@@ValerieChigbata I’m not there yet but I’ll give u tips on how I started. First step is therapy, this is a form of anxiety and may need professional help. The next tips are more for enhancing your present life and taking your mind off the future.Try to pick up new hobbies, travel to different places, do things outside normal routine, try to be busy, practice mindfulness. During covid, I picked up different hobbies and honestly, I felt happier and didn’t spend much time obsessing on the future. For traveling, I recommend starting out slow and just going to a different city or a unknown area close to you to explore. For me, I often start to think about the future because I feel stagnant in my present situation and everyday life. I try to do different things outside of my normal routine to keep changing things up and keep that monster away. Not having anything to do allows time for you to think about the future and think yourself into depression or into anxiety, try to do things to keep your mind and body occupied. Lastly mindfulness. I’m not even going to lie to you, I have no idea how to practice mindfulness. I more so focus on my self love, self image, and self esteem. One of the reasons I think ahead a lot is because I want to be “better”. I take note of things that I think would be better in the future and focus on things that I like about present me.
I came to this conclusion during covid actually( quarter life crisis). I realized one of my flaws is I can never enjoy present moments and when they pass, I miss them. In 2018, I studied abroad in Spain. I never been out the country and Its Spain so you would think I would be enjoying myself and wilding out. Nope. Outside of summer classes, some friendly meetups, and mandatory group events, I spent a lot of my time sleeping. Even my host mom got on me about it but I still wasted a lot of my time sleeping. This is a reoccurring issue in my life, I been taking long naps since middle school and they have only gotten longer since then. It started out with two hours of napping the poorer my mental health became, the longer I would sleep. There would be days I would sleep the rest of the day away. I quite literally slept my life away, the time I used for napping could have been used for creating moments and different life experiences. When I was in middle school, high school, and college, I hated it for different reasons, but now that it’s over, I kinda miss those parts of my life. Yes, I realized that I been hitting on more of depression than anxiety so let me get back on topic. Whenever I wasn’t sleeping, I was obsessing with the future. Obsessing with my future, I would become frustrated and mentally tired causing me to take a “ depression nap”. The thing is, depression and anxiety thrive off each other and creates a dangerous cycle. Back to the Spain example, when I wasn’t wasting time napping I was getting in the way of my own happiness by thinking about the near future, the far future, steps I needed to take, the impeding doom of death( why, idk🤷🏾♀️), losing a loved one, and just simply not enjoying my current situation.
A relationship with God is the best, most authentic relationship you will ever have!🙏🏾 It’s amazing that you started on your journey in your early 20’s. You’re doing so great 💕👏🏾
1.Get a Therapist 2.Start Praying and building a Relationship with God 3.Ditch Toxic Friends and stop being Toxic yourself 4.Set boundaries 5. Love yourself first before loving others 6.Change your mindset 7. Focus on the present She broke it down really well so would recommend anyone reading this to watch the video. Tremendously inspiring
@@veetee4826 that’s a pretty deep question I’m not sure if you should take any UA-cam comment as an answer I believe that’s an answer you should find out your self through reading research or getting into discussions with people that you trust and think that they can really help you in finding the right answer, I have an answer but again it’s what I personally believe, so make sure to settle on an answer that you truly believe in and to know why you do. Excuse me poor English I tried my best. Good luck
I am a Licensed Therapist and I commend you on the content you shared in this video. I hope an exponential amount of young people come by this video. It will surely help them. Keep up the good work!
I finally began my healing journey last year. I've watched my entire life change for the better over the last 12 months. Prayer, meditation, forgiving myself and others, setting boundaries (with Everyone), consistent yoga/exercise, setting goals then following up with action and expecting to be supported and protected in every conceivable way has ver literally changed my reality. Thank you sincerely for being so open and honest about your path!
That “appearance” one hit me! People would always remark how I seemed mean and they didn’t even know me. I felt like that was there problem but I now realize it’s how I come off and it doesn’t hurt to soften. It was just my way of self protection
Watching this at 18, I am ready to put my past behind me. I had to move out of my home at 17 due to a toxic negative household. This doesn’t come easy to me, but i’m trying & learning. It’s not easy💗 God bless Youre beautiful girl
There is just so much peace in knowing and loving God. The joy and peace that comes from that can’t be compared to any . My joy comets from the Lord. Even when things are not going your way , you trust and believe everything happens fro a reason and a season. God knows best. 🙏🏾
I loved this video. Paused it to seek a black woman therapist. We take on so much and think it's important to just hold it all together on our own. The strongest thing to do is realize you don't and accept help.
What if you do accept help but it actually doesn’t help you because “the help” really didn’t touch basis on what you vented / tried to receive help about...
