I am a questioner....and I firmly believe that there is nothing wrong in doing a little bit of research :-)....but analysis paralysis is a very real thing !
Me too, but sometimes I feel that Rebel vibe too, and I can find Obligers and Upholders annoying as hell if they are too uptight or worry wart, micromanager/ co-worker police types. I'll do it, buy only if it suits my plans and goals, don't like busy work, but there again, will do it if it suits my plans....I do like to gather data and I do like to find loopholes if needed, ad well as effective shortcuts. Needless to say, Upholders and Obligators get annoyed with me sometimes. They think I am "overthinking" things or being too needy for information. The Rebel in me says "F-you...as long as I'm succeeding at tasks I WANT TO DO my own way, then mind your own business" ...lol...Yes. I have issues with Obligers, but know alot of awesome people who are in fact Obligers at wk and let's be honest, even though we can annoy eachother when crap hits the fan and protocols can fix it it's usually the Upholders and Obligers extension we hit first. When it comes to needing more creative work arounds or making a tough decision against the protocol grain for the good of the many...it's the Questioners and Rebels that get rung up.
I’m rebelling against my given personality type: Rebel. I genuinely think I’m more of a questioner. I wish it gave you percentages like the Myer-Briggs test.
*Rebel* At school when i was 14 we were asking each other what do you want to be when you grow up ? And I said: DOCTOR. I can't forget one of my classmates who always got high grades said to me you can't become a doctor just because of my grades !! Now I AM alhamdulillah.
Yes we all have the mayority of the caracteristics display in each tendecie, but the trick here Is not if you have the caracteristics, Is What caracteristics are more prevalant in you in most of your daily situations, the way you "tend" to react More often with What life presents to you
I wouldn't say it's a mix, except in cases like, say, an Obliger is often thinking of other ways he/she can do something (Questioner tendency); Rubin made this system pretty straightforward.
Me:*gets obliger* Also Me: *starts questioning the result* Still Me: *remembers that I took the test because this channel told me to* Still Me: Well guess its right after all, lol.
I'm a rebel. I struggle a lot with deadlines and forcing myself to do something. But when, I just chill and don't pressure myself, I suddenly start becoming productive. Also, another real factor that helps me grind is when people think that something is hard and a lot of people fail in doing it, I always feel challenged not to be "one of those people" who failed because I love excluding myself and thinking I'm just like the other people.
This video is okay, in my opinion. I think you focused too much on determining the type-which can be figured out in 2 mins using the quiz in the description-and not enough on detailed, utilitarian methods to improve based on personality type. I think that, generally, your videos are the opposite.
I'm also a Rebel. But I often doubt myself because of my procrastination, but seeing all of the Rebels accomplish great heights, I feel good and I feel that I can do my best.
I’m definitely a questioner. For example, I’m taking organic chemistry this semester and I’m trying to learn exactly how to study for it. I’ve been watching your videos about how to actively study, and trying to absorb and learn the most efficient way to learn and succeed. Regardless of how difficult this class may be, that doesn’t stop me from wanting to learn exactly how I can be efficient and succeed.
Got Upholder and it's scarily accurate. I love having a routine and when something disrupts it, I go on with life but it feels wrong. I adapt well, but it's really difficult for me to shift things around when I didn't originally want/plan it that way...
I took this test and while I was taking it I kept thinking the questions were too narrowly scoped and wondered how they could define my personality...surprise! I got questioner and now my life makes sense haha
I got Obliger, but also fit very well into the category of Questioner, so I think this has the most value to me by saying I am a mix between the two. Most of all, I am just terrified of commitments and meeting expectations and have developed a very mean inner voice towards myself over the years which results in a tendency to self-sabotage and that's why I'm sitting here watching this video instead of studying. Only the faintest hope of freeing myself from my personal hell and growing out of the toxic traits of my personality, keeps me going. And I WILL get there!
I got Rebel on the quiz.. it's sad because it's true, I'm currently struggling to study and my exam is after tomorrow, I don't know how to fix this, making a plan and sticking to it is so hard for me, and I don't know why.. I just never stick to plans..
Abdulrahman Albayati same... I only study for my med exams the morning of... at least I passed all but one of them 😁 and I haaattee going to class... so I've skipped most of them... oh well...
I got questioner. I can totally agree with that but I've been moving closer between being a questioner and an upholder. Used to be an extreme questioner. As an opinion, I see having both the Upholder and the Questioner as a good combination for me. It gives me enough flexibility to change while being determined in a good habit. Intermittent fasting is actually a good habit if you're planning to lose fat (based on personal experience for about half a year now). I'm planning to become a surgeon and these videos really help alot in whether or not I should commit on this. One of the questions that gave a HUGE impact on me was the "What are you willing to suffer for? ". Thanks for the videos dood, hope to see more and God Bless!
@@Somebodyelse141 This is where I am right now. I feel like everything is tearing up in my life, specially the academics. I just cannot sit down and get to study anymore because I don't see any sense in that
@@chipsa9002 Feeling exactly like that right now... can't study at my desk because I don't feel like it's good anymore for me... I've experienced the burnout the first semester of my second year at uni and again right now... don't know what to do
I'm an obliger and when I study for exams, it helps me stay on track when my classmates expect me to solve a certain amount of old questions for them or help make a study guide. In the end, even if I do a lot of work, I usually remember more than if I just do it for myself.
jep true, you'll always tell yourself: "tomorrow is a new chance", but nothing happens because your inner motivation to change is like 0,0. You can tell yourself you want to change but in reality you don't actually believe in a different lifestyle.
@@dorian8058 that's so true... I'm so frustrated. specially when I'm trying to motivate myself and stuggeling and then someone ask me to do it. And I even want less....
I got upholder. I completely agree, I’m mostly driven by my perfectionistic tendencies, anxiety and I enjoy impressing others sooo sticking to routines and getting stuff done is easier for me than having to think about what I’m doing multiple times a day, because that wastes time and energy.
