Christians, Are You Trying Too Hard to be In a Relationship? | Godly Dating 101 Podcast

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  • @GodlyDating101
    @GodlyDating101  2 роки тому +8

    How do you know the difference between someone doing too much or simply having an outgoing personality?
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    • @silverrain99205
      @silverrain99205 2 роки тому

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  • @ferlesha1405
    @ferlesha1405 2 роки тому +29

    It's not a purnishment from God if he makes us wait, IT'S A BLESSING.

  • @SoulDeepZim
    @SoulDeepZim 2 роки тому +44

    God is surely trying to say something to me because all your recent videos have been sooo relevant 🤣🤣🤣 I feel attacked, but in a good way. Thank you for this

  • @talicialee
    @talicialee 2 роки тому +38

    I think for me I’ve subconsciously been sucked into the phase of wanting to be married or in a relationship. A few reasons…
    #1 When I was in the world I didn’t have those “desperate” desires because I was always in a atmosphere to where male attention or presence wasn’t lacking.
    #2 Everywhere you turn relationships or relationship content are being pushed. I try to escape it but it’s inevitable.
    #3 Being saved now…. I always be around women 24/7 because church and every event in the church culture be 90% women & I feel deprived if that makes sense. It’s starting to feel weird.
    #4 Being Christian, I don’t think God is concerned or worried about us having somebody other than whoever will be our spouse. So with that and also walking in purpose…. It do feel like a waiting process because now we can’t just entertain something just because we feel like it… it have to be intentional and the right season.

    • @Jasmyne444
      @Jasmyne444 2 роки тому +2

      #4 THAT PART 👏🏽✨

  • @celetasmith2887
    @celetasmith2887 2 роки тому +15

    Things I notice others doing:
    Posting about them on social media but the other person never posts about them, initiating conversations with their crushes but the other person never even acknowledges them, always walking up to them in church, etc. It's just so sad.
    There are way too many people getting a divorce for me to be that desperate to be in a relationship 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @Texas925
    @Texas925 Рік тому

    I am 48 and I will keep waiting for the lord to bring the right man in my life, He knows what I want and need, It will all come together when the time is right!! Thanks for the message

  • @TheDjGrateful
    @TheDjGrateful 2 роки тому +10

    “Putting a Bible Verse under them tight pants” facts bro lol

    • @anestfrancois
      @anestfrancois 2 роки тому +1

      Tovares is hilarious mannn😂😂😂🤦🏾‍♂️

    • @TheDjGrateful
      @TheDjGrateful 2 роки тому +1

      @@anestfrancois I was dying laughing bruh

  • @Coolct
    @Coolct 2 роки тому +1

    Completely agree about the thirst traps! Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @lovefelix1566
    @lovefelix1566 2 роки тому +2

    You can be attractive and holy... stylish and covered... I agree with you

  • @francisogbonna_
    @francisogbonna_ 10 місяців тому +1

    I was doing this by chasing every beautiful woman I had seen. I'm now focusing on things above so once I do get into that relationship I won't stop or start serving God.

  • @deridalnalafortune
    @deridalnalafortune 2 роки тому +14

    This video was spot on I pray that myself included in everyone reading that we really have a strong relationship with Christ and be with the person God has for us in his set time and season that we're not falling into comparison that we're praying fasting and working on ourselves and asking God to that we are securing Our identity in Christ removing ugly treats so we can glorify him and that we marry partners that bring us closer to God closer to righteousness closer to wisdom We can be rooted in marriages based on laughter love longevity in Christ being at the center of it all patience is key and in a single season be sure to not get desperate and have fun righteously though

  • @cherylpaige78
    @cherylpaige78 2 роки тому +9

    And you are correct about people being desperate it's so unattractive and I also agree that if we are single it's our time to work on ourselves/issue's so that we can be a better person. You Spoke a whole lot of truth in this podcast!

  • @LeialaniLovee
    @LeialaniLovee 2 роки тому +9

    I loved this so much! It’s confirmation that I’m on the right track in my walk with God. I used to do many of the things you listed but over the last year I’ve become secure in God & don’t feel the need to take “seductive” or “suggestive” pictures/post them. I’m very content in my wait for my future spouse & I do put myself in position to be seen but I refuse to try to purse a man or do extra to get attention from anyone. Great message!

  • @DNCCAM
    @DNCCAM 2 роки тому +12

    Need to avoid chasing and displaying emotional affection to multiple women.