@Purple Violet yes someone to keep it 100 with you. No sugar coating anything. Women tend to just agree with you. A man will keep it real! Just try it. It’s not gonna be easy but soooo worth it at the end. ❤️
The topic was so authentic and perfect timing. I’m currently on my spiritual journey(growth) and seeking God more. Octavia you’ve grown to be your best version authentically! Thanks for sharing Blessings ♥️
When i tell you this video spoke to me on so many levels. I’m turning 30 next week and i definitely needed to see this. I’m so ready for change...positive change that is. I can’t wait to start this new journey. Thank you so much Octavia ❤️
Listen, we sometimes say that God doesn't speak to us because we don't hear an audible voice, BUT GOD speaks in different ways and through different avenues. God has truly used you to minister to me through your video. Your OLD life is EXCATLY where I am RIGHT NOW in my life and have struggled with the the SAME attitudes and behaviors even down to being unapproachable or not likeable person. This video is God speaking directly to me concerning my life right where I am TODAY, AND showing me how much time I have wasted, where I should have been 5yrs ago and how God will raise up another to do what you were DESTINED to do, what you were WILLED, what you were PURPOSED to do. Octavia, thank you for sharing, thank you for being open, thank you for being strong. I just want to encourage you sister, you are walking in your destiny, fulfilling your God ordained purpose. Sis you are Blessed and EVERYTHING you touch will prosper. Praises to GOD who is a KEEPER !
I’m in tears right now because I’m also in my early 20s. I resonate with the internalized suffering and fragility. I thank God that you created this video. Thank you Octavia🤍
I took this journey of finding self love and eliminating negative energy out of my life a couple of years ago and it was the best decision I made. So happy you’re on this journey, trust me once you look back at your progress, it feels so rewarding. Awesome video 🥰🥰
I just love how your channel feels like a family. Self-care and wellness have been top of my priorities the past few years and the results have been amazing 🤎
So glad I stumbled on to this video. I am in my sixties and I have to say I am so impressed with the generations coming up. And you are a perfect example. You sure have figured out a lot in your twenty-six years. Thanks for the help. It was just what I needed to hear.
idk how i stumbled across this but i'm so glad i did. i'm 21 and can relate heavily, i'm trying to navigate letting go of bad habits and limiting mindsets so i can become the best version of myself. def would love a part 2!
I needed this video so much 😭 I just turned 30 last year and I've been feeling horrible about myself. Everything that people say you are supposed to accomplish by age 30, is completely out of the window for me. I've made a lot of mistakes and working on recovery now. Having a relationship with God is very essential. Just like you, I've found myself not going to church anymore - but in my case, I'm outgrowing tradition. I'll be starting therapy again soon. I'm so proud of you for beginning your journey in your 20s. Thank you for your transparency! You're beautiful 🥰 New subbie 💕
When I read the boundaries book the hard part for me was implementing it in established relationships. Like my marriage and my relationship with my mom were tough but i became happier and eventually others realized and my well-being took priority
I'm happy you were able to recognize that you needed therapy. I'm in my early 30s but I experienced the exact same thing in my early 20s but sadly, I let it persist. Glad to be past it now but I do have my moments where I wish I would've gotten it together sooner. Better late than never though :) Cant wait to see where this journey takes you. Keep inspiring!
I learned to change my life by praying to God more and giving my life to him and being more focused on what he thinks about me. A relationship with God is what’s helped me.
I can definitely relate to having my family be a huge motivator to live. Thinking about them hurting hurts me more than ambivalence about life. Really loving the transparency here! 💕💕
Putting you first is very important Thais is a journey I have been through and came to a conscious decision to put me first to give out my best. I have five kids and nothing stops me from doing what makes me happy because I have to be happy to be a good wife mom friend etc God is the ultimate
Girl, AMEN!! I just started setting boundaries in my life and people aren’t happy about it. - I have anxiety too! But, I am feeling a lot better and that’s all that matters for me! 🙌🏾❤️
1 got therapist 2 worked on relationship with God 3 Being mindfully of friends you keep 4 Set boundaries and protect your energy 5 practice self love and care 6 changing the way I think 7
Good for you for recognizing that you wanted to grow and putting in the work. Self work is not an easy thing, but starting and sticking with therapy is definitely helpful 🥰
Girl you have your family so you get love from them so it’s easy to self love! Some people don’t have that so they will be suicidal. Be grateful for what you have and that you were able to climb out. You have a support system. Just be glad.
You can’t tell you have a speech impediment at all ❤️ this video actually inspires me, as I’m working on overcoming my speech impediment, and adore how clearly you speak 🙂 thank you for this video!
Life is all about evolving and "training" ourselves to be better humans, right? What spoke to you most in this video that you are able to apply to your training? For me I love the part about being present and in the moment. So powerful!
OG subscriber but never comment Bc my shyness😂😂😂❤️ Being 18 I was tired of the ratchet side of UA-cam and octavia really became my YT big sis. Helping with my feminine and self love side. Will be using these tips
This talk really hit home. I really had to walk away from some friends and even family members in order to gain a more positive outlook. I’m so glad you posted this!
My God!!! This has blessed me tremendously! I can relate and I started these practices at the beginning of the year and I am so much better. Therapy, exercise, changing my mindset, and thoughts have REALLY been essential. I'm getting this book! Thank you!
Remove yourself from toxic family as well. We can live our family members and honor our boundaries at the same time. I don’t allow toxicity in my space and that includes family. When I was in high school, a teacher had us write in a journal the first 10 minutes of class. We had to start our entry with, “I am the most important person in my life.” That said, I come first and only have space for people that are like spirited.
Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us! You are a light in a dark place! You are doing an amazing job! I pray you continue to just get better and continue to evolve! This video has an important message!
I liked the video! Can you please do a video of how you moved from your mama house and start to live by yourself How you got the courage to do it and how you stay on top of your game I think that will help lots of people who are young in their 20’s to know where to start their life thanks! I been following you for a long time and I really I appreciate you! Much love
validation from others is temporary while self love is forever because if you think about it: who are you going to be with 24/7? the answer is not your family, your friends or anyone else, IT IS YOU!! i struggled with self love for YEARS and I'm still learning but honestly it is SO SO important (i can't stress this enough) with self love almost anything comes in a flow
You are so spot on! It is definitely nice to get validation from others, but if we don't believe it first and foremost about ourselves the validation from others will never hold true in our heart and mind. Love yourself and everything else falls into place!
Love this, ❤❤❤❤❤❤, Love this. Many young women need to hear this. I too am going through this process. It's a little harder because it involves potentially walking away from a 10 year marriage and moving out of state with 2 young children. Thank you hon, for being transparent and vulnerable. You are super amazing. God bless you ans i wish you success. Yes to part 2/3/4.....lol
I’m grateful to God that you’re still here and we’re here for you, maybe not physically but virtually through the internet, all of your supporters, we’re here for you. 💕
My friend bought me that book and I started reading it, but I didn't finish it. I really need to finish it. I'm so confused about life right now until I just don't know what to do. Thank you for this video.
the first thought I had when I saw this opening was...wow, I love the aesthetics in this video. Love the decor/background, your pj's, your makeup, the lighting and camera. Beautiful. Also, love your voice and the way you speak!
I love this video!! Different but very much needed. Therapy is so important and I always encourage my friends to see therapists when I can see them going through a tough season in their life.
I don't know how I came across this video but I am glad I did. I don't know you but this video shifted something in me, I felt like you were speaking directly to ME. Thank you girl, I needed this....thank you.
Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic, as a culture we don’t really talk about this. I’m proud of your growth and I’m looking forward to Part 2. This made my day!!! 😃
I love you Octivia thank you so much for this video. I've been trying to find who I am and my purpose and I learned to stop seeking love from other people that only I could give myself. now I say "if you don't value me I won't beg you to. I know I'm worth it " and you keep encouraging me
I'm happy you made changes and you're still here!!! Therapy is very effective! I was always a glass half empty kinda person which really creates unnecessary strain in your life. Therapy helped me focus on things I can control and moving forward even when things happen that I can't control. Time moves no matter what you do so you can harp on your problems and live your life being negative or you can focus on solutions. As long as you're alive and healthy there's time to recover. Great video!!
May God be with you love...Your too beautiful to have a negative mindset and I am soooo glad that you was able to turn everything around, because your too beautiful to be stressing. Glad you have a support team to push you through boo. Self love is always the key!!
1) Therapy (inter’al mental health) 2) Revuilding God relationship 3)Mindful about people to go ,people who makes you feel bad (external) 4)Set clear boundaries 5)Practice self love &self care 6)Changing way of thinking
I can definitely relate to this. I'm 24 now but struggled with depression as well as purposelessness & thoughts of self harm when I was a lil younger but it is still a daily battle that gets better. I internalize a lot so my family still don't know much but my relationship with God definitely saved me. I had to drop a few friends too. Now I'm at a place of learning to love my self more and to take it one day at a time. 💖 Thanks for the reminders YES to the part 2 please! 👏
Setting boundaries is where many people struggle. Saying 'no' to protect your sanity is NOT being selfish. Selfish is the other person making a demanding request and expecting your compliance. Glad you found your way back Octavia.
I appreciate your rawness and vulnerability. It’s authentic and refreshing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Therapy, prayer and meditation does wonders for the body and soul 🙏🏾✨✨✨ Part 2 will be very much appreciated.
Thank you for being candid.I realize that I am insecure and I attract other insecure people. Too often we blame others for our misery. I'm learning to take responsibility for my life.I also had to learn to define myself.
I love how strong you are in this video... personally, I find it very difficult to talk about things that has held me down at some point... it's a "once i'm over it, that's that" kinda thing... I applaud you. I loved this video...
I immediately called my insurance provider to get a therapist. I’ll have my first session this evening. Thank you so much for ALL of this! I had already been wanting to get a therapist and work on my prayer life, but the first few minutes of this video created urgency in me. May God continue to bless you!
I think u r amazing u helped me gain a lot of confident in my self and I am 31 keep up thè good job it would be amazing if u did a part two on this topic
Yes to part two. Thank you very much 🤗❤️ I can’t imagine you being the way you’ve described your past self, but that just goes to show how much you’ve grown. I don’t know you personally, but I’m so proud of you. You have a beautiful spirit and you’re definitely an inspiration to me ❤️
This video is exactly what I needed this morning to start my day. We tend to forget a lot of these things and how important it can be to our lives. Thank you for sharing Octavia.
I love that you shared how therapy has positively effected you and your mindset. So many ppl are scared or w/ a therapist that drags them. I also love that you weren’t afraid to share that religion or spiritual life is important to some ppl. The misery love company part made me have to stop and take a moment. Love that explanation!!! Much love 💕
It's very powerful that you decided to share this video. Mindset is everything and once you start to change your mind and open your mind life becomes so much better.
