We got married young, Would we do it again? | Our Love Journey Podcast
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- Опубліковано 1 лип 2021
- Welcome to Season 3 of Our Love Journey The Podcast
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“If you see marriage as the end of your freedom, you’re doing it wrong “ 🔥🔥🔥
THIS!!!... this is why you should always...do it right
I always say this to my friends that getting married doesn't mean you now can't do things, all you guys need to do respect each qha
Love this cause... I actually found my freedom in marriage. So when people say that I feel sorry for them.
It's hard to follow all dreams to follow dreams when your married. Cause in some situations you need to compromise. You can't make some decisions alone. Unlike when you single. Not to say you can't achieve your dreams cays of marriage. It's a bit tricky compared to single people
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Periodtt
Si Buyile Guys!!!
Finally, lol, thank u Mr n Mrs Ledwaba
Thank God 🙂🙂
Yebo yebo!
We love it here
Brenden you have so much wisdom, you need to do more talks on your channel as well...maybe a Mens what what talk😄 you can also merge with your friend Mogale🙈 that would be dope!
I think people these days get married for the wrong reasons , like pressure from friends and society. I got married at 21 and my husband was 24 at the time, we’re now 7 years in with 2 kids(a boy and a girl). Honestly I would definitely do it again and it’s funny because we only dated for 6 months and boom 🤯 the ring, lobola, wedding, I didn’t even know if I wanted marriage or anything serious, but I knew I wanted to be with this guy everyday of my life. The most important thing is that God is everything in our marriage, and I know we wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for him.🌸
I live for such ❤️🥺🌺😭 May God continue to bless you and your wonderful family honey❤️
@@cookiechauke3726 thank you so much my darling 🌸
❤beautiful
@@nozimbalindlovu105 ❤️
Amen 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🔥🔥
“Marrying young is not the end of my freedom, it means I want to travel and see the world with her by my side” this quote 😭
👍🏼That's the thing
I got married at 19 and honestly i wouldn't do it again. I would wait to know myself a little bit more and know what exactly i want
U where too young u got married as a teen.
Great point in getting to know yourself more and we all have different journeys that was yours don't be too hard on yourself💛
Thank you for being honest.
I know EXACTLY what you mean. Got married at 21.
Thank you for being honest x
Got married at 23 heading to 23 yrs in marriage and will do it again. In marriage we learn each other every day
Hi. Am 23 am preparing for my wedding
@@kelebogilemogolane862 All the best in your wedding preparation. Let God be the center in everything you do in your marriage.
Brenden is gifted with a lot of Wisdom...
Agreed….infact both of them 🌷
Insightful. I was 22 & he was 25 when we got married. We're now 13 years in by the grace of God.
Love how she said "I'm a brilliant leader" so unapologetically!
You know 🙌
And Brenden affirming her
Me watching this under my blankets so these wise words enter me without escaping 😂😂😂
Wisdom 🔥🔥🔥🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
😂😂😂😂😂
So me🤣♥️
@@busingyeclare1110 🤣
@@sibuleledwakaza girl 😂
lol... ungasuzi 😆 😅 😂
Married at 21, been married going on two years with a little one on the way ❤️
Congratulations ❤
“YOU CAN NOT CHANGE YOUR PARTNER” I agree right there
Yuppp! Exactly this
I got married at 22 and it's not easy. It requires service, understanding, sacrifice and alot of good communication. But I would do it again if it's the same partner❤️...
"Marriage magnifies everything you saw in dating"💯🙌
I got married at 23yrs. Heading onto 12yrs of marriage with 2 children (girl and boy just like you) and we are still happy. Building together, supporting each other. Yesss! I would do it all over again. Sometimes, you guys remind me of the younger us. Loooove 🥰🥰🥰
That’s the dream mos ✨
Love that for you, Mama ❤️
“ Marriage is freedom when you’re doing it right” I Love this!!
Kenny and I got married at 21 and we are now 30 and it’s been a journey indeed! But as Mpoomy Ledwaba would say,”Shadani guys!” I highly recommend marriage.
