"Having good manners is about putting other people at ease and respecting other people and not making them feel awkward." Best definition I've ever heard.
My male roommate eats his sugary cereal out of a huge bowl, holds his spoon like a shovel, and makes a loud slurping sound with each bite - all while he sits on the couch watching TV! Myself...I sit at the table proper eating my fresh fruit and Greek yogurt (or whatnot), trying desperately to block him out of my vision of sight and sound. Usually however, I get disgusted, lose my appetite, and just walk away. (Ugh, I need to "level up".)
Because someone came up with so many rules as to what's etiquette and what's elegant is probably the main reason why I prefer Hotels with self-service breakfast. That way I pick my stuff, go to my corner and eat my way without having to follow 'cold before hot' and other irrelevant stuff! By the way, what's more elegant: go to the bathroom before or after having breakfast and which hand should you use to pick up food after going to the bathroom? I bet you don't know that etiquette...
As someone that has worked in catering, I appreciate your suggestion of holding the door open, dressing proberly and being nice to the staff. People tend to be very rude and entitled when being served and think that they don't have to be nice simply because they're paying to be served. This good advice for people of all layers of society btw.
Elodie I. That’s terrible! When I heard her suggestions I thought, who wouldn’t behave like that, it’s common decency! Not so common I guess. I hope things get back to normal after Coronavirus for you!
I sell insurancefor nearly 20 years now, but I was a server for a number of years, as were my kids. One of the world's hardest jobs! Anyone who says differently has never done it. Appreciate, and respect those people, people! 💖💜💖💜💞💚💜💖😊🥂
@@chigurl4667 I quit catering 1,5 years ago thank god. I hated the pressure and the low wage and I'm happy I left cause I have a good paying job that allows me to work from home now.
I used to work at a 4 star hotel and assist room service at times. I'm so happy to hear there are people who practice the etiquette you teach because NO ONE ever held the door open for me. Those carts are really heavy and depending on what you ordered, its easy for items to topple over so you must be careful. I hated delivering food because it was stressful at times! I also hated walking into rooms with a man in boxers and his naked girlfriend in bed. Please don't be those people.
True class is exactly what you said . “Helping the person serving you even if you’re paying for service.” Classy people are kind and helpful to those that are serving them .
Thank you for mentioning manners and being polite to the people serving you. I have broken up with people because of their rudeness to waiters, waitress, room service or valets.
I was always taught to look at how a guy treats: servers, his mama and his family , that's how he'll treat you. If he is rude and nasty to them he'll be rude and nasty to you .
I feel that THIS video should be played on every individual Hotel information channel available! Some people need to be reminded how to 'behave'! Who else agrees ?
I just started following her like 3 days ago. My work often requires that I stay at nice hotels for extended periods of time and I notice that some people should be banned from such places yuck.
Regarding the awkward moment while waiting for your food, i much prefer having small talk with the server and focusing on their presence. Signing the bill helps them get the job done faster and i'm sure they appreciate it. I often say oh that looks amazing, thank you so much with encouraging words like, this is perfect etc.. and I might comment on how much i'm enjoying the hotel. I think they like that their workplace is appreciated because they are part of the larger team. I don't think you should worry too much about giving away your power, but being nice is always classy and the person will always remember you in a good light, and this is what you want. In my experience when you are nice to the staff, they tell each other and by the end of your stay, you will get many more smiles and a little more effort to make your stay comfortable.
This is exactly what I wanted to say but couldn't articulate! Small talk and being polite to the waiter like how you mentioned is in good taste and elegant
Exactly my experience! The "servers" are PEOPLE who got up in the morning dealt with whatever they have to in their personal life to get to work (like children, transportation, etc), to help US have a good experience in this place. I always treat people as PEOPLE. To me, anything else is rude and lacks class. And yes, The staff appreciates it and word spreads. I end up getting all sorts of wonderful genuinely nice treatment, little extras. Although not why I do it!
I’m the daughter of an ambassador, so I get to travel a lot and I’ve met other diplomat’s children who behave like straight up animals (and it baffles me how many of these things aren’t actually common sense.) I think many people should take a look at you channel-regardless of their social status cause god knows they need it lol Edit: Damn, I didn’t expect getting this much likes in this channel AT ALL- thank you sm❤️
Shar Roon Eating food whilst on line, multiple dipping of food on sauces such as ketchup and marmalade, screaming to the person across the room, laughing obnoxiously loud, piling food on their plates, going for seconds and thirds with their dirty plate, and even taking food from the waiter (when the help person/waiter takes the dirty plates and cleans up the table in order to make room for more), amongst others
I'm addicted to your videos. I watched them till 3 AM last night, and I woke up and still watching them hahaha. It's not because I want to bag a rich man, but because I just want to learn to be an elegant lady. It's probably a bit too late now because I'm already over 30, but I will use whatever years I have left to transform myself into an elegant lady. Thank you so much for making these videos and keep making them. I'm hooked!
IT is NEVER too late to learn and practice good manners! I am mrrrffll years over mmrrfflll and still learn and relearn the manners my parents taught by watching these videos. As you improve your life, you wil attract a better group of people, who teach and practice more good manners and the cycle continues. You have to determine at what level you wish to live... I am so glad ANA does these videos, she is having a profound influence over a great number of people who wish to improve their lives.
Never too late to learn an old dog some trix, i am older than you and learn everyday. I have a good man already but it do need to improve myself because i have an tendency to be more man the average man:-)
When I was in Turkey, in a 5* hotel with all inclusive, I felt so sorry for the service there. Those people would stretch themselves whilst serving and often many won‘t even say „thank you“ They appreciate when you are nice to them and tip them. My father always said „never forget the ‚regular man‘ „ meaning that we should make sure not to be cheap and stingy with people and treat them always nicely. I hate when people say bad stuff about cleaners, etc
So right. We never forget the waiters or cleaners. And if we've had a spectacular meal, we speak to the chef telling him so. These all inclusive 5* places, or even high end hotels, are treated shabily by rude people, who think they are owed..... grrr
@Jane Delaney I used quotation marks as I don‘t mean it literally, ofc. It‘s a figure of speech in my country and difficult to find an appropriate translation
@@1chienandalou it still amazes me that you chose to comment this way, when I previously explained that it´s a figure of speech in my language and it´s not degrading in any way.SMH If I thought someone is beneath me, I wouldn´t do many things that I do to help others, which both of you don´t know anything about. Please, don´t jump into conclusions and read what I wrote
During the “awkward silence” stage, I like to ask “How is your morning going?” Or “It looks to be a lovely day today” to fill in the space between the bill and the “goodbye Thank You” if need be.
Just turn on the TV before the room service attendant arrives to avoid any awkward silence inside the room if you're the type of person who doesn't like small talk.
I was also taught these things in our middle class family. I did appreciate how you mentioned to be polite to your servers; very important. My mother summed it up as "pretty is as pretty does". Kindness should always be in fashion.
Goodness yes! I was a nice hotel and my breakfast was ruined by the children being rowdy. I have two small children so I can say control your children! Teach them how to properly behave in public!
Thank for mentioning about children running around wild! Parents you are not at home! Teach your children manners because your children can and do ruin breakfast for people!
I just loved what you said Anna 💕💕💕 I work in a wealthy management family office and sometimes I see that people mistreated people as a maid, courier service man, and waitress. I get so sad because they work are extremely difficult and sometimes they come from far places to serve us. Thank you for your words. I always thought that people well educated never underestimate others work.
Anna, I've started watching your videos and I think you're teaching really important things to people - nobody learns about etiquette or how to behave any more. You're doing a really valuable public service - and it doesn't just apply to affluent people either! Regular folks can use this info too. Etiquette is ultimately about how we treat others and showing kindness and respect.
This makes most sense to me. I always considered sausages, eggs, hash brown to be safest to eat while still hot. Cold food stays cold unless you're in the hot desert, so I eat the fruits like the cantaloupe, honeydew and pineapple, oranges last as a desert or palate cleanser.
