted. Honor thy Mother and thy Father, actually means honor our Father, Creator of all things with his light, and the Earth our Mother. They are both living beings who were given life by father and mother nurtures us with the elements of her many physical forms. We have gotten away from knowing that Father is our actual Father he just doesn’t do sibling labels. That’s a human thing for he nor mother are not human.
It's Hard to Honor your mother and father if you got parents who Bully you. mistreat you. abuse you. and even oppress you ! maybe even even prevent you from being independent !
Do we have to honor them when they emotionally abuse you and judge others😞 they say they are Christians but doesn't God say not to judge others? And that Jesus says to love one another as I have loved you❤ and they make you feel so bad about yourself that you just ball your eyes out every night before you go to bed because they insult you saying your a liar, we don't believe you, you'll never pass, you seriously think you deserve a driver's license , you are not working hard enough 😖. and then tell other people about what you did wrong and then rattle tale to the other parent so you get in trouble .😭I I don't even consider these people my parents and instead Jesus is my parent because He created me in the womb , He proved He loved us by dying for us, Saved me thousands of times from death and took care of me that's what you call a real parent 😎
I believe honoring your parents includes acknowledging when they hurt you, when their behavior wasn't acceptable and choosing to get healing from that and release them. It includes setting healthy boundaries with the way they treat you. I know this is different when you are living in their house than when you are out.
Of all the variations "of the fifth", he chose to recite one mentioning long life, and land. Kill "savage", steal land, and "pledge allegiance" else you are not one of us. This is how this child of the devil, and his followers think. Enuf said.
I got to work, and look up in the white man face, so he can tell me what a good mother should be. My son never disrespected me, it's y'all want him to love y'all, and stirring up mess all the time. Its always been yes mam ,no mam, ok, i love you moma, and did I eat today? His father didn't provide and he still didn't disrespect him. Never said a unkind word, to a dead beat dad. He still stop by occasiona,l and VISITED that side of the family, if he didn't have a problem with having a traditional family, now white man why do YOU?
Even if you got bad parents, you still better be very careful dealing, with your biological parents. This is a thin line, after you eighteen you can leave,and not come back, but when you return you still better be careful who you talking to, cause most parents never needed there children, there children needed THEM. Where your children at white man? They need you now, more than ever,not after they got grown, and able to provide for themselves. He out the GHETTO, and God say I did a DAME good job, helping him get OUT.
@@harrellhenry2997 I understand your perspective but you race baiting white people negated you’re entire point seeing you’re a hate filled racist weirdo
God said to honor, not said to love. It two different things. He know that some parents in earth would be hard to love. That why God only said honor. It more because the DNA, the descendants inherited from parents and ancestors. Not honoring would be hard for you emotional system. Interesting, but God said to love your neighbor. Why not your parents🤔
I want to respect them and be good to them but they hate me so much because I was pregnant when I was 16 year old. I have forgiven my self and moved on but my parents hate me so much. They treat me like a dirt. They love to insult and curse me everyday. They love to bully me. They are not Christian but pagan worshippers. I told a friend that I am not going to attend their funerals and they will not see me and my children anymore on their last breath. I am better getting out of their life forever.
You sound like you are doing what you can. I am sorry that you have to go through this. You deserve to be loved but, unfortunately, not everyone is capable of unconditional love. I hope you can see your own value and realize you deserve to be loved in a healthy way. People won't be perfect but that doesn't mean they can't love you without a "hook in it." Meaning, their expressed love to you isn't based on you doing all of the right things all the time.
@@ShilohPlaceMinistries I have planned to help female age 12 and above with providing free courses for building their self-confidence. My confident was totally ruined by my parents. I get it back by going back to education. Hopefully, I will be ready to teach English and Chinese in the future to help female in poverty as education is expensive in some countries. Most Chinese hate daughter but they will reap what they sow.
