One of the things about narcissism is that they abuse in cycles. You could be ok with them in one cycle and then the next cycle they lower the boom on you. If you wait on their change you may find it is short lived and cyclical. So basically they’re pretending. Pray for discernment and guidance.
Yes, cyclical! Like they haven’t spouted off for awhile, and they need to charge that demonic battery up, by abusing, yelling, assaulting one’s senses…
Wish I had known about this years ago...we have been married 36 years and are now separated due to (what I discovered) is a long history of out of control p@rn addiction that has culminated in physical affairs. Also, I have learned about the 'Cycle of Abuse' and that my kids and I have been facing verbal, emotional, financial and other forms of abuse. It's really important for people to fully understand these types of people have such a traumatic effect on others.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
@charlesdavid-p1y, I truly empathize with you. My NPD ex-husband nearly broke me. Even after 17 years of marriage and more frequent abuse, I still loved my husband but pursued a divorce to survive. Also, he already moved on to new supply(girlfriend). A therapist that I saw for a year prior to this definitely set me on a path to empowerment. It sounds as if you have been discarded. If your partner has NPD, it could be a blessing, even if you want her back. Did you have a healthy relationship? I think you would benefit greatly seeing a good therapist. I wouldn't expect that the goal would necessarily to be reunited, though. I wish you well.
YEA I AGREE TOTALLY!!!!!!!!!!! THEY GET WORSE WITH TIME AND NEVER LEARN FROM THEIR MISTAKES....BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK THEY MADE A SINGLE MISTAKE EVER!!! RUN FAST!
And when you want to see them the truth about an abusive or cruel situation, they and the flying monkeys say, that they don't want to hear it. The start screaming and shouting like lalalala like a clown, not to hear what you say and then say: get it, I am not interested to listen. If you feel bad, If you suffer I don't care. They are really sick. But when they are more than you, then it's tough. You just can Walk away. And leave them. It's really sad.
My daughter escaped narsassistic abuse. I had no idea what this even was, how to understand it, or explain it. Thank you, Shaneen, for unpacking this biblically. 5:26
Sandra, Wow this is such a great much needed reminder. I am learning so much about the spirits and demons. The videos teaching is so helpful. But when i read the comments like Yours it helps Me so much too. Thank You!! And God Bless You ❤
You lose your self identity. Your very foundation of who you are. The confusion and self doubt is overwhelming and the pain devastates you to your soul. See, most people that get into narcissist relationships are very caring and loving people. A lot of times they have very prestigious positions, are nice looking, have money, are very intelligent….something that the narcissist desires to have or be seen with. You go into the relationship having no clue that you are being set up by a con artist, a psychotic person which in reality despises you. They only want what you have to offer, not you. So they systematically set out to take what they want and dump the human soul that would have gladly given it to them. Leaving you devastated. As the narcissist first floods you with attention and unbelievable love bombing they are secretly disarming your defenses. Then once in they are like termites chewing away your very foundation, all your boundaries, self worth, love, compassion, career, social standing, family, money, whatever it is they were attracted to you to begin with. Secretly destroying every emotion and self respect you had. Then without you even knowing it everything collapses. And like the insects they are they move on to destroy someone else’s foundation. You have been lied to, taken advantage of gaslighted, humiliated and feel lower than you ever have in your life. You have been through so much cognitive dissonance you question everything, mostly yourself. You blame yourself at the same time the narcissist is blaming you. You have no idea who you are or have become. You no longer see the loving, successful person you once were. You are deeply traumatized without even knowing it. It takes time and self discovery to realize that the loving, successful person you once were, is still within you. The good news is that in reality the only thing that changed within you is you now see evil, you have been through hell and survived. Now you are on a mission, to not only be with and around non-toxic people, but to love and take care of yourself. You now know who you are: a wonderful, caring, sweet soul. Your spirit grows and flourishes like never before. Additionally, If you need to uncover the truth about a cheating narcissist, send your request to *MetaspyHub@gmail.com* for discreet and effective assistance.
You are absolutely correct. 36 years of this and I am trying to rediscover myself. I already know he's cheating and who it's with; the information probably won't help that much in court, though.
Hi Shaneen, everyone. I was tormented by my vows, "For better or for worse - till death do us part...". I saw no way out. Insanity indefinitely .... Until God blessed me with her words to me, "Look at me! It's important you understand! I'm leaving you, ass hole, since you don't have the guts!" That was my get-out-of-jail FREE card. But it was far from free. It cost me nearly everything it took me a life time to acquire. The chaos, drama, and turmoil lasted another year and a half - sheer hell! But now the dust is nearly settled, God has provided me all that I need (and then some), and there is peace within these walls. Contentment and peace, through Christ. Happy Tuesday!
You are so right! I was married to him for 24 years before I finally left ... before I understood the spiritual aspect of his abusive behavior. And yes, he got WORSE over the years before I finally left!!! By the way, church didn't help at all. I was told to be a martyr for Christ. 😐
I was married for 24 years too before I decided to get out…and get out I did…I listened to the “God hates divorce” taken all out of context…all I know is God is a great deliverer…He delivered me from it. It will be 2 years in May and I am healing and loving my life….Praise the LORD.
The leadership in MOST churches is ill-equipped to handle the Wolf In Sheep's Clothing! IF !!!! the Bible speaks of this type, which might 'show' a form of godliness... Well, church leaders must be prepared to deal with the real enemy 👹 rather than telling women to submit, pray, and endure!
Psalm 73 deals with the wicked/narcissists. It’s been a lifesaver for me dealing with my EX in-laws. Asaph really struggles here until he enters the temple of G-d for clarity and answers.
Your Church is wrong! God doesn’t expect you to suffer and be abused. As the baby of 5 at 19 I helped my mom leave and divorce my dad. We talked with the minister and he agreed that she should not have to deal with a mentally abusive Narcissistic alcoholic. Of course my dad blamed the church instead of himself.
Hi. I recently discovered i have NPD. I am currently seeking a therapist, but because of the social stigma that's been created about us, it's almost impossible. Imagine how much better this world would be if you just showed a shred of the empathy that you seem to think separates me from you. 😮💨
Exciting video. A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
@RazzaOne its not hard. I did it. I was thinking it's a human making mistakes and forgave til I bled from my eyes sockets. The whole process is so deceptive, also I was probably very nieve and young. Then you get busy with life in general while they continue to hollow you out. A narc and psychopathic will keep you busy just throwing stuff on your pile for years while they live a full life. These are not people, they are the tares the bible speaks about. I changed myself too, thinking I could make him want to be a better person. I lied to myself even. And here we are.
Know the difference between wishful thinking and repeat patterns. People have to want to change and show you who they are through their efforts.. Behaviour speaks for itself and shows you their words are just words.
