Thank you for sharing your story, it's very interesting and I agree with you about letting children be children and not bombarding them with information about gender identity and sexual development until it becomes relevant to them...I admire your courage it's not easy for people like you to be so open about their lives...I wish you all the best and hope that you will find happiness 😁
Cody you were born a female and felt male inside. you couldve just dressed like a male. doing all that surgery and taking steroids and being gay, is anti-christ ideology. sorry as a follower of God i cannot support that. but you have your rights.
@@thehonesttruth415 Thanks for allowing me my rights. I do highly encourage you to listen before you speak though. #1 Brenda asked me about this specifically in the video. #2 This is also why I no longer identify as a Christian.
I find the idea of people being concerns about transgender people peeing in the "wrong" bathroom hilarious simply because there is nothing stopping somebody from going into the bathroom of the opposite gender and causing harm. There's nobody at the door checking birth certificates or ID to ensure that you are the correct gender for that bathroom. This means that a predator does not need to change their entire life in order to access a bathroom, they only need to wait until nobody's looking
Exactly. We don't have separate bathrooms in our homes, but how many predators are known to their victims? Most adult girls have used the men's room at some point due to a long line at public restrooms.
literally imagine someone sitting there thinking im gonna go on hormones, have surgeries, risk rejection by loved ones, changing my name, and risking my safety all for that wonderful pay off of peeing in the womens bathroom like grow up
My college campus added single stall gender neutral restrooms and changed some multi stall bathrooms unisex over 5 years ago now. You wanna know how many people have been “attacked” by a trans person in one of those bathrooms? ZERO. I’ve literally never been shown any evidence that this right wing talking point is anything to be concerned about. Heck, I used to have to clean the MENS room as a 5’2” woman at the restaurant I used to wait tables at. We served alcohol there and some patrons would get pretty intoxicated. I was NEVER attacked or even accosted. People forget that it’s already a crime to attack someone. Even if all this fear mongering about trans people were true; you wouldn’t need to pass a NEW law to put that person in jail. They already committed a crime.
I'm recovering from being deeply entrenched in evangelical, purity-culture rich Christianity. I've spent years - many, many hours - trying to shake off all the prejudices I inherited and held onto. Like prejudice against transgender or gay men and women. This year I've finally gotten to the place where I can see I honestly feel "free" of all that crap in my head, all the judgement and hostility and the messages I was fed. But as I listened to Cody talk, I still feel the old arguments in my head. I can hear allllllllll the places that the old me, and sadly a lot of believers still, would pick at this video and what Cody shared. Like seeing a counselor - my knee jerk reaction was to hear all of the arguments that would come up, like "the counselor put lies in your head!" and other complete and total BS. Ugh...Cody, thank you so much for sharing your story. We're honored to hear it. And Brenda, thanks for bringing him on!
I wish I fully understood how hard you must have worked so that these words could truly hold the value they deserve: Well f*cking done. You should be so proud of yourself and your journey is admirable.
The Honest Truth could you just leave? I’ve seen you on several different posts and all you’ve done is spread negativity and hate. Judging from the comments you’ve made, you clearly haven’t watched the video, and from your arguments it’s clear that you’re not going to change your opinion. You’ve brought absolutely nothing constructive to the conversation. Please, just leave.
Thank you for saying “transgender” at the times others say “transgendered” and God forbid “trangenders”. It means a lot, and helps me know how much you care. Last time I posted I am transgender I got attacked in the comments by someone who said “there is no need to say your transgendered, you look like one.” He went on to list attributes he things transgender women have, none of which you could see in my picture. You have started a great community where we can all be ourselves without worrying about hiding any part of our identity. Thank you again. 🙏
@@thehonesttruth415 Fact based on your belief of how the bible is to be interpreted. Which negates that it's fact at all. It's your belief and what IS fact is that you believe it, not that the bible IS fact.
@The Honest Truth I know your position. When you believe that do you feel closer to me or further? That, to me, reveals if I’m closer or further from God. Who divides us? Who unites us? If it is absolutely true that we have all been created in God’s image, maybe, just maybe, that means diversity is God.
theres so much concern about little girls when it comes to trans people using the bathroom. but what about little boys? if predators are put in the men's room, they wont just stop offending altogether. they'll hurt little boys, and nobody seems to care. the issue here is predators, not trans people. predators, unfortunately, will offend no matter what
@@xenoblad They are concerned, but while child molestation is a problem, they are more concerned with suicide rates, prison and gender sentencing rates, domestic violence, etc.
Yes gender expression and sexuality have nothing to do with being trans. I'm a trans man and I still love pink, sparkly and cute things. Lol and I don't really like women. I mostly like other men. So I transitioned into being a gay man and that confuses a lot of people. But like Cody said, there was a disconnect between me and who I saw in the mirror. Thank you Brenda and Cody for the great video!
@@thehonesttruth415 I'm a Christian. Episcopalian to be specific. Our church affirms gay people. Idk what authority you think you have to say otherwise
In a household with open dialogue and acceptance... chances are, the child wont feel the need to make an announcement and come out, because they were never stifled to begin with and they've always been free to just be who they are.
I agree there would definitely be a higher chance the child won't feel that way, but there are still some who may feel nervous or even afraid to. There are those who have the mindset of "I'm okay with it, so long as it's not in my family." My nephew had his mum tell me he was gay, because he was afraid to do so himself. I'm openly pansexual, and at the time was dating a trans-woman, so I didn't and still don't know why he was afraid to tell me himself. I gave him a hug the next time I saw him.
I wish I had grown up in a family like that. I'm bisexual and have always been more masculine, but now I have all these complexes because they expected me to magically grow out of my tomboy phase. So I spent years praying I wasn't gay and I'm just now trying to figure out my gender in my 30's.
@@meadowrae1491 I've said my entire life, that I felt somewhere in the middle of being male and female. I look more female, but my mannerisms are more masculine. I feel like me.. not quite feminine, not quite masculine. Living like a "girly girl" made me feel so superficial and phony. I'm not super masculine, but over all I'm way more masculine than feminine, but I'm also feminine. I prayed so hard during my teens and early 20s to be what I was "supposed to be"... and every life lesson came back that I'm fine just the way I am. Since I've been on my journey to embrace myself, I have found so much peace. Just remember, you are worth loving and knowing, just the way you are.
I live with a genetic collagen defect. It requires medical intervention. Does that mean God made a mistake? No. I'm thankful to live in an era where there are doctors and treatment. I wouldn't have even lived had I been born 100 years ago. Every day I wake up and feel God's love and get the chance to impart it to my fellow person, is a day worth living. There's nothing quite like getting in nature and just feeling the presence of God. If medical intervention allows that, I'm going to be thankful.
the guy was born a female, and felt male inside. you couldve just dressed like a male. doing all that surgery and taking steroids and being gay, is anti-christ ideology. sorry as a follower of God i cannot support that. but you have your rights.
@@dakotahoeppner605 because God punished agroup of people who were gays and lesbians. and God detest that acts. ever heard of Sodom and gomorrah?. maybe you need to read the bible.
I am the same way with my kids. My daughter likes to wear her hair short, I don't care. My son had an obsession with Elsa and Tinkerbell, I didn't care. He even dressed up as Sunset Shimmer from My Little Pony's EQ because he liked her strength. But my daughter still likes make up. My son loves Power Rangers, etc. It doesn't matter to me how they want to dress or express themselves. If they aren't self-harming or hurting someone else, they can do what they want and dress how they want. Without worrying about their "identities" of who and what they are.
My son's favorite cartoons are Shimmer and shine and Thomas and friends he plays with cars, trains and also dolls and... I really don't care...let children be children and play with whatever they like...
Brenda, what is wrong with you? How can you be so damn AMAZING?!? After every episode I think that you can’t get any better...and you keep impressing me!!! I’m a gay man, who, in my younger years has adamantly said that I could NEVER date a transman. However, as Cody said, education is the key! I would now definitely date a transman....there are so many ways around biological differences. I thought being stuck in a body where you’re sexually attracted to the same gender was tough and a curse...but: (1) I consider it a gift now; and (2) I feel so much more for someone who’s stuck in the wrong gendered body. So being part of the 🏳️🌈 community has taught me so much about being kind and empathetic...ergo, a gift...but it’s a gift for so many other reasons too. 😁 People ask the same thing about gay people...I grew up with a blue collar dad who was also a fisherman, and he raised me and my bro to go fishing, crabbing, working on our trucks, we’re both athletes and still love sports...and when I came out to my dad, he asked me ONE question: “are you happy?” After I replied, “yes”...he said one thing: “that’s all a parent cares about...that their kid is happy!” Please keep up the good work and lotsa love and aloha from Hawai’i!!! 😍😍🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🤙🏽🤙🏽
Sean Shimamoto dude as trans man I really appreciate this. I've been having a bad couple of weeks just because of general hate and because the trans community is kinda on fire rn but hearing you say this made me so happy. honestly things like this are what gets me through the day. and i know you didn't say much and this is just a youtube comment section but you seem like such an amazing and rare person. I just want you to know how much I appreciate you and what you said. it really has made my day so much better.
Jasper Knight Jasper, don’t ever sell yourself short and realize that you’re just as important as everyone else. Also, never forget that there are guys out there like me who don’t care that you’re trans...I’d date a trans guy in a heartbeat. There are so many adult toys nowadays that it’s easy to get around human genetalia differences. You never said if you’re a straight or gay trans man, but that’s superfluous ‘cause my point is that there are people out there who don’t care that you’re trans. I’ve been very fortunate to have been born and raised in Hawai’i, where people are VASTLY more accepting than most of America...so my mindset tends to be a lot more positive than most, so I’m glad to hear that my positivity had an uplifting effect on you...that’s what my mom would’ve liked. You’d have loved her...when I came out to her in 1997, she asked me, “oh, so Ken’s your boyfriend?” and after I said yeah, she asked me, “oh, so who’s top and who’s bottom?” Hehe. That’s how little she cared that I was gay. 😁 On that note, just wanted to send some love and aloha your way from Honolulu. 😘🏳️🌈🤙🏽 ❤️🧡💛💚💙💜
Sean Shimamoto aww thank you so much! I have to admit I’m surprised the most support I’ve gotten was on a video by a Christian channel lol. Last place I expected at least. But anyways i really appreciate this a lot I do. I literally cannot stop smiling right now. I like need to go to Hawaii now. I mean I was planning on it anyways like I never really thought about it but now it’s probably in the top five places i want to go to. I know my sister really loves it. She speaks a good amount of Hawaiian actually. But France first. anyways this is great. Your really great and I would kill to have anyone in my life be like you. Keep bringing love to the world my dude.
Jasper Knight Well continue following Brenda ‘cause she continues to redefine Christianity...and I think Jesus Christ would be so proud of her! I was raised Buddhist, where we had 🏳️🌈 youth support groups...so I’ve never understood the religious hatred from Christians...but I’m an atheist now. I’ve always said that I’d rather be an upstanding atheist than a wretched religious person...what’s the sense of being religious if you’re not a good person? Seems like an oxymoron IMO. BTW, Hawai’i’s not perfect...and we have our issues, but it is a very accepting place...and I firmly believe it’s because of our racial diversity. Only 2.7% of Americans are mixed race...with Alaska having the 2nd highest number at 7.4%. Hawai’i? 23.8% of us are mixed race...that’s almost 10 times the national average.
Sean Shimamoto Completely agree with this. I found this video and channel specifically because I was trying to find out if being trans could be ok for a Christian person. I looked at more of this channel and I absolutely love it. I hope this progressive and accepting type of Christianity catches on and more people are like this. I was never raised in a Christian household. Everyone in my family is aethiest and my parents have never talked to me about religion or even the lgbt community. I never thought I’d be religious especially after I realized I was trans. I just thought there’s no way I don’t think I’m that type of person but recently I have become like super unsure of where my religious status is right now. Like Jesus Christ first my sexuality, then my gender, now my religious affiliation. Anyways about Hawaii though. I don’t know when but I hope at some point in my life I get the chance to travel. Like i know everyone says that but I’m literally scheduling a lot of my life plans around this and I’ve been working towards this for a while. I mostly just want to go to France actually and some other places but also Hawaii sounds cool. I think I mentioned my sister speaks Hawaiian. She also wants to go to Hawaii at some point too and she’s the main reason I ever wanted to go in the first place. So that I could take her there.
Also wow, I really relate to him when he mentioned being "exhausted" having to explain things if he wants to identify as Christian. I'm also that girl who has had premarital sex and affirms gay people (and accepts evolution and science too)...and got tired of having to explain how I'm still Christian. So I kind of stopped bothering with the label if the label doesn't clearly communicate on its own, what I believe. But that's why I love your channel!! maybe someday I'll have the energy again and will be able to stand firmly in that label like you do. God bless.
Same here I grew up Catholic in a very closed Catholic community... everyone went to church on Sunday and I even baptized my kids although I'm much less religious than my parents..I don't see the danger in LGBT people and I think that excluding them from church unless they basically renounce their identity is a great mistake and in itself a sin...
Same here. I personally just don't speak about my opinions bc everyone around me is religious to the point of being homophobic, sexist, transphobic, islamophobic and I might actually be disowned for accepting everyone as they are. I just dont see Christianity being aligned with not accepting other humans. Like how do people call themselves Christians and hate/exclude/not accept people?
