Learning how to drink the wrong way. 😢 Coming home from night shift during COVID as a RN in the thick of it! The hot shower with a drink was the norm!! Expanded to drinking daily. 😢Followed by a few more to wash away the awful ICU drama of the pandemic!! Fast forward 3yrs later. Still haunted by things I witnessed. Trying to omit alcohol from my life. 😢
It's definitely worth every minute of it. 😊 705 days sober and counting.🎉❤ To anyone reading this: if you're thinking about getting sober or the first time or ... again, go for it! Take the first step. Your body will thank you for taking that action after abstaining from that bottle or can of Group 1 Carcinogen. I lost count on how many attempts to get sober, but watching Episode #110 on July 10, 2021 and going on Reddit suuport groups made me stop consuming alcohol successfully. Changing the mindset and the relationship with alcohol did wonders for me. What made me make the ultimate promise to never pick up a drink or mind altering drug again for the rest of my life (and yes, alcohol is a mind altering drug) is this: a month after quitting, I was reading about the body's affect by heavy amounts of alcohol. It made me rethink about my deadly relationship with alcohol. But, when I was learning about the increase risks of cancer by alcohol and it's categorized as a Group 1 Carcinogen, I gave a middle finger to alcohol and society's warped relationship with it. I'm kind of rebellious to not drink or do drugs after years of hurting my body and mind, but that's okay. You will learn more about yourself sober than when you was drinking. I did and ive found out some things about myself that i didnt know about. It's a great feeling. Now, I know that you will feel weird after being sober for a certain amount of time. I'll admit, I did feel weird after quitting drinking. But when I substituted the drinking mentality with fun activities that does not have to include alcohol, a sense of freedom arrived. I can do fun things and not pick up a drug or alcoholic drink. I know that i can never moderate, and that's ok by me. Moderation of alcohol, to me, is a bunch of bull-bull for anyone trying to drag me back into the life of despair and mysery...again. Don't allow anyone to get into your head or peer pressure you about their everyday alcohol use. Only you can make a big change for yourself and finding sobriety communities are also big steps. I believe in you. You can do this. Just take one day at a time.
This is such a great reply to this great video!! So well put - a wonderful testament to a personal victory ✌️ against the drug in pretty or badass looking bottles. Ten percent of the population buys FIFTY percent of the alcohol in the United States. 10% of us cannot metabolize alcohol properly, yet we fund the industry. Congratulations 👏🎉 on your incredible recovery 🙏❤️!!
SO WORTH IT - I have discovered things about myself that I never would have known otherwise! I went from 167 lbs. to 117 (at 5'4"). I started a small online business based on a skill that I never used to know I even had. Seasonal allergies became way less severe. My complexion is so much healthier now. This is an awesome channel with a great message - keep on keepin' on!!
100 days sober and nothing but good things have come from this . Less anxiety,more present,feeling better, nurturing relationships and friendships,etc . I can go on and on and watching this channnel has definitely helped .
LOVE THIS!!! Congrats on a well-deserved 100 days! I'm very grateful that you shared your positive benefits with the community, which will hopefully continue to inspire others along their own sobriety journey and what they could expect in their 100 days!
Just passed the two week mark not long ago! 🥳 Today is day 16 of my sober journey and I still don't regret giving up the booze. I had finally reached a point where alcohol no longer "helped" and I had to drink ungodly amounts due to high tolerance in order to numb out like I wanted. I realized then, as I was ugly drunk crying because I could no longer run away and hide from myself in a bottle, that something had to change. I'm now doing the work and feeling better day by day. Thanks, Jae, for a other great video! ❤
6 weeks sober today, you and your channel have helped so much and I feel supported and not alone, thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge, love it
Well we love you too! and we are glad that you are here, spreading your wings and practicing positivity! what do you have planned for the rest of the week/weekend?
This is a great one. I'm at that dangerous point of sobriety where you're enjoying life so much after quitting that you start to wonder "hmm, I wonder if I could just have one or two and have a healthy relationship with alcohol." It's where I fell off last time, and it took 5 months to come back (holidays at home got me then - walking by outdoor patios with people drinking and having so much fun is hard to do now). Thanks for these, fella: they do incredibly important work for us.
I'll admit, I did get to the point in my sobriety that I thought I could have a healthy relationship with alcohol so I tried 1 shot and my body has changed so much physically that I got intense sickness. I know officially that I cannot have alcohol in my life. I never thought i would be able to get to that point and it's amazing!
I just got out of a 5 day jail stint. Almost lost everything.. it wasn't even alcohol but I attempted anxiety medication again and it went very poorly. Don't give up people.. I'm currently headed into a divorce over all of it.. but being in jail gave me a long, hard time to think and reflect. Perspective is the real true natural drug.. don't give up. If anything, use these experiences to become better people
@stickboy8219 it was rookie numbers, but I was looking at 2 months but bailed out miraculously. That doesn't mean I didn't see enough and experience some stuff that truly changed me..
Just hit day 5 for me. I have quit a number of times. Last time I quit i went 4 months and felt better than ever! It was my 40th b day and was on a cruise ship around everyone drinking which of course made me feel like i needed to join the party. Its not easy but all i can remeber and what helps this time around is how great i felt after 4 months. Hope i can stay sober this time around.
Nice i just hit day 5 too! I had a few months and 6 months before that. Falling off and getting back on is way better than just boozing non stop! Sobriety is tough but we got this!
@Jesse Best 💯 I just keep close in my mind how great I feel after the 1st week + and how sharp my mind gets over time. I just can't stand the constant brain fog I get when I drink. That's what keeps me motivated!
You got this!! It took me SO many tries to finally go alcohol free. On and off for years. You didn't sh!t the bed - that would mean that you gave up completely. Power to you!!
I'm fairly new to the channel and newly sober. 12 days, to be exact. I've been watching your videos from 5 years ago and you have changed so much, it's really motivating to see how far you've come. I am so glad to be a part of this community.
There's an old Zen saying "..when the student is ready, the teacher appears." We make the changes alone even when a spouse or special person is there for us, others are alone when we want to change, we will find those teachers like this video but it's up to you. Songs can do it for me "Man in the Mirror" and "Changes" comes to mind...find your song. PEACE
Day 14 of being sober tomorrow. Jae just let me tell you, your content has been helping me immensely as my cravings have been so strong lately... this channel deserves 1 million subscribers or 2 bare minimum! Bless you jae😇
WOOOOAH!!! I Second that notion lol. I'm so glad you are at 14 days and motivated to move into a brighter future. thank you for practicing positivity today! great weekends and don't be a stranger 👊
Alcohol is definitely a problem when I do decide to drink but it’s not the root of my dissatisfaction with life. Still figuring things out. But definitely, I think sobriety is a must. It rules out unnecessary suffering. Life is enough suffering as it is.
If we suffer in life, it doesn't matter if one gives up alcohol if the things in your life are given suffering because we make it so. Life is supposed to be beautiful
Sobriety certainly helps us to lift the curtain and do the real work instead of numbing the pain. Keep working on a better life balance and keep your eye on the goal my friend!
Hey Jae Thanks for another inspiring video. I’m way older than you and what brought me to Sobriety…. Again, is a need for inspiration to keep my eye on the ball. I gave up this time, when I was staying with my youngest daughter (I have 5 children) and talking with her one morning she asked me why my ankles were swollen. I causally answered that it was probably caused by heart failure. My daughter who is 34 promptly burst into tears and sobbed like a child and she said “l don’t want you to die daddy”. I explained that the date of my death was not in my control, but as soon as I had uttered the words I realised that I was not telling the complete truth. If I stopped drinking alcohol my rate of heart failure would probably decrease and I could see my doctor for confirmation of myself diagnosis and perhaps get some treatment. I had made a pact with myself that I’d die quietly and keep drinking and not bother with doctors or treatment. Seeing my daughter so broken up by the thought of my death made me realise that I had responsibilities not only to her but also to my four other children. This change of heart made me make appointments and get diagnosed and seek treatment and of course stop drinking. Well I’ve done all of that and keeping off the drink is kind of key to the plan. Good luck to all trying to do the same.
What a great comeback story!!! drinking is definitely a selfish choice and user have a built-in fan club that wants to see you win! It's time to reverse the curse and turn those tears of sadness into tears of happiness 💜💛💜💛
How does this channel have so little views an subscribers, been searching an watching a lot of videos an I absolutely love this channel. Also another channel I like just much is quit alcohol coach.
