Therapist reacts to One By Metallica (ft. Jake Luhrs)
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- Опубліковано 10 бер 2024
- Therapist, Taylor Palmby, and August Burns Red vocalist, Jake Luhrs, analyze the lyrics of Metallica's "One" to discuss how even someone's one-in-a-million story can be relatable to all. The pain that someone goes through when expressed can make others feel not alone and the journey to triumph that someone goes through can be used to inspire others to continue on.
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We need a Fade To Black reaction like this one.
And a ride the lightning
Absolutely. It fits the whole psychological side of the reactors channel. Great reaction.
Yes.the Lincoln, Nebraska live version
I came to say Fade to Black but you beat me to it. My fav song.
Or Master of Puppets...
This is Metallica's first video and it helped my mom and I connect more. It came out when I was in high school, listening to heavy stuff like this that my parents didn't get. But when I showed my mom the video, she remembered watching the movie when she was in high school. We sat and watched it while I told her the lyrics and she explained the movie. One of my better memories.
this is awesome!!
I love this story so much. Thank you for sharing.
-The Video Editor
My mom gave me "Master of Puppets" CD in 1986 as a Christmas gift. She was and is a devout Christian. I've been a metalhead ever since. I like a little of everything but metal just has that touch or pound if you will.
Orion was the Metallica song that got my mom to "ah ha" and she understood why I dug Metallica, she eventually started playing along on the piano.
Thats an incredible story, thank you for sharing. I had a similar experience with my mom, when we were in the car, and I asked her to listen to their Bob segar turn the page cover. She couldn't get over how much she loved it, and kept saying, omg I love his voice. I love his voice, whats his name? Thats papa Het , mom. Lol, great times
When this video came out no one had seen anything like it before. Most people who saw it had never HEARD anything like it before. This was mainstream culture's introduction to Metallica. To this day I think it's still one of the most stunning pieces of audio-visual art ever created.
It wasn't the heaviest thing in metal at the time, but this video was huge when i was a teen. It was my hook into metal.
@@mstorrboy Metallica has never been the heaviest band in metal but when this video debuted it was definitely the heaviest thing to ever break into the mainstream. Like you Metallica was my gateway into metal. For me it was Puppets. Metallica deserves a ton of credit for creating millions of new metalheads whichever song or album it was that hooked them.
This and Cult of Personality opened up an entire new style of music to this teen in the 80s.
@@mstorrboyMetallica not going for heavy Goofy
You guys have no idea how many kids in the '80s and '90s worldwide developed anti-war beliefs because of bands like Metallica and Megadeth.
Which is interesting coming from a genre of music which quite a lot of the output material used war and glorification of violence. Alsoz metal as a genre is full of very Right Wing people politically. Very gun friendly folks for the most part
@@neilpatrickhairless Just like when others were glorifying alcohol and drugs, they were singing about the horrors of addiction. That's why their music hit so much harder.
@@neilpatrickhairless
Glorification of violence!? That's an interpretation that most headbangers would probably disagree with.
Most metal bands write their songs from a neutral point of view as though they're reciting historical facts, not opining from a certain political mindset.
Sounds to me that you just like to demonise anyone who has different beliefs or opinions than yours.
So much for inclusivity and diversity.
Suicidal Tendencies, Rage Against the Machine
I was one of them. I found this album at 12 or 13 (in the very early 90s), and it wasn't like anything I had seen or heard re: war before
"Someone" (he knows who) was talking during this verse: "Landmine has taken my sight _ Taken my speech _ Taken my hearing _ Taken my arms _ Taken my legs _ Taken my soul _ Left me with life in hell." You must react to Master of Puppets (lyric video).
RIGHT?!!! DUDE!!!! One of the heaviest lyrics in all of Metal history... dude has to speak over it. Jesus Christ. lol
For sure lol !!
I was screaming "shut up!" :D
Landmine take everything you have =pain,despair and death =liberty
@@kaosmana😂🤣 I’m laughing at what you said, because it was how I felt too. Like probably the best lyrics in the song, and this guy had to start talking over it.
