Looking back into my own behaviour, I realise the many occasions I became defensive when I was being corrected and now understand it was just a defence mechanism to conceal my unhealed trauma🙏
I ended up destroying my life most of my life. What a quote and how true. I died at, "The butterflies are you thinking , "I get to re-live my trauma again."
Yes, I've been shut down emotionally and I'm a person that knows that feelings are the first thing. Wow. As a woman working in a profession that's dominantly men, I have been even more shut down because of being called crazy and scary. I have a long way to go!
Thank you for this. I whole heartily agree with the things you said about how emotions are really the rutter that stears our lives. I am almost 61 and can honestly say I've had years and years of therapy to try and uncover those emotions which have driven my thoughts and decisions. Of course gaining those insights has been and continues to be pivotal to my healing. I would like to comment on the idea that all our trauma comes from childhood. I have had very traumatic experiences as an adult that have impacted my life in ways that had nothing to do with my childhood. These are experiences I had no choice about, and therefore my personal life experiences had nothing to do wth these events. What I am understanding is that those experiences had as much, if not more of an impact on my reality than the traumas I experienced in childhood. Now, how I respond to these tramas is definitely impacted by my past life experiences combined. So, healing from these tramas which took place as an adult, is just as vital as healing from the traumas that I experienced in childhood. I also want to add that we must be careful not to overstate the responsibility we parents have in consciously not doing things or responding in certain ways in order to minimize the trauma we cause our children. Sometimes, children who sense the guilt or responsibility a parent might feel regarding causing trauma to their children, can become manipulative in the way they respond to upset in order to minimize what they perceive as negative responses to their behavior. This can set up a very troubling way a person deals with negative responses from others. They may develope manipulative habits of lying, overly exaggerated emotional and behavioral responses, or any number of other ill adapted cooping strategies. Just some thoughts from my personal experiences. Thanks again for taking the time to help us all become better functioning human beings😊
Thank God for you, Kenny. I have been listening to your videos for several months now.. and now I’m ready to do the work. I just listened to this video and was able to work myself back to when I was three or four. I also recalled a story that was told to me by my parents. I guess back in the 1960s you could go out and take a walk and leave your baby in the crib and not worry about anything happening. They were ones that believed that as long as I had been fed, diaper changed, etc. if I cried, I could just cry it out. Then my brother came along and he had some medical problems with his eyes. Well, who became a very independent little girl? However, a very unhappy, abandoned little girl. Brought up by a narcissistic mother, who was also an alcoholic, and a father, who died when I was 14 years old. I am now feeling feelings I have not felt in years. The only difference is now that I’m feeling them I know 33:38 I just thought I had some mental issues. And of course my entire life I have dealt with this by dealing with my thoughts, changing my thoughts, thinking positive, etc. Now I realize from you it’s all been my emotions that has driven me. However, showing emotions were strong. So I intellectually thought through it all and ultimately thought I was just a selfish woman. I’m just thankful that I found you and I know this is going take a lot of work, but I don’t care , it can’t be as painful or is time-consuming as what I put myself through the last 30-40 years. I’m gonna start by buying your book next week when I get paid and go from there. Thank you again Kenny you’re a lifesaver.
Thank you for sharing a bit of your story and I’m happy to hear that you’re ready to move forward on your healing journey. That takes guts and courage. I would suggest starting with my first book and then move onto my second book, but also take advantage of all of my free downloads and free classes until you get to the place that you’re ready to sign up for my full set of classes which walk-through the healing process.
This is spot on. Thank you for sharing these insights through your passion. It is such a relief to have the emotions admitted to the analysis helping us find personal development for real people.
Wow, this video is absolutely crammed with tools and information ANYONE, given the desire and commitment to self and to relearn some hugely game changing concepts we’ve either been taught or absorbed, can use to grab the reins and feel in control of one’s own thoughts, feelings, words, deeds, and most of all (quality of) life. Your passion shows me I’m not alone, it’s time to do the work, and I can succeed! I’m really grateful for your work and I’m FEELING hopeful and excited and yes, a little apprehensive to begin reorienting and re parenting myself using all the information provided here.
tonight was Jung red book followed by this video. nothing short of profound. lately i've had depression, self pity, guilt, shame and regrets. those feelings are the gateway to my true self, which was abandoned so long ago. i hope my soul is still there. I'm convinced i have no soul and am really just a narcissist in codep clothing.
