Too Emotional || Mayim Bialik

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  • Опубліковано 29 сер 2024
  • Do you ever get accused of being "too emotional"? Happens to me CONSTANTLY. Here's my vlog about why it makes me nuts and what I finally learned to say to people when they get up in my face about it.
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    You may know me as Amy Farrah Fowler from The Big Bang Theory, or from Blossom, but hopefully, these videos allow you to get to know me better as Mayim, too! Subscribe to my channel for video updates. I upload new videos every Thursday!
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    About Mayim Bialik:
    You ​might know me as Amy Farrah Fowler from The Big Bang Theory or from Blossom​ but there are so many other parts of me that you might not be aware of​!​​ I’m trained ​as a​ neuroscientist, ​I'm ​a passionate activist, an observant Jew, a​ perfectly imperfect​ mother, and ​I'm a complicated human being​ like many of you​. This is the place where I wear ​all of those hats - and none of them have a flower on them! ;)

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  • @Pogue4
    @Pogue4 7 років тому +723

    There are very few people I would love to sit down and have a coffee with you Mayim Bialik are one of them. :)

  • @EmziLou
    @EmziLou 7 років тому +74

    I'm actually crying while I watch this because it's like you just reached out of the screen and held my hand and said "Me too!". Thank you x

    • @venna1520
      @venna1520 4 роки тому +1

      Emma Louise
      Same here😭

    • @ZP916
      @ZP916 4 роки тому +1

      ♥️

  • @samanthacampbell375
    @samanthacampbell375 7 років тому +84

    It sounds like you have the tremendous gift of empathy. I hear you for I too can be overwhelmed by what I feel. Years of being made fun of for it caused me to become jaded towards the gift empathy truly is. I'm making my way back. Thank you for the encouragement.

    • @sarahadams7206
      @sarahadams7206 6 років тому

      Samantha Campbell a tremendous gift of privilege

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 6 років тому +2

      It took me a long time to realize that is one of my defining character traits and caused a lot of pain in my life starting from childhood. And I'm a man! That ... complicates things. Even today, because sorry, nope, I'm hetero. Still no mainstream support current.

  • @pixelatedDream
    @pixelatedDream 7 років тому +54

    The fact that you uploaded this just 3 days ago blows me away. Just a few nights ago I was incredibly upset because I dislike the fact that I feel so deeply about things. I get so emotional about so many things even things I see online, social injustices, mean things people say to other people. I get emotional at almost everything and I cry because of other emotions as well. I Cry when I'm sad, happy, mad, hurt or even just overwhelmed or frustrated and it's something I've always hated. I've had people tell me they were proud of me for "no offense, not acting like a baby" when I forced the tears down and forced a smile and acted with every bit of strength in me like I didn't care or hurt so much.
    This self-loathing for feeling emotions so strongly has been great for me especially lately as it's ramped up and has overwhelmed me at times.
    Hearing you talk about this makes me feel like I'm not alone and the message was incredibly uplifting. Thank you so much for taking the time to make this video.

    • @HighlySensitivePerson
      @HighlySensitivePerson 7 років тому +11

      Please don't hate yourself--there's nothing wrong with you. I urge you to look into the term "highly sensitive person".

    • @spotabee
      @spotabee 6 років тому +1

      You aren't alone. We're just not neighbours.

    • @talyah23
      @talyah23 6 років тому +1

      PixelatedDream I love what you wrote and can totally identify. I think we just need to remind ourselves that our "sensitivity" brings out empathy which helps us identify with others and reach out and help them and so in the end we're actually doing just fine xxx

    • @talyah23
      @talyah23 6 років тому +1

      @@spotabee your comment made me smile and warmed my oversensitive heart 😄😆

  • @janetzaretsky1821
    @janetzaretsky1821 7 років тому +48

    Thank you for posting this. This is beautifully expressed. I was ostracized in my own family for being too emotional, so I learned to stuff my feelings (literally-- with food). Then I was criticized for gaining weight. Thank God I found a program to let me know i was ok as I am, and now I cry with moving commercials, or simply when I am moved. I am grateful for the ability to empathize, love and express fully. It is ok for all of us. Thank you for using your celebrity to say that.

    • @melancholy7621
      @melancholy7621 7 років тому +5

      The Zenith Business I thought I was the only one ostracized (by my sisters) for being sensitive. I'm happy to know that you found a place that accepts you for who you are. I'm.hoping I find something of the same in the future ☺

    • @ari.loves_27
      @ari.loves_27 7 років тому +1

      The Zenith Business me too!

  • @SynthApprentice
    @SynthApprentice 7 років тому +157

    Your appreciation for pretty color paperclips is so adorable!

    • @Dowlphin
      @Dowlphin 6 років тому

      I recently got a USB reader and was so happy that not just white was a color option, but also rose.

