When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I have noticed this awkward loop as well, it doesn't seem to go away until you just stop loving people in the "conventional" sense. Not sure how, or why this comes to be, maybe people tend to chase "love", so if your chasing it from someone that isn't right, other people are as well.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Just allow grace to let it in.
@@ai172 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
It’s a privilege to be in a position to give. That means you’re blessed with abundance. Even if you can freely offer a soothing word or a heartfelt smile. The blessing goes both ways.
I have truly understood, just recently at the age of 42, to not expect someone to be the same way I am. They are their own person who responds and behaves differently from myself. This is an amazing revelation if you can accept it. You have to meet people where they are or move on. Much love to all ❤
Seemran Horo, When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I understand this happens most of the time but you have to recognise if that is genuine love. In relationships love is never one sided it's mutual understanding love and respect for each other. so if a person loves you and you don't have feelings for them it's okay there is no future compatibility between the two to be in a relationship the person must let go of that love if he denies to let go then that's not true love in this case you don't have to worry about loving that person back. And one that we feel in love but they don't have the same feelings for us is most common thing happens while finding our perfect partner but you don't have to worry in this case if the person you fell in love is compatible with you then there is High chances of him falling in love with you in the future or if not then you have to let go of that person.
What if it’s your son? My son keeps taking but not give back. My husband said it’s his choice and the consequences he has to live with, but the choices he makes also hurts him and us. We have to stop enabling him.
Have been through 30 years of deceit n felt lost, angry and felt like a victim...but one day everything reversed n miraculously God blessed me with the wisdom to accept it, heal...n now iam the happiest person on the planet
It's such an awesome thing to hear in the morning. So glad that you are free from your long-standing troubles. Glory to God. More peace and blessings to you.
Unfortunately no, no one has ever pursued me EVER, not even my own. I’ve only received hurt, pain and isolation - but that hasnt stopped me from my goodwill, gratitude and love for others. But would be great to feel loved for just once in life
Sorry to hear of your experience in life. I wish and pray that you receive the love, and every associated thing, that your heart desires, during this lifetime itself. Stay blessed.
It's not about giving love to recieve love. It's about connecting with others on a deep level. When I am kind, loving and caring to others and sweet and it doesn't open the doors for deep connection between us....I find that to be hard to deal with. A part of me has given up. Seems as if everyone is busy or all talk or just plain negative.
I'm in the same position. I give so much to friends and family, I feel as if I'm not receiving much back. I can do things for people many times over whether it's potential lovers or people I care about. But when I need something, I feel like I'm on my own. It can make me believe that I don't deserve an authentic type of love and affection. I've recently wondered if im too smart for my own good or am I unlucky when it comes to love. A lot of questions and no many answers.
This is exactly how I feel. I’m filling the cups of my family but my cup is empty in return. I give but get nothing in return and I’m not one to ask for things even if it’s just of their time to connect. I need to learn how to fill my own cup first.
@@jennifer6814 that's something I had to learn along the way. Sometimes people want more than you can give and it can be hard to know where to draw the line but once I noticed how my family gets into meaningless fights, the line was easier for.me to see. We will always have obligations to the people we care about, but we also have obligations to ourselves. Now, everyone in my family including me wants different things. I want to go.out in the country and discover the kind of person I want to be.
@@spencermulligan94 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
Hey YOU, incredible person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I understand where you’re coming from! I used to feel the same way tons in the past. Let me ask you! What is the type of person you want in your life that you grow and build with?
@@NathalieLazo I know what I want any I also try to be the same kind of person. Loyalty, kindness, Intelligence, good sense of humor, and physical/emotional chemistry with the person is what I want.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
No one ever chase me. Or ever is present all the time. Theres no one who calls all the time or even ask me to go out. Am the one who always show care and concern for others
@@trinijoyl1720 I understand 100% i was always been the person who thinks what can i do to make someone happy, or plans a friend’s birthday, or comfort someone in need. Although i did get some stuff in return, but recently i feel like i cannot give anymore, because people and strangers around me seem to be mean and unworthy of my love and kindness. I feel like i lost my faith in humanity. I have given and now i mourn what i gave cause i got betrayed. My family made this feeling even worse due to their behavior
I think in the paradox between giving to others and giving to oneself, or giving to others and expecting others to give, the balancing factor can be "In everything you do, do as if done to God, and not to people. And He, the Faithful One, will repay a hundred fold." Setting up such an attitude is the sure way to life - a life full of peace, joy and gratitude.
Yes but god doesn’t want us to keep giving to people that hurt us. He wants us to have discernment when to walk away and love from afar. He said to not have fellowship with people like that.
@@daughteroftheking6402 When to stay and when to walk away, as an act of love, is a difficult thing to discern. No two persons can get into the same shoe at the same time and experience the same thing. Each of us may have an understanding of how love works, or ought to work, in any given situation, but it is the Mind of God, the Holy Spirit, who helps and guides us to improve upon our ability to love, as God in Jesus, loved. Having loved His own He loved them till the end... That's the love of God in action in Jesus Christ.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Hey Soumya I feel you, your devastation and heartache. Protect yourself and keep your heart safe. Try to do activities involving creative things or some kind of art. I love someone so much that I am hating myself for putting myself through some ugly situations for him and still unable to come out of him. I love him but I am torn apart by him. It sucks very bad. Why would someone stir all the right feelings knowingly and even tell I love you back to me many number of times and when they find another woman tell me back that they just saw me and loved me as just a good friend. Why to mess with head and inflict such trauma and pain and cause emotional damage when they can simply break up and even after all these he tells me he loves me but not like the love they had for his ex and now with new woman. What does even love mean to such kind of people??? He feels guilty for hurting me and putting me through his shit. Why can't he ease my pain atleast by telling me to leave or say it's over and there's no more love??? Why still playing with my heart??? I go to temples just to pray for him and do archana on his name on his birthdays. He misused and indirectly abused my genuine love, madness for him, my kindness and care. He made every little thing complex. He made even expecting bare minimum things like loyalty, protecting sensitive sentiments and my everything very complex and alien things. It hurts being a friend as well as a lover and everything. It's a game for such people. They think only they have heartbreaks, pain, journeys, love, he is very unfair, blind and deaf towards me. I tolerated and accepted many unconventional things with love for him. He totally destroyed me. He knows that too and still humiliated me when I was still trying to process the recent betrayal he did to me, he humiliated the simplest form of me I was presenting keeping aside my dignity, self respect and ego. He fell from my grace then, he had lost my respect. When he cannot even take care of that raw form of mine, when he cannot treat me with respect and I was sobbing and sobbing and could not even be able to speak properly, my fighting for US and me he saw it like annoyance and harrasment. He looked very cheap and arrogant there. His heart looked very ugly there. I accepted every flaw, darkness and light in him, I was there with him at his lowest and darkest phases of his life but he could bot even listen to me and tolerate my weakest and lowest point of mine even for few days and humiliated me and called me negative and derogatory names, I was super shocked hearing all the shitty things he kept on yelling at me while I was sobbing and he was breaking my spirit and heart piece by piece like a butcher. He killed my soul then. I still forgave him and he arrogantly said he doesn't need my forgiveness, how cruel he must be!!! The cause of all chaos and damages was himself alone, he did very wrong to me and I was still trying to accept parts of it and trying to make myself stand by myself but he kept on breaking my heart and legs even to stand for myself. I always used to tell him that muthu I would still be loving you even when you hate yourself and would be standing for yourself even when you could not stand for yourself. He injured that person in me. I used to pray God to take me before he takes him or on the day he takes him. My love was like devotion and commitment for life. I expected atleast treating