You can serve yourself of the cold things, eat them, and then get the hot foods later. I believe most hot dishes are also the ones that have most fat and unhealthy ingredients, so if you eat the cold foods before, you also end up eating less of the unhealthy (but delicious) dishes. It’s a win-win situation!
That was my thought exactly. I didn’t know the etiquette around it said otherwise. But someone later commented because it’s a buffet and you can go a few times (even Ana said twice) I guess next time I’ll try getting my warm/hot food later. And also not to pack my plates. 🙈😂 that was me all the way...like I want to try EVERYTHING lol
@@isabelamartins6909 Correct. I start with a small serving of some tropical fruit (if in a tropical location) and a spoon or two of yoghurt to top it, maybe a sprinkle of granola. If I still wish for more, then it's a poached egg on a piece of toast if they have a nice type of bread, perhaps with a tomato, a serving of avocado o a serving of a vegetable with it. Generally, that's more than enough for me. These days I'm actually intermittent fasting anyway, so it's not so much of a concern.
I've watched quite a few of your videos now and one thing always sticks out to me - that although you are upper class and really a very elegant woman, you don't perpetrate the stereotype of being snooty and "holier than thou". Instead, you teach us to be kind, respectful and conscientious of others. To me that is the mark of a true elegant lady, to be somebody who is graceful in all aspects of life. I have a lot of respect for you Anna, thank you again for the videos :)
This was such an important video. I just had an conversation the other day, on how so many people lack on etiquette. Especially when it comes to dining. Stuffing whole fruits in their mouth. They way their posture is while sitting at the table. Behavior. Back then when my daughter was 3 she already knew how to properly eat with fork & knife and having a napkin on her lap... and she enjoyed being a little princess. Maybe it’s just because I grew up myself like that. But I think there should be classes on manners and etiquette (at least the basic) in school. Thanks that was a good video 🌷
US is a tip country. If you are over seas tipping is considered rude. (They pay their staff better and it is expected that the staff are doing their job well. So tipping implies you expect poor service)
@@MA7-6585 please remember that it all depends on the country you're travelling to. I'm Polish and no one here would consider you rude because you want to tip the staff, it's just a sign that you appreciate somebody's work. But as I said - it all depends on the country.
@@SandraMichalska i'm also Polish, but I normaly dine in Germany, France and Swiss and tipping is never considered rude. It's not necessary but highly appreciated.
My 90 yr old mother was all about etiquette and I am thankful for it! Such as when you eat a croissant or roll, break it into a smaller piece before spreading jam or butter. Place a small amount of jam or butter on your plate and then spread it from your small plate onto the roll. Never take it directly from the serving bowl/plate. Maybe you have covered this in other videos?
She wasnt detailed about the etiquette.....examples : use fork to pick up a small piece of food just on the tip of the tines and dont insert all tines into the mouth, but just take small amountsvof food off the very tip of the fork.....thats my favorite......and like someone here said, break the croissants into bite sized pieces and spread jelly on only one piece at a time per bite... .etc etc
I wish I had someone i my family to help me with etiquette...does anyone know a good book i can read a out this topic or more youtubers, such as this woman? That talk about it
I’m a room service person. Glad that I adhere to your guidelines without having heard them before! Coffee. Coffee first. It’s the base of my food pyramid. I usually have something light in the morning- yogurt with some healthy muesli, if available. Or, egg whites with sliced tomatoes. And coffee. Thanks for this video and you have a calming presence.
I LOVE hotel breakfasts with a passion! If I'm sleeping, all someone has to do to get me up is whisper "breakfast finishes in 10 minutes" and I'll be flying out of bed, dressing and getting downstairs at the speed of light. I always have juice, small portion of granola, streaky bacon, grilled tomato and a hash brown followed by fruit and coffee. If I'm in France then just a coffee and a mini baguette with fruit compote. In Spain a coffee and pan de tomate. Delicious!
I’m the same way. I looove hotel breakfast. I wake up just for them. My husband...not so much. So there goes my elegance when I have to carry a plate of assorted foods from the buffet to the room for him 😂
This made me smile, that's all I have to say to my husband as well! To miss the breakfast buffet for him is like missing the last flight off the continent 😆
Great video! We need more on etiquette. Good etiquette has nothing to do with your social standing or education level. Manners and being polite to people always wins.
It is always best to be considerate to the people serving me. It does make me feel good. Since, I have gained a bit during this time of the pandemic, my breakfast now consist of a fruit and two slices of bread with no filling of any sort.
Nanny Needs Coffee I set various alarms. For example if I want to wake up an 5 am I set up an alarm at 4:30 - 4:45 then at 5. I sit on my roof I have a nice view. Then I just sit there with my tea and watch the sunrise. Soak that energy and continue with my busy day. It’s important to have a moment.
We have learned all these things at home from my mother, and you have to sort your food and not mix everything in one plate, but we tend to eat the warm food first because we do not want to put it away. all the way from Kuwait 🇰🇼
I grew up learning all these basic rules, thank God! But some friends tell me I act "Like a princess and care too much." I love that I was taught these rules at a by young age.
Your channel is very unique in that it covers a wide range of topics. Thnx for another great etiquette video♥️ could you in future please do a video about your intermittent fasting and how you prepare for it?
I love ordering room service in 4 or 5 start hotels. I usually order eggs with a non pork option for meat and if I'm feeling a little extra I'll order a mimosa. Thanks for this advice I'll be sure to use it.
My favorite breakfast is Belgian waffles with real butter and warm maple syrup, a bowl of fresh ripe fruit, and a cup of strong builder's tea with raw honey and cream.
It gives your hot food some time to cool down. This will prevent you burning your tongue. My mom taught me this as a little girl. I was a fast and greedy eater.
@Debbbb and @@@genevievebonneau09 Not so sure about that. It's all just going to end up as one mass in your stomach anyway. I don't think the order in which you eat would make any difference to digestion unless there was a considerable gap between eating each thing, which is unlikely given breakfast is usually a fairly quick meal.
Anna, your focus on considering other people is so beautiful. Etiquette and manners really are about respect. Thank you for prioritising others when you share and teach. You truly are an elegant lady.
Find an elegant "uniform" such as a slim fit tunic top in quality fabric, skinny pant, ballet flat or wedge (for Summer). Tunic sweater paired with a scarf or fine quality thin sweater, paired with leather jacket/or tunic-style button up cardigan, slim pant, ankle or knee high boot (for Winter). Keep it simple, yet elegant. Find your own version of simple elegant campus wear.
Nahylia That would be great ! I struggle with dressing elegantly without seeming overdressed since I’m in an engineering school and ... engineers don’t really care about their look 🙈🙈🙈
So refreshing and beautifully presented. Thank you! I learned etiquette from my grandmother who had a book from her childhood...it was really important just a few generations ago...and correct napkin etiquette alone could be a whole video!
There isn't. That's the beauty of buffet breakfasts. There's a huge choice, you're not expected to eat all of it, so you take what you want, in the order of preference. But you couldn't make a 10 minute self congratulatory video from that information....
Oh, can you PLEASE make a video on elegant date etiquette? Like conversation topics, messy foods to avoid ordering, and who should pay (I think who ever scheduled the date should pay, since you are asking for the other persons' company)?
Can you do more videos on etiquette and manners? Like how to talk to people with perfect manners (and how to respond when someone is being rude or are insulting you lol)
@Mrs. P Hi, Mrs. P, it's when someone puts their hand out to shake yours and you don't put yours out and shake back. Or I think in Regency times it was to literally turn your back on someone trying to say hello to you. Today it would be like if you were at a party and seeing someone coming toward you, turned away from them and started talking to someone else. The severity of it varies, depending on who is doing it to whom - like a higher class to a lower class or how badly ostracized from "society" that person is. Best wishes to you!
Listen a lot of times in life we loose the things that make for common sense especially if you are around the wrong people. Bad company ruins good character.
