I LOVED This: Mixed Race Kids vs Their Parents [Reaction]
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- Опубліковано 12 тра 2024
- Today I’m reacting to a Cut video that has mixed race young adults face off with one of their parents and answer difficult questions about race, family, and love. Let’s talk about it!
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What?!? I will NEVER stop doing accents! Also I'm mixed Irish and Mexican and I'll never stop calling myself a green bean 😂
lmaoo
STOP my husband is half and half. I’m so using that lol
Green Bean!! HAHA thats good! I'm latino myself and have never heard that mix referred to like that before, hilarious. Also I completely agree about the accent. I think if done well its a bit of a skill lol.
Green bean is extremely cute
German & Mexican 🙋🏼♀️ I present white but was raised with rich Mexican culture thanks to my grandmother and my 1st generation father and aaaaaaaallll my cousins 😂
Anytime someone has said “I act white.” I always ask them to elaborate. Never fails to make them uncomfortable.
Because your forcing them to confront their own racism, which good for you 😊
Frrr. Bc what does “acting white” even mean when race has no connection to who you are. Culture can influence people but thats all there is to it
But I bet you would be able to answer the statement made all the time about people acting "Getto" which is the code word for black. You see, it happens to all of us.
Thank you and PLEASE keep doing that!!
@@maryorosco1027 busllshit now people are using the term "racism" for anything, . since when saying "you act white is them displaying racism. For me seeing a so called Biracial like this little girl with a barbie mindset, advocating for anti- Black policies that harm a group of people is beyond reality! Her parents really failed her
She has been wrongfully raised by her 2 parents!
When my daughter says she's black, it does upset me because I feel like she's removing me from the equation, almost like I don't exist. She doesn't even communicate with her father or his family. I am her Mom and I exist too.
Im mixed and I always say I’m mixed when someone asks me. But I have felt strong societal pressure to only identify as black, perhaps your daughter feels that way too? Nevertheless, I’m sure she loves you because you’re her mom, you gave her life and take care of her. Nothing can replace that
You should communicate that to her I’m so sorry you feel that way :(
Society tried to pressure us to identify as black maybe that happened to your daughter
This happened to me too, except my daughter is half Scottish American (me) and half indigenous Mexican (dad) she identifies closer to her father although I have raised her alone and sacrificed for our family exclusively. I’ve learned to not take it personally because I think she’s just romanticizing a culture and person who she hasn’t been able to get close to.
@@Great_Scot I love how you phrased that! I'm not half, but I've got an identity crisis in a way and your comment helped me significantly understand my personal dynamics better . Thank you!
Biracial woman here. I loved this so much! My dad's white, and my mom's black, and now in my 30s I can confidently say they are two of coolest people I know, even though my dad's like an even dorkier version of the white dad with his son in this video. Man, I have to go give them a call now.
What ethnicity are your parents? It’s kinda lazy just to say white and black.. Sri Lankan and south Asian people are black skinned and some South Africans are white.. you see the issue when using these terms which are unable to correctly describe someone’s identity? A German and a Croatian are very different for example.. just as an Moroccan is different from a Nigerian..
@@ChatillgbtIt's ok to be lazy on this topic. The information you're asking for isn't needed. The person is just saying they are biracial with a white dad and black mom. That's it.
@@Chatillgbt Lol it's not lazy at all-- you're being ridiculously nitpicky and trying to stir up problems where there are none. My parents are typical black and white Americans. They are both of very mixed ethnicities, like most other black and white Americans whose ancestors came over to this nation long ago and at different intervals. Besides, at the end of the day we all bleed red. Trying to put people in boxes and separate them by insisting on categorizing them by ethnicity only serves to divide humanity and promotes racial and ethnic tension,. Do better with your life.
@@tonyhormiga5242 only an American with poor education would say this.. smh absolutely ignorant
@@Avarcirith no. What it does is gives an idea of someone’s culture, religion, language, relationships.. to just refer to someone as black or white is to ignore or have ignorance to someone’s experience.. this is actually a strong way to divide people because you paint groups with the same colour brush. Understanding people at a deeper level brings appreciation and acceptance.. you start to see people as individuals and not just simply black or white. Don’t waste your mind and strive to think more critically.
I’m mixed (black and white) and I think no one should say the n word. You don’t hear other races “reclaiming” racial slur words.
Amen to that
As a Black person, I 💯 agree!
Actually Italian did too
It's just a terrible word and terrible thing to call anybody. I wouldn't want someone walking around saying any slur or curse word at their friends...like "hey dumbass how you doing today?". Why would anyone want to speak that way???
100% Agree! It's not worth "reclaiming" as there's nothing positive about it.
I’m fully Black African and I always hated when people try to essentially erase the other half of themselves or people trying to do that to mixed people. Some in the video especially the ones who are white and black just identifying to being black. It’s weird. You’re mixed and that is also beautiful.
Agree they have internalised racism. It's just skin colour and people think I'm a different nationality (like middle Eastern/Persian/Turkish) when I'm tanned so it just shows what BS it is. I'm part roma so they descended from North India but I'm also mostly white British
I mixed and I always say I’m mixed but I understand how mixed people my age and older identify only as black for a couple of reasons. My birth certificate only says black on it as my race. When it came to medical documents or state tests for school they would only let me check off one box for a race. When I was very little I asked my dad what race I am and he said that I’m supposed to write down black. There were no mixed (black/white) dolls or characters in children’s books. The mixed (black/white) characters on tv were depicted as adopted/ orphaned/ living in single parent households or all black households, and identified only as black. My entire life I have usually been the only mixed (black/white) person in a room. There were no mixed people to form a community with to be proud of being both black and white. However, there were African heritage clubs at my school. The list goes on, but what I’m trying to say is the little things build up over time and can influence what you identify as, as an adult. I am proud of both my parents and I will continue to say I am mixed if people ask. But I will not fault mixed people who choose one race because for the longest time we have lived in a mono racial-focused society.