@@yxw6528 I'll play devil's advocate a second. I actually don't really believe in just...embracing literally everyone's ideology and I will keep certain people at arm's length just for my own sense of safety. I can care about them and give them decency...but... I think I understand that some religious conservatives are more cautious and conscientious of what "may" be a threat. Key word may. They just go too far with it. I have a little bit of that element to me because I've encountered true evil in a person before. So, it might be hard but keeping that in mind, I can have a little sympathy for why they just get so hot and bothered and scared of anything different. Afterall, I too have been called an islamophobe, simply for thinking the religion itself is a terrible religion. doesn't mean I intend to be a dick to Muslims. But...my sympathy only extends so far. And my struggle is simply, I'm not a cookie cutter anything and it has been exhausting at times being told I'm not a Christian because I'm not Christianing correctly.
@@LipSyncLover I know how you feel. I'm agnostic myself, but I'm familiar with the Bible and much of the history of all the different types of churches and enjoy theological discussions. At any rate, with regards to evolution, I've never quite understood why a large number of creationists see evolution as basically being a concept that is an enemy of the Bible. I mean, even during our lifetime, it is obviously that people change in all different ways over long periods of time. Creation doesn't mention evolution, though as you probably know, that in no way means that it doesn't exist. There are all sort of scientific truths about the way humans are that are not explained in creation. That all said, I do believe that we have more free will than other living creatures, so I don't except a lot of the claims of evolutionary psychologists. And as for premarital sex, that's definitely a big topic among traditional Christians. From what I can tell of the Bible and it's original text, which is in Greek, premarital sex isn't explicitly condemned. What seems to me to be condemn in the Bible seems to have more to do with sacred prostitution/promiscuity and obviously adultery.
@@technoloverish I think we're on the same page about premarital sex for sure. And I can relate on the agnosticism too. You know...you seem like a fun person to hash this out with. I consider myself an agnostic theist but that looks to Jesus as the ideal, righteous person to emulate. I think God wants us to act like Jesus and it pleases God...brings a little heaven into the world. And I think he reconciles us with God by showing us how much God loves us, dying on a cross and asking for God to forgive his tormentors. I mean wow. I don't know how to exude that kind of love. Maybe I never will. But I should strive. So...I would think that's all it really takes for me to be "Christian". I may not believe in the trinity or penal substitution though. So should those* theological opinions disbar me from the label? what are your thoughts? Also, I'm intrigued. elaborate on why you discard the hypotheses of evolutionary psychologists because we...have more free will than the species that came before? Do I have that right? I don't wish to strawman you. To that I'd say, well, I'm not so sure such things are mutually exclusive...or rather....previous species don't need to have our level of free will, for their primary circuitry and structures to have a residual effect on OUR circuitry and neurostructural capacities….no? I thought that was all evolutionary psychology was about. Also, I might be biased. I like me some Jordan Peterson and he's an evolutionary psychologist :P :P
29:40 I have a boy and a girl and I just let them play with whatever they want. My boy seems very boy ish. He loves cars and stuff and is a very hyperactive little troublemaker. He's also very caring though, and pretends to breastfeed his stuffed toys sometimes. I got him a baby doll and I crocheted a carrier for that reason. His sister is still a tiny baby (8 months old) but she'll play with whatever she wants too. And if either one of them ever comes up to me and tells me they don't feel comfortable in their body, I'm more than happy to help them in any way I can. Being a progressive parent doesn't mean you have to raise your kids 100% gender neutral. It just means you listen to them and let them choose their own path in life. I'm an agnostic atheist btw but I really love your channel ❤
Actually you are raising your children the gender-neutral way in the original meaning of it. Originally gender-neutral up-bringing meant offering children all types of toys and letting them play with them without policing them based on gender stereotypes. If boy was to choose car toys and girl was to choose dolls, it would still be gender-neutral up-bringing - long as it was truly their choice and not programmed on them by expectations ;)
@@Kotifilosofi yes that's definitely how I see it as well. But I'll still call my son a he and my daughter a she for now, so it's not 100% gender neutral in the sense that I won't use gender neutral pronouns for them. Unless of course they grow up to identify as non binary.
@@jackriver8385 yea, but I'm not sure if literally erasing every hint of the gender was the goal to begin with, but just offering children neutral/free-of-gendered stereotypes/expectations environment? Or maybe I've misunderstood something? (My native doesn't have gendered pronouns so use of pronouns really isn't even a subject of concern here.)
It's interesting that a lot of men are annoyed when their sex is equated with predatory behavior. But then they do just that to justify why trans women can't use the women's bathroom. (Either because they think trans women are "men" or because they think cis men will use it as a way to assualt women.) To clarify: I don't think ALL men do this, just that it's somewhat ideologically inconsistent for those who do.
yeah but cis men aren’t using the women’s bathroom. ur logic is basically saying that trans women are equated with predatory behavior in general which no one’s talking about. cis men may be predators and shouldn’t use the women’s bathroom just as trans women may be predators and shouldn’t use the women’s bathroom. that’s the whole argument. that the bathroom is supposed to be a safe environment for women, and anyone would be able to take advantage of it. i don’t think anyone thinks that trans women are predatory, but are just concerned that it’ll allow for assault by any cis man claiming to be trans. exploiting both groups.
@@marypoppins6403 you and I may be exposed to different people. The logic I've come across is "If we let trans woman use the women's restroom they'll assault cis women." OR "If we let trans women use the women's restroom, cis men will use it to assault cis women." Which is still implying that men (at least a large enough number of them) are predatory and just looking for an excuse to act on it. I disagree with this and your own reasoning for a number of reasons... (I'm not equating you to the aforementioned group necessarily but still disagree.)
@@thehonesttruth415 Woowww. So fucking rude. You tell me how much control YOU have over your appearance. It's not trans womens' fault for looking masculine. It's society's fault for not giving trans people access to health care. You cannot discriminate on trans women because some of them are hot and some of them aren't
@@thehonesttruth415 But what they've grown up in s household that has gender neutral bathrooms? Then they are not mentally used to just the men's bathroom, but a neutral one.
@@thehonesttruth415 I'm a woman that looks like a man to some. Please advise which bathroom I should use? Also, transwomen are more likely to be attacked by men in a men's bathroom, what are you going to do to protect them from men?
I don't really identify as either Christian or Atheist (Mr. Atheist turned me on to this channel), but God is Grey is an example of what I view Christianity to be. I am very supportive of the LGBTQ+ community, and appreciate how Cody answered the questions honestly and thoughtfully. I learned a lot.
@@Sephajinami youre wrong, we as christians are encouraged to be welcoming to all and help others. Jesus was best teacher who actually lived with many sinners and helped them and forgave their sins. Saying something is a sin, doesnt mean i hate you. no. i might not have gone about it in the right way, (generally because i live in the other part of the world where we are usually straightforward). So simply, Christians we love everyone and would help you from any situation youre going through.
@@Sephajinami the honest truth is one of those people that is so judgey that they are most likely a garbage human being. At least that's all they've shown of themselves in the comment section. They probably deal with a huge amount of terrible thoughts about other people and then project them onto people like Cody that are just doing their own thing.
It's not worth getting into a never ending cycle of talking to a brick wall essentially, this person isn't open for truth and knowledge. A lot of ppl spew out bigotry, and when they avoid listening to others and reiterate the same view over again, it's clear they don't want to open their mind. Often times these ppl are also trolls, they spew hate for drama, there's no point speaking directly to those ppl, but to the audience and others who are willing to listen and be open for education.
Thank you for elevating LGBTQ+ voices within your community and combating bad-faith arguments from Christians. The more we're educated, the more those straw-man arguments begin to fall apart. Trans rights are human rights.
@@Heythere24561 Thing is, there are "cishet" people who crossdress. Also, fetishes are probably the one thing that won't ever be part of the LGBTQ+ community
Thank you both for being brave enough to have this conversation. I am the mother of a young adult transgender man. The hardest part of finding out that my son is transgender is knowing that there are people that will hate him for no reason other than some feigned moral superiority. Thanks for bringing good positive conversation into the world.
ReneeH20 I hope you and you family the best and would hope any one you or they encounter that claim to be Christian would treat you and them as they would want to be treated .
Jeff Dutcher Thank you. So far both sides of the family have embraced him...though unintentionally botch the pronouns sometimes. They are trying. We were most worried about my husband’s mom & step father. His step father gave a not so nice prayer the day same sex marriage was legalized in our state. I was worried I was going to go Mama Bear on her & start throwing out verses about divorce. Surprisingly his mom just said “Well, some people are born that way.” Then was quick to add, “But other people chose it.” Meaning it was okay for my son, but not other people. Sigh. I told my son that most likely he is in their life so they can learn that transgender and gay people are not bad. We are lucky to have supportive families. I see my son’s friends that don’t and it is very difficult for them.
I actually read recently that eunuchs can be interpreted as historic transgenderism, and there’s some pretty convincing passages in this. For example, Matthew 19 even seems to suggest eunuch could also refer to people born intersex (who in modern times are often given surgeries to “normalize” their genitals at birth, often without the consent or knowledge of the parents. If you wanna talk about “mutilating” god’s creation, let’s not talk about consenting adults undergoing gender reconstruction, let’s talk about these intersex children and their families!) “For there are eunuchs who were born so from their mother’s womb: and there are eunuchs who were made so by men: and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.” Also Isaiah 56 “To the eunuchs who keep my Sabbaths, who choose what pleases me and hold fast to my covenant-to them I will give within my temple and its walls a memorial and a name better than sons and daughters...” So... yeah.
jaking2 she but yes, how did I twist anything? @LordofTheharvest73 Would you like to tell me how someone altering their genitalia in ancient times is any different from them doing it now? How is a eunuch from ancient times any different from an intersex or trans person today? I’m listening.
jaking2 please answer his question. I am wondering too. How is direct quoting scripture twisting it? To me the scripture sounds pretty clear that God loves transgender people that keep his day holy.
@@ezra55595 Eunuchs are men who have had their testicles removed in order to make them more efficient soldiers, as they are not distracted by lust or sexual matters. Note 1, they didnt change gender, they are still referred to as men. Note 2, they did it so they would not have any sexual desires since that was the believe then. so you cannot compare transgender to eunuch. different ideologies. another version is FGM where female clit was removed, so she also doesnt have sexual urge, it wasnt to change her gender. FGM is wrong since it was enforced without the childs will.
As a Christian, I am always amazed that people think that God does not have the heart of parent when looking at his transgender children. Thank you so very much for posting this video.
cyn cyn God does have the heart of a parent-He longs for His children to have the best and the best is men and women as He designed them to be. A parents heart breaks when they see their child walking the wrong path and they do all in their power to help them to see what they’re doing is destructive, even discipline and consequences. So I believe it breaks His heart that His children are believing the lie of transgenderism and longs for them to come back to Him, to life and light and truth and the way He meant for things to be. Sin is what has made this world what it is and when we repent of our sins and stop trying to live life our own way and turn to Christ to save us, we begin the road of sanctification. In the end Jesus will return and make all things new and this world and all its pain and suffering will pass away and those who believe in Jesus Christ and follow His way and His teaching and statutes will be with Him in eternity! "For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God." - John 3:16-21
That's something always striking to me. How often are parents hearts changed on an issue when their kids come out. Why wouldn't God be able to achieve that level of love that a human parent could achieve?
@CardistryCollector123 hi. Using language like that to pressure me into believing YOU isn't going to work. Threatening me to believe what you say I have to believe (because you say I have to) would mean me giving up my faith in God to follow you, and I'd rather not. You can keep trying if you want, but I don't suggest it... also the Bible isn't clear on trans people. You know what it is clear on? Matthew 5: 21-22.
"God doesn't make mistakes, but God does make anomalies," was one thing I heard. My view is God doesn't make mistakes but set nature on its course and nature makes the mistakes. That's what I feel happened to me being born with a boy body but a girl brain. Still yet to transition and can't wait. Just don't dig my male form. At all!
another way might be: God does not make mistakes, therefore being trans is not a mistake :) I know dysphoria sucks, but it would be really great if we tried to not to frame being trans as such a negative thing. I hope you'll start whatever you need soon!
good luck dude! I'm trans and I've started somewhat recently too. just make sure you are 100 percent sure obviously. this might sound bad but I would wait as long as possible till you can't anymore to be sure. if your not over 18 then try to wait till then. if you can't that's totally fine but it's always good to give theses thing as much time as possible. also hroromones might make you gain weight. I gained a lot of weight after starting on testosterone and ended up looking more feminine lol.
I really like what he said about his parents had to mourn not having a daughter. Even if they are thrilled to now have a son, there were hopes and dreams tied to their daughter, and those have to be mourned. We as a society, both Christian and secular, treat grief as something to be avoided. But it's so very necessary to life.
Hey there Brenda/GodIsGrey! God Bless! I just recently started to watch your videos as a Coworker suggested your channel to me as an LGBTQ Christian who identifies as a Transgender Lesbian Christian Woman who unfortunately hasn’t been able to start Transitioning yet. I really appreciate/enjoy your videos/viewpoints! I wish more of our fellow Christian Brothers and Sisters from around the World would watch your videos and hopefully have their eyes/ears/hearts opened! I hope someday I’ll be able to Transition fully from Male to Female and become Milena Grace Love! And hopefully be as Beautiful as you! I wish you the best! Would appreciate your prayers sweetie! Hugs!
