How to stay away from a toxic ex?

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  • @kellithomas9080
    @kellithomas9080 Рік тому +71

    You are speaking facts!! I did it off and on with my sons father for almost 13 years! Everything you’re saying is true. I became addicted to him and it was so toxic! This breakup was the last breakup! 5 months strong!! I only communicate with him when I absolutely have to since we have a 7 year old. Other than that, I want him to stay far away from me!! I am healing and at peace and I’m never going back!! He can keep his other exes in rotation because I’m done!

    • @KeishaWilliams-e6d
      @KeishaWilliams-e6d Рік тому +9

      Amen he can play them like a mix tape

    • @mama2flythesidehustlequeen164
      @mama2flythesidehustlequeen164 Рік тому +5

      Yes! You're off to a good start! ❤

    • @AmandaCC88
      @AmandaCC88 11 місяців тому +2

      You’re strong! It was 14 years for me but no children. I’m almost a year out from seeing him. Definitely a toxic cycle of emotional abuse and trauma bonding. Smh I’m so happy now. I’ve gone completely no contact and he still reaches out.

    • @kellithomas9080
      @kellithomas9080 11 місяців тому

      @AmandaCC88 you go girl!!! And don’t ever accept him back because he wants to try to destroy you! They are so evil and they hate to be ignored and hate feeling like they lost! I have realized so much over the last year or so and I’m so happy I broke the trauma bond. That’s why I kept going back and didn’t understand why. I studied what a trauma bond was and decided to go thru the withdrawals but I knew what I was feeling wasn’t love so that helped me. I knew it would get better and I finally realized and accepted who I have been dealing with for all these years. This Man didn’t even respect me, but wants me to believe he loved me so much! I’m so happy and free and he tries to be nice but I see right thru the fakeness and I know he is just trying to see if I’m having a weak moment so that he can get me back in that toxic cycle! But that’s exactly why I don’t communicate with him unless I have to, which is rare. We have our parenting schedule and we stick to it. Other than that, he no longer exists to me. I never want to be his friend and I mean that.

    • @giselearcand3401
      @giselearcand3401 11 місяців тому +2

      5 months!! That’s so great. I just broke up with my abusive narcissistic cruel ex tonight after 8 years. I feel like I want to throw up. I have to stick to this. How did you do it? When you wanted to text him or call him how did you stop yourself?

  • @JoannaSegovia-hz8pg
    @JoannaSegovia-hz8pg Рік тому +32

    Preach. No closure is coming from toxic people

  • @felissahamilton3837
    @felissahamilton3837 Рік тому +28

    Real Talk Ace!!! We must leave Ex's in their place which is leave them in the past...

  • @t.davenport3057
    @t.davenport3057 11 місяців тому +13

    "Tell yourself no." #DisciplineHeals

  • @Tuffolo
    @Tuffolo 9 місяців тому +6

    Life is too short for second hand men 🎉

  • @marilynpisano5042
    @marilynpisano5042 10 місяців тому +8

    Total facts!!! My ex asked if we could be friends…. Like you said he busted my heart wide open! Yeah next!!!

    • @skylar6818
      @skylar6818 8 місяців тому

      Mines too my ex cheated with his daughter he just met they are w0 years apart. I have been scared and burned for life yet my ex wants to hang out.

  • @lalafaith-5083
    @lalafaith-5083 Рік тому +16

    I've never laughed so hard in my life.... I needed this thank you....

    • @susanhenderson9739
      @susanhenderson9739 Рік тому

      Me too… Ace’s personality is so much like my father…He was too funny I miss my father so much…😊 He would always tell me “To Hell with them fucking nuts!”😂🎉👍🏽🌟💯

  • @michellemagi2483
    @michellemagi2483 Рік тому +16

    The back shots ain’t worth the shots to your heart 😂

  • @heatherstahlnecker9270
    @heatherstahlnecker9270 11 місяців тому +7

    I FUCKING LOVE You!!!! Thank YOU for THIS pep talk! ***I am mature and don't need his confirmation. Greatly APPRECIATED ACE!!!!

