If You're SINGLE & Can't Find DEEP LOVE In A Relationship - WATCH THIS | Jay Shetty

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КОМЕНТАРІ • 2 тис.

  • @kohsoksreypy1531
    @kohsoksreypy1531 3 роки тому +3539

    Staying alone is better than staying in a toxic relationship.

    • @oneonlygags6456
      @oneonlygags6456 3 роки тому +20

      Agreed☀️

    • @BK29111
      @BK29111 3 роки тому +12

      Koh Soksreypy what about the sex
      In that toxic relationship?

    • @lezysul
      @lezysul 3 роки тому +3

      🙌🏼

    • @mylove7461
      @mylove7461 3 роки тому +3

      @@lezysul you correct

    • @mylove7461
      @mylove7461 3 роки тому +2

      Agreed

  • @lalaapril99
    @lalaapril99 3 роки тому +1705

    I've been single for 3 years. Sometimes I feel so lonely, but I'm HAPPY.

  • @rabinneupane2542
    @rabinneupane2542 3 роки тому +1754

    Shoutouts to all SINGLES out there, including me 😂🤦‍♂️

  • @QuotesDailyBook
    @QuotesDailyBook 3 роки тому +1383

    *We all broke rules for someone and in the end they broke us*

    • @needsomedetoxforgate
      @needsomedetoxforgate 3 роки тому +15

      And that person is whom we trust and love

    • @user-ic7yz8hb7w
      @user-ic7yz8hb7w 3 роки тому +15

      No! If that what you believed in it means that what you'll attract in your live! Work on your thoughts change them and your reality will change.

    • @poonamprajapati6634
      @poonamprajapati6634 3 роки тому +1

      Right

    • @asing197
      @asing197 3 роки тому +6

      @@needsomedetoxforgate as long as trust and love is there it does not matter, but sometimes we were just manipulated to break all the rules for their convenience.

    • @harnoorsingh2866
      @harnoorsingh2866 3 роки тому +1

      Jay Shetty exposed
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  • @maribel3215
    @maribel3215 3 роки тому +927

    I'm 29 YO and I've been single since 2016. I don't have kids either. I do desire a relationship but I've learned some things from past relationships that have made me more cautious of who I let inside my life. I used to beg for love. I used to think that when I got the guy, I would be happy. I was wrong. I found, self love is what I needed. I'm still on the journey to self-love but I now feel better and happier. This doesn't mean I don't long for a relationship. I do, but I also feel okay not having one. So, if you are reading this and feel sad for a love reason, cry and let everything out. Just cry. Feel the sadness. Then, tell yourself that you are worthy of love and little by little lift yourself up.

  • @itssonam6538
    @itssonam6538 3 роки тому +809

    The problem I have is I have too much love to give and I expect the same back and end up dissapointed every damn time . Expectations hurt !!!

    • @kittyp8938
      @kittyp8938 3 роки тому +11

      The hicks call that : "looking for love in the wrong places."
      Check it out #AbrahamHicks

    • @sriv418
      @sriv418 3 роки тому +4

      Same here

    • @desperationno5
      @desperationno5 3 роки тому +5

      ...Expectation equals extraction...

    • @tonyhernandez1121
      @tonyhernandez1121 3 роки тому +5

      I am trying to get the book I ordered from Jay a couple of months ago " Think like a Monk pre ordered. I now want a second book with his autograph for a charity golf outing I run in memory of my wife who passed away from Leukemia in May of 2014. The money my team raises goes to The Leukemia Society for Research to help people with Blood Cancer and find a cure. The book will be part of our auction and will generate at least $100_150 or more. That is the average we have been getting for books on fiction. Your book and anything you add willguarantee us probably a lot more

    • @stephenkioko4205
      @stephenkioko4205 3 роки тому +2

      Same

  • @christinaa.4903
    @christinaa.4903 3 роки тому +717

    Emotional and spiritual level are so much more important than chemistry. Chemistry fades in the longterm.

    • @motazmohamed1646
      @motazmohamed1646 3 роки тому +21

      Spiritual is chemistry when two people connect by persona and consider themselves friends first and partners second that is more important if they're looking for longterm relationship because there are a lot of people who confuse emotions with sexual desires and attracted to looks before personal

    • @dougyeefresh87
      @dougyeefresh87 3 роки тому +4

      I don't think people realize they might not be emotionally connected to each other.

    • @motazmohamed1646
      @motazmohamed1646 3 роки тому +1

      @@dougyeefresh87 it depends on how much time they spend with each other that's why no one likes to rush to a relationship

    • @IvyMarieLove
      @IvyMarieLove 3 роки тому

      Hey Gorgeous Single Ladies! I’m looking speak to women who’ve been through the wringer with men, doing market research on why kind women keep attracting the wrong guys?! DM me please @ivymarielove to book a call?

    • @egierhethjer
      @egierhethjer 3 роки тому +1

      In the Video he went from shallow to deepest

  • @ilovegoddoyou7003
    @ilovegoddoyou7003 3 роки тому +368

    I pray those who reading this, Stay safe and stay blessed always. Amen

  • @emilyngo
    @emilyngo 3 роки тому +1136

    If you carry the bricks from your past relationship, you will end up building the same house ❤

  • @Gemelli2906
    @Gemelli2906 3 роки тому +424

    I think we’re brain washed into believing we need to be in a relationship. Im much happier without the added stress.

    • @carolw1624
      @carolw1624 3 роки тому +33

      I am too. Got my dogs and life is good. I admit it is exhilarating to be in the beginnings of a relationship but then it gets messy and emotional. Im happy to give up those first few weeks of excitement for long term peace and happiness on my own.

