How To Stop Being So Sensitive

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  • See, it's not about you and how you feel is only secondary. Our focus should shift on how other people feel about themselves. In this episode, I will share to you my ideas and thoughts on how to stop being so sensitive.
    00:14 Emotional sensitivity
    01:12 Bridles
    02:24 What tips you off?
    04:37 Rethink the triggers
    06:48 It's all about me vs them
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КОМЕНТАРІ • 498

  • @D_a_234
    @D_a_234 4 роки тому +580

    I hate it when I'm trying to argue with someone and I just start crying all of a sudden. It's terrible cause I can barely get my point out. It gets annoying after some time.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +53

      Duddu, pause, take a deep breath and look up. Practice some breathing. This gets things under control so you can continue.

    • @Christa-tl8jb
      @Christa-tl8jb 3 роки тому +72

      Same here...I don’t get it and it’s so frustrating bc the person you’re arguing with probably thinks you’re a big sensitive baby when really you’re so angry

    • @isabellaa5678
      @isabellaa5678 3 роки тому +5

      @@Christa-tl8jb LITERALLY me too

    • @killmessiah
      @killmessiah 3 роки тому +1

      felt

    • @skiderman1103
      @skiderman1103 3 роки тому +2

      yeah just dealed with it rn

  • @georgastyles4202
    @georgastyles4202 3 роки тому +214

    I think I am overly sensitive but I also think some people are insensitive so it’s not always me, I think low self esteem and my insecurity makes me sensitive

    • @DoingLifeToday
      @DoingLifeToday 3 роки тому +12

      Was watching the video and saw your comment - I can totally relate - I just did a video on boost low self esteem - check it out if you can it may help. 💗

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +33

      Georga Styles, there will always be insensitive people. We can't control that. The only thing we can control is how we respond.

    • @jaybae7315
      @jaybae7315 2 роки тому +2

      Understood

  • @laur5648
    @laur5648 4 роки тому +216

    my friends always say that i’m sensitive so imma try to fix that-

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +20

      hot dumbie, I am glad you are open to some feedback, hope it is successful.

    • @joycebarrera6454
      @joycebarrera6454 3 роки тому +13

      SAME my family says that too

    • @saifbakri2003
      @saifbakri2003 3 роки тому +15

      You need to take into consideration if your friend is a narcissist BE CAREFUL

    • @domdombombom87
      @domdombombom87 3 роки тому +1

      felt

    • @sasharemez7373
      @sasharemez7373 3 роки тому +3

      That is me. And over time it gets worse. I got so sensitive I started to avoid people cuz I didn’t like feeling this way. I am working through this right now and it feels liberating

  • @sorrynotsorry9056
    @sorrynotsorry9056 4 роки тому +282

    I overthink a lot when someone says something to me I need to stop being so sensitive 😭

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +16

      sorrynotsorry, I hope the video is helpful.

    • @hayley1868
      @hayley1868 3 роки тому +26

      I know the feeling... I mean if something happens I always feel that I am the cause of it and I can't stop crying like a baby even if I am 24 and working primary teacher.

    • @zah1raml
      @zah1raml 3 роки тому +7

      I know just how you feel, feeling that right now lol

    • @hayley1868
      @hayley1868 3 роки тому +5

      @@zah1raml Sorry to hear that sister

    • @glossiangelz
      @glossiangelz 3 роки тому +3

      That’s exactly me..and when I try to tell my friends that they get pissed and aggressive saying I’m dumb like “ARE YOU STUPID? WHY WOULD U LET THEM GET TO YOU?”

  • @ERICA850
    @ERICA850 2 роки тому +4

    My husband told me I was too sensitive when he would say something hurtful and critical. Now I say, that's just your opinion and how your are speaking to me right now says a lot more about you then it does about me. He no longer treats me so harshly. Thank you Dr Paul

  • @lilyai4062
    @lilyai4062 3 роки тому +22

    Thank you so much! This helped me a lot. I'm really sensitive about a lot of things and they sort of just pile up overtime and i think about them constantly. And cry because of remembering what happened, how I could've done better, etc.
    But what you said just now, "if it were someone else, the same thing would've happened to them too." And that "being sensitive isn't a bad thing."
    I really needed this
    Thanks so much. It clears up my worries a little bit better and possibly come up with a solution too. :))
    Your voice is so soothing too tbh!