  • @zamora77786
    @zamora77786 7 років тому +163

    I know exactly what you are talking about Mayim. Thank you for making this video. ❤️

  • @RobSomeone
    @RobSomeone 7 років тому +23

    I absolutely despise and loath Big Bang Theory, but after finding this channel I absolutely love Mayim. So smart and well spoken; I can't help but see and understand things from her perspective and insight. Just fantastic.

    • @DMills-un1tl
      @DMills-un1tl 6 років тому +3

      Questionable Context I'm sure you have your reasons, but who doesn't love Big Bang? They are the cutest grown up kids on the planet.

    • @miriyumyum3590
      @miriyumyum3590 3 роки тому

      @@DMills-un1tl I like tbbt but I do get why people maybe bot like that show.

  • @deetress2382
    @deetress2382 7 років тому +60

    I'm a crybaby, but I don't get emotional in front of people. My mother doesn't even remember the last time she saw me cry (and I'm suffering from depression so I cry almost every day). There's nothing wrong in crying and being emotional near people, but I just can't do it. I don't know why but I can't.

    • @FloridaGrandma
      @FloridaGrandma 7 років тому +12

      I know exactly how you feel. I have been very depressed for the past few years due to severe health problems. It got so bad I couldn't hide it anymore so I quit being around people and stay home alone most of the time. No one sees me cry except my service dog and it upsets him greatly when I am upset. I hope you beat your depression. I hope we both do. Saying a prayer for you and everyone suffering with depression. ❤💚💜💙💛

    • @AvaLance
      @AvaLance 7 років тому +1

      My sister Cry's like one time a year.Its really weird to see her cry.

    • @May04bwu
      @May04bwu 7 років тому

      I can't do it either and I'm not even depressed anymore.

    • @abortion_worst_CRIME_inHISTORY
      @abortion_worst_CRIME_inHISTORY 7 років тому +2

      nothing maybe because they have comndened your feelings, so you are afraid to show them.

    • @karenannyoung3767
      @karenannyoung3767 7 років тому +3

      It makes me feel sad because of your ID, nothing. You aren't a nothing. I suffer from depression also and because my parents were embaressed if I cried in public, I try not to. Once I did in the dentist office and after that it got easier to cry in front of people. Mostly I cry alone. DH doesn't like it, but my stuffed animals and dolls do and I'm not ashamed that at 69 I have some really cool stuffed animals that I love!!! For all who suffer from depression, you aren't alone. Wish we could all get together and accept each other for who we are. We are special and important. Also, you might try art. I get a lot of pleasure out of it just for myself. Much love to you!!!

  • @dasowle89
    @dasowle89 7 років тому +12

    There is nothing wrong with having a empathic heart! I wish more people in this world carried your sensitivity traits.

  • @ostblocklatina93
    @ostblocklatina93 7 років тому +142

    i know those feelings. i'm very sensitive

    • @ostblocklatina93
      @ostblocklatina93 7 років тому +8

      i had a lot of trouble in my last relationship because of that. i can't handle people with a stone heart.

    • @AusticHardOfHearingSinger
      @AusticHardOfHearingSinger 7 років тому +3

      portweinzecke Same. :)

    • @sleepypuppy29
      @sleepypuppy29 7 років тому +1

      portweinzecke I try to stop but I can't.

    • @littleblondemop
      @littleblondemop 7 років тому +3

      Yeah, that was the other word that came to mind as I watched this. I'm very sensitive too. It's not easy to be like that in this world. I'm also a peacemaker personality and can't stand drama. Always have been.

    • @sarahfara1539
      @sarahfara1539 6 років тому

      It sucks being told that you're "dramatizing" or "exaggerating" all the time just becaue you feel things the way you do. I've had the same problem, especially in relationships with much more "rational" partners to never feel validated for the way I perceive things... like, it's too "intense" for them, so it doesn't even really exist.

  • @kkmmrew
    @kkmmrew 7 років тому +3

    when i was little i told my dad that i was to emotional after crying over a book i was reading. my dad said "your emotions are what make you human" i have never forgotten that.

  • @sandyciancanelli7324
    @sandyciancanelli7324 7 років тому +4

    Having "too many feelings" or "too emotional" is where it's at! Not having emotional reactions means you are numb and self absorbed! SO YOU GO GIRL!!!! LOVEEEEE YOU AND ALL YOUR FEELINGS!!!

