These Black Women Are DONE Dating Black Men?
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- Опубліковано 20 вер 2024
- I've been noticing a micro-trend of black women hopping on the internet to discuss their interest in opening up their dating pool when it comes to race. Many of them say it's because black men are not treating them as well as men of other races. Is this true? Are their standards too high? Let's talk about it.
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It's not race, it's culture.
Yeah, its about culture and family values. Not race and colour.
Your right on!! I can tell ya as Black man all the black women who I have known don't wanna talk to me because I have more conservative values.
I am a different race from my best (platonic) girlfriend. We are both married to men. Race did not affect the formation of our precious bond. I will always love her for her kindness, compassion, loving spirit, sense of humor, wisdom, and more. I hope I match her qualities. So yes. That is a cultural bond. And I am so grateful.
Blacks have no culture/history.
@@sjf6775race doesn’t exist
No matter who it is, never date an irresponsible man...and most definitely never date someone who does not respect you
And especially do not have sex.
@@dunexapa1016 💯
As a guy I would say the same don't date irresponsible women. I mean we don't even need to bring gender into this, Just a simple, Don't date bad people. Let's be honest You're going to make that mistake when you're young and dumb and you don't know any better but is you get older if you're having problems dating and a big reason is you keep going for bad matches then you got yourself to blame. It's hard it can take years to find a good match and that's what I'm doing right now It's been a few years since I ended my last relationship and I'm just not jumping in bed or associating with anybody who's not up to par who's not mature who's not responsible who doesn't know how to be respectful I got my stuff together I make a good living I'm in my forties I want the same in a spouse I don't really want to do the marriage thing but long-term I'm fine with being single if I can't find a good person. That's it That's simple I'm not going to waste time on bad people anymore.
@@minnesota_fats7344 , If you get legally married you get entangled in a system run by psychopaths. Jesus says not to marry a divorced woman and I especially recommend following that advice. Don't ... Just don't!
I think no reasonable person can argue with that.
The problem is that mainstream black culture is messy. The men that fit in the stereotypes are usually selfish and have commitment issues, and the girls that fit into the stereotypes have attitude issues. There are plenty of black people that don't fit into those stereotypes, and as long as you're in that crowd, you're fine.
Spot
On
Exaaaactly. I feel like the people in the black community who are attractive enough to have options are usually spoiled and tend to fall into those negative stereotypes. Then they ruin the other genders expectations of their own race.
1000647378009289% that’s the absolute truth ! real black love is by far the strongest love ever existed in my opinion
Yup
As a black man who doesn’t fit the archetype I’m willing to bet that black women who date out would love to date me if I was white.
Same thoughts towards black women who don’t fit the archetype.
I am biracial black mom white dad.I grew up in a two parent house hold.Alot of my biracial friends with black dads grew up with single moms.92 percent of non black women with biracial children are single moms.
Where do you find these stats at? This is interesting
My niece is biracial and her white dad is locked up for embezzlement.
My American mixed cousin have a black dad, her Mexican mother cheated, they broke up. She isn't close to any of her parents, got into drugs and haven't seen her for years, she got clean I heard because she suddenly appeared out of no where suddenly trying to connect with her black side and is shocked that her pushing herself onto us isn't given her the welcome and coddling she expected.
Yuh. My mom is a half blk bi-racial her dad up and left. so i never saw what my grandpa look like.
Most of the half black ppl I know in the nederlands with white mom don’t know their daddy. But when its the other way round it’s not the case 😒
@@uterushaveryt men generally take care of their children.
It saddens me to see how society has basically caused the two sexes to hate one another on so many different levels. I cannot imagine being a young, single person trying to find a loving partner. Everyone seems so selfish, cynical, judgmental, and outright hateful.
Yes, it is true. I'm just trying to find someone to be loyal to, but everyone just wants to hurt the next person because they're hurt. 😢🥺
Agreed! It's horrible to watch men and women turning against one another. I've had to block certain channels and content because I got tired of seeing gender wars in my feed.
Society did not …MEN DID… all of this if you really go down the rabbit hole, it all starts with MEN 😅😂…
Selfish? How?
@@warewellnesscoOh yes of course it’s mens’ faults, never a woman’s. Wake up, cupcake
It’s culture in race. I had a ex bf that was black who always told me “ if you wanted to be treated special you should date a white man!” So I broke with him and dated white and married my white bf after him and I’m so happy. He gave me great advice!!! Lol
Lmao! Thats funny but the NERVE of that man!! How awful! I’m glad you’re happy girl!
Lmao, good thing you followed his advice.
@vivian_t.heartist1168 now THAT’S deep! 😂 Thanks for sharing that. So it’s a SERIOUS CULTURAL NORM among BM? SO blatant, and so NORMALIZED that a BM would come out and say it to you THAT plainly? Keep telling that story. You’ll save a LOT of women tons of heartache and pain. You may even save some LIVES. #BlackFemicide
I’m so glad you escaped blackistan! Hopefully I will too soon.
I always see black men saying “if u want this or want that , go get u a white man “ or “zaddy”. They know themselves they aren’t sht
It’s Black culture. As a dark skinned woman, I promise this isn’t a trend. This is a reality that we have to deal with. It’s deeper than a tik tok.
yessss
As a Dark skin male I agree
I love deeply melinated women...period.
thats literally the culture; from when black women where having white men's kids. The paper bag test came from preferring that white mans black child over the child with a black man. The black woman exotic mulatto baby.
I feel beautiful dark skin girls are unappreciated
I'm married to a black man, I adore him , however, these young women are speaking the truth.
Some black men truly don't see black women as worthy of much of anything.
In regards to the idea of "wanting something different," it's funny how that's okay for black men, but black women are attacked for that same thing. It's very sad.
I stopped listening to anything BM say
bm having hate sex with ww is equal opportunity. bw going to the slave master is raysiss!
That part.
Most black women aren't worthy of anything with an 80 percent baby mama rate. There's no amount of gaslighting you can do to convince me some worthless baby mama is a catch.
I've dated bw who align with my values, but since they're so rare I also date lots of white and Hispanic women. Nothing to do with colorism. I just like how they behave more.
Exactly, because WE ALSO see bm all day everyday, but are still told to stay with ONLY bm, make it make sense 😂😂. It's gotten so bad the bm who date everyone else even dog us out simply just because they can, all because they have another kind of woman on their arm.
_"Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”_
- Maya Angelou
This is such a beautiful statement dripped in wisdom.❤
RIP Maya.
💯💯💯
@atticstattic FACTS
I’m not black. However I don’t blame black women for not wanting to date black men. Because before I heard about black women not wanting to date black men, I have heard for a loooooooong time about how black men don’t want to date black women 🤷🏽♀️
Thank you ..this always seem to get left out of these new age conversations.
Black men thirsting for white women has been a stereotype for ages. Interesting to see that the shoe is on the other foot now.
I mean I've heard both for a looooong time, so I blame both of them.
Hahaha, and now that black women are going in droves….black men are getting mad
I am mixed and I'm right there with you. Honestly I never dated anyone black because I never met a black man that was to my standards. And by to my standards I mean shows me the respect that other men have. I will say right now it is a culture thing it has nothing to do with race. Notice that most of the black men marrying light skin or white women are very successful and have separated themselves from the "culture".
Nobody wants to date anybody at this point.
@@Zaranski3not me. It’s not even worth it. Ppl get done with dating others BECAUSE of the way they are. Not bc of their skin or sum.
@@Zaranski3 ANYBODY 😂
Women don't add value to a man's life anymore. Your career and bank account isn't adding value to a man that already has both.
I'm voluntarily celibate lol. I don't know if I'll change my mind but I know it won't be any time soon.
People are too picky these days. And too many options. Pick One and build together.
As a black woman I agree. Black males made fun of my dark complexion & hair the most growing up. Even though they often had the SAME skin tone as me. I could never be with one today & never will
You are mad that those immature guys who didn’t accept your skin color not by how they treated you based on you dating them. You are hating the wrong men. Also you act like white men has never said anything about your skin color but you will still date them…
It's disheartening that a large number of black women share stories similar to yours. I’m sorry for what you've been through, and my prayers are with you for healing and peace. 🙏🏾🌷
@@myke6135 She's sharing a difficult experience about how she was treated, and it'd be more thoughtful to show kindness instead of randomly suggesting others are to blame. Let's be considerate when people share their stories.
@@Raven.Tulips Thankyou my love 💜
This sounds like the same psychology that serial killers use. My mom hated me, dad abused me, bully at school. Girls called me fat and ugly I didnt turn to men. Why not get counseling and learn to love yourself?
I swear our community is just self destructing as each year goes by and it's sad af
I'm not even Black (I'm Latino) and it's sad to see Black men and women hurting each other.
I think this is great. Black men have already been going with hispanic asian and white women. Now that Black womens only options are rayray and pookie they have to start dating outside the race to get decent men. BW drop that ratchetness the second they start dating a white dude. If us not being together is what it takes for our culture to change for the better im all for it
I concur 100%.
Just have a look at Haiti, Liberia, Zimbabwe, Congo, etc.
Or look what happens when they are in charge like in New York, Detroit, Chicago, Baltimore, etc...
Remember:
Obama STARTED the woke agenda too.
I mean yes and no.
From my experience, and again, this doesn't mean this is everyone's experience, black guys don't like me. And if they do, they have a baby momma and kids. Sadly, the most hate I ever received was from a black male. I told a black guy who was trying to speak to me he wasn't my type, not because he was black, but because he was dressed like a legit thug (pants sagging and all) and he berated me on my nose size, my hair style and it was like... why? And I was very respectful in the rejection. When I've dated men of other races, they never had anything negative to say about my skin tone, or nose, or hair. So yes, I do see where you're coming from with the self hate aspect.
At this point, given the area I live in where most black men are either cuffed with white women or have multiple baby moms and kids, I've learned to look for love elsewhere (not just in black men). So I do understand black women's frustration. We are supposed to be the ones to "keep the race alive or promote black love" but what do you do when your men are not checking for you or don't fit your standards? Miss out on potential love from somewhere else?
Again, not saying I'd turn away a good black man if he fit qualifications, but it's hard out here in these dating streets. Especially for Black women. No other race of men berate their women the way some black men do and vice versa. If you find love with anyone, no matter their race, just take it and be happy. Because honestly, black men are going to continue their "preference" agenda, and where does that leave black women? I've said this before, but the black community has self destructed and is impossible to repair.
@zippywilliams9891 were you surprised that the guy who looked like a thug acted like one as well? Are you doing anything to put yourself in a place where non thug types can find you and are you presenting what non thugs want?
I'm a black man (mostly), I don't have a preference against black women, I have a preference against combative, overly masculine women. The problem is that a lot of black women behave like I described so you get dudes that just generalize you to make it easier. Too many black women, in my opinion, have gone all in on liberalism and feminism which actively encourages them to behave unattractively and to devalue men.
