First story: Instead of cancelling the entire trip, I would just go with the people that paid for the flights. Book smaller and cheaper airbnb, take them to dinner and just chill
For my 40th, I threw a massive, $1200, 80s themed party at my apartment. I had my purple prom dress shortened and taken out, a full bar, bartender, bowls of edibles (legal) and cigs, a LIVE piano player/singer, badass food spread plus pizza at 2AM. ALL needs provided, but everyone was asked to throw $1-2 in a jar for potential Ubers. To use the words of my generation, it was LIT. People BROUGHT their 80s attire and dance moves.
I feel differently cause she paid for everything aside from a couple people who paid 250 and she got footed the bill for them. I’d be pissed if these friends were flaking even before this and then I get stuck with all the payments. They are the crappy ones if you can’t make it don’t rsvp and promise to go and then bail last week. That’s a shitty friend especially since they knew awhile in advance.
Perhaps, but what is sad is that doesn’t have to be true. Take it from a girl who locks herself in her room satisfied with the friends she has. So this is more me talking to myself lol Friends don’t all have to be similar, in my experience, & it has only been 1/3 of my life so far, friends are those we feel comfortable with. They can be emotional, intellectual, activity based friendships. According to the dictionary A friend is defined as a person whom one knows & with whom one has a bond of mutual affection. The older I grow, I realized I have different dynamics with people around me, that doesn’t mean I care about them any less. I still enjoy my time around them, & I will always cherish our times together. I hope when I die I have lots of people visit me or even think of me, those will be the ones who see me as their friend. Thanks for letting me share my two cents.
Sooo, that last woman was commiting sexual assault against the lash tech. That's so disgusting. If a dude started doing this in front of a woman this would not even be a question of whether or not he needs to be arrested.
Straight up-i would have gone and called the police or something coz I wouldn’t feel safe but then maybe she also did it so the lash girl would leave the room so she could steal. I always tell women don’t do your business from home-had a freind set up her therapy business at home-one if her first clients killed her. He’s rotting in jail now.
sounds like she had an exhibition kink - it's sexual harassment in the workplace and no one should have to accept that. one of the rules of kink is that everyone needs to consent and that includes 'witnesses' - you don't involve the 'genera; public' in your kinks without consent
Me either. I'm 54 & have only celebrated my birthday as an adult twice. Girls night at home is so much fun for me & my friends. I'm not into stuff or trends. I'm about quality time with those I love that are not friends but part of my family. These days it's ridiculous for young people to go out and blow all this money. My son has a backyard wedding that was absolutely beautiful then a big party after. I'm proud they are young & mindful about saving for the future instead of going on trips just to party. People can have amazing events locally & at home they just want it all.
@@jenniferhicks7505 totally agree. I’m about to turn 56. Remember when we had cameras that you never knew what the photos looked like till later? And then they just went in a book. I think this age of excessive self photography and posting has ruined events. You go to events thinking about someone posting a photo of you. Overthinking your outfit. It’s all just ruins being fully present and living.
@@Val-gv7nz I hear you. It sounds awesome. I also think my dad has 4 sisters, and when they go on trips, some of them get fishy about money. It usually happens at the end of a trip when the final bill shows up. Great if you got it. Hell if you don’t. Family can be just as bad as a bad friend.
1st story: $250 for the ABNB food/drinks. The activities were an additional expense. Plus going out to eat. Add plane tickets and rental car on that. In addition to any babysitting/pet sitting costs. I can see this trip easily costing her guests over $1,000. Most people can't do it.
@ um what?? I’m talking about the woman that masturbated in front of the lash tech in her own home. She did not consent to see that. That is a crime in the US. If a persons kink is to be watched while engaging in a sexual act by someone not their partner, they need the persons consent established before hand. Otherwise, it is a form of SA/sexual harassment. While, in this situation, it would lean more towards a civil dispute I think I was not referring to this video being shared here. I was specifically referring to the interaction between customer and the lash tech. Sorry if I wasn’t clear enough
Exactly, shut that down fast. Don't get dragged into other people's kinks, especially without consent. That's indecent exposure or something along those lines.
This first story… it’s so exhausting. I’m sure everyone would have turned up for a lovely dinner - a single day of fun at a spa. A whole trip? Goodness
@@WiseWordsbyWikiI didn't hear the bit about a surprise dinner from her husband. I'd imagine there was a bit of a spoiled friendship after canceling the entire trip. I was throwing a housewarming & b-day party for myself and had my entire friend group cancel because of drama from one person and she had already announced she wouldn't be showing up. So I can believe if Bday girl is obviously angry with a lot of people, no one showing up
@UnicornsPoopRainbows The surprise birthday dinner was the year before it had nothing to do with this. She also mentions that when it was her bachelorette party they didn't really do much and spent most of the time fighting over what they didn't want to do and didn't let her have any say.
Boys and their moms cleaning up after them: my husband has one of these mothers and I definitely had a hard time when we first got married. Fast forward to three years into it, COVID hits, and he got laid off. Since I was the only one working I stopped doing the household chores because, in my mind, the person at home not earning an income should be doing the cooking, errands, and cleaning while I'm away for 9-10 hours a day. He learned really quickly how much it took to run a house. Now that we're both working again, we share household responsibilities evenly and neither of us sits down to relax while the other is still working on what needs done. I'm pretty sure that layoff saved my marriage.
My mom went on a girl's trip and i believe everyone was paying for themselves until a waiter chased them out of a restaurant saying they hadn't left a tip. But they had been leaving tips for everything. And that's when they found out the one girl that was basically a friend of a friend on the trip had been stealing their tips to pay for herself.
For the first story: if we had seen this as a list on Reddit from one of her friends, she would’ve looked super entitled. It started out as a hangout at an AirBnB, but she added catering, stocking food, experiences, a cake, a decorator to friends who live out of state, and kinda seemingly without warning.
Plus, the way she was describing how her "friends" were backing out calling it excuses and downplaying how one of them didn't want to go due to alcohol being an issue rubbed me allll the wrong way.
Why are so many people not getting this? She invited them saying all they have to pay is $250 plus airfare I guess. So 16 said yes. AFTER THEY COMMITTED she kept adding things that she expected them to pay for. That’s BAIT AND SWITCH!! She didn’t have good intentions. Most of them saw through it and canceled. 4 didn’t. She canceled on those 4. Why? Aren’t they her friends? Why doesn’t she want to go with them? 🤔.
She did not communicate clear at all! They might have been fine with what she says the cost was in the beginning but she added a ton of stuff. And her saying they are making excuses is ridiculous... They might not have wanted to or weren't able to pay for everything she wanted and she was not upfront about all the extras. Poor communication caused this
For one of my friends 30 th birthday we went and stayed at an Airbnb in Stoke on Trent, around 10 of us went, we drove up there together, went food/drink shopping when we arrived, spent a long weekend there, drank, ate, spent most of the time chatting in the hot tub, and drove home. It was around £80 each, and we had an absolute blast, we made lifelong memories, we bonded so much, and there was no pressure to do any activities or spend extra money. It was amazing, and it was cheap. There’s no reason to spend so much money for a birthday trip
Now THIS I could do, but she wanted them to book flights, get special PJs, go to several different activities, etc. Y'all drove there (which means it was close enough to get home, if need be), went grocery shopping and just hung out at the Airbnb! Sounds like what I would want to do on a long weekend. Just chilling out! 😊😊
@ it was perfect! We bought the birthday boy a cake, and the only activity we did outside of the Airbnb was a hike (that a couple of us didn’t go on because we didn’t want to and no one got upset or cared that we were doing different things). It was around a 4 hour drive, but we went in 2 different cars and had a great little road trip, and 2 of us did have to fly but that’s just because we surprised birthday boy with two of his friends from home who flew in from Ireland, but no one made them, and a flight from Ireland to England in March was so cheap! Would definitely recommend!!!
yeah, i mean I feel sorry for he that people said they would come and then dropped out last minute but it kind of urked me how she took zero accountability for what happened. like you can't just expect people to pay 250, by flights and have everything "luxurious" if it is not within your or their budget?
Exactly, she realy needed a designer 😂? I mean common...some people sometimes expect too much and she should have kept it more simple ...it's the reality, I'm sure more people would have went for a simple I night trip, or a simple party. She expected too much from people !!
First story: $250 x 16= $4000. How much food and supplies did they need? She says she was paying for the Airbnb but obviously wanted some help with that. At least be honest because there is no way you are spending $4000 on food and supplies. At which point did she tell them they needed to pay $250? Because if I said "yes" and then got told I had to pay $250 I would have to back out. I legit can't afford $250, plus events and spending money. If not for the $250 I could come up with some money. So, if she told $250 after they said yes that is wrong. Honestly, I don't think she and I would vibe as friends anyway. Someone who needs to be "celebrated" in such a way is not my cup of tea. Honey you can be the person I love most in the world, but at the end of the day you are a person same as me. I will "celebrate" you with a day trip, a dinner, a movie and some cake and ice cream. If I really like you I will sing happy birthday and give you a modest gift. If you need to be "celebrated" more than that....we are not a friendship match.
Not to mention she said where they were going, not where they were coming from. So on top of the $250, plus however much u'd need for other events & spending money it's highly possible ppl had to pay for round trip plane tickets & if driving who knows how much gas money. Then if u have kids & or pets u have to pay for them to be looked after & let's not forget about lost wages for however many days of work u have to miss. So yea I'd want any money I'd spent or given her already back as well over canceling a trip that really didn't need to be canceled. Since there were ppl who had already given her money & paid for flights & she got quite a bit of her money back for the catering & airbnb, she could've just gotten a smaller airbnb, skipped the catering, just scaled back a little & still had a great trip. Seems to me she was being entitled & selfish, bc 16 × 250 is $4,000 grand. She said the catering was $1100, so they weren't helping pay for stuff as she claimed they would be paying for everything & then some bc the only 2 other things she said besides catering was riding ATVs & getting a cake, are u saying it cost more than $3,000 to ride ATVs & get a cake. She also didn't even ask if there was anyone who could or wouldn't ride an ATV, she just made plans. I get it's her bday but if ur expecting ppl to spend that much money on a destination bday it better damn well be something they all enjoy. Plus I bet she expected a separate gift on top of all this
Right?! 😂 like I’m happy if someone even texts/calls me and wishes me a Happy Birthday since my b day is between Xmas and New Years and no one ever remembers but my family 😅
It all seems extravagant to an extreme. But I think her point was more about her being there, and over the top, for everyone else..And the feeling of disappointment at not receiving the same. Personally, I know that we shouldn't expect any reciprocation when we are there for others, but after continual one sided action, I think it's human nature to build to that disappointment and some resentment, too.
To the lash tech; that woman was gusset typing with her husband on the phone and YOU were part of the weird fantasy for them both. You should call the police because she’s probably still doing this to other techs. It’s exhibitionism and probably half a dozen other crimes. You must still have her info.
@@laniguamani7009I hope there’s tutorials online for new young folks trying to break into a field on their own, teaching basic stuff they may not expect, like how to deal with a situation like that. These girls need to learn to be the authority figure in their business and say calmly but straight up, “I’m sorry, but that’s inappropriate. I can reschedule you for a time when you aren’t busy, but if it happens again you’ll be banned from my business.” And that’s the soft version. The hard version starts with understanding that you have the right to refuse service to anyone, and the moment you tell them to leave and they don’t, they’ve broken the law and the police can be called to trespass them officially from your place of business, no matter whether it’s your home or an office. Super important for all young folks to know when they start working, especially as their own boss.
@@shelleychandler4094 Some people sort of freeze when it's better to run. I suppose she was really confused, and didn't want to make the client feel ashamed; besides, if someone can do *that* thing in presence of a stranger, who knows what else they are capable of doing (sane people don't act like that client), and maybe it was safer to pretend like nothing is going on than to confront if there is no one else at home with you. I'd think that woman is a danger.
It may be disgusting, inappropriate and maybe illegal. But recording a client in a private setting and sharing the video, is definitely illegal and could put you in risk of a hefty lawsuit. Just saying......
It always feels awkward when someone with money suggests a trip or an outing and invites you but then expects you to cover a significant amount of costs. I once had a situation where a girl I knew-not even a close friend-invited me to her birthday. Instead of a simple party, it was a small trip where I’d have to pay for the hotel, all the meals, and activities like skydiving or a hot air balloon ride. The total would’ve been nearly $1,000 for a two-day trip, and that’s not even including a gift for her. I had to decline-it was just too much.
This situation is different though cause I do believe she was only asking for $250. It can be a lot to some but she was paying for almost the entire trip. On the other hand, she planned way too much without talking to anyone about it or what was their budget.
@diawolf8125 she mentioned that the $250 covered some deposits on things and and that she was only covering the Airbnb which means that there will upfront costs for these activities expected when you’re there as well as spending money for spontaneous things, alcohol, additional food etc. I’m not saying her friends were in the right by any means, just that the cost of such an event should be totally upfront and I can’t imagine asking my friends to spend more than a meal for my birthday
Thats honestly not wild. A pretty common practice. In mexician culture they practically have everyday a wild party day sometimes. They do this kind of wild bday bash. I been to one. It was a cook out. But I honestly think her idea was fun. I would have loved to come. A chance to take a break from everyday life? Hell yes. Plus she asked. She gave a cost count. She did not demand. They did not have to go. She just said if you want to come I am paying for this and this. And honestly if they called her personally and said I can pay this much. And cover my flight but I can't afford this amount. She might have comprise. So this does not sound crazy to me. I seen bacholette parties just like this and people don't go all she's cray for planning this trip for a bacholette party. So its a bday party. Okay, so what? She wanted to have big fun on her bday. They could have said no.
@@nicholerubes2959 eh, yeah, but if I take off work and budget for a trip, pay the ticket, then get a bunch of messages saying they want to add on a ton of expenses AFTER all that? That's shady to me. That's like she knew they wouldn't tag along if they knew what the full cost would be, so she intentionally left it out until they'd confirmed. May not be the case, but that's what I would be feeling toward. And even if she knew they could pay/have done things like that before, it's incredibly rude. You don't just spring that on someone and expect that because they could pay for one thing that automatically means they can pay another. Assuming makes an ass out of you and me, as the saying goes. Plus if someone says they're not going because what seemed like a fun trip is becoming a big party trip and they might fall into addiction again (she VERY quickly added in someone's "excuse" being triggered by alcohol), you don't hold that against them. It's disappointing, but they know themselves and it's better that they take care of themselves than tempt fate/yourself like that. If they fall off the wagon, they'd be the one taking the damage, not the hostess.
@@TheodosiaNova I did not get that vibe. More like they were the kind of friends I had in highschool. Except you to do everything for them but won't have fun for you with you unless you pay everything. Honestly her idea seem fun. It was more these people did not really like her and been lying to her to get free things from her. Not okay. I feel for her cause I been in her shoes.