Love love love this video🤭♥️♥️
Mpoomy Ledwaba is such an inspiration.❤
I love how Mpoomy was so super honest and transparent in this video.
This video made me to love Mpoomy more.
She came prepared to share and gave so much wisdom and this will help us single people alot.
Thank you Mpoomy. ❤
My take home:
-You will never be your partners everything
-You can never change your partner but you have to change yourself ..."your partner is only reacting to what you're doing...
you cannot enforce change on someone...you have to change yourself..."
I love this Quote:
“Marrying young is not the end of my freedom, it means I want to travel and see the world with her by my side” Wow................
I love you guys_ you are such a blessing
Hi guy's, great topic. Great to have you again.....My X Fiance paid Lobola for me at the same age "22 years" we delayed getting married and i thank God for that. It was the best decision ever as we both were working in silo and not as a team and not as 1, not like a couple who is ready for marriage. We have a 7 year old Son and his Dad is not present at all, him not being present in our Son's life was the same way he was not present in our relationship as years progressed and it became worse when i fell preg. Marrying him would have been the biggest mistake of my life, glad things ended....not everyone has good intentions by quickly paying Lobola. It warms my heart hearing you guys say you would do it over and over again, God bless...love you guys!
TRUE!
Yep! A LOT more times relationships are not rainbows and fairy tales, contrary to what social media shows.
I’m getting married next year 🥰 #fromMyMouthToGodsEars😄🙌🏽
Amen to that same here
@@janiimutugi3942 Amen 🙏🏾
Same!!
Same sis, same
AMEN!! We'll all convene here next year each with a testimony🤣🤣🤣.
That “had I married at the peak of my career, I wouldn’t have done well in a relationship” makes so much sense
“Marriage is freedom when you do it right” love that
i got married at 18 and I've been loving it ever since.I would do it all over again. It's just simply amazing and I love my spouse so much
Yhoooo, that marriage magnifies everything u saw in a relationship, my God, shuuuuu
Got engaged at 19 and married at 20 I would still be married to him if he didn’t pass away when we where 25 but got married again at 30 and all I can say is I would do it all over again at the same age. The bible says marry young for a reason I’m glad I never experienced different sexual partners etc and what can I say I’m marriage material no “vat en set” for me. Love you guys always 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
One thing I've had from many Mmamoruti is that men are chilled and they don't really care. If you do the wife duties while you are a girlfriend, they don't see a need to make you a wife officially. That's something from your relationship. Steve Harvey says, 'One thing about us men, if we want something we gonna do everything to get it. Give us tjose principles. Ladies have those boundaries otherwise you will be a wife whilst you are a girlfriend in the eyes of everyone including God.'
True hey. Somebody once asked me if I would buy a cow if I get meat and milk whenever I wanted to.
It's not always the case though, I stayed with my now husband for a year and a half before we got married, we moved in together 3 months after we started dating. If it's meant to be it's meant to be.
i love the way Mpumi looks at Brendan and smiles
I am 19 years old and I'm very passionate about marriage. You people activate the passion in me to get married at a young age.🥺❤
I am here to learn and for sure I am learning.
My advice is don't rush.. I feel u should take time to really build yourself before thinking of marriage and discover what u really want.. There's alot of things u need to know about yourself before a patner, my take.
My advice is don't rush.. I feel u should take time to really build yourself before thinking of marriage and discover what u really want.. There's alot of things u need to know about yourself before a patner, my take.
I wish I had that passion 😅…. Personally I think you should treasure it and go ahead and get married if you want to. I’m single at 40 😬, because I had too much fear that people were not the right ones.
I got married at 29 and I was ready. It's been a wonderful 4 years and looking forward to many more years. I had an opportunity to study different personalities and I think that made it easier for me to understand my hubby who's very different from me.