I always say mixed as I am. A lot of people say black because a lot of white people say they're. Also, it depends on where you live. I lived in England and got called that 'half-caste lad'.
In America, they have a lot of descendents that were mixed due to slavery; one drop rule, too. That's why a lot of Americans say black when they re light skinned. Essentially, they have euro blood, which makes them lighter.
But my father is as black as humanly possible, lol. So, I don't think of myself as black because I am not.
It's very conplex; don't be surprised if people who are actually black pull you up in it. When you do call yourself black when you're mixed.
You are not mixed so you have not walked in those shoes. No one should police how a person feels about their identity. Especially you have only grown up in one culture, you are more likely to identify to that only.
I’m mixed race but often just refer to myself as black. It doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten or reject my mother. But the part of society I grew up in (the south) refused to accept me as anything but black. Out of necessity I learned to just call myself black. But I certainly know where I came from and feel blessed to have had both of my parents.
The white dad? I can tell he has a super loving and intimate relationship with his son. It’s so so so beautiful to watch❤
Intimate is not the right word to use lmao
@@Calvin.rx1l the primary meaning of intimate is, ‘closely acquainted, familiar’. Both words describe what I mean🙏
I teared up when they talked about his son's last football game.
I'm a white guy in a relationship with a black woman and have fraternal twins. We can't go anywhere without getting stopped and praised about their cuteness lol. Also I'm lucky enough to have a family that supports her and her family that supports me. Really makes you think about how different things are irl vs online echo chamber of hate.
I was surprised to hear the way the daughter said she only identifies as black, not white or mixed race, in front of her white mum. It's like she was disowning the heritage from her mother's side.
Especially when she said the black side of her family straight up didn't really accept her, but her WHITE mother did. As a mother I'd have been so hurt to hear that. I don't know if I could ever get over the hurt and it would affect my relationship with her after that. Hell I think a slap in the face would be less cruel then to basically be told that I, and my race, aren't good enough for a child I carried and nurtured
She knows her well enough to know how she means it. @@Jdb74985
@@Jdb74985I think when most people look at her, they think she’s black, and so has been more overtly associated with it her whole life.
Because she will never be treated like a white girl. She gets treated like a black girl. She therefore perceives herself as black.
Here come 100 white people to tell me I’m wrong about this in 3… 2... 1…
I don’t see the need to delete my comments tbh.
i'm not even bi-racial, but parents loving their kids gets me emotional. go tell your parents you love them if you do. you don't know how much time you have left together
Facts💯🙏😎
Very true.
I agree with this. To clarify - parents loving their kids means not coddling them and giving them everything they want. I like that these parents were strict with their kids and I like that Amala's mom didn't let her straighten her hair right away. Kids need to learn how to deal with pushback.
This is the most beautiful comment I’ve seen in a while. My mom is no longer here with us but I make and will make sure my dad listens that I love him every day. Thank you
My blonde daughter and her black/Mexican husband are having their first child this summer. We are ALL very excited!
Let's hope he stays in the child's life.
@AnikaL1 that’s so interesting that you say that specifically because the husband is black and hispanic?
@mcccccc3 We can pretend to be blind all day or recognize the statistical fact that most men who abandon their kids are blk men. Don't argue with me, go argue with the PROVEN data.
I do think that sometimes mixed kids and minority kids often misinterpret regular bullying as racial bullying. Most of the insecurities these kids have had are things that have happened to me too, like the kids down the road spitting and throwing rocks at you. That happened to me in a church group every week for a while and I am white with 2 white parents and the kid bullying me was white. Bullying isn’t always about race, sometimes kids are just jerks.
No… I assure you, we know the difference. Racial bullying and regular bullying aren’t alike at all.
Are you mixed race or a minority?
As somebody who was bullied for being white in elementary school and middle school by black students, they will tell you "it's because you're white."
My husband is Japanese, and I am White. When my kids were young and in school, they didn't have any issues with being "categorized." Although it isn't exclusive, this is a much bigger issue now than it was when my kids were growing up. We , as a community, didn't care. We associated people with their actions, not their color.
I agree..... not sure why so many are focused on skin color.
Give me someone with good character, color does NOT matter ever!
We NEED to get back to that 😊
Life is tooooooo short for all these trigger issues today. I intend to ignore the bs and live our best life with love and appreciation 🥰
Caucasian* And y0ou probably mean White*
@willow1698 thanks, stupid auto correct!😁😁
@@willow1698 Why be rude?
@@penguinswithwifi lots of people are rude, as if they've never made an error.😉😉 thanks for pointing it out☺️
I like how the dad and son has almost the same height, the same posture, the same hand positions...it's like seeing a mirrored image 😆
With a white mother and Black father, I've always felt pressure to identify as Black rather than bi-racial. People applying that pressure don't think about choosung one race as denying one parent or even a part of one's self. I enjoyed this so much. Wish my parents were still around so I could ask them these questions.
I’m Asian but was adopted at 9 months old by white parents. So I always got strange looks growing up and never acted my race. Nowadays, if I’m with either parent, people actually assume I’m either my dad’s young Asian wife or my mom’s lesbian girlfriend. LOL. And I married a half white/half Mexican man. 😂
Omg! Im not the only one. I’m Russian and Japanese, I’m very white passing so when I’m with my father (Japanese ) people think I’m his young wife.
@@poshdelux not the only one! You're beautiful. Russian and Japanese? That's so cool!!!
Nothing wrong with that we love Asians
Oh gosh that must be awkward! Your dad’s young Asian wife! Glad you can laugh about it!
People always thought I was my dads granddaughter lololol
Growing up, I got accused of "acting white" for speaking proper English... I got tired of hearing it, but not enough to disobey my parents! The few biracial kids I knew were considered black by default. I was blessed to have grown up with the kids I knew... we picked our own friends and didn't care what the older people had to say.
