Why Do Black Athletes Choose White Women? Viral Debate REACTION
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- Опубліковано 3 тра 2024
- A viral debate is sweeping the Internet as people attempt to explain why black athletes are choosing to date white women instead of their black counterparts. Is this just a matter of cultural differences? Is there racism at play? Is it because white girls are just willing to put up with anything? Let’s watch and discuss.
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Why do black women focus on black athletes and not black engineers??
I suppose that there aren’t as many trains as there used to be.
We are worried about who black athletes marry, but never ask who black lawyers, doctors, engineers, businessmen, contractors etc. My guess would be majority of these black men are married to black women.
Because they can get famous and rich by dating entertainers. That's all they care about.
@@kuunami “thats all they care about” lmao imagine generalizing 💀 you mean black American female celebs 🤣🤣
Cause they didn’t get picked
As a black African woman, I always find it odd how black americans decide to take monopoly of "black behaviour". In Africa, women act very differently from that. We understand the dynamic in our homes and though it's not perfect but you can't be the boss of your man and expect him to shower you with love or even stay with you. That's common sense. But please guys, remember that Americans don't own the monopoly of what it means to be black. For us there is no such thing as "black culture" 54 countries in Africa and we all have our different ways... Black is just part of who we are. Not what defines us.
Well said.
I've always noticed the difference between Africans and African Americans, there's a massive difference
Exactly they should say African American or Black American women if they say just black women it makes me mad cause that’s not how other countries with black women are
The difference is, black Africans don't have to prove to anyone that they're "really" black, or "really African". Btw., which country are you from?
Even black africans marry white as soon as they come into wealth. Doesnt matter where in the world the black man is, he will always want what the white man wants and that also means a white woman.
Love this 🙌🏻❤
As a white man married to a black woman, I didn’t choose a black woman over a white woman, I chose my wife over EVERY woman. I didn’t choose her because she’s black, everything that comes along with her heritage is an extra blessing, I chose her because of her beauty and her character.
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Love this 👏🏽
A lot of white men date blk women because they can't get attractive women of there own race
Well, just don’t chop suey her up and eat her body.
Right answer 👌🏻 👏🏻
I can only share my experience, but honestly I think its an issue of class. When I was a broke college student, most woman wanted nothing to do with me. Race didn't matter, I couldn't afford nice things or expensive dates. The one woman, now my wife, who didn't care happens to be white. We both worked and went to school, and we spent our money on eachother. Now I make over 6 figures and she doesn't need to work. She saw value in me beyond what I could provide in the moment. I think these young men are in a similar situations.
Why didn't u just date within your financial range ? 😒
As a Nigerian, I've always found it hypocritical of us to demand our brothers and sisters date within our own race while decrying white people for upholding that same standard. If aspiring towards "racial purity" is racist when white people espouse it, then it is racist when we espouse it as well.
I don't think it's racist either way.
Wow so most people are just racist, that's why this word is soo overused. Stop crying about it and get busy building up the next generation.
You act as though it wasn't white people that brought this hypocrisy to us.
Or if it’s not racist for black people to date black people, it’s not racist for white people to date white people. But that’s just a common sense fact
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They can date whoever they want.
Well, it needs to be consensual.
They can, but thats not the question. The question is why.
@@jaypalmer3806It does?? 😱
@@birdland85And WHY is it even a question? 🤔
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D1 athlete here, here’s my own testimony….do with it what you please. Grew up with two black parents who ended up getting a divorce while I was in elementary school. My dad started to date a white girl from small town Wisconsin who eventually became my stepmother. I dated nothing but black women before college. My first love was a black girl from Georgia and she ended up cheating on me with a drug dealer. That still didn’t deter me as I dated another black girl who ran track but she was far from humble and I was broke as shit at the time. When I started dating my wife she didn’t care that I was living with my mom, drove a Kia sportage and didn’t have $1000 dollars to my name. On a personal level I just like what’s different from me rather than the same. In addition they’re just easier to deal with. I don’t remember my actual mother teaching me much but I do remember my white step mother teaching me how to swim and I witnessed the way she interacted/treated my dad. My wife is from small town Wisconsin. There you have it. A lot more to the story here but I’ll end it there… god bless
Winner 🏆
Lucky mate
lol you couldn’t wait to say this
@@BrookeBg and you’re a slave to your feelings
Moral of the story.. only date women from small towns in Wisconsin
Amala, you have a great breakdown of the facts and generalizations to acknowledge the truth. Thanks.😁
Trashy and classy comes in all shades of color.
That's true, but white women are bullied if they don't act like the queen of England, and black women are often bullied if they do.
Exactly
Smh but what about the majority? What majority of race is trashy?
@@toppboy6281all of them stop with the narrative trust me all
True, but the problem is that some people with the complexion for the protection go around telling other people how inferior they are
Hair, nails, types of dinner dates etc is not black women vs white women. It's high maintenance vs low maintenance. And all races & cultures have both.
Fake hair, dyed hair, fake nails, and nail polish are sins, by the way.
I think it is also about class. I see a lot of times women who want guys to pay for that high maintenance stuff and that is very disturbing. You want to look a certain way, do you but don’t expect someone to foot the bill
Thank you! Not ALL black women require all that maintenance. I am natural all around. I go on coffee dates and if I’m dating a man, I like to bring surprises to his job and such so just because those men look to date high maintenance doesn’t mean aALL black women act like that. That’s a STEREOTYPE and like all stereotypes, doesn’t apply to all. 2024 people still on that. Annoying!
And as a subset to that point, culturally I think black women are more into fancy nails, that white women, and that is just subjective, no right or wrong there, and regarding hair, there is just no comparison regarding the cost of in voque black hairstyles as compared to white.
And a further point, I think it is more important to a black woman to 'signal' that she is put together, with hair and nails etc., than a white woman needs to be...black woman need to 'signal' that they have their shit together much more so than a whilte woman cause the white woman did not have to fight for that over the years like the black woman has had to...a lot of this does come down to economic history I think.