15k is a solid amount of subs 🤷 and we just released this video this morning lol, but to your point, yes, I believe we will continue to grow! it takes time. this is one of the rare channels that doesn't do collabs, or repost celebrity clips or use their likeness as clickbait. it's important to me to grow the channel organically because people actually want to be part of it. prayers up! 🙏🏼
Be patient with yourself. there will be bumps in the road, unforseen circumstances and detours along the way. We have lots of videos you can watch daily to stay motivated! Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes! ua-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
Wonderful, just stumbled on your channel, no doubt from the likes and subs. Great work and I’m inspired to curtail my drinking. It’s time. My Dad was an alcoholic and now at fifty I’m seeing the slow steady migration of over drinking daily. Looking forward to joining the others here on the journey to freedom. The elephant illustration was great!
Awesome, welcome aboard! we are glad to have you so feel free to reach out anytime. all the numbered videos are made to be timeless lessons along your sobriety journey! Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety! ua-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
I quit drinking 2 weeks ago. I have had so many reflections and thoughts come to mind over this time. Some thoughts are traumatic memories I experienced whilst being under the influence. It’s time to heal, move on and grow . I feel different. In a good way. I feel closer to God and that I’m on the path I am meant to be on. It just feels so right. My productivity is vastly better. I typically spent the weekend tired and unmotivated. However I got so much done and my house is clean, so I can actually enjoy the sabbath! Yay bless!
April, you sound like you have the potential for great things. Your positivity really shines in this thoughtful paragraph and I'm sure there would be many people out there that could benefit from hearing YOUR voice. We all come in different shapes, sizes, religious and economic backgrounds. You may certainly have what it takes to reach a broad audience than would be out of my reach. Consider letting your light shine 🌟🌟🌟
Yes, getting...and staying...sober is the most worthwhile thing any person with alcohol use disorder can do. It is simply the best top-tier self-care possible. In the 62 days since I stopped drinking alcohol, I've shed 25 lbs and all of my old Good Time Charlie drinking "buddies". I look better, feel better, sleep better, have tons more energy, am more present for my family, and feel the crippling fear and anger of addiction evaporating and being replaced by a new found authentic confidence. I'm rediscovering my authentic self after so many years of being chemically dependent. Good luck to everyone on the path to sobriety!
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Well ya know, we just might! If you're interested in seeing more of our content along your journey, click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety! ua-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
Another great video. Sobriety is 100% worth it. The insanity of alcohol is, for me anyways, that it is the biggest cause of destruction and chaos in my life, yet it was the first thing that inwould runnto to try and make myself feel better and fix things. It is totally like an abusive relationship. You know its hurting you, that its bad for you and that eventually it will kill you. Yet we keep going back to it.
Thanks again for your video, Quality Words here. Alcoholism is a disease that we are the only Doctor to Cure, to heal and to found the right prescription to deal with recovery. ( Smile , breathe....) I am Sober now...can t believe i am writing that, after wasted Half of my Life, Money, Time, in ....that toxic relationship.
AaaAAAAaaaawwwwww you mean it?!! I love this!!! You are not alone! And luckily I have a large dedicated amount of free time sort of by choice to answer comments lol
@@GettingSoberAgain oh yes, i mean it. The name of the channel alone stuck out to me, the "...again" part! That just immediately told me i am not alone.
Wow, thank you! If you want to see how far I've come from NOT being such a great speaker, check out the older videos lol Click here to watch our NEWEST videos on sobriety! ua-cam.com/play/PLddHUddS-QQjIYyRNl-E3bkOiEWWIZtEt.html
I’m like 9 days in.. I’m committed and this time it just feels different but right really right… I’m doing it for me with my goal in mind, no one made me make this decision but Jae has helped after i decided, I had no idea there was an app, it makes sense… last week I was in Las Vegas for 2 weeks for work, I met an attorney at the bar .. she was amazingly gorgeous, I wound up spending over $300 on wine and food, that night.. on martini night(s) I spent about $150, then pick up a 1.75 milliliter bottle on the way back to the hotel and dust half of it, I’m a Clydesdale so it was easy but at $800 to $1,000 a month.. this has gone on way too long… if I make 30 days, I can make 90 - the past 10 years I’ve made it 18 days… I’ll also send Jae half of my savings from not drinking THANKS JAE !!
Our goal is to help you be your best! Thank you for continuing to see your goals realized and now taking the easy way out. you've been there, done that, and you're moving BEYOND THAT! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Congratulations on embracing sobriety and saving money. The second week will be easier than the first. The second month is easier than the first. Give yourself a new, exciting goal that you have the energy to make happen only because you are more healthy and more prosperous.
I’ve been using alcohol very lightly for awhile now and thinking about cutting it out entirely. I miss the social element of - there is something about having a drink with someone, a bond. I also miss the taste of a good cocktail or wine, but mocktails are good and satisfy my itch. I rarely miss the alcohol itself. You just get used to feeling balance, and sleeping well that you don’t care to go back.
This is one of your best videos Jae I feel so much better....only 4 times outa 15 days aprt from doing it everynight after work...i had to stop or i was gonna wind up like Amy winehouse or something that scared me..there were times i was gonna call an ambulance...ugh...what waste of time🎉
Oh my God yes! We all have our journey and path that we must take. I found this channel day 1 and I had just gotten out of county jail needless to say my life was Rocky and neeed a safe place and to hear some positive thoughts and a friendly awesome community of GET SOBER AGAIN... I am happy and proud to say next month will be 2 years sober!
@@GettingSoberAgain yes sir it finally happened and I have lots of thanks to my family and to your channel, the people, and to you. Thansk for your help saving a life I won't let it go to waste.
Was back @ the bar 2weeks after I quite drinking didn't even phase me everybody was doing shot after all around me. I'm still going to my local bar every once in awhile It's called I have will power after ALL THESE YEARS & STILL GOING STRONG
Not the best idea, but keep us updated. I literally watched a buddy of mine have his family throw him an intervention, went to rehab and then went back to the bar immediately after. just "drank water". but eventually, he gave in and is fully back on the sauce. 🤷
I had quit for over a year, then relapsed back in January. I can honestly say being sober was way better, but I'm lacking the courage to try sobriety again. I hope I can do it again
Do us both a favor.... instead of saying "I hope" say "I WILL!" think about it... what if you just got married and said "I hope this lasts". or "I hope I graduate" "I hope I can get in better shape" Speak it!
Dare to try Dare to succeed. You may be more successful than you expect. We are all imperfect. Most of us need more than one try to change for the better.
4:19 you drank just to be around other people, and to feel comfortable around yourself. The latter part of that sentence hit hard for me, my only true cravings are when I'm alone and isolated.
I know the vibes all too well. The secret is: become the person that you WANT to be around. What skills can you sharpen? what hobbies can you start? what fitness goals can you achieve? what people places and things in your life are holding you back that you can get rid of?
People have told me I get mad when I drink. It is in society, most songs, tv shows, movies; the image is their always happy and look their drinking. Why? who writes a song about work, no one wants that, nor a movie so our mind sees it as fun. One thing I have not heard on this channel about symptoms, you will hear voices and see shadow people; I have done this and now know from where. If real extreme the pain after can be 2-3 days long and even with constant water/pedialyte urination may come days later; oh and don't forget the possible heart attack and seizures. Liquid bathroom time, high blood pressure, no good sleep. Lastly you find that you have aged ten years more than your friends who don't drink, and they have new cars and a nice house adding to the depression when you realize you drank away your car..... yeah not worth it.
I had to get sober with medical supervision. I got so bad that there was no other way - I put myself in the hospital for 8 days. And I had terrible DT's for 5 of them. And the insomnia you mention is a very real thing. Bless!!
we have 170 episodes now, trust the symptoms have been mentioned 🫡 but we don't talk about them all the time because the range of symptoms are wildly different. for example, I never had DTs, and anyone who is experiencing such symptoms along with hallucinations needs to remember that : ALCOHOL DETOX CAN BE DEADLY If your life is on the line, absofreakinglutely get additional medical support. Play is safe out there, and remember, we are not medical professionals and this channel is not medical advice. But we do love you 💚💙🩷🧡💜💛
In my non--medical opinion, if you hear voices and see shadow people, you need medical supervision to get sober. Please get the intensive, serious help you need.