I don't have enough money from my retirement to leave I would be on the street, literally. My extended family can't help, they are barely getting by. No homeless shelters close, just keep me in your prayers. Thanks
In my experience, I will continue to pray for their healing while I remove myself for my own safety, emotional well-being and healing.. We can still love people from a distance without availing ourselves to their poison and destructive behaviors. ..God also does not want us to sacrifice our lives and souls for another human who choses not to go to HIM for their healing. Remaining in such toxic connections is codependency. I have gained peace, abundance, happiness, self love ,self respect and many blessings in their absence. I live guilt free knowing that is what God wants for me because I am his child and he loves me ....❤
This is what I'm working on now...trying to fully grasp the reality of what I have been dealing with for 36 years and working to rebuild myself, my faith.
Shaneen, your content is such a blessing and I’m so grateful you can apply biblical perspective to shine light on God’s word and narcissistic abuse. I escaped an 18 year marriage thinking he would stop the infidelity and it only got worse. Walking away from my marriage after years of praying was the hardest thing to do. I would be the one constantly initiating counseling from the church and prayers when all it did was got worse as the years passed by. Having to sell my house, split assets and divorce my husband made me feel guilty as if I were breaking up our family because we have a teenage son. It was the hardest thing to do and was extremely painful. But I knew I had to get out of this abusive marriage because the narcissist would continue to exploit my forgiveness. I needed to heal. Been watching your videos since 2019 and you gave me the courage to leave especially because I know that it’s not Gods will for us to stay in abusive marriages especially when there is continuous adultery. My prayers did not get answered for my husband to change as I saw the same fruit but when I asked God if I could leave the marriage after praying and fasting I felt a huge relief and peace to walk away. God knows the deep roots of sin people carry and the narcissist must submit their will to God and ask God to change them. Divorced 2 years now and living in a rental. It’s been quite the road to recovery in allowing the Lord to heal my heart as I study the Bible and pray everyday. I feel so much better and stress is gone. I exercise and go for long walks. Making new friends and healing each day. My son is thriving and graduating highschool this year. The narcissist does not speak to me anymore. He cut me off and only texts our son. It hurt at first because I hoped we could coparent but I know it’s Gods way of protecting me from not getting sucked back in to the cycle of abuse and triangulation with his other supply of women. God bless you dear lady and I’m so happy for this channel that helps us find courage and healing.
I was just like "Sarah." Seventeen years of trying to love & honor my husband--being patient, gentle, and kind (made possible ONLY by the power of the Holy Spirit working through me!) and praying for him to grow into the man of God I *thought* he wanted to be. I didn't know what a narcissist was at the time. All I knew was that instead of getting better, he got worse. One day in a prayer of frustration I finally surrendered him and our marriage over to God COMPLETELY, and God's response was to remove the "hedge of protection" and immediately turn him over to Satan. (I knew there was such a thing as demons from the Bible, but I'd never "met" any until that week!) It was a terrifying experience, but the events that unfolded during that time caused me to flee to safety & remain separated, and I ultimately obtained a (biblically justified) divorce and freedom from further abuse. I have no doubt that it was God orchestrating it all.
Sending love to you, I completely empathise with you. I had the Lord deliver my children and I I from a similar situation from my ex husband -I pray that the Holy Spirit will heal you so you don’t get into a cycle of gaslighting yourself while trying to make sense of the madness and witchcraft of manipulation you were subjected to. but instead I pray you can remind yourself that there is therefore NOW no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus who love Him and are called according to His purpose. I pray this scripture will take root in you, the beauty of this particular scripture is that it is a real time surge of the Holy Spirits power by virtue of the word “NOW” so I pray that your healing process will be progressive and on an upwards trajectory as your thoughts align with that of the Lords towards you who sees you as His prize possession and saw fit to rescue your very life ❤
Yes! Very similar story here. 22 yrs married & I’ll never forget the day the “switch” flipped in him & the Lord told me that he had been handed over. Our teenage son even came to me a few days later crying and said, “that’s not my dad”. He’s been out of our lives for 2 yrs now & from what I’ve gathered, he’s much worse. It’s such an unnecessary tragedy.
The spirit of jezabel manifested in my girlfriend. At the end of relationship. The Holy Spirit said what does darkness and light have in common. And I’ve set you free from the snare of the fouler. Look at delila. She was a narc. And the Pharisees were narcs . And the garden . Satan gas lite eve. Did god say. Take care.
@@mayLibertyprevail1a you hear all these stories of good Christian women being married to narcissistic men…what a travesty! I was married for 24 years and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God delivered me from that emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and financially draining situation….having a child with him is the part that you absolutely hate because there is a connection…I grey rock, but just knowing that they are around is sickening. My story is that I cried out to the LORD and He delivered me from the hands of my enemy…these people are truly possessed with demons…Blessings to anyone dealing with one and not knowing what they are dealing with…♥️🙏🏾
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
Ask God to break the spell she has over you. It is spiritual and she may not even be aware of the hold she has over you. And also ask Him to never let you be taken in again by this kind of false love. It's not real love, it is only strong desire, which the narcissist and Satan uses to have control over you and cause you misery. I wish you success. May God grant you your prayer and bless you with Wisdom and Understanding.
It doesn't end well for the narcissist. They're Satan's flying monkeys. They keep his kingdom thriving here in the satanic matrix ⚔️ They know they're bound to eternal hell and want to trick as many people as they can into joining them there. Misery loves company.
Considering how awful they are to the ones they are supposed to love, my own mother tried to destroy my family and my stepfamily. As much I love my mother, I'd say Jezebel got what was coming to her. She probably made a lot of people's lives hell
@ She was the wife of King Ahab. She lead the People of Israel into all kinds of evil. You can read about her in 1 Kings. Compare her to somebody you know in your life today. It’ll help you understand the spirit that’s around that person.
Well said Shaneen. Bless you! Free will choice. The more we choose evil self idolatry and and wanting to be idolised or like God, the more seared our conscience & hardened our hearts become. And then God gives us over to our delusions depravity. 2Thess:11-12, Romans 1:18-32 At this point unless by Gods grace there's no hope for the narcissist. In many ways it brought freedom to know I wasn't responsible for influencing them to change but for my life and choices to God.
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
Thanks to your useful information, I just looked him up online. amazing Father Obah Eze is really sincere, based on my online research. Once again, thank you ❤
Good information about patterns and what to look for. Paying attention to patterns is a skill that can used in every aspect of your life as well as save your life.
Last Sunday i was called to preach the sermon in church. I spoke on narcissism from a biblical perspective. I would live to share that here but it would take too many words for a forum such as this. I do appreciate the things you say.
A lawyer told me that my narcissist stalker could live into her 80s and her behavior would only get worse. She got dementia and did live past 80 . She refused to learn in this life and she won't learn in the next .
I was married for 9 years to an extreme Narrasist and he made me cry many times. Finally I divorced him. It didn't take him long to find someone and remarry. Shannon will find him out soon enough.
Regarding God it's important to understand that God will not force salvation upon anyone. For the unwilling there's only the end condemnation coming. What we can do is be willing ourselves to be changed.