Show me a low maintenance black woman that isn’t Muslim.
Yes what you said at the beginning is right and exact 🎯
I’m black. (2/3rds) actually. My wife is white. We’re both Christians. Been married for over 20 years. I love her and always will. That’s all that matters. People who have a problem with it can go pound sand or insert whatever flowery language you want to put in there. It’s no one’s business.
Nothing wrong with that bro. U whatever race and u can date whatever race. Pretty sure every person deserves happiness and not a leech.
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In 2005 when I became Christian one of my mentors friends was a white dude married to a black ( light skinned) women. He was a normal white dude. I didn't think anything but I Noticed. I heard they got divorced few years later. 🤷♂️
So you married an Edomite despite what Yahawah said he is going to do to them? Intelligence pours out your pores I see.
@@ronbaker6000I’m so sorry to hear that, if I can offer help I’ve heard of Inspiring Philosophy his playlists on UA-cam helped me.
Just date women with values that align with your own whether black or white or whatever.
Black men do. And more and more snd more of us are marrying white women because black women aren't meeting that need/standard 😂 lol.
AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!
Sushi squad nft?
It's that simple
Self-hating comment. "Love is love" "Race doesn't matter" "Black Americans are mixed" usually stems from inferiority complex
im dating in Vietnam and these girls make $3 an hour. They will still buy me gifts and get mad at me for spending too much on them. Its wild
They are mad when you spend unnecessary money on them on stuff they don't want. If you know what they want they don't mind you spend the money. When you waste money they don't like it.
They are playing the long game. Sometimes for years. Manipulating for the final pay off, which is real money, not worthless little gifts they don't want. They are pretending it is just you they want, not your money (Look me! Me no wan' you money! Honesly!). *Sigh* Men. So gullible and egotistical.
I married a Filipino. Word of advice. If you aren’t rich or marrying someone rich it’s better to just stay single and date.
@@db7084 Hahaha This applies to all women. 'White Knights' just seem to be more susceptible to foreigners.
@@TheCryptoKeeper why?
Both can work together for a better life.
Shaunie O’Neal said she never loved Shaq. Just Love what he could do for her 🤷🏾♂️
You a fool if u believed that
She would've left after the first time he cheated not after 10 times
@@perrywashup5168 Maybe he cheated because deep down he knew she didn't love him.
and what in the hell do you think the white women wants ?
@@RichBoy-dc2dq then he never should’ve married her and given has six kids
I appreciate you and the nuance in this take!
It’s not race it’s culture. It’s an African American woman issue, not black. And then, within America, it’s a class vs trash thing.
I agree with the cultural conclusion component, but studies have shown that the most attractive women, according to those surveyed, as a whole are Asian women, then white women, then black women. Toss in the fact that few people are more aggressive and masculine than western black women, and it's a recipe for being single.
Bingo
@@Syrin23 If for "asian womens " you mean the ones with flat face,slanted eyes and a black straight hair and pale white skin sorry to burst your bubble but in other countries in the western world those asian womens are not considered attractive outside of USA.
In my country (Argentina) asians lives segregated themselves and dont interact much with people who dont have the same background so we dont think they are attractive, she need to have a really joyfull personality and charisma to being considered pretty, with the mens is different because womens can find something interesting on them
That is why asians like chinese,korean and japanese dont mix much with the population.
@@franciscovilcheavila960 Exactly. I find Asian women beautiful, but this whole "studies have shown" is always a VERY small pool of people they chose to conduct said studies. In East Africa, East African women are the most beautiful. Most people are most attracted to their own.
African American culture is the same as white American culture.
What this guy is describing is h0oD behaviour. Plenty of black women who grew up in the suburbs who are humble, low-key and accommodating.
‼️‼️‼️ LOUDER🗣️ Sadly, we are generalized as if we are all ghetto SMH
@@LadyK007 as a non-white man who looks like a criminal when dressed down, but has an engineering degree and an MBA, I know what it’s like to be generalized. It’s the reason why my preference is suburban blk women, because they understand what I deal with better than anyone. I also h8 h0oD behaviour more than most because I get lumped into it and am expected to outwardly condemn it, like I’m the ambassador for all non-white foolishness 🙄.
And sadly black men are generalized as all deadbeats. Boo hoo.
@@LadyK007 You're undermining your own point very hard.
REAL IM CARIBBEAN BUT REAL
It’s sad that black men are surprised by acts of consideration, respect and kindness shown to them by women.
As a Black man I made the worst mistake of my life marrying a black woman. She just wanted the money when I was in the military. She didn't want to get a job even when she had one she didn't make the effort to sustain it. She was a constant headache she wanted to benefit from me. I lost my mother in 2007 she didn't even attend the funeral at the time I realized she didn't want to support me. So I divorced her and moved on with my life and married a white woman. A white woman that supports me thru my endeavors and life itself. See it's not about the color it's about what they can bring to the table to be everything to that man they support. But as one person said in the comments Trashy and Classy can be found in all shades of color.
I feel like it's mainly a Black American women thing. I live in a mainly white country, and black women around here aren't entitled and demanding like that at all. It's the opposite actually, they're usually very warm-hearted
Oh, it’s definitely an American thing. All races can be negatively affected.
Yes highly influenced by toxic garbage on social media
It's an exposure thing. Most men are more willing to date outside their race unlike women. Also black men tend to date out because they have more variety. That's all it is
Black american women wouldn't care if other races were checking for them.
@@maskedman5657 so black American men have variety, but black American woman don't in the melting pot known as the United States of America? Yeah nah, cut the cheese, that's a load of bs. Just call it for what it is. Bigotry.
