Frankie Valentine wish that were true , but we live with fallible human beings so might as well make the best out of it. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
As someone whose watched your videos since pretty much the beginning I just have to say it’s been so cool and often pretty motivating to watch how much you’ve grown and continue to grow as a person. But through all of that your good heart and dedication to whatever you put your efforts towards is extremely inspiring to me
I've only been watching her since 2015, but I still wanted her to be in good mental health and financially stable back then. It's good to see she may finally be there.
I'm 22, I don't have much life experience but I really admire you, you're one of my role models even though I don't know you personally. I hope I can be that strong and brave throughout my life!
Something that gives me a lot of peace thinking about (that might sound cliche) is that I have survived every bad day in my life. Everything I thought that I couldn't get through, do or live through I have. It gives me this level of hope like I am a strong woman and I survived the past so I can survive what's coming too.
Carina 94 I’ve recently adopted this way of thinking too. It’s helped me to stop living in fear every day and to realize I’m capable of much more than I think I am 🙌🏻
Carina 94 this is sort of my mantra! I always tell myself “I’m stronger than this” when I’m scared, because I too have survived everything so far thinking that it would kill me.
24 years and never been in a relationship. It has taught me that I don't have to fit a certain standard and that the relationship with myself is the one that I should be working on. Thank you Maria for your honesty and I am so happy for your family
I'm 23 and the longest relationship I've been in was 2 months. Nice to know there's other people my age who AREN'T getting engaged, seems like that's all I see on facebook now, ugh
i'm so happy you got out of such awful relationships and now you're married to a lovely man who understands you & makes you happy 💖 you're so inspiring
I love how she lights up when she talks about Darryl and always calls him “my Darryl”. You can tell how much she loves him ☺️❤️ wish the best for both of them.
The fact that you've been through so much hurt and abuse yet you still have the most kind and gentle heart of gold and are so giving is the example that we all need...I'm so glad you exist.
I agree! I have a female relative who for some reason thinks (or used to) that a couple shouldn't live together unless they were married. That makes zero sense to me. If you're already having a physical relationship with them, why can't you co-habitate? I do realize that some people might believe in celibacy until marriage, and if that's what they want, then good for them. Maria is so right! You never truly know someone until you've lived together at least a couple years. That's what's real...how you get along during real life stuff (arguments taxes, job loss, illness). Too many people mistakenly get married during the love hormone 'honey moon phase'. Everything seems so amazing...but it's really the Oxytocin. That wears off, and if you still LIKE each other, then you can keep it fun, but be serious when times call for it.
I totally get you when you say you're happy after a fight. When I was younger I'd go in a mood, storm out and ignore my boyfriend after a fight. Now I'm older, more mature (only a little bit) and know my other half very well, we can have an argument as if it was any other conversation. It's not comfortable and I don't enjoy them but it feels good to sit and hash out your problems, understand the other person's point of view, move forward and make improvements in the relationship.
My post would be so, so long because I have learned so much from the men in my life...I've learned that I just want to be with a person who is kind, patient and funny but most importantly that respects me and values not only our relationship but our friendship too....Thank you for sharing your wisdom on relationships and for being so honest about what you've gone through in life....Honestly, how very refreshing and I know this is one of the big reasons why you are so loved on YT and in the ASMR community....Well that and your wonderful soothing voice and beautiful positive energy.....Appreciate and love you!....
Masha, this video couldn’t have had any better timing. I’m experiencing the aftermath of my first breakup, to a guy who I thought would be my everything. I’m a little over two months into the post breakup and I have been honestly struggling. From talking to someone for almost everyday, to have that consistency in your life, is devastating when it gets rips away. We dated for almost three years. He was sweet, kind, and loving. He was so caring and polite towards everyone he would ever meet. Yes, being in love for the first time and having someone who loves you in return is the most wonderful feeling in the world. However, when you love someone who neglects their mental health, it really takes a toll on the other person - especially when they too have their anxieties. Some days I kick myself down for not ending it sooner, he was drowning and I was drowning. I was holding onto my best friend of three years. I was holding onto the hope that long distance would end. I realized from hours of therapy that we could have been two miles apart (and at one point in our relationship we were) and I would still never see him. He’s living at home (we’re the same age and in college), while I’m over three states away from him. I’ve realized we weren’t really talking to each other. I was talking to him but he wasn’t there. He was struggling through his own depression and anxieties. I understand this because I too have struggled in the same retrospect. You don’t feel like you can share much because you feel as if you don’t have a lot going on - and when you are deep in your depression as even I once felt - you don’t care to share this side of you. You are looking for any distraction. It was not bad but it was not good either. We had a lot of wonderful moments together. We had a lot in common, we both got along well with each other’s families, and things (in my head) seem like they were ideally following into place. I didn’t realize as to how hard he was hurting and struggling during the last few months. I would try to ask him, but he would insist on it being because he lives at home (which is completely reasonable), and he would turn around to make it seem like things were going just okay for him. I would feel bad, my heart would hurt for him. I would do everything and anything to visit him as much as I could - but I found the excuses were the same. I felt disappointed constantly. I would always poor my heart out in little gifts and cards through the mail. Not once did I receive mail from him in our three years. Words from him that were summed up into excuses and probably some lies. I felt as if I couldn’t let go of him. I was too scared to lose this kind of love. My first love. We have worked through harder situations before, so in my head, I thought we could work through this road bump. But it wasn’t a road bump. It was a freaking detour. I’m not going to go into big details, but for almost two months he lied about being in school. He dropped out at some point. Lied to his family, lied to me. Found timely reasons to not see me - being sick although his mom says it was true that he was - because he knew if I saw him, I could see through his lies. It was the literal breaking point that caused us to end. It was three weeks before my semesters end at college. I needed to hang in there in order pass my finals (which I freaking rocked all considering, 4 A’s and 1 B). I know he lied more than just things relating to school, but I don’t know what and I’m not ready to face what those are. I know he loved me (although my anxiety at times says no). I poured my heart and soul into this relationship. I don’t regret this. I know this is who I am with every relationship I have. I only regret not having the courage to end things myself. I was too scared to make that leap. So, I’m still learning my lessons. How to treat myself better. How to be in a better mental place myself before grad school starts and other relationships that may follow. I know I deserve better and I will have someone who treats me in this regard. I know I’ll always love him since he was my first. I would honestly still give a lot to receive a hug from him. I know he wasn’t the best person near the end, but it doesn’t mean our relationship was all bad. It doesn’t not mean he was bad. He’s just been in a bad place. But I am done giving myself that excuse. I still could have been given a lot more in return. I know this at least. (And for those who read this all, you are THE champ.)
How wonderful! You need to know who you are before you are with someone else and I think your experiential advice is very sound. I loved “attack the problem instead of attacking each other”. THAT is a real gem for all relationships.
You are SO right about living with your person before marriage, Maria. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we just bought a house. Needless to say, this has been quite a change in our lives! It’s been hard, but we are learning even more about who we are individually and as a team ♥️ Thanks for your videos Maria, both your ASMR and vlogs. You have no idea how much they have enriched my life.
idk. On one hand i think it makes sense. But statistically you are more then 2x as likely to break up and get a divorce if you cohabitate with your spouse before your married. So then im confused. At teh same time if you discuss your values and expectations before your married idk if you need to cohabitate cuz you will know who they are as a person. And you can work together through the issues from there. I mean im not saying she is wrong. I just know that statistically they say you are much more likely to break up if you live together before your married.