20% is standard if it is good/excellent service if that is what you prefer. It depends, to me if the service is just kind of okay I usually tip 15%, and if the service is really good sometimes I tip 35%. I am not affluent, nor do I make a lot of money. I've just worked in the service industry off and on my adult life, and went to college to work in the hospitality/ beauty industry so I know how it goes.
@@ariellekaneza6888 in some countries, people could be offended if you tip. I've read it is a faux pas in countries like Japan, for example. In Spain, tipping hotels staff is not very common, (unless, perhaps, the service required has been pretty complicated or unusual). I am sure, when talking about 5 stars hotels, their staff welcome any kind of "policy", as they receive worldwide guests. But I prefer to investigate carefully the "tip issue" when I travel.
Having travelled quite a bit I find that to truly enjoy great food regardless of which meal of the day i find it is very classy to ask the staff for local specialties and suggestions other than the common continental options. There may be dishes which you may not have a chance to try elsewhere. Why is this important?! First it shows that you respect the local culture, 2nd it takes a humble, down to earth person at ease with herself to ask such questions instead of coming across arrogant or overconfident. Last but not least being truly curious leads to learning and what's more it is a smart ice breaker with the staff that is there to serve you! Some of my tips when travelling: 1. Be very polite and down to earth - leaving in a calvinist swiss culture for years I have realised that a little extra kindness goes a long way. Remember that not everybody is as lucky as you are! 2. Be truly interested in the place you are travelling and their culture - learn a few words of their language to greet the staff and ask their personal tips - you might be impressed but they will remember you ( not because of your money but because of your kindness and humility). 3. Try local fruits, veggies and or other local dishes - you might end up loving them. I still remember with nostalgia the amazing fruits and local dishes we tried in Tanzania a few years ago. The generous breakfasts were part of our experience and of spoiling ourselves. 4. Be natural - awkwardness sometimes is sign of trying too hard - observe but remain you no matter what you do! That is far more classy than trying to fit the mold! 5. Last but not least: eat everything you love but in small portions, and in moderation - don't fake it till you make it - trust me it shows. :) Be generous to yourselves and understand that you are not there to impress anyone but to make memories. This should be your confidence booster and your motto and trust me your partner will appreciate it as well!
Thank you for these tips...so helpful...i agree totally with all your tips...Im from the US and Ive seen too many Americans travelling abroad that don't even pause to learn one word in the local language or even tune in to the local experience around them. Your comment is so spot on! Thank you
I could not possibly agree more about both asking about and trying local specialties. Why bother traveling at all if you're not going to investigate what makes the country you're in worth going to? If you don't want to try new things? If you're one of those travelers who just wants things the way they are at home, for heaven's sake, *stay* home - and look at pictures of the place on the Internet. Now, more than any other time in history, it's possible to see all of the sights without leaving your sofa, so just don't even bother going unless you want to meet the people, try the food, and check out the *experiences* that can only be had on the ground somewhere else. Learning to say at least hello, goodbye, and especially thank you in the language of the country you're in can go a *loooong* way towards helping you enjoy your visit. People just love it, and will knock themselves out to be helpful and friendly if you just show a little bit of interest and make a little bit of effort to meet them where they are. This can make all the difference in the experience of travel.
The "self" doesn't develop in a vacuum. The "self" each of us came to be came about as a result of the influences brought to bear on us. And oftentimes those influences are ones that don't end up serving us well. Saying "I won't ever" anything, when referring to a positive goal, is speaking out a negative over our future. Just as the "self" doesn't develop in a vacuum, bringing in the influences that do serve us well (like Anna's principles of elegance) takes discipline and patience with yourself. It won't necessarily happen overnight, but it won't happen at all if you commit that it won't happen. Anna's principles of elegance will serve us well and steer us clear of that which is really not good for us.
I’ve been very intentional to teach my children proper etiquette. Even if you can’t afford to stay at a fancy hotel, you can usually book a reservation for breakfast. We have a local hotel that creates a walk-through holiday display which creates a reason to visit without staying.
I wish You spoke a little bit about what to do AFTER you finished your breakfast in the room. My pet peeves are when people a) don't take out the trail so when the cleaners come a big table of food is waiting for them (not their job to clean it, porters do that) b) when people take the trail to the corridor but do not cover the leftover food, man, it looks yucky and smells!! Other hotel stayers aren't supposed to smell your leftover sausage. Anyways, excellent video Anna, as always! Keep up the good work.
So to sum it up we should cover the dishes with a napkin or something and roll it out into the corridor right? I never took room service so wasn't thinking about it I just go downstairs grab a tray and return it later lol.
@@ani_n01 lol Yeah. So etiquette says first call room service and tell them thanks for the food, we are finished. They will come and take it. If it is lunch or dinner time sometimes the line is busy, it is better to cover the leftover and place it in the corridor, yeah.
When I was in both Spain and Italy, in nice hotels, the breakfast buffets were SO gorgeous! Artistic spreads of every kind of food, taking up an entire room - fresh fruits displayed like art, every kind of amazing pastry, natural yogurts, jams, meats, olives, eggs, breads, coffee and tea bar, etc. etc. It was a feast for the eyes as well as the body! Needless to say, it was a challenge to take only what I knew I could eat - everything looked so delicious. Fond memories, and I hope I was elegant...!
Anna such a big heart! I learned more important things in this video not only the breakfast etiquette, but being a kind person too. You are my my inspiration❤️ love from the Philippines ❤️
I am rebuilding my life. I have had to work hard. I appreciate this lesson as I am re-experiencing better things with a new appreciation. Nothing wrong with eating like a civilized person and not just shoveling it down. 😊 I am now beginning to travel and have joined a travel club so I'm going to look into your course.
Same...so quite often I will ask my lover to bring me back a cup of coffee and a small bite of something from the buffett...then I get a little more sleep and breakfast in bed ... what's more classy than that😋?
I’m a bit older than most of the ‘elegant ladies’ watching this video. I do remember being taught these same rules by my Italian American mother and I have endeavoured to pass these same rules onto my daughter. Good manners and eating properly are timeless.
Fresh vanilla yogurt with granola and berries is always a great vacation starter. It gives you energy and protein to face your day without feeling like you overindulged
Great video, Anna! Thank you for sharing! But wait, what about tipping the room service person? Here in the US, you are expected to tip everyone, literally everyone! Is it not a common practice in Europe? Also, breakfast is the only meal of the day when you are permitted to bite your bread. For example, if you are having a toast. For all the other meals, you are supposed to break bite-size pieces.
Hi Olga, that is not a common practice in Europe. Our minimum wage laws apply to all workers so if they do get a tip that's bonus money. A lot of people tip though especially if they received good service. Also coastal areas in europe are more tip-aware than other countries.
I have a 12 year old daughter and we watch your video, because they teach elegance and etiquette! You can never start to young! When I was young my sisters and I had finishing school. Lessons that we carried with us everyday! Thanks for posting!
All of the times I went with breakfast room service when i've been working at a hotel... 90% of the time people were laying in bed, half-naked 😁 good times 😅🙈
Incredibly inspiring, Anna. Not only did I enjoy your elegant etiquette lesson (common sense in my world), you also inspired within me the vision of the type of woman I desire to attract into my fun life. Your mention of skipping breakfast and Intermittent Fasting was a fun(ny) and heartwarming denouement-something I do as well even when a five-star breakfast is included with the room.
I used to do room service and I agree with your advice! Ask for the bill, “can I take the bill off your hands?” It’s so awkward when you’re waiting outside the door for them to fill out the bill, it also doesn’t give them a lot of time to think about the tip. They do it in a rush. I also can’t tell you how many times I’ve walked into a room and people are in their boxers or briefs. It’s so uncomfortable!
Forever my favorite classy role model. I really enjoyed the teenager focused videos! And my favourite breakfast food when I’m at home is an açai or a smoothie bowl, but if I’m out it would usually be a fruit salad or a granola and yogurt
Chinese medicine teaches to have a glass of warm water the first thing in the morning and not the cold orange juice. In Asia, a warm soup is very common to have for the breakfast.