I’ve already done tons of videos on that topic. I would suggest starting to go through all my playlists because you’ll find the answers to everything you’re looking for inside them
Yes.. And it's even more hard, for me at least, because I'm after h and 20min, exhausted from being overwhelmed by truths, let's say epiphanys, now all I need is to eat, saw your recommendations for that book, and I'm all 4, and just be in silence.. By the way, Thank you ❤🙏(I mean it, not being sarcastic)
My whole childhood was witnessing abuse and trauma. My mother was an alcoholic and my family owned a package store...I am all done with relationships...I am all set with "re-living my childhood trauma" butterflies can kiss my ass🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
3:24 You can say the little insults just keeps piling on. Makes me wonder how the eternal optimist ever becomes one. 6:36 Emotional intelligence trumps over intellectual/logical ability any day of the week? A sad future if humans were to fall for the allure of A/I and allow their emotional (the life of the mind, is I call it) life to languish undeveloped because of avoidance and neglect. 24:29 And yet, the silver lining is that the intellect part of the mind can be recruited to rescue us.😅 If only we learn how.
Can a relationship that has some trauma bonds and attachment issues become heathy if the other person and vice versa reveals those things about you and you are stepping in to heal those parts to become healthy and secure in relationship and doing it together?
The free downloads are part of the recovery journey. My book is completely different. If it were me and if i wanted to recover, I would start with the book, then the free classes and then the monthly membership to all of the classes which teach you the healing journey
I feel validated every time I watch your videos. Your words express what my heart has been screaming.
Finally someone who tells the TRUTH, without filters, the way it is!
Looking back into my own behaviour, I realise the many occasions I became defensive when I was being corrected and now understand it was just a defence mechanism to conceal my unhealed trauma🙏
I ended up destroying my life most of my life. What a quote and how true. I died at, "The butterflies are you thinking , "I get to re-live my trauma again."
Wow. That’s so true.
You are a light in this world
Yes, I've been shut down emotionally and I'm a person that knows that feelings are the first thing. Wow. As a woman working in a profession that's dominantly men, I have been even more shut down because of being called crazy and scary. I have a long way to go!
One theory of autism is that when an infant is born their trauma response is to withdraw from this loud, rude, smelly, painful, awful world.
Thank you for this. I whole heartily agree with the things you said about how emotions are really the rutter that stears our lives. I am almost 61 and can honestly say I've had years and years of therapy to try and uncover those emotions which have driven my thoughts and decisions. Of course gaining those insights has been and continues to be pivotal to my healing.
I would like to comment on the idea that all our trauma comes from childhood. I have had very traumatic experiences as an adult that have impacted my life in ways that had nothing to do with my childhood. These are experiences I had no choice about, and therefore my personal life experiences had nothing to do wth these events. What I am understanding is that those experiences had as much, if not more of an impact on my reality than the traumas I experienced in childhood. Now, how I respond to these tramas is definitely impacted by my past life experiences combined. So, healing from these tramas which took place as an adult, is just as vital as healing from the traumas that I experienced in childhood.
I also want to add that we must be careful not to overstate the responsibility we parents have in consciously not doing things or responding in certain ways in order to minimize the trauma we cause our children. Sometimes, children who sense the guilt or responsibility a parent might feel regarding causing trauma to their children, can become manipulative in the way they respond to upset in order to minimize what they perceive as negative responses to their behavior. This can set up a very troubling way a person deals with negative responses from others. They may develope manipulative habits of lying, overly exaggerated emotional and behavioral responses, or any number of other ill adapted cooping strategies.
Just some thoughts from my personal experiences. Thanks again for taking the time to help us all become better functioning human beings😊
Thank God for you, Kenny. I have been listening to your videos for several months now.. and now I’m ready to do the work. I just listened to this video and was able to work myself back to when I was three or four. I also recalled a story that was told to me by my parents. I guess back in the 1960s you could go out and take a walk and leave your baby in the crib and not worry about anything happening. They were ones that believed that as long as I had been fed, diaper changed, etc. if I cried, I could just cry it out. Then my brother came along and he had some medical problems with his eyes.
Well, who became a very independent little girl? However, a very unhappy, abandoned little girl. Brought up by a narcissistic mother, who was also an alcoholic, and a father, who died when I was 14 years old. I am now feeling feelings I have not felt in years. The only difference is now that I’m feeling them I know 33:38 I just thought I had some mental issues.