I am 28 now. Too much sociatal pressure but still working on my PhD and myself. Hoping that when the time is ripe. God will make it happen
Beautiful conversation. If it works when you're young it is absolutely great! If it doesn't, it becomes a mess... because when you're young, you have not fully discovered yourself. When you're older you can easily identify what you want from a partner & union. Ultimately, at whatever age marriage works when God is the core of that union.
I agree with you. One evolves as they grow older. If you marry young you should just be willing to commit to a person's growth because some partners mistaken evolving for changing.
"You will never be my everything"🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
God is our everything, not human beings.
I agree!
"If I don't have my own happiness no matter what you bring on it doesn't matter" Mpoomy ❤️❤️
The leadership statement hit home, I loved the fact that you realised that it was a problem but not necessarily to deem your light/shine. I got married at 23 and it’s been an awesome and Happppppppyyyyyyyy 10 years of being married. Its important to grow together, dream together and work towards goals together.
I definitely resonate with Mpoomy where she says had she gotten married at the peak of her career she would not have done well in a relationship.It is much easier to accept and be open minded when you are also at your starting point, less pride.And what is more beautiful than to be there from the beginning and watching your partner grow with you professionally .
Period.
Exactly 💯
I also got married at a young age. Met the guy at 18 then married at 20. I would do it again. I think no matter how long u marriege has its up and downs it doesn't matter how prepared or how old you r. What you need to do from day one is involve God.
Hey Gugu 👋 Would you possibly know why you can’t live together without getting married ? Is it a sin or something?
From the Christian point of view, in 1 Corinthians 7:9 "But if you cannot restrain your desires go ahead and marry, it is better to marry than to burn with passion". This word to me means if I am not married I should not fulfill my fleshy desires. I will qualify to fulfill those desires if I am married.
@@nicolemutyavaviri6976you both can easily fall into sin
so serendipitous that you posted this today. today my husband and I celebrate 12 years and we also got married young. it's a beautiful journey when 2 people realise that they want to grow together.
Mpoopy is breathtakingly beautiful 🙇♀️
I'm 21 years of age an already in a 2 year relationship an wow you guys really inspire me this is where I wnna see my relationship one day
At 19, for someone who does not have role models when it comes to relationship, this podcast has shifted my perspective. Thank you so much guys!
Loved this conversation. In a generation where building is looked down upon, you guys are so relatable and affirming in some way🥺♥️
Yo... When Branden spoke about that need for affirmation,, it really pointed to me!!! I've been trying to really figure out why I tend to want to do things for myself and by myself,, didn't know it could potentially point to the need for affirmation.
Thank you for the good quality episode. 🤗
If one of the parents never approved of the relationship, what would you have done,Would you guys gotten married then.
Honestly y'all are so lucky and blessed. I would've loved to get married young. At 28, I've had my fair share of struggles and pain when pertaining to relationships. I think marrying young, if it be the right person , saves you from so much pain and heartache and sometimes brokeness that you can never fully recover from. There are people out there who have horrible intentions, people who are wolves in sheeps clothing! The older you get, the worse it is and the more deceptive people you come across. I would encourage people to marry young and grow together with your spouse .. .
I get where you're coming from. Even though it's beautiful to marry young to grow in life and in love together as a team, it's also beautiful to marry later on in life as the more time you spend getting to know yourself, loving yourself, spending time with The Most High and figuring out and pursuing your purpose, the more clarity you receive when it comes to discerning the right person for you and getting marriage right the first time you do it. Because you know who you are, you automatically know who fits you and your purpose in life. Either way, the goal should be to marry right, regardless of the age.
I agree with you 100%
@@eugeniyah8078 👏👏👏👌
I totally agree
I thought 28 was the perfect time to get married. Not old at all
Hello season 3 !! ❤️
I wish I was married young but I realise now that it would not be good for me as before 25, I did not know what I want in a partner and had a false expectation about marriage. I am 28 now, not married but happy and know what I want.
Me too. I'm 31, and only this year I'm starting to get clarity about what I want in a partner. I am also more self-aware now and more assertive. I am also more observant of other people and their personalities which will help me decide if that person is for me or not. I remember at 29, i desperately wanted to get married, but God said nope. In retrospect, i am grateful for that NO.
