Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4 year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.
Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6 year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.
It is better to stay alone than to be used like a cow..you are a lucky man! The world is full of lovely woman waiting for your love. A lot of these are ready to pay money to find a guy like you.. She will regret her mistake. 😊
Theres alot of hard truth in here - of course not about every marriage. I married a chinese woman, she was in UK at university, and she did not want to go back to China. Yes it was real love but we got married fast because her student visa was ending. It was fine at first. I was paying for everything. But although we had a joint bank account she had multiple separate bank accounts too. She earned good money (I mean like £60K a year) but most of it mysteriously disappeared. She said it was not my business. If she just said 'I am helping my parents' I would have accepted it. But I eventually found some bank statements and traced it to China, various accounts, large amounts. The names were not her parents names.
@@GobbyLisa99 Long complicated story. Yes she was divorced in China before she met me. But it wasn't her ex either. Turned out that her brother-in-law (who I'd never met and was never talked about) had been jailed in a bribery and corruption scandal and she was supporting his family.
Wrong to think that way. Try watching some Chinese dating shows. Majority of cases are not for love. The real test if you are sick and dying in bed or you suddenly become unemployed. A lot of marriages in China are contractual if you have something to give, then she will stay in the marriage.
@@zill8021 That's why it's so nice to see Lisa take care of her husband by cooking food and bringing it to him in the hospital, and caring for him when he's sick. That's true love. Seeing that displayed is one of the reasons I watch her channel. It gives me hope for the future-that there's women like her out there amid all the gold-diggers and opportunists.
The family pressure to help is an Asian thing. Not just Chinese. My Filipina wife's family was the same until I told her get a job if you want to send support. She learned how they were taking advantage of us. The guilty feeling is real.
I'm Chinese American so we are called "金 山 客" rough translation (gold mountain people), "assumed" to be rich. I understand the traditions, culture and have traveled to China. I broke the rules by marrying a divorced educated woman with 2 kids, and a gorgeous model. Our parents are very happy. My wife and the kids take good care of my parents. But outsiders keep saying we lose face. Jealous and envious!!
So for those of us men who like Asian women, there are Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, Thai, Filipina, and many other women from Asian countries. So we have many choices. My favorite is Korean women because I think that they have beautiful faces and I like Korean culture, K-pop, K dramas, Korean food and Korean women’s traditional hanbok and modern Korean hanbok. I love the wrap-around gathered skirts with wide banded waists and fabric ties (that can be untied easily, very sexy!) But to each his own, and I am not ruling out falling in love with a woman from any of the other Asian nationalities.
My wife (Chinese) has never expected me to pay solely for anything. We bought our first (including mine) house in Sydney Australia together. We have bought houses since. She works part time and raises our daughter. I don’t know if you have mentioned it in other videos or not but we got her visa to migrate approved in 3 weeks which totally blew us away as we were not prepared for that situation expecting it to take up to 6 months. I don’t know the UK waiting times. The only time money and family has ever been bought up is buying her mum an apartment in her hometown. We ended up going halves with her brother. Every time we go back to China (approximately every 2 years cause I love the place) we will take the family and anyone else who shows up out for dinner costs us a few hundred Australian including alcohol and that is our family commitment done for the trip and then spend time enjoying family time and do our own thing after that for a few days. No family pressure and no expectations, as you said not everyone family is gold digging. Oh any your broken English is perfectly understandable and since I’ve been watching your vids has improved in every one.
I married a Thai lady. We did all the visa work ourselves, others use a specialist solicitor but this is obviously costs more. I think the hardest part of the process is passing the Life In The UK test. My wife found an internet site with lots of practice tests & this helped a lot. Good luck to those marring foreign partners. Wishing you & your partner health and happiness Lisa! 🌹
Thank you. We did visa by ourselves and I also found a website online to practice and passed the life in the UK exam. 😊 Wishing you and your beautiful wife always happy and healthy 😊
Yes your positivity come out in your videos😊. I like you will keep learning chinese as long as I live, but I'm learning so slowly that I'll need to keep learning it when I'm dead ! 😄
I am Learning and Thank You Miss Gobby Lisa. As a retired and disabled U.S. Marine I love to learn new things about life and the world we all live in. Thank You for your time and sharing. You are truly an awesome Lady. Take good care, enjoy and be safe! Later
Thankfully my Chinese wife is like you Lisa, independent from a young age. So the issue of sending money to China has never happened. There was a substantial financial "gift" for her father the first time I met her family though 🙂 I believe this is also tradition.
I would also like to add--If I was to get a Chinese wife I'd think I would live in China with her and only bring her to the US (where I'm from) for visits. Too many Westerners have gotten burned bringing foreign wives home only to have them pick up all the bad traits of Western women and then the new wife divorces the man and takes half his stuff.
Living in China is a good idea. There are indeed many Chinese women who come to Western countries and find that their husbands are not very handsome or rich in the West, so they divorce and find richer men.
@@akllera No. I don't plan on working a job in China-I'd be retired, and maybe supplementing my income by doing remote work of some kind. Taking work from locals no matter where you go in the world is a no-go. If my future wife had a business I'd help her with that of course.
I love the Asian culture, temples, food, hard working people. I think language difference can be a challenge. Thing is it don’t have to be an Asian & foreign relationship, any person, culture, country can have the same problems (money, property, language barriers, trust and honor.) True love relationship will overcome the issues of money and property, if the couple work as a team and communicate. Trust and honor each other. Be content with what they have.