Your teaching is my favorite on this horrible abuse . Do you already have or could you make one specifically on healing from the Grief from the many years and bad choices made while being deceived and psychologically abused by narcs ? Thank you Shaneen.
The righteous is delivered out of trouble, and the wicked cometh in his stead.- Proverbs 11:8 The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies.- Psalms 58:3
Thank you for sharing the verses. I have always thought and have observed in some children that some people are born wicked and despite all the love and grace they are granted they choose wickedness. The whole of Psalm 58 explains it so well🙏
God doesn’t force us, you have to choose him. The wage of sin is death. The narcissist chooses to be reprobate. They have died spiritually and they want to drag you to hell with them.
@marilynmonheaux They have chosen to be a reprobate because of severe childhood abuse. Seeking love and approval in the parent child relationship resulted in them getting hurt, so obviously, they are not going to choose love. It's rage that they feel, so they lash out frequently.
So true, I've seen this over and over. If you try to speak anything honorable or Godly (truth) to them those spirits rise up immediately and they raise their voice to drown out and crush the words of truth from the atmosphere! They won't tolerate anything Godly, it's so ugly. I was thinking about how it all works, those demons (who have deceived and controlled them) will come for them when they take their last breath, but then it will be too late.
Pray for the narc, then get away, permanently. Understand that there are people who have willfully given themselves to evil. IF the narc were to change, then that's down to the Holy Spirit. Het away from them and live your life
You can definitely wait for God's mercy being extended toward them but being completely away from them and continue with your life and growing in your relationship with Him. Holding hope is for us, forgiveness is for us... But that not necessarily means to be attached to them. Afert 15 years... I am out of it. 3 years divorced, healing and restoring the relationship with my kids. It is worth to give the step out and with love keep praying for that narcissist.
And if you Google whether narcissists get better as they age you will see the answer that they DO improve and even develop EMPATHY! This false information persuades people to stay in toxic and dangerous environments with a false hope of improvement down the line. It is my experience that they take it to the grave and do get worse along the way.
Thank you Shaneen, God has literally used you as a anchor, life line to give me hope. The Church is unaware, blissfully unaware. Advocating reconciliation a forgiveness, forgiveness 💯 %, reconciliation no 😢😢😢😢
I agree about the church. But I wonder since it's so prevalent in our times perhaps it's because this is Not the church of Christ as evidenced by their fruit/patterns. We were warned from ancient times of imposters deceived and wolves in sheep's clothing. It has helped me over the years to believe what God says in the Bible about what righteousness looks like,.. it is!, And what wickedness looks like,.. it is. I no longer struggle with the cognitive dissonance, just sadly accepting the reality. God bless🙏
Forgiveness doesn't mean to reconciliate! It Just means you are stepping back from revange and revangeful thoughts. Forgiveness means you set them free from the ,Karma-wheel, with you. You hand them to God and pray for them to take His love and get healed and let them go.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, I'll vouch for this video, this was pretty good.Thank you for teaching this , explaining it from Gods Word . It is extremely helpful !
Relateable content. Thank you. Shaneen! Kindly, if you dont mind, do a video on Brainwashing - Mind Control - and being mesmerized in the beginning of like how a magnet pulls. Thanks in advance. Im a new subscriber. May God continue to bless you and your podcast. 01.18.25
Trust me, they do watch these videos and to an extent calling me the Narcissists.This has happened to me and I was questioning myself,I still do but everytime I do the more I realise wasn't.Dont get me wrong am not perfect no one is I alway made sure I looked after the people I love.😊
It is. It takes an emotionally mature person to correct their behaviors. Unfortunately, it's something a narcissist can not do as they are eternally 9 years old.
Madam you are pure Treasure. Faithful and sees exactly what I'm going though with a troubled Wife. Been trying to keep my Family together playing the role of Dad and filling where Mom lacks for quite some time now. I have deep appreciation for your help as I try to protect and give my Children daily laughter in the presence of such hidden pain in my heart. I live for them work hard pay all bills groceries and they are happy. Thats what matters to me. Now trying to move to another state maybe a farm and take them to the country side. Dear Lord thank this Sister for her help and guide me on this journey you know so well as you know my heart and thoughts. 😊 In the name of Jesus Amen Forever.
On the flip side, just like the seed of wickedness, the seed of righteousness also grows and develops strong root systems and one day becomes a giant strong tall tree! Roots of faith, truth, integrity, grace mercy love, DISCERNMENT (!that’s a big one!) peace, all the fruits of the spirit are manifested; love, joy, peace etc. Think of all the opposites of all these attributes and I think that’s probably a pretty clear picture of what they become.
When reading the Bible one of most important principles of interpretation is according to "context". Read the verse immediately preceding and immediately following the verse.
Really good! Reading Bible is His Word speaking to us through The Holy Spirit. It 1 convicts ..... 2..... 3.... Pride commeth before the fall. Vanity is like chasing the wind. Thinking your body will never change with age is wrong. So we must work for the Lord in so many ways until He comes.
I love how you use Scripture as a foundation. I've been dealing with this so long that I can't trust my own mind, but I know I can ALWAYS trust God's Word! Thank you!
Thank you so much dear. One of your videos are just so precious and such wisdom. I love Jesus very very much and it is so sad that our loved ones and people choose that. Huuugs and God bless you. Posting and sharing this video and of course, I do all of yours, because they are just such a blessing. From Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WI
I would really like to know how do you handle this when it’s a parent? The honor your parent makes it difficult for me to discern how to manage my dad’s behavior.. and of course he always throws the Word of God around to try to gain control.
In times of repeated sin , praying for these people is a waste of time ( Jeremiah 7:16 ) I really stopped praying for my narcissistic sister and life is so much better for me. I still pray of course , just not for her.
Absolutely Truth. I read the whole chapter for context and indeed there's a pattern of unrepentance which eventually you must stop praying for them, bless n forgive and hand them over to God. And mind your own business. I think Shaneen has a video on that too which I would combine with the breaking off of soul ties. God does also say to come out, separate and cut yourself off from the unclean and be holy like Him. Profound. Thanks for sharing.
What to do you ? If you Are narssistic person and you want to change . You don’t want to hurt others . You been rise by narssistic parent , and you become like one off them .
Great question, your question could mean the Lord is drawing you to Him. Pray and seek God. Find a good ministry that can take you through healing and deliverance. The enemy will try to talk you out of it, by telling your mind things like "it won't work" it's not real" etc... do not listen to that voice. Gods power to deliver and heal us and set us free is very real! I said a prayer for you, God loves you very much, but we must turn to Him with our whole heart. It is usually a process, DO NOT get discouraged. If you mess up, ask the Lord to forgive you, and also anyone you have hurt or offended. God bless you!
@@ashleyb777 Thank you very much for your message it’s true . Give everything to our lord Jesus he will make us whole again . Thank you for your Prayer God bless you 🙏😘
@@aleksandrainkumsah7927and it can help to go to a good therapy as well. A trauma therapy eventually. To heal what did hurt you too. And to learn how to controle your own actions better. So this and praying and turning to God, is helpful. Much love and best healing wishes to you. (We all need to heal something. So you are not alone. ).