I took the test and I am an obliger. It's funny how accurate it is! I struggle a lot with keeping up good habits (like sports, reading etc.) but I'm terrified to let other people down. I tend to rebel when I feel that I am not respected or that too much is asked of me.
People like you are adding more value to the world , making it a better place to live You viedeos have really helped me in knowing so many important things So thanks for your efforts
I'm a questioner, and I clicked on this video because I wanted as much information on how to change my nature as possible before deciding for a course of action. I took notes, then merged the information back into the giant mindmap I created to model human physiology (especially mine) to find out what I should do and not forget all the stuff I see on this topic. Edit: I just realized that the mindmap I created is a GIGANTIC manifestation of analysis paralysis. But how do I make myself follow a course of action if I cannot convince myself that it is worth following (because doing so would take forever)?
I am a psychology student, and I think you could model these different behavioral tendencies using the big 5 personality model. For example, the rebel would be low agreeableness, the obliger would be high Agreeableness
I'm a big questionner haha. I relate soo much to analysis paralysis and when you said that you can even find a rationale to not keep with a good habit haha. Thank you for making me conscious about this !
I'm on the obliger rébellion stage and I'm working my way out of it. Trust me, it was a miserable year, so try to not to get at this point. But if you do, rest assured, your life will only get better now and you yourself have changed for the better. With Covid-19 I can't believe how much I have changed and I feel that I finally am working towards my dreams
I think the four types correclate to what judging function you use in mbti /cognitive functions. Upholders = Te users Questioners = Ti users Obligers = Fe users Rebels = Fi users
I was wondering about this too, but it doesn't line up for me personally. I'm an INTJ and an obliger but I know a couple Ti people who are flaming questioners so there could be a correlation.
Rebel. The best thing I've caught is that you can live great with any type, but you need to understand yourself and others to increase your quality of life. Thank you!
I don't like The Four Tendencies model because it is unsupported by science. Also Gretchen Rubin has no qualifications that I know of other than being a writer. I agree with the essence of the idea though, knowing how your personality works is essential to becoming successful.
I don't think questioning the existence of something that has no evidence other than an author (who has no background in psychology) saying they exist is as much a personality trait than common sense.
According to the test i'm an obliger. Self i recognize myself more as a questioner. From the product buying research, both big purchases as simple grocery shopping. I also have the "either the best or nothing" attitude that holds be back at times.
I'm a questioner. I got so much tired from deadlines and homeworks last week and I was very, very stressed. Especially, I have so much analysis-paralysis that I'm afraid of failure when doing Physics sums. Perfectionism is a major quality.
R E B E L Yes, nobody believed in me- Every one thought of me as an just girl who is reckless and is distractive But my rebel tendency led me to be in TOP 3 in my class and I actually did it by minimal efforts
I'm an obliger and right now I'm deep into obliger-rebellion. I spent all day trying to figure out what's wrong with me, to the point I considered I'm faking my depressive feelings to have an excuse to be lazy. Thank you for helping me to understand myself better.
All 4 tendencies can be explained through the Big Five personality traits. Upholder is high in thread conscientiousness and neuroticism, fairly high in thread openness to experience. Questioner is very high in thread openness to experience and he is not high in thread agreeableness (so whatever from medium to bottom). Obliger is NOT low in conscientiousness, neuroticism and agreeableness. Rebel is very low in agreeableness. I am a questioner so i know. ;)
I think it can also be explained by MBTI or Myers Briggs... maybe idk all I know if for my type.. I'm a Rebel, INFP and type 4w3... I love these things cuz I rrly wanna get to know myself but once its accurate for me I dont rrly care if anyone else says if its accurate or not 😂😂😂
It’s more related to the cognitive functions of mbti. I can see that each of the four types are directly related to these cognitive functions: Upholders = Te users Questioners = Ti users Obligers = Fe users Rebels = Fi users
Rebel: -independent and deeply empathetic -restless energy channeled towards work -routines are main area of focus and success. Nailed routine equals happy time poutines - resistance through success. Rebellious liberality allows unique interpretations and insights
maybe if you identify as an obliger but got a rebel, you took the test just in that "Obliger rebellion" phase. At least, that's my hypothesis, because that's my situation as well
I'm mostly a rebel but an stern obliger too sometimes because I liked my gf a lot and her parents didn't like the idea of a relationship so she just asked me to break up and I keep my promises above my life so, yeah it's been a year, I bet she still likes me too because she was the one who had a crush on me 😂😂😂😂 I got a BIG crush on her when I got to know her 😂😂😂
Most definitely a Questioner. Definitely explains why my grades were quite bad until I changed my program to something I felt to be more meaningful and worthwhile. Also why I COULD NOT get along with my last boss. Her rules made no sense and when I'd ask why we were doing something the way we were, she'd say, because that's what we're doing and I said so. I feel like it must be very important for questioners to do work they believe has value and meaning. I don't know what I'd do if I were stuck in a job doing work I didn't believe in.
At first I thought I was a questioner, then an obliger, but none of them really fit in and so, my final result was rebel. Which makes perfect sense! Time to dive deeper 👏👏
I got rebel. And that explains a lot. I never liked to bind myself in any level, even if it was for personal reasons. Unfortunately, this leads to sabotage me a lot of times during life. And why? Because everytime that I founded something that I really liked to do, I usually go foward to it... Until someone notice that, and starts to encourage me. It happened at least three times, on professional field, where someone gave me opportunities and I always just lost the interest in that thing and screwed up everything. I never understood why I was like that. But now it makes more sense, and I am glad to found this. Its good to know our weakness and now I can work from there.