No such thing as being "considered" a race. No one has the power of racial identity over another American to be able to label them according whatever limitations of racial knowledge they may have. The locus of control rests solely with the mixed person.
"Considered black by default" - that wouldn't be a thing if Amerikkka was never racist
That's what happens when people's expectations are stereotyped. As if there was a "black" or "white" way to behave.
@@Jay-jb2vrif America were racist POC wouldn't stand a chance and POC wouldn't be invading us.
@@brunoribeiro7524there are black as White ways to behave that's why when people act normal they're accused of acting normal oh yeah I know that's racist 🤷♀️
Preferences aren't the same as fetishes, I prefer blond or redhead men with green or blue or hazel eyes, but I also date people who don't look like that. I was married to a black African man for nine years until he died in an accident. So even though I prefer those pale looks, it doesn't mean I go around obsessing over them or can't enjoy the beauty of other people. That dad struggling to say his preference was super funny.
Lol he's so innocent
Exactly! I have a preference and they have one.
Also a question would be why does no one question others if they fetishise "white" people. Right because its stupid and its exactly the other way round too. (There are exceptions to everything but exceptions don't make the rule)
Anywanys why not just be happy that people appreciate its others beauty
I prefer men that have dark hair/dark eyes, they always go to the front of the line but I tried explaining to someone… you can be my type but if you have a terrible personality, nothing about you will be attractive to me…
Looks like your ex husband got the short end of the stick. Being married to someone when you're not their preference is mad.
@@elijahsokoni7997 You fail to understand the difference between general preferences and individual beauty.
I'm mixed, my dad is Jamaican and my mum is English, and I've always seen myself as mixed and now refer to myself as "brown" because I'm neither black nor white. I grew up with my mum, around her family and in a predominantly white area but my skin colour wasn't really an issue for me, it has always just been part of me. There were times when I had to make changes to the way I did things, for example taking my own straighteners if I was going to a friends house to get ready or to sleep over because my sick afro requires oil and it wouldn't be polite to oil up someone else's straighteners knowing full well that it's going to mess up their hair. Going on girls holidays was amazing because I tan so quickly and don't burn so I was envied for that 😂
I did get a few odd comments when I first moved to my "white" school in Wales from my very mixed school in London, kids would comment on my nose and say I looked like a pug dog, but I think I've got quite a cute nose so I look back now and think they probably just hadn't seen anyone like me before and kids have no filter.
The biggest issue I had growing up was my dad complaining that we were going to "grow up white" or "not embrace our culture" even though we were living with our white parent and spent very little time with him or immersed in any sort of "black culture". It made me feel like i wasn't black enough. Now i understand that that was a problem, and like, if you're so bothered, maybe try harder to be around.
And this is the crux of majority of the identity issues regarding people half black/half white. The black parent (usually dad) not only abandons the mother, but then berates the child for not being black enough. At a young age, this causes self hatred for your white half, possibly even hatred for your white parents (as is the case with Colin Kaepernick), and it usually ends with the mixed race child being militantly racist towards White people in an attempt to ingratiate themselves onto the black kids that bullied them and the black dad that abandoned them. Because in their mind, all the social issues they've faced thus far are because they were White. So then they start to hate White people, and even will blame the White parent for birthing them in the first place.
That's odd your father would be angry with you because of "not embracing your culture" if he didn't care to be around
This was great! It made me laugh and cry. Haven't seen something so genuine in media for a very long time. Thanks for sharing.
Interesting show today. I have a bi-racial granddaughter, her Mom is white and my son is black. She is 10 and she reminds me of you Amala. I tell her she has the best of both worlds and be proud of who she is. I’m in my late 60s and I have a problem with the “N” word. I know young people use it freely but I can never do that. Very good show today.👍🏽😊
some years ago, my brother was working in a cell shop... a Chinese gent came in with a very heavy accent... none of the other sales people could understand him properly and he didn't understand them. my brother went over to help and started talking in the same accent as the client.. all the other sales people snuck away to the managers office to laugh and complain (that's the brain twister). when my brother was done helping the gent, he was called into the managers office and given a lecture about racism. a few hours later the Chinese gent returned with his tour group of Chinese people (27 clients) and asked for my brother to help them sort their phones out and buy SIM cards for our country. sometimes, communication is a tricky thing... and it's not being racist if you're trying to help.
I naturally change a cents all the time when speaking with different foreigners. It's actually indicative of empathy because you are matching their accent to ensure they understand more clearly. Whether it works tho I can't say. I'm not trying to do it 😂😂😂. But ofc that's different from mockery
Sometimes it's not so much about changing accent, but changing the way you speak. The Chinese dialects don't have as many tenses as English, so it's often hard for Mandarin speakers to use them properly. So you hear a lot of "I go to store now" instead of "I'm going to the store." For people with challenging accents, simplifying how you speak can make it easier for them to understand.
@@Secretname807 YEs, something like this. I just do it naturally, matching grammar patterns, shortened phrases, accents without trying. I've lived in a lot of countries and it seems like it helps. But again, it's a thing I try not to do but do anyway. Always have.
I get what you're saying that's how I end up communicating with my grandmother-in-law because she understands the accent. It's actually very helpful when we're trying to understand each other.
I hope that manager face palmed himself for realizing he was the one in the wrong 😂 All these people who say they're not ra*ist and try to correct others always end up being the ones who are the most ra*ist. The irony 😂
This is the most heartwarming, beautiful video that I have watched in a long time. Thank you for sharing.
My mom is Cape Verdean and my dad is Cajun French. I’m from Louisiana and I was absolutely drenched in rich culture.