I went to school every morning riding my bike listening to Metallica. I have a bond with my father through Metallica. My dad always said One was his favorite song. Dad passed away two months ago after we learned he had been hiding a fight with cancer for over a year because he didn't want to be treated differently. I have always loved Metallica and this song, but now the connection means everything to me. The memories of my father that live in Metallica's music.
Dad I love you and I miss you so much. You protected me for 36 years and I love you for it. Rest easy now my superman.
Bless you and your dad. You’ll see him someday. It can’t end this way I know
I am sorry for your loss - parents are like that, Mom never told us the severity as well.
❤❤❤
Lost my dad 24 years ago but we bonded over music too. The pain never goes away, but you do learn to deal with it.
This was metallicas first music video as they were opposed to them for seeming mainstream or sell outish. James wanted to do something more meaningful and definitely succeeded.
What a brilliant reaction from the girl.
😮 "This is a piece of art"
She got it right away
Boy robbed all of us from One of Metallica's most iconic verses. This was Metallica's first music video and so far hasn't been topped by them. The crossover to ptsd and addiction interpretation to being trapped and therefore hopeless is spot on. Peace/JT
I agree 100%. I was flabbergasted!! I came to the comments to find someone else to call him out…so I could just say, “yeah…what john thompson said”!!!
lol i get you but it's not that big of a deal
@@primary2630 What's not a big deal? PTSD? Addiction? Feeling trapped? Feeling hopeless? I suggest being careful when telling someone "it's not that big of a deal" .
@@johnthompson6374 Perhaps he meant the guy talking over it. We can all listen to this else wear without anyone speaking so it's not a big deal.
My interpretation of the juxtaposition of the heavier and quieter parts is that it's supposed to mimic his quasi-wakefulness, with dreams of his childhood shifting into nightmares of the war and back, as his mind races between agony and apathy.
Great react, except for when Jake was talking over a critical verse of the song. Ughhhh.
It says "Landmine, has taken my sight, taken speech, taken my hearing, taken my arms, taken my legs, taken my soul, left me with life in Hell" Powerful!!
I facepalmed so hard when he did that. Arguably the heaviest part of the song and it’s just talked over 🤦♂️
I agree with you about that.she did miss out on a important part of the message. Ugh🤦🏾♂️
The book Johnny Got His Gun should be read by every person
I agree. I wasn't prepared for how gut wrenching the book was, but watching the movie gives it that much more meaning.
Or at least these two doing the react
Also being trapped in your own head is a scary thought but lost his speech, sight, limbs but yet he’s alive scary
I was deaf, blind, unable to speak, and crippled for 12 days after a seizure that nearly killed me. It felt much longer than 12 days as time slowed down. I can confirm it is terrifying. The scariest part was when I started getting my hearing back and hearing the Dr's talk about me like a slab of meat. I was an "Interesting Specimen," and they brought in groups of student Dr's and Nurses to run tests on me without my consent. I overheard one ask another if I was a registered Organ Donor which was fucked up. I could hear but couldn't communicate. Thankfully, I found the willpower to fight through it and learn to walk and talk again. It's been 2 and a half years and I'm about 95% healed. Hopefully, this time next year, I'll be normal again. Never take your life for granted.
idk what people are spazzed about... I'd love to be trapped in my own head! Oh wait, nvm.. I could never win an argument, or on the bright side I guess, I'd always win?
But joking aside, I never did understand this "isolationism" that people are tested and trained for/against for science on long space trips. They must not have met anyone in, or ever heard of jails/prisons... at times you could be in a 6x10 cell up to 23+ hours a day for weeks or months on end.
This song helped me get through my High School years, still my all time favorite song ever IMHO
All 4 years of high school I blasted metallica
Me and the boyz played this at the high school talent show. Lol no singer, of course.
Total therapy from bad parenting and bad neighborhood.
Someone gets you mad and you put on Metallica and all the rage leaves instantly.
Taylor threw that shade for sure, it's ok she just was not where we were when Metallica was IT, they were EVERYTHING and we totally get it man. Metallic-Cuh!