Based on the research that I've done on the topic of transgender people, I feel like this guest is right on. I read an article that said that sometimes it is caused by certain medications that the mother takes while pregnant, and identical twin studies have shown that it has alot to do with nurture, not just nature. Also, when I stopped to imagine myself as a female, being stuck in a male body, that does sound horrendous to go through. I have experienced suicidal depression, so I understand fully wanting to treat that in the way they did. It's also so sad that some people would look down on him in the way that he said and I love that he said that the education of children should be in the home and doesn't need to be so young. Thankyou for this! Also, I'm starting a new channel about my thoughts on social-political topics if anyone wants to come hang out!
As a trans drop out Christian woman whos trying to rebuild her faith I'm so happy to have found this channel! And Im thankful God put this video in my suggestions, sneaky sneaky jajajaja
Why would diversity in gender/sex be so shocking when there is a radical spectrum of diversity in EVERY SINGLE TRAIT in nature? Skin color goes from black as night to pale as paper and every shade in between. Intelligence goes from mind-boggling genius to barely cognitive and every IQ in between. Musical ability goes from the ability to compose concertos at 5 years old to total tone- deafness and every ability in between. Height goes from giant to little person and every inch in between. Pain threshold goes from being able to get punctured with spikes without flinching to feeling excruciating pain at a feather-light touch. Dexterity, eye color, skin elasticity etc. etc. EVERY TRAIT manifests in a diverse spectrum, not in a simple EITHER/OR binary. Why do these fundamentalist, imperialist religions like to pretend that sex and gender are somehow the ONLY exception to this recurring spectrum? How can they honestly sell this idea when there is SO MUCH scientific evidence to the contrary? We have cis-gendered women taller and brawnier and hairier (some can grow full beards and have chest hair) with more masculine facial features and testosterone than some men. We have cis-gendered men smaller, less muscular, smoother and prettier in features than some women. We have people born with different chromosomes than their natural anatomy manifests among several other intersex traits. By the way, there are more intersex human beings than there are redheads. In the Dominican Republic, there is a village where anatomical girls become boys at puberty, naturally. How can it be so difficult to imagine there isn't also similar variation at the sub-conscious, cognitive and personality levels as well? Why do certain religions perpetuate the LIE that gender-expression variation is some post-modern phenomenon when all over the world, in all indigenous cultures we see that gender was NEVER so simplistic and so many cultures created space for 3rd, 4th, sometimes even FIVE different gender expressions? For a more exhaustive tour of gender-queerism and gender diversity in cultures around the world see this PBS site: www.pbs.org/independentlens/content/two-spirits_map-html/ Amazing how so-called "primitive" indigenous people's simply respect nature and make space for it instead of trying to "correct it" and "order" it around like we so-called "developed" societies love to do. Much like corn, which comes in ruby, tourquiose, multi-colored, black and other colors, was whittled down to just two mass-produced strains of yellow and white, we humans LOVE to destroy natural diversity. Even in the Jewish tradition, there was something called, “born eunuchs” (saris in Hebrew). These were people with in-tact genitalia, so they were allowed in the temple, but their BEHAVIOR was not conforming to typical masculine and feminine traits. The Talmud describes them as effeminate, (if men) or (unfeminine) if women and showing ambivalence towards marriage and having children. Jesus Christ mentioned born eunuchs in Matthew 19. He had ZERO words of condemnation for these gender-queer individuals. Not even patriarchal, imperialist religions could not deny NATURE’S DIVERSITY. Even in Islamic culture, you will find they could not erase the existence of non-gender conformity. The rigid gender binary we were raised in is actually RECENT in human history and it is Eurocentric colonialism made worse with industrialization. We began to treat human beings like all men are identical machines whose masculinity is defined by a set of mechanical parts with software that fits into a narrow box of pre-programmed personality, behavioral, physical and sexual traits and similarly, with women too. Human reproduction and sexuality was treated like an industrialized assembly line to provide serfs and soldiers for empire. Everyone (with the exception of those rich and powerful enough to be free to be eccentric) had to surrender their unique, natural beauty to assimilate into a "borg" mentality to serve empire. The more tyrannical and conservative the religion, the more identical all the women in the society dress, look and act and so do the men. Like robots. The human "machines" that reject the sex/gender programming and choose instead, their naturally emerging, organic self, are demonized by the imperial religions because it throws a spanner in their works. How are they to control society with unpredictable people around?
Ok, this is seriously one of the strongest pro-trans arguments I have ever seen. This comment made my day and you sir/ma'am (alieninthecaribbean) win the internet for today! (Seriously through, this really helps me understand more why some people push back so hard against being trans nowadays. (I already knew that people sometimes are anti-trans or at least transphobic because the mere existence of trans people throws off their mental framework of gender and threatens to make them have to go through a major upheaval of so much of how they understand people, society, and the relationship between both through 'gender.' However, you comment taught me a possible further root cause to that problem, so thank you and kudos to you!)
Thank you so much for this video! So many Christians don't have a close relationship with a trans person, so Cody's openness to share his heart and experiences is so valuable.
I'm not transgender, though I am an ally of the trans community. Anyway, only out curiosity, do you feel that that an effect at all on how people who don't know transgender people view transgender people?,
Thank you for this necessary conversation. It means a lot to me especially since I have a trans brother. I want to add my voice to the conversation. I have a few videos up, and I'll be doing more. I'm going to help educate people on how to love and respect trans people.
There are instances of chromosome not always bring a clear xx or xy. Sometimes there's 3 and sometimes there's a mutation on one. Not that this really matters. I believe that trans people are legit because I've met them and know, but I wouldn't be surprised if there were genetic causes as well.
That is true but being castrated in those times was the most dreaded and always enforced transformation for boys or young men. Comparing eunuchs of the past centuries and individuals changing their given gender voluntarily is a fallacy.
This was not a man who questioned the gender God made him to be, he was castrated by force without any input. Plus Cody does not even identify as a Christian so not sure why everyone’s trying to justify what he’s doing to make it okay according to the Bible
For those above me, Matthew 19:12 lists three ways to be an eunuch. The last one was probably understood at the time. It seems we have no clue what it means now though, and yet, it doesn't require anything biologically wrong or removed. Finally, from Strong's Greek 2135, the word is from eune and echo; a castrated person; by extension an impotent or unmarried man; by implication, a chamberlain.
I loved listening to the both of you! Thank you for having this wonderful conversation!:) I wish that every one who refuses to watch the video because they're rejecting the issue seen in a different/respecting perspective would watch it anyways in order to overthink their one way street "morals".
I am Transgender and I am Christian. I struggle with that so often. I know God loves me for me and I love him for that. But I have to deal with other Christians who disagree with that God made me Transgender.
Hmmmm but gender identity and sexuality is pushed onto us from a really young age - Except we only see the cisnormative heteronormative propaganda. I was watching Disney from age 4 where I only witnessed very feminine women who would find their princes. Baby dolls were gifted to me soon after to take care of. And my gender identity was literally assigned to me from day one. Why is cis and hetero ok for kids but not trans or gay?
It's like people in the majority always seem to act as though others who are different from the 'norm' are different in a bad way, that there is something "off" about them, and that they are wrong and/or bad for it.
I love Cody's perspective. As for you announcing that you're having a boy, I don't understand the issue. To me, the issue lies in gender stereotypes, not nouns. I definitely think we should do our best to dismantle those stereotypes and see each person as an individual but I'm not sure how productive it is to get hung up on pronouns, especially when discussing children.
The argument about gender dysphoria being a mental illness does not make sense to me... even if it were a mental illness (which I don’t believe it is), the “treatment” is none of anybody’s business.
This was wonderful! I’m not a xtian, but I adore Brenda and as an ally and parent to the LGBTQA+ community, I really value your using this platform to explain how beautiful inclusion can be for everyone. Much love!
Your point at 22:34 kind of encapsulates my theological view of being trans. Like, legit, we say that the world is steeped in sin and darkness because of the fruit being eaten in the Garden of Eden, right? That's why we have to eat to survive, to see pain during childbirth, and to work for our own survival. The Fruit is why we suffer, and literally the reason Jesus came down to save us. Why is it so far-fetched to say that one of the corruptive effects of Original Sin is that some people are born with bodies that don't fit their souls? Like, legit, what better way for Satan to cause humanity problems than to skew the alignment of some people's bodies with their souls and see what problems that can create for them? It's ridiculous that trans people are being told to suck it up. They just want to have bodies that are expressive of their souls, just like cis people's bodies match our gender.
For a while I was against Transgender people until I started doing my own research to better understand. Also the way that some people argued against trans people also influenced my thinking. Being brought up Christian didn't help either. I am glad that I can access the internet to learn more about other people. It is cool to see something like this that God is Grey does where she brings in a person like Cody who has gone through this. All the best to you Cody live your best life. 🤗
With all sensitivity, I was a “tomboy”🙄 until I was in junior high.. I adamantly wished I was a boy. Then hormones hit and I was like Wowzas! Kids don’t always know right away.. just give them the space to discover who they truly are.
I read that psychologists are supposed to discern who is earnest, that access to hormones takes years of jumping through hoops, and that if clothes and a name turn out to be enough to ease the dysphoria the patient would stay in that part of the spectrum of transition.
Yep. The only reason I even care at all about people being Christian or otherwise religious is that for some of those people, it cause them to advocate for toxic things, such us men and women being legally required to follow specific gender roles and such. If religious people consisted only of people like God is Grey, most of us would probably be completely okay with that.
So grateful for the balanced point of view as I am so tired of the extreme view that some on the progressive side that stereotype, or pressure kids to a label. Or raise them "gender neutral". Umm, just let your kid develop naturally, and if genuine distress develops later get them a counselor and have them assess what is really going on. They may have other issues other than gender identity going on. A lot of young people that think they are transgender are now finding out they're on the Autistic spectrum according to Dr. Tony Atwood. Once they find that out, the dysphoric feelings they find go away, and they're happier. BTW, women who have Autism Spectrum disorder have brains very close to a nuerotypical male, which is why we tend to have conflict with females and love having male friends. We get them because out thought processes are very similar.
I really want to recommend the book "A theory of Objectivist Parenting" by Roslyn Ross to you. Based on all your videos and your personality, I think you would LOVE this book, and I recommend reading it before having your son if possible. I love how accepting you are, and how much you just LOVE God!
I always think how grateful I am to have grown up with the internet. Let me explain: my family is very religious, and my mom is extremely homophobic. As such, all I knew about gay people was her opinion on them. If I didn't have the internet to hear different stories, actually realize that people who are LGBT are normal people and not disgusting, and explore my own sexuality, I would have grown up to be so hateful and hurtful and homophobic as well, because I had only ever heard my mom's hateful opinions. I would have rejected my brother whom I love when he came out as gay, and I would have hated myself when I realized that I am also gay. Discrimination and hateful views really do start at home, and I'm so glad that I had outside sources available to me so that I could form my own opinions and beliefs.
I agree. I remember going to a prayer meeting and an older member mentioned that she was watching a UA-camr she liked, and that UA-camr had recently come out as transgender. And she said that that video gave her the epiphany, "Oh. They're only asking if we can accept them as they are." I can't guess what her previous opinion of trans people were, but I'm guessing that this moment broke the myth of the 'trans agenda' in her mind and let her see that trans people are just normal people who want and deserve love + acceptance. I think the phrase 'love the sinner, hate the sin' misses the point that to love someone, you have to know them first, and after knowing them you really can't hold unto those misconceptions and stereotypes that decry LGBTQA+ identities as inherently bad. That's why even with all the garbage that comes with the internet, I'm grateful that it exists to let us learn about the stories of people who we may never meet in real life but can still teach us to be more empathetic and inspire us to fight for justice.
@@cassif19 since I left the church I've stopped defending alot of the thinking I was taught was right but view as wrong. I even surprised my brother when I informed with the Bible that God condones pedophilia. When he tried to be mean to gays because of God.
@@cassif19 Hence, I think those who only use faith-based healing are the least hypocritical in that respect. I strongly dislike their points of view and their code of conduct, though I appreciate that they are at least non cherry-picking as much as the majority are.
Watching this two years later as a nonbinary person, it's a really great conversation for allies to have, and a very good starting point for people who don't know anything about trans people, but honestly a lot of the talking points here are a little bit outdated and are not inclusive of a lot of trans people. Much respect to both of you, but a lot of the points made here are very basic, respectability-politics-friendly points that still give people an out to hate trans or nonbinary people. The idea of treating trans issues like somebody just born in the wrong body ceases to be useful really quickly and it puts the focus on the hormones, surgery, and body instead of the gender issues themselves. Saying that "hey maybe being trans is just genes messing up" and talking about the brain science is one of those things that's very bio-essentialist and unhelpful and lets a lot of binary trans people get away with being gatekeepers and lets cis people be transphobic toward anyone who doesn't fit into certain ideas of trans-ness. I don't know, it's a fine video, but a lot of the small things rubbed me the wrong way, including saying that young kids don't need to learn about trans identities yet.
When I came out I lost my family and church, I gained peace, a better relationship with God, joy, and I was free to be me.This week there was a band playing on the street, I danced it was great. Jesus said there were two commandments that are important, love God with all our heart,Soul, mind and strength, and love our neighbor as ourselves. Some Christians seem to forget the second commandment. Jesus said if you deny Him before men He will deny you before the father, I would like to say to this man, live your faith and relationship out loud, let your actions and words reflect Jesus.