🔥
One of my friends is from Cape Verdean. She's biracial and so gorgeous 🥰
username checks out@@Creole_Chief100
Without meeting you, i bet you are warmhearted, kind, love life, family, food and music ❤
@@Creole_Chief100 username checks out
Name me 1 person who didnt experience an identity crisis growing up. It is totally normal to feel different, even odd, no matter if you are 100% white or 100% black or male or female. All kids feel unusual, feel like there is at least something wrong with themselves. Puberty is tough and confusing. This is not an experience exclusive to mixed race or transgender people. Embrace who you are! You are unique and special, on purpose!
Beautifully said ❤
Transgender? The hell you talking about?
Everyone feels "out of place" or uncomfortable with themselves during their childhood.@@VegasElement
I'm not going to lie, I am 25 and still feel out of place with being mixed. I know it a me problem, but I wish I was just one race no matter the race if that makes sense.
Absolutely. I'm a child of white immigrant parents. It wasn't that I stood out physically but I definitely was ashamed of my culture when I was younger. I was in my early twenties when I really embraced my original culture.
I agree, 10/10!!!! I have watched quite a few of your videos, but now I have subscribed. You have such a bubbly personality, and you brighten a lonely old lady's life! Thank you! ❤🌹🐝
I find it interesting that I have a very similar experience and feels growing up as a adopted child from India into a white family. I felt like I did not quite belong because I looked different and whenever I would tell my parents that I was not really their child, they would shut that down and tell me that I am you’re child no matter if I was biological child or or not. It’s crazy that it’s similar to a degree. My brothers that were their biological kid, told me the same thing. It’s it great to know that when I was little and that I love them with all my heart.
"Mixed kids are beautiful". Amala says "Not sure if that's true"....with a straight face while sitting there being stunningly beautiful!😂
Yeah she's easy on the eyes for sure
She's not stunning, just mixed
Amala is beautiful because she is Amala, not just because of the color of her skin...yes that is a bonus, but Amala's brilliant mind, ideas, personality, manner of speaking, etc. is what makes her beautiful.
Amala is gorgeous
The majority of mixed children ARE beautiful. But not all.
The Father & Son duo was too adorable, and I know it was intentional. The Son looks so much like his Father! ❤️🔥
Really ? Cause I don’t see it one bit lol 😂
@@poshdelux Similar eyes and nose placement. The son has a beard so it would be hard to tell if he has the same jawline. The son has lighter which I assumed he inherited from his dad
this is by the far the best video i have ever watched on UA-cam! The last question was so touching! It's a great question for ALL children, not just biracial ones, and parents to ask one another. I never forgot the wonderful feeling I had when I went to pick up my 7-8 son at his school's playground, He was excited and pointed to his classmates on the playground with and said "that's my dad". That was about thirty years ago.
I get a laugh out of the term "white" - like everyone with European ancestry has the exact same experience.
Seriously. I'm mostly Irish/English and 3 of my husband's 4 grandparents were direct, off the boat Polish imports. Our cultures and backgrounds are very different.
@@ThesmartestTem It seems to me that there is a lot of colorism in some of the comments.
They are WHITE maybe different shades or cultures of WHITE but they are WHITE.
Mhm. Reminds me of my biracial friend who once said “nobody asks about what kind of white you are” and it really bothered me because being white is still referring to 16% of the world and we all come from different mixes and places
@@gazoontight America sees things in colors unfortunately, rather than actual nuance. I'm completely white and still struggle with identity issues, because as an American I don't see anything I identify with. Yet, if I wanted to identify with something more robust like some kind of ethnic heritage, what could I authentically identify with? I'm so mixed between German, Polish, English, Italian etc. that anything I could authentically identify with is largely diluted. Feels like history being taken away
"Too Black for... n Too White for..." I'm Nigerian/Congolese and European Mix/Sicilian. That phrase is truth. FELT on an existential level.
It resonated with me so personally I totally felt this too Lol
💯💯💯
Your not Italian
Sicilians aren't blyak we don't claim
@@user-nw8zm2wu6o "you're" not "your"
Damian and the mom with the black daughter was my favorite. The fact that Damian named all the black movies from the 70’s and 90’s says it all 🥰
you're right, this is lovable! I'm almost in tears🥺
Middle aged white guy crying my eyes out when that girl’s mom was talking about how her child wanted to take her skin off when she was little. We are all so beautiful and unique. It pains me to think people feel that way.
Who told that little girl that her skin was bad? That's not a normal concept to which a child would come
I grew up on black media, movies, music and even I struggled with naming the movies in 20 seconds. Like cmon
The Colour Purple was my fave film as a child
@@pianogal853White kids
Our kids are a mixed lot so they were brought up as people without leaning one way or the other. The grandkids and great-grandkids are being raised as individuals also. Morgan Freeman said it ends when we stop talking about it. We tell them that their ethnic heritage doesn't determine who they are.
It ends with honesty. Refusing to talk about it is the absence and opposite of honesty. It is the opposite of progress.
This is a message that white people support and feel validated by, considering they are the ones who victimized other races in recent history. Now they say “let’s just stop talking about it. Look, even Morgan Freeman said so!”
Well Morgan Freeman is a Hollywood weirdo who doesn’t speak on my behalf🤷🏾♂️
Not talking about something doesn't make it go away...but keep listening to stupid celebrities who think they know what's best..
@@Jay-jb2vr All the Left is doing is talking about something that doesn't exist so therefore stop talking about it. Racism doesn't exist because we are only One Race. We have a plethora of ethnicities but only one race. The American Association of Biological Anthropologists has recognized the damage that they created by changing the human classifications from ethnic to race in the 19th century. "With the rise of modern genetics, the concept of distinct human races in a biological sense has become obsolete."
Go ahead and stick with the outdated and mistaken terminology while the rest of the world forges ahead. Furthermore, they unequivocally state, "The belief in 'races' as Natural aspects of human biology, and the structures of inequality (racism) that emerged from such beliefs, are among the most damaging elements in The Human experience both today and in the past."
And how's that been working? Lol. Most people will not give up their ide ntity.