  • @Laineyslife
    @Laineyslife 7 років тому +39

    I'm am crazy emotional 😭 it's bad I cry at everything I was told to grow up ugh!! I've always been this way. I'm 57 now

    • @SueDNim
      @SueDNim 6 років тому

      Same way, same age. Have a high five, kindred spirit! ✋

    • @jaclynh9343
      @jaclynh9343 5 років тому +1

      Me too like crying somehow is immature like seriously.... clearly tears are unwelcome as we grow up bc we are taught to be adult is not to cry bc ppl associate crying with babies... its BS

  • @mrob997
    @mrob997 7 років тому +9

    She puts a smile on my face.
    I love to hear her speak
    A pleasure

  • @createplanprosper699
    @createplanprosper699 6 років тому +3

    Mayim, this means so much to me. I’ve tried to “control” my emotions for so long until the past couple years when I finally realized it IS a super-power. Not everyone can be as passionate as empathetic, appreciative, emotional people like us. It’s intense, but real.

  • @bibiabolacha
    @bibiabolacha 7 років тому +47

    Thank you so much for this video, Mayim 💟 It really meant a lot to me!

  • @sanitysquota937
    @sanitysquota937 6 років тому +2

    Am I the only one that appreciates how she moves around the room from moment to moment? It's like each move was an indent to separate paragraphs. It imprints structure and keeps the image we are looking at throughout the conversation interesting as well.

  • @mariethatsme
    @mariethatsme 7 років тому +3

    Sharing on my FB LIKE page. "You're just gonna have to toughen up." was something I heard once from a distant family member who was giving me advice on how to handle my broken home. It rang in my ears for years because it was such empty advice. I didn't know how to not feel so hard...not be so sad for others. I never did toughen up and often felt like the rest of the world had numbed itself in a way I wasn't capable of. Now I'm a mommy to a little girl who oozes empathy for others. I'm glad she will be understood and not told "just to toughen up" as she's tossed into the fray.

  • @maribeldelatorre1269
    @maribeldelatorre1269 7 років тому +2

    Yes! I always thought of it as a super power...I love that someone else understands. I literally feel like my heart will implode... it's empathy

  • @MsLovableMuffin
    @MsLovableMuffin 7 років тому +7

    Mayim Bialik, you are the voice of everything that is true in this world.
    I can relate to this on so many levels.
    BTW, I actually have paperclips with a bunny decoration of them. I have tons of them in different colors, and glasses, and sweaters... and I never use them. They are just too cute.

  • @jorgenunez6275
    @jorgenunez6275 7 років тому +2

    Thank you, Mayim! It's tough being too emotional. Especially if you're a man and live in Mexico. But your words bring some comfort. 😊

  • @MeanJoeNSGA1
    @MeanJoeNSGA1 7 років тому +6

    I know those feelings also and i'm a 58 year old man. For Christmas last year my wife got me a jacket with my Navy Ship on it and I started to tear up. So I know what you are going through. I like myself so you too must like yourself.

  • @Nikcholey
    @Nikcholey 7 років тому +4

    WOW. I have never though about this before!! TOTALLY changes how I will feel now when someone is uncomfortable with me showing emotion. It's because they can't handle there emotion in the situation. THANK YOU!!

  • @Womanwithblackdog
    @Womanwithblackdog 7 років тому +6

    If we lived next door to each other we would be best friends. Thanks for this vlog. I love to watch it. It touches me that someone like you, such an accomplished and beautiful person, would take the time and spend the effort to share something so personal and meaningful.

  • @SoofiValencia
    @SoofiValencia 7 років тому +2

    You had me at crying at commercials. Thank you so much for this talk, I needed it.

  • @gluckmac
    @gluckmac 6 років тому +3

    I cry in public because of good things and bad things I have encountered or experienced. I’ve been told I have a tender heart, and that I care about people, even the toxic ones.
    While talking to a friend about his son who had turned his life around I started crying tears of joy. My friend hugged me, and thanked me for always caring and rejoicing about his son.
    I once cried because a friend of my fiancé died. I started crying, and she rebuked me by saying, “What are you crying for? You didn’t know her!”
    We didn’t get married

  • @ip9111
    @ip9111 7 років тому +8

    I really enjoy listening to you Mayim. I get "Geez, it's only an animal" as I am a great lover of them. It makes me feel upset and confused that they don't feel the same.

  • @aliciam.3380
    @aliciam.3380 7 років тому +22

    Such a beautiful mind and heart!

  • @jefferyford5309
    @jefferyford5309 7 років тому

    My whole TED Talk is about how are differences make us special. Mayim truly incorporates her differences throughout her art and life and it makes her a truly beautiful human being. I LOVE this video!

  • @malloryreed4765
    @malloryreed4765 7 років тому +3

    This is brilliant and beautiful. Thank you for sharing your insight - I truly relate!