Great video, Yes your right about Chinese wife's family's being big, i was once out there at Chinese New Year and we went back to her hometown, we stayed at her Mum and Dads home and her sister and brothers family's came to see us then 3 cousins came, then we had to go and visit another 2 cousins and 4 other uncles and aunties. I couldn't keep up with who i was meeting, but to keep face we had to buy big fancy fruit baskets to give everyone because I'm the foreigner and they just assumed I'm rich so we had to make it look like that so the family( Mum and Dad) kept face, lucky my wife doesn't like the keeping face thing too much, it depends on the situation. Your broken/Chinglish is excellent, and it gets better every video and your using more bigger and difficult to say words, some that even i find hard to say! I wish my Chinses would improve as quickly as your English.
Thank you. Here is a suggestion. Never go to your wife's house during New Year. Otherwise, you must give a lot of red envelopes to your wife's extended family, especially the children. My English is not that good. I have written the manuscript in advance and asked my husband to revise it.
Yes I've learned to stay home at Chinese new year! 🤣 I disagree, your English is good and you should be proud of yourself for learning it quickly and well, yes there is still room for improvement and practice makes perfect, but we all have things we need to practice , to get better at it.
@@AlanMartin-lc5di Thank you.😊 Looking back at my first year in the UK compared to now, I am very proud of my English, but it is still not enough. Even in my videos, I still need to prepare a lot and my husband needs to help me correct a lot of mistakes
@@AlanMartin-lc5di I am always positive, but I really know my English level, but it is not a problem in daily life. I will keep learning as long as I live
I have married a Chinese woman and couldn't be happier. She is amazing, loving and very humorous. I visited the family in China last February and was treated like a King. My mother-in-law made a point to show me off to all her friends and family. The food and farmers market was absolutely wonderful! We are now very close to completing immigration!! We should be permanently together around next April.
"Broken English" isn't a slam on you although it would be understandable if you thought that. I would not explain it that way. That is an older term not really relevant today but it isn't a purposeful slight. I think your English is very good and 100% better than my Chinese.
Marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts life can offer, a journey of love, partnership, and shared dreams. If this gift are preconditioned with economics and other other variables, then NO GIFT WILL COME. Good luck.
I was married to a most wonderful Chinese Malaysian woman for 51 years until her death in May 2024. She was so kind and loving to me for all those years. She never raised her voice or yelled at me during those 51 years. She homeschooled our two sons and they are both very successful in Christian ministries. One is a Baptist pastor and the other a professor of theology and history at a seminary. I miss her so much. I feel part of me is missing. I would like to marry another Chinese woman. I do know that all Chinese women are different.
Good evening Lisa: DO NOT WORRY about your accent am immigrant to The U. S. I stil have accent because most population in California and along down the border's U. S. up to New York there are Latinos so don't worry. You handled excellent the comment on your accent give you a big applause always speak politely or just skip the bad comments in the future. I took speech class my professor advice my classmates and me always speak politely to the audience. So consider my tip. Just keep editing the videos are excellent topics on Chinese women. Take care Cesar
Guys guys, please accept the fact that marriage like buying a nice car is a monetary affair. There is maintenance cost after purchasing your vehicle, such are marriages.This false but popular myth that wives and girlfriends are FREE is the cause of so much angst. When women feel that her partner isn't invested in her, such as 50/50 brigades, she will be secretly looking for your replacement. Embracing the bitter truth is a sign of maturity.
For christians your thinking is a sin and makes null the wedding. Christians are about one billion so your thinking is a minority thinking. If you marry with that idea your marriage is a failure from beginning. 50 years marriages for christians are quite normal. If you do not love you cannot stay such long time..
Arabs, Thai, Vietnamese and Filipina are same thing. You marry into the family, not the woman. Her family becomes the husbands responsibility, so its expected to pay an extra $200-$300 a month to the family to stay married, ontop of the womans monthly allowance.
Great information. I have loved Asian women since I spent the summer in Sudan, Africa, when I was 15. My father's best friend, Mr. Kim, had a beautiful young Korean wife. She was in her mid-20s, and he was in his mid-40s. Over the years, I have a fondness for that culture and lifestyle. I would love to live in an Asian country and live that lifestyle.
The Visa process is true, but my wife’s family is self sufficient and support themselves. But I did speak with her before getting married and made it clear I was only marrying her not her family. She was fine with this and she is gainfully employed herself, but still doesn’t send money back to her family
I married a 46 year old Thai woman and since she was older, the parents didn't make demands for money. I do think if the Thai woman was younger it would be different though,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
Westerners would consider this as odd behavior. Western men marry the wife not the family. It’s possible that some western men may not mind. And it’s unfair to the Chinese wife to put such a demand on their daughter the only goal should be satisfaction knowing their daughter is happy and well taken care of and not to support their Chinese family
I not hear broken.the issue is foreigners often study english well.but coz we speak native or more lAnguages we express when speaking like our native style.thats hearing looks broken❤
In my country,is saying to buy whatever you use for this meal…next meal might be different. So why marry for interest or finance? I could find a decent meal at restaurant…including the lady that cooked the meal 😂😂😂😂….no divorce,no stress and no bad feelings. I will marry happily a Chinese woman for love,respect and a good life together…in our new family.