I have black girl friends who've expressed the same sentiments as these women and I think there is more to it. It seems that it isn't just that black men are curious to try something exotic because they're accustomed to seeing black women and everything else you're saying. These women genuinely feel that these men view and treat them as they are genuinely lesser than other races of women. They were made to feel as though these men were doing them a favour by choosing them over other women. Many times they've felt pressure to change their appearances (to wear wigs etc). When things get ugly during break-ups, for some insane reason these men have literally made disgusting comments about these women's race. It makes no sense since the men are of the same race, but for some reason they spew racist/misogynistic stuff at these women. And yes, there are shitty men everywhere and good men everywhere, but these type of experiences seem to be more common than you'd expect. I'm Asian and I dont know a single Asian girl who has gotten abuse for being Asian from an Asian guy, but I know a few black women in real life who've experienced this and I've seen plenty more online. So there is something going on that isn't the same with men in other cultures. I can also say that as an Asian woman, I have generally felt loved and admired by the men I've dated. I haven't felt as though they dont see me as something special because they're accustomed to Asian women. I think these women have a point that shouldn't be dismissed so readily.
This almost 😅 made me tear up.
Mam, I know plenty of Blk Men that have negative experiences with Blk Women. They've been made fun of for having darkskin, they've been told they aren't good enough by these women because they were born a Blk Man. This goes both ways. So if we're going to address it then it All needs to be addressed.
You said this beautifully. So true!
Interestingly on the Asian thing I hear it’s the Asian men who mention how Asian women don’t want to date them. So it it’s similar to what the video talks about here.
@@holdenmuganda97 ignore the flatback up top 😂. The vast majority of AW pedestalize WM and refuse to date their own kind, and she has the nerve to come here and stereotype.
A community without fathers cannot create men worthy of dating? I'm shocked, *shocked* I tell you!
I thought this too. Who exactly is raising these black men that aren’t treating women right? Hm.
Welfare was not designed to have fathers in the homes. I would hear women brag about having multiple babies' daddies so it had more to do with the mothers. They are not victims.
@@Firstfalconfree exactly 😂. BW have over FOUR times as many illegitimate kids as BM, and raise sons that grow up to despise their degeneracy
@@Firstfalconfreeso your going to blame all women and not let the man be held accountable ? As a man you should lead and Set the standard and women will follow , it's so funny to me that black men will blame their women but what about both being held accountable ? Especially as a man ..
@@GhostInTheMachine7 it's like fire circle, son from fatherless kids grow up become irresponsible & made his own kids fatherless too
As a Latina I’ve dated black men and have to agree.
As a matter of fact I felt as though black men didn’t favor Latinas neither. Think they only liked what I did for them, but I wasn’t their true preference… white woman they held on a pedestal.
False. Im a black guy who dates out and most black men favor black women. Me personally, I favor anyone who is attractive. Idc about race.
They favour white women AND Latinas. Stop the cap
Oh 😮. I figured that
@@painexotic3757nobody asks you
@@painexotic3757 Her comments are not false. You said that YOU are a guy that feels that way. Everyone is not you. You do not know the pain, anguish, hurt, and disgust that Black women have felt because of the way that Black men, for the most part, treat us. Until we come to terms of our brokenness, there will be help for us. It's already too late, We behave like idiots and don't have to ability to see our own ridiculousness.
I'm American. For me, no black man I ever dated had the values to settle down and get married. Playing the field is the norm. I wanted more as I got older. White men seemed more serious. It took me a while to realize what I needed was right under my nose. I ended up marrying a white man. He really is a great husband and partner. That's all I wanted.
Thats weird. Theres plenty of black men who would want to settle down and get married. They also want to build a family and have generational wealth.
I wonder what type of black men you dating previously to come to such a conclusion? 🤔
@@zmcknight319I swear black women avoid marriage mind black men like they got rabies or something. The amount black men who desperately looking for black women to marry is mind-blowing.
@@zmcknight319 She's gonna ignore your comment Lol. Most of them are attracted to thugs then get mad at the result. They don't want a "good guy" blk man. They only want one if he has a different skin color lol.
I feel the same way about black women. Most are obese, loud, masculine, and already have 5 kids by 5 different dads
Because you black women pick the worst black men to date them make-up excuses to date white men
Biracial here. Black Mom, white Dad. I'm engaged to a white guy and I can agree with this sentiment. I knew deep down a BM wouldn't treat me the way I wanted to be treated. And I want black women treated correctly and with Love.
So your mom is a 🛌 🔧
OK 👄👅👅👅🍌🍌🍌🎅🎅🎅👍👍👍😅
You aren't a black woman
Chicken or the egg cause black men don't get treated well. At all.
Yeah you're right. Black men are the worst. When I see a black man I can tell he treats women bad just because of his skin color. They're all bad men. White men are the best in the world and I know that because I've been to plenty of trailer parks and seen plenty of their wives with black eyes. You most definitely have a good life plan there. Judge people by their race, I do every day, and it's gotten me pretty far in the world. I'm in a black man's body, but I have a white soul, and I know that because I'm married to a Chinese woman and I treat her really good.
As a married black father raised by a single father i can confirm that the majority of adult black american males are in fact not men. And on one hand that is not their fault because they have never known a black man, let alone had one to show and teach them what a man is and how to be one. But on the other hand, at some point they have to stop blaming their parents, or lack thereof, for their lifes situation and take full responsibility for every aspect of their life.
I will also say that american dating culture is a huge problem in it itself. But thats a completely seperate conversation about marriage and family values.
Blk men need to stop abandoning their children and leaving the toxic blk culture to raise them. This is producing low value men who do know what it truly means to be a man.
No no no they are men. If they're grown males, they're men. A man can not be acting properly and still be a man.
But you think the majority of Blk Women are Women??? 😂😂😂 The generalizing of 19.6 million people is ridiculous.
Agreed but it goes deeper because the majority of the women are masculine so the problem may be that both men and women lack proper molds to grow in to healthy adults.
Really? What is a man? How should a man act?
Sis have you seen black men bashing blk wm on Tik tok ?
Yes 😭
Yep it's sad 😢 I made it a vow to stay away from them, their channels, and anything their saying
Lying or bashing?
Don’t worry she knows damn well the reality she just pretend not to understand . You think she doesn’t know that colorism exists ?
Why do y’all ignore the BW that are on there bashing black men ?
As a darker skin black woman who has always been more attracted to white and Asian men, I concur black men have been abnormally cruel towards me for no reason. And I wasn't even dating them.
I especially experienced it in the military. BM in higher positions screwing me over, reading negative intent in everything I do, giving unjustified punishments and openly praising white/Spanish women. I once was standing in formation between a lighter(mixed race black woman) and a black man who were having a loud conversation about how ugly dark skin people, particularly dark skin women, are. Mind you I was the only darker skin black person in ear shot. Clearly they were having that conversation so that I could hear it. The thing that confused me the most was I didn't say anything to these people. I kept to myself and minded my business. But for whatever the reason they had to ensure that my spirit was broken with their disgusting rhetoric. To add insult to injury, any time I brought this grievance up to my "family" and other black people, I was ignored or blamed. Or the worst bit, I had to listen to an hour long boasting about how everyone LOVES a "strong dark skin black man", despite my REPEATEDLY stating it was darker skin black women who are getting the brunt of this ill treatment. Not dark skin black men. But of course, any moment to gloat about the greatness of the men even when the subject isn't about them, has to be taken advantage of. It's one thing to be insulted but to be rendered invisible in such a manner was damaging to my psyche.
Well I have left my family, community and the men within it alone. I don't argue or bother to get them to see the problem. I am beyond done with them. I have been with my husband(a white man) for eleven years and he's been the guiding light through the darkness and negative conditioning placed on me by my so called people. Leaving them alone has been the best decision of my life. And I refuse to go back for them to torment ever again.
I smile more. I don't take things to heart. I'm relaxed. I don't over eat. I'm more productive and achieved things I swore I could never do. I'm happy! I don't blame black women especially us darker skin ones for leaving this culture behind. There's nothing for us there. I hope more of us abandon ship. It's time to leave.
I’m also a dark skinned blk women and I’m so sorry this happened to you. I’m glad that you were able to move away from that environment and create your own safe space. Ppl always try to invalidate us so they wouldn’t have to be held accountable for how they treat us. It’s very narcissistic. I wish you well and a lot of love. 🤎
@@user-he7sc8gd8e No need to be sorry. In a way it's freeing. I don't feel pressured to care about culture, community and all that noise. I get to be free as an individual. I feel free from having to be a "baddie", or being appealing to men who don't even seem satisfied by anything that you do. Or being forced into "black excellence" and being over worked and getting no compassion or empathy. I can do what I want, believe in what I want, dress how I want and be myself.
In the rejection I have found a sense of freedom that is unparalleled. Despite all the disgusting behavior my so called people have put me through, I find solace in said rejection. I am free in every sense of the word and I hope other black women who look like me experience the same.
@@feralltales239 🤎🤎🤎
💯👏yes DIVEST!
You’re African
It's really pretty simple. "Damn girl, you got a phat ass!" or "Good gawd, I wanna smash that" just doesn't have the same kind of effect that "You look absolutely stunning, and your hair is perfect" or "It's hard to put into words how beautiful you are, that dress looks like it was made for you".
RIGHT?!?!?!
Men who speak proper Engish and act like a gentleman: *SWOON*
@@renaerolley5670 Aaabsolutely
Wow. I'm a black man and don't talk to any woman that way but thanks for generalizing all black men as low life thugs.
You know like a decade ago that would work I agree with you. But, you see, now everyone is considered a predator until prove otherwise. That’s not how this is gonna go and or end.
@@AnonymousProPublicaHakr no woman is calling a man a predator for saying "you look absolutely stunning, your hair is gorgeous; that dress was made for you" lmaooo I think you just have no game sir.
I think it's because black men are more interested in hook-up culture and flings, rather than long term committed relationships.
That's not just BM
Yep
Speak for yourself bozo.
100% why. Honestly I hate to say it but it’s a fact. I’m a black man so I can confirm 60% of us black men (that are under the age of 31) are not ready to settle down yet. You have to be brutally honest. We’re a race that in the media is majority considered undesired, and majority considered unattractive but in real life by 15 years old majority of us already (that aren’t loners or geeks) already had sex with women that are badder then the women most white men end up MARRYING. & that’s a fact. Most white men that end up with black women believe they hit the jackpot because most white men aren’t use to regularly dating/fucking genuinely beautiful thick women. I was in alternative school with white boys that were 17 and were literally actual virgins. So of course a white boy is gonna value any and every little thing that looks good. You have to prove yourself to black men, that & a lot of these anime geek females are not attractive to us.