@@nicholerubes2959 I understand that and have been there too, but what she said in her video was she told them the deposit cost, then started adding expenses after they paid and some got their airline tickets. That's also not okay. She should have been upfront about the full cost or at the very least tell them that she was considering adding extra costs later that they may need to budget for. You don't invite people out with the expectation of paying X, then start adding Y and Z on top of it after they've locked in.
I get that she had to refund people who had NOT cancelled on her, after she made the decision to cancel the entire event. People who had cancelled on her are another story.
I agree. She should refund the ones that actually were supporting her. On the other hand I believe she put a lot of extra cost into her event that increase the price. People are flaky and she ate the cost .
First rule of organizing such thing is always collect the down payment money beforehand, set deadlines with days to spare and don't be vague about the costs. That way she would not have lost that much of her own money. Also, why do so much? I think a normal birthday is a nice dinner t, no need to spend days celebrating and taking time off work and all that.
When will people learn; the cashier is not the one making the food! At a place like Starbucks, we bounce around all shift. But in a place like McDonalds? We have our post, that’s it. We don’t move.
@@elizabethkalinec9716 I hear what you're saying now. That woman definitely scammed the cashier by being the worst person ever and instead of the money going back on the gift card, got cash. Went to TT and it sounds like they found the video somewhere else
Last Story: I work as a Nurse at a Hospital. I see ALOT of shenanigans like that (I've given up trying to understand the appeal of Happy Time at a Hospital). I walk in like nothing is going on, tell them why I'm there like usual, and they stop most of the time. However, there was one guy who just smirked at me and continued “faster” at my direction. I called Security and my Charge right there in the room. That's how you lose your privacy privileges in ten seconds or less.
I worked as a labor and delivery nurse, and unless it was to induce labor and it was in the shower, and I was giving them a quick 10-15mins off the monitor for a shower 😂 Then 9/10 the momma was there for us to stop the preterm contractions or her water broke early and she was staying in “hotel L&D” until 34 weeks when we would induce early. Trying to keep her from getting an infection was top of the list; so plenty of the “dude, you need to get up off of her right now” I’m coming back in one min, be dressed. And then they get a direct lecture on using their right hand until a couple months after delivery and when the DOCTOR decides it’s safe and healthy. Like can you not go into her vagina for any reason sir?!?! 😂😂😂
23:00 Girl, I'm Italian and Greek, and I laughed so hard at this😂 I appreciate the self-awareness you displayed when including an apology though. You're a jem luv🤍
Lol I do my Facebook says I have almost 300 "friends" (I've moved around and went to different schools so I was lucky being presented with many different peoples frequently lol to my point, I talk to a total of 1-2 a year and usually not the same people 😂😂
And then at the end of the story she's talking about IF she ever makes friends again. Come on, girl, be real, you're an extrovert. Like protect your peace but don't lie to yourself that you're just never gonna have friends again.
Here's a bit of advice to the first young woman: no one cares about your birthday as much as you do. Turning 30 does not warrant a big trip. If you want to take a trip for your birthday, take it alone or with one good friend.
Exactly! Everyone turns thirty and very few expect such a large group to make such a commitment of time and money. What if everyone in the friend group did that?! She didn’t say how close to the date people started backing out but I’m sure many said yes at first but then the reality of the commitment hit and they realized it wouldn’t work for them. I can’t even think of 16 people I would ask to make such a trip.
That is not true. Some people have supportive friends. But the issue is not about that. Plans were made based on promises. If they were not interested in going and said, "No one cares about your birthday as much as you do" from the beginning then this would be a different conversation. It's like making a promise, going back on it and then saying "it's your fault for accepting it or expecting me to follow through". Crazy.
I disagree. It’s not up to other people to decide which milestones and celebrations should be most important to you. As someone who is childfree and not ever planning to get married, my two most important celebrations is when I bought my first home and my upcoming 40th birthday. If my friends care about me at all I would expect them to show up for what is important to me.
I have a feeling that maybe she was secretly filming it for only fans. M-ing herself in front of a total stranger that she treats like furniture (as in she never speaks directly to OP, just expects everything to magically happen whilst she indulges herself) I bet there's some sort of fetish there. But definitely NOT Most Peak
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Asking your friends to a b-day trip is one thing, adding catering and booking tours is another. That should have been an individual choice. Always be very upfront about costs before asking for the RSVP. Also ask for a deposit for the RSVP to count. (Even if you decided to pay for accomodation. Basically, If you come, it’s free. If you don’t, you lose the deposit) - Works like a charm.
I thought the same thing. It didn't seem like she was upfront about what the expectations for the trip were. You have to be upfront about costs to weed out who really intends to go. I don't go unless I know details upfront regarding costs. You can't assume other people have the same budget as you.
@@kiab2324 2:04 she set an itinerary and cost with the invite what ever else you think about the plan she says was upfront about what the plan was and the RSVPed anyway only the leave her holding the bag for the deposits.
The first story really got me. I am the 'high -earner' of my friend group, I ask my friends to set a budget of the trip. I ask if 200 ok for this, is 400 ok for that? How much are we feeling on plane tickets ANND we plan stuff 4+months out. I also outline what potential costs would be for travel, rental car, and some places of interest we hae a choice to check out. I am a planner by nature and found getting active feedback from your friends helps with these 'money' tensions. No one wants to feel like they can't afford something but if people are truely friends then you should be like " Hey my fun money, spending budget is $500. If we can work that coo and if not, then next time" 9 times out of 10 people will respect it and appericate it.
This lady totally just switched it all up on them! It's crazy to say okay it'll be 250 and then after you've agreed all of these other things start getting added. She ruined her own trip and then she talks crap saying they are making excuses just bc they didn't want to or couldn't afford to pay that much for her freaking birthday.
For real. I'm the low earner now, but I used to be the high earner. It made me feel good to be able to pay for people to come on things when they couldn't afford to. That's what friends are supposed to do as long as they're not being taken advantage of.
Ya, if you want everyone to pay for your birthday party, the arrangements and cost should be discussed beforehand. It sounds like when she asked them, she said she would pay for it then when they got the invite, it had a $250 charge on it.
@@MsTeaAndCrump3tsin Arizona we can’t even get a rent lower than 1600 lol for a one bedroom apartment 😅 it’s hard out here for college students rn and young adults.
My friends and I went on a girls trip and I was poor so a friend paid for me the whole time. It took a few months, but I totally paid her back. Not every friend will leave you hanging, but I really appreciated that friend. ❤
I hosted my birthday party last year, it was a themed tea party that I and my mum cooked/baked everything for, my sister-in-laws helped me decorate and everyone had over a month notice. People said they were coming. Day of only 4 if my friends showed up and my sister-in-laws. So my aunts came too. My friend group showed me how much they valued me that day. On a different note 2 of those girls who turned up I hadn’t spoken to a lot before that because I moved to a different city and we just sort of fell out of contact. That day rekindled our strong friendship and we talk and see each other so much more now.
But she expected so much. Just because it was her birthday. Were her friends the Kardashians? Because people usually don't want to take time off work and leave their families for days just because their friend has a birthday nevermind the financial cost. But they should have said yes at first. I would have just said no from the beginning. You can have that ocean and I deal with my own ocean when it comes.
@@mingiinimene3335my thing is it seems that she provided the cost it would be and people still decided to rsvp which is definitely interesting bc don’t rsvp if your not sure yk
For the first woman, my Dad told me that you're lucky in life if you have one good friend - and it may not be who you think. I'm blessed to have more than one friend and I've learned "best" friend is synonymous with friend at this stage of the game. Having a large TRUE friend group has never been my thing. People are in your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime. For her birthday, do all 16 of the people have money like you do? Now, I'm all about reciprocation so if you find that folks aren't showing up for you, move around. Adulting is expensive. I've learned to give people grace when it comes to spending money. You never know what folks have on their plates. I hope you had a happy birthday and will have many many more.
Yo dad opened 2025 with the quote of the century. No lie detected here. i am all about giving people grace especially since we are not all sharing what type of sheit we might be dealing with behind the scenes that we don't wanna talk about . But you see it is also responsible and caring to let someone know that participating isn't an option because folk usually know whether they can't pony up the cash upfront or maybe can never actually re-pay.
I don't think the lady made it clear what funds would be needed for the b'day, I mean two if it was for 2 days ,( I glazed over some of it), even $250 is a lot for meals and putting in for a cake, as there's flights, transport, child/pet care, a gift, drinks, misc plus earning less work pay for the week and that is all without accommodation, it's way too much. I think it was over indulgent and as other commenter said all expenses need to be clear and a deposit added the their rsvp as a confirmation from guests beforehand..ensuring all can pay and no one is out of pocket..
@@tash17kidsI agree. From what I understand she told them when she invited them it’s $250. Then once they said yes, she kept adding things. These people probably realized they couldn’t afford the costs anymore. And you know she’s a bad friend because there were still 4 women who wanted to go and she canceled on them. This trip wasn’t about having a nice time with friends. It was about clout and bragging.
For my 30th birthday, I planned a big party. I sent out about 60 invitations. This was back in the days before the internet, so I didn't have a solid way of estimating who was coming. I prepared a ton of food, and bought a lot of booze. ONE person showed up, at almost all the food, and left. Then another person showed up, drank almost all my booze, and then passed out on my sofa for 6 hours. NEITHER OF THEM BROUGHT ME A PRESENT! From then on, I gave up on expectations. I take myself out for sushi, buy myself something frivolous, and enjoy a stress free day. My birthday is in June, the weather is always gorgeous, so I usually hang out in a park and people watch for a while. I've never been happier.
What i noticed about the first story was that she wasn't up front from the beginning, that it would cost $250 she said that the air b&b was paid for then when people said they'd go, then she said it would cost that much. I couldn't afford a big birthday party/trip that costs that much, so yeah, i would say i can go until she said i would have to fork out 250 for a big birthday party. X
I wouldn't agree to a trip like that without insisting on contributing something tho. I still think the friends who rsvp'd yes are not very considerate. I'd never plan a huge trip for myself like that either tho, unnecessarily extravagant
I would pay something towards it, of course! But springing a trip that big on friends that have kids. Then, get upset when people can't afford it or can't get time off or afford a babysitter. I have a son, and I can't go out on nights out as I can't get a sitter or can't afford to. And I tell them that and not once have they got angry about it. Not everyone is in the same financial situation as you, and I think people forget that.she kinda seems high maintenance.
That’s a lot of money for a birthday trip and by the time you are 30 you don’t really have a huge group of good friends. My friend group shrunk a lot to people I am close to today.
can so pls explain to me what "lashing" in the context here means? ain't native speaking and cant find sth that makes sense to me! What was the appointment about in the first place plse! thx
I think it’s because they RSVP’d and then backed out in addition to all of the other events they half-a**’d or didn’t attend at all. It seemed like a culmination of things and this was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.
To be honest Charlotte that’s one of the many reasons I follow you. You’re humble, respectful, and you appreciate your listeners and the ones who follow you. It shows!! Keep up the good work we love you!!
My thoughts exactly, but I wouldn’t let the Potato Queen stand in line. But if you’re raised right and you’re not entitled you understand life is what you make it. Don’t take advantage of others kindness.
Last Story: That woman and her husband knows exactly what they were doing. I use to work for a call center for a very known prepaid cell phone company (think purple and orange), which was later bought out by a even larger company. A woman "customer" called in for assistance on her account while in the middle of the deed with her man. She never could access the account. According to the company, i was not allow to hang up. In the end, the man answered, f'd *phone company* name and hung up. People are sick.
Yes that was absolutely on purpose. I remember the one repeat kink caller from my time in a credit card call center. Employees should be able to hang up on and ban people like this.
I was about to say the same thing. I had a similar experience and this person just started sendinfg me hc home corn through Instagram. I think that's the kink. Getting people to watch and be repulsed by the act. It is a power play.
My dad told me one time that if I can get through to the end of my life with one or two people who are my forever friends, I would be lucky. I found that he is completely correct. Friends will come into your life for a reason or for a season, but very few of them will be around through everything and forever. It takes both people to care enough to keep a friendship going through moving to different cities or towns, marriages, children, and other changes and distractions. Most of the time, you just lose touch. It's sad, but true.
As a mom with a son and daughter, BOTH of my kids did chores around the house. By grade 9 they both did their own laundry. I even structured part of their allowance around extra chores. Both have to be in the real world, and knowing how to care for your home is part of it. They even each helped me cook dinner once a week; they chose the meal.
I'm 32, but i started cooking at home for the whole family when I was around 12years. I was picky & started to make foods I liked to eat myself. My my noticed & told me I would get 1$ for every meal I made not only for myself but for the whole family.. I cooked a lot for the last years before I moved out from home when I was 18.. Parents need to understand that life skills do not just fall from the sky when the kid turns 18. You actually need to physically teach them what to do, how & why.. I can't stand mothers who don't teach their kids anything esp boys. Idk if they refuse to think at that at some point their son will move
Right? They need to learn how to take care of a home before they move into their own. In my case cleaning house also turned into how I make a living. I'll never be rich but I've also never been out of work, I'm debt free and can pay my bills. I also get to exercise and listen to music while I work, lol.
That lady in the drive-through paid with a gift card, complained about the smoothie, and wanted a cash refund. It wasn't about anything other than her trying to get cash for the gift card. That's why she wouldn't give her the gift card to scan for the refund, and the recording was to try and intimidate her for the cash.
@@dinahselah6364the cashier said gift card in the recording, several times and then the lady said ‘just give me the cash’. in most drive through restaurants, the cashier isn’t the one making the smoothie anyways, so it doesn’t make sense that she is refusing to do so, more context is needed.
How do you ask a client to not do “that”? You remove the lashes, tell them they are disgusting and to get out immediately. They have a problem with it? Call the cops.
No you just walk out immediately. You don’t give them any procedure or treatment or try to finish your task quickly. Just a “what you’re doing is against the law, your treatment time is over, please leave. You are banned from this establishment.
The second she swiped herself and you knew it wasn't just an itch. "Discontinue or I'll send you out with incomplete treatment." Also, even without that recording- it's ok to lie in that scenario. Tell them they're being recorded, and you'll send your video feed to the police. Having people in your home is somewhat intimate. It's parallel with sexual consent. Just because it seemed ok at first, doesn't mean you can't revoke consent the immediate second you feel uncomfortable or disrespected. Enh.😳
That poor lash tech! If she was too nervous to kick her out at the very least, charge her a cleaning fee for your table and towels. Also, a fee to cover your next appointment stating that you didn't have sufficient time to properly clean before your next appointment. Let her know there are cameras for everyone's safety. Once you get the payment, let her know she's banned. Absolutely disgusting!! I feel so awful for her!