What a sweet lady. If she is married, good but if not, then may life bring her a caring man. Her accent is nice. She sounds so sweet. December 24, 2024, USA {Tuesday}.
I must watch this again. The Chinese woman this Westerner wants to marry wants to stay in China, and i want to move to China. Thanks Lisa. Love the channel guideline. Peace.
We use the term broken English for someone who speaks half English and half another language because they do not know all the English words yet. Your English is not broken, it's quite good actually...especially coming from Mandarin. We have a term for when people mix Spanish and English together, we call the result Spanglish. This is broken English. My wife can show off a very large house in the U.S. and several cars, so she has no problem saving face. My wife's family have never asked for money, but there are other issues. The culture is extremely different between the U.S. and China. It's not the language or the differing customs that cause most of the issues. In China, no matter where you are, you can easily eat very good food, and you can travel from anywhere in China to anywhere else in China very cheaply, very easily, and very safely. None of these things are true in the U.S., so my wife is not every happy when she is here. Also, the Chinese food that is here, is not really Chinese food. Strangely enough, I have now gotten used to Chinese food in China, and I am beginning to have the same issue with being in the U.S. as my wife. Once you get used to being in China, it is very difficult to live in the west. My wife and I met normally and got married. She wasn't looking for a western husband, she just ended up with one. My wife has many cousins who are all extremely nice. They even pretend to fight over paying for food. lol Since I am 老外, I always make sure I pay. Another thing is that my father-in-law in a member of the CPC, and even though I am a member of the CPUSA (totally different at many levels), I am not exactly what he would prefer as a son-in-law. He is always very nice, but that is where it stops. Most of the time, my wife doesn't bring me to see her parents. This is a shame because my mother-in-law is just as cute as a button. Both my in-laws are in their late 80s, so I don't think they are going to change.
Marrying a chinese lady means you have to buy in (literally sometimes!) to their strange culture so you would have to be really invested in the lady to marry her ?
For anyone to criticise your language skills they should demonstrate how high their own skills are. Then justify their rudeness and lack of understanding that we are not all the same and therefore not all equally capable.
Broken English is not only a traditional term, it's a fair description. I wouldn't use it for Lisa's English since I feel that her skills exceed that level. I would use that term for someone who is making basic grammatical errors, which Lisa seldom does. I can tell you that her English skills far exceed my Mandarin skills. I know how hard learning those skills in Mandarin has been for me so I have a great deal of respect for her.
My 9 year relationship was cancelled after her family pressured her so much to get me to buy land, house, car etc., I was on the point of actually giving in and buying her a car when she dropped the bombshell and broke off our relationship due to the pressure from her family basically saying, get rid of the cheap charlie and find another one/mug/sucker.
A better idea might be to marry as attractive and feminine s e asian lady maybe from the Philippines although guys do make sure you won't be expected to financially support her large extended family !
This cultural practice will destroy what could have been a positive relationship and happiness for all. On one hand, it is good to have close relationship with families and respect the elders. I think it is also healthy to take care of our elderly and not push them away or forget them. However, in my home, I am king, not my parents, not the children and not even my grandparents. There must be a balance. If my wife allowed family gossip to interfere with our personal life plans, she would quickly regret it and might find herself returning home to her not so wonderful in-laws. Wealth has nothing to do with it, parents should never get between their child's husband or wife. My wife is above all others, my children come second and the rest of our family follows in that order.
@@limitlesschoices It's not. I arrived at this philosophy growing up in a home where my grandmother and aunts constantly ran my father down while he spent 30 years overseas fighting wars. I married a woman opposite my mother and made choices opposite my father to protect our marriage and daughters. Life's tough enough without others sticking their nose where it doesn't belong.
Don't understandy why buy dishes at nearby restaurant .. why not just get the plates and bowls cheaper at Walmart instead??? And get forks and spoons too since hubby can't use the chop sticks? Or maybe need to get *special* dishes from restaurants for traditional plate-breaking ceremony? Broken dishes to sanctify broken engrish?
It's different from what you think. dishes is food.🍲 Usually we tell the restaurant how many dishes we want, and they cook them right away. Then someone will deliver them to our home. It only takes five minutes. After we finish eating, the restaurant will take away the plates, but we only use the chopsticks and soup spoons we have at home
My bride is from Chongqing. As to her price? I am not certain as the old adding machine hasn't stopped calculating. But still, I wouldn't trade her "for all the tea in...."
Solution: search for christian chinese woman. Christians have precise order from God to love the Husband prior to parents, love the husband like herself(also valid for husband respect to his wife). Christian have to love and help parents but in the right way.
Always enjoy your videos.... Can I ask a question.... Can I open a current account with the bank of China in London on a 2 year tourist visa, so I can use Alipay and WeChat pay?
You dont need to open a chinese bank account now, Alipay and Wechat let you use your own bank card now, you just need to download the apps and put in your card details
Even you have China account they won’t give 2 years tourist visa. Now you don’t need visa travel to China . Visa-free now 144 hours. And you can buy SIM card and give some money , then you can use WeCheat pay
@@daveinchina I think you don't need to apply for a Chinese bank account, because you can't stay in China for too long each time , you just need to exchange money, then buy a Chinese S IM card, install WeChat, then give the money to the staff, they will help you install WeChat, then recharge the money in your WeChat, then you can pay with WeChat
The cultures are so different I don't if there could ever be true love honest trusting respect for her and her for me I will admire them for they are beautiful but I would not be able to complicate my life it's complicated enough cheche
Thanks Lisa! Very good info and your 'broken English' is adorable! :) Can you recommend me some online apps or web pages when I can find a Chinese girlfriend "material"? So far I met only many scam and fraud and I was ghosted many times. So I think there is not normal Chinese girl. I found also a good online "source" with millions of Chinese girls but basic problem is their English and unlike to the past when Chinese girls had strong effort to learn English, it is not the case anymore. They have no interest to learn English. It is strange for me...