    • @Nokss87
      @Nokss87 3 роки тому +7

      Lies

    • @nicsa7152
      @nicsa7152 2 роки тому +11

      I agree to a certain extent. It’s nice and liberating being single. BUT I think that the older we get, the more we need to be with someone. It’s nice to have have someone to chat to when coming back home after a long day 🍀

    • @jayelino
      @jayelino 2 роки тому +1

      How did you find this video?

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 2 роки тому

      @@carolw1624 Apparently you weren't doing it right.

  • @milwaukeemotor5995
    @milwaukeemotor5995 3 роки тому +236

    "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth."

    • @milwaukeemotor5995
      @milwaukeemotor5995 3 роки тому +10

      love is a decision, choice, intention, an act of will

    • @Jmgray12
      @Jmgray12 3 роки тому

      Thank you for posting!

    • @andreea1352
      @andreea1352 2 роки тому +1

      Beautiful..I always think about this quote..and the truth a lot of people they don’t have any idea about love !❤️

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 2 роки тому +1

      Love has no religion

    • @user-ls4vs9kr6y
      @user-ls4vs9kr6y 2 роки тому

      Wow!! Wonderful!!

  • @MindNow
    @MindNow 3 роки тому +306

    *Love yourself first and then GIVE without expecting anything in return (very challenging)* 🙏

    • @wannanthakhan9233
      @wannanthakhan9233 3 роки тому +2

      Be​ voluntee​ and​ maid help​ be​ pround​ to​ support​.thing​s​ return to​ you​ or​ not​ it​ is​ not​ Issue.dare to​ do​ this?

    • @salamahmutair8199
      @salamahmutair8199 3 роки тому +1

      Exactly point noted

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому +2

      If I could punch every person who tells us to "love yourself first", I'd be a happy man...
      How the freak do you love yourself first when you need to be in a relationship to achieve your own validation as a man? How, big wise man?

    • @MindNow
      @MindNow 2 роки тому

      @@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier give me ur perspective 😊

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому +2

      @@MindNow I'm a man who sees giving good love and good sex as the only way to feel confident and validated as a man.
      Hard work took my parents from me, that's why I deny it as a means to validation. Being a tough guy is a lesson I never received, so I can't count it.
      Spiritually, I'm strong. But true spirituality teaches us to deny the flesh, which makes it not a tappable resource.
      Any tips?

  • @kcliam10
    @kcliam10 3 роки тому +336

    Most important is to fall into with ourselves first without this, we can't truly love another.
    I have spent the last 8 years falling inlove with myself and I never feel alone. I know the right person will come when I am ready and he is too.
    In the meantime I am having fun on the journey of this amazing life. Love to everyone. ❤

    • @joshpage3911
      @joshpage3911 3 роки тому

      So true 👌🙂

    • @AC-xl8sq
      @AC-xl8sq 3 роки тому

      SAME

    • @cathalcarolan
      @cathalcarolan 3 роки тому

      Beautifully put

    • @hurmatanjum4916
      @hurmatanjum4916 3 роки тому

      Same

    • @kymchu
      @kymchu 3 роки тому +3

      I'm near to 11 years on my own now (not counting the very brief dates and 1 recent LDR that lasted over 3 months over lockdown because of Covid19) LOL... It is much better to be on your own and self-source the love that's always inside of you first than seeking someone outside of you. Fill your Love Cup up first! :-)

  • @leslie7801
    @leslie7801 3 роки тому +70

    I’ve been single for 4 years after getting put of an abusive marriage of 20 years, and I’m the HAPPIEST I’ve been in years and so is my son. I admit I get lonely sometimes, wondering why a new soulmate hasn’t crossed my path BUT I’d rather be single than be with a toxic person ever again. when my ex husband belittled me in a public place In front of our 17 year old... my son said “mom, your a strong beautiful plus size full figure Proverbs woman, and If a man can’t see past your weight then he’s not for you.” and I know I deserve the best🦋

    • @Sona77.
      @Sona77. 2 роки тому +3

      I had an abusive bf who I was about to make my husband. It was so horrible, I commend your strength. I don't think people realize what abuse does to you, whether verbal, emotional, or physical. Sometimes all you need is yourself...relationships are overrated now

    • @greisyfernandez7353
      @greisyfernandez7353 2 роки тому +2

      Leslie, I hear you. What a lovely, empathetic and caring son you've raised. You must certainly be a beautiful person! 😊

    • @sharong8908
      @sharong8908 2 роки тому +3

      Your sons more a man then your hubby,

    • @richardsmith7696
      @richardsmith7696 2 роки тому +1

      Hi Leslie, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends??
      Lovely smile you got there on your profile picture, it can brighten up the most darkest atmosphere of any man’s world😉

  • @HTHTNT77
    @HTHTNT77 3 роки тому +358

    The reason I’m single is because I choose to be. I’ve felt more lonely being in the wrong relationship.