  • @theoldaccountthatiusedtous6767
    @theoldaccountthatiusedtous6767 6 років тому +1

    I agree! It's not your responsibility to limit yourself because some people don't know how to deal with their feelings of discomfort when you are genuine and true to your experience. As they say, "don't set yourself on fire to keep others warm."
    I am talking about you... but I am also talking about me. And anyone else who grew up and learned that they are "too much" and can only be loved if they are cheerful all the time. Y'all deserve to live a wholehearted honest life and you deserve to be loved as yourself and to relax.

  • @joannaskor316
    @joannaskor316 7 років тому +20

    I think you're a great version of being human.

  • @nahedjalloul8692
    @nahedjalloul8692 7 років тому

    People like you warm my heart, coming from a person who works with Parkinson's disease patients and mostly having a really hard time handling empathy in a way that it doesn't come off as pity.

  • @ellie-pandathelittlebears5550
    @ellie-pandathelittlebears5550 7 років тому +11

    How did I not know you had a channel! Highlight of my morning.

  • @veronicasuarez1033
    @veronicasuarez1033 6 років тому +1

    Two years ago I was supervised at work and I was really insecure and nervous and i started crying, my then boss helped me to calm down but a few weeks later when I decided to quit he told me i was immature and too emotional. Thank you for this video!

  • @GTTNGTHR
    @GTTNGTHR 7 років тому +3

    It's SO nice to know I'm not broken like a lot of people make me feel. Thank you Mayim ❤️

  • @daniellericklefs3188
    @daniellericklefs3188 6 років тому

    I used to struggle with my empathic gift until my pastor's wife said we share God's gift of tears! I feel such pride now.

  • @jasondurham9034
    @jasondurham9034 7 років тому +3

    Mayim, thank you for this video. I'm afraid I can relate - but I've learned to accept it. In fact, it's because of that sensitivity I became a Messianic rabbi, so I could help others as a counselor.

  • @Muhalka
    @Muhalka 5 років тому +2

    Amen, sister. Finally has someone spoken out all this things I feel.

  • @phenomenalpower3025
    @phenomenalpower3025 4 роки тому +3

    I have tears right now after watching this video. She really touch my heart.

  • @craftlover9702
    @craftlover9702 7 років тому

    THANK YOU! I've struggled with this ALL my life, always felt like the odd one out, been made fun of, etc because I'm tooooo emotional but through a lot of soul searching I have realized I am an empath and actually feel others' pain, not just my own. It has taken me a long time to understand it and I'm not grateful that I am in touch with my sensitive side because it makes me a stronger person in the long run....

  • @2112jodi
    @2112jodi 7 років тому +7

    You are perfect just the way you are , thanks for sharing your life you emotions and all of you with us in this way!!

  • @Neenie67
    @Neenie67 7 років тому +1

    I'm 50 and still not comfortable in my own skin. You hit on so many issues- you're an inspiration.

  • @pacrii
    @pacrii 7 років тому +20

    Mayim, can you talk about what it's like to be a scientist with emotions. I found in my field I had to train myself to reason through logic, not just feeling or intuition. The professors I worked with did not compute my feelings on theories or how experiments went. Did you struggle with this?

    • @cleo421
      @cleo421 7 років тому +1

      Yes, please Mayim! Even though I am a wildlife biologist my other colleagues are scientist in the field of microbiology, physics, IT, or other areas and I find it difficult to be around them because I am a very emotional person and I am also a non-atheist ... If you could do a video on how to manage rationality with emotion especially within our professional community that would be awesome!

  • @Lyn_Marie_
    @Lyn_Marie_ 3 роки тому

    I've been told I'm too sensitive my whole life. I say thank you, it's my super power, it's the gift of compassion and empathy.

  • @Moca-Mist
    @Moca-Mist 7 років тому +3

    I thought I was the only one that cried when I saw a homeless person. Relieved I'm not. I'm extremely sensitive and hated being that way for years. I used to watch videos on how to be tough & strong. And for a while it worked but it wasn't me. I felt empty, living a lie just so I wouldn't be considered weak. Years later, Now I finally embrace my sensitivity. :-)

  • @hellohumansandbeings6985
    @hellohumansandbeings6985 7 років тому +1

    "Love yourself with the exact tools the use to bring you down. Their insults are complements waiting to be discovered by wonderful you. "

  • @Annabelsong108
    @Annabelsong108 7 років тому +114

    you must be a cool mom

    • @funch357
      @funch357 7 років тому +6

      My thoughts exactly!

    • @shubh5614
      @shubh5614 6 років тому

      she is

  • @biancacolon3593
    @biancacolon3593 6 років тому

    This is extremely comforting to me. Being so emotional often causes me a great deal of anxiety and fear. However, watching this makes me realize its not a negative thing. Thank you

  • @BeekoKat
    @BeekoKat 7 років тому +12

    OMG the colored paper clips ... I too want to hold on to them and then dole out the ones in the color I like the least first.