Ya great video Jae! This night is one of my tougher nights due to my past habit patterns. I cut way way back and will go to no drinking at all. I'm liking the way I feel when I wake up in the morning. 😊
Jae, I really hope you see this man because I would like to email you possibly and maybe ask you a few questions.. Your channel here and some recent drastic life changes inspired me to not only improve myself, but maybe help a few others as well along the way. I want to make a channel similar to yours, that's all about not letting your past define who you are as person in the future. I don't want to bite into your niche though and it seem like I'm going for your fanbase. YOUR channel is what gave me a lot of the inspiration I've used over the past few years to grow personally. Well more recent events hit me like a ton of bricks and has truly inspired me to stop talking about it and just going for it. I really just want to sit down or email you and have a one on one and just talk to you about what you've learned over the years from making this channel and maybe using some of your knowledge to improve my own. My approach is probably going to be much more raw than yours. I appreciate the gentle kindness this channel exuberates and myself and many others need that in times of struggle. It's comforting to come to a place where you can speak among other people who won't judge you and really just want to offer advice. But sometimes, for myself at least, I need that raw, in your face, this is HOW it is, opening yourself up vulnerably to connect to others on a very basic raw, but very real internal struggle we ALL go through while making life altering, but very necessary personal changes AND growth that unfortunately people don't understand until they're truly in it themselves. A reflection if you will of your channel here.. the other side when you need to hear another person's struggles to know you are NOT alone and you should NEVER give on up yourself. Other people's actions towards me lately (given the nature of what I've now done and HAVE to grow from, it simply isn't a matter of "want" or "ill try to do better" anymore, I WILL/HAVE too change) that people out there do TRULY care, I just didn't see it through my own BS hang ups. Given how this convo goes (if it even happens in the first place, will likely be the deciding factor of whether i do it or not) I'm going to open myself up in a way that is very vulnerable and will be way out of my comfort zone. I WANT people out there to know that, ONE REALLY BAD mistake doesn't make you a bad person. It simply means you are , in fact, only human. lol. Man this comment might get torn to shreds by people.. but that's something I'm about to have to face head on, so I am CHOOSING to put myself out there in a way I have NEVER done before. I believe I can learn from this too, as well. Gonna have to improve my grammar though if i want to run a channel though. this comment is a hot bed of typos lmao.. hope everyone out there is doing well.. cheers
There is more than enough to go around. Service to others is what it's all about and it's not copyright, trademark or registered. Email me at GettingSoberAgain@gmail.com
Has anyone had experience with cutting alcohol out of your life, but continuing to use cannabis. I don't use cannabis for any health reason, so I could cut it out. However, I enjoy it and I don't really see any down sides to it (for me, anyway). Curious to hear how many (if any) of the benefits of quitting alcohol are lessened or negated by continuing to use cannabis.
Jae, I’m 51 and a have been a heavy drinker for over 20 years. Consider sharing content about how…. (1) my pancreas has lost its ability to digest fatty food and I take digestive enzymes to keep my stool from being greasy, and hard to wipe. Howard Stern suffers from this. Google it. (2) I used to be a confident public speaker, and relaxed in high pressure competitive athletics. I now struggle to public speak effectively and feel the need to “lubricate” to play my best tennis. Alcohol slows your nervous system down so your body compensates by over-activating while sober (during normal business daytime). When speaking for work or playing pre-noontime tennis, I’m not the relaxed, confident, high-performing man I once was.
My biggest hurdle with quitting is that I'm a happy drunk and I actually get WAY more chores done. It's like an upper for me. I don't know why that is?? Anyone else have that happen?? But I do hate the other problems that come with it. Gaining weight, hangovers, spending the money to buy it....
I can safely say that we all drink for a very similar reason. I'll call gives us a dopamine release. But eventually we need more and more, which makes us spend more and more, gain more and more, and watch our health decrease more and more. I'm certain that there are plenty of people out there that justify the use of meth for the same exact reason. But since that's not your personal drug of choice, you would probably look at that analogy and say that's ridiculous... and somebody else out there that would listen to any of us justify the use of alcohol for its benefits would probably feel the same exact way about our decisions
Isn't it interesting that we choose to poison ourselves on our birthday? There will have to be a first day, first weekend, first birthday, new year's eve and the list goes on. But just like the second day of school was easier than the first, and too the second date, the second day of work, the second and the third and the rest gets easier and easier. Keep us update on your journey! Keep up the good work (AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY!)
For 25 years every day I would drink a fifth of turkey 101 and a 12 ok on the way to work. At work I would drink 24-36 beers at work and an 18 pk on the way home and the wife asked me every day if I had a beer on the way home from work and I would tell her that I had 18 on my way home and she would say yeah right. Then one day in 2010 I quit. Never had withdrawals and never busted a pee test or a breathalyzer test. All the people I work with brought the beer into my work place. I never tested positive for lortabs and it was a 20 pill or more a day. Got 90 a week and nobody could believe it because I done every day. Here’s were the issue of going cold turkey off that was a great idea bad results. I didn’t sleep for 5 weeks Diet Coke and banana’s was all I ate. Drop 60lbs and went to my doctor and passed a drug test. I didn’t have anything in my system. The Dr said that I needed to À evaluation and I said no im going home. 5 in the morning the cops was beating on my door and physically took me to probate court. Had no idea what was going on because they would not say anything. A court appointed lawyer told me that my Dr sent a letter saying that I was a threat to my self. They took me to the evaluation hospital and after getting processed in they took me to my room and put a nurse in the room. I laid down and went right to sleep. They didn’t wake me up until the next day. The doctor told me that I had felt like nobody was around trying to get me or anything. Took a year to get back to normal.
I have a question if I may.: what if you’re addicted to multiple substances and would love the idea of sobriety but the withdrawals are so intense (let’s say 4 substances) that you go back to drinking to calm the other withdrawals? I apologize if this sounds like a “therapy” question
@@GettingSoberAgain rehab but as you mention in your video it’s like a relationship.. you can stop but it’ll always be around you can just come back to it. Which is why I don’t believe in rehab
@@williamhernandez9159 I'm qualified to make UA-cam videos on sobriety. What advice can I give to you, if you don't "believe" in the advice of medical professionals? My advice is that: what we "think", what we "know", what we "believe" and what the truth may actually be are all different things that can highly vary based on ones personal perspective and life experience. You have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone and accept certain truths that may not fit your comfort narrative. You know the answer. And only until you're willing to really take the steps necessary, will you achieve your goal.
@@GettingSoberAgain you’re 100 percent correct brother and you’re right I know what I have to do, I think I’ve always known. Thank you for answering honestly and for the work you put into your videos, I’m a few in. Liked and subscribed, you’re a real one. Safety and peace
i'm doing dry june and feeling pretty strange at day 14 after drinking daily since start of pandemic. i'm really bored and i don't like this feeling of being in total control 100% of the time. been watching your videos a lot, delving into the older ones as well. i find i relate really closely to your story but i'm still sceptical that alcohol has zero benefits whatsoever as many seem to claim. for instance i couldn't imagine going backpack camping and not getting drunk at the campfire, it seems like an appropriate place to do so and the point of being out there is to do nothing anyway and just unwind, and you can sleep in as long as you want. just an example. it seems like at the start of your channel you were just planning to go dry for a while, but at some point you decided you would never again. do you think there is ever a situation where alcohol is appropriate and if not, at which point in your sobriety did you decide to never drink again?
14 days removed from systematically poisoning yourself daily for how many years? you feel weird? you'd better feel weird, this is WHAT CHANGE FEELS LIKE. THIS IS A CALL TO ACTION. Damn man, isn't nature enough? The splendor and magic of the impossible odds that you're even alive? that you have all of your limbs and all 5 senses? That you can love and be loved. that you can choose freely to be what you want in life... Can't entertainment be enough? can't time with your friends and family be enough? Can't YOU just be enough to want to spend time with YOU? We gotta fix these obsolete intoxication mentalities. the fact that you're still wondering WHEN you can fit alcohol into your life should be a clear sign that the real work hasn't begun. If you were watching a movie right now, and the main character was you, what would you want the main character to do? would you want the main character to dig deeper and learn more about themselves? about what they love (besides getting drunk)? about life, about relationships, about gratitude and empathy. would you want the main character to white knuckle it and say "I'm bored" while they live in the greatest era in human existence? when every song that's won a Grammy and every movie that's won an Oscar.... when every form of entertainment, sport, streaming service, activity, UA-cam video, tutorial, and motivational speech exist? Heres a hint, if you're wondering when you can go back to drinking, is exactly the same as setting sail for a new land while constantly looking back at the shores that you left wondering when you can go back. what if we were talking about heroin right now, and the question was the same "would there be an appropriate time to have a little heroin?" the goal is to not want to go back. to cultivate a new life and a new life perspective. to materialize what you didn't think was possible and replace broken thinking with the motivation and inspiration that LIFE IS ENOUGH. Now after all this, after writing this response to you for 10 minutes, what are you gonna do?