    • @marian7541
      @marian7541 3 роки тому

      I promise to treat you like a a queen 😘... Please text me through WhatsApp number I sent you 🙏🙏🙏

    • @marian7541
      @marian7541 3 роки тому +2

      Holly.. +2347025326075
      😍😍😍😍

    • @davidthomas7686
      @davidthomas7686 3 роки тому

      Hi, I'm David and you

    • @a.muchemi4360
      @a.muchemi4360 3 роки тому +6

      Be careful with 00234 is Nigerians Yahoo boys the only try to cheat and get money from their victims

    • @surajhanda9096
      @surajhanda9096 3 роки тому

      hi i would like to know u , looking for make new connections,, not asking ur number , i am in London.. even without asking number, lot of ways to connect,and spend time and go out.., i have been single for sometime now but most important is to find someone to talk to,, we can talk on insta messenger

  • @diamondunicorn2421
    @diamondunicorn2421 3 роки тому +78

    I’m finding there are so many broken traumatic individuals out here that it’s hard to find someone or be attracted to someone who is whole and healed. Trauma bonds seem to be the wave for relationships now. 🤦🏽‍♀️

    • @JJai-ec4hl
      @JJai-ec4hl 3 роки тому +13

      i dont even mind if someone had a traumatic past,( i also struggled with traumatic experiences), but i noticed that many dont care about healing, and about getting to know yourself emotionally better. And thats annoying me so much

    • @davidthomas7686
      @davidthomas7686 3 роки тому

      Hi, I'm David and you?

    • @keeplivingintruth
      @keeplivingintruth 3 роки тому +3

      You ain't never lying! Some people try to bypass working on themselves before jumping into a new relationship.

    • @lisajohnson6351
      @lisajohnson6351 2 роки тому

      Well maybe that is why we seek out relationships…to heal ourselves.

  • @djj6547
    @djj6547 3 роки тому +50

    im afraid because of the hookup culture casual relationship era ill never find my person

  • @ankitahalder8988
    @ankitahalder8988 3 роки тому +84

    I am single because I found deep love and peace within myself. Lol.

  • @thabita1466
    @thabita1466 3 роки тому +74

    The only thing i learned from broken hurts are .
    *Love & care self
    *Self development
    *Chase my dream
    *Be independent
    *Can stand alone
    *Consistent serving LORD.
    *FAMILY TIME
    *WORK
    *SOCIAL LIFE
    THATS ALL .

  • @ladennayoung2939
    @ladennayoung2939 3 роки тому +70

    It can be a blessing to be single. It can give you the time you need to heal and grow.

  • @scotlandream
    @scotlandream 3 роки тому +113

    Id rather be alone than deal with the drama of a relationship. Im ok with being by myself.

  • @shraddhaanand4536
    @shraddhaanand4536 3 роки тому +75

    From my point of view, being single means not dependent on others for our happiness.

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 3 роки тому

      Hi can we share whatsapp number for chat with

  • @AndyGinny1
    @AndyGinny1 3 роки тому +49

    I’ve been out of a 7 year relationship for around 1 year. it hurt for a while. But inevitably you heal from it. Now I’m starting to get worried about the addictive nature of solitude and being alone. I thought I’d struggle with it but it’s like a big comfy duvet of freedom and peace.

    • @jasonbryant497
      @jasonbryant497 3 роки тому

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    • @courtney8475
      @courtney8475 2 роки тому

      I enjoy being free after a toxic relationship but I fear of being alone. That feeling kills me.

  • @goldendreams8577
    @goldendreams8577 3 роки тому +42

    Those who are in love with themselves & the life they create never feels any void in their lives. Love yourself first!

  • @carolynhiatt338
    @carolynhiatt338 3 роки тому +212

    I'm single bcuz God's protecting me from all those damaged goods running around out there !

    • @susiedagruma9660
      @susiedagruma9660 3 роки тому +14

      I feel the same way ....hopefully we will be blessed soon with our soulmates ...they say that it happens when we least expect it!

    • @mattykay7852
      @mattykay7852 3 роки тому +3

      I’m hoping This is what’s happening to me
      Since last yr I’ve Been very unsuccessful
      Meeting someone
      I’ve been knocked back so many times
      I’ve never had a problem with woman in the past but now
      It’s been awful !

    • @khs3592
      @khs3592 3 роки тому +1

      Love it, so true I'm feeling the same now I've heard someone say it

    • @randyivan7151
      @randyivan7151 3 роки тому

      Same here

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 2 роки тому

      Narcissistic much?

  • @aditisingha5614
    @aditisingha5614 3 роки тому +78

    We all start our relationships with physical, financial and mental attraction but the best thing in a relationship to end that relationship with emotional and spiritual attraction ❤️❤️

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 3 роки тому

      Hi can we share whatsapp number for chat with me i

    • @JaysonT1
      @JaysonT1 2 роки тому

      Only women start relationships with financial. Guys don't give a shit about using your money.

    • @sachinkumar-st1gv
      @sachinkumar-st1gv Рік тому +1

      Relationship involves chemistry and compatibility where chemistry includes physical, financial and mental values. Compatibility includes emotional and spiritual values. Unfortunately nowadays folks looks for chemistry and forgets about compatibility and hence divorce rates increased or relationship doesn’t work in today’s world. Thus, I am still single and alone but it’s okay 😂

  • @samysamy2921
    @samysamy2921 3 роки тому +124

    People thinks that being happy in a relationship is being with someone pretty, huge body hot powerful successful or someone good in bed sometimes all u just need in a relationship is that person who doesn't have all of it but makes u feel u can fly someone who makes feel comfortable and safe around them

    • @joansheekey9874
      @joansheekey9874 3 роки тому +2

      Yur so right lady in what yu say rell are some men make yu feel yur not good enoufe yu couled be pretty and lovely person in and out side still yur doing something wrong story off my life

    • @samysamy2921
      @samysamy2921 3 роки тому +6

      @@joansheekey9874 I just pray that someday you find someone who will know your worth and will love you for who you are not for wat you can give

    • @missrelaxed3872
      @missrelaxed3872 3 роки тому +1

      You are sooo right about this

    • @aspirant9303
      @aspirant9303 3 роки тому +1

      @@samysamy2921 You are so right best wishes.

    • @harmony1910
      @harmony1910 3 роки тому +1

      All you said are important components in a relationship!!