I am assuming you are referring to "Fathers do not exasperate your children." I would absolutely agree with that including, "spiritual fathers." That does not change honor though. Here is one of the questions I like to pose when talking about this. It helps to clear of few things up and I wish I would have put it in this video. Maybe I should do a part 2. Is it more honorable to pretend like your parents were/are perfect for fear of dishonoring them or talking bad about them, OR is it honorable to be honest about their treatment of you(at least how their treatment made you feel) so that you can release them and walk in freedom, allowing them to do the same? Of course, most people would agree with the second one. So honor is a position of our heart, that we can reclaim. We can also work on guarding our heart and maintaining honor to the best of our ability. Sometimes that may involve boundaries and removing yourself from a situation. Thank you for the comment
Could you define spiritual anointing for me? When you proceed that term with "boring" it sounds as if what you really mean is charismatic personality, which I may not have and I'm ok with that.
Hi Karma. I replied to the definition of honor question below. As for your part, most of what we deal with has to do with forgiving parents and authorities figures for past hurts. A position such as the one you are describing is extremely difficult when it comes to honoring parents. We often say that you are not responsible for the wounding that happened to you but you are responsible for your response to it. That sounds harsh on the surface but what it is really saying is that if you continue to walk in unforgiveness and bitterness, the only person it is hurting is you. For this, I like the description of honor that explains that we don't honor people because they deserve the honor. We honor people because WE are honorable. In other words, we honor all people. Romans 12:20 says, "Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." While I realize that this is easy to say and much harder to do, particularly in the situation you described, there is freedom in it for the one who chooses to honor. A few things, honoring someone doesn't mean you accept the abuse. Honor can involve setting boundary lines and even leaving to find help. If you are not able to leave, then protect yourself the best you can. Depending on the relationship it could be that displaying honor towards parents can break them. Jack tells the story of repenting to his dad for ceasing to be his son and cutting him off. His dad broke down and said that he was the one who should be asking Jack for forgiveness. Jack's dad treated Jack the only way he understood. He knew it was wrong but he was so hurt he didn't know how to love Jack. I hope this helps.
My mother used to say to me whether you are a good parent the word of God said honor it doesn't matter if they're abusive you still honor that doesn't mean you have to take the abused still honor be respectful and honor
And so. What this Jesus meant by this scriptures? Because i am a victim of abusive parents too, cursing and want to kill me because she said she’s the one gave me my life so she is the one can take my life away from me too. Although in my heart i already forgave them. But they still have that very high pride as a parent. In Matthew 12:46-50 While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, His mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to Him. Someone told Him, your mother and brothers are standing outside wanting to speak to you. He replied to him, WHO IS MY MOTHER AND WHO IS MY BROTHERS? Pointing to His disciples, He said. HERE ARE MY MOTHER AND BROTHERS. FOR WHOSOEVER DOES THE WILL OF MY FATHER IN HEAVEN IS MY BROTHER AND SISTER AND MOTHER.
@@lorsliciouscookingvlogs7283 Matthew 5:44 You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
ihavetubes yes of course i still do pray for them. Even they throw me all the bad words and put me down like i am the stupidiest person that they knew, i never do the same. Still visited them even i ended up throw out from the house :)
Please pray for me to be a good daughter. I just want to cherish my mom.
I pray for you sis that God blesses your relationship with your mother with love, joy, peace and kindness. Amen.
I love my parents , they gave birth to me and they spoke to me about life , that's good enough for me .
Thinking of mine.thank u.for making it clear.
My parents are ther for me to honor.
You should honour your parents because it’s the first intimate relationships you have in this world, and will therefore impact your other relationships as well 🙌
I have a problem with seeing it just for parents to have authority over u after they've caused u traumatizing harm
You should honour your parents because it’s the first intimate relationships you have in this world, and will therefore impact your other relationships as well
Basically if you don’t go out causing trouble you good. If you dealing with trauma from your parents just ask God for healing and just keep a good relationship with God you’ll be iight.