@@GettingSoberAgain yeah man, i have a lot of work to do, and i have the sense that alcohol isn't the only problem here. thanks for taking the time to reply to me. one issue is that those examples you list don't inspire me. i'm a misanthrope and i don't know if that philosophy stemmed from addiction, or vice versa. i believe that human conscienceness was a mistake in evolution and we are literal parasites betraying human nature - i've felt this way since a very young age - before ever trying alcohol or any drug. for example, you say "the greatest era in human existence" and i couldn't disagree further. i drink because: - housing crisis/severe inequality (i am maxed out salary in a government position and cant afford to buy an apartment or even have the word "retirement" in my vocabulary) - climate change - social media destroying the fabric of society - a general sense that the world has already ended and nothing is going to ever improve from this point on, no purpose or reason to strive to be better, etc day 15 and i feel like now these problems are just more clear and apparent. i can't step 100m away from my shitty rental apartment without seeing some atrocity caused by human shittiness. what can a person do if they see existence as suffering? maybe life isn't for me? at this point i stopped praying for a good life but rather the strength to endure this one. i've been a weekend drinker from ages 18 to about 25. the pandemic hit and i've been drinking daily since, i turn 29 this weekend and it will be my first sober birthday since i was 18. i don't know what i'm asking here or what my point is so don't feel like you have to reply. just wanted to say thanks again
@@RobboElRobbo it is certainly easy to see the negatives when you aren't looking for the positives. The question is "what am I in control of?" Let that be your guide and shape your mind, environment and philosophy around it. But then again, people who are looking for reasons why it won't work will always find a reason to quit. You clearly have an intelligence that can be used for good...when you choose 🙏🏼
@@GettingSoberAgain can I ask if you relate to my words in any way? You look like a metal dude like myself who may have went through the same thing I am. Sorry if that assumption is way off If so what made you actually look for the positives? Like I'm sober but now I don't even know why I am. I'm feeling so clear headed that offing myself sounds like a good idea now (don't worry I won't, I acknowledge my brain is going through big changes right now)
@@RobboElRobbo I chose to be as smart as I presumed I was by not letting stupid things dictate my internal environment anymore. I believe I'm stronger than my distractions. I believed that I was addicted to escape. We always say that the main 2 reasons why we drink are to feel better or escape. because I decided to work on what I could control. To get out of relationships that I didn't want to be in. To get away from people who got on my nerves. To stop checking the news and giving so much power to social media and how it made me feel. To not take other people's frustrations and insecurities personally because those too are not my responsibility. My physical health and mental health are my responsibility and have become my priority. Leaving the world a better place than I found it is a priority. And all of these things became more manageable for me once I got sober. I "embraced the suck" and turned the odds in my favor. I've been through some shit just like everyone else here, and I'll tell you this: I didn't want to continue to feel the way that you describe...anymore.
Quitting alcohol is a secret super-power. Once you do that, you have potential to do great things in your life. (Don't tell anybody....)
lol your secret is safe with us!
That's so TRUE 👍 I FULLY AGREE DONT TELL ANYONE !!!
I'm ready to be awesome! Today is 7 days sober, yesterday I was so sick, today I'm better
@@GroundSteakyou got this bro
speaking truth. Best thing i ever did. Feel like i can do anything. Would rather focus on better habits
Learning how to drink the wrong way. 😢 Coming home from night shift during COVID as a RN in the thick of it! The hot shower with a drink was the norm!! Expanded to drinking daily. 😢Followed by a few more to wash away the awful ICU drama of the pandemic!! Fast forward 3yrs later. Still haunted by things I witnessed. Trying to omit alcohol from my life. 😢
just over a year sober, like a new man, wish I'd done it 25 years ago.
This guy is bang on with everything he says yes it hard but living everyday being a drunk is harder
It's definitely worth every minute of it. 😊
705 days sober and counting.🎉❤
To anyone reading this: if you're thinking about getting sober or the first time or ... again, go for it! Take the first step. Your body will thank you for taking that action after abstaining from that bottle or can of Group 1 Carcinogen. I lost count on how many attempts to get sober, but watching Episode #110 on July 10, 2021 and going on Reddit suuport groups made me stop consuming alcohol successfully. Changing the mindset and the relationship with alcohol did wonders for me.
What made me make the ultimate promise to never pick up a drink or mind altering drug again for the rest of my life (and yes, alcohol is a mind altering drug) is this: a month after quitting, I was reading about the body's affect by heavy amounts of alcohol. It made me rethink about my deadly relationship with alcohol. But, when I was learning about the increase risks of cancer by alcohol and it's categorized as a Group 1 Carcinogen, I gave a middle finger to alcohol and society's warped relationship with it. I'm kind of rebellious to not drink or do drugs after years of hurting my body and mind, but that's okay. You will learn more about yourself sober than when you was drinking. I did and ive found out some things about myself that i didnt know about. It's a great feeling.
Now, I know that you will feel weird after being sober for a certain amount of time. I'll admit, I did feel weird after quitting drinking. But when I substituted the drinking mentality with fun activities that does not have to include alcohol, a sense of freedom arrived. I can do fun things and not pick up a drug or alcoholic drink. I know that i can never moderate, and that's ok by me. Moderation of alcohol, to me, is a bunch of bull-bull for anyone trying to drag me back into the life of despair and mysery...again.
Don't allow anyone to get into your head or peer pressure you about their everyday alcohol use. Only you can make a big change for yourself and finding sobriety communities are also big steps. I believe in you. You can do this. Just take one day at a time.
This is such a great reply to this great video!! So well put - a wonderful testament to a personal victory ✌️ against the drug in pretty or badass looking bottles. Ten percent of the population buys FIFTY percent of the alcohol in the United States. 10% of us cannot metabolize alcohol properly, yet we fund the industry. Congratulations 👏🎉 on your incredible recovery 🙏❤️!!
@@miyannaable Thank you so much! I really appreciate that. 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
Congratulations on your upcoming 2yr Soberversery. Stirling work 👏 I’m about 2weeks behind you, 25 July 2021
@@sleeplessinstockwell Congrats Congrats! And, thank you so much! This is very exciting!
Thank you for sharing your story....im on day 8 and your story really resonates with me....thank you.
SO WORTH IT - I have discovered things about myself that I never would have known otherwise! I went from 167 lbs. to 117 (at 5'4"). I started a small online business based on a skill that I never used to know I even had. Seasonal allergies became way less severe. My complexion is so much healthier now. This is an awesome channel with a great message - keep on keepin' on!!
Congratulations on your weight loss and improved seasonal allergies. Keep the positive momentum going!!
How did u lose the the weight I gained 40pounds.
I guess the sugar took over after I quite drinking.
Love my sweets
My allergies have also diminished. Sleep is better, too. We must choose life.
100 days sober and nothing but good things have come from this . Less anxiety,more present,feeling better, nurturing relationships and friendships,etc . I can go on and on and watching this channnel has definitely helped .
LOVE THIS!!! Congrats on a well-deserved 100 days! I'm very grateful that you shared your positive benefits with the community, which will hopefully continue to inspire others along their own sobriety journey and what they could expect in their 100 days!
Just passed the two week mark not long ago! 🥳 Today is day 16 of my sober journey and I still don't regret giving up the booze. I had finally reached a point where alcohol no longer "helped" and I had to drink ungodly amounts due to high tolerance in order to numb out like I wanted. I realized then, as I was ugly drunk crying because I could no longer run away and hide from myself in a bottle, that something had to change. I'm now doing the work and feeling better day by day.
Thanks, Jae, for a other great video! ❤
You are just really making an impact in our comment section and I LOVE IT!!!