Thank you so much for sharing. I've been feeling so much how you felt in your early twenties. Today I thought something needs to change and then watched this. God is listening, thanks so much ❤️
I’m so happy I clicked on this video today, I’m currently 24 and I’m really going through a lot of the things you mentioned. I struggle a lot with many of the things you mentioned in the video. Thankyou so much for your wise words ❤️
Excuse me, are we living the same life? This video came right on time! Thank you for sharing your experience, & I’m so glad you climbed your way out of the darkness💜
Thank you for putting this out there and being so vulnerable with you audience. You couldn’t have said it any better or clearer. I hope everyone gets to see this and understand that everyone has a journey and it’s what they take from it, that truly defines who they are and who they become.
I cried when you cried! My literal reason for my strength is my family, I can’t imagine my mom going through the pain of her child trickling down and then their absence. I love this video and I’m still in the beginning stage of working on myself as a person, therapy is definitely the best tip you gave here and is truly on the top of my list! ❤️
Swear I just told my god sister yesterday that I’ve been slowly changing my self since last year and I’m working on changing more n manifesting more bc I have a child to care for n I have anxiety n depression but I won’t let that be the reason why I give up I live for him but I have to live for me too n it’s not to take away from him but to stop doing for my mom sis n family n focus on just me and my son bc we all we got. Serious going to start seeing behavioral specialist n therapist working on self love journaling detoxing cleansing crystals sage decluttering bringing good vibes in. Also even train myself on changing my vocabulary not slang get back to praying letters reading the Bible more affirmation updates on my phone everything. I even told her I wanna change my clothing bc that can be a big deal on how u feel from pjs to every day wardrobe hair nails skin care toxic ppl everything I’m glad I found this video.
Extremely proud of your growth! A part of healing & growing is sharing your story. You have blessed so many people while helping yourself. Continue therapy & having a relationship with God. Many Blessings to you for blessing us. ♥️
I was so busy thinking about the future that i forgot to live in the present and always putting things off that i wanted to do for another time
I was literally just saying this the other day. I’m learning to live in the present.
Guilty. Any tips on how to live in the present?
@@ValerieChigbata I’m not there yet but I’ll give u tips on how I started. First step is therapy, this is a form of anxiety and may need professional help. The next tips are more for enhancing your present life and taking your mind off the future.Try to pick up new hobbies, travel to different places, do things outside normal routine, try to be busy, practice mindfulness. During covid, I picked up different hobbies and honestly, I felt happier and didn’t spend much time obsessing on the future. For traveling, I recommend starting out slow and just going to a different city or a unknown area close to you to explore. For me, I often start to think about the future because I feel stagnant in my present situation and everyday life. I try to do different things outside of my normal routine to keep changing things up and keep that monster away. Not having anything to do allows time for you to think about the future and think yourself into depression or into anxiety, try to do things to keep your mind and body occupied. Lastly mindfulness. I’m not even going to lie to you, I have no idea how to practice mindfulness. I more
so focus on my self love, self image, and self esteem. One of the reasons I think ahead a lot is because I want to be “better”. I take note of things that I think would be better in the future and focus on things that I like about present me.
I came to this conclusion during covid actually( quarter life crisis). I realized one of my flaws is I can never enjoy present moments and when they pass, I miss them. In 2018, I studied abroad in Spain. I never been out the country and Its Spain so you would think I would be enjoying myself and wilding out. Nope. Outside of summer classes, some friendly meetups, and mandatory group events, I spent a lot of my time sleeping. Even my host mom got on me about it but I still wasted a lot of my time sleeping. This is a reoccurring issue in my life, I been taking long naps since middle school and they have only gotten longer since then. It started out with two hours of napping the poorer my mental health became, the longer I would sleep. There would be days I would sleep the rest of the day away. I quite literally slept my life away, the time I used for napping could have been used for creating moments and different life experiences. When I was in middle school, high school, and college, I hated it for different reasons, but now that it’s over, I kinda miss those parts of my life. Yes, I realized that I been hitting on more of depression than anxiety so let me get back on topic. Whenever I wasn’t sleeping, I was obsessing with the future. Obsessing with my future, I would become frustrated and mentally tired causing me to take a “ depression nap”. The thing is, depression and anxiety thrive off each other and creates a dangerous cycle. Back to the Spain example, when I wasn’t wasting time napping I was getting in the way of my own happiness by thinking about the near future, the far future, steps I needed to take, the impeding doom of death( why, idk🤷🏾♀️), losing a loved one, and just simply not enjoying my current situation.
Dear I sat on that table and it hurts how much I missed. Now I be decided to leave in the present.
A relationship with God is the best, most authentic relationship you will ever have!🙏🏾 It’s amazing that you started on your journey in your early 20’s. You’re doing so great 💕👏🏾
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Thank you❤️ agreed
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GOD is #1 always!! YES YES YES
In early 30's also don't you think??? Or this it to late?