  • @heatherhealy315
    @heatherhealy315 4 роки тому +37

    Haven’t even watched it. I already know that I need it and will love it. Thank you Dr. Paul! I am having more and more parenting wins, thanks to your helpful videos Dr. Paul.
    Thank goodness for you.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      You are so welcome! Heather Healy, honored to be on your team.

  • @relaxationdaily
    @relaxationdaily 3 роки тому +31

    This is brilliant. Absolutely brilliant. It's been brought to my attention recently that I've been too sensitive with one of my friends. Now I'm not gonna change who I am for someone. Or anyone for that matter. But I have noticed that I've been scrutinizing little details of the interactions between us, which is causing me to be way more overly sensitive than I need to be. I realize after watching this video I am taking it too personally, much more than I need to be, because really the interactions of my friend is just the way she is. Kind, but often times blunt and short. I've been taking it way too personally, which causes me to feel like I'm being attacked, when really she is doing no such thing. It's something I've created in my mind as a form of self sabotage and limiting belief, which will ironically push her away if I continue doing it. But realizing that I should not take her behaviors so personally, when she is just being herself, and focus more on what she is feeling instead and less on me, should help a lot. Thank you for this enlightening information and perspective.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +2

      I am glad the video has been helpful for you. Here's to more relaxing days and friendships.

  • @lol-sz8wz
    @lol-sz8wz 2 роки тому +2

    When ever I get rude comments I ignore then it just hits me and I start 😢 crying

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому

      lol, I hope the video is helpful in giving you some ideas on how to reframe things.

  • @Ana-fq9to
    @Ana-fq9to 3 роки тому +11

    This helps me. The part where you said I can imagine you being in the situation, made me smile.
    My mother in law just complained at length at me for turning off the light. I got offended because I felt I was falsely accused. I could tell that she was angry mainly because of other things that had happened these 2 days. So while venting to my husband, we solved what we think was the real issue she's been experiencing. However, even after that I still feel very angry at her and this emotion can last for a few days and hindering me from doing other things. This is how I found ur video.
    The way you explained was soothing. It's true that it could be anyone

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      Thank you, Ana. Good point, often the real problem is hidden and we need to find what is going on to address the real issue.

  • @digit1557
    @digit1557 3 роки тому +9

    I needed this, a big part of my life i feel i've been surrounded by insensitive people. I've been so caught up by the "they wont change, people wont and dont want to change so living just isn't for me" mindset that every day just feels very miserable. I think that redirecting my energy to not think too much about others' thoughts like you advised can help. there will always be insensitive people and i think it's best i relearn how to reign in my reactions so i dont end up sad and angry towards people all the time

  • @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385
    @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 3 роки тому +60

    I'm 26, I've been sensitive since I was a child, and I'm not changing. Sensitivity is a beautiful thing. Everyone hates me because I'm a sensitive person and actually have emotions. Other people don't have emotions so they wouldn't understand. Everyone's trying to attack me!!!! I hate them all!!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +13

      The Last Day Breathing in Eternal Snow, be who you are and choose a position in life that benefits you. Act from a place of love.

    • @yesbut413
      @yesbut413 3 роки тому +3

      Nobody hates u even nobody cares.
      I'm sensitive i think same everyone hates me even i asked ppl who are Closer but they said they dont

    • @librarianrose4472
      @librarianrose4472 2 роки тому

      @@yesbut413 my mother doesn’t let me cry so

    • @epicfacelegend
      @epicfacelegend 2 роки тому

      same bro same.. you ok now? wanna talk? 🥺

    • @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385
      @thelastdaybreathinginetern1385 2 роки тому +2

      @@epicfacelegend I'm still the same.. I'm just 27 now. I don't really care about talking to anyone, I'd rather just stay alone.. thank you anyways for the offer. 🌜🌜

  • @cass3152
    @cass3152 4 роки тому +31

    ugh I literally get so offended by everything & feel like every comment is an attack & I don’t know if I’m being too sensitive or not

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +2

      Cass, if you need some individual coaching go to www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall to find out everything we offer.

  • @mycatvapesalot6072
    @mycatvapesalot6072 3 роки тому +24

    Everytime my friend laughs at me or gets angry at me, I will just be sad for days, Thinking about it alot before i sleep whixh makes it hard to sleep and whenever i remember it i feel sad.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +5

      My cat Vapes alot, have you talked to your friend about this? Might be time to set up some boundaries.