Congratulations! I’m on day 50. I take some of the money I’d have spent on booze and buy myself something else. (Guns and ammo!)
6 weeks sober today, you and your channel have helped so much and I feel supported and not alone, thank you so much for sharing your experience and knowledge, love it
Well we love you too! and we are glad that you are here, spreading your wings and practicing positivity! what do you have planned for the rest of the week/weekend?
Congratulations on your long streak of sobriety. Strive for 90 days sober.
Keep on trucking mate. i've lost three friends to booze related deaths. That's sobering enough .
Using alcohol stunted my growth, I can't ever go back
Ayeeeee that's the spirit!
This is a great one. I'm at that dangerous point of sobriety where you're enjoying life so much after quitting that you start to wonder "hmm, I wonder if I could just have one or two and have a healthy relationship with alcohol." It's where I fell off last time, and it took 5 months to come back (holidays at home got me then - walking by outdoor patios with people drinking and having so much fun is hard to do now). Thanks for these, fella: they do incredibly important work for us.
I recently took a detour on purpose to make an episode about it (coming out in 2 weeks), and I'll tell you, sobriety is better!
@@GettingSoberAgain Oh, I'll look forward to that one!
I'll admit, I did get to the point in my sobriety that I thought I could have a healthy relationship with alcohol so I tried 1 shot and my body has changed so much physically that I got intense sickness. I know officially that I cannot have alcohol in my life. I never thought i would be able to get to that point and it's amazing!
I'm going to heed this advice; I do the same, can't risk it anymore. I may slip, but it really feels more powerful staying healthy!
@@PanelsWainio slipping and getting back up is better than falling and staying down ❤️🙏🏼❤️
Take it from a wide ass open drinker.. After over 2 years ...yes most Definitely worth it..👍
I just got out of a 5 day jail stint. Almost lost everything.. it wasn't even alcohol but I attempted anxiety medication again and it went very poorly. Don't give up people.. I'm currently headed into a divorce over all of it.. but being in jail gave me a long, hard time to think and reflect. Perspective is the real true natural drug.. don't give up. If anything, use these experiences to become better people
you're onto something special!
Rookie numbers
@stickboy8219 it was rookie numbers, but I was looking at 2 months but bailed out miraculously. That doesn't mean I didn't see enough and experience some stuff that truly changed me..
Hang in there buddy👍
@@TwistedReality13 just messing dude fuck jail tho stay safe 💪
Just hit day 5 for me. I have quit a number of times. Last time I quit i went 4 months and felt better than ever! It was my 40th b day and was on a cruise ship around everyone drinking which of course made me feel like i needed to join the party. Its not easy but all i can remeber and what helps this time around is how great i felt after 4 months. Hope i can stay sober this time around.
Will > Hope
We will cheer you on! Or would you hope we do?
Put the power in your words! BRING ON DAY 6, AND A SOBER WEEKEND!!!
@@GettingSoberAgain Thank you! Love the content and encouragement. 👊💪
Nice i just hit day 5 too! I had a few months and 6 months before that. Falling off and getting back on is way better than just boozing non stop! Sobriety is tough but we got this!
@Jesse Best 💯 I just keep close in my mind how great I feel after the 1st week + and how sharp my mind gets over time. I just can't stand the constant brain fog I get when I drink. That's what keeps me motivated!
Continue to strive to feel healthy and energetic mds9713 Congratulations to you on embracing sobriety.
Ahhhh yes you said one of my favorite slogans: "I want to be me for free".
Embrace life, throw away the bottle. Being high on life is worth it! 🎉🎉🎉
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Yes! 38 days 💪🏽
in the words of the Nature Boy.....WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!
39 tomorrow... keep it rolling👍🏽
Congratulations on your 38 days of sobriety. Keep up the good work.
u still at it my friend?
I'm sober now Now 9 months. My whole life and mine set has changed. Staying strong.
Amazing work! what are some of the benefits that you've noticed?
Thanks for this man. I started a sober journey on UA-cam last year. Then shit the bed. Trying to start over again. Again…. Again.
You got this!! It took me SO many tries to finally go alcohol free. On and off for years. You didn't sh!t the bed - that would mean that you gave up completely. Power to you!!
Practice makes PROGRESS!
We are all imperfect. Most of us have to try more than once to change for the better.
I'm fairly new to the channel and newly sober. 12 days, to be exact. I've been watching your videos from 5 years ago and you have changed so much, it's really motivating to see how far you've come. I am so glad to be a part of this community.
I'm happy to have you with us!!! Thanks for watching my old crusty cringe worthy videos lol
There's an old Zen saying "..when the student is ready, the teacher appears." We make the changes alone even when a spouse or special person is there for us, others are alone when we want to change, we will find those teachers like this video but it's up to you. Songs can do it for me "Man in the Mirror" and "Changes" comes to mind...find your song. PEACE
Agree to AGREE!
This is beautiful ❤.
Day 14 of being sober tomorrow. Jae just let me tell you, your content has been helping me immensely as my cravings have been so strong lately... this channel deserves 1 million subscribers or 2 bare minimum! Bless you jae😇
WOOOOAH!!! I Second that notion lol. I'm so glad you are at 14 days and motivated to move into a brighter future.
thank you for practicing positivity today!
great weekends and don't be a stranger 👊
Alcohol is definitely a problem when I do decide to drink but it’s not the root of my dissatisfaction with life. Still figuring things out. But definitely, I think sobriety is a must. It rules out unnecessary suffering. Life is enough suffering as it is.
If we suffer in life, it doesn't matter if one gives up alcohol if the things in your life are given suffering because we make it so. Life is supposed to be beautiful
@@Indigazure Well said!
Sobriety certainly helps us to lift the curtain and do the real work instead of numbing the pain. Keep working on a better life balance and keep your eye on the goal my friend!
I agree with you. Don't put unnecessary obstacles in your life.
So happy you have started busting out more videos again. They are deeply needed!
me too! it was a big transition to move the studio out of state. but I'm on a groove now 🫡
I need it too, it was instrumental in my decision
@@GettingSoberAgain I will be here watching them all and slowly becoming Sober... again :D
Hey Jae
Thanks for another inspiring video. I’m way older than you and what brought me to Sobriety…. Again, is a need for inspiration to keep my eye on the ball. I gave up this time, when I was staying with my youngest daughter (I have 5 children) and talking with her one morning she asked me why my ankles were swollen. I causally answered that it was probably caused by heart failure. My daughter who is 34 promptly burst into tears and sobbed like a child and she said “l don’t want you to die daddy”. I explained that the date of my death was not in my control, but as soon as I had uttered the words I realised that I was not telling the complete truth. If I stopped drinking alcohol my rate of heart failure would probably decrease and I could see my doctor for confirmation of myself diagnosis and perhaps get some treatment. I had made a pact with myself that I’d die quietly and keep drinking and not bother with doctors or treatment. Seeing my daughter so broken up by the thought of my death made me realise that I had responsibilities not only to her but also to my four other children. This change of heart made me make appointments and get diagnosed and seek treatment and of course stop drinking. Well I’ve done all of that and keeping off the drink is kind of key to the plan. Good luck to all trying to do the same.
What a great comeback story!!! drinking is definitely a selfish choice and user have a built-in fan club that wants to see you win!
It's time to reverse the curse and turn those tears of sadness into tears of happiness 💜💛💜💛
Congratulations on changing for the better Keep the positive momentum going!! Your personal fan club of five children is cheering you on!!
@@gwillis01 Thank you for your warm encouragement I appreciate it 😁😁😁xxx
How does this channel have so little views an subscribers, been searching an watching a lot of videos an I absolutely love this channel. Also another channel I like just much is quit alcohol coach.
15k is a solid amount of subs 🤷 and we just released this video this morning lol, but to your point, yes, I believe we will continue to grow!
it takes time. this is one of the rare channels that doesn't do collabs, or repost celebrity clips or use their likeness as clickbait. it's important to me to grow the channel organically because people actually want to be part of it.
prayers up! 🙏🏼
Trying to sober from today... inspired by you....thanks you so much
Be patient with yourself. there will be bumps in the road, unforseen circumstances and detours along the way.
We have lots of videos you can watch daily to stay motivated!
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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Wonderful, just stumbled on your channel, no doubt from the likes and subs. Great work and I’m inspired to curtail my drinking. It’s time. My Dad was an alcoholic and now at fifty I’m seeing the slow steady migration of over drinking daily. Looking forward to joining the others here on the journey to freedom. The elephant illustration was great!