I love your channel! I’m not personally religious, but I’m so glad that you’re here to educate those of faith to be more tolerant and loving of their fellow man. You are an inspiration! 💗
As an atheist and a trans woman, I think Christians and people from other religions can actually “get it” that we’re not here to hurt others. I’m very happy to see counterpoints from believers that go against the fear mongering rhetoric of the extreme right in the USA. I hate religion, but if I could encounter more believers like god is gray, I’d have way less problems with it.
Thank you for this video, but I feel a little alienated now... I just figured out I may be On the Asexual spectrum... I rarely hear the A on the end of LGBTQ acronym and I’m over 30 and I still don’t have the language and not many Christians are talking about it... could you? Please? 💗🙏🏻
Hey Brenda! I’d love to see you do a video on dealing with doubts or questioning your faith. I grew up in church as a kid, I’m 22 now and I feel like I’ve been trying to cling onto God lately. I don’t feel like I have that same natural, confident belief that I did as a kid, but I’ve been searching for it and craving it so much. It’s such a scary feeling, and sometimes I just break down in tears. If you have ever experienced anything similar or just have any advice, I’d love to hear it. Much love! xo
I really appreciate the pitch up of the anti-trans bigots. It does a pretty good job of defusing the usual feelings of anxiety i get from hearing them. (as i'm a trans woman, and i've heard enough of that bs)
I've been watching Cody's video for quite awhile. I don't even remember how I found his channel but I've learned so much from him and he as well as other transgender creators and it's helped me to work past the anti-LGBTQ stuff I was fed for a lot of my life. I'd moved away from Christianity many years ago but it was hard to move past all of the messages that were pumped into me from infancy but I feel like youtube has helped me to do that.
God said that in the last days there would be many people coming in his name teaching false things and leading people astray, false prophets if you will. Just be careful and listen to the holy spirit. It may just be me....the things I've been raised to believe. Im just feeling so conflicted, so many people claiming to Be Christian preaching so many different things.
Jesus message was one of love: - Love your God. - Love your neighbor. If we focus on true love - a love that does no harm to a neighbor then we are following Jesus' commands. Romans 13:8-10 tells us love fulfills the laws. Galatians 2:15-21 tells us that works through the law will not save us. Rather, through the law we may die to the law and live for God. Acts 10:28 tells us not to call any man unclean *Let your every breath be filled with love. Live in Jesus as He lives in you and you are free from the law and it's curse.* www.sermonwriter.com/biblical-commentary/galatians-215-21/
Here a year later listening as all of this anti trans legislation is being pushed in so many states. I find it heartbreaking, and I hope that the humanity of Cody and all other trans people will be recognized in the face of this evil. Thank you for an enlightening and encouraging conversation ♥️
This is the first trans interview I have ever heard where they don't sound defensive and argumentative. Why I personally don't believe in being born the wrong gender, Cody seems like a very nice individual. When I see Jazz from TLC, it is just so much defensiveness and anger. Cody presents very calmly and seems kind.
As an nb, it frustrates me when people often reply me "gender isn't your style and interests" after hearing my gender (and not knowing anything else about me). Well, I don't think that either. I just feel alienated by my female body and I believe if I had medical transitioning I'd feel equally alienated with the male sex characteristics. I've never felt like a woman and never felt like a man either, I just feel like I'm somewhere in-between.
I don’t think there should be such a major distinction between the two. Females and males should in live in a society where they can do, say, love, and be whomever they’d like to be. Unfortunately we don’t. But if that’s what we’re working towards, is transitioning not counterproductive? In the society I’m suggesting- gender has nothing to do with anything other than genitalia. And regardless of what that is you can do whatever you want.
"You have an open mind you say? Close it please before you destroy yourself" - Dr. John MacArthur The Bible is clear, Gods Word is true forever, and sin is sin and always will be sin.
I’m so glad I’ve came across this video. I was one of the closed minded people who turned away from this topic. I thought it was just a political push. But this conversation is perfect. Thank you!
I don’t really understand why christians have an issue here... it’s super normal as part of development for people to struggle to get their outside to match their insides, it’s super normal for that to cause psychological distress and for people to need help working through that - transgender just seems like a more complicated somewhat medically involved version of this. As for bathroom politics - I grew up in a dodgy town and had some friends attacked in bathrooms - they were 100% attacked by predators and not transgender people - but I do think gendered bathrooms mean that it’s easier for people to call out when someone is somewhere they shouldn’t be. I feel like gender neutral bathrooms are a third options not a replacement for gendered bathrooms
True. Part of what I don't understand about transgenderism being so controversial with Christianity is that it is based so heavily on the part of Genesis that says God made male and female, yet Genesis also says, for example, the God made evening and morning. In spite of that, few if any Christians take that to mean that midnight and other times in between the two don't exist.
comparing being trans to cancer does sound bad but i understand what your saying. i have grown to think of it like being neurodivergent (like autism or adhd, ect.) it dosent need a cure and it dosent mean there is anything wrong with you but you might need things like medical treatments to help you. (i don't know if this makes sense i just thought putting it this way sounded nicer)
The way I view it is that while God doesn't make mistakes, he also doesn't make us perfect. We are put on this earth to learn and grow. We aren't born into the people we are meant to be, we have to become such.
Anyone else jealous on how attractive they are in either gender? I'd be open to have coffee with either one, but especially now with him being happy within himself
Hey Brenda, I would really love for you to do an interview with someone intersex and their journey. I often notice that the I gets left off the end of LGBTQI and Ive heard intersex people say how alienating the general misunderstanding around intersex can be so I'd love to hear more about it from your beautiful channel.
off topic,,, bc this is actually a really good video and i love how ur channel is going to help people from the lgbt community go back to God like,, me but literally imagine someone sitting there thinking im gonna go on hormones, have surgeries, risk rejection by loved ones, changing my name, and risking my safety all for that wonderful pay off of peeing in the womens bathroom
Hi, Brenda. I'm an atheist, and I love your channel. I recommended you to my adult, Christian nieces because I wanted them to see such an awesome, compassionate Christian woman. You do beautiful work, and you build bridges. Thank you.
wow your channel is so important. i myself am an LGBTQ pagan and unity between different people is something i am constantly trying to create through education and compassion rather than arguments and hostility. in a world that often feels suffocating for someone like me, you are providing a breath of fresh air. thank you for being so open minded and open hearted and bringing what you learn to others so that they may also open their minds and hearts. it is very important work. definitely got a subscribe from me.
Cool! By the way, I know this isn't completely relevant to the topic at hand, but out of curiosity. what is modern Paganism generally like? I know it's often about multiple gods, but in Ancient Rome and Ancient Greece, Pagan worship sometimes consisted of things like prostitution, pederasty, and other similar things. However, those things are specific to a certain type of Paganism, I don't feel that those things truly represent Paganism as a whole, which is why I'm interested in hearing from others more about what is is more generally.
The people of the Bible technically did not even believe in gender or orientation the way we do. I mean, if we told them about gender roles and orientation as a concept they would be confused. Shoot, it wasn’t just the Hebrews, the romans, Greeks, and other ancient cultures would also think our current concepts would be weird. The people of the Bible did not have the anthropological or scientific knowledge we do. It didn’t really matter weather you liked boys or girls. Shoot, it didn’t matter wether you liked a specific person of the opposite sex. At the end of the day, you were supposed to marry the person at your parents’ request or that helped you/your name survive. The Hebrews considered marriage to serve two purposes. Make children that would become warriors that would protect the tribe (and also your position in that tribe) and exchange of land/property. Not saying no one married for love back then, but that was not the point of emphasis.
I understand the issue and the dramatic situations that most of the lgbtq+ people have to go through, I respect them and support them. However, being a science-affirming Christian who belive in the use of intellect to get to the Truth, I would love to know more about the science behind transgender people, because to me it sounds like something not understandable, maybe because I'm too ignorant. Again, it's not narrowmindidness: as a Christian I know I have to support their cause against violence, but when it comes to firmly beliving in something like changing your biological gender with so little of scientific basis, I'm perplexed. If there's something that your channel taught me, Brenda, is to be inquisitive and dive in the reality of God's creation, so it's natural for me to ask why and how. Hope I'm gonna learn more, because, despite researching about it, I didn't find much. If you learn more, pls let us know! So much love, pray for you and Cody!
well, science does not (yet) have a deffinite answer why a person is trans. But it's kind of the same as the "gay gene" that was just not discovered. I love science, but at the same time we just are trans, it's the experience we have whether we want or not and knowing what happened is an exact moment at prenatal stage would probably not change anything.
I have a lot of different links but I will start with this: This is Dr. Robert Sapolsky, an American neuroendocrinologist, professor of biology, neuroscience, and neurosurgery at Stanford University, researcher and author. This is a portion of a lecture he gave to one of his classes on the topic of transgender people and the fact that gender identity is a biological trait of the brain. ua-cam.com/video/A3C4ZJ7HyuE/v-deo.html
If anyone else had said "let kids be kids. Don't talk to them about this stuff" regarding gender identity, sex, and sexual orientation I'd be concerned, but their explanation makes sense. I already disagreed with the concept of gender reveals being transphobic. They CAN be USED to for that and they're definitely arbitrary but not innately transphobic in and of themselves. Literally 99.5% of the population is cis. It makes COMPLETE sense to assume gender based on appearance unless told otherwise. But just because you announce you're having a boy doesn't mean you'd reject them if they realized they were a girl down the line. And I think creating an atmosphere where it's safe for them (or others) to do that is crucial! I also agree you don't need to force a conversation about sex on your kids. They'll come to you with questions on their own when they're ready/curious, especially when they're young. Same with sexual orientation -- as long as this doesn't mean denying the existence of gay people to your kids. I know my moms never explicitly told me about being lesbians, but they also didn't hide their relationship from me. And the rest of the family didn't treat it as weird or bad. Those things were crucial. As far as Cody's opinion on gender identity, I'd also agree that's something that can be brought up when asked or when it's topical. I do think that means people need to be more comfortable acknowledging the existence of trans people though. Because if you don't, when kids do find out about them they'll likely consider transgenderism bad unless you establish with your own behavior that it isn't. And often children begin to suspect they may be trans at a very young age; they just don't have the language for it. I think creating an atmosphere where trans people are acknowledged and not demonized and talking to them early puberty is the best compromise though.
Thank you for letting me share my story and having this conversation with me!
Thank you for sharing your story, it's very interesting and I agree with you about letting children be children and not bombarding them with information about gender identity and sexual development until it becomes relevant to them...I admire your courage it's not easy for people like you to be so open about their lives...I wish you all the best and hope that you will find happiness 😁
@@liviam1497 Thank you! :)
@@Codytalks11 Thank you for sharing it! I didn't know your channel, but I will definitely come visit you over there now ^^
Cody you were born a female and felt male inside. you couldve just dressed like a male. doing all that surgery and taking steroids and being gay, is anti-christ ideology. sorry as a follower of God i cannot support that. but you have your rights.
@@thehonesttruth415 Thanks for allowing me my rights. I do highly encourage you to listen before you speak though. #1 Brenda asked me about this specifically in the video. #2 This is also why I no longer identify as a Christian.
I find the idea of people being concerns about transgender people peeing in the "wrong" bathroom hilarious simply because there is nothing stopping somebody from going into the bathroom of the opposite gender and causing harm. There's nobody at the door checking birth certificates or ID to ensure that you are the correct gender for that bathroom. This means that a predator does not need to change their entire life in order to access a bathroom, they only need to wait until nobody's looking
Exactly. We don't have separate bathrooms in our homes, but how many predators are known to their victims? Most adult girls have used the men's room at some point due to a long line at public restrooms.
literally imagine someone sitting there thinking im gonna go on hormones, have surgeries, risk rejection by loved ones, changing my name, and risking my safety all for that wonderful pay off of peeing in the womens bathroom like grow up
My college campus added single stall gender neutral restrooms and changed some multi stall bathrooms unisex over 5 years ago now. You wanna know how many people have been “attacked” by a trans person in one of those bathrooms? ZERO.
I’ve literally never been shown any evidence that this right wing talking point is anything to be concerned about. Heck, I used to have to clean the MENS room as a 5’2” woman at the restaurant I used to wait tables at. We served alcohol there and some patrons would get pretty intoxicated. I was NEVER attacked or even accosted.
People forget that it’s already a crime to attack someone. Even if all this fear mongering about trans people were true; you wouldn’t need to pass a NEW law to put that person in jail. They already committed a crime.
@Ava Earles You basically just spoke my whole argument to everyone who gets uppidy about the bathrooms
I dont want some confused sexual deviant in the bathroom with my niece, I am sorry.
I'm recovering from being deeply entrenched in evangelical, purity-culture rich Christianity. I've spent years - many, many hours - trying to shake off all the prejudices I inherited and held onto. Like prejudice against transgender or gay men and women. This year I've finally gotten to the place where I can see I honestly feel "free" of all that crap in my head, all the judgement and hostility and the messages I was fed. But as I listened to Cody talk, I still feel the old arguments in my head. I can hear allllllllll the places that the old me, and sadly a lot of believers still, would pick at this video and what Cody shared. Like seeing a counselor - my knee jerk reaction was to hear all of the arguments that would come up, like "the counselor put lies in your head!" and other complete and total BS. Ugh...Cody, thank you so much for sharing your story. We're honored to hear it. And Brenda, thanks for bringing him on!
so basically you shaked the bible from your head and embraced worldly desires.
may God forgive us our sins.