  • @aminabashir5245
    @aminabashir5245 3 роки тому +8

    Thought i would see how i could help myself, came here. I am amazed, this new perspective really makes me realise i blame myself for nothing when the situation can be turned around. I will use this next time i feel my sensitivity is creeping up. Thank you!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Wonderful! Honored to be on your team, amina bashir.

  • @LeratoM98
    @LeratoM98 3 роки тому +5

    That's so true. I have tried to remind myself that majority of the times, any negativity with interactions I might experience from people isn't personal, but I still can't get rid of the negative feelings I get from it. And I remunerate soo much AND I think about how someone else would've handled it better. In my defense, I'm not used to confrontation or having to challenge people often, so I guess I'm still learning, but it's really annoying I compare my reaction or response in different situations to how others would have handled it. I'm naturally a happy person, but I feel like lately I've become more and more sensitive and so even slightly negative interactions can have me thinking about that for days or even WEEKS, etc and I hate that I feel like I don't have control over my mind and emotions.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      I hope the video is helpful. Maybe think about if the thoughts are helpful or not. Choose to do what serves you best.

    • @cyndimoring9389
      @cyndimoring9389 2 роки тому

      I think you meant 'ruminate'? Dr Ramani has a great video on rumination (my problem too Tami)

  • @angkaien704
    @angkaien704 4 роки тому +7

    Thanks! I personally struggle with taking things too personally and always thought it was a bad thing. but you helped me to realise the benefits of sensitivity and how to regulate it :)

  • @aminaf6
    @aminaf6 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you so much, this is so informative. I used to be not too emotional, but lately I've been crying over little things and its embarrassing because people think I'm making a show when in reality it's very hard for me to control how I feel

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      aminaf6, you may want to work with a coach to find out where the sadness is coming from. www.drpauljenkins.com/breakthroughcall.

  • @undeadgal101
    @undeadgal101 3 роки тому +1

    here after having a fight. i should really start standing up for myself and stop crying,, this is really helpful too btw!!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      ruchi, wonderful. Glad they are helpful for you.

  • @trishanatyrell2330
    @trishanatyrell2330 3 роки тому +35

    I always feel like every comment is an attack towards me , when I'm in public i become so embarrassed when people look at me.. I went out with my son at he bump his head and started crying and everybody was just staring at me i was so embarrassed i just went home and cried 😔 i wish small things would stop bothering me so much

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +6

      Trishana Tyrell, think about the message you are sending your son. You want him to be confident so it is worth working on yourself. You can do this and we are here to help.

  • @SusanaXpeace2u
    @SusanaXpeace2u 3 роки тому +11

    I'm not sensitive. I 'm strong. But my parents interpret identifying an emotion and expressing that as ''sensitive'' so I grew up being told I was sensitive. I wasn't. I knew what I felt and I expressed it. They gaslit me for years and NOW I am very, very sensitive to being gaslit..

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Susan C, I am glad you understand yourself and are in touch with your feelings. You do you now.

    • @asmaeazlaf9532
      @asmaeazlaf9532 2 роки тому +1

      Being sensitive doesn't mean you are weak

  • @noelleelsbree6151
    @noelleelsbree6151 4 роки тому +25

    So need this.

  • @mallorymeyr2249
    @mallorymeyr2249 4 роки тому +45

    I have always been so sensitive and will cry over anything, now I’m having to go to trial for divorce and I’m so scared I will become a basket case. Thank you for not making me feel bad about myself for being sensitive ❤️

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +2

      Mallory Meyr, I hope you have a friend or relative who can support you and be there for you.

    • @mallorymeyr2249
      @mallorymeyr2249 4 роки тому +2

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you so much, I do! I have a great family and a great relationship with Jesus Christ! I appreciate your reply ❤️

    • @matanyesuallforjesus7373
      @matanyesuallforjesus7373 3 роки тому

      @@mallorymeyr2249 Happy for you,over knowing Jesus.

    • @matanyesuallforjesus7373
      @matanyesuallforjesus7373 3 роки тому

      @@mallorymeyr2249 Hope your doing well.