  • @toniwilliams9817
    @toniwilliams9817 10 місяців тому +4

    A lot of men are just looking for sex with no strings attached. They can see you’re a good woman but that’s not what they’re looking for. I’m truly waiting for a good man with himself and life together…mature and healed enough to have a healthy relationship.

  • @lexi26stl
    @lexi26stl 10 місяців тому +3

    I needed to hear this shit this morning. I been acting a little goofy. Thanks

  • @menasiak7173
    @menasiak7173 Рік тому +6

    "Makes my brain hurt" LOL, I love that you are so spot on and call it like it is.

  • @katrinat6314
    @katrinat6314 Рік тому +13

    Oh my goodness- perfect timing!!! My ex keeps bugging me over and over to go out to dinner with him- no thank you!!!!!! He fumbled

  • @teer7044
    @teer7044 8 місяців тому +1

    Ace u have me Rolling😂😂...I definitely think that wine🍷🍷 got u speaking hard truth...TY for the comedy & truth 😂😂

  • @brendajones9110
    @brendajones9110 Рік тому +14

    Absolutely right he's not right for me.
    He wasn't worth my years

  • @aprilchow-chee5281
    @aprilchow-chee5281 Рік тому +8

    I think the strong question went over your head. We're not talking about strong in terms of independence We're talking about strong in terms of boundaries, not allow a man to hit us or cheat on us so he runs to a woman he can do those things to and who will allow him to and stay

  • @juliemitchell2304
    @juliemitchell2304 Рік тому +6

    I’m with you we need to make each other feel so much love and support ! That’s the best part of loving someone. Helping each other grow in confidence and connection and love 💕

  • @sandradixon9834
    @sandradixon9834 Рік тому +4

    Old school (mack)will talk you out of your dreams...life and self esteem thank you brother for the truth ❤❤

  • @julievanzile2482
    @julievanzile2482 Рік тому +16

    Come on guys just stop! Block them on the phone if you have to. We can all do this! We are all better than this! Love to you all!

    • @themusicchew4649
      @themusicchew4649 11 місяців тому +1

      Social media blocking is real. I keep the phone numbers alive though, so I’m clear who NOT to answer. 😂😂

  • @SasSaga
    @SasSaga 11 місяців тому +3

    God Ace! You’ve really upped you game! Man, you may have saved me from a bad deal, today! Thanks!

  • @user-cy9in5ry9c
    @user-cy9in5ry9c 11 місяців тому +2

    Amen. I don’t need friends that badly . Silence speaks volumes

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 11 місяців тому

      And men aren't even your your friends like your girl friends are. They want to sleep with you if you give them the chance or slip up. They're actually dangerous to be alone with. Men are rarely your real friends! They're only "friends" with women they want to sleep with.

  • @TheDevineFempress
    @TheDevineFempress 11 місяців тому +4

    😂😂😂 if he felt all that he wouldn’t have phucked up in the first place

  • @katrinastevenson4261
    @katrinastevenson4261 8 місяців тому +1

    Thank you Ace !!!! I appreciate you all blessings 🙏🏽🙏🏽🥰🥰

  • @bbeautiful6390
    @bbeautiful6390 Рік тому +6

    2002 I went to his job to pick him up🤔 while waiting a man ask can i help you? I said im waiting for my fiancee. He said DAMN HE DOESN'T ACT ENGAGED. 😜THE WAY HE ALL UP ON FEMALES😜. I RAN HOME CHANGE THE LOCKS. HE NEVER KNEW WHY I DUMP HIM.😂🥳🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @LifewithJZF
    @LifewithJZF 11 місяців тому +2

    This was a good one. And honestly it needed to be heard ‼️‼️ wow amazing. This is helping me be a better me when looking for love 💕

  • @jessicablackmon7048
    @jessicablackmon7048 Рік тому +7

    You hitting it right on the nail 💯

    • @susanhenderson9739
      @susanhenderson9739 Рік тому +1

      That’s what Ace does.. He can be my Handyman..😊😂

  • @Confuddled_wonder
    @Confuddled_wonder Рік тому +6

    Me and my man gas each other up constantly. You should be willing to stroke your partner's ego (healthily). Of course there will be people who will take advantage of those they see as lesser to feed their own egos, but you don't have to stay with that person in that toxic relationship. But you should also not withold compliments and affection from a good partner worrying about if it's feeding their ego.