WorldWearyAngel I can’t find the article, but apparently there has been more research on this subject and those statistics are based on very specific factors, which make complete sense. It said that your chances are extremely high in divorce/breaking up later on if you 1. Move in together because you can’t afford living on your own 2. Move in before understanding each other’s marriage timeline expectations and I can’t remember the third one. But as you were saying, no matter what the circumstance, if you communicate very clearly expectations/values before marriage any couple has a much better chance :)
WorldWearyAngel talking about it means nothing. people say they are better than they are. this is coming from someone who has lived with roommates and significant others. we all do it. i think those statistics may be framed to make it seem like people break up more if they cohabitate first. people who arent married are more likely to break up than married couples because of ease, so if you only live together post marriage you deal with it rather than knowing you can “find better” if you arent married. i think the mindset changes once you say those vows, and the willingness decreases because of lack of ease to separate
I’m 20, I lost my mom to cancer about 9 years ago, and I just wanted to say thank you for posting videos about your life like this🥰. I don’t really have a mother to talk to when I need it, and these videos are super intimate and wonderful to watch. And now with the new baby I feel you have a very strong mother aura, and your wisdom is a gift so thank you once again!
You make some great points Maria! It’s so important to know your partner’s domestic tendencies. Also what you expect from them and what they expect from you. They say you don’t really know a person until after 2 years of meeting them.
My advice after 20 years together, married for 9 and with two kids, is to never go to bed angry. Have the healthy argument, then make up ❤️. Thanks for sharing your life with us Maria. You’re a wonderful person 🙂
theres so much tenderness in your voice whenever you say “my daryl.” it takes so much stumbling and falling until you can run, im glad the two of you help each other fly. ❤️
Maria, you are such an open, honest and resilient person and it's also very brave to let all of us thousands of people into some parts of your life. Thanks for another glimpse into your philosophy x
I've only had one "significant" relationship, and I learnt from that how important it is not to expect your partner to be everything to you, to have a self outside of the relationship, and not to believe being in a relationship will fix all your issues. I'm sorry for the difficulties you went through, but so glad you found D.
I love your optimism. You always try to bring out the positive no matter how dark the circumstances. Much ❤ you! From a BIG fan who has been molded by relationships as well!
This is better than relationship counselling. Seriously, watching her vlogs and sharing they're experiences is giving me an idea of what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like.
You are so insightful. It’s time for me to reflect on my relationships. Thank you for the inspiration! The most important thing is we learn from them all and go on!
I’d rather not...see that.... boundaries are important to respect and honor.....she gives so much and in this culture and time we live in,we take so much from others ( especially those in the public) without giving in turn ... before you know it their burnt out and shutting down their channel..... balance... I wish only joy and balance between her passion, her privacy, family, and work ... Update: so my comment comes from my musings about the string of UA-camrs who’ve recently quit from burnout (Michelle Phan) and also from the fact that some have been stalked (HeatherFeather) and completely been affected the lack of boundaries into their life.
i never knew what was so interesting about viewing someone’s home! it’s jus not safe yk. her having a media presence, a new baby, settling in her house, being a new mommy! probably not the best idea although a sweet and innocent one probably better to respect her family privacy!😋
@@priaa7934 She gave a house tour of one of the houses they rented. I would love to see it. But if she is no longer comfortable with that, I would respect that.
Maria you are such a role model, I swear. The fact that you got out of those relationships stronger and with so much love for life and the world really amazes me. Thank you for sharing this, it thought me every experience in life can teach us something no matter how hard it is
well seeing as i’m a teen i haven’t dated anyone yet but - my mom has taught me how to ask for what i want and how to fight for what i want, but she has impacted me in that she showed me how not to act in a marriage and how not to use your words, how to manipulate, and a negative outlook on personal health and looking out for yourself. my dad has taught me how to be compassionate and empathetic and respectful, and how to be independent, but he also showed me how not to handle sadness and to be able to talk to people about your feelings. my step mom has taught me how to be a hard worker and how to put everyone else on an even playing field with you and that making sure others are happy is important, but she has shown me that you can’t always look after everyone else, you have to look after yourself too or you can’t cope. my oldest sister has taught me how to be outspoken and to be an activist and politically involved and how to speak i. front of others, but also not to overstep boundaries and to still be respectful. my second oldest sister has taught me to apologize and to show people you love them and to have connections with people, but also that you need to figure out your life and you can’t just think about the last and the present, you have to think about the future too. my younger sister has taught me about acceptance, and that your words can have an impact on others in both a positive and negative way. she had helped me accept myself and shown me that i can help others too. hope this was interesting for you! love your videos :) sending love
My man showed me dedication, loyalty, and his to persevere through challenging times, and in return I've showed him adoration, tenderness, and respect that he didn't get in previous relationships.
I started dating my husband at 17 years old I am now a month away from turning 34 we have grown up together, working out who we are as individuals as well as a couple. We are each other’s firsts and onlys. Celebrating 9 years of marriage and 17 years together this year. We work as a team in raising our 3 kids and in every aspect of life. Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts.
This is so sweet. Maria, there must be something in the comic energy that a lot of people are reflecting on their lives healing and understanding what's right in their paths. I have been watching your videos for a few years maybe. You've evolved a lot from shy and sweet to now such a confident woman, wife, mom and UA-camr. A woman who finds her right man smiles a lot the glow and happiness is undeniable genuine, finds her talent and achieving her goals and desires in life. Like you said even bad times is satisfying because that's your soul calling your purpose. I am very happy for you.
You’re so relatable Maria. Such a sweetheart. Talking to us about these life things are so helpful and let us all know we have been through hardships and we can become stronger because of them!
Honestly watching this gives me a bit more hope for my future. My last boyfriend passed away very unexpectedly and it nearly took me with him. I've constantly told myself that I'll never feel that kind of love again, and no one would want me anyway because now I'm so damaged. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
Alyssa Seitz i’m so sorry for your loss love 💕💕 you are so strong & just know that you are loved & you will love again :) there is always hope because love always finds a way
Man, the attacking the problem together instead of attacking each other was such a good point. That is the best way to have a disagreement, I think. You're really learning how to communicate rather than causing barriers between each other. Also, my boyfriend and I have lived together for about 7 months now and I'm so glad we've decided to do this. We wanted to live together before we ever think about getting married, just so we know for sure that we are a match for each other. I think it's important to know everything you can about your partner before you commit. I'm glad you found your match, Maria! Love you!
Great reflective video. I have watched your videos for years and you have truly grown so much! What I have learned: learn to think for yourself and form your own opinions and set of beliefs.
I’m only 22, but so far in my relationships I’ve learned that communication is ESSENTIAL in a relationship, and that I deserve more than an unfaithful, disloyal partner who makes me second guess everything. Thank you for opening up to us Masha, we appreciate you so much.
Thank you for sharing this. It made me emotional because it had me thinking about some of the awful relationships I've been through and how I actually got some benefits from them. I no longer speak to my father but he taught me how to tear down other people and get really personal during a fight, which is an awful lesson but I was able to defend myself against bullies this way, being someone who is not athletic. Then I grew up and I did this in relationships and I learned that will ruin them. In a roundabout way, I learned to be kind.
