delusion and self fulfilling prophecies // EP 29 - Pretty Lonesome

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  • Опубліковано 28 кві 2024
  • In this episode of Pretty Lonesome, Madeline dives into the power of perspective and its influence on our lives. Sharing her own journey and insights, she explores how shifting mindsets can lead to positive changes. Madeline delves into the idea of self-fulfilling prophecies and their impact on our achievements and self-image. With a nod to self-respect, she reminds us to stay aware of how we treat ourselves daily. Wrapping up, Madeline ponders the idea of moving to Los Angeles, craving a warmer, more laid-back vibe.

КОМЕНТАРІ • 363

  • @ChuckleHead96
    @ChuckleHead96 2 місяці тому +196

    You’re speaking facts. We don’t have an identity, we have habits and traits that we develop over time due to circumstances, and we accept this as our identity. But nothing is set in stone.

    • @philipholding
      @philipholding 2 місяці тому +4

      Yes, but may I add to this. Our social identity is shaped/ conditioned by others, especially in our formative years, by significant others. That is how we create our own reality and see the world as we are, not as it is.

    • @nautica00
      @nautica00 2 місяці тому +1

      Yes! Identify can change by just changing what we do on a daily basis ❤

  • @DuongNguyenDoanVy
    @DuongNguyenDoanVy Місяць тому +388

    Finding the 'money's hidden magic' ebook should be your top priority, even if it's the last thing you do in life

    • @Wildminecraftwolf
      @Wildminecraftwolf 26 днів тому +6

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  • @user-om6sp8nn2i
    @user-om6sp8nn2i 2 місяці тому +162

    Face card going insane 😍😍

  • @aimsfabs6147
    @aimsfabs6147 2 місяці тому +69

    Watching this perspective as a religious person is honestly so interesting. I love to hear other people’s perspectives on things like this ❤️

  • @acharmedone
    @acharmedone 2 місяці тому +91

    Seeing your videos after a long week is like catching up with an old friend I love it

  • @m11010
    @m11010 2 місяці тому +235

    The way I’d follow every single advice you give is crazy😭😭😭

    • @madelineargy
      @madelineargy  2 місяці тому +221

      do not do that !

    • @m11010
      @m11010 2 місяці тому +2

      @@madelineargy😃

    • @m11010
      @m11010 2 місяці тому +2

      @@madelineargy😁💪🏼

    • @ashalmalik19
      @ashalmalik19 2 місяці тому

      @@madelineargyinstructions unclear, I’ve been arrested.

    • @epushzp
      @epushzp 2 місяці тому

      me

  • @aimsfabs6147
    @aimsfabs6147 2 місяці тому +40

    Fluent in Yapanese and I loved every second 😁❤️

  • @LeahKathleen
    @LeahKathleen 2 місяці тому +11

    This was so insightful and validating. I grew up with an older sister who was praised for her intellect and I was always on the slower side. She bullied me into believing I was stupid and I still struggle with that to this day, even though I have a college degree and a great job that I excel at. Still learning how to self fulfill my prophecy but it’s in motion!

  • @alysaboada6933
    @alysaboada6933 2 місяці тому +12

    This video was insanely helpful and eye-opening. My perspective on myself has genuinely changed, you don't understand how much hearing this helped me. Thank you Madeline

  • @user-np8yf8fj2w
    @user-np8yf8fj2w 2 місяці тому +17

    yes! i hate when people complain about how unhappy they are with the way they look/their clothes/hair/being too pale when they have the means to change it, just change it!

  • @owen5515
    @owen5515 2 місяці тому +7

    Madeleine as someone also newly diagnosed with adhd/add and going through college these videos are sooo helpful and validating ❤️

  • @Star-2619
    @Star-2619 2 місяці тому +72

    Honestly, when u went to LA you were so happy and it’s soooo your vibe. So move girl, I’m here for it!

  • @dmarie1928
    @dmarie1928 2 місяці тому +32

    You should check out San Clemente CA. It’s situation perfectly between San Diego and LA and it’s on the beach. Surprisingly, rent there is also cheaper than LA and the neighboring beach towns are fantastic (Carlsbad, Dana Point, Laguna Beach)

    • @miraclebox7798
      @miraclebox7798 2 місяці тому +4

      i was gonna suggest other places in CA for the weather, but i didn’t actually know any places, so im going to just put a like on your suggestion to bump it up 😂😂

  • @caidencehurst9809
    @caidencehurst9809 2 місяці тому +30

    MADELINE im so happy u and brooke r friends now plssss make content together ILYYYY