me with grace and respect but he made things very ugly that I cannot even stand for myself and by myself now. I kept telling him he could have broken up with me when he realised he is in love with another woman. But he says he loves me but he loves her more. He is playing football with my heart. He complicated every simple thing of my life. I made him the rest of my life and now I'm so lost in the darkness gifted by him to me. I'm scarred for life. He is merciless, unkind and brutal at heart. Never trust a man or a woman who has multiple hearts for multiple women or men. Not good for any, it mentally deranged me. I'm very disoriented now. I still love him but I don't want him. He is harmful to my mind. I would become a tragedy by still accepting his request to stay as friend to him after all these. He still accuses me that because of my wrong expectations he is losing me who had been a strong support and comfort. Can't he see I'm also just another human being who is sensitive and who is loving him and still taking all the shit??? He could have let me be just only a friend when I asked him myself. He assured he loves me and made me feel so many and we shared so much of ourselves to each other and still he doesn't have the ability that he is causing great pain to me even after I am telling him. Why why why??? He could sense others' hurt and others'well being but why he fails to understand mind even after explaining. He wants me to be his everything but he cannot even protect my bare minimum sentiments and concerns, no minimum emotional security, always leaving me in anxiety about him and my relationship with him. I hate myself for still loving him and still trying to understand him. He doesn't want to listen to what he is doing to me because it makes him feel more guilty. He is coward in my case. Muthu I love you and I hate you too but I hate myself more, I hate for being everything to you, I hate for not keeping boundaries between us, I just hate hoe you talked ugly to me, the one you promised to that you won't make her cry because making me cry would make you principally weak. You broke everything you said, you lied to me, you betrayed me, you broke my spirit which all you said you would never do to me. You said I was your treasure and now you don't even treat me respectfully. Kya hua re tere ko. You are mistreating me. You destroyed us. You ruined all of us. All of the beautiful things. You destroyed the trust, comfort, joy and confidence. Can't you even face guilty for me by atleast listening to my pain inflicted by you, don't you have atleast that heart, don't you ever apologise me in yourself when you are alone because I know that you would do that and that's why I said I forgive you for everything but still you are very rude and arrogant that you said you don't need my forgiveness. You are very utterly selfish and mean. You had never shown these even to your male best friends who had betrayed you. You know how much I love you and treasure you. Is this how you would lose me by devaluing me. Everyday every night every minute every second my mind, my thoughts revolved around you, how could you even talk to me like that. It takes my lifetime to even heal from the wounds you caused to me. I won't accept you now. You know how bad you have been towards me after she entered your life and after I started talking about ourselves. It's very cheap and bad of you for avoiding me and my talks and questions and fears and insecurities. You could have saved me from all of these by just simply breaking up with me. Everything else feels kinder to me re, even you telling me that you don't love me anymore or breaking up and ending our relationship than elongating it and talking ugly, demeaning and humiliating things to me, bullying me how I was crying and talking, imitating and making fun of me at my weakest and most vulnerable point. That was very evil of you. I never deserved to be spoken to like that. Never. Don't talk destroying things ever to the persons who love you and still with you. Don't play with your blessings and good things in your life. It was never needed for you to talk such ugly things. Mera dil ro raha hain. I'm bleeding inside because of the wounds caused by you.
@@voidmain9519 I feel you too. What can i say? Stay strong. You are Good. You are gold. Don't lower your value for others. Love will come to you. True love will find you. But before that you need to love yourself. You are brave enough to speak your heart out. I really respect that. God bless you.
@@soumyabanerjee4205 Thank you Soumya. It made me smile when you said, "You are gold". Because even he used to say that I am gold and my heart is gold and that I am a pure soul. Yes I was and I am still too. Thank you for reminding this beautiful thing about me which I had forgotten. Truly. I would pick myself up and equip myself emotionally. But he lost me very bad. He knows that. He doesn't have the face to face me and my agony. I always wished and wanted him to be peaceful and be happy with himself. Wherever and whoever with he is now still I would wish the same. Now I will love myself and heal by myself and take care of my life and my people. I just feel sorry that he could have left me gracefully and I would have really appreciated and respected that than making things ugly and causing irrepairable damage to lives. I absolve you muthu. I forgive you. You don't want me to leave but I am unhooking myself now. It's not good and healthy for any. I wish good and the best things for you. Take care of yourself and family. My love for you stays the same even after you hurting me very bad and you are my unfulfilled dream and goal. I just wished to sit beside you atleast in the dark but little far away to take care of you when you fall again. But you pushed me away even from there too. Even after all humiliation you behave as if nothing happened and tell again that you do love me while still loving her. Don't commit sin. I won't let you do that as much as I can. Be safe and be good.
Realizing you're the *VICTIM* is one thing, staying there is another. Have the realization that you're miserable and do what you *CAN* to change your reality.
@@Introvertedalpha When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@sugandhaduttabagchi8615 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@explore_with_sagan9596 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@Introvertedalpha When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
Don't give something because you want something back. Give and love because you BELIEVE in what you do. It's similar in choosing your path of service in life. Choose something that you truly believe deep inside your heart. God loves a cheerful giver. This means that an honest loving heart giving little is more important than a person who gives a lot but with a disdainful heart.
Most of this is common sense, yet very much needed to be said & practiced as well. Thank you for putting things in a different perspective for those in need of a little light🙏
I'm on a path to rectify my wrongs and give back to the person who was there for me when i wasn't giving back. I hope she can forgive me for being so blind for so long.
Stop chasing for love in the outside world. Find peace in yourself. And give out love, not becaus you want to receive but just becaus you want to give.
I love to create and to give. At the end of a relationship I felt bad because I had given so much but didn`t feel appreciated. I wondered if I owed the person something from a previous life, if I would receive from someone else, if I had simply been a fool. A close friend told me that he had seen what I had done and that it had been life changing for my ex. But really it wasn`t about him, karma, or exchange. It was that I get to be the person who has so much love and abundance that I can give continuously. I walked away from that conversation feeling that the treasure lies within me. It doesn`t matter if the person on the outside feels appreciative. It matters that I have more and as I give I feel more expansive.
Only narcissists chase me so I'm good not receiving anything at all. just busy investing in myself instead of expecting reciprocation from others. The more love I'm receiving from myself, the more love I'm giving myself and that's what I need now. Self validation in other words
Thankyou so much for this video. I can't tell you how much it has helped me to gain perspective. On giving and receiving love. On people unintentionally. Truly an amazing sense of perspective.
I wish my sister could’ve heard more talks like this to help her in her pain.💔 What you search for in our partner or in life is what you did or didn’t get from your parents? I don’t know what I needed, I grew up with safety and love from my mom and family. Love hearing such wise and impactful thoughts and truth.❤️
Very good topic here. It's best to love and invest in people smart and in a healthy way. Sometimes it's good to give and not expect anything in return. Then there are times and situations you expect love to be extended to you from those you have extended love. Knowing when and were, what's healthy and what's not will help you mentally and understand what's happening in your life.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
The key is, eventho somehow you'll get back what you give (just act of nature, God's Grace), when u give, don't expect anything in return. Give sincerely, consider it's gone. With this, less headache, less heartache. Simple as that.
@@meghnaaitha1046 We can offer Our Love and Help to others.. But sometimes it will not be received and taken by the manner in which that Gift of Love was given .. We then have to Learn to Walk Away and Protect Ourselves for Those that Do Need Our Love and Support along Our Journeys 💛 This Lesson has took me years to realise after Many Hurtful experiences..Still learning sometimes even now.. Hope this helps.. Sending Love and Light 🌻 Blessings 🦋🙏
It's crazy, we spend so much time and effort loosing ourselves, running away from who we are, until we finally crash, then we spend the rest of how ever many years we have left finding ourselves again, reparenting and undoing the damage we've caused for years and years. Life itself is truly a journey.