Yes! It depends on the environment that you are in, i guess. Like when I was in eight grade I was an upholder then as I grew older i switch between questioner and rebel lmao
I was on an obliger rebellious phase last semester too. It was so hard to comply with all the pressure in college to the point that i dont go to some of my classes anymore bec of anxiety. But what helped me get through that phase was self expression. I started drawing and writing. I realized that i just needed an outlet. I started to talk to a friend too about my struggles. Do not keep your emotions to yourself. Cry when you need too ;-; (also it may be out of the topic/shameless promo but... try watching Stray Kids' music videos. They helped me get through that phase. They make really inspiring music. I recommend Grow Up and Mixtape#2. Turn on english cc too. I swear you wont regret it :) Take care! )
This is great!!! Rebel lol Everyone telling me I'm too old for med school, to finish to switch careers. It's only fueling my passion. Really funny everyone saying the right way to study is at a desk. I do it meditating, sleeping and lying in bed when I wake up, dancing. People the best way to understand concepts is general to hard. I learn the overall concept first , most complicated then backward to basic. I only non conform at work when I know I'm getting taken advantage of, I'll do it better and my way to help people better. Example you can't do trigger point therapy, you have to charge for every modality. I know they are paying me too less and overcharging people so I don't charge them extra just because. This all makes sense now!! I'm def going to take this course!
I have taken the 4 tendencies quiz twice. First time, it said I was a rebel. Plausible. But I took it again and tested as a Questioner - which makes perfect sense. Some of the tips brought out for questioners I have already been doing in some capacity -- just now I am able to see the connection to my study life.
Rebel. I resonate a lot with it. I always hated people telling me what to do and I despise deadlines. Anything that feels like it has to be done at all or by a certain time/in a certain way feels so restraining to me, which is really holding me back sometimes. While I'll do things out of spite, no problem. Ugh
I got questioner. I realized that as I took the test and then went over the results that I had to explain to myself why it was asking what it was and how the handful of questions contributed to the overall results so that I could accept them. I have never taken a personality quiz that I felt was so accurate and now I am sending it and this video to friends and family.
Interesting! Thanks for sharing! I wonder if such tendencies change over time or perhaps overlap as we get more life experience. Also, I wonder if those personality traits would affect specialty choice for med students lol!
I’m a questioner, probably with a sprinkle of rebel as well. I like to have many sources of motivation for me to get things done, things like habit tracking or rationalising why I should do the task, or a good example to emulate or a bad example to distance myself from. I find it the easiest to get things done when I know my methods have been optimised to give me a high yield, and I have something clear, and worthwhile to work towards.
I GOT REBEL! OMG NOW IT MAKES SENSE! I always got INTJ/ENTJ on MBTI and it comes with no surprise that I like organizing, planning, and scheduling. What I always don't understand is why it often feels SO HARD to follow through on those routines/deadlines, even when there are people counting on me. People have told me I took my time with work, often finishing at the last minute or sometimes missing a deadline. But even then it didn't really occur to me that I did something fundamentally wrong or gave a worse performance in any way. When they started to tell me that it makes me look unprofessional and unmotivated, that's when I snapped and started finishing work earlier and keeping my promises more LMAO
My struggles are the same… however, no matter how often people are disappointed with me finishing something last minute or say “being late” is unprofessional, they’ve come to expect it from me and I’ve gotten comfortable 🤦🏻♀️ I also recently got diagnosed with ADHD, something you may want to consider if peer pressure is no longer enough to motivate you.
Jolene Mylan Young Very well said. But the thing with these "personality type" tests is that you will just confuse your mind or think of yourself as something you may or may not be. I'm not saying it's wrong but people have different opinions, point of views, etc. so the bottomline is that, these "personality types" are kind of nonsense because no matter how people think of you or how you think of yourself it is still you who will decide what you really are. Maybe I'm completely wrong with the things I've said, but again, it is just my point of view. "I think therefore I am" René Descartes.
I’m 100% a questioner. I always look up different exercises to best fit me and every product I buy I do (too much) research on each. Also, the Rocketbook Notebook on Amazon is pretty useful.
Questioner here. I just realized how much I question things. I've been thinking too much of a *topic* for my science project. I'm questioning what's best for the science project.
I took this quizz a while ago and got rebel. I have to say that it's not very easy and anxiety around feeling forced or constricted to do tasks makes me procrastinate SO much. I really struggle with routine and organizing, despite being suspected ASD and on a waiting list to see a doctor about it, so routine is something I thrive under but also makes me really horribly sad and anxious. My partner is also constantly enfuriated that I ask for an opinion and then my brain suddently switches and I do the exact opposite, even if the thing they said is what I wanted to do. This includes both fairly large and painfully minor decisions.
Me when I saw this video in my recommendations: Wait a sec! They're telling us our personality based on our hogwarts houses?! Me at the end of the video: Ok. I was wrong. But atleast there was hermione...? This is actually a good video, though.😂😂
Very interesting. I can see family members clearly described in each personality tendency. I feel like cultural and experiences in my family upbringing and school made me become an obliger. But it feels awful sometimes to strive to meet everybody's expectations when failing to meet own personal goals you want so hard. You feel bad about that being a little perfectionist and not fulfilling your own stuff, and when you rebel a little bit about too much imposed on us, there is sense of guilt that comes about having failed to others. It's not a nice thing to have a tendency to be like people-pleasing, even when you know others may be wrong. We need to learn to set boundaries, obligers.
I got Rebel and I really notice that every time I tell me to do something in a sort of commanding tone, my whole body wants to resist and therefore I couldn't get anything done in the past. The funny thing is when I tell myself "I will definitly not do this" and don't allow myself to do it, then I want to do it! :) So I use this technique now.
I'm an obliger, and I can definitely see it. I get things done whenever I've got someone behind my back watching over me. Though it's not black or white, there's definitely exceptions to this behavior. I've never had any trouble getting myself to study, for instance. I always study alone, it works much better for me.
As a questioner, I've tested out this thing. I've noticed that if I set my intentions/ to-dos/ goals the night before, I just glide into my studies the next morning. Also, I get sleep answers, so if I set my intentions the night before, I think about them all night. Questioner= be intentional!