  • @ELeigh573
    @ELeigh573 2 місяці тому +3

    This has come at the PERFECT time for me I can’t even explain. 🙏🏽

  • @inomalika
    @inomalika 2 місяці тому +8

    I'M SCROLLING THROUGH UA-cam AND IT WAS SO UNEXPECTED AND NICE TO SEE THIS NEW VIDEO. Of course you're shooting, smart girl! you inspire me, because I also want to start a channel
    I LOVEEE YOUUU💘

  • @liscassiaflower
    @liscassiaflower 2 місяці тому +13

    17:20 I also have adhd and everything u said here was so relatable 😭 same thing with me, absolutely hated talking and answering in school as a child and honestly all throughout my life, I think it’s the energy it takes for our brain to focus on the information that we physically can’t talk on top (also prob social anxiety as well) but the hyperactive brain making us feel deeply about topics can cause feelings of unworthiness for kids with adhd :/ good to recognise these things though to understand and improve, for years I had no idea and was constantly worsening myself

  • @denarendall
    @denarendall 2 місяці тому +2

    This resonated so strongly with me. I’ve always been a pessimist by default, but as I get older I understand that there is no value in that. So I’ve been actively trying to be more accepting when things don’t go as I initially expect. It’s the universe giving me a sign or an opportunity, rather than a hurdle or an attack on me. I’ve by no means mastered it, and pessimism is still my knee jerk reaction. But I’m learning to talk myself out of that and look at the other side. It’s not easy, but it’s getting easier every year. How you perceive your circumstances is fully up to you, and that’s so powerful!

    • @ehams9527
      @ehams9527 2 місяці тому +1

      I’m proud of you!

  • @julianaportillo3495
    @julianaportillo3495 2 місяці тому +1

    This is exactly what I needed to hear. Im currently anxious and I know all of this but in moments of extreme anxiety its hard to remember this THANK YOU

  • @arturgrigoryan6555
    @arturgrigoryan6555 2 місяці тому +5

    Madeline literally helped a lot of girls boost up their confidence and whoever is reading this ur very beautiful and everythiinnggg🎀✨

  • @WorldOfArtWorld
    @WorldOfArtWorld Місяць тому +3

    Yeah, basically be mindful of your vibration (perspective) and adjust when necessary to experience the best life (perspective) possible.

    • @keegster7167
      @keegster7167 27 днів тому

      So...vibration doesn't mean anything all alongg?

  • @Emeliaalkerson
    @Emeliaalkerson 2 місяці тому +5

    This was soooo good. I can’t tell you how much I needed this.❤

  • @inomalika
    @inomalika 2 місяці тому +12

    your path is very similar to mine, sometimes I think how crazy the similarities are between us
    it's so cool to be heard, even through a screen

  • @hayleyvantol7673
    @hayleyvantol7673 2 місяці тому +2

    “Believe it and you will see it” + “if you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change” I live by these Wayne Dyer quotes they go both ways too so I kinda feel like if I’m u at least aiming for neutral my experience is already elevated + more stable + a blank slate for anything good on top of that to be that and not just swallowed tying to cancel out the bad.

  • @melis7250
    @melis7250 2 місяці тому +2

    This is the only thing that calms me down during final exams, love you for your videos 🫶🏼

  • @TheAnnabaaanana
    @TheAnnabaaanana 2 місяці тому +2

    You're definitely beautiful Madeline, don't ever doubt that🥰 You're also adorable, sweet smart & funny and very loved ❣

  • @danielasantana9256
    @danielasantana9256 2 місяці тому +1

    omg this came at the PERFECT time, I have therapy tomorrow and I'm going to show her this because it's EXACTLY how I feel !!! I'm just not in the confidence part yet 😭😭

  • @Shmellix
    @Shmellix 2 місяці тому

    This is awesome. I've been deconstructing the internal beliefs and perceptions I have about myself, and other people, and the world for years now. Keep finding even deeper beliefs that cause suffering, and really curiously investigate them, why do I think this why, why do I believe this, who told me this etc... And it's a difficult journey, but it's so worth it. When you deconstruct these limiting beliefs, you get the opportunity to decide who you want to be. Right now I'm working through such a deep painful belief I've lived with my whole life. That I'm not good enough. It's such a fucker of a belief, it really messes with your experience of life in every way. But over this last year I've seen a huge shift in how I treat myself, how I show up in my relationships, and what I believe I'm worthy of. I'm starting to act like I am good enough. But really, the truth is, we are all far more than enough

  • @violetacoutinho
    @violetacoutinho 2 місяці тому +4

    My favorite episode so far!!