That filling up of the cup and the victim mindset discussed here were the only ones that made me realize the reason I have a hard time trusting people fully was because I am suffering from a trauma that my cheating ex gave me waaay back in 2017 Goodness Jay. I dont know what it is but you discussing these things so openly and honestly made me realize this. Thank you 😘
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
One of the biggest secrets I discovered in life is to figure out how to love life more than you love to sleep! ~Much Love from a Law of Attraction UA-camr💜
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Never give up people I was 40ibs over weight I wanted to die i wanted to give up I went to my comfort food which was sugar and I would binge out on it every night crying myself to sleep but now I've changed but it took a while now im off sugar hitting the gym working out taking care of my body
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Finding it very difficult to move on from a heartbreak since July..it's Oct now and I still cry now and then wishing the man I love didn't leave me the way things transpired. Heart never ever breaks even in a break up. Most often one person almost never heal.
This helped me a lot. Over the past few years, I have initiated 8 hangouts with my friend and 14 dates with my boyfriend who is now my ex. I asked for them to initiate back but they didn't. I realise they weren't comfortable with initiating and I felt betrayed and hurt. I'm now looking to hire a life coach to work on issues like reciprocity.
What you search for in your partner is what you didn't receive from your parents!!! We need to have the awareness of developing the emotional skills that our parents didn't have!
This so helpful and mind opening, in every way, thank you so much! I'm going to listen to it again and again until I have taken it all in and it will be my truth within. And all the best to everybody here!🤗
Truly remarkable, inspiring beyond imagination...Jay Shetty & Radhi, you both are a Blessing to so many people who you mean a lot to...an inspiration & motivating too.....ALl the best to you, Thank you for all the courage you instill in others & more....
I stayed in victim mode for all most 40yrs I would say to people I’m like this because of my childhood you don’t know what it like you had a normal childhood it’s easy for you, or I got into this trapped pattern of going into moods and not eating and people would say come on eat and I enjoyed that attention when I look back I realise how complicated our minds and thoughts are and in a crazy way how we let something that happens to us just take us over, now 3 yrs in healing thinking positive ways and changing my mind set I now know how wonderful a feeling it is not to be held down with that victim and it’s down to me and only me to let that pasted go I’ve had therapy over the years loads of it but I thought they were going to somehow make me better but I had to do the work on myself with there help they are not miracle workers that can just put a spell on me and all my past is forgotten I had to do the work I had to change these patterns and the biggest thing is I had to want to change some people never change they will only know one way how to feel but my experience it’s amazing and wonderful feeling to get out of that black while you have put yourself in and slowly crawl out of it with working on you positive mind healing the pasted and just letting it go one thing I have learnt the 3yr that does save me at times is my life exercise classes it’s that release and the social side of seeing the girls in the class every week you just can’t beat it you have to keep doing the work for a better you as you as a person is so important don’t ever let anybody make you think otherwise you deserve to get out of that hole and have amazing life full of happy times and love and fullness ❤
I LOVE the APP Calm, in fact that's where I found you. I listen first thing in the morning to the 3 meditations that are brought up and it's really helped. Have a ways to go but I'm getting there. Thank you.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Thanks Jay Your book is a masterpiece by the way,...it really changed my perspective and punched me back into a life full of purpose from a broken mindset.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I think the best we can do is to be grateful to them totally and try to reciprocate the care and respect back just as any other human being rest all may happen automatically like who knows you fall for that person after we all love to get love and care from someone and realizing the thing which you just said is even a bug thing for many and you saying this is itself a sign that you care. Also I have never experienced this so dunno if my words are totally accurate or not.
Good points. A lot of ideas in 10 min. I died and thought that was my weakest point. But apparently I’m at my weakest in the current moment because I am the most content I have ever been in my life, according to you. Way to keep me on my toes. I did all the hard work and now my list of things to work on is less than the things I have worked on. I accept my life and location and everything that happened up until this point. I have forgiven many things, but never forget and continue learning lessons from those hurts.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
@@AnaliseFrank yeah, that is the right thing to do. But when i ignore those men who are showing love towards me, does it mean I am showing arrogance by pushing those people and their love away from me? ? The thing is, If I dont feel attracted towards them, i cant help it. But I dont even give them a chance because I feel like there is nothing to build upon
@@just_a_woman-h9s If you don’t care about the men showing love toward you, then what do you care what they think? Are these men really showing love or codependency? Half of everyone will like you and the other half won’t. People can have thoughts and unless they are super psychic, they can’t know your real thoughts, good or… well, true…. ?
I'm just 15 and I have a great love to my friend but she never knew the value of my love . She fight for no reason then I ask sry then she talk blah blah now she is loving someone and I'm here
Also, I would like to add something here from my own experience (it's just my opinion though) I have always loved people and yes Jay is right we don't always get back the love from the same people but sometimes even if you do you don't see it for sometimes its just really hard if you don't love and accept yourself the way you are and chase love and expect them to love you the way you are....now that's hard when you end up expecting..I'm learning these things too, just wanted to share maybe someone can relate. #LetWisdomGoViral
I have truly understood just recently at the age of 42 to not expect someone to be the same way I am. They are their own person and respond and behave differently from myself. This is an amazing revelation if you can accept it. You have to meet people where they are or move on. Much love to all ❤
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
I’ve learnt that when we we offer others acts of kindness and love we then show them what it feels like to be loved that they deserve love . It’s beneficial even if they don’t give it back it will change their life and how they treat others and most importantly they may begin to feel they are worthy of love and treat themselves better .❤
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Sadly, few people have ever done anything for me AT All. I’ve been the ultra-giver to family and so-called friends. I remember a girlfriend I dated many years ago, I was crazy about her and as a result I bought her a car, helped pay for her college tuition and always paid when we went out. One day we were at a local delicatessen, I was ordering some sandwiches for us and carelessly forgot my credit card at home( 1st time ever) I felt awkward; she pulled out some cash and paid for the sandwiches. On our way home, she causally said “At some point you are going to give me the money for the sandwiches, right?”...this shocked the hell out of me!! I’ve often noticed that GIVERS are so busy giving that rarely does the occasion occur when the other person has to pay and as a result, we find out much too late that all along we were dealing with a petty, cheapskate USER! Robert from daytradingwiththelight
Omg l can’t believe she asked for the money after all you’ve done for her how terrible and embarrassing on her behalf. You don’t deserve people like that around you. All the best
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
0:35 yeah that's a good way to say you are investing your emotions in the wrong people, basically what it boils down to is if you are emotionally available (EA) person you tend to fall in love with emotionally unavailable (EU) person but the EU person doesn't have the same emotional capacity as an EA person so when it comes to emotional intimacy the EA person is always left dry. What I have noticed is that when I have this warm feeling in my chest it means the the woman I'm looking at is an EU person and also if you ask an EU person about love he will tell you not about the warm feeling but about the butterflies in the stomach. But recently I discovered that sometimes I get a cool minty feeling in my chest it's like opposite of the warm feeling and I think that this cool minty feeling must mean that the woman I'm looking at must be an EA person. Also if you are giving to a person something that he doesn't need it's normal that he will not return the same, that is of course if he even is capable of giving back what you need, in short you must know your needs and must find out about the needs of your partner and then decide if you are able to fulfil each others needs, if you do that it will save you a lot of trouble before hand although I'm not sure if every person is capable of doing so.
Wow. You impressed me with your words. Your wisdom. I struggled many years with what you are saying. Not that I dont anymore. The difference now is that I realized that I had to love myself first. Fall in love with my strengths and weaknesses, with my intention and burning will to become my greatest version, was key to avoid pouring time effort and emotions on people who dont have the capacity to recognize my spirit my nature. I radically stopped attracting users. The chance in me repelled them. Thank you so much for making me verbalize the change in me.