My mom and I suffer alot because of the way we react to each other . I pray she is able to still be happy no matter the struggles . I'm sorry mom . I don't mean too hurt you with what. / how I say things . I feel pain when we don't speak with empathy . I pray for the wisdom too understand you . And to notice your feelings in the moment we are not having a good talk . And to take action to help you . Not argue .
Wanted to listen but couldn't hear over the Hawaiian music
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I'm really in love with a woman I've come to know. I love her character, her beliefs, her spirit and soul. She's also expressed to me how she's in love with me like she's never been with anyone before. We are very compatible. The problem is that my mother would not accept my girlfriend because of her ethnicity and that really hurts. It's a culture that has been going on in my country since colonialism. Would I be dishonoring my mother if I continue the relationship with my girlfriend anyway despite her dislike towards that specific race?
What's ethnicity
@@_also__also_5170 race, she's black
@@andrebaide1851 theres mad beacuse she's black?
My opinion is no , your honor in your heart and God knows that . This might be God's way of opening your mother's heart ...pray to God for guidance 🙏🙏🙏
Honoring your parents , something that will help you build relationships throughout your life.
I honor my father and mother for them to live long.
I was not raised by my birth mother and my father abandoned me. I was taught to give her respect and love her. It has been a challenge to have a loving relationship with her. I have accepted that she has issues and I don't have to have her show love to me,as I have shown it to her. I am at peace not having a close relationship with her. I will do more to show love to my daughters and be available for them by opening conversations.
the long life that talks about is spiritual not physical, also the more base reason is that in this physical life it's very difficult to move forward when you hate yourself or dishonor yourself.
if this statement is not easily understood it would make no sense me trying to explain it.
Jamon Rudon its not just spiritual, its emotional and physical as well.
It is physical, please don't be deceived it is very physical. People's life's are cut short for not honouring their parents.
@@Adastical lol well i guess my life is gonna be cut short
THen imma die quicker then
What about if you want something that is good, but your parents say no...
AND TELL GOD IF YOU ANSWER THIS PRAYER THEN HE WILL NOT BE HONORING ME...
Are our parents in control of our lifes?
Hello! What if they ask me to do things out of hate, and that affect me negatively? Must I obey them?
No. There’s a huge difference between obeying your parents and honoring your parents.
Parents are also imperfect. God wants us to honour them at all times, even when they chastise us wrongly. I've been guilty of dishonoring my parents, carrying bitterness in my heart because of harsh words, reacting to their provocations in a bad way. But there was no blessing in that. I thought I was right, but God thought otherwise. Thank God I'm forgiven.
Well said God's princess... Even I thought the way u did... But we should honor them toooooooooooo
yes your right....well as of today 11 or so 20 minutes ago my mom cussed me or cursed she profanity towards me whatever she said you fucking idiot cause i overheated the cheese and we are a so called "catholic" family and I called her a Son of a bitch yeah ironic by the way we spoke in Spanish but i also cursed her out in English though then i regretted it because she thinks she won and blah blah blah that im wrong and wahtefer and honestly i wanted to cry we were never like this and or am i a pussy? for criying even though i called her that i guess i am huh well i still have the emontional damage as a kid but this time i didnt cry im 17 years old and i try to not accept things from her whatever it is im gonna kill myself to show her that she did this she didnt kill me but what she did caused her Son to kill himself and i Think shes gonna say oh no its your fault you decided to curse me you should have controlled your mouth and blah blah blah She is narcisistic and nonsense and i called ironic and contradictoary then she kept repeating it and she was really annoyed honestly who molds their kids? the parents? if its not the parents then what is it that makes me such a horrible person???!?!!!
Well I’m surely going to die early because I been rebellious for all my life.
