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I Cheated on My Husband (Should I Tell Him?)
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- Опубліковано 19 гру 2021
- I Cheated on My Husband (Should I Tell Him?)
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My wife did this to me, she told me that she 'kissed a guy' and that it was a mistake and it was over, I took us to counselling. The therapist saw through her lies in 5 minutes and she cracked open. Turns out she had a full blown emotional and sexual relationship with a coworker for a year. I'm divorcing her now. Cheaters are the biggest selfish assholes on earth.
Stay strong friend. Been there
If they tell you it’s worst then whatever they tell ya. I found out my wife had an emotional relationship I let her cheat a lot of family and friends where mad when this was revealed I made sure her parents caught her 1 day I invited them out to lunch same spot my ex wife and BF would go. Knowing she would of cheated but I stopped her I wouldn’t be able to trust her the same way so why not let her go full tilt
Betrayal. That's the hardest to deal with. If a stranger is cruel to you, it hurts less because you never invested your deepest trust to that person.
Stay strong.
Good for you man. And im sorry yours going through this. Be strong in the Lord.
Why do people refer to cheating as a “mistake”? It’s not a mistake. Cheating is a choice. You do not trip and fall and land on another man or woman’s privates. 🤦🏻♀️
Because she wants to sound less guilty. It’s something manipulators do.
I agree...but look up Ehsan Abdulaziz
People can regret their bad actions. A mistake is an action or judgement that was misguided or wrong.
"Mistake" is not synonymous with "accident." Mistakes are intentional, bad decisions which can lead to accidents. Accidents are unintentional, like the consequences from mistakes. I think you're using them interchangeably.
You are so right
She got busted AND only wants to tell him because of guilt.
What a selfless woman!
he’s gonna leave her as soon as she tells him.
You mean selfish. Right?
@Tony-bp1nr You are right. Thank you.
@@ryanzackel2019hopefully. He absolutely should leave her. Can’t ever have trust in a relationship after that.
Imagine having two children… married for 5 years… and still decide to cheat. This fucking world is a scary scary sick place.
My dad did this when I was 7 or 8 urs old...it tore me my twin brother and my mom...I have forgiven him 16 yes later but I dotn accept him as my father anymore
She didn’t just betray her husband. She betrayed her whole family. Poor kids.
Are those kids even his? He should demand a DNA test.
That statement is true.
@@cennon So true
Seriously don’t understand this, as someone who works out 5/6 days a week this is so common too. She destroys her family for a trainer who is probably running through women. As someone who has a couple friends who are trainers some of the stories they have shared with me are pretty crazy. Honestly if your a husband build a home gym for your wife. It’s crazy how many times married women have flirted with me at the gym and I am just a guy whose slightly above average looking but in great shape. This is just very common unfortunately.
@@johnsmith-kt7ef It's not about you Satan is just trying to destroy what you have
"I found myself in a relationship"
"He just started talking to me"
"We ended up sleeping together"
"I made a mistake"
No accountability. At all. If she had any she'd say "I chose to cheat on my husband. It was awful and now I don't know what to do."
Typical woman
sounds like narc traits
do you know men who say I chose to cheat on my wife. This is the lack of unaccountability in people.
They never take responsibility.It’s always someone else’s fault
@@eyoung8215yes all the guys I know that did something like that said it openly 😂😂 men admit it pretty easily. I have yet to hear a woman do the same.
As a married man - this really hurts my heart
Yeah right!!... No good husband and No good wife deserves that!!.. ❤️
I’m married, my husband cheated on me.. I know it, he knows I know it. I’ve begged him to just tell me cause not knowing is the worst part but he won’t. Him not telling me is the worse part tbh, my husband doesn’t even respect me enough to tell me he cheated on me when I ask him about it to his face. That’s the worst part
@@ATexasPerson101Is he willing to go to couple’s counseling? If he’s not willing to work on your relationship and be honest with you, it’s time for you to leave. Life is precious and you don’t deserve to waste a single second longer with someone who disrespects you. There are good men out there who would never even dream of hurting you like that.
@@angelkat333 yes. I’m a SAHM though and I would have to leave this state so I’m trying to figure it out.
@@ATexasPerson101 you gotta ask yourself if he told you the truth would you forgive him? If the answer is "no" then you gotta do what's best for you and your child and just leave. He'll never respect you enough to tell you the truth, much less not keep cheating on you in the future. If he thinks he got away with it once, he'll do it again. I hate cheaters, my ex wife cheated on me and didn't admit it until I caught her red handed.
wife cheated on me. She wanted us to stay together. But I explained that a woman can never again fully respect a man who would allow that and stay with her. She will never look at him quite the same for tolerating it. I dont make the rules. Thats the wiring.
Good on you. You are 100% correct.
@@seecklara3893 Thanks. I wanted to deal with it and be forgiving as she showed genuine remorse (possibly) but I knew she could not ever respect me the same if I did that. I think a lot of men dont understand this.