This somuch
As the European father of mix-raced children (2 of my sons' mother is black American), though their DNA isn't half European/half African (more like 60/40), i make sure they don't deny either side of their family. They can be proud of ALL of their heritage.
Thank you for sharing. Another of your posts I have really enjoyed. It was beautiful as well as entertaining to watch to see all the love ❤❤❤
@debzxx • you’re definitely not beautiful 😂 you’re grown enough to know that
@@user-sw7cr1mu5t It was aa spelling error which has now been corrected ha ha okay haha 🤭🤭🤭😶🌫😶
@@user-sw7cr1mu5t your mother
I’m Cajun and my wife is Asian so our children are Caisian. I don’t agree with it’s ok for any color to use the N word. Asians, whites, Hispanic, middle eastern races all have been called some degrading names and it’s not right. If you think it’s wrong for white people to use the N word than don’t refer to your own with the N word.
In South Africa there was a derogatory word, which in it's original language just means non-believer, in the South African context it became a racial slur against black people especially under Apartheid. No one uses that word, especially not black people. It's so weird to try reclaim derogatory words. Let them go. Let them live in the history books.
😂 'casian' lol
You don’t tell black people what to do🤷🏾♂️ it’s a free country, you can use the N word all you want as well. Just be prepared to deal with the immediate physical repercussions
Bruh why are yall constantly deleting my comments? I’m not even saying anything controversial😭 Jesus Christ, this is the last time I ever lower myself to watch this kind of content again🤦🏾♂️
@@mybestnugget7514 ya where is his message? My reply is still there.
Amala you are so thoughtful. I really appreciate hearing your take. And experience.
I honestly thought mixed race children were gorgeous and would have the best of the two families. That they would have a unique opportunity and pov to be a part of multiple cultures. I loved diversity and wanted it within my family. My grandma actually pointed out some fears. She seen mixed children treated poorly when she grew up. But she was born in 1925. In my mind there was no way my child would have the same experience. My child was born in 2004. Never thought twice and never had fears. Then 2020 rolls in and the race wars teach my child anyone who mixes has a fetish and how mixing is gross etc. Suddenly my skin color is wrong to raise my own child. I had a white mom and hispanic/Indian father, I grew up too dark to be white and too light to be Mexican. But to be honest, I did not consider myself "white" and it was confusing to suddenly be told I was too white to be her mom 😢
As a Mama/Nana of an interracial family through birth/marriage/adoption this video made me laugh and cry. Amala you are such a gift of insight for me on so many issues but race relations are my favorite.
Mixed European is a weird term but at least it admits we're not all just White. Also I'm Irish and Scottish of Irish decent. two proud nations with two rich cultures. more than just White.
"Black" Dutch & "Black" Irish... A lot of Semitic imports back in the day
@@16ft2in what do you mean?
Mediterraneans are not white.
We're caucasian brown; greeks, spanish, italians (for example)
@@Anna-fw7lm True. But in America Europe = White. and none of us have culture and our only history is being oppressors.
Except the Greeks they've been through a lot.
@@Anna-fw7lm I mean, mediterraneans can definitely be white. I'm portuguese and white.
Always tell your parents you love them because when they are gone, part of your heart is too!❤
I'm texting my dad now to see if next time we sit down, I can ask more questions about his back story, growing up, etc.😊❤
Tis a strange world w/o them in it indeed
They've been gone for years now and I can still hear the sound of their voices
I’m a mother of race mixed children and I can relate to so many of those worries of parents about their children self-identity.
I loved this video so much! I will share it with my husband. I loved the ending so much too! That made me cry.❤
Thank you for sharing it on your channel Amala!
Best regards from Japan,
Tatiana Oka
Nobody has a problem with wasian. That's the good mix
I’m so grateful for the English word *perturbed* I heard it for the first time a month ago, and it’s been popping up every now and then ever since. Where have this amazing word been all my English speaking life?
As a black woman with a white husband, if my child ever said they identified as black instead of "mixed" or "half black half white" I'd be devastated for my husband, like as our child, how are you ignoring LITERALLY 50% of yourself... I'd be so sad because you deny that your existance is literally not "black" it's 50/50.
Good as a mixed person I’m telling you DO NOT ALLOW SOCIETY TO PUSH RULES ON YOUR CHILDREN teach them not to be a follower of society
No thanks that kid is not white
Being both Italian and Korean I am so happy that I have the best food in the world.
Ooff, delicious 😋! I would almost suggest a fusion restaurant to exist lol :).
Blessed!
Yes ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Ahh man. Spaghetti or ramyeon. Decisions decisions
We love Wasian mix. Not so much others
@Amala Ekpunobi 5:00 accents come from culture, thus are not biological and not racist, if imitated.
Exactly what I thought.
Agreed
True that. Also, if let's say a white person imitates another white person's accent, that can also be very demeaning - does that then also count as "racism" in this case? Or is it only racist when white people to it with a "non-white" accent, not the other way around or in any other combination (say a Spanish speaker imitates a Chinese accent)... I agree and I do not think there should be any cries of "racism" regarding imitating accents.
Exactly. For example, across the US, we have several accents. Southern, Californian, New York, Chicago. All sound EXTREMELY different. If someone mimicked the accent is it racist or culturally insensitive? It's the same as mimicking a Chinese person who speaks English with an accent.
But guys, to be honest, I am European and I think you Americans are too obsessed with race. You are constantly talking about it. That’s the opposite of what ML King Junior intended.
Greatest take away - you never know which moment is the one that resonates as the most loving, so have many with your loved ones. ❤
Great video and very insightful on the experience of mixed-race people in the USA.
After watching that video, I feel deeply grateful not to have been born in the USA. As someone of mixed race raised in Senegal, West Africa, I've never encountered the kind of racial struggles and discrimination portrayed in the discussion. Despite being in the motherland, and looking different I've never been subjected to derogatory names or racism. Often I was the only light-skinned kid in the classroom, and never felt out of place or uncomfortable.
