Just shows how much she doesn’t care. She told her it was either foster care or dr Phil and she came to his show and was put into an uncomfortable and vulnerable position on national tv only to have her mom betray her snd send her away anyways. She already had 1 parent abandon her. Her mom sucks.
Yea, she's used to playing the I'm the adult so I am always right card. That does not work with my generation or these younger kids. We will call you out no matter who you are.
@@camillerivera6642 of course not. But then again I never said anything about "problem free" no one is perfect. I am saying that when it gets to the point where you need dr phil you might want to look at your own parenting skills.
I like that when she started having her breakdown the guys acknowledged that the mother was being dismissive towards her and not actively listening to her daughter and that the daughter was actually making sense in how she feels and is reacting.
Agreed. If you look at the mom while the daughter’s flipping out, she looks rather distant and even a little smug. Also, I do think the daughter has a bit of a point. The mom doesn’t seem to have ever put much effort into even trying to do something herself about her daughter’s issues and instead would rather send her away for someone else to deal with it.
@@DDRSparksBro2 They both need to put effort in. The girl is old enough to act right. But same goes with her mother. Of course the mother has a lot of blame.
@@yukimasahiko Oh, I understand. That girl definitely needs to be put in check and taught that she can’t keep acting out of control like that. I’m just saying that the mother’s nonchalant reaction to her daughter’s ranting seems to be a sign of her lousy parenting which contributed to her daughter’s bad behavior.
The daughter does need to put in check like everyone else said but in this case it's almost like they're substituting for the mom in a way it's just odd. A parent shouldn't react with glee or like they "won" like some weird competition.
If you act like that, you really give your parents no choice. Toxic is toxic. Doesn't matter if it's your kid of not. Her mom does have things to work on but that girl needs help and refuses to listen.
The way the big guy in blue came up to her after her mom abandoned her pisses me off. This girl was so scared and intimidated that she tried to defend herself with a tiny fake plant. They did not handle this well at all and they’re supposed to be the professionals.
No... It sounds as if her mother DESERVED that. Sometimes we have to love people from a distance and start from a young age and yes, even your own mother can be toxic enough for the long-handled spoon. 🤔🧐😔🤷🏽♀️🙏🏾
@@mike47734 "A spoiled rotten little brat" - lol, you don't sound all that tough if this girl spitting facts about her parent gets you this clamped. Dr. Phil got her some help; her mother took 14-years just to even walk that stage. Be honest here - you'd deny that girl professional help, wouldn't you?
“You don’t have any rights here” those words completely validated her fear. This girl is afraid of her mother kicking her out and clearly feels abandoned. Saying she has no rights isn’t gonna make her feel secure or safe at all.
But the state of the did actually pass a law that spells out certain rights for people in these programs, plus courts have already ruled that certain rights still apply to people in these program.
Nonsense. This child is an aggressive bully. The mom has been far too soft and permissive. It is time she learn some hard lessons before she is a danger to society or herself.
"I don’t get help because I still have to stay with you!" "That’s not the problem." No it is. That’s exactly the problem. If her mother doesn’t change the way she interacts with her then she’s going to go right back to where she started. Very simple.
And when destoni said that her mom was the problem, she was right. The mom IS the damn problem. I pray for destoni to be healed. It’s painful beyond measure to watch and this broke my heart to pieces.
Before y’all start coming at her. She is hurt, she keeps everything inside. Everyday, she doesn’t feel loved, and heard. That’s why she explodes. She also had her Father leave at an extremely young age. She is hurt, so it causes her to put Rhee rage out in everything.
I love the youth workers. They allow her to lash out and yell at their mother. They understand why she’s here and why she is acting like this. Great job on them!
@@timothywait9457 wow.. maybe you should enter the program too. The mother is not pathetic, she needs help. Being a single parent. You obviously wouldn’t know about.
@@kateplayford4844 Thank you. Only other tr4sh would like that. Decent people *loved* watching her breakdown at the thought of being taken away from the mommy she "h4tes".
@@Leeohlin89 the smug look her mother gives when her daughter is yelling and the clear gaslighting says it all. This is just from a 5 minute clip. From someone who has a very manipulative batshit crazy mother I can ALWAYS tell when someone is like that and this mother has issues. She's just not the subject so they're not being brought out.
Everyone’s talking about “if she had a *blank* parent, she’d never do that” you’re probably right. That girl is terrified of not being wanted and it’s so obvious, she doesn’t even feel like her mom wants her by her actions, I hope she gains understanding that she’s worthy.
tbh the girl probably has undiagnosed and untreated BPD which would explain her extreme anger and her extreme fear of abandonment that she hides with cruel words.
The father was abusive and abandoned them after he got out of jail. Mom can’t cope with her own trauma so she sent her daughter away to not be reminded of it. Both parents definitely sucked.
I feel like this girl has a lot of pain. No one acts this way and can honestly say they’re happy. And the way her mother has handled things have only made it worse. I wouldn’t be surprised if she was traumatized by something as a young kid, something that made her realize she can’t count on her mother for anything so she lashes out.
Both this kid and her mom are traumatized cuz the husband/father was abusive. Everytime the daughter brings that up her mom dismisses her cuz it reminds her of her own trauma but it’s very damaging to her daughter cuz she’s in pain too. She’s acting out and mom is pretending like it didn’t happen and focusing on the other daughters who don’t remind her of her pain. It’s messed up.
@@Sfmpg that's horrible 😔 and youre right. sometimes victims can lash out/treat their kids in a way that isnt ideal because they themselves are also suffering. That doesnt mean that there arent some truly horrible mothers out there who act like that for no good reason, though.
I know how she feels I was the same way as a kid but I had an amazing person to help me and this child haves no one it just breaks my heart mom and daughter need help please God help them too
I can feel and see the anxiety raging through her when she goes to walk out. Gosh she deserves so much better from her mother. support and encouragement. Not being ignorant and dismissive.
@@xdtijnntssyu3314 we are all different, the parents and their children. Parents are not experts, they do the best they can in the circumstances when they have no idea. There are some parents who are toxic, but equally, many children who have real problems. We cared deeply about our son. We tried everything we could think of, we sought professional help. He still ended up in prison as an adolescent and as an adult. We might have been seen as detached or uncaring, but after years of collecting him from police stations and prison and attending court we were worn out. We still cared, but had to detach ourselves to protect our mental health.
the girl seems to be in a lot of pain emotionally. I want to hate her for her attitude but she just needs help and guidance. the mom clearly couldn't afford to give it.
@@timothywait9457 yes…a lot kids act out the way Destoni is acting out because they’re deeply hurting and have to bottle things up because they have severe trust issues. 😔
I can’t even bring myself to be upset by her behavior. She was making complete sense while screaming at her mother, which I myself have been brought to such levels… and I can say from watching and personal experience that she screams because her mother doesn’t acknowledge her when she doesn’t. On top of that, her mom isn’t listening to the words. The pain behind them. Y’all may have heard rage in what she was saying, but I heard, “Mom, PLEASE don’t abandon me again. Don’t push me away. Fix yourself so I can go back to being normal again. If you would just LISTEN to me, none of this would’ve happened.”
@@varenthian I agree. When she was yelling, it was a cry for help because she feels unloved and disrespected from the maltreatment by her mother. She said in one of the clips that she wanted a mom that actually listened to her attentively. This sums up why destoni was lashing out so much. 😭 it tore my heart apart when she started yelling.
Yeah the mother has this smug, emotionally withdrawn, “here we go again” expression that makes my blood curdle and it’s clear this is how she reacts to the daughter whenever she gets emotional. If I were a gambler I’d put money that the mother has actually DELIBERATELY messed the daughter up emotionally, she just seems way too pleased when her daughter loses it
I was angry with the mother the whole time. I burst into tears when destoni started flipping out. 😭 I hope Destoni has found peace in receiving help. We need an update.