  • @aymeluizabrueckheimerschut2556
    @aymeluizabrueckheimerschut2556 7 років тому

    I'm too emotional. Once I tryed and achieved not be that emotional, but I realized that it costs me a lot, because I wasn't feeling life anymore, I wasn't feeling compassion. It was when I decided that I rather be too emocional and sensitive than not feeling at all. Tears of joy and sadness, as any tears, give life meaning. You're great Mayim, a big inspiration!!!

  • @Sabbathissaturday
    @Sabbathissaturday 7 років тому +5

    OMG!!! I must need therapy! I have way too many rescue dogs, I'm so upset over all of the kids in Foster care and waiting to be adopted right now! I cry over everything too. (Even more now, b/c I'm menopausal) I've never been told that I'm so sensitive though, b/c well I'd knock the crap out of them! lol
    I like your videos though :-) You go with your bad self!!! Stay Sensitive! It does make you a better person. I call it having a deeper conscious than most people.

    • @rarad.3793
      @rarad.3793 7 років тому +2

      E Wood therapy isn't needed ... you're human!!! and that's all that needs to be said!

    • @Sabbathissaturday
      @Sabbathissaturday 7 років тому +1

      Rara D. True that!! Besides, who needs therapy when I can self medicate with a good bottle of red wine ha! ;) HAPPY NEW YEAR!!

  • @angiem5636
    @angiem5636 6 років тому +1

    You just described me all the way! And BTW, Im crying to hear a smart, talented, humble and sensitive woman like you are, beautifully saying how much our feelings matters! God Bless Your Heart and your life always!

  • @digitalghost1383
    @digitalghost1383 7 років тому +11

    Thank you for this. As a fellow Ph.D., I wonder if you experienced this particularly in academia. I know I did. I was always being told that the "appropriate" response to injustice or any number of problematic cultural realities was to intellectualize them and theorize about them--and never, _ever_ take it any farther. I was supposed to have thoughts about the world, but not feelings, and I was certainly not supposed to express those feelings among other academics. Did you experience this at all in your studies, and, if so, how did you handle it? How can we resist the pressure to feel less and less strongly when that pressure is communicated as a professional obligation?

    • @robinhays8779
      @robinhays8779 7 років тому +2

      W Dustin Parrott --
      No one should have to give up their humanity for the sake of science! Science is a man-made construct designed to help us understand our world. We should be in control of it, since it is our creation, not the other way around!

    • @odsonic
      @odsonic 5 років тому

      the world today takes things too far at times

  • @unpopablebubble
    @unpopablebubble 6 років тому

    This is my ENTIRE LIFE. It’s taken me literally 27 years to be okay with being a sensitive person. It still sucks, sometimes, to feel things so, so deeply, but at least now I’m (more often than not) able to brush away others’ ridicule of me as their own internal shortcomings instead of thinking I’m wrong for being “too sensitive.”

  • @carlaconce
    @carlaconce 7 років тому +5

    Thank you. Thank you so, so much.

  • @CamilleOlivia
    @CamilleOlivia 7 років тому +2

    BoyHOWDY! You sure hit the nail on the head with this one. My sister recently told me that I'm "so dramatic". I asked what she meant. She said "you cry at the drop of a hat. You make everything so BIG. Too much drama." (all this over my distress when her grandbaby was screaming whilst being bathed. It broke my heart to hear that child cry like that.) I am who I am. I'm not sorry for how deeply I feel. But you're right; it's hard sometimes. Oh well. I'd rather FEEL deeply than be numb. Thanks, Mayim.

  • @MsRandomnotes1
    @MsRandomnotes1 7 років тому +28

    I cry in private, but that's me. At least I do cry:)

    • @sssophie9292
      @sssophie9292 7 років тому +2

      Same. I don't think I've cried in public since primary school, and even then I just wanted to be alone.

  • @emmae3219
    @emmae3219 7 років тому +2

    This woman is amazing and beautiful and touches my heart so much💚💚

  • @drsupriyatiwari
    @drsupriyatiwari 7 років тому +13

    You are amazing Mayim. love all of your videos! 💕

  • @paulinarittscher215
    @paulinarittscher215 5 років тому

    Before the end of the series, I didn't know you had these videos. I was so sad and depressed that the series had ended, a series that not only identified with me, but also with my husband and or marriage. The emptiness sensation wad so vast that I needed more, so I started to look at cast interviews, bloopers and other Big Bang stuff..... and then I found you.....
    WOW!!!!
    With your videos you started to describe me, exactly how I am. I had to show it to my husband because I was seriously astonished and wanted to be sure I wasn't seeing and hearing what I wanted and not what you were saying, I was right, thank GOD. There are many differences between us, of course, I'm obese you are not, you are famous and believe me, I am not, you are Jewish and I'm Christian (with a deep and profound love and respect to all the Jewish community around the world, you were, are and always will be GOD'S chosen people).
    Thank you for being you, and thank you for sharing you with me!
    Much love and ❤ and GOD bless you and your beautiful family❣🙏

  • @vaneprospero
    @vaneprospero 7 років тому +4

    +Mayim Bialik - Awwww. Thank you! You talk with our souls.