Long story but 10 years ago, after she ghosted all her kin, a psychologist said my daughter (now 45) was a narcissist. I was unfamiliar with that term. I would hate to lose her for eternity. I am praying that the Lord would turn her ❤ of stone to a ❤of flesh according to the Bible Ezekiel 36:26 and put His Spirit within her. Mom
Don’t lose hope. I felt the same way, and then I found Father Akabu. He helped me reconcile with my partner. He is powerful and I’m sure he can help you too.
This video came just in time. I’ve been asking about the “how” all day after someone at work was fired for stealing. He has a family to support! He was already on the chopping block for being lazy!
If it wasn't for these types of therapy videos, I'd be totally lost within myself. Narcissists need to look at these therapy videos, but they refuse to face the truth of who they are.
Narcissists deny that they have any problems. Literally, mine said that it was my fault when he abused me. He said it was due to the way I acted. His angry outbursts increased as he lost control of me. I changed my behavior after therapy that empowered me. I wasn't a source of supply for him anymore. He threatened divorce and ordered me to leave because I wasn't going to do everything he told me to do anymore. That was supposed to scare me back into submission, but it didn't work.
@ NPDs quite literally equate feeling in control, perceived dominance over whoever as "love" and anything less as a big problem. Not feeling in control causes fear in them, which initially manifests as anxiety, then anger, bitterness, resentment, and ultimate hate/rage.
As always you did an awesome job in this video. I would like to see videos on parental alienation that has happened over long periods of time and how GOD can heal it. I divorced a toxic narcissist many years ago. And all four of my sons, and over time two of my grand daughters and two of my daughter in laws got pulled out of my life.
I differ in opinion. Money does not make someone this or that. No. Money reveals what they really are and what they have hidden from you. People can do great things with money. Some of them do.
I'm retired at 27, went from Grace to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife and 35k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤
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*They do get worse however Narcissists still **_"turn"_** at different rates. At different settings. And at different speeds.* *I used to raise Tadpoles into Bull Frogs when I was a kid. And even though they all came from the same batch of eggs. And all looked the same. Each 1 made the big change and "morphed" into Bullfrog's and in turn got released down at the local creek bank at their own individual pace and time. In more ways than 1 Narcissists are like those croaking toads.*
Learning about narcissists can save your life. Great content!
Thank you!
@@ShaneenMegjiwhat does God do with them, when they die and come for God in your opinion?
Stay out of reactive abuse as you will look like one. Stay present and protect yourself and stay in your life. They are wicked evil people.
One of the things about narcissism is that they abuse in cycles. You could be ok with them in one cycle and then the next cycle they lower the boom on you. If you wait on their change you may find it is short lived and cyclical. So basically they’re pretending. Pray for discernment and guidance.
Kyla spot on 👊🏻
Yes, cyclical! Like they haven’t spouted off for awhile, and they need to charge that demonic battery up, by abusing, yelling, assaulting one’s senses…
Yes, they pretend to love you to re-boot the abuse cycle.
@@60sGirl123true, so don't fall into the trap.
Wish I had known about this years ago...we have been married 36 years and are now separated due to (what I discovered) is a long history of out of control p@rn addiction that has culminated in physical affairs. Also, I have learned about the 'Cycle of Abuse' and that my kids and I have been facing verbal, emotional, financial and other forms of abuse. It's really important for people to fully understand these types of people have such a traumatic effect on others.
This captivating video triggers a flood of painful memories from the end of my 6-year relationship just three months ago. The woman I loved with all my heart chose to walk away, leaving me grappling with an insurmountable sense of loss. Despite my relentless efforts to salvage what we had, I'm left feeling disillusioned and unable to imagine a future without her. Despite my attempts to move on, I'm drawn to express my deep-seated longing for her here.
The struggle to release someone dear to your heart is undeniably arduous. I empathize, having experienced a similar circumstance when my 8 year relationship concluded. Refusing to accept defeat, I pursued every conceivable avenue to reclaim his affection. Eventually, I sought the assistance of a spiritual counselor, whose wisdom and intervention played a pivotal role in reuniting us.
Incredible! Where did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I get in touch with her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is the name of an exceptional spiritual counselor renowned for her ability to reunite you with your former partner.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online.
@charlesdavid-p1y, I truly empathize with you. My NPD ex-husband nearly broke me. Even after 17 years of marriage and more frequent abuse, I still loved my husband but pursued a divorce to survive. Also, he already moved on to new supply(girlfriend). A therapist that I saw for a year prior to this definitely set me on a path to empowerment. It sounds as if you have been discarded. If your partner has NPD, it could be a blessing, even if you want her back. Did you have a healthy relationship? I think you would benefit greatly seeing a good therapist. I wouldn't expect that the goal would necessarily to be reunited, though. I wish you well.
YEA I AGREE TOTALLY!!!!!!!!!!! THEY GET WORSE WITH TIME AND NEVER LEARN FROM THEIR MISTAKES....BECAUSE THEY DON'T THINK THEY MADE A SINGLE MISTAKE EVER!!! RUN FAST!
@@desertfox1273 because they are eternal children.
And when you want to see them the truth about an abusive or cruel situation, they and the flying monkeys say, that they don't want to hear it. The start screaming and shouting like lalalala like a clown, not to hear what you say and then say: get it, I am not interested to listen. If you feel bad, If you suffer I don't care. They are really sick. But when they are more than you, then it's tough. You just can Walk away. And leave them. It's really sad.
My daughter escaped narsassistic abuse. I had no idea what this even was, how to understand it, or explain it. Thank you, Shaneen, for unpacking this biblically. 5:26
I’m so glad it was helpful! God bless you. 🙏🏽
@@ShaneenMegjiBetter pray to god and in final god come with justice and peace only leave everything on god in final they only come with justice only.
They also take on more demons and their demons get more skilled at studying their targets around them over time.
GBY 🙏
Sandra, Wow this is such a great much needed reminder. I am learning so much about the spirits and demons. The videos teaching is so helpful. But when i read the comments like Yours it helps Me so much too. Thank You!! And God Bless You ❤
It's not demons. It's immense psychological trauma.
Great point! The Bible does say that 7 more demons will take them back over if they really did not change after the first cleansing.
@@melisentiapheiffer3034
It’s both, demons and past trauma in their lives
2Timothy 2:26
Tells us they have been taken captive by Satan to do his Will.
@Sandyo-wy7nk exactly!!
GBY 🙏
You lose your self identity. Your very foundation of who you are. The confusion and self doubt is overwhelming and the pain devastates you to your soul. See, most people that get into narcissist relationships are very caring and loving people. A lot of times they have very prestigious positions, are nice looking, have money, are very intelligent….something that the narcissist desires to have or be seen with. You go into the relationship having no clue that you are being set up by a con artist, a psychotic person which in reality despises you. They only want what you have to offer, not you. So they systematically set out to take what they want and dump the human soul that would have gladly given it to them. Leaving you devastated. As the narcissist first floods you with attention and unbelievable love bombing they are secretly disarming your defenses.