Wow, this really brought me back to my teen years when I was brought to angry yelling and tears. My father especially was heavily abusive in any way you can imagine, and my mother couldn't "pick sides" and just let it happen. Therefore I was shuffled place to place and given incorrect diagnoses and unhelpful medication, all of course due to the fact that my parents described me to the doctors/psychiatrists and they never spoke to me directly. I had a lot of pent up anger and feelings of anxiety and being unwanted, and blamed for all of the family problems when I was just a kid that needed someone to listen. Definitely see myself in this young woman.
@@dawnemyers2420 I did get help. I have healed, I have good relationships with both of my parents now, and I am a stable, successful person with my own home and family. 💜 Just goes to show, teenage years can be the worst, but life goes on so much further than high school.
@@wjsnactivist6141 I’m proud of you and I’m so sorry you have had to go through such an ordeal. You have earned mad respect from my end for being so brave in sharing what you’ve gone through which has touched you deeply after seeing what Destoni has gone through. Love and hugs have been sent your way. 💕
Sure I been through the same thing but once you start yelling and cussing ppl out it’s never acceptable. She clearly has bad parents raising her that didn’t think through the amount of responsibility that goes for raising a girl and I wouldn’t be surprised if she was abused but yelling and threatening ppl in school and talking about bringing a gun is wrong. She’s young so she shouldn’t be shamed and deserves better but at the same time there’s no reason why she should be acting like this without fear of consequences cuz it kinda seems she was neglected but spoiled at the same time. Spoiled kids turn out this way too. She literally had 100s of kids fearing for there life and disrespecting family members. My mom till this day is bipolar and VERYYYY on edge and I have to walk on eggshells around her but I know if I screamed like this then that’s my fault but usually when kids end up like this it’s from narcissistic parents who act like there sunshine in public but are actually very manipulative but at the same time if you have a roof over ur head and still got clothes and food then that’s more then enough and only kids who really been through the tough stuff as kids will understand that you gotta keep ur mouth shut cuz you will be put out on the streets in a matter of minutes with this crazy attitude. It’s 75% the girl is in the right cuz she deserves better but she needs to learn to have respect.
Wow, I feel bad for the child she feels completely abandoned time and time again. She acts out because she wants love and attention and a mother who is there. They both need a lot of therapy.
During the fit, the girl said her and her mom were gonna do something to help together but it never happened. I understand where she is coming from if she gets sent away after her mom made empty promises
@@mahimsterunicorn7948 Ah I agree, English is not my first language and I didn't know how to translate the word I was looking for in Dutch. Thanks though!
That’s just it. She feels unwanted by her own parents. Her father left when she was little and her mother not only considered placing her in foster care at one point, but willingly sent her away. Instead of stepping up and helping her and being there for her, her mother would rather send her away and make her someone else’s problem.
I am sitting here crying. That lady is so badly hurt. It hurts me. I can relate to her. Screaming i a crowd and nobody is listening. I hope she is doing better. Bless you sweetheart
This is so sad to see as it resonates with me. She's clearly hurting very much inside. Instead of putting her on a show like Dr. Phil and turning her pain into entertainment, she and the mother should get some REAL help. This girl is young. She shouldn't be subjected to public humiliation. I hope she finds happiness one day.
It's so easy and simple for people to blame the girl, but when you watch and listen carefully it's clear that much of this is the mother's fault. The mother seems passive aggressive, uncaring, unaccountable and manipulative.
@@hotsnatchfever She's manipulative and bratty because she's a child who hasn't had any guidance or love. The mother is the adult. The adult should get a grip and help their child.
i wonder if she has her own room in the facility if i was a teenager and had to go to one i would need my own room drugs and drink and Internet but i doubt they would give her that i bet she has to share a room with 3 other girls like her no internet angry staff bad food it will make her worse i would be a good influence for her i am use to girls like her they look up to me as i was very Naughty
Both of them need counselling. The mother doesn’t care at all to even try helping her daughter herself. She didn’t even try to hug her when she was shouting “you just want me gone”. She failed her as a mother. And the father failed her too for not being there to help parent her.
I really hope she gets the help she needs and then goes no contact with her mom forever. I had a mom like that too. Went no contact with her. I feel this girls pain. It's real.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Mothers are supposed to love their children. I will give you my love and also know that you are loved by others.
Imagine being a hurt damaged teen and then being forced by the Mom you already didn’t trust to go on the Dr Phil show. I was a troubled teen. I honestly couldn’t imagine being out in that situation. I feel so bad for the girl.
She’s clearly hurt cuz she feels abandoned by her mom. Now I know those people have custody of her and they HAVE to take her, but they really don’t have to act like she’s in jail. I know they have to in case she runs, but I mean dang. I remember being her age and if someone told me I wasn’t going nowhere and if someone tried to hold on to me to make sure I didn’t run, I would feel very uncomfortable..
Crazy Horror Chick i wonder if they gave her sedatives on the ride there if valium she would arive with a smile and a sense of self empowerment mixed with blisful relaxation
That lady is a terrible mother. Just looking to pass the problems onto someone else. I feel so bad for the child, because she is in heart wrenching pain... I hope she is able to find peace in herself...
How the Mom just sat there without shedding a single tear for Destoni as she's lashing out while actually stating the obvious is mind-boggling to me. Destoni's Mom doesn't seem to be capable of having any feelings for her own daughter even when Destoni tells her truth to her face. Her Mom just completely brushes it off, and the "No, I know" response to Anthony Hoskins saying her daughter was making sense sounds so insincere. She just doesn't get it. So sad.
'LISTEN' that broke my heart, I'm crying rn. Damn. I was in her exact position growing up, a lot of us were. The parent being broken themselves and you absorb all of it and the damage manifests in so many different ways, mainly a total lack of self-esteem and worth. I was so spiteful in the same way she is expressing because I never could comprehend how it's fair that the reason I was corrupted was due to how I was raised and it was totally on me to bear the weight of it and fix it.
I get the girl needs help but I think this wasn’t the way for her to get it. She’s hurt and traumatized and I feel like by the Mom doing this their relationship will never be the same. Send her to the PNP center and get her evaluated. The girl has abandonment issues so what do they do? They send her away and on top of that with strangers.
Dr Phil should be ashamed of himself for putting the cameras in her face at this vulnerable moment. She was overwhelmed and the guy in the blue shirt towering over her is very cruel and intimidating. To be sent somewhere unknown is very scary. Her behavior may be bad but she is a little girl that is hurting and confused. Her mother is emotionally detached and condescending. This was awful.
It’s absolutely disgusting that there are humans that are willing to exploit troubled kids. The mom may have thought this was her last option and couldn’t afford treatment, but Dr.Phil has no excuses.
@KC-bc2tb What makes this even more shameful is people defending this by stating: "WELL THAT'S WHAT SHE GETS FOR BEING A BRAT!!!!!" With the recent news about the ranch, I wonder if people feel the same way or are they too prideful to admit that they were wrong about something
I get everyone's comment about how much in pain the girl is but she seriously doesn't have to yell and scream. My mother never cared about my feelings growing up as a child nor does she care now about them now, especially being pregnant with my first baby. I never confided in my mom and still can't. I never lashed or reacted the way this girl does.
Even if you are a parent, there's some situation that are just too out of the line for you to do your job properly. Her getting help from a trained specialised care-taker might be the best solution for both the mom and daughter.
Go ahead. Ignore your children. Don't ever talk to them or tell them you love them. Then wonder why she's such a problem. I would like to hear updates on this story.
This takes me way back when I was her age. I would never go back been there done that just not on television in front of everyone she must feel so scared and embarrassed. poor girl breaks my heart I hope she does ok in the future 💛
Ya it’s very sad how her mom basically said someone else problem she’s very hurt and deserves way better then what her mom is doing she’s lashing out over the awful events that took place and her mom is not even there supporting her
I believe the best thing is for that girl to get as far away from her mother as possible. She's toxic and unloving. She routinely baits her daughter into a meltdown. She's abusive and rejects her daughter. 💔
There is something missing about the story. Ik a lot of people dislike her. But she is clearly hurt. I am not saying her actions are right. But neither is the mother. I feel bad. Bless her heart.