But they have choices
@@IsraelCountryCube you are not your experiences ... When you become the person you need to be don't look back at the person you were with hate . Your mother may be stuck in her own pains and internal battle she has not realised she's dragged you into the battle as well .
think you for helping me be nice to my parents and i have adhd
While this is good to do but what if your mother and stepfather are physically mentally and emotionally abusive why should I honor that? I been honoring but nothing is being done with them I need an answer as to why are they not punished for their sins yet I stand up to them once all hell breaks loose
I got this knowing today...."father and mother" are the authorities that govern your expectations. In other words,it simply refers to the spiritual entity that holds the keys to your desires per time. It has nothing to do with your earthly parents.a very relatable example is this -stop seeking wealth and rather seek the spirit or authorities that owns wealth. (Fraudsters and workaholics don't live long because of this same law)
Imma die soon then, I got tired of giving her chances now she wants to treat my son the same way and I'm absolutely not going to allow that.
You shouldn't let her mistreat your son and you should absolutely not give her an opportunity to do so. However, you should still pray for God to help you to forgive her and even pray for her to wake up from her sin, whatever it may be. I'm sorry if she hurt you, I hope you and your child are doing well. God bless you sister or brother!
@Lilly Duff I don't mind forgiving her I just don't want to talk to her or don't want her around me, I can honestly say shes the person that has done most harm to me in my life, I don't wish her the best but I also don't wish her the worst, I just like to pretend like she doesn't exist.
@@BevTv best thing to do is move away, I moved out 6 years ago and they been the best years of my life.
Good stuff! Nice shirt too😜
The music is very distracting from the message . Too good of word to have that distraction
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I really wanted to continue watching this video, but the background music was too loud and distracting I couldn’t hear anything else.
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He said dont provoke your children to anger in the bible. They shouldnt have to throw devil signs UP to stop christians from harrassing them, or set THEMSELVES on FIRE, for some religious people to understand they know they not RIGHT.
what what are u talking about
I don’t understand the end of message . But the first sentence is correct . I don’t understand why no ones reads the entire scripture . It also say don’t cause your kids to anger . I hate when we only read part of scripture to fit us . And that cause others to not fully understand it
What does honor mean? Like all the meanings of honor. Its such a general word.
it is a general word. And as far as I can tell the greek and hebrew words interpreted as honor are general as well. All in all both of them hold in common the idea of high respect or esteem, which is a dictionary meaning of honor. It looks to be one area of interpretation where things were pretty much straight forward.
Thank you for the question!
Shiloh Place Ministries thanks for the answer :)
Shiloh Place Ministries No, it doesn't actually. If you look up the word in blue letter bible it doesn't say anything closely related to that. It says to make weighty and heavy, whatever that means. But not the honor that we're used to hearing.
@YeshuaJesusisking V
I had a similar concern and found the following video very clear and helpful. Hope it can add to your understanding.
ua-cam.com/video/OXiZy4osOPA/v-deo.html
Dk if anyone's gonna reply to this
But how would you honour your parents if they are the one taught you how to disrespect them ???
And being raised that way why shoukl I be cursed when it's not even my fault ??
when we ho through that kind of trauma from our parents its because thats what they learned and chose not to learn another way of treating others respectfully in love. It is up to us as individuals even though treated the way we were trwated we come to a certian age in our childhood where we know thats not how we want to be treated and so we need to learn how to treat ourself better so we can treat others better then we were or still are being treated by our parents that way we can have thw knowledge and desire to treat our parents the way God teaches us to so we can have the promise He says we will. Because not only will we be respecting our parwnts, we will be respecting othwrs in the community like doctors, teachers, co workers and bosses ect and thats how we are remembered and recognized is by our actions. Regardless of our parents actions towards us or others in out lives we dont have to follow the negative traits. we have the choice to honor and make our own legacy's, traditions and/or our own way of how people percive us by how we conduct ourselves and how we treat other's.