Truth
You are 1000% correct.
💯 accurate!
What the heck is this? She found herself in an unhealthy relationship? Found herself? Like she had nothing to do with engaging that relationship, starting that relationship, participating in that relationship? She just found herself there. The way I find a dollar on the floor.
She is a horrible person Louis.
Louis Rossman :D didn't know you followed Dave Ramsey
Nice to see you here Louis. 😁
It was an entanglement
It's just a way of saying she got caught up in it. No huge deal.
This is so awful. Charles Spurgeon once said, "So many times we trade an ocean of trouble for just a teaspoon of pleasure." Sin is a dreadful thing that should never be entertained.
The wages of sin is death and in this case, death of intimacy, death of joyful communication, and possible death of the marriage
I like that quote.
Must be pretty cold up there, on your high horse. Sometimes you just have to embrace a bit of darkness to feel alive. Dogma leads to death. Live and let live.
@@SDALLE99 If you need to feel alive, jump from a high cliff preferably without a parachute. Just leave other people out of your "darkness".
@@zeal4god402 I really think this is a big danger at gyms. Any personal trainer should not take their clients out for coffee- they should set up strict boundaries so this doesn't happen. Just asking for trouble.
This woman never told her husband about cheating, kept doing it and got pregnant from the other guy. They’re divorced now. I heard about this from her ex husband’s brother. She felt no remorse for any of this
Thanks for the update.
Hopefully she receives the same treatment she doled out.
😮😮😮
Your post should be further up the list. Awful woman and I got the feeling she just called hoping the presenter would say best keep that bit quiet forever.
Honestly if he heard this id be out. Idk if yall can hear it when someone's happy over the phone. But she's an easy read. She liked cheating that was a big kink for her. Probably some ugly girl when she was young and couldn't deal with adult life. Hope she's paying child support.
This aligns with what my intuition was saying to me. After this convo with Delony, she wouldn’t tell him.
Don’t play victim. Take responsibility and move forward.
The fact she lowkey admitted the affair only stopped because the husband found out about the messages is sickening.
And even then she didn’t tell him the whole truth. I hope he listens to the show and recognizes her voice.
If the loser trainer made enough money to support her she would still be with the trainer and bounced on her husband. She sucks.
Watch fresh and fit
@TheGrimConspiracy I have a life and have been actually touched by a women. So I'm good.
@@TheGrimConspiracy
She doesn't respect him
“I was in an unhealthy relationship” I swear, these girls can’t just admit what they did.
Right. I wanted John to ask what she meant by that
@@AntiAshley yeah, he usually makes people clarify but I think he knew right off the bat where she was going with this.
Hard Times create Strong Men
Strong Men create Good Times
Good Times create Weak Men
Weak Men create Hard Times (WE are here)
This is the thing with the majority of Women, they want the authority of a Man, with the privileges of a Woman and the accountability of a child. Her opening up with “I was in an unhealthy relationship” is a prime example.
Which relationship was she referring to as the unhealthy one? The one with her husband or the one with the family wrecker? 🤔
Imagine you are a happy married husband and you casually listen to youtube, suddenly you hear your wife.
How is she brave. to tell a bunch of strangers? shouting into the void isnt brave.
Cant believe anyone would praise her for being brave.
Cheats are frigging cowards!
Right. Sometimes this Dr is a dork lmfaoo
Imagine his family hears this call and recognises her voice before he knows. She knew what to do, she called in for validation and sympathy.
It’s a psychological ploy, to get people to let their guard down , so she can feel comfy to open up
It’s a tactic to get them to remain open
The fact that when she was asked “if you could do this all over what would you do differently?” And she didn’t immediately say not cheat on my husband speaks VOLUMES
You’d think that would’ve been her immediate response.
Yep. This is about her guilt. I feel bad for her husband.
That was shocking to me too. Her answer was more about her than not hurting him. Makes me wonder how much she really loves her husband.
The only reason that she is telling him is so that she can feel better. It has nothing to do with him.
I thought the same thing
He gotta get outta there. She doesn’t love him. He was just the “safe” guy.
yep🎤
So what? 😂
@@manuelvalencia2828so what? You have to be a woman. That man needs to go ahead and leave. You should NEVER be the safe guy. She should be head over heels for you other wise she will go heels over head for someone else. Just like this woman did. 🤷🏾♂️
She’s for the streets end of story!
She very much does love him or this wouldn't be eating her alive
By "found herself" in a toxic relationship, what she really means is that she "chose" a relationship.
Her husband is the one that "found himself" in a toxic relationship. With her.
Good point !
When you tell your husband be prepared for a divorce. He will never trust you again. Good luck
She won't tell him, she is looking to justify not telling him
Sometimes telling is the more selfish act. It really depends.
No@@listrahtes
@@listrahtesnaw that would be selfish. Thinking about yourself
You don’t tell him.
Telling him is hurting him more than anything. What good can come out of this?