I am a white woman married to an african-american man. He is not an athlete, but we have experienced so much backlash from black women both overtly and covertly, because I "took one of theirs", and I should stick with my own. I don't think of my husband as a black man, but as a man. He is kind, strong, and thoughtful. A provider and protector. But most of all he is my best friend. I was previously married to a white man, and he to a black woman. Neither relationship worked out, and our friendship of many years ended up evolving into deep love based on mutual respect and admiration. Why can't people just be allowed to love who they love and be left in peace? I am so over race coming into everything. People are people, no matter their heritage, nationality, or their culture.
I second this. Anytime I've dated a black man who was a good man, the black women he knew treated me the same. Like I took one of their good ones. They were rude to me and nasty and it made me kind of hesitant to ever try again cuz who wants to not be welcomed like that?!
And the funny thing is I bet most of those women who gave you attitude wouldn't have given your husband the time of day if he was single.
Great comment. Sincerely happy you have found each other and support each other.
My only criticism - even he will cringe when you call him your best friend 😏
@@sourgummiezI agree! I’ve heard it over and over again that bl women have an attitude towards white women dating/ marrying bl men.To be honest,I don’t think the majority of bl women like white women…period.It’s gotten a lot worse now than in previous years.
As a Nigerian woman, It's not right you experienced that. You're a human, created in the image of God. You should be with who you love. Wish you the best 🙏🏿
Love, love, LOVE your content and conversations! It’s food for our minds. It’s also awesome to see fellow multi-racial people (like yourself) sharing your perspective. A show dedicated to that would be a great topic because we are the largest growing demographic in this country. As a child of the mid-1970’s, there weren’t too many of us, but now we’re everywhere. And I feel that those of us with multi-cultural perspectives bring a lot to the conversation.
Thank you for giving an intelligent and healthy definition to the variables of reasons for human social dynamics to every cause and effect, instead of just straight out stereotypes thats dumb!!
My wife is half Japanese, and I'm white. That wasn't a conscious choice, I just thought she was hot and a good person
hahaha, cool.
Right same!!
Did you just want to brag about your half Japanese wife? Lol happy for you though
@somestranger1101 no, the topic was interracial dating and why people don't stay in their race. I was sharing that in my experience, there was no racial motivation. It was just a coincidence that she's half japanese. I think it's that way for most people in relationships with a partner of another race. It's just a lot easier to find a partner if you aren't worried about their ethnicity.
@@reformed1trick739well you’re white. White people, especially white men aren’t really judge for dating outside of their race. Unfortunately for black men however, we are constantly questioned on our racial allegiance if we date outside of our race especially if we date white women.
That was the most polite " it's a culture problem not a skin color problem" I ever heard
This is pretty close to the truth. White people, generally, have more varied cultural experiences, such as traveling, water, and snow skiing, and discovering a variety of different foods. They tend to be more adventurous. Black people tend to focus more on practical things and day-to-day life experiences. Wealthy black athletes finally have the means to explore a variety of different things, and many of them tend to choose white women to help guide them in these various areas where they might be more knowledgeable than a black woman. I think the key is for all black people to stop obsessing over race and resentment and be more open to trying everything the world has to offer.
African professional athletes choose white women over African women. Explain that.
race mixing should be illegal. Keep in mind, culture stems from race.
@@Gitn2itWhy must people be so stupid😒
@@mrsir5052 Because they're psychologically conquered. They don't think highly of themselves. My daughter introducing me to a non-Black spouse would indicate she doesn't think highly of me
As a seasoned African-American woman, mother, grandmother, divorce’ and veteran I have noticed a lot of videos on this topic. Do people really care who dates whom? Or is this the new subject getting the most comments and likes?
My girlfriend who wasn't Black was once asked by her Black friend if I paid for her electric, phone bills...? She replied NO. Her Black friend told her that what's she expects from her boyfriend.
Amala makes a great point. Upbringing/history for especially North American has a lot to do with it. There are serious issues that date back to slavery and segregation that had a tremendous impact on the dysfunctional relationships between African-American males and females.
My son is tall and handsome. He dated several White and Asian women. I asked him how did they meet. All of those women were assertive and initiated contact with my son and it was convenient. My son is a Marketing Executive and does well for himself. His current fiancé is Black, pretty, intelligent and from an accomplished family. We absolutely love her and her family! The funny thing is she initiated contact with my son. Amala failed to mention that most Black women aren’t trained to pursue or initiate contact. The culture promotes the Black man to speak first to show interest. White and Asian women are taught to go after the man.
I just want someone who’s not materialistic. Everyone I meet is like that now.
It isn't materialistic by expecting a man to pull his weight in the relationship by being a provider. If he isn't, then the woman ends up putting 10x more into it than the man. Always. Men are supposed to provide and protect. That isn't materistic. Thats basic instinct for human beings
There are women like myself that aren't overly materialistic. I pay for all of my own stuff. I am single. But the stereotype of women being materialistic needs to stop. In a relationship it's both people coming together in harmony and emotionally psychically understanding eachother. Money is one thing in relationships that does end up being a major issue. 🤷♀️
I don't know where you are at, but I definitely know a lot of decent, low-maintenance, loyal women here in the Midwest.
I definitely see more of the shallow behavior and consumerism than I used to, but I'd say the majority of people I know here are happy with a lot less and just aren't as impressed with influencers and excessive lifestyles.
This is one reason we chose homeschooling. I see young family members obsessed with name brands and internet personalities, and while I know that's common growing up, I want my kid to have better, simpler values.
the questiion is r u not materialistic if u find urself with the same crowd u need to check urself
Meh everyone around me has been cheated on and I don't know any guy that is even in a relationship these days. It's pretty much just focus on our goals so we can enjoy traveling and fishing. Other friends enjoy working on old cars. Far less stressful.
This is whats interesting about Women, Men are literary telling you what we like and dont like and yall still telling us we are wrong ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
funny debates are happening, when criticism of black women is being heavily censored. It's like flat earth being debunked once again
That’s why there’s no improvement either bc they think it’s you…not them.😆
Well men are also individuals, and every man is different, just as every woman is.