My reaction would be: EXCUSE ME! THAT IS GROSS! GTFO NOW!!!! Sorry, not sorry, I would be so grossed out, and my reaction would be immediate and not pleasant!
@@SM-hk7xs it's sad that you have zero sympathy for a young woman trying to establish her business, confronted with a sexual abusive situation in her own home. she did not know how to handle it and from what i can tell still has not quite understood the full extent to which this was actually a higly abusive and manipulative situation. I feel VERY sorry for her and fully empathise with the fact hat she did not know how to speak up or protect herself at the time. never victim blame.
That last one was SO UNHINGED AAAAAAA OOOOHHH MY GOOOODDDDDD!! We gotta stand up for ourselves! The money ain't worth it!! Let this be our New Year's resolution, fellow potatoes!
@@twiztidclownkiller that’s exactly what it was. She and her husband knew exactly what they were doing. They got their rocks off by doing that in front of a stranger who didn’t consent. I would’ve thrown her out way before it got to that point, but even if I didn’t, I’d call the police once she starting doing that to herself
I can't even fathom spending $3,000+ for a birthday. Sheesh. 29:40 You say, "Excuse me, ma'am, but what you're doing is disgusting and you need to go. Now." Don't give them an opportunity to stay or "correct the problem". If a man did that, they'd be arrested for a myriad of charges (and rightfully so), so why on Earth would this woman think she'd be exempt from that same consequence?
Nah, my friends and I aren't rich. So we split everything, regardless of the occassion (someone's birthday, or christmas or bachelorette). We're there because we all want to experience it together. Not cause we want to splurge for one friend.
I've gone on a few girls trips, local and far away, and they were fantastic! The key: we PLANNED TOGETHER. It wasn't one person dictating what we all did. Everyone was invested. And yes, go with a smaller group of your closer friends. That's just going to be better because you know each other well, you are more comfortable communicating and respecting each other's wishes, and larger groups of people are always harder to coordinate.
As someone who worked for victim support, I think some of you are overseeing the fact that the lash tech was in survival mode. You don’t chose the flight, fight or freeze/fawn response you experience. Your body chooses for you. Even if you encounter the same thing twice, you can respond differently. It could be she had a freeze or fawn (then you cooperate so the dangerous situation passes without getting hurt/faster) response; this is the most traumatising response there is because a) it comes from “laying dead” from the time where humans were still prey and b) secondairy victimisation (“why didn’t you say no”). I myself have witnessed public indecency at night at a scary train station and I fled, afraid to get SA’d. Rationally I would have called the cops but it didn’t cross my mind, even though I worked at victim support at thay time. So please don’t judge this young woman. Please keep the guilt where it belongs. Don’t make her experience secundairy victimisation. (Sorry for the bad english, not a native speaker)
Happy New Year!!! Story 1: Why was she expecting her friends want to pay $100s or even $1,000s and take time off work to go to her over the top birthday party? My God - make reservations at a nice restaurant and go for dinner.
I have 2 teenage boys and they are taught everything around the house from settling the table to cooking to clothes washing and ironing. I want my boys to be able to live independently and not rely on a woman.
Your sons will likely be shocked to discover that women have some of the filthiest homes on the planet. The current narrative pushes that women clean, and men ignore the basics, but it’s simply not true.
This! As someone who shared a dormroom kitchen & bathroom with young men who set fire to our oven because they didn't know how to warm up a frozen pizza, constantly tried to invite themselves to share other peoples' meals, shipped dirty laundry home to mommy via DHL and called me (a plumbers daughter) to unclogg their toilet - only the have the audacity to tell me that my cooking and looks would make me 'wifey material', but my feminism was offputting - I have vowed to raise my boys to be better. My oldest is only three but helps around the house, knows how to crack and fry and egg (under supervision!) and loves baking. That's more than some fellow students could so back then and that should make these guys ashamed.
I dont blame the people who backed out of your bday. It's your birthday and it's really only important to you! No one owes you anything. These going away bday/Bachelorette etc..parties are ridiculous. If you foot the bill, fine let's go, but if I'm forking out thousands, leave me out!!
We had a huge group get together this past year for tennessee jeep invasion. 1 friend put her card down for the lodge ( which could have bankrupt her) she tallied how much it would cost for each person, and everyone paid her monthly to be paid off b4 the trip. She was smart though. The deal was anyone that backed out after a certain date was still locked into paying monthly unless they found someone to take over their spot. We had a couple drop off but still paid . She made it clear and in text so she had recourse if anything went left. You have to . Friends or not you need it in writing. Oh and there where activities she was getting tickets for in advance but it was not mandatory anyone participated in activities. If u wanted to participate you paid ahead, if not you didn't . Pretty simple.
@@2lilangelwingz and this is why we don’t coordinate group trips. As one person said… and Charlotte agreed… book your thang and then if they want to come along, they book their thang.
What are you talking about "get her priorities straight"? Her priority on her birthday is herself as it should be. You want so hard to be right at something & prove you have some sort of moral high ground, but you're jealousy is showing.
I mentioned to my friends that I wanted to take a trip for my bday this year b/c hey, I kicked breast cancer in the ass last year and it's a milestone birthday. I said if they want to come with fine, but by no means did I set up a "we are doing all this and you will accommodate me." In fact, I've been getting their input along the way and being pretty flexible about activities. My only big asks were, min two countries (Flying into Switzerland and taking the train into Italy, flying to Austria and home), with a stop in the Po Valley to see where my grandfather served in WWII. I say that to say, why all the drama?
Shes allowed to love herself that much to plan an awesome trip. It would be different if she didn’t pay and got mad they didn’t have the money. This just seems like these friends don’t like her that much. She’s not frfr at fault in this situation and they aren’t frfr either but definitely shouldn’t be bashed for wanting to do a trip 😅
I screamed at the last one!!...And then i went looking for the video 🤣 i really just can't. There are no words to describe how traumatizing and ludacris this sh*t is.
Just sitting here in MI watching Charlotte, in my "We Move in the Shadows" shirt; knowing my best friend in GA is doing the same, drinking her coffee from her "We Move in the Shadows" mug. ❤❤ We love you Charlotte!!! 💗
For my 30th, I was in my local pubs and two of my best friends bought me a cute little cake. We drank a few shots and just chilled hanging out with some other locals. It was nice and chill.
wild to me that someone needs to go out of town and spend ten grand on their 30th bday like you’re another year older as an adult lmao wheeee! that girl was doing too fucking much and expecting a lot i get most of the people she invited were not close friends. no one has SIXTEEN besties ya know
This is perfect! There’s different “levels” of this setting. If you’re a low key person vs a high maintenance person and anything in between. Either way, a night like this would be so much easier for all compared to the rodeo birthday party.
Some people think their birthday is more special than what it actually is! For my 30th, I invited everyone to a restaurant and let them know they would have to pay for their meal and drinks if they wanted to come. Two people said they couldn't afford it, and I said no problem. I didn't hold it against them. I also told everyone not to buy me gifts, just your company is all I need. It was a great time, and a few came back to my house for drinks. Probably cost each person about $60.
I did not celebrate my 30th. Mom insisted we celebrate the 30th anniversary of my diabetes diagnosis, though! Three decades of this condition is something to acknowledge, I guess
25:20 Honestly, I’m here to vent. Because as a previous barista of an “unnamed” coffee shop with a popularly “fast” drive thru. THIS POOR GIRL. There were so many days I would go home from work and want to end it, because so many customers come with the intent to find something wrong or be unhappy with their service or order. Mind you, you CANNOT according to U.S. health and safety codes (for a lot of state) cross contaminate people foods or drinks with strangers… the floor… be dirty ass straw… and oh, they typically train you to NEVER TAKE BACK A CUSTOMERS ORDER and place it back into any container that will touch someone’s else food or drink. She wanted her smoothie double blended. She wanted it perfectly and thoroughly blended. She probably saw a single banana clump or ice chip and lost it. And wanted it done at the drive thru. They’re not going to re-fucking-blend a beverage she already took and probably crammed her dirty little straw in. And if someone ever has, they were probably young, new, or too intimidated or tired to say no. You have to be nice to these customers and policy in MOST PLACES I worked is to give a full refund. You’re rewarded for making a scene. You’re refunded for complaining and harassing employees. For a long time, I couldn’t afford to quit the job and had no other skills or knowledge to support myself. And then you’d go to work and have to call CPS for the woman yelling and slapping her kids in the backseat WHILE IN THE drive thru… (to get her cheese danish toasted again because “IT WAS RAW.” God, those were the days.) if you made it this far, of course I’m not mad at you. I’m mad with you 😂 And thank you for listening to me vent. Not gonna lie, I do feel a lot better now.
Yeah I think everyone saying that the woman really just wanted her smoothie blended has not had to deal with the public in customer service. It’s soul draining
I was 11/12 when I took on ALL cleaning and cooking duties for our family 😭 I was “raised” to be the perfect housewife. Meanwhile dudes want an award for making their own bed 😂
Oh tell me about it. The first week that my sister and I were both no longer at home, my father bought my mother a dishwasher. Still had brothers at home who were more than tall enough to reach the sink, but noooooo, washing dishes was just too much to ask of them.
@@katiekat2921 hahaha when i bought our house the first thing the kids noticed was no dishwasher... my response was I'm looking at them. They all have since moved out and I bought my wife a dishwasher but she uses it once a month
For the first video, I think it depends on how much the friends were willing to pay versus how much the OP kept adding on. It seemed like she was adding on more and more to make the party great, but that adds more to what the friends needed to chip in. With the cost of flights and the additions the OP was wanting, it could have ended up costing thousands. I feel like OP needs to accept that she can have true friends, but that doesn’t mean they need to spend thousands on her birthday. If she is willing to do that, that is great, but not everyone can afford that. This is especially true for people with kids. With this economy, if I have an extra couple thousand to spend, I would rather take my kids on vacation than spend it on my friend’s birthday. That doesn’t mean I don’t love my friend. It means, the few thousand I can spare, I would want it to go to my family for a joint experience rathe than a singular event that I’m participating in.
RE: the birthday girl - She and I are definitely from two different worlds. Thinking a small busload of people can manage and afford a trip like that at the age of 30? Honey, by 25, most of my friends had families and careers to worry about. Yes, at 16, 20 of us could easily get together and do all kinds of stuff at any time. But, after becoming adults with responsibilities, we were lucky if maybe 5 of us who still lived in the same town could all manage to get together for a few hours at someone's house for cheap/free pizza and beer. In my mid-40s now, I'm lucky if I can get one local friend to go out for lunch. Heck, I don't even have kids, and I've had to pass on trips multiple times because I couldn't find a pet sitter. Grownups are busy and broke these days. Unless you and your entire friend group are independently wealthy and single, you might want to temper your expectations. But, fwiw, if I was one of the friends who did RSVP and pay the deposit, I would have told her not to refund my money after she canceled. I would have told her to keep it and consider it my birthday gift to her.
I hear ya. Also child free but have to hire a pet sitter to look after my cats and keep an eye on my house. Love your solution for the selfish birthday girl!
I relate with the first story a little bit - minus the expense of all that money. It was quite the opposite for me and that made it all the more hurtful. It was my eighteenth birthday, I planned a small get together - dinner and a movie with a few close friends. 6 became 5, 5 became 4, 4 became 3 and it got to the point where I was moved to tears. I know some had genuine reasons for not being able to make it, one or two may have lied, whilst my former best friend was upfront and said "I'm not going", because she would have rather been at a club, being fully aware that I hate clubbing and alcohol. Fast forward 12+ years and I don't have any of them in my life anymore. If you're a young person reading this, please don't wait until your late 20s/early 30s to recognise and break away from any level of toxicity. On a lighter note, happy new year everyone 😅
I hear you. My best friend went to a club BEFORE my 21st party with 3 other mutual friends and arrived late with offering no help with set up or anything. That's when I found out she really wasn't my best friend. Don't talk to any of these people anymore either. People who don't give a lot, aren't worth it
@@babybear9443 Initally I liked your comment as I do sometimes out of habit but there's nothing to "like", in what you said I'm sorry that happened to you and hopefully you have found people worthy of being called your friends.
Regarding the first story: It sounds like the friends were fine with paying for their own plane flights, and their own meals, but then the birthday girl kept adding more, and more expenses for the ATV rental, the caterer, the decorator, etc. that the friends weren't expecting. The cost really started adding up and became so expensive and way over the friends' budgets. It sounds like they agreed to the trip, and then were told about all the extra expenses AFTER they had already RSVP'd. You can't spring all that stuff on them AFTER they RSVP.
Right! She said she would pay then they get the invite and there is a $250 charge. I wonder how many she invited. 16 rsvp'ed. That alone would be $4000. Sounds like she tried to get them to pay for everything after saying she would. The old bait and switch!
For story 1, I definitely understand how she feels, because I used to be that person. But what I've learned about myself is that when I was going through really deep depression, my mom had an illness, and I was in an abusive relationship, I stopped being a good friend who showed up to things, because I was deeply depressed. Sometimes it's not personal, sometimes people are just going through things, and are afraid to talk about it with you for fear of looking weak. And then sometimes people are taking advantage. Sometimes you have to do a little bit of digging to figure out which friends have my back but are going through things, and which people are not really there for me. I've also learned too that you are much happier if you just give out of the love of giving, instead of giving with the hope of getting back in return. It helps you to stop keeping score, but also forces you to only give when it feels real.
That first story frustrates me. Instead of cancelling the trip and going no contact with everyone... Why not downsize the trip and keep it going with the few friends who did RSVP and did pay for everything in advance? Like don't throw out the good ones with the bad ones...
19:33 maybe your friend uses your name like "I’m with my friend Charlotte Dobre and she is super famous with millions of followers" and that’s how she convinced them to let both of you in lol 😅
Charlotte’s take on that first Lady is absolutely wild to me. Yes people going back on what they said is problematic but so is Not telling people how much money they’re going to have to spend before they agreed to do something. Also telling them to bring spending money but then demanding that they give you not only $250 upfront, but also that they have to go out and buy luxury pajamas to come to your event. When I plan an event I pay for that event. I don’t plan an event and ask other people to pay for it. I find it so crazy that people will plan events and then be like “yeah give me money for it.” ALSO I don’t even spend $250 on my kids for their birthdays what kind of entitled self-righteous crazy person demands that other people pay $250 on their birthday? What kind of consumerism hell do I live in where people think that they deserve $250 plus a gift plus me buying luxury pajamas plus me flying out to them for a birthday??? It’s giving “gimme gimme gimme”
She said she sent a cost literary with the RVSP. So, everyone who did agree to come knew exactly how much they would need to pay. They're just assholes
Mam if you’re an entitled princess, just say so😂🙄 no one is an asshole for not wanting to $300+ on someone else’s birthday 😂 get outta here with your entitlement
I'm with you I'm old but for my 30th I went out with 2 of my friends for a nice dinner, went to a couple bars and got a hotel room for the night. We split all the costs equally had a great time that we all still remember....I don't get all the over the top stuff
I agree with you 100%. First story is ridiculous, and I love Charlotte, but her take does demonstrate that she has forgotten what it's like, or never knew what it's like to not be able to afford frivolous stuff. Some people have a tight budget day to day. Wild to expect to expect people to prioritise yoir wants over their needs.