I only date and deal with non BM as I will continue too - their better lovers and etc
I’m black and yt men have always treated me better than blk men
Then go to them
yes, come to us ;)
Same
@@mitch-r7v 😂
As a black woman, I think the people in the comments have made a good point. It's less about race than it is about culture. I was raised in a suburban area and ended up with a white partner who was raised similarly. I'd be open to being with a black guy that was raised the same way, but I know that is a very small odd. I have zero interest in black men that were raised from low-income neighborhoods - trust me I've tried. Twice. There was a very big difference in our mentalities, interests, music taste, religious views, etc. which is why neither relationship worked. Things work with my partner bc of our similarities, and I have someone to enjoy my "white people hobbies" with
You too 😭😭😭??? You get hated by own your likin' somethin' that isn't so called "black culture or black appriopriated" its sad and annoyin' everythin' is about race in this country why can't it be what it is. Music is music no matter who makes it if i like it, i like it simple! Stay blessed!
Lot's of us were raised in nice suburban areas and ended up marrying other black people. DUH! People tend to marry what they are in proximity to. What you're missing is there are many many places in particular outside of large cities where we are not not broke, broken or any other negative stereotype and are flourishing. You state you have no interest in black men from low income situations, so are you sayin you're open to other races that are low income? Broke is broke no matter the color.
@@iAMDREi22 I'm not interested in anyone that wasn't raised in the suburbs. But white people tend to make up the suburbs more than black people do because of our history. That is the sad truth.
I hear you. But I was raised as the only black person on my street, so I still have very little ties to black culture. I didn't grow up with popular black sitcoms and movies, I was never introduced to them by my family. Didn't go to black churches. Black music either with the exception of the classics (Michael Jackson, Whitney Houston) but I ultimately discovered my own taste and really ended up enjoying rock music, which is also white dominant.
Regardless, I feel like by missing out on black culture, it makes it harder for me to bond with and relate to other black people. And there's a very good chance that if I found a black guy that was in the exact same boat as me, I'm sure he'd just prefer a white woman, no? Because that's what he's more familiar with too
@@LifeisaBeautifultingyeah that sounded mad racist . 😂😂😂y’all need help in this comment section
@@kennethlewis3881So because I missed out on black culture and have a harder time relating to black people I'm racist? Why do we as black people love invalidating each other's experiences? And we also love calling everything racist, not everything is racist
I'm black and I have been treated like CRAP by black men. I'm definitely over them and I no longer want to try dating inside my race. I was told to stay in my race as a kid and I hate that I was trying to. I've been treated better by mixed men tbh. I even started liking guys outside my race. Sometimes I think "ugh I'm black they don't want me" but they treat me nice.
I couldn't tell how many times I tried to date black women and all they did was play games.
Black Women who have a Preference for White Men can just own it instead of making it Black Mens’ fault…”Anit no Good Black man, They all Gay, They’re in prison, they’re with Becky” after a while it just sounds like excuses. Just own your preference proudly. No shade !
@@JWW10666 good u don’t look good
@@cherripxt_ My wife does not think so and that's all that matters. According to statistics, BW are the least likely of any race of women to get married and I see exactly why.
@@cherripxt_u mad 😂😂🎉
The healthiest option is to hold the same standard for all men, regardless of race. Don’t spend time and energy with men who are there to waste it. Opening up your dating to include all races and cultures give you more options, and dating is very much a numbers game. There’s no need to exclude a race, when it’s certain behaviors you don’t want.
But if a man holds the same standard for all women, that's somehow racist, hmm....
Yes, and it is possible to know the kind of person you are pursuing before you commit to him. And if you find that you are having a difficult time finding good men, bring in some trusted friends to help evaluate and see if there are any red flags you are missing. It's all about character as long as you are attracted to him it doesn't matter what he looks like, so it doesn't matter what race he is. Culture is something to take into consideration because there are different ways of communicating and things, which even me and my husband ran into despite not feeling like we came from different cultures. So if you do want to date someone with a different culture than your own you need to make sure you know there might be weird issues unique to your situation and both be willing to work through them and learn each other's cultures.
There is when you have preferences for religion and culture. Dating is discriminatory, as it should be.
Exactly 💯👏🏽
@@eastlancsesteem Fine. Every man or woman that you aren't attracted to, should be forced upon you. But you wouldn't like that. It would be quite the paradox if we could all choose the person of our desires.
I've met several black male colleagues who openly bragged to me, that they had/were cheating on their girlfriend/wife.
Most black men cheat sadly
White men do not cheat. Trump and Bill Clinton are black. Same with all the cheat white male celebrities
Not surprised. They openly advocate for why they should be allowed to online 🤡 they’re literal jokes of adult men
I’m white and about a decade ago and half ago I dated a dark skinned black woman. I came to understand that she exclusively dated white men and always had. She never explained why but I treated her like this and came to understand that she was looking to what these women desired in this video. Even after we broke up we continued to talk regularly for many years.
Don't admit to being a white straight male you will get hammered through in non binary or cis amd you might get away with it
Because a lot of black men do not date dark skin black women. They are forced to open their options due to colorism and other issues in the community that limits there options.
It's called self-loathing 😂. It's laborious dating this type of dark skinned BW because they really don't like themselves. Here's a hint: when BM date IR, they simply date women of any race, but BW specifically target and pedestalize whiteness. The common denominator in the video we just watched is WHITE, which means f3tish 🤢. The most colorist people in the Black community are BW -- even to their own kids! Most BM in America were raised by BW. Maybe they know something 💯
Well that's still nice
Dark skinned black people have been generally put down in the black community. That's why she dated exclusively white.
My wife is very dark skinned. Anyone who rejects that is missing out!
But hey, their loss! My wife's an incredible Christian, wife, mom and looks 12-15 years younger than her age. 24 years married and better than ever.
❤❤❤
Nah i bet i dont miss out much. You can keep her buddy. Good luck..
@@dvb8637LOL I don't think he was trying to share her with anyone 😂
Right!? @@meln4214
A woman being dark skin doesn't mean she is a good woman lol
I've seen this with my mixed daughter. Black men treated her like a piece of meat. Her Hispanic partner treats her way better.
I had two friends in high-school. One of them was horrible to girls; and the other was smart, kind, and a gentleman. Girls always chose the one who was horrible.
Every job I've worked at, I've listened to the women gather in groups and have conversations. The majority of these grown women say the exact same thing, they want their bad boys. It's pathetic how females consciously choose this then turn around and speak evil about black men. I think it's a coping mechanism to avoid accountability.
@mrjones4249 though I agree that this is true in a lot of cases. I think this behavior has become almost a culture thing.
Wait until she finds out how her inlaws will treat her. I'm not dihonest enough like plenty of people in the comments who like to lay on the honey extra thick so I'll be as raw as possible. A Hispanic man dating a black woman will have to sell it to his momma, his grandma, his sisters, his cousins etc etc. That's Latino culture for you, if the family don't approve, it probably won't ever work long term no matter how nice it is and this goes for men as well sorry but Latinos can be just a racist and xenophobic as anyone else, diversity in Latin America is often very superficial. I can speak from real world experience that unless your white, or Latino yourself (not afro Latino) your going to have a hard time.
@@danielisaac7586Hmmmm it depends on the person I think ,not all families are the same. Also being mixed is very common in latin America and not a big of a deal compared to America. I agree latin culture can be toxic and colorist sometimes but then again 70% of Dominicans are "mulatto" ,she can fit in right in with them. If she's dating a Mexican then maybe the family will be racist,who knows but I'm an afro Caribbean married to a white Latino and our families get along well. We're religious and conservative and don't believe in racism as we believe God made us equal,that helps but please don't stereotype all Latino families as racist.
@danielisaac7586 Yes, true. VERY TRUE! THEY ARE SO RACIST MOST OF THE TIME. However, my in-laws are cool. Even had my moter-in-law live with us until she passed. I agree with you, but that is not all cases. It's a lot, but not all.
Im now happily married to a white man who treats me Exceptionally WELL. Did NOT seek colour but he swept me off my feet.
Sad truth - Every black man ive dated in the past was bruital - mentality or physically abusive. But i healed over & over again from those painful experinces & GOD blessed me with true Love.
You sound like a perfect human being, im glad you found a white prince that saved you from those evil black men. Go live you disney dream life perfect princess.
@@marcosjunior8313uhmm please dont say blackmen are evil😂
some say we Aryan Kangs fell from Heaven.
Amen, sister!🙏❤️
@@marcosjunior8313 Sound to me like she is. I agree with her, I've experienced the same thing.
I see this as Black victimhood just rehashed. Instead of black people taking accountability for the toxic culture, we blame everybody but ourselves for problems that we create. If you dated someone and you were not satisfied with how he treated you, you should have ended the relationship earlier. Black men have been getting positive reinforcement for negative behavior, which is very common and problematic in the black community.
Blaming everything on racism is ridiculous. Saying racism doesn't exist is equally as ridiculous.
@@MrDMC11889and your point is? Maybe start holding the community accountable for poor behavior THEN crusade against the supposed racism by NOT voting for old white liberals over and over.
My concern is that they'll run out of people to blame! :(
Good point! But they would never recognize there's a problem within their culture. Like for Asian culture that pushes kids to study and follow their parents dreams, you can see a shift of kids rebelling against that.
That said, it's always easier to break up order than put back order where there is a push against it.
There can be truth in what these women say. But one thing is for sure. Black culture tells women to chase bad boy criminals, then the women get online and use criminals as the definition of what a black man is. So when they say "Black Men =struggle love" what they mean is pookie from the jailhouse/drug rapper gangs is hard to love, not the Harvard educated, state school going black man who they call Whyte cause he can read properly and doesn't throw the N-word around at old people. Growing up like anime and reading books got you bullied by these black women who later go on to date white nerds. ( also feminism is deeply rooted in black women's views on more than white women, which is why black men report being respected and listened to when they start dating a becky 😂
I'm a white guy dating a black woman. She said that she used to date exclusively black men because that's what she was told she was supposed to do. Unfortunately, none of them treated her the way she knew she deserved to be treated. Right from the start, I saw her as the intelligent and beautiful woman she is and I always make sure she knows that
@@bzb8554triggered 😅😅
@@RedtheCat2014 lol. Triggered by what exactly, cat lady?
@@bzb8554 that dude's comment
@@RedtheCat2014 Lol. I guess you can finally change your diapers, now that you've gotten your dose of attention for the month 🐠🤢
@@bzb8554 i bet you're an expert on that. Or at least the shit that is in them
Looks like his comment and mine upset you. I🤣🤣🤣🤣
You're the one that can't let it go
Black men were the ones that started hating on their women first. Black women just reacting and males are getting MAD😂😂
If anything us black men encourage bw to date out. We already know how it's going to end. Good luck. You'll need it.
They really not mad. I dare to say most black men don't care
@@TheAccssful look at the comments hon. They're already b1tching about how white men don't want BW😂
@@RmonK2000 i think many BW are desirable across anything ethnicity while many are not.
I also dont think those most BW subscribe the the toxicity promoted in the black culture so they remain desirable. Part of the issue is that we as people wanna chose people we know are wrong for us then complain about how bad the treatment was.