Foreign languages are difficult and European languages are very different to Asian languages. You are doing very well. Keep practicing and ignore people who have unhelpful opinions. Western husbands should help with requests for small things like milk power but immediately ask for a favour back for example to send some small chinese bowls for the house. Kindness is good but should be reciprocated to build strong relationships. If nothing comes back, don't give again. Chinese family should respect values of western family members too
You, literally, have no idea what you're talking about. Chinese culture is not a theme, it's not a glaze, it's endemic in their whole life, good or bad. You make good points, but none of that will happen. Don't get fooled by Chinese requests.
She has a very unusual accent. It almost sounds half Chinese/half Japanese. My Chinese wife’s accent is very very different than Lisa’s. Anyway, there’s plenty American men who’d love to marry Chinese women. Keep trying. ☮️
Lisa: I would like to hear/read your opinion on my following question, What do you think the problems would be for a western man to marry a Chinese woman under the current political atmosphere between China and the Western countries (U.S., Britain, Canada, etc.....)?
its seems to me that in asian countries the family help the marriages alot of times to lead to divorces. this is not letting me have high hopes about finding love in asia.
Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4 year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.
Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6 year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.
Remarkable! How did you discover a spiritual counselor, and what's the procedure for me to get in contact with her?
Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, a renowned spiritual counselor.
Thank you for this invaluable information; I've just checked her out online. Very impressive indeed!
It is better to stay alone than to be used like a cow..you are a lucky man! The world is full of lovely woman waiting for your love. A lot of these are ready to pay money to find a guy like you..
She will regret her mistake.
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My wife told her parents that I was not an ATM and she is not a prostitute.
YES ITS A RIP OFF, IF THEY CANT SEE IT, ME AND EVERYBODY ELSE DOES.
99.9 % of chinese are prostitutes
I love your English and your accent. You are very considerate of others and you are very beautiful. Thank you for sharing with us.
Theres alot of hard truth in here - of course not about every marriage. I married a chinese woman, she was in UK at university, and she did not want to go back to China. Yes it was real love but we got married fast because her student visa was ending. It was fine at first. I was paying for everything. But although we had a joint bank account she had multiple separate bank accounts too. She earned good money (I mean like £60K a year) but most of it mysteriously disappeared. She said it was not my business. If she just said 'I am helping my parents' I would have accepted it. But I eventually found some bank statements and traced it to China, various accounts, large amounts. The names were not her parents names.
So you married a Triad woman???
If not her parents name, whose name? Is she divorced before met you?
@@GobbyLisa99 Long complicated story. Yes she was divorced in China before she met me. But it wasn't her ex either. Turned out that her brother-in-law (who I'd never met and was never talked about) had been jailed in a bribery and corruption scandal and she was supporting his family.
@@arnewoodman YOU DO IT FOR THEM, I DONT THINK THEY DO IT FOR YOU
That's not broken English. It's fluent English with a very heavy accent.
Damn, you beat me to it. I agree, her english is fine, but that accent is thick.
SHE DOES MESS UP
I married a Chinese woman and it did not cost anything. People get married for love and nothing else!
We think it's for love, but some people don't
Actually most unions are out of convenience or lack of alternative. But your reason is the most seeked, yes.
Wrong to think that way. Try watching some Chinese dating shows. Majority of cases are not for love. The real test if you are sick and dying in bed or you suddenly become unemployed. A lot of marriages in China are contractual if you have something to give, then she will stay in the marriage.
@@zill8021 That's why it's so nice to see Lisa take care of her husband by cooking food and bringing it to him in the hospital, and caring for him when he's sick. That's true love. Seeing that displayed is one of the reasons I watch her channel. It gives me hope for the future-that there's women like her out there amid all the gold-diggers and opportunists.
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The family pressure to help is an Asian thing. Not just Chinese. My Filipina wife's family was the same until I told her get a job if you want to send support.
She learned how they were taking advantage of us.
The guilty feeling is real.
I'm Chinese American so we are called "金 山 客" rough translation (gold mountain people), "assumed" to be rich.
I understand the traditions, culture and have traveled to China.
I broke the rules by marrying a divorced educated woman with 2 kids, and a gorgeous model.
Our parents are very happy. My wife and the kids take good care of my parents. But outsiders keep saying we lose face. Jealous and envious!!
Your accent is very beautiful.
The cost is your life's energy and effort. Make sure she is worth it.
So for those of us men who like Asian women, there are Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Vietnamese, Thai, Filipina, and many other women from Asian countries. So we have many choices. My favorite is Korean women because I think that they have beautiful faces and I like Korean culture, K-pop, K dramas, Korean food and Korean women’s traditional hanbok and modern Korean hanbok. I love the wrap-around gathered skirts with wide banded waists and fabric ties (that can be untied easily, very sexy!)