30:53 This was a sexual assault IMO I would have called the police. The fact they were on loud speaker tells me they liked her knowing what they were doing. 😮I can't believe she stayed for that. I would have walked out on her. 😡
Aye, this needed to be reported at the very least to hopefully discourage them from doing it again to someone else, or to establish a history so that if they do it to someone else there's evidence showing its repeat behavior. It's so beyond the pale I would worry that in the future they might escalate and she might have him come to an appointment in person while they do this stuff, especially if they feel they've gotten away with what they've done here. x.x I would stay only long enough to sneak a video so that there's some proof and then say I forgot some supplies in the other room and call the police.
The woman recording the smoothie maker just gave the internet proof that the worker gave her a refund. So now when she tries to complain to management worker has proof.
Story 1: There's a saying I heard once that i think is relevant here. "If you have more than a handful of close friends, you really have zero close friends." It's just impossible to have a close level of friendship with that many people and maybe you're a bit underestimating what "close friends" means. Honestly, it's really entitled to think more than a handful of people will shell out that kind of money for your birthday. Plus she "lost her friend group" over it? Why? Because she threw a fit that people aren't coming? Also, she's on the hook for those who wanted to go and lost money, because she canceled the trip because only 4 people could go instead of her unrealistic expectations. "i've come to the realization that I don't have the friends that I think that I have." Yeah, no shit. NOBODY has that many friends. Acquaintances? Sure. Friendly associates? Absolutely. But friends, especially ones willing to spend thousands for you? LOL, girl, NO.
The woman with the 30th birthday was bananas to plan such a crazy party. Who needs that? If you can afford it, pay for everything or just tone it down. Maybe a big party or a trip? 16 people? It sounded exhausting. 30 is when you start dropping exhausting friends and it sounds like birthday girl might be exhausting and the friends already have her at low contact. So no contact might not even be noticeable to the “friends”.
I have the same take. I would never expect a friend to spend $250+ on my birthday. Maybe she has all that money to throw around (or overspends) but not everyone does.
@@aleathacoleman6413 it is rude, so anyone who does this is telling you they don’t consider you a close friend. I don’t understand throwing a party trip as a friendship test that comes with a 250 dollar price tag.
When you are planning a party for your own self… people would prefer to plan a vacation that costs them money… for their OWN plans. You chose the activities, you chose the rental, you chose a cake, you picked the location…. People don’t have extra money to spend on other people’s vacation plans. She’s the jerk. If you are throwing yourself a party, try doing something that doesn’t require people to spend their vacation money on it. ✌🏼
Except at 2:04 she claims she sent the itinerary with costs when she sent the invitation/RSVP request. If this is true they complete AH for RSVPing yes and then dropping out.
@@sfsin3380Sixteen people she thought would pay $250 each and their time off for her birthday…. Her plans, her choice, her location. I don’t get it. Even for my own wedding, I paid for the dresses and events. Birthday party for me… entry is $250? Just no.
Yea. The friends had relatively good reasons for not going. One said she didn't want to be triggered into drinking, which gives the impression that is a problem. I wouldn't want to put my friend in a position like that. Also, trying to find a sitter to go away for a vacation is not only hard but really expensive. This woman's expectations were way to high.
@@XCaptianXChaosX agree 💯. Who does this? Who plans these trips for a birthday asking 16 likely acquaintances to pay and follow your itinerary? Throw a destination party? Want a wedding cake for your bday? Day trips and events? Prepare to pay for it yourself or don’t expect 16 people to be down for it.
If she thinks those friends can't love her the way she wants to be loved, perhaps she needs richer friends. Her financial expectations are unreasonable.
Right! Sitting there with her Van Cleef bracelet talking about she lost $3,000 on a failed birthday trip. In this economy?? She definitely needs richer friends.
I think it's more about people rsvping to make the commitment & then dropping out on her when it's getting too late into the game rather than being honest. I'm sure she didn't expect everyone to go, but I'm sure a conversation could have gone a long way.
For this past birthday I rented a hotel room in my city with enough beds for 6, scheduled things I wanted to do during the week, invited folx, and people showed up when they could with no expectations to be there for everything or gifts given. It was amazing!! Folx who showed up were able to be more mentally present and relaxed. 15/10 absolutely recommend
Sounds very chill and a relaxed approach, good for you! So glad you had a good time! Also, not sure if you meant folks, but if so it’s spelled folks not folx (I’m not wanting to sound rude, I just know that some people find it helpful to be informed with these things. I hope I’m not being offensive or rude.)
Never been on a girls trip, but I was the only girl on a boys trip (engineers) to Vegas. We had one rule, money will be spent. The one guy that refused to spend ended up with a suitcase full of interesting business cards stuck in EVERY possible place. These guys were like children trying to find ladies up and down the strip to get as much variety and quantity. The level of glee and petty, 20 years later and it still makes me smile.
So my cat is lazing in the sun on her perch at the window, just all boujee... And my partner says to her, "are you acting entitled? Shall we ask Charlotte if you're acting entitled?" I clapped and squeed. I got my partner listening to Charlotte with me now 😍 Happy New Year, petty potatoes! Lots of love to you all ❤️🔥
That first story. I went through something similar where I paid for concert tickets to see Korn, Limp Bizkit and a few other bands during the late 90s for my 17th birthday. Four tickets, plus a limo to take us to and from the venue. Only one person showed. We had a good time, though!
omg first offf HAPPY NEW YEAR CHARLOTTTT and secondly - the rant about being a girl having to do everything and brother sitting gaming... girlie pop i felt that in my soul. IN MY SOUL. i am not sure why i am surprised you had the same experience!!! but literally word for word my childhood being in between 2 boys. and honestly still now lmao.
As a person who doesn't have friends, I stopped having them when my friends decided traveling was how they gauged their commitment to eachother. I learned from Summer camps that being dropped off in a place you paid for wasn't fun, it's a commitment that many will ruin because they had a bad morning or a bad food or even being bumped into, boom trip ruined. You don't know trapped till your a kid with zero boundaries skills and a group of girls tweezing your eyebrows to lines because your mom dropped you off at a 2k camp, and they're doing it cause it's "best you at least look like a girl" for a single dance that doesn't even have boys our age at it. 😢 please look after your own peace, it's free.
22:22 LOL my 6-1/2 yr old even makes his own bed! Mind him he doesn’t do it very well yet, but he does it without me asking and every time I walk by his room and see his little blankets and pillows propped up on his bed, it makes me smile so big 😁🥰🥳
It’s amazing how in the 21st-century there is a new group of people who say “Do you know who I Am!” (influencers) And yet, there are people on social media (like Charlotte) who daily point out that nobody cares who you are. And they still use that line.
I once worked in a small pet store. We had a loyalty program based on trust. They had to tell me their name and I looked it up from our computer. Every time some local celebrity was unpleasant with me, I asked for their name. Just because it would make them upset that I didn't know who they were. 😂
Girl, the older you get, the smaller the circle of besties. At 53, I have like the “trusted trio” and we cherish the occasional times we get to be together, make it a no pressure, near the beach totally chill fun fest. My ride or die babes forever. ❤ Charlotte, blue sweater = perfect accentuation of your already gorgeous red hair. Beautiful!!!
That first story is WILD and horribly rude. The woman is 100% ENTIRELY entitled and going no contact with her friends would be such a gift to them! 🤣🤣🤣🤣
First story: Instead of cancelling the entire trip, I would just go with the people that paid for the flights. Book smaller and cheaper airbnb, take them to dinner and just chill
Yeah she took out her frustrations on everyone because some people pulled out? That's so rude
She obviously was just doing a big party for the instagram pictures. She is the bad friend ended up canceling on the true friends.
Same thought
For my 40th, I threw a massive, $1200, 80s themed party at my apartment. I had my purple prom dress shortened and taken out, a full bar, bartender, bowls of edibles (legal) and cigs, a LIVE piano player/singer, badass food spread plus pizza at 2AM. ALL needs provided, but everyone was asked to throw $1-2 in a jar for potential Ubers. To use the words of my generation, it was LIT. People BROUGHT their 80s attire and dance moves.
I feel differently cause she paid for everything aside from a couple people who paid 250 and she got footed the bill for them. I’d be pissed if these friends were flaking even before this and then I get stuck with all the payments. They are the crappy ones if you can’t make it don’t rsvp and promise to go and then bail last week. That’s a shitty friend especially since they knew awhile in advance.
Dear young people,
You do not have 16 friends. You have 2 (maybe 3) friends, 10 - 12 associates, and 2 haters.
With peace and love,
An old lady. 😊
As another old lady I second that 😉
As a 3rd old lady you are spot on.
As a young person I can bet you I have more than 16 friends that I see and have support from on a regular basis 🤷🏻♀️
Perhaps, but what is sad is that doesn’t have to be true. Take it from a girl who locks herself in her room satisfied with the friends she has. So this is more me talking to myself lol
Friends don’t all have to be similar, in my experience, & it has only been 1/3 of my life so far, friends are those we feel comfortable with. They can be emotional, intellectual, activity based friendships. According to the dictionary
A friend is defined as a person whom one knows & with whom one has a bond of mutual affection.
The older I grow, I realized I have different dynamics with people around me, that doesn’t mean I care about them any less. I still enjoy my time around them, & I will always cherish our times together. I hope when I die I have lots of people visit me or even think of me, those will be the ones who see me as their friend. Thanks for letting me share my two cents.
Right on. Young bloods have no idea what an actual friend is 😢❤
Sooo, that last woman was commiting sexual assault against the lash tech. That's so disgusting. If a dude started doing this in front of a woman this would not even be a question of whether or not he needs to be arrested.
She could still go to the police with that video evidence
Rite?
That is disgusting & undignified!!!!
I would have told the woman to leave......😮
Straight up-i would have gone and called the police or something coz I wouldn’t feel safe but then maybe she also did it so the lash girl would leave the room so she could steal. I always tell women don’t do your business from home-had a freind set up her therapy business at home-one if her first clients killed her. He’s rotting in jail now.
Absolutely!
sounds like she had an exhibition kink - it's sexual harassment in the workplace and no one should have to accept that. one of the rules of kink is that everyone needs to consent and that includes 'witnesses' - you don't involve the 'genera; public' in your kinks without consent
I never had a bachelorette, married 34 years. Never done a girls’ trip, or sleep overs, and I have ZERO regrets after these videos 😮😮😮
Yes! Same. I have my quality core people. I make sure to show up for them, and vice versa. I also never went to prom. No regrets! 😂
Me either. I'm 54 & have only celebrated my birthday as an adult twice. Girls night at home is so much fun for me & my friends. I'm not into stuff or trends. I'm about quality time with those I love that are not friends but part of my family. These days it's ridiculous for young people to go out and blow all this money. My son has a backyard wedding that was absolutely beautiful then a big party after. I'm proud they are young & mindful about saving for the future instead of going on trips just to party. People can have amazing events locally & at home they just want it all.
@@jenniferhicks7505 totally agree. I’m about to turn 56. Remember when we had cameras that you never knew what the photos looked like till later? And then they just went in a book. I think this age of excessive self photography and posting has ruined events. You go to events thinking about someone posting a photo of you. Overthinking your outfit. It’s all just ruins being fully present and living.
Oh nooooo if you have a great group (2-4) of friends a girls trip is such a great experience ❤️
@@Val-gv7nz I hear you. It sounds awesome. I also think my dad has 4 sisters, and when they go on trips, some of them get fishy about money. It usually happens at the end of a trip when the final bill shows up. Great if you got it. Hell if you don’t. Family can be just as bad as a bad friend.
1st story: $250 for the ABNB food/drinks. The activities were an additional expense. Plus going out to eat. Add plane tickets and rental car on that. In addition to any babysitting/pet sitting costs. I can see this trip easily costing her guests over $1,000. Most people can't do it.
If you can't afford it or don't want to go then don't RSVP. Those are crappy friends.
@@StarfireFlow yeah, the whole not turning up for her surprise party would have been it for me
As someone who could afford that, i dont have any friends i like enough to drop that much money on a birthday
Then why would you rsvp and then drop out? It’s better to be honest at first and say you can’t go.
It’s simple. Don’t rsvp.
I understand having a kink where you want someone that is NOT your SO to watch. But **EVERYONE** needs to consent to that. Otherwise that is a crime
that's not a paraphilia. or Kink to you. no one needs to consent to this video under the law. no names, nor faces. so no deformation of character.
@ um what?? I’m talking about the woman that masturbated in front of the lash tech in her own home. She did not consent to see that. That is a crime in the US. If a persons kink is to be watched while engaging in a sexual act by someone not their partner, they need the persons consent established before hand. Otherwise, it is a form of SA/sexual harassment. While, in this situation, it would lean more towards a civil dispute I think
I was not referring to this video being shared here. I was specifically referring to the interaction between customer and the lash tech. Sorry if I wasn’t clear enough
Exactly, shut that down fast. Don't get dragged into other people's kinks, especially without consent. That's indecent exposure or something along those lines.
@@bespokeoriginaldesign761I don’t think you understood what the commenter is saying
This first story… it’s so exhausting. I’m sure everyone would have turned up for a lovely dinner - a single day of fun at a spa. A whole trip? Goodness
According to her they didn't even show up for a dinner. She's straight up says her husband did a surprise dinner and no one showed up.
@@WiseWordsbyWiki I think she meant instead of booking this expensive trip just book a nice dinner at your favourite restaurant.
How do people even have that much $$ for a 30th birthday party? I barely had enough to take myself out to Denny's. Ye gads!
@@WiseWordsbyWikiI didn't hear the bit about a surprise dinner from her husband. I'd imagine there was a bit of a spoiled friendship after canceling the entire trip.
I was throwing a housewarming & b-day party for myself and had my entire friend group cancel because of drama from one person and she had already announced she wouldn't be showing up. So I can believe if Bday girl is obviously angry with a lot of people, no one showing up
@UnicornsPoopRainbows The surprise birthday dinner was the year before it had nothing to do with this.