This level of talking is sooooooo relaxing to me. The less staged the asmr, the more it works for me!! I’ve watched a lot of your sassy masha videos for this. BTW, it’s great you and your husband respect each other. That is so hard to maintain.
It's wonderful to observe someone like you...a woman who is struggling with her everyday (maternity 😊) issues and yet cherishes them!...who's had ups and downs as everybody else have, and has the wisdom to address the topic from a positive perspective. A regular person, a real woman, a mom... Living her life and learning (a lot) along the way!! This video made me analyze a few things about my own journey. Thanks Maria! ❤
We love you Maria! You’re so gentle and nurturing, but also so wise and dare I say a bit of a bad a** when it comes to all you’ve learned and been through. 😅
My relationships have helped me to see what I want , don’t want and deserve. I will never love anyone more than I love myself. I realized that people can do you harm , so always guard your heart and be smart. It’s ok to be vulnerable but in a logical way ❤️ and I want to say thank you to you. When I was going through my past relationship you really helped with my anxiety and anger towards my abuser. When I didn’t have a friend to talk to, because they were tired of me talking about the abuse and not doing anything about it ...your videos helped me. Some people think ASMR is not healing but I’m a witness to how it works. Thank you 🙏🏼
I really loved listening to your insight. Thank you for sharing. And I’d just like to mention how resilient and strong you are. You are an incredible person.
I love how you self-reflect. Introspection is an absolute requirement of personal growth. It takes great character to recognize, and admit to your own flaws. Recognizing one's role in the both the good and the bad of one's life situations and experiences is a skill few people master. You do it well, and beautifully! Good job.
My dad taught me pretty much the same lessons yours taught you: a good work ethic, not to be afraid of getting my hands dirty to get a job done, how to be self-reliant, the importance of being a person of high integrity, and to demand the best effort from myself and others. He had a temper though, and could be very abusive. This made me a compulsive perfectionist for a long time - any perceived failure completely broke me because I would beat myself up about it. It took years of help from my current wonderful husband to overcome that. - ♥♥♥ My hubby seems a lot like your Daryl (sp?). I'm so glad we've both found our matches! ♥♥♥
I feel like this is a sign that you posted this video Maria. I have been thinking about the people who have affected my life the past 20 years, and I needed some clarification. Thank you for posting this ❤️❤️❤️
I love this! At this point in my life I have found the one man that embraces what we’ve learned from prior relationships. We have learned that communication, listening, empathy, people of integrity, and respect are key. Emotionally healthy relationships are incredible!
You inspire me so much, Masha. Your self awareness and willingness to constantly learn more about the world people in general, it’s so beneficial to me watching you grow so much as a human being. Thank you for telling us your thoughts and feelings on this journey of life 💕
My heart is completely open and bleeds for you............I have been through plenty of abuse, but never "beaten". Your story of ultimate happiness and success after lessons learned will continue to encourage and inspire your subscribers...........thank you and much love to you, Darryl, and beautiful Mila.
I'm so sorry you've had those difficult and negative experiences but am proud of you for turning them into lessons to yourself about what you deserve, which are only good things. You seem like a genuinely good person and am I'm happy for you to have found your husband and have your adorable baby. Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your life with us!
Maria!! I'm 20yrs old and have been watching your videos since I was 15, and this video has reminded me that you are one of my biggest role models. You've were such a soothing presence in my later teenage years and a beacon of light over this past year for me. Thank you so much for all that you do and for sharing these fascinating reflections!!
How brave of you to share such personal things. You ARE beautiful! I've been following you for several years now and I've seen you grow, mature and become so successful. You've come a long way, Maria! You have a beautiful daughter, a husband that clearly adores you and now a new home! So happy for all of your success!
Relationships with Dad are so important. It sounds like you're lucky to have a great Dad who taught you a lot. I'm blessed with a great Dad too ❤. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
@@emlo3746 I'm sorry you had to go through that. Way too many fathers pull that crap without giving a thought to the immense damage it does ☹. I hope you and your mum are stronger for it. I wish peace and love for you both! 🙏❤
It's incredibly admirable how you've reflected on impactful life events, especially painful and traumatic ones or ones that might make you feel regretful and how you've picked out positive life lessons and thought about ways in which those events have made you a stronger and better person. It's so easy to carry just the pain and regret. It's something I do often, and of course there are many objectively 'negative' or unfortunate things that happen to everyone but it's amazing how you can still carry your head high, be unashamed and speak about how everything that has happened to you has somehow contributed to some of the infinite good in you, or how to work on your weaknesses rather than define yourself around them. You're inspiring and motivating me to get better at this and I'm so grateful. I'm so happy for you and all you've accomplished, you deserve all the happiness and success!
I got ASMR during this and felt guilty about it. You are a strong woman! I had no idea you have been through all that. Thank you for sharing. I want to watch again and reflect on my life. 43 and never married. Not sure what I've learned positive.
This was both heartbreaking and uplifting. It's so incredible that you found lessons in everything you have been through. My first boyfriend was also physically abusive, but I stayed with him for almost 3 years (and even begged him to come back when he left!). But once we had been apart and I began to look back on those years with fresh eyes, that's when I learned how awful it was and how no woman has to put up with that. I didn't learn much in the way of physical defence but I definitely learned what I should and SHOULD NOT accept from a man. That story of you being beaten and robbed was just horrific. Even if they wanted your stuff, there was no need for them to beat you like that and 3 on 1! You are amazing for going through these physical encounters and still being able to trust. From you, I have learned to always search for the lesson and to always go through life with grace xx
I love how raw and real you are and how you wear your heart in your sleeve. My husband is my blessing too and I love having productive arguments’ also haha
Your new home is so bright and beautiful! I'm so happy that things are falling in to place for you, and that those horrible times are behind you. Marriage, baby, home, and self-discovery. You are a fantastic woman! P.S: I re-watched your wedding video, and you guys still need to get the dog!!! Lol! 😜😘♥️
I can definitely see that strong core within you that your father gave you....never lose that....Your father is a wise man.....it is right to get your hands dirty at times and work hard to forge your future and the goals within it to make a better life. You have grown so much mentally, emotionally, intellectually, physically to become even better than what you were....and you get more beautiful inside and out everyday from your experiences...Keep going Maria, you're doing great and on the right path xx
I would love it if you made this a constant thing. I admire you a lot and I think you hold a lot of wisdom within you, Maria. It would be so amazing if you made like a monthly video in this channel where you talk to us about your life lessons. Much love❤️😊💖
The fact that you were able to pull these lessons from these very difficult experiences is so inspiring. Not only when it comes to people, but life events, too. Good and bad, they will teach you more about yourself or about people/life or about how to handle unexpected situations. It's a philosophy that I'd very gladly take along with me.
What a wonderful chat! So helped us understand that we all have bumps in the road. You have a gift 🎁 of touching people positively with a healing warmth. That is probably why you are my favorite ASMR. Your honesty is refreshing and you are beautiful from the inside out!
I have been watching you for about five years now, since your Cozy and Cute ASMR video, and I cannot believe how wonderful you are. I think you’re the only UA-camr I have watched for this long and it is because you mean so much to me. I’m so glad that I can come on here and see a more personal Maria. I love you and thank you so much!💕💕 Also sorry this is not one sentence lol!