I like to put in some logic and reasoning to my choice, if someone says I can’t do something that I know will benefit me I will, I do what must be done whether it’s tasks from myself or someone else, I am a great leader and tend to do lots of work by choice, I love to help others and do what they need me to do as long as it is efficient in my schedule. I am none and all of the tendency’s and I don’t need a test to tell who I am because I’m me. Others should take my advice and be inspired by the fact that categories cannot define you, only you can be defined by who you are. So ask yourself, who are you?
I an a Rebel. I always do things that people say I cannot do.. I've always proved that and I'll keep proving it in the future as well. And I do resist doing things untill it is proven to me by myself or by someone else that it is a good thing to be done..Of course, I need to work on the weakness which is totally true🙈🙈🙈
I have just taken the quiz first before watching this video in full. I am a Questioner. Which this result is spot on!! I have been a questioner (I am very curious/inquisitive and love to research information) my whole life since I was a toddler and I am now age 34 going on 35 this year 2019. I remember my late Mommy telling me a memory of when I was around age 2 which I would constantly question things then I would decide what I wanted to do. Thank you so much for posting this, now I will watch the whole video. :) Watching the video, I can see that Upholder and Obliger results would fit me too because I love organization, structures and rules and I notice these describe how I have been taking my notes while at University (I have returned to University for a career change, I am a USAF Veteran). But the Upholder tendency is not helpful with my memory and comprehension with studying because I have been recently diagnosed with Dyslexia (my struggles are memory and comprehension) so I am watching UA-cam videos to learn about different note-taking strategies that would work best for me. Rebel result kicks in for me when I am struggling with a task so I will my best to achieve it. But my Questioner result is what fuels my drive so I do question and decide how I want to do my studying but I have been told by a lecturer that I need to listen to what she has suggested on how to learn the study material.
used to be a rebel when my parents used to motivate me negatively but realize i'm more of an in between of an obliger and a questioner because i'll do things when ppl ask me to and I love having myself go through different routines to find the best way to do something
My other video on personality tests: ua-cam.com/video/1ycNtfy1f34/v-deo.html
Questioner or upholder?
Upholder
Upholder
Med School Insiders I guess you are REBEL...
Years later, do you still stand by this? @medschoolinsiders
Got Rebel. Guess I will have have to start rebelling against this personality now. Thanks a lot.
Tell me the way if it worked for u 😁
I'm the exact opposite!
You just opened a pandora box
Yeee a e eeeee
🤣🤣
I am a questioner....and I firmly believe that there is nothing wrong in doing a little bit of research :-)....but analysis paralysis is a very real thing !
Ikr I am also a questioner.
analysis paralysis is the reason i never turn in essays.
I can never start something because I need it to be perfect before I do anything.
Me too, but sometimes I feel that Rebel vibe too, and I can find Obligers and Upholders annoying as hell if they are too uptight or worry wart, micromanager/ co-worker police types. I'll do it, buy only if it suits my plans and goals, don't like busy work, but there again, will do it if it suits my plans....I do like to gather data and I do like to find loopholes if needed, ad well as effective shortcuts. Needless to say, Upholders and Obligators get annoyed with me sometimes. They think I am "overthinking" things or being too needy for information. The Rebel in me says "F-you...as long as I'm succeeding at tasks I WANT TO DO my own way, then mind your own business" ...lol...Yes. I have issues with Obligers, but know alot of awesome people who are in fact Obligers at wk and let's be honest, even though we can annoy eachother when crap hits the fan and protocols can fix it it's usually the Upholders and Obligers extension we hit first. When it comes to needing more creative work arounds or making a tough decision against the protocol grain for the good of the many...it's the Questioners and Rebels that get rung up.
I’m rebelling against my given personality type: Rebel. I genuinely think I’m more of a questioner. I wish it gave you percentages like the Myer-Briggs test.
*Rebel*
At school when i was 14 we were asking each other what do you want to be when you grow up ? And I said: DOCTOR. I can't forget one of my classmates who always got high grades said to me you can't become a doctor just because of my grades !! Now I AM alhamdulillah.
Heck yehhh :)
alhamdulillah sis,proud of you
Ride with the mob.
tht fire in u let u do this!!! sometimes this is the best part of life....
Congratulations!
I’m an obliger and pretty much sure that every obliger struggles to be an upholder
same..
I am one too! I always thought there was something wrong with me but now I feel good about being an obliger
Same
True
yes
I think we have mix of all of these tendencies but it depends on the situations it varies in work than from homework, habits
Exactly, I'm all of these!
Yes we all have the mayority of the caracteristics display in each tendecie, but the trick here Is not if you have the caracteristics, Is What caracteristics are more prevalant in you in most of your daily situations, the way you "tend" to react More often with What life presents to you
Well that's why it's called a "tendency" isn't it?
No way. I am a rebel. 100%
I wouldn't say it's a mix, except in cases like, say, an Obliger is often thinking of other ways he/she can do something (Questioner tendency); Rubin made this system pretty straightforward.
Me:*gets obliger*
Also Me: *starts questioning the result*
Still Me: *remembers that I took the test because this channel told me to*
Still Me: Well guess its right after all, lol.
😂This is exactly how I was thinking about it when i got obliger
sameeee!!!😂😂
I took it because I wanted to
Thatss meee
"break good habits through logic" oh god, that's literally my inner dialogue every time i procrastinate lol
Exactly! “Oh, I always study, taking a break can help me focus later on.”
I'm a rebel. I struggle a lot with deadlines and forcing myself to do something. But when, I just chill and don't pressure myself, I suddenly start becoming productive. Also, another real factor that helps me grind is when people think that something is hard and a lot of people fail in doing it, I always feel challenged not to be "one of those people" who failed because I love excluding myself and thinking I'm just like the other people.
This video is okay, in my opinion. I think you focused too much on determining the type-which can be figured out in 2 mins using the quiz in the description-and not enough on detailed, utilitarian methods to improve based on personality type. I think that, generally, your videos are the opposite.