  • @aheartwhite4948
    @aheartwhite4948 2 роки тому +1

    So good. I’ve never realized how selfish I was. I’ve never considered thinking about an other person feels. Having this approach makes me see the person as they are having their own experience, independent than mine, and makes me want to help them understand my point of view or just having compassion🙌

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому

      Glad you can start with compassion for the other person. Best of luck.

  • @bigwilly519
    @bigwilly519 3 роки тому +36

    im a guy who cries when someone yells at me and i think its embarrasing so thx for trying to help me

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +6

      KarambitKing, we need you in the world and are honored you are here at the channel.

    • @bigwilly519
      @bigwilly519 3 роки тому +2

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV ayy thx

  • @oneclickreward1246
    @oneclickreward1246 2 роки тому +2

    Probably the first video on youtube I actually felt like i learned something and you Sir are deeply entertaining

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому +1

      One CLock Reward, thank you, glad to make a difference.

  • @aminabesic9693
    @aminabesic9693 3 роки тому +6

    Excellent advice of shifting the focus to the other person!

  • @Gothicforever1790
    @Gothicforever1790 4 роки тому +6

    Social distance have u heard enough about that?? Love it !!

  • @FranksCreativeCorner
    @FranksCreativeCorner 2 роки тому +5

    I had a pretty good day today. Our teacher gave us some corrections for my group's project, and finally we could understand some things that we were doing wrong. I got home, and my parents were waiting for me. They were watching a funny series on the TV. A while later, we were eating dinner. It was delicious, my dad prepared it and told me it was a surprise for me (he knows I really like that dish).
    I couldn't be happier, but then they wanted to watch this other series, which is long and dramatic. I wasn't paying attention at the beggining, but slowly as the chapter progressed I started feeling quite upset. I thought "Ugh! This series is unbearable, so negative! I was feeling good today, I didn't want to end the day with a negative series...". You know, my family likes to watch a series when having dinner, (sometimes also during lunch), unlike me, but I don't want them to stop doing it for me, so I justy finished eating, brushed my teeth and went to my room. It's silly, you know? It's just a series, it shouldn't affect me, at least not as much as it did, but the thing is that it did, and that makes me feel frustrated with myself. Not being able to control how I feel or react to things also affects me in those moments when you're, for example, discussing with someone and you need to convince, or be firm, things like that.
    So it's funny that watching this video not only it really helped me understand those situations, but it's just so obvious! Shifting the focus from yourself to others, watching the scene from a third person's perspective, or even thinking about the triggers has instantly helped me to dissolve those bad feelings, and get back to normal, no matter if was just a series what caused it like this time, or if it is something else. Thank you very much!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому +1

      You are very welcome. Good lesson to learn in your life. It will serve you well.

  • @speedtrialss
    @speedtrialss 3 роки тому +3

    my new years resolution is to stop beating myself up over things that i can't control 💪

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      I love it! Stay focused. This will be a great year.

  • @karalizs
    @karalizs 2 роки тому +1

    This incredible and showed up on my feed at just the right time. Thank you so much for all that you and your team does!

  • @TheHergeea
    @TheHergeea 3 роки тому +1

    What a kind spirit this man has.

  • @GimmeMorebyEm
    @GimmeMorebyEm 4 роки тому +15

    I'm not sensitive you are 😕 lol. I needed this. My husband says in starting to get to sensitive about things over time.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +2

      Oh no! Pure Mom Life, I am glad the video showed up just in time for you.

  • @infernoxero
    @infernoxero 3 роки тому +14

    When im so angry, i cry it gets really annoying

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +3

      Practice some deep breathing and look up.

    • @Noone.serenity
      @Noone.serenity 3 роки тому

      Ugh fr like I feel like I cry eith everything even when I'm happy

  • @mammabrie
    @mammabrie 3 роки тому +4

    Thank you for this insight! You're an excellent communicator and teacher! This video just helped me!!!

  • @matanyesuallforjesus7373
    @matanyesuallforjesus7373 3 роки тому +3

    Funny how you think the older you get,you should become less sensitive. You have a point in being less self centered. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

  • @JustOnePageAway
    @JustOnePageAway 3 роки тому +3

    Wow these tips are fantastic. Thank you so much for this video. I especially appreciate the point of thinking of the other person for a moment.

  • @tolivich
    @tolivich 4 роки тому +3

    Thank you so much this really will help me... This selfish, self-centred, easily butt hurt me...