  • @sunshinesunflowerz1647
    @sunshinesunflowerz1647 2 роки тому +2

    I’m through with trying to build a relationship or chasing people for a connection. I know where it stems from and I’m remedying the root of it. Thank you for being obedient! and keeping it biblical.

  • @FutureWife2013
    @FutureWife2013 2 роки тому +2

    You've hit every point on the head for with this podcast video.
    I've been in a season of waiting patiently in singleness over the last few years. Even on my 40th birthday today God is still showing me areas my life that need correction.

  • @StrongHer40
    @StrongHer40 2 роки тому +3

    I’m at the age of my life where clarity and being responsible with [my time] and the time [of others] matters more than anything. God knows the desires of my heart and I know that if it’s according to His perfect will for my life, than thy will be done. In the meantime, I’m going to pray for others, read my scriptures, fast as needed, and get after what God has assigned me to do in this dark world: be a Light and the hands and feet of Christ Jesus. To God be the glory 🙌🏾

  • @janessatyler2763
    @janessatyler2763 2 роки тому +3

    God revealed to me tht I shouldn't be thinking of one specific guy tht I know will watch my content. but I should commit everything I do unto the Lord and not for man

  • @trishjerome8531
    @trishjerome8531 2 роки тому

    👏 🙌🏾 Soo much wisdom, God bless you abundantly.

  • @lovefelix1566
    @lovefelix1566 2 роки тому +1

    Effort is a reflection of interest...

  • @Mindsetolympics
    @Mindsetolympics 2 роки тому +2

    Congrats to 50k!!!
    I just do too much in my mind than in real life because of pride. I’ll obsess over them but I won’t say anything to them and wait for them to come to me. This has helped me in some cases.
    For my “avoidant attachment style brothers and sisters” think about it, when you first start talking to someone you really start to chase them in your mind as well if you’re wondering why they aren’t working for you or you’re talking to someone and you anticipate that dopamine hit you get off of getting their text messages and attention, etc…it’s very hard to control without the holy spirit 🤙🙏🏿

  • @boipelomanhe453
    @boipelomanhe453 2 роки тому +3

    please keep preaching the truth, we need conviction!!!

  • @elifecrypto4339
    @elifecrypto4339 2 роки тому +2

    Thank you Sir Tovares
    Thank God I met you on UA-cam

  • @bryanb9966
    @bryanb9966 2 роки тому +6

    I think God is tying to tell me I’m doing too much because I see this right after I try to get back into connecting with others. Your content is always super encouraging and convicting, God is working through your ministry Tavares!
    I’d like to ask you Tavares, am I trying too hard if I use dating app and check it often?

    • @GodlyDating101
      @GodlyDating101  2 роки тому +4

      I’m anti dating apps, but I won’t 100% call them sinful. The frequency you use them or how low your standards are on them may determine that answer though.

    • @bryanb9966
      @bryanb9966 2 роки тому

      @@GodlyDating101 I think I have my answer! Your Godly wisdom is always super helpful and convicting! Your ministry has been a blessing in my life and I’m sure in the lives of many many others! God bless you and your family Tavares!

  • @mwiizakalindamunangandu1850
    @mwiizakalindamunangandu1850 2 роки тому +3

    i needed to hear this ! God bless you brother

  • @cherylpaige78
    @cherylpaige78 2 роки тому +3

    You are speaking a whole lot of Truth!!!👏🏾 ! I enjoyed this podcast!

  • @Jesuslovesyousomuch93
    @Jesuslovesyousomuch93 2 роки тому

    Awesome teaching. To God be the glory. Holiness is everything 😎

  • @horschiday9449
    @horschiday9449 2 роки тому +1

    Oooooo THIS PIERCES LIKE A SWORD!! You just got another subscriber.

  • @Afroxidental123
    @Afroxidental123 2 роки тому +2

    This video comes at the right moment! Surely, God wanted to speak to me through you

  • @mijahburns94
    @mijahburns94 2 роки тому

    “If the word of God promised you something hold on to that promise” that’s it, that’s the video 😂💯 and this speaks to me although I’m not intentionally trying the waiting season is so real but proverbs 3:5 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding”

  • @hispreciousdaughter2095
    @hispreciousdaughter2095 2 роки тому

    the mantle you and your wife/family have is even greater than your current platform. there are different demographics you’re also anointed to reach. i pray that God will continue to bless, strengthen, encourage, and lead you guys in His plans and purposes for you step by step.