If asking for help isn't too much I would like to ask for help with my parents. My whole life they have been unjust, unfair, and wrong in my eyes. I want to honor God but I can't do that because i'm human so i'm no perfect which means i respond to my emotions. I was born with an iron will so if I see something wrong I fight it til the end. My parents have been wrong to me and I need help with doing what God asks me to do because I can't honor God if my parents won't let me honor them. I just need some help to do what's right so I can be better. I don't want to leave and end up hating my parents for all eternity because in my opinion which is supported by facts and evidence they refuse to treat me like their son, and I hate that I can't be good for God because of the actions of my parents.
Just pray try give them hugs at times see how that work
@@daintygreen1725 thanks man
That still doesn't really clarify how to honor a parent or parents that are not good for you I grew up with a single mother and to her no matter what I did I was always a disappointment to the rest of my family I was only considered the bastard born the unwanted child and no matter what I did I was only ever seen as such how do I honor a parent that does that it is okay to honor your parents it is okay to love them and it is okay to forgive that does not mean that it should be excused for what they did I have forgiven my mother for what she did but that does not mean I will let her do it again but how do I honor a parent like that I would really like to know
But what if you want to obey God but your parents get in the way?
Islam learned us the honor parents is very important , many chapter in the Quran mentioned about honor parents.
That is excellent. It is good to honor your parents. Even when they haven't been good parents, the parents God intended, you can honor them. You honor them by recognizing any wrong they have done and forgiving them. You also set yourself free from sitting in the place of judgement. Only God should sit in that place.
I realize in some instances this can be very difficult but holding on to unforgiveness only burdens you and no one else. Thank you so much for your comment. God bless.
The Bible teaches us to Love and honour our Father and Mother... It's in our commandments Amen
My parents are abusive
@@mariarusso826 my parents don't love me so basically god says respect abusive parents you don't sound wise
Please turn to Jesus Christ before its to late❤
You shouldnt honour a mother and father who were abusive, neglegant etc. Heal yourself. Dont take on their burden, get free from it
Then how will you go to heaven?
Alhamdullilah ☝🏼
He gave me love and affection spent every day with him i loved him he wound someone prettier than my mother and decided I'm going to make a new family and new children i call he doesn't puck up when i does its just excuses how can you do this to a six year old kid how am i supposed to honor you
I honor them how ever i can the curse at me hit me insult me but i stay quiet i suppress my rage and sit alone in the dark i say nothing back i think about hurting myself but I'm to much of a coward to do it at this time in life i can't cry anymore i dont know why
All my dreams and life choices get insulted tho i go to work every day i bring money to the house and even pay the water and electricity bills myself i am claimed to be useless but i take care of my handicap uncle shower him give him food take him to bed. I'm even been called to boring or not interesting enough so i have no friends how far should i go should i keep honoring the people that brings pain in all aspects of life.
@@jonathanconfiance6653 be kind to yourself you know your doing your very best ... Honour yourself find someone to talk to outside of your immediate situation .❤️💗honour the fact that they make you a stronger person
@@jonathanconfiance6653 Please be kind to yourself. I pray that God strengthens you and shows you your worth because the people around you clearly haven't. You were valuable enough for Jesus to die on the cross for you and you were literally made by God himself, and he doesn't make boring things.
Now to your question, you can honor them by praying for them and by being respectful. Don't cuss them out and be forgiving, even when they really don't deserve it.
God bless you very much, I hope you're fine.
My sister have disobedient to parents problem because she want to have boyfriend with Other race/Religious,My mom and my father do not accept That guy
I'm always going to respect only my blooded parents but not stepparents parents because stepparents are not my blood or anything related to me.
Hey, they are still your parents like a parent figure ❤
I feel the same way but at the same time it feels kinda wrong
I think respecting our elders even strangers teaches us to respect ourselves ... To know what it means to respect and be greatful to know those we are on this journey with .
@@sinai1687 My parents are by blood and love. My step-parents are very abusive to me. How are they still my parents. Their respect must be earned like it or not.
Is it a sin to use electronics after your parents say to go to bed
Say it louder so my kids can hear it!
no one ever talks about this one..????