“That’s why I’m on f*cking pills. Because you can’t change yourself, but I have to change! I have to f*cking change? But you can’t! I’m here because you didn’t wanna f*cking deal with me anymore!” That’s f*cking why! Because you don’t get help! You haven’t even tried getting help! You haven’t tried!” LITERALLY!!!
I hope this girl is happier today, nobody needs to be in this much pain, life can be fun she just needs someone to show her how again and she'll get there.
This was so stressful to watch.... my heart was pounding. I could not be a transporter at all. Hope they availed themselves of the resources offered. Wow!
I have watched a bunch af Dr.Phil videos now, and I think, whenever it is about children, these children are used to being in control. Their parents must have done everything their children demanded, and when sent to therapeutic facility, the children experience for the very first time that someone else is in control over them. Shocking. When children are in control and sort of remote control their parents, the never see them as independent persons, human beings, that make their own decisions. Thus these children don't develop empathy. They never feel that the other person is just like them, having emotions, feeling, thoughts and so on. This is dangerous.
This mother appears to be provoking this reaction. She comes across as devoid of empathy and quite narcissistic. How this girl was treated was appalling but honestly getting away from her controlling mother probably is her only ticket to a happy life.
@@Zimtbiss1 Fair enough to be cautious in your own personal view. I have definitely seen way more than enough. Teens truly bullying their parents and suffering from some sort of antisocial or even psychotic disorder are unable to clearly articulate their emotions, which this young woman admirably does, despite the not-subtle bullying and dismissal from her mother (not to mention the grotesque charade of her mother forcing a reality tv show confrontation when her daughter begged her for mutual counseling). This is a clear gaslighting ploy by Mom to bully and also reinforce her bizarre worldview of victimhood.
@@rebarox85 She is definitely a talented gaslighter, so I wouldn't expect the layperson to be able to identify the dynamic. The only good here is this child has proof of her abusive mother.
Who signs over guardianship of their child to strangers? That is the most disturbing thing I’ve ever heard. And why was it necessary to do? Horrifying.
The mother was so dismissive and I also felt, just as the daughter said, that she was just getting rid of her because she didn't want to put up with her. This poor girl. My heart breaks for her and what she went through. I hope she heals, but also feel like she will not have a better relationship with her mother after getting discharged.
there is no way all of this is going on just because her father went to prison when she was 4. it has to be a lot deeper than that. i’ve never experienced such anger through a screen before.
Girl: tears up on stage about how she felt abandoned when her father went to jail when she was 4 years ago and consistently feels emotionally abandoned by her smug mother Dr Phil’s response: send the daughter away Girl: 🤬🤬🤬🤬 Me: not your best resolution Phil 🙃
@Elisa Alvarado OR he could've sent both the mother and daughter to counseling. Something that they do together and the daughter doesn't feel abandoned YET AGAIN. The mom needs just as much work as her child.
This is really sad. I feel for that girl tho like the way she is acting, she is feeling so helpless, betrayed and abandoned. Her parents failed her and she is angry because she know there is something wrong with her and she was ready to change for it believing that her mother would also make the same effort to change and be a better mother for her but she feel cheated now. Poor girl i hope she will feel better, happy and loved soon
hearing how much pain her mother caused her by bring bounced around from foster home to foster home over&over made her feel unwanted&unloved. once they tried to mend their relationship again, i'm sure her biggest fear was getting close only to feel that way again. whether she's right about how her mom feels, her feelings are still 100% valid because that's what she's truly feeling. the way she looks at her mom as she goes to get up and try to leave shows her heartbreak.
@@haroldplum923 not really hard, just strict. It's no secret. It's not a stereotype. It's culture. This is considered the right way of parenting for us. We have culture. I'm guessing you're not among these ethnicities hence your concern.
@@haroldplum923 this strictness is actually really good. It allows the child to learn boundaries and order. It shows them not to run their mouth aimlessly. It allows them to respect authority and learn that this world does not revolve around them. Now strictness should not be confused by child abuse. That is totally different and not good. Strictness is mainly meant to teach the child Respect. I for one thank God my mom was strict because when I look back at the times I thought it was "unfair" and how I turned out,it all makes sense. When I look at how reckless the people who had "chill" moms or whatever have become when they grew up, because they were babied like eggs growing up and didn't understand that the world doesn't revolve around them, I finally understand how governance while growing up builds a moral human being. NB: this is not to be confused with child abuse. Child abuse is not right and often causes kids to grow up bitter and have a lot of trauma which is not good at all
not disagreeing or anything, but i also hate the stereotype that all white kids are disrespectful and their parents do not discipline. the stereotypical white families may be like that, but all my white friends and i have extremely strict parents who are not afraid to discipline us. i walk on eggshells around my mom, and god help me if i raised my voice at her
This poor baby I relate to this outburst all to much:( she’s incredibly broken and she feels cornered. She doesn’t need to be sent away alone her mother needs just as much help and clearly some parenting classes
Comments like this don't help. That behavior is obviously coming from somewhere. It is wrong for her to act this way, but it isn't simply because she is a " brat" or spoiled or anything that these people are saying.
@@Gamingtv23658 never said anything about being spoiled it’s as simple as my parents don’t talorate that behavior and either way she shouldn’t be acting like that simple
It's heartbreaking when she said that they were supposed to get counseling together to fix the mom/daughter relation problem, but turns out only the daughter need to be "change" and alone doing the fixing. A relationship need both parties for it to work.. She's only 14, of course she's scared. Maybe that's the only mechanism she know to defence herself. Scream, curse and lash out. 💔
That mom does not love her daughter, and it's gotten to the point where her daughter is basically insane and yelling at her like a t rex and blowing my ear drums off, I'm not joking its truly heartbreaking, F for the girl who is getting sent to foster 😭
The mother does not give love and affection. The girl is upset and she not even a hug to confort her she gave. The mother does not leave the girl to talk and she do not listen the child. The child went through a separation that marked her alot(her father) and was easier to put the daughter in councelling than give a hug, listen and give love.
The way they ended up cornering her when all she wanted to do was call her best friend... I would have felt intimated/pissed off and got my back up too
Everyone in the comments are coming down on this mother and saying she’s dismissive of her daughters feelings. I actually think shes depleted not dismissive. She had nothing else to give but permission for a program to take over.
These people who work at these centres are saints. I’m a mental health nurse and these people/ kids are extremely hard work. I do think the need to be firmer with her though in calming her down. I understand she’s upset, angry, anxious and scared , but She’s running the show here. I’d love to see her and her mother work through everything and have a happy healthy and loving relationship. Raising kids is the hardest job in the world
You torture, abuse and deprive children of basic human dignity. Shame on you. These kids have life long PTSD after going to these places. I wouldn't brag if I were you
Ykw, if my mom signed guardianship to me to some random organization and if she sent me to the dr phil show for my problems to be exploited and broadcasted, I’d be pretty pissed too
Her mom is clearly not affectionate.. I wonder when is that last time she hugged her or told her she loved her and let her know everything is going to be ok???
Anytime my husband has baby fever (which isn’t often) I just play these videos and it goes away pretty fast. I wouldn’t ever tolerate that type of behavior ever.
Comments like yours don't help. lol I feel bad for the girl even though she's disrespectful. You seem to be making fun of her instead of feeling compassion or empathy.
It's pretty disturbing to see how many people are on the girls side. She's never been disciplined, she's never been held accountable for her own actions. Was her mother a perfect mother? No. Was she a perfect daughter? No. She is finally being held accountable for her behaviour and is getting the help she has been desperate for. And she needs to learn discipline because shes not going to get far in life without it.