  • @ashphoenix5269
    @ashphoenix5269 3 роки тому +77

    It’s difficult for people who have gone through a lot of emotional trauma to figure out the right person among many of them being toxic narcissists ! And it’s mainly very difficult for the most kindest and sensitive people ! But the lucky ones are those people who finally are blessed with

    • @w8what575
      @w8what575 3 роки тому +2

      Exactly...

    • @rozgomes5537
      @rozgomes5537 3 роки тому +3

      I'm going through the same. Narc ex UGH. I hope you're healing

    • @ashphoenix5269
      @ashphoenix5269 3 роки тому

      @@rozgomes5537 yes trying my best to ......thnx for concern😊hope yu heal too♥️

    • @roberthowell2502
      @roberthowell2502 3 роки тому +4

      Amen, My Narcissist Experience was Unforgettable,
      But God took her out my life and I am back to being a Happier Man of God at Peace😇
      Married to Jesus!!

    • @rishumishra2050
      @rishumishra2050 3 роки тому +1

      You're f*****right ! ... I'm so innocent and sensitive. I fell in love with a girl wildly and was even ready to cut my wrist and watch it bleed for her. I gave my 100%. I swear to god I did. She broke my heart. We broke up this morning. She made a terrible excuse. It was all online.

  • @BellevueGrl27
    @BellevueGrl27 3 роки тому +53

    I've been single for eight years, no one wants anything to do with me. Honestly, at this point, I'm so used to being on my own, I wouldn't know what to do if I did have someone.

    • @iamvaibbhavchachad24
      @iamvaibbhavchachad24 3 роки тому +3

      im single for 11 years

    • @davidthomas7686
      @davidthomas7686 3 роки тому

      Hi, I'm David and you? Please we chat. I promise I will make you happy. Love ❤️

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 3 роки тому +1

      BellevueGrl27,you are a precious 🌹🌹🌷🌷 being,I think you deserve better

    • @jawoalieu5743
      @jawoalieu5743 3 роки тому +1

      I'm single for over so many years.. but the most painful single is that I'm not with my parents.. And that's the biggest sad things I got in my lifetime...

    • @mattykay7852
      @mattykay7852 3 роки тому

      Me too !
      I’ve been knocked back heaps over the last yr
      It seems like no one wants me either
      Pfft!

  • @LulaS
    @LulaS 3 роки тому +108

    The key to a successful love relationship is giving, receiving and giving back in return. ❤️❤️❤️🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽

    • @stevetaylor5428
      @stevetaylor5428 3 роки тому +2

      yep

    • @renatosiqueira5175
      @renatosiqueira5175 3 роки тому +5

      that's it, man, so much selfishness out there...

    • @Gentile3234
      @Gentile3234 3 роки тому +2

      Absolutely ‼️❤️❤️❤️🙌🏾🙌🏾
      Stay Blessed Always ‼️‼️‼️

    • @LulaS
      @LulaS 3 роки тому +2

      Gentile3234 Thanks a lot! You too 👍🏽❤️🙌🏽

    • @aradithas6381
      @aradithas6381 3 роки тому +2

      What if we are only the givers

  • @kreesnakatoni
    @kreesnakatoni 3 роки тому +126

    Jay Shetty keeping me sane this quarantine.

  • @ankur.singhs2111
    @ankur.singhs2111 3 роки тому +52

    My 5 year relationship gf just left me saying that I am toxic. I went into depression for some months, but I stood up and now I am on a journey to glorify and improve myself in terms of physical, mental, skills and everything else in life. I wish she have all the happiness in life. God bless.

    • @prateek.arora.
      @prateek.arora. 3 роки тому +2

      I'm so sorry to hear that. Stay strong man! And take care of yourself More! Jay said the 3 E's we have to keep working on is Exercise, Eat & Energy of the People we surround ourself with. He said it in 7 ways Breakup doesn't have to break you podcasts I guess or Being friends with your ex.

    • @needsomedetoxforgate
      @needsomedetoxforgate 3 роки тому +5

      @@prateek.arora. at least she had reason behind the break up , my gf left me just because she lost interest in me plus she was not even sure about the reason . I was sad but I was worried about other things at time so I had shaken my head and moved on and now I think about that whatever happened with me, was a stroke of luck now I feel better cuz I know my worth

    • @poonamprajapati6634
      @poonamprajapati6634 3 роки тому +4

      My 7 years relationship my bf left me without telling me the reason why he has done this. I were in depression for more than a year. But now I feel better working on myself. We never know what will happen next all we have to do is just accept everything that happens to us.

    • @joansheekey9874
      @joansheekey9874 3 роки тому +1

      Isten yur a good person nó body shouled hurt yu like this yur a goid lady god bless yu ❤️❤️❤️🙏🙏🙏🙏

    • @poonamprajapati6634
      @poonamprajapati6634 3 роки тому

      @@joansheekey9874 thank you

  • @gretakrajauskaite1579
    @gretakrajauskaite1579 3 роки тому +95

    I'd rather feel lonely for the rest of my life, then live through another heartbreak, I'm done 💯

    • @coryturner9140
      @coryturner9140 3 роки тому +11

      I feel the same way. The only thing worse than a breakup after investing you’re entire soul, is dying a slow death!

    • @chingyfl2tx793
      @chingyfl2tx793 3 роки тому +6

      Have you tried nutella?