  • @elysegambino1597
    @elysegambino1597 7 років тому +1

    I felt like you were speaking right to me. Feels so empowering to have part of me so articulated and celebrated- thanks for your words.

  • @amycummingsirishdancemom8467
    @amycummingsirishdancemom8467 7 років тому +38

    Bahaha the colored paper clip part is so me

    • @JeffinerM
      @JeffinerM 7 років тому +7

      I know! I finally feel understood! (:
      I've gone out and bought ordinary paperclips when work got me colour paperclips, so I wouldn't have to use the colour ones!

  • @ApotropaicV
    @ApotropaicV 6 років тому

    It's so validating to hear this description and explication of high sensitivity. I've been teased--a lot--for being 'sensitive.' I was sensitive early on, but even at 23, I was described as being 'the saddest girl in the world.' 20 years have not helped. A sibling recently teased me because, when I was 8 years old, our family went fishing and caught a fish...and I wept, loudly. I was so upset that my parents unhooked him and released him back into the stream (likely to die shortly thereafter). It's 30-some years later, but I was incensed when my sibling described my youthful reaction as 'ridiculous' and 'histrionic.' As if I could do 'better' now. I walk through the world feeling very alone because I don't understand other people: why they don't cry at tragedy, why they don't get outraged at injustice, and why they turn their empathy to closed eyes. I've been a bit verbose, but thank you for addressing the emotional elephant who's always in my room. P.S. Elvis Costello forever. I was so stunned and tremulous at meeting him that I shook his hand, bowed, and quietly murmured, 'thank you.' Yes, I had tears in my eyes.

  • @155Nikki
    @155Nikki 7 років тому +6

    Thank you. I mean it.

  • @michaelcross5289
    @michaelcross5289 5 років тому

    So needed to hear that today, as a person who still at 40 years old gets teased and put down because I am a very emotional sensitive person, it feels good to know that I’m not alone and that it’s not something that I should have shame over rather it’s something I should be proud of. Thank you....

  • @VitruvianVision
    @VitruvianVision 7 років тому +3

    She is really great as a person. Seriously.

  • @jamielashley6219
    @jamielashley6219 7 місяців тому

    Other people's words have an impact on how we view ourselves and the world around us. Words can have multiple definitions. We have the ability to choose which definition of the words used to change our perception. And I am truly valuing this ability we all hold. You said it beautifully. Our minds are beautiful and the techniques it chooses to help us identify emotions to learn to transmute and understand situations better is quite remarkable. I choose to see my emotions as a teacher to help me understand life better. Personally, I admire your ability to express your emotions through crying, I actually find it difficult. But I am learning how to cry without needing suffering through visualization and connecting more deeply with myself. Changing my perception of words has been fun as well, through that of music. I am using this technique to view situations in life in a more neutral yet in a positive way. Just as you have learned to change your perception, it truly helps to find a deeper connection with life. Our empathy is definitely a gift and one that I value so much now. It's been helpful to teach my children how to accept their emotions and how to change their perceptions as well. I appreciate your words, empathy and emotions.

  • @crystalb.-atexaninaz4482
    @crystalb.-atexaninaz4482 7 років тому +4

    This is such a great, positive message!! Thank you.

  • @RonWhitaker
    @RonWhitaker 7 років тому

    I cried like a baby when I watch this. Not pain but joy and glee for I too have finally arrived at comfort with my sensitive emotional being. Thanks for the video.

  • @orangetee5
    @orangetee5 6 років тому +3

    Your Best video so far. U made my day ! 😬👯

  • @rae21evermore
    @rae21evermore 7 років тому

    Thank you!!! I have saved this and will go back and watch it every time someone tells me I'm to "sensitive" or "I only make fun of you cause I like you."

  • @sarahsankey5460
    @sarahsankey5460 7 років тому +3

    💖💖we are so alike thank you for sharing this 💖 💖 i get very sad about abuse a child a animal old people 💖💖

  • @hannahmore9118
    @hannahmore9118 6 років тому

    I totally get it. This is exactly why I stopped watching the news and reading the newspaper. My mental/emotional health is more important than being 'informed'. I would not be able to sleep for crying all night over the horrors exposed on the news. But when I saw a young man sitting outside a store with a sign, all I saw was my son. He was my sons age, or there abouts. I gave him every thing I had, and then wept for hours after. Bless you.