Then once in they are like termites chewing away your very foundation, all your boundaries, self worth, love, compassion, career, social standing, family, money, whatever it is they were attracted to you to begin with. Secretly destroying every emotion and self respect you had. Then without you even knowing it everything collapses. And like the insects they are they move on to destroy someone else’s foundation. You have been lied to, taken advantage of gaslighted, humiliated and feel lower than you ever have in your life. You have been through so much cognitive dissonance you question everything, mostly yourself. You blame yourself at the same time the narcissist is blaming you.
You have no idea who you are or have become. You no longer see the loving, successful person you once were. You are deeply traumatized without even knowing it. It takes time and self discovery to realize that the loving, successful person you once were, is still within you. The good news is that in reality the only thing that changed within you is you now see evil, you have been through hell and survived. Now you are on a mission, to not only be with and around non-toxic people, but to love and take care of yourself. You now know who you are: a wonderful, caring, sweet soul. Your spirit grows and flourishes like never before.
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You are absolutely correct. 36 years of this and I am trying to rediscover myself.
I already know he's cheating and who it's with; the information probably won't help that much in court, though.
Hi Shaneen, everyone. I was tormented by my vows, "For better or for worse - till death do us part...". I saw no way out. Insanity indefinitely ....
Until God blessed me with her words to me, "Look at me! It's important you understand! I'm leaving you, ass hole, since you don't have the guts!"
That was my get-out-of-jail FREE card. But it was far from free. It cost me nearly everything it took me a life time to acquire. The chaos, drama, and turmoil lasted another year and a half - sheer hell!
But now the dust is nearly settled, God has provided me all that I need (and then some), and there is peace within these walls. Contentment and peace, through Christ.
Happy Tuesday!
That long desired peace...❤🙏🏽
Wonder how bad it is to co-parent thereafter...😣
@CarmenMoses-ey1eh yes indeed! Fortunately, that's not a factor. I imagine it would be very difficult to co parent....
It’s hell to co-parent with one. Just hell , I stay in prayer, and in God’s word, in Jesus name!!!!
You are so right! I was married to him for 24 years before I finally left ... before I understood the spiritual aspect of his abusive behavior. And yes, he got WORSE over the years before I finally left!!! By the way, church didn't help at all. I was told to be a martyr for Christ. 😐
I was married for 24 years too before I decided to get out…and get out I did…I listened to the “God hates divorce” taken all out of context…all I know is God is a great deliverer…He delivered me from it. It will be 2 years in May and I am healing and loving my life….Praise the LORD.
The leadership in MOST churches is ill-equipped to handle the Wolf In Sheep's Clothing! IF !!!! the Bible speaks of this type, which might 'show' a form of godliness... Well, church leaders must be prepared to deal with the real enemy 👹 rather than telling women to submit, pray, and endure!
Sandly , some modern day churches are absolutely worthless. My God save those leaders!!
Psalm 73 deals with the wicked/narcissists. It’s been a lifesaver for me dealing with my EX in-laws. Asaph really struggles here until he enters the temple of G-d for clarity and answers.
Your Church is wrong! God doesn’t expect you to suffer and be abused. As the baby of 5 at 19 I helped my mom leave and divorce my dad. We talked with the minister and he agreed that she should not have to deal with a mentally abusive Narcissistic alcoholic. Of course my dad blamed the church instead of himself.
They always get worse in my experience.
Absolutely.
Mine too…
Definitely
That’s a fact! And they almost always end up in jail. They never obey any law let alone God’s law. Smh
Hi. I recently discovered i have NPD. I am currently seeking a therapist, but because of the social stigma that's been created about us, it's almost impossible. Imagine how much better this world would be if you just showed a shred of the empathy that you seem to think separates me from you. 😮💨
Exciting video. A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always Rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other
its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not.
I feel your pain, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me
Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?.
Her name is Shelly renee white , and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive
This is one of the best videos on narcissism on the internet. Every Christian should watch this video. I really hope this video gets more views!
I stayed with the ex 34 years begging God to change him but he only got worse! Thanks to ABBA for allowing me to get free!
What is ABBA?
How could you waste 34 years on a human. Begging God to change him?? You needed to change
@@NarcissistHex-nf9eq it means Father.
@RazzaOne its not hard. I did it. I was thinking it's a human making mistakes and forgave til I bled from my eyes sockets. The whole process is so deceptive, also I was probably very nieve and young. Then you get busy with life in general while they continue to hollow you out. A narc and psychopathic will keep you busy just throwing stuff on your pile for years while they live a full life. These are not people, they are the tares the bible speaks about. I changed myself too, thinking I could make him want to be a better person. I lied to myself even. And here we are.
@@NarcissistHex-nf9eq Abba is Father - my Heavenly Father 🥰
The person has to want to change. God doesn’t override our freewill.
The desire to change comes from God.
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Know the difference between wishful thinking and repeat patterns. People have to want to change and show you who they are through their efforts.. Behaviour speaks for itself and shows you their words are just words.
I don't have enough money from my retirement to leave I would be on the street, literally. My extended family can't help, they are barely getting by. No homeless shelters close, just keep me in your prayers. Thanks
In my experience, I will continue to pray for their healing while I remove myself for my own safety, emotional well-being and healing..
We can still love people from a distance without availing ourselves to their poison and destructive behaviors. ..God also does not want us to sacrifice our lives and souls for another human who choses not to go to HIM for their healing. Remaining in such toxic connections is codependency. I have gained peace, abundance, happiness, self love ,self respect and many blessings in their absence. I live guilt free knowing that is what God wants for me because I am his child and he loves me ....❤
Narcissists create codependency in their victims.
This is what I'm working on now...trying to fully grasp the reality of what I have been dealing with for 36 years and working to rebuild myself, my faith.
That's a very smart strategy, and I could tell you're very empathetic person and I wish you well in the future, God bless you.
Shaneen, your content is such a blessing and I’m so grateful you can apply biblical perspective to shine light on God’s word and narcissistic abuse. I escaped an 18 year marriage thinking he would stop the infidelity and it only got worse. Walking away from my marriage after years of praying was the hardest thing to do. I would be the one constantly initiating counseling from the church and prayers when all it did was got worse as the years passed by.
Having to sell my house, split assets and divorce my husband made me feel guilty as if I were breaking up our family because we have a teenage son. It was the hardest thing to do and was extremely painful. But I knew I had to get out of this abusive marriage because the narcissist would continue to exploit my forgiveness. I needed to heal.
Been watching your videos since 2019 and you gave me the courage to leave especially because I know that it’s not Gods will for us to stay in abusive marriages especially when there is continuous adultery. My prayers did not get answered for my husband to change as I saw the same fruit but when I asked God if I could leave the marriage after praying and fasting I felt a huge relief and peace to walk away. God knows the deep roots of sin people carry and the narcissist must submit their will to God and ask God to change them.