They are comparing you to other groups of men. One group of men is not like the others no matter how you pretend. Having these types of conversations looks normals to you but from outside, it's like perpetual triangulation and one group of unstable fatherless men rejecting women who are unstable and fatherless but the men are taking their unstable fatherless condition to other people and calling it a perference when it is actually coveting what they don't have. If it was a perference another group of women that is not your perference would not always be mentioned in these unstable triangulation discussion.
@corey3232 “Racist” men generalising an experience to all black women to justify their preference for white women. Racism is having negative preconceptions that leads to treating a whole group of people worse that another and you can be racist to your own kind. Why couldn’t they list attributes that they like?? It always ends with “thats why I”… uuugh call it a spade a spade… wake up people
Very pragmatic view point young lady!
Amala, I am so thankful for your videos and the conversations that are had here.
I’m blk. I don’t wear weave, wigs, fake nails, eyelashes, tons of makeup, etc.
I do my own hair because I choose to. My husband is white and incredible to me. Being blk doesn’t equal anything, really, because we’re individuals.
Here's how to make an interracial relationship work, focus on your partner and your relationship and ignore the haters
Nah dude, that's how to make ANY relationship work.
@@marcustodd2910 Exactly! Interracial dating is a "Us versus the world" type of relationship. Everyone MUST date their own kind!
@@DrUmarJohnson1 By "their own kind" you mean humans should date humans, right?
@@utuberme1Look at that clown name Umar on his pfp😂
@@utuberme1 It’s a troll account.
I'm more interested in what's in a woman's heart. Is she a good person? That's what matters most to me. Peel away the layers, we all want to be loved, and respected.
Exactly!!
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@@QuanPookiehaha why the 👎??
You're not talking about reality. Men are visual creatures. We will go with the better-looking women every single time, the same way women only go for bad boys or the rich dude.
You're not accounting for what makes a man - we're VISUAL. There's no amount of gaslighting or complaints about 'the male gaze' that can stop men from being attracted to only the hottest women.
You are so right.
Amala is next level classy
Black women need to understand that black love died out in the early 90s. Everything is interracial now like it or not. There are 4.1 billion men on earth so the 12 million African American women have options. Black men and Black Women are not stuck, trapped, or beholden to each other. We as black men and black women are free to date, marry, and build a happy family with whomever we choose.
P.S. I am a black woman saying this.
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I (sporty white type girl) dated a black friend in high school during the 90’s. At a theme park date, the evil looks, points and comments I got were puzzling. To be kind and friendly, I complimented one girl’s braids! I’ve seen so many videos now how that can be misinterpreted. Grateful she just said thank you.
No you do you! For many others, like myself, black love is absolutely still important.
Girl, I wish this could be pinned!😭 Black love disgusts me, and so do the black people who support it. The worst type of supporters are the black women who support it. Like, mammie, please.🙄 Black men don't even support it, and you're now defending it with your heart and soul. That shit is corny. I'm a black woman with a white husband, and I'm praying that more black women date outside of their race. Black men don't want black women anymore so fuck them. 🤴🏼❤👸🏿 is the only one I support. Sorry, not sorry.🤷🏾♀️
@@franman576Stfu. Go and touch grass.🙄
@@franman576unfortunately none of this seems to be about love more about 💴.
I'm reminded of a scene from the movie "Barbershop 2" Queen Latifah s character tell Ice Cubes character "You opted for the happy meal when you could have had the super size" and he responds with "I opted for less drama"
I suspect that has more to do with that situation than anything else
Amala your take on things is awesome!! You are a very level headed young woman. I raised my daughters to be the same. Bravo to you and yours👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Love the thumbnail! 🐻⬇️
I’m (34 black woman) married to a white Italian man (35) and I’ve had white girls when I was 16 tell me that they were more black then me and black boys co-sign the behaviour. At the end of the day it’s about the character not the skin colour. Date who you want imo this stuff happens here in Canada too 😅
100% true Amala! There is classy and trashy on both sides of that line!
But are they equally trashy and classy? 😂
@@JohnLee-db9ztno. That’s when maturity comes in and you judge them individually based on substance.
Now we do live in a society where one negative trait applies to all.🤷🏽♀️
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True but her broader point what is the ratio of trash within the race. Does the lack of fathers in the house hold contribute to the problem
@@jamesrowe2383 I think it's due to a total lack of both parents, parenting properly.
Waking up early in the morning, eating a bowl of cereal, watching zoids before tom calls it a day on toonami...😮💨
I find when you are satisfied with what’s yours, you don’t concern yourself about who other people are seeing.
This is like the Cheesecake Factory lady on steroids. The entitlement is next level.
Well that's true Amala"s Nigerian father did get a white woman pregnant so that's why Prageru wheeled her out until they "let her go". The next coondace Owens
Well that's true Amala"s Nigerian father did get a white woman pregnant so that's why Prageru wheeled her out until they "let her go". The next coondace Owens
@@AJMoore-li1opwhat you just said is so embarrassing.
Like Amala said. Lots of different women are like that. That was also a skit. Good job, attributing one person's skit to a whole group of women who you don't know. Didn't you learn from being a target in the news? Now your group of men turn around and do the same thing to women.
@@neutraliserjanine her dad is Nigerian and her mom is white so yeah she would say that and trolls would agree
I am a non stereotypical black dude with a wide range of friends from different racial groups. Because of my suburban upbringing, disdain of hip-hop culture, and “white-washed” personality, I tend to mostly attract women of other races. I actually prefer black women. I have tried relationships with black women because I know not all black women are toxic or should be generalized as such, but there has always been a lack of connection. I realized that it is pointless to make dating in your race a priority. I started just looking for love and finding compatibility. The goal is to find a woman that matches your energy and spirituality, can have deep intellectual conversations, and teach you some things about life. Her race and skin color is irrelevant. Why overlook a woman who is compatible and beautiful just because she is not black? I never understood that logic.