Totally agree..They should make separate videos on study tips for each personality types..That would be Uber helpful
That’s what the book is for
2:53 upholder
4:42 questioner
7:00 obliger
8:50 rebel
My result was obliger
And by the way you are welcome
Thank you
what classic obliger behavior to post the timestamps for us... as a fellow obliger, lol, i thank you!
I see what you did there..
Seems fitting that a obliger did something so helpful.
Its in the description btw haha but thanks anyway
"Watch me " was what i said to my professor in 12th
Now i am doctor
Guess what i got REBEL
Congrats!🎉 Year late though
Bullshit
@Love or Leave! cringe
I'm also a Rebel. But I often doubt myself because of my procrastination, but seeing all of the Rebels accomplish great heights, I feel good and I feel that I can do my best.
@@mashoali9147 me too :)
I’m definitely a questioner. For example, I’m taking organic chemistry this semester and I’m trying to learn exactly how to study for it. I’ve been watching your videos about how to actively study, and trying to absorb and learn the most efficient way to learn and succeed. Regardless of how difficult this class may be, that doesn’t stop me from wanting to learn exactly how I can be efficient and succeed.
I am a questioner. Not gonna lie though, I wish sometimes I was an upholder. Especially after you described how they form habits easily.
wwhy would you lie
Got Upholder and it's scarily accurate. I love having a routine and when something disrupts it, I go on with life but it feels wrong. I adapt well, but it's really difficult for me to shift things around when I didn't originally want/plan it that way...
Me too. I will read every line in a book and waste a lot of time.
same...
I took this test and while I was taking it I kept thinking the questions were too narrowly scoped and wondered how they could define my personality...surprise! I got questioner and now my life makes sense haha
I got Obliger, but also fit very well into the category of Questioner, so I think this has the most value to me by saying I am a mix between the two. Most of all, I am just terrified of commitments and meeting expectations and have developed a very mean inner voice towards myself over the years which results in a tendency to self-sabotage and that's why I'm sitting here watching this video instead of studying. Only the faintest hope of freeing myself from my personal hell and growing out of the toxic traits of my personality, keeps me going. And I WILL get there!
I got Rebel on the quiz.. it's sad because it's true, I'm currently struggling to study and my exam is after tomorrow, I don't know how to fix this, making a plan and sticking to it is so hard for me, and I don't know why.. I just never stick to plans..
Abdulrahman Albayati same... I only study for my med exams the morning of... at least I passed all but one of them 😁 and I haaattee going to class... so I've skipped most of them... oh well...
@@khadhija7 how do you pass seriously? Work on that. One of these days it will bite you in the but
@@khadhija7 what are your studying tips
You won't succeed anyways.
Just give up, fool.
Same here. My exams are approaching and I never study what I plan to.
I got questioner. I can totally agree with that but I've been moving closer between being a questioner and an upholder. Used to be an extreme questioner. As an opinion, I see having both the Upholder and the Questioner as a good combination for me. It gives me enough flexibility to change while being determined in a good habit. Intermittent fasting is actually a good habit if you're planning to lose fat (based on personal experience for about half a year now).
I'm planning to become a surgeon and these videos really help alot in whether or not I should commit on this.
One of the questions that gave a HUGE impact on me was the "What are you willing to suffer for? ".
Thanks for the videos dood, hope to see more and God Bless!
Same here man
I'm an obliger but I'm trying to be more of an upholder. I experienced "obliger burnout" last semester. I like having a name for it
I think I'm an obliger too... What is this obliger burnout like for you?
@@mmt1575 giving up on everything I care about because I feel stretched thin and unsupported
i think i am an obliger too bcs i try to be an upholder
@@Somebodyelse141 This is where I am right now. I feel like everything is tearing up in my life, specially the academics.
I just cannot sit down and get to study anymore because I don't see any sense in that
@@chipsa9002 Feeling exactly like that right now... can't study at my desk because I don't feel like it's good anymore for me... I've experienced the burnout the first semester of my second year at uni and again right now... don't know what to do
I'm an obliger and when I study for exams, it helps me stay on track when my classmates expect me to solve a certain amount of old questions for them or help make a study guide. In the end, even if I do a lot of work, I usually remember more than if I just do it for myself.
You are clearly a Questioner
I am an obliger
Ayeee you edited this! Cheater 😂 (jk.)
M. Aktham yea me too but i don't think i really am like that 🤔
I'm a Rebel. That's just sad, because I want to change and do a lot of things, but I just can't. I get so frustrated with it.
jep true, you'll always tell yourself: "tomorrow is a new chance", but nothing happens because your inner motivation to change is like 0,0. You can tell yourself you want to change but in reality you don't actually believe in a different lifestyle.
@@dorian8058 that's so true... I'm so frustrated. specially when I'm trying to motivate myself and stuggeling and then someone ask me to do it. And I even want less....
Same bro
I got upholder. I completely agree, I’m mostly driven by my perfectionistic tendencies, anxiety and I enjoy impressing others sooo sticking to routines and getting stuff done is easier for me than having to think about what I’m doing multiple times a day, because that wastes time and energy.
I took the test and I am an obliger. It's funny how accurate it is! I struggle a lot with keeping up good habits (like sports, reading etc.) but I'm terrified to let other people down. I tend to rebel when I feel that I am not respected or that too much is asked of me.
People like you are adding more value to the world , making it a better place to live
You viedeos have really helped me in knowing so many important things
So thanks for your efforts
I'm a questioner, and I clicked on this video because I wanted as much information on how to change my nature as possible before deciding for a course of action. I took notes, then merged the information back into the giant mindmap I created to model human physiology (especially mine) to find out what I should do and not forget all the stuff I see on this topic.
Edit: I just realized that the mindmap I created is a GIGANTIC manifestation of analysis paralysis. But how do I make myself follow a course of action if I cannot convince myself that it is worth following (because doing so would take forever)?
