This is sooo much to process. I have it on my morning playlist so I can try to process one part every time I see it. This is codependency in a nutshell
That was so hard to listen to because I recognized myself so much in this. I’ve been doing the free emotional mastery class and this has been so helpful along with therapy.
Thanks, Kenny, for your these sometimes hard yet liberating truths you share. Awareness, Accountability and Acceptance were part of the steps I gravitated toward when I stopped blaming and projecting!
The timing of this video was perfect with where I am in my healing. I had to rewind your joke several times ".......I know I'm 6 years old, but I'm taking the car, I WILL NOT TOLERATE THIS BEHAVIOR." Hahahaha 😂
Comparing notes here, not simply accepting what I can embrace has been my policy for years, works out particlarly well with the terminal transition that bookends the end of physical life here.
When i say, i destroyed my life. Sounds cliche, it's always being said.... I really did... and i take responsibility... it was my fault. But, the consequences are so terrible,.. i cannot believe or accept. I had a mental breakdown. I suffer from depression and insomnia. The anxiety and daily stress.... are unbearable.
I'm really trying. It's so hard. I want my parents to talk to me and accept that my perspective mattered, or should have. But it didn't, it doesn't. That's who they are. God I'm trying. Why is it so hard. I just keep hoping.
I get it man, I've had multiple parental figures I saw as god when I was a child, and those same people hurt me physically, mentally, and emotionally in reasons that would get my comment flagged. All of that to say, I've reached my own form of acceptance, and have already imagined instances in my head where nothing goes to plan and I fail with my father and my stepmother in trying to help them understand their internal flaws, and I've accepted them. Because unless you're dying, everybody just waits for their turn to speak. If those people, including our parents/gods, can't pause their own sentences for our ability to give both knowledge and love, then it was simply meant to be, and there will never be any changing unless they take the time to think for themselves and CHOOSE to listen. I hope by now things have gotten the tiniest bit better and that you see this, even if it doesn't help, I'm thankful for your eyes and time. Good luck 🤙
Hey Kenny, thanks for this one. From childhood trauma and fears doubts and so much more, what you said makes sense. Yet my mind is spinning. Codependency, going into the past emotions to figure out who I am and to heal, where does one begin?? I have huge trust, negative issues.
I have a question. Does this all apply when the topic is intimate partner violence? What really stuck with me was the second point. “Staying the victim allows you to continue being the hurt child”. Wow. I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to accept that I had a part in being beat by my ex boyfriend. I could have walked away many times but I stayed, and although that is not “toxic” in the way he was to me, it was very toxic to myself, which may be even worst…
This is terrible. This is not radical acceptance, it is radical self-abandonment and radical self-boundary violation. I certainly hope no one is taking this teaching to heart or that they'll end up unaliving themselves. Terrible.
I take full responsibility for my behaviour
Insightful and helpful!
Bonus points for your shirt matching the painting. Perfecto!
This is sooo much to process. I have it on my morning playlist so I can try to process one part every time I see it. This is codependency in a nutshell
Wow! This has opened my eyes to so much of myself… thank you
Sometimes truth is a hard pill to swallow - but I found this truth (once I accepted it) to be quite liberating! 🙏
Thanks for having been straight to the point without boring intro
That was so hard to listen to because I recognized myself so much in this. I’ve been doing the free emotional mastery class and this has been so helpful along with therapy.
I love your in your face honesty because often thats what it takes to be honest with ourselves
Thanks, Kenny, for your these sometimes hard yet liberating truths you share. Awareness, Accountability and Acceptance were part of the steps I gravitated toward when I stopped blaming and projecting!
Always excellent. Lots here to think over. I spent my life looking for the home I never had. My gf tells me to grow up.
You awake that is good sign. some people dont accept when other say.
I like the color of the frame matching with the shirt. It very beautiful
Wow. This hits hard but so needed. Thank you Kenny.
Thanks to you, so many that just laugh at my work.
I’ve had to accept things that weren’t pleasant but it’s helped me to leave the past behind and move on,time and energy is precious.
This was a very good conversation today.
The timing of this video was perfect with where I am in my healing. I had to rewind your joke several times ".......I know I'm 6 years old, but I'm taking the car, I WILL NOT TOLERATE THIS BEHAVIOR." Hahahaha 😂
Wisdom once again found in one of your videos Kenny. I had been working with this process last week. Very helpful
Thank you 🙏🏾, these lessons are difficult but necessary.
You are so welcome
Purple!!! Looks good
I neet to see this video 100 times . Thank you ♥
I'm glad you like it
You are truly brilliant and it’s so profound and mind blowing
Pure gold❤
Hard but true…we have to keep on trying.
Comparing notes here, not simply accepting what I can embrace has been my policy for years, works out particlarly well with the terminal transition that bookends the end of physical life here.
When i say, i destroyed my life. Sounds cliche, it's always being said....
I really did... and i take responsibility... it was my fault. But, the consequences are so terrible,.. i cannot believe or accept.
I had a mental breakdown. I suffer from depression and insomnia. The anxiety and daily stress.... are unbearable.
I'm really trying. It's so hard. I want my parents to talk to me and accept that my perspective mattered, or should have. But it didn't, it doesn't. That's who they are. God I'm trying. Why is it so hard. I just keep hoping.
I feel for you and I was in the same boat. I had to stop trying to fight to change their perception of me ❤ and go no contact. Love to everyone ❤
I stopped talking to my dad years ago and it's GREAT.
Let go of hope, objectively evaluate the reality in plain sight.. I think that’s the point.
Maybe they haven’t made it to where you are, maybe they can’t see like you do. I go through that also.
I get it man, I've had multiple parental figures I saw as god when I was a child, and those same people hurt me physically, mentally, and emotionally in reasons that would get my comment flagged. All of that to say, I've reached my own form of acceptance, and have already imagined instances in my head where nothing goes to plan and I fail with my father and my stepmother in trying to help them understand their internal flaws, and I've accepted them. Because unless you're dying, everybody just waits for their turn to speak. If those people, including our parents/gods, can't pause their own sentences for our ability to give both knowledge and love, then it was simply meant to be, and there will never be any changing unless they take the time to think for themselves and CHOOSE to listen. I hope by now things have gotten the tiniest bit better and that you see this, even if it doesn't help, I'm thankful for your eyes and time. Good luck 🤙
August Osage county. Very sad movie. In this movie the mother had trauma and the whole family suffered.
That's some good advice. 👍
You should read untethered soul by micheal singer
Hey Kenny, thanks for this one. From childhood trauma and fears doubts and so much more, what you said makes sense. Yet my mind is spinning. Codependency, going into the past emotions to figure out who I am and to heal, where does one begin?? I have huge trust, negative issues.
Thank you
You're welcome
So essentially they need to go from an external locus of evalution to an internal
Thank you ❤
Wow, I think you finally fixed me ❤😂
I have a question. Does this all apply when the topic is intimate partner violence? What really stuck with me was the second point. “Staying the victim allows you to continue being the hurt child”. Wow.
I don’t know why it’s so hard for me to accept that I had a part in being beat by my ex boyfriend. I could have walked away many times but I stayed, and although that is not “toxic” in the way he was to me, it was very toxic to myself, which may be even worst…
The smallest step...❤
Its tough, esp because of the society we live in.
I blame myself for everything though. Didnt finish the vid tbh cause he just kept talking about blaming others.
👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍
This is terrible. This is not radical acceptance, it is radical self-abandonment and radical self-boundary violation. I certainly hope no one is taking this teaching to heart or that they'll end up unaliving themselves. Terrible.
Agree! Terrible advice.