I don't think this is about discipline I think this is about her getting help the mom needs help as well obviously and I'm pretty sure she's not like this 24/7 she's blatantly obviously having an emotional breakdown right now I know if I had one before this is what it's like but I do agree with you on taking accountability
This! I reading the comments and confused. Ofcourse the girl dont want to go and will put blame on the person that sending her there. This is a natural response from a unruly teen. Next who said that the mom will not get help too. Every show i watched Dr. Phil always call out the parent and will make them get help too.
@@Redds1111 Being an unruly is not a natural part of growing. She is choosing this behaviour. The level of disrespect coming from this girl is absolutely shocking. She's not a child and she knows better. You chose the behaviour, your chose the consequences. We don't know the full story. Yes maybe her mother does need help. But she's not acting like that! She's not resisting the help, she's not denying she needs the help. We have all had to face trauma in our lives. It doesn't give us an excuse to behave like that.
I just wanna hold her and rock her and tell her it will be okay. That I love her and that she is worthy of love and affection and she is WANTED!! This kid has no idea how else to communicate. She's dying inside. I pray that her mother and she got help and are living much better, healthier lives now ❤️
half of y’all are making jokes about this, but i have been in her shoes. i use to feel the same way she does and her screaming at her mom is just her letting her emotions out. i dont think that forcing her to go get treatment is the way to “fix” her. i hope her life gets better, i feel so bad for her:(
That 'you were fine for days' really did it for me. Of course she wasn't like that on the show. She didn't have to, because Dr Phil was listening. She's not just misbehaving, she's trying to get people to listen. Mom needs to look her in the eye, and just not say anything.
No, because they're raised without love. A good parent doesn't need any violent mean to educate their child. The girl here needs unconditional, pure love and she never received that. Her mom didn't even try to approach in some way, she just shrug the problem off while practically ignoring her. For 10 years.
Think about how traumatizing that would be after thinking you had a break through with your mom and she immediately signs her guardianship to strangers and telling her she has no rights. Some people don’t deserve to be parents and I hope she’s doing better
@Elisa Alvarado are you f****** serious right now you clearly haven't been watching any of the episodes if you're going to say something that insensitive
@Elisa Alvarado her poor mother huh so you would don't care at all about this child's trauma and that she needs her mother the most right now and that her mother is sending her away you only care about how the mother feels that's your f****** problem bro what that girl deserves is a caring mother and caring parents
Another forceful treatment kidnapping. This is absolutely disgusting. She wanted her mother to help her. She trusts her mom and she wants HER to listen, and now she feels even more abandoned. First from her father, and now from her mother.
It’s so funny how teens think if they cuss and yell enough that people in charge will change their minds. Girl, you’re a minor, you are not in control. 🙄😑
It’s clearly obvious that there’s a reason for her outburst and anger issues. It’s because she was completely abandoned and heartbroken by her own mother. It’s really damaging.💔
This poor child has been abandoned by her mother! It’s easy to do the cop out on kids! She’s clearly terrified! This young lady made more sense than the adults in the room. The guy in the blue shirt, saying to her, “ your mother has gone and she’s not coming back” So unprofessional! More terror and fear towards this young lady. I do hope she’s safe and in a healthy environment. By the way, where’s her grandparents in all this? Someone she can be with and she knows and trusts. She desperately needs love and nurturing. 😢❤
The mother looks so calm and it only made her own daughter feel worse than pain.
Just shows how much she doesn’t care. She told her it was either foster care or dr Phil and she came to his show and was put into an uncomfortable and vulnerable position on national tv only to have her mom betray her snd send her away anyways. She already had 1 parent abandon her. Her mom sucks.
Yea, she's used to playing the I'm the adult so I am always right card. That does not work with my generation or these younger kids. We will call you out no matter who you are.
@Elisa Alvarado LMAO Then again, a GOOD parent wouldn't be on there in the first place with a daughter feeling that way.
@@WallStreetWill86 Not all good parents have problem free kids.
@@camillerivera6642 of course not. But then again I never said anything about "problem free" no one is perfect. I am saying that when it gets to the point where you need dr phil you might want to look at your own parenting skills.
I like that when she started having her breakdown the guys acknowledged that the mother was being dismissive towards her and not actively listening to her daughter and that the daughter was actually making sense in how she feels and is reacting.
Agreed. If you look at the mom while the daughter’s flipping out, she looks rather distant and even a little smug. Also, I do think the daughter has a bit of a point. The mom doesn’t seem to have ever put much effort into even trying to do something herself about her daughter’s issues and instead would rather send her away for someone else to deal with it.
@@DDRSparksBro2 They both need to put effort in. The girl is old enough to act right. But same goes with her mother. Of course the mother has a lot of blame.
@@yukimasahiko Oh, I understand. That girl definitely needs to be put in check and taught that she can’t keep acting out of control like that. I’m just saying that the mother’s nonchalant reaction to her daughter’s ranting seems to be a sign of her lousy parenting which contributed to her daughter’s bad behavior.
@@DDRSparksBro2 I agree with that as well, definitely doesn’t help the situation.
The daughter does need to put in check like everyone else said but in this case it's almost like they're substituting for the mom in a way it's just odd.
A parent shouldn't react with glee or like they "won" like some weird competition.
Seems like this isn’t the first time she’s experienced neglect from her mom and the fear from her mom willingly throwing her out.
If you act like that, you really give your parents no choice. Toxic is toxic. Doesn't matter if it's your kid of not. Her mom does have things to work on but that girl needs help and refuses to listen.
@@RazzleDazzle234 yes sometimes you can try to be the best parent ever and then what happens when the kid still turns out terrible??
DarkMagic Woman idk watching her was a great form of birth control though😂
I have the same mom
Even the social worker was nodding his head in favore or the girl and not mother
She feels attacked and doesn’t know what to do to defend herself
The way the big guy in blue came up to her after her mom abandoned her pisses me off. This girl was so scared and intimidated that she tried to defend herself with a tiny fake plant. They did not handle this well at all and they’re supposed to be the professionals.
@@eartheatsyou2589 there not Professional
@@timothywait9457 You’re right. Far from it.
@@eartheatsyou2589 her mom didn't abandon her 😆
@@bigkuriboh3814 Yes she did. With a smile on her face too.
She’s being disrespectful but it’s coming from such excruciating pain. Heart breaking. Absolutely heartbreaking 🥺
No... It sounds as if her mother DESERVED that. Sometimes we have to love people from a distance and start from a young age and yes, even your own mother can be toxic enough for the long-handled spoon. 🤔🧐😔🤷🏽♀️🙏🏾
She sounds so broken honestly it's so sad. The mum definitely was a cause to this out burst
No..lol you’d be a very very weak parent. She’s nothing but a spoiled rotten little brat.
Some kids are just vile and very good at playing the victim
@@mike47734 "A spoiled rotten little brat" - lol, you don't sound all that tough if this girl spitting facts about her parent gets you this clamped. Dr. Phil got her some help; her mother took 14-years just to even walk that stage. Be honest here - you'd deny that girl professional help, wouldn't you?
“You don’t have any rights here” those words completely validated her fear. This girl is afraid of her mother kicking her out and clearly feels abandoned. Saying she has no rights isn’t gonna make her feel secure or safe at all.
But the state of the did actually pass a law that spells out certain rights for people in these programs, plus courts have already ruled that certain rights still apply to people in these program.
Fr Jess valley
Yez
She's 14 she is a minor that's what they meant
Nonsense. This child is an aggressive bully. The mom has been far too soft and permissive. It is time she learn some hard lessons before she is a danger to society or herself.
"I don’t get help because I still have to stay with you!"
"That’s not the problem."
No it is. That’s exactly the problem. If her mother doesn’t change the way she interacts with her then she’s going to go right back to where she started. Very simple.
And when destoni said that her mom was the problem, she was right. The mom IS the damn problem. I pray for destoni to be healed. It’s painful beyond measure to watch and this broke my heart to pieces.
Exactly
Imagine how scary it would be to find out that your parent signed over guardianship of you to a bunch of strangers
I know what you mean. I would have a panic attack.