There's a live performance of them performing this song on The Howard Stern show and James opens up about the lyrics, about his struggles with mental health during his teenage years which inspired the song. They found the movie for the video and intertwined them beautifully and even bought the copyright for the movie to make the video easier to show.
Look up the Howard Stern clip and listen to James's story. Gives an entirely new perspective on the song.
A piece of art, indeed.
IMO this is the best music video ever made. There is another music video version made of this song without the movie clips in there. This version is just so good.
I am genX and when I speak to my younger social justice minded friends about the male side of oppression I always tell them to watch this video. Often they don't like or appreciate heavy metal until they do. 🤘
56 year old 2 time vet here. I applaud you and your efforts. I salute you and those who come back and thank you.💪💯🤠🇺🇸
I don't think he is "one in a million" its more he is alone in a universe of One, he can't communicate with anyone, he is cut off from the rest of reality.
My Uncle is 7yrs older than me. I was fortunate enough to have him as a music guide when I was young back in the 1980s.
Listening to this song makes me think back when my mom was in hospice care for three months. She just lay there with her eyes open, unable to move. She could hold my hand, but that was it.
Just laying there......
i hear you. my mom didn't get quite that bad, but i came home to take care of her because cancer. it was brutal and i know exactly how you feel
The doctor initially believes he's been decerebrated by the explosion, and therefore can't feel or think, hence our hearing him voice the phrase "Had I not been so sure of this, I would not have permitted him to live".
When I was deep into my addiction I used to go to bed every night wishing for death and then cursing each morning because it didn't happen. Went to prison on drug charges, then cleaned my act up. Went back into the prisons,(including where I did time), for 10 years doing ministry and counseling. Will celebrate 28 years clean and sober in June
Congratulations! Keep up the good work. I'm sure you've helped a lot of people along the way with your ministry work.
I was 11 when this came out. It was the first thing that made me think about what it meant to be alive. There were a lot of 'heavy' bands active, heck this was Metallica's 4th album, but this was arguably the first metal song to cross over into the mainstream in such a huge way. There were a few videos that featured movie clips, but they were almost always from soundtracks, This is one of, if not the only, video that I've ever seen that interweaves movie clips in a narrative way. Easily one of the best videos ever.
just wanna say thank you all so much... i am starting therapy again and because of heartsupport i no longer feel alone in this fight.
This video was my first Metallica experience when it was on MTV as a teenager. Few songs have ever impacted me harder: the definition of living Hell. Now twenty five years later as a Veteran who has fought in a war I am grateful for not having such a fate.
I've been a Metallica fan since i can remember. I was born when this song was released. James Hetfield is my idol. His songwriting helps me every day. Keeps me going. From Kill Em All all the way to know with 72 Seasons. Even at his age now, he struggles. 😢. Im am almost 36 years old now, and his and Metallicas music helps keep me going. Along with a few other bands, Metallica was my first band to make me feel like I'm not alone in my personal feelings. Thank you two for doing this.
Just love it when people hear old Metallica songs for the first time and they just sit there in the end with their mouth open 😁😄
Some of these old Metallica songs are pure excellence in musical art 👌🏻
I just don't buy the over expressive faces she makes in every video that's crossed my feed. It's a ruse for your entertainment.
"One" has also been present in several forms of media for over 30 years. Movies, games, probably viral memes and ads as well.
There's no way it's the first time she's heard it. Metallica is the most popular metal band in the world, and this is often in the top 3 of their most popular songs.
From my experience, some would tell that man that happiness is a choice and to smell the roses.
This song came out early/mid 80s and nobody was prepared for the realism. Art imitating/explaining life-priceless/timeless.
"... and justice for all" came out late in 1988. You have to picture that Metallica didn't form until 1981, and didn't exist in the form that everyone remembers until 1983.
1983: Kill'em All
1984: Ride the Lightning
1986: Master of Puppets
1988: ... And Justice For All
kirk with my favorite solo of all time.
effortless... just effortless...