Maria, you are a pillar of strength! I think you found your prince! I am in a long term relationship as well. It is wonderful to be listened to and have a partner in crime. You are never alone ever again. We are so lucky aren’t we?!?!?! 🙏🏼 blessings to you and your family!!!!!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
"Mind your manners." That's the one thing my husband and I really try to adhere to. You said it in a way I haven't thought of before, and that was you're not offensive to each other. It's a game changer. Also, totes understand where you're coming from about living with someone before marrying them. I'd like to gently, and with genuine respect to your valid feelings, posit that living with someone isn't statutory. It is not a universal "absolute must," as you say. I just wanted to put that out there bc there's lots of young people who still need to work out what is best for them, but listening to someone they justifiably love so much (as I do too ;)) make such a declaration can give them the impression that x must be abided by. I was a virgin when I got married at twenty. I'm more happy with that same husband today, 20 years later, than I was when I married him. (And no, I don't believe I am an exception whatsoever. Most people I know share a similar experience.) Again, though, your feelings and experience are just as valid. ;)
I love how you always see the positive in life. You take unfortunate and negative experiences and you turn them around to your benefit. I truly admire your self-reflection and introspection. Everything that has happened in your life is why you are where you are now. Continue to embrace it all and enjoy the wonderful life you have built with your family! ❤️
I totally agree with you about living with a person before getting married although I did the complete opposite haha. My husband and I were long distance dating and then got married while he was enlisted in the army. A lot of people didn’t think we would last, but we’ll be celebrating 3 years of marriage in December 😊 Thanks for the great video as usual! I always love the personal, deep dive conversations
Your advice on attacking the problem as a team and not each other helps. I try to always tell my boyfriend we are a team and we can weather anything together. This video really resonated with me. Thank you 💕
I love how optimistic you are that you can talk about these experiences that may not have been great in the moment and still find good things in them. You turned it all into learning experiences and I love that, thank you for your positivity Maria ❤
I believe all our relationships are stepping stones. They get us ready for the person we are meant to be with. 💕 I love how you and Darryl are. I can see how much he loves you every time he looks your way. So happy for you both and your beautiful baby girl, you are going to be awesome parents!
CAN I JUST SAY I reaaallly appreciated this video! 🌸💜 I am soon going to be moving in with my boyfriend and this is my first very serious relationship so you sharing everything you’ve learned is extremely helpful! Much love Maria ❤️ “Real life isn’t dating or having fun. It’s coexisting at times when you can’t stand each other!” 🙌🏼 ALSO I love the part where you say you feel like you had a great fight like you’re very proud of how you approach your disagreementS ! I understand what you mean 🤗
this video is so raw and real. i’ve been watching your channel for a while now and it’s amazing to see how much you’ve grown. you seem so much less soft spoken than in earlier years. you have helped me with my anxiety and insomnia immeasurably, and to see how far you’ve come from such experiences is really inspiring. thank you for this🖤
I am truly saddened by cowardice men that would hit a woman because call me Old School I was raised to treat a woman with honor that is what my Dad taught me respect for your honesty and your AMSR Videos have really helped me so much love to you and everyone ☝️❤️✌️😊🐯🦁🐯🦁🐯🦁💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏Namaste
not old fashioned that’s just common sense. every man should treat every woman with respect & honor! kudos to ur dad tho for raising you the way everyone should be raised!!!!
hearing this. you are such an inspiration. showing everyone there is good and bad to everything is such an incredible life lesson. and the fact you are willing to still learn and always grow is a testament to your maturity.
Wow thanks for sharing Maria! I love hearing stories of relationship's and how we learn and grow . I too have a similar past as yours. I have an amazing husband now after years of prayers and I believe God put us together. My first marriage was with my first love and it was tough but I loved him so much it tore me apart after our divorce. I'm thankful for him though and the lessons I learned from that part of my life. Oh and yes I'm a firm believer in living together before marriage! I mean you can love someone so much but you may not can live with them! Again thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your stories with us. Love you and your lil family and so happy you've been strong through everything!
I am always inspired by your story. You’ve been through so much and have grown and changed and learned from all of life’s ups and downs. We all do I suppose, but I love hearing your story and it’s happy current state with Darryl and your wonderful Mila! I couldn’t have been happier for a person when you married Darryl, like you were my close friend! :) And once Mila came, same thing, so excited for you! Thanks for being brave and opening up to us all and telling your story. It’s really important to reflect on what we can learn from even the bad experiences in our lives. 💗
Maria has such a gentle voice even when she’s just simply speaking 🥺💕
Yea I get ASMR from it as well
She's GentleWhispering all the way
I know I watch her on this channel because it’s so relaxing and I love her videos here
Sho ooky i was just about to comment the same thing omg
I’ve chosen this video to fall asleep to tonight lol
One taught you love
One taught you patience
And one taught you pain
Now, YOU ARE SO AMAZING!
Pain is not something anyone needs to learn.
Frankie Valentine wish that were true , but we live with fallible human beings so might as well make the best out of it. Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
thank you next
lauren stewart,,,my sentiments too, as I sip my g and t!!!
@@eveboyle109 wdym?
Never underestimate the power of a healthy argument. 💕
Honey Bear facts...learning to express my feelings in a calm & healthy way while fighting has been one of my most important lessons
Or a healthy relationship.
I think I know why Maria likes a good fight
kswannie Eh?
"I'm proud of us as a couple when we fight."
The truest of relationship goals.
Right?!?! I wish I could hear one of their fights. I don't know if I know how to fight in a healthy way!
@@jennhoff03
ОЧЕНЬ ПРОСТО - С УВАЖЕНИЕМ к любому Человеку! ☺️🙏
Its very Simple - Just RESPECTFULLY to Any PERSON you speak-appeal-argue to! 💁☺️
As someone whose watched your videos since pretty much the beginning I just have to say it’s been so cool and often pretty motivating to watch how much you’ve grown and continue to grow as a person. But through all of that your good heart and dedication to whatever you put your efforts towards is extremely inspiring to me
Yep, well said Mike!
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So nice
Yes, very well said!
I've only been watching her since 2015, but I still wanted her to be in good mental health and financially stable back then. It's good to see she may finally be there.
I'm 22, I don't have much life experience but I really admire you, you're one of my role models even though I don't know you personally. I hope I can be that strong and brave throughout my life!
same xxx
Same 🙋
I'm 22 as well and I can relate too this!
same :)
samee
Something that gives me a lot of peace thinking about (that might sound cliche) is that I have survived every bad day in my life. Everything I thought that I couldn't get through, do or live through I have. It gives me this level of hope like I am a strong woman and I survived the past so I can survive what's coming too.
Carina 94 I’ve recently adopted this way of thinking too. It’s helped me to stop living in fear every day and to realize I’m capable of much more than I think I am 🙌🏻
Carina 94 love this - thanks for sharing !
Carina 94 this is sort of my mantra! I always tell myself “I’m stronger than this” when I’m scared, because I too have survived everything so far thinking that it would kill me.
I really needed to hear that :)
yes, i totally relate with u
24 years and never been in a relationship. It has taught me that I don't have to fit a certain standard and that the relationship with myself is the one that I should be working on. Thank you Maria for your honesty and I am so happy for your family
I'm 23 and the longest relationship I've been in was 2 months. Nice to know there's other people my age who AREN'T getting engaged, seems like that's all I see on facebook now, ugh
I am 31 and had my first serious relationship ( that i am still in) when I was 29, not a big deal realy
Saturday night beer and real talk with Maria? Heck yes
Hell to the yes. ❤
CAN WE MAKE THIS A SEGMENT?