But to each his own, and I am not ruling out falling in love with a woman from any of the other Asian nationalities.
My wife (Chinese) has never expected me to pay solely for anything. We bought our first (including mine) house in Sydney Australia together. We have bought houses since. She works part time and raises our daughter. I don’t know if you have mentioned it in other videos or not but we got her visa to migrate approved in 3 weeks which totally blew us away as we were not prepared for that situation expecting it to take up to 6 months. I don’t know the UK waiting times. The only time money and family has ever been bought up is buying her mum an apartment in her hometown. We ended up going halves with her brother. Every time we go back to China (approximately every 2 years cause I love the place) we will take the family and anyone else who shows up out for dinner costs us a few hundred Australian including alcohol and that is our family commitment done for the trip and then spend time enjoying family time and do our own thing after that for a few days. No family pressure and no expectations, as you said not everyone family is gold digging. Oh any your broken English is perfectly understandable and since I’ve been watching your vids has improved in every one.
Your 'Broken English' is a lot better than my Chinese !..
It's weird how broken language can be so endearing and even a bit sexy ?!
Yep! Same here! I know a couple Chinese phrases, but when the person I'm talking to responds I'm in trouble!🤪
@@johnballard6725 Steady now !..
Lucky husband with such a beautiful wife. I love your videos❤
I married a Thai lady. We did all the visa work ourselves, others use a specialist solicitor but this is obviously costs more. I think the hardest part of the process is passing the Life In The UK test. My wife found an internet site with lots of practice tests & this helped a lot. Good luck to those marring foreign partners. Wishing you & your partner health and happiness Lisa! 🌹
Thank you. We did visa by ourselves and I also found a website online to practice and passed the life in the UK exam. 😊 Wishing you and your beautiful wife always happy and healthy 😊
Yes your positivity come out in your videos😊. I like you will keep learning chinese as long as I live, but I'm learning so slowly that I'll need to keep learning it when I'm dead ! 😄
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I am Learning and Thank You Miss Gobby Lisa. As a retired and disabled U.S. Marine I love to learn new things about life and the world we all live in. Thank You for your time and sharing. You are truly an awesome Lady. Take good care, enjoy and be safe! Later
They shout too much when they're angry.
Thankfully my Chinese wife is like you Lisa, independent from a young age. So the issue of sending money to China has never happened. There was a substantial financial "gift" for her father the first time I met her family though 🙂 I believe this is also tradition.
Wish you and your lovely wife always happy and healthy 😊
I would also like to add--If I was to get a Chinese wife I'd think I would live in China with her and only bring her to the US (where I'm from) for visits. Too many Westerners have gotten burned bringing foreign wives home only to have them pick up all the bad traits of Western women and then the new wife divorces the man and takes half his stuff.
Living in China is a good idea. There are indeed many Chinese women who come to Western countries and find that their husbands are not very handsome or rich in the West, so they divorce and find richer men.
Standard Operating Procedure with Foreign Women. Not all, I would say under half of that. It's the "Horror Stories" that makes it so "Terrifying".
@@ace1926 Under half is good odds????
You better have a lot of money. You wouldn't be able to work in China under a marriage visa.
@@akllera No. I don't plan on working a job in China-I'd be retired, and maybe supplementing my income by doing remote work of some kind. Taking work from locals no matter where you go in the world is a no-go. If my future wife had a business I'd help her with that of course.
I love the Asian culture, temples, food, hard working people. I think language difference can be a challenge.
Thing is it don’t have to be an Asian & foreign relationship, any person, culture, country can have the same problems (money, property, language barriers, trust and honor.)
True love relationship will overcome the issues of money and property, if the couple work as a team and communicate. Trust and honor each other. Be content with what they have.
Great video, Yes your right about Chinese wife's family's being big, i was once out there at Chinese New Year and we went back to her hometown, we stayed at her Mum and Dads home and her sister and brothers family's came to see us then 3 cousins came, then we had to go and visit another 2 cousins and 4 other uncles and aunties. I couldn't keep up with who i was meeting, but to keep face we had to buy big fancy fruit baskets to give everyone because I'm the foreigner and they just assumed I'm rich so we had to make it look like that so the family( Mum and Dad) kept face, lucky my wife doesn't like the keeping face thing too much, it depends on the situation.
Your broken/Chinglish is excellent, and it gets better every video and your using more bigger and difficult to say words, some that even i find hard to say! I wish my Chinses would improve as quickly as your English.
Thank you. Here is a suggestion. Never go to your wife's house during New Year. Otherwise, you must give a lot of red envelopes to your wife's extended family, especially the children. My English is not that good. I have written the manuscript in advance and asked my husband to revise it.
Yes I've learned to stay home at Chinese new year! 🤣
I disagree, your English is good and you should be proud of yourself for learning it quickly and well, yes there is still room for improvement and practice makes perfect, but we all have things we need to practice , to get better at it.
@@AlanMartin-lc5di Thank you.😊 Looking back at my first year in the UK compared to now, I am very proud of my English, but it is still not enough. Even in my videos, I still need to prepare a lot and my husband needs to help me correct a lot of mistakes
I understand, but from a outsiders view you are doing very well. And you need to keep doing it and keep thinking positively
@@AlanMartin-lc5di I am always positive, but I really know my English level, but it is not a problem in daily life. I will keep learning as long as I live
I have married a Chinese woman and couldn't be happier. She is amazing, loving and very humorous. I visited the family in China last February and was treated like a King. My mother-in-law made a point to show me off to all her friends and family. The food and farmers market was absolutely wonderful! We are now very close to completing immigration!! We should be permanently together around next April.