Divorced 2 years now and living in a rental. It’s been quite the road to recovery in allowing the Lord to heal my heart as I study the Bible and pray everyday. I feel so much better and stress is gone. I exercise and go for long walks. Making new friends and healing each day. My son is thriving and graduating highschool this year. The narcissist does not speak to me anymore. He cut me off and only texts our son. It hurt at first because I hoped we could coparent but I know it’s Gods way of protecting me from not getting sucked back in to the cycle of abuse and triangulation with his other supply of women.
God bless you dear lady and I’m so happy for this channel that helps us find courage and healing.
I was just like "Sarah." Seventeen years of trying to love & honor my husband--being patient, gentle, and kind (made possible ONLY by the power of the Holy Spirit working through me!) and praying for him to grow into the man of God I *thought* he wanted to be. I didn't know what a narcissist was at the time. All I knew was that instead of getting better, he got worse. One day in a prayer of frustration I finally surrendered him and our marriage over to God COMPLETELY, and God's response was to remove the "hedge of protection" and immediately turn him over to Satan. (I knew there was such a thing as demons from the Bible, but I'd never "met" any until that week!) It was a terrifying experience, but the events that unfolded during that time caused me to flee to safety & remain separated, and I ultimately obtained a (biblically justified) divorce and freedom from further abuse. I have no doubt that it was God orchestrating it all.
Wow! I had a very similar experience! Truly dealt with demons.
Sending love to you, I completely empathise with you. I had the Lord deliver my children and I I from a similar situation from my ex husband -I pray that the Holy Spirit will heal you so you don’t get into a cycle of gaslighting yourself while trying to make sense of the madness and witchcraft of manipulation you were subjected to. but instead I pray you can remind yourself that there is therefore NOW no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus who love Him and are called according to His purpose. I pray this scripture will take root in you, the beauty of this particular scripture is that it is a real time surge of the Holy Spirits power by virtue of the word “NOW” so I pray that your healing process will be progressive and on an upwards trajectory as your thoughts align with that of the Lords towards you who sees you as His prize possession and saw fit to rescue your very life ❤
Yes! Very similar story here. 22 yrs married & I’ll never forget the day the “switch” flipped in him & the Lord told me that he had been handed over. Our teenage son even came to me a few days later crying and said, “that’s not my dad”. He’s been out of our lives for 2 yrs now & from what I’ve gathered, he’s much worse. It’s such an unnecessary tragedy.
The spirit of jezabel manifested in my girlfriend. At the end of relationship. The Holy Spirit said what does darkness and light have in common. And I’ve set you free from the snare of the fouler. Look at delila. She was a narc. And the Pharisees were narcs . And the garden . Satan gas lite eve. Did god say. Take care.
@@mayLibertyprevail1a you hear all these stories of good Christian women being married to narcissistic men…what a travesty! I was married for 24 years and I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God delivered me from that emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and financially draining situation….having a child with him is the part that you absolutely hate because there is a connection…I grey rock, but just knowing that they are around is sickening. My story is that I cried out to the LORD and He delivered me from the hands of my enemy…these people are truly possessed with demons…Blessings to anyone dealing with one and not knowing what they are dealing with…♥️🙏🏾
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?
The spiritual counselor is Suzanne Ann Walters, she unite partners and families together.
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online.
Ask God to break the spell she has over you. It is spiritual and she may not even be aware of the hold she has over you. And also ask Him to never let you be taken in again by this kind of false love. It's not real love, it is only strong desire, which the narcissist and Satan uses to have control over you and cause you misery. I wish you success. May God grant you your prayer and bless you with Wisdom and Understanding.
....They don't change 😢 ❤️🩹 🙏
THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!! I AGREE WITH YOU ON EVERYTHING!!!! YOU ARE CORRECT IN ALL AREAS!!!!! A MUST WATCH!!!!
I am so glad I found your channel. I subscribed and thank God for you Christian based instruction!!!!
Jezebel was eaten by dogs at the end of her life. Scary stuff.
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It doesn't end well for the narcissist.
They're Satan's flying monkeys.
They keep his kingdom thriving here in the satanic matrix ⚔️
They know they're bound to eternal hell and want to trick as many people as they can into joining them there.
Misery loves company.
Considering how awful they are to the ones they are supposed to love, my own mother tried to destroy my family and my stepfamily. As much I love my mother, I'd say Jezebel got what was coming to her. She probably made a lot of people's lives hell
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She was the wife of King Ahab.
She lead the People of Israel into all kinds of evil. You can read about her in 1 Kings. Compare her to somebody you know in your life today. It’ll help you understand the spirit that’s around that person.
The dogs probably vomited afterwards.😂😂😂
Well said Shaneen. Bless you!
Free will choice. The more we choose evil self idolatry and and wanting to be idolised or like God, the more seared our conscience & hardened our hearts become. And then God gives us over to our delusions depravity. 2Thess:11-12, Romans 1:18-32 At this point unless by Gods grace there's no hope for the narcissist. In many ways it brought freedom to know I wasn't responsible for influencing them to change but for my life and choices to God.
Waiting for a change might never come
Amazing video A month ago, my partnership of five years came to an end. The choice to break up with the person I love is something that really gets to me. Even though it's all for nothing, I've done everything I can to get him back, and I couldn't imagine my existence without him. I've tried everything to stop thinking about him, but I still can't help but miss him and think about him often. I don't know why I am saying this here.
Saying goodbye to someone you love is difficult; I know this from my 12-year relationship ending. But I was unable to simply let him go, so I made every effort to get him back. I eventually sought aid from a spiritual counselor, who was able to help me regain his affection.
It's interesting! How can I contact a spiritual counselor most efficiently, and how did you find one?
Father Obah Eze is a wonderful spiritual counselor who has the ability to bring back your ex.
He can assist you; he is Father Obah Eze, and he possesses immense powers.
Thanks to your useful information, I just looked him up online. amazing
Father Obah Eze is really sincere, based on my online research. Once again, thank you ❤
Good information about patterns and what to look for. Paying attention to patterns is a skill that can used in every aspect of your life as well as save your life.
They get worse and worse with age.
Last Sunday i was called to preach the sermon in church. I spoke on narcissism from a biblical perspective. I would live to share that here but it would take too many words for a forum such as this.
I do appreciate the things you say.
A lawyer told me that my narcissist stalker could live into her 80s and her behavior would only get worse. She got dementia and did live past 80 . She refused to learn in this life and she won't learn in the next .
I was married for 9 years to an extreme Narrasist and he made me cry many times. Finally I divorced him. It didn't take him long to find someone and remarry. Shannon will find him out soon enough.
Yes, they find new supply very quickly. They can not tolerate being alone...ever.
Regarding God it's important to understand that God will not force salvation upon anyone.
For the unwilling there's only the end condemnation coming. What we can do is be willing ourselves to be changed.
It is well with my soul😇
Praise God 😊
Your teaching is my favorite on this horrible abuse .
