Intuition is such a powerful tool in knowing people and situations. It is not about what people say or do but what they inevitably show you, without them even consciously aware they are revealing themselves, that tells you their true intention and feelings towards you. This is intuition at work. And I see intuition as one of the most, if not the most precious gifts of being a highly sensitive person. It helps me to discern the geunine from the phoney.
Everyone wants to be valued. I love how you foster that sense of self worth while explaining how to cope with the challenging aspects of our characters traits. We all need wisdom and love.
Hi Julia, I love this HSP series you have been doing on UA-cam. I think I am very much a deep processor...sometimes even an overthinker because of it! Lol I do think and feel deeply. I journal a lot, I do many ABCBOs and now trying to work on more Thought Ladders, but as you can see too, even just writing notes down for UA-cam videos and your newsletters, helps me process all this information. I think it is also why I have a hard time commenting lightly on our takeaways from our Wednesday sessions. I tend to write a lot. Lol Again, I love that you have made a few videos now about being an HSP and I love the new format with the stock footage and you sharing your key points (Makes it easier for me to take notes! Lol)
Here are my notes: *Being highly sensitive means your senses are more sensitive. *It isn't a bad or good thing. It is how you engage with life in and out. *Tune in when you are feeling overwhelmed or stimulated. *You may need more time to yourself and to recharge. *HSPs are not just for introverts, 30% of HSPs are extroverts. *Being an HSP is not a flaw or a disorder *It is a trait and how you are and engage in the world. *About 20% of the population are highly sensitive people. *Research has recently found that a genetic marker for sensitivity was discovered. (In your DNA)
3 Main Aspects of being a Highly Sensitive Person: 1. Highly sensitive people are typically deeper processors. 2. Your ability to be emotionally responsive. 3. You are very sensitive to subtle stimuli.
Being an HSP can make things more challenging, but it also makes things so beautiful.
Thanks Chris.....awesome notes and hey glad to see another HSP Man.....given my ethnic background ( I'm Indian), men here are not to display any kind of sensitivity....this used to put me in that "softy" category....now I just love being an HSP Man!
Hi Julia, thank you for this. Totally identified with your feelings about the carpet! I am a HSP and a people pleaser, which in my experience, has been extremely challenging in my life. I hope I am not the only one x
Oh Julia! All 3 points that you have covered, these are sooooooo relatable. At point 3, the subtle stimuli section, I just burst out in laughter when you were sharing your carpet story 😂 I used to feel so puzzled by this highly sensitive trait of myself because I wasn't even aware that something like this exist, identifiable, explainable. The more resources I explored about it, I have felt a sense of empowerment. Now I feel proud and pure gratitude for having this. Life has sure become less puzzling, more intriguing 😌
Great video , Julia! Thank you so much! oh, the eternal struggle with accepting myself as an Hsp. :) I got better with it , with years, and your videos are very helpful too.
@@juliakristinamah The more I accept myself, the more others accept me too. its comes from within. I notice there is a pull to still put myself in the role where Im trying to be more robust than I really am as a man. and the more I create a distance between me being much tougher, and make a step or two back towards being more sensitive(not worse as a human being, just different) the closer I come to me accepting myself more as an HSP. to play with an idea that I can appear a little weird to people. I notice some pressure from my family to be tougher than I really am. there are many great things about being an HSP. I just need to work on expectations of others, of myself and comparisons. Thank you , Julia!
Hi Julia! Just want you to know how much I appreciate you and your channel. I am one of the 20% HSP persons in this world. It has its benefits and drawbacks in this world. Like your story about the carpet! My interpretation was always detailed and particular to others saying you're too picky...now, through you, I have learned why .... thank you for being here on UA-cam. 🎉 HAPPY NEW YEAR 🎉
I am glad you talked about empathy because I started having this in a big way at a young age, and I remember noticing that it was slightly more than others were noticing. This HSP thing is something I have thought about for a few years since I first learned about it. I am not sure I am ready to assign myself as it is yet, but it is exciting, and I want to learn more.