@@RmonK2000 as a large percentage of white men perhaps there might be some truth to that. But stil alot of black women remain desirable right across
I'm an Italian American white guy and I absolutely love dark skin black women. God bless you all!
God bless you too, am a Kenyan lady
I think my biggest struggle with the dating pool is that I'm dating to get married. I'm not dating for fun. So when I tell men that they'll have to wait to have sex, they disappear, which used to hurt, but honestly now, I don't want to date anyone who only wants to use my body and doesn't care to wait and cultivate a relationship. This is a problem that I find with pretty much every race. Though I will say, the words that different cultures use to describe women varies greatly. I won't date a man who calls me "his bitch" or "his hoe" or anything like that. I find that degrading and maybe my standards are too high but I'd rather be single and have high standards than stoop down and be disappointed.
so true
i do that too. i dont date people who talk shit about women. you want to talk shit about other women and me as a species, you aint keeping me.
Don't worry your standards aren't too high. In time a man who values those standards will find you! Don't settle.
You're standards are not high at all! You know your worth. I've actually heard men say things like they want purity but with the same mouth they want a freak in bed. They want a virgin who is also a porn star. And they say women don't know what we want. Lol! Keep your standards and keep being a bad ass!
@@Rae_eLLeyes don’t settle! black woman have been dating down too long now it’s time to breed some of these men’s legacies out - they will resort to competition for you (the prize)
As a white guy, all my friends who are dating black girls are super happy and those girls are totally on her feminine energy
Bcuz they let them BE feminine. Bm require you to hang on to them until they're ready to settle down with you, instead of just staying single, which means you do all the work. Look at Khloe Kardashian.
So I'm curious, if those women are so feminine like yall say they are then why aren't white men marrying black women as much as they marry other races of women? Also why is the divorce rate so high for bw/wm marriages even though a white man is least likely to marry a black woman?
Are they feminine because they are with someone white and they want mixed babies and they tolerate anything including abuse, cheating and more?
@@bashanwashington4801Black women have the lowest divorce rates interracially. Why are you making up lies?
@@bashanwashington4801 Where are you getting you stats from? Black women who marry white men have some of the lowest divorce rates. The opposite can be said about black men who marry white women.
Don’t blame social media “social media ruining the black man’s image” the black man did that himself
Exactly… social media doesn’t pull the images, videos, and commentary from BM out of thin air. 😅
@@seekinghimdaily92 black men give social media free material to use.
FACTSSSSSS. They make themselves look like trash, then blame it on social media 😂😂😂
As a black girl…if it ain’t snowing I ain’t going
Eww babe never say that again. White men aren’t all that
As a black guy…good for you
lol
u got any middle aged friends?
@@mitch-r7v Nah but you can have me 😂
As a black African-raised man I say to each their own, dating should never be based on skin colour. Black brown white or yellow be with whoever you love and reciprocates it back and be happy and proud while at it.
I mean, it’s not race, it’s culture. I don’t blame women from any culture that explicitly hates them for dating outside that culture.
Of course, but when people's experience is the same time and time again and it fails time and time again with people of a certain race, they will stop trying and try something else rather than risking it again.
@@immune18 maybe these women suck at choosing men...somehow no one addresses that. Even when they date other races they have issues. Maybe self reflection will help. Because if bla k men were so bad, other races should be online having the same issues
@@thatsrealroughbud...2394 who hates who, exactly? Lol. If anyone cared who BW date, they wouldn't be the least married group. Use your brain.
@@thatsrealroughbud...2394It’s race, not culture not all people of the same race act the same
As a white guy who likes black women this is very good for me.
As a Light Skinned Hispanic that Loves Hispanic and Black Women, I see this as a win.
As a black man that doesn’t date American women regardless of their race, go crazy lol
😂😂😂
Really felt the need to share ur opinion "as a black man" in this comment section.@@GG-jn9fx
As a black man I have had no trouble with dating women of any race so I see no issues
As a black woman married to a non-black man, i was never against dating black men, but the reality was 1) black men either dated me because im lighter skinner or didnt date me because im black, 2) the features that make us unique are genuinely appreciated by other men whereas its common for black men to avoid black women for their "black features", and 3) as someone who makes well over 6 figures in tech and is almost done with a PhD, it's harder to find BM at the same socioeconomic status 4) general cultural issues and often playing victim
Again im not anti black men, my family is full of good ones. But I'd be lying if i said there isnt a widespread problem with that particular demo. If youre dating to eventually get married, the man has to be mentally and financially prepared for marriage and statistically speaking, it's rarer for BM to possess both of those qualities compared to their peers.
Alot of BM when they reach a certain social-economically level tend to date and marry outside their race because they want the best woman they can find and unfortunately for black women, the best woman the BM can find is outside the black race. So even if a BW was looking for a BM that was on her same level she wouldn't find him.
@@JWW10666 The point BW are making is that even those successful BM are mistreating non-BW.
@@yonce2347 My wife doesn't think so. Also all the other Successful BM (some of which I do business with) are married to none BW and they treat them very well. Either you are picking the wrong ones or there is something toxic you are doing to trigger him to act that way towards you. One thing I learned about BW is they love to gaslight and they don't reciprocate the love a BM shows them. This is one of the many reasons why I step away from BW a long time ago.
@@JWW10666 I was just going by the actual statistics. There’s more domestic violence and single motherhood between BM and other races. It’s not an attack. I just didn’t see the need to invalidate BW when it’s a problem across the board.
@@yonce2347BW are the problem since majority of them got kids before marriage
All my dating experiences have been horrible and I have watched the women around me deal with horrible experiences each and every time dating them …. It saddens me because a lot of BW are taught to be race loyal and the WM is not your friend at young age. I grew up thinking WM didn’t like us because of this and clung to my own. Now I have personal experiences of my own with BM and realized they pushed race loyalty down our throats for their Own benefit , knowing dang well BM are not and will leave his community in a heart beat.
Reading this comment section confirmed that anti black male propaganda is just as effective now, as it was when Woodrow Wilson debuted Birth of a Nation on the White House lawn.
Any time I ever voiced any frustration with white racism on a so-called conservative channel like this, I was told to get over it and stop crying, I was called divisive for even voicing my experiences, and my comment got vastly outnumbered in likes.
Ironically, here you have an entire comment section claiming black men are trash because they had a couple bad dating experiences.
Apparently, all that conservative critical thinking goes out the window when we’re discussing black men🤷🏾♂️ I’ve never seen so many generalizations and stereotypes. Never seen so many people unite against one demographic like this before. I’ve never even seen gay people get talked about this badly before. I’m very disappointed in everybody who participated in this anti black male venting experiment, or whatever it was.
didnt they put themselves in those horrible positions? as a BM im that guy who actually loves and prefers BW (like majority of BM yall just never pick them) until I realized on average they dont like BM that are into the things im into so I accepted that and moved on, I still have dated majority BW so for yall to say majority of BM dont like BW is so wild. then yall act like yall dont know there are good BM out there and say "Majority of BM are bad" when yall dont even go for a majority of BM, yall all go for the small amount of BM that YALL KNOW wont be there in the future, then complain???
Im starting to think yall arent talking about love, yall are talking about Men yall can control
@@yeahmhmmrightokaymhmmyeahsure Why is it wild? The numbers say otherwise. Black men are the most likely of any race of men to date outside of their race. The numbers don't lie, sorry.
And on the other side, the numbers show that black women have, and still are, unfortunately, the most loyal to black men when it comes to dating/marriage. It's very strange to hear anyone say that black women hate black men, when you see all over the media black men disparaging and being racist to their own women, and that has been the case for decades. Shouldn't you be happy that black women are going outside of their race when black men have said for years that black women are inferior?
@@yeahmhmmrightokaymhmmyeahsure yall are acting like it’s so easy to see somebody’s intentions
@@Katiebo008 it is if you make them wait as long as you make the guy who will actually be a good pick for you wait, yall always know what you are getting into with a guy before you take it serious with him
I married a Black Dominican woman. 3 kids and I have no regrets. I am so happy, even 12 years later. Just saying that black women are extremely beautiful.
Do you include Meatball in this statement?
But she's a black Dominican. Big difference!
Okkk ?
@clotshot9459
Stop with this nonsense
Almost seems like there is some jealousy here.
One possible answer is that there are so few black fathers in the home. If they were present to teach their sons about respecting other people things would improve markedly, in my opinion.
....well they mothers should pick better stop trying to change the bad guy into the nice guy....THE DIFFERENCE is the nice guy aint waiting to be last anymore&that's for all races
@@jordanwilson3120 Jordan Peterson talked about that. The confidence and leadership from narcissistic, macho men appeals to women because they view it as a strong masculine trait. It makes them think they will be protected. Unfortunately, that's not the reality. So after a while, it becomes toxic and destructive. But that's why, generally, women are attracted to those types of men.
I think both men and women aren't taught how to seek out positive, complimentary traits within each other. All too often men will not choose the "good" girl type either and we all know how that ends up.
@saltycat662 no men choose the good girl to marry&the bad girl to sleep with.....BUT WOMEN choose the bad men to have children with&it shows through out the black community...IF they fail to change the man that's when child support&government assistance come into play...nice guys aint WAITING TO FINISH LAST ANYMORE its simple tbh
@@jordanwilson3120yeah that's why we are choosing white men because they are better😂
well y'all chased them from the homes though
Go where you are celebrated, if black women are getting treated better by white men, more power to them. Wish them the best🖐🏾
Thank you 💗
Intelligent comment
thankyou. i luv bw. send as many as possible.
Black men have just been so consistently hurtful we’re over it 😢
Whose we, there are black women who could see the dustiness from a mile away and were never attracted to black men lmbo
@@libfuzzy4629 we is black women that date black men I’m sorry the society has promoted division and hatred for you towards your own race
Has a YT man married you yet??
@@younghandsome3447 thank you for providing an example to further prove my point with your disrespectful response. Point proven n it’s actually really sad black men are just this socially numb and tone deaf to concerns of your black counterparts
@@wigsplitter777please marry them all take them
As a black man who has dated all types of women, I can say the same thing about black women. I have found more peace and felt more like a man dating non-black women so the pendulum swings in both directions I guess. Do what makes you happy
Amen bro!! These women can peace out, my wife is Greek!!!