I help run a support group for these people
It gets heavy
I had one with bipolar disorder and adhd did that to me
Imagine doing something to warrant that 🙄
Because they cannot do their s#$t with other people. Not so tough anymore
Before y’all start coming at her.
She is hurt, she keeps everything inside. Everyday, she doesn’t feel loved, and heard.
That’s why she explodes. She also had her Father leave at an extremely young age.
She is hurt, so it causes her to put Rhee rage out in everything.
Thats what i thought when i first watched this. The mom needs just as much help as the daughter.
...Very well
that doesn’t give her a right to be that disrespectful
When she said “I have to change but you don’t” it broke my heart for her.
She's definitely angrily telling us the issues, her mother's smile is really pissing me off
I love the youth workers. They allow her to lash out and yell at their mother.
They understand why she’s here and why she is acting like this. Great job on them!
Teku Anon they know the mum is pathetic but do not wont to rock the boat
What BS...letting her yell at her mother like that is utterly disgusting.
@@timothywait9457 wow.. maybe you should enter the program too. The mother is not pathetic, she needs help. Being a single parent. You obviously wouldn’t know about.
@@kateplayford4844 Thank you. Only other tr4sh would like that.
Decent people *loved* watching her breakdown at the thought of being taken away from the mommy she "h4tes".
@@Leeohlin89 the smug look her mother gives when her daughter is yelling and the clear gaslighting says it all. This is just from a 5 minute clip. From someone who has a very manipulative batshit crazy mother I can ALWAYS tell when someone is like that and this mother has issues. She's just not the subject so they're not being brought out.
Everyone’s talking about “if she had a *blank* parent, she’d never do that” you’re probably right. That girl is terrified of not being wanted and it’s so obvious, she doesn’t even feel like her mom wants her by her actions, I hope she gains understanding that she’s worthy.
This is the comment I was looking for, thank you
tbh the girl probably has undiagnosed and untreated BPD which would explain her extreme anger and her extreme fear of abandonment that she hides with cruel words.
I have the same mom
she did!
Well maybe she wouldn't be "scared" of people leaving her if she didn't act like a child throwing a tantrum all the time
Her parents definitely failed her, she needs structure and a stronger support system then her family is willing to give
The father was abusive and abandoned them after he got out of jail. Mom can’t cope with her own trauma so she sent her daughter away to not be reminded of it. Both parents definitely sucked.
@@eartheatsyou2589 it hurts to be abandoned especially by our own families.
@@ShreyaChoudhuryMusic parents are problem
I feel like this girl has a lot of pain. No one acts this way and can honestly say they’re happy. And the way her mother has handled things have only made it worse. I wouldn’t be surprised if she was traumatized by something as a young kid, something that made her realize she can’t count on her mother for anything so she lashes out.
Her father was sent to jail and from a young age she had to watch her mom getting beat up
Yeah. Plus I also hate how earlier on in the video the mom told her "you have no rights." That is a very problematic statement.
Both this kid and her mom are traumatized cuz the husband/father was abusive. Everytime the daughter brings that up her mom dismisses her cuz it reminds her of her own trauma but it’s very damaging to her daughter cuz she’s in pain too. She’s acting out and mom is pretending like it didn’t happen and focusing on the other daughters who don’t remind her of her pain. It’s messed up.
@@Eve_StElley lol all the stuff the daughter said to her mother but the Mother saying " you have no rights " is bad? LmfOooo
@@marioooooe so she treats her mom the same way? No. Lil brat needs to be shipped off
This child clearly feels betrayed and abandoned by her mother
@@Sfmpg exactly her father left which meant that her mother had to step up which she didn’t
@@Sfmpg why do people always have a bias for mothers? mothers are not angels, they can be just as shitty as fathers can.
@@sophiemerissa3302 yep
@@Sfmpg that's horrible 😔 and youre right. sometimes victims can lash out/treat their kids in a way that isnt ideal because they themselves are also suffering. That doesnt mean that there arent some truly horrible mothers out there who act like that for no good reason, though.
I know how she feels I was the same way as a kid but I had an amazing person to help me and this child haves no one it just breaks my heart mom and daughter need help please God help them too
I can feel and see the anxiety raging through her when she goes to walk out. Gosh she deserves so much better from her mother. support and encouragement. Not being ignorant and dismissive.
True I can tell that she has a bad family that doesn’t care about her because I was just like her at her age and I had a bad family
That's not an excuse to be violent and to hurt people though I've been in her situation but not one did I think about killing someone
@@xdtijnntssyu3314 we are all different, the parents and their children. Parents are not experts, they do the best they can in the circumstances when they have no idea. There are some parents who are toxic, but equally, many children who have real problems. We cared deeply about our son. We tried everything we could think of, we sought professional help. He still ended up in prison as an adolescent and as an adult. We might have been seen as detached or uncaring, but after years of collecting him from police stations and prison and attending court we were worn out. We still cared, but had to detach ourselves to protect our mental health.
the girl seems to be in a lot of pain emotionally. I want to hate her for her attitude but she just needs help and guidance. the mom clearly couldn't afford to give it.
she is a sweet heart thats very wounded
@@timothywait9457 yes…a lot kids act out the way Destoni is acting out because they’re deeply hurting and have to bottle things up because they have severe trust issues. 😔
I can’t even bring myself to be upset by her behavior. She was making complete sense while screaming at her mother, which I myself have been brought to such levels… and I can say from watching and personal experience that she screams because her mother doesn’t acknowledge her when she doesn’t. On top of that, her mom isn’t listening to the words. The pain behind them. Y’all may have heard rage in what she was saying, but I heard, “Mom, PLEASE don’t abandon me again. Don’t push me away. Fix yourself so I can go back to being normal again. If you would just LISTEN to me, none of this would’ve happened.”
In the immortal words of Dr. Phil, “I don’t ask myself why she does it. I ask myself ‘Why not?’”
@@varenthian I agree. When she was yelling, it was a cry for help because she feels unloved and disrespected from the maltreatment by her mother. She said in one of the clips that she wanted a mom that actually listened to her attentively. This sums up why destoni was lashing out so much. 😭 it tore my heart apart when she started yelling.
She has soooo much rage. Shame on the mother for brewing that rage over the years.
Yeah the mother has this smug, emotionally withdrawn, “here we go again” expression that makes my blood curdle and it’s clear this is how she reacts to the daughter whenever she gets emotional. If I were a gambler I’d put money that the mother has actually DELIBERATELY messed the daughter up emotionally, she just seems way too pleased when her daughter loses it
@@Suchwerewolf That's exactly what I was thinking as well.
Screaming and cussing isn't helping the situation
That is not rage.. that is nothing but a spoiled brat having a tantrum because she is not getting her way.
I was angry with the mother the whole time. I burst into tears when destoni started flipping out. 😭 I hope Destoni has found peace in receiving help. We need an update.
Wow, this really brought me back to my teen years when I was brought to angry yelling and tears. My father especially was heavily abusive in any way you can imagine, and my mother couldn't "pick sides" and just let it happen. Therefore I was shuffled place to place and given incorrect diagnoses and unhelpful medication, all of course due to the fact that my parents described me to the doctors/psychiatrists and they never spoke to me directly. I had a lot of pent up anger and feelings of anxiety and being unwanted, and blamed for all of the family problems when I was just a kid that needed someone to listen. Definitely see myself in this young woman.
I relate so much.
If that's true then you do need help
@@dawnemyers2420 I did get help. I have healed, I have good relationships with both of my parents now, and I am a stable, successful person with my own home and family. 💜 Just goes to show, teenage years can be the worst, but life goes on so much further than high school.
