THE NARCISSIST'S NEW SUPPLY
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- Опубліковано 13 чер 2024
- #narcissist #narcissisticabuse It can be extremely painful to see the narcissist replace you before you've even had a chance to process the end of your relationship with them. Narcissists use new relationships to hurt their former partners or, at best, give no care to how their lightning speed makes their former partners feel. In this video, we will explore the reasons that the narcissist does this and how you can pick the pieces up and move forward.
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They also move on quickly because the chances of you taking them back is zero…
You can't heal unless you stop looking at their social media.
I think on another level, we cant heal from the toxic nature of society until we get off social media permanently
Abusers don't change their behaviour because they have an inability to challenge the thought behind their actions. No empathy means no ability to learn and grow. You can grow and be happy without this mess ❤
Please don’t speak to anyone that hasn’t been through this! It is NOTHING like a normal break up. They want to inflict maximum damage. Yes. MAXIMUM. It’s shaddenfreude
Exactly I would cry to my friend and she would say “get over it, next!” …. After many years of my friend not being supportive in different accomplishments and a narc breakup.. I said next! To her.. and of course I’ve been no contact for a year and half now with my narc
Yes, you just end up feeling worse. Don't take any advice from them as well.
I felt like I'd been disemboweled. I was drowning in a sea of acid. I arose. A skeleton, screaming in agonizing pain.
You Soo get this. I was shocked when my therapist explained to me that it wasn't my fault. I was entirely brainwashed and
gaslighted.
That’s why once we really see it for what it is we can’t unsee it
So ELOQUENTLY put! 💯
It's a blessing, the new supply took out your garbage for you.
She hit this spot on!
(After a 4 year relationship and being dumped for someone 25 years younger).
I finally looked in the mirror and said, "It's time to love myself first!"
Mr. Narcissist, you will no longer cause me pain!
(I've turned my back to him, with no contact).
On a positive note, it's through emotional heartbreak we learn that narcissists teach you a lot about yourself.
They teach you not to be a people pleaser and not to give up your own identity to create a facade for someone else. They teach you that you need strong boundaries.
It hurts because you see them not treat everyone with contempt and disrespect but you, they put on a facade of a loving individual then turn around and put you through hell behind closed doors, peeling off your self-esteem with disrespect and humiliation. That happens because they know those people won't put up with their BS, they will simply throw them out of their lives.
All in all, you will come out of the fire a stronger individual, think of them as mentally impaired have pity for them instead of seeking validation of your pain from them because they will never acknowledge it, they don't have empathy.
He rubbed it in my face. Literally. It almost killed me. I almost took my life. Hes done it before too. I choose life now, rather than death by a thousand cuts.
Thank you, i was triangulated after i broke up with my ex, it was like a knife going through my heart, she called me on facebook and showed me her new supply, the sadism and cruelty of this is beyond words.
I just found out my female friend of fifty years can do this to you too! I called her out on her bad behavior towards me, she had time for her male,on and off again friend of eight years but no time or energy to meet me for dinner or lunch but she would confuse me with cards and texts. I told her I had enough and she posted her and “Bryan” on FB. Then blocked me. Now, she had never posted any photos of them together before. She is using him too. I won’t go into details, but this demonic. A demonic entity jumping from one person to another. My ex quit calling/spoofing from random phone numbers and texts once he read about my friendship with my friend ending, he cloned my phone. Then those random calls started from HER! It’s chilling. She said I had left her to chase after a stranger and she was traumatized.. this supposedly happened 45 years ago. You cannot make this stuff up. When they start acting in ways that hurt and confuse you, you know they were or are a NARCISSIST. Cut them off and don’t look back. ❤❤❤
Same I can feel I don't even know when I get doubt I got my friend and he do conversation then I know that
My ex narc hung up on me because I was making fun of her new “friends with benefits” at the time on the phone after we called it quits. I shouldn’t have been talking to her in the first place, but she felt the need to triangulate me and stick the knife in. I agree. It’s one if the cruelest things a Narc does, easily one of the worst tactics in a Narc playbook.
