A precious, important lesson. My “play” has been music - reclaiming the desire I had to learn music as a child, and the right to sing and make noise in the home, which was forbidden for me growing up. Sometimes I get frustrated because I’d like to be “good” at music and forget that I’m doing it for fun… it’s a journey. Thank you as always for sharing your wisdom, Tim!
*"Play is often talked about as if were a relief from serious learning. But for children, play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood." -- Fred Rogers.* I love Mr. Rogers.
Play has been one the hardest challenges for me-I can laugh and joke, but there’s something unsettling about “play.” Like a feeling that it’ll escalate and I’ll get hurt (which goes back to my upbringing). Still working on it, great teaching!
@Kali08012 there was a podcast with the guy who has class of "hard play" which is wrestling and some physically challenging play. Apparently it helps us develop hippocampus in the brain and mapping of the body and also helps with empathy. So in the experiments with the rats it's been found out the rats who were prevented from playing grew awkward and so they had problems with convincing any female to them and also in conflict or play later in life they could be dangerous because they wouldn't know when to stop and not hurt someone else. I think it's Jordan P who mentioned that experiment.
YIKES... the statement ...'some have many years of recovery doesn't mean they've got more healthy. time put in but haven't grown a lot.''.... I think that is me... head knowledge but not applied....
I have been taking care of a small child through learning from Tim Fletcher, beginning when the child was 4 months old now 20 months. I get down on the floor and play with the little guy for hours at a time switching from game to game (we invent games) at his leading until he is ready to konk out. I didnt have time to play with my own kids at this age so I now see what I missed of early brain development. The connection established through focused attention in play blows my mind. I dont know how I could have done any differently even if I could go back and start over with my own kids, but for anyone here reading/listening I can vouch for thw validity of this lecture on the importance of play. If you possibly can devote the face to face time, with no distractions, do it asap.
Ty for your teaching, it helps me so much. I disagree with you about Naomi feeling sorry for herself. Any mother knows that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen. Who could blame her for feeling however she feels for a little while at least. Naomi loved Ruth.
I think a lot of my CT issues are my 'perception'... I don't recall mom and dad saying not to play or to get me to 'work'... but I sense I didn't play often enough / not thoroughly relax? perhaps too often in the 'playing ' time there was an ''interruption'' by an abusive cousin
i agree with most of the points except for the one where if the parents don't play with the kid, that means they're trying to not connect. In some cultures, parents purposefully create a clear boundary between themselves and their kids because they see parenthood as a revered position and want to create a sense of authority and power for their kids' safety. I don't think this is always a bad thing, and in adulthood they can drop this role to relate to their kids as equals.
A precious, important lesson. My “play” has been music - reclaiming the desire I had to learn music as a child, and the right to sing and make noise in the home, which was forbidden for me growing up. Sometimes I get frustrated because I’d like to be “good” at music and forget that I’m doing it for fun… it’s a journey. Thank you as always for sharing your wisdom, Tim!
*"Play is often talked about as if were a relief from serious learning. But for children, play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood." -- Fred Rogers.*
I love Mr. Rogers.
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I always felt guilty playing but this changed my views completely. Thank you
Play has been one the hardest challenges for me-I can laugh and joke, but there’s something unsettling about “play.” Like a feeling that it’ll escalate and I’ll get hurt (which goes back to my upbringing). Still working on it, great teaching!
@Kali08012 there was a podcast with the guy who has class of "hard play" which is wrestling and some physically challenging play. Apparently it helps us develop hippocampus in the brain and mapping of the body and also helps with empathy. So in the experiments with the rats it's been found out the rats who were prevented from playing grew awkward and so they had problems with convincing any female to them and also in conflict or play later in life they could be dangerous because they wouldn't know when to stop and not hurt someone else. I think it's Jordan P who mentioned that experiment.
YIKES... the statement ...'some have many years of recovery doesn't mean they've got more healthy. time put in but haven't grown a lot.''.... I think that is me... head knowledge but not applied....
I have been taking care of a small child through learning from Tim Fletcher, beginning when the child was 4 months old now 20 months. I get down on the floor and play with the little guy for hours at a time switching from game to game (we invent games) at his leading until he is ready to konk out. I didnt have time to play with my own kids at this age so I now see what I missed of early brain development.
The connection established through focused attention in play blows my mind.
I dont know how I could have done any differently even if I could go back and start over with my own kids, but for anyone here reading/listening I can vouch for thw validity of this lecture on the importance of play. If you possibly can devote the face to face time, with no distractions, do it asap.
Ruth loved Naomi ... that is a beautiful story...thank you for sharing your knowledge...I enjoy listening, and learning.
great material thank you
As a writer of Christian humor, love the video
Ty for your teaching, it helps me so much. I disagree with you about Naomi feeling sorry for herself. Any mother knows that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen. Who could blame her for feeling however she feels for a little while at least. Naomi loved Ruth.
Amazing and insightful.
Thank you 🙏🏽
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I think a lot of my CT issues are my 'perception'... I don't recall mom and dad saying not to play or to get me to 'work'... but I sense I didn't play often enough / not thoroughly relax? perhaps too often in the 'playing ' time there was an ''interruption'' by an abusive cousin
Ugh, so my fun rule of "you can do it as long as you can justify how it's beneficial to you long term" was the opposite way I should frame things...
I didn't want to play when i was growing up and now struggle to play with my kid..
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Are you sure it wasn’t written by the great sociologist Dr Seuss?
i agree with most of the points except for the one where if the parents don't play with the kid, that means they're trying to not connect. In some cultures, parents purposefully create a clear boundary between themselves and their kids because they see parenthood as a revered position and want to create a sense of authority and power for their kids' safety. I don't think this is always a bad thing, and in adulthood they can drop this role to relate to their kids as equals.
I envy you if dating is fun and enjoyable
He has Ruth and Naomi mixed up. Ruth was the mother.
She was the wife