Yes please.
i'm so happy you got out of such awful relationships and now you're married to a lovely man who understands you & makes you happy 💖 you're so inspiring
I love how she lights up when she talks about Darryl and always calls him “my Darryl”. You can tell how much she loves him ☺️❤️ wish the best for both of them.
How you always say "My Darryl", love that so much ❤. Lots of love!
The fact that you've been through so much hurt and abuse yet you still have the most kind and gentle heart of gold and are so giving is the example that we all need...I'm so glad you exist.
Couldn't agree more about needing to live with a partner before you get married. I've always said that it's very wise!
Lily my boyfriend and I studied abroad together. That’s a real good test for time😂😂
Agreed!
I agree! I have a female relative who for some reason thinks (or used to) that a couple shouldn't live together unless they were married. That makes zero sense to me. If you're already having a physical relationship with them, why can't you co-habitate? I do realize that some people might believe in celibacy until marriage, and if that's what they want, then good for them. Maria is so right! You never truly know someone until you've lived together at least a couple years. That's what's real...how you get along during real life stuff (arguments taxes, job loss, illness).
Too many people mistakenly get married during the love hormone 'honey moon phase'. Everything seems so amazing...but it's really the Oxytocin. That wears off, and if you still LIKE each other, then you can keep it fun, but be serious when times call for it.
Best comment on here!
I totally get you when you say you're happy after a fight. When I was younger I'd go in a mood, storm out and ignore my boyfriend after a fight. Now I'm older, more mature (only a little bit) and know my other half very well, we can have an argument as if it was any other conversation. It's not comfortable and I don't enjoy them but it feels good to sit and hash out your problems, understand the other person's point of view, move forward and make improvements in the relationship.
My post would be so, so long because I have learned so much from the men in my life...I've learned that I just want to be with a person who is kind, patient and funny but most importantly that respects me and values not only our relationship but our friendship too....Thank you for sharing your wisdom on relationships and for being so honest about what you've gone through in life....Honestly, how very refreshing and I know this is one of the big reasons why you are so loved on YT and in the ASMR community....Well that and your wonderful soothing voice and beautiful positive energy.....Appreciate and love you!....
Masha, this video couldn’t have had any better timing. I’m experiencing the aftermath of my first breakup, to a guy who I thought would be my everything. I’m a little over two months into the post breakup and I have been honestly struggling. From talking to someone for almost everyday, to have that consistency in your life, is devastating when it gets rips away.
We dated for almost three years. He was sweet, kind, and loving. He was so caring and polite towards everyone he would ever meet. Yes, being in love for the first time and having someone who loves you in return is the most wonderful feeling in the world. However, when you love someone who neglects their mental health, it really takes a toll on the other person - especially when they too have their anxieties. Some days I kick myself down for not ending it sooner, he was drowning and I was drowning. I was holding onto my best friend of three years. I was holding onto the hope that long distance would end. I realized from hours of therapy that we could have been two miles apart (and at one point in our relationship we were) and I would still never see him. He’s living at home (we’re the same age and in college), while I’m over three states away from him. I’ve realized we weren’t really talking to each other. I was talking to him but he wasn’t there. He was struggling through his own depression and anxieties. I understand this because I too have struggled in the same retrospect. You don’t feel like you can share much because you feel as if you don’t have a lot going on - and when you are deep in your depression as even I once felt - you don’t care to share this side of you. You are looking for any distraction.
It was not bad but it was not good either. We had a lot of wonderful moments together. We had a lot in common, we both got along well with each other’s families, and things (in my head) seem like they were ideally following into place. I didn’t realize as to how hard he was hurting and struggling during the last few months. I would try to ask him, but he would insist on it being because he lives at home (which is completely reasonable), and he would turn around to make it seem like things were going just okay for him. I would feel bad, my heart would hurt for him. I would do everything and anything to visit him as much as I could - but I found the excuses were the same. I felt disappointed constantly. I would always poor my heart out in little gifts and cards through the mail. Not once did I receive mail from him in our three years. Words from him that were summed up into excuses and probably some lies. I felt as if I couldn’t let go of him. I was too scared to lose this kind of love. My first love. We have worked through harder situations before, so in my head, I thought we could work through this road bump. But it wasn’t a road bump.
It was a freaking detour.
I’m not going to go into big details, but for almost two months he lied about being in school. He dropped out at some point. Lied to his family, lied to me. Found timely reasons to not see me - being sick although his mom says it was true that he was - because he knew if I saw him, I could see through his lies. It was the literal breaking point that caused us to end. It was three weeks before my semesters end at college. I needed to hang in there in order pass my finals (which I freaking rocked all considering, 4 A’s and 1 B).
I know he lied more than just things relating to school, but I don’t know what and I’m not ready to face what those are. I know he loved me (although my anxiety at times says no). I poured my heart and soul into this relationship. I don’t regret this. I know this is who I am with every relationship I have. I only regret not having the courage to end things myself. I was too scared to make that leap.
So, I’m still learning my lessons. How to treat myself better. How to be in a better mental place myself before grad school starts and other relationships that may follow. I know I deserve better and I will have someone who treats me in this regard. I know I’ll always love him since he was my first. I would honestly still give a lot to receive a hug from him. I know he wasn’t the best person near the end, but it doesn’t mean our relationship was all bad. It doesn’t not mean he was bad. He’s just been in a bad place. But I am done giving myself that excuse. I still could have been given a lot more in return. I know this at least.
(And for those who read this all, you are THE champ.)
What a strong ass woman! We ALL are very proud of you ❤️
Lorenza Fiori thank you for your love and support ❤️😭
Judy Sahakian thank you for sharing this with us Judy, sending you sososo much Love 💛🙏🏽🔆✨
I am just now reading this. How are you doing now, love? ♥️
@@Holly-bj9bd I am doing so great! Finished my master’s degree and loving life. Thank you for asking 💕
Your mental and emotional strength is truly inspirational and aspirational . x
How wonderful! You need to know who you are before you are with someone else and I think your experiential advice is very sound. I loved “attack the problem instead of attacking each other”. THAT is a real gem for all relationships.
From my husband I learned how to take time for myself; he encourages me to stop, take a break... and rest. I don't have to be Wonder Woman. 😍
That's a keeper 😍❤
You are SO right about living with your person before marriage, Maria. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we just bought a house. Needless to say, this has been quite a change in our lives! It’s been hard, but we are learning even more about who we are individually and as a team ♥️ Thanks for your videos Maria, both your ASMR and vlogs. You have no idea how much they have enriched my life.
Alex Mayberry it’s crazy how two yrs for some couples is a long enough time to buy a house together and for others it’s just the beginning
idk. On one hand i think it makes sense. But statistically you are more then 2x as likely to break up and get a divorce if you cohabitate with your spouse before your married. So then im confused. At teh same time if you discuss your values and expectations before your married idk if you need to cohabitate cuz you will know who they are as a person. And you can work together through the issues from there. I mean im not saying she is wrong. I just know that statistically they say you are much more likely to break up if you live together before your married.