This woman isn’t sorry for cheating. She’s sorry she got caught. When asked what would do differently, she never said she wouldn’t have cheated.
She isn't, there's a reddit story that came out at the same time roughly that matches this story. Her comments were outrageous.
@@naraendrareddy273can you post a link?
@@jim2386 Just search "Wife cheated on husband with gym trainer reddit". It'll be the top search result
F for link
I think it’s funny how things became “really well” in their marriage in 2 months! It went from horrible to very well in 2 months. She didn’t really get caught. She side stepped what was found out with a lie. She’s talked to people and GOOGLE and knows she’s wrong. I think she didn’t like how she got treated afterwards by the personal trainer or maybe found out she wasn’t the only one the trainer was complimenting on her form. She said she was so stupid. She thinks she’s stupid cause she realized the PT played her, not because she threw her family under the bus!
13:25 “What would you do different” “I would have told him the first time.” And THAT’s what reveals her real character. Hope he ran.
I'd be lying if I didn't say I clicked on this video just to see if this sounded like my wife's voice.. it's a hard gut-wrenching place to be as a husband who loves his wife in the four children she provided to us and it sucks that I even have to think about it
I have a wife that “emotional cheated” my gut says otherwise. I also clicked this video hoping to not hear my wife’s voice.
Guys I can tell you from personal experience you need to look into those feelings and confirm them or have proof it isn’t real.
I felt those same feelings and denied them for months only to find out she was sliding down a slippery slope that lead to infidelity.
Your instincts are telling you something is wrong in your relationship right now. Find out what it is and try to fix it before things get worse… and or discover the truth so you can work through it sooner than later. Stay strong
Damn this comment hurts my heart
Married man of 30 years here.
I never even thought that someone would listen to this just to see what her voice sounds like. Damn! Sorry for those of you who did.
I personally think we all need to remove all of the temptation in our lives. Just like this woman said, she was at a gym and a personal trainer started giving her attention.
If she was going to this gym and her husband wasn't there with her every visit, that was a mistake for both of them.
Temptation gets too many people in trouble. If temptation shows itself to you...RUN!!!
If your wife wants to start something new like sign up at a gym, tell her to run! These gyms are the perfect place for temptation to push people beyond their abilities to fight against it. I know a married girl who did the exact same thing as this female caller. A gym is a bad place for married people to go.
I wish all of you married dudes all the luck in the world. Help your wife run away from her temptation. And you do the same as soon as you see it. RUN FAST!!!
Ever notice that women almost never call it cheating. It’s always “a relationship with” or “an entanglement with”. Just my anecdotal perspective.
She is also making herself sound like a victim. The only reason she wants to tell him is to clear her guilt.
Good Eye. She even hesitated about going back and changing things. She's only sorry she got caught.
It’s an entanglement 😡
Because they take no responsibility
Nice observation 😷😷
Not only did she sleep with this other guy but she lied to her husband about it in counseling. That relationship will never be the same. Trust is gone. Ive been there.
Totally agree. He probably went into counseling thinking “this is where the truth comes out and I think I’m open to forgiving.”. Now that the window has closed, lord knows what he’ll do.
SAME. Been there. It won’t change
@@gunner3921what's sad she probably did things sexually with the other man that she never does with her husband, and that's another thing 😅
Yeah. Not sure it's salvageable.
Same here lots of us have.
Gotta be the worst thing a person can do to another. Ultimate slap in the face
Only thing her husband needs is a good lawyer and some strange..
Her saying her relationship was “unhealthy” is probably a coping mechanism. If anything, she’s the one that was making it unhealthy (even before the cheating)
Side note- this woman has no remorse. Very easy to feel it in her voice and how she expresses herself in this. She fears the consequences of her actions. It is sickening.
Disgusting. She has no right to cry about all the people (kids) that will be affected by this.
DIdnt care at the time she decided to get some strange dik in her!
If the husband hadn’t found out about the communicating right after the hook up had occurred, she would have happily continued cheating with the trainer at the gym. But she got caught ‘communicating’ so she had to cut her losses before her husband found out about the sexual affair. I hope the husband has the courage and self respect to leave her and never look back. She knew EXACTLY what she was doing every step of the way; and she doesn’t deserve a second chance. She said she lied because she was scared about losing everyone & everything? Funny how that fear didn’t cross her mind when she made the choice to throw it all away.
No one thinks they will talk.
UGLY-ZACKLY !
She didnt think about it when she was sucking the other man’s duck
exactly.
Yup, I agree with everything you said. I will add (it kills me do defend her) that at least she has some what of a conscience. Most women I know, including one that I've dated will take the sexual part of the affair to the grave and not talk about it with anyone. At least it bothers her
She can’t find the right time to tell her husband, but she’s got plenty of time to work out and cheat on her husband while he’s potentially watching their kids at this time
@@6birddog9Yeah....registry. Cool. How profound do you think this is to post it in every thread?
@@scourge8097 hahaha spread the wordddd
Would you be any different?