Awesome, welcome aboard! we are glad to have you so feel free to reach out anytime. all the numbered videos are made to be timeless lessons along your sobriety journey!
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I quit drinking 2 weeks ago. I have had so many reflections and thoughts come to mind over this time. Some thoughts are traumatic memories I experienced whilst being under the influence. It’s time to heal, move on and grow . I feel different. In a good way. I feel closer to God and that I’m on the path I am meant to be on. It just feels so right. My productivity is vastly better. I typically spent the weekend tired and unmotivated. However I got so much done and my house is clean, so I can actually enjoy the sabbath! Yay bless!
April, you sound like you have the potential for great things. Your positivity really shines in this thoughtful paragraph and I'm sure there would be many people out there that could benefit from hearing YOUR voice.
We all come in different shapes, sizes, religious and economic backgrounds. You may certainly have what it takes to reach a broad audience than would be out of my reach. Consider letting your light shine 🌟🌟🌟
@@GettingSoberAgain very thoughtful and sweet response! Thank you for you’re positive and encouraging words. You’re a good human! ❤️
Been awhile since I caught one of your videos. I'm going on 2 years sober & you were a very big part of that first year. Thank you!
WOAAAAAAAH!!!!!! LET'S GOOOOOOO 2 YEARS THIS IS HUGEEE!!!!!!! IM SO PROUD OF YOU LUKE!! 🙏🏼💪🏼🙏🏼💪🏼🙏🏼💪🏼🙏🏼
Nice work Luke. I’m also 2yrs late July
Well done. Thank you.
Thanks for watching!
Yes, getting...and staying...sober is the most worthwhile thing any person with alcohol use disorder can do. It is simply the best top-tier self-care possible. In the 62 days since I stopped drinking alcohol, I've shed 25 lbs and all of my old Good Time Charlie drinking "buddies". I look better, feel better, sleep better, have tons more energy, am more present for my family, and feel the crippling fear and anger of addiction evaporating and being replaced by a new found authentic confidence. I'm rediscovering my authentic self after so many years of being chemically dependent. Good luck to everyone on the path to sobriety!
👏WHAT👏AN👏IMPROVEMENT
I had stopped for 7 months....and I relapsed I'm feeling down....your video was amazing
I'm glad that fire is still glowing inside of you! let's focus on doing what we need to do to keep it burning brightly 🔥🔥🔥
We are all imperfect. Seven months sober is a huge achievement. Mistakes are not the end of the road. They are merely a bend in the road.
Another great video. Thank you for keeping up the good work.
You already know? CHEAH BOY!!
@@GettingSoberAgain hehehe. I see what you did there.
I was a heavy drinker & now 6years sober
April 21,2017 until now 7-9-2023
Welcome newly sober practitioner!
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Cold Turkey no meetings
Stopped DRINKING
@@chrisballmes4914 awesome news. Keep going. So rad!
YES YES YES JAE - ITS EVERLASTING LIFE ... 👍 👍 👍
Day 50! This channel is an enormous blessing!
I’m here, I’m listening. Thank you. Keep it up. It helps.
Well ya know, we just might!
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Another great video. Sobriety is 100% worth it. The insanity of alcohol is, for me anyways, that it is the biggest cause of destruction and chaos in my life, yet it was the first thing that inwould runnto to try and make myself feel better and fix things. It is totally like an abusive relationship. You know its hurting you, that its bad for you and that eventually it will kill you. Yet we keep going back to it.
Thanks again for your video, Quality Words here.
Alcoholism is a disease that we are the only Doctor to Cure, to heal and to found the right prescription to deal with recovery. ( Smile , breathe....)
I am Sober now...can t believe i am writing that, after wasted Half of my Life, Money, Time, in ....that toxic relationship.
Better late than never!
This channel has been so inspiring and helpful for me. When I feel "The Sad Head Voice," I come here for encouragement and do not feel alone!
AaaAAAAaaaawwwwww you mean it?!! I love this!!! You are not alone! And luckily I have a large dedicated amount of free time sort of by choice to answer comments lol
@@GettingSoberAgain oh yes, i mean it. The name of the channel alone stuck out to me, the "...again" part! That just immediately told me i am not alone.
@@GettingSoberAgain and, instead of feeling like i am doing this in secret, i feel proud for once thanks to some of your videos
@@gojojogo1669 someday, you'll be able to help people who were once in your shoes. And THAT, is how we make the world a better place 🧡💜💛
You are a great speaker and motivator! Thanks!
Wow, thank you! If you want to see how far I've come from NOT being such a great speaker, check out the older videos lol
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I’m like 9 days in.. I’m committed and this time it just feels different but right really right… I’m doing it for me with my goal in mind, no one made me make this decision but Jae has helped after i decided, I had no idea there was an app, it makes sense… last week I was in Las Vegas for 2 weeks for work, I met an attorney at the bar .. she was amazingly gorgeous, I wound up spending over $300 on wine and food, that night.. on martini night(s) I spent about $150, then pick up a 1.75 milliliter bottle on the way back to the hotel and dust half of it, I’m a Clydesdale so it was easy but at $800 to $1,000 a month.. this has gone on way too long… if I make 30 days, I can make 90 - the past 10 years I’ve made it 18 days… I’ll also send Jae half of my savings from not drinking THANKS JAE !!
Our goal is to help you be your best! Thank you for continuing to see your goals realized and now taking the easy way out. you've been there, done that, and you're moving BEYOND THAT! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼
Congratulations on embracing sobriety and saving money. The second week will be easier than the first. The second month is easier than the first.
Give yourself a new, exciting goal that you have the energy to make happen only because you are more healthy and more prosperous.
I’ve been using alcohol very lightly for awhile now and thinking about cutting it out entirely. I miss the social element of - there is something about having a drink with someone, a bond. I also miss the taste of a good cocktail or wine, but mocktails are good and satisfy my itch. I rarely miss the alcohol itself. You just get used to feeling balance, and sleeping well that you don’t care to go back.
Well said!
hello Jae
This is one of your best videos Jae I feel so much better....only 4 times outa 15 days aprt from doing it everynight after work...i had to stop or i was gonna wind up like Amy winehouse or something that scared me..there were times i was gonna call an ambulance...ugh...what waste of time🎉
Oh my God yes! We all have our journey and path that we must take. I found this channel day 1 and I had just gotten out of county jail needless to say my life was Rocky and neeed a safe place and to hear some positive thoughts and a friendly awesome community of GET SOBER AGAIN... I am happy and proud to say next month will be 2 years sober!
2 YEARS already?!!! Hallelujah!! congrats GVP!
@@GettingSoberAgain yes sir it finally happened and I have lots of thanks to my family and to your channel, the people, and to you. Thansk for your help saving a life I won't let it go to waste.
Congratulations on your two years of sobriety. Keep the positive momentum going!!
Keep doing what you are doing ,,I am still using alcohol, you inspire me slowly
Was back @ the bar 2weeks after I quite drinking didn't even phase me everybody was doing shot after all around me. I'm still going to my local bar every once in awhile It's called
I have will power after ALL THESE YEARS & STILL GOING STRONG
Not the best idea, but keep us updated. I literally watched a buddy of mine have his family throw him an intervention, went to rehab and then went back to the bar immediately after. just "drank water". but eventually, he gave in and is fully back on the sauce. 🤷
I had quit for over a year, then relapsed back in January. I can honestly say being sober was way better, but I'm lacking the courage to try sobriety again. I hope I can do it again
Do us both a favor....
instead of saying "I hope" say "I WILL!"
think about it... what if you just got married and said "I hope this lasts".
or "I hope I graduate"
"I hope I can get in better shape"
Speak it!
I've found that hope is good for things you have no control over... This you have control over.. you have won once you decide you're going to win
I’ve been sober for almost 1 year & 7 months. I wanted to have a beer today. But, I refrained. I don’t know if it matters.
@@scottjackson163 Congratulations on resisting temptation. Yes it is a mental victory and a big deal.
Dare to try Dare to succeed. You may be more successful than you expect. We are all imperfect. Most of us need more than one try to change for the better.
4:19 you drank just to be around other people, and to feel comfortable around yourself. The latter part of that sentence hit hard for me, my only true cravings are when I'm alone and isolated.