"Broken English" isn't a slam on you although it would be understandable if you thought that. I would not explain it that way. That is an older term not really relevant today but it isn't a purposeful slight. I think your English is very good and 100% better than my Chinese.
Marriage is one of the most beautiful gifts life can offer, a journey of love, partnership, and shared dreams. If this gift are preconditioned with economics and other other variables, then NO GIFT WILL COME. Good luck.
I like this. Speaks more towards confidence than the content in itself.Go Gobby Go❤
I know exactly how much. My apartment, my car, tons of jewellery, my retirement, my confidence, my happiness, my soul.
@@rayroc5938 a trust and a prenup is always the answer before marriage!
My Chinese EX-wife divorced me because of money! Oil and water.
I was married to a most wonderful Chinese Malaysian woman for 51 years until her death in May 2024.
She was so kind and loving to me for all those years. She never raised her voice or yelled at me during those 51 years.
She homeschooled our two sons and they are both very successful in Christian ministries. One is a Baptist pastor and the other a professor of theology and history at a seminary.
I miss her so much. I feel part of me is missing.
I would like to marry another Chinese woman. I do know that all Chinese women are different.
you seem to have good common sense.......thats more important than perfect english
Good evening Lisa:
DO NOT WORRY about your accent am immigrant to The U. S. I stil have accent because most population in California and along down the border's U. S. up to New York there are Latinos so don't worry. You handled excellent the comment on your accent give you a big applause always speak politely or just skip the bad comments in the future. I took speech class my professor advice my classmates and me always speak politely to the audience. So consider my tip.
Just keep editing the videos are excellent topics on Chinese women.
Take care
Cesar
Your husband clearly got a bargain when he found you :-).
Thanks. I’m lucky have him
@@GobbyLisa99 What does Martin say?
Love 💕 your confidence , that s how I speak Chinese too I know I will become better
Guys guys, please accept the fact that marriage like buying a nice car is a monetary affair. There is maintenance cost after purchasing your vehicle, such are marriages.This false but popular myth that wives and girlfriends are FREE is the cause of so much angst. When women feel that her partner isn't invested in her, such as 50/50 brigades, she will be secretly looking for your replacement. Embracing the bitter truth is a sign of maturity.
For christians your thinking is a sin and makes null the wedding. Christians are about one billion so your thinking is a minority thinking. If you marry with that idea your marriage is a failure from beginning. 50 years marriages for christians are quite normal. If you do not love you cannot stay such long time..
Thanks for this Lisa! Good info-and you're 'broken English' is quite good!
Thank you 😊
not "you're", its your.
@@jamiezenichi1017 oops! typo! Sounds like my grammar is broken!
@@Gregabob Just joking with you . 😶
@@jamiezenichi1017 😁
You are so right. Everyone has their own characteristics.
Thank you for the hard work it took to communicate with your non-native language skills.
Arabs, Thai, Vietnamese and Filipina are same thing. You marry into the family, not the woman. Her family becomes the husbands responsibility, so its expected to pay an extra $200-$300 a month to the family to stay married, ontop of the womans monthly allowance.
Great information. I have loved Asian women since I spent the summer in Sudan, Africa, when I was 15. My father's best friend, Mr. Kim, had a beautiful young Korean wife. She was in her mid-20s, and he was in his mid-40s.
Over the years, I have a fondness for that culture and lifestyle. I would love to live in an Asian country and live that lifestyle.
The Visa process is true, but my wife’s family is self sufficient and support themselves. But I did speak with her before getting married and made it clear I was only marrying her not her family. She was fine with this and she is gainfully employed herself, but still doesn’t send money back to her family
oh xiei xie Lisa for inviting us to ask you questions am so glad to hear that
I married a 46 year old Thai woman and since she was older, the parents didn't make demands for money. I do think if the Thai woman was younger it would be different though,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,
So, family is very important to Chinese, just like to Filipino. And the rich westerner theory is the same too.
Westerners would consider this as odd behavior. Western men marry the wife not the family. It’s possible that some western men may not mind. And it’s unfair to the Chinese wife to put such a demand on their daughter the only goal should be satisfaction knowing their daughter is happy and well taken care of and not to support their Chinese family
I not hear broken.the issue is foreigners often study english well.but coz we speak native or more lAnguages we express when speaking like our native style.thats hearing looks broken❤
I guess I got lucky; my wife, my mother in-law, my sister in-law are all the greatest.
Happy for you, not everyone luck . My husband also really likes my mum and my sister. 😊
Don't forget about how much it will cost to move her whole family into your house and the cost to support them as well.
I have been married to my Chinese Wife for over 20-years. She is a Good woman!
In my country,is saying to buy whatever you use for this meal…next meal might be different.
So why marry for interest or finance?
I could find a decent meal at restaurant…including the lady that cooked the meal 😂😂😂😂….no divorce,no stress and no bad feelings.
I will marry happily a Chinese woman for love,respect and a good life together…in our new family.
Lisa..☀🍉🌼Thanks for your informative video…great information
What a sweet lady. If she is married, good but if not, then may life bring her a caring man. Her accent is nice. She sounds so sweet.
