The Influence Expert: 7 Ways to Get People to Do What You Want (Even When They Don't Want To)

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  • @BradKaellner
    @BradKaellner 2 роки тому +146

    Ask for advice, not opinions... it cultivates an atmosphere of partnership. Pure gold.

  • @og7674
    @og7674 3 дні тому

    20 years in sales and this professor had leveled up my sales skills. Thx 🙏

  • @ToughdataTiktok
    @ToughdataTiktok Рік тому +13

    I like your interviewing style: asking the right questions then letting the man talk

  • @rakutenbyu5916
    @rakutenbyu5916 Рік тому +5

    I usually don't like to listen to lengthy explanation or long videos, but the way this person explained I could listen to him without any complaints for whole day. So detailed explanation. Best but the Most underrated video I believe.

  • @preputuallearning3227
    @preputuallearning3227 2 роки тому +22

    The great part is, Shane every time asking "How do we defend" is incredibly important.
    Appreciate the pod.

  • @Amitab74
    @Amitab74 9 місяців тому +38

    “Ask people for their opinion and you get a critic. Ask for their advice and you get a partner”
    Wow!! Wow🌱

  • @cactusqueen6417
    @cactusqueen6417 7 місяців тому

    The influencers voice is so soothing to me. I love listening to him. He could voice children’s books!

  • @charlielovell730
    @charlielovell730 2 місяці тому +1

    Man has two of every book...!

  • @maikchange
    @maikchange 9 місяців тому +3

    I’m not sure why this law of reciprocation doesn’t have much evidence within my own life to believe in its effectiveness. I don’t let it discourage me. However, this video has created a bit of a dilemma for me. The gentleman makes this seem like it is the “secret to getting everything you want”. I feel, regarding my circumstances, my generosity towards other people has resulted in me being perceived as less valuable. Consequently, I have been exploited and undervalued more often than not. Maybe this is because the world is largely populated with narcissists. Maybe there is a larger unaddressed personal issue. Either way, it does feel comforting to at least hear a “professional” advocating for reciprocation as a core characteristic.

  • @sundaramaniyer2393
    @sundaramaniyer2393 3 роки тому +19

    1. Give first- that's how the society functions 04:17
    Don't ask them to take the action first, you take the action first by giving singing valuable to them such as information or anything that benefits which is not about you.
    Don't accept gifts that has to be returned, bcz now you raise your bar to fulfill their want. It is just a trick to get more out of you.
    Similarity- Show that you are the same as the other person. You have common characteristics- point it out as their qualities exist in you not other way around

  • @cyriljohnson-z7f
    @cyriljohnson-z7f Рік тому +6

    Influence involves voluntary participation from the person being influenced, who has the freedom to accept or reject the influence. Manipulation, however, often involves coercion or deception to force someone to comply with the manipulator's wishes.

    • @Cyrildivas
      @Cyrildivas Рік тому +1

      I totally agree with you on that...

  • @symphony357
    @symphony357 Рік тому

    I see what you mean. My dentist complimented me on my sneaker choice one time. "I have the same brand!" she exclaimed.

  • @heidiwhiting7416
    @heidiwhiting7416 Рік тому +2

    The rule of giving with the the idea that nothing is given for free, was practiced in ancestry native culture regularly. Especially between Mother Nature and our creator

  • @hanaezra9452
    @hanaezra9452 9 місяців тому +1

    Here's a very extreme example of reciprocity. Woman saved herself and husband on 7/10 Hamas horror in Israel, by offering the attackers food. She made them food, they ate and the elderly couple were left alone.

  • @Venry-k3z
    @Venry-k3z 11 місяців тому +1

    Thank you both of you, you are really very kind

  • @freeshipping9643
    @freeshipping9643 Рік тому

    RC is true amazing individual. These 7 just blkw my mind 🤯. When i first heard them my entire view changed. Built the internet IMO.

  • @hanaezra9452
    @hanaezra9452 9 місяців тому

    This was truly eye opening!! Thank you❤

  • @sandeepayachit
    @sandeepayachit 3 роки тому +8

    Recently subscribed to FS blog from Naval's recommendation. And this is the first video of yours I saw. Have read Influence twice, so glad to be able to see and hear Robert live. His ideas in the book literally come alive with his excellent diction. Thank you Shane!

  • @johndonaldson224
    @johndonaldson224 Рік тому +1

    We decide things from 2 choices...gaining a benefit ...OR ..making a loss..

  • @wnorton
    @wnorton Рік тому +3

    Shane: Great episode -- any way you can fix the audio? I want to share this with colleagues, but I think I did some minor damage to my hearing listening with headphones given all the audio peaks throughout the episode. It would've been bad enough once or twice, but I had to move off headphones because I was getting aurally shocked every few minutes.