I identify with how you felt since childhood. I, too felt the same. I’ve had hard fought times being HSP. And, then there’s those times where it’s helped me. I am needing to learn more ways to make it easier to manage.
Give me strength this New Year. Heavenly Father, I come to you today asking for your blessings as a single mom. I’m raising my children with strength and courage, despite the challenges I face with my sons being autistic. Lord as I struggle to pay my rent every month and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. I ask that you bless me with your wisdom and guidance, as I navigate parenthood on my own heal my lupus and heart disease and continue to give me strength to keep going so I may watch my sons grow into men. ❤
Very helpfull for me Julia Kristina 🙏🏻 for the world you might be a person, but for one person you might be the world, keep up the good work madam, greetings from the Netherlands Rubin
Being a highly sensitive male has unique benefits and challenges. However, as a single parent (with sole custody) looking to date again, I struggle to leverage any of the benefits. I don’t want to consistently be seen as a ‘nice guy,’ but rather as the ‘good man’ I truly am.
show up as your full self - and don't try to prove anything, earn anything, or overly cater to anyone. That will show people that you are the good man that you are.
I was always made to feel that being highly sensitive was a bad thing. That there was something wrong with me. I just learned that it's a trait. That there's nothing wrong with that. That made me happy. I'm 55. Thank you for this video. 🙏✌️🌻
Julia, per usual, you spoke about a very specific topic that I have been born to cope with my entire life. For me personally, I have difficulties in harnessing my HSP traits. They can often be overwhelming, which leads me to unnecessary emotional stress. At the same time, I feel there’s a great gift in being a HSP. As you mentioned, understanding someone may need a helpful hand or acknowledgement, viewing the beauty of nature, the laughter of children, etc; these can bring more joy. I know I have work to do when it comes to these traits, as I often become unbalanced when overloaded. Thank you, for this great video.
Even from early childhood, I always knew that I was “different” to most of my peers. It became more obvious, but less understandable, as I grew older. It was only when I chanced upon Prof Elaine Aron’s work and the questionnaire she and her co-workers published that I could finally identify what was “different” in me. It was a relief to discover that it was a set of characteristics that were normal (especially as a man), albeit only found in 20% of the population. It was satisfying that this conglomeration of characteristics even had a term…. HSP (or sensory processing sensitivity, SPS). Thank you for this extremely clear video clip, Julia Kristina. It’s an easy-to-understand summary of what I am.
This video was insanely helpful and accurate and has helped immensely with my mental health and how to deal with being this sensitive. Thank you Julia Kristina ❤, and just for the record I am a guy.
Just as we can see highly sensitive people as a trait, not a flaw, we can apply to other traits as well. For example, we can see tough, energetic people as a trait, not a flaw. 💪 One of my cats is highly sensitive. I can tell based on her reactions and behaviour, she is highly sensitive, just like me. 😺
My second youngest son is sensitive. He feels things very deeply. He is extroverted and it’s been tricky to parent him sometimes because I often feel like I am not doing a good enough job understanding him. He’s gonna be eight soon. My father was a highly sensitive person and he was a definite introvert.
yes, parenting a Big Feeling Kid can be challenging at times. One thing that helps is to acknowledge/validate their big feelings and work with them to come to solutions together.
I wonder if highly sensitive people are more prone to anxiety disorders. I am a highly sensitive person and have had anxiety issues for as long as I can remember. I was told a lot in my life that I am too sensitive and need to get thicker skin and toughen up. So I always felt something was wrong with me.