1.Get a Therapist
2.Start Praying and building a Relationship with God
3.Ditch Toxic Friends and stop being Toxic yourself
4.Set boundaries
5. Love yourself first before loving others
6.Change your mindset
7. Focus on the present
She broke it down really well so would recommend anyone reading this to watch the video. Tremendously inspiring
how to develop a relationship with god? does god even exist ?
@@veetee4826 that’s a pretty deep question I’m not sure if you should take any UA-cam comment as an answer I believe that’s an answer you should find out your self through reading research or getting into discussions with people that you trust and think that they can really help you in finding the right answer, I have an answer but again it’s what I personally believe, so make sure to settle on an answer that you truly believe in and to know why you do.
Excuse me poor English I tried my best. Good luck
@@veetee4826 Trust me God does exist.I am a living testimony to that.I will be praying for u that get an experience of him in your own life.
Danah is right but speaking from experience. God is real, The God of The Bible I mean.
@@Mary-dk7mc God wrote the Torah, Bible, then Quran as the last and finalized book.
I am a Licensed Therapist and I commend you on the content you shared in this video. I hope an exponential amount of young people come by this video. It will surely help them. Keep up the good work!
I finally began my healing journey last year. I've watched my entire life change for the better over the last 12 months. Prayer, meditation, forgiving myself and others, setting boundaries (with Everyone), consistent yoga/exercise, setting goals then following up with action and expecting to be supported and protected in every conceivable way has ver literally changed my reality. Thank you sincerely for being so open and honest about your path!
Yassss love this ❤️
This sounds like the journey im currently on, its not hard but I know it will be worth it
I honestly can relate to this whole video. The 20s can be so dark, I am glad that you took charge and turned your life around.
Thank you !
That “appearance” one hit me! People would always remark how I seemed mean and they didn’t even know me. I felt like that was there problem but I now realize it’s how I come off and it doesn’t hurt to soften. It was just my way of self protection
I feel this a 1000%
So true
❤️❤️❤️At 36 I’m learning to stop wearing the mask! Breaking my perfectionist mindset and live! Great content!
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I am 35 and going through the same process. Boundaries, spirituality, therapist and all. Best of success to you all.
I'm 37...same...
Just thank you for this video 🙏🏾❤️
Definitely going through this same “awakening”. 30s glow up!
Watching this at 18, I am ready to put my past behind me. I had to move out of my home at 17 due to a toxic negative household. This doesn’t come easy to me, but i’m trying & learning. It’s not easy💗 God bless Youre beautiful girl
There is just so much peace in knowing and loving God. The joy and peace that comes from that can’t be compared to any . My joy comets from the Lord. Even when things are not going your way , you trust and believe everything happens fro a reason and a season. God knows best. 🙏🏾
I loved this video. Paused it to seek a black woman therapist. We take on so much and think it's important to just hold it all together on our own. The strongest thing to do is realize you don't and accept help.
Love this! This is true
What if you do accept help but it actually doesn’t help you because “the help” really didn’t touch basis on what you vented / tried to receive help about...
@@mrs.dillon8587 drop them and seek someone else
I say see a man therapist if you really want your money’s worth. May God bless your journey babe 💕
@Purple Violet yes someone to keep it 100 with you. No sugar coating anything. Women tend to just agree with you. A man will keep it real! Just try it. It’s not gonna be easy but soooo worth it at the end. ❤️
The topic was so authentic and perfect timing.
I’m currently on my spiritual journey(growth) and seeking God more.
Octavia you’ve grown to be your best version authentically!
Thanks for sharing
Blessings ♥️
Thank you so much for your kind words! You got this ❤️
When i tell you this video spoke to me on so many levels. I’m turning 30 next week and i definitely needed to see this. I’m so ready for change...positive change that is. I can’t wait to start this new journey. Thank you so much Octavia ❤️
You got this! ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you for watching & for the support
Listen, we sometimes say that God doesn't speak to us because we don't hear an audible voice, BUT GOD speaks in different ways and through different avenues. God has truly used you to minister to me through your video. Your OLD life is EXCATLY where I am RIGHT NOW in my life and have struggled with the the SAME attitudes and behaviors even down to being unapproachable or not likeable person. This video is God speaking directly to me concerning my life right where I am TODAY, AND showing me how much time I have wasted, where I should have been 5yrs ago and how God will raise up another to do what you were DESTINED to do, what you were WILLED, what you were PURPOSED to do. Octavia, thank you for sharing, thank you for being open, thank you for being strong. I just want to encourage you sister, you are walking in your destiny, fulfilling your God ordained purpose. Sis you are Blessed and EVERYTHING you touch will prosper. Praises to GOD who is a KEEPER !
I’m in tears right now because I’m also in my early 20s. I resonate with the internalized suffering and fragility. I thank God that you created this video. Thank you Octavia🤍
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Aww you got this , I promise you
Learning to put your self first is a never ending journey that I have to constantly remind my self of. Thanks so much for sharing Octavia.
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I took this journey of finding self love and eliminating negative energy out of my life a couple of years ago and it was the best decision I made. So happy you’re on this journey, trust me once you look back at your progress, it feels so rewarding. Awesome video 🥰🥰
I just love how your channel feels like a family. Self-care and wellness have been top of my priorities the past few years and the results have been amazing 🤎
So glad I stumbled on to this video. I am in my sixties and I have to say I am so impressed with the generations coming up. And you are a perfect example. You sure have figured out a lot in your twenty-six years. Thanks for the help. It was just what I needed to hear.