Think of it from the perspective of the entire group eating cold foods before hot foods. If everyone is getting cold foods first, then it's easier to wait for everyone to get their plate and sit down together. If some are getting hot foods, then they will probably start eating before everyone else has returned from the buffet or prepared their plate.
If I start with anything cold to break my fast (that's why it's called a breakfast) I get stomach cramps. I appreciate the suggestions, but the most important part is to listen to your body. I prefer to start with a glass of warm water first, then fresh salad, eggs, croissant/bread with jam or butter, and finally, fresh juice. I don't drink coffee. And when I stay at 5 star hotels, I would always judge/rate it through the breakfast buffet lol. Food should always be a part of the overall hotel experience.
@Scarlet Baxter I think it was just an example of a drink. It's just a recent thing that orange juice is bad, I grew up drinking it as it was thought to be healthy. I don't think Anna intended it to be a nutrition video.
I travel for work nine to ten months out of the year, and yes, four and even three start hotels often do have room service. It depends more on the hotel chain specify in North America.
Now I respect you even more! 👏💗 I am so happy that you are eco aware and that you brought it up in your vlog. Food wasting is one of the biggest issues in the world and it is very nice of you that you mentioned even those who are not lucky as we are. 🏅 You are a true lady.
This is basicly how I have behaviored every time. So proud of me. Thank you Mom. Thank you Anna , this is such nice content. Elegance in table is about being courteous educated polite and self aware
I've started intermittent fasting and I alternate between organic greek yogurt with chia seeds and berries or perhaps two eggs, avocados, tomato Sometimes depending on when I break my fast I go straight to salmon Patty (wild caught of course) with homemade tzaziki And greens
I never eat breakfast. My first meal is usually at lunch break at work around 12. You give some good advice which can be applied whether it's a 5 star hotel or a 3 star one. And the quality of your video are getting better each time. The effort is very much noticed
@@sesonam4176 I get it. I have a very sensitive bowel and eating food in the morning makes my symptoms worse. So I just eat one date and drink water if anything.
I almost always eat breakfast, usually something hearty because it gives me the most energy earlier in the mornings. I love a good "country" breakfast with eggs, sausage or bacon, some sort of potato, biscuits and gravy, etc. I'm really not a morning person, I prefer to keep to myself until I've gotten myself together for the day.
"Having good manners is about putting other people at ease and respecting other people and not making them feel awkward." Best definition I've ever heard.
Brianna Eason I thought the same when I heard her saying it
K i need to work on my mannerr then. Ty
IOW, being gracious, kind, and considerate.
Brianna Eason so true 👍🏼
That advice has been around for over 200 years. Debretts, for one
There should be etiquette schools for men I swear they need it most.
Yeahhhh!😂👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
There are, it's usually described as a military academy though.
Amen!!!!! Men like classy women, YET many are not classy themselves
My male roommate eats his sugary cereal out of a huge bowl, holds his spoon like a shovel, and makes a loud slurping sound with each bite - all while he sits on the couch watching TV! Myself...I sit at the table proper eating my fresh fruit and Greek yogurt (or whatnot), trying desperately to block him out of my vision of sight and sound. Usually however, I get disgusted, lose my appetite, and just walk away. (Ugh, I need to "level up".)
Because someone came up with so many rules as to what's etiquette and what's elegant is probably the main reason why I prefer Hotels with self-service breakfast. That way I pick my stuff, go to my corner and eat my way without having to follow 'cold before hot' and other irrelevant stuff!
By the way, what's more elegant: go to the bathroom before or after having breakfast and which hand should you use to pick up food after going to the bathroom? I bet you don't know that etiquette...
As someone that has worked in catering, I appreciate your suggestion of holding the door open, dressing proberly and being nice to the staff. People tend to be very rude and entitled when being served and think that they don't have to be nice simply because they're paying to be served. This good advice for people of all layers of society btw.
I like your name
Elodie I. That’s terrible! When I heard her suggestions I thought, who wouldn’t behave like that, it’s common decency! Not so common I guess. I hope things get back to normal after Coronavirus for you!
I sell insurancefor nearly 20 years now, but I was a server for a number of years, as were my kids. One of the world's hardest jobs! Anyone who says differently has never done it. Appreciate, and respect those people, people! 💖💜💖💜💞💚💜💖😊🥂
@@elodie5075 The most beautiful name hahaha
@@chigurl4667 I quit catering 1,5 years ago thank god. I hated the pressure and the low wage and I'm happy I left cause I have a good paying job that allows me to work from home now.
I used to work at a 4 star hotel and assist room service at times. I'm so happy to hear there are people who practice the etiquette you teach because NO ONE ever held the door open for me. Those carts are really heavy and depending on what you ordered, its easy for items to topple over so you must be careful. I hated delivering food because it was stressful at times! I also hated walking into rooms with a man in boxers and his naked girlfriend in bed. Please don't be those people.
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I don't understand, you Don't need to learn etiquette to know that you have to hold the door for others. 😮
"Having good manners is putting people at ease." Very well-put. 💕
You're easy to look at.And i'm quite at ease......😁
True class is exactly what you said . “Helping the person serving you even if you’re paying for service.” Classy people are kind and helpful to those that are serving them .
I was taught all of these things by my non-affluent mother. I thought these things were common sense.
So Lucky! I wish my parents taught me this at a young age.
Etiquette is not bound to class.
They are for some people. Etiquette has nothing to do with money😉
Ditto
Same!
Thank you for mentioning manners and being polite to the people serving you. I have broken up with people because of their rudeness to waiters, waitress, room service or valets.
I was always taught to look at how a guy treats: servers, his mama and his family , that's how he'll treat you. If he is rude and nasty to them he'll be rude and nasty to you .
Rev K you are so right!
@@ah5721 This! Please, everyone do this. If a person you are on a date or at an occasion with is treating others poorly they are not worth your time.
You have got rid of a narc.. Well done!!!
Good call!
I feel that THIS video should be played on every individual Hotel information channel available! Some people need to be reminded how to 'behave'!
Who else agrees ?
PoM MoM preach 🙌🏽
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Thanks 🥰
I wrote that 5 months ago...
Oh my gosh! Now more than ever, right?!
I just started following her like 3 days ago. My work often requires that I stay at nice hotels for extended periods of time and I notice that some people should be banned from such places yuck.
@@sweettorment641
Agreed.
YES ! :D
Regarding the awkward moment while waiting for your food, i much prefer having small talk with the server and focusing on their presence. Signing the bill helps them get the job done faster and i'm sure they appreciate it. I often say oh that looks amazing, thank you so much with encouraging words like, this is perfect etc.. and I might comment on how much i'm enjoying the hotel. I think they like that their workplace is appreciated because they are part of the larger team. I don't think you should worry too much about giving away your power, but being nice is always classy and the person will always remember you in a good light, and this is what you want. In my experience when you are nice to the staff, they tell each other and by the end of your stay, you will get many more smiles and a little more effort to make your stay comfortable.
This is exactly what I wanted to say but couldn't articulate! Small talk and being polite to the waiter like how you mentioned is in good taste and elegant
Very well said, thank you for sharing this with us.
I couldn't have said it better!
Exactly my experience! The "servers" are PEOPLE who got up in the morning dealt with whatever they have to in their personal life to get to work (like children, transportation, etc), to help US have a good experience in this place. I always treat people as PEOPLE. To me, anything else is rude and lacks class. And yes, The staff appreciates it and word spreads. I end up getting all sorts of wonderful genuinely nice treatment, little extras. Although not why I do it!
Well thought
I’m the daughter of an ambassador, so I get to travel a lot and I’ve met other diplomat’s children who behave like straight up animals (and it baffles me how many of these things aren’t actually common sense.) I think many people should take a look at you channel-regardless of their social status cause god knows they need it lol
Edit: Damn, I didn’t expect getting this much likes in this channel AT ALL- thank you sm❤️
Would you give some examples of bad manners?