And of course my entire life I have dealt with this by dealing with my thoughts, changing my thoughts, thinking positive, etc. Now I realize from you it’s all been my emotions that has driven me. However, showing emotions were strong. So I intellectually thought through it all and ultimately thought I was just a selfish woman. I’m just thankful that I found you and I know this is going take a lot of work, but I don’t care , it can’t be as painful or is time-consuming as what I put myself through the last 30-40 years. I’m gonna start by buying your book next week when I get paid and go from there. Thank you again Kenny you’re a lifesaver.
Thank you for sharing a bit of your story and I’m happy to hear that you’re ready to move forward on your healing journey. That takes guts and courage.
I would suggest starting with my first book and then move onto my second book, but also take advantage of all of my free downloads and free classes until you get to the place that you’re ready to sign up for my full set of classes which walk-through the healing process.
This is spot on. Thank you for sharing these insights through your passion. It is such a relief to have the emotions admitted to the analysis helping us find personal development for real people.
Thanks for your teachings you have helped me
Amen
Wow, this video is absolutely crammed with tools and information ANYONE, given the desire and commitment to self and to relearn some hugely game changing concepts we’ve either been taught or absorbed, can use to grab the reins and feel in control of one’s own thoughts, feelings, words, deeds, and most of all (quality of) life. Your passion shows me I’m not alone, it’s time to do the work, and I can succeed! I’m really grateful for your work and I’m FEELING hopeful and excited and yes, a little apprehensive to begin reorienting and re parenting myself using all the information provided here.
tonight was Jung red book followed by this video. nothing short of profound. lately i've had depression, self pity, guilt, shame and regrets. those feelings are the gateway to my true self, which was abandoned so long ago. i hope my soul is still there. I'm convinced i have no soul and am really just a narcissist in codep clothing.
BIG concept. That's what the butterflies in my stomach were. Like winning at the slots, but not really winning. It is a lot to take in. Thanks.
Thank you Kenny you are so spot on 😁💯 🌱
Thank you and you’re welcome 😁
Wonderful video 👍🙏
Can you please do a video on how to feel emotions, how to not be numb.
I’ve already done tons of videos on that topic. I would suggest starting to go through all my playlists because you’ll find the answers to everything you’re looking for inside them
@@kennyweiss I have been watching them I will have to start from the beginning lol i will be here awhile
Thank u ❤
You're welcome 😊
Excellent video! Thanks for the reading list.
Here are more for you
kennyweiss.net/recommended-reading/
Lost and alone
You're right!
You have an entertaining voice (s) and healing use of color. Are you sure your job title isn't interior healer/designer?
Yes.. And it's even more hard, for me at least, because I'm after h and 20min, exhausted from being overwhelmed by truths, let's say epiphanys, now all I need is to eat, saw your recommendations for that book, and I'm all 4, and just be in silence.. By the way, Thank you ❤🙏(I mean it, not being sarcastic)
My whole childhood was witnessing abuse and trauma. My mother was an alcoholic and my family owned a package store...I am all done with relationships...I am all set with "re-living my childhood trauma" butterflies can kiss my ass🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
3:24 You can say the little insults just keeps piling on. Makes me wonder how the eternal optimist ever becomes one.
6:36 Emotional intelligence trumps over intellectual/logical ability any day of the week? A sad future if humans were to fall for the allure of A/I and allow their emotional (the life of the mind, is I call it) life to languish undeveloped because of avoidance and neglect.
24:29 And yet, the silver lining is that the intellect part of the mind can be recruited to rescue us.😅 If only we learn how.
Can a relationship that has some trauma bonds and attachment issues become heathy if the other person and vice versa reveals those things about you and you are stepping in to heal those parts to become healthy and secure in relationship and doing it together?
Hi Kenny. Is that Journey to Success the same book as the Journey to Success download on the free class? 🙋♀️
The free downloads are part of the recovery journey. My book is completely different. If it were me and if i wanted to recover, I would start with the book, then the free classes and then the monthly membership to all of the classes which teach you the healing journey
@@kennyweiss thank you
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I cant go back because I have severely deficient audiobiographical memory.
I want to immigrate if you can help me for me to improve my thoughts and promote our family may God help in your plans to me
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Thanks for your teachings you have helped me 🎉
You are so welcome!
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