@@wjsnactivist6141 I’m proud of you and I’m so sorry you have had to go through such an ordeal. You have earned mad respect from my end for being so brave in sharing what you’ve gone through which has touched you deeply after seeing what Destoni has gone through. Love and hugs have been sent your way. 💕
Sure I been through the same thing but once you start yelling and cussing ppl out it’s never acceptable. She clearly has bad parents raising her that didn’t think through the amount of responsibility that goes for raising a girl and I wouldn’t be surprised if she was abused but yelling and threatening ppl in school and talking about bringing a gun is wrong. She’s young so she shouldn’t be shamed and deserves better but at the same time there’s no reason why she should be acting like this without fear of consequences cuz it kinda seems she was neglected but spoiled at the same time. Spoiled kids turn out this way too. She literally had 100s of kids fearing for there life and disrespecting family members. My mom till this day is bipolar and VERYYYY on edge and I have to walk on eggshells around her but I know if I screamed like this then that’s my fault but usually when kids end up like this it’s from narcissistic parents who act like there sunshine in public but are actually very manipulative but at the same time if you have a roof over ur head and still got clothes and food then that’s more then enough and only kids who really been through the tough stuff as kids will understand that you gotta keep ur mouth shut cuz you will be put out on the streets in a matter of minutes with this crazy attitude. It’s 75% the girl is in the right cuz she deserves better but she needs to learn to have respect.
Wow, I feel bad for the child she feels completely abandoned time and time again. She acts out because she wants love and attention and a mother who is there. They both need a lot of therapy.
Agreed.
@@ShreyaChoudhuryMusic you have poped up on outher comments
@@timothywait9457 yeah…I did.
That's not an excuse to be violent and to hurt people though I've been in her situation but not one did I think about killing someone
During the fit, the girl said her and her mom were gonna do something to help together but it never happened. I understand where she is coming from if she gets sent away after her mom made empty promises
I agree, I don't want to use the word fit though, maybe an outburst but it was justified
@@mahimsterunicorn7948 Ah I agree, English is not my first language and I didn't know how to translate the word I was looking for in Dutch. Thanks though!
That’s just it. She feels unwanted by her own parents. Her father left when she was little and her mother not only considered placing her in foster care at one point, but willingly sent her away. Instead of stepping up and helping her and being there for her, her mother would rather send her away and make her someone else’s problem.
I am sitting here crying. That lady is so badly hurt. It hurts me. I can relate to her. Screaming i a crowd and nobody is listening. I hope she is doing better. Bless you sweetheart
This is hard for me to watch, because I was going through something similar at the same age, 14. I thought basically everyone was against me.
This is so sad to see as it resonates with me. She's clearly hurting very much inside. Instead of putting her on a show like Dr. Phil and turning her pain into entertainment, she and the mother should get some REAL help. This girl is young. She shouldn't be subjected to public humiliation. I hope she finds happiness one day.
In another video, Destoni (The girl screaming at her mom) said that she went to Dr. Phil because she knows the people that he's helped.
It's so easy and simple for people to blame the girl, but when you watch and listen carefully it's clear that much of this is the mother's fault. The mother seems passive aggressive, uncaring, unaccountable and manipulative.
And the daughter seems manipulative cause she sure wasn’t talking like that on stage.
@@hotsnatchfever She's manipulative and bratty because she's a child who hasn't had any guidance or love. The mother is the adult. The adult should get a grip and help their child.
That's not an excuse to be violent and to hurt people though I've been in her situation but not one did I think about killing someone
@@helenasturdevant1275it is the parents fault but she is 14 screaming and cussing, i would’ve been best if I talked like that at 14!
Sounds: Fed UP! DONE!
you can only do so much then it’s Over.
I’m sending love to Destoni in hopes she finds peace from the help she receives and deserves. ❤️
i wonder if she has her own room in the facility if i was a teenager and had to go to one i would need my own room drugs and drink and Internet but i doubt they would give her that i bet she has to share a room with 3 other girls like her no internet angry staff bad food it will make her worse i would be a good influence for her i am use to girls like her they look up to me as i was very Naughty
@@timothywait9457 we’ve all been naughty and I think there are several causes behind it. I am hoping you’re doing better. 🙏
@@timothywait9457that’s her own fault. She needs to go to big girl jail
@@timothywait9457I hate Destoni! I completely hate her! She's a coward!
Both of them need counselling. The mother doesn’t care at all to even try helping her daughter herself. She didn’t even try to hug her when she was shouting “you just want me gone”. She failed her as a mother. And the father failed her too for not being there to help parent her.
Peggy dv] correct
I really hope she gets the help she needs and then goes no contact with her mom forever. I had a mom like that too. Went no contact with her. I feel this girls pain. It's real.
I'm so sorry that you had to go through that. Mothers are supposed to love their children. I will give you my love and also know that you are loved by others.
@@lyndapies❤❤❤❤…this means ALOT…
So is mom's pain from a kid like that who is probably bi polarmy oldest son 38 yrs old is like that he almost destroyed my family but I didn't let him
yes me too.. it’s wild
my heart hurts for her, her running her mouth comes from a place of pain
This poor girl needs love and attention. She needs to be heard.
@@marioooooe that poor girl. It breaks my heart to see the pain she’s going through
Mom needs to step up and say "Okay I'm sorry about not listening to you. I promise I'll listen to you. Tell me what is going on. "
Imagine being a hurt damaged teen and then being forced by the Mom you already didn’t trust to go on the Dr Phil show. I was a troubled teen. I honestly couldn’t imagine being out in that situation. I feel so bad for the girl.
i would react similarly if my mom signed over guardianship that is a hard thing to hear for a teenager
The pain built up on this poor child is so much... I hope she learns to trust some and allow ppl to care for her
It’s the moms fault :D
She wants her to change without her working at all in fixing herself
She ruined her childhood
Poor Child. I feel the Pain in her voice 🥺 I hope she got her peace
She’s clearly hurt cuz she feels abandoned by her mom. Now I know those people have custody of her and they HAVE to take her, but they really don’t have to act like she’s in jail. I know they have to in case she runs, but I mean dang. I remember being her age and if someone told me I wasn’t going nowhere and if someone tried to hold on to me to make sure I didn’t run, I would feel very uncomfortable..
I agree. I mean she was so scared that she was hanging on to a fake plant to defend herself lol she was so scared and desperate. Her mom is horrible.
Crazy Horror Chick i wonder if they gave her sedatives on the ride there if valium she would arive with a smile and a sense of self empowerment mixed with blisful relaxation
This made me tear up. Poor kid.
My heart breaks for this girl 💔 I hope she meets more genuinely caring people who truly want to help her heal.
Shes doing well now she got alot of help I went to school with her an she was like this but now she changed alot shes a good perosn
1:30 she only escalates when her mother made a possible sarcastic remark maybe she is trying to be noticed
She definitely needs help poor girl 😢
That screaming is the last free will she will be allowed to have, so sad parents would do this.
That lady is a terrible mother. Just looking to pass the problems onto someone else. I feel so bad for the child, because she is in heart wrenching pain... I hope she is able to find peace in herself...
Shocking behaviour. That intervention was absolutely necessary. No parent should be subjected to that level of abuse and bullying.
How the Mom just sat there without shedding a single tear for Destoni as she's lashing out while actually stating the obvious is mind-boggling to me. Destoni's Mom doesn't seem to be capable of having any feelings for her own daughter even when Destoni tells her truth to her face. Her Mom just completely brushes it off, and the "No, I know" response to Anthony Hoskins saying her daughter was making sense sounds so insincere. She just doesn't get it. So sad.
'LISTEN' that broke my heart, I'm crying rn. Damn. I was in her exact position growing up, a lot of us were. The parent being broken themselves and you absorb all of it and the damage manifests in so many different ways, mainly a total lack of self-esteem and worth. I was so spiteful in the same way she is expressing because I never could comprehend how it's fair that the reason I was corrupted was due to how I was raised and it was totally on me to bear the weight of it and fix it.
I get the girl needs help but I think this wasn’t the way for her to get it. She’s hurt and traumatized and I feel like by the Mom doing this their relationship will never be the same. Send her to the PNP center and get her evaluated. The girl has abandonment issues so what do they do? They send her away and on top of that with strangers.
