Dangers of Self Help Culture
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- Опубліковано 19 лип 2024
- Self + self = more self.
Self-love, self-hate, self-help - it’s all one in the same, because the root is the same: SELF.
In this episode, I talk about the dangers of self-help culture, which include: assuming that we are good enough as is, capitulating a society that is literally SELF-centered, and watering down/edifying the biblical God-if not ignoring Him altogether to opt out for the “higher self” narrative instead.
No matter how you spin it, self-help has one goal: self-actualization. Self-healing. A concept that sounds pretty to the ears, but ultimately defies Scripture. Self-help keeps our sights set on the mirror and whatever that reflection can finitely offer back to us, instead of on Jesus and our promised eternal salvation in Him.
The thing about striving for self-actualization/healing within this personal development movement is that we do genuinely go into it with the best intentions - to grow and be better people - but the intention remains self-motivated, rather than for the glory of God, which leads us to idolatry of the self, creating more need for the self and no room for the Lord.
With self-help culture, before you know it, you are so full of yourself that you don’t even realize how hungry you truly are for God.
The reason you HAVE the hunger to grow that led you to self-help is because God designed you to need Him (John 15:4-5). You are hungry because it is GOD who feeds you your daily bread - not affirmations in the mirror, or daily journals, or a routine, or mindset training, or manifestation, or whatever else self-help falsely promises as the “thing” to help you heal you.
So does this mean we should neglect our wellbeing? Absolutely not. It just means that we stop going within to find healing when that’s the same place we find our strife. The self cannot be both the problem and the solution-logically, it’s a fallacy. So instead, we focus on self-sacrifice over self-help: laying our life at the Lord’s feet and stop exalting the self & our efforts as if we ourselves are the god of our life.
Stop reaching for the best of life and instead receive the life in Christ. If you were good enough on your own, you would have “done it” by now - you need Him. Desperately. We all do.
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Referenced Scripture:
John 1:19
Romans 3:23
Romans 3:10
Matthew 23:12
1 John 1:8-10
Matthew 16:25
Colossians 3:3
Proverbs 16:5
John 15:4-5
James 4:8
Romans 12:2
1 Peter 5:6
John 3:30
Luke 9:23
Philippians 2:3
Hebrews 12:2
Isaiah 41:10
Phillipians 4:7
"The opposite of self love is not self hate, it's self sacrifice." THIS!
One problem, I think, is the continuous fixation on self-improvement and goals, constant change required - so people get stuck in the chasing of fulfillment without accepting and just simply being, as is, blessed with the endless, continuous love and fulfillment from Jesus.
We don't always have to be improving, we should focus more on enjoying the beauty of what God is providing in the present moment - and to get into the habit of doing this throughout each day. This habit has been changing my life and growing my gratitude more and more each day. 🙏 ❤️
I think the problem with these self help culture is that it seems very positive but it will take your eyes away from Jesus and you live your life believing a lie that you’re good person and you could live however you want because you deserve it..when the reality is you don’t, our purpose in life is to give the glory to him because he deserve it not us.
@Melissa Calderon Absolutely! And the thing is you fall across it innocently because you want to be better than you currently are, in this World but you get ducked into something that looks like en-'light'-enment into something very 'covertly' dark and you might not realise it for years.
@@NickyM_0 so TRUE!
@@lawladymi1576 The deception is REAL and insidious!
@@NickyM_0 It is and now that I realize it, I spot it immediately in my circles when people speak what amounts to new age deception but they think it's just self improvement
@@lawladymi1576 Exactly! Once you know, you can spot it IMMEDIATELY.
I’ve been a chritian for about 24 years and *some* self actualization is necessary for a person to be a whole being. We are Spirit, soul and body. We are all uniquely created for a purpose. MANY Christian’s ONLY go to church and can slap you with Bible verses left and right but there CLUELESS when it comes to knowing their uniqueness, strengths, weaknesses, knowing what THEY truly like or dislike bc they’ve completely threw their hands up and said ‘if it’s your will or God will make a way if he wants me to have, do, take…’ given their free will to choose up bc they’re afraid to think for themselves outside of God. They don’t realize that Hod has given them a mind to think with. They don’t know how to regulate emotions, walk in confidence, and eliminate anxiety, fear and worry. All the these things are in the Bible- the self help world has simplified how to apply them. I once heard a Ex New Age guru say, “Self help without the Holy Spirit is a very dangerous place to be.”