  • @kikutachan7885
    @kikutachan7885 7 років тому +4

    This made me really happy and understood. 😊❤

  • @kimberlycolleen1494
    @kimberlycolleen1494 6 років тому

    This video means more to me than anyone could ever know. Thank you so much!!💜 I've never heard anyone talk about this. I didn't know anyone else struggled with this issue. I've never really talked about this before other than a few close friends I have had through out my life. My whole life I've been told I'm too sensitive. I have been told I cry to much or I over react to everything. My mom could never handle how emotional I am and as ashamed as I am to admit it, often when I would cry she would hit me or throw whatever things she had around her at me and said some of the most horrible things to me that I can't bring myself to repeat... no matter what it was I was upset about... which just made it worse because I would get more upset and cry harder. (She never had this kind of relationship with my older brother or sister. Just me. She never hit or hirt them so as a kid I felt like there was something wrong with me and I felt like everywhere I was I was unwanted and I stayed in my head alot afraid to speak and annoy someone. I Still do It alot) It annoyed her when I cried or got upset. As I got older it turned into her beating the shit out of me if I'm being honest. I never hit or fought back other than one time when I got older and was already an "adult" I pushed her away from me and I never have forgiven myself. My sister made fun of me alot and she was always on my mom's side even though I always took her side. My brother just got super annoyed and pissed like my mom. It hurts because I love them so much and I could never hurt them the way what they do hurts me. I wouldn't ever want them to feel the pain that they have caused me. I let them run over me and treat me horribly and I just never stop loving them and trying to treat them kindly the way I wished they would do for me. (Honestly, i started trying to self medicate my problems away at the age of 12 with pills alcohol and pot etc. Cuz my mom didn't really care all that much but as I got older I turned to harder drugs and I do consider myself an addict. I'm trying to recover but I will always be an addict). Over time they all just started calling me a phyco or crazy and all kinds of other stuff like that when I would cry. They still do it constantly. (I can't stop myself from crying. I really can't. Mad, sad, anxious, happy, fustrated, etc. I cry.) I'm working on not letting it hurt me. I just can't help it. It makes relationships harder because the guy I'm with now, I've known him for 8 years (dated on and off but been together now for a few years) just about and even he sometimes gets fustrated and asks me why I'm over reacting etc. I've gotten to a place where at least with him I just tell him I'm not over reacting, I'm just reacting. This is how it has affected me and I can't help that. At least he tries to understand though. At least I have him. It's just scary to think I might get too emotional or something and he will leave. It's good to know I'm not the only one struggling with this and I'm not just some crazy phyco or whatever lol.

  • @Mrs_Guac_and_Glock
    @Mrs_Guac_and_Glock 7 років тому +4

    Yet another reason Mayim Bialik is a genius

  • @gb11809
    @gb11809 7 років тому

    Thank you. My parents used to tell me "you're so sensitive... you need to toughen up or you will suffer so much in life". Now I think just like you said: it makes my life so full of emotion, meaningful. Never jaded, definitely. Sometimes it's hard. But in the end, definitely worth it.

  • @MrThwor
    @MrThwor 7 років тому +37

    I am dead inside, so I don't get accused of being emotional, no.

    • @polinawroblewski8419
      @polinawroblewski8419 7 років тому +5

      Rodrigo de Toni I can relate to that so much.

    • @emiliommundsen6485
      @emiliommundsen6485 7 років тому +4

      yeah, same /:

    • @lilydarkmoore8769
      @lilydarkmoore8769 7 років тому +17

      I'm sorry to hear that you feel "dead inside." What a horrible thing to endure! To be unable to enjoy this amazing world we have around us, or to revel in the joys of beauty or humor or a kind act must be soul-crushing. I hope that you can find a really good therapist to help you rediscover your inner life, so that the world is more than just gray ash around you all the time, metaphorically speaking. I wish for you and the others who also feel "dead inside" much good luck recapturing your humanity.

    • @jclyntoledo
      @jclyntoledo 7 років тому +1

      That was beautiful. As someone who used to feel "dead inside" I can say that it is torture. It is essentially a version of hell being able to see everyone enjoy things that seem to not be able to penetrate your heart, and only feeling pain or numbness. I hope those people can get better and feel more connected to what's around them like I have; but unlike me, I hope the process isn't as long.

    • @CerberusProject
      @CerberusProject 6 років тому

      I'm not dead inside, but I can't comprehend emotionalism. I wish I could, I remember at one point I wasnt like this. The worst part is I can tell, somewhere deep down, those emotions are still there. I just cant access them anymore it seems, always just out of reach. I am a result of my accumulation of experiences.