@@charopovamacias8966 Well I'm realizing this at the age of 32 and I had never succeeded in managing to start a relationship not that I had many tries to begin with but after emotionally investing into a person just to realize later on that this person is unable to match your capacity for emotional intimacy, well you don't want to repeat the same mistake ever again, one advise from me if you are a person that hold emotional intimacy in higher regard to physical intimacy, first thing you need to do is to measure how much you can talk about emotional intimacy if you have a same gender sibling you can try challenging them or even bribing them to listen to you for as long as they can and well if they are emotionally unavailable they probably won't last 15 minutes, but if they have normal emotional capacity they should be able to listen for about an hour or two, and if you can talk about that for more than 3 hours well you have the same problem as me, high deficit of emotional intimacy, I think improving your oxytocin levels should help but sex is not the only option I think much better option is actually adding food to your diet that will help with the production of oxytocin. And basically if you find a person that you are interested in and they are able to talk to you about emotional intimacy well that's a good sign that this person is good for you, but have in mind that emotional intimacy can be easily mistaken for friendship so don't be surprised if you get friend zoned, try to explain that it's not friendship that you are looking for but rather strong emotional bond and if you continue to build emotional intimacy with this person your feelings will become much stronger, and if that person doesn't understand any of that well it's better of not investing emotionally anymore, because later on it will be harder to move on from this person. I asked around a bit and most people are against the idea of discussing those things before hand although there are plenty of benefits in my opinion, so it will be hard to find a person that is willing to discuss such things. Maybe if you are on a speed date asking about such things won't be out of the ordinary and if the person you are talking to is EA he will very quickly understand why you are asking, will he agree on a discussion is another thing. And well I have the problem of not wanting to have sex, even if I have physical attraction towards the person, and considering that in modern dating having sex on a first date is a must well I haven't even had a date up until now, well in modern dating you can't even have a 'serious relationship'(committed relationship) if you haven't done sex before hand, which by the way is much more convenient for people that are EU, and much more inconvenient for people that are EA. And well most people are on the opinion that if you want to have strong emotional intimacy with another person you must have been with them for a long time in a committed relationship, and well to get to there you must first get thru sex. So what I heard was, it is socially acceptable to have been into a relationship between 3 to 6 months before you discuss those things, but I'll tell you what you can be a therapist and have been in a marriage for almost a decade and still not have discussed each other's needs as stated in this video ua-cam.com/video/GaKYgc5oEFM/v-deo.html (What To Do When You Have A High Sex Drive And Your Partner Doesn't). And one last thing I'm not 100% sure about that but when your partner is EU and you shower him with emotional intimacy the roles reverse the same partner starts to pull away from the idea of having sex with you because said partner feels embarrassed of having sex with someone who can express their emotions so freely. Well I'll be really happy if I get some feedback from you, and a warning if you use what I told you to hurt someone I'm more than willing to share the bad karma with you.
I don't need anymore that others love me. Love YOURSELF.........is the " medicine" and it is Freedom! And IT was at First nor so easy! Because as soon I die choose to love myself...wich means to fully accept every Part of me.....of course all the unloved parts showed up. Had to.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s Just like the love of a mom and a child even in the relationship of a woman and man is there the relationship will be always sweeter like a honey.
I'm currently working a job that I've been at for nearly 6 years, & recently I've had to do the job of multiple people (Like most other people nowadays). I do not compare myself to others & their struggles, but I've been having panic attacks & little t trauma caused from the job. I've realized that my job has triggered all of this. I am a social worker who helps people who've been arrested, & I've noticed that whenever I talk to & help people, I get this inner voice telling me "Now you have to save this person. You have to heal them. You have to do this work." & in my field I am so powerless to make the appropriate changes in their life that would solve their problems. I am not in a position of power to do the necessary changes. I've also come to terms that I do not want to help people anymore. Compared to the analogy of the full cup, my cup is damaged & has a hole in it. & when it comes to healing, usually you have to remove the thing that shouldn't be there BEFORE you start the healing. I realize that I need to quit my job & move onto my passion or some other sort of challenge. Would you (or anyone) consider this the wrong way to approach things?
'Circle of love: the love you give out, you will always get back, you just won't get it back from the same people you give it to.' 🤯🙂💛
Yeah! I was also mind blown 🙌🏼
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
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That’s why it will be so much better.
@@just_a_woman-h9s I have noticed this awkward loop as well, it doesn't seem to go away until you just stop loving people in the "conventional" sense. Not sure how, or why this comes to be, maybe people tend to chase "love", so if your chasing it from someone that isn't right, other people are as well.
To the *worthwhile person* seeing this, your dream is not dead. Don’t allow the past and current pains and hurts stop and define you. You’re more than a conqueror. Rise up and put yourself together. Keep pushing your future depends on it. I wish you all the best in life ❤️. Just allow grace to let it in.
Thankyou very much.I wish the same for you!🙏🏼
❤️thanks for your kind words❤️
I needed that today 🙌
thankyou❤
I truly needed this, thanks a lot 😊
I prefer to give, I feel better. I receive a lot of love from the universe, from God! It is always a ballance.
So beautifully felt and expressed. God bless you with His bountiful love and grace. The universe is a better place with folks like you💞🌸
@@ai172 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
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Well said. Thanks for the reminder.
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It’s a privilege to be in a position to give. That means you’re blessed with abundance. Even if you can freely offer a soothing word or a heartfelt smile. The blessing goes both ways.
I have truly understood, just recently at the age of 42, to not expect someone to be the same way I am. They are their own person who responds and behaves differently from myself. This is an amazing revelation if you can accept it. You have to meet people where they are or move on. Much love to all ❤
Oooh needed this! Allow them to be where they're at n move on
@@nativechique7589 Yes ma'am!! I'm glad you could get something from it 😊
Thank you
Never saw it this way. Thank you! I needed this.
@@clairefph1 🤗
Make an effort to give back to the people that love you rather than chasing someone who only knows to take from you and never give it back.
Seemran Horo, When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I understand this happens most of the time but you have to recognise if that is genuine love. In relationships love is never one sided it's mutual understanding love and respect for each other. so if a person loves you and you don't have feelings for them it's okay there is no future compatibility between the two to be in a relationship the person must let go of that love if he denies to let go then that's not true love in this case you don't have to worry about loving that person back. And one that we feel in love but they don't have the same feelings for us is most common thing happens while finding our perfect partner but you don't have to worry in this case if the person you fell in love is compatible with you then there is High chances of him falling in love with you in the future or if not then you have to let go of that person.
What if it’s your son? My son keeps taking but not give back. My husband said it’s his choice and the consequences he has to live with, but the choices he makes also hurts him and us. We have to stop enabling him.
Yasss
@@Nicole-gb4ze yes do what is right for you ❤️
Have been through 30 years of deceit n felt lost, angry and felt like a victim...but one day everything reversed n miraculously God blessed me with the wisdom to accept it, heal...n now iam the happiest person on the planet
It's such an awesome thing to hear in the morning. So glad that you are free from your long-standing troubles. Glory to God. More peace and blessings to you.
How you reversed it?
Spiritual awakening?
Such a blessing How ?
Happy for you 🤗 Me too,happier!
Being in solitude. Healing, gratitude ,spirituality ,it really helps so much 🙃 Enjoying life💃🙌
Unfortunately no, no one has ever pursued me EVER, not even my own. I’ve only received hurt, pain and isolation - but that hasnt stopped me from my goodwill, gratitude and love for others. But would be great to feel loved for just once in life
Sorry to hear of your experience in life. I wish and pray that you receive the love, and every associated thing, that your heart desires, during this lifetime itself. Stay blessed.
I feel you.same same here but life is beautiful
Same
What is “love”? It’s giving of yourself without any expectation. Unconditionally. All else is ego.
Absolutely!
True
It's not about giving love to recieve love. It's about connecting with others on a deep level. When I am kind, loving and caring to others and sweet and it doesn't open the doors for deep connection between us....I find that to be hard to deal with. A part of me has given up. Seems as if everyone is busy or all talk or just plain negative.