It’s weird how I was thinking of how y’all got married a few days back 😅😅 the lobola and the wedding, how all that happened.
And I spoke it over my life that that’s what’s gonna happen with me❤️ this is beautiful
Finally!! 💃🏾 No but can we take a moment for this new cover 😍😍😍😍
Woow! Is RSA in lockdown again? Welcome back guys. I really believe 'young' is subjective.
Wow…. “…You were such a good resource to my business, and I was a good resource your business…”.
Hooooo, “… Marriage magnifies everything you saw in dating…”. Looking back into my 21 years ago with my then brand new girl-friend, currently my wife, jerrrrrrrr …you guys are so deep.
"...your partner is only reacting to what you're doing... you cannot enforce change on someone...you have to change yourself..."
I have been learning a lot about the art of committing to the (machine in your words) of MARRIAGE from Rabbi Daniel Lapin.
Brenden and Mpoomy, you guys neh…Thank you so much. May you keep blossoming.
the red flags in dating get magnified to bigger ones in marriage...
you need to learn to love yourself so you are not pouring from an empty cup..
do not rely on your significant other to give you the happiness you want, give yourself that happiness and allow them to complement it, then you will be even happier..
being married is challenging but also quite fulfilling, you need to constantly work on yourselves to make it work for each other.
Someone once said to me “true love is a puzzle of two pieces. When the couple comes together in marriage, they actually complete each other in every area of life” and that is what you( mr and mrs Ledwaba) portray. All the best guys love you so much🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
I just love y’all it’s 5 am in the states and I’m about to enjoy this ! I couldn’t wait for a new season of you two talking because the chemistry is just so great !
Thank you for this. For someone who's been thinking a lot about marriage lately, this sure does give a better perspective of what to expect.
I can’t wait to see what you have in store for us this season. There’s always something to take away from your podcasts always. And then anything it’s the perspectives always and relatable content and the honesty that comes through in your conversations.
This is my first time watching and I love how honest you both are. I'm here for such content especially from young african
couples. ❤️
Vids be popping from this couple 💑. Love, Love to see it
May God continually use the both of you to fill us with wisdom regarding so many things; but most especially guiding us through our relationships. 🥰❤️
Our Love Journey is back !!! 🙈 I’m super excited for this new season and I can’t wait to listen and learn more from you 🥰♥️♥️♥️.
I am so inlove with your videos, songs on Free To Worship, your podcasts on both Wisdon and Wellness and Our Love Journey The Podcast. Keep it up! 👏👏👏
Brandon is turning into those guys he was running 🏃♀️away from, look how deep he sounds...but you guys wow 👏you are such an encouragement and and inspiration. You are so refreshing to watch.
Fr though 😭😂
A topic for another day:
"When we are dating we are pretending most of the time"
"Men find it hard to date an already established woman and women find it hard to date an unestablished man"
Please don't forget these two topics. I can't wait! 😊
You and I both
Sheeeeesh, facts!
Profound! When Breden said you had a better chance at building together....he saw the future, and it didn't lie! I mean, I have watched almost all your videos and I must say you've inspired me. You have done alot! I am in awe! Bravo👏👏👏 Keep soaring!🌟💫✨
I really love the conversation more especially as a young lady who's about to be married and I'm still pretty young. It's a very fundamental and helpful conversation for a lot of us
I thoroughly enjoyed watching this 👌👌there's so much to learn from both of you... Keep on doing the exceptional job
Had such fun listening to this. I am 2 years into a new marriage and I am only 28, so I also married young'ish' at 26. I definitely echo what you say, rather build the career when you have the support system so you first learn how to sacrifice before pursuing your own interests. Sacrifice is important for someone who wants to get married as the two individuals are like two diaries that sometimes have clashing schedules and sacrifices have to be made on both ends. You learn an important lesson that transcends through your work and business. You go further when you go with a rigid support system than doing it alone and I learnt that.