I wish I fully understood how hard you must have worked so that these words could truly hold the value they deserve: Well f*cking done. You should be so proud of yourself and your journey is admirable.
You’re doing great, it’s really hard to get rid of views that were forced on you for so long so thank you
@@thehonesttruth415 watch 42:20 on, please
The Honest Truth could you just leave? I’ve seen you on several different posts and all you’ve done is spread negativity and hate. Judging from the comments you’ve made, you clearly haven’t watched the video, and from your arguments it’s clear that you’re not going to change your opinion. You’ve brought absolutely nothing constructive to the conversation. Please, just leave.
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Thank you for saying “transgender” at the times others say “transgendered” and God forbid “trangenders”. It means a lot, and helps me know how much you care. Last time I posted I am transgender I got attacked in the comments by someone who said “there is no need to say your transgendered, you look like one.” He went on to list attributes he things transgender women have, none of which you could see in my picture. You have started a great community where we can all be ourselves without worrying about hiding any part of our identity. Thank you again. 🙏
but the fact remains, God doesn't like LGBT.
@@thehonesttruth415 The fact is: that is not a fact.
@@Codytalks11 fact based on the bible. not fact based on constitution. you have your freedom. its abomination to God. sorry.
@@thehonesttruth415 Fact based on your belief of how the bible is to be interpreted. Which negates that it's fact at all. It's your belief and what IS fact is that you believe it, not that the bible IS fact.
@The Honest Truth I know your position. When you believe that do you feel closer to me or further? That, to me, reveals if I’m closer or further from God. Who divides us? Who unites us? If it is absolutely true that we have all been created in God’s image, maybe, just maybe, that means diversity is God.
theres so much concern about little girls when it comes to trans people using the bathroom. but what about little boys? if predators are put in the men's room, they wont just stop offending altogether. they'll hurt little boys, and nobody seems to care. the issue here is predators, not trans people. predators, unfortunately, will offend no matter what
You'd think all the MRA/MGTOW guys would pick up on that, but I guess ignoring boys doesn't matter when the right does it.
Society in general doesn't care about men
@@xenoblad They are concerned, but while child molestation is a problem, they are more concerned with suicide rates, prison and gender sentencing rates, domestic violence, etc.
EXACTLY
Isabel Bimberg this has what I’ve been saying the entire time!
Yes gender expression and sexuality have nothing to do with being trans. I'm a trans man and I still love pink, sparkly and cute things. Lol and I don't really like women. I mostly like other men. So I transitioned into being a gay man and that confuses a lot of people. But like Cody said, there was a disconnect between me and who I saw in the mirror. Thank you Brenda and Cody for the great video!
in conclusion youre both women.
@@thehonesttruth415 no. I'm a man. I wish I was a woman though! Women are beautiful and empowering. Thanks for trying to insult me, though.
@@oliverjohnson6649 im not insulting. you were born a female so regardless of how many steroids you do or surgery youre still a female. sorry.
@@oliverjohnson6649 also God detest Gays. so youre not a true christian or you formed your own religion.
@@thehonesttruth415 I'm a Christian. Episcopalian to be specific. Our church affirms gay people. Idk what authority you think you have to say otherwise
Brenda, I wish we had a billion more like you such a beautiful soul. You will be an amazing Mother.
Her name is Brenda!
fuzzybeargville Agreed. Brenda seems to be a good listener and so compassionate and open to different people. I think she will be a wonderful mother.
@@margaretforsey7763 She is so open minded that her brains have fallen out.
Eric Day Whoa sick burn!
In a household with open dialogue and acceptance... chances are, the child wont feel the need to make an announcement and come out, because they were never stifled to begin with and they've always been free to just be who they are.
I agree there would definitely be a higher chance the child won't feel that way, but there are still some who may feel nervous or even afraid to. There are those who have the mindset of "I'm okay with it, so long as it's not in my family."
My nephew had his mum tell me he was gay, because he was afraid to do so himself. I'm openly pansexual, and at the time was dating a trans-woman, so I didn't and still don't know why he was afraid to tell me himself. I gave him a hug the next time I saw him.
I wish I had grown up in a family like that. I'm bisexual and have always been more masculine, but now I have all these complexes because they expected me to magically grow out of my tomboy phase. So I spent years praying I wasn't gay and I'm just now trying to figure out my gender in my 30's.
@@meadowrae1491 I've said my entire life, that I felt somewhere in the middle of being male and female. I look more female, but my mannerisms are more masculine. I feel like me.. not quite feminine, not quite masculine. Living like a "girly girl" made me feel so superficial and phony. I'm not super masculine, but over all I'm way more masculine than feminine, but I'm also feminine. I prayed so hard during my teens and early 20s to be what I was "supposed to be"... and every life lesson came back that I'm fine just the way I am. Since I've been on my journey to embrace myself, I have found so much peace.
Just remember, you are worth loving and knowing, just the way you are.
I've been waiting for this video, thank you for making it
- a christian who is also transgender
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are you finnish?
@@ergjdjheghdfhfgh1725 Yes!
@@victoriamaakulmamerijarvi9036 oh nice! I'm swedish. Norse gang c;
"God doesn't make mistakes, but sometimes nature does" wow that's an excellent point! 22:34
I live with a genetic collagen defect. It requires medical intervention. Does that mean God made a mistake? No. I'm thankful to live in an era where there are doctors and treatment. I wouldn't have even lived had I been born 100 years ago. Every day I wake up and feel God's love and get the chance to impart it to my fellow person, is a day worth living. There's nothing quite like getting in nature and just feeling the presence of God. If medical intervention allows that, I'm going to be thankful.
the guy was born a female, and felt male inside. you couldve just dressed like a male. doing all that surgery and taking steroids and being gay, is anti-christ ideology. sorry as a follower of God i cannot support that. but you have your rights.
@@thehonesttruth415 Sorry I don't mean to be rude, but did you watch the video? They touch on those points around 10:50
@@thehonesttruth415 When did Jesus say you couldn't have gender reassignment surgery, couldn't do steroids, and couldn't be gay?
@@dakotahoeppner605 because God punished agroup of people who were gays and lesbians. and God detest that acts. ever heard of Sodom and gomorrah?. maybe you need to read the bible.
I am the same way with my kids. My daughter likes to wear her hair short, I don't care. My son had an obsession with Elsa and Tinkerbell, I didn't care. He even dressed up as Sunset Shimmer from My Little Pony's EQ because he liked her strength.
But my daughter still likes make up. My son loves Power Rangers, etc.
It doesn't matter to me how they want to dress or express themselves. If they aren't self-harming or hurting someone else, they can do what they want and dress how they want. Without worrying about their "identities" of who and what they are.
My son's favorite cartoons are Shimmer and shine and Thomas and friends he plays with cars, trains and also dolls and...
I really don't care...let children be children and play with whatever they like...
You are probably an amazing parent!
Brenda, what is wrong with you? How can you be so damn AMAZING?!? After every episode I think that you can’t get any better...and you keep impressing me!!! I’m a gay man, who, in my younger years has adamantly said that I could NEVER date a transman. However, as Cody said, education is the key! I would now definitely date a transman....there are so many ways around biological differences.
I thought being stuck in a body where you’re sexually attracted to the same gender was tough and a curse...but:
(1) I consider it a gift now; and
(2) I feel so much more for someone who’s stuck in the wrong gendered body.
So being part of the 🏳️🌈 community has taught me so much about being kind and empathetic...ergo, a gift...but it’s a gift for so many other reasons too. 😁
People ask the same thing about gay people...I grew up with a blue collar dad who was also a fisherman, and he raised me and my bro to go fishing, crabbing, working on our trucks, we’re both athletes and still love sports...and when I came out to my dad, he asked me ONE question: “are you happy?” After I replied, “yes”...he said one thing: “that’s all a parent cares about...that their kid is happy!”
Please keep up the good work and lotsa love and aloha from Hawai’i!!! 😍😍🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🤙🏽🤙🏽
Sean Shimamoto dude as trans man I really appreciate this. I've been having a bad couple of weeks just because of general hate and because the trans community is kinda on fire rn but hearing you say this made me so happy. honestly things like this are what gets me through the day. and i know you didn't say much and this is just a youtube comment section but you seem like such an amazing and rare person. I just want you to know how much I appreciate you and what you said. it really has made my day so much better.
Jasper Knight Jasper, don’t ever sell yourself short and realize that you’re just as important as everyone else. Also, never forget that there are guys out there like me who don’t care that you’re trans...I’d date a trans guy in a heartbeat. There are so many adult toys nowadays that it’s easy to get around human genetalia differences. You never said if you’re a straight or gay trans man, but that’s superfluous ‘cause my point is that there are people out there who don’t care that you’re trans. I’ve been very fortunate to have been born and raised in Hawai’i, where people are VASTLY more accepting than most of America...so my mindset tends to be a lot more positive than most, so I’m glad to hear that my positivity had an uplifting effect on you...that’s what my mom would’ve liked. You’d have loved her...when I came out to her in 1997, she asked me, “oh, so Ken’s your boyfriend?” and after I said yeah, she asked me, “oh, so who’s top and who’s bottom?” Hehe. That’s how little she cared that I was gay. 😁
On that note, just wanted to send some love and aloha your way from Honolulu. 😘🏳️🌈🤙🏽
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Sean Shimamoto aww thank you so much! I have to admit I’m surprised the most support I’ve gotten was on a video by a Christian channel lol. Last place I expected at least. But anyways i really appreciate this a lot I do. I literally cannot stop smiling right now. I like need to go to Hawaii now. I mean I was planning on it anyways like I never really thought about it but now it’s probably in the top five places i want to go to. I know my sister really loves it. She speaks a good amount of Hawaiian actually. But France first.
anyways this is great. Your really great and I would kill to have anyone in my life be like you. Keep bringing love to the world my dude.
Jasper Knight Well continue following Brenda ‘cause she continues to redefine Christianity...and I think Jesus Christ would be so proud of her! I was raised Buddhist, where we had 🏳️🌈 youth support groups...so I’ve never understood the religious hatred from Christians...but I’m an atheist now. I’ve always said that I’d rather be an upstanding atheist than a wretched religious person...what’s the sense of being religious if you’re not a good person? Seems like an oxymoron IMO. BTW, Hawai’i’s not perfect...and we have our issues, but it is a very accepting place...and I firmly believe it’s because of our racial diversity. Only 2.7% of Americans are mixed race...with Alaska having the 2nd highest number at 7.4%. Hawai’i? 23.8% of us are mixed race...that’s almost 10 times the national average.
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Completely agree with this. I found this video and channel specifically because I was trying to find out if being trans could be ok for a Christian person. I looked at more of this channel and I absolutely love it. I hope this progressive and accepting type of Christianity catches on and more people are like this. I was never raised in a Christian household. Everyone in my family is aethiest and my parents have never talked to me about religion or even the lgbt community. I never thought I’d be religious especially after I realized I was trans. I just thought there’s no way I don’t think I’m that type of person but recently I have become like super unsure of where my religious status is right now. Like Jesus Christ first my sexuality, then my gender, now my religious affiliation.
Anyways about Hawaii though. I don’t know when but I hope at some point in my life I get the chance to travel. Like i know everyone says that but I’m literally scheduling a lot of my life plans around this and I’ve been working towards this for a while. I mostly just want to go to France actually and some other places but also Hawaii sounds cool. I think I mentioned my sister speaks Hawaiian. She also wants to go to Hawaii at some point too and she’s the main reason I ever wanted to go in the first place. So that I could take her there.
Also wow, I really relate to him when he mentioned being "exhausted" having to explain things if he wants to identify as Christian. I'm also that girl who has had premarital sex and affirms gay people (and accepts evolution and science too)...and got tired of having to explain how I'm still Christian. So I kind of stopped bothering with the label if the label doesn't clearly communicate on its own, what I believe. But that's why I love your channel!! maybe someday I'll have the energy again and will be able to stand firmly in that label like you do. God bless.
Same here I grew up Catholic in a very closed Catholic community... everyone went to church on Sunday and I even baptized my kids although I'm much less religious than my parents..I don't see the danger in LGBT people and I think that excluding them from church unless they basically renounce their identity is a great mistake and in itself a sin...
Same here. I personally just don't speak about my opinions bc everyone around me is religious to the point of being homophobic, sexist, transphobic, islamophobic and I might actually be disowned for accepting everyone as they are. I just dont see Christianity being aligned with not accepting other humans. Like how do people call themselves Christians and hate/exclude/not accept people?
@@yxw6528 I'll play devil's advocate a second. I actually don't really believe in just...embracing literally everyone's ideology and I will keep certain people at arm's length just for my own sense of safety. I can care about them and give them decency...but... I think I understand that some religious conservatives are more cautious and conscientious of what "may" be a threat. Key word may. They just go too far with it. I have a little bit of that element to me because I've encountered true evil in a person before. So, it might be hard but keeping that in mind, I can have a little sympathy for why they just get so hot and bothered and scared of anything different. Afterall, I too have been called an islamophobe, simply for thinking the religion itself is a terrible religion. doesn't mean I intend to be a dick to Muslims.
But...my sympathy only extends so far. And my struggle is simply, I'm not a cookie cutter anything and it has been exhausting at times being told I'm not a Christian because I'm not Christianing correctly.