She also mentions that when it was her bachelorette party they didn't really do much and spent most of the time fighting over what they didn't want to do and didn't let her have any say.
Boys and their moms cleaning up after them: my husband has one of these mothers and I definitely had a hard time when we first got married. Fast forward to three years into it, COVID hits, and he got laid off. Since I was the only one working I stopped doing the household chores because, in my mind, the person at home not earning an income should be doing the cooking, errands, and cleaning while I'm away for 9-10 hours a day.
He learned really quickly how much it took to run a house. Now that we're both working again, we share household responsibilities evenly and neither of us sits down to relax while the other is still working on what needs done. I'm pretty sure that layoff saved my marriage.
My mom went on a girl's trip and i believe everyone was paying for themselves until a waiter chased them out of a restaurant saying they hadn't left a tip. But they had been leaving tips for everything.
And that's when they found out the one girl that was basically a friend of a friend on the trip had been stealing their tips to pay for herself.
Wow.
What waiter would chase people down for a tip? They’re optional. Was there maybe a special circumstance in your situation?
Omg evil
I was a server for years and it happens in friend groups. There can be a "friend" who helps themself to the tips.
😮
For the first story: if we had seen this as a list on Reddit from one of her friends, she would’ve looked super entitled. It started out as a hangout at an AirBnB, but she added catering, stocking food, experiences, a cake, a decorator to friends who live out of state, and kinda seemingly without warning.
Plus, the way she was describing how her "friends" were backing out calling it excuses and downplaying how one of them didn't want to go due to alcohol being an issue rubbed me allll the wrong way.
Why are so many people not getting this? She invited them saying all they have to pay is $250 plus airfare I guess. So 16 said yes. AFTER THEY COMMITTED she kept adding things that she expected them to pay for.
That’s BAIT AND SWITCH!!
She didn’t have good intentions. Most of them saw through it and canceled. 4 didn’t. She canceled on those 4. Why? Aren’t they her friends? Why doesn’t she want to go with them? 🤔.
Yes!!! That's what I was thinking exactly! Bait and switch!@@Mama_Bear524
And check out the branded jewellery…. She got the cash while the others probably don’t
She did not communicate clear at all! They might have been fine with what she says the cost was in the beginning but she added a ton of stuff. And her saying they are making excuses is ridiculous... They might not have wanted to or weren't able to pay for everything she wanted and she was not upfront about all the extras. Poor communication caused this
For one of my friends 30 th birthday we went and stayed at an Airbnb in Stoke on Trent, around 10 of us went, we drove up there together, went food/drink shopping when we arrived, spent a long weekend there, drank, ate, spent most of the time chatting in the hot tub, and drove home. It was around £80 each, and we had an absolute blast, we made lifelong memories, we bonded so much, and there was no pressure to do any activities or spend extra money. It was amazing, and it was cheap. There’s no reason to spend so much money for a birthday trip
Now THIS I could do, but she wanted them to book flights, get special PJs, go to several different activities, etc. Y'all drove there (which means it was close enough to get home, if need be), went grocery shopping and just hung out at the Airbnb! Sounds like what I would want to do on a long weekend. Just chilling out! 😊😊
@ it was perfect! We bought the birthday boy a cake, and the only activity we did outside of the Airbnb was a hike (that a couple of us didn’t go on because we didn’t want to and no one got upset or cared that we were doing different things). It was around a 4 hour drive, but we went in 2 different cars and had a great little road trip, and 2 of us did have to fly but that’s just because we surprised birthday boy with two of his friends from home who flew in from Ireland, but no one made them, and a flight from Ireland to England in March was so cheap! Would definitely recommend!!!
This sounds amazing!
yeah, i mean I feel sorry for he that people said they would come and then dropped out last minute but it kind of urked me how she took zero accountability for what happened. like you can't just expect people to pay 250, by flights and have everything "luxurious" if it is not within your or their budget?
Exactly, she realy needed a designer 😂? I mean common...some people sometimes expect too much and she should have kept it more simple ...it's the reality, I'm sure more people would have went for a simple I night trip, or a simple party. She expected too much from people !!
First story: $250 x 16= $4000. How much food and supplies did they need? She says she was paying for the Airbnb but obviously wanted some help with that. At least be honest because there is no way you are spending $4000 on food and supplies.
At which point did she tell them they needed to pay $250? Because if I said "yes" and then got told I had to pay $250 I would have to back out. I legit can't afford $250, plus events and spending money. If not for the $250 I could come up with some money. So, if she told $250 after they said yes that is wrong.
Honestly, I don't think she and I would vibe as friends anyway. Someone who needs to be "celebrated" in such a way is not my cup of tea. Honey you can be the person I love most in the world, but at the end of the day you are a person same as me. I will "celebrate" you with a day trip, a dinner, a movie and some cake and ice cream. If I really like you I will sing happy birthday and give you a modest gift. If you need to be "celebrated" more than that....we are not a friendship match.
Not to mention she said where they were going, not where they were coming from. So on top of the $250, plus however much u'd need for other events & spending money it's highly possible ppl had to pay for round trip plane tickets & if driving who knows how much gas money. Then if u have kids & or pets u have to pay for them to be looked after & let's not forget about lost wages for however many days of work u have to miss. So yea I'd want any money I'd spent or given her already back as well over canceling a trip that really didn't need to be canceled. Since there were ppl who had already given her money & paid for flights & she got quite a bit of her money back for the catering & airbnb, she could've just gotten a smaller airbnb, skipped the catering, just scaled back a little & still had a great trip. Seems to me she was being entitled & selfish, bc 16 × 250 is $4,000 grand. She said the catering was $1100, so they weren't helping pay for stuff as she claimed they would be paying for everything & then some bc the only 2 other things she said besides catering was riding ATVs & getting a cake, are u saying it cost more than $3,000 to ride ATVs & get a cake. She also didn't even ask if there was anyone who could or wouldn't ride an ATV, she just made plans. I get it's her bday but if ur expecting ppl to spend that much money on a destination bday it better damn well be something they all enjoy. Plus I bet she expected a separate gift on top of all this
13:31 As some who lives in Houston for almost 30 years, I can’t imagine spending **any** amount of money to come here if you didn’t have to 🤪
Right?! 😂 like I’m happy if someone even texts/calls me and wishes me a Happy Birthday since my b day is between Xmas and New Years and no one ever remembers but my family 😅
Yeah. She is clearly entitled and delusional.
It all seems extravagant to an extreme. But I think her point was more about her being there, and over the top, for everyone else..And the feeling of disappointment at not receiving the same. Personally, I know that we shouldn't expect any reciprocation when we are there for others, but after continual one sided action, I think it's human nature to build to that disappointment and some resentment, too.
Charlotte looks sooooo gorgeous with the blue sweater and her red hair. Perfect❤
right!!? shes glowing!
Absolutely 💯 ❤
Yes!!! She looks amazing in that color!!! ❤
I want that sweater!
Something blue 😊a wedding thing right?
To the lash tech; that woman was gusset typing with her husband on the phone and YOU were part of the weird fantasy for them both. You should call the police because she’s probably still doing this to other techs. It’s exhibitionism and probably half a dozen other crimes. You must still have her info.
Exactly this. I had something similar happen to me while I was at work. You bet I told the manager and the police was called immediately.
@@laniguamani7009I hope there’s tutorials online for new young folks trying to break into a field on their own, teaching basic stuff they may not expect, like how to deal with a situation like that. These girls need to learn to be the authority figure in their business and say calmly but straight up, “I’m sorry, but that’s inappropriate. I can reschedule you for a time when you aren’t busy, but if it happens again you’ll be banned from my business.” And that’s the soft version.
The hard version starts with understanding that you have the right to refuse service to anyone, and the moment you tell them to leave and they don’t, they’ve broken the law and the police can be called to trespass them officially from your place of business, no matter whether it’s your home or an office. Super important for all young folks to know when they start working, especially as their own boss.
Should have ended the appointment immediately.
@@shelleychandler4094 Some people sort of freeze when it's better to run. I suppose she was really confused, and didn't want to make the client feel ashamed; besides, if someone can do *that* thing in presence of a stranger, who knows what else they are capable of doing (sane people don't act like that client), and maybe it was safer to pretend like nothing is going on than to confront if there is no one else at home with you. I'd think that woman is a danger.
It may be disgusting, inappropriate and maybe illegal. But recording a client in a private setting and sharing the video, is definitely illegal and could put you in risk of a hefty lawsuit. Just saying......
It always feels awkward when someone with money suggests a trip or an outing and invites you but then expects you to cover a significant amount of costs. I once had a situation where a girl I knew-not even a close friend-invited me to her birthday. Instead of a simple party, it was a small trip where I’d have to pay for the hotel, all the meals, and activities like skydiving or a hot air balloon ride. The total would’ve been nearly $1,000 for a two-day trip, and that’s not even including a gift for her. I had to decline-it was just too much.
This situation is different though cause I do believe she was only asking for $250. It can be a lot to some but she was paying for almost the entire trip. On the other hand, she planned way too much without talking to anyone about it or what was their budget.
@ true
@diawolf8125 she mentioned that the $250 covered some deposits on things and and that she was only covering the Airbnb which means that there will upfront costs for these activities expected when you’re there as well as spending money for spontaneous things, alcohol, additional food etc. I’m not saying her friends were in the right by any means, just that the cost of such an event should be totally upfront and I can’t imagine asking my friends to spend more than a meal for my birthday
@ yes and if you asking friends to spend more it’s should be planned way ahead of time ….
She set the expectation of spending 250 if you RSVP. If they couldn't afford it then they shouldn't have RSVP'd
People planning a huge birthday trip is wild to me. I would never expect that of people.
Thats honestly not wild. A pretty common practice. In mexician culture they practically have everyday a wild party day sometimes. They do this kind of wild bday bash. I been to one. It was a cook out. But I honestly think her idea was fun. I would have loved to come. A chance to take a break from everyday life? Hell yes. Plus she asked. She gave a cost count. She did not demand. They did not have to go. She just said if you want to come I am paying for this and this. And honestly if they called her personally and said I can pay this much. And cover my flight but I can't afford this amount. She might have comprise. So this does not sound crazy to me. I seen bacholette parties just like this and people don't go all she's cray for planning this trip for a bacholette party. So its a bday party. Okay, so what? She wanted to have big fun on her bday. They could have said no.
@@nicholerubes2959 eh, yeah, but if I take off work and budget for a trip, pay the ticket, then get a bunch of messages saying they want to add on a ton of expenses AFTER all that? That's shady to me. That's like she knew they wouldn't tag along if they knew what the full cost would be, so she intentionally left it out until they'd confirmed. May not be the case, but that's what I would be feeling toward. And even if she knew they could pay/have done things like that before, it's incredibly rude. You don't just spring that on someone and expect that because they could pay for one thing that automatically means they can pay another. Assuming makes an ass out of you and me, as the saying goes.
Plus if someone says they're not going because what seemed like a fun trip is becoming a big party trip and they might fall into addiction again (she VERY quickly added in someone's "excuse" being triggered by alcohol), you don't hold that against them. It's disappointing, but they know themselves and it's better that they take care of themselves than tempt fate/yourself like that. If they fall off the wagon, they'd be the one taking the damage, not the hostess.
@@TheodosiaNova I did not get that vibe. More like they were the kind of friends I had in highschool. Except you to do everything for them but won't have fun for you with you unless you pay everything. Honestly her idea seem fun. It was more these people did not really like her and been lying to her to get free things from her. Not okay. I feel for her cause I been in her shoes.
@@nicholerubes2959 I understand that and have been there too, but what she said in her video was she told them the deposit cost, then started adding expenses after they paid and some got their airline tickets. That's also not okay. She should have been upfront about the full cost or at the very least tell them that she was considering adding extra costs later that they may need to budget for. You don't invite people out with the expectation of paying X, then start adding Y and Z on top of it after they've locked in.
@nicholerubes2959 Key words, "to me".
I get that she had to refund people who had NOT cancelled on her, after she made the decision to cancel the entire event. People who had cancelled on her are another story.
True
I agree. She should refund the ones that actually were supporting her. On the other hand I believe she put a lot of extra cost into her event that increase the price. People are flaky and she ate the cost .
First rule of organizing such thing is always collect the down payment money beforehand, set deadlines with days to spare and don't be vague about the costs. That way she would not have lost that much of her own money. Also, why do so much? I think a normal birthday is a nice dinner t, no need to spend days celebrating and taking time off work and all that.
I think the few people who didn't cancel on her should have still gone with her. They still could have had a good time...
She sounds wealthy, so I was wondering if here friends were as well. If not, that sounds like a lot of money to ask for a birthday.
The smoothie cashier was so professional! She handled that so well! 🎉
The welfare customer just wanted cash from her gift card.
This is the reason small businesses with entry level jobs can’t find workers. The “public” are a pain in the ass!
When will people learn; the cashier is not the one making the food!
At a place like Starbucks, we bounce around all shift. But in a place like McDonalds? We have our post, that’s it. We don’t move.
@@elizabethkalinec9716 I hear what you're saying now. That woman definitely scammed the cashier by being the worst person ever and instead of the money going back on the gift card, got cash. Went to TT and it sounds like they found the video somewhere else
@@elizabethkalinec9716 r@cist.
Last Story: I work as a Nurse at a Hospital. I see ALOT of shenanigans like that (I've given up trying to understand the appeal of Happy Time at a Hospital). I walk in like nothing is going on, tell them why I'm there like usual, and they stop most of the time. However, there was one guy who just smirked at me and continued “faster” at my direction. I called Security and my Charge right there in the room. That's how you lose your privacy privileges in ten seconds or less.
I worked as a labor and delivery nurse, and unless it was to induce labor and it was in the shower, and I was giving them a quick 10-15mins off the monitor for a shower 😂 Then 9/10 the momma was there for us to stop the preterm contractions or her water broke early and she was staying in “hotel L&D” until 34 weeks when we would induce early. Trying to keep her from getting an infection was top of the list; so plenty of the “dude, you need to get up off of her right now” I’m coming back in one min, be dressed. And then they get a direct lecture on using their right hand until a couple months after delivery and when the DOCTOR decides it’s safe and healthy. Like can you not go into her vagina for any reason sir?!?! 😂😂😂
23:00 Girl, I'm Italian and Greek, and I laughed so hard at this😂
I appreciate the self-awareness you displayed when including an apology though. You're a jem luv🤍
Omg, you had 16 people RSVP?! I don't even KNOW 16 people. 😂
Lol I do my Facebook says I have almost 300 "friends" (I've moved around and went to different schools so I was lucky being presented with many different peoples frequently lol to my point, I talk to a total of 1-2 a year and usually not the same people 😂😂
16 people was the size of my wedding...