Me too.... WTH 😵💫🌹
this
That demonstrates they are not at the same emotional or intellectual level and will remain
@@ts7814 my husband tells me the same thing. I tend to take it personally due to attachment injuries growing up. Thanks for your insightful reply!
I feel you
I'm in the same position. I give so much to friends and family, I feel as if I'm not receiving much back. I can do things for people many times over whether it's potential lovers or people I care about. But when I need something, I feel like I'm on my own. It can make me believe that I don't deserve an authentic type of love and affection. I've recently wondered if im too smart for my own good or am I unlucky when it comes to love. A lot of questions and no many answers.
This is exactly how I feel. I’m filling the cups of my family but my cup is empty in return. I give but get nothing in return and I’m not one to ask for things even if it’s just of their time to connect. I need to learn how to fill my own cup first.
@@jennifer6814 that's something I had to learn along the way. Sometimes people want more than you can give and it can be hard to know where to draw the line but once I noticed how my family gets into meaningless fights, the line was easier for.me to see. We will always have obligations to the people we care about, but we also have obligations to ourselves. Now, everyone in my family including me wants different things. I want to go.out in the country and discover the kind of person I want to be.
@@spencermulligan94 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I haven't the slightest idea
Omg sam
Hey YOU, incredible person reading this...The truth is you are confident and good enough already with who you are, where you are at and what you have right now to have the success you want in life. Don't let others define what “success” is for you. Get up, learn that skill and go after it! I believe in you so much! Have an awesome day! - Love, Nat ❤️
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I understand where you’re coming from! I used to feel the same way tons in the past. Let me ask you! What is the type of person you want in your life that you grow and build with?
@@NathalieLazo I know what I want any I also try to be the same kind of person.
Loyalty, kindness, Intelligence, good sense of humor, and physical/emotional chemistry with the person is what I want.
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I am a giver also and your blessing
will come back to you.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
No one ever chase me. Or ever is present all the time. Theres no one who calls all the time or even ask me to go out. Am the one who always show care and concern for others
You’re a giving nature. I find most people are not. You are blessed. May you always be happy.
your day will come. I seek something new out of my comfort zone. I went to university to study just to meet people, it could be friend, partner.
I feel you
@@nabscovers1005 thank u. At least there are ppl out here who do understand. Blessings
@@trinijoyl1720 I understand 100% i was always been the person who thinks what can i do to make someone happy, or plans a friend’s birthday, or comfort someone in need. Although i did get some stuff in return, but recently i feel like i cannot give anymore, because people and strangers around me seem to be mean and unworthy of my love and kindness. I feel like i lost my faith in humanity. I have given and now i mourn what i gave cause i got betrayed. My family made this feeling even worse due to their behavior
I think in the paradox between giving to others and giving to oneself, or giving to others and expecting others to give, the balancing factor can be "In everything you do, do as if done to God, and not to people. And He, the Faithful One, will repay a hundred fold." Setting up such an attitude is the sure way to life - a life full of peace, joy and gratitude.
That Rings true brother!
How beautiful love and happiness to you ....words can really heal...
Yes but god doesn’t want us to keep giving to people that hurt us. He wants us to have discernment when to walk away and love from afar. He said to not have fellowship with people like that.
@@daughteroftheking6402 When to stay and when to walk away, as an act of love, is a difficult thing to discern. No two persons can get into the same shoe at the same time and experience the same thing. Each of us may have an understanding of how love works, or ought to work, in any given situation, but it is the Mind of God, the Holy Spirit, who helps and guides us to improve upon our ability to love, as God in Jesus, loved.
Having loved His own He loved them till the end... That's the love of God in action in Jesus Christ.
Yes at some point you have to focus on you
Answer is NO. Nobody tried to love me to the extent I've loved others.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
@@just_a_woman-h9s i don't know. I'm no more intelligent than you.
Hey Soumya I feel you, your devastation and heartache. Protect yourself and keep your heart safe. Try to do activities involving creative things or some kind of art. I love someone so much that I am hating myself for putting myself through some ugly situations for him and still unable to come out of him. I love him but I am torn apart by him. It sucks very bad. Why would someone stir all the right feelings knowingly and even tell I love you back to me many number of times and when they find another woman tell me back that they just saw me and loved me as just a good friend. Why to mess with head and inflict such trauma and pain and cause emotional damage when they can simply break up and even after all these he tells me he loves me but not like the love they had for his ex and now with new woman. What does even love mean to such kind of people??? He feels guilty for hurting me and putting me through his shit. Why can't he ease my pain atleast by telling me to leave or say it's over and there's no more love??? Why still playing with my heart??? I go to temples just to pray for him and do archana on his name on his birthdays. He misused and indirectly abused my genuine love, madness for him, my kindness and care. He made every little thing complex. He made even expecting bare minimum things like loyalty, protecting sensitive sentiments and my everything very complex and alien things. It hurts being a friend as well as a lover and everything. It's a game for such people. They think only they have heartbreaks, pain, journeys, love, he is very unfair, blind and deaf towards me. I tolerated and accepted many unconventional things with love for him. He totally destroyed me. He knows that too and still humiliated me when I was still trying to process the recent betrayal he did to me, he humiliated the simplest form of me I was presenting keeping aside my dignity, self respect and ego. He fell from my grace then, he had lost my respect. When he cannot even take care of that raw form of mine, when he cannot treat me with respect and I was sobbing and sobbing and could not even be able to speak properly, my fighting for US and me he saw it like annoyance and harrasment. He looked very cheap and arrogant there. His heart looked very ugly there. I accepted every flaw, darkness and light in him, I was there with him at his lowest and darkest phases of his life but he could bot even listen to me and tolerate my weakest and lowest point of mine even for few days and humiliated me and called me negative and derogatory names, I was super shocked hearing all the shitty things he kept on yelling at me while I was sobbing and he was breaking my spirit and heart piece by piece like a butcher. He killed my soul then. I still forgave him and he arrogantly said he doesn't need my forgiveness, how cruel he must be!!! The cause of all chaos and damages was himself alone, he did very wrong to me and I was still trying to accept parts of it and trying to make myself stand by myself but he kept on breaking my heart and legs even to stand for myself. I always used to tell him that muthu I would still be loving you even when you hate yourself and would be standing for yourself even when you could not stand for yourself. He injured that person in me. I used to pray God to take me before he takes him or on the day he takes him. My love was like devotion and commitment for life. I expected atleast treating me with grace and respect but he made things very ugly that I cannot even stand for myself and by myself now. I kept telling him he could have broken up with me when he realised he is in love with another woman. But he says he loves me but he loves her more. He is playing football with my heart. He complicated every simple thing of my life. I made him the rest of my life and now I'm so lost in the darkness gifted by him to me. I'm scarred for life. He is merciless, unkind and brutal at heart. Never trust a man or a woman who has multiple hearts for multiple women or men. Not good for any, it mentally deranged me. I'm very disoriented now. I still love him but I don't want him. He is harmful to my mind. I would become a tragedy by still accepting his request to stay as friend to him after all these. He still accuses me that because of my wrong expectations he is losing me who had been a strong support and comfort. Can't he see I'm also just another human being who is sensitive and who is loving him and still taking all the shit??? He could have let me be just only a friend when I asked him myself. He assured he loves me and made me feel so many and we shared so much of ourselves to each other and still he doesn't have the ability that he is causing great pain to me even after I am telling him. Why why why??? He could sense others' hurt and others'well being but why he fails to understand mind even after explaining. He wants me to be his everything but he cannot even protect my bare minimum sentiments and concerns, no minimum emotional security, always leaving me in anxiety about him and my relationship with him. I hate myself for still loving him and still trying to understand him. He doesn't want to listen to what he is doing to me because it makes him feel more guilty. He is coward in my case. Muthu I love you and I hate you too but I hate myself more, I hate for being everything to you, I hate for not keeping boundaries between us, I just hate hoe you talked ugly to me, the one you promised to that you won't make her cry because making me cry would make you principally weak. You broke everything you said, you lied to me, you betrayed me, you broke my spirit which all you said you would never do to me. You said I was your treasure and now you don't even treat me respectfully. Kya hua re tere ko. You are mistreating me. You destroyed us. You ruined all of us. All of the beautiful things. You destroyed the trust, comfort, joy and confidence. Can't you even face guilty for me by atleast listening to my pain inflicted by you, don't you have atleast that heart, don't you ever apologise me in yourself when you are alone because I know that you would do that and that's why I said I forgive you for everything but still you are very rude and arrogant that you said you don't need my forgiveness. You are very utterly selfish and mean. You had never shown these even to your male best friends who had betrayed you. You know how much I love you and treasure you. Is this how you would lose me by devaluing me. Everyday every night every minute every second my mind, my thoughts revolved around you, how could you even talk to me like that. It takes my lifetime to even heal from the wounds you caused to me. I won't accept you now. You know how bad you have been towards me after she entered your life and after I started talking about ourselves. It's very cheap and bad of you for avoiding me and my talks and questions and fears and insecurities. You could have saved me from all of these by just simply breaking up with me. Everything else feels kinder to me re, even you telling me that you don't love me anymore or breaking up and ending our relationship than elongating it and talking ugly, demeaning and humiliating things to me, bullying me how I was crying and talking, imitating and making fun of me at my weakest and most vulnerable point. That was very evil of you. I never deserved to be spoken to like that. Never. Don't talk destroying things ever to the persons who love you and still with you. Don't play with your blessings and good things in your life. It was never needed for you to talk such ugly things. Mera dil ro raha hain. I'm bleeding inside because of the wounds caused by you.