Shar Roon Eating food whilst on line, multiple dipping of food on sauces such as ketchup and marmalade, screaming to the person across the room, laughing obnoxiously loud, piling food on their plates, going for seconds and thirds with their dirty plate, and even taking food from the waiter (when the help person/waiter takes the dirty plates and cleans up the table in order to make room for more), amongst others
@@anaborja9724 Goodness, I am sure there are many rules that I don't know but I wouldn't do any of those things.
@@anaborja9724 I actually think animals have better manners than the people you're describing 😂😂😂.
genevieve bonneau literally
Very well said! Being considerate to others shows elegance and proper upbringing.
How we treat others when no one else is watching shows our character best
Not necessarily proper upbringing; some of us had to raise ourselves to higher standards.
So true! Basically dont go to breakfast and be a jerk.
I'm addicted to your videos. I watched them till 3 AM last night, and I woke up and still watching them hahaha. It's not because I want to bag a rich man, but because I just want to learn to be an elegant lady. It's probably a bit too late now because I'm already over 30, but I will use whatever years I have left to transform myself into an elegant lady. Thank you so much for making these videos and keep making them. I'm hooked!
I just turn 31. It's not to late! Lots of people are getting married at around 30 lately and most people have a life expectancy of 70-80!
It's never too late!❤︎
It is never late , I’m 40 years old)
IT is NEVER too late to learn and practice good manners! I am mrrrffll years over mmrrfflll and still learn and relearn the manners my parents taught by watching these videos. As you improve your life, you wil attract a better group of people, who teach and practice more good manners and the cycle continues. You have to determine at what level you wish to live... I am so glad ANA does these videos, she is having a profound influence over a great number of people who wish to improve their lives.
Never too late to learn an old dog some trix, i am older than you and learn everyday. I have a good man already but it do need to improve myself because i have an tendency to be more man the average man:-)
I love that you talked about wasting food and the influence on our environment! Thank you for spreading awareness!
But then she discards the omelette because it's now cold....
"Behave like a true lady that you really are"
Me, still in bed and looking like a smashed potato: oh yes, that is me!
Lmao yes😂😂
You are a gorgeous smashed potato 😍
@@OutstandingBrain123 This is so nice 🥺🥺 thank you gorgeous!
Hahaha hahaha
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When I was in Turkey, in a 5* hotel with all inclusive, I felt so sorry for the service there. Those people would stretch themselves whilst serving and often many won‘t even say „thank you“ They appreciate when you are nice to them and tip them. My father always said „never forget the ‚regular man‘ „ meaning that we should make sure not to be cheap and stingy with people and treat them always nicely. I hate when people say bad stuff about cleaners, etc
Me too.
So right. We never forget the waiters or cleaners. And if we've had a spectacular meal, we speak to the chef telling him so. These all inclusive 5* places, or even high end hotels, are treated shabily by rude people, who think they are owed..... grrr
@Jane Delaney I used quotation marks as I don‘t mean it literally, ofc. It‘s a figure of speech in my country and difficult to find an appropriate translation
Jane Delaney lol took the words from my mouth, but cant say I’m surprised this is how this kind of person thinks.
@@1chienandalou it still amazes me that you chose to comment this way, when I previously explained that it´s a figure of speech in my language and it´s not degrading in any way.SMH If I thought someone is beneath me, I wouldn´t do many things that I do to help others, which both of you don´t know anything about. Please, don´t jump into conclusions and read what I wrote
During the “awkward silence” stage, I like to ask “How is your morning going?” Or “It looks to be a lovely day today” to fill in the space between the bill and the “goodbye Thank You” if need be.
Just turn on the TV before the room service attendant arrives to avoid any awkward silence inside the room if you're the type of person who doesn't like small talk.
@@m.s9146 not interacting with the help is old school lifestyle.
Do we leave the tips?
@@tuyetle4846 yes!
@@creationsfromrubbish9704 So, do you think we should ignore them or talk to them? I think a little small talk is appropriate.
OMG, croissants are not elegant to eat? There goes my elegance!! I love a warm croissant with jam and coffee.
I am not an expert like Anna, but I say, it's the way you eat your food that makes it elegant...and croissant can be eaten quite elegantly. 💚
Croissants have always been elegant!
Momma Bear the whole concept of eating elegant foods is ridiculous 😄
Right? Think Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany's! She was eating a croissant with coffee in the very first scene she looked amazing!
I'm not buying that. Why is this 5 star hotel serving croissants if they aren't elegant?? That's preposterous! I shall continue to eat my croissants.
I was also taught these things in our middle class family.
I did appreciate how you mentioned to be polite to your servers; very important. My mother summed it up as "pretty is as pretty does". Kindness should always be in fashion.
“Don’t be greedy ladies... we’re not starving”
Ok but like... if it fits on the plate, it’s going on the plate!!😂😂
Lauren D EXACTLY
I saw a lady stuffing bacon in her pocket one time. I couldn’t NOT believe it. I will never forget that!
LOVE IT HAHAHA
HAHAHA! Maybe she had a small dog concealed.
😂 😂 😂
Yes Ana we get it, you only stay in 5* 😂
I know right. There was no need for that.
Hahahah
i like how she liked this comment lol
Rosebud I would never stay in less than a 4 star simply for cleanliness reasons. Why would anyone even want to take that chance?
Kindah affordability? Lol
This shouldn't have to be said, but dont wear your pajamas to the breakfast buffet! Nor let your children run wild. Would you do that in a restaurant?
Goodness yes! I was a nice hotel and my breakfast was ruined by the children being rowdy. I have two small children so I can say control your children! Teach them how to properly behave in public!
Apparently pajamas are the trend nowadays 🤣
OMG!!! YES!!! THAT DRIVES ME NUTS!!!! Listen up families who do this: YOU ARE NOT AT HOME!
Thank for mentioning about children running around wild! Parents you are not at home! Teach your children manners because your children can and do ruin breakfast for people!
Throw them against the wall. *in an elegant way*
I absolutely agree with avoiding talking over the food. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves. Thank you for making that point!
I just loved what you said Anna 💕💕💕 I work in a wealthy management family office and sometimes I see that people mistreated people as a maid, courier service man, and waitress. I get so sad because they work are extremely difficult and sometimes they come from far places to serve us. Thank you for your words. I always thought that people well educated never underestimate others work.
So ssad
Are people who mistreat service workers bullies, snobs, sadists, or arrogant?
Anna, I've started watching your videos and I think you're teaching really important things to people - nobody learns about etiquette or how to behave any more. You're doing a really valuable public service - and it doesn't just apply to affluent people either! Regular folks can use this info too. Etiquette is ultimately about how we treat others and showing kindness and respect.
I’m so grateful that my parents raised me like this
i already do ALL of these things, without being taught. it’s just respectful and many people think i’m weird..
Unfortunately politeness is a rarety nowadays.
Same
Earla Weese no but if you are rude, you aren’t better then them yourself
Same here 🧐
Stick with us, we are elegantly weird, also, We will change the world and make it a better place!
I eat the hot foods first, I don’t want them cooled down. The yogurt can wait.
This makes most sense to me. I always considered sausages, eggs, hash brown to be safest to eat while still hot. Cold food stays cold unless you're in the hot desert, so I eat the fruits like the cantaloupe, honeydew and pineapple, oranges last as a desert or palate cleanser.
Agreed
You can serve yourself of the cold things, eat them, and then get the hot foods later. I believe most hot dishes are also the ones that have most fat and unhealthy ingredients, so if you eat the cold foods before, you also end up eating less of the unhealthy (but delicious) dishes. It’s a win-win situation!
That was my thought exactly. I didn’t know the etiquette around it said otherwise.
But someone later commented because it’s a buffet and you can go a few times (even Ana said twice) I guess next time I’ll try getting my warm/hot food later.