One aspect that particularly troubles me is the American tendency to label everyone with any African ancestry as simply "black." While I understand its historical roots and its role as a form of protest, it overlooks the rich diversity within black communities, including the fact that many black Americans are of mixed heritage.
The first time I was ever categorised as black was by an American, and it didn't sit well with me. Not because I reject my black ancestry - it's an integral part of who I am - but because it reduces the complexity of my heritage and denies the diversity of my DNA, ancestry, and history.
I found it very sad when I heard some of the participants in the video, "reject" or "dismiss" one side of their ethnicity.
I take pride in my mixed heritage, which encompasses European, West African, North African (Egyptian), Indian, Jewish, and likely more ancestries. In my country of origin, we don't categorise people by colour; rather, we celebrate our shared national identity and cultural heritage.
I hope that one day the US and other countries will move towards a society where individuals are not judged or labelled based on their skin colour but rather recognised for their diverse backgrounds and contributions.
I earnestly wish to see your nation heal and embrace its diversity, it will take time, but I hope to see it in my lifetime.
To be fair, we also label all European descended people as "white," even though my Irish and Italian ancestory were not considered "white" when they first came to the US, and a "white" Russian American will have a super different heritage than a "white" Spanish American.
The problems are really NOT different than they are in other places in the world. But politicians have spent a lot of time and money profiting off of purposely causing division. And that permeates the culture.
The Indian father is allowed to wish his daughter would appreciate his culture. But the White parents would not feel comfortable saying this.
I know right? While they should be so proud
I understand why immigrant parents feel hurt when their children want to completely distance themselves from their parents' culture. I understand they live in the USA but it can feel hurtful.
@@Guus115 I have met a biracial woman who strongly identified with her Irish ancestry, probably because she looked very Irish. I think it may be harder to identify with your white side if your white parent is a blend of German, Irish, French, Polish, and English and has been in the USA for five generations.
I enjoyed this episode, great conversation!
I absolutely loved this video! The dad with his son was so heartwarming ❤.
I agree, Shark Tales is 100% a black movie! 😂
1000% that and goofy movie
I’m half Samoan half Polish. In Samoa they call kids like us afakasi or halfcast. It used to be a derogatory term but a lot of mixed kids down here have embraced it. I’ve always related to the whole “too palagi (white) for the Samoans, too Samoan for the Palagi”. Esp down here because it is a small island community. Everyone knows everyone!! Used to get bad anxiety from that kinda stuff but I’ve learned to embrace both sides.
Wow how your parents met?
Can you speak polish?
welcome to the mixed race comunity... i have a feeling that in the next 100 years ist gooing to get harder and harder to find anyone thats not mixed race
I use mulatto for myself, I didnt even know it was racist
@@albilevizm they both met in the Army
The video is great, it embraces the differences and had some playful jabs at everyone, it's sweet and lighthearted.
This video is right up my alley because I'm the white part parent of a biracial child. She's half black and half white. A few of these questions hit home because my daughter mentioned a few of these things. Specifically not feeling like she fits in with either race, and how I felt a little tiny bit misplaced as a dad when she wanted to embrace more of her black side.. but it wasn't from a place of jealousy or pride or anything through race, but more of the fact that I wanted to feel closer to her. Truth be told, there's a lot of black towards white racism of her moms side, specifically grandpa that kept me and her apart for so long.. well that, and geographical separation, as she lived halfway across the country.
I'd always ask them if I could have her for the summers, and I'd always get bs excuses for why I couldn't fly her to me.
I found out later, after she turned 18, and I finally could fly her out that it was solely because the grandpa hates white people.
Which is honestly probably partially why I'm here. I recognize that racism can go both ways, and it can be very damaging. I've heard racism from all races, but none personally as damaging as her grandfathers separation of us from each other. It still pisses me off how ignorant people can be.
Stereotype: mixed babies are beautiful. I think it’s true. People of different backgrounds coming together and creating new live is beautiful- segregation us ugly.
Babies of a single race are beautiful too.
@@Jianju69 saying mixed babies are beautiful doesnt automatically mean that single race babies arent
Why is it a stereotype though? It shouldn’t be. Babies of any race can be beautiful as much as they can be somewhat ugly 😂 I’ve seen some not so much cute babies.
@@ethandoodlez9987 kinda like black lives matter🧐 but I’m gonna just be ignorant and assume you’re saying one-race children are not beautiful
Here we go again...lol.
no but Amala is so beautiful, only confirms the stereotype , like seriously
Very average looking. But beauty is in the eye of the beholder
He doesn't fetishise black women, he simply has a type.
One of your best videos; very wholesome.
My daughters race is a mix of: Chinese, Cambodian, Indian, Syrian and Irish. Will raise her to be connected to and honour all of her heritage and ancestors.
So she's black😂😂
I’m mixed Mexican and white- I identify more with my white side because I grew up in Montana where everyone is white. But I did feel super self conscious about my Mexican side because I knew I didn’t quite fit in with everyone else because of the (very few) racist encounters I would have. Then I always felt left out from my Mexican family because I couldn’t speak Spanish. It’s a weird mix. I love the way I was raised and I love a lot of values that come from my Latin family as far as family ideals and food :)
But Mexicans are already Mestizo! Already mixed with Native & Euro-Spaniard!
@@VegasElement exactly. I’m a mutt to the max
I have friends and family that's Mexican and white...being Mexican is a nationality not a race. If you go into areas like Jalisco in Mexico they are predominantly white. Mexicans speak Spanish for a reason, which is a European language.
My husband is half and half but grew up in a super Mexican area in USA. He has the opposite feeling. It really depends on the culture you grow up in not so much the color of your skin.