Most definitely appreciate the come back 💗💗
I love the synergy between you guys, you guys are real and your authenticity is translates in your communication making you relatable.
marriage is freedom!!! love from Namibia to the Ledwaba Family.
Me and my husband got married at 23 years old and I remembered many people thought we are crazy, marriage hasn't been easy but all the fun and both of us waking every morning to make this marriage work and honestly I would choose my husband again and again, we will be 9 years now in Sept
Firstly, your videos are top quality 👌🏻 I got a lot from this podcast. Keep it up FAM👏🏻❤
The part where she said that ,our careers weren't all that
And "all we had was each other"...🥺🥺😍😍😍🙌🙌wow!
😭 watching this right after ending things with someone I thought we would get to were you guys are. At that time I totally relate with what you're saying.
l love the openness and authenticity in this conversation!
This is quality content. Our love journey keeps on getting better. Thank you Mrs Mom and Mr Dad ❤😉
Absolutely loved this.
Wow! I look forward to seeing more of these and learning so much
Mrs mom is so free to be herself and be strong in a way that would make so many uncomfortable but the way Brenden is so comfortable with her, I see God at the center of it all.
Im glad that yall have it as a video on youtube because some podcasts apps don't work in my region.
WOW! You guys are really changing the mindset of the youth one podcast at a time. Thank you for your insight, as a young man in South Africa, information like this is so valuable!
❤️
I love how real you guys are. I love you guys so much ❤️
Absolutely love you guys! Been such a breeze following your journey and Your Love Story. Always so real, raw and authentic. This is the content I signed up for! ❤️❤️❤️
Wow! I loved that perspective on your careers, I see myself in Mpoomy and I can relate to how you needed to find Brenden young because you would’ve had laser focus on your career and in turn missed the love train😂 I’m 20 and I can totally see myself doing that.
Enjoyed this so much! It's so good to have you back💕♥️
This one!! Oh this one! I loved it, I learned so much. Thank you 🥺🙏🏾
I can spend the whole day listening to you guys. Thank you for this
Not married yet, but I'm definitely learning and taking down some notes. Thank you guys for allowing God to use you in our generation ❤️ here's to more strength and wisdom 🙌
I haven’t listened but already excited 😆.
Can't wait to watch after work.❤
Wow such great content! I'm learning so much.
Extremely excited for season 3.💃💃
You guys make marriage look easy yoh!😅
You indeed can't change your partner. Great points here! Am just months into this marriage but am learning on a daily basis! Thank you for such a great podcast.❤️❤️❤️🇺🇬😄
Things is so inspiring... Thank you Mpoomy and Brendan for sharing your love journey❤️🙏🏾. We love you
Proverbs 18:22 - "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD" I can attest that the favor of God is indeed upon your marriage and lives. Thanks for sharing ♥️
Mpoomy and Brenden, you guys definitely bring us along, you understand what we going through. I am such a follower of your individual content and this love journey is wonderful. Thanks for sharing.
Thank guys for coming back ♥️🙏
Yay!!!!!!!! Season 3 is up!!!!!!!! I'm so excited!!!!!!
I definitely agree that y’all did get married young but it’s also amazing to witness how both Mpoomy & Brendan have matured individually & as a couple with God being the center of it all as it is he that put you guys together, and it’s such a blessing to witness & look up to you both as young people who want a godly relationship. Nibusisekile guys & have blessed us as well ❤️✨
Oh my word! The synergy!🥰❤❤ You guys are truly one
Wise young couple and very honest 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽i love the knowledge 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
I would definitely do it again, got married at 23. The reasons, still stand to day! I got to learn a lot of my strengths and weaknesses. But the most amazing point, was learning of the issues I never dealt with and I got triggered million times but shuuu, I got to deal with stuff and would recommend therapy and affirmation ... I was so much like Brenden🤣🙆♀️but my point is 🤭 I would do it again and again! By the way! In my dream world, I'm Mpoomy ❤️... I love you guys, so much. I pray that God continues using you guys for such times as this ❤️❤️❤️
So valuable! Love it. ❤️