12:01 they don’t see ANYONE as a real human being. People are tools and appliances used to manipulate and regulate their emotions. This is a sick person
I knew somehow he had someone else and no one believed me, he was with her for at least six months before he discarded me and my two young children, he did all you said and more to me, to cut a long story short he has found a malignant narcissist and is suffering now and from all accounts is trying to get out of, they are both narcissists but my ex is more of a covert and thought he met his soul mate when he met her, but her true colours emerged not long after, so karma does exist and he is stuck with a witch. I don’t care less now, I just feel for my kids now and how the witch has turned my ex husband against them, narcs are evil to the core, Thankyou x
The average person has no idea the level of this abuse, let alone the courts. Seek refuge in the Lord Psalm 147:3
Why are they so hard to get out of our heads?
Professionals call it trauma bonding. Look it up. Sam Vaknin is an expert with personal and 30+ years experience. You'll learn fascinating info. that can really help you heal.
It’s been a couple years now and I am STILL trying to recover
I just came across this video randomly on my feed a year after I left the narcissist. The fact that this video was posted exactly when I first was experiencing the turmoil is ironic. Everything you said in this video is true! It took some time (almost a year) but I’m healed and happy and so proud of myself for making such a hard decision February of 2023 to leave and go no contact.
Another insightful video. That he moved in with the new supply immediately after he met her, just added to the pain of rejection. We had been married for 35 years and were preparing for our retirement. To say it was a shock is an understatement. Of course, I was blamed for everything, including him telling me he regretted the day he married me. He told me that he was happy only three times during the 35 years. His final dismissive words to me were, "don't look to me for your happiness". Yet he blamed me for his unhappiness.
Everyone’s happiness is their own responsibility
Crazy this is they look for the new supply for their happiness it’s all just wrong and backwards
Love yourself stop expecting man to love you they love sex with young girl
Nothing was ever enough. The goal posts kept on changing! Exhausting and confusing 😢
I knew my girlfriend was a narcissist but the final giveaway was that she got a new supply after about one week after I left her. We had been together for two years, but discarding is what they do.
Same exact situation as me. They still together after 3 months 😢
First off, I hope you are healing and slowly finding peace. Did she ever ever Hoover you?
One week ! That's insanely quick, I'm sorry ,that sucks
Same, two years with her. It was a coworker who had a crush on her before too, he isn’t anything like me. Not in a good way. Still just an awful feeling.
Thankyou. He did EVERYTHING you said he did .. he rubbed it in ny face while i was at home recovering from c section with his child
An excellent chronology of events. From someone's first experience understanding the conundrum to the relief being out. The lack of object constancy before you, during you & after you. Well done. You got the narc facts.
The new supply is gonna get dragged down through the woods hitting every tree 🌳 and tree stump🪵or in best case scenario the new supply will be the one doing the dragging when karma kicks in. Then they have the audacity to say they hate fake people cheaters and liars when they are all of those you can't make this stuff up!😂
Thank you. I was also triangulated. Came home one day from shopping with my friend and he was in my driveway kissing some girl. I thought it was his ex wife but it wasn’t. A few days later I went to a funeral for one of his family member and he comes in with this sam girl/supply. I was humiliated in front of my friend and his family at the funeral. I didn’t see this coming. I helped his elderly mother get to the funeral and was just humiliated. Just the way he did both in front of friends and family.
Yes we must stop shopping for pain ...!❤
It's refreshing to hear someone say " I'm not a professional ". Your opinions, experiences and honesty are valued. So many giving advice would have us believe they're professionals.
I love the "super human with magic powers" I often thought, I am not superwoman. I cannot do it all, be it all, fix it all, etc. That is really what you would have to make life perfect for them. All you can do is pray for the next one.
Painful indeed! 😢😢😢😢
I only found you about a month ago & I'm sooo glad I did!!