I know the vibes all too well. The secret is: become the person that you WANT to be around.
What skills can you sharpen? what hobbies can you start? what fitness goals can you achieve? what people places and things in your life are holding you back that you can get rid of?
Such great analogies. I love those! 💗💪🏻
Glad you like them! 😁😁😁
Many thanks! I really appreciate what are you doing!
I appreciate your appreciation 😁😁
People have told me I get mad when I drink. It is in society, most songs, tv shows, movies; the image is their always happy and look their drinking. Why? who writes a song about work, no one wants that, nor a movie so our mind sees it as fun. One thing I have not heard on this channel about symptoms, you will hear voices and see shadow people; I have done this and now know from where. If real extreme the pain after can be 2-3 days long and even with constant water/pedialyte urination may come days later; oh and don't forget the possible heart attack and seizures. Liquid bathroom time, high blood pressure, no good sleep. Lastly you find that you have aged ten years more than your friends who don't drink, and they have new cars and a nice house adding to the depression when you realize you drank away your car..... yeah not worth it.
I had to get sober with medical supervision. I got so bad that there was no other way - I put myself in the hospital for 8 days. And I had terrible DT's for 5 of them. And the insomnia you mention is a very real thing. Bless!!
we have 170 episodes now, trust the symptoms have been mentioned 🫡
but we don't talk about them all the time because the range of symptoms are wildly different.
for example, I never had DTs, and anyone who is experiencing such symptoms along with hallucinations needs to remember that : ALCOHOL DETOX CAN BE DEADLY
If your life is on the line, absofreakinglutely get additional medical support.
Play is safe out there, and remember, we are not medical professionals and this channel is not medical advice.
But we do love you 💚💙🩷🧡💜💛
In my non--medical opinion, if you hear voices and see shadow people, you need medical supervision to get sober. Please get the intensive, serious help you need.
Love your videos, great material to get motivated and quit drinking. You’re really helping people, keep up the great work!
I pray to continue having the energy motivation and inspiration myself to continue making this very important content!
@@GettingSoberAgain and the importance and work you’re doing is worth lifting up. Great mindset, your motivation is my motivation.
Ya great video Jae! This night is one of my tougher nights due to my past habit patterns. I cut way way back and will go to no drinking at all. I'm liking the way I feel when I wake up in the morning. 😊
🎯 It's all about tomorrow you 😉
Hey Jae. Almost at 24hrs sober. About to go for a 5km walk to combat the shakes lol.
Might I suggest not straying too far from home? kms add up no matter if it's far from home or around the block 🙏🏼
@@GettingSoberAgain Will do a few circuits of the block with the dog. Feeling positive. Will see you on the next live stream!
@@Knightcommander69 say hello to the pup for me :)
I teared up at the end. Thank you.
Thank you for saying so 🫂😭
Man, you spit the truth! Great content!
I be spittin!
Sober date is 1.11.23. Its hard. But , worth it.
11123 let's gooooooo
I appreciate you I come to your videos to reaffirm myself
it's a very good strategy in my opinion 😁
You deserve more credit
Sharing our videos on social media really helps 🙏
Jae, I really hope you see this man because I would like to email you possibly and maybe ask you a few questions.. Your channel here and some recent drastic life changes inspired me to not only improve myself, but maybe help a few others as well along the way. I want to make a channel similar to yours, that's all about not letting your past define who you are as person in the future. I don't want to bite into your niche though and it seem like I'm going for your fanbase. YOUR channel is what gave me a lot of the inspiration I've used over the past few years to grow personally. Well more recent events hit me like a ton of bricks and has truly inspired me to stop talking about it and just going for it. I really just want to sit down or email you and have a one on one and just talk to you about what you've learned over the years from making this channel and maybe using some of your knowledge to improve my own. My approach is probably going to be much more raw than yours. I appreciate the gentle kindness this channel exuberates and myself and many others need that in times of struggle. It's comforting to come to a place where you can speak among other people who won't judge you and really just want to offer advice. But sometimes, for myself at least, I need that raw, in your face, this is HOW it is, opening yourself up vulnerably to connect to others on a very basic raw, but very real internal struggle we ALL go through while making life altering, but very necessary personal changes AND growth that unfortunately people don't understand until they're truly in it themselves. A reflection if you will of your channel here.. the other side when you need to hear another person's struggles to know you are NOT alone and you should NEVER give on up yourself. Other people's actions towards me lately (given the nature of what I've now done and HAVE to grow from, it simply isn't a matter of "want" or "ill try to do better" anymore, I WILL/HAVE too change) that people out there do TRULY care, I just didn't see it through my own BS hang ups. Given how this convo goes (if it even happens in the first place, will likely be the deciding factor of whether i do it or not) I'm going to open myself up in a way that is very vulnerable and will be way out of my comfort zone. I WANT people out there to know that, ONE REALLY BAD mistake doesn't make you a bad person. It simply means you are , in fact, only human. lol. Man this comment might get torn to shreds by people.. but that's something I'm about to have to face head on, so I am CHOOSING to put myself out there in a way I have NEVER done before. I believe I can learn from this too, as well. Gonna have to improve my grammar though if i want to run a channel though. this comment is a hot bed of typos lmao.. hope everyone out there is doing well.. cheers
There is more than enough to go around. Service to others is what it's all about and it's not copyright, trademark or registered.
Email me at GettingSoberAgain@gmail.com
“ sober curious “ 😂😂😂
I love it.
It's a vibe 🐸
Has anyone had experience with cutting alcohol out of your life, but continuing to use cannabis. I don't use cannabis for any health reason, so I could cut it out. However, I enjoy it and I don't really see any down sides to it (for me, anyway). Curious to hear how many (if any) of the benefits of quitting alcohol are lessened or negated by continuing to use cannabis.
Jae,
I’m 51 and a have been a heavy drinker for over 20 years. Consider sharing content about how….
(1) my pancreas has lost its ability to digest fatty food and I take digestive enzymes to keep my stool from being greasy, and hard to wipe. Howard Stern suffers from this. Google it.
(2) I used to be a confident public speaker, and relaxed in high pressure competitive athletics. I now struggle to public speak effectively and feel the need to “lubricate” to play my best tennis. Alcohol slows your nervous system down so your body compensates by over-activating while sober (during normal business daytime). When speaking for work or playing pre-noontime tennis, I’m not the relaxed, confident, high-performing man I once was.
Creon yes, I'm familiar. I take it with most meals too.
My biggest hurdle with quitting is that I'm a happy drunk and I actually get WAY more chores done. It's like an upper for me. I don't know why that is?? Anyone else have that happen??
But I do hate the other problems that come with it. Gaining weight, hangovers, spending the money to buy it....
I can safely say that we all drink for a very similar reason. I'll call gives us a dopamine release. But eventually we need more and more, which makes us spend more and more, gain more and more, and watch our health decrease more and more.
I'm certain that there are plenty of people out there that justify the use of meth for the same exact reason. But since that's not your personal drug of choice, you would probably look at that analogy and say that's ridiculous...
and somebody else out there that would listen to any of us justify the use of alcohol for its benefits would probably feel the same exact way about our decisions
On 13th August 2023 was the first birthday i've had sober IN 31 Years. Only been sober for 10 weeks. At the age 49
Isn't it interesting that we choose to poison ourselves on our birthday? There will have to be a first day, first weekend, first birthday, new year's eve and the list goes on.
But just like the second day of school was easier than the first, and too the second date, the second day of work, the second and the third and the rest gets easier and easier.
Keep us update on your journey! Keep up the good work (AND HAPPY BIRTHDAY!)
Thanks Jae and may the force be with you lol
@@GettingSoberAgain
Been 14 days since july 1. I can't say I'll never drink again. I rather have non-alcoholic beer or no alcohol at all but no alcohol at all
You keep doing you!
it´s worth it if you change the undelining problem, if you just quit the drug but not what took you to it, you´ll just be a "sober drunk"...
#wisdom
Hey hey 92 days
VITALIY YESSSSSSSS 92 DAYS ROCKS!!!! 🎸🎸🎸
@@GettingSoberAgain :)))) 🙏 thank you brother
Congratulations to vitaliyliokumovich on your long streak of sobriety. Keep the positive momentum going!!