  • @mulham2087
    @mulham2087 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much man❤ , I'm so sensitive so that sometimes I feel insecure even with my family!
    But I've created a method that helped me a lot , the method is that before I go to bed I meditate and remember all the times that I felt insecure, and look at myself as a third person ...
    I actually don't know why is this method is so affective and good for me.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому

      mulham, I am glad you have found something that works for you. I hope you are creating a different ending for yourself.

    • @mulham2087
      @mulham2087 2 роки тому

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV you're such a humble person, thank you for your kindness 🤍

  • @chickpea734
    @chickpea734 2 роки тому

    thank you for making this video my family tell me im over sensitive all the time, they always have and i dont want to be anymore

  • @mariannafarmakidis4472
    @mariannafarmakidis4472 3 роки тому

    my friends make small comments about me sometimes and i really over think them, then i’ll ask a friend about it and she’ll tell me i’m being too sensitive. thank you for this, i really need it and i’ll probably revisit this video often

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +2

      Marianna Farmakidis, the beauty of UA-cam, we can return to a video anytime it is helpful. Glad you are here.

  • @pawpetadventurewalks2941
    @pawpetadventurewalks2941 3 роки тому +1

    Excellent. Exactly! Not so personal.

  • @SJ-cd4gx
    @SJ-cd4gx 4 роки тому +5

    Thanks for this i had an experience a day ago which did trigger my buttons! However looking at as another focus...distance can reframe it! Helps thanks for sharing UK

  • @uurfavbrunette
    @uurfavbrunette 4 роки тому +14

    I can’t help crying In front of my cousin when he called me a “baby” so thanks for this video 🙃👍

  • @noname-oo5oo
    @noname-oo5oo 3 роки тому +2

    Thank you so much, sometimes, when something happens to somebody else, I take it personally because I am empathetic with them, I know it's good but sometimes It harms me

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      no name, you bring up a good point, how much do we take upon ourselves? Good luck.

  • @ABB14-11
    @ABB14-11 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you. Thank you. THANK YOU!

  • @makia2489
    @makia2489 4 роки тому +8

    in grade four i once cried because someone called my handwriting garbage im in grade 7 now and im not as sensitive as i used to be but i just dont want to be sensitive at all hopefully this helps

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Makia, I wish you luck. Keep at it and you will get where you want to be.

  • @davidr5685
    @davidr5685 4 роки тому +1

    Very helpful and insightful on redirecting emotional energy towards a better use! I'm genuinely applying this in my mind to real situations where I lost my cool. However, placing someone else in that situation gets me even more fired up! I've seen SO much destruction by others bc someone failed to stand up. Maybe it's selfish, but then I realized I'd rather be the one insulted "bc I can take it!" WOW full circle! Haha thanks Dr Paul! Taking a longer route but your message is clear! Thanks!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      David R, you are welcome, glad the video is helpful.

  • @tasheemacounts869
    @tasheemacounts869 4 роки тому +2

    Thank you so very much for this video I am looking to redo a lot of things in my life and this will help with so much of the changes I have planned. I look forward to watching more of your videos

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Wonderful! We are glad to have you in our positive community.

  • @Zach-vf4ly
    @Zach-vf4ly 2 роки тому +1

    Thanks that was really helpful!

  • @raven-roman-shadow-shaw99y89
    @raven-roman-shadow-shaw99y89 3 роки тому +3

    Thank you dr.Paul I learned something today. 🙏😄

  • @jonassosa9339
    @jonassosa9339 2 роки тому +1

    I hate it when I get into a fight and then someone want us to explain what happened then all of a sudden I start crying

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому

      Jonas Sosa, you might benefit from some work on your emotions. What led to the fight? If you had other ways of dealing with the anger and emotions before the fight, it might be more helpful.

  • @welcometovic
    @welcometovic 3 роки тому +16

    when you cried in front of your whole class because your team lost a math game:

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +3

      Simply Avocado VA, try some deep breaths and looking up.

  • @xJisJis
    @xJisJis 2 роки тому +1

    Very insightful, I appreciate this advice a lot. I'm a total people pleaser and one of my triggers is when I disappoint somebody, and they express their frustration.
    That feeling of knowing I tried but it wasn't enough is just so painful, and it feels very personal at first, but I know I can't make everybody happy. It's really hard to place logic in front of that emotion, but with enough practice and mindfulness I'm sure I can get better at it someday.
    Thank you for this video.