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I know how you feel. I'm agnostic myself, but I'm familiar with the Bible and much of the history of all the different types of churches and enjoy theological discussions. At any rate, with regards to evolution, I've never quite understood why a large number of creationists see evolution as basically being a concept that is an enemy of the Bible. I mean, even during our lifetime, it is obviously that people change in all different ways over long periods of time. Creation doesn't mention evolution, though as you probably know, that in no way means that it doesn't exist. There are all sort of scientific truths about the way humans are that are not explained in creation. That all said, I do believe that we have more free will than other living creatures, so I don't except a lot of the claims of evolutionary psychologists. And as for premarital sex, that's definitely a big topic among traditional Christians. From what I can tell of the Bible and it's original text, which is in Greek, premarital sex isn't explicitly condemned. What seems to me to be condemn in the Bible seems to have more to do with sacred prostitution/promiscuity and obviously adultery.
@@technoloverish I think we're on the same page about premarital sex for sure. And I can relate on the agnosticism too. You know...you seem like a fun person to hash this out with. I consider myself an agnostic theist but that looks to Jesus as the ideal, righteous person to emulate. I think God wants us to act like Jesus and it pleases God...brings a little heaven into the world. And I think he reconciles us with God by showing us how much God loves us, dying on a cross and asking for God to forgive his tormentors. I mean wow. I don't know how to exude that kind of love. Maybe I never will. But I should strive. So...I would think that's all it really takes for me to be "Christian". I may not believe in the trinity or penal substitution though. So should those* theological opinions disbar me from the label? what are your thoughts? Also, I'm intrigued. elaborate on why you discard the hypotheses of evolutionary psychologists because we...have more free will than the species that came before? Do I have that right? I don't wish to strawman you. To that I'd say, well, I'm not so sure such things are mutually exclusive...or rather....previous species don't need to have our level of free will, for their primary circuitry and structures to have a residual effect on OUR circuitry and neurostructural capacities….no? I thought that was all evolutionary psychology was about. Also, I might be biased. I like me some Jordan Peterson and he's an evolutionary psychologist :P :P
29:40 I have a boy and a girl and I just let them play with whatever they want. My boy seems very boy ish. He loves cars and stuff and is a very hyperactive little troublemaker. He's also very caring though, and pretends to breastfeed his stuffed toys sometimes. I got him a baby doll and I crocheted a carrier for that reason. His sister is still a tiny baby (8 months old) but she'll play with whatever she wants too. And if either one of them ever comes up to me and tells me they don't feel comfortable in their body, I'm more than happy to help them in any way I can. Being a progressive parent doesn't mean you have to raise your kids 100% gender neutral. It just means you listen to them and let them choose their own path in life.
I'm an agnostic atheist btw but I really love your channel ❤
Actually you are raising your children the gender-neutral way in the original meaning of it. Originally gender-neutral up-bringing meant offering children all types of toys and letting them play with them without policing them based on gender stereotypes. If boy was to choose car toys and girl was to choose dolls, it would still be gender-neutral up-bringing - long as it was truly their choice and not programmed on them by expectations ;)
@@Kotifilosofi yes that's definitely how I see it as well. But I'll still call my son a he and my daughter a she for now, so it's not 100% gender neutral in the sense that I won't use gender neutral pronouns for them. Unless of course they grow up to identify as non binary.
@@jackriver8385 yea, but I'm not sure if literally erasing every hint of the gender was the goal to begin with, but just offering children neutral/free-of-gendered stereotypes/expectations environment? Or maybe I've misunderstood something? (My native doesn't have gendered pronouns so use of pronouns really isn't even a subject of concern here.)
It's interesting that a lot of men are annoyed when their sex is equated with predatory behavior. But then they do just that to justify why trans women can't use the women's bathroom. (Either because they think trans women are "men" or because they think cis men will use it as a way to assualt women.)
To clarify: I don't think ALL men do this, just that it's somewhat ideologically inconsistent for those who do.
yeah but cis men aren’t using the women’s bathroom. ur logic is basically saying that trans women are equated with predatory behavior in general which no one’s talking about. cis men may be predators and shouldn’t use the women’s bathroom just as trans women may be predators and shouldn’t use the women’s bathroom. that’s the whole argument. that the bathroom is supposed to be a safe environment for women, and anyone would be able to take advantage of it. i don’t think anyone thinks that trans women are predatory, but are just concerned that it’ll allow for assault by any cis man claiming to be trans. exploiting both groups.
@@marypoppins6403 you and I may be exposed to different people. The logic I've come across is "If we let trans woman use the women's restroom they'll assault cis women." OR "If we let trans women use the women's restroom, cis men will use it to assault cis women." Which is still implying that men (at least a large enough number of them) are predatory and just looking for an excuse to act on it.
I disagree with this and your own reasoning for a number of reasons... (I'm not equating you to the aforementioned group necessarily but still disagree.)
@@thehonesttruth415 Woowww. So fucking rude. You tell me how much control YOU have over your appearance. It's not trans womens' fault for looking masculine. It's society's fault for not giving trans people access to health care. You cannot discriminate on trans women because some of them are hot and some of them aren't
@@thehonesttruth415 But what they've grown up in s household that has gender neutral bathrooms? Then they are not mentally used to just the men's bathroom, but a neutral one.
@@thehonesttruth415 I'm a woman that looks like a man to some. Please advise which bathroom I should use? Also, transwomen are more likely to be attacked by men in a men's bathroom, what are you going to do to protect them from men?
I don't really identify as either Christian or Atheist (Mr. Atheist turned me on to this channel), but God is Grey is an example of what I view Christianity to be. I am very supportive of the LGBTQ+ community, and appreciate how Cody answered the questions honestly and thoughtfully. I learned a lot.
This is the best christian channel imo
@@Sephajinami saying something is sinful is not bully. its like democrats republicans disagreeing. they are not bullying eachother.
God bless you.
@@Sephajinami youre wrong, we as christians are encouraged to be welcoming to all and help others. Jesus was best teacher who actually lived with many sinners and helped them and forgave their sins.
Saying something is a sin, doesnt mean i hate you. no. i might not have gone about it in the right way, (generally because i live in the other part of the world where we are usually straightforward).
So simply, Christians we love everyone and would help you from any situation youre going through.
@@Sephajinami the honest truth is one of those people that is so judgey that they are most likely a garbage human being. At least that's all they've shown of themselves in the comment section. They probably deal with a huge amount of terrible thoughts about other people and then project them onto people like Cody that are just doing their own thing.
It's not worth getting into a never ending cycle of talking to a brick wall essentially, this person isn't open for truth and knowledge. A lot of ppl spew out bigotry, and when they avoid listening to others and reiterate the same view over again, it's clear they don't want to open their mind. Often times these ppl are also trolls, they spew hate for drama, there's no point speaking directly to those ppl, but to the audience and others who are willing to listen and be open for education.
Thank you for elevating LGBTQ+ voices within your community and combating bad-faith arguments from Christians. The more we're educated, the more those straw-man arguments begin to fall apart. Trans rights are human rights.
I feel like some people confuse someone being trans with them just crossdressing...
BerserkerCiaran because CDs have literally highjacked the T because they do not like the term CD assumed to them.
Observational Nuance By Brennah so honest question, sorry for the ignorance, but where do cross dressers fall then? In the queer category?
Amber Newman so gender expression and fetishes (like cross dressing) still fall under transgender then?
Amber Newman so it doesn’t have a category in lgbtq?
@@Heythere24561 Thing is, there are "cishet" people who crossdress.
Also, fetishes are probably the one thing that won't ever be part of the LGBTQ+ community
If God doesn’t make mistakes, couldn’t it be possible that Cody’s entire story and journey is exactly the person that God created him to be.
Right? I love this
Thank you both for being brave enough to have this conversation. I am the mother of a young adult transgender man. The hardest part of finding out that my son is transgender is knowing that there are people that will hate him for no reason other than some feigned moral superiority.
Thanks for bringing good positive conversation into the world.
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I hope you and you family the best and would hope any one you or they encounter that claim to be Christian would treat you and them as they would want to be treated .
Jeff Dutcher Thank you. So far both sides of the family have embraced him...though unintentionally botch the pronouns sometimes. They are trying. We were most worried about my husband’s mom & step father. His step father gave a not so nice prayer the day same sex marriage was legalized in our state. I was worried I was going to go Mama Bear on her & start throwing out verses about divorce. Surprisingly his mom just said “Well, some people are born that way.” Then was quick to add, “But other people chose it.” Meaning it was okay for my son, but not other people. Sigh. I told my son that most likely he is in their life so they can learn that transgender and gay people are not bad.
We are lucky to have supportive families. I see my son’s friends that don’t and it is very difficult for them.
I actually read recently that eunuchs can be interpreted as historic transgenderism, and there’s some pretty convincing passages in this. For example, Matthew 19 even seems to suggest eunuch could also refer to people born intersex (who in modern times are often given surgeries to “normalize” their genitals at birth, often without the consent or knowledge of the parents. If you wanna talk about “mutilating” god’s creation, let’s not talk about consenting adults undergoing gender reconstruction, let’s talk about these intersex children and their families!) “For there are eunuchs who were born so from their mother’s womb: and there are eunuchs who were made so by men: and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven. He who is able to accept this, let him accept it.”
Also Isaiah 56 “To the eunuchs who keep my Sabbaths, who choose what pleases me and hold fast to my covenant-to them I will give within my temple and its walls a memorial and a name better than sons and daughters...”
So... yeah.
So very much yes!
Elwood Scott wow y’all twist scripture to your own destruction so sad.
jaking2 she but yes, how did I twist anything? @LordofTheharvest73 Would you like to tell me how someone altering their genitalia in ancient times is any different from them doing it now? How is a eunuch from ancient times any different from an intersex or trans person today? I’m listening.
jaking2 please answer his question. I am wondering too. How is direct quoting scripture twisting it? To me the scripture sounds pretty clear that God loves transgender people that keep his day holy.
@@ezra55595 Eunuchs are men who have had their testicles removed in order to make them more efficient soldiers, as they are not distracted by lust or sexual matters. Note 1, they didnt change gender, they are still referred to as men. Note 2, they did it so they would not have any sexual desires since that was the believe then.
so you cannot compare transgender to eunuch. different ideologies.
another version is FGM where female clit was removed, so she also doesnt have sexual urge, it wasnt to change her gender.
FGM is wrong since it was enforced without the childs will.
Beautiful, thankyou! May we all live our own authentic lives.
As a Christian, I am always amazed that people think that God does not have the heart of parent when looking at his transgender children. Thank you so very much for posting this video.
cyn cyn God does have the heart of a parent-He longs for His children to have the best and the best is men and women as He designed them to be. A parents heart breaks when they see their child walking the wrong path and they do all in their power to help them to see what they’re doing is destructive, even discipline and consequences. So I believe it breaks His heart that His children are believing the lie of transgenderism and longs for them to come back to Him, to life and light and truth and the way He meant for things to be. Sin is what has made this world what it is and when we repent of our sins and stop trying to live life our own way and turn to Christ to save us, we begin the road of sanctification. In the end Jesus will return and make all things new and this world and all its pain and suffering will pass away and those who believe in Jesus Christ and follow His way and His teaching and statutes will be with Him in eternity!
"For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life. For God did not send his Son into the world to condemn the world, but in order that the world might be saved through him. Whoever believes in him is not condemned, but whoever does not believe is condemned already, because he has not believed in the name of the only Son of God. And this is the judgment: the light has come into the world, and people loved the darkness rather than the light because their works were evil. For everyone who does wicked things hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his works should be exposed. But whoever does what is true comes to the light, so that it may be clearly seen that his works have been carried out in God." - John 3:16-21
That's something always striking to me. How often are parents hearts changed on an issue when their kids come out. Why wouldn't God be able to achieve that level of love that a human parent could achieve?
@CardistryCollector123 hi. Using language like that to pressure me into believing YOU isn't going to work. Threatening me to believe what you say I have to believe (because you say I have to) would mean me giving up my faith in God to follow you, and I'd rather not. You can keep trying if you want, but I don't suggest it... also the Bible isn't clear on trans people. You know what it is clear on? Matthew 5: 21-22.
@@Heythere24561 When we see his face, you will know that you were mistaken.
@Wayne lawson May you find peace.
You are a Christian Channel that I needed thank you.
Could you maybe talk about your pregnancy/future motherhood.
And have a discussion with Emily Wilson? 😉
By the way: you look stunning and glowing 😘
"God doesn't make mistakes, but God does make anomalies," was one thing I heard. My view is God doesn't make mistakes but set nature on its course and nature makes the mistakes. That's what I feel happened to me being born with a boy body but a girl brain. Still yet to transition and can't wait. Just don't dig my male form. At all!
another way might be: God does not make mistakes, therefore being trans is not a mistake :) I know dysphoria sucks, but it would be really great if we tried to not to frame being trans as such a negative thing. I hope you'll start whatever you need soon!
no need to go do anything, just stay the way you are.
Good luck with your transition :)
good luck dude! I'm trans and I've started somewhat recently too. just make sure you are 100 percent sure obviously. this might sound bad but I would wait as long as possible till you can't anymore to be sure. if your not over 18 then try to wait till then. if you can't that's totally fine but it's always good to give theses thing as much time as possible.
also hroromones might make you gain weight. I gained a lot of weight after starting on testosterone and ended up looking more feminine lol.