Amen amen amen hallelujah to the king the word is power and peace black men do y'all thang I ain't mad at y'all get y'all options black love does not exist and it never ever will it's reality but other ethnicities are dogs too and just stupid too that's reality as well I'm not just gonna put black men in a negative space there is great men and terrible men in all ethnicities, and there are great woman and terrible women too in every ethnicity too but black love have never been and never will be you just have to find someone who fits you to a tee that's all have a deep connection with someone. beauty is on the inside coming out .self hated and self lothing will never prosper in your relationships remember that ❤❤ all love noo hate and to all my African sisters all over Africa from north south east and west Africa you guys are in this too I love you guys take y'all power back please stop dealing with these men that don't have anything to offer you but heart ace and suffering and that means all men not just black men Even though they are the lead of this you should take what you can get nonsense and foolishness but yeah and also to my Caribbean sistas as well y'all don't have to take this either goo runn as fast as you can away from these dangerous men they will definitely hurt and kill you love yall have a blessed day loves ❤️🔥♥️
@@Ashtarynsworldthank you very much. I as a 20s year old man from the Caribbean have been called names like shrek and gramps because of my receding hairline. And have been called stalker. I just keep my distance from them. I know everybody everyone everywhere and including myself have a preference but nobody has and or have to keep going around hating every one. 💯💯
@@Ashtarynsworldjust look on how these young black women attack bronny James for carrying a white girl to prom 🤧😕
is that why so many non-black women end up as baby mamas to black men?
i can't speak for black women but as an asian woman i know how it feels, in my experience the men from my home country are incredibly misogynistic and it's not even challenged there, it's only after i moved to a more western country and met the local (mostly white) men there that i became treated as more of an equal instead of being expected to always obey the man and be a housewife...
exactlyyyyy
YET THE APPEAL IS THAT YOU WAS RAISED UNDER YOUR CULTURE AND EXPECTED TO SUBMIT
Where I’m from women are taught to obey respect men at such a young age too.
@@Why_you_mad_tho???
Have you seen the trend of western men going to Asian countries and South America to find women who are submissive and obey them, they wish also to be the misogynistic men like in your country
As an African America young woman with a white bf whos previously dated hispanic, black and white men , this is ACCURATE. I love ALL people and of course MY OWN people but I am tired of the disrespect and mistreatment that unfortunately comes from dating black men. My older brother had the audacity to tell me that this (black men vs women) started because when the original Color Purple movie came out it ruined the "black mans image" and made them out to seem like savages, etc. and perpertrators of violence against their women so they majorily started gravitating toward other races of women for that. I also dont like how much ive even HEARD black men say "ThEY dOnT DaTe BlAcK WomEn" for various DISRESPECTFUL, offensive and sometimes downright COLORIST reasons, its sick. Meanwhile, white men who are (who date black women) because SOME OF THEM DONT TOO (as ive been told and can believe) are usually so loving, sweet, genuinely try to understand us for who we are and where we come from, etc. thats what black women need, its WHAT WE DESERVE in a world that tries to say we're ugly and undesirable . Smh
What people dont realize too though is A LOT of people still HATE interracial relationships so LADIES dating outside their race make sure you have STRONG MAN to help handle that hate. Dont give it attention but make sure thats something that wont faze him! I remember asking my bf out of curiosity how hed feel if someone approached us angry that we're together (I live in the south, they definitely give dirty looks lol) and it made me feel SO GOOD for him to be like they can kick rocks, go the hell, etc. because he genuinely cares for and wants to be / stay with me...nothing, especially a funky opinion will . should change that. Shoot, my aunt HATES that I date outside my race and multiple times has asked me why id date white men...Smh
@Crueltbk they say that’s one of the reasons that BW/WM marriages last. Both are the strength of their community, and have to fight societal pressures to be together. It’s better to be with someone who is willing to fight to be with you than someone who takes the opportunity for granted. Just a thought.
@Crueltbk Thank you for explaining BM’s reaction to The Color Purple, and damaging their image. Now I see why they make reference to Oprah as their enemy too. Overall, I’m seeing that the problem for BM is not the existence of DV, and other behaviors exhibited in The Color Purple. They just don’t want you to talk about it, because it makes them look bad. That’s typical of someone who wants to maintain an image, and position.
When you voicing your concerns and telling your story makes them look bad, they work to silence you. They don’t care about your issues or concerns, especially when they benefit them. BM oppression of BW is an issue that we never discussed, because of our commitment to stand in solidarity with them against racist oppression. We wanted equality and justice for us all, but they only wanted it for themselves … we’re now finding out. I say that’s why there’s so much disrespect and mistreatment … because equality feels like oppression for the oppressor. That makes you a threat that they need to subdue and humble, so they can feel powerful, once again. Just a theory.
We didn’t really think about it, but BM had sexist oppression on their side. That was their “power,” in the midst of subjugation. I’m wondering if
I’ll tell u this, white men are not much different. Don’t be fooled by your small experiences. Of course if u find the right white men and the wrong black men/hispanic men, you’ll form an opinion based on your own small sample size. But don’t hold a standard for ALL men of that race based on those experiences. There are bad seeds in ALL races, and cultures. Not trying to diminish your opinion, but you experience is not THE experience. I know u know plant of black and Hispanic men that don’t fit that negative description. Just like I know u know that there’s plenty of white men that aren’t the best of people. U just need to surround yourself with better people of all shades.
@@TheIcemanthomas Her experience is not a SMALL experience, sir. Her experience is the experience that MANY BW are having with BM. Her experience is one that people of all races, who are paying attention to BM can attest to. BM have shouted LOUD AND CLEAR their disdain for BW. It’s not a small number of them. I’m confused how you’re sitting here listening to a video about a huge cultural shift, but think it’s this woman’s “small experience.” Get a clue.
Apparently, she found the right people to surround herself with, at least re: the WM she’s happy with. Does it mean they’ll have NO relationship issues? Nope. But the misogyny is PREVALENT among BM. If we unpack it, we can attribute some of it to the subjugation of BM etc. under WS and patriarchy. These systems leave non-WM feeling powerless among men, and they overcompensate for it through fierce power and control over “their” women. We can call it displaced anger and aggression. That is not a small experience. That is a global experience, especially among oppressed groups of people.
At the end of the day, people are people, and WM have their issues, like everyone else. But as a woman with romantic interests, it helps to have “a day off from racism” perpetuated by your own men through misogyny. I’ll second her sentiment. I don’t date men, at all. When I was dating men, I only dated BM. I stopped dating them for my own safety and peace of mind. They bring too much drama with them. My dating life has been happier, more peaceful, more prosperous and stable, as a result. I can grow and prosper, instead of the life being sucked out of me.
The misogyny is REAL, as is the pervasive intention to dominate, manipulate, exploit, and control (aka pimp) women. I stopped dating BM for my own safety and peace of mind. Like they said it’s the CULTURE of BM that is expressed OPENLY through the media that BM create. They’re spewing it out of their own mouths, and have been for decades now. It’s affected the next generations and it is embedded in BM culture. So stop the gaslighting, sir. How many EXPERIENCES of dating BM, WM, or any men, as a WOMAN have YOU had?
Nobody is going to start doubting their reality because you’re sitting here trying to tell them that they’re “small minded” with “limited experience,” therefore they don’t know what they’re talking about. Or that it’s just a coincidence that she’s not having the same experience with her WM that she was having with BM. That logic might make you sleep better, or relieve your BM cognitive dissonance. Good luck with that, but don’t expect BW who have (the highest DV rates, while being among the smallest percentage re: population of women) dated, lived with, co-parented with, married, and divorced MANY BM, to pretend not to see what’s all around us. Is it her “small experience” that upward of 70% of children in the BC grow up without their father in the home? What about how BM, not matter how much money they have, tend not to want to pay child support for the children they have with two or more women too? You just think that’s not a problem or an issue? That’s a PROBLEM.
Common sense would tell you that if you get involved with a BM and have children by him, you will, more than likely end up raising that child without him. Not only is that not a “small experience,” or an opinion. That’s a fact. For most men of other cultures, raising and providing for their children is EXPECTED. Not taking care of your children is not NORMALIZED. Having children with multiple women is not NORMALIZED. Nick Cannon is a disgrace, but his behavior is NORMALIZED in the BC. How do you, as someone who is serious about family, choose this kind of a man to build a family with?
I know that was long … but the fact that they highlighted this reply prompted me to respond. Open your eyes. Get a clue. These are just SOME OF THE REASONS BW have “had it.” Trust me when I tell you, there are many more.
I’m a white man. In 88’ I dated a black woman who was the cousin of Salt, from Salt&Peppa. She already had a baby from a previous relationship with a white man. Everyone in the neighborhood thought the baby was mine, but the baby wasn’t. She chose white men because that was her preference and was attracted to white men. I never questioned her about it because at the end of the day it didn’t matter. Be with who you want to be with. That’s the bottom line. Period.
As an older man, I can tell you that black women I have dated, over at least forty years, have virtually always told me, they will not date black men because of the way they treat women. I’ve always had to be careful how and who I tell this to, due to the fear of being perceived a racist.
Your not r@cist, those women are r@cist😂
Are you white?
@@user-qy6tu9ip9vI’m white!! I will tell women of the world not to date American black men 🎉🎉🎉
The truth is that Black men have a preference and it’s not dark skin women. It’s just simple colorism. Facts
It's social climbing. Same reason I want a white man
Not facts. The answer is simple, but colorism isn't why many black men want to date outside. And black men predominantly dare black women so what are you even talking about
It is. Most black women have black skin or at least not a light skin. They want light/white skin. That’s it. They always say it themselves. I’m African but I support black American with this. They have enough problems. This is one they can avoid, by simply going where they’re loved
Colorism is an ugly girl talking point. If you look good, you look good.
@@kev2263no it isn’t. Darkskin women are a lot of the times clowned on for the sake of lighter women, even she is objectively prettier🤷🏾♀️
As a white guy married 20+ years to my beautiful Queen, I approve of this message.
Fake. White men never say things like this
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Those white simps swear think they are doing something. She is only with you because you are white. She just wants the mixed kids to look good for her self-hating family.
Hold your L bro 😂😂😂
Black men pimped black women instead of protecting and providing for them, they used black women to provide for themselves... theyre Evil in human form
I truly regret the time I wasted on black men! I never dated thugs or Ray ray or pookie. I dated college educated “good “ on paper black men and their all treated me badly! I’m not a stereotype of black woman whom is loud and arrogant. I’m pretty much always been quiet and reserved. I realized later in life Black men were never compatible with me. generations of women lied to me about black men. Good for the new generation for knowing better. 💔
more for us :)
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I have a problem with this premise. As was stated by on of the women in this video, "I date in my race, and out of my race. If you fine you fine." If you date me for my skin color, you're gonna be single really quickly. Date for heart and personality.
This sounds really goofy, who wouldn't want to marry someone who doesn't have there same race.
@@IronLionHeart2597 My parents are of different races. As someone who is multiracial, I gotta say, dating someone for their race is racist. You like someone, like them for them, not their skin. Keep the lotion out of the basket Wild Bill. 🤣
Her experience dating BM as a whole has been negative because BM often speak very poorly of BW, especially if she is dark skinned. Maybe because you're white you do not understand, but colorism in the blk community is a very big thing. Dating for heart and personality for BW equals dating outside of your race because BM by in large do not know how to treat women and many Blk men have self hate issues. Maybe this video would help you understand how many of these men think. ua-cam.com/video/A5IelejtX3A/v-deo.html&pp=ygUYYWJhIGFuZCBwcmVhY2ggZGFyayBza2lu
@LOVE-510 I understand why someone who lives in a cold climate would want to have lighter children. It's about health at that point.