As a plausibility fir highly sensitive people, from an extroverted side (which may inhibit more nero diversity in connectivity) may tie in sensory degrees and even from a developmental aspect such as sights/sounds/smells/observational/even pressure changes potentially and from a introverted side (internalizing and requim or physiological cognition and resonance) so one may have physical responses such as over heating/cold clamy hands/irratic breath/sweating/knotty stomachs/shoulder tension and such, maybe an overdeveloped spinal cord same size as brain stem vs narrowing down in frame to align with vertebrae If one is an overthinker one could try getting physical, so if you are on a sitting area tap your feet and stomp your legs like Serena Ryder with stompa would say, and twist your body to a rhythm while doing so, try standing up and walk with your feet lined up then take a few steps forward then a few steps back and try side stepping and talk out loud either with a song or to one's self while doing with,
Good night Julia, Greville constantine from Trinidad & Tobago. Thank u for your video on being HSP. I think i am HSP too, in that whenever my wife ( who is Narciccistic) have a spat, i tend to talk to myself when i am alone and vent all of my frustration. Because of how cruel she judges me to be too sofy natured and not tough enough. However, when i keep silence and think about this situation, i realise it is just a part of life i have to endure until : 1) i can change my life situation & not stay in the marriage due to her controlling ways: 2) i sometimes offer encouragement to others who are either going thru a rough patch like i am, or discover they are highly sensitive like me, so i am Not Alone in my situations. Do you have a,webpage where i can continue to follow your advice, or where we can communicate one on one? Thank you for your wonderful videos!!!❤❤
Do Americans really want to hear the truth? Can someone win telling the truth. I would love to have him. But few who tell the truth are allowed to lead.
" Being highly sensitive , means that your senses are more sensitive .." I really cant let you get away with this verbal rubbish you put out without thinking. Youre senses are Touch, Taste , Sight , Smell and Hearing. You are talking about your inner feelings that have no bearing on your senses , The first sentence you say clearly means you are on a journey to confuse people. Listen , the English language is not haphazard, it has developed over thousands of years . Words mean what we agree they mean , they absolutely do not change to mean something else , merely to justify a UA-cam video . Please try to be professional, and articulate enough to speak about the variety of topics you need , In a professional manner
The hardest part of knowing my level of sensitivity, is trying to understand why some have none. 💔
Yeah, me too.
I say this all the time 🥺
Exactly!
Well said
Absolutely - I find this is also true around self-awareness. It interesting how many people have very little of it.
Intuition is such a powerful tool in knowing people and situations. It is not about what people say or do but what they inevitably show you, without them even consciously aware they are revealing themselves, that tells you their true intention and feelings towards you. This is intuition at work. And I see intuition as one of the most, if not the most precious gifts of being a highly sensitive person. It helps me to discern the geunine from the phoney.
Everyone wants to be valued. I love how you foster that sense of self worth while explaining how to cope with the challenging aspects of our characters traits. We all need wisdom and love.
I have boundaries as a highly-sensitive person Julia.
Awesome love it!Yes being a HSP makes one overthink and dwell on things a lot.
Yes, that part can make it tough at times. What helps you get out of the overthinking cycle?
Hi Julia, I love this HSP series you have been doing on UA-cam.
I think I am very much a deep processor...sometimes even an overthinker because of it! Lol I do think and feel deeply. I journal a lot, I do many ABCBOs and now trying to work on more Thought Ladders, but as you can see too, even just writing notes down for UA-cam videos and your newsletters, helps me process all this information. I think it is also why I have a hard time commenting lightly on our takeaways from our Wednesday sessions. I tend to write a lot. Lol
Again, I love that you have made a few videos now about being an HSP and I love the new format with the stock footage and you sharing your key points (Makes it easier for me to take notes! Lol)
Here are my notes:
*Being highly sensitive means your senses are more sensitive.
*It isn't a bad or good thing. It is how you engage with life in and out.
*Tune in when you are feeling overwhelmed or stimulated.
*You may need more time to yourself and to recharge.
*HSPs are not just for introverts, 30% of HSPs are extroverts.
*Being an HSP is not a flaw or a disorder
*It is a trait and how you are and engage in the world.
*About 20% of the population are highly sensitive people.