@@katiezworld1014 yeah I guess I’m just used to saying Mexican instead of Latin because people ask. My Mexican roots stem from Aztecs. I don’t know anything about Mexico though or where my family came from and there’s a huge cultural difference between my cousins who grew up with the hundreds of family on that side in Texas and me who grew up in Montana with no family around 😂 I like to think it’s a cultural difference instead of a race difference but I get teased for being so white by my extended family. Even though there are predominantly white areas in Mexico I’d still say their cultural is much different than mine. Maybe I should say Mexican American or Latin x European to be more politically correct. I don’t really care too much but I like to take the time to understand the cultural differences of both sides of my family.
I’m mixed and my dad is white but what people don’t understand is that my dad’s family are immigrants who have a VERY different upbringing. People always assume that I was raised under general yt American stereotypes but my dad’s family really was closer in comparison to my black family based on how they were outcast as kids for having a non traditional American background or values.
This is my favorite of all your posts and will be hard to top. 💗💗💗💗
Loved the Indian and White dads, plus both of their children seemed very well adjusted and intelligent.
Yes, the white dad is both very handsome and kind.
@@nancyj795 yes he is🙂
I have a cousin my age who has curly hair, and even though we’re both white, she always wanted straight hair like mine. But I always wanted curly hair like hers because I thought mine was boring, and none of it was related to race. I think a big part is just wanting what you don’t have as a kid. But also, no one can deny that curly hair is just annoying to learn how to handle. It takes a lot more skill and effort to maintain, so I think it makes perfect sense that so many kids with curly hair wish it was straight, and it’s not even necessarily a racial thing.
That's definitely your perspective as a white person.
As a mother to 3 biracial children, I love this kind of content 😍😍 I enjoyed the Cut video and appreciated how honest the conversations were
My grandfather is afro Latino and my mother is Cuban; I was adopted and raised by a white family and really didn't understand that I wasn't the same as them practically until I was an adult but the fact that I was never taught that I did not belong for being racially different is actually something I cherish even if it also meant not learning a lot about where I came from until I started searching for myself. Just lost my adopted father to pancreatic cancer about a month ago; he was the love of my life ❤
In Australia, Aboriginals are given more from our Centrelink system than white Australians. I discovered I am of Aboriginal descent (which isn’t uncommon in Australia realistically) so you know when I was on Centrelink for a period during covid I put down my indigenous heritage. My payments almost doubled after doing that.
There is a financial incentive to identify as a specific race and it sure as hell isn’t white
Yep. I’ve heard about people in America faking native heritage to get into uni because you’re more likely to get in if you do. I get that white people used to be treated better than others, but it’s not my fault I was born white, and my opportunities shouldn’t be decreased because people with the same colour skin as me did bad things.
In America, white people inherit houses while blacks are born into public housing, due to racist legislation from decades ago. Research the Housing Act of 1937
Now I’m sure somebody is going to be ignorant enough to say “1937 was a long time ago how does this affect you”
This blatantly racist legislation was never corrected and the effects are still prevalent today. Exponentially more white people own homes today, many of these homes were inherited. Whites were given access to subsidized loans while blacks were packed into project buildings.
I’m sure somebody will tell me to stop crying and get over it but I thought I’d share. Or Amala will probably just delete this comment
You need the extra £££ for booze.
Thanks for being honest about that.
And yet you will be told to accept that white privilege is real...SMDH.
Even people who are not biracial can have separate sets of friends who don't intermingle.
I’m in work balling crying watching this. Beautiful video.
Ugh I cried hearing about them as little kids hating or just wanting to change their skin or hair to look like other races. 💔 like Amala said keep what you have it’s absolutely beautiful!! then the sentimental stuff ugh this whole video was a tearjerker
Years and years ago, a friend's 17 year old daughter announced to all and sundry that she was dating a young black man because she wanted to have a black baby. I pulled her mother aside and told her not to let her daughter do that. It was out and out wrong on so many points. She was using the guy and wanted the child simply for status. Fortunately for all concerned, the relationship fell apart before anything serious happened. It still horrifies me to this day. I know it happens, but using a child like a fashion accessory infuriates me and it's even worse when someone is exploiting the other parent for their race. It's one thing to become legitimately involved with someone, end up pregnant and decide to keep the child, but it's a whole different ball game when something like this is going on. I'll stop now, I can feel my blood pressure going up.
NO. You were right. Ruining the lineage she had to make some mixed gremlin
Blessings Amala For Keeping The Conversation Beautifully Real💜
I'm 100% black and i might struggle to name 5 black movies in 20 seconds under pressure
This video was so wholesome and endearing. I almost can't handle it!
The white Dad was sweating hard😅😅😅. He is afraid to be canceled.
You are right that video was just amazing how it turned into something completely different than how it started!! Your mom must be so proud of you and how you made a big move and it’s amazing!!! I have 3 daughters and I’m so proud of them for different ways! I loved the video when you said you were making the move. I just knew you’d make it great!! As a viewer I’m proud of you too 💞
Thank you Amala!! We needed this video. You have literally said almost word for word what I have been saying all my life. Claiming one race is denying and disrespecting your other parent. I was raised by a white parent and a white step parent in the white suburbs and I always got told that I thought I was better because I had lighter skin and that I thought I was white. I always got called High yellow. I hated it.
I just love it when you giggle. You are intelligent, adorable, balanced and have a great sense of humour.
This is why some people don’t want to intermarry into a different culture. For example, this father’s Indian culture is SERIOUS and it’s so important to pass on for them. I feel bad for the dad.
Yes! And I'm not planning on ever having children.
Yea traditional Indian culture
Right, the biggest issue isn't the color it's watching your heritage be cast aside because your child either feels pressured to choose or just decides your heritage isn't "cool" enough.
I always told myself I'm never gonna marry someone (and therefore have kids with) a person who isn't from the same ethnic group as me. Not because I'd hate seeing my culture be tossed away (I never thought about that), but mainly because I don't want my future kids to have an identity crisis (that's why I want them to be born in the same country we belong to as well and grow up there).