  • @luisfelipedelgado2603
    @luisfelipedelgado2603 Рік тому

    Amazing just like what my doctor recommend me...Thanks.

  • @DougDennis
    @DougDennis Рік тому +2

    Popularity is all the rage these days! lol great podcast, thank you.

  • @luisvazquez2451
    @luisvazquez2451 Рік тому

    Fantastic information, will put it to use today. Thank you!!

  • @FarInfraredWellness
    @FarInfraredWellness 9 місяців тому

    I invented a strange product and this is a great video

  • @carlorizzo827
    @carlorizzo827 Рік тому +3

    Thank you!! You stoke my reading lust! I love reading, yet i remember times i was too dissociated, or in pain, to focus on reading. That i can calm my mind at all enough to read is a sign of some recovery. I identify w/the ambivalence about Jung. I read a few of Ms Woodman's👍❣️There's another Jungian author published in her series oh what's his name! Castration And Male Rage. OUCH!!!

  • @darshanjain8458
    @darshanjain8458 3 роки тому +6

    Thanks for amazing interview Shane

  • @AK4Z.
    @AK4Z. 9 місяців тому

    took notes

  • @BBQWINGSCom
    @BBQWINGSCom 2 роки тому +1

    I'm so inspired,thank you sir...I will use your advice in my business.

  • @AnnieVip2627
    @AnnieVip2627 10 місяців тому +1

    Giving first only works if you value yourself first. I realized it after all the people who took credit for my ideas and projects got benefitted the most but they took it granted. People will value you time and contribution only if you let them know you value yourself.

  • @jalvarez9542
    @jalvarez9542 7 місяців тому

    This man is on 🔥 👌

  • @cyberspaceufo
    @cyberspaceufo 2 роки тому +2

    The "I don't want you missing out on the rest" at the end was so funny!
    Thank you both for the incredible insight, looking forward to part 2!

  • @keithjackson28
    @keithjackson28 Рік тому

    Bad for evil people good for good people. I believe in what I have to offer people,I’m just trying to get people out of there own way.

  • @scottiusnevious5143
    @scottiusnevious5143 Рік тому

    I don't rally like people who like me, I don't care how they really feel. I like people that shower me in complements and people who's childhoods I align with.

  • @goldgrime
    @goldgrime 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much for this incredible and valuable information.

  • @PickingNuggets
    @PickingNuggets 2 роки тому +6

    Go positive go first..... Peter Kaufman 🤔

  • @thejusticesparrows
    @thejusticesparrows Рік тому +8

    One of my Doctors used these tactics on me and I knew something wasn't right. I knew he was hiding something, but I couldn't work out what.
    When I found out he lives by these manipulations techniques I was absolutely appalled and disgusted beyond measure😠
    What a total creep. We the mere plebs, his customers and his clients are not as dumb as he thinks we are!! He might be RICH but as a human being he is ...poor.

    • @jefaspirit
      @jefaspirit Рік тому +2

      I stopped trusting doctors a long time ago.

  • @PratikAman
    @PratikAman 3 роки тому

    Rule #2 being applied in comments section.😁
    I also have been following farnam street from Naval's recommendation (Rule #4 influenced me).

  • @jjphenom2831
    @jjphenom2831 3 роки тому

    Once again a fantastic and rich episode!
    Boy did I wish that these useful pieces of advice were internalized upon listening already!

  • @nikovelikov
    @nikovelikov 3 роки тому +4

    Great podcast, I've read Influence years ago. It's good to remind the basics, thanks for the share!

  • @Comlooyoko
    @Comlooyoko 2 роки тому +1

    Great advice. Good to see the Slovenian translation of your book on the shelf. "Vplivanje". Love it! :)

  • @ThunderBroomPilot
    @ThunderBroomPilot 9 місяців тому

    Actually, it was Krushchev asked to remove missles from Turkey.

  • @MatthewSmith-vc8go
    @MatthewSmith-vc8go 2 роки тому +4

    Does the rule of Reciprocation still work?
    I feel like people today want everything now, and bc of so many "free" apps, they expect free stuff. So it's not even treated like a gift any longer.
    Anyone have any insights on this? (I'm fine with being wrong, I'd like actionable input on this.)

    • @rampitup12
      @rampitup12 Рік тому +4

      Oh my same thing went through my mind. If people always gave back to those who gave them something then there would be no heartbreak in the world. all men or women would return love to caring partners. I think this principle only works with decent people. Selfish people will take and take and never be obligated

    • @hamzanocap
      @hamzanocap Рік тому

      ​@@rampitup12Humans have been selfish and greedy since our Father Adam ate from the only tree in the entire Garden that God told him not to. We have not, nor will we ever, change.

  • @rozdevin2468
    @rozdevin2468 Рік тому

    When you see testimonies listed , most of them are from friends and family.