WorldWearyAngel I can’t find the article, but apparently there has been more research on this subject and those statistics are based on very specific factors, which make complete sense. It said that your chances are extremely high in divorce/breaking up later on if you 1. Move in together because you can’t afford living on your own 2. Move in before understanding each other’s marriage timeline expectations and I can’t remember the third one. But as you were saying, no matter what the circumstance, if you communicate very clearly expectations/values before marriage any couple has a much better chance :)
WorldWearyAngel talking about it means nothing. people say they are better than they are. this is coming from someone who has lived with roommates and significant others. we all do it. i think those statistics may be framed to make it seem like people break up more if they cohabitate first. people who arent married are more likely to break up than married couples because of ease, so if you only live together post marriage you deal with it rather than knowing you can “find better” if you arent married. i think the mindset changes once you say those vows, and the willingness decreases because of lack of ease to separate
Alexis VM Yes yes yes
I’m 20, I lost my mom to cancer about 9 years ago, and I just wanted to say thank you for posting videos about your life like this🥰. I don’t really have a mother to talk to when I need it, and these videos are super intimate and wonderful to watch. And now with the new baby I feel you have a very strong mother aura, and your wisdom is a gift so thank you once again!
You make some great points Maria! It’s so important to know your partner’s domestic tendencies. Also what you expect from them and what they expect from you. They say you don’t really know a person until after 2 years of meeting them.
My advice after 20 years together, married for 9 and with two kids, is to never go to bed angry. Have the healthy argument, then make up ❤️. Thanks for sharing your life with us Maria. You’re a wonderful person 🙂
I love hearing about your life, past and present. I'm so glad you're with Darryl.
Look how far you've come, Maria. It's incredible.
love how Daryll taught u how to fight nicely and attack the problem rather than each other! GOLDEN WORDS!
theres so much tenderness in your voice whenever you say “my daryl.”
it takes so much stumbling and falling until you can run, im glad the two of you help each other fly. ❤️
Maria, you are such an open, honest and resilient person and it's also very brave to let all of us thousands of people into some parts of your life.
Thanks for another glimpse into your philosophy x
I've only had one "significant" relationship, and I learnt from that how important it is not to expect your partner to be everything to you, to have a self outside of the relationship, and not to believe being in a relationship will fix all your issues.
I'm sorry for the difficulties you went through, but so glad you found D.
I love your optimism. You always try to bring out the positive no matter how dark the circumstances. Much ❤ you! From a BIG fan who has been molded by relationships as well!
This is better than relationship counselling. Seriously, watching her vlogs and sharing they're experiences is giving me an idea of what a healthy relationship is supposed to look like.
Careful, Shanann Watts was giving similar relationship advice in the same triumphant tone
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@Hunt L L who ?
You are so insightful. It’s time for me to reflect on my relationships. Thank you for the inspiration! The most important thing is we learn from them all and go on!
Can you do an ASMR video HOUSE TOUR? Pleeeaassseee! Thank you 😁😁
I second that!!! 💚
I’d rather not...see that.... boundaries are important to respect and honor.....she gives so much and in this culture and time we live in,we take so much from others ( especially those in the public) without giving in turn ... before you know it their burnt out and shutting down their channel..... balance... I wish only joy and balance between her passion, her privacy, family, and work
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Update: so my comment comes from my musings about the string of UA-camrs who’ve recently quit from burnout (Michelle Phan) and also from the fact that some have been stalked (HeatherFeather) and completely been affected the lack of boundaries into their life.
i never knew what was so interesting about viewing someone’s home! it’s jus not safe yk. her having a media presence, a new baby, settling in her house, being a new mommy! probably not the best idea although a sweet and innocent one probably better to respect her family privacy!😋
PRIA A i agree!:)
@@priaa7934 She gave a house tour of one of the houses they rented. I would love to see it. But if she is no longer comfortable with that, I would respect that.
Maria you are such a role model, I swear. The fact that you got out of those relationships stronger and with so much love for life and the world really amazes me. Thank you for sharing this, it thought me every experience in life can teach us something no matter how hard it is
well seeing as i’m a teen i haven’t dated anyone yet but -
my mom has taught me how to ask for what i want and how to fight for what i want, but she has impacted me in that she showed me how not to act in a marriage and how not to use your words, how to manipulate, and a negative outlook on personal health and looking out for yourself.
my dad has taught me how to be compassionate and empathetic and respectful, and how to be independent, but he also showed me how not to handle sadness and to be able to talk to people about your feelings.
my step mom has taught me how to be a hard worker and how to put everyone else on an even playing field with you and that making sure others are happy is important, but she has shown me that you can’t always look after everyone else, you have to look after yourself too or you can’t cope.
my oldest sister has taught me how to be outspoken and to be an activist and politically involved and how to speak i. front of others, but also not to overstep boundaries and to still be respectful.
my second oldest sister has taught me to apologize and to show people you love them and to have connections with people, but also that you need to figure out your life and you can’t just think about the last and the present, you have to think about the future too.
my younger sister has taught me about acceptance, and that your words can have an impact on others in both a positive and negative way. she had helped me accept myself and shown me that i can help others too.
hope this was interesting for you! love your videos :) sending love
Wonderful insights! You are a wise and strong young woman, I'm so proud of you! ❤
Sassy Masha Vlogs i just looked back at this comment and saw your response :) thanks maria!
I could listen to her talk all the time. Her vlogs are some of my favorite videos of hers. Too pure for this world.
"I'm proud of us as a couple when we fight." I FELT THAT.
it's crazy how having a child can make you reflect on life etc.
I love how genuine your smile got when you started talking about Darryl. Much love to you three 💕
My man showed me dedication, loyalty, and his to persevere through challenging times, and in return I've showed him adoration, tenderness, and respect that he didn't get in previous relationships.
I started dating my husband at 17 years old I am now a month away from turning 34 we have grown up together, working out who we are as individuals as well as a couple. We are each other’s firsts and onlys. Celebrating 9 years of marriage and 17 years together this year. We work as a team in raising our 3 kids and in every aspect of life.
Thanks for sharing your experiences and thoughts.
MrsQueen Bea that’s amazing 🙏🏼 how did you guys stay together through college? any tips?
This is so sweet. Maria, there must be something in the comic energy that a lot of people are reflecting on their lives healing and understanding what's right in their paths. I have been watching your videos for a few years maybe. You've evolved a lot from shy and sweet to now such a confident woman, wife, mom and UA-camr. A woman who finds her right man smiles a lot the glow and happiness is undeniable genuine, finds her talent and achieving her goals and desires in life. Like you said even bad times is satisfying because that's your soul calling your purpose. I am very happy for you.
I love this video. Getting a glimpse of a personal side of you is so intriguing! Insightful, big sister vibes, a good time.
You’re so relatable Maria. Such a sweetheart. Talking to us about these life things are so helpful and let us all know we have been through hardships and we can become stronger because of them!
Honestly watching this gives me a bit more hope for my future. My last boyfriend passed away very unexpectedly and it nearly took me with him. I've constantly told myself that I'll never feel that kind of love again, and no one would want me anyway because now I'm so damaged. Thank you so much for sharing this ❤️
Alyssa Seitz i’m so sorry for your loss love 💕💕 you are so strong & just know that you are loved & you will love again :) there is always hope because love always finds a way
I'm sorry for your loss, I wish you patience as you heal, you'll find love again someday
This is the most wonderful description of life, struggles, triumphs and love. You speak of your husband with such respect and love.