As the female version of you I had a similar experience though I’m now married to a black man in Europe but he’s one of only 2 bm I have dated. Connection is absolutely important so it’s good you’re basing your decisions on the right things and not on self-hate or an obsession with whiteness
@@Princetonian4eva Credit to you for marrying an African [Black] man. David on the other hand is psychologically conquered. He's basically Larry Elder/Officer Tatum/Clarence Thomas. David even stated: "...Her race and skin color is irrelevant..."
@@Princetonian4eva I used to live in Europe. European black men are very very different and some of the greatest men.
I truly, truly appreciate this young woman’s commentary and approach to what is an extremely divisive subject!!! I will support the channel
Kevin Samuels addresses this issue wonderfully.
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It's sad that race is ant part of the conversation instead of just class vs trash.
Yeah it's pretty sad.
Very sad.
As a Black Man, I think the main deciding factor is preference. People like who they like, simple as that.
It is simple, but some people like to make everything so complicated and difficult.
It's not a perference if they keep bringing up other women. They actually perfer those other women that they're always talking about.
Absolutely! ✨ My dad’s preference was always white women. It’s really not that deep.
@@neutraliserjanine r u black ; with a wig? Ur kinda feeding into them being the preference of beauty
@@neutraliserjaninei prefer WW over BW big deal my preference
If a person wants better they will do better, growing up in a dysfunctional setting is no excuse to be a headache
Kevin Samuels told yall why… now black men are done
White guy here. My wife is black. Best and most loyal woman I ever met. When she met me, I was a lawyer. I lost everything when I had to stand up for a client (a black guy) who was being run over by the system.
My wife never wavered once.
Had a black woman leave me after I lost my job, I wasn't even down on my luck, had she understood I had a back up plane for such an occasion, you're a lucky guy then with a good woman.
@@allenshegog Sorry to hear that happened. I’ve always been attracted to black women. I’ve been with good ones and ones less so, but I never miss an opportunity to brag about my wife.
This conversation is triangulation. It is a form of DV. "In psychology, triangulation is a term used to describe when a person uses threats of exclusion or manipulation. Its goal is to divide and conquer. A form of manipulation, triangulation involves the use of indirect communication, often behind someone's back."
I thought this discussion was about Black athletes and white women?
@@jeromepowell1873 evidently it evolved.
I think its by proximity, some of these big schools the athletes attend and play for have a majority white attendance.
Los Angeles USC and UCLA are two examples.
Look folks get to know each other attractions can develop, When I worked in Saudi Arabia I blew my knee out, I got to know some Filipina nurses and Egyptian physical therapists,guess what a couple was feeling a brother
I'm a white male, one of my longest time best friends is a black male who is married to a white woman. We had a discussion years ago about why he preferred non-black women, as when he was dating he also dated a few Hispanic and Asian women. He told me the reason is, is that black women are typically loud, outspoken and controlling. Is there truth to that? IDK for sure, I myself have only dated one black woman who was from Saint Vincent in the Caribbean. She was a bit overly possessive, but I've dated worse in white women... So not a really helpful post here lol.
I think the stereotype is really strong for black women. So if I were to yell, most likely you will quickly label me as ghetto and loud. If a non-black woman were to yell, you would consider her to be legitimately upset about something serious or feisty. So I think black women have to work hard to control their emotions vs other non black women. So I think that’s why it’s quick for most men to label black women as loud and ghetto. I hope that make sense. I honestly don’t think it will change unless social media stops showing it and show more positive black role models. But right now we don’t have a black version of Taylor swift lol. I mean there’s Beyoncé but she also pushed independent/strong women music. Whereas, Taylor swift has more of a romantic boy crush/ I need a man music. Again hopefully that make sense. 😊
@@vanessag596 I totally see your point and yes I agree mainstream and social media with how they spin, pick and choose segments to create narratives is to blame for a lot of stereotyping we see today. In my eyes, people are just people, stereotyping race is nothing but a political and media driven division tool for now.
My guess is your friend just preferred non-black women for some other reason but just gave you an excuse. He was probably exposed to a lot of white/Hispanic women he found more desirable than the black women he met.
Many successful black people make a point to never date nonblack regardless of who they come across. The ones who don't care about this often end up dating nonblack due to the options in their environment.
He's 100% right
The controlling and domineering or emasculating thing is the biggest turn off, men want to be the man of the house & wearing the pants, as well as a women who can actually "surrender" to them, just allow herself to be taken cared for, led, served, protected by her man without worrying stressing about everything or always trying to be the dominant one making the decisions, it brings a certain peace & calmness that's tough to put into words.
Imagine being reasonable collaborative people who work together and care for each other instead of viewing a relationship through a lens of what they can extract from the other.
Sadly that's what's being taught in America now to at least 2 generations of people.
Remove the insane die-vorce laws, and maybe that can be a realistic scenario. Falling marriage rates, regardless of race or societal standing, is an indicator of how femina-zism largely contributed to the destroying of the family and marriage in the West.
Those days are OVER. Now, it’s all about getting what you can from the other, and keeping as much as you can for yourself.
Humans (*dare I say the fairer sex*) have effectively become ravenous parasites
@@houseofhas9355 End Stage Capitalism. Same rules that broke the housing market have now broken the dating market. If people are viewed as 'commodoties' and 'investments', the humanity is drained from the process. Americans have all just been brainwashed into thinking that money and wealth is all there is. Sick culture, from a sick society that is literally now consuming itself and the young generation with it's sickness.
It's not even complicated. It's proximity. Who's in those rooms and spaces that these athletes frequent when they are D1 material? Who's putting that courting pressure on these men? Booster clubs? Away games? Sneaking into hotel rooms and lobbies to make sure they are picked?
This!
I’ve dated white and black and everything in between. The dynamic is different with every woman. It’s not better or worse, it’s different based on individual and not race.
ITS THE EUROPEAN ANTI BLACK AGENDA..REMEMBER BLACK FACE.. GO LISTEN TO DR UMAR..