This is my thing - I don't have 16 "friends"! I have 2 sisters, 2 close friends and after that, I wouldn't ask anyone to do a "destination" anything.
And then at the end of the story she's talking about IF she ever makes friends again. Come on, girl, be real, you're an extrovert. Like protect your peace but don't lie to yourself that you're just never gonna have friends again.
Idk if my 2-3 friends would go on this trip, tbh 😂
Here's a bit of advice to the first young woman: no one cares about your birthday as much as you do. Turning 30 does not warrant a big trip. If you want to take a trip for your birthday, take it alone or with one good friend.
Is she planning to go on 16 trips for the birthdays of those 16 friends she invited? I'm guessing not.
Exactly! Everyone turns thirty and very few expect such a large group to make such a commitment of time and money. What if everyone in the friend group did that?! She didn’t say how close to the date people started backing out but I’m sure many said yes at first but then the reality of the commitment hit and they realized it wouldn’t work for them. I can’t even think of 16 people I would ask to make such a trip.
That is not true. Some people have supportive friends. But the issue is not about that. Plans were made based on promises. If they were not interested in going and said, "No one cares about your birthday as much as you do" from the beginning then this would be a different conversation. It's like making a promise, going back on it and then saying "it's your fault for accepting it or expecting me to follow through". Crazy.
Yeah, it sounded exhausting. It’s a good moment for your “friends” to reevaluate whether you’re worth it.
I disagree. It’s not up to other people to decide which milestones and celebrations should be most important to you. As someone who is childfree and not ever planning to get married, my two most important celebrations is when I bought my first home and my upcoming 40th birthday. If my friends care about me at all I would expect them to show up for what is important to me.
That woman should've been charged with public indecency! Or sexual harassment! That is fucking wild! And sooooooo gross!
Agreed! Non-consensually involving other people in your sexual gratification is SA and should be treated seriously. That poor lash tech
I have a feeling that maybe she was secretly filming it for only fans. M-ing herself in front of a total stranger that she treats like furniture (as in she never speaks directly to OP, just expects everything to magically happen whilst she indulges herself) I bet there's some sort of fetish there.
But definitely NOT Most Peak
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Asking your friends to a b-day trip is one thing, adding catering and booking tours is another. That should have been an individual choice.
Always be very upfront about costs before asking for the RSVP. Also ask for a deposit for the RSVP to count. (Even if you decided to pay for accomodation. Basically, If you come, it’s free. If you don’t, you lose the deposit) - Works like a charm.
Absolutely!!
I thought the same thing. It didn't seem like she was upfront about what the expectations for the trip were. You have to be upfront about costs to weed out who really intends to go. I don't go unless I know details upfront regarding costs. You can't assume other people have the same budget as you.
@@kiab2324 2:04 she set an itinerary and cost with the invite what ever else you think about the plan she says was upfront about what the plan was and the RSVPed anyway only the leave her holding the bag for the deposits.
@@sfsin3380 I'm willing to bet people did not open her expenses/itinerary document until after they'd already RSVP'd and she asked for the money.
@@sfsin3380no she said all they needed was spending money, she made it sound like the other stuff was optional
The first story really got me. I am the 'high -earner' of my friend group, I ask my friends to set a budget of the trip. I ask if 200 ok for this, is 400 ok for that? How much are we feeling on plane tickets ANND we plan stuff 4+months out. I also outline what potential costs would be for travel, rental car, and some places of interest we hae a choice to check out. I am a planner by nature and found getting active feedback from your friends helps with these 'money' tensions. No one wants to feel like they can't afford something but if people are truely friends then you should be like " Hey my fun money, spending budget is $500. If we can work that coo and if not, then next time" 9 times out of 10 people will respect it and appericate it.
This lady totally just switched it all up on them! It's crazy to say okay it'll be 250 and then after you've agreed all of these other things start getting added. She ruined her own trip and then she talks crap saying they are making excuses just bc they didn't want to or couldn't afford to pay that much for her freaking birthday.
For real. I'm the low earner now, but I used to be the high earner. It made me feel good to be able to pay for people to come on things when they couldn't afford to. That's what friends are supposed to do as long as they're not being taken advantage of.
Ya, if you want everyone to pay for your birthday party, the arrangements and cost should be discussed beforehand. It sounds like when she asked them, she said she would pay for it then when they got the invite, it had a $250 charge on it.
$5000 is 6 months' rent for me. Bonkers to spend that on a birthday weekend.
Jealous of your rent! ::cries in Southern California::
My mortgage for my little house is $4200 monthly 😢
@@dluvscupcakes I feel your pain. 😭
@@WitchOfTheGlen *stress laughs in Bay Area rent*
@@MsTeaAndCrump3tsin Arizona we can’t even get a rent lower than 1600 lol for a one bedroom apartment 😅 it’s hard out here for college students rn and young adults.
My friends and I went on a girls trip and I was poor so a friend paid for me the whole time. It took a few months, but I totally paid her back. Not every friend will leave you hanging, but I really appreciated that friend. ❤
I hosted my birthday party last year, it was a themed tea party that I and my mum cooked/baked everything for, my sister-in-laws helped me decorate and everyone had over a month notice. People said they were coming. Day of only 4 if my friends showed up and my sister-in-laws. So my aunts came too. My friend group showed me how much they valued me that day. On a different note 2 of those girls who turned up I hadn’t spoken to a lot before that because I moved to a different city and we just sort of fell out of contact. That day rekindled our strong friendship and we talk and see each other so much more now.
Don't cross oceans for people who wouldn't cross puddles for you, know your worth
Excellent point!!!
Well said!
But she expected so much. Just because it was her birthday. Were her friends the Kardashians? Because people usually don't want to take time off work and leave their families for days just because their friend has a birthday nevermind the financial cost. But they should have said yes at first. I would have just said no from the beginning. You can have that ocean and I deal with my own ocean when it comes.
@@mingiinimene3335my thing is it seems that she provided the cost it would be and people still decided to rsvp which is definitely interesting bc don’t rsvp if your not sure yk
@@mingiinimene3335 agreed!
For the first woman, my Dad told me that you're lucky in life if you have one good friend - and it may not be who you think. I'm blessed to have more than one friend and I've learned "best" friend is synonymous with friend at this stage of the game. Having a large TRUE friend group has never been my thing. People are in your life for a reason, season, or a lifetime. For her birthday, do all 16 of the people have money like you do? Now, I'm all about reciprocation so if you find that folks aren't showing up for you, move around. Adulting is expensive. I've learned to give people grace when it comes to spending money. You never know what folks have on their plates. I hope you had a happy birthday and will have many many more.
Yo dad opened 2025 with the quote of the century. No lie detected here. i am all about giving people grace especially since we are not all sharing what type of sheit we might be dealing with behind the scenes that we don't wanna talk about .
But you see it is also responsible and caring to let someone know that participating isn't an option because folk usually know whether they can't pony up the cash upfront or maybe can never actually re-pay.
FACTS. Solid facts.
I don't think the lady made it clear what funds would be needed for the b'day, I mean two if it was for 2 days ,( I glazed over some of it), even $250 is a lot for meals and putting in for a cake, as there's flights, transport, child/pet care, a gift, drinks, misc plus earning less work pay for the week and that is all without accommodation, it's way too much. I think it was over indulgent and as other commenter said all expenses need to be clear and a deposit added the their rsvp as a confirmation from guests beforehand..ensuring all can pay and no one is out of pocket..
@@tash17kidsI agree. From what I understand she told them when she invited them it’s $250. Then once they said yes, she kept adding things. These people probably realized they couldn’t afford the costs anymore.
And you know she’s a bad friend because there were still 4 women who wanted to go and she canceled on them.
This trip wasn’t about having a nice time with friends. It was about clout and bragging.
28:09 Tickle Me Elmo had my DYING!!! 🤣🤣🤣 A+++ to the editor on that one!! *chef’s kiss* 😘👏✊🤌
For my 30th birthday, I planned a big party. I sent out about 60 invitations. This was back in the days before the internet, so I didn't have a solid way of estimating who was coming. I prepared a ton of food, and bought a lot of booze. ONE person showed up, at almost all the food, and left. Then another person showed up, drank almost all my booze, and then passed out on my sofa for 6 hours. NEITHER OF THEM BROUGHT ME A PRESENT! From then on, I gave up on expectations. I take myself out for sushi, buy myself something frivolous, and enjoy a stress free day. My birthday is in June, the weather is always gorgeous, so I usually hang out in a park and people watch for a while. I've never been happier.
That sounds peaceful 🤎
One person ate all the food you made for sixty people and one person drank all the alcohol for sixty people? Huh?
@@kmarch6630well, at least that didn’t go to waste.
How did someone eat enough food for sixty people? It's ok to say you don't have a lot of friends, no shame in it.
@@kmarch6630 Right! I highly doubt that!
What i noticed about the first story was that she wasn't up front from the beginning, that it would cost $250 she said that the air b&b was paid for then when people said they'd go, then she said it would cost that much. I couldn't afford a big birthday party/trip that costs that much, so yeah, i would say i can go until she said i would have to fork out 250 for a big birthday party. X
I wouldn't agree to a trip like that without insisting on contributing something tho. I still think the friends who rsvp'd yes are not very considerate. I'd never plan a huge trip for myself like that either tho, unnecessarily extravagant
she said there was a price list in with the invitation. Register to it and you’ll catch that part.
I would pay something towards it, of course! But springing a trip that big on friends that have kids. Then, get upset when people can't afford it or can't get time off or afford a babysitter. I have a son, and I can't go out on nights out as I can't get a sitter or can't afford to. And I tell them that and not once have they got angry about it. Not everyone is in the same financial situation as you, and I think people forget that.she kinda seems high maintenance.
€250 is half of my monthly budget, how is this normal to ask for a birthday?
That’s a lot of money for a birthday trip and by the time you are 30 you don’t really have a huge group of good friends. My friend group shrunk a lot to people I am close to today.
The lasher: That was intentional exhibitionism and probably planned out for a kink. I’d’ve called the police for sexual harassment. Gross.
SA not harassment
can so pls explain to me what "lashing" in the context here means? ain't native speaking and cant find sth that makes sense to me! What was the appointment about in the first place plse! thx
@@speedysunshineit was an appointment for applying fake lashes like a beauty treatment
@@LiaeleisYeah, just cosmetics! I could see it being confusing because other kinds of lashing go pretty well with… never mind. You get the point.
deffff kink related, 100%
1st story - Wait, so because her friends couldn't afford a lavish ting for a birthday, she decided to cut them off? Child..bye.
I think it’s because they RSVP’d and then backed out in addition to all of the other events they half-a**’d or didn’t attend at all. It seemed like a culmination of things and this was just the straw that broke the camel’s back.
To be honest Charlotte that’s one of the many reasons I follow you. You’re humble, respectful, and you appreciate your listeners and the ones who follow you. It shows!! Keep up the good work we love you!!
The Karen at the drive through??? Someone wanted cash. Seriously why are people so entitled.
My thoughts exactly, but I wouldn’t let the Potato Queen stand in line. But if you’re raised right and you’re not entitled you understand life is what you make it. Don’t take advantage of others kindness.
Last Story: That woman and her husband knows exactly what they were doing.
I use to work for a call center for a very known prepaid cell phone company (think purple and orange), which was later bought out by a even larger company. A woman "customer" called in for assistance on her account while in the middle of the deed with her man. She never could access the account. According to the company, i was not allow to hang up. In the end, the man answered, f'd *phone company* name and hung up.
People are sick.
Yes that was absolutely on purpose. I remember the one repeat kink caller from my time in a credit card call center. Employees should be able to hang up on and ban people like this.
👏👏 exactly this. It was sexual assault
Mentally ill perverts…
I was about to say the same thing. I had a similar experience and this person just started sendinfg me hc home corn through Instagram. I think that's the kink. Getting people to watch and be repulsed by the act. It is a power play.
Should sue the work for sexual harassment in the workplace
The birthday situation had me wondering if there’s such a thing as a “birthdayzilla”.
Yes yes there is. The first woman embodies birthdayzilla.
LOL there is now! Congrats on inventing a new word, love it!
Yep!!!
for real i got a stomach ache not long into her story
Came here to say this!
Girl you deserve to be celebrated the way you want to be. I pray you are blessed with friends in the future that show you are valued.
My dad told me one time that if I can get through to the end of my life with one or two people who are my forever friends, I would be lucky. I found that he is completely correct. Friends will come into your life for a reason or for a season, but very few of them will be around through everything and forever. It takes both people to care enough to keep a friendship going through moving to different cities or towns, marriages, children, and other changes and distractions. Most of the time, you just lose touch. It's sad, but true.
As a mom with a son and daughter, BOTH of my kids did chores around the house. By grade 9 they both did their own laundry. I even structured part of their allowance around extra chores. Both have to be in the real world, and knowing how to care for your home is part of it. They even each helped me cook dinner once a week; they chose the meal.
Love this!!
I'm 32, but i started cooking at home for the whole family when I was around 12years.
I was picky & started to make foods I liked to eat myself. My my noticed & told me I would get 1$ for every meal I made not only for myself but for the whole family.. I cooked a lot for the last years before I moved out from home when I was 18..
Parents need to understand that life skills do not just fall from the sky when the kid turns 18. You actually need to physically teach them what to do, how & why..
I can't stand mothers who don't teach their kids anything esp boys. Idk if they refuse to think at that at some point their son will move
Right? They need to learn how to take care of a home before they move into their own. In my case cleaning house also turned into how I make a living. I'll never be rich but I've also never been out of work, I'm debt free and can pay my bills. I also get to exercise and listen to music while I work, lol.
Definitely a good thing for them to know/do chores. I know someone who doesn't know how to do laundry. She's 25 😬
This is called parenting. It’s not easy if you don’t parent from the beginning.
That lady in the drive-through paid with a gift card, complained about the smoothie, and wanted a cash refund. It wasn't about anything other than her trying to get cash for the gift card. That's why she wouldn't give her the gift card to scan for the refund, and the recording was to try and intimidate her for the cash.
So who posted the recording? The Karen?
Woah I was so confused. Had no idea people do that… scammers always find a way to scam
@@freezing5 yup
@dinahselah6364 the cashier is asking for the gift card to scan and the lady recording says "Just give me the cash"
@@dinahselah6364the cashier said gift card in the recording, several times and then the lady said ‘just give me the cash’. in most drive through restaurants, the cashier isn’t the one making the smoothie anyways, so it doesn’t make sense that she is refusing to do so, more context is needed.
27:40 Charlotte freaking out for a whole 2 minutes was the best moment of this video.
How do you ask a client to not do “that”? You remove the lashes, tell them they are disgusting and to get out immediately. They have a problem with it? Call the cops.