I agree. She definitely needed a psych evaluation,
Dr Phil should be ashamed of himself for putting the cameras in her face at this vulnerable moment. She was overwhelmed and the guy in the blue shirt towering over her is very cruel and intimidating. To be sent somewhere unknown is very scary. Her behavior may be bad but she is a little girl that is hurting and confused. Her mother is emotionally detached and condescending. This was awful.
Well. She needed to be brought under control, but it should have been on camera
It’s absolutely disgusting that there are humans that are willing to exploit troubled kids. The mom may have thought this was her last option and couldn’t afford treatment, but Dr.Phil has no excuses.
@KC-bc2tb What makes this even more shameful is people defending this by stating: "WELL THAT'S WHAT SHE GETS FOR BEING A BRAT!!!!!"
With the recent news about the ranch, I wonder if people feel the same way or are they too prideful to admit that they were wrong about something
she is soo scared that is why she is cursing and yelling..she is afraid of mike
I feel so sorry for her and she doesn’t deserve to be exploited like this
I get everyone's comment about how much in pain the girl is but she seriously doesn't have to yell and scream. My mother never cared about my feelings growing up as a child nor does she care now about them now, especially being pregnant with my first baby. I never confided in my mom and still can't. I never lashed or reacted the way this girl does.
Everyone is different. But totally agreed.
A lot of teens lash out now. I feel like some mothers are definitely more intimidating than others
@@lunaxcatx exactly. Too many excuses for her is exactly why she acts the way she acts.
My heart really goes out to this girl. I’m totally for parents going into the same rehab facility as the child.
Even if you are a parent, there's some situation that are just too out of the line for you to do your job properly. Her getting help from a trained specialised care-taker might be the best solution for both the mom and daughter.
The demeanor Anthony has is amazing!! He stays so calm in difficult situations.. I love it!
Yeah he’s really cool...for a kidnapper.
@@cc99556 grow up.
Go ahead. Ignore your children. Don't ever talk to them or tell them you love them. Then wonder why she's such a problem. I would like to hear updates on this story.
This takes me way back when I was her age. I would never go back been there done that just not on television in front of everyone she must feel so scared and embarrassed. poor girl breaks my heart I hope she does ok in the future 💛
Ya it’s very sad how her mom basically said someone else problem she’s very hurt and deserves way better then what her mom is doing she’s lashing out over the awful events that took place and her mom is not even there supporting her
If I even dared yelling I’d already be sent to go 💀
I believe the best thing is for that girl to get as far away from her mother as possible. She's toxic and unloving. She routinely baits her daughter into a meltdown. She's abusive and rejects her daughter. 💔
There is something missing about the story. Ik a lot of people dislike her. But she is clearly hurt. I am not saying her actions are right. But neither is the mother. I feel bad. Bless her heart.
“That’s why I’m on f*cking pills. Because you can’t change yourself, but I have to change!
I have to f*cking change? But you can’t! I’m here because you didn’t wanna f*cking deal with me anymore!” That’s f*cking why! Because you don’t get help! You haven’t
even tried getting help! You haven’t tried!” LITERALLY!!!
😢
I hope this girl is happier today, nobody needs to be in this much pain, life can be fun she just needs someone to show her how again and she'll get there.
This was so stressful to watch.... my heart was pounding. I could not be a transporter at all. Hope they availed themselves of the resources offered. Wow!
I have watched a bunch af Dr.Phil videos now, and I think, whenever it is about children, these children are used to being in control. Their parents must have done everything their children demanded, and when sent to therapeutic facility, the children experience for the very first time that someone else is in control over them. Shocking. When children are in control and sort of remote control their parents, the never see them as independent persons, human beings, that make their own decisions. Thus these children don't develop empathy. They never feel that the other person is just like them, having emotions, feeling, thoughts and so on. This is dangerous.
This mother appears to be provoking this reaction. She comes across as devoid of empathy and quite narcissistic. How this girl was treated was appalling but honestly getting away from her controlling mother probably is her only ticket to a happy life.
@@muirgirl Maybe. In most cases the behaviour of the parents is the root of the problem. In this case I don't see enough of mom to build an opinion.
@@Zimtbiss1 Fair enough to be cautious in your own personal view. I have definitely seen way more than enough. Teens truly bullying their parents and suffering from some sort of antisocial or even psychotic disorder are unable to clearly articulate their emotions, which this young woman admirably does, despite the not-subtle bullying and dismissal from her mother (not to mention the grotesque charade of her mother forcing a reality tv show confrontation when her daughter begged her for mutual counseling). This is a clear gaslighting ploy by Mom to bully and also reinforce her bizarre worldview of victimhood.
@@muirgirl The mom was at her wits end. Every parent seems to go to Dr. Phil now.
@@rebarox85 She is definitely a talented gaslighter, so I wouldn't expect the layperson to be able to identify the dynamic. The only good here is this child has proof of her abusive mother.
Who signs over guardianship of their child to strangers? That is the most disturbing thing I’ve ever heard. And why was it necessary to do? Horrifying.
i know her in real life. shes hurting. her mom abuses her and talks to her the same way she does to her.
For real? When she said “I’m calling my best friend” is that you?
of course you do, and I'm Santa Claus himself
The mother is just the worst.
How is she doing now?
@@flwrgrl13 shes in a tbs.
The mother was so dismissive and I also felt, just as the daughter said, that she was just getting rid of her because she didn't want to put up with her.
This poor girl. My heart breaks for her and what she went through. I hope she heals, but also feel like she will not have a better relationship with her mother after getting discharged.
there is no way all of this is going on just because her father went to prison when she was 4. it has to be a lot deeper than that. i’ve never experienced such anger through a screen before.
Lol at the two dudes observing the situation clinically
😂😂😂
Girl: tears up on stage about how she felt abandoned when her father went to jail when she was 4 years ago and consistently feels emotionally abandoned by her smug mother
Dr Phil’s response: send the daughter away
Girl: 🤬🤬🤬🤬
Me: not your best resolution Phil 🙃
@Elisa Alvarado OR he could've sent both the mother and daughter to counseling. Something that they do together and the daughter doesn't feel abandoned YET AGAIN. The mom needs just as much work as her child.
This is really sad. I feel for that girl tho like the way she is acting, she is feeling so helpless, betrayed and abandoned. Her parents failed her and she is angry because she know there is something wrong with her and she was ready to change for it believing that her mother would also make the same effort to change and be a better mother for her but she feel cheated now. Poor girl i hope she will feel better, happy and loved soon
hearing how much pain her mother caused her by bring bounced around from foster home to foster home over&over made her feel unwanted&unloved. once they tried to mend their relationship again, i'm sure her biggest fear was getting close only to feel that way again. whether she's right about how her mom feels, her feelings are still 100% valid because that's what she's truly feeling. the way she looks at her mom as she goes to get up and try to leave shows her heartbreak.
Man, I totally understand getting sucked in... but how I wish the mom had just ignored her and not giving her that toxic payoff. Sad situation.
Classic example of a know it all teen.
If her parents were Asian, black or Muslim, R.I.P Destoni
@@haroldplum923 well it’s just that some cultures are just ‘stricter’ than other. But Not everyone in different ethnicities are like that necessarily.
@@haroldplum923 not really hard, just strict. It's no secret. It's not a stereotype. It's culture. This is considered the right way of parenting for us. We have culture. I'm guessing you're not among these ethnicities hence your concern.
@@haroldplum923 this strictness is actually really good. It allows the child to learn boundaries and order. It shows them not to run their mouth aimlessly. It allows them to respect authority and learn that this world does not revolve around them. Now strictness should not be confused by child abuse. That is totally different and not good. Strictness is mainly meant to teach the child Respect.