Ppl like who they like.
I'm black, 43, conservative and dated black women for my adult life up until 39. Because of my views, it was stressful. I have been with a white woman for 4 years, and it has been way better than my previous experiences with black women, mainly because my views on life are more accepted by her.
But why? There's a reason and it's ok to talk about it.
Can i ask something?? Does she let you cheat?? 😂
@@Minnie_silvertears it's not cheating when things are agreed upon.
@@coryburx so you DO get some other girls on the side😂
@birdland85 simply, most black men are scared to express their conservative views around other black folks. But if you get some of us away from other blacks, mainly black women like in a barber shop setting, we tend to express our conservative view points.
Key word: CULTURE!!! It's not about race, it's about culture and pushing people to be a certain way because of race. I'm black, 95% metal music, 5% hip hop. I go to KFC... to order Taco Bell. I speak some slang, but try to be more sensible when I talk if possible (nobody masters their own language).
My point is that there are good black girls that aren't raised with this mindset, but because it's the culture, they are outnumbered. Nobody has time to "find the right one."
I agree 100% bro hit me back. We should podcast about this
You never seen a ratchet snow bunny?
@@lionblood1268I wouldn’t call them snow bunnies, they’re people. And yes, it’s culture not skin color.
@@applefarm6126 culture is a cop out. Most people are just born in rough environments that force you to have tough skin.
It's about 'levelling up'
your take on this, is perfect, it's a cultural problem.
There was a viral video last year or the year before that of black girlfriends and black wives of NFL players and all the black women on twitter were still mad. They were saying "why her? She's so basic."
You can't please em' all 😂😂
@@scotthearts9634 you can't please none of them. It's all comes from jealousy. No matter if it's the white girl, or the black girl, they will hate who they picked. Which is why we shouldn't care.
I'm black love over everything, but if you don't marry a black woman I wouldn't care. None of my business, but apparently it's always everything's business if a rich NFL player gets with a white girl. We just need to stop
Oh yeah and don't get me started on the black women who aren't black enough. The lighter skin women that men are dating who are black and have two black parents but their skin is lighter than others.
@@scotthearts9634 you can't please none of them. This is why you have to forget what anybody said and do what makes you happy.
5:50 I''m a black man. I worked with a black woman who constantly flirted with me. She didn't know I was gay or maybe she did but didn't let on she knew. Anyway, after months and months of flirting with me and seeing she was getting no where, she said to me, and I'm not even exaggerating, "I'm going to get you to pay for my nails", like that was her ultimate goal, to get me to pay for her beauty regiment.
Dam babe 😂
I don’t understand why some people think like that .
"Regimen" not "regiment". 😂 You're welcome.
@@davidlamb7524 🙂
Okay? And? She represents EVERY Black woman that ever lived?
The internet creates drama. Most black women know nothing about draft or even watches it
After looking into this & how alot of black women dont get matried, I as a black man feel obligated to marry me a black woman & protect the black family structure that is lacking out here. It's very important to show black girls & boys good black household structures, just my opinion. We as a people have been through so much in this country of America, we need to stick together
I am white was a college athlete I married a black woman
I'm a black British woman with a white husband.🤞❤
But is she black black or white washed?
@@AdaezeAgbasi-rg3uw PATHETIC!!!!
@@AdaezeAgbasi-rg3uw THIS IS A RACIST EUROPEAN PROPAGANDA AGENDA TO PAY AND PROMOTE THE TRASH OF BLACK SOCIETY. ANYTHING ANTI BLACK GET PROMOTED.. ANYTHING PRO BLACK WHICH IS THE MAJORITY GETS HIDDEN. REMEMBER BLACK FACE.. THIS GOES WAY BACK. 60 YEARS ONLY BLACK PEOPLE JUST GOT CIVIL RIGHTS AFTER THE SLAVE CODES ON PAPER ONLY.. NOT IN PRACTICE .. BE WARY OF THESE NON FOUNDATIONAL BLACK AMERICANS..FBA.. THERE IS A DIFFERENCE. ANYTHING TO STOP BLACK LOVE AND CHILDREN.. ITS THE GENOCIDE AGENDA AGAINST GODS PEOPLE LIVING IN BIBLICAL BABYLON UNDER THE SEEDS OF SATAN. THE HIDDEN HEBREW NATION.
@@AdaezeAgbasi-rg3uw 🍪
I am a 25 yr old black man, I've never dated a black woman and don't plan on it. I've found that some stereotypes found in the ghetto black women are present in the mass majority of black women that I've come across. To date an American black woman today she would have to be like Candace Owens, a conservative valley girl.🫡
Candace Owens is the best mixture of brains and beauty and class
Well spoken dude since last year black women are low on my list to date I like em but the Cheesecake Factory girl, the brick lady, and many video of black women talking down to there men and black men telling there side of the story of dating black women am a Hispanic 26 year old dude btw and I would rather take a Latina or a white girl anyday 😂😂.
Boy I couldn’t agree more
Preach brother ✊🏽
I'm sure the collective of black women would like to thank you.
Dr. T. Hasan Johnson was on the Chez Charde YT channel. He said the girls TAKE CLASSES on how to treat black men. Classes!!!
Because they don’t know you, you are our fathers, brothers , uncles etc. There’s no college class that can teach me better than the man that I actually grew up with and live in My Home, so if Becky wants to learn about the BM that’s her business, but I know the truth and the horrors about dealing you
And still get cheated on and thrown through tv’s 😂
8:31 I don't think it merits judgement but I do think it's worth pondering and commenting about why they all seem to choose that kind of partner. That picture is really something. I don't really think it has to do with AA women's behavior, that's just what they say to justify themselves, why do they feel they need to justify themselves though? I'm not American but from a Hispanic country, with all shades and colors, and this same dynamic can be seen here too. It's always been that way and no one makes a big deal about it but it's generally acknowledged that, all things being equal, lighter shade = more desirable generally speaking. Of course people in the US have trouble acknowledging this out loud but I think it's the same there and in many other countries. It explains the picture perfectly.