And also not to pack my plates. 🙈😂 that was me all the way...like I want to try EVERYTHING lol
@@isabelamartins6909 Correct. I start with a small serving of some tropical fruit (if in a tropical location) and a spoon or two of yoghurt to top it, maybe a sprinkle of granola. If I still wish for more, then it's a poached egg on a piece of toast if they have a nice type of bread, perhaps with a tomato, a serving of avocado o a serving of a vegetable with it. Generally, that's more than enough for me. These days I'm actually intermittent fasting anyway, so it's not so much of a concern.
I've watched quite a few of your videos now and one thing always sticks out to me - that although you are upper class and really a very elegant woman, you don't perpetrate the stereotype of being snooty and "holier than thou". Instead, you teach us to be kind, respectful and conscientious of others. To me that is the mark of a true elegant lady, to be somebody who is graceful in all aspects of life. I have a lot of respect for you Anna, thank you again for the videos :)
This was such an important video. I just had an conversation the other day, on how so many people lack on etiquette. Especially when it comes to dining. Stuffing whole fruits in their mouth. They way their posture is while sitting at the table. Behavior. Back then when my daughter was 3 she already knew how to properly eat with fork & knife and having a napkin on her lap... and she enjoyed being a little princess. Maybe it’s just because I grew up myself like that. But I think there should be classes on manners and etiquette (at least the basic) in school. Thanks that was a good video 🌷
I teach table manners and etiquette. If you wish, you may watch my channel.
Don’t forget to tip the room service attendant well
Yes, that is quite important.
US is a tip country. If you are over seas tipping is considered rude. (They pay their staff better and it is expected that the staff are doing their job well. So tipping implies you expect poor service)
@@catjohnston3139 So interesting. Thank you dear person Cat for this information.
@@MA7-6585 please remember that it all depends on the country you're travelling to. I'm Polish and no one here would consider you rude because you want to tip the staff, it's just a sign that you appreciate somebody's work. But as I said - it all depends on the country.
@@SandraMichalska i'm also Polish, but I normaly dine in Germany, France and Swiss and tipping is never considered rude. It's not necessary but highly appreciated.
My 90 yr old mother was all about etiquette and I am thankful for it! Such as when you eat a croissant or roll, break it into a smaller piece before spreading jam or butter. Place a small amount of jam or butter on your plate and then spread it from your small plate onto the roll. Never take it directly from the serving bowl/plate. Maybe you have covered this in other videos?
Thanks for the tips!!
She wasnt detailed about the etiquette.....examples : use fork to pick up a small piece of food just on the tip of the tines and dont insert all tines into the mouth, but just take small amountsvof food off the very tip of the fork.....thats my favorite......and like someone here said, break the croissants into bite sized pieces and spread jelly on only one piece at a time per bite... .etc etc
@J .S Yours don't, but mine do! 😁
I wish I had someone i my family to help me with etiquette...does anyone know a good book i can read a out this topic or more youtubers, such as this woman? That talk about it
@@novaexx6587 Amazon/Kindle have a pretty good selection of etiquette books. Usually, you can download a sample or read reviews.
I’m a room service person. Glad that I adhere to your guidelines without having heard them before! Coffee. Coffee first. It’s the base of my food pyramid. I usually have something light in the morning- yogurt with some healthy muesli, if available. Or, egg whites with sliced tomatoes. And coffee. Thanks for this video and you have a calming presence.
I LOVE hotel breakfasts with a passion! If I'm sleeping, all someone has to do to get me up is whisper "breakfast finishes in 10 minutes" and I'll be flying out of bed, dressing and getting downstairs at the speed of light. I always have juice, small portion of granola, streaky bacon, grilled tomato and a hash brown followed by fruit and coffee.
If I'm in France then just a coffee and a mini baguette with fruit compote. In Spain a coffee and pan de tomate. Delicious!
I’m the same way. I looove hotel breakfast. I wake up just for them. My husband...not so much. So there goes my elegance when I have to carry a plate of assorted foods from the buffet to the room for him 😂
In Spain you'll have to try chocolate y churros! So yummy!
This made me smile, that's all I have to say to my husband as well! To miss the breakfast buffet for him is like missing the last flight off the continent 😆
Me, an intellectual: stuffs muffins and croissants in purse, to snack during the day.
Rogue849 you aren’t the only one, lol
Lol 👍
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"Stuffs muffins in my purse for snacks"!!! Yes girl, exactly!!! We need our snacks!!
For suuuure
Great video! We need more on etiquette. Good etiquette has nothing to do with your social standing or education level. Manners and being polite to people always wins.
It is always best to be considerate to the people serving me. It does make me feel good. Since, I have gained a bit during this time of the pandemic, my breakfast now consist of a fruit and two slices of bread with no filling of any sort.
“Don’t pile mountains in your plate” hahaha exactly.
I ve become a morning person. I love to see the sunrise while I meditate and Drink my morning tea.
Same with me, after I chose to give up alcohol a few years ago
I wake early and feel just fine! 🙂
Same here, Scarlett😉
How did you do that. I want to be a lark not an owl. I waste so much of my day.
Nanny Needs Coffee I set various alarms. For example if I want to wake up an 5 am I set up an alarm at 4:30 - 4:45 then at 5. I sit on my roof I have a nice view. Then I just sit there with my tea and watch the sunrise. Soak that energy and continue with my busy day. It’s important to have a moment.
Thank you 😄
This man found your video informative. Yes, there are men in your audience. 😁
That's soo wonderful
Indeed
very nice
Great advice, so many people need to see this vlog. Luckily, my mom taught me all of this and she’s not elegant at all. But she is well mannered!
We have learned all these things at home from my mother, and you have to sort your food and not mix everything in one plate, but we tend to eat the warm food first because we do not want to put it away. all the way from Kuwait 🇰🇼
I grew up learning all these basic rules, thank God! But some friends tell me I act "Like a princess and care too much." I love that I was taught these rules at a by young age.
Your channel is very unique in that it covers a wide range of topics. Thnx for another great etiquette video♥️ could you in future please do a video about your intermittent fasting and how you prepare for it?
Ma Ha it's going to take her a long time to Google that and it will get lost in translation. Why don't you go to the professionals on UA-cam.
I love ordering room service in 4 or 5 start hotels. I usually order eggs with a non pork option for meat and if I'm feeling a little extra I'll order a mimosa. Thanks for this advice I'll be sure to use it.
Favorite breakfast: scrambled eggs with side of cherry tomatoes and ofcourse, peppermint tea.
Elegant x
My favourite is oatmeal with flaxseeds and maple syrup followed by coffee
Don’t waste food.... and than she says my omelette looks weird so I will toss it away. Great going!
MsStarcluster 🤣🤣🤣
She said she was putting it away, as in out of sight, not throwing it out
Its clearly for demo purposes only.
Ladies, eat what you want and in what order you want. Being yourself is the most “elegant” thing you can do. Spoken by an affluent woman.
@Mary Kruk it’s important to eat in the right order to avoid indigestion & reflux
@@lamlat24 If you drink coffee, fats and chocolate or if you have acalasia you are going to suffer from reflux no matter the order
So true about wasting food.
But after her omelette has sat overlong as Affluence Girl speaks, she tosses it.
I noticed that too. After she spoke about not wasting food, she wasted that omelette.
My favorite breakfast is Belgian waffles with real butter and warm maple syrup, a bowl of fresh ripe fruit, and a cup of strong builder's tea with raw honey and cream.
Exactly mine too!
Why cold before warm? I start with warm so I can enjoy it while it’s hot, then move on to cold as my palate cleanser as it tends to be fruit. 🤷🏻♀️
Fruit is eaten first because it digests more quickly than other foods.
@@debbbb2561 and when it's eaten at the end of the meal, the fermentation process will cause farting all day 🤣🤣
It's just a suggestion. I'm sure no one cares in which order you eat your food.
It gives your hot food some time to cool down. This will prevent you burning your tongue. My mom taught me this as a little girl. I was a fast and greedy eater.