@@voidmain9519 I feel you too. What can i say? Stay strong. You are Good. You are gold. Don't lower your value for others. Love will come to you. True love will find you. But before that you need to love yourself.
You are brave enough to speak your heart out. I really respect that. God bless you.
@@soumyabanerjee4205 Thank you Soumya. It made me smile when you said, "You are gold". Because even he used to say that I am gold and my heart is gold and that I am a pure soul. Yes I was and I am still too. Thank you for reminding this beautiful thing about me which I had forgotten. Truly. I would pick myself up and equip myself emotionally. But he lost me very bad. He knows that. He doesn't have the face to face me and my agony. I always wished and wanted him to be peaceful and be happy with himself. Wherever and whoever with he is now still I would wish the same. Now I will love myself and heal by myself and take care of my life and my people. I just feel sorry that he could have left me gracefully and I would have really appreciated and respected that than making things ugly and causing irrepairable damage to lives. I absolve you muthu. I forgive you. You don't want me to leave but I am unhooking myself now. It's not good and healthy for any. I wish good and the best things for you. Take care of yourself and family. My love for you stays the same even after you hurting me very bad and you are my unfulfilled dream and goal. I just wished to sit beside you atleast in the dark but little far away to take care of you when you fall again. But you pushed me away even from there too. Even after all humiliation you behave as if nothing happened and tell again that you do love me while still loving her. Don't commit sin. I won't let you do that as much as I can. Be safe and be good.
Realizing you're the *VICTIM* is one thing, staying there is another.
Have the realization that you're miserable and do what you *CAN* to change your reality.
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@@Introvertedalpha When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
What we search for in our partners or in our life is what we did or didn’t get from our parents🔥 so TRUEEE🍺
TRUE UNFORTUNATELY
How true
That's why so many people with childhood issues face relationship problems when they grow up
@@sugandhaduttabagchi8615 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@explore_with_sagan9596 When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
What you pay attention to will define, for you, what reality is.
great insight
@@Introvertedalpha When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
Yep
I found out to keep learning!! Cant know what you dont know unless you assume you dont know and seek to find out
Don't give something because you want something back. Give and love because you BELIEVE in what you do. It's similar in choosing your path of service in life. Choose something that you truly believe deep inside your heart. God loves a cheerful giver. This means that an honest loving heart giving little is more important than a person who gives a lot but with a disdainful heart.
Most of this is common sense, yet very much needed to be said & practiced as well. Thank you for putting things in a different perspective for those in need of a little light🙏
I'm on a path to rectify my wrongs and give back to the person who was there for me when i wasn't giving back. I hope she can forgive me for being so blind for so long.
This was so beautiful to hear. Did you contact her Darren???
Stop chasing for love in the outside world. Find peace in yourself. And give out love, not becaus you want to receive but just becaus you want to give.
The question is how?
As long as Jay is there, I feel fine. This is the cheapest and the most effective therapy I could ever get!
I’m praying for you Tony and you can find god and that you can push your egos/demons out from you. In Jesus name amen
I love to create and to give. At the end of a relationship I felt bad because I had given so much but didn`t feel appreciated. I wondered if I owed the person something from a previous life, if I would receive from someone else, if I had simply been a fool. A close friend told me that he had seen what I had done and that it had been life changing for my ex. But really it wasn`t about him, karma, or exchange. It was that I get to be the person who has so much love and abundance that I can give continuously. I walked away from that conversation feeling that the treasure lies within me. It doesn`t matter if the person on the outside feels appreciative. It matters that I have more and as I give I feel more expansive.
Only narcissists chase me so I'm good not receiving anything at all. just busy investing in myself instead of expecting reciprocation from others. The more love I'm receiving from myself, the more love I'm giving myself and that's what I need now. Self validation in other words
Thankyou so much for this video. I can't tell you how much it has helped me to gain perspective. On giving and receiving love. On people unintentionally. Truly an amazing sense of perspective.
I wish my sister could’ve heard more talks like this to help her in her pain.💔
What you search for in our partner or in life is what you did or didn’t get from your parents?
I don’t know what I needed, I grew up with safety and love from my mom and family.
Love hearing such wise and impactful thoughts and truth.❤️
I agree to an extent. There’s good people that experience so much hurt for no reason. That’s not karma. Don’t be a victim but don’t blame yourself.
I have was having this same conversations with my friend this week. Karam is real and you do get back 3 fold 💕
I was taken for granted by people who I loved very much. Why is life so hard for the good people
You are my people!! Grateful and thankful for your message . TY JS 🤙✌️
Very good topic here. It's best to love and invest in people smart and in a healthy way. Sometimes it's good to give and not expect anything in return. Then there are times and situations you expect love to be extended to you from those you have extended love. Knowing when and were, what's healthy and what's not will help you mentally and understand what's happening in your life.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Yes always! At 60 I’m tired of not getting filled back up. I’m empty. Ty for this
The key is, eventho somehow you'll get back what you give (just act of nature, God's Grace), when u give, don't expect anything in return. Give sincerely, consider it's gone. With this, less headache, less heartache. Simple as that.
If I give love and care for a guy and he’s not returning the same energy back should I be selfless and keep giving or is it just stupid?
@@meghnaaitha1046 We can offer Our Love and Help to others..
But sometimes it will not be received and taken by the manner in which that Gift of Love was given ..
We then have to Learn to Walk Away and Protect Ourselves for Those that Do Need Our Love and Support along Our Journeys 💛
This Lesson has took me years to realise after Many Hurtful experiences..Still learning sometimes even now..
Hope this helps..
Sending Love and Light 🌻
Blessings 🦋🙏
@@meghnaaitha1046 means time for you to move on.
I've helped people all my life even helped someone who used me
It's crazy, we spend so much time and effort loosing ourselves, running away from who we are, until we finally crash, then we spend the rest of how ever many years we have left finding ourselves again, reparenting and undoing the damage we've caused for years and years. Life itself is truly a journey.
It's about being equally willing to recieving as you are giving :)
One of the best talks I've ever heard. The complex simplicity and every word just vibrates with the real truth of existence. Thank you
That filling up of the cup and the victim mindset discussed here were the only ones that made me realize the reason I have a hard time trusting people fully was because I am suffering from a trauma that my cheating ex gave me waaay back in 2017
Goodness Jay.