As an African i always question why most black american women dont like Candace Owens , for the truth she always tells about their society or the fact that shes more of a woman than most woman are not nowadays? If only black Americans can just listen to her , they can be a thriving , most respected society they were.
Jealousy!
bingo, well said
Well, I’m a white woman, but Russian, living in Moscow
And I don’t like Candice. Reason? It’s not what she says but what she does, which are two complete opposites. I can’t trust someone who doesn’t practice what they preach
Examples? @@EltaninMalfoy
@@EltaninMalfoyI’m a black women and I like Candace
I think they’re talking about the “black culture” being pushed by Hollywood and reality TV shows. There’s some really toxic stuff being pushed as normal on young women. I blame targeted algorithms.
You don’t know blacks. Come to the south and find out
@@jeffrobbins6846if you are white and from the south shut up you guys are the root of a lot of racial bs
All I can think about is save the last dance movie when I see all this
So when Amala quoted the com mentor of the pic of the D1 athletes wives and girlfriend needed more sisters to help the black communities. Is that true? Is there there more money going back into the black communities if D1 black athletes are married to blackwomen? Id love to see the stats
I am a white man and have been with Black,White,and Latin women. They all have there crazy ones. To me Black women are the most Beautiful women on the face of the Earth just need to get a good one. It only took me to be with one Black woman for me to decide that I would never go back to a white woman. EVER!!!! Maybe I just got lucky or her knowing her roll as a women . But there is no doubt about the attraction I always had to Black girls and then women when I got older and finally acted on then. I AM SO GLAD I DID. So for those Black men that don't want there Black women that leaves more for guys like me to choose from. THERE LOSS.....
We humans have a possession issue they are not our women and we are not there’s we absolutely don’t owe eachother and others anything beyond debts if acquired
Amala, I feel you’ve hit the heart of this pretty easily. Fatherlessness in the West has impacted relationships of all skin colors, black people more so, but others are sadly “catching up”. And I can say as a black male that grew up in Chicago in the late 70s and 80s, black women *tended* to have more attitude than others. That would be another factor in the “not being chosen” conversation. Once again, these are generalizations and there are bad apples in every demographic, but the media has portrayed the black community in a certain fashion… that gets taken as gospel by some of those *in* the black community, and it repeats… all very sad.
I've had multiple black men tell me this same thing. They say it's just easier being with women who aren't black. But I feel the black women are that way because THEY HAVE TO BE, and men not choosing them makes it even worse. Women are having to be in their masculine because men aren't there to provide and protect
@@sourgummiezstop saying black women, it’s only African americans. Africans in Europe and the rest of the world aren’t like that . We don’t have none of that fatherless /ghetto stuff
@@sourgummiezBut the same could be said about white women who had no father figure.As long as there’s an excuse,it’ll never change.
@@sourgummiezwell they keep saying they don't a man,so what do you expect men to do?
u think Every man is capable of being a father? I think now there's trashy and great fathers
as an African woman, i feel bad for Black American women, you deserve better.. One love ❤️
My black girlfriend in college demanded I pay for her nails, buy her jewelry and pay for her Birkin bag all while being a student living on campus. Her black friends all had the same mindset. It’s ridiculous the amount of expectations that y’all have from black men. Y’all are only hurting yourselves. Dated white girls and currently planing on marrying a Pakistani girl. It’s different, not better but different in terms of the pressure from the demands that y’all expect. It was just plain relief after dating her. And no it’s not just my experience, plenty of my friends and men alike have said the same thing about black women. I’m sorry but the issue is mainly black women not the men.
Thank you for the uplifting statement from across the diaspora. One love indeed. ❤️
They need to do better first
BLACK WOMEN DATE OUT! Protect your womb. I’m sure Ámala’s mom is white. Most black men don’t want to actually be with you anyhow.
Tell them to stop embarrassing our society first
Hmm Very Interesting Perspective !!! As a black man from Chicago I always looked at it like People should date who they like. I personally try and like the women that like me!!!
What about Black female politicians with white husbands? I’m not saying anything. I’m just asking? What are we missing???
Bc Black men can date outside our race way easier than Black women. Due women being attracted to status, or charisma. Which men don't go for women for the same reasons.
Because bm in those circles are rare. Think about the post-graduate education, law firms, networking events, etc. There are way more wm in these spaces and bw have better life & career outcomes when marrying the men in their social circles & at or above their socioeconomic status
@@Princetonian4evaAnd black women aren't rare in major us colleges? Imagine worshipping white men while getting triggered by black men with white women.
This insanity is one if the many factors that make black women so unappealing.
@@Princetonian4evablack woman in sports is rare too so
@@Princetonian4eva So basically, black women are about money.
Now this young woman is smart, opened minded, and admits she does not know the answer. I am a new subscriber.
Yay, an appearance by Taylor!
End of the day it dnt matter find who I like and be with them no matter the race ,it comes down to attitude of a person and respect
I don't like how they seem to be putting white women down in order to justify why black men choose them. Calling them "mushrooms" or knowing when to "stfu." There's plenty of strong white women who don't take bs from their wealthy partners. Mahomes wife probably, Tiger Woods ex. It's ridiculous and childish if you ask me. Only making those type of black women look worse and gives other people more understanding of the athletes decisions.
🎯👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
But I also think white women tend to be less confrontational... because they don't need to be. Women being confrontational is a response to their men's behaviour. It is not only black women's fault that so many of them are single mothers. White women simply don't have to deal with this bs to that extent so they're less equipped to.