You need to realize you were dealing with a psychopath with no empathy. Thank God that he set you free now. The person you thought you loved was a character, a fiction. Read: “power” by shaida arabi , “psychopath free” -Jackson Mackenzie
you are soooo brilliant at saying so much truth! keep going, your the best on youtube at explaining NPD !
thankfully i dont have the heartbreak part as i was beginning to question the nonsense from the past 10yrs and see through it all. But this does clear up some lingering questions for me and highlights all the disrespect
this is word for word so true. ❤
lol you nailed it with the if you had done this …. My narc was obsessed with complaining about all those things you mentioned truly unreal.
Oh God....the aftermath is soul crushing!
When I broke up with someone toxic, It hurt so bad...there are these song lyrics that described the pain so well,
" It's like there's cancer in my blood
It's like there's water in my lungs
And I can't take another step
Please tell me I am not undone
It's like there's fire in my skin
And I'm drowning from within
I can't take another breath
Please tell me I am not undone" ~ Pittsburgh, Amity Affliction.
😕 sums it up, huh? 😕
Azzzz wholes lol
Pittsburg..good song
It’s really a blessing in disguise. Trust me. You will find a better person
One the most helpful videos on narc discard . You just nailed it and have been a great help.
This video is so spot on. Really spoke to me. Great video
Now i am not interested in making relationship when i give love i get Hurt every time and i shocked still i am in shock its was so sudden without knowing and now i am in doubt i am bad its just resend happened i have blocked him now and i am young
The new supply was my friend of 20 years! We were engaged !
Thank you so much. Your message is a balm to my wounded soul.
No cluster B can not be treated, you learned your lesson, they will try to destroy you even after they're gone. Running across a narcissist is a horrible experience, it destroys most people, it almost destroyed me.
Can you do a video on new supply triangulation. She most likely is being compared to me, in that if she does something that he identifies that I did that he didn't like, that puts enormous pressure on her on being perfect. He's setting her up for failure.
They are Demons that's why they don't care
Excellent content
His favorite thing to say was I’m not trying to be an asshole, but I’m going to be an asshole. I still have the sunglasses he wore the day he did the discard and was told I can’t talk to anybody about it cuz he will screw me over. So, I’m just here.
He did everything you said while i gave birth to our son...😢... And healing after c section..
All the questions and pain!! Thank you for explaining 😢
No I appreciate you so much yes I've been already 2 years with the ex narc I just on good luck with life with him wherever he's with yeah I was hurting in the beginning but I'm over it and I'm good thank God and thank you for all this videos that you've been doing can you please press more videos I appreciate you cuz I see other videos as well about narcissism thank you again
Very excellent video thank you ❤
I’ve watched many videos about this topic but I really have to say, YOURS was really wonderful! You hit some very basic but strong points that spoke to me clearly. Thank you!
Thank YOU ❤!
Very well done presentation.
Thank you!
I lost 2,2 lbs in a month.....that's true happiness ;-)
Everyone my ex bragged about still wanting him were his victims.
Is Amber Heard an example of a malignant narcissist? She really tried to harm Johnny Depp both mentally and physically, including attempting to end his career.
Amber is Borderline I am told. My ex partner was BPD and oh boy can they do real damage, both mentally and physically.
I have never seen such deception and pure rage in a person, not even close to this woman.
Old supply they cheated on me with his kind of woman just like him
So painful 💔😓
great video ♡
I'm, unfortunately, not trusting
males, at all, anymore 😔🥀💔
Males? Do you know this is done more bh women than men? The amount of options women have compared to men is also one of the factors why women do this more! I have gone through this recently and so many other guys. Be sensible even while in pain.
@@punk007punk9 I think women are finally picking up where the males left off, truthfully
"... even their women"
100%
Ur smart
The Devil do not care about u
👍👍👍
The sad thing you have to realize, that your ex will treat the next person better - because they got smarter being with you.