  • @florencelinderman3797
    @florencelinderman3797 7 років тому

    I haven't been teased. I have been torn down. After listening to you, I know you have hit the nail on the head. These critical people tend to be apathetic about the world around them and so when I come along and feel (or reflect the pain in this world) their reaction is, "NO! DON'T MAKE ME FEEL ANYTHING!"
    Thank you for helping me to see my Super Power. And again, I have noticed that my joy, my happiness, does exceed theirs.

  • @TomRipley7350
    @TomRipley7350 7 років тому +4

    Utterly wonderful, wise video.

  • @6lack5ushi
    @6lack5ushi 6 років тому

    THANK YOU! idk why this resonated!!! because everything you've said I have had to learn. I suppressed myself to make myself more like everyone else. but i've realised its my feelings that make me make the art i make, make me stick with my dissertation even when I am working 16hour days! and its almost my super power! and Ive stopped trying to fit in and finding out where I fit in. I lost many 'friends' but gained soulmates just being me.

  • @chadsknnr
    @chadsknnr 7 років тому +4

    Dear Dr. Bialik,
    :) :) :) U R Soooooo Sensitive!! :) :) :)

  • @melanieknitsalot
    @melanieknitsalot 7 років тому

    This made me cry. Thank-you, Mayim. ❤ I, too, am sensitive and "too emotional." It is definitely a strength to be able to feel big emotions. It is, as you say, a super power. My son is the same way, and we are helping him learn to cope and understand those feelings. Your words are yet another tool for our tool box. Namaste.

  • @manahil4927
    @manahil4927 7 років тому +22

    My teacher showed us this video in math class

    • @anaclarahernandez3224
      @anaclarahernandez3224 7 років тому +5

      SprinklesOnTop thats so sweet❤ what a smart and wonderfull teacher

    • @DMills-un1tl
      @DMills-un1tl 6 років тому

      SprinklesOnTop Now thats awesome and a way cool teacher!

    • @rhsharp
      @rhsharp 5 років тому

      What a wonderful teacher!

  • @NMC1998
    @NMC1998 7 років тому

    I've lost so many friends because they didn't want to handle my sad breakdowns and my sensitiveness as you said and at the moment they left me I always thought it was my fault for being well, sensitive. Now I understand. Thank you so much.

  • @cubsx3782
    @cubsx3782 7 років тому +5

    Chair to the left, chair to the right, a lot of chair shuffling!!!

    • @alimamacat1580
      @alimamacat1580 5 років тому

      Cubs x3 yes!!!! It’s driving me insane!!!

  • @myhappyplans
    @myhappyplans 7 років тому

    Yes, my entire life I have been teased or called out for being sensitive, taking things personally, and being too emotional. Only recently have I embraced it as who I am. 💖 It only took 38 years! I love your channel!

  • @amandaword1664
    @amandaword1664 7 років тому +4

    You are perfect!

  • @TheFirstBlush
    @TheFirstBlush 7 років тому +1

    It's so validating to see a real woman in the World who is so, SO relatable and outspoken. Thank you!

  • @goodi2shooz
    @goodi2shooz 7 років тому +4

    #twinsies! you remind me so much of me!

  • @ari.loves_27
    @ari.loves_27 7 років тому +1

    Legit crying watching this because THIS, THIS is exactly how I feel!!!!! So glad I found this video!!!

  • @jbk0507
    @jbk0507 7 років тому +5

    You are empathetic.

  • @brunareivax3258
    @brunareivax3258 7 років тому

    I get what you say about things that usually dont let people said but make you cry. I dont usually cry in front of people because I dont just dont feel comfortable but sometimes a wave of sadness hits me when I hear something that reminds me how many people see animals as objects or something. The way I see it, an animal's life is just as important as ours and neither them or us should suffer. Its nice to know that there are other people out there who think and feel the same way.

  • @kimandersen3423
    @kimandersen3423 7 років тому +5

    celebrate your quirkiness!

  • @mirfir
    @mirfir 7 років тому +1

    I get more sensitive the older I get. You hit it 100%! Love you loads!

  • @kamariasia
    @kamariasia 7 років тому

    My oldest daughter is like this, she's only 8 but she feels everything.... It's a part of me ive been working very hard to change, this video helps me understand her more and work on getting back in touch with my own emotions. Thank You

  • @ananimity7332
    @ananimity7332 7 років тому +2

    I agree 100%
    For most of my life I've been told that I'm too emotional or too sensitive. I've been told this by men I've been in relationships with. I'm told my heart is too soft and it gets me hurt. I've been told that I'm far too romantic and that I use my heart in situations instead of my head. After hearing this for so long a part of me has stopped doing those things. I don't always feel things. I'm trying to change that.
    I'm so happy that I discovered your channel.