I dont know what it is but you discussing these things so openly and honestly made me realize this.
Thank you 😘
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
One of the biggest secrets I discovered in life is to figure out how to love life more than you love to sleep!
~Much Love from a Law of Attraction UA-camr💜
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
I always feel gifted to appreciate him and admire him and all his programs his dedicated service to all the people my favourite speaker Jay genius.
Never give up people I was 40ibs over weight I wanted to die i wanted to give up I went to my comfort food which was sugar and I would binge out on it every night crying myself to sleep but now I've changed but it took a while now im off sugar hitting the gym working out taking care of my body
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Shaun Walker. May I ask how you got off sugar? I am struggling with that issue as well. Please and thank you.
@@debramcmartin905 it takes time you have to say to yourself will this 5 min of great taste benefit me in the long run and go from there
@@shaunwalker4221 m
Don't receive love forget
Keep only the person worth for Ur value
Not in a one way but in every way
Finding it very difficult to move on from a heartbreak since July..it's Oct now and I still cry now and then wishing the man I love didn't leave me the way things transpired. Heart never ever breaks even in a break up. Most often one person almost never heal.
That's how our God/Source feels he love is unconditionally and for the most part he has been excluded from our heart space
Jay.... Thank you.🌹 .. for helping me to realise my mistake. I do need healing from the one who rejected me.
even im going through the same ... this too shall pass ... we need to slowly get over this ... time heals
Found this at the perfect moment, this helped me heal. ❤🙏🏻
Thank you, I wish you a million times more than you give .💕
Oh my god, this is completely eye-opening. Thank You !!! 🌟❤🕊
Good advice. 👍🏾 I love the unknown about anything that will give me education & information ❤ it's the best way to learn how to overcome
Great.I understand it completely. We need to live mindfully
I had that same thought the other day; it goes both ways.
This helped me a lot. Over the past few years, I have initiated 8 hangouts with my friend and 14 dates with my boyfriend who is now my ex. I asked for them to initiate back but they didn't. I realise they weren't comfortable with initiating and I felt betrayed and hurt. I'm now looking to hire a life coach to work on issues like reciprocity.
❤❤ dropping this and coming back later when I am heal 😢
What you search for in your partner is what you didn't receive from your parents!!! We need to have the awareness of developing the emotional skills that our parents didn't have!
Your absolutely right
We may have hurt others that never hurt us and vice versa
Thanks jay good topic what goes around comes around 👏 what you give out does come back
Ohhh my God! Everything I am looking for in a single video!
This so helpful and mind opening, in every way, thank you so much! I'm going to listen to it again and again until I have taken it all in and it will be my truth within. And all the best to everybody here!🤗
Truly remarkable, inspiring beyond imagination...Jay Shetty & Radhi, you both are a Blessing to so many people who you mean a lot to...an inspiration & motivating too.....ALl the best to you, Thank you for all the courage you instill in others & more....
I stayed in victim mode for all most 40yrs I would say to people I’m like this because of my childhood you don’t know what it like you had a normal childhood it’s easy for you, or I got into this trapped pattern of going into moods and not eating and people would say come on eat and I enjoyed that attention when I look back I realise how complicated our minds and thoughts are and in a crazy way how we let something that happens to us just take us over, now 3 yrs in healing thinking positive ways and changing my mind set I now know how wonderful a feeling it is not to be held down with that victim and it’s down to me and only me to let that pasted go I’ve had therapy over the years loads of it but I thought they were going to somehow make me better but I had to do the work on myself with there help they are not miracle workers that can just put a spell on me and all my past is forgotten I had to do the work I had to change these patterns and the biggest thing is I had to want to change some people never change they will only know one way how to feel but my experience it’s amazing and wonderful feeling to get out of that black while you have put yourself in and slowly crawl out of it with working on you positive mind healing the pasted and just letting it go one thing I have learnt the 3yr that does save me at times is my life exercise classes it’s that release and the social side of seeing the girls in the class every week you just can’t beat it you have to keep doing the work for a better you as you as a person is so important don’t ever let anybody make you think otherwise you deserve to get out of that hole and have amazing life full of happy times and love and fullness ❤
I LOVE the APP Calm, in fact that's where I found you. I listen first thing in the morning to the 3 meditations that are brought up and it's really helped. Have a ways to go but I'm getting there. Thank you.
Me too
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
Wow this man is extremely wise and insightful.
Thanks Jay Your book is a masterpiece by the way,...it really changed my perspective and punched me back into a life full of purpose from a broken mindset.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
@@just_a_woman-h9s I think the best we can do is to be grateful to them totally and try to reciprocate the care and respect back just as any other human being rest all may happen automatically like who knows you fall for that person after we all love to get love and care from someone and realizing the thing which you just said is even a bug thing for many and you saying this is itself a sign that you care. Also I have never experienced this so dunno if my words are totally accurate or not.
Perspective. Beautiful insight.
Always best my favourite speaker Jay genius l love his speech very much.
My best professor Jay genius
Good points. A lot of ideas in 10 min. I died and thought that was my weakest point. But apparently I’m at my weakest in the current moment because I am the most content I have ever been in my life, according to you. Way to keep me on my toes. I did all the hard work and now my list of things to work on is less than the things I have worked on. I accept my life and location and everything that happened up until this point. I have forgiven many things, but never forget and continue learning lessons from those hurts.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
@@just_a_woman-h9s set a boundary at the very start or else there will be more hurt later on and you will be accused of leading the person on.
@@AnaliseFrank yeah, that is the right thing to do. But when i ignore those men who are showing love towards me, does it mean I am showing arrogance by pushing those people and their love away from me? ? The thing is, If I dont feel attracted towards them, i cant help it.
But I dont even give them a chance because I feel like there is nothing to build upon
@@just_a_woman-h9s If you don’t care about the men showing love toward you, then what do you care what they think? Are these men really showing love or codependency? Half of everyone will like you and the other half won’t. People can have thoughts and unless they are super psychic, they can’t know your real thoughts, good or… well, true…. ?
I'm just 15 and I have a great love to my friend but she never knew the value of my love . She fight for no reason then I ask sry then she talk blah blah now she is loving someone and I'm here
Thank you so much! I needed this message so much at this time!
Jay you won't believe that how much my whole has changed through your book 🖤🙏
What’s the name of the book please?
@@Anonymous-nt4sz think like a monk
I really loved this video, thank you ❤️
Yes this is true ❤
Unconditional love and acceptance is what I’m currently working on
Yes, this is what we seek for, the connection and the bond
Also, I would like to add something here from my own experience (it's just my opinion though) I have always loved people and yes Jay is right we don't always get back the love from the same people but sometimes even if you do you don't see it for sometimes its just really hard if you don't love and accept yourself the way you are and chase love and expect them to love you the way you are....now that's hard when you end up expecting..I'm learning these things too, just wanted to share maybe someone can relate. #LetWisdomGoViral
I have truly understood just recently at the age of 42 to not expect someone to be the same way I am. They are their own person and respond and behave differently from myself. This is an amazing revelation if you can accept it. You have to meet people where they are or move on. Much love to all ❤
@@KitKat-jp7fk wow thank you for sharing means a lot
@@Ikigai747 thank you for sharing also!!
@@KitKat-jp7fk ( ◜‿◝ )♡
I love this man. Completely changed the way I look at the world.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
I’ve learnt that when we we offer others acts of kindness and love we then show them what it feels like to be loved that they deserve love . It’s beneficial even if they don’t give it back it will change their life and how they treat others and most importantly they may begin to feel they are worthy of love and treat themselves better .❤
The best advices Jay. I just put myself on the right path through your advices and your book and all your stories. Thank you a lot 🙏❤️
So true !! ❤ just find ur motivational talk perfectly timed as always.. Gratitude 🙏
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
You're a beautiful person Jay! This was an amazing video. Thank you. Can't wait to sign up for the Daily Jay!