  • @johanyduran4177
    @johanyduran4177 2 роки тому +1

    Great message! Definitely touched my spirit, may the Lord continue to bless and use you to keep spreading wisdom🙌🙏🏻

  • @joetorres4366
    @joetorres4366 2 роки тому +1

    Your videos are always on time, God be the glory. Bless you brother, thanks for the wisdom 💪🏾

  • @ItsWhittlove
    @ItsWhittlove 2 роки тому

    If I start overthinking about the friendship or relationship then I know it’s fine to scale back

  • @judylearnsmorewithtime159
    @judylearnsmorewithtime159 2 роки тому

    PREACH!!!!!!!!!! Thank Jesus for your understanding and honesty regarding this issue.

  • @chelsea545
    @chelsea545 2 роки тому +2

    I was definitely guilty of the first point that you made. I've since scaled back and am doing better

  • @lovefelix1566
    @lovefelix1566 2 роки тому

    Put yourself in position to be pursued

  • @aprilmccain3149
    @aprilmccain3149 2 роки тому

    Heyyy I was afraid to watch this video at first but I chose to listen anyways …. I thought I was doing too much, but after listening nothing I did was too much., I let God lead I pray and watch.

  • @kasubakapambwe5621
    @kasubakapambwe5621 2 роки тому

    All points in my opinion are valid and practical. Worth introspecting on. Thanks. 🙏

  • @mzyouknow618
    @mzyouknow618 2 роки тому +2

    I needed to hear this because as much as I desire a Godly relationship I will not chase no man. I am not Nikki Parker lol

    • @GodlyDating101
      @GodlyDating101  2 роки тому

      😂😂😂

    • @Samantha.Elizabeth
      @Samantha.Elizabeth Рік тому +1

      Took the words right out of my mouth. I may desire marriage but Lord knows I ain’t chasing no man cause I ain’t getting no divorce

  • @dashelledisna6239
    @dashelledisna6239 2 роки тому +4

    I'm intentionally not looking for a relationship... lol I've been intentionally not for years then(never been in a real relationship) It's all on Gods hands.

  • @DNCCAM
    @DNCCAM 2 роки тому

    Thank you so much for this message bro!

  • @lovefelix1566
    @lovefelix1566 2 роки тому +1

    Attractive vs. Seductive

  • @GB_3
    @GB_3 2 роки тому +1

    No reciprocity

  • @anotalwilson
    @anotalwilson 2 роки тому +1

    Cultural but not biblical. Too many times we choose what is uncomfortable to be comfortable

  • @kabeitirapatience8838
    @kabeitirapatience8838 2 роки тому

    God bless you to bro

  • @Alleyeseeme
    @Alleyeseeme 2 роки тому

    Trying to justify certain clothes, it's a constant course correction

  • @tigisttemesgen9293
    @tigisttemesgen9293 2 роки тому

    Matthew 7:21

  • @sadeisika
    @sadeisika 2 роки тому

    Amen❤️

  • @ivoryjoyagsaway9171
    @ivoryjoyagsaway9171 2 роки тому

    Amen 👆🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻

  • @pawlygon929
    @pawlygon929 2 роки тому

    Can you please show me where it promises us in the Word of God that we will get a relationship, because it sounds like you are implying that at around the 2:10 mark. Thanks

    • @GodlyDating101
      @GodlyDating101  2 роки тому

      At no point did I give that impression and no bible verse says that. God bless

    • @pawlygon929
      @pawlygon929 2 роки тому

      @@GodlyDating101 appreciate the clarity brother. God bless

    • @GodlyDating101
      @GodlyDating101  2 роки тому +2

      @@pawlygon929 no problem, and I hope I don’t sound snappy. I simply hate when people manipulate people into thinking a spouse is mandated by God.

    • @pawlygon929
      @pawlygon929 2 роки тому +1

      @@GodlyDating101 no not at all, I could’ve asked it a little better myself honestly. Don’t mean to put words in your mouth. I totally agree. We all have different gifts. Some will. Some won’t.
      While I have your attention…I do have another question for you if you don’t mind…I noticed you mentioned how God didn’t “plan” for something to happen…another chance to correct me if im misinterpreting but does this mean that you believe that things can happen outside of God’s control?
      Full disclosure…I’m in the predestination camp.
      Like I’m Polish. I had a lot of family die in WW2…however…if that didn’t happen…I wouldn’t be alive today.
      This leads me to believe that God creates evil & good and that it’s all predestined. ALA story of Joseph & brothers and the story of Job (Job says “God giveth, God taketh away” rather than blaming Satan for the harm done…cause Satan needed God’s permission)
      Would love to hear ur thoughts

  • @heatsann4456
    @heatsann4456 2 роки тому +3

    Who cares honestly . Have a relationship with Jesus