*Research has recently found that a genetic marker for sensitivity was discovered. (In your DNA)
3 Main Aspects of being a Highly Sensitive Person:
1. Highly sensitive people are typically deeper processors.
2. Your ability to be emotionally responsive.
3. You are very sensitive to subtle stimuli.
Being an HSP can make things more challenging, but it also makes things so beautiful.
Thanks Chris.....awesome notes and hey glad to see another HSP Man.....given my ethnic background ( I'm Indian), men here are not to display any kind of sensitivity....this used to put me in that "softy" category....now I just love being an HSP Man!
@@naeemshaikh9535 You're welcome! I am glad my notes are helpful! Yes, I have learn to embrace my sensitivity too!
Hi Julia, thank you for this. Totally identified with your feelings about the carpet! I am a HSP and a people pleaser, which in my experience, has been extremely challenging in my life. I hope I am not the only one x
Oh Julia! All 3 points that you have covered, these are sooooooo relatable. At point 3, the subtle stimuli section, I just burst out in laughter when you were sharing your carpet story 😂 I used to feel so puzzled by this highly sensitive trait of myself because I wasn't even aware that something like this exist, identifiable, explainable. The more resources I explored about it, I have felt a sense of empowerment. Now I feel proud and pure gratitude for having this. Life has sure become less puzzling, more intriguing 😌
Yes! Isn't it so much more enjoyable when we approach being human with curiosity and amusement instead?
@@juliakristinamah Definitely 😁 it's empowering and feels like I have found my home 😌🧘🏻♀️
Great video , Julia! Thank you so much! oh, the eternal struggle with accepting myself as an Hsp. :) I got better with it , with years, and your videos are very helpful too.
What do you notice changing as you learn to accept yourself more as an HSP?
@@juliakristinamah The more I accept myself, the more others accept me too. its comes from within. I notice there is a pull to still put myself in the role where Im trying to be more robust than I really am as a man. and the more I create a distance between me being much tougher, and make a step or two back towards being more sensitive(not worse as a human being, just different) the closer I come to me accepting myself more as an HSP. to play with an idea that I can appear a little weird to people. I notice some pressure from my family to be tougher than I really am. there are many great things about being an HSP. I just need to work on expectations of others, of myself and comparisons. Thank you , Julia!
Hi Julia! Just want you to know how much I appreciate you and your channel. I am one of the 20% HSP persons in this world. It has its benefits and drawbacks in this world. Like your story about the carpet! My interpretation was always detailed and particular to others saying you're too picky...now, through you, I have learned why .... thank you for being here on UA-cam.
🎉 HAPPY NEW YEAR 🎉
I'm really glad this part connected with you. And a very Happy New Year to you too!
@@juliakristinamah ty
Thank you 🙏 For bringing awareness and helping people realise that their trait is: real ❤
You are so welcome. Really glad you're here.
Thank you Julia.
Happy New Year 2024!
You're welcome Anton - happy new year to you as well!
I am glad you talked about empathy because I started having this in a big way at a young age, and I remember noticing that it was slightly more than others were noticing. This HSP thing is something I have thought about for a few years since I first learned about it. I am not sure I am ready to assign myself as it is yet, but it is exciting, and I want to learn more.
Glad you're here - I have a few talks about it so far, and will be doing more. Stay tuned!
I identify with how you felt since childhood. I, too felt the same. I’ve had hard fought times being HSP. And, then there’s those times where it’s helped me. I am needing to learn more ways to make it easier to manage.
Give me strength this New Year. Heavenly Father, I come to you today asking for your blessings as a single mom. I’m raising my children with strength and courage, despite the challenges I face with my sons being autistic. Lord as I struggle to pay my rent every month and as I struggle to buy groceries for my children. I ask that you bless me with your wisdom and guidance, as I navigate parenthood on my own heal my lupus and heart disease and continue to give me strength to keep going so I may watch my sons grow into men. ❤
Carpet story is gold!!