@@gwillis01 thank you 🙏 🤗... its "easy" once you understand what it is and why you don't want it any more
HaleluYah
For 25 years every day I would drink a fifth of turkey 101 and a 12 ok on the way to work. At work I would drink 24-36 beers at work and an 18 pk on the way home and the wife asked me every day if I had a beer on the way home from work and I would tell her that I had 18 on my way home and she would say yeah right. Then one day in 2010 I quit. Never had withdrawals and never busted a pee test or a breathalyzer test. All the people I work with brought the beer into my work place. I never tested positive for lortabs and it was a 20 pill or more a day. Got 90 a week and nobody could believe it because I done every day. Here’s were the issue of going cold turkey off that was a great idea bad results. I didn’t sleep for 5 weeks
Diet Coke and banana’s was all I ate. Drop 60lbs and went to my doctor and passed a drug test. I didn’t have anything in my system. The Dr said that I needed to À evaluation and I said no im going home. 5 in the morning the cops was beating on my door and physically took me to probate court. Had no idea what was going on because they would not say anything. A court appointed lawyer told me that my Dr sent a letter saying that I was a threat to my self. They took me to the evaluation hospital and after getting processed in they took me to my room and put a nurse in the room. I laid down and went right to sleep. They didn’t wake me up until the next day. The doctor told me that I had felt like nobody was around trying to get me or anything. Took a year to get back to normal.
The police took my pistols and would not give them back
Great vid
You should see what we put out since then!
Here's the playlist to our most recent episodes!
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Celebrated my 30 day by drinking, what a mistake that was, time to get back on the wagon, thanks dude
Now that you know better, it's time to do better 👊 let's ride!
Day 18 for me!
me only in 2 days sober💀 craving alcohol cigarettes and coffee
as expected. as we all did. as we will all push through 💪
I have a question if I may.: what if you’re addicted to multiple substances and would love the idea of sobriety but the withdrawals are so intense (let’s say 4 substances) that you go back to drinking to calm the other withdrawals? I apologize if this sounds like a “therapy” question
What advice have your doctor's shared with you about this medical and substance detox question?
@@GettingSoberAgain rehab but as you mention in your video it’s like a relationship.. you can stop but it’ll always be around you can just come back to it. Which is why I don’t believe in rehab
@@williamhernandez9159 I'm qualified to make UA-cam videos on sobriety.
What advice can I give to you, if you don't "believe" in the advice of medical professionals?
My advice is that: what we "think", what we "know", what we "believe" and what the truth may actually be are all different things that can highly vary based on ones personal perspective and life experience.
You have to be willing to step outside of your comfort zone and accept certain truths that may not fit your comfort narrative.
You know the answer. And only until you're willing to really take the steps necessary, will you achieve your goal.
@@GettingSoberAgain you’re 100 percent correct brother and you’re right I know what I have to do, I think I’ve always known. Thank you for answering honestly and for the work you put into your videos, I’m a few in. Liked and subscribed, you’re a real one. Safety and peace
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40 days!!!
How did you celebrate? Tacos perhaps 🤤🌮
i'm doing dry june and feeling pretty strange at day 14 after drinking daily since start of pandemic. i'm really bored and i don't like this feeling of being in total control 100% of the time. been watching your videos a lot, delving into the older ones as well. i find i relate really closely to your story but i'm still sceptical that alcohol has zero benefits whatsoever as many seem to claim. for instance i couldn't imagine going backpack camping and not getting drunk at the campfire, it seems like an appropriate place to do so and the point of being out there is to do nothing anyway and just unwind, and you can sleep in as long as you want. just an example.
it seems like at the start of your channel you were just planning to go dry for a while, but at some point you decided you would never again. do you think there is ever a situation where alcohol is appropriate and if not, at which point in your sobriety did you decide to never drink again?
14 days removed from systematically poisoning yourself daily for how many years?
you feel weird?
you'd better feel weird, this is WHAT CHANGE FEELS LIKE.
THIS IS A CALL TO ACTION.
Damn man, isn't nature enough? The splendor and magic of the impossible odds that you're even alive? that you have all of your limbs and all 5 senses?
That you can love and be loved. that you can choose freely to be what you want in life...
Can't entertainment be enough?
can't time with your friends and family be enough?
Can't YOU just be enough to want to spend time with YOU?
We gotta fix these obsolete intoxication mentalities. the fact that you're still wondering WHEN you can fit alcohol into your life should be a clear sign that the real work hasn't begun.
If you were watching a movie right now, and the main character was you, what would you want the main character to do?
would you want the main character to dig deeper and learn more about themselves? about what they love (besides getting drunk)? about life, about relationships, about gratitude and empathy. would you want the main character to white knuckle it and say "I'm bored" while they live in the greatest era in human existence?
when every song that's won a Grammy and every movie that's won an Oscar....
when every form of entertainment, sport, streaming service, activity, UA-cam video, tutorial, and motivational speech exist?
Heres a hint, if you're wondering when you can go back to drinking, is exactly the same as setting sail for a new land while constantly looking back at the shores that you left wondering when you can go back.
what if we were talking about heroin right now, and the question was the same "would there be an appropriate time to have a little heroin?"
the goal is to not want to go back. to cultivate a new life and a new life perspective. to materialize what you didn't think was possible and replace broken thinking with the motivation and inspiration that LIFE IS ENOUGH.
Now after all this, after writing this response to you for 10 minutes, what are you gonna do?
@@GettingSoberAgain yeah man, i have a lot of work to do, and i have the sense that alcohol isn't the only problem here. thanks for taking the time to reply to me. one issue is that those examples you list don't inspire me. i'm a misanthrope and i don't know if that philosophy stemmed from addiction, or vice versa. i believe that human conscienceness was a mistake in evolution and we are literal parasites betraying human nature - i've felt this way since a very young age - before ever trying alcohol or any drug.
for example, you say "the greatest era in human existence" and i couldn't disagree further. i drink because:
- housing crisis/severe inequality (i am maxed out salary in a government position and cant afford to buy an apartment or even have the word "retirement" in my vocabulary)
- climate change
- social media destroying the fabric of society
- a general sense that the world has already ended and nothing is going to ever improve from this point on, no purpose or reason to strive to be better, etc
day 15 and i feel like now these problems are just more clear and apparent. i can't step 100m away from my shitty rental apartment without seeing some atrocity caused by human shittiness. what can a person do if they see existence as suffering? maybe life isn't for me? at this point i stopped praying for a good life but rather the strength to endure this one.
i've been a weekend drinker from ages 18 to about 25. the pandemic hit and i've been drinking daily since, i turn 29 this weekend and it will be my first sober birthday since i was 18.
i don't know what i'm asking here or what my point is so don't feel like you have to reply. just wanted to say thanks again
@@RobboElRobbo it is certainly easy to see the negatives when you aren't looking for the positives.
The question is "what am I in control of?"
Let that be your guide and shape your mind, environment and philosophy around it.
But then again, people who are looking for reasons why it won't work will always find a reason to quit.
You clearly have an intelligence that can be used for good...when you choose 🙏🏼
@@GettingSoberAgain can I ask if you relate to my words in any way? You look like a metal dude like myself who may have went through the same thing I am. Sorry if that assumption is way off
If so what made you actually look for the positives? Like I'm sober but now I don't even know why I am. I'm feeling so clear headed that offing myself sounds like a good idea now (don't worry I won't, I acknowledge my brain is going through big changes right now)
@@RobboElRobbo I chose to be as smart as I presumed I was by not letting stupid things dictate my internal environment anymore. I believe I'm stronger than my distractions. I believed that I was addicted to escape. We always say that the main 2 reasons why we drink are to feel better or escape. because
I decided to work on what I could control. To get out of relationships that I didn't want to be in. To get away from people who got on my nerves. To stop checking the news and giving so much power to social media and how it made me feel. To not take other people's frustrations and insecurities personally because those too are not my responsibility.
My physical health and mental health are my responsibility and have become my priority. Leaving the world a better place than I found it is a priority. And all of these things became more manageable for me once I got sober. I "embraced the suck" and turned the odds in my favor.
I've been through some shit just like everyone else here, and I'll tell you this: I didn't want to continue to feel the way that you describe...anymore.
Thank you, I needed that...
Happy to help! Don't forget about the main playlist the next time you have a craving:
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Quick answer...YES it's totally worth it. And with this guy's help👆and the will keep trying. it will be worth it for you🫵too...
WAHOOOOOO!!