I really like what he said about his parents had to mourn not having a daughter. Even if they are thrilled to now have a son, there were hopes and dreams tied to their daughter, and those have to be mourned. We as a society, both Christian and secular, treat grief as something to be avoided. But it's so very necessary to life.
Hey there Brenda/GodIsGrey! God Bless! I just recently started to watch your videos as a Coworker suggested your channel to me as an LGBTQ Christian who identifies as a Transgender Lesbian Christian Woman who unfortunately hasn’t been able to start Transitioning yet. I really appreciate/enjoy your videos/viewpoints! I wish more of our fellow Christian Brothers and Sisters from around the World would watch your videos and hopefully have their eyes/ears/hearts opened! I hope someday I’ll be able to Transition fully from Male to Female and become Milena Grace Love! And hopefully be as Beautiful as you! I wish you the best! Would appreciate your prayers sweetie! Hugs!
Based on the research that I've done on the topic of transgender people, I feel like this guest is right on. I read an article that said that sometimes it is caused by certain medications that the mother takes while pregnant, and identical twin studies have shown that it has alot to do with nurture, not just nature. Also, when I stopped to imagine myself as a female, being stuck in a male body, that does sound horrendous to go through. I have experienced suicidal depression, so I understand fully wanting to treat that in the way they did. It's also so sad that some people would look down on him in the way that he said and I love that he said that the education of children should be in the home and doesn't need to be so young. Thankyou for this!
Also, I'm starting a new channel about my thoughts on social-political topics if anyone wants to come hang out!
As a trans drop out Christian woman whos trying to rebuild her faith I'm so happy to have found this channel! And Im thankful God put this video in my suggestions, sneaky sneaky jajajaja
Why would diversity in gender/sex be so shocking when there is a radical spectrum of diversity in EVERY SINGLE TRAIT in nature? Skin color goes from black as night to pale as paper and every shade in between. Intelligence goes from mind-boggling genius to barely cognitive and every IQ in between. Musical ability goes from the ability to compose concertos at 5 years old to total tone- deafness and every ability in between. Height goes from giant to little person and every inch in between. Pain threshold goes from being able to get punctured with spikes without flinching to feeling excruciating pain at a feather-light touch. Dexterity, eye color, skin elasticity etc. etc. EVERY TRAIT manifests in a diverse spectrum, not in a simple EITHER/OR binary. Why do these fundamentalist, imperialist religions like to pretend that sex and gender are somehow the ONLY exception to this recurring spectrum? How can they honestly sell this idea when there is SO MUCH scientific evidence to the contrary?
We have cis-gendered women taller and brawnier and hairier (some can grow full beards and have chest hair) with more masculine facial features and testosterone than some men. We have cis-gendered men smaller, less muscular, smoother and prettier in features than some women. We have people born with different chromosomes than their natural anatomy manifests among several other intersex traits. By the way, there are more intersex human beings than there are redheads. In the Dominican Republic, there is a village where anatomical girls become boys at puberty, naturally.
How can it be so difficult to imagine there isn't also similar variation at the sub-conscious, cognitive and personality levels as well? Why do certain religions perpetuate the LIE that gender-expression variation is some post-modern phenomenon when all over the world, in all indigenous cultures we see that gender was NEVER so simplistic and so many cultures created space for 3rd, 4th, sometimes even FIVE different gender expressions? For a more exhaustive tour of gender-queerism and gender diversity in cultures around the world see this PBS site: www.pbs.org/independentlens/content/two-spirits_map-html/ Amazing how so-called "primitive" indigenous people's simply respect nature and make space for it instead of trying to "correct it" and "order" it around like we so-called "developed" societies love to do. Much like corn, which comes in ruby, tourquiose, multi-colored, black and other colors, was whittled down to just two mass-produced strains of yellow and white, we humans LOVE to destroy natural diversity.
Even in the Jewish tradition, there was something called, “born eunuchs” (saris in Hebrew). These were people with in-tact genitalia, so they were allowed in the temple, but their BEHAVIOR was not conforming to typical masculine and feminine traits. The Talmud describes them as effeminate, (if men) or (unfeminine) if women and showing ambivalence towards marriage and having children. Jesus Christ mentioned born eunuchs in Matthew 19. He had ZERO words of condemnation for these gender-queer individuals. Not even patriarchal, imperialist religions could not deny NATURE’S DIVERSITY. Even in Islamic culture, you will find they could not erase the existence of non-gender conformity.
The rigid gender binary we were raised in is actually RECENT in human history and it is Eurocentric colonialism made worse with industrialization. We began to treat human beings like all men are identical machines whose masculinity is defined by a set of mechanical parts with software that fits into a narrow box of pre-programmed personality, behavioral, physical and sexual traits and similarly, with women too. Human reproduction and sexuality was treated like an industrialized assembly line to provide serfs and soldiers for empire. Everyone (with the exception of those rich and powerful enough to be free to be eccentric) had to surrender their unique, natural beauty to assimilate into a "borg" mentality to serve empire. The more tyrannical and conservative the religion, the more identical all the women in the society dress, look and act and so do the men. Like robots.
The human "machines" that reject the sex/gender programming and choose instead, their naturally emerging, organic self, are demonized by the imperial religions because it throws a spanner in their works. How are they to control society with unpredictable people around?
alieninthecaribbean I wish I could marry this comment
Ok, this is seriously one of the strongest pro-trans arguments I have ever seen. This comment made my day and you sir/ma'am (alieninthecaribbean) win the internet for today!
(Seriously through, this really helps me understand more why some people push back so hard against being trans nowadays. (I already knew that people sometimes are anti-trans or at least transphobic because the mere existence of trans people throws off their mental framework of gender and threatens to make them have to go through a major upheaval of so much of how they understand people, society, and the relationship between both through 'gender.' However, you comment taught me a possible further root cause to that problem, so thank you and kudos to you!)
Thank you so much for this video! So many Christians don't have a close relationship with a trans person, so Cody's openness to share his heart and experiences is so valuable.
As a trans person the portrayal of us in popular media is very inaccurate. So thank you for creating this video. 💙
I'm not transgender, though I am an ally of the trans community. Anyway, only out curiosity, do you feel that that an effect at all on how people who don't know transgender people view transgender people?,
Grey is Bae!
Thank you for this necessary conversation. It means a lot to me especially since I have a trans brother. I want to add my voice to the conversation. I have a few videos up, and I'll be doing more. I'm going to help educate people on how to love and respect trans people.
There are instances of chromosome not always bring a clear xx or xy. Sometimes there's 3 and sometimes there's a mutation on one. Not that this really matters. I believe that trans people are legit because I've met them and know, but I wouldn't be surprised if there were genetic causes as well.
The first non-jew that was baptised was the Egyptian eunuch. There was nothing that stood in the way for him to enter the church. Acts 8: 26-40
That is true but being castrated in those times was the most dreaded and always enforced transformation for boys or young men. Comparing eunuchs of the past centuries and individuals changing their given gender voluntarily is a fallacy.
This was not a man who questioned the gender God made him to be, he was castrated by force without any input. Plus Cody does not even identify as a Christian so not sure why everyone’s trying to justify what he’s doing to make it okay according to the Bible
For those above me, Matthew 19:12 lists three ways to be an eunuch. The last one was probably understood at the time. It seems we have no clue what it means now though, and yet, it doesn't require anything biologically wrong or removed. Finally, from Strong's Greek 2135, the word is from eune and echo; a castrated person; by extension an impotent or unmarried man; by implication, a chamberlain.
I loved listening to the both of you! Thank you for having this wonderful conversation!:) I wish that every one who refuses to watch the video because they're rejecting the issue seen in a different/respecting perspective would watch it anyways in order to overthink their one way street "morals".
I am Transgender and I am Christian. I struggle with that so often. I know God loves me for me and I love him for that. But I have to deal with other Christians who disagree with that God made me Transgender.
Hmmmm but gender identity and sexuality is pushed onto us from a really young age - Except we only see the cisnormative heteronormative propaganda. I was watching Disney from age 4 where I only witnessed very feminine women who would find their princes. Baby dolls were gifted to me soon after to take care of. And my gender identity was literally assigned to me from day one. Why is cis and hetero ok for kids but not trans or gay?
It's like people in the majority always seem to act as though others who are different from the 'norm' are different in a bad way, that there is something "off" about them, and that they are wrong and/or bad for it.
I love Cody! I haven't watched yet but I'm excited
Thank you for doing this. Much love for you, Brenda ❤️
GREY IS BAE!!!!!
I love Cody's perspective. As for you announcing that you're having a boy, I don't understand the issue. To me, the issue lies in gender stereotypes, not nouns. I definitely think we should do our best to dismantle those stereotypes and see each person as an individual but I'm not sure how productive it is to get hung up on pronouns, especially when discussing children.
The argument about gender dysphoria being a mental illness does not make sense to me... even if it were a mental illness (which I don’t believe it is), the “treatment” is none of anybody’s business.
This was wonderful! I’m not a xtian, but I adore Brenda and as an ally and parent to the LGBTQA+ community, I really value your using this platform to explain how beautiful inclusion can be for everyone. Much love!
Your point at 22:34 kind of encapsulates my theological view of being trans. Like, legit, we say that the world is steeped in sin and darkness because of the fruit being eaten in the Garden of Eden, right? That's why we have to eat to survive, to see pain during childbirth, and to work for our own survival. The Fruit is why we suffer, and literally the reason Jesus came down to save us. Why is it so far-fetched to say that one of the corruptive effects of Original Sin is that some people are born with bodies that don't fit their souls?
Like, legit, what better way for Satan to cause humanity problems than to skew the alignment of some people's bodies with their souls and see what problems that can create for them? It's ridiculous that trans people are being told to suck it up. They just want to have bodies that are expressive of their souls, just like cis people's bodies match our gender.
For a while I was against Transgender people until I started doing my own research to better understand.
Also the way that some people argued against trans people also influenced my thinking.
Being brought up Christian didn't help either.
I am glad that I can access the internet to learn more about other people. It is cool to see something like this that God is Grey does where she brings in a person like Cody who has gone through this.
All the best to you Cody live your best life. 🤗
With all sensitivity, I was a “tomboy”🙄 until I was in junior high.. I adamantly wished I was a boy. Then hormones hit and I was like Wowzas! Kids don’t always know right away.. just give them the space to discover who they truly are.
I read that psychologists are supposed to discern who is earnest, that access to hormones takes years of jumping through hoops, and that if clothes and a name turn out to be enough to ease the dysphoria the patient would stay in that part of the spectrum of transition.
Love your content Brenda! As an atheist it really makes me happy to see Christians as loving and open minded as you. I hope to see more in the future!
Yep. The only reason I even care at all about people being Christian or otherwise religious is that for some of those people, it cause them to advocate for toxic things, such us men and women being legally required to follow specific gender roles and such. If religious people consisted only of people like God is Grey, most of us would probably be completely okay with that.
It bothers me that this needs to be done. But I want everyone to listen to this. The more you know, the more you care.
So grateful for the balanced point of view as I am so tired of the extreme view that some on the progressive side that stereotype, or pressure kids to a label. Or raise them "gender neutral". Umm, just let your kid develop naturally, and if genuine distress develops later get them a counselor and have them assess what is really going on. They may have other issues other than gender identity going on. A lot of young people that think they are transgender are now finding out they're on the Autistic spectrum according to Dr. Tony Atwood. Once they find that out, the dysphoric feelings they find go away, and they're happier. BTW, women who have Autism Spectrum disorder have brains very close to a nuerotypical male, which is why we tend to have conflict with females and love having male friends. We get them because out thought processes are very similar.
Anyone else mesmerized by his shoulder muscles??
I really want to recommend the book "A theory of Objectivist Parenting" by Roslyn Ross to you. Based on all your videos and your personality, I think you would LOVE this book, and I recommend reading it before having your son if possible. I love how accepting you are, and how much you just LOVE God!
I always think how grateful I am to have grown up with the internet. Let me explain: my family is very religious, and my mom is extremely homophobic. As such, all I knew about gay people was her opinion on them. If I didn't have the internet to hear different stories, actually realize that people who are LGBT are normal people and not disgusting, and explore my own sexuality, I would have grown up to be so hateful and hurtful and homophobic as well, because I had only ever heard my mom's hateful opinions. I would have rejected my brother whom I love when he came out as gay, and I would have hated myself when I realized that I am also gay. Discrimination and hateful views really do start at home, and I'm so glad that I had outside sources available to me so that I could form my own opinions and beliefs.
I agree. I remember going to a prayer meeting and an older member mentioned that she was watching a UA-camr she liked, and that UA-camr had recently come out as transgender. And she said that that video gave her the epiphany, "Oh. They're only asking if we can accept them as they are." I can't guess what her previous opinion of trans people were, but I'm guessing that this moment broke the myth of the 'trans agenda' in her mind and let her see that trans people are just normal people who want and deserve love + acceptance. I think the phrase 'love the sinner, hate the sin' misses the point that to love someone, you have to know them first, and after knowing them you really can't hold unto those misconceptions and stereotypes that decry LGBTQA+ identities as inherently bad. That's why even with all the garbage that comes with the internet, I'm grateful that it exists to let us learn about the stories of people who we may never meet in real life but can still teach us to be more empathetic and inspire us to fight for justice.