And the lighting and the crooked picture.
glad this one connected ;-)
@@juliakristinamah thank you
Very helpfull for me Julia Kristina 🙏🏻 for the world you might be a person, but for one person you might be the world, keep up the good work madam, greetings from the Netherlands Rubin
This is really beautiful - thank you Rubin.
I’m glad you are here 🙏
Thanks for another great, insightful video Julia!
You are so welcome. Glad you're here Graham.
Being a highly sensitive male has unique benefits and challenges. However, as a single parent (with sole custody) looking to date again, I struggle to leverage any of the benefits. I don’t want to consistently be seen as a ‘nice guy,’ but rather as the ‘good man’ I truly am.
show up as your full self - and don't try to prove anything, earn anything, or overly cater to anyone. That will show people that you are the good man that you are.
I was always made to feel that being highly sensitive was a bad thing. That there was something wrong with me. I just learned that it's a trait. That there's nothing wrong with that. That made me happy. I'm 55. Thank you for this video. 🙏✌️🌻
Good morning Julia. I thank you for this video as I am a highly selective person.
Glad you're here and that this one connected.
Can so relate to carpet story! This video was great! Thank you!!
Julia, per usual, you spoke about a very specific topic that I have been born to cope with my entire life. For me personally, I have difficulties in harnessing my HSP traits. They can often be overwhelming, which leads me to unnecessary emotional stress. At the same time, I feel there’s a great gift in being a HSP. As you mentioned, understanding someone may need a helpful hand or acknowledgement, viewing the beauty of nature, the laughter of children, etc; these can bring more joy. I know I have work to do when it comes to these traits, as I often become unbalanced when overloaded. Thank you, for this great video.
You are welcome Isabelle. I'm really glad you found this one helpful.
@@juliakristinamah I really do. Many great insights, and have questions too. What a wonderful job you do, making these videos for anyone to view. 🙌🏻🫶🏻
I relate to all the three main points, more signs I'm actually a HSP.
really glad this one connected and gave you clarity.
Hello Julia, thank you so much for your channel. The video's are very helpful, this feels like the only place that I can go for support and help.
You are very welcome here Cindy - I'm glad you've been finding my talks helpful.
I'm so tired of crying over everything! Everyone looks at me like I'm crazy 🤪. Sometimes I wasn't this way.
Even from early childhood, I always knew that I was “different” to most of my peers. It became more obvious, but less understandable, as I grew older. It was only when I chanced upon Prof Elaine Aron’s work and the questionnaire she and her co-workers published that I could finally identify what was “different” in me. It was a relief to discover that it was a set of characteristics that were normal (especially as a man), albeit only found in 20% of the population. It was satisfying that this conglomeration of characteristics even had a term…. HSP (or sensory processing sensitivity, SPS). Thank you for this extremely clear video clip, Julia Kristina. It’s an easy-to-understand summary of what I am.
Thank you ~
I’m emotionally responsive Julia.
This video was insanely helpful and accurate and has helped immensely with my mental health and how to deal with being this sensitive. Thank you Julia Kristina ❤, and just for the record I am a guy.
You have great videos that would really benefit from timestamps so that I can watch sections x
I’m more sensitive to subtle stimuli Julia.
Love your videos
Thanks Michelle - really glad you're here.
Just as we can see highly sensitive people as a trait, not a flaw, we can apply to other traits as well. For example, we can see tough, energetic people as a trait, not a flaw. 💪
One of my cats is highly sensitive. I can tell based on her reactions and behaviour, she is highly sensitive, just like me. 😺
My second youngest son is sensitive. He feels things very deeply. He is extroverted and it’s been tricky to parent him sometimes because I often feel like I am not doing a good enough job understanding him. He’s gonna be eight soon. My father was a highly sensitive person and he was a definite introvert.
yes, parenting a Big Feeling Kid can be challenging at times. One thing that helps is to acknowledge/validate their big feelings and work with them to come to solutions together.