  • @rhondafindling9254
    @rhondafindling9254 11 місяців тому +5

    some times you want the contact for a dopmine rush

  • @chelsamalone4890
    @chelsamalone4890 10 місяців тому +2

    PREACH...NEXT 💯

  • @Alanah12Lyric18
    @Alanah12Lyric18 11 місяців тому +2

    I tried to co-parent with my toxic ex-husband these last 3yrs since are split. This is the first year that I have realized we can’t coparent, at all. He only cares about him and loves to continue to disrespect me in front of the kids. He doesn’t help me with the kids, I’m too nice and I keep lying to myself that he is going to treat me with respect and kindness like I do. I am at a point this year. I only want to focus on my peace and future not anyone or anything in my past. Don’t do it ladies, stop moving backwards. Start Loving yourself more and caring less about that ex.

  • @ElaineBuchananArt
    @ElaineBuchananArt Рік тому +4

    🤣🤣🤣🤣 this was too funny and truthful 👍🏾

  • @juniorhendrix642
    @juniorhendrix642 Рік тому +7

    True, leave that sht...Alone..

  • @TheDevineFempress
    @TheDevineFempress 11 місяців тому +4

    Dayum 4 min feels like 40 min of teaching

  • @KeishaWilliams-e6d
    @KeishaWilliams-e6d Рік тому +5

    Thank you for getting up and walking around 🎉

    • @Chocolatedimples76
      @Chocolatedimples76 Рік тому +1

      I crack up every time he does that!! 🤣🤣🤣

    • @basicinfo2022
      @basicinfo2022 11 місяців тому

      Lol it's hilarious. The passion is appreciated.

  • @bbgbrownbarbzbiesgang
    @bbgbrownbarbzbiesgang 10 місяців тому +2

    I just simply do not back track obviously there was a reason we broke up nothing is going to get better I move up &forward backwards doesn’t make sense if you won’t take a job that pays less because you moved up why back track with an ex it just simply will not benefit you.

  • @trockslaw1
    @trockslaw1 Рік тому +5

    I know my ex won’t even come back! I was savage at the breakup, not too bad. 3.5 years now. He come back, crickets will be chirping. Loving my single self. NOTHING for all these years! Loving JUST ME!

    • @Ealene
      @Ealene 11 місяців тому +1

      Don't feel too bad..I was a Lil SAVAGE too...2 weeks Strong. Lol. I said some nasty shit..after remaining calm for a minute.

  • @erikaserrano476
    @erikaserrano476 11 місяців тому +4

    Always with those voices to make me feel even stupider 😅🤣

  • @michellemagi2483
    @michellemagi2483 Рік тому +3

    Voice of reason ‼️

  • @Starrr-jb2cf
    @Starrr-jb2cf Рік тому +11

    I think us women got used to certain behavior from men because most of them showed us this behavior and we normalized it and accepted it. Cuz it kept happening over and over snd again from different guys. So wr thought oh this is just how they are and we accepted that. Nope Needs to end and not be tolerated anymore. There are good men out there that are good people. Not just selfish insecure ones. And they are the ones that deserve attention. Hopefully the selfish ones will work on themselves and the majority of them will be better men one day

  • @lashondramMac46
    @lashondramMac46 5 місяців тому +1

    Exactly..Let’s call a Spade ah ♠️….You fumbled me bruh..you should have tried when I Cared🫡🗣️🗣️🎯

  • @daveishakerr7406
    @daveishakerr7406 Рік тому +5

    Love the message ❤

  • @INofCO
    @INofCO Рік тому +2

    THIS BRUDDA'S GODSEND

  • @daniellelewis5973
    @daniellelewis5973 Рік тому +1

    Yo a@@ is hilarious!! But on some real spill, you are truly dropping gems. The main thing I am willing to do for 2024 is let go of having a victim mentality and choose living a peace & abundant life. Thank you for your commentary. I truly appreciate you and your delivery. #Raw&Uncut #BigFactz

  • @Love_Messages_for_You
    @Love_Messages_for_You 9 місяців тому +1

    Thank you so much 🫶🏼

  • @daphne3717
    @daphne3717 10 місяців тому +1

    It’s an irrational addiction!!! It’s killing me. I can’t make him stay away. I don’t know what to do anymore.