  • @kiasupreme3391
    @kiasupreme3391 3 роки тому +1

    Your voice is calming and relaxing

  • @yesbut413
    @yesbut413 3 роки тому +1

    After hearing tht line. Sensitivity is not a bad thing... ❤️I love being sensitive

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      yes but, there are positives, use them to your advantage and change what isn't working for you.

  • @Fay3-
    @Fay3- 3 роки тому +2

    The thing is, I don’t take things personally all the time, I just get angry that regardless of whether this person is personally triggering me or not, I shouldn’t have to deal with their bullishit. I know that they don’t personally mean to attack me, that If someone else was standing in my shoes, they’d also experience this, but that’s not enough for me not to get annoyed.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      Fahima, thank you for sharing. You don't have to deal with everyone.

  • @MegsCarpentry-lovedogs
    @MegsCarpentry-lovedogs 4 роки тому +1

    Excellent vid to help one take things less personal by mentally replacing another into the situation...and more...definitely another vid that I have to bookmark for repeated viewing. Reframing the experience. All takes comimttement but the end result is one has a healthier life. 💯 🇨🇦 Also the discussion about "self focus" equals anxiety was really powerful. Again, viewing this vid when needed in the future is in the bookmark option. Giving space....so much to practice. Thank you.🌈

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +1

      Meg's Carpentry, I am glad we can save the videos for future view. Believe me, it took lots of reviewing for these things to become ingrained and positivity to be a natural way of life.

  • @jess21568
    @jess21568 3 роки тому +2

    Great video with some brilliant insights. Thank you

  • @tokofukawa9882
    @tokofukawa9882 3 роки тому +11

    I hate my sensitivity every time I talk to someone I’m scared if they will come at me I always tell myself taht I’m strong but... i really suck at being strong

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +2

      Valentina Cadena, maybe you can imagine yourself as a person who is super strong and can handle whatever life throws out you. Ask that person how they would deal with the situation and then take the lead from them.

  • @roseebud
    @roseebud 4 роки тому +3

    This is so good! Genius! makes so much sense

  • @2mgGLock_
    @2mgGLock_ 2 роки тому +1

    Thank you ! This video really helped . 🙌🏾

  • @lorilewter1404
    @lorilewter1404 4 роки тому +4

    I wish just reframing was that easy. My ego shows up and gets louder. Because I'm in the process of learning to trust myself, I have to acknowledge what my ego is saying (warning me not to be a co-dependant doormat), validate my hurt, then I can turn my attention on reframing and removing myself. Doing all this while trying to stay grounded is no easy task 🤦

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Lori Lew, it isn't easy, but it becomes easier with practice over time. It will become more natural as you go through the steps. Hang in there.

  • @tranphuongthao8965
    @tranphuongthao8965 3 роки тому +1

    Your information is so helpful

  • @ritaverma4189
    @ritaverma4189 3 роки тому +1

    Very well explained

  • @angelxcatty
    @angelxcatty 2 роки тому +1

    Tysm I always called a crybaby I hope this works

  • @damarismoulterie4349
    @damarismoulterie4349 3 роки тому

    Thank you

  • @patriciawelch4656
    @patriciawelch4656 3 роки тому +2

    I read some of these comments and I am totally shocked that apparently a whole lot of people go around yelling and arguing with each other all the time what the heck is going on in this world don't people know how to talk to each other??

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      I am not sure, Patricia. There is way too much yelling.

    • @patriciawelch4656
      @patriciawelch4656 3 роки тому

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV several years ago a friend of mine told me that if people started yelling at me instead of trying to speak logically with them which I know they won't accept I didn't have to say anything at all I could just not reply however I have found that that makes some people yell even more LOL I just don't get it LOL but that is sometimes what I do just keep my mouth shut and don't say anything. Do you think that's being rude or is that really a logical thing to do?

  • @DaveFlick
    @DaveFlick 4 роки тому +14

    Stir or steer?

    • @rainyday7517
      @rainyday7517 4 роки тому +6

      I was hoping someone noticed.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +4

      Dave Flick, thanks for the heads up, I will get in touch with the UA-cam Team.