I am a psychology student, and I think you could model these different behavioral tendencies using the big 5 personality model. For example, the rebel would be low agreeableness, the obliger would be high Agreeableness
As a lazy person... I'm a Rebel
I'm a big questionner haha. I relate soo much to analysis paralysis and when you said that you can even find a rationale to not keep with a good habit haha. Thank you for making me conscious about this !
Never in my life I thought I'd be a rebel. But then I checked your video and it made sense. Also recently, I've found my calling. Now WATCH ME.
I'm on the obliger rébellion stage and I'm working my way out of it. Trust me, it was a miserable year, so try to not to get at this point. But if you do, rest assured, your life will only get better now and you yourself have changed for the better. With Covid-19 I can't believe how much I have changed and I feel that I finally am working towards my dreams
Why am I not surprised at getting
“Obliger”
I think the four types correclate to what judging function you use in mbti /cognitive functions.
Upholders = Te users
Questioners = Ti users
Obligers = Fe users
Rebels = Fi users
I was wondering about this too, but it doesn't line up for me personally. I'm an INTJ and an obliger but I know a couple Ti people who are flaming questioners so there could be a correlation.
Rebel. The best thing I've caught is that you can live great with any type, but you need to understand yourself and others to increase your quality of life. Thank you!
I took the quiz before watching the video. It says I am a Questioner. And it describes me accurately. My mind is blown!
I don't like The Four Tendencies model because it is unsupported by science. Also Gretchen Rubin has no qualifications that I know of other than being a writer. I agree with the essence of the idea though, knowing how your personality works is essential to becoming successful.
Not Squirrel questioner or rebel
I don't think questioning the existence of something that has no evidence other than an author (who has no background in psychology) saying they exist is as much a personality trait than common sense.
Definite questioner.
You’re a questioner bro. Or a Scientologist. Or an atheist. Or vegan.. one of those..
That's fair but law still has little to do with the topics she writes about.
According to the test i'm an obliger. Self i recognize myself more as a questioner. From the product buying research, both big purchases as simple grocery shopping. I also have the "either the best or nothing" attitude that holds be back at times.
I'm a questioner. I've been starting to see this as a positive recently but I'm still working through bouts of analysis paralysis. Loved the video!
I'm a questioner. I got so much tired from deadlines and homeworks last week and I was very, very stressed. Especially, I have so much analysis-paralysis that I'm afraid of failure when doing Physics sums. Perfectionism is a major quality.
Rebel, rip
Vulvatr0n420 same I’m doomed
Same...
Being rebel kinda sucks
Bet u won't get passing grade on the next test. Disagree? Prove me wrong then
Same :(
R E B E L
Yes, nobody believed in me-
Every one thought of me as an just girl who is reckless and is distractive
But my rebel tendency led me to be in TOP 3 in my class and I actually did it by minimal efforts
I feel ya
I just feel like I’m not good at getting good grades anymore:’( and ur grades & everything u do is perfect Dr.Jubal u really are goals
I got questioner and after reading the overview on the website, I realised how accurate it was
I did the quizz and got Questioner, which I can definitely acknowledge, but I have most Upholder traits as well, so I guess I'm a mix of both
This video was SUPER informative......Great job doctor!! Also, I'm an upholder.
Oooooooo up holder wow. I wish I was an upholder
It's scary how accurate questioner is for me omg. now I know what to improve on and i’ll research more on questioners study tips. Thanks!
This is so interesting because I find find ppl I know who fall exactly into all 4 categories, I'm personally an upholder
Te (xxTJ) & Si (xSxJ): Upholding
Fe (xxFJ): Obliging
Fi (xxFP), Se (xSxP), Ne (xNxP): Rebelling
Ti (xxTP) & Ni (xNxJ): Questioning
Well i am xxFJ but included Questioning
Why should this be useful?
I'm a questioner. I just realized that people are wired differently.
Awesome Video Keep it Up :D
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I'm an obliger and right now I'm deep into obliger-rebellion. I spent all day trying to figure out what's wrong with me, to the point I considered I'm faking my depressive feelings to have an excuse to be lazy. Thank you for helping me to understand myself better.
Upholder, I decided to watch one of your videos everyday in my spare time, they're extremely useful and well made.
All 4 tendencies can be explained through the Big Five personality traits. Upholder is high in thread conscientiousness and neuroticism, fairly high in thread openness to experience. Questioner is very high in thread openness to experience and he is not high in thread agreeableness (so whatever from medium to bottom). Obliger is NOT low in conscientiousness, neuroticism and agreeableness. Rebel is very low in agreeableness.
I am a questioner so i know. ;)
I'm also a questioner, but those are very low for me in the Big 5
I think it can also be explained by MBTI or Myers Briggs... maybe idk all I know if for my type.. I'm a Rebel, INFP and type 4w3... I love these things cuz I rrly wanna get to know myself but once its accurate for me I dont rrly care if anyone else says if its accurate or not 😂😂😂
I'm a rebel but I score high in agreeableness. Something tells me it's more complicated.
Is there a good book or other resource on the Big Five? I am struggling to find anything past the basic definitions
It’s more related to the cognitive functions of mbti. I can see that each of the four types are directly related to these cognitive functions:
Upholders = Te users
Questioners = Ti users
Obligers = Fe users
Rebels = Fi users
I honestly feel like I’m an equal mix of the first three.... will take the test and see which one prevails
I was CONVINCED that I’m an obliged, took the test TWICE and both times it told me I’m a rebel. Lol. Can’t argue with that😭
Rebel:
-independent and deeply empathetic
-restless energy channeled towards work
-routines are main area of focus and success. Nailed routine equals happy time poutines
- resistance through success. Rebellious liberality allows unique interpretations and insights
Already knew I was an obliger, took the test, and I still am.
According to the quiz, I'm a rebel, however I believe Im somewhere between an obliger and a rebel.