  • @faithharding8052
    @faithharding8052 2 місяці тому +1

    LOVING the spiritual toneeeee magical girly

  • @eustaquiozambrano2974
    @eustaquiozambrano2974 2 місяці тому +5

    Thanks for sharing.
    Have an amazing wonderful girl. ❤❤

  • @aurphoria
    @aurphoria 2 місяці тому +5

    Best episode you’ve done so far ❤

  • @Slaytron69
    @Slaytron69 2 місяці тому +21

    learning russian because of villanelle is so real

    • @sahar719
      @sahar719 2 місяці тому

      Is that a movie character? Which movie plz 💕

    • @Slaytron69
      @Slaytron69 Місяць тому +1

      @@sahar719 she’s from a show called killing eve

  • @rezigiuszofficial69
    @rezigiuszofficial69 2 місяці тому +4

    i love you this video is like a gods gift ive been feeling so down lately and completely forgot i can just not feel like that

  • @coffeearithmetic
    @coffeearithmetic Місяць тому

    I relate to this girl so much. I was also extremely shy, strange and basically non-verbal until the age of like 12. And YES I am now overcompensating for the lost years by talking a lot, going out and standing up for myself. And even now I still feel 'odd' even though I am seemingly popular and get along well with people. So reassuring ❤

  • @that_biker_boy5550
    @that_biker_boy5550 2 місяці тому

    Everything about this girl is super charming! What a gem! 💎
    Great work as always, your content is refreshingly beautiful. ✨👌

  • @aashley.aguilar
    @aashley.aguilar 2 місяці тому +4

    thank you so much for this madz i love you

  • @bluejeanzxx
    @bluejeanzxx 2 місяці тому +3

    this is rlly helpful, i literally needed this rn

  • @miley7888
    @miley7888 2 місяці тому +4

    I'll never miss an episode

  • @foyle2698
    @foyle2698 2 місяці тому +1

    Thank you for providing entertainment while I'm revising!!!!!!! listening to you yap is somewhat educational I can't lie

  • @AnnaJohansson-ws5wj
    @AnnaJohansson-ws5wj 2 місяці тому

    The way you said so gross and your laugh was so cute 😂❣️

  • @enzojules4735
    @enzojules4735 2 місяці тому +12

    why am i listening to madeline podcast like i have the same problem as her but im a 18yrs old straight white men 💀

    • @ehams9527
      @ehams9527 2 місяці тому +5

      You can do whatever you want

    • @enzojules4735
      @enzojules4735 2 місяці тому

      @@ehams9527 i hope

    • @Shmellix
      @Shmellix 2 місяці тому +6

      Because it doesn't matter your gender or the colour of your skin, at the end of the day, underneath it all, we are all human. And we have a lot more in common than people like to believe.

    • @daff9961
      @daff9961 Місяць тому +1

      Because you are a lovely 18yrs straight white man 🫶🏽😘

  • @krustytheaustralian1095
    @krustytheaustralian1095 2 місяці тому +3

    thank u so much 4 this i rly needed to hear it today

  • @DianaGarcia-ho7ir
    @DianaGarcia-ho7ir 2 місяці тому +1

    loveddd this episode def my fav

  • @thedinadiaries
    @thedinadiaries 2 місяці тому +1

    I think you should just do whatever makes you happy !! Don’t worry about how other people perceive you, you know you want to move to Los Angeles. You could also move to just another place in Cali if ur scared or the Los Angeles title. Thank u for this podcast ❤

  • @marylynn259
    @marylynn259 Місяць тому

    I also loved Villanelle! Nice video thank youuuu

  • @marylou281
    @marylou281 2 місяці тому +15

    I love that mindset of having to be delusional to reach ur goals or move on in life, its actually what cench explained too at his chickenshop date

  • @cinnamonspider1
    @cinnamonspider1 2 місяці тому +7

    17:00 that part gave me so much motivation i struggle with selective mutism and i hope i can be like that some day

    • @erinlafferty1447
      @erinlafferty1447 2 місяці тому +2

      me too!!! love to see that im not alone with sm

  • @ariapest
    @ariapest 2 місяці тому +10

    MAKE MORE VIDEOS LIKE THIS PLEASEEE

  • @marie_agg
    @marie_agg 2 місяці тому

    Girl ypur skin is GLOWINGGGGGGG

  • @ryanwilkinsx7002
    @ryanwilkinsx7002 2 місяці тому +4

    i needed to hear this rn

  • @alis0nw0nderland11
    @alis0nw0nderland11 Місяць тому

    I loved this episode so much! When you started talking about feeling the need to move and all the things you’re looking for, I immediately thought Florida!! We have such warm weather and it’s much calmer than LA! Also the rent is muchhh much better than LA. Anyways whatever you choose, I hope it all works out for you 💕

  • @yojimbo3681
    @yojimbo3681 15 днів тому

    The one thing people should always do in life is learning how to build value. Doesn't always have to be monetary value, but some form of value for yourself.