@Debbbb and @@@genevievebonneau09 Not so sure about that. It's all just going to end up as one mass in your stomach anyway. I don't think the order in which you eat would make any difference to digestion unless there was a considerable gap between eating each thing, which is unlikely given breakfast is usually a fairly quick meal.
Her: "Cereal is not elegant"
Also her: *shows cereal to the camera*
Anna, your focus on considering other people is so beautiful. Etiquette and manners really are about respect. Thank you for prioritising others when you share and teach.
You truly are an elegant lady.
What l love most about your teachings is that you always emphasise respect and kindness. Unfortunately some people confuse elegance with snobbery.
Love this video 😊. Do you think you can do one, on how to dress simple and elegant for college?
Simple elegant affordable and quick 😂
Hi Nahylia. Most of the fashionistas lay out what they are going to wear the prior night. That is a habit I have yet to implement 😞
Find an elegant "uniform" such as a slim fit tunic top in quality fabric, skinny pant, ballet flat or wedge (for Summer). Tunic sweater paired with a scarf or fine quality thin sweater, paired with leather jacket/or tunic-style button up cardigan, slim pant, ankle or knee high boot (for Winter). Keep it simple, yet elegant. Find your own version of simple elegant campus wear.
Nahylia That would be great ! I struggle with dressing elegantly without seeming overdressed since I’m in an engineering school and ... engineers don’t really care about their look 🙈🙈🙈
That would be such a nice video. I would love to see that and implement it myself!
So refreshing and beautifully presented. Thank you! I learned etiquette from my grandmother who had a book from her childhood...it was really important just a few generations ago...and correct napkin etiquette alone could be a whole video!
I love that you’re doing etiquette and relationship videos now 😉
I never knew there was an order to eating breakfast. Thank you for sharing.
I am curious if this order of breakfast is really valid...because every restaurant will serve coffee first at breakfast
There isn't. That's the beauty of buffet breakfasts. There's a huge choice, you're not expected to eat all of it, so you take what you want, in the order of preference. But you couldn't make a 10 minute self congratulatory video from that information....
Oh, can you PLEASE make a video on elegant date etiquette? Like conversation topics, messy foods to avoid ordering, and who should pay (I think who ever scheduled the date should pay, since you are asking for the other persons' company)?
@J .S Is it sexy when women pay for the whole meal and tip? Just curious...
@@mackenzie3652 Not for a first date.
Can you do more videos on etiquette and manners? Like how to talk to people with perfect manners (and how to respond when someone is being rude or are insulting you lol)
The social cut :)
@Mrs. P Hi, Mrs. P, it's when someone puts their hand out to shake yours and you don't put yours out and shake back. Or I think in Regency times it was to literally turn your back on someone trying to say hello to you. Today it would be like if you were at a party and seeing someone coming toward you, turned away from them and started talking to someone else. The severity of it varies, depending on who is doing it to whom - like a higher class to a lower class or how badly ostracized from "society" that person is. Best wishes to you!
I'm 18 years old and i've been watching your videos for a while now, thank you for teaching us these things society seems to forget so easily
Listen a lot of times in life we loose the things that make for common sense especially if you are around the wrong people. Bad company ruins good character.
In the US it’s customary to tip room service as well.
Leah DelPezzo every where my dear. I do estimate 10% but common sense first ( not too much nor ridiculous)
20% is standard if it is good/excellent service if that is what you prefer. It depends, to me if the service is just kind of okay I usually tip 15%, and if the service is really good sometimes I tip 35%. I am not affluent, nor do I make a lot of money. I've just worked in the service industry off and on my adult life, and went to college to work in the hospitality/ beauty industry so I know how it goes.
Usually the tip is already included on the bill.
@@ariellekaneza6888 in some countries, people could be offended if you tip. I've read it is a faux pas in countries like Japan, for example. In Spain, tipping hotels staff is not very common, (unless, perhaps, the service required has been pretty complicated or unusual). I am sure, when talking about 5 stars hotels, their staff welcome any kind of "policy", as they receive worldwide guests. But I prefer to investigate carefully the "tip issue" when I travel.
I live in the US and i was hoping she'd discuss the tip and the ettiquet around that
Having travelled quite a bit I find that to truly enjoy great food regardless of which meal of the day i find it is very classy to ask the staff for local specialties and suggestions other than the common continental options. There may be dishes which you may not have a chance to try elsewhere. Why is this important?! First it shows that you respect the local culture, 2nd it takes a humble, down to earth person at ease with herself to ask such questions instead of coming across arrogant or overconfident. Last but not least being truly curious leads to learning and what's more it is a smart ice breaker with the staff that is there to serve you!
Some of my tips when travelling:
1. Be very polite and down to earth - leaving in a calvinist swiss culture for years I have realised that a little extra kindness goes a long way. Remember that not everybody is as lucky as you are!
2. Be truly interested in the place you are travelling and their culture - learn a few words of their language to greet the staff and ask their personal tips - you might be impressed but they will remember you ( not because of your money but because of your kindness and humility).
3. Try local fruits, veggies and or other local dishes - you might end up loving them. I still remember with nostalgia the amazing fruits and local dishes we tried in Tanzania a few years ago. The generous breakfasts were part of our experience and of spoiling ourselves.
4. Be natural - awkwardness sometimes is sign of trying too hard - observe but remain you no matter what you do! That is far more classy than trying to fit the mold!
5. Last but not least: eat everything you love but in small portions, and in moderation - don't fake it till you make it - trust me it shows. :) Be generous to yourselves and understand that you are not there to impress anyone but to make memories. This should be your confidence booster and your motto and trust me your partner will appreciate it as well!
Love your comments
Thank you for these tips...so helpful...i agree totally with all your tips...Im from the US and Ive seen too many Americans travelling abroad that don't even pause to learn one word in the local language or even tune in to the local experience around them. Your comment is so spot on! Thank you
Well said 👏👏👏
I could not possibly agree more about both asking about and trying local specialties. Why bother traveling at all if you're not going to investigate what makes the country you're in worth going to? If you don't want to try new things?
If you're one of those travelers who just wants things the way they are at home, for heaven's sake, *stay* home - and look at pictures of the place on the Internet. Now, more than any other time in history, it's possible to see all of the sights without leaving your sofa, so just don't even bother going unless you want to meet the people, try the food, and check out the *experiences* that can only be had on the ground somewhere else.
Learning to say at least hello, goodbye, and especially thank you in the language of the country you're in can go a *loooong* way towards helping you enjoy your visit. People just love it, and will knock themselves out to be helpful and friendly if you just show a little bit of interest and make a little bit of effort to meet them where they are. This can make all the difference in the experience of travel.
I won’t ever be elegant and I’m not even sure I want to be- but I just love watching you! I can always dream ☺️
The "self" doesn't develop in a vacuum. The "self" each of us came to be came about as a result of the influences brought to bear on us. And oftentimes those influences are ones that don't end up serving us well. Saying "I won't ever" anything, when referring to a positive goal, is speaking out a negative over our future. Just as the "self" doesn't develop in a vacuum, bringing in the influences that do serve us well (like Anna's principles of elegance) takes discipline and patience with yourself. It won't necessarily happen overnight, but it won't happen at all if you commit that it won't happen. Anna's principles of elegance will serve us well and steer us clear of that which is really not good for us.
I’ve been very intentional to teach my children proper etiquette. Even if you can’t afford to stay at a fancy hotel, you can usually book a reservation for breakfast. We have a local hotel that creates a walk-through holiday display which creates a reason to visit without staying.
As a hotel staff member, I want to thank you for this video ☺️❤️
Please do more videos about etiquette, I love this topic and I love listening to you, you're very entertaining and instill calmness 😊
I love your videos!
You have a genuine way of explaining some delicate points...
I wish You spoke a little bit about what to do AFTER you finished your breakfast in the room.
My pet peeves are when people a) don't take out the trail so when the cleaners come a big table of food is waiting for them (not their job to clean it, porters do that)
b) when people take the trail to the corridor but do not cover the leftover food, man, it looks yucky and smells!! Other hotel stayers aren't supposed to smell your leftover sausage.