December 24, 2024, USA {Tuesday}.
I must watch this again. The Chinese woman this Westerner wants to marry wants to stay in China, and i want to move to China. Thanks Lisa. Love the channel guideline. Peace.
Thank you. The cost is much lower in China, but if you live in China, don't buy a house, just rent one.
You get a new subscriber because I like your English 😊
Thank you 😊
We use the term broken English for someone who speaks half English and half another language because they do not know all the English words yet. Your English is not broken, it's quite good actually...especially coming from Mandarin. We have a term for when people mix Spanish and English together, we call the result Spanglish. This is broken English.
My wife can show off a very large house in the U.S. and several cars, so she has no problem saving face. My wife's family have never asked for money, but there are other issues. The culture is extremely different between the U.S. and China. It's not the language or the differing customs that cause most of the issues. In China, no matter where you are, you can easily eat very good food, and you can travel from anywhere in China to anywhere else in China very cheaply, very easily, and very safely. None of these things are true in the U.S., so my wife is not every happy when she is here. Also, the Chinese food that is here, is not really Chinese food. Strangely enough, I have now gotten used to Chinese food in China, and I am beginning to have the same issue with being in the U.S. as my wife. Once you get used to being in China, it is very difficult to live in the west. My wife and I met normally and got married. She wasn't looking for a western husband, she just ended up with one. My wife has many cousins who are all extremely nice. They even pretend to fight over paying for food. lol Since I am 老外, I always make sure I pay.
Another thing is that my father-in-law in a member of the CPC, and even though I am a member of the CPUSA (totally different at many levels), I am not exactly what he would prefer as a son-in-law. He is always very nice, but that is where it stops. Most of the time, my wife doesn't bring me to see her parents. This is a shame because my mother-in-law is just as cute as a button. Both my in-laws are in their late 80s, so I don't think they are going to change.
Thank you for your story. I haven't been back to China for almost six years and I miss the food there
ITS NOT BROKEN ITS MESS UP
Thanks Lisa 😊 💐
😊
$830K and I U.S. Citizenship. That's what it cost me after my divorce.
A trust and a prenup before marriage is always the answer!
I love your effort you have made in your English speech, keep trying it’s ok just it’s as said broken but very good as well
Thank you
Key is to marry the right girl, whether she is Chinese or not.
Best explanations, awesome 👍❤
Good Luck with your culture!
Marrying a chinese lady means you have to buy in (literally sometimes!) to their strange culture so you would have to be really invested in the lady to marry her ?
🤔🤔🤔. Better have strength of money and great career.
That make sense Chinese culture and society give hard on fellers to found bride.
Hi then,
Say to all chineses womens in europe , after 25 years old its not the end .... its just the starting of life!!!!!❤❤❤
See you mother🙏🏾😌
It sounds like you have great parents❤🇨🇦
I actually grew up in a violent family
It doesn't cost anything. A "dowery" is for the bride's parents to pay the husband for marrying her.
Dowery is only in some places not all China. Especially in big cities no Dowery
@GobbyLisa99 ....No dowery, no marriage.
@@theSword-only some families. It is happening less these days. In big cities, often no dowry but, you need to own a house and car.
Its always nice to see you smile. You get good and bad people in all nations. People are people at the end of the day.
Thank you
I love your accent sounds romantic 😍 ❤...
Your English is good lucky husband to have a pretty wife like you 😅
Hiiii Lisa .... Thanks again for your GREAT content & efforts !
Your English is very good. ❤
Thank you
For anyone to criticise your language skills they should demonstrate how high their own skills are. Then justify their rudeness and lack of understanding that we are not all the same and therefore not all equally capable.
Thanks, I don't mind, Broken English is cute to me😊
Broken English is not only a traditional term, it's a fair description. I wouldn't use it for Lisa's English since I feel that her skills exceed that level. I would use that term for someone who is making basic grammatical errors, which Lisa seldom does. I can tell you that her English skills far exceed my Mandarin skills. I know how hard learning those skills in Mandarin has been for me so I have a great deal of respect for her.
@ I think it shows you’re making an effort.
@@petersone6172 Thank you
My 9 year relationship was cancelled after her family pressured her so much to get me to buy land, house, car etc.,
I was on the point of actually giving in and buying her a car when she dropped the bombshell and broke off our relationship due to the pressure from her family basically saying, get rid of the cheap charlie and find another one/mug/sucker.
Buying milk and basic things like that to one's wife's relatives is not a big deal.
It looks like if a Westerner marries a traditional Chinese woman, she gets a lot of pressure from her family about money to support the family!!!
A better idea might be to
marry as attractive and feminine s e asian lady maybe from the Philippines although guys do make sure you won't be expected to financially support her large extended family !
Marrying the right woman is really like winning the lotto.
This cultural practice will destroy what could have been a positive relationship and happiness for all. On one hand, it is good to have close relationship with families and respect the elders. I think it is also healthy to take care of our elderly and not push them away or forget them. However, in my home, I am king, not my parents, not the children and not even my grandparents. There must be a balance. If my wife allowed family gossip to interfere with our personal life plans, she would quickly regret it and might find herself returning home to her not so wonderful in-laws. Wealth has nothing to do with it, parents should never get between their child's husband or wife. My wife is above all others, my children come second and the rest of our family follows in that order.