Women follow their feelings, not logic. And feelings can be manipulated.
You could be manipulated to do exactly the same thing.
"Just goin down the gym again hon...love you...*whips mobile out*"
@@ArmageddonIsHerethat’s an whore excuse.
She did not block her lover until after her husband found out! This woman is not sorry for cheating, she is sorry that she got caught!
She has ruined the family...it will never be the same
She may have only been PHYSICALLY unfaithful with the trainer, but when she said “talking like I wasn’t married” tells me she was flirting with possibly more guys than she’s willing to admit.
lol why is it always trainers that break up marriages
EXACTLY...her closing statement said a lot.
That's a big assumption. She's obviously devastated ans regrets she did this, i think if she's so guilty and wants to come clean she would have said if there was more.
@@rachelrivera2997 She clearly sounds like the flirtatious type. The kind who gets turned on by humour and social proof. I don't sense any regret in her voice. She's never cried. It's just tough to hold it in for her. It's all about HER and not much about him. Their marriage is done mostly. And we need an update on this.
@RetroBlue it's very dangerous to have a personal trainer when one is married especially if the marriage has problems. As women we are emotionally beings and sometimes get caught up. Glad that didn't happen to me. I had a personal trainer yes attractive but was never fond of his personality. Even if I was single he wouldn't of been my type.
She is both a cheater AND a liar, run for the hills my friend that is not a wife
Yeah she's a compulsive liar for sure
Must be nice to have never made a mistake yourself eh?
@@kylehackett162 I have made many mistakes in my life and try my best to learn from them but some people simply cannot be trusted and she is one of them
She belongs to the streets (gyms) and misery is her future
This whole comment section acting like they’re above these things lol
She tries so hard to hide her selfishness and cowardice. I hope he leaves her. He and the kids deserve better.
I love the way these women giggle and laugh when they tell the story
double dupe
The pain I feel for this guy, and his children, so sad.
Not gonna lie…I had PTSD while listening to this
@@marcusarelius Same, except was a serial cheater, and never apologized or felt guilt for anything lol but fortunately we didn't have any kids, and she kept her student loans. Much luckier than most guys.
This was hard to listen to for sure.
@@marcusarelius same
Are they really his children. Doubt he got a paternity test.
I'm 49 years old, and I was cheated on when I was 30. I still feel the pain 🥺 when I hear about it happening to others.
What if you could've chosen to never find out and live a happy marriage
@@dalpz205 nope... I don't want a relationship based on a lie. The truth always comes out.
@@kenmorgan316 No, not always. You just don't hear about it when it doesn't. But was just curious if you'd rather not have had the pain of knowing.
@@kenmorgan316 it's been 20 years. Don't you think it's time to move on? Im sure the cheater has definitely moved on, so did your friends and family
@@blackbutterfly233ify I don't dwell on it anymore. But when I watch things like this on UA-cam it is a constant reminder.
This woman is not going to tell her husband the truth. When she tells John about the cheating, she is says things like “he started talking to me,” about the trainer. She’s still trying to push responsibility.
Shame her. Don’t call her brave.
Delony was way to nice to her but different when it’s male callers who cheat… it should be the same vibe…. it’s the same act….
@@devadii24his a nice guy and not a good man, doesn’t surprise me.
When people cheat, someone’s health is literally in jeopardy.
Stds are a bit h
Damn right
So true. Not just physically but mentally and emotionally.
and if they lie, multiple lives are in jeoperdy. Lost my uncle in his 30s because his wife lied and he never got treatment. Hepitites destroyed his liver because he was non the wiser and a vaccine would have fixed it. Did SHE get murder charged? Nope, cus we live in a matriarchy.
Someone’s life is literally in jeopardy
5 years of marriage AND 2 kids and you still couldn't resist not destroying that? That's sooooo dumb. I don't understand people sometimes.
💯
Yes
And the kids are likely not biologically his
👏🏽
@@grizzlybear2702 don't do that
New subby here! Really appreciate the accountability and clarity you bring to discussions 👏🏾 the woman had a choice and she began having an affair. The PT? I'll stop there before sharing my opinion on the PT profession.
Not her laughing in the video omg!!
That's disrespectful. There was no mistake, she made an active decision. She's made her bed and now needs to lie in it.
My boyfriend and I when we got together spoke about boundaries, deal breakers etc and cheating is one of them. I don't play that. What cheating does to the other person is horrid.
its a cold world out here kings, stay up.
😂😂😂 Kevin Samuels + Future
She didn't just do this to the husband. Everyone forgets, she did this to her own children.
Will no one think of the CHILDREN!!!!
Also her own intermediate family and her inlaws as well
@@matthewgardner2144 It doesn't look like it.
I'm sorry but children are not involved in the marriage. They're part of the family unit but they're not in the marriage. People say that they stayed for the kids all the time. The kids are relevant to the relationship between the two adults. You never involve your children in your marriage
I don't think everyone forgets but sure lol
This totally pisses me off. Disloyalty is unacceptable.