  • @anikatabassumorthi735
    @anikatabassumorthi735 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you so much..

  • @minniesimmonsmoody4761
    @minniesimmonsmoody4761 3 роки тому +1

    Another great tool. Thank you

  • @danielvu971
    @danielvu971 4 роки тому +4

    No one really calls me sensitive but I know I am. A couple days ago someone called my face hideous on an app called yubo and I made a joke out of it at first with all my friends. But then after some thought I realised it hurt my feelings a little. And I told myself I shouldn’t care about this strangers opinion I don’t even know them. And I had a conversation with all my friends and they were there to reassure me that the person probably wasn’t having the best day and wanted to take it out on someone. They called me delusional if I thought I was hideous but I really need to learn how to not care about someone else’s opinion especially if they’re a stranger.
    I’m probably talking to myself but if you’re reading thanks for listening to my venting LOL

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Daniel Vu, one thing your are going to learn through life is that when people say mean things it is often more about themselves than you. You are just a convenient target. Hard to get your head wrapped around when it seems so personal.

  • @endlurihareesh1797
    @endlurihareesh1797 3 роки тому +1

    Thank you. This video helped me a lot

  • @juliancuyjet2895
    @juliancuyjet2895 3 роки тому +1

    This is a great video. Thank you!

  • @ocoa_5111
    @ocoa_5111 2 роки тому +2

    I personally cry with I agrue,get frustrated, when no one understands me. It really difficult I personally don't like crying. I try to hold in my tears but it escapes.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому +1

      I understand. Reach out if you want to do some coaching, only if you want to. www.achievetodaycoaching.com/paul.

  • @zackcullen3495
    @zackcullen3495 4 роки тому +1

    Thx I would try all your types 👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      No problem 👍 Thank you for watching, Zack Cullen.

  • @SVea864
    @SVea864 3 роки тому +2

    Me to i dont now why i am sensitive to myself and what other think about me:(

  • @raisingchildrennetwork
    @raisingchildrennetwork 4 роки тому +1

    Another great video sir 👍😊, oh.. too much of sensitivity(both physically and mentally) caused me lot of good and bad experiences

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Raising Children, good to hear from you.

    • @raisingchildrennetwork
      @raisingchildrennetwork 4 роки тому

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV hmmm.. I forgot to tell you sir, you are a real man who can makes smiles on others face 😀

  • @artofverity8791
    @artofverity8791 3 роки тому +2

    Best constructive channel on UA-cam

  • @tranphuongthao8965
    @tranphuongthao8965 3 роки тому +1

    Im crying while watching this video

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      Hang in there, I am honored to be a part of your journey.

  • @theartstudio7640
    @theartstudio7640 4 роки тому +12

    I needed this thank you I am only 11 and my parents are calling me a baby

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +9

      Derek Pfeil, you are not a baby. You show remarkable maturity to be watching this video.

    • @theartstudio7640
      @theartstudio7640 4 роки тому +6

      Thank you sir that was very kind of you that comment helped me alone

  • @daniidelrey
    @daniidelrey 3 роки тому +3

    I know my myself that I am really sensitive, even as a male, I can't control it.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Cardyy, I hope the video gives you some ideas of things you can do.

  • @luv_chippies3388
    @luv_chippies3388 3 роки тому +2

    Im way to sensitive, I have always been sensitive, it can be the dumbest thing and I start crying and I don’t know why my mom gets so annoying she says she can’t deal with my sensitivity, she feels like she has to walk on egg shells and I feel bad.. that i constantly make her feel that way. She says “ your about to turn 15, grow up” I feel like every one hates me and I’m starting to hate my self too but I hope this helps me!

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      Hang in there. Your mom sounds a little stressed. Teenage years are difficult, things will get better.

  • @heter
    @heter 3 роки тому

    1:51 I believe you meant "steer"... 'stir' is what you do to a drink (pronounced like "stur").. 😀
    I love your content & videos, Paul!!

  • @AmyJackson-_-85
    @AmyJackson-_-85 3 роки тому +1

    What happens if it’s what other people feel that causes my anxiety? I fear people that are angry. Which ultimately made me lose my job. The environment was so toxic, people weren’t happy no matter what I tried during that job. I even tried doing more work. I’ve even asked them what I could do better or why they were upset. Communication is supposed to go both ways and nothing worked. I’m not a person who gets mad for some reason. I just don’t lose my temper with others. When I do finally lose my temper it’s more rage and rage isn’t anger, just another form of it.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Amy Jackson, sometimes we just have to learn from our experiences and move on. I am sure there were some valuable lessons learned even with this being very trying for you.