What an awesome collab! Coincidentally, August Burns Red has got me through some tough times and they are always so cool with the fans. Literally every time I've seen ABR live, they stayed in the venue after the show to interact with the fans. I hope they get all of the accolades and staying power they deserve with the message and attitude.
Oh man I'm going to show this to Jake. He is the founder of this channel and nonprofit. So expect a lot more with Jake on here.
Hold Fast
-The Video Editor
@@HeartSupport As long as he doesn't talk over important lyrics!
I love Taylor's reactions. Her facial expressions says it all. ❤
I have yet to have met *anyone* who wasn't left gasping after listening to this song.
I’m 41 and I had heard Metallica before but after watching this video and listening to this song I immediately became a Metallica fan!
I love and find it interesting how new fans and reactors are not seeing Metallica, Slipknot and other metal bands as just loud noise music but are actually noticing the themes and stories in their songs. The real fans are now taking notice.
Great reaction!! Fade to Black would be another great reaction.
You can really feel the pain and desperation of the person who is trapped in their mind helplessly, it is a work of art. Another song talks about something similar but about an older person.
"Death blooms" by the group mudvayne
My favorite Metallica song of all time and the coolest one to see in concert! Lots of pyrotechnics!
"It was heavy when this came out back then" No my friend this will ALWAYS will be the HEAVIEST MUSIC FROM ALL OF THE MUSIC!!! They are GODS OF MUSIC!!!
Deployed to Helmand Province, Afghanistan. Saw lots of combat, indirect fire, IEDs. This song always makes me cry.
Grew up with Metallica and they were a huge influence on me. The early music is so damn good and still holds up.
I've binge watched all these. Loving therapy lessons while listening to my favorite songs. An idea for a future video would be Falling in Reverse The Drug In Me is You reimagined
Thank you for shining a light on this subject.
If I may add, among as the things you mentioned, this young man was going through, a small part that I know very well, despite having so little of what this man must have gone through; is the “fear and terror”you feel when trapped in your own head.
Thanks again! ❤
This song and Zombie by the Cranberries are songs I cannot hear (or watch the videos) without tears. I cry every time.
Metallica is my favorite band. I have been listening to them since the mid eighties. I am here still because of them. The Song Fade to Black got me through alot of Dark moments. And still does, the song just makes you feel like you are not alone the build up through the song just fills you full of energy again. Thanks for reacting to them.
This song, along with the video, always conjures up strong emotions for me. What a horrible and hopeless situation to be in. Sometimes I when I am feeling a bit down or depressed, I try to remember that my own personal situation could be so much worse and that I must pick my head up and move down the road of life. Thanks for reacting to this song.
Awesome Reaction 🤘🏻🔥🖤🔥🤘🏻
This song brought metal to a front seat at the Grammys back then. Prior to this hard rock/metal did not get the respect it deserved. “One” changed that & the video made everyone stop in their tracks. It also brought much needed attention to wounded veterans & the necessity for both physical & mental health. A Metallica fan since high school in the 80s, such a library of iconic tunes. (Do you plan on doing any classic rock or 80s rock? Hope so, I’ll keep an eye out)
As a die hard Metallica fan from the start in 83. This was so hard to digest at first because we all thought it was not as heavy but it took about the fourth time listening and i realized i had to grow up like the band was. Depper subjects and slower rhythm's.
Best Anti War Song ever written
with war pigs from black sabbath
War pigs is up there also.
Holy Wars
Disposable Heroes
Byob
I love the snarl that comes out when we listen to this
Your reactions and always mine when I listen to damn good music
At 13 yrs old. A friend was killed in a car accident. One was played at his funeral. Took 20 yrs to beable to listen this song again.
One of the greatest songs ever!! I listened to this for hours nonstop when I was kid
Yep, I remember when I first saw this on headbangers Ball!
I have been diagnosed with PSPD. I also love metal! Thanks for everything you do!
what a great reaction... she is so smart and had the data of the film and deduced the time reference... just excelent
Best song ever. So good that I will watch this again.