She’s a 304. Watch fresh and fit. Red pill men. A comfortable woman is a bored woman and bored women cheat.
Real
Most women these days. What a pos she is.
This always ruins peoples lives. You get caught up in a romance that you think is wonderful. Then you think about things later. It’s terrible. Things are never the same.
She almost sounds proud of what she did
She's actually does after reading your comment.
She didn't stop seeing her trainer until her husband found out about them communicating. Which means she wasn't going to stop seeing him if she could have kept it under wraps.
And that also means that her husband cares for her and he gives her attention to the chick on what she was doing, that just closes the mouth of those who say he didn't give her attention!!! She just fell for the best looking trainer forgetting that she's a mother and has a husband.
i mean she could have just left it like that and move on and dont tell him that she slept with him but she cant live with herself and yea that theres stories of ppl that can but thats not working for her
@@lilblackfish2009woah a cheater feeling bad about cheating. She’s just a gardening tool
Exactly. Gotta leave this woman asap.
The trainer folded her up like an origami and cream pied her.
I call BS on only getting plowed by this Chad 1 time. She was getting her back blown out daily
Cheating is not a “mistake.” It’s a grown and conscious decision…
“I thought maybe I could get out of this….” “This is a rescue for me because it’s not going to go well, so I want a way out.” “Yes, I’m married. THATS the problem.”
That’s not bravery. This girl has zero respect for her husband. Her only concern is herself. Her body, her looks, her attention, her lack of responsibility, her lack of confrontation. It’s her her her her her.
She doesn’t love this man. She’s scarred of loosing a stable partner, but she’s not scared of loosing HIM
I agree 100%.
I agree !
Savage truth.
I hate cheaters
@@gamer67678 me too !
He started talking to me...child please... What about your 2 children? I hope he leaves you.
Tell your husband, so he can leave you
Yes
Yes
And then the judge will still give her 70% of everything and make him pay alimony and child support. And she’ll convince the kids it was his fault.
And she will run back to the guy she cheated with lol
That's just rude😡
I feel bad for the guy. 5 years wasted. I could never forgive my wife if she did that to me.
This happened to me after 15 years. I tried my best to forgive and heal, but she checked out and was done. My counselor recognized that right away and prepared me for the amputation and ultimately the divorce. It's been a painful several years but I've got to a point where I'm enjoying my single life now and trying to be a good dad to my kids.
@@thundersnow93 this is why men should never get married. Only keep long term partners. Women are scam artists, most will cheat eventually, they are not logical.
@@thundersnow93 Ditto
@@thundersnow93 you sound like a good man, best of luck to you.
@King Of Crunk Remember that the next time you hear about someone getting scammed with $$. Everyone has temptation. Some people are better at spotting someone who is weaker than others and prey on them. Tell them everything they want to hear. So, it doesn't take 2 to tango. It only takes one good salesman.
Yea, my brothers wife cheated on him with 2 kids. She chose men satisfying her temporarily over staying loyal to her family. She denied all of it for over a year and denies anything to this day and claims that the guys are just friends. She always goes out to clubs and bars without her husband and finds men, and still denied all of it. Worst part is the two small kids are now forced to grow up in a house without a father, with drugs, crime, and poverty all because she wanted to indulge, knowing theres no consequences for her actions.
I really wish we could get an update on the stories sometimes 😄 I would love to hear how all went down.
There was an update. She did not tell her husband. She started seeing guy again and got pregnant by guy. Husband divorced her.
She joined the gym to find exactly what she was looking for, and she found it. She waited until the end of the conversation to reveal that she was the one presenting herself as single and available. She has learned nothing and I really believe she wants him to end the relationship so she doesn’t have to.
Exactly rhe comment have been looking for! She wanted to cheat so badly that she presented herself as single.
If you want to end the marriage then you can tell him.
Why can't a married person go to the gym?! 😂 That's a ridiculous statement to make lol 😆 @@Hillsman001
@@Hybeekay99 who says ppl who present themself as taken dont cheat lol or ppl who meet someone that say thier taken care what dose that have to do with them lol married ppl cheat with other married ppl it happens all the time
@@lilblackfish2009No one said that. You’re reading comprehension is on a 3rd grade level. She wanted to chest so bad she appeared as single. No one said people that appear as married dont cheat. Read carefully next time
Once trust is broken, I don't think it can ever be mended.
I agree that genuine trust & faith are gone forever. What she can do is be faithful to herself every single day and be faithful to him in every way, no matter how small. Her honesty is her best way to some amount of trust.
It can but one must take personal accountability and seek to understand the root cause of their actions. May all people heal.
@@TEM14411nope. This rat 🐀 committed adultry.
@@TEM14411 anyone that forgives cheating and tries to make it work, is a naïve fool. if they're older than 20s, theyre idiots
@@stoned_kakapo8736 all judgement returns to sender.
Good advice, Delony. Well done.