That story was unbelievably disgusting. I mean, just when you think you’ve heard it all. 😳🤢🤮
No you just walk out immediately. You don’t give them any procedure or treatment or try to finish your task quickly. Just a “what you’re doing is against the law, your treatment time is over, please leave. You are banned from this establishment.
@@jonanna1894I'm scared. I'm not at that point in the video yet...
The second she swiped herself and you knew it wasn't just an itch. "Discontinue or I'll send you out with incomplete treatment." Also, even without that recording- it's ok to lie in that scenario. Tell them they're being recorded, and you'll send your video feed to the police. Having people in your home is somewhat intimate. It's parallel with sexual consent. Just because it seemed ok at first, doesn't mean you can't revoke consent the immediate second you feel uncomfortable or disrespected. Enh.😳
That poor lash tech! If she was too nervous to kick her out at the very least, charge her a cleaning fee for your table and towels. Also, a fee to cover your next appointment stating that you didn't have sufficient time to properly clean before your next appointment. Let her know there are cameras for everyone's safety. Once you get the payment, let her know she's banned. Absolutely disgusting!! I feel so awful for her!
It's ok to fire a client.
My reaction would be: EXCUSE ME! THAT IS GROSS! GTFO NOW!!!!
Sorry, not sorry, I would be so grossed out, and my reaction would be immediate and not pleasant!
@cozettapierce8239 agreed! I would've immediately kicked her out! I can't fault her for being nervous to say anything, though.
So many things she could have done to get her out! Zero sympathy
@@SM-hk7xs it's sad that you have zero sympathy for a young woman trying to establish her business, confronted with a sexual abusive situation in her own home. she did not know how to handle it and from what i can tell still has not quite understood the full extent to which this was actually a higly abusive and manipulative situation. I feel VERY sorry for her and fully empathise with the fact hat she did not know how to speak up or protect herself at the time. never victim blame.
That last one was SO UNHINGED AAAAAAA OOOOHHH MY GOOOODDDDDD!! We gotta stand up for ourselves! The money ain't worth it!!
Let this be our New Year's resolution, fellow potatoes!
That is assault. Think about it if a man was doing it, they would call it assault.
@@twiztidclownkilleryou're absolutely right! They used her sexually for their kink without her consent.
@@twiztidclownkiller that’s exactly what it was. She and her husband knew exactly what they were doing. They got their rocks off by doing that in front of a stranger who didn’t consent. I would’ve thrown her out way before it got to that point, but even if I didn’t, I’d call the police once she starting doing that to herself
@@twiztidclownkiller I almost said it but yes you are on my level my guy
I can't even fathom spending $3,000+ for a birthday. Sheesh.
29:40 You say, "Excuse me, ma'am, but what you're doing is disgusting and you need to go. Now." Don't give them an opportunity to stay or "correct the problem". If a man did that, they'd be arrested for a myriad of charges (and rightfully so), so why on Earth would this woman think she'd be exempt from that same consequence?
I can’t imagine hosting an event celebrating a moment in my life and expecting my guests to pay for anything!😮
I would buy my friend's dinner on her bday, and a gift. That's it. We're adults now, nobody cares about birthdays lol
@ is a good friend
Nah, my friends and I aren't rich. So we split everything, regardless of the occassion (someone's birthday, or christmas or bachelorette). We're there because we all want to experience it together. Not cause we want to splurge for one friend.
That was my thoughts as well. I would feel it was terribly rude to invite people to my party and ask them to pay for it!
I've gone on a few girls trips, local and far away, and they were fantastic! The key: we PLANNED TOGETHER. It wasn't one person dictating what we all did. Everyone was invested. And yes, go with a smaller group of your closer friends. That's just going to be better because you know each other well, you are more comfortable communicating and respecting each other's wishes, and larger groups of people are always harder to coordinate.
The last one... like WHAT THE ACTUAL??? No!! Woman up, man up, get up and throw the whole client out of the window!!
As someone who worked for victim support, I think some of you are overseeing the fact that the lash tech was in survival mode. You don’t chose the flight, fight or freeze/fawn response you experience. Your body chooses for you. Even if you encounter the same thing twice, you can respond differently. It could be she had a freeze or fawn (then you cooperate so the dangerous situation passes without getting hurt/faster) response; this is the most traumatising response there is because a) it comes from “laying dead” from the time where humans were still prey and b) secondairy victimisation (“why didn’t you say no”). I myself have witnessed public indecency at night at a scary train station and I fled, afraid to get SA’d. Rationally I would have called the cops but it didn’t cross my mind, even though I worked at victim support at thay time. So please don’t judge this young woman. Please keep the guilt where it belongs. Don’t make her experience secundairy victimisation. (Sorry for the bad english, not a native speaker)
"Moom": A mixture between a womb and a room, i.e. an adult man's place when they live with their mom 😂😂😂
Absolutely love starting a new year off with CharLOTTE!
Charlot
Happy New Year!!!
Story 1: Why was she expecting her friends want to pay $100s or even $1,000s and take time off work to go to her over the top birthday party? My God - make reservations at a nice restaurant and go for dinner.
Srsly. That was a crazy expectation!
I missed that... I thought it was a wedding or bachelorette . WHAT THE FUCK.
I agree it is expected too much. However, they didn't have to agree. They rsvp'd yes and then backed out. That's the rude part in my opinion.
@@jomc6734 yes to this!
@ but THEN the birthday girl asked for $250 more. Nobody likes a bait & switch.
I have 2 teenage boys and they are taught everything around the house from settling the table to cooking to clothes washing and ironing. I want my boys to be able to live independently and not rely on a woman.
I did this, too. Taught how to do laundry and cleaning in grade school, cooking later. Now they cook more than me.
Your sons will likely be shocked to discover that women have some of the filthiest homes on the planet. The current narrative pushes that women clean, and men ignore the basics, but it’s simply not true.
This! As someone who shared a dormroom kitchen & bathroom with young men who set fire to our oven because they didn't know how to warm up a frozen pizza, constantly tried to invite themselves to share other peoples' meals, shipped dirty laundry home to mommy via DHL and called me (a plumbers daughter) to unclogg their toilet - only the have the audacity to tell me that my cooking and looks would make me 'wifey material', but my feminism was offputting - I have vowed to raise my boys to be better. My oldest is only three but helps around the house, knows how to crack and fry and egg (under supervision!) and loves baking. That's more than some fellow students could so back then and that should make these guys ashamed.
I had 2 boys 2 girls. Everyone did chores. Everyone helped.
Thank you for raising competent people!
I dont blame the people who backed out of your bday. It's your birthday and it's really only important to you! No one owes you anything. These going away bday/Bachelorette etc..parties are ridiculous. If you foot the bill, fine let's go, but if I'm forking out thousands, leave me out!!
We had a huge group get together this past year for tennessee jeep invasion. 1 friend put her card down for the lodge ( which could have bankrupt her) she tallied how much it would cost for each person, and everyone paid her monthly to be paid off b4 the trip. She was smart though. The deal was anyone that backed out after a certain date was still locked into paying monthly unless they found someone to take over their spot. We had a couple drop off but still paid . She made it clear and in text so she had recourse if anything went left. You have to . Friends or not you need it in writing. Oh and there where activities she was getting tickets for in advance but it was not mandatory anyone participated in activities. If u wanted to participate you paid ahead, if not you didn't . Pretty simple.
@@2lilangelwingz and this is why we don’t coordinate group trips. As one person said… and Charlotte agreed… book your thang and then if they want to come along, they book their thang.
Almost 4K dollars for a birthday? Either I'm really easy to please, or this lady needs to get her priorities straight
Treat yourself
What are you talking about "get her priorities straight"? Her priority on her birthday is herself as it should be. You want so hard to be right at something & prove you have some sort of moral high ground, but you're jealousy is showing.
Some people love themselves too much. I could never imagine myself asking my friends to do all if this for my birthday.
It took me a sec to realize..this is for her birthday 😂
I’m glad I wasn’t alone in thinking that it was a bit much.
Neither would I. But neither would I confirm such an rsvp and then ditch out later.
I mentioned to my friends that I wanted to take a trip for my bday this year b/c hey, I kicked breast cancer in the ass last year and it's a milestone birthday. I said if they want to come with fine, but by no means did I set up a "we are doing all this and you will accommodate me." In fact, I've been getting their input along the way and being pretty flexible about activities. My only big asks were, min two countries (Flying into Switzerland and taking the train into Italy, flying to Austria and home), with a stop in the Po Valley to see where my grandfather served in WWII. I say that to say, why all the drama?
Shes allowed to love herself that much to plan an awesome trip. It would be different if she didn’t pay and got mad they didn’t have the money. This just seems like these friends don’t like her that much. She’s not frfr at fault in this situation and they aren’t frfr either but definitely shouldn’t be bashed for wanting to do a trip 😅
I screamed at the last one!!...And then i went looking for the video 🤣 i really just can't. There are no words to describe how traumatizing and ludacris this sh*t is.
Just sitting here in MI watching Charlotte, in my "We Move in the Shadows" shirt; knowing my best friend in GA is doing the same, drinking her coffee from her "We Move in the Shadows" mug. ❤❤
We love you Charlotte!!! 💗
For my 30th, I was in my local pubs and two of my best friends bought me a cute little cake. We drank a few shots and just chilled hanging out with some other locals. It was nice and chill.
wild to me that someone needs to go out of town and spend ten grand on their 30th bday
like you’re another year older as an adult lmao
wheeee!
that girl was doing too fucking much and expecting a lot
i get most of the people she invited were not close friends. no one has SIXTEEN besties ya know
This is perfect! There’s different “levels” of this setting. If you’re a low key person vs a high maintenance person and anything in between. Either way, a night like this would be so much easier for all compared to the rodeo birthday party.
Some people think their birthday is more special than what it actually is! For my 30th, I invited everyone to a restaurant and let them know they would have to pay for their meal and drinks if they wanted to come. Two people said they couldn't afford it, and I said no problem. I didn't hold it against them. I also told everyone not to buy me gifts, just your company is all I need. It was a great time, and a few came back to my house for drinks. Probably cost each person about $60.
I did not celebrate my 30th.
Mom insisted we celebrate the 30th anniversary of my diabetes diagnosis, though! Three decades of this condition is something to acknowledge, I guess
The lash person’s customer was doing that because that’s their kink. It wasn’t chance; it was deliberate. It was set up.
Yes and it was sexual assault
25:20 Honestly, I’m here to vent. Because as a previous barista of an “unnamed” coffee shop with a popularly “fast” drive thru. THIS POOR GIRL. There were so many days I would go home from work and want to end it, because so many customers come with the intent to find something wrong or be unhappy with their service or order. Mind you, you CANNOT according to U.S. health and safety codes (for a lot of state) cross contaminate people foods or drinks with strangers… the floor… be dirty ass straw… and oh, they typically train you to NEVER TAKE BACK A CUSTOMERS ORDER and place it back into any container that will touch someone’s else food or drink. She wanted her smoothie double blended. She wanted it perfectly and thoroughly blended. She probably saw a single banana clump or ice chip and lost it. And wanted it done at the drive thru. They’re not going to re-fucking-blend a beverage she already took and probably crammed her dirty little straw in. And if someone ever has, they were probably young, new, or too intimidated or tired to say no. You have to be nice to these customers and policy in MOST PLACES I worked is to give a full refund. You’re rewarded for making a scene. You’re refunded for complaining and harassing employees. For a long time, I couldn’t afford to quit the job and had no other skills or knowledge to support myself. And then you’d go to work and have to call CPS for the woman yelling and slapping her kids in the backseat WHILE IN THE drive thru… (to get her cheese danish toasted again because “IT WAS RAW.” God, those were the days.) if you made it this far, of course I’m not mad at you. I’m mad with you 😂 And thank you for listening to me vent. Not gonna lie, I do feel a lot better now.
This. Why are we forced to reward bad behavior. I hate it.
Yeah I think everyone saying that the woman really just wanted her smoothie blended has not had to deal with the public in customer service. It’s soul draining
I was 11/12 when I took on ALL cleaning and cooking duties for our family 😭
I was “raised” to be the perfect housewife. Meanwhile dudes want an award for making their own bed 😂
Oh tell me about it. The first week that my sister and I were both no longer at home, my father bought my mother a dishwasher. Still had brothers at home who were more than tall enough to reach the sink, but noooooo, washing dishes was just too much to ask of them.
@@katiekat2921 hahaha when i bought our house the first thing the kids noticed was no dishwasher... my response was I'm looking at them. They all have since moved out and I bought my wife a dishwasher but she uses it once a month
I was 12 when I was forced to take on cooking duties.. I don't really cook anymore. I hate it.
For the first video, I think it depends on how much the friends were willing to pay versus how much the OP kept adding on. It seemed like she was adding on more and more to make the party great, but that adds more to what the friends needed to chip in. With the cost of flights and the additions the OP was wanting, it could have ended up costing thousands.
I feel like OP needs to accept that she can have true friends, but that doesn’t mean they need to spend thousands on her birthday. If she is willing to do that, that is great, but not everyone can afford that. This is especially true for people with kids. With this economy, if I have an extra couple thousand to spend, I would rather take my kids on vacation than spend it on my friend’s birthday. That doesn’t mean I don’t love my friend. It means, the few thousand I can spare, I would want it to go to my family for a joint experience rathe than a singular event that I’m participating in.
Amen! This broad is being selfish and self-centered!
RE: the birthday girl - She and I are definitely from two different worlds. Thinking a small busload of people can manage and afford a trip like that at the age of 30? Honey, by 25, most of my friends had families and careers to worry about. Yes, at 16, 20 of us could easily get together and do all kinds of stuff at any time. But, after becoming adults with responsibilities, we were lucky if maybe 5 of us who still lived in the same town could all manage to get together for a few hours at someone's house for cheap/free pizza and beer. In my mid-40s now, I'm lucky if I can get one local friend to go out for lunch. Heck, I don't even have kids, and I've had to pass on trips multiple times because I couldn't find a pet sitter. Grownups are busy and broke these days. Unless you and your entire friend group are independently wealthy and single, you might want to temper your expectations. But, fwiw, if I was one of the friends who did RSVP and pay the deposit, I would have told her not to refund my money after she canceled. I would have told her to keep it and consider it my birthday gift to her.
I hear ya. Also child free but have to hire a pet sitter to look after my cats and keep an eye on my house. Love your solution for the selfish birthday girl!
That lash story traumatized ME. Just by listening 🤣 I hope the lash tech is doing so amazing.