I truly think self help/awareness is very necessary along having a deep knowledge, relationship, and revelation of who God is, what Jesus did, who you are in Christ and the individual that God made you to be creates a whole being lacking nothing.
Self help is simply using scripture in the world without the true source-simply what Satan is known for, using Gods principles and perverting them to deceive, distracts and gain legal access.
Just came here from your interview with Michael Knowles on daily wire. Keep it up. Persevere; your testimony to Christendom is a light needed in a dark world. Praying for your walk in Christ and your new ventures. May the Lord Jesus richly bless you!
Came over from your Daily Wire interview- can't wait to get caught up on your videos
This was an amazing breakdown and pieced together everything that I had slowly come to the same conclusion based on my experience and my observations of people close to me that participate in new age spirituality/witchcraft. They are completely and chronically narcissistic and they are ALL about self to the point of saying that they are God! (Blasphemy!). They are all about SELF.
There is so much that I can say about the content of this video but I will just say Thank you and may God bless you! 🙏🏾✝️
Amen. I have lived this. I had problems with selfishness which turned into anxiety and fear of mistakes. I begged Jesus to take it away when it got too much. I didn't know what it was at the time, in 2 days she shout my mouth and opened my heart. I loved myself the way He sees me and then everyone else and felt forgiveness and Grace fill me. If I didn't live it I would not believe it can happen. Whatever you have just give it to Him. People don't believe this that why there is so much depression and keep going to therapists and psychologists. He is all we need
Self help==self absorbed==self pity. Let's go mainstream narrative.
Yes! We are fallen. It is not hard to see at all! I love when you said “walk outside of your front door”. Yes.
"if it were with in, you would have figured it out by now." 1:05:50 Powerful statement!
So TRUE about the MLM/direct sales culture! So on point.. I was entrenched in that too and all those books! And that led me to more yoga and even some interest in Reikki and attending some chakra events with friends. Thanks to God it wasn't feeling right and I found your podcast and I have purged all the new age and jumped into the Bible and Bible studies and devotionals, and The Chosen has arrived just at the right time for me.
Eckhart Tolle and Abraham-Hicks were my god, not to mention that vague "goddess" I was praying to for two decades... Thank you for putting yourself out there
Thank you for what you are saying, it takes courage... keep Shining a light of Jesus!
This is awesome, this DO Take COURAGE AND HEART! AND ! you are passing it on! 🙏 From the bottom of my heart, thank you sooooo much 🙏
Very good. Thank you for this. My famly is all wrapped up into the New Age and this helps me a lot.
Hows about we keep them ALL in prayer.
Blessings.
@@galatians2_20 I do that daily
@@sparklegirl1111
I shall add them to my prayer journal too. I believe in prayer.
@@galatians2_20 Thank you! Jenny Deanna Annabelle Elizabeth Elliot and Tyler Nathaniel are their names
Hey! came here because of your interview with Knowles.
Great stuff you're putting out.
Loved this. I have indulged massively in the self help arena, the only thing that has truly worked is having a relationship with my creator. I believe in taking responsibility, being productive, looking after our physical health but this is all in vain if the ego is running the show.
Suggestion: can you place numbers to the begining of episodes so that those of us who are binging your podcast can easily follow along?
Excellent! Thank you Angela. God bless!
New subscriber here, thank you for sharing this insightful, eye-opening information. I’ve been a devout Christian for 3 years now and know about the deception on New Age but didn’t realize self-help can be a slippery slope into the New Age as well. Blessings 🙏
Thanks for these great episodes Angela! I'm enjoying binge listening/watching. God bless
Another great video, Angela. Well done!
Thank you and God bless!
Thank you. Very insightful, realistic, and refreshing. I thoroughly enjoyed this topic. Be blessed and be a blessing!
Maranatha!
Rev1:03
Tracey Burroughs from South Africa watching your podcast.Thank you for your video
It is very simple, as you grasp perfectly. Our "self" is impermanent. I now believe my "soul" or "spirit" was created by God in this life, for an eternity.
We take every thought at the obedience to Christ :)
I really enjoyed every second of this podcast. Your words have great strength. Thank you :)
I have been listening to you since I saw the interview with Michael Knowles and it has been helpful. I can relate to so much you are saying and you just now mentioned a book that I still have in my other home laying on the shelf. I will get rid of it. You are right about it.
I also had a talk about the subject with my mom yesterday and she was actually listening even though she has been really into new age for decades. So this has been around me for all my life.
Really great content❤ thank you!