Why can't skin color be part of the total aesthetic?
I mean it does cover your entire body.
It's not about race, it's about who you get along with. Who you connect with and who you fall in love with.
Generalizations are made based off previous experiences
Except that in different races, there are dating cultures and in the black community, the respect of women is usually not a part of that dating culture. So it is a little about race and culture.
love is fantasy
@@Yuu-d7bWomen in other cultures are taught to present themselves respectfully
I love different nationalities of women
A black girl that I grew up with was obsessed with black men, she fell madly in love with them and went crazy for them. (literally, she would go crazy) and she would get cheated on, messed around, find out they were speaking to other girls etc etc. I thought she was destined to always be that way, but I found out a year ago that she is now married to a white man and has a kid with him. Sometimes if things aren't working, you need to try something else.
😂 sounds like me
Her problem had nothing to do with color, but the men she chose. I had two friends in high-school and they were both black. One was smart kind and a gentleman, while the other was horrible to women. Women flocked to the horrible one. How can the one's who chose men like him turn around and say black men are horrible when they are drawn to horrible men.
EVERY job I've been at I've heard women say they want a man who is bad. Multitudes of women are like this. I am a man who believes in order, so these types of women wouldn't like my personality.
@@mrjones4249bro.. lol. It IS about colour. It doesn't mean that every single black guy is that way, it's just that its disproportionately higher for black men to be like that than it is other races. We can not begin to fix issues unless they are first accepted as truth/fact, which this clearly is.
@@immune18 You don't even know if it is "disproportionately higher", or what that means in practicality. Even more important than that, the information would regardless be useless in terms of "fixing issues".
@@seg162 You were incorrect 3 times during a single statement. Step it up if you're gonna reply to me again.
As a black men dating a black women. I sometimes indulge in this type of content as therapy. And then remind myself to how much I love my black queen.
I hear so many Black men using that term, Black Queen, yet , I see no evidence of Black women being treated wall as a whole. And, when they date women of other cultures, the treatment is not any better. You can see that in interracial high profile marriages where these women have Black husbands. It's embarrassing. Thew treatment is so bad in how we are treated until we see to the point of ad nauseam , Black women on UA-cam displaying their marriages to white men and how wonderful it is. That's because they are not used to being treated well by their own. They are so incredibly happy until they don't know how to act. I know, because when I dated interracially, I could not believe the HUGE difference in treatment.
You needed a reminder? Lol 🤡
Moral of the story, dont date trash people of the opposite sex.... and if you concerned that your partner is too loyal, get help and talk to someone because you have some issues that need to be worked out.
I'm dating white man (I'm Asian), he treats me as queen, I sometimes think how is this possible, being treated with so much respect and care. I've never experienced it before.
Isn't that the norm for Asians. Like 50% of Asians in the US date and marry out
I mean it's known that Asian women worship white men
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@frog.capone3070 Noodles in this comment section making it about them. They love taking every chance they get to boast about yt men.
😂😂I just had to laugh because with this particular interracial combination it comes as no surprise that an Asian women is deifying her white man like this. Whether what she is saying is true about this mans apparent divine character, or a tremendous exaggeration with which you can find similar characteristics in an Asian man, or any kind of man for that matter, you just know that this particular demographic would of ended up with a white man regardless as per usual, even if said man didn't bathe, was an Alt-right white supremacist, & was unemployed. Like who are you fooling😭🤣??? It was because he was white which was why you were attracted to him Miss Asian lady that was the only criteria be honest ma'am 😂@@user-qy6tu9ip9v
Black women have always been so race loyal. And this "movement" thing is just to stop being so stubborn, because alot want to stop this baby momma pandemic.
Race loyal? This might sound controversial, but Black women have been the easiest ever since I can remember (speaking as a semi-white guy).
Maybe if y'all dated black men n not pookies n ray Ray's
It’s not race loyal, it’s convenience loyal- women will end up with the type of men who approach them most. And for bw that’s bm. Asian women date out more than Asian men- Asian women aren’t disloyal they just have options everywhere
@@civildiscourse7626 I don't think White guy's are out here approaching Asian women the most lol.
@55CINCO55 i can assure you that these girls you have been around have always been in predominantly non-black surrondings.
Funny. I'm white, I married a dark skinned black woman. Once I decided to tease her a little and told her if I could change one thing about her, I'd make her skin darker.
In all seriousness, though.
If white men are into black women, then we go all the way. No dark and natural is too much.
You are a minority, white men aren't dating and marrying black women in masses.
@BadBloodNTheCommonGround Yeah but that 11% is a CRAZY high example. Most white men (and men in general) dont do interracial. And the white men that do, go for Asians and Latinas 90% of the time. Lower that number to 2% and its a more realistic figure.
Black women used to not be willing to date interracially.@@deadcell1
@@FrostbitexP Who wants to get rejected? White men have always been attracted to sisters but knew sisters used to only date brothers.
@@JK-nq1dland that's changing fast lol
I'm a trilingual black American woman who's lived and traveled abroad in both Europe and East Asia. Stints that I spent back in the States were very challenging when it came to dating as I felt less and less in common with American men in general (black, white, etc). Since I plan to move abroad again soon, I feel I'll be back in my element again to date men of other nationalities/cultures who aren't culturally American and speak at least 2 languages. I'm all for black women expanding their boundaries and not limiting themselves to dating only black men. And every black women needs to prioritize having a passport. Let's expand our horizons!
Youd find it Utah that many white and latino guys speak more than one language and have left the country
You should try Taiwan! I’m a tall mixed black man but some of my peers were dark skinned black women and they got a fair amount of attention! Also the culture is really nice and outdoorsy if you like that stuff!
Amen!!!
I'm white and my girlfriends is black, when we started dating she said exactly the same thing to me. It seems to be a rral issue. Well... lucky me!🎉
The fact that she even brought blk men up proves that you were not her first choice and she got with you because Good Blk Men didn't want her 😂😂😂.
@@TylerJ__ exactly, they live in her head rent free. She probably only dates pookies and rays..
I love white men too
@@TylerJ__ Maybe, maybe not. What I do know, though, is that the last time a girl I was with highlighted my ethnicity-- even though she did it positively and as a point of praise-- it was awkward at best.
And that was without her comparing me to people of different ethnicities.
@@seg162 Anybody who puts down their own race to justify dating out is a w]=irdo and red flag.
As someone viewing all this from the outside, the root of the problem is the CULTURE. Black Americans need to take a deep look into their culture and identify all the problems within. The constantly hating on one another won't fix a thing.
As an Afrikan liSwati, I agree, and the infighting leads to no solutions as they end up uploading videos about not dating each other. I see black love everywhere here since black is the majority & mixed/foreign is the minority. Their culture has been creeping here to 1st through mainstream media (via TV) & now the internet, but mostly copied by 'City girls/boys' is what they are known as & especially my neighboring country South Africa is nicknamed 'The America of Afrika' because the people who live in their big cities like to copy the Black American culture 🤦♀️
I'm a mixed American and yes it is cultural. I was adopted into a white family so I didn't grow up around black culture. The difference between black people who associate themselves with black culture and those who don't is night and day.
It's culture of America & west bc in Africa none of them behaving like that, in fact many of African country still believe with family value
@@cynthiahembree3957This.
As a black woman it has nothing to do with culture, bm are seriously colorist to start, and they don't believe in taking care of their children, black African men are exactly the same way, 60% of African women in certain countries are single mothers and we don't share culture. Bw have been fighting for bm lives for a long time without any reciprocation. This war is bcuz bw are now refusing to be bm step stool to ww. They told our mothers that if they stood by them then they would reap the rewards. There are no rewards to reap they are selfish, and we are realizing that's who they've always been.
Black women just going with the men that choose them, hence non black men
I only choose black women so this isn't accurate
I'm a Mixed race (half Mexican half white American) man, and I am always so shocked that many black people value "light skin" so much.
I think really dark black women are drop dead gorgeous!
I think so too, but Black men are highly colorists.
Why do a lot of Mexicans not like blacks or when Mexicans date blacks?
@@Heat_Rush black women are more colourists than black men.
It's the same thing in Mexican culture as well. Heck it's prevalent in Latin culture. There is a reason mejoror la Raza is a common saying south of the border
It isn't just black people though. Look at Korea, SEA, India. People with darker skin historically have always been looked at as a lower (laborer) class.
I’m a 22 year old woman. I’ve dated my share of white men and I’ve dated my share of black men. I’m mixed, so I’m Mexican and Hispanic. (I’m adopted. But my birth mother is black and my father is like me, Mexican/hispanic) black men will legit degrade us so much MORE than a white man EVER WOULD. The amount of times I’ve tried to date black men, only for them to just think of me as something for them to f*ck. But whenever I date white men, THEY are the ones who appreciate me, understand what I like, etc. I get really annoyed when other black people stare at me like I have 3 heads when I say “oh, I’m dating a white man.” And they’re SO QUICK to either laugh, or question: “Why?” I have my reasons, as well as any other black woman who dates outside of their race. I always have a fear of seeming racist when I bring this topic up. But I’m being SO FOR REAL when I say that white men GENUINELY care for me, WAY MORE than the men INSIDE of my race, EVER HAD.
I dont knock your experience but your missing the men's side a lil bit... as a black man if you want to be as successful as possible with either the latina, or especially black women... the incentive to be fuck boy is high those are the guys getting all the women... a black men who likes to go to school and pays his bills on time is a lame in the black community... where as for a white guy women don't mind if hes just an engineer who can't dance and don't have all the drip... its easier as a white men to treat your lady nice and get rewarded wheres a black man you getting no play... women love black men who veer on the side of dangerous, slightly hood, tatted whatever...
Most black women would choose a kevin gates, or nba young boy over a michael b jordan... but then complain later why dating is effed up when their attracted to the drama
@CareBear2480 sounds like you been ran through
Cause you dated every black man in the world go be a bed wench if you want to don't bring us into it
@@And1one757most black men are Kevin gates adjacent
My ex husband is white. EVEN DIVORCED we have a wonderful coparenting relationship and are friends..his other divorced friends, not so much at all. I have a biracial daughter
So married or divorced, or business, black women and white men are just a good pairing who know how to get things done for our families.
I dated white because my standards were education,m and gainful employment....and they actually liked me. Easier to find dating outside the community.
I had a strong black father and knew the traditional roles. Moat black men had feminine energy, which was offputting. I know what a man in the household looks and feels like.