Yeah but his daughter not taking his culture seriously is his fault not to mention how anti black the culture is. They will not embrace her at all
Thank you for this Amala.....this whole video made me cry in the best way ❤❤❤
This was really wholesome and fun to watch ❤
Love the "Accept you as you are" message.
When you said, anything with Tyler Perry, I died laughing😂😂😂. Also, I grew up being hated by black kids even though I have a mixed dad and black mom. I never understood why that was the case but all my life i struggled with trying to fit in. Even to this day, it still goes on and I don't know why. I hope it changes for the best and we as a society can grow bigger and better.
I get these all the time! I'm not even mixed but my family "looks mixed". Culturally, I'm Guyanese and I often get "you're too white for Indian culture" even though that's what my ancestry mostly consists of. I didn't know I had to be a certain skin colour or act a certain way in order to be accepted.
They call you coolie over there in Guyana.
@@romariowilliams7952 Sure, it's kind of a slur though, so if you're not Indo-Caribbean, I'd be careful about who you call that.
This is good! My oldest is mixed and was 2 when I married my husband and he adopted her. She was the only mixed child of 4. Although she grew up in a healthy family and the conversation surrounding the subject was open I’m sure there are things I don’t know. These would be good convos to have.
This was brilliant and interesting to listen to all the people on this subject of mixed race people, thank you for sharing, we could all learn from posts like this I am 70 now and still love learning from other's. I would like to interject if I may...no matter what race you are my advice to everyone is embrace who you are and your family also ask about your parents families while you're able. I'm white and I regret not asking my parents about their families when I should have. I was in my 40s when I got interested in my family history! Nobody was around to ask important questions. I missed out a lot of info which I can't pass on to my child 😢
As a white mother, if my mixed daughter sat RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME talking about she doesn't see herself as part white....nah you getting disfknowned. That's a slap in the fkn face
I constantly hear white women with half black children refer to their child’s race as black.
The child is innocent. If you strip your child of your racial identity or you never give them your racial identity then they will do what most half black/half white kids do.
They listen to their white mother label them black so that’s how they label themselves.
You can’t fault the child if you didn’t do your part as a parent in the first place.
I don’t think that she was trying to be hurtful. I think it simply boiled down to her stating how she feels the world sees her. Let’s be honest, if her mom wasn’t there, a lot of us would have thought she was just black….🤷🏽♀️. She loves her mom and is NOT trying to hurt her.
I would never disown my child under any circumstances. I don’t understand how parents are willing to throw their children away over 1 sentence of just a few words. Love is unconditional, otherwise you’re still not ready to be a mom…Wow.
Good because she’s not she has mixed heritage but her race is not” half white” she going to be seen as black cry abt it
Damien was like wait what to that fetish question.
Not all multiethnic people are caramelly. I know some darker skinned multiethnic with curly to straight hair.
I agree with you on the Indian/black young lady. India has such a rich history and culture; I think she does herself a disservice by not embracing and learning about it.
I think a lot of that may be due to the fact that while black people generally accept mixed individuals, while Indians don't. She is pre-empting rejection from Indians.
@@ananse77 lots of unnecessary bs assumptions. She knows that there's no particular brownie point in identifying with her Indian heritage compared to black.
@@chikukumar-tj1ml I'm assuming you're not part of either community, because you seem completely ignorant to the dynamics in either. Everything is "BS" to someone who can't comprehend or empathize.
@@ananse77 lmao, I am Indian. And My nephew are mix and they identify with both heritage. I am not talking from my a$$.
@@chikukumar-tj1ml While I was sending my message, I thought - This guy must be Indian based on the name Kumar, so why is he being disingenuous and pretending like he doesn't know how Indians tend to treat dark skinned Indian like the Siddhis and those who are part black, e.g. Masaba Gupta? Well, now you can answer that question.
I loved all these people so much. I could listen to a 3 hour version of this
The stereotype I heard when I was young is mixed kids are “confused”. I was never confused.
Yeah, it's annoying. Especially, to Blacks as they're categorized today. The Black label seems to be forced more onto those that look Black while having a non-Black parent.
Amala as a straight haired girlie, I am so jealous of your hair. You have so many options on how to style your hair, my hair literally just hangs there.
Our son cried after his last game senior year too. He loved playing sports and high school. He was going into the Marine Corps a few weeks later. He didn't cry for graduation or any other ending in school (he was in a lot of activities) but sports was his undoing. The boys were so tight. They had a small scholarship ($1000) that was given to a team leader who exhibited good sportsmanship, spirit etc & they voted for him to get it at the end of season banquet. That made me a little teary. He wasn't a star player, he didn't suck by any means, but of all the boys, they chose him.
This is a cool vid. On the same page with you on accents lol I’m half mixed European and Mexican ancestry. Growing up in a predominantly Chicano neighborhood I was called guero as a light skinned Mexican which can be either derogatory or endearing depending on how it’s used.
I feel there was some type of identity issues being young especially given that most of the family I am close to or familiar with are Mexican. Also felt like I had to prove myself to my peers a lot more back then.
Now tho I’m comfortable with who I am. And many of my closest friends call me guero.
I really loved this episode especially having mixed children born in 1979 1982 and 1984 Mexican and Afro-American parents. Now I'm very curious of what their thoughts and answers will be. Thanks for sharing ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You guys should buy the cards and play it😊
this dad is so fucking similar to myself in 10-15 years...especially the way he struggled to be honest that he has a racial preference when it comes to partners but doesn't want to use the word "fetish"
I enjoyed this video so much. I have a mixed race grandson that I have so many concerns about. Seeing things like this really helps ease the mind. 😊
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I have a more different experience than most. I was mixed with black and white but people always thought that I wasn’t Mexican enough 💀 Then I had to explain to them how I wasn’t even Mexican at all 😂