Literally heading to bed and needed a soft spoken video to fall asleep too💖 Thank you Maria🙏🏾🙏🏾
Man, the attacking the problem together instead of attacking each other was such a good point. That is the best way to have a disagreement, I think. You're really learning how to communicate rather than causing barriers between each other. Also, my boyfriend and I have lived together for about 7 months now and I'm so glad we've decided to do this. We wanted to live together before we ever think about getting married, just so we know for sure that we are a match for each other. I think it's important to know everything you can about your partner before you commit. I'm glad you found your match, Maria! Love you!
Thank you for sharing! Your positive outlook even on such negative situations it's really inspirational.
Great reflective video. I have watched your videos for years and you have truly grown so much! What I have learned: learn to think for yourself and form your own opinions and set of beliefs.
I’m only 22, but so far in my relationships I’ve learned that communication is ESSENTIAL in a relationship, and that I deserve more than an unfaithful, disloyal partner who makes me second guess everything. Thank you for opening up to us Masha, we appreciate you so much.
Thank you for sharing this. It made me emotional because it had me thinking about some of the awful relationships I've been through and how I actually got some benefits from them. I no longer speak to my father but he taught me how to tear down other people and get really personal during a fight, which is an awful lesson but I was able to defend myself against bullies this way, being someone who is not athletic. Then I grew up and I did this in relationships and I learned that will ruin them. In a roundabout way, I learned to be kind.
This level of talking is sooooooo relaxing to me. The less staged the asmr, the more it works for me!! I’ve watched a lot of your sassy masha videos for this. BTW, it’s great you and your husband respect each other. That is so hard to maintain.
Susan B I agree! Less staged and forced ASMR w her voice is the bestttt
It's wonderful to observe someone like you...a woman who is struggling with her everyday (maternity 😊) issues and yet cherishes them!...who's had ups and downs as everybody else have, and has the wisdom to address the topic from a positive perspective. A regular person, a real woman, a mom... Living her life and learning (a lot) along the way!! This video made me analyze a few things about my own journey. Thanks Maria! ❤
We love you Maria! You’re so gentle and nurturing, but also so wise and dare I say a bit of a bad a** when it comes to all you’ve learned and been through. 😅
My relationships have helped me to see what I want , don’t want and deserve. I will never love anyone more than I love myself. I realized that people can do you harm , so always guard your heart and be smart. It’s ok to be vulnerable but in a logical way ❤️ and I want to say thank you to you. When I was going through my past relationship you really helped with my anxiety and anger towards my abuser. When I didn’t have a friend to talk to, because they were tired of me talking about the abuse and not doing anything about it ...your videos helped me. Some people think ASMR is not healing but I’m a witness to how it works. Thank you 🙏🏼
I really loved listening to your insight. Thank you for sharing.
And I’d just like to mention how resilient and strong you are. You are an incredible person.
I love how you self-reflect. Introspection is an absolute requirement of personal growth. It takes great character to recognize, and admit to your own flaws. Recognizing one's role in the both the good and the bad of one's life situations and experiences is a skill few people master. You do it well, and beautifully! Good job.
My dad taught me pretty much the same lessons yours taught you: a good work ethic, not to be afraid of getting my hands dirty to get a job done, how to be self-reliant, the importance of being a person of high integrity, and to demand the best effort from myself and others. He had a temper though, and could be very abusive. This made me a compulsive perfectionist for a long time - any perceived failure completely broke me because I would beat myself up about it. It took years of help from my current wonderful husband to overcome that. - ♥♥♥ My hubby seems a lot like your Daryl (sp?). I'm so glad we've both found our matches! ♥♥♥
I feel like this is a sign that you posted this video Maria. I have been thinking about the people who have affected my life the past 20 years, and I needed some clarification. Thank you for posting this ❤️❤️❤️
I love this! At this point in my life I have found the one man that embraces what we’ve learned from prior relationships. We have learned that communication, listening, empathy, people of integrity, and respect are key. Emotionally healthy relationships are incredible!
the life of moms:
*the sun is still shining outside*
a mom: i'm now having my saturday *night*'s beer. god knows i need it.
hehe, you KNOW IT! :D
Your honesty is powerful. I'm so sorry you went thru some of the stuff you talk about. You have brought so much peace to others. You are a blessing.
You inspire me so much, Masha. Your self awareness and willingness to constantly learn more about the world people in general, it’s so beneficial to me watching you grow so much as a human being. Thank you for telling us your thoughts and feelings on this journey of life 💕
My heart is completely open and bleeds for you............I have been through plenty of abuse, but never "beaten". Your story of ultimate happiness and success after lessons learned will continue to encourage and inspire your subscribers...........thank you and much love to you, Darryl, and beautiful Mila.
I'm so sorry you've had those difficult and negative experiences but am proud of you for turning them into lessons to yourself about what you deserve, which are only good things. You seem like a genuinely good person and am I'm happy for you to have found your husband and have your adorable baby. Thank you so much for sharing these parts of your life with us!
Maria!! I'm 20yrs old and have been watching your videos since I was 15, and this video has reminded me that you are one of my biggest role models. You've were such a soothing presence in my later teenage years and a beacon of light over this past year for me. Thank you so much for all that you do and for sharing these fascinating reflections!!
When she said my Darryl it made me so happy knowing she is with someone who she truly loves. Love you Maria ❤️
How brave of you to share such personal things. You ARE beautiful! I've been following you for several years now and I've seen you grow, mature and become so successful. You've come a long way, Maria! You have a beautiful daughter, a husband that clearly adores you and now a new home! So happy for all of your success!
Relationships with Dad are so important. It sounds like you're lucky to have a great Dad who taught you a lot. I'm blessed with a great Dad too ❤. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Sick Girl you’re really lucky - my dad is an arsehole who left me and my mum at a young age after years of abuse. Cherish your fantastic father!
@@emlo3746 I'm sorry you had to go through that. Way too many fathers pull that crap without giving a thought to the immense damage it does ☹. I hope you and your mum are stronger for it. I wish peace and love for you both! 🙏❤
It's incredibly admirable how you've reflected on impactful life events, especially painful and traumatic ones or ones that might make you feel regretful and how you've picked out positive life lessons and thought about ways in which those events have made you a stronger and better person. It's so easy to carry just the pain and regret. It's something I do often, and of course there are many objectively 'negative' or unfortunate things that happen to everyone but it's amazing how you can still carry your head high, be unashamed and speak about how everything that has happened to you has somehow contributed to some of the infinite good in you, or how to work on your weaknesses rather than define yourself around them. You're inspiring and motivating me to get better at this and I'm so grateful. I'm so happy for you and all you've accomplished, you deserve all the happiness and success!
I got ASMR during this and felt guilty about it. You are a strong woman! I had no idea you have been through all that. Thank you for sharing. I want to watch again and reflect on my life. 43 and never married. Not sure what I've learned positive.
This was both heartbreaking and uplifting. It's so incredible that you found lessons in everything you have been through. My first boyfriend was also physically abusive, but I stayed with him for almost 3 years (and even begged him to come back when he left!). But once we had been apart and I began to look back on those years with fresh eyes, that's when I learned how awful it was and how no woman has to put up with that. I didn't learn much in the way of physical defence but I definitely learned what I should and SHOULD NOT accept from a man.