Why does she sound so happy talking about it
well, she fu*ked her hot trainer and she gets to keep all the previous advantages and if she goes into a divorce, the court will probably be on her side, why would she be sad about this ?! Her husband is toooo nice and she knows it, he will forgive her and her reputation will stay clean and once she tells the truth she will lose even the slight guilt that she has right now. Seems like a pretty good situation to me ...
Maybe nerves.
@@AmyK007 sure
She is a Narcissist and actually is proud of herself. She is not ignorant of what she did. It was not a mistake.
Marriage was ruined when the government took it over and created no fault divorce. Imagine getting cheated on, then having to give her half your stuff, pay spousal support, half your retirement, losing your kids, paying child support etc.
Modern marriage is a contract where the woman benefits from breaking it.
She knows what she did. She could go on without telling him, but she is not.
You could hear the smile in her voice.
@@tunkytunkyOw he made her shutter with pleasure and I don’t believe for a moment she’s not seeing him on the side.
@@map3384 yes
When I give someone a chance to be honest with me and they STILL lie…I have nothing else for them. Immediately cut off…
Bam-ba-lam-whoa-oh...
@@briant8 😂😂😂Now I’m singing it!
The fact that her response to his “if you could go back” question was I’d tell him up front and not I wouldn’t screw around tells you all you need to know.
Whats a womens biggest weakness??? Accountability
This woman is clearly a terrible person. First she cheated through premeditation. Planned meeting up and did the deed, that wasn’t an accident. Now she’s lying by omission and hiding it from the person she hurt. Now she’s asking if she even needs to tell him? What an awful person.
John 8:7
She belongs to the streets!
You got that right. She’s my sister in law and we are just now finding this out in my family. She did not only did this once, but 4 times with 4 guys in a year alone. Such a tragic situation for the family right now
@@TheDaumWorld the sister in law of the woman in this video?
@@canyonstinky7817 like i said, john 8:7 babe
Unpopular opinion: If you cheat on me, don't tell me
"Then he FOUND" out about us communicating" so if her husband never found out she would keep seeing this guy?... sounds like it to me
Going off how she is handling herself in this call, I think she would’ve felt extremely guilty regardless and caved in at some point early on
But who knows
@@4mr4goldfish4ily4 clearly not, "early on" would've been before she got her back blown out.
@Dr. OBELA cured me no one cares.
@@4mr4goldfish4ily4 wrong
The way she speaks about him says all we need to know "Oh he shouldn't be too surprised" "He's a safe guy". She's only admitting it now because she thinks he's going to find out about it from someone else guaranteed. She's a POS, ruined everything in that family.
She's not yours, it's just your turn.
@@JR-wu8dc what do you disagree with no chin
She didn't ruin it. It she does it in the right way
@@hollystiener16 Please, expand on that
This is the correct take
She wouldn’t of cheated on him if she respected him in the first place. the way she talks about him (disrespectfuly) backs that up
Why do women never have any accountability when it comes to cheating?
because in some way they always justify that the man made it happen by being emotionally unavailable, or such like, while he was out earning and ensuring the family income stream kept coming despite adversity
The lack of integrity, self responsibility and awareness is shocking.
Do you know how much effort, thought and premeditation has to go into actually sleeping with someone?! Its not a mistake , its a decision you made.
Right! It's not like they ran to the gym showers.. They made plans, got ready for those plans, probably lied to go out to those plans and then decided to go home together or to a hotel. She wanted this. It was an affair.
Yep
Premeditated. Yes, took careful planning.
Yep
Well said
“I found myself in a relationship …” 30 seconds in and already absconding responsibility.
Research suggests that the longer an individual delays confessing infidelity to their spouse, the higher the likelihood of subsequent cheating. While exact percentages may vary, studies indicate that prompt disclosure and open communication are crucial for maintaining trust and preventing further breaches of fidelity. Remember, honesty and transparency play a significant role in relationship health.
Would love an update on this caller and how things turned out for her husband. I really feel for him.
Cheating seems to be the only situation where the victim is expected to work out the terms of how they played a role in their victimization. SMH
This affair would have continued multiple times if the husband didn't find out she was talking to someone else. She might have decided it was a one time thing but once the excitement winds down and she starts craving it again she would have contacted the guy from the gym again. We all know how this goes.
talking from experience?
@@michelleh4717 if there are no clear consequences to ones actions, said person will clearly keep going without any back minded conscious.
@@israelrosario3922 pretty sure extreme guilt counts as a consequence. You don't always have to be told off by someone else to not repeat a mistake you did
@@michelleh4717 trust me, I understand. Most people and most situations though. Not the case
@@michelleh4717 This woman does not show any guilt. She only shows fear of getting caught down the road. If this blows over and her husband never finds out she cheated, she will eventually get bored again and she will start another "friendship" with a strange man, and it will "just happen" again.
Women (all people, but especially women) seem to act as poorly as they think they can get away with. Very few people have actual integrity these days....