You sound like a questioner
maybe if you identify as an obliger but got a rebel, you took the test just in that "Obliger rebellion" phase. At least, that's my hypothesis, because that's my situation as well
I'm mostly a rebel but an stern obliger too sometimes because I liked my gf a lot and her parents didn't like the idea of a relationship so she just asked me to break up and I keep my promises above my life so, yeah it's been a year, I bet she still likes me too because she was the one who had a crush on me 😂😂😂😂 I got a BIG crush on her when I got to know her 😂😂😂
I am an upholder. Make a lot of sense why I look and read the textbooks so much and doing all the work in group projects. At least I know now.
Most definitely a Questioner. Definitely explains why my grades were quite bad until I changed my program to something I felt to be more meaningful and worthwhile. Also why I COULD NOT get along with my last boss. Her rules made no sense and when I'd ask why we were doing something the way we were, she'd say, because that's what we're doing and I said so.
I feel like it must be very important for questioners to do work they believe has value and meaning. I don't know what I'd do if I were stuck in a job doing work I didn't believe in.
Me: thought I would get rebel, but I got questioner??
Also me: *questions my results, does a bunch of research on the tendencies* oh...
I also feel like an amalgamation of these two, roughly
I'm kinda all 4 but i'm mostly rebel and very little obliger
I am going to join med school this august!
Jervis Gamer may god have mercy on your soul 😂
Nali Alm lol ikr
At first I thought I was a questioner, then an obliger, but none of them really fit in and so, my final result was rebel. Which makes perfect sense! Time to dive deeper 👏👏
I got rebel. And that explains a lot. I never liked to bind myself in any level, even if it was for personal reasons. Unfortunately, this leads to sabotage me a lot of times during life. And why? Because everytime that I founded something that I really liked to do, I usually go foward to it... Until someone notice that, and starts to encourage me. It happened at least three times, on professional field, where someone gave me opportunities and I always just lost the interest in that thing and screwed up everything. I never understood why I was like that. But now it makes more sense, and I am glad to found this. Its good to know our weakness and now I can work from there.
lmao i got rebel and it’s too accurate
Can a tendency change to another ?!
M. Aktham Probably, personality isn't fixed after all
Yes I think so. I was more of an upholder as a kid and now I am an Obliger with an overlap with Questioner. Currently in obliger rebellion phase :(
Yes! It depends on the environment that you are in, i guess. Like when I was in eight grade I was an upholder then as I grew older i switch between questioner and rebel lmao
I was on an obliger rebellious phase last semester too. It was so hard to comply with all the pressure in college to the point that i dont go to some of my classes anymore bec of anxiety. But what helped me get through that phase was self expression. I started drawing and writing. I realized that i just needed an outlet. I started to talk to a friend too about my struggles. Do not keep your emotions to yourself. Cry when you need too ;-; (also it may be out of the topic/shameless promo but... try watching Stray Kids' music videos. They helped me get through that phase. They make really inspiring music. I recommend Grow Up and Mixtape#2. Turn on english cc too. I swear you wont regret it :) Take care! )
I think so. I think if I did the quiz two years ago I'd be an obliger, but now I'm a rebel.
This is great!!! Rebel lol Everyone telling me I'm too old for med school, to finish to switch careers. It's only fueling my passion. Really funny everyone saying the right way to study is at a desk. I do it meditating, sleeping and lying in bed when I wake up, dancing. People the best way to understand concepts is general to hard. I learn the overall concept first , most complicated then backward to basic. I only non conform at work when I know I'm getting taken advantage of, I'll do it better and my way to help people better. Example you can't do trigger point therapy, you have to charge for every modality. I know they are paying me too less and overcharging people so I don't charge them extra just because. This all makes sense now!! I'm def going to take this course!
I have taken the 4 tendencies quiz twice. First time, it said I was a rebel. Plausible. But I took it again and tested as a Questioner - which makes perfect sense. Some of the tips brought out for questioners I have already been doing in some capacity -- just now I am able to see the connection to my study life.
I’m a questioner
Questioner! And maybe transitioning into Rebel lol
Rebel. I resonate a lot with it. I always hated people telling me what to do and I despise deadlines. Anything that feels like it has to be done at all or by a certain time/in a certain way feels so restraining to me, which is really holding me back sometimes. While I'll do things out of spite, no problem. Ugh
I got questioner. I realized that as I took the test and then went over the results that I had to explain to myself why it was asking what it was and how the handful of questions contributed to the overall results so that I could accept them. I have never taken a personality quiz that I felt was so accurate and now I am sending it and this video to friends and family.
I'm a questioner. You mentioned Myers Briggs, do you know your type and if so which one is it?
Med School Insiders No surprise there, you’re pretty hardcore.
I'm a questionner and I'm an INFP, INFJ
Interesting! Thanks for sharing! I wonder if such tendencies change over time or perhaps overlap as we get more life experience. Also, I wonder if those personality traits would affect specialty choice for med students lol!
I’m a questioner, probably with a sprinkle of rebel as well. I like to have many sources of motivation for me to get things done, things like habit tracking or rationalising why I should do the task, or a good example to emulate or a bad example to distance myself from. I find it the easiest to get things done when I know my methods have been optimised to give me a high yield, and I have something clear, and worthwhile to work towards.
I GOT REBEL! OMG NOW IT MAKES SENSE! I always got INTJ/ENTJ on MBTI and it comes with no surprise that I like organizing, planning, and scheduling. What I always don't understand is why it often feels SO HARD to follow through on those routines/deadlines, even when there are people counting on me. People have told me I took my time with work, often finishing at the last minute or sometimes missing a deadline. But even then it didn't really occur to me that I did something fundamentally wrong or gave a worse performance in any way. When they started to tell me that it makes me look unprofessional and unmotivated, that's when I snapped and started finishing work earlier and keeping my promises more LMAO
My struggles are the same… however, no matter how often people are disappointed with me finishing something last minute or say “being late” is unprofessional, they’ve come to expect it from me and I’ve gotten comfortable 🤦🏻♀️ I also recently got diagnosed with ADHD, something you may want to consider if peer pressure is no longer enough to motivate you.