Anyways, excellent video Anna, as always! Keep up the good work.
Molnár Eszter Ella Do you mean trash, instead of trail?
@@inabind416 hey no it was a typo I meant to write trolley. You know the table for in room dining. 😁
So to sum it up we should cover the dishes with a napkin or something and roll it out into the corridor right? I never took room service so wasn't thinking about it I just go downstairs grab a tray and return it later lol.
@@ani_n01 lol Yeah. So etiquette says first call room service and tell them thanks for the food, we are finished. They will come and take it. If it is lunch or dinner time sometimes the line is busy, it is better to cover the leftover and place it in the corridor, yeah.
@@molnareszterella8325 ah thanks for explaining!
When I was in both Spain and Italy, in nice hotels, the breakfast buffets were SO gorgeous! Artistic spreads of every kind of food, taking up an entire room - fresh fruits displayed like art, every kind of amazing pastry, natural yogurts, jams, meats, olives, eggs, breads, coffee and tea bar, etc. etc. It was a feast for the eyes as well as the body! Needless to say, it was a challenge to take only what I knew I could eat - everything looked so delicious. Fond memories, and I hope I was elegant...!
Anna such a big heart! I learned more important things in this video not only the breakfast etiquette, but being a kind person too. You are my my inspiration❤️ love from the Philippines ❤️
I am rebuilding my life. I have had to work hard. I appreciate this lesson as I am re-experiencing better things with a new appreciation. Nothing wrong with eating like a civilized person and not just shoveling it down. 😊 I am now beginning to travel and have joined a travel club so I'm going to look into your course.
I never want to interact before 10 am 🤭😨😩😫
Lol
Same...so quite often I will ask my lover to bring me back a cup of coffee and a small bite of something from the buffett...then I get a little more sleep and breakfast in bed ... what's more classy than that😋?
🙋 same here.
IF was made for ppl like us. Skip breakfast - your body will thank you
Me, too. It has nothing to do with being “lazy”, but more about being an introvert.
I’m a bit older than most of the ‘elegant ladies’ watching this video. I do remember being taught these same rules by my Italian American mother and I have endeavoured to pass these same rules onto my daughter. Good manners and eating properly are timeless.
I love that you just pointed out how challenging service work is. It is imperative to express appreciation for anyone who provides a service.
I'm feeling attacked 😂😂 I love a big breakfast
Fresh vanilla yogurt with granola and berries is always a great vacation starter. It gives you energy and protein to face your day without feeling like you overindulged
Great video, Anna! Thank you for sharing!
But wait, what about tipping the room service person? Here in the US, you are expected to tip everyone, literally everyone! Is it not a common practice in Europe?
Also, breakfast is the only meal of the day when you are permitted to bite your bread. For example, if you are having a toast. For all the other meals, you are supposed to break bite-size pieces.
Olga Poltava In the states i feel the tipping has gone really overboard. In europe its minimal and very reasonable
Hi Olga, that is not a common practice in Europe. Our minimum wage laws apply to all workers so if they do get a tip that's bonus money. A lot of people tip though especially if they received good service. Also coastal areas in europe are more tip-aware than other countries.
Anna liked your comment..💓 but didn't answer your question🙁
We eat bread with soup for lunch and noone breaks it into small pieces.
@@maytemedina5559 You're right. Americans go overboard with tipping for the bare minimum.
But I'm French and croissant is my morning! Apart from that, I adore your videos. Thank you so much to teach us,
I very much enjoy your videos! Thank you for posting! My grandmother and mum taught me so much, and I realise how, how fortunate I am. Bless you!
I have a 12 year old daughter and we watch your video, because they teach elegance and etiquette! You can never start to young! When I was young my sisters and I had finishing school. Lessons that we carried with us everyday! Thanks for posting!
Thank you Anna for the amazing content, per usual. I am looking forward to more etiquette videos from your channel!
All of the times I went with breakfast room service when i've been working at a hotel... 90% of the time people were laying in bed, half-naked 😁 good times 😅🙈
Incredibly inspiring, Anna. Not only did I enjoy your elegant etiquette lesson (common sense in my world), you also inspired within me the vision of the type of woman I desire to attract into my fun life. Your mention of skipping breakfast and Intermittent Fasting was a fun(ny) and heartwarming denouement-something I do as well even when a five-star breakfast is included with the room.
I used to do room service and I agree with your advice! Ask for the bill, “can I take the bill off your hands?” It’s so awkward when you’re waiting outside the door for them to fill out the bill, it also doesn’t give them a lot of time to think about the tip. They do it in a rush. I also can’t tell you how many times I’ve walked into a room and people are in their boxers or briefs. It’s so uncomfortable!
Forever my favorite classy role model. I really enjoyed the teenager focused videos! And my favourite breakfast food when I’m at home is an açai or a smoothie bowl, but if I’m out it would usually be a fruit salad or a granola and yogurt
shouldn't you eat the warm food first so it doesn't get cold?
Chinese medicine teaches to have a glass of warm water the first thing in the morning and not the cold orange juice. In Asia, a warm soup is very common to have for the breakfast.
Think of it from the perspective of the entire group eating cold foods before hot foods. If everyone is getting cold foods first, then it's easier to wait for everyone to get their plate and sit down together. If some are getting hot foods, then they will probably start eating before everyone else has returned from the buffet or prepared their plate.
If I start with anything cold to break my fast (that's why it's called a breakfast) I get stomach cramps. I appreciate the suggestions, but the most important part is to listen to your body. I prefer to start with a glass of warm water first, then fresh salad, eggs, croissant/bread with jam or butter, and finally, fresh juice. I don't drink coffee. And when I stay at 5 star hotels, I would always judge/rate it through the breakfast buffet lol. Food should always be a part of the overall hotel experience.
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@Scarlet Baxter I think it was just an example of a drink. It's just a recent thing that orange juice is bad, I grew up drinking it as it was thought to be healthy. I don't think Anna intended it to be a nutrition video.
I travel for work nine to ten months out of the year, and yes, four and even three start hotels often do have room service. It depends more on the hotel chain specify in North America.
Now I respect you even more! 👏💗 I am so happy that you are eco aware and that you brought it up in your vlog. Food wasting is one of the biggest issues in the world and it is very nice of you that you mentioned even those who are not lucky as we are. 🏅 You are a true lady.
This is basicly how I have behaviored every time.
So proud of me.
Thank you Mom.
Thank you Anna , this is such nice content.
Elegance in table is about being courteous educated polite and self aware
In my daily morning, it's important to me to take a moment to see the weather after that I choose what I want to eat based on the weather.
Love u. 🌸🌸
That is interesting...what weather inspires you to eat which foods?
If I have breakfast I eat oatmeals with bluberrys and one soft boild egg. Always coffe ☕️😴
Mr Brightheads exact same for me!
I've started intermittent fasting and I alternate between organic greek yogurt with chia seeds and berries or perhaps two eggs, avocados, tomato
Sometimes depending on when I break my fast I go straight to salmon Patty (wild caught of course) with homemade tzaziki
And greens
I'm taking myself out for breakfast tomorrow,I'm so excited.
Japanese husband taught me about this manner They are particular in manner since i got married very very young.Thank You Miss Ana.
As for 'Elegant' food? Now I've heard it all!! 😂😂😂😂😂
I never eat breakfast. My first meal is usually at lunch break at work around 12. You give some good advice which can be applied whether it's a 5 star hotel or a 3 star one. And the quality of your video are getting better each time. The effort is very much noticed
Breakfastbos the most important dish of the day
@@sesonam4176 I get it. I have a very sensitive bowel and eating food in the morning makes my symptoms worse. So I just eat one date and drink water if anything.
I almost always eat breakfast, usually something hearty because it gives me the most energy earlier in the mornings. I love a good "country" breakfast with eggs, sausage or bacon, some sort of potato, biscuits and gravy, etc. I'm really not a morning person, I prefer to keep to myself until I've gotten myself together for the day.