I love everything this video has to offer. Growth and the neutral background 👍🏾
idk how i stumbled across this but i'm so glad i did. i'm 21 and can relate heavily, i'm trying to navigate letting go of bad habits and limiting mindsets so i can become the best version of myself. def would love a part 2!
I needed this video so much 😭 I just turned 30 last year and I've been feeling horrible about myself. Everything that people say you are supposed to accomplish by age 30, is completely out of the window for me. I've made a lot of mistakes and working on recovery now. Having a relationship with God is very essential. Just like you, I've found myself not going to church anymore - but in my case, I'm outgrowing tradition. I'll be starting therapy again soon. I'm so proud of you for beginning your journey in your 20s. Thank you for your transparency! You're beautiful 🥰 New subbie 💕
Aww you got this ✨❤️
age is not matters you can do anything whatever you want to do
When I read the boundaries book the hard part for me was implementing it in established relationships. Like my marriage and my relationship with my mom were tough but i became happier and eventually others realized and my well-being took priority
That’s great! Boundaries were definitely the hard part for me as well
Pls can you recommend the books on boundaries
Also adding that “Boundaries” book to my tbr 2021 list !
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Same!
I'm happy you were able to recognize that you needed therapy. I'm in my early 30s but I experienced the exact same thing in my early 20s but sadly, I let it persist. Glad to be past it now but I do have my moments where I wish I would've gotten it together sooner. Better late than never though :) Cant wait to see where this journey takes you. Keep inspiring!
I am 51 years old,and listening to a wonderful young lady like you for the very first time in 2021:Thanks Kelly stamps for cheering me up on 3/7/21:
I learned to change my life by praying to God more and giving my life to him and being more focused on what he thinks about me. A relationship with God is what’s helped me.
I can definitely relate to having my family be a huge motivator to live. Thinking about them hurting hurts me more than ambivalence about life. Really loving the transparency here! 💕💕
Putting you first is very important
Thais is a journey I have been through and came to a conscious decision to put me first to give out my best.
I have five kids and nothing stops me from doing what makes me happy because I have to be happy to be a good wife mom friend etc
God is the ultimate
It takes a lot of courage to make a video like this. Glad you posted it!! 😊
So true I’ve made this video so many times
A beautiful reminder that we can evolve and become a better version of ourselves always..
Thank you for sharing your journey Queen..
The Power of Positive Thinking is also a great book.
I have been watching you and just love who you are as a person
Girl, AMEN!! I just started setting boundaries in my life and people aren’t happy about it. - I have anxiety too! But, I am feeling a lot better and that’s all that matters for me! 🙌🏾❤️
1 got therapist
2 worked on relationship with God
3 Being mindfully of friends you keep
4 Set boundaries and protect your energy
5 practice self love and care
6 changing the way I think
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Yes! 6 is soooo powerful and sometimes underestimated. Its how I was able to change my life.
Good for you for recognizing that you wanted to grow and putting in the work. Self work is not an easy thing, but starting and sticking with therapy is definitely helpful 🥰
Yes part 2 please... love the PJ's its giving grown and mature vibes
Yess. I started therapy too and pray more too
That’s awesome! You’ll get through this , just be consistent
Therapy changed my life for the better and also brought me closer to God 🙌🙌.
Girl you have your family so you get love from them so it’s easy to self love! Some people don’t have that so they will be suicidal. Be grateful for what you have and that you were able to climb out. You have a support system. Just be glad.
You can’t tell you have a speech impediment at all ❤️ this video actually inspires me, as I’m working on overcoming my speech impediment, and adore how clearly you speak 🙂 thank you for this video!
I love that! That you’ve “trained” yourself to be who you are today. Nobody wakes up or starts there
Life is all about evolving and "training" ourselves to be better humans, right? What spoke to you most in this video that you are able to apply to your training? For me I love the part about being present and in the moment. So powerful!
OG subscriber but never comment Bc my shyness😂😂😂❤️ Being 18 I was tired of the ratchet side of UA-cam and octavia really became my YT big sis. Helping with my feminine and self love side. Will be using these tips
Awww thank you so much
Saying no to toxic people is no longer an issue in my life.Thanks Kelly stamps for all the helpful advice.😁😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜😜
Proud of you for putting in the work in yourself. And my family kept me going as well so I definitely understand why you were crying. 🤗
This talk really hit home. I really had to walk away from some friends and even family members in order to gain a more positive outlook. I’m so glad you posted this!
My God!!! This has blessed me tremendously! I can relate and I started these practices at the beginning of the year and I am so much better. Therapy, exercise, changing my mindset, and thoughts have REALLY been essential. I'm getting this book! Thank you!
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Remove yourself from toxic family as well. We can live our family members and honor our boundaries at the same time. I don’t allow toxicity in my space and that includes family.
When I was in high school, a teacher had us write in a journal the first 10 minutes of class. We had to start our entry with, “I am the most important person in my life.” That said, I come first and only have space for people that are like spirited.