    • @vishalsteyn2131
      @vishalsteyn2131 3 роки тому

      Hiii

    • @ashaale3605
      @ashaale3605 3 роки тому +8

      Ikr 😔when u give another chance just to be proven wrong in thinking they're all the same...and in the end, it happens the same...or worse 😔

    • @gretakrajauskaite1579
      @gretakrajauskaite1579 3 роки тому +7

      You never know what to expect from another person, so you give it all and then they leave, so what's the point really, people around get divorce all the time, people staying married when there's no love. I'd rather stay alone and do my soul searching

  • @altafischer3948
    @altafischer3948 3 роки тому +22

    I had it all and was left alone with our child a decade ago. You have givers and takers. It's affected my health. I'm such a good, loving, caring, understanding and spiritual person seeking someone to love me for who I am. I'm turning 50, I've never ever felt so alone and unloved. Saying no to toxic people and narcissist, oh my word, you are the constant target.

    • @braveheart2657
      @braveheart2657 3 роки тому +7

      Alta, I understand. I am 3 years out from a 15 year marriage to a psychopath. He cheated and smeared new toxic supply in my face. I threw him out and filed for divorce. I found myself in an unending nightmare. As hard as this is, you were blessed that the narcissist left you and your child. Co-parenting is not easy. It is better now that I have detached emotionally and have taken my power back I have done some real soul searching as to why and how this all happened. I needed answers. It is in this that I finally came to the knowledge of what I have been dealing with my entire life, starting with my family. I was raised in a narcissistic abusive home. I also came to the knowledge of who I am... A super empath. I realized that I had been conditioned from am early age to ignore red flags and to accept abuse. I also realized that I needed to quit searching for a man to love me and validate me... I needed to to this for myself first. I needed to heal on all levels and know my worth. I am in a good place now and would love to find a man to compliment me. I will not settle or tolerate any disrespect. I am okay with being single as I love myself more. I wish you much happiness. ❤️ Xx

    • @jagdish_s_Vigilance
      @jagdish_s_Vigilance 3 роки тому +2

      @@braveheart2657 somewhere someone is in need of u💖❣️💖

    • @davidthomas7686
      @davidthomas7686 3 роки тому

      Hi

    • @oscarwilliamson1264
      @oscarwilliamson1264 3 роки тому

      Alta Fischer,you got a smile that can make the news!

    • @shayniekluth3250
      @shayniekluth3250 3 роки тому

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  • @himal_pillay
    @himal_pillay 3 роки тому +48

    At it's highest level, love is when you are connected spiritually! But I believe that you can totally build up to that. Build it day by day 🙏🏽

  • @SeptemberDrenaRP
    @SeptemberDrenaRP 3 роки тому +46

    Let us love our Jesus first and He'll do the rest...I can do all things through Christ who strengthen me❤🙏

  • @sakatube4136
    @sakatube4136 2 роки тому +5

    Singles are legends please keep this legacy alive i am so proud of you.

    • @fra93ilgrande
      @fra93ilgrande 2 роки тому +2

      😎🤟🏻 you're welcome, I'm almost 29 and single forever

  • @seamusmcfitz913
    @seamusmcfitz913 2 роки тому +6

    Love is being in awe.
    I look for someone:
    1) with strength of character;
    2) a good heart; and
    3) who is kind
    Simple.

    • @johnwilliams1506
      @johnwilliams1506 2 роки тому

      Are you having troubles in your relationship
      or marriage or your partner just broke up with you!
      here is the solution for you❣️..

    • @johnwilliams1506
      @johnwilliams1506 2 роки тому

      WhatZapp him .

    • @AmandaMG6
      @AmandaMG6 2 роки тому +1

      May be simple but also RARE

  • @flyhigh412
    @flyhigh412 3 роки тому +38

    I've bn single 20plus years now , every once a year I travel the world for 30 days holiday 👌👌👋👋👋

  • @annaikonocampbell
    @annaikonocampbell 3 роки тому +211

    Being single is a luxury 😌💅🏼& relationships are overrated.

  • @iamme7092
    @iamme7092 3 роки тому +22

    Thanks for this, now i know that im really a normal person and proud to be single and will never gonna settle for less.😍😊

  • @capishban
    @capishban 3 роки тому +38

    Sometimes people don't love you ,they love you just because you love them

    • @ryanbarker3978
      @ryanbarker3978 2 роки тому +1

      Those people don't love you, they love your attention and validation.

    • @angelflora8468
      @angelflora8468 2 роки тому +1

      @@ryanbarker3978 exactly 💯 If they knew we love more than ourselves.they also love us automatically. Some attention seekers can't give that pure love back.

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому

      I've genuinely loved so many women in my past and couldn't get them due to past trauma. I understand how it feels to be ready to embark on a relationship even without initial love. It's just that our love tanks are leaking and spilling... And empty...

  • @mariacaballero116
    @mariacaballero116 3 роки тому +7

    I haven't given up on love, but I've surrendered to divine timing. I have so much love to give but I'm tired of mind games and non-committal men. I'll keep working on self love and pray I meet my long lasting person soon.

    • @richardsmith7696
      @richardsmith7696 2 роки тому

      Hi Maria, it’s nice meeting you here.. I’m Richard by name, it would be nice getting to know you better, if that’s ok with you? My mom once said good friends are never too much to have. if you don’t mind, can we be friends?

  • @WebbVentureTV
    @WebbVentureTV 3 роки тому +7

    If you do your soul work it will attract your equivalent soul mate. Work on yourself first and foremost: validate the past, heal from it, but also acknowledge it will travel with you but it does not have to define you or the next relationship. You can love another while you learn to love yourself. you can heal with another while they too heal, but you must do the soul work to find the compatibility that Jay talks about. So good!

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому

      How does one start then? We can no longer do it alone, we're constantly running en empty.