I relate with the first story a little bit - minus the expense of all that money. It was quite the opposite for me and that made it all the more hurtful. It was my eighteenth birthday, I planned a small get together - dinner and a movie with a few close friends. 6 became 5, 5 became 4, 4 became 3 and it got to the point where I was moved to tears. I know some had genuine reasons for not being able to make it, one or two may have lied, whilst my former best friend was upfront and said "I'm not going", because she would have rather been at a club, being fully aware that I hate clubbing and alcohol.
Fast forward 12+ years and I don't have any of them in my life anymore. If you're a young person reading this, please don't wait until your late 20s/early 30s to recognise and break away from any level of toxicity. On a lighter note, happy new year everyone 😅
I hear you. My best friend went to a club BEFORE my 21st party with 3 other mutual friends and arrived late with offering no help with set up or anything. That's when I found out she really wasn't my best friend. Don't talk to any of these people anymore either. People who don't give a lot, aren't worth it
All my friends went to the Movies on my 16th birthday, without even asking me if I wanted to go. I was really really hurt.
As you age you learn that friends come and go.
When you get to be my age, your circle becomes small.
Like Charlotte says, quality over quantity.
@@blondegiraffe2023 100% not worth it at all. It really takes an event of celebration to see people's true colours.
@@babybear9443 Initally I liked your comment as I do sometimes out of habit but there's nothing to "like", in what you said I'm sorry that happened to you and hopefully you have found people worthy of being called your friends.
Good Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤ Happy New Year Everyone! 🎉🎊🥳🎆🥂
The scream that I screamt on that last one... 😱😱😱😱😱
Good morning!
Good morning! Happy New Year!
Good evening from the UK and happy new year 🎉
Happy New Year
Happy New Year🎉
Regarding the first story: It sounds like the friends were fine with paying for their own plane flights, and their own meals, but then the birthday girl kept adding more, and more expenses for the ATV rental, the caterer, the decorator, etc. that the friends weren't expecting. The cost really started adding up and became so expensive and way over the friends' budgets. It sounds like they agreed to the trip, and then were told about all the extra expenses AFTER they had already RSVP'd. You can't spring all that stuff on them AFTER they RSVP.
I would agree if it wasn't a pattern for her "friends" consistently not showing up for her. Time to cut people off.
This girl thinks the world revolves around her. I bet she is exhausting to be friends with
@@aleathacoleman6413then why would she do a big trip with them? If she knows they consistently cancel, why was this a good idea? That’s on her then.
Right! She said she would pay then they get the invite and there is a $250 charge. I wonder how many she invited. 16 rsvp'ed. That alone would be $4000. Sounds like she tried to get them to pay for everything after saying she would. The old bait and switch!
For story 1, I definitely understand how she feels, because I used to be that person. But what I've learned about myself is that when I was going through really deep depression, my mom had an illness, and I was in an abusive relationship, I stopped being a good friend who showed up to things, because I was deeply depressed. Sometimes it's not personal, sometimes people are just going through things, and are afraid to talk about it with you for fear of looking weak. And then sometimes people are taking advantage. Sometimes you have to do a little bit of digging to figure out which friends have my back but are going through things, and which people are not really there for me.
I've also learned too that you are much happier if you just give out of the love of giving, instead of giving with the hope of getting back in return. It helps you to stop keeping score, but also forces you to only give when it feels real.
That first story frustrates me. Instead of cancelling the trip and going no contact with everyone... Why not downsize the trip and keep it going with the few friends who did RSVP and did pay for everything in advance? Like don't throw out the good ones with the bad ones...
Because this was about clout and bragging.
I love that color blue on you! It makes your hair and eyes pop!!!
Michelle, its a pretty Blue, could become trendy this year
19:33 maybe your friend uses your name like "I’m with my friend Charlotte Dobre and she is super famous with millions of followers" and that’s how she convinced them to let both of you in lol 😅
😂😂😂😂this is actually so fun haha
Girl, you look absolutely gorgeous in that color with your hair! You should wear that color more often ❤❤
Charlotte’s take on that first Lady is absolutely wild to me. Yes people going back on what they said is problematic but so is Not telling people how much money they’re going to have to spend before they agreed to do something. Also telling them to bring spending money but then demanding that they give you not only $250 upfront, but also that they have to go out and buy luxury pajamas to come to your event.
When I plan an event I pay for that event. I don’t plan an event and ask other people to pay for it. I find it so crazy that people will plan events and then be like “yeah give me money for it.”
ALSO I don’t even spend $250 on my kids for their birthdays what kind of entitled self-righteous crazy person demands that other people pay $250 on their birthday? What kind of consumerism hell do I live in where people think that they deserve $250 plus a gift plus me buying luxury pajamas plus me flying out to them for a birthday??? It’s giving “gimme gimme gimme”
She said she sent a cost literary with the RVSP. So, everyone who did agree to come knew exactly how much they would need to pay. They're just assholes
Mam if you’re an entitled princess, just say so😂🙄 no one is an asshole for not wanting to $300+ on someone else’s birthday 😂 get outta here with your entitlement
@@Bambi-ek7lv this
I'm with you I'm old but for my 30th I went out with 2 of my friends for a nice dinner, went to a couple bars and got a hotel room for the night. We split all the costs equally had a great time that we all still remember....I don't get all the over the top stuff
I agree with you 100%. First story is ridiculous, and I love Charlotte, but her take does demonstrate that she has forgotten what it's like, or never knew what it's like to not be able to afford frivolous stuff. Some people have a tight budget day to day. Wild to expect to expect people to prioritise yoir wants over their needs.
30:53 This was a sexual assault IMO I would have called the police. The fact they were on loud speaker tells me they liked her knowing what they were doing. 😮I can't believe she stayed for that. I would have walked out on her. 😡
Exactly! ✌️
Aye, this needed to be reported at the very least to hopefully discourage them from doing it again to someone else, or to establish a history so that if they do it to someone else there's evidence showing its repeat behavior. It's so beyond the pale I would worry that in the future they might escalate and she might have him come to an appointment in person while they do this stuff, especially if they feel they've gotten away with what they've done here. x.x I would stay only long enough to sneak a video so that there's some proof and then say I forgot some supplies in the other room and call the police.
@@crimsonfirelily 😣
@@Emobunneh 😫My brain immediately wanted to reject it as a lie, she was smart for the video
100%
29:52 That is ASSAULT. That is literally SA. You call the police. This girl probably had a fawn response, I hope she's doing okay
The woman recording the smoothie maker just gave the internet proof that the worker gave her a refund. So now when she tries to complain to management worker has proof.
Story 1: There's a saying I heard once that i think is relevant here. "If you have more than a handful of close friends, you really have zero close friends." It's just impossible to have a close level of friendship with that many people and maybe you're a bit underestimating what "close friends" means.
Honestly, it's really entitled to think more than a handful of people will shell out that kind of money for your birthday. Plus she "lost her friend group" over it? Why? Because she threw a fit that people aren't coming?
Also, she's on the hook for those who wanted to go and lost money, because she canceled the trip because only 4 people could go instead of her unrealistic expectations.
"i've come to the realization that I don't have the friends that I think that I have."
Yeah, no shit. NOBODY has that many friends. Acquaintances? Sure. Friendly associates? Absolutely. But friends, especially ones willing to spend thousands for you? LOL, girl, NO.
The fact she canceled on the friends who were still going just wow. And then says she has no friends. Slap in their faces.
Another fact of life...work friends aren't really your friends. Maybe one or two, but when you change jobs they will fall away.
The woman with the 30th birthday was bananas to plan such a crazy party. Who needs that? If you can afford it, pay for everything or just tone it down. Maybe a big party or a trip? 16 people? It sounded exhausting.
30 is when you start dropping exhausting friends and it sounds like birthday girl might be exhausting and the friends already have her at low contact. So no contact might not even be noticeable to the “friends”.
It's rude to make plans then cancel them at the last minute. No one should have to show up for everyone and have them not show up for you.
I have the same take. I would never expect a friend to spend $250+ on my birthday. Maybe she has all that money to throw around (or overspends) but not everyone does.
No lie, if I got that invitation, there is no way in hell I RSVP, lol.
@@aleathacoleman6413we also don't know the other side of the story.
@@aleathacoleman6413 it is rude, so anyone who does this is telling you they don’t consider you a close friend. I don’t understand throwing a party trip as a friendship test that comes with a 250 dollar price tag.
When you are planning a party for your own self… people would prefer to plan a vacation that costs them money… for their OWN plans. You chose the activities, you chose the rental, you chose a cake, you picked the location…. People don’t have extra money to spend on other people’s vacation plans. She’s the jerk.
If you are throwing yourself a party, try doing something that doesn’t require people to spend their vacation money on it. ✌🏼
She’s even more of a jerk for canceling on those true friends who paid her the 250 and had bought their tickets to the destination.
Except at 2:04 she claims she sent the itinerary with costs when she sent the invitation/RSVP request. If this is true they complete AH for RSVPing yes and then dropping out.
@@sfsin3380Sixteen people she thought would pay $250 each and their time off for her birthday…. Her plans, her choice, her location. I don’t get it. Even for my own wedding, I paid for the dresses and events. Birthday party for me… entry is $250? Just no.
Yea. The friends had relatively good reasons for not going. One said she didn't want to be triggered into drinking, which gives the impression that is a problem. I wouldn't want to put my friend in a position like that. Also, trying to find a sitter to go away for a vacation is not only hard but really expensive. This woman's expectations were way to high.
@@XCaptianXChaosX agree 💯. Who does this? Who plans these trips for a birthday asking 16 likely acquaintances to pay and follow your itinerary? Throw a destination party? Want a wedding cake for your bday? Day trips and events? Prepare to pay for it yourself or don’t expect 16 people to be down for it.
The first story is why I don't plan birthday parties for myself. You quickly find out who your real friends are.
If she thinks those friends can't love her the way she wants to be loved, perhaps she needs richer friends. Her financial expectations are unreasonable.
Right! Sitting there with her Van Cleef bracelet talking about she lost $3,000 on a failed birthday trip. In this economy?? She definitely needs richer friends.
I think it's more about people rsvping to make the commitment & then dropping out on her when it's getting too late into the game rather than being honest. I'm sure she didn't expect everyone to go, but I'm sure a conversation could have gone a long way.
Nah, people just shouldn’t rsvp to go somewhere and then cancel last minute.
@@Suedepants100she kept adding costs after they already agreed.
@@Mama_Bear524 Yeah, that's the impression I got as well.
For this past birthday I rented a hotel room in my city with enough beds for 6, scheduled things I wanted to do during the week, invited folx, and people showed up when they could with no expectations to be there for everything or gifts given. It was amazing!! Folx who showed up were able to be more mentally present and relaxed. 15/10 absolutely recommend
Sounds very chill and a relaxed approach, good for you! So glad you had a good time!
Also, not sure if you meant folks, but if so it’s spelled folks not folx (I’m not wanting to sound rude, I just know that some people find it helpful to be informed with these things. I hope I’m not being offensive or rude.)
2:50 that was too much for someone to plan for they own birthday. Idk it definitely is too much
Maybe they’ve never had a bday like that.
I’ve never had a bday party. N if I had the money I’d plan something similar but more money conscious
Never been on a girls trip, but I was the only girl on a boys trip (engineers) to Vegas. We had one rule, money will be spent. The one guy that refused to spend ended up with a suitcase full of interesting business cards stuck in EVERY possible place. These guys were like children trying to find ladies up and down the strip to get as much variety and quantity. The level of glee and petty, 20 years later and it still makes me smile.
My son is 3 and he is already cooking with me! This boy is gonna know how to help his future partner! ❤️
Happy New Year from a very hungover fan in Scotland xx
Happy New Year
Hello! I’m hungover in California 👋🏾 I need to remember that I’m 40 and can’t hang like I used to 😵
@@dluvscupcakes 47 here.... And feeling like 90 lol
So my cat is lazing in the sun on her perch at the window, just all boujee...
And my partner says to her, "are you acting entitled? Shall we ask Charlotte if you're acting entitled?"
I clapped and squeed.
I got my partner listening to Charlotte with me now 😍
Happy New Year, petty potatoes! Lots of love to you all ❤️🔥
That first story. I went through something similar where I paid for concert tickets to see Korn, Limp Bizkit and a few other bands during the late 90s for my 17th birthday. Four tickets, plus a limo to take us to and from the venue. Only one person showed. We had a good time, though!
Am so sick with the flu right now and couldn’t be more grateful for our Petty Queen’s new video
Thank you
Happy new year
I hope you get well soon 😊
Get well soon! Take time for rest and healing 😊
Feel better bestie!!! ❤
Hope you feel better very soon! Happy New Year🎉
Happy New Year! I hope you feel better soon
omg first offf HAPPY NEW YEAR CHARLOTTTT
and secondly - the rant about being a girl having to do everything and brother sitting gaming... girlie pop i felt that in my soul. IN MY SOUL. i am not sure why i am surprised you had the same experience!!! but literally word for word my childhood being in between 2 boys. and honestly still now lmao.
First story probably expected presents on top of all the expensive stuff she planned (ATV TOUR? CATERING?)
Probably a $500 present! LOL!
As a person who doesn't have friends, I stopped having them when my friends decided traveling was how they gauged their commitment to eachother. I learned from Summer camps that being dropped off in a place you paid for wasn't fun, it's a commitment that many will ruin because they had a bad morning or a bad food or even being bumped into, boom trip ruined. You don't know trapped till your a kid with zero boundaries skills and a group of girls tweezing your eyebrows to lines because your mom dropped you off at a 2k camp, and they're doing it cause it's "best you at least look like a girl" for a single dance that doesn't even have boys our age at it. 😢 please look after your own peace, it's free.
22:22 LOL my 6-1/2 yr old even makes his own bed! Mind him he doesn’t do it very well yet, but he does it without me asking and every time I walk by his room and see his little blankets and pillows propped up on his bed, it makes me smile so big 😁🥰🥳
So glad some people raise their kids right 🙂Make sure he learns to cook too, he'll be a chick/guy magnet ;-)
It’s amazing how in the 21st-century there is a new group of people who say “Do you know who I Am!” (influencers) And yet, there are people on social media (like Charlotte) who daily point out that nobody cares who you are.
And they still use that line.
I once worked in a small pet store. We had a loyalty program based on trust. They had to tell me their name and I looked it up from our computer. Every time some local celebrity was unpleasant with me, I asked for their name. Just because it would make them upset that I didn't know who they were. 😂
Girl, the older you get, the smaller the circle of besties. At 53, I have like the “trusted trio” and we cherish the occasional times we get to be together, make it a no pressure, near the beach totally chill fun fest. My ride or die babes forever. ❤ Charlotte, blue sweater = perfect accentuation of your already gorgeous red hair. Beautiful!!!
That first story is WILD and horribly rude. The woman is 100% ENTIRELY entitled and going no contact with her friends would be such a gift to them! 🤣🤣🤣🤣