That story of you being beaten and robbed was just horrific. Even if they wanted your stuff, there was no need for them to beat you like that and 3 on 1! You are amazing for going through these physical encounters and still being able to trust. From you, I have learned to always search for the lesson and to always go through life with grace xx
I love these chit chat videos I feel like I’m in the room on the couch just listening to you having a beer as well lol
I love how raw and real you are and how you wear your heart in your sleeve. My husband is my blessing too and I love having productive arguments’ also haha
I love how you share with us. I feel like we are old friends 💜
Honestly teared up! So happy for you, your growth, and the mutual love and respect you have found in your relationship and marriage with Darryl ❤️
Your new home is so bright and beautiful! I'm so happy that things are falling in to place for you, and that those horrible times are behind you. Marriage, baby, home, and self-discovery. You are a fantastic woman!
P.S: I re-watched your wedding video, and you guys still need to get the dog!!! Lol! 😜😘♥️
I can definitely see that strong core within you that your father gave you....never lose that....Your father is a wise man.....it is right to get your hands dirty at times and work hard to forge your future and the goals within it to make a better life. You have grown so much mentally, emotionally, intellectually, physically to become even better than what you were....and you get more beautiful inside and out everyday from your experiences...Keep going Maria, you're doing great and on the right path xx
I would love it if you made this a constant thing. I admire you a lot and I think you hold a lot of wisdom within you, Maria. It would be so amazing if you made like a monthly video in this channel where you talk to us about your life lessons. Much love❤️😊💖
The fact that you were able to pull these lessons from these very difficult experiences is so inspiring. Not only when it comes to people, but life events, too. Good and bad, they will teach you more about yourself or about people/life or about how to handle unexpected situations. It's a philosophy that I'd very gladly take along with me.
When you talk about "your Daryl" your face does this beautiful glow thing and I love it. ❤
What a wonderful chat! So helped us understand that we all have bumps in the road. You have a gift 🎁 of touching people positively with a healing warmth. That is probably why you are my favorite ASMR. Your honesty is refreshing and you are beautiful from the inside out!
I have been watching you for about five years now, since your Cozy and Cute ASMR video, and I cannot believe how wonderful you are. I think you’re the only UA-camr I have watched for this long and it is because you mean so much to me. I’m so glad that I can come on here and see a more personal Maria.
I love you and thank you so much!💕💕
Also sorry this is not one sentence lol!
Awwww... sweetheart 😍 thank you for saying that! Huuugs 🤗
the fact you can see the positive and what you gained from a bad experience really inspires me to do the same
Maria, you are a pillar of strength! I think you found your prince! I am in a long term relationship as well. It is wonderful to be listened to and have a partner in crime. You are never alone ever again. We are so lucky aren’t we?!?!?! 🙏🏼 blessings to you and your family!!!!!! 💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
"Mind your manners." That's the one thing my husband and I really try to adhere to. You said it in a way I haven't thought of before, and that was you're not offensive to each other. It's a game changer.
Also, totes understand where you're coming from about living with someone before marrying them. I'd like to gently, and with genuine respect to your valid feelings, posit that living with someone isn't statutory. It is not a universal "absolute must," as you say. I just wanted to put that out there bc there's lots of young people who still need to work out what is best for them, but listening to someone they justifiably love so much (as I do too ;)) make such a declaration can give them the impression that x must be abided by. I was a virgin when I got married at twenty. I'm more happy with that same husband today, 20 years later, than I was when I married him. (And no, I don't believe I am an exception whatsoever. Most people I know share a similar experience.)
Again, though, your feelings and experience are just as valid.
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I had a 15 year abusive marriage then met the love of my life who teaches me everyday what a healthy relationship is 😍😍😍
Same
I love how you always see the positive in life. You take unfortunate and negative experiences and you turn them around to your benefit. I truly admire your self-reflection and introspection. Everything that has happened in your life is why you are where you are now. Continue to embrace it all and enjoy the wonderful life you have built with your family! ❤️
I totally agree with you about living with a person before getting married although I did the complete opposite haha. My husband and I were long distance dating and then got married while he was enlisted in the army. A lot of people didn’t think we would last, but we’ll be celebrating 3 years of marriage in December 😊 Thanks for the great video as usual! I always love the personal, deep dive conversations
Your advice on attacking the problem as a team and not each other helps. I try to always tell my boyfriend we are a team and we can weather anything together. This video really resonated with me. Thank you 💕
Last night I was just watching some of your older videos and thinking about how much you’ve changed! ❤️
I love how optimistic you are that you can talk about these experiences that may not have been great in the moment and still find good things in them. You turned it all into learning experiences and I love that, thank you for your positivity Maria ❤
i’m half way though and all i can say is you are so strong. i have so much respect for you.
I believe all our relationships are stepping stones. They get us ready for the person we are meant to be with. 💕 I love how you and Darryl are. I can see how much he loves you every time he looks your way. So happy for you both and your beautiful baby girl, you are going to be awesome parents!
CAN I JUST SAY I reaaallly appreciated this video! 🌸💜 I am soon going to be moving in with my boyfriend and this is my first very serious relationship so you sharing everything you’ve learned is extremely helpful! Much love Maria ❤️ “Real life isn’t dating or having fun. It’s coexisting at times when you can’t stand each other!” 🙌🏼 ALSO I love the part where you say you feel like you had a great fight like you’re very proud of how you approach your disagreementS ! I understand what you mean 🤗
this video is so raw and real. i’ve been watching your channel for a while now and it’s amazing to see how much you’ve grown. you seem so much less soft spoken than in earlier years. you have helped me with my anxiety and insomnia immeasurably, and to see how far you’ve come from such experiences is really inspiring. thank you for this🖤
I am truly saddened by cowardice men that would hit a woman because call me Old School I was raised to treat a woman with honor that is what my Dad taught me respect for your honesty and your AMSR Videos have really helped me so much love to you and everyone ☝️❤️✌️😊🐯🦁🐯🦁🐯🦁💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥💥🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔🔔❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️🙏Namaste
not old fashioned that’s just common sense. every man should treat every woman with respect & honor! kudos to ur dad tho for raising you the way everyone should be raised!!!!
I don't think this should be limited to just women, just do not beat up other people
I AM Champion Carl DeGennaro It’s a great comment and message but all the emojis ruined it a bit for me .
hearing this. you are such an inspiration. showing everyone there is good and bad to everything is such an incredible life lesson. and the fact you are willing to still learn and always grow is a testament to your maturity.
Wow thanks for sharing Maria! I love hearing stories of relationship's and how we learn and grow . I too have a similar past as yours. I have an amazing husband now after years of prayers and I believe God put us together. My first marriage was with my first love and it was tough but I loved him so much it tore me apart after our divorce. I'm thankful for him though and the lessons I learned from that part of my life. Oh and yes I'm a firm believer in living together before marriage! I mean you can love someone so much but you may not can live with them! Again thanks for being vulnerable and sharing your stories with us. Love you and your lil family and so happy you've been strong through everything!
I am always inspired by your story. You’ve been through so much and have grown and changed and learned from all of life’s ups and downs. We all do I suppose, but I love hearing your story and it’s happy current state with Darryl and your wonderful Mila! I couldn’t have been happier for a person when you married Darryl, like you were my close friend! :) And once Mila came, same thing, so excited for you! Thanks for being brave and opening up to us all and telling your story. It’s really important to reflect on what we can learn from even the bad experiences in our lives. 💗