It’s just a way of getting a sly dig in there because they are racist and resentful.
knowing when to shut up is not a bad trait, wtf? if i man cant shut up thats bad as well 😂
@DenisseMariaBumgottiGomez I never said it was a bad trait. I said it's how they make it seem like their weak. Everyone should know when to and when to not hold their tongues. The way this young man went about it and how certain black women took it, it was they don't stand up for themselves. They take the bs that's given to them and stay silent about it. When that's not specifically true. THAT'S what I'm saying.
*Why tf is this a question? Why is it so important?* Black, white, brown, etc. So what? It’s love. It’s their type! Their preference.
Because for the most part when we’re talking about athletes it’s not for love it’s an investment
@@da_suntoucha7219That’s an assumption at best & even if it were true none of our business/has no bearing on our personal life. Waste of mental bandwidth.
Because black women are jealous. 😆
Because it was asked when a lot of these dudes were drafted their girlfriends over them and a lot of their girlfriends were white. So a lot of people start asking like how come these dudes got white girlfriends and somebody answered.
@@Lemonpepperwett why does it matter, that’s the question??! 🤦♂️
The idea that black athletes often prefer white women is nothing new, and it’s remarkable how prevalent this perception remains. Basically, there’s a specific type of woman who tends to be attracted to professional athletes, regardless of race. Education and career pursuits are not her primary focus; she desires to become a player’s wife, have children, and revel in the athlete’s temporary glory. Hopefully, the partnership will prove fulfilling, but if not, prudent financial planning is crucial for maintaining her accustomed lifestyle.
In reality, many educated black American women aren’t drawn to relationships with professional athletes. We prefer partners who match us intellectually, socially, and economically, pursuing careers as doctors, lawyers, bankers, and entrepreneurs. Our aspirations and lifestyles diverge significantly from the mindset of professional athletes, and vice versa. It’s important to acknowledge that educated black American women are not affected by this stereotype, so please refrain from generalizing and including us in this conversation.
It's so refreshing to see an intelligent comment for once
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It's a dysfunctional symbiotic relationship. He gets a free trophy to be seen in public with and she gets a potential cash cow.
Growing up I was constantly told I "act white", mainly by black women. This is not a race issue though. I never liked rap music in the U.S., which was a reason used by a black woman I tried to date as to why she would not date me. There is a cultural disconnect, and an unwillingness to bridge this gap. Ghetto culture, fatherlessness, all contributing factors. I did not have my father in my life growing up, but I still turned out a certain way that is not classified as "ghetto", and it is noticeable. I longboard and go hiking for fun.
Same Richard. I’m a black lady and was hated on my black male counterparts for being 1: too dark and 2: acting white 😑
Lol, black women face the same thing, you are not special. You act white is also used on black women.
@@tamid2225 We all want to know if those remarks psychologically scared you so badly you chose a non-Black man? Or are you healed and are now happily married to a Black man...
@@DrUmarJohnson1we don’t know what to know anything. That’s her business
@@DrUmarJohnson1 Why haven't you asked @RichardZenith that same question? That you chose to antagonise the BW and not the BM who said the exact same thing on the topic, speaks to your character and views.
Such a level headed and articulate response. Well done.
This is the situation in South Africa...
Good for You Brothers
You speak for me Amala, thank you.
You're 100% right, as usual.
2:06 if I wanna get my hair done I literally work an extra race or two. That or tag more bibs. I get paid hella money to help with a running company because they need volunteers. Ion even run. Also they get us tennis shoes every year. It’s great. I’ve been working this stuff with my dad and it leaves me with my own money so I can go get highlights or my nails done or wtvr
Why do everybody say that keep black money in the black communit's like that's a real thing, because everything they wear everything they buy even where they live is not in the black community, Let's be real very little of that money is being circulated back in black community even to those who are less fortunate and we still spend our money elsewhere unless it's in the strip clubs, Come on now people.
It's just an excuse pro blacks use to chain people down to the black American community.
It benefits entitled women who feel like they don't need to change anything about themselves while also expecting high income earning black men to choose them.
And he better feel highly honored while doing so too.
DEX I FEEL U.
It's just an excuse pro blks use to chain people down to the blk community.
It benefits self absorbed wmn who feel like they don't need to change anything about themselves while also expecting a high income earning blk man to marry them.
And he better be grateful while doing it too.
I am a 67 year old white woman. I refuse to put up with bs from anyone. Not for money or status. This is probably why I'm just an average happily married woman.
So what’s your argument?
@@QuanPookie she saying that because not all white women accept men's bs ... Some of them actually have srlf respect
@@QuanPookie Her argument is she's not brokie like you.
@@Minnie_silvertearsbut it’s based off nothing but assumptions
@@Anonymous_47 no
For some Black men like me, it's about proximity. I grew up in a mostly White and Latino middle-class neighborhood in southern California. The Black population in my area is very small, so there is not much to choose from. I dated White and Latino girls in high school and college, and many times they would approach me. I ended up marrying a White woman because she's attractive and we have similar values, interests, and upbringings. Sometimes I feel guilty not being with a Black woman, but I am very happy and would not change a thing about my marriage.
I'm white and not married to a white woman... I have zero guilt or race loyalty.
Love your wife! Do not feel guilty!!! I am a black woman!
By coincidence I came across your comment after I wrote my comment and we both agree about proximity.
Yeah you shouldn’t feel guilty! I wouldn’t want my husband to feel guilty marrying me …yikes.
You love the woman you are with. You do not have to be guilty. I'll always believe people don't have to stick with their "race". We are too related as it is!
See this is what the results of the sprinkle sprinkle 🤦
Pay attention to what he said @ 0:54 when your priorities are in the wrong place, you lose. You see the difference, one listens the other don't. No matter what race who ever stands by you and respects you as a man, be with that woman regardless of race.
Date whoever you want and just try not to go on social media and complain or compare dating this group vs that group
Thank you always realized you want to an antagonist just start comparing
I am a white guy that like black gals. To each his own.
Keep em!
Good luck
They'll be different for you 🤔
That means you have reasons, stereotypical reasons.
@@birdland85no he might just like sisters. He might like all women.