They know what not to do to get more out of their supply. Really, they were smarter with you than their previous.
Yes, it sucks that someone gets to benefit from any lesson you taught the ex. It’s just the way it is. I wish my soon-2-b ex husband would have waited more than 2 days after declaring he wanted a divorce, before he sent a stranger flowers asking for a date. If you can afford it, take a trip immediately. Get away from it all. As for me, my soon-2-b ex will have to repay me for a loan - so his new gf… yes, he has one that he is in love with just 6 months after he moved out… that at least, she will get him broke. 😂
My sisters are empty vessels of nothingness and emptiness andthey fill up on the pain and ,isery they cause to their unwitting victims ans my mother too, I'd rather have no one ever be a friend than expose myself to their nothingness , they really are evil beings, they have no soul, they thrive on the misery they bring to their chosen victims. I am rid of my mother, dead, youngest sister but the most deadly of the 3 i cannot break the tie, she is the most most deadly, I think, I am afraid 💔 fearful, also afraid for her, I remember how fragile she was as a young child, i was o
oldest!
I asked him if he ever loved me and he said he was with me for 6 years that should say something he was in a new relationship and moved her in to my house after beating my up and threw me out. Then he said I was useless and worthless. I was stupid I was a dumb c*** and a dumb w****. He said he never thought I was a threat to his son until 2 years. The last two years I found out I had cancer and I was possibly terminal. I found out the news then all the offices had shut down due to covid. At the time Medicaid patients was not a priority so to take about 3 to 6 months to get an appointment. Covid really slowed down in the process. When I was going to go to Texas to do chemo cuz my doctor found a place. He said I want all my things back and I'm going to the next chapter by myself. Because he was going to move in his new girlfriend. He said that I could take my cancer treatment and go to hell. I confess kind of lost my mind a little bit and I started focusing on myself and not him. He said I was selfish for thinking of only of myself and not thinking about how he felt. Which believe it or not I did put him in consideration of how he felt but I didn't know what to do. He told me to do whatever it takes to get better if I didn't get better he was going to break my neck and bury me in the backyard with our dead cat. Did he ever actually love me? Every time things got hard he ran. Or he would pick a fight just to go cheat on me. Or he would tell people I was cheating on him so it was okay for him to do it. But I can honestly say I never cheated on him. He encouraged me to talk to people about an open relationship but I couldn't get past talking I could never meet up with them because that's not who I am. I know sometimes I didn't respond well when he lost his temper and being mean to me because sometimes I even had a point where I said enough just tell me why are you mad? What can we do to fix this? He always responded, if you have to change it's not worth it. You're nothing but a b**** and a w****. Drink Smart water you're too stupid to live. Cancer is your karma for all the bad things you've done. And you deserve a terrible horrible death and that's the only way you can give me pleasure. You always forget about your husband you're selfish and useless and worthless. Use your common sense to figure out what's wrong. If you're too stupid to figure it out then I don't need to tell you? Why is it my responsibility to tell you what's wrong? He told everybody I was lying about cancer. I have multiple times offered to show him my paperwork, and when the doctor calls I put it on speaker and he would magically run out of the room or leave the car depending on where I was at the time. For Two years he couldn't wait to replace me with someone better.
I hope you are feeling much better Layla. Know that cancer is never a payback for bad things we’ve done. Deep down you know that.
Your payback will be you beating the cancer & leading the best life. That’s my prayer for you♥️. Take courage, you’ll be in my prayers & thoughts. Please don’t give him the satisfaction to see you break. He is not happy and wants you to be unhappy as he is.
I am so sorry for all you’ve been through. You have been so courageous. Take care
I'm so sorry for your terrible pain !
Just love yourself first!
Gth
all your talks have helped me grow and you have opened my eyes. thank you, but you repeat the same thing a lot. I imagine to lengthen the video, but if you went directly to the Point only 1 time, everything would be super extraordinary. Thank you again