  • @JamesRoberts1982
    @JamesRoberts1982 3 роки тому +2

    Would love to know what site it is that compares ecommerce site features.

    • @tkppodcast
      @tkppodcast  3 роки тому +1

      Checkout the full episode plus get more podcasts, transcripts, and access to our knowledge library: www.FS.blog/tribe

  • @antonioking1
    @antonioking1 9 місяців тому

    Holy fuck this is amazing!

  • @shaktischauhan
    @shaktischauhan 2 роки тому

    This is so good! I love your Intro with classical music

  • @nataliepapolis
    @nataliepapolis Рік тому +3

    If we like someone it is probably because they have helped us in the past, not because we both like ice cream,

  • @coachcastle666
    @coachcastle666 Рік тому +2

    I am not trying to be negative in with anyway whatsoever but I have lived by the principle of always give 1st and always try to help however I find this actually pushes almost everyone away from me in spite of my best efforts could you please give me any advice this is been my entire life and I'm very upset and frustrated with it I am not a terribly agreeable person I simply like to help people and I'm very upset when I have never received any reciprocation thus I stopped Except in extreme circumstances or when I just can't help myself

    • @JMMM-bt3sw
      @JMMM-bt3sw Рік тому +2

      What's your intention for giving?
      When you give, is it evident that you are giving in order to get back?
      Are you a receiver? Are you comfortable with people giving you back? Giving you compliments?
      Does your giving take away other people's accountability and responsibility for what they should be doing for themselves?
      What are your examples of giving?
      There's a fine line between giving/receiving and giving/taking

    • @gauranga1008
      @gauranga1008 5 місяців тому

      ​@@JMMM-bt3swcould you please explain your last sentence? Thank you

  • @Mperor_Niho
    @Mperor_Niho 5 місяців тому

    Giving first to get something in return those not work in Nigeria here I am , I allot of people just take take from you and never give any back in return

  • @masoudbahraini2291
    @masoudbahraini2291 3 роки тому +3

    Amazing interview and thanks for that. Just can't resist to say that it wasn't nice to end the interview like this 😜

    • @tkppodcast
      @tkppodcast  3 роки тому +1

      Oh it's not over! Become a member to listen to the rest: www.fs.blog/tribe

  • @vancouver_dad5195
    @vancouver_dad5195 Рік тому

    Mentioning about the Cuban crisis, Russia's move is just a response to thr nuclear missiles placed at Turkey.

  • @Mexicotravelltd.
    @Mexicotravelltd. Рік тому +2

    Really slow talking, but really valuable insights

  • @adk12357
    @adk12357 2 роки тому

    great content

  • @Neuroplast
    @Neuroplast 5 місяців тому

    What if they just take and take and don't care...?

  • @rozdevin2468
    @rozdevin2468 Рік тому

    What if there are no commonalties?

  • @SenecaTheDreamer
    @SenecaTheDreamer Рік тому +3

    Almost poetic that this entire interview could be defined as “manipulative” based on the definition he just gave. How to force a yes and avoid critical questioning? Manipulate your audience into a false “yes.” Am I the only one paying attention here?

    • @thejusticesparrows
      @thejusticesparrows Рік тому

      It is manipulation, 💯

    • @kareem199928
      @kareem199928 Рік тому +2

      That only applies if you have bad intentions. If I influence you into buying a service that changes your life, that's not negative.

    • @GreenWhitePurple
      @GreenWhitePurple 10 місяців тому

      @@kareem199928why not? Everything I do or buy is going to change my life in some way. But my life might have been fine without it, and it might not be a positive change for me to spend the money.

    • @totocutugno0
      @totocutugno0 5 місяців тому +1

      You just defined marketing lol

  • @marcoszambrano1293
    @marcoszambrano1293 9 місяців тому

    Is this compatible with religions? How this “sale-man influence techniques” are framed within Christianism?

  • @amankazi274
    @amankazi274 Рік тому

    Why 2 same books ? In background ?

  • @PranavTambat5001
    @PranavTambat5001 Рік тому +2

    22:22

  • @sheldonzack
    @sheldonzack Рік тому +1

    Great content and I thank you for breaking it down!! Even with the current crypto dip, I'm still Glad I can smile back at my portfolio of $103,700 made from my $700k weekly and trade within a short period

  • @gunayy7639
    @gunayy7639 Рік тому

    Selt cok çok ricet ederim Türkçe altyazılı ekleyin

  • @GreenWhitePurple
    @GreenWhitePurple 10 місяців тому +1

    I absolutely hate it when sales people try to engage in chat and find “common ground”. My life is none of their business, and I don’t care what they did at the weekend. They are not my friends and if their product/service and price doesn’t interest me, wasting my time with chit chat is definitely not going to change that. If they sent a card saying “I like you” I’d think about calling the police!

  • @rogerrobins7574
    @rogerrobins7574 Рік тому

    Why two of every book?