Do you already have or could you make one specifically on healing from the Grief from the many years and bad choices made while being deceived and psychologically abused by narcs ? Thank you Shaneen.
The righteous is delivered out of trouble, and the wicked cometh in his stead.- Proverbs 11:8
The wicked are estranged from the womb: they go astray as soon as they be born, speaking lies.- Psalms 58:3
Thank you for these verses.
Thank you for sharing the verses. I have always thought and have observed in some children that some people are born wicked and despite all the love and grace they are granted they choose wickedness. The whole of Psalm 58 explains it so well🙏
God doesn’t force us, you have to choose him. The wage of sin is death. The narcissist chooses to be reprobate. They have died spiritually and they want to drag you to hell with them.
Sin is the wrong word. The correct translated word is GUILT.
@marilynmonheaux They have chosen to be a reprobate because of severe childhood abuse. Seeking love and approval in the parent child relationship resulted in them getting hurt, so obviously, they are not going to choose love. It's rage that they feel, so they lash out frequently.
@ Romans 6:23 Paul told the Romans, the Ephesians, the Corinthians that they can’t have eternal life in a life of sin.
I finally called out a few narcissists that we're making my life hell for decades, and for some reason, they don't want the smoke. 🤷♂️ 😢
It’s powerful to view things spiritually.
Some ppl mock others when they do that, but it’s total clarity.
Enjoyed your take…
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As an empath you raise your vibration and that triggerd a narcisist
True. They don't like it.
Excellent insights well articulated! Keep up the great work. 👏👏👏
So true, I've seen this over and over. If you try to speak anything honorable or Godly (truth) to them those spirits rise up immediately and they raise their voice to drown out and crush the words of truth from the atmosphere! They won't tolerate anything Godly, it's so ugly.
I was thinking about how it all works, those demons (who have deceived and controlled them) will come for them when they take their last breath, but then it will be too late.
0:50 "only to be crushed when things went back to abnormal."
Fixed that for you. :)
Pray for the narc, then get away, permanently. Understand that there are people who have willfully given themselves to evil. IF the narc were to change, then that's down to the Holy Spirit.
Het away from them and live your life
You can definitely wait for God's mercy being extended toward them but being completely away from them and continue with your life and growing in your relationship with Him. Holding hope is for us, forgiveness is for us... But that not necessarily means to be attached to them. Afert 15 years... I am out of it. 3 years divorced, healing and restoring the relationship with my kids. It is worth to give the step out and with love keep praying for that narcissist.
Beautifully said
I have spent 32 years, and I am now going to divorce the attorney tomorrow.
Omg
And if you Google whether narcissists get better as they age you will see the answer that they DO improve and even develop EMPATHY! This false information persuades people to stay in toxic and dangerous environments with a false hope of improvement down the line. It is my experience that they take it to the grave and do get worse along the way.
Amazing video, so perfectly explained, these truths are so important, thank you ❤
Thank you Shaneen, God has literally used you as a anchor, life line to give me hope. The Church is unaware, blissfully unaware. Advocating reconciliation a forgiveness, forgiveness 💯 %, reconciliation no 😢😢😢😢
@jenicarter4190 100% Agree with you. The church is totally unaware!!!
I agree about the church. But I wonder since it's so prevalent in our times perhaps it's because this is Not the church of Christ as evidenced by their fruit/patterns. We were warned from ancient times of imposters deceived and wolves in sheep's clothing. It has helped me over the years to believe what God says in the Bible about what righteousness looks like,.. it is!, And what wickedness looks like,.. it is. I no longer struggle with the cognitive dissonance, just sadly accepting the reality. God bless🙏
Forgiveness doesn't mean to reconciliate!
It Just means you are stepping back from revange and revangeful thoughts.
Forgiveness means you set them free from the ,Karma-wheel, with you. You hand them to God and pray for them to take His love and get healed and let them go.
As a self-aware diagnosed narcissist, I'll vouch for this video, this was pretty good.Thank you for teaching this , explaining it from Gods Word . It is extremely helpful !
A narc would never admit it. Nor would they go to a therapist or if they do, truly open up.
@@lovelocked5385 It is probably rare but not entirely impossible, as I have done all those things, in fact I'm still in therapy.
The table always turns when Jesus said enough was already enough when enough is.
Good paralell about the rich man and the eye of the needle
Relateable content. Thank you. Shaneen! Kindly, if you dont mind, do a video on Brainwashing - Mind Control - and being mesmerized in the beginning of like how a magnet pulls. Thanks in advance. Im a new subscriber. May God continue to bless you and your podcast. 01.18.25
Trust me, they do watch these videos and to an extent calling me the Narcissists.This has happened to me and I was questioning myself,I still do but everytime I do the more I realise wasn't.Dont get me wrong am not perfect no one is I alway made sure I looked after the people I love.😊
Pray for a Narcissist, but never fall under their spell
Amen, yes we need all the prayers we can get.
This world is so sad
It is. It takes an emotionally mature person to correct their behaviors. Unfortunately, it's something a narcissist can not do as they are eternally 9 years old.
Thank you for making this video. I would like to see content about Christian covert narcissists. Have a very blessed day 🙏🏼🤍🦾
Madam you are pure Treasure.
Faithful and sees exactly what I'm going though with a troubled Wife.
Been trying to keep my Family together playing the role of Dad and filling where Mom lacks for quite some time now.
I have deep appreciation for your help as I try to protect and give my Children daily laughter in the presence of such hidden pain in my heart.
I live for them work hard pay all bills groceries and they are happy.
Thats what matters to me.
Now trying to move to another state maybe a farm and take them to the country side.
Dear Lord thank this Sister for her help and guide me on this journey you know so well as you know my heart and thoughts. 😊
In the name of Jesus Amen Forever.
As the twig is bent , so grows the tree.
This information was SO helpful! Thank you!
On the flip side, just like the seed of wickedness, the seed of righteousness also grows and develops strong root systems and one day becomes a giant strong tall tree! Roots of faith, truth, integrity, grace mercy love, DISCERNMENT (!that’s a big one!) peace, all the fruits of the spirit are manifested; love, joy, peace etc. Think of all the opposites of all these attributes and I think that’s probably a pretty clear picture of what they become.
Love and hatred has something in commun, that as much I give, as much it grows
They gather more demons as they get older.
And their demons don't bother them but they do bother the empath
A seared conscience resists correction of the Holy Spirit and anyone else.
To get worse, even gravity helps... but a true Christian keeps going upward, against many forces, its a God's work .
Thank you so much 🙏
When reading the Bible one of most important principles of interpretation is according to "context". Read the verse immediately preceding and immediately following the verse.
God's Word convicts Neh. 8:9, corrects Ps. 17:4, cleanses Ps. 119:9, confirms John 8:31, Equips Prov. 22:21
So good sister!❤️
I also spent two years praying that they would change, I'm out of the marriage now 3months free just waiting for the divorce to be finalized
Waiting? Don't wait, move forward with your life. Grow spiritually etc. Narcissists love to keep people waiting.