  • @alwaysachance217
    @alwaysachance217 2 місяці тому +1

    😮 12:32 love all of this. Can hard relate. Love the vid. Liked

  • @spicyp8864
    @spicyp8864 2 місяці тому

    Haha, thanks for being candid and authentic. This episode will help the people it needs to

  • @nigeriijbol
    @nigeriijbol 2 місяці тому +4

    your skin looks AMAZING

  • @violetablock
    @violetablock Місяць тому

    you are so funny even without trying omg, you gave me such a good time 😂❤

  • @zariabernardd
    @zariabernardd 2 місяці тому +2

    Your best pod yet

  • @vivil2828
    @vivil2828 Місяць тому

    love your authenticity girl!

  • @Slaytron69
    @Slaytron69 2 місяці тому +6

    this is honestly the secret to life

  • @vertanine7870
    @vertanine7870 2 місяці тому +9

    You said you hate the UK but i think it's a just matter of your perspective. Isn't it what your whole video is about? I think you should try to enjoy it, put aside your hatred and explore every corner of London, try every fucking restaurant there, travel around UK etc. We always think that grass is greener on the other side but it's not. We just don't know how (or want) to appreciate things.
    That being said, love your podcasts girl ❤️

    • @baltazargonzalez3454
      @baltazargonzalez3454 Місяць тому

      Um it doesn’t even have to be greener It can literally be the same shade of green but because it’s a new place I guess it’s easier for a person to look at it with a positive different perspective.

  • @SageYourSolace
    @SageYourSolace Місяць тому

    omg girl I am in love with your content
    your so real and inspiring fr
    and WERE SO SIMILAR LIKE OML
    i love it 🔥🔥🫶🏻🫶🏻🙌🏻

  • @bellella_6926
    @bellella_6926 2 місяці тому

    There's no breathing app on the market that could make me as calm as listening to this podcast does. I literally save a new one for when I need to calm down

  • @4real464
    @4real464 2 місяці тому

    Cool stuff, it’s interesting how a mind can influence the rest of the body and things outside it. Have a good week!

  • @Czypu
    @Czypu 2 місяці тому

    This is powerful... the first part...

  • @saaranghaae
    @saaranghaae 2 місяці тому +3

    This was enlightening

  • @yasminwoolrich
    @yasminwoolrich 2 місяці тому +3

    THIS IS THE EARLIEST I'VE EVER BEEN!

  • @irenecorcione5254
    @irenecorcione5254 2 місяці тому +2

    i feel you so much girl !! It's been 4 years that i moved to London, and the weather here is just depressing me. I am thinking of another plce where to go but i feel stuck because of my job.... I think you should try and move to LA, what can go wrong? You have nothing that is keeping you here in terms of house contract or job.. so you are pretty much free to explore. Even if it doesn't turn right, the worst that can happen is that you ome back to London in one year. You will find London exactly as it is now, don't worry, you will not miss out haha Also, I think that is even more intresting in your 20s to live in 4\5 different places. it brings out sides of you that you will never find out by staying in your old same comfort town. I am 26 now and have lived in 4 different places since i moved out of my parents house for uni when i was 18 and i can look back ans see all the different stages of my mind and life prosprective based on the place where i was and the people i met there... i actually mimss that so much :( !!! I think that since i am an "audlt" and i have a real job it is so much more difficult for me to take the decison to just leave. But I want to move, pls if you have any suggestion in how to not feel stuck and be brave to leave your job and start a new life sowhere else I am here to hear.

  • @madelinerose444
    @madelinerose444 2 місяці тому +3

    We are so similar it’s scary lol same name, look alike, and I also had to drop out of high school because of constant panic attacks and the embarrassment of just existing lol

  • @greypiquero9056
    @greypiquero9056 2 місяці тому

    hope you get to keep that kind of flow in you and keep yourself healthy madz

  • @Sofiaandbillie
    @Sofiaandbillie 2 місяці тому +27

    THIS IS THE EARLIEST EVER BEEN WHAT THE HECK

    • @Rugaya-Sureyya
      @Rugaya-Sureyya 2 місяці тому +5

      Same and I'm still in school😂

  • @alex-jp3tp
    @alex-jp3tp 2 місяці тому +3

    the villanelle obsession was so real

  • @TruckHouseLife
    @TruckHouseLife Місяць тому

    Great insights:) cya out there sometime

  • @meghanathota3136
    @meghanathota3136 2 місяці тому +4

    I’m soo early I love it ❤

  • @haleynetwork
    @haleynetwork 2 місяці тому +2

    u help me sm you dont understand i thank you sm I relate sm

  • @user-uw3og8th5i
    @user-uw3og8th5i 2 місяці тому +1

    This episode is everything you are such an intelligent bae

  • @mattwalker3
    @mattwalker3 Місяць тому

    Crazy how our emotions is the charge and energy of what we’ll attract into our lives