  • @TaKyraDivine
    @TaKyraDivine 3 роки тому +8

    I came for relationships and got even more. The part of how to be compassionate and not just being a people pleaser! ✨

  • @drakkar_night3346
    @drakkar_night3346 3 роки тому +6

    0:01-0:30 he’s got a good point. Earlier relationships help you learn from the mistakes. Every relationship is a new start. Different scenario. Each situation and person is different. Not a one glove fits all. Keep your experiences but understand that not one situation is the same. Not all men/women are cheaters and want to hookup. Trust the process and grow. If you’re skeptical, you need to let go. A few bad habits, I can tolerate because I appreciate and love uniqueness in the other person. That person who doesn’t appreciate me in my worst, doesn’t deserve me at my best because I appreciate them unconditionally. With all their flaws, so I expect the same.

  • @montanabobcat2366
    @montanabobcat2366 2 роки тому +6

    The older the harder to find love or soulmate. I give up. I’m going just to focusing improving myself and make my life better. Life is too short to waste on someone else.

  • @ashmorningstar2780
    @ashmorningstar2780 3 роки тому +46

    Its so true... I do feel insecure because i got cheated on...

    • @Opheliaamasah
      @Opheliaamasah 3 роки тому +2

      Sorry 😨

    • @missd2939
      @missd2939 3 роки тому +3

      Sorry to hear that

    • @mitchaelcybil5530
      @mitchaelcybil5530 3 роки тому +3

      Me too yet l gave him wat l never gave any dude in my life

    • @confidentguy1727
      @confidentguy1727 3 роки тому +4

      Bro......your were not there at the time that happend with you... don't know why she does but she will feel regretful... so it's better to forgive your partner... and whatever the thoughts come to mind relate to this it is bullshit... be patient with her... yes make rules that she will not do... and i am sorry to hear that this happend with you in a relationship... stay strong... And it is not the solution by leaving her... As everyone are same... But love and rules and with time everything will be good... Just forgive her brooooo ❤👍🏼

    • @neelapatel4957
      @neelapatel4957 3 роки тому +2

      Ashish,
      Heal and move on. Remember all five fingers are different. Don’t speculate based on your past experiences - there are very nice people out there, not everyone cheats and plays around.
      Good luck.

  • @katespade3580
    @katespade3580 3 роки тому +3

    I had bad marriage and relationships for long time, I wasn't happy, totally forgot about myself,who I'm. But for last 6 yr I'm my own believe I'm so happy, peaceful, and best thing is u love myself and enjoying every single moment of my life ♥️♥️♥️

  • @sheila5795
    @sheila5795 3 роки тому +6

    BRILLIANT.... it is ok to have boundaries with giving and receiving compassion. WOW... over giving depletes energy! I need to learn that protecting yourself is not only ok...but healthy and necessary THANK YOU FOR SHARING YOUR WISDOM

  • @shaquillejohn771
    @shaquillejohn771 3 роки тому +33

    One of most meaningful conversations you hear 2020... Thank you Jay shetty making wisdom go viral...

    • @shaquillejohn771
      @shaquillejohn771 3 роки тому

      I love your book by the way

    • @shaquillejohn771
      @shaquillejohn771 3 роки тому

      Keep inspiring young and old individuals become more than they think they are.

  • @saranibhattacharya2849
    @saranibhattacharya2849 3 роки тому +35

    I dunno, I always liked to stay single. I usually am good with people but I don't like to get into a relationship🙈

  • @PracticalInspiration
    @PracticalInspiration 3 роки тому +20

    Can't complain with a double dose of Jay this morning!! I've seen the whole interview and it's just fantastic, really recommend people watch it on Lewis Howes channel!

  • @louistazvivinga1713
    @louistazvivinga1713 3 роки тому +2

    I'm 19 and I'm watching and it has changed my life so much. I hope to be on another level when I'm older

  • @nkrumansantos1794
    @nkrumansantos1794 3 роки тому +10

    Most people miss one key point.
    Relationships is not about love.
    Relationships is more about sharing and caring.
    You establish a relationship with someone, the moment you start sharing and taking care of them.
    Relationships is not about the other. It’s more about how we want and keep giving what we know we want to share.
    Love does not come from being in a marriage or dating or one night stands.
    Love is the result of sharing and taking care for someone that is already inside our hearts. Not for what the other done. But for our genuine choice and decision to care and share.

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому

      How fulfilling loving someone you no longer can be in a relationship with, actually is? Even if you love that person genuinely and sincerely and wish her the best in life, even when it means not you?
      It's true love I think, but what's the point?

  • @parfecto7716
    @parfecto7716 3 роки тому +11

    It's impossible to find a person to match all 5 points. Period.

  • @sharynrosa5403
    @sharynrosa5403 3 роки тому +6

    The truth is that NOT everyone we would want won't fall in love whit you , it's sad but is truth . Not everyone has feelings to love you " everybody knows how to want you but NOT everyone knows how to love .

  • @Alhan_Rushda
    @Alhan_Rushda 3 роки тому

    This conversation has so much of meaning, value n a gem in every line said. Tht I paused, rewind n listened it again n again. N got me to comment here to applaud this great talk. Marvellous!

  • @TarannumKhatriCA
    @TarannumKhatriCA 2 роки тому +1

    Always learning something from Jay. Keep posting and writing.
    Read your book think like a monk. Literally changed me a lot.

  • @nevanread
    @nevanread 3 роки тому +12

    There is nothing in this world that is going to change my view on relationships with women my age. I have had nothing but negative experiences. So I have decided to stay single for the rest of my life and to keep my money in my pocket, because in my view relationships are a waste of money. I was taught from a young age that money is extremely valuable.