  • @MalongayGonzales
    @MalongayGonzales 4 місяці тому

    Yes ik this story of partnership yesofc I don't forget your working to hard the problem is how do you install this idk if this just a lottery's win you can talk to me personally to install this communication

  • @mazmac4553
    @mazmac4553 Рік тому

    Wow wow wow

  • @raginald7mars408
    @raginald7mars408 Рік тому +1

    Herr Putin is Your best Student!

  • @Mperor_Niho
    @Mperor_Niho 5 місяців тому

    A lot of people here in Nigeria are takers …

  • @natashawest583
    @natashawest583 Рік тому +14

    Amazing video and thank you for breaking it down!! Despite the economic downturn, I'm so happy have been earning $ 60,000 returns from my $7,000 investment every 10days..

    • @dennisstevenson7038
      @dennisstevenson7038 Рік тому

      She is also my personal trader, crypto analyst and account manager. With an initial invested capital of $8000,it yielded returns of over $22000 within two weeks of trading. I was really impressed by the profit Actualized

    • @dennisstevenson7038
      @dennisstevenson7038 Рік тому

      @Harry Jack Oh yeah She is always active on whats-app APK🇱🇷

    • @dennisstevenson7038
      @dennisstevenson7038 Рік тому

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      ♱ 𝟭𝟱𝟲𝟮𝟯𝟳𝟭𝟭𝟴𝟰𝟮 👍📈

    • @dennisstevenson7038
      @dennisstevenson7038 Рік тому

      @Harry Jack she will guide you ☝️

    • @JessicaMadilyn
      @JessicaMadilyn Рік тому

      Really, I think I will start with 3k USD when I got home...

  • @musicalmanojj
    @musicalmanojj 5 місяців тому

    Well, I don’t agree. Have these 7 ways worked for you? If so, this video should have at least 1 billion views so far. Why? Let’s break it down:
    1. Google should have aggressively promoted it for free. They definitely wouldn’t have wanted to, but your approach would have forced them to do so.
    2. The number of views, comments, likes, downloads, and shares should all match exactly. It should be to such an extent that Google would have considered removing “Dislike” button specifically for your video.
    3. This video should have gone viral forever and become the subject of intense research across the galaxies. Even aliens would have taken a keen interest in your video.
    To the viewers (not the video creator), I urge you not to fall for shortcuts in life.
    You don’t influence people; they get inspired by your persona and want to follow your path.
    Shortcuts and tactics are mere shoddy means to exploit your aspirations and insecurities.
    Good, smart, and hard work is the only right way to achieve success in life.
    The rest are simply bullshit.

    • @ssingh2985
      @ssingh2985 4 місяці тому

      Wow. Get a life. People are just looking for helpful info. No one says this will 100 percent work for everyone

  • @henryd4331
    @henryd4331 8 місяців тому +1

    Most people don't give a shit. They're just bothered by you.

  • @Real.Estate.REsolved
    @Real.Estate.REsolved Рік тому

    Wow this was jam packed with info @mozination recommended Robert and it is amazing 🤩 stuff! I already have some great action items to do on Monday when I’m the office! Thank you all!

  • @CecilCorringham
    @CecilCorringham 6 місяців тому

    who is this speaker?

    • @jhrielly
      @jhrielly 5 місяців тому

      Robert Cialdini. Charlie Munger gave Cialdini stock in Berkshire Hathaway as a thank you gift for his help.

  • @jb9433
    @jb9433 7 місяців тому

    A manipulative way of conveying that influence isn't the same as manipulation.

  • @Neuroplast
    @Neuroplast 5 місяців тому

    And then actually treat you with less respect and just expect it from there on out

  • @AuntieCheri
    @AuntieCheri 4 місяці тому

    Fomo - Hear what you’ve been missing about cognitive impairment at the top instead of New and testimonials nearby.

  • @Anastasia-u3q
    @Anastasia-u3q 7 місяців тому

    There’s almost an innate natural element to how he talks and carries himself. It’s not a talent you can master easily

  • @lovemyalaskaful
    @lovemyalaskaful Рік тому

    This is an American black market model...first ones on the dealer 😄

  • @permaguard3166
    @permaguard3166 9 місяців тому

    Of course “evolution” a lousy theory must be brought up. So did the cave man give rocks out for Christmas and receive rocks in return? Or was it bones? Maybe bananas.

  • @EnlightenedMaster_Saneiv
    @EnlightenedMaster_Saneiv 5 місяців тому

    regardless of his theories, surveys, etc. I think he is annoying, therefore I would never buy anything from him.

  • @nataliepapolis
    @nataliepapolis Рік тому

    Who falls for these tricks...😅
    Wow...must be MAGA people

  • @davart311
    @davart311 Рік тому

    so basically you make someone believe to be part of something in order to sell him something...