  • @kezziahhh
    @kezziahhh 2 місяці тому +5

    this was so good and such a healthy episode, might be my fav from u so far

  • @TheoVonEditsFromTheSouth
    @TheoVonEditsFromTheSouth 2 місяці тому +6

    if you move to LA you will become an LA girl. 100% no doubt

  • @EcomCarl
    @EcomCarl 2 місяці тому

    It's incredible how our perspective can shape our reality and outlook on life. Believing in ourselves and maintaining a positive mindset truly opens doors to blessings we might not have noticed otherwise.

  • @Pourin_it_out
    @Pourin_it_out 2 місяці тому

    I love the way you just talk non stop girl 😭😂 like breathe a little it’s fine 😘😅

  • @caro5620
    @caro5620 2 місяці тому +9

    15 seconds in but the how to be hot and confident video was my first one i saw of yours and it changed my life honestly and i’ve avidly watched everything of yours ever since. so this is full circle for me 🥲💜

  • @VisionCapitalist
    @VisionCapitalist Місяць тому

    Random guy here, Girls do not wast your 20's learn to eat clean become a gourmet drink rarely lean in to who you are. Only connect with similar tribes, learn to filter for great men, skip the F-boys don't obsess about others or social media. Go out in the world, this girl gives gold!

  • @hamzah_amin
    @hamzah_amin 2 місяці тому +2

    how to be hot and confident was uploaded over a year ago not 6 months ago madeline 😭

  • @user-me7cb1qm2s
    @user-me7cb1qm2s Місяць тому

    thnx for this video it's amazing and best way to appear
    in the heart and significant talk .

  • @nicollerodriguezz
    @nicollerodriguezz 2 місяці тому +3

    I’m at work you just saved my life

  • @Aronia222
    @Aronia222 2 місяці тому +4

    you are right mady

  • @user-ze4oc8qo4p
    @user-ze4oc8qo4p 2 місяці тому +3

    Omg she is so pretty😮

  • @ehams9527
    @ehams9527 2 місяці тому

    Madz, ur amazing

  • @liscassiaflower
    @liscassiaflower 2 місяці тому +3

    LMAOO I feel like we all went through the phase of villanelle obsession I love jodie comer

  • @Farhaan_Enigmatic
    @Farhaan_Enigmatic 2 місяці тому +3

  • @AD-pm5px
    @AD-pm5px 20 днів тому

    Thank you for this

  • @hayleyw9904
    @hayleyw9904 2 місяці тому

    I just went to LA too! And I thought I would love it but I didn’t 😭 made me appreciate London lols

  • @afnanekbb
    @afnanekbb 2 місяці тому +7

    Wait love you to you’re ex? What did we miss? Wasn’t she like the one who completely ruined your life for a couple years

    • @imanenaji4843
      @imanenaji4843 2 місяці тому

      She has multiple 😭 I’m sure it’s a different one

  • @lizziedeerest
    @lizziedeerest 2 місяці тому

    omg I love Killing Eve and there's so much to love about Villanelle

  • @maryamali6332
    @maryamali6332 2 місяці тому

    When I say we’re the same person I MEAN IT I swear I’m in university I’m studying English and just started linguistics and I just finished season two of killing eve and ofc I’m obsessed w villanelle not mentioning the shyness and adhd behaviors that I have since I was a kid and so many things I notice while watching ur episodes ,a lot of coincidences and I genuinely don’t know why?

  • @Fajrk.
    @Fajrk. Місяць тому

    you're so pretty ! love the video

  • @QuyLe-nj7of
    @QuyLe-nj7of 2 місяці тому

    I really love your video.... :))

  • @darartumunira93
    @darartumunira93 2 місяці тому +1

    Low key God heard your prayers and knew she wasn’t it and better was coming for you ❤

  • @kezziahhh
    @kezziahhh 2 місяці тому +1

    travel!! obviously only determines on how expensive it would be but if u think ur financially stable for it travelling around Europe and other places like the US would be so fun to watch icl and would help u with your issue about wanting to move and where :)