Love this. Will go and give 5 stars and rating. Please do this more often sister
Thanks Angela for spreading awareness about the dangers and nature of New Age. Like you, I always wanted to be better. I ditched self help stuff because it felt fake, out of my reach. I felt bad about myself and nothing could take that away. At the same time I felt I had a value, I wanted to have one, but I didn't know what could give me that value. Just someone saying I had it, couldn't convince me. When I found Jesus it was a new life. He actually got me to become better exactly at those things I wanted (being able to study, work, have friend, not be anxious, have a family). I never moved an inch by myself. While just trying to follow Him and failing so many times, over the years I actually improved. Just by his grace. I went through a lot of pain and by His grace, that also made me better. I would have never thought a loser could win. But with Him, I come as I am, a loser, and He wins for me, firstly over my worst enemy, which is me.
I have a question for you. I've found Dr. Jordan Peterson. He's an expert in personality Diso and also studied totalitarianisms in depth. He also loves the Bible. He gives advice on how to be better, but from a very different standpoint than self help books, and I'd like to know what you think if you ever want to check it out. God bless you, prayers for your journey ❤
Beloved...
I been listening since this morning +3 other vids of your (vids rt after your testimony).
I subscribe because I love the way you speak straight forward. Bless you.
I'm not an ex NewAgr (that I dunno of...lol). ...howelse I am Indigenous American. Which we know how real the spiritual world is.
Bless you... Eph5.11Warrior for Christ.
Acknowledging yourself as your own god may even work while you’re alive, but as soon as you die you’ll discover the real hierarchy of gods within the kingdom of darkness - and that you’re at the bottom of it. But acknowledging yourself within the Kingdom of God and entering as a servant will enable you to be exalted by Jesus Himself.
I’ll never understand the need of god to function in society
@@lonedemonofdeath666 Again, you may be able to “function” on the earth while you’re alive but you’ll be cut off from God for all of eternity when you die and you will have squandered your one chance at life. Disregard at your peril.
@@eternalwordofgod you realize your comment is pointless because it doesn’t explain why people need god to be functional members of society
@@lonedemonofdeath666 The goal is not to be a functional member of society. The goal is to know the God of the Universe. Think bigger.
@@eternalwordofgod there’s no proof of anything bigger than the universe we got, so until there’s actual proof of god your gonna have to do better than that
Wow you are so wise
I appreciate you so much. Girl! Yes. 🔥
I can recommend a good book called
You're Not Enough (And That's Okay):
Escaping the Toxic Culture of Self-Love
Book by Allie Beth Stuckey
Thank you for the recommendation!
It is a toxic culture of self love and that's because the culture is conditioning us all that when we've 'come' through a crisis, that we were there because we didn't love ourselves of because we had low self-esteem (conversations you would never have in other cultures) when in reality the person may be dealing with spiritual warfare.
A good read is a book called (The Final Quest ) by Rick Joyner, yet overall and foremost the Bible is truly the best book of truth for life in all areas. 💜
I just saw a movie called SPLIT, and it was all about this mentality. "You can achieve to be what you believe you are," but is bizare where he got himself into.
No good will come from that, for sure. The movie is fiction, ok. However, the spiritual realm is not. Instead of getting better, he never stops to struggle with trauma, and he hurts everyone who tries to help him. He lives a life that no one would like to since he is basically in the back seat, being controlled by others. So, yeah, it is dangerous. The road for self helpness promises something that can't deliver what it says it will. Even if you do everything as it says, which only leads to frustration.
Thanks.
i wasn’t ready to find your channel :o
Does she know repenting is a change of thought? As a man thinketh, so is he.
I resonate with what you are sharing and you are effective at putting to words some of the things I've found difficult to put on paper. I did not get as far a thinking that I am an alien (joke), but I can relate. I think it comes down to whether somebody is truly seeking truth, which requires courage to face all opposition when doing so. I believe God was also working with me as well.
My friend in Armenia sent me your video from the Daily Wire, just so that you know how you are impacting.
I am personally finding a lot of truth from Walter Veith at the Amazing Discoveries channel. Maybe you will find some value there as well. There is a sermon/lecture where he goes back to how the New Age movement took roots, as well as by who. I found it interesting how popular authors and pastors twisted the Word for their motives.
The devil is expert at mixing truth with lie, as you said.