That sounds biblical.
nailed it
@@limitlesschoices It's not. I arrived at this philosophy growing up in a home where my grandmother and aunts constantly ran my father down while he spent 30 years overseas fighting wars. I married a woman opposite my mother and made choices opposite my father to protect our marriage and daughters. Life's tough enough without others sticking their nose where it doesn't belong.
I have a Chinese friend who describes her English as "Stir fry English".
For some, $2,000,000 after divorce in a big city.
Don't understandy why buy dishes at nearby restaurant .. why not just get the plates and bowls cheaper at Walmart instead???
And get forks and spoons too since hubby can't use the chop sticks? Or maybe need to get *special* dishes from restaurants for traditional plate-breaking ceremony? Broken dishes to sanctify broken engrish?
It's different from what you think. dishes is food.🍲 Usually we tell the restaurant how many dishes we want, and they cook them right away. Then someone will deliver them to our home. It only takes five minutes. After we finish eating, the restaurant will take away the plates, but we only use the chopsticks and soup spoons we have at home
My bride is from Chongqing. As to her price? I am not certain as the old adding machine hasn't stopped calculating. But still, I wouldn't trade her "for all the tea in...."
Yes . Love is most important.
@@GobbyLisa99 I DONT THINK CHINESES KNOW WHAT LOVE IS
You get your message across.
That's not so bad. My brother married his mexican wife and it cost him his soul.
You couldnt offer ME money to get married.
Lisa i want to meet some dounghua characters like Medusa
Solution: search for christian chinese woman. Christians have precise order from God to love the Husband prior to parents, love the husband like herself(also valid for husband respect to his wife). Christian have to love and help parents but in the right way.
Always enjoy your videos....
Can I ask a question.... Can I open a current account with the bank of China in London on a 2 year tourist visa, so I can use Alipay and WeChat pay?
You dont need to open a chinese bank account now, Alipay and Wechat let you use your own bank card now, you just need to download the apps and put in your card details
Even you have China account they won’t give 2 years tourist visa. Now you don’t need visa travel to China . Visa-free now 144 hours. And you can buy SIM card and give some money , then you can use WeCheat pay
@@GobbyLisa99 I have a 2 year visa - multi entry for 3 months per visit from the London visa centre.
@@daveinchina I think you don't need to apply for a Chinese bank account, because you can't stay in China for too long each time , you just need to exchange money, then buy a Chinese S IM card, install WeChat, then give the money to the staff, they will help you install WeChat, then recharge the money in your WeChat, then you can pay with WeChat
thank you, Chinese custom very similar to Phillipine culture of taking care of parents and family. good diction, I understood everything you said.
Thank you 😊
@@GobbyLisa99 TAKE CARE IS ONE THING, BUYING THEM A HOUSE AND MORE IS NOT HELP.
The cultures are so different I don't if there could ever be true love honest trusting respect for her and her for me I will admire them for they are beautiful but I would not be able to complicate my life it's complicated enough cheche
Thanks Lisa! Very good info and your 'broken English' is adorable! :) Can you recommend me some online apps or web pages when I can find a Chinese girlfriend "material"? So far I met only many scam and fraud and I was ghosted many times. So I think there is not normal Chinese girl. I found also a good online "source" with millions of Chinese girls but basic problem is their English and unlike to the past when Chinese girls had strong effort to learn English, it is not the case anymore. They have no interest to learn English. It is strange for me...
Thank you. But sorry I don’t know any these website
Foreign languages are difficult and European languages are very different to Asian languages. You are doing very well. Keep practicing and ignore people who have unhelpful opinions.
Western husbands should help with requests for small things like milk power but immediately ask for a favour back for example to send some small chinese bowls for the house. Kindness is good but should be reciprocated to build strong relationships. If nothing comes back, don't give again. Chinese family should respect values of western family members too
You, literally, have no idea what you're talking about. Chinese culture is not a theme, it's not a glaze, it's endemic in their whole life, good or bad. You make good points, but none of that will happen. Don't get fooled by Chinese requests.
Your English is great
Thank you
She has a very unusual accent. It almost sounds half Chinese/half Japanese. My Chinese wife’s accent is very very different than Lisa’s. Anyway, there’s plenty American men who’d love to marry Chinese women. Keep trying. ☮️
It costs more money than I have. 😂
Lisa:
I would like to hear/read your opinion on my following question,
What do you think the problems would be for a western man to marry a Chinese woman under the current political atmosphere between China and the Western countries (U.S., Britain, Canada, etc.....)?
I will think about.
I always look forward to your vlogs. They are enlightening and entertaining despite your “broken” English.
@@AReese-eu5zs Thank you ☺️
I've dated many Chinese women in America and want to marry all of them. lol
its seems to me that in asian countries the family help the marriages alot of times to lead to divorces. this is not letting me have high hopes about finding love in asia.
I am from Italy and my family was destroyed by the parents of my father. It is not a matter of culture, it is a matter of love.
My grandmother destroyed my family..and I am italian. It is not matter of culture, it is a matter of love
@Ikeban441 i understand what your saying but I was mostly referring to the parents and other family members that interfer with the relationship.
What's the ROI to marry a Chinese woman given the cost?
SHE ONLY TALKS WHEN ITS CONVENIENT
Your English is better than my Chinese.... 😅
I love have Chinese women for future wife and stay with me including starting family of our own togetherness.
You did not mention about bride price that your husband gave for you to marry him