Sadly, few people have ever done anything for me AT All. I’ve been the ultra-giver to family and so-called friends. I remember a girlfriend I dated many years ago, I was crazy about her and as a result I bought her a car, helped pay for her college tuition and always paid when we went out. One day we were at a local delicatessen, I was ordering some sandwiches for us and carelessly forgot my credit card at home( 1st time ever) I felt awkward; she pulled out some cash and paid for the sandwiches. On our way home, she causally said
“At some point you are going to give me the money for the sandwiches, right?”...this shocked the hell out of me!!
I’ve often noticed that GIVERS are so busy giving that rarely does the occasion occur when the other person has to pay and as a result, we find out much too late that all along we were dealing with a petty, cheapskate USER!
Robert from daytradingwiththelight
Omg l can’t believe she asked for the money after all you’ve done for her how terrible and embarrassing on her behalf. You don’t deserve people like that around you. All the best
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Gratitude is the seed of more
You have to be grateful to receive what is already yours to live through.
Hallelujah Glory be to God praise Jesus amen 🙏🏻#JesusisLove #GodisKing
Having fun is the essence of the spiritual life...😇😇
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s The feeling of love is a distortion of true love...😇😇
Thank YOU for sharing your time & wisdom❣️ MUCH LoVe... 🙂
jay thanks for this. my parents denied me love and I try so hard getting it from the people I associate myself with. this is an eye opening session
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that situation???
0:35 yeah that's a good way to say you are investing your emotions in the wrong people, basically what it boils down to is if you are emotionally available (EA) person you tend to fall in love with emotionally unavailable (EU) person but the EU person doesn't have the same emotional capacity as an EA person so when it comes to emotional intimacy the EA person is always left dry. What I have noticed is that when I have this warm feeling in my chest it means the the woman I'm looking at is an EU person and also if you ask an EU person about love he will tell you not about the warm feeling but about the butterflies in the stomach.
But recently I discovered that sometimes I get a cool minty feeling in my chest it's like opposite of the warm feeling and I think that this cool minty feeling must mean that the woman I'm looking at must be an EA person.
Also if you are giving to a person something that he doesn't need it's normal that he will not return the same, that is of course if he even is capable of giving back what you need, in short you must know your needs and must find out about the needs of your partner and then decide if you are able to fulfil each others needs, if you do that it will save you a lot of trouble before hand although I'm not sure if every person is capable of doing so.
Wow. You impressed me with your words. Your wisdom. I struggled many years with what you are saying. Not that I dont anymore. The difference now is that I realized that I had to love myself first. Fall in love with my strengths and weaknesses, with my intention and burning will to become my greatest version, was key to avoid pouring time effort and emotions on people who dont have the capacity to recognize my spirit my nature. I radically stopped attracting users. The chance in me repelled them. Thank you so much for making me verbalize the change in me.
@@charopovamacias8966 Well I'm realizing this at the age of 32 and I had never succeeded in managing to start a relationship not that I had many tries to begin with but after emotionally investing into a person just to realize later on that this person is unable to match your capacity for emotional intimacy, well you don't want to repeat the same mistake ever again, one advise from me if you are a person that hold emotional intimacy in higher regard to physical intimacy, first thing you need to do is to measure how much you can talk about emotional intimacy if you have a same gender sibling you can try challenging them or even bribing them to listen to you for as long as they can and well if they are emotionally unavailable they probably won't last 15 minutes, but if they have normal emotional capacity they should be able to listen for about an hour or two, and if you can talk about that for more than 3 hours well you have the same problem as me, high deficit of emotional intimacy, I think improving your oxytocin levels should help but sex is not the only option I think much better option is actually adding food to your diet that will help with the production of oxytocin.
And basically if you find a person that you are interested in and they are able to talk to you about emotional intimacy well that's a good sign that this person is good for you, but have in mind that emotional intimacy can be easily mistaken for friendship so don't be surprised if you get friend zoned, try to explain that it's not friendship that you are looking for but rather strong emotional bond and if you continue to build emotional intimacy with this person your feelings will become much stronger, and if that person doesn't understand any of that well it's better of not investing emotionally anymore, because later on it will be harder to move on from this person.
I asked around a bit and most people are against the idea of discussing those things before hand although there are plenty of benefits in my opinion, so it will be hard to find a person that is willing to discuss such things.
Maybe if you are on a speed date asking about such things won't be out of the ordinary and if the person you are talking to is EA he will very quickly understand why you are asking, will he agree on a discussion is another thing.
And well I have the problem of not wanting to have sex, even if I have physical attraction towards the person, and considering that in modern dating having sex on a first date is a must well I haven't even had a date up until now, well in modern dating you can't even have a 'serious relationship'(committed relationship) if you haven't done sex before hand, which by the way is much more convenient for people that are EU, and much more inconvenient for people that are EA.
And well most people are on the opinion that if you want to have strong emotional intimacy with another person you must have been with them for a long time in a committed relationship, and well to get to there you must first get thru sex.
So what I heard was, it is socially acceptable to have been into a relationship between 3 to 6 months before you discuss those things, but I'll tell you what you can be a therapist and have been in a marriage for almost a decade and still not have discussed each other's needs as stated in this video ua-cam.com/video/GaKYgc5oEFM/v-deo.html (What To Do When You Have A High Sex Drive And Your Partner Doesn't).
And one last thing I'm not 100% sure about that but when your partner is EU and you shower him with emotional intimacy the roles reverse the same partner starts to pull away from the idea of having sex with you because said partner feels embarrassed of having sex with someone who can express their emotions so freely.
Well I'll be really happy if I get some feedback from you, and a warning if you use what I told you to hurt someone I'm more than willing to share the bad karma with you.
Exactly 💯 how I feel. This is what I needed . Thank you!
I don't need anymore that others love me. Love YOURSELF.........is the " medicine" and it is Freedom!
And IT was at First nor so easy! Because as soon I die choose to love myself...wich means to fully accept every Part of me.....of course all the unloved parts showed up. Had to.
Thank you for that sentiment
Your a friend I want to hear more! Brilliant I connected 💥
Wow. Wow. Wow. That’s all I can say. Sincerely- THANK YOU for this video.
This has been many things so clear
Thank you so much for this video.
Love always remains just like the love of a mom and child when she carries in her arms.
When it comes to a man and woman relationship, I have noticed that the ones we love dont feel the same for us, and the ones we get love from , we dont feel same for them. They dont excite/attract us at all, we dont feel anything for them. What to do in that scenario???
@@just_a_woman-h9s Just like the love of a mom and a child even in the relationship of a woman and man is there the relationship will be always sweeter like a honey.
I'm currently working a job that I've been at for nearly 6 years, & recently I've had to do the job of multiple people (Like most other people nowadays). I do not compare myself to others & their struggles, but I've been having panic attacks & little t trauma caused from the job. I've realized that my job has triggered all of this. I am a social worker who helps people who've been arrested, & I've noticed that whenever I talk to & help people, I get this inner voice telling me "Now you have to save this person. You have to heal them. You have to do this work." & in my field I am so powerless to make the appropriate changes in their life that would solve their problems. I am not in a position of power to do the necessary changes. I've also come to terms that I do not want to help people anymore. Compared to the analogy of the full cup, my cup is damaged & has a hole in it. & when it comes to healing, usually you have to remove the thing that shouldn't be there BEFORE you start the healing. I realize that I need to quit my job & move onto my passion or some other sort of challenge. Would you (or anyone) consider this the wrong way to approach things?
Thanku universe, thankuu pink energy for the reconciliation ❤️❤️
I don't get much back unfortunately 💖💖 that's the truth.... Hoping to move to a better busier place, where there's more choices, more to do 🙏🙏❤️