First of all. The Ten Commandments were sorely misinterpreted. Honor thy Mother and thy Father, actually means honor our Father, Creator of all things with his light, and the Earth our Mother. They are both living beings who were given life by father and mother nurtures us with the elements of her many physical forms. We have gotten away from knowing that Father is our actual Father he just doesn’t do sibling labels. That’s a human thing for he nor mother are not human.
It's Hard to Honor your mother and father if you got parents who Bully you. mistreat you. abuse you. and even oppress you !
maybe even even prevent you from being independent !
True. It sounds very unjust
What about grown adults?
Do we have to honor them when they emotionally abuse you and judge others😞 they say they are Christians but doesn't God say not to judge others? And that Jesus says to love one another as I have loved you❤ and they make you feel so bad about yourself that you just ball your eyes out every night before you go to bed because they insult you saying your a liar, we don't believe you, you'll never pass, you seriously think you deserve a driver's license , you are not working hard enough 😖. and then tell other people about what you did wrong and then rattle tale to the other parent so you get in trouble .😭I I don't even consider these people my parents and instead Jesus is my parent because He created me in the womb , He proved He loved us by dying for us, Saved me thousands of times from death and took care of me that's what you call a real parent 😎
I believe honoring your parents includes acknowledging when they hurt you, when their behavior wasn't acceptable and choosing to get healing from that and release them. It includes setting healthy boundaries with the way they treat you. I know this is different when you are living in their house than when you are out.
Of all the variations "of the fifth", he chose to recite one mentioning long life, and land. Kill "savage", steal land, and "pledge allegiance" else you are not one of us. This is how this child of the devil, and his followers think. Enuf said.
Not exactly sure what you are getting at? Can you clarify?
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I got to work, and look up in the white man face, so he can tell me what a good mother should be. My son never disrespected me, it's y'all want him to love y'all, and stirring up mess all the time. Its always been yes mam ,no mam, ok, i love you moma, and did I eat today? His father didn't provide and he still didn't disrespect him. Never said a unkind word, to a dead beat dad. He still stop by occasiona,l and VISITED that side of the family, if he didn't have a problem with having a traditional family, now white man why do YOU?
Even if you got bad parents, you still better be very careful dealing, with your biological parents. This is a thin line, after you eighteen you can leave,and not come back, but when you return you still better be careful who you talking to, cause most parents never needed there children, there children needed THEM. Where your children at white man? They need you now, more than ever,not after they got grown, and able to provide for themselves. He out the GHETTO, and God say I did a DAME good job, helping him get OUT.
@@harrellhenry2997 I understand your perspective but you race baiting white people negated you’re entire point seeing you’re a hate filled racist weirdo
But I feel like I’m always right (I’m kidding)
why God said honor your parents
because his parents left him
There is almost no, zero/ zilch honoring parents or authority these days.We are done as a nation❌🙏
God said to honor, not said to love. It two different things. He know that some parents in earth would be hard to love. That why God only said honor. It more because the DNA, the descendants inherited from parents and ancestors. Not honoring would be hard for you emotional system. Interesting, but God said to love your neighbor. Why not your parents🤔
I want to respect them and be good to them but they hate me so much because I was pregnant when I was 16 year old. I have forgiven my self and moved on but my parents hate me so much. They treat me like a dirt. They love to insult and curse me everyday. They love to bully me. They are not Christian but pagan worshippers.
I told a friend that I am not going to attend their funerals and they will not see me and my children anymore on their last breath. I am better getting out of their life forever.
You sound like you are doing what you can. I am sorry that you have to go through this. You deserve to be loved but, unfortunately, not everyone is capable of unconditional love. I hope you can see your own value and realize you deserve to be loved in a healthy way. People won't be perfect but that doesn't mean they can't love you without a "hook in it." Meaning, their expressed love to you isn't based on you doing all of the right things all the time.