I’ve been working with relationships professionally for over 30 years. He needs to dump her the minute he finds out. She’ll cheat on him again. And although we’ll never know, situations like this that I’ve dealt with have taught me that she’ll cheat with this same guy again. And I would predict that she will cheat with him again after the dust settles and she thinks she’s “safe”. I would also bet my next breath that she had sex with him more than once. Put it in the bank!
Women can’t resist the dark triad gym instructor. It is too exciting for them. That the situation of cheating is so taboo makes it even more of a turn on for them.
@@Rainer125You are absolutely right! I would advise NEVER let your partner join a gym. They are hotbeds for infidelity. Join as a couple with an agreement to never work out alone. Better yet, invest in some good fitness equipment for home.
@@gregorycarlson6632 it can happen to women anywhere honestly. Women are at a constant risk of beeing hit on by a random Chad at some point if it’s in the gym or cafe or on the street doesn’t really matter eventhough coming to the same place over and over again probably increases the risk of her feeling connected to a random dude. The average woman just has infinitely more opportunities without her even doing anything guys will approach almost any woman and act friendly to get layed while the majority of men never have a single woman flirt with them even once in their lifetime.
Absolutely
Also, great advice from Dr. Delaney about getting a place to stay... i cant help but laugh at the response to what would you do differently if you could go back... i would tell him everything upfront.😅 close, but how about not cheating so, theres nothing to tell nor hide.
I can’t imagine keeping a secret like this. Some people just shouldn’t get married.
you'd be surprised
Hopefully My Dude watches this channel and hears his wife’s voice lol
@@charlesg7926 hopefully she comes clean. Personally I can work through almost anything but not infidelity. That would be the end for me.
@@Guitarlvr01 I would actually forgive my wife if she came clean and told me. Obviously, she would have to give me one free pass, and she would have to understand why that’s fair. But I would 100% forgive her. However, I would NOT forgive her hiding it
@@Guitarlvr01 basically, if she doesn’t tell me until I find out, the relationship is over. If she comes to me and confesses before I’m suspicious, then I forgive her, as long as she’s understanding of me also getting a free pass. That way, neither one of us got cucked
It must be extremely chard to forgive someone who cheated on you, and then lied about it as well.
It is like being cheated twice :( Poor guy!
I love this background. The brown, black and blue.
When someone cheats, it always comes out in the end.
Tell your spouse as soon as possible.
She’s not gonna tell him. She just needed to say this out loud to someone whose not in her close circle. This was her outlet. She’s had plenty of time to tell
Him and now that things are going better since he found out there’s no way she s going to open that wound up again.
That is exactly what I was thinking. She has no plans on telling her husband. She probably is only calling the show because she gets off from the drama and is probably getting excited reliving her affair. She uses language that shows she is avoiding ownership of her behavior (such as calling her affair and "unhealthy relationship"). Very typical woman who deflects personal responsibility at all costs.
I'll bet IF her husband ever finds out, she will immediately soften her actions by diverting blame onto her husband (he was not there enough for her) and the other man (he seduced her and she was vulnerable).
I would file for divorce if I was her husband (if he ever finds out). She will never hold herself responsible for her actions.
Smart woman
@@elainenilsson5472 If she was smart, she wouldn't have destroyed her entire family just for a selfish, base moment of pleasure. That is not a smart woman.
I can tell you from experience that this is what's happening. My ex's outlet was the other guy. I had hard evidence of the affair for months and gave her multiple chances to confess, and even after I confronted her with the evidence she still lied about it and after months of the story changing it was finally enough for me to admit that I'd had enough. She knows it's over, she's just prolonging the husbands pain because of her own cowardice.
@@jutde sorry to hear that. Can I ask you, how did you live with her for months knowing that she was having an affair at the same time and not confront her? That would have been very hard for me to know that every time she left the house, she might be going to her other dude. I can't imagine sleeping next to someone like that every night.
“Maybe I can get out of this” This woman literally doesnt care at all. That marriage is torched. Get the papers.
I don't condone domestic violence, obviously, but if she ended up with a couple black eyes, I get it...
Here is the difficult thing: she doesn't respect her husband. Fundamentally, she doesn't respect him. This is nearly impossible to fix.
honesty people, be honest when you are in any relationship. In a job or in family, be honest. Integrity is a quality and it is better to have it than to not.
I was cheated on after four years and I can't explain how crushing it was. I'm engaged (to someone else) today, and I still hurt over it. And small little things make me nervous. I can't stand how she giggles about what happened (I know it's nervous laughs) but it's frustrating that she doesn't get it. Ugh. Poor guy. If I were him, and I found out, that relationship would be over immediately.
Same. Can totally relate. I divorced my exh: 16 years together. Met in high school. Both each other's firsts. That's a level of betrayal and intimacy that...6 years later after divorce. It stays with you.
Was the love of my life. Fortunately no kids.
I don't think cheaters get it.