You guys are amazing
Johnny Got his gun is a bad ass movie. It will definitely give you nightmares!
Dyers Eve ????
Taylor's face is just priceless throughout the song. :D
but for the grace of god there go I, how bad things can get and how fast they can get there, realize how blessed you are right now. this song has always helped me deal.
I was 14 when this song came out. I definitely had the same vibe interpretation back then. I really liked y’all’s video. Keep doing the Metallica! Excellent review 👍🏻
Awesome reaction guys!!
My town got a new rock radio station in the early 90s and for several months between the time they installed the equipment and when they were ready to go live all they played was One by Metallica on repeat 24/7. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve listened to this song but it has to be in the thousands.
Hey nice review on this song... one of my all time fav albums from Metallica. I have a friend in Sunmancer that will be opening for you guys in May :) I'll be going to the show in Chattanooga. Can't wait to see them and you guys.
love her reaction
this brings me to tears
It's a frame of pain. People feel trapped in their own frame of pain. Songs like this can broaden that frame of pain to understand and sympathize others pain over one's own.
Really love this reaction, I'd love to see your reaction to dream theater pull me under
This song and the video were both absolutely ground breaking.
That particular song touched me a lot from the moment I first heard it, even before I knew its meaning, especially from the first time I saw the video, at that time I was only about 12 years old... Now I'm a retired soldier, I was in the Army for 20 years, and I saw many comrades lose legs and different parts of the body and now that I'm no longer in the Army and I see the video again, I feel it more personal and it gives me a lot of feelings of sadness for my fallen friends.
From sbrent: @jofoloco22 First of all, I want to thank you for devoting your life to serving our country. The compassion that you have for all of the veterans that have lost their lives to protect this country indicates that you are a man of love and honor and that is the highest badge any man can wear. Thanks for your service!
From djstarion: @jofoloco22 Hello friend,
First of all thank you so incredibly much for your service. I couldn't even imagine some of the things that you and other warriors have seen while deployed. I've heard many stories like yours remembering their fallen friends and comrades in battle, whether it be on the physical battlefield or the mental battlefield.
It's okay to feel sadness for your fallen friends. One of the best things i've heard from a soldier, ironically enough at a Metallica show in Chicago, was when we were leaving and it had been his first time seeing them, just coming home from deployment. He broke down seeing something that reminded him of a friend he lost just a few weeks prior. He said "The reason that flag is flying is because it's being blown by the breath of our friends lost in combat". That hit me so hard but it's 100% true
There have been cases of people in a coma waking up& telling about things they heard while in it or doctors who say patients can't feel anything& finding out wrong.
i heard "one" for the first time almost 30 years ago and it has such an imersive influence on me and my understanding of music. it is clearly a milestone!
you are right ,,,,,when this came out,,,,,,holy,,....,,.,.,its what got me into metal,,,,,,,,
What's unbelievable to me is that this song is nearly 40 years old, and you both are just hearing this?
It's not. She talked about lyrics he hadn't sang yet. "I'm waking up and cannot see" A lot of these first reaction aren't first reaction. Obviously they watched it first and her open mouthed shocked look leans toward horrible acting skills
It's only 35 years old
@@vinniedixon1140Well that makes sense. I can understand never hearing this song in 35 years. Not 40 though.
Blonde chick definitely watches BET and black dudes all day.
Great video. Great song.
If I might suggest a title, just like 'wait and bleed', a large part of me being 16 years old.
Cradle Of Filth - A Gothic Romance.
Warning, it is very extreme.
I once traumatized my entire classroom, playing it for a school assignment.
One of my favorite songs then it was me with the tubes and turmoil. Still love the song.
I’ve been watching your videos here and there. And only now am I seeing from the video that Jake from ABR is the founder of it? What the heck haha, didn’t expect that. Awesome.
One of the greatest metal songs of all-time! This song and the subject matter along with the video are so powerful. I remember when the used to play this on MTV. After the song, the VJ's would say something like "on a lighter note."