I was told "being trans is being against God cause he made them on way and they are saying God was wrong"
Then treating congenital diseases is wrong because God made those kids that way and doctors are saying God was wrong
@@cassif19 I know it doesn't make any sense to me either. I'm just saying growing up in the church that's what I was told
@@azsli2 Then I am glad you managed to think things through and arrive to a different conclusion 🤗
@@cassif19 since I left the church I've stopped defending alot of the thinking I was taught was right but view as wrong. I even surprised my brother when I informed with the Bible that God condones pedophilia. When he tried to be mean to gays because of God.
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Hence, I think those who only use faith-based healing are the least hypocritical in that respect. I strongly dislike their points of view and their code of conduct, though I appreciate that they are at least non cherry-picking as much as the majority are.
Love you Brenda! I really enjoy your outlook.
Watching this two years later as a nonbinary person, it's a really great conversation for allies to have, and a very good starting point for people who don't know anything about trans people, but honestly a lot of the talking points here are a little bit outdated and are not inclusive of a lot of trans people. Much respect to both of you, but a lot of the points made here are very basic, respectability-politics-friendly points that still give people an out to hate trans or nonbinary people. The idea of treating trans issues like somebody just born in the wrong body ceases to be useful really quickly and it puts the focus on the hormones, surgery, and body instead of the gender issues themselves. Saying that "hey maybe being trans is just genes messing up" and talking about the brain science is one of those things that's very bio-essentialist and unhelpful and lets a lot of binary trans people get away with being gatekeepers and lets cis people be transphobic toward anyone who doesn't fit into certain ideas of trans-ness. I don't know, it's a fine video, but a lot of the small things rubbed me the wrong way, including saying that young kids don't need to learn about trans identities yet.
Hey auntie, what you got for us today? 🥰🥰🥰
The whole scientific concept with exposure to hormones is really interesting! I hadn't thought about this before
I love your views, they are so refreshing ❤️
When I came out I lost my family and church, I gained peace, a better relationship with God, joy, and I was free to be me.This week there was a band playing on the street, I danced it was great. Jesus said there were two commandments that are important, love God with all our heart,Soul, mind and strength, and love our neighbor as ourselves. Some Christians seem to forget the second commandment. Jesus said if you deny Him before men He will deny you before the father, I would like to say to this man, live your faith and relationship out loud, let your actions and words reflect Jesus.
I love your channel! I’m not personally religious, but I’m so glad that you’re here to educate those of faith to be more tolerant and loving of their fellow man. You are an inspiration! 💗
As an atheist and a trans woman, I think Christians and people from other religions can actually “get it” that we’re not here to hurt others.
I’m very happy to see counterpoints from believers that go against the fear mongering rhetoric of the extreme right in the USA.
I hate religion, but if I could encounter more believers like god is gray, I’d have way less problems with it.
I'm neither...trans or a Christian. But this is beautiful. And shame on the 'christians' who shame others for simply being themselves.
Same
Thank you for this video, but I feel a little alienated now...
I just figured out I may be On the Asexual spectrum... I rarely hear the A on the end of LGBTQ acronym and I’m over 30 and I still don’t have the language and not many Christians are talking about it... could you? Please? 💗🙏🏻
Your the only Christian/ Religious person not to get offended by the word cisgender. 👍🏻
Hey Brenda! I’d love to see you do a video on dealing with doubts or questioning your faith. I grew up in church as a kid, I’m 22 now and I feel like I’ve been trying to cling onto God lately. I don’t feel like I have that same natural, confident belief that I did as a kid, but I’ve been searching for it and craving it so much. It’s such a scary feeling, and sometimes I just break down in tears. If you have ever experienced anything similar or just have any advice, I’d love to hear it. Much love! xo
Also, no one ever addresses the fact that God could have created trans people in the wrong body on purpose for his end plan.
I really appreciate the pitch up of the anti-trans bigots. It does a pretty good job of defusing the usual feelings of anxiety i get from hearing them. (as i'm a trans woman, and i've heard enough of that bs)
Why did I find your channel? Now I'm addicted to watching your videos
Unrelated but Cody is super hot
I've been watching Cody's video for quite awhile. I don't even remember how I found his channel but I've learned so much from him and he as well as other transgender creators and it's helped me to work past the anti-LGBTQ stuff I was fed for a lot of my life. I'd moved away from Christianity many years ago but it was hard to move past all of the messages that were pumped into me from infancy but I feel like youtube has helped me to do that.
God said that in the last days there would be many people coming in his name teaching false things and leading people astray, false prophets if you will. Just be careful and listen to the holy spirit. It may just be me....the things I've been raised to believe. Im just feeling so conflicted, so many people claiming to Be Christian preaching so many different things.
Jesus message was one of love:
- Love your God.
- Love your neighbor.
If we focus on true love - a love that does no harm to a neighbor then we are following Jesus' commands.
Romans 13:8-10 tells us love fulfills the laws.
Galatians 2:15-21 tells us that works through the law will not save us. Rather, through the law we may die to the law and live for God.
Acts 10:28 tells us not to call any man unclean
*Let your every breath be filled with love. Live in Jesus as He lives in you and you are free from the law and it's curse.*
www.sermonwriter.com/biblical-commentary/galatians-215-21/
Thanks for putting this video out.
Here a year later listening as all of this anti trans legislation is being pushed in so many states. I find it heartbreaking, and I hope that the humanity of Cody and all other trans people will be recognized in the face of this evil. Thank you for an enlightening and encouraging conversation ♥️
This is the first trans interview I have ever heard where they don't sound defensive and argumentative. Why I personally don't believe in being born the wrong gender, Cody seems like a very nice individual. When I see Jazz from TLC, it is just so much defensiveness and anger. Cody presents very calmly and seems kind.
I never clicked on a video so fast!
As an nb, it frustrates me when people often reply me "gender isn't your style and interests" after hearing my gender (and not knowing anything else about me). Well, I don't think that either. I just feel alienated by my female body and I believe if I had medical transitioning I'd feel equally alienated with the male sex characteristics. I've never felt like a woman and never felt like a man either, I just feel like I'm somewhere in-between.
💜Thank you for sharing your story Cody. Intersex doesn't indicate your sexuality.
I don’t think there should be such a major distinction between the two. Females and males should in live in a society where they can do, say, love, and be whomever they’d like to be. Unfortunately we don’t. But if that’s what we’re working towards, is transitioning not counterproductive? In the society I’m suggesting- gender has nothing to do with anything other than genitalia. And regardless of what that is you can do whatever you want.
Excellent video, recently found your channel and it has changed my mind on how i view Christianity and Christian people
"You have an open mind you say? Close it please before you destroy yourself" - Dr. John MacArthur
The Bible is clear, Gods Word is true forever, and sin is sin and always will be sin.
I’m so glad I’ve came across this video. I was one of the closed minded people who turned away from this topic. I thought it was just a political push. But this conversation is perfect. Thank you!
I don’t really understand why christians have an issue here... it’s super normal as part of development for people to struggle to get their outside to match their insides, it’s super normal for that to cause psychological distress and for people to need help working through that - transgender just seems like a more complicated somewhat medically involved version of this.
As for bathroom politics - I grew up in a dodgy town and had some friends attacked in bathrooms - they were 100% attacked by predators and not transgender people - but I do think gendered bathrooms mean that it’s easier for people to call out when someone is somewhere they shouldn’t be. I feel like gender neutral bathrooms are a third options not a replacement for gendered bathrooms
True. Part of what I don't understand about transgenderism being so controversial with Christianity is that it is based so heavily on the part of Genesis that says God made male and female, yet Genesis also says, for example, the God made evening and morning. In spite of that, few if any Christians take that to mean that midnight and other times in between the two don't exist.
comparing being trans to cancer does sound bad but i understand what your saying. i have grown to think of it like being neurodivergent (like autism or adhd, ect.) it dosent need a cure and it dosent mean there is anything wrong with you but you might need things like medical treatments to help you. (i don't know if this makes sense i just thought putting it this way sounded nicer)
The way I view it is that while God doesn't make mistakes, he also doesn't make us perfect. We are put on this earth to learn and grow. We aren't born into the people we are meant to be, we have to become such.
Anyone else jealous on how attractive they are in either gender? I'd be open to have coffee with either one, but especially now with him being happy within himself
Hey Brenda, I would really love for you to do an interview with someone intersex and their journey. I often notice that the I gets left off the end of LGBTQI and Ive heard intersex people say how alienating the general misunderstanding around intersex can be so I'd love to hear more about it from your beautiful channel.
commenting so more people see this.
off topic,,, bc this is actually a really good video and i love how ur channel is going to help people from the lgbt community go back to God like,, me but literally imagine someone sitting there thinking im gonna go on hormones, have surgeries, risk rejection by loved ones, changing my name, and risking my safety all for that wonderful pay off of peeing in the womens bathroom
Hi, Brenda. I'm an atheist, and I love your channel. I recommended you to my adult, Christian nieces because I wanted them to see such an awesome, compassionate Christian woman. You do beautiful work, and you build bridges. Thank you.
I am a follower of Jesus Christ and He is ALL that matters
wow your channel is so important. i myself am an LGBTQ pagan and unity between different people is something i am constantly trying to create through education and compassion rather than arguments and hostility. in a world that often feels suffocating for someone like me, you are providing a breath of fresh air. thank you for being so open minded and open hearted and bringing what you learn to others so that they may also open their minds and hearts. it is very important work. definitely got a subscribe from me.
Cool!
By the way, I know this isn't completely relevant to the topic at hand, but out of curiosity. what is modern Paganism generally like? I know it's often about multiple gods, but in Ancient Rome and Ancient Greece, Pagan worship sometimes consisted of things like prostitution, pederasty, and other similar things. However, those things are specific to a certain type of Paganism, I don't feel that those things truly represent Paganism as a whole, which is why I'm interested in hearing from others more about what is is more generally.
I’ve watched his videos. Cody is a STUD.
The people of the Bible technically did not even believe in gender or orientation the way we do. I mean, if we told them about gender roles and orientation as a concept they would be confused. Shoot, it wasn’t just the Hebrews, the romans, Greeks, and other ancient cultures would also think our current concepts would be weird. The people of the Bible did not have the anthropological or scientific knowledge we do. It didn’t really matter weather you liked boys or girls. Shoot, it didn’t matter wether you liked a specific person of the opposite sex. At the end of the day, you were supposed to marry the person at your parents’ request or that helped you/your name survive. The Hebrews considered marriage to serve two purposes. Make children that would become warriors that would protect the tribe (and also your position in that tribe) and exchange of land/property. Not saying no one married for love back then, but that was not the point of emphasis.
that's a good point. a lot of people take the bible out of context and try to apply modern concepts/societal ideas when it really doesn't fit.
I understand the issue and the dramatic situations that most of the lgbtq+ people have to go through, I respect them and support them. However, being a science-affirming Christian who belive in the use of intellect to get to the Truth, I would love to know more about the science behind transgender people, because to me it sounds like something not understandable, maybe because I'm too ignorant. Again, it's not narrowmindidness: as a Christian I know I have to support their cause against violence, but when it comes to firmly beliving in something like changing your biological gender with so little of scientific basis, I'm perplexed. If there's something that your channel taught me, Brenda, is to be inquisitive and dive in the reality of God's creation, so it's natural for me to ask why and how.
Hope I'm gonna learn more, because, despite researching about it, I didn't find much. If you learn more, pls let us know!
So much love, pray for you and Cody!
well, science does not (yet) have a deffinite answer why a person is trans. But it's kind of the same as the "gay gene" that was just not discovered. I love science, but at the same time we just are trans, it's the experience we have whether we want or not and knowing what happened is an exact moment at prenatal stage would probably not change anything.
I have a lot of different links but I will start with this: This is Dr. Robert Sapolsky, an American neuroendocrinologist, professor of biology, neuroscience, and neurosurgery at Stanford University, researcher and author. This is a portion of a lecture he gave to one of his classes on the topic of transgender people and the fact that gender identity is a biological trait of the brain.
ua-cam.com/video/A3C4ZJ7HyuE/v-deo.html
If anyone else had said "let kids be kids. Don't talk to them about this stuff" regarding gender identity, sex, and sexual orientation I'd be concerned, but their explanation makes sense.
I already disagreed with the concept of gender reveals being transphobic. They CAN be USED to for that and they're definitely arbitrary but not innately transphobic in and of themselves. Literally 99.5% of the population is cis. It makes COMPLETE sense to assume gender based on appearance unless told otherwise. But just because you announce you're having a boy doesn't mean you'd reject them if they realized they were a girl down the line. And I think creating an atmosphere where it's safe for them (or others) to do that is crucial!
I also agree you don't need to force a conversation about sex on your kids. They'll come to you with questions on their own when they're ready/curious, especially when they're young. Same with sexual orientation -- as long as this doesn't mean denying the existence of gay people to your kids. I know my moms never explicitly told me about being lesbians, but they also didn't hide their relationship from me. And the rest of the family didn't treat it as weird or bad. Those things were crucial.
As far as Cody's opinion on gender identity, I'd also agree that's something that can be brought up when asked or when it's topical. I do think that means people need to be more comfortable acknowledging the existence of trans people though. Because if you don't, when kids do find out about them they'll likely consider transgenderism bad unless you establish with your own behavior that it isn't. And often children begin to suspect they may be trans at a very young age; they just don't have the language for it. I think creating an atmosphere where trans people are acknowledged and not demonized and talking to them early puberty is the best compromise though.
Thank you for having this conversation and sharing it.
Much love to you as usual! You are what every Christian should aspire to be.