I'm a white guy from "stay with your own race" parents in a historically racist area. I've always been attracted to black women. Even my first crush in third grade was a black girl. She was dark. But, because of my parents, I've never had the courage to even consider following my own heart. I would say that a lot of people staying with their own race is due to parental pressure. I know a lot of white guys that are attracted to black women but feel like they'd be ostracized for how they feel so they're truly miserable. I also know black people who are attracted to white people and are also pressured by their parents to stay within their own race and its all because the older generations lived through the most racially tense times in history. They will always have it in their mind that mixing is a terrible idea. All that being said, I do know couples where both parties are black and they are extremely happy. I don't think race of a partner has anything to do with it. It's all about how the other person makes you feel and how they treat you. I've always dated white women, even though I've always been more attracted to black women, and most of them have cheated so even that isn't a racially or gender lopsided thing. Inconsiderate people are just Inconsiderate
Nah, most people actually prefer their own race every study shows. Creating a racial outcast for offspring is a terrible strategy in a evolutionary sense. When things get tough they are the first to be excluded. Blood truly is thicker than water.
It's very odd that when I was a teen got called a race trader, told me I was a disgrace. I have never been with a black man because I grew up in the hood, and I got bullied constantly by my own race. So I went where I was wanted. Watching all the ghetto shenanigans was a turn off, I don't want a thug, or a cheater, and that's all I saw growing up I'm not in to that "culture" I'm 32 now and sad to say I don't think I'll have that "black love" and honestly that's okay.
This comment actually made me laugh because it accurately described my situations. "You sound white", "bounty", "you're not black", "Oh you want a white girl" after describing activities I'd want to do. I actually look at those memories kind of fondly. Looking back, they always had 2 of the following: piercing's in places that didn't make sense, tattoos, long nails, long lashes, tons of makeup, tight clothes, etc. I understand now that any 1 those red flags isn't necessarily a bad thing but if they have a collection of them, I should be avoiding them in all races.
@@VandalVortex Lol I got told "talk white" "dress white" and that I listened to "white people music". Also I rejected a guy because I didn't know him and got told that "It's because he's a lightskin" which was funny because I'm mixed
Your lose lady enjoy your white boys hope there his racist mum likes you
@@VandalVortexall races of women wear lashes, tons of makeup, long nails, and tattoos. Lmaoooo
@@VandalVortex black people are a minority in America so finding a black partner who doesn’t partake in “aa culture” is hard. It’s bound to happen that those of us that don’t fit in that box have to look else where for love.
A lot of black men are treating women of all races wrong, it’s not just black women, black culture needs to do better as a whole, if you want a good relationship you have to be a good person, that’s the best way to have a successful relationship, treat your girl good
Black men are not treating women wrong, these women choose their "bad boys" then complain about them being bad. They know who they are choosing.
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Lies and shaming tactics don't work anymore
They don't want to, they like the thought of having access to multiple women, look at Nick Canon, that's also what the black manosphere preaches, having women compete for them.
And what treatment should black men expect in return?
This is unfortunate especially for us good black men who now have to deal with the consequences of other black men’s actions. It really makes the dating pool seem bleak for those of us who want a long term relationship, work hard, and were raised with morals and respect.. However I get it. It definitely hurts but I completely empathize.
Go to Africa you'll find a Good and wonderful Black woman to Marry I promise you, you won't regret it.
I agree. It’s a waking nightmare
That is true facts. And you see they are done with black men. And Muslim women's are taking their place.
As a black man I’ve never had a problem with women.. they fuck it up for THEMSELVES lol. If you were foolish enough to miss out on me because of your own generalizations that’s on you. All black women that get my attention are valued.
Never apologize for the actions of others. If I commented my experiences of racism from white people at various jobs, *on this exact same channel, everybody* would tell me to get over it. They’ll say “it was just 1 or 2 white people who did that to you. That doesn’t mean all white people are bad. Stop being a victim”
And my comment would get outnumbered with the likes so badly, it would be embarrassing. Yet, if you read these comments, this is essentially an anti black male venting session. All that “don’t make generalizations about an entire group” shit flew completely out the window. Just read these comments. I’ve never seen so many people confess their prejudices in one place, and actually bond over it. *Everybody* has a friend who allegedly once dated a black guy, left for a white guy, and is so much happier now🤣 everybody’s got a story about how white men are so much nicer. One girl even said she’s done with black men because she tried not once but TWICE and it didn’t work. She put emphasis on the TWICE🤣 so because she knew 2 black guys who were bad guys, she is done with the entire race? And this is coming from *the same exact people* who would tell me to stop crying if I wanted to vent about racism I’ve experienced.
Bro, I don’t even watch this type of content anymore because there is nothing fruitful about it. This is an echo chamber for the cognitively dissonant and prejudiced. The best thing you can do is immerse yourself completely in whatever your life’s work is. Success is the greatest revenge, and this applies to black men more than anybody. Everybody is against us and they want you to feel responsible for the shortcomings of other black men even though it has nothing to do with you whatsoever. Stay away from these types of delusional women and
This is definitely a cultural thing. I am a black women,mother is Haitian (grew up in Miami, a pretty diverse place),and father “african American”( grew up in Mississippi; they met in the navy. My mother and step father actually dated back in high school, and reconnected and got married when I was 10years old.My step father treats my mother like a queen. Cooks for her( he loves to grill/Cooke), I never herd him call her out of her name, put hands on her, takes care of the yard work,and both their cars. The last african American man I dated was a toxic relationship. I was made to feel like I was not his preference, because he would disrespect me and flirt with women on social media ( with women who look nothing like me, which I felt was his preference).Fast forward after that I started working over seas and being approached by caribean/island men, who worked for the same company as me,who spoiled me and treated me like a queen.(mostly black,but non American men.) My husband and I will now be married for a year in February. He is Puerto Rican. And he is my best friend. 💕
It's like people saying:"You cannot fire me, I quit", because a lot of black men quit black women. Which is sad
@noone3939 you're very wrong it's the other way around Black Men love black women but Bladk women don't love Black Men
@darnellwilliams8783 You gotta admit brother, you ain't seeing more black women with white men around here, you only see black men marrying the white women more then anybody out here. The black man better start getting rid of his goofy ways in marrying foreign women. It makes y'all look like a fool.
@@darnellwilliams8783 its both
@@sphinx3749 no it ain't yall trying to change the narrative
The self hate is real
I love it - it's about time black women stop putting up with being treated like trash by thugs.
Why do they choose to date thugs?
It's funny how many sistahs claim It's essentially all blk men instead of making sure to single out the bad blk men many sistahs themselves chose to be with.
U CHOOSE THEM !!!!
Or they can stop picking thugs. Unfortunately, black women are attracted to thugs.
@@KidRipable"He was a thug when you met him!"
No. They’re done dating trash black men but refuse to see good black man as actually existing. Not every black woman thinks this, but what is seen here is a subset among the entire community of black women.
@Vergil14 how dare you call all Black Men trash and this why Black Men are dating White women they appreciate Black Men
Exactly. And there are plenty of white guys out there who treat women like garbage.
These women just need to start dating BETTER guys, not X/Y/Z skinned guys.
That applies to most women that complain about women tbh. And visa versa. You date trash because you ignore red flags, then blame a whole gender.
@@darnellwilliams8783 you clearly don’t read as well as you think. I said “they’re done dating trash black men but refuse to see good black men as actually existing.” As in, they don’t like trash black men but lump good black men with trash black men. Read carefully next time.
@@st0nedpenguin but they don’t wanna hear that. And it’s sad because they’ll choose to listen to everyone who appeals to their feelings than the truth.
Yeah I'm black and I know I'm most likely not going to marry a black guy
Same 💯 way above the bar with most BM
SAME!!!! No more dusties!!!💯💯💯
Same! I want beautiful children and I want a handsome husband who just isn’t blk.
Lol Even Candace Owens don't mess with blk men. She saw who they were and left quickly and never turned back lol. Let me mind my non-melanated business. 🤣 Love your videos Amala.
The culture that many of these black men grew up in did not prioritize seeking loving long term relationships with emotionally mature women. The popular media pushed, money, fame, drugs, and sex. Men of any race raised with those things as their goals in life don't tend to care that much about the women they are around besides the clout having lots of lovers might bring them. Many of the black men I've worked with all had multiple baby mamas which is just completely outside of the norm of my social circles.
So I know I'm a rarity in the 'African' American discussion, but here's my take: I grew up in Hawaii for 17 years, lived in Australia for 3 from 2006 to 2009, and after I joined the US Air Force, I lived in Germany for three years. I grew up around MOSTLY, Japanese, Chinese, Korea, Pacific Island, Filipinas, and European-descent women. While I do view them as more exotic looking (different from me) I may see them as my 'norm' because I grew up around them. I have also noticed that women in these ethnicities are more family oriented towards me, and also value my presence more than a black girl has. (ESPECIALLY WHEN I WAS IN EUROPE!)
There was a difference in culture however; I was made acutely aware of this growing up. 'You talk white', 'You watch anime - that's white people and Asian stuff', 'You don't like rap unless it's Eminem', 'Rock and Emo are white people genre', etc... It's like I wasn't black unless I fit a mold. A mold that required struggle, a certain vernacular, and outlook on other ethnicities at times. It was simply a worldview I couldn't and still can't have considering the friends I had growing up. I literally had friends of every major ethnic group while growing up. So any kind of hatred towards another is not okay to me. Ironic racial jokes and jabs are fine - I do have a sense of humor, but I could just never fit in with the Black expectation - especially not the one black women had of me.
But for other women, it's like not knowing made them except me as I came. There was no expectation because they believed having one might make them racist to some degree. That's just me thought.
Anybody else?
I'm right there with you. I did a lot of activities associated with "Whiteness" and there was a level of disconnect with Black women in that regard. I don't blame them for feeling that way. However, generalizations are hurting both BM and BW, leading to this kind of mindset to prevail.
There is also the opposite. People think when you enjoy black music etc you are a "wigger" or have a black preference, especially in Black America. The problem is people in the States confuse color for culture where the rest of the world sees nationality, ethnicity and religion as markers of culture. Black Americans can be platonic friends, but our cultural values are different. Not to mention their appropriation of our fashions etc that they believe to be black. No, love - those are Italian and French labels you love. Def not "black fashion", lol. But you can't tell them nothing because they always have to be right.
I said the same thing ,it is the culture that both black American men and women created this ,I’m African but in my own country in Africa ,the culture is vastly different,we value family value alot ,we care about traditions and we values traditional values both men and women ,that doesn’t mean that some African will not date out but the vast majority of African marry their own and care about their own ,we don’t talk shit on each other online and we definitely support each other not only in Africa but also internationally.
@@baz3575the reason why WIGGERS are met with suspicion is because some of you are black male identified, and you take on the toxic traits of the rapper and their talking points. They talk trash against black women (misogynoir) and most of them are part of the black manosphere. We don’t trust wiggers
@@Omar-kl3xpAFRICANS value family. Are you having a laugh? There are so many African single parent mothers it is laughable
As a mexican not gonna lie, i love love black women. It does feel like there's a stigma cuz the libs say we're objectifying women if we say we like a certain type of woman based on race..
