This is so relatable, even your thing about Facebook messenger and not wanting to talk on the phone! My person only gave me her phone number after two years of knowing each other and I had it for a few months before she changed it. I only called her once because she doesn’t like it. Most of the interaction we have was either on Snapchat or now discord and it has always made me feel like there’s a lack of commitment even though she does loving things out of the blue. I do struggle with seeing it as her fault at times and I still need to work more on myself especially being more honest about my own fears like you said. Thanks for this one ❤
Great video! This was my experience 100%. I only wish I knew I was dealing with an avoidant years ago. It was so incredibly baffling and painful. I had never dealt with that type of person before and it made no sense.
This is so me and my person! 4.5yrs of ‘the hokey Cokey’ and I realised I wouldn’t have been ready back at the beginning as I’ve come so far too. We have really done a relationship in reverse and are ironing out all the issues before the full blown relationship whereas others might get together, move in together and then 4.5yrs down the line realise they don’t really get on lol. It’s not been easy but the lightbulb moment this week is we have both been working on ourselves . I see it like circles inside circles(like an onion really) you are going round a circle and something goes wrong, (quiet time) you work out the issue come back in line together and that layer goes and you are on the next layer where everything has improved. You have issues on each layer to work on and you come back better and the circle gets smaller, the problems get smaller, the time to recover is smaller… until you reach the centre where you have done the work and arrived at your destination. We are nearly there. Working apart to come together layer by layer 🙌🏼❤️
Lets remember that avoidants tolerate their partner's anxious traits more than the anxious partner tolerates other's anxious traits. 2 anxious types repel each other.
All your videos on avoidant and anxious attachment very very helped me❤️ What if my family especially my mom think i deserve better because she thinks this relationship isnt healthy?
Well the thing is, what she is seeing is an unhealthy dynamic playing out, so of course she will worry, at the moment you’re both acting out in your patterns. Your mum isn’t seeing the possibility that you can heal and create change x
Corri, I've been following you since two years now, and my SP has agreed to meet in person soon (we live in different cities for the time) and talk about getting back together! My heart is pounding, how do I make sure this happens without falling back into my anxious ways? He's an avoidant and for the past year, I've been busy with work and myself so I've been able to not come across as someone constantly chasing him.
God bless 💐❤
you are blessed 🎁
This is so relatable, even your thing about Facebook messenger and not wanting to talk on the phone! My person only gave me her phone number after two years of knowing each other and I had it for a few months before she changed it. I only called her once because she doesn’t like it. Most of the interaction we have was either on Snapchat or now discord and it has always made me feel like there’s a lack of commitment even though she does loving things out of the blue. I do struggle with seeing it as her fault at times and I still need to work more on myself especially being more honest about my own fears like you said. Thanks for this one ❤
Great video! This was my experience 100%. I only wish I knew I was dealing with an avoidant years ago. It was so incredibly baffling and painful. I had never dealt with that type of person before and it made no sense.
This is so me and my person! 4.5yrs of ‘the hokey Cokey’ and I realised I wouldn’t have been ready back at the beginning as I’ve come so far too. We have really done a relationship in reverse and are ironing out all the issues before the full blown relationship whereas others might get together, move in together and then 4.5yrs down the line realise they don’t really get on lol. It’s not been easy but the lightbulb moment this week is we have both been working on ourselves . I see it like circles inside circles(like an onion really) you are going round a circle and something goes wrong, (quiet time) you work out the issue come back in line together and that layer goes and you are on the next layer where everything has improved. You have issues on each layer to work on and you come back better and the circle gets smaller, the problems get smaller, the time to recover is smaller… until you reach the centre where you have done the work and arrived at your destination. We are nearly there. Working apart to come together layer by layer 🙌🏼❤️
Lets remember that avoidants tolerate their partner's anxious traits more than the anxious partner tolerates other's anxious traits.
2 anxious types repel each other.
I’m not sure we can say one is more tolerable than the other but I get what you’re saying, it’s hard for both x
Thank you ❤
this video is 100% right on. my sp is a british btw lol ❤
All your videos on avoidant and anxious attachment very very helped me❤️
What if my family especially my mom think i deserve better because she thinks this relationship isnt healthy?
Well the thing is, what she is seeing is an unhealthy dynamic playing out, so of course she will worry, at the moment you’re both acting out in your patterns. Your mum isn’t seeing the possibility that you can heal and create change x
@@createwithcorri thank you so much corri
I will love to see more videos on this topic you helped me so much ❤️❤️🙏🙏
Very clever again
Corri, I've been following you since two years now, and my SP has agreed to meet in person soon (we live in different cities for the time) and talk about getting back together! My heart is pounding, how do I make sure this happens without falling back into my anxious ways? He's an avoidant and for the past year, I've been busy with work and myself so I've been able to not come across as someone constantly chasing him.