This where a great analysis of the number, enjoyed the talking very much
The video does the song soo much Justice. It’s wild as many times as I’ve heard this song, seeing the video puts a whole new perspective on it and shows the versatile of Metallica
As a kid I head this and loved how beautifully heavy it was. Now as a grown mans and war veteran, it hits completely different. Very tough to listen to now but I was very interested in how therapist would react to it.
Man you had Slayer, Exodus, just to name of few but this was Metallicas first MTV video.. when he is moving his head the bed up and down he’s doing Morris code
Morse Code
Canibal Corps, Sodom
This was the most well named song, since it is my number 1 favorite song ever. It was also my gateway into Philosophy.
Metallica helped me through difficult times... their songs are pain relief for me
the book Jonny got his gun describes Jonny's injuries even more .
he not only lost his limbs he lost his lower jaw also.
the real tragedy is that his high school sweetheart becomes his nurse without him knowing.
it is a piece of art
This is 1 of their many masterpieces... Metallica are ICONS... maybe check out INAMORATA off their new album... FAN4LIFE 🤘🏽😎
I was twelve when this song came out, and I thought it was a work of art the first time I heard it. The whole album it art
im very impressed she got the name of the movie right off the bat no one usually ever does lol 🤘😎
This is such a sad story, awesome reaction all the road paving songs incorporated this stuff, think of Iron Maiden " Number of the Beast", and so many others, to me the build to the solo was this man's pain and frustration and wish for death builds and builds and the guitar solo is him screaming inside, is just a epic epic song.
As a 10yr army vet, this song hits hard. So many of us feel this way. Trapped in the memories and pain. Wrapped in the guilt and shame. Constantly trying to find our way in a world we don't fit in. Begging for it to just stop until one day we just need to die. This is where we are every day.
Thank you for sharing. You deserve to live. I hope you find peace. I wish i could give that to you, I am sorry for the pain in your life.
From runner12: @TankakaT-- I’m so glad you reached out! I’m so sorry for the constant pain, guilt and shame you are feeling. Being trapped in memories can be overwhelming and exhausting. You may not feel like you fit into this world but I promise you that you have value and worth and purpose. Sharing your story and speaking out about what you’ve been through is so important and valuable especially to others who have been in similar situations. Please keep holding on and reaching out. This is a safe place where we care about you and believe in you and are here to support you!
From sangasugarbog: @TankakaT-- Thank you so much for reaching out, I want to let you know that you are heard, and your voice matters. I think in life, it's such a difficult thing to find where we fit in, or deal with the guilt and shame that we bear. It's a normal thing to feel the way that you do. While these emotions and feelings may linger, I promise that this storm will pass. Tripping over what's behind us can be a taxing expense, but we must continue to move forward, and grow. You matter here, and I want you to know that there are people that love you. The world is a better place with you in it. Enjoy the present, and focus on **now**. I'm rooting for you, keep shining your light.
From lu2910: @TankakaT-- I'm so sorry you're dealing with these emotions. I appreciate your vulnerability in opening up to us how you've been feeling. The fact that you have served in the army for ten years is amazing, I can't express how grateful I am that people like you have the bravery many of use do not. I promise you that despite how you feel you don't fit in, you belong on this Earth and deserve to live.
One thing I have found in dealing with my depression is that as small and futile as it is, hope is beyond life-changing. You are not a broken person; You are far from broken. The future you have is not just surviving, but living. There is hope for you, this apathy will turn into joy and you will feel whole.
You are not alone in your struggling and hurting. Peace is never something that is unattainable. Please feel comfortable to reach out and share your story with us. We are right here for you.
From Micro: @TankakaT-- Thank you so much for sharing about how this song resonates with you and your personal story. Trauma is a beast that keeps haunting you, and I can only imagine how painful it is for you to feel like you just don't fit in this world, and maybe somehow don't belong either. It's hard when it feels like there's an invisible barrier between your inner world and the world around you. Inside there's a storm taking place, a scream that needs to be heard, but on the outside it seems that silent remains, and your hurt is unnoticed.