Really good! Reading Bible is His Word speaking to us through The Holy Spirit. It 1 convicts ..... 2..... 3.... Pride commeth before the fall. Vanity is like chasing the wind. Thinking your body will never change with age is wrong. So we must work for the Lord in so many ways until He comes.
I love how you use Scripture as a foundation. I've been dealing with this so long that I can't trust my own mind, but I know I can ALWAYS trust God's Word! Thank you!
Thank you so much dear. One of your videos are just so precious and such wisdom. I love Jesus very very much and it is so sad that our loved ones and people choose that.
Huuugs and God bless you. Posting and sharing this video and of course, I do all of yours, because they are just such a blessing.
From Cynthia Ann in JANESVILLE, WI
I would really like to know how do you handle this when it’s a parent? The honor your parent makes it difficult for me to discern how to manage my dad’s behavior.. and of course he always throws the Word of God around to try to gain control.
In times of repeated sin , praying for these people is a waste of time ( Jeremiah 7:16 ) I really stopped praying for my narcissistic sister and life is so much better for me. I still pray of course , just not for her.
Absolutely Truth. I read the whole chapter for context and indeed there's a pattern of unrepentance which eventually you must stop praying for them, bless n forgive and hand them over to God. And mind your own business. I think Shaneen has a video on that too which I would combine with the breaking off of soul ties. God does also say to come out, separate and cut yourself off from the unclean and be holy like Him. Profound. Thanks for sharing.
What to do you ? If you Are narssistic person and you want to change . You don’t want to hurt others . You been rise by narssistic parent , and you become like one off them .
Great question, your question could mean the Lord is drawing you to Him. Pray and seek God. Find a good ministry that can take you through healing and deliverance. The enemy will try to talk you out of it, by telling your mind things like "it won't work" it's not real" etc... do not listen to that voice. Gods power to deliver and heal us and set us free is very real! I said a prayer for you, God loves you very much, but we must turn to Him with our whole heart. It is usually a process, DO NOT get discouraged. If you mess up, ask the Lord to forgive you, and also anyone you have hurt or offended. God bless you!
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Thank you very much for your message it’s true . Give everything to our lord Jesus he will make us whole again . Thank you for your Prayer God bless you 🙏😘
@@aleksandrainkumsah7927and it can help to go to a good therapy as well. A trauma therapy eventually. To heal what did hurt you too.
And to learn how to controle your own actions better.
So this and praying and turning to God, is helpful.
Much love and best healing wishes to you.
(We all need to heal something. So you are not alone. ).
Thank you for the download Prayers.❤
Excellent...you've met my wife, and what you've said is exactly what i see and believe - it's nice to have confirmation.
You gave me some hope, for my hope is gone. I can't fix my Son. He is all of these things and more..
Long story but 10 years ago, after she ghosted all her kin, a psychologist said my daughter (now 45) was a narcissist. I was unfamiliar with that term. I would hate to lose her for eternity. I am praying that the Lord would turn her ❤ of stone to a ❤of flesh according to the Bible Ezekiel 36:26 and put His Spirit within her. Mom
This speak facts but I can’t let go of my ex, It’s been a few weeks since the breakup, what if he is my soulmate and I just lost him
when my partner left me. I couldn’t eat or sleep I just kept hoping he would come back.
That’s exactly how I feel. I don’t know how to move on. I still want him back, but it feels impossible.
Don’t lose hope. I felt the same way, and then I found Father Akabu. He helped me reconcile with my partner. He is powerful and I’m sure he can help you too.
Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked him up now online. impressive
I've been reading 1 Samuel recently,Saul and David? I thought,this guy is crazy (Saul) then the penny dropped, great message today ❤
Thank you Shaneen. You are a Blessing!
This video came just in time. I’ve been asking about the “how” all day after someone at work was fired for stealing. He has a family to support! He was already on the chopping block for being lazy!
If it wasn't for these types of therapy videos, I'd be totally lost within myself. Narcissists need to look at these therapy videos, but they refuse to face the truth of who they are.
Very last person on earth that would look into any form of "self help" would be a true NPD case.
Narcissists deny that they have any problems. Literally, mine said that it was my fault when he abused me. He said it was due to the way I acted. His angry outbursts increased as he lost control of me. I changed my behavior after therapy that empowered me. I wasn't a source of supply for him anymore. He threatened divorce and ordered me to leave because I wasn't going to do everything he told me to do anymore. That was supposed to scare me back into submission, but it didn't work.
@@dontworrybehappy150great for you 🌞🙏🏼!
@ NPDs quite literally equate feeling in control, perceived dominance over whoever as "love" and anything less as a big problem.
Not feeling in control causes fear in them, which initially manifests as anxiety, then anger, bitterness, resentment, and ultimate hate/rage.
@ "Team healthy" doesn't even remotely think about trying to control another grown ass adult, nor does the idea even cross our mind.
As always you did an awesome job in this video. I would like to see videos on parental alienation that has happened over long periods of time and how GOD can heal it. I divorced a toxic narcissist many years ago. And all four of my sons, and over time two of my grand daughters and two of my daughter in laws got pulled out of my life.
Go Shaneen!
Awesome video. Thank you for the free download.
It's true!can''t pull out the devil from hell...Very wise,very usefull video!Thx!God bless you!Amin! 🙏💗
Thank you! Praise God for people like you!🙏❤️
He started to malfunction when the crisis it ... When the boat rocked, I stayed the Course" 😊
Thank you for sharing ❤❤❤
More on detachment and not letting body go to fight flight
To take thought captive at onset which is our biggest problem
This is so good
Thank you so much! I feel like I know you personally. You help me so so much. Bless youuuu
A MUST WATCH AND TAKE NOTES!!!!
Spot on. Thanks.
I differ in opinion. Money does not make someone this or that. No. Money reveals what they really are and what they have hidden from you. People can do great things with money. Some of them do.
Bless them. Bless them again and give it to God.
Excellent video. Thank you. ❤
I'm retired at 27, went from Grace to Grace. This video here reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife and 35k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤
I'm feeling really motivated.
Could you share some details about the bi-weekly topic you brought up?
I raised 75k and Claudia Ann Brandon is to be thanked. I got my self my dream car 🚗 just last weekend, My journey with her started after my best friend came back from New York and saw me suffering in dept then told me about her and how to change my life through her. Claudia A Brandon is the kind of person one needs in his or her life! I got a home, a good wife, and a beautiful daughter. Note!:: this is not a promotion but me trying to make a point that no matter what happens, always have faith and keep living!!
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*They do get worse however Narcissists still **_"turn"_** at different rates. At different settings. And at different speeds.*
*I used to raise Tadpoles into Bull Frogs when I was a kid. And even though they all came from the same batch of eggs. And all looked the same. Each 1 made the big change and "morphed" into Bullfrog's and in turn got released down at the local creek bank at their own individual pace and time. In more ways than 1 Narcissists are like those croaking toads.*