I'm like a combination of a questioner and a rebel. Is that possible?
Tobias I'm INFP
It's totally normal to be more than one. We're humans, we don't just fit into one box; we're usually a combination of things.
Jolene Mylan Young Very well said. But the thing with these "personality type" tests is that you will just confuse your mind or think of yourself as something you may or may not be. I'm not saying it's wrong but people have different opinions, point of views, etc. so the bottomline is that, these "personality types" are kind of nonsense because no matter how people think of you or how you think of yourself it is still you who will decide what you really are. Maybe I'm completely wrong with the things I've said, but again, it is just my point of view. "I think therefore I am" René Descartes.
im an obliger
I’m 100% a questioner. I always look up different exercises to best fit me and every product I buy I do (too much) research on each. Also, the Rocketbook Notebook on Amazon is pretty useful.
Questioner here. I just realized how much I question things. I've been thinking too much of a *topic* for my science project. I'm questioning what's best for the science project.
Definitely a questioner lol no wonder why I'm always asking "why?"
I took this quizz a while ago and got rebel. I have to say that it's not very easy and anxiety around feeling forced or constricted to do tasks makes me procrastinate SO much. I really struggle with routine and organizing, despite being suspected ASD and on a waiting list to see a doctor about it, so routine is something I thrive under but also makes me really horribly sad and anxious. My partner is also constantly enfuriated that I ask for an opinion and then my brain suddently switches and I do the exact opposite, even if the thing they said is what I wanted to do. This includes both fairly large and painfully minor decisions.
currently my life's stucked for my lack of discipline, and today I found this video, and, I'm a rebel... it's so hard actually
Me when I saw this video in my recommendations: Wait a sec! They're telling us our personality based on our hogwarts houses?!
Me at the end of the video: Ok. I was wrong. But atleast there was hermione...?
This is actually a good video, though.😂😂
I'm an upholder, and I TOTALLY agree :)
Thank you for this!
I am a Obliger. And I am struggling from time to time. So the rebellion part is so true!
Very interesting. I can see family members clearly described in each personality tendency. I feel like cultural and experiences in my family upbringing and school made me become an obliger. But it feels awful sometimes to strive to meet everybody's expectations when failing to meet own personal goals you want so hard. You feel bad about that being a little perfectionist and not fulfilling your own stuff, and when you rebel a little bit about too much imposed on us, there is sense of guilt that comes about having failed to others.
It's not a nice thing to have a tendency to be like people-pleasing, even when you know others may be wrong. We need to learn to set boundaries, obligers.
This made so much sense , like I always try to question things on how it helps me and found out I’m a questioner
I got Rebel and I really notice that every time I tell me to do something in a sort of commanding tone, my whole body wants to resist and therefore I couldn't get anything done in the past.
The funny thing is when I tell myself "I will definitly not do this" and don't allow myself to do it, then I want to do it! :) So I use this technique now.
as a questioner, your study tips were just what i needed to hear right now to get myself back into work, thank you so much!
I'm an obliger, and I can definitely see it. I get things done whenever I've got someone behind my back watching over me.
Though it's not black or white, there's definitely exceptions to this behavior. I've never had any trouble getting myself to study, for instance. I always study alone, it works much better for me.
Loved this video. I feel like my tendency described me so accurately so I look forward to using these study tips on upcoming tests.
As a questioner, I've tested out this thing. I've noticed that if I set my intentions/ to-dos/ goals the night before, I just glide into my studies the next morning. Also, I get sleep answers, so if I set my intentions the night before, I think about them all night. Questioner= be intentional!
I'm definitely an upholder.
I like to put in some logic and reasoning to my choice, if someone says I can’t do something that I know will benefit me I will, I do what must be done whether it’s tasks from myself or someone else, I am a great leader and tend to do lots of work by choice, I love to help others and do what they need me to do as long as it is efficient in my schedule. I am none and all of the tendency’s and I don’t need a test to tell who I am because I’m me. Others should take my advice and be inspired by the fact that categories cannot define you, only you can be defined by who you are. So ask yourself, who are you?
I took the test before watching this video so I wouldn't know which tendency I WANT to get instead of getting one true to myself. And I got REBEL.
I an a Rebel. I always do things that people say I cannot do.. I've always proved that and I'll keep proving it in the future as well. And I do resist doing things untill it is proven to me by myself or by someone else that it is a good thing to be done..Of course, I need to work on the weakness which is totally true🙈🙈🙈
I have just taken the quiz first before watching this video in full. I am a Questioner. Which this result is spot on!! I have been a questioner (I am very curious/inquisitive and love to research information) my whole life since I was a toddler and I am now age 34 going on 35 this year 2019. I remember my late Mommy telling me a memory of when I was around age 2 which I would constantly question things then I would decide what I wanted to do. Thank you so much for posting this, now I will watch the whole video. :)
Watching the video, I can see that Upholder and Obliger results would fit me too because I love organization, structures and rules and I notice these describe how I have been taking my notes while at University (I have returned to University for a career change, I am a USAF Veteran). But the Upholder tendency is not helpful with my memory and comprehension with studying because I have been recently diagnosed with Dyslexia (my struggles are memory and comprehension) so I am watching UA-cam videos to learn about different note-taking strategies that would work best for me. Rebel result kicks in for me when I am struggling with a task so I will my best to achieve it. But my Questioner result is what fuels my drive so I do question and decide how I want to do my studying but I have been told by a lecturer that I need to listen to what she has suggested on how to learn the study material.
Started as Obliger, now a Questioner. It worked out better for me actually :)
used to be a rebel when my parents used to motivate me negatively but realize i'm more of an in between of an obliger and a questioner because i'll do things when ppl ask me to and I love having myself go through different routines to find the best way to do something