@@ShilohPlaceMinistries I have planned to help female age 12 and above with providing free courses for building their self-confidence. My confident was totally ruined by my parents. I get it back by going back to education. Hopefully, I will be ready to teach English and Chinese in the future to help female in poverty as education is expensive in some countries. Most Chinese hate daughter but they will reap what they sow.
@@arrowarrow17 I love that you are taking practical steps to help others!
Colossians 3:21.
I am assuming you are referring to "Fathers do not exasperate your children." I would absolutely agree with that including, "spiritual fathers."
That does not change honor though. Here is one of the questions I like to pose when talking about this. It helps to clear of few things up and I wish I would have put it in this video. Maybe I should do a part 2.
Is it more honorable to pretend like your parents were/are perfect for fear of dishonoring them or talking bad about them, OR is it honorable to be honest about their treatment of you(at least how their treatment made you feel) so that you can release them and walk in freedom, allowing them to do the same?
Of course, most people would agree with the second one. So honor is a position of our heart, that we can reclaim. We can also work on guarding our heart and maintaining honor to the best of our ability. Sometimes that may involve boundaries and removing yourself from a situation. Thank you for the comment
This man is bs-ing. Didn't learn anything except how to manage conflict from Early..
Boring. Where is your Spiritual Anointing
Could you define spiritual anointing for me? When you proceed that term with "boring" it sounds as if what you really mean is charismatic personality, which I may not have and I'm ok with that.
Rude
Lost me in the first minute
What if ur parents are not in christ, and abusive? Also as with the question below, I wonder which definition of honor is being applied here.
Hi Karma. I replied to the definition of honor question below. As for your part, most of what we deal with has to do with forgiving parents and authorities figures for past hurts.
A position such as the one you are describing is extremely difficult when it comes to honoring parents. We often say that you are not responsible for the wounding that happened to you but you are responsible for your response to it. That sounds harsh on the surface but what it is really saying is that if you continue to walk in unforgiveness and bitterness, the only person it is hurting is you.
For this, I like the description of honor that explains that we don't honor people because they deserve the honor. We honor people because WE are honorable. In other words, we honor all people.
Romans 12:20 says, "Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." While I realize that this is easy to say and much harder to do, particularly in the situation you described, there is freedom in it for the one who chooses to honor.
A few things, honoring someone doesn't mean you accept the abuse. Honor can involve setting boundary lines and even leaving to find help. If you are not able to leave, then protect yourself the best you can. Depending on the relationship it could be that displaying honor towards parents can break them. Jack tells the story of repenting to his dad for ceasing to be his son and cutting him off. His dad broke down and said that he was the one who should be asking Jack for forgiveness. Jack's dad treated Jack the only way he understood. He knew it was wrong but he was so hurt he didn't know how to love Jack.
I hope this helps.
My mother used to say to me whether you are a good parent the word of God said honor it doesn't matter if they're abusive you still honor that doesn't mean you have to take the abused still honor be respectful and honor
And so. What this Jesus meant by this scriptures? Because i am a victim of abusive parents too, cursing and want to kill me because she said she’s the one gave me my life so she is the one can take my life away from me too. Although in my heart i already forgave them. But they still have that very high pride as a parent.
In Matthew 12:46-50
While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, His mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to Him. Someone told Him, your mother and brothers are standing outside wanting to speak to you. He replied to him, WHO IS MY MOTHER AND WHO IS MY BROTHERS? Pointing to His disciples, He said. HERE ARE MY MOTHER AND BROTHERS. FOR WHOSOEVER DOES THE WILL OF MY FATHER IN HEAVEN IS MY BROTHER AND SISTER AND MOTHER.
@@lorsliciouscookingvlogs7283 Matthew 5:44 You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.
ihavetubes yes of course i still do pray for them. Even they throw me all the bad words and put me down like i am the stupidiest person that they knew, i never do the same. Still visited them even i ended up throw out from the house :)