  • @susanhenderson9739
    @susanhenderson9739 Рік тому +2

    Ace is in the place on time with his wine..🍷 Ace Lets get together and drink wine and Carter to each other’s egos in 2024.. 🎉😂😉💖💯🤩

  • @rhondafindling9254
    @rhondafindling9254 11 місяців тому +1

    Do whatever it takes to do nothing - no contact, no reaching out, no responding, so clicking like on social media

  • @tinagaller6992
    @tinagaller6992 11 місяців тому +3

    My friends have told me men don’t approach me because I’m intimidating…. Nope!! I’m not intimidating, they are intimidated by ME. Obviously they feel inferior in some way and that’s not MY problem.

  • @sonialee1461
    @sonialee1461 Рік тому +1

    Thankyou no more Toxic people in my life.

  • @smarternow
    @smarternow Рік тому +3

    Oh my, your are so damn good. Thank you. Call a spade a spade. They are losers

  • @ITGIRLPARISTV
    @ITGIRLPARISTV 10 місяців тому +2

    IM WEAKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK🤣😂
    IM LATE BUT THANK YOU FOR THIS SOUND ADVICE #IMSINGLE 🤣

  • @ConchettaTucker-vc3cm
    @ConchettaTucker-vc3cm Рік тому +2

    Thank you for this video ❤

  • @righteoussis
    @righteoussis 11 місяців тому +2

    Damn 😂😂😂 I was just battling myself … that damn one conversation… ok I’m done

  • @golddiamondsgdpc3035
    @golddiamondsgdpc3035 11 місяців тому +2

    Submitting to a man doesn’t make you weak…

  • @lonaparker2912
    @lonaparker2912 8 місяців тому +1

    You better say it Ace!

  • @shaylanesefamilytv1987
    @shaylanesefamilytv1987 10 місяців тому +2

    Um just block them on everything take the access away that’s all.
    But having children together is different.

  • @Dadoux869
    @Dadoux869 11 місяців тому

    Ace you getting buff lil bro 😊 I see you.

  • @DunnessaAlston
    @DunnessaAlston 9 місяців тому +2

    Block him that all and move on

  • @lauracounts4512
    @lauracounts4512 11 місяців тому +3

    Amen

  • @dfloyd8579
    @dfloyd8579 Рік тому +3

    Come on & speak on it!!! I blocked mines for good!!!

  • @sherylbrinson1709
    @sherylbrinson1709 Рік тому

    ABSOLUTELY CORRECT!!!!!

  • @Eshababyyy
    @Eshababyyy 11 місяців тому +2

    Well I guess I’m a bad person and there’s no hope I’m exhausted with figuring it out like atp imma be single forever

  • @LAtogether9715
    @LAtogether9715 11 місяців тому +1

    Amen...when I did that everybody thought I was petty...😂

  • @LyneSylvain
    @LyneSylvain Рік тому +2

    👏👏👏👏👏👏👏🙏🙏🙏 facts 💯

  • @rochellethundercloud346
    @rochellethundercloud346 8 місяців тому +1

    Remember why you broke up in the first place.

  • @lalafaith-5083
    @lalafaith-5083 Рік тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤ amen I didn't want to believe that I needed a lot of stuff to work on myself I kept saying that it was all these sucky ass men that I was dating but that's not the truth I was a not so nice person I was selfish and a lot of other things I've been single for over a year and I've just been working on myself to be a better person before I can give myself to somen else.... I had to learn what makes me happy and what I wanted a relationship before I can tell someone else what or need, it's always easier to point the finger at someone else instead of looking at yourself in the mirror. I can honestly stay out right now couple good men off out of my life,

  • @aliciaaustin4030
    @aliciaaustin4030 Рік тому +2

    Memo: karmac cannot call, text, social media, etc if they are BLOCKED PEROID 🗣️💯🗣️

  • @makhadzicuba
    @makhadzicuba Рік тому +2

    😂 I like this guy

  • @aliciaj1727
    @aliciaj1727 Рік тому +2

    Well Ace, I ran a good man off! I can admit it.