@@brandymeidl7126 That’s horrible, horrible. People that have not experienced it have no frame of reference about how deeply this hurts and how long lasting that pain is. Best of luck to you
@@kpas22105 Indeed. It is a different type of pain than anything else.
so shitty when the person that hurts you laughs about it when telling you, like cmon this ain't funny
If For the safety of their kids, Another solution is letting him to f**k another woman to be equal in this situation then they can give peace each other, I know that sounds pretty bad but believe me it works
This is the guy she tells you don’t worry about.
So so so true
Notice how she said “He started talking to me” taken any accountability off her end for engaging with him and laughed about sleeping with him
The advice at the end was perfect but the final tip really needs to be - own your actions and your mistake. Do not use the word "but" or "because". Fact of the matter is, if the relationship was in a bad place, he was going through it too and he didn't use that as an excuse to be unfaithful and cheat.
If the guy knows his worth, he’ll file for divorce, hire a solid attorney, seek counseling, and begin the long, drawn out process of moving on with his life
why when she wants forgiveness?? would you say that for a man?
@@mariejane1567 Yes. The fact that you defend her speaks volumes about your own character.
@@mariejane1567 forgiveness doesn’t come without consequence.
Oh yeah just f*ck the kids then right? It’s not like they matter at all. He can just move on with his life cuz that’s what matters in this situation🙄
@@altx7 - uhh he’ll take majority custody while have him & the kids in both individual & family counseling
Communication is the Key. Good or bad. We all have a Role to play. Play your role, or Change your role.
I love how she says the other guy started talking to her 🤦🏻♀️ like she didn’t participate
The most unfair unkind thing my husband did was to tell me he slept with another woman while we were married. He immediately told me he wanted to be forgiven and that I could never bring it up again. I never recovered, and I believe it was selfish for him to lay that burden on me.
So you would have rather not known.
@@alluringbliss4165 I was cheated on and yea, I would’ve rather just not have ever known. Full disclosure, I’m also guilty of cheating once too- I realized messed up and instead of burdening my boyfriend with the truth of my selfish action, I broke up with him even though I really liked him. I felt he deserved a better woman than me, he was amazing. I was young, dumb, and learned how terrible it feels and would never do that to anyone again.
@@molls0922 I would much rather want to know the truth then live in a lie. I would have much greater respect for my wife if she told me, then if I had to find out otherwise. But, I would never see her the same way again either way.
I hope he isn’t your husband any more. Gross 🤢 he gets it off his chest and just throws it at you to carry it
@@molls0922 I did not see this reply till today. I see where you are coming, I would broken up too , some people get really traumatized by cheating. On the other hand, I would rather know unless he breaks up with me.
I am so sick and tired of people saying that cheating is a mistake, it’s not. A mistake is missing an exit on the freeway or forgetting my keys. Cheating is a conscience decision that people make with much thought behind it. And I hate when John says you are brave for coming forward with this. Admitting that you committed adultery on your spouse is not brave, it’s cowardly and selfish. A person who is brave is one who confesses going through major trauma and coming through it and confessing it.
Big on that last part. If you’re feeling horrible and and are thus dedicated to preventing it from ever being a temptation again, wouldn’t the idea of saving him the burden of the thought and living with it as a form of repentance or something be the out your lizard brain is looking for?
you should tell the person you are with so there is clarity! if you love someone then be truthful!
Is there a part 2 im curious on how the conversation went
never got it, but she continued the affair, got pregnant by the gym man and split up with the husband. 2 ruined kids right there, but she is happy doing her, so great result
This is tough because when it comes down to it you put your relationship and your children’s stability at risk for a dude at the gym that probably flirts and does this type of thing with a lot of women. Unfortunately this is the *choice* (not mistake) that a lot of married men and women make and it’s not worth it.
What we don't know if this is a dude that would have continued his flirting if he would have known the truth of her relationship status
Female nature…
@@zeal4god402 I think it would have depended on the dude and how this woman carried herself after she told him she is married
@@zeal4god402 unfortunately this type of thinking is very naive. No other guy owes you or your relationship anything. It is 100% on the ones in the relationship. Instead of acknowledging thus though, it's easier to blame others.
And we all know C. Ramsey and Company would be MUCH harder on a man...
i was with my highschool sweetheart for 14 years and she cheated on me when i was working away. it took me to the brink of suicide, to be betrayed like that, I have not felt a more intense pain in my life.
long story short is that there's plenty more women out there and they're not all cheaters. don't put up with that kind of disrespect. she can go back to where she belongs which is to the streets.
I can’t imagine pouring yourself into a person for over a decade
Only to have them cut you to the core with that level of betrayal
@isaacwinters6954 I hope you never experience it Isaac. It's been a bit over 2 years since it happened and I'll always bare an emotional scar
@@bankslie4oneDamn brother, I went 5 years to get betrayed. It does cut deep. Sorry bro I feel like that pain never truly goes away.
Now you know.
why did she cheat ?
Damn I love this podcast.
“I am married, that is the key problem” 😂 01:15