I for one thank God my mom was strict because when I look back at the times I thought it was "unfair" and how I turned out,it all makes sense. When I look at how reckless the people who had "chill" moms or whatever have become when they grew up, because they were babied like eggs growing up and didn't understand that the world doesn't revolve around them, I finally understand how governance while growing up builds a moral human being.
NB: this is not to be confused with child abuse. Child abuse is not right and often causes kids to grow up bitter and have a lot of trauma which is not good at all
not disagreeing or anything, but i also hate the stereotype that all white kids are disrespectful and their parents do not discipline. the stereotypical white families may be like that, but all my white friends and i have extremely strict parents who are not afraid to discipline us. i walk on eggshells around my mom, and god help me if i raised my voice at her
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This poor baby I relate to this outburst all to much:( she’s incredibly broken and she feels cornered. She doesn’t need to be sent away alone her mother needs just as much help and clearly some parenting classes
If I talked to my mom like that I’d be in my grave 😭🖐🏻
Comments like this don't help. That behavior is obviously coming from somewhere. It is wrong for her to act this way, but it isn't simply because she is a " brat" or spoiled or anything that these people are saying.
@@Gamingtv23658 never said anything about being spoiled it’s as simple as my parents don’t talorate that behavior and either way she shouldn’t be acting like that simple
@texasj123 facts
@Kyute she still shouldn’t be acting like that it makes her look childish and pathetic
If I talk to my teacher that way I be dead
It's heartbreaking when she said that they were supposed to get counseling together to fix the mom/daughter relation problem, but turns out only the daughter need to be "change" and alone doing the fixing. A relationship need both parties for it to work.. She's only 14, of course she's scared. Maybe that's the only mechanism she know to defence herself. Scream, curse and lash out. 💔
i truly feel bad for her... her mom hasnt been there for her and it definitely shows... shes not a bad kid, she is lost.
That mom does not love her daughter, and it's gotten to the point where her daughter is basically insane and yelling at her like a t rex and blowing my ear drums off, I'm not joking its truly heartbreaking, F for the girl who is getting sent to foster 😭
The mother does not give love and affection. The girl is upset and she not even a hug to confort her she gave. The mother does not leave the girl to talk and she do not listen the child. The child went through a separation that marked her alot(her father) and was easier to put the daughter in councelling than give a hug, listen and give love.
The way they ended up cornering her when all she wanted to do was call her best friend... I would have felt intimated/pissed off and got my back up too
Everyone in the comments are coming down on this mother and saying she’s dismissive of her daughters feelings. I actually think shes depleted not dismissive. She had nothing else to give but permission for a program to take over.
These people who work at these centres are saints. I’m a mental health nurse and these people/ kids are extremely hard work. I do think the need to be firmer with her though in calming her down. I understand she’s upset, angry, anxious and scared , but She’s running the show here. I’d love to see her and her mother work through everything and have a happy healthy and loving relationship. Raising kids is the hardest job in the world
You torture, abuse and deprive children of basic human dignity. Shame on you. These kids have life long PTSD after going to these places. I wouldn't brag if I were you
Ykw, if my mom signed guardianship to me to some random organization and if she sent me to the dr phil show for my problems to be exploited and broadcasted, I’d be pretty pissed too
She’s have to go into foster care cause there is no way that she’s going to talk to me like this.
Her mom is clearly not affectionate.. I wonder when is that last time she hugged her or told her she loved her and let her know everything is going to be ok???
That poor little girl needs a damn hug and someone to listen to her..
Anytime my husband has baby fever (which isn’t often) I just play these videos and it goes away pretty fast. I wouldn’t ever tolerate that type of behavior ever.
@Rachel Fourie if I decide to have kids they won’t be like that’ lol
@@BK69420 ironically they will if you have that attitude 🙈
I guarantee she'll be cringing at this behaviour in a few years if she gets the right help. Yikes.
Comments like yours don't help. lol I feel bad for the girl even though she's disrespectful. You seem to be making fun of her instead of feeling compassion or empathy.
It's pretty disturbing to see how many people are on the girls side. She's never been disciplined, she's never been held accountable for her own actions. Was her mother a perfect mother? No. Was she a perfect daughter? No. She is finally being held accountable for her behaviour and is getting the help she has been desperate for. And she needs to learn discipline because shes not going to get far in life without it.
I don't think this is about discipline I think this is about her getting help the mom needs help as well obviously and I'm pretty sure she's not like this 24/7 she's blatantly obviously having an emotional breakdown right now I know if I had one before this is what it's like but I do agree with you on taking accountability
This! I reading the comments and confused. Ofcourse the girl dont want to go and will put blame on the person that sending her there. This is a natural response from a unruly teen. Next who said that the mom will not get help too. Every show i watched Dr. Phil always call out the parent and will make them get help too.
@@Redds1111 Being an unruly is not a natural part of growing. She is choosing this behaviour. The level of disrespect coming from this girl is absolutely shocking. She's not a child and she knows better. You chose the behaviour, your chose the consequences. We don't know the full story. Yes maybe her mother does need help. But she's not acting like that! She's not resisting the help, she's not denying she needs the help. We have all had to face trauma in our lives. It doesn't give us an excuse to behave like that.
I just wanna hold her and rock her and tell her it will be okay. That I love her and that she is worthy of love and affection and she is WANTED!! This kid has no idea how else to communicate. She's dying inside. I pray that her mother and she got help and are living much better, healthier lives now ❤️
half of y’all are making jokes about this, but i have been in her shoes. i use to feel the same way she does and her screaming at her mom is just her letting her emotions out. i dont think that forcing her to go get treatment is the way to “fix” her. i hope her life gets better, i feel so bad for her:(
Jessie Wert were you like her don't worry if you were i have known lots of girls like that
@@timothywait9457 what do you mean “were you like her”, she literally said she was like her in her comment, why are you asking?
That 'you were fine for days' really did it for me. Of course she wasn't like that on the show. She didn't have to, because Dr Phil was listening.
She's not just misbehaving, she's trying to get people to listen. Mom needs to look her in the eye, and just not say anything.
My mom would have slapped me on my mouth for talking to her like this.
This is because kids are raised without respect.
No, because they're raised without love. A good parent doesn't need any violent mean to educate their child.
The girl here needs unconditional, pure love and she never received that. Her mom didn't even try to approach in some way, she just shrug the problem off while practically ignoring her. For 10 years.
@@cribarce agreed!!
Think about how traumatizing that would be after thinking you had a break through with your mom and she immediately signs her guardianship to strangers and telling her she has no rights. Some people don’t deserve to be parents and I hope she’s doing better
@Elisa Alvarado are you f****** serious right now you clearly haven't been watching any of the episodes if you're going to say something that insensitive
@Elisa Alvarado her poor mother huh so you would don't care at all about this child's trauma and that she needs her mother the most right now and that her mother is sending her away you only care about how the mother feels that's your f****** problem bro what that girl deserves is a caring mother and caring parents
Another forceful treatment kidnapping. This is absolutely disgusting. She wanted her mother to help her. She trusts her mom and she wants HER to listen, and now she feels even more abandoned. First from her father, and now from her mother.
It’s so funny how teens think if they cuss and yell enough that people in charge will change their minds. Girl, you’re a minor, you are not in control. 🙄😑
It’s clearly obvious that there’s a reason for her outburst and anger issues. It’s because she was completely abandoned and heartbroken by her own mother. It’s really damaging.💔
Her mother is like “ I’m finally rid of you” look on her face. Daughter is right, the mother is the problem
Mother is Done!!!
This poor child has been abandoned by her mother!
It’s easy to do the cop out on kids! She’s clearly terrified!
This young lady made more sense than the adults in the room.
The guy in the blue shirt, saying to her, “ your mother has gone and she’s not coming back”
So unprofessional! More terror and fear towards this young lady.
I do hope she’s safe and in a healthy environment.
By the way, where’s her grandparents in all this?
Someone she can be with and she knows and trusts.
She desperately needs love and nurturing. 😢❤
This is why I’m happy I’m 18 no adults to control my life