Love this
Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us! You are a light in a dark place! You are doing an amazing job! I pray you continue to just get better and continue to evolve! This video has an important message!
"Love yourself enough for everybody else!" - Thank you, I needed that! ❤️🙏🏻
This was absolutely beautiful to watch. You are so special & I am proud of you.
No matter what you are going through there's light at the end of the tunnel ✨ God is able to do what you ask for just believe.
I liked the video! Can you please do a video of how you moved from your mama house and start to live by yourself
How you got the courage to do it and how you stay on top of your game I think that will help lots of people who are young in their 20’s to know where to start their life thanks!
I been following you for a long time and I really I appreciate you! Much love
Thank you so much ! I will work on this
@@OctaviaB yeee!!! Thx!
Yeaaaa i want this!!
Yesssss this please
Omg pleaseeeeee
validation from others is temporary while self love is forever
because if you think about it: who are you going to be with 24/7? the answer is not your family, your friends or anyone else, IT IS YOU!!
i struggled with self love for YEARS and I'm still learning but honestly it is SO SO important (i can't stress this enough) with self love almost anything comes in a flow
You are so spot on! It is definitely nice to get validation from others, but if we don't believe it first and foremost about ourselves the validation from others will never hold true in our heart and mind. Love yourself and everything else falls into place!
I am speechless! This is the exact process I am going through right now!
You’re the big sis I never had. May God help us all. I have always loved listening to you
Love this, ❤❤❤❤❤❤, Love this. Many young women need to hear this. I too am going through this process. It's a little harder because it involves potentially walking away from a 10 year marriage and moving out of state with 2 young children.
Thank you hon, for being transparent and vulnerable. You are super amazing.
God bless you ans i wish you success.
Yes to part 2/3/4.....lol
I’m grateful to God that you’re still here and we’re here for you, maybe not physically but virtually through the internet, all of your supporters, we’re here for you. 💕
I’m so happy that you put in the work to love & cherish yourself, and came out stronger, happier and healthier Lil Sis!
This was such a real video. I’m sure a lot of ppl needed this testimony 🙌🏾 continue being a light Octavia ❤️
My friend bought me that book and I started reading it, but I didn't finish it. I really need to finish it. I'm so confused about life right now until I just don't know what to do. Thank you for this video.
You have a greater purpose in life. Everything you go through is temporary. Always, always remember that 💞
@@aurelia7878 Thank you so much! 🥰🥰🥰
No problem! Don’t hesitate if you need any direction ❤️
Yes! This is what I’m doing now.... setting boundaries. Boundaries is a great book. Thank you for sharing!
Tysm for watching ❤️
the first thought I had when I saw this opening was...wow, I love the aesthetics in this video. Love the decor/background, your pj's, your makeup, the lighting and camera. Beautiful. Also, love your voice and the way you speak!
Thank you so much!
I love this video!! Different but very much needed. Therapy is so important and I always encourage my friends to see therapists when I can see them going through a tough season in their life.
Octavia is indeed my fave NOTIFICATION. Every piece if advice in this video is golden. You are such a mogul for young women!
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I don't know how I came across this video but I am glad I did. I don't know you but this video shifted something in me, I felt like you were speaking directly to ME. Thank you girl, I needed this....thank you.
Aww I’m so happy this video helped you ❤️
Girl same. Something clicked in me like she was talking to me. I wish you the best in you your journey🤎
Thank you for bringing awareness to this topic, as a culture we don’t really talk about this. I’m proud of your growth and I’m looking forward to Part 2. This made my day!!! 😃
I love you Octivia thank you so much for this video. I've been trying to find who I am and my purpose and I learned to stop seeking love from other people that only I could give myself. now I say "if you don't value me I won't beg you to. I know I'm worth it " and you keep encouraging me
You are so welcome
I love this video, very cozy and I feel safe here💕 I’m glad you’re in a healthy space now and you’re still here💕🌺
I'm happy you made changes and you're still here!!! Therapy is very effective! I was always a glass half empty kinda person which really creates unnecessary strain in your life. Therapy helped me focus on things I can control and moving forward even when things happen that I can't control. Time moves no matter what you do so you can harp on your problems and live your life being negative or you can focus on solutions. As long as you're alive and healthy there's time to recover. Great video!!
May God be with you love...Your too beautiful to have a negative mindset and I am soooo glad that you was able to turn everything around, because your too beautiful to be stressing. Glad you have a support team to push you through boo. Self love is always the key!!
1) Therapy (inter’al mental health)
2) Revuilding God relationship
3)Mindful about people to go ,people who makes you feel bad (external)
4)Set clear boundaries
5)Practice self love &self care
6)Changing way of thinking
I can definitely relate to this. I'm 24 now but struggled with depression as well as purposelessness & thoughts of self harm when I was a lil younger but it is still a daily battle that gets better. I internalize a lot so my family still don't know much but my relationship with God definitely saved me. I had to drop a few friends too.
Now I'm at a place of learning to love my self more and to take it one day at a time. 💖 Thanks for the reminders
YES to the part 2 please! 👏
So great! Sending you lots of love! ❤️
Setting boundaries is where many people struggle. Saying 'no' to protect your sanity is NOT being selfish. Selfish is the other person making a demanding request and expecting your compliance. Glad you found your way back Octavia.