    • @AmyJackson-_-85
      @AmyJackson-_-85 3 роки тому

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV your right about learning from the experience. I will Keep reading. I’ve got one more week with this job and I’m done. 13th to be exact, 6 more shifts.

  • @bglwhite1865
    @bglwhite1865 4 роки тому +1

    Well that really works

  • @roytating4915
    @roytating4915 2 роки тому +1

    I know some words trigger me and when they do, I get to this mode where I can't control my voice shaking. I feel this weird warm, shaking in my guts. I want to stop the person from talking and beat him up (coworkers, bosses, strangers, clients) but never did (thank God). I feel like I'm being attacked and insulted. I asked myself so many times why I feel this way 'cuz I hate it. I lose my cool and feel bad after. Maybe it's my ego, or too sensitive, that's the reason I looked for this on youtube. I'll try the advise and see what happens. Thank you.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому

      I am glad you are going to try some suggestions, seek additional help if you need more.

  • @cecew7725
    @cecew7725 4 роки тому +1

    I needed this

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому

      Cece W., I am glad you got what you needed. Wonderful.

  • @salt_and_light03
    @salt_and_light03 4 роки тому +6

    Great video, trying to figure out how to apply this approach to racist comments and behavior that I sadly experience in this life

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +4

      Dora Patricia, I am so sorry that this is even something you have to "figure out". A sad commentary on our society.

    • @alext.9033
      @alext.9033 3 роки тому +1

      I view racism as fear...fear that you just might be not so different from them, a.k.a. a human with needs

  • @DOLLSILOVE
    @DOLLSILOVE 3 роки тому +1

    Wow such a helpful video ❤️

  • @billhildebrand5053
    @billhildebrand5053 3 роки тому

    Thankyou for your wonderful birthday greetings. 🎭🤾🏿‍♂️🎭

  • @MrAdriancooke
    @MrAdriancooke Рік тому +1

    I never really cry but often feel like it: I wish I didn't feel hurt so easily especially as a male. My son is also like this 🤔

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  Рік тому

      You aren't wrong about how you feel and it is o.k. to cry to release emotions.

  • @sakeboom
    @sakeboom 3 роки тому +1

    i needed this.......

  • @vinu88
    @vinu88 4 роки тому +2

    Hi dr. Paul hw r u? Thanks again for a nice video

  • @noki1153
    @noki1153 2 роки тому +1

    I once went and tried soccer but the coach yelled at me so I quit. This video might help lol

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  2 роки тому

      No one likes to be yelled at. It happens in sports and you have to decide what you want more.

  • @yoongis.tangerine
    @yoongis.tangerine 4 роки тому +1

    okay i have to watch this everyday

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  4 роки тому +1

      yoongi's tangerine, and that is the beauty of UA-cam.

  • @Amaris346
    @Amaris346 3 роки тому +3

    How do I send this to my whole entire class?

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +1

      Do a presentation, jk. Show them by example.

    • @Amaris346
      @Amaris346 3 роки тому

      @@LiveOnPurposeTV Nah, I'll be bold and do a presentation.

  • @GTA-5plus1
    @GTA-5plus1 3 роки тому +4

    I just want to turn into a rock. I want to be emotionless. I don’t want to feel anything at all.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому +2

      Ledger Baker, I get that, but it is not a good way to experience joy in life.

  • @Investinyourselfdarling
    @Investinyourselfdarling Рік тому +1

    I'm so sick of it..working it 😔

  • @evanascenes
    @evanascenes 3 роки тому +1

    Something is on my mind rn. Today the bell went for school and we were still seated. The teacher kept talking for a couple minutes so I got sick of this and stood up. She yelled at me "I didn't tell you to stand up" then a few sentences later, she said we could leave. Its honestly stupid because she was going on and on about stuff we already knew. She was complaining about how we were too loud during the day be we are getting our work done. Im just sensitive I never usually get yelled at.

    • @LiveOnPurposeTV
      @LiveOnPurposeTV  3 роки тому

      Evana Scenes, I hope things worked out for you.