    • @tranquility9325
      @tranquility9325 3 роки тому

      Well I am past 40 and we will leave that there lol. I'm 5"10 and womanly on top. Males in all of their extreme horniness get stuck on the physical. Then they go deeply into Operation Get Her Naked mode.
      They have no sexual self control. It's ok to be attracted to the physical. My problem is, they get stuck there like a juvenile and cannot function outside of that attraction.
      Or, they think bec we are nice we are easy to manipulate. I can be nice. I can also snap on someone if they need it. So they need not assume anything just because they think I'm nice.
      Then there are tons of narcissists everywhere. They gravitate towards empathic ppl. Like moths to a flame.
      None of those scenarios are conducive to me being attracted to any of them.
      I don't give a rat's ass about someone's money if he is a narc or just place misogynistic for whatever reason, I'm noping out of that.
      A guy in medical school wanted to marry me.
      He knows it looks good on paper to be married.
      He had zero interest in me getting to know him as a person. Zero. I don't get turned on by servicing his needs while he ignores mine.
      So yeah, it's much easier to be alone.

  • @ABEDEL06
    @ABEDEL06 3 роки тому +12

    "Compassion is about intention, it's not about the result" wow you are putting words on thoughts that I have had for a while but can't express. Have bought your book, cant wait to start reading it. Love you Jay ❤🌹🙏

  • @kellymba1378
    @kellymba1378 2 роки тому

    Thank you, Jay, I have been always genuine in how I express my emotions towards people, but then I have learned that you are free to show love and compassion to people but you do not control how they received it.

  • @veronaaguilar7063
    @veronaaguilar7063 3 роки тому +1

    Rewatching your videos is a must for me because it reminds me of the genuine me and my values. Thank you very much for creating this kind of videos. God bless you and your family always!

  • @orvanadawn6015
    @orvanadawn6015 3 роки тому +6

    When I was younger I looked at relationships as a way to validate myself over the course of time I broke my heart many times and slowly I learnt about self worth . I'm 30 now and single but now I'm confident people are attracted to me , they compliment me and want to be my friend , I can deal with disappointments, I'm whole I'm complete and independent .Now I'm finally ready for a healthy relationship 😊

  • @sakshiarora1356
    @sakshiarora1356 3 роки тому +7

    Now a days expectations are so high in a relationship. I think being in a relationship is so difficult because they expect u to be prefect like they think

  • @Elcirculodepoder
    @Elcirculodepoder 3 роки тому

    the last part about compassion is just game changer to me. Thanks a lot! Blessings dear

  • @bobate6030
    @bobate6030 3 роки тому +1

    For someone such as myself going thru a divorce, I have to agree with Jay Shetty.

  • @orlandoflores72
    @orlandoflores72 3 роки тому +10

    This is why relationship are so complex to understand and in the top of that, the complexity of a womans emotions make everything more sensible and fragile.
    Better be single no commitment no attachment just friend.

  • @kerry-anne39
    @kerry-anne39 3 роки тому +4

    Self-protection is self-compassion💕

  • @derciafernando1905
    @derciafernando1905 2 роки тому +2

    I agree with all types of love. My personal experience about acts of service, I never help anybody expecting anything in return. I am not a people pleaser. Im very introvert and those who dont know me think I am mean because I am kind a quiet person.
    I agree with him about being overly compassionate. People take advantage of you and keep on asking non stop

  • @geraldineselvakumarigeorge3137
    @geraldineselvakumarigeorge3137 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much Jay. You explained everything perfectly. That's how I feel. No need to be a people pleaser. Don't help grudgingly. Don't expect rewards if done something from the heart. So glad I watched your video 😍👍

  • @malikvanrheede4151
    @malikvanrheede4151 3 роки тому +3

    Being single is peaceful, I just love being alone, focusing on myself 💯👌

  • @vishnumano9682
    @vishnumano9682 2 роки тому +6

    Whether single or married, both decisions have their challenges. Thanks Jay. Well explained

  • @SuperKingemperor
    @SuperKingemperor 3 роки тому +1

    True wisdom. Changing the mindset. This is powerful! Thanks for the explanation!

  • @nehabharti6888
    @nehabharti6888 Рік тому

    So wonderfully explained with that life jacket example. Thankyou!!

  • @kisabel028
    @kisabel028 3 роки тому +4

    Amazing wisdom!! When I first heard it on the podcast I was like “WOW I’m mentally taking notes on this.”

  • @lydianicole872
    @lydianicole872 3 роки тому +6

    Being single while aging is a different whole story,I still wonder why true love is so hard to find those days,men run after women for selfish reasons,have loved,disappointed,used thn end up heart broken I pray one day God sends me love that I deserve

    • @PreetisParadise
      @PreetisParadise 2 роки тому

      Exactly. Same here

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому

      I'm in that spot right now, am aging man looking for love for maybe selfish reasons. Please tell me : what makes me an evil person, a bad mate, a person whose love seems toxic, acid and poisonous?

    • @AS-kc4mg
      @AS-kc4mg 2 роки тому

      @@S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier bro you come as desperate lmfao

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому

      @@AS-kc4mg its was one month ago...

  • @hanzlearningsolutions21
    @hanzlearningsolutions21 2 роки тому +1

    You are approaching each person with the baggage of the last person. Wowwwwww....powerful.

  • @yakhoubabdelaziz5712
    @yakhoubabdelaziz5712 3 роки тому +19

    Give and don't expect something back, 'cause not everyone knows to return service. By giving and without expecting something back we gonna make a wonderful world. Let's do together.