@@juliakristinamah I will try that for sure. Thank you!
I’m a highly sensitive person Julia.
I’m an introvert myself Julia.
I wonder if highly sensitive people are more prone to anxiety disorders. I am a highly sensitive person and have had anxiety issues for as long as I can remember. I was told a lot in my life that I am too sensitive and need to get thicker skin and toughen up. So I always felt something was wrong with me.
Yes, research does show that HSP's are more prone to both anxiety and depression. For better, and sometimes for worse, we do feel things more deeply,
I’m emotionally responsive.
🙋🏻♀️that’s me!! I’m the wallflower, I want to be included and I put myself on sideline lol.
My internal parts are like a freaking cellphone battery that is on 5% strength that JUST WILL NOT GET BACK TO FULLY CHARGED AGAIN. 🤦🏼♂️🤦🏼♂️😖😖😖
As a plausibility fir highly sensitive people, from an extroverted side (which may inhibit more nero diversity in connectivity) may tie in sensory degrees and even from a developmental aspect such as sights/sounds/smells/observational/even pressure changes potentially and from a introverted side (internalizing and requim or physiological cognition and resonance) so one may have physical responses such as over heating/cold clamy hands/irratic breath/sweating/knotty stomachs/shoulder tension and such, maybe an overdeveloped spinal cord same size as brain stem vs narrowing down in frame to align with vertebrae
If one is an overthinker one could try getting physical, so if you are on a sitting area tap your feet and stomp your legs like Serena Ryder with stompa would say, and twist your body to a rhythm while doing so, try standing up and walk with your feet lined up then take a few steps forward then a few steps back and try side stepping and talk out loud either with a song or to one's self while doing with,
Wow how perfectly you know about it
I’m definitely a HSP, there is a lot to learn on this journey.
Is this not part of or same as ADHD?
Good night Julia, Greville constantine from Trinidad & Tobago. Thank u for your video on being HSP. I think i am HSP too, in that whenever my wife ( who is Narciccistic) have a spat, i tend to talk to myself when i am alone and vent all of my frustration. Because of how cruel she judges me to be too sofy natured and not tough enough. However, when i keep silence and think about this situation, i realise it is just a part of life i have to endure until :
1) i can change my life situation & not stay in the marriage due to her controlling ways:
2) i sometimes offer encouragement to others who are either going thru a rough patch like i am, or discover they are highly sensitive like me, so i am Not Alone in my situations. Do you have a,webpage where i can continue to follow your advice, or where we can communicate one on one? Thank you for your wonderful videos!!!❤❤
Can you please make a video about the link between feeling burned out (most of the time) due to feeling pressure and HSP. Thank you ❤
absolutely - thanks for the suggestion
10:04 every Sensitive person needs a Strong person in their lives😂
Everyone is sensitive,
I'm just that way..born that way. Its ok. I'm ok.
I’m a deep processor Julia.
It's hard to find a meaningful connection, seems like most people are shallow.
I’m a deeper processor.
Leo from Massachusetts
Being autisitc seems to make people hsp.. Or maybe there are differences in specifics.
❤❤
i feel like no one cares about me
Thank goodness I can't identify with any of this. 😉😆
Haha!
Do Americans really want to hear the truth? Can someone win telling the truth. I would love to have him. But few who tell the truth are allowed to lead.
" Being highly sensitive , means that your senses are more sensitive .."
I really cant let you get away with this verbal rubbish you put out without thinking.
Youre senses are Touch, Taste , Sight , Smell and Hearing.
You are talking about your inner feelings that have no bearing on your senses ,
The first sentence you say clearly means you are on a journey to confuse people.
Listen , the English language is not haphazard, it has developed over thousands of years .
Words mean what we agree they mean , they absolutely do not change to mean something else , merely to justify a UA-cam video .
Please try to be professional, and articulate enough to speak about the variety of topics you need ,
In a professional manner
Good morning Julia. I thank you for this video as I am a highly selective person.