I hope you will keep fighting for yourself, for you absolutely belong and matter. May you find peace, at your very own pace, to replace traumas as a part of your story, and not as something that would define your identity. You have so much beauty to bring into this world, and there is more to embrace around you. Hold Fast, friend. You're in my thoughts. :heart:
This is a classic! love One. I wish Metallica would go back to making this metal greatness again.
It is crazy, And Justice from All was my first CD along with a CD player i got for Christmas, i was 11 years old, i am today 43 that was 32 years ago, my Mom and Dad did not know what metal was, and how they regreted that present.
This song dictates how soldiers were just objects in the 80s. That song goes hand in hand with the banger Disposable heroes from the masterpiece Master of Puppets album
Apart from the song "One" is set 75 years earlier and Disposable Heroes was modern day.
i have always felt this was a metaphor for my childhood being the 5th of 6th children i felt i was an afterthought in my family and retreated into my thoughts and feelings and kept everyone at arms length . now at my age i have suffered some tremendous heartbreak as the 3 closest people in my life all recently passed . i am now having those same feelings as my youth . somehow i’ve always been able to persevere and put on a facade of happiness.
From ThriceTheThird: @chrispajewski1007 I'm sorry to hear you are going through such a tough time in your life right now. I hope that you can find some relief to it with time. Feel free to share more if you ever want/need.
From Micro: @chrispajewski1007 It's definitely special when you are one of the last children who were born in your family. If there is an important difference of age between your siblings and you it must add even more doubt and fear in your mind regarding this idea of being an afterthought. I've been myself the last of the family to be born and there's a six years difference between my sister and I. For a long time, a part of me has felt like I had to be unexpected or unwanted somehow. It's difficult when you are the little one trying to find their way in the midst of people who are much older than you. It is for sure pretty isolating and having this kind of feeling at a young age can really stick to you as you grow up.
I imagine that, somehow, retreating into yourown thoughts and feelings was really a way to protect yourself and to feel safe. When you make sure that you keep people away from you, you are guaranteeing that you're not going to be hurt unexpectedly. It's definitely something that feels like maintaining some kind of control by not having to worry about what other people could do to you. It really makes sense that this has been a way for you to cope and survive as you grew up, and keeps somehow being a survival mechanism as an adult. The perspective of not being wanted, of not belonging, of potentially being abandoned at some point is absolutely heartbreaking and scary.
It makes sense that losing this three people has also been such a major heartbreak and loss for you. It is the kind of grief that can really reactivate the wounds that we've experienced when we were younger, especially when it feels like we didn't heal from this pain or found a sense of closure yet. Somehow, it is the type of event that forces you to reconsider the ways you've been coping before because as much as it was adapted to things you couldn't control in the past, you also realize that it may not be something that would serve you in the person moment.
You don't deserve to feel like you should put on a facade of happiness or that you have to push through regardless of how you feel at a given time. It's okay to not be okay, even if saying this probably sounds cheesy somehow. You are allowed to be sad and to say it. You're allowed to feel heartbroken without feeling like you have to hide it, and for that I am very grateful that you've chosen to open up here.
My friend, you belong in this world and you matter so very much. You really do. Whether or not people stay in your life, you are not defined by them and your worth remains unshaken by these circumstances. I see you, and I'm sending plenty of virtual hugs your way today. :heart:
Stumbled upon your channel through your reaction to Ren, and was happy to see so many good songs and bands getting reacted to. There are few amazing ones missing: Nightwish (Ghost Love Score is/was the most reacted to video on YT, but I’d recommend Poet and the Pendulum due to mental health theme) and couple other that you might not have stumbled upon Beast in Black - Blind and Frozen, and Wintersun - Sons of Winter and Stars. As a bonus, if you haven’t listened to Pisces by Jinjer yet, give it a blind reaction. It’ll be worth it.
we can feel the despair and the pain in this song the cruel and brutal reality for someone ...somewhere...death=liberty
The day I turned 18 in 1985 during the Cold War, driving to the local post office to register for Selective Service (aka, "The Draft") was a very surreal experience.