I appreciate your rawness and vulnerability. It’s authentic and refreshing. ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Therapy, prayer and meditation does wonders for the body and soul 🙏🏾✨✨✨
Part 2 will be very much appreciated.
Be
I appreciate you and your honesty. You don’t know how many people this video will help 💕
I’m so happy you pushed through and into an healthier space. God loves you and we do too! 🤍🤍🤍
Thank you for being candid.I realize that I am insecure and I attract other insecure people. Too often we blame others for our misery.
I'm learning to take responsibility for my life.I also had to learn to define myself.
Sounds like you are making amazing steps forward in your journey. What is the best way you have learned to define yourself?
I love how strong you are in this video... personally, I find it very difficult to talk about things that has held me down at some point... it's a "once i'm over it, that's that" kinda thing... I applaud you. I loved this video...
Thank you so much 😊
I immediately called my insurance provider to get a therapist. I’ll have my first session this evening. Thank you so much for ALL of this! I had already been wanting to get a therapist and work on my prayer life, but the first few minutes of this video created urgency in me. May God continue to bless you!
I think u r amazing u helped me gain a lot of confident in my self and I am 31 keep up thè good job it would be amazing if u did a part two on this topic
Becoming a better version of oneself is very important. So proud of the lady you are . you inspire me alot❤❤
Yes to part two. Thank you very much 🤗❤️ I can’t imagine you being the way you’ve described your past self, but that just goes to show how much you’ve grown. I don’t know you personally, but I’m so proud of you. You have a beautiful spirit and you’re definitely an inspiration to me ❤️
Thank you ❤️
AMEN! 👏🏼🙌🏼The real glow up is internal! Find yourself, Love yourself, accept yourself, & definitely be YOURSELF! 🌹🌹
This video is exactly what I needed this morning to start my day. We tend to forget a lot of these things and how important it can be to our lives. Thank you for sharing Octavia.
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Tysm for watching ❤️
I love that you shared how therapy has positively effected you and your mindset. So many ppl are scared or w/ a therapist that drags them.
I also love that you weren’t afraid to share that religion or spiritual life is important to some ppl.
The misery love company part made me have to stop and take a moment. Love that explanation!!! Much love 💕
This video is literally what I’m going through now. Thank you for sharing!
It's very powerful that you decided to share this video. Mindset is everything and once you start to change your mind and open your mind life becomes so much better.
Thank you so much for sharing. I've been feeling so much how you felt in your early twenties. Today I thought something needs to change and then watched this. God is listening, thanks so much ❤️
Ofcourse ❤️
I’m so happy I clicked on this video today, I’m currently 24 and I’m really going through a lot of the things you mentioned. I struggle a lot with many of the things you mentioned in the video. Thankyou so much for your wise words ❤️
Excuse me, are we living the same life? This video came right on time! Thank you for sharing your experience, & I’m so glad you climbed your way out of the darkness💜
Awww thank you ! You got this too ❤️
Thank you for putting this out there and being so vulnerable with you audience. You couldn’t have said it any better or clearer. I hope everyone gets to see this and understand that everyone has a journey and it’s what they take from it, that truly defines who they are and who they become.
"Boundaries" by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend is an excellent book! I've read it. Highly recommend
I cried when you cried! My literal reason for my strength is my family, I can’t imagine my mom going through the pain of her child trickling down and then their absence. I love this video and I’m still in the beginning stage of working on myself as a person, therapy is definitely the best tip you gave here and is truly on the top of my list! ❤️
Awww ❤️ keep strong 💪🏾
Swear I just told my god sister yesterday that I’ve been slowly changing my self since last year and I’m working on changing more n manifesting more bc I have a child to care for n I have anxiety n depression but I won’t let that be the reason why I give up I live for him but I have to live for me too n it’s not to take away from him but to stop doing for my mom sis n family n focus on just me and my son bc we all we got. Serious going to start seeing behavioral specialist n therapist working on self love journaling detoxing cleansing crystals sage decluttering bringing good vibes in. Also even train myself on changing my vocabulary not slang get back to praying letters reading the Bible more affirmation updates on my phone everything. I even told her I wanna change my clothing bc that can be a big deal on how u feel from pjs to every day wardrobe hair nails skin care toxic ppl everything I’m glad I found this video.
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Good Luck with your journey! Sending Positive energy to you... ✨
So relatable I feel like I needed this information! Thank you! Please give us a part 2 🙏🏾
I never really comment on videos but I loved this video, definitely showing my young teenage daughter, she reminds me of you. Thank you
Extremely proud of your growth! A part of healing & growing is sharing your story. You have blessed so many people while helping yourself. Continue therapy & having a relationship with God. Many Blessings to you for blessing us. ♥️
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I've literally been doing all the things you've mentioned except for therapy which I'm actually starting tomorrow! I can't wait!
God is really working on you girl! Amen, I love this. Congratulations!
I really enjoyed this video. Yes girl prayer is so powerful! The friends part and the acceptance part really hit a chord.
“If not for myself for my family” amen 🙏🏽