    • @seemranhoro1572
      @seemranhoro1572 3 роки тому +1

      True!❤

    • @devithio3723
      @devithio3723 3 роки тому +1

      I like your statement

    • @yakhoubabdelaziz5712
      @yakhoubabdelaziz5712 3 роки тому

      @@devithio3723 thanks thousands

    • @user.netizen11
      @user.netizen11 3 роки тому +1

      Body is purified by water, self(nafs) is purified by tears, intellect is purified by knowledge, and the soul is purified by love.
      ~ Imam Ali(A.S)

  • @jamesmwaura2549
    @jamesmwaura2549 2 роки тому +4

    First of all you need to love yourself before you love someone else.

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому

      And how the freak do you that, wise head?

    • @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier
      @S.M.Jean-Mahmoud_Ier 2 роки тому +1

      I want to punch people who say this as of now... It's seriously the single most annoying thing to hear when you suffer from a total absence of love and hate your past...

  • @k.c.b868
    @k.c.b868 3 роки тому +96

    The “host” is killing me. Stop interrupting!

    • @donenlovenit
      @donenlovenit 3 роки тому +3

      Omg yes and when he folded the book...😒

    • @titusjefferina3090
      @titusjefferina3090 3 роки тому +2

      Annoying!

    • @patriciapaquette9270
      @patriciapaquette9270 3 роки тому +2

      OMG yes. I had to force myself to get through entire video because of him. It is so rude and he does it constantly.

    • @gvprince
      @gvprince 3 роки тому +1

      He is too self involved and very annoying.. I would have watched this great content in a much better mood if not for his constant nagging!

    • @Nokss87
      @Nokss87 3 роки тому

      Like, close your mouth

  • @vipulkanherkar8009
    @vipulkanherkar8009 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much for posting this video, it made us realise basic things which we were unintentionally overlooking ❤️

  • @NCardude
    @NCardude 3 роки тому +2

    This is really good especially the bit on compassion and what it really means and how to show it while maintaining healthy boundaries. People pleasing/external validation seeking is a disease nowadays.

  • @renitasingh6989
    @renitasingh6989 3 роки тому +6

    All of my relationships have ended because I got past the first three phases (Chemistry) and realized there’s no Emotional and Spiritual connection (comparability). We need to find balance in everything we do.

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 3 роки тому

      Hi can we share whatsapp number for chat with me

  • @lwontherez7927
    @lwontherez7927 3 роки тому +5

    Another way I like to say it is... You can’t give what you don’t have. (-whether it’s financially, emotionally, mentally, socially, physically, or energetically.)

  • @ayandankosi6310
    @ayandankosi6310 3 роки тому

    I'm loving Jay Shetty so much on this topic.

  • @phillyfan-182
    @phillyfan-182 3 роки тому

    Videos like these are the reasons why I love Jay Shetty

  • @Sparkles649
    @Sparkles649 3 роки тому +6

    5 types of attraction
    Physical
    Financial
    Mental
    Emotional
    Spiritual
    1st three are chemistry
    Last 2 are compatibility

  • @zalvus7392
    @zalvus7392 3 роки тому +10

    Have not watched the video, but I'm just here to let you know the reason why I'm single is because I want to be. Have a nice day.

  • @MrWolverine23i
    @MrWolverine23i 3 роки тому

    Your words always heal me, Thank you Jay!

  • @poemsandstoriestoremember7082
    @poemsandstoriestoremember7082 3 роки тому +2

    I wholely agree that most people search for someone based on the first 3 chemistries. But I know for a fact including myself that wealth would not be my #2. My #2 is spirituality, my#3 emotional. My#1 matches yours. I am single and love the freedom I've experience in being single. I learned and practice self love continuously. I want a relationship, a partner to grow with. I believe when the time is right the person God has for me will come but until then I am living my life to the fullest. I found my purpose and the joy I found in doing my purpose allowed me to fill a gap that I once thought I needed a man for. I never thought my happiness was in another human . I knew there was something I could excel in that topple over the cup of love I have to give. My cup runneth over in my purpose and helped me see that I am okay with or without someone. Collective find your purpose and be overwhelm with joy from something that belongs to you. Loving yourself is the beginning to loving someone else. When we learn to love ourselves and how we want to be love we set healthy boundaries for others to love you.

  • @milan4ever
    @milan4ever 3 роки тому +41

    Still single after 6 years because I’m looking for someone who will tick all 5 boxes

  • @tony-persuasionsecrets3363
    @tony-persuasionsecrets3363 3 роки тому +15

    Take Massive Actions!!!

  • @jillwylie6767
    @jillwylie6767 3 роки тому

    I agree with this. Toxic people can destroy you. If you allow it to get out of control

  • @MillieMillie33
    @MillieMillie33 3 роки тому

    Such great advice. Best talk I've heard from Jay.

  • @ANKITKUMAR-sv9qt
    @ANKITKUMAR-sv9qt 3 роки тому +15

    Love from India shetty sir🙏🙏

  • @CeylonIshh
    @CeylonIshh 3 роки тому +26

    The first to be here.this one is so accurate to mee.soooooo meeeeeeee
    And plus i have never been in a relationship cuz of being afraid it won't work out in a better way.maybe im searching for a one that lasts life time.😊

    • @arpitsri9631
      @arpitsri9631 3 роки тому

      Hi can we share whatsapp number for chat with

  • @eliavgordon2108
    @eliavgordon2108 Рік тому

    I have to watch this a few times while taking notes ! This is pure balanced wisdom !

  • @angeladennison412
    @angeladennison412 3 роки тому

    Loved watching how do you listen to him and your response as to things that you have experienced but the nice thing is as you can see that you are still willing to learn about the one thing that we all want thank you for this interview

  • @maryannconroy9372
    @maryannconroy9372 3 роки тому +3

    Love yourself first ❤