  • @JL-th1nb
    @JL-th1nb 10 місяців тому +2

    Preeeeeeeaaaaaaaccccchhhhhh

  • @heatherstahlnecker9270
    @heatherstahlnecker9270 11 місяців тому +1

    All talk.

  • @lala5061
    @lala5061 5 місяців тому +1

    I don't want it ever again 🤮

  • @orinlyles2483
    @orinlyles2483 10 місяців тому +2

    Mmmmm are we just talking about men and not women??? This dude is a Ultra simp. Women mess up relationships to

  • @INofCO
    @INofCO Рік тому +1

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHA 16:25 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍 YOU SLAPP

  • @chamiltonmgb
    @chamiltonmgb Рік тому +1

    Ace said back shots I heard Buck shots😢😢😢😂

  • @monicakelly1954
    @monicakelly1954 Рік тому +2

    😅😅😅 hell naw it ain't worth Ms cellie it ain't worth it😅😅

  • @jujubee90275
    @jujubee90275 5 днів тому

    I'm here again to get my head right.

  • @katmskitkat6683
    @katmskitkat6683 Рік тому +2

    Why am I laughing, too funny

  • @BlackJoanRiversLLC2026
    @BlackJoanRiversLLC2026 Рік тому +1

    Lol, i really like you❤❤

  • @Donia-j8q
    @Donia-j8q 11 місяців тому +1

    Iam know friends with know xxxx

  • @INofCO
    @INofCO Рік тому +1

    WHERE AND HOW DO WE JOIN YOUR COMMUNITY

  • @reesagames
    @reesagames 7 місяців тому +1

    Ooooo, me???😆

  • @imSincerePromise
    @imSincerePromise Рік тому +2

    How do we let go from one that other people broke up and we can’t understand why did this happen

    • @susanhenderson9739
      @susanhenderson9739 Рік тому +2

      I honestly don’t know because this happens to me all the damn time..My son calls them Cockblockers.. My Daddy used to say if he really wants you then he will come to you regardless of what others say/think.. Hopefully this helps you..

  • @c.edwards5421
    @c.edwards5421 Рік тому +2

    👏👏👏👏💯💯💯

  • @kenyettahill1576
    @kenyettahill1576 Рік тому +4

    🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️😂😂😂😂👀👀👀😎😎😎

  • @JayRhynard
    @JayRhynard 3 місяці тому

    What if you have kids together?

  • @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes
    @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes 11 місяців тому +1

    😊📣

  • @INofCO
    @INofCO Рік тому +1

    32:00 wholesome AF humor fun healthy intimate time

  • @ludwinedejean
    @ludwinedejean Рік тому +2

    The world knows it.

  • @INofCO
    @INofCO Рік тому +2

    GOD LEVEL

  • @Livinglifetitfullest
    @Livinglifetitfullest Рік тому +1

    Hell no.

  • @anicialugo8997
    @anicialugo8997 Рік тому +1

    Can I have some of your liquor 🥃?!

  • @monicakelly1954
    @monicakelly1954 Рік тому +2

    Ouch

  • @rosemarva10
    @rosemarva10 Рік тому +1

    Don't gas me up lol.

  • @JudithRomero-u3n
    @JudithRomero-u3n 4 місяці тому

    He denies me of sex he's addicted to fb gets mad disrespectful I should of walked away always hiding something

  • @KellesPhotography
    @KellesPhotography Рік тому +2

    😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @TiffanyBrown-q8k
    @TiffanyBrown-q8k Рік тому +1

    lol

  • @414_kiaraaa3
    @414_kiaraaa3 8 місяців тому +4

    I just blocked my ex MAKE SOME NOISEEEE 🎉💗💗💗🦹🏽‍♀️🙃

    • @astrid8433
      @astrid8433 4 місяці тому

      🎉🥳🥳🎉🎉 Been 2 months for me tomorrow. Finally seeing all the b.s for what it is and feeling more sanity. Thank you God ❤