Women are women, eff those libs and love who you love
I’m a black woman and my Puerto Rican fiance treats me like a princess ❤ can’t relate 😂
Many PR'can men are very affectionate and are very family oriented.
Puerto Rican is NOT black dear 😂
@@jessicamarie5048I think that was her point, laa😅
@@jessicamarie5048
Ignorance
@@jessicamarie5048there are puerto rican blacks
I'm a light skinned latino who gets called white a lot. I mention that only because it is relevant to what I want to share about what I've experienced. Any time I try to talk to a woman who is not white, they always think I'm fetishsizing them for their race or skin color. I always have to defend myself. I don't care what race or color some woman is. Just please don't be crazy.
The reason I only dated white and latin women when I was single is because I knew those are the only options that my parents would approve of. Any other group and I could kiss my inheritance goodbye
@@danielisaac7586 I have had a relationship with white, latina, and black. Would not oppose dating any other race, but and especially with Asian, their concern of fetishsizing prevented a lot of my chances.
@@duvierverdell6570 I'm Hispanic and one of the few that comes from money, my dad is already mad that I dropped out of college and play too much video games, if I bring home a black girl or asian girl? Nope that's a wrap for me my brother will get everything in his inheritance they'll wax my ass off their will
@@danielisaac7586 you just proved their point you see them as a passtime because marrying them will ruin your money, so they suspected correctly they wont get a serious relationship out of you
@@Why_you_mad_tho I mean yeah I wasn't arguing
I stopped dating black men in 2017. They were absolutely terrible. Yes I know not every black man is, but i no longer wanted to gamble my heart and body. Got married outside my race, became conservative, became a mom. Leaving black men behind in my love life is the best decision I ever made.
I had two friends in high-school. One was smart and a gentlemen and the other was horrible. Women always chose the horrible one. It's ridiculous for those women to later say, black men are horrible. I was in the military for 20yrs and knew some of the most noble men I've met in my life who I would have been proud to have as in-laws, but most women don't choose that.
I do an excessive amount of travel.for work now and see the exact same thing from women. They desire their "bad boys" then complain they are bad.
I thinks it's because many women want to live immoral lives so they choose men who are like them and can later be their scapegoats for victimhood.
Stop dating my own race saying 'That is the best decision I ever made'. If a black says that he hates themselves, a black woman says that she loves herself. Something isn't adding up.
@@mrjones4249 Black women pick the worst of black men and have bad experiences with them ( no surprise ). Then proceed to go on the internet and say all black men are horrible let me date out.
Like what?
The amount of black men who want and only want black women and have the desire to marry them is mind-blowing.
@@jeong-ilkajokaya3849 How is it that they always pick the bad black men, yet manage to pick decent men from other races with minimal effort?
@@phijona Why couldn't they pick a good black man from the start. They are plenty of them walking about looking for a black wife.
When a black man is husband material he is a lame, corny and is a try hard.
When a non-black is husband material he is a king, the one and is a real man.
Why do they purpose go after trash black men, and then when they date out they now about to look for good qualities? Also why do you have to go to the internet to trash of black men for your poor choices, just to justify you dating out?
Also black women like to give there worst to black men and give there best to non-black men, why is that? Why does your own group get the worse of you for no reason?
I don't blame black women for leaving black men
Their hateful and mean towards BW
Black women were mean and hateful towards black men long before BM were that way to them.
Oh please be gone 😂 they can take you all
I wish they move on - now since BW are going 4B and divestment who will they blame?
@@stevelumumbashabazzz5087mad😂
this problem is not about race but about culture
I agree
There can be truth in what these women say. But one thing is for sure. Black culture tells women to chase bad boy criminals, then the women get online and use criminals as the definition of what a black man is. So when they say "Black Men =struggle love" what they mean is pookie from the jailhouse/drug rapper gangs is hard to love, not the Harvard educated, state school going black man who they call Whyte cause he can read properly and doesn't throw the N-word around old people. Growing up liking anime and reading books got you bullied by these black women who later go on to date white nerds. ( also feminism is deeply rooted in black women's views on black men more than white women, which is why black men report being respected and listened to when they start dating a becky 😂
I agree Africans culture is very different from African American culture ,Africans value family and tradional values ,it is culture not race
@@Omar-kl3xpbruh women in africa are exactly the same smh. Its definitely about race too.
@@dvb8637 what African country are you from ?in my country it isn’t even close to be the same, we values a lot traditional values and family values in my culture and when I mean a lot I mean a lot ,mothers and fathers teach that to their sons and daughters,my parents values so much our culture and traditions that they only want me to marry someone from my country because they know that they will have same values as us
I've actually hated that my experiences with black and latino men was that they tend to be too sexual and superficial. I'm a chick that craved something deeper and more meaningful. Granted, not all white men offer that either, but when the pool of people is larger, you have more luck finding what you are looking for. Of course, there were always exceptions to the rule.
Black culture particularly in America is very hyper sexual. I notice this as a white European. Black mens sense of their own masculinity seems to be very tied with sex, "pulling bitches" etc. Basically Andrew Tate mindset and lifestyle but watered down.
Yes
Asian men as well from my experience (Chinese, Filipino, Korean and ESPECIALLY South East Asian)
They are honestly on to something. This is a phenomenon I’ve noticed with African American men specifically - not black men around the world. There’s definitely a reinforced culture of womanizing and looking for the next best thing. This is present in interracial relationships in the US too. The only difference with black women is that many of them have historically had an unwavering loyalty to “their men” that keeps them stuck in perpetually toxic and one-sided relationships for way way too long. I’m happy to see that more black ladies are feeling open and brave enough to venture out and see how much people from different cultures will truly love them and cherish what they gave to offer. Love it for them ❤️
Black women have never been "loyal" to their men lol. Speaking from experience, Black women have always been the "easiest" race, I know it sounds rude, but it's true.
Unwavering loyalty to the wrong kind of men. When you add that in, it makes sense.
But yet those same Black women still love and respect those awful men better than any non Black man who may treat them better
@@Kyle-fp5lm yes all 99.8% of them
@@face2faceboyNo, not all of us. Some of us have enough sense to date outside of our race
I’m married to a black man and he loves me. Our love is our love. My husband treats me like a queen and we are building our lives together.
Positivity 🎊
lol I think they gon skip this one sis. But thanks we appreciate u 😂
Happy for you
I’m glad to hear it 🎉 I’m non-black dating a darkskin woman 🥰 she’s so sweet and so sexy.
People are just trapped in the internet rabbit hole. In the real-world people date who they want no matter what race.
It's amazing what having fathers in the house does.
It goes far deeper than what you’re saying. Most of the black men I have ever dated which I’ve been a few have been very mean and very verbally abusive. They don’t respect us they talk to us like garbage and their attitudes are we don’t deserve anything because we’re black. They don’t find us attractive and just overall if you aren’t acting black enough for them, then they will tear you down for that.
They are conqured, struggle bandits who have failed to compete with other men in a partriachial society they helped created 😂. The bandits can't even use their male privilege correctly to help themselves from subjugation....how weak and pathetic they are and trying to blame blk women for their lack of masculinity and dominance 😂
BM have been, by far, some of the meanest people I’ve ever encountered in life… some BW come in second place… *I’m 31.* 👀 😅
So most is all now
@@otakonlover10might as well be
again these are the Men YALL pick, only time ive heard a BM talk bad on BW is after the BW did something in their relationship or something like that (now do some BM talk bad on BW of course, but it wasnt often if the BW wasnt the start). yall just pick wrong then complain. Once a BW didnt give me a chance because I didnt have on Jordans... and the shoes I had on were like $120.... but Black Men are the problem...
Great dialogue. I’ve dated all types of men. The calmest, most considerate, and grounded were the non Black men. For me, I started out with all Black men… and then I grew up. I wish all well with love ❤️✨🙏🏾
If they were calm, considerate and grounded why then did you leave not one but multiple of them? Why did you not settle with one of them? I honestly don't get it
Great question to ask. I did choose one. ❤
You started out with all black men how did you date all black men?
I’m Asian. Date me. I love black females
I'm black and I love Asian females.
Women
I’m all for keeping options open, but I will ALWAYS side eye people who flat out refuse to date people of their own ethnicity. That type of mindset screams either fetish or self hate.
That’s a narrow comment, perhaps because you don’t understand what it’s like. I’m not even from the US but in my country, I definitely can relate to not wanting to date/marry men from my ethnicity. It’s not because they are bad, it’s only because they have been enabled and entitled for so long and it’s such a terrible rot. They are unaccountable, condescending and poorly behaved in many ways that I personally cannot brush aside like some other women. If I find someone that doesn’t act the same way, absolutely! But the reality is, it’s not that likely.
So try to see it from the ladies POV if you can because, it’s very real.
Or maybe they refuse to date the most uneducated, unemployed men who will most likely turn them into an unmarried single mother as the statistics clearly shows. You call it a fetish, I call it being smart and choosing better.
It says preference to me. Maybe that person just is not attracted to their own race. What concern of yours is it?
@@AnigeriantakewithdeoSo white men are perfect? The idea that all Black men are horrible while all white men are saints is not only racist and ignorant but also hypocritical. Black women have heart attacks If a brother even looks at a white girl.
@@MamaMOBbecause it could stem from self-hate or internalized racism... so it really depends on the reasoning and not the actual preference. I think 🤔
Every black male friend I have has at least 3 baby mamas......maybe the problem?
"baby mama" or woman who was impregnated and then abandoned by the father. I'm just saying that maybe this is commonplace because it's shrouded in euphemism.
54% of Blk Men are childless. Why are those the only type of Blk Men you hang around? Lol
Get better friends
@@technofilejr3401 .....they are good friends to me. Also, they are pretty much the only black men in the community. 🤷♂️
Last time I checked, black men that treat black women like that are called corny 😂. When it comes to black men, they want you to fit a certain stereotype (“tough” with street swag”), but when it’s other races, they can be soft lovey dovey and it’s cool but nobody wanna talk about that part 😂
That is such a huge part of this issue. So many of them act like narcissistic assholes thinking it makes them tough. I HATE the word corny. Empathy, intelligence...whatever is positive...is often called corny.
It’s sad but it is what it is. We know the truth and that’s all that matters
not true at all. I know a lot of black women who love the smart, geeky black man. It's just those men want the exciting women who won't find them attractive
@@cjones8213Stop lying and you know that’s a lie. If it were true then 70-80% of black babies being born wouldn’t be out of wedlock. You simps and feminists need to stop lying. Black American women for the most part love Pookie and Ray Ray or the Lebron James caliber black man. The average working black man is never enough to make them tingle.
Hi Amala..For myself as a bw, I prefer not to date bm again. When I dated outside my race for the first time in my 40s I realized there was a huge difference from all the bm I’d dated. To each their own!!!!