Just shared with my LOA friend
I highly encourage anyone seeking help with trauma, anxiety, addiction,-literally anything you need help with to seek a Celebrate Recovery program near you. CR is a Christ based recovery group. They are much like AA but actually focused on Jesus as our higher power, the only hope we have for true healing. I pray the right people see this who need to & that Jesus heal & restore you & that you follow Him all your days ❤️ Godbless you
🙏🏽🌿
Great book I recommend is “You’re Not Enough, and That’s Okay” by Allie Beth Stuckey ❤✝️
I liked your approach on self help culture and I wonder: what do you think about practices like scripting?
God wants us to be able to help ourselves.......otherwise he wouldn't have given us the ability to do so.
Ok who’s with me:
The idea is we make notecards with scripture (I.e- Romans 10:9, psalm 25:4, good verses that help us know about truth & salvation)
We go to our local secular bookstore & hide the notecards in these books like “the 4 agreements”
So that when people open or buy them they are going to at least get a sweet dose of truth… just an idea ❤
Great work! Where can I rate?
I have been able to locate a LOT of scripture based books.
Age of Ultron, vision says,"I am I AM."
hi Angela. I am currently deep into the self help rabbit hole. I have spent thousands of dollars. What should I do? I don’t feel deserving of redemption from God after rejecting Him.
She said that Jesus is waiting for you to run into his arms. Burn the books and read the Bible is the advice I am hearing.
Please keep my fam in your prayer... my dad i think hes an atheist (but im not sure) my mom & sis are really into spiritualism, astrology, reiki, universe etc & dont really believe in The Lord... im alone in this & i am scared. Im praying for them but please help me! My mom is also very sick & i think God might help her if she finds Him... please pray for them! I will leave their names in a reply.. amen
Dragoș (sounds like: Dragosh), Bobi & Carla. Please🙏🏻✨️
A lot of the new age is about "connecting with your higher self" . Which is obviously also taking you away from God and the Holy Spirit. Is there a video where you explain what this is actually doing? What this practice is really about?
Jesus does want to Heal The Self...
The self likes to be served! and I do get stuck in a "comfort zone" and not really wanted to reach out for help too... I didn't have that I wanted to better my self drive. It did start off with healing health issues naturally and wanted to help others when I could but then when I wanted too... my "selfish" nature took over... And thinking that I was putting others before me aas also looking after my self first too.
Then the got caught into the battle with the flesh. Became negative attacking my self and didn't want to make myself better than others played on me and then also not wanting to love and serve others. More of my down fall I would read and learn and then do some of it for awhile and not follow through with it. I get real stubborn and don't listen to the teachings but this also effected into My belief in God and Christ. What I should be doing... can also go towards the other end of the scale of being negative and destructive towards yourself.
I was double minded but also could see where Satan was easily getting to me by out the Angry God against sinners When i use to think and see the Love of God over our sin how He provides. And messed my mindset, thinking and the love towards God and couldn't stop a mental rage that took over and couldn't humble my self. The "negative" over powered me and even turned me against Christ..
I am "hungry" for God's power to have that changed heart for him and but at the same time the ,moment what's taking over within an other angry spirit feeding and fueling off of me.
Self help does seem like it helps more people to be positive? feeling good and being good Vs bible saying we are bad/wicked and that's what I get stuck on Self Pity, when you still focus on our self instead of Christ). But can self help also as it treats your self well as being God's creation? You beat yourself up less when you love yourself? But In Christ how God loves us so we should love each other and ourself. "I AM" those statement should be true when you are in Christ... (wish I really wish was and still try to believe)
It does make sense that you are the problem and the solution when it is Us who are making the right or wrong choices?
But it is true that the problem is sin (and it does come from us within us) and the solution Is Christ beyond us and also to be in us.
Jesus is Divine - The Vine
"God's Grace is greater than your sin! " Amen
This also came from anxiety fears and avoidance seeing my self in "Sin" and could not surrender to Christ in my own power.... Could not let go if something else that's also controlling me to let go?
John5:30I can of mine own self do nothing: as I hear, I judge: and my judgment is just; because I seek not mine own will, but the will of the Father which hath sent me. 31If I bear witness of myself, my witness is not true. 32There is another that beareth witness of me; and I know that the witness which he witnesseth of me is true.
A lot of the tips in self help templates can help, but unless paired with a faith in God and genuine determination to better yourself, it's useless.
Why gain the whole world but forfeit your soul?
Not wrong with getting up early either. King Solomon mentioned it, to do like the ants.
We are sinners!? Speak for yourself. I've worked hard on being good my whole life even without a Bibble, babble, I mean bible. You should read the oera linda book, it's way less creepy, perverse and leaves people less confused than King james book!