Thank God I broke up with him after 2 months, straight up blocked and no contact over 6 months now and feeling great. Don’t worry though, they go straight back to online dating if they have no supply. Stay away from them and never fall for the hoover, they will punish you. My best to you all 💕
@@mostHigh23 I wasn’t that lucky unfortunately, it hurt to end it as I liked him a lot but it did open a door to past trauma I needed to heal from. It was exhausting during the healing process but I’m so much happier now. My faith has been a life saver. But I totally get where you’re coming from, the abuse could have been so much worse.
@@LovingLightxI too got from where is he ? I escaped & she is trapped with her own demons alongside no supply, turned her to swallow 12 psychotic pills per day till now continuing...( 1 year past. )
Mine met a new supply but it was in the grooming stage so he thought I was going to sit there & wait for the discard…NO!! While he was out on a date on Christmas Eve night, I packed my car with my things & all the gifts I bought under the tree & vanished… He simply can’t believe it lol…
That's how we do it! Mine wanted to triangulate me with the new supply. He thought he had unlimited access to me until that day he tried to call but was met with block & delete! 🚫 😂😇
I was on a phone call with the narc when he dropped our conversation to pick up a bootie call from the low grade troll doll like supply. I never picked another phone call or text from him again. I waited a few days until it was an anniversary date of an important date for him, one he would never forget and I texted him that I was done, the keys to the 2nd home he owned were on the garage floor and that was the end of it for me.
I did that. Been over two years. Not a peep from him. Still working on the validation part. For me this is huge because I know that in order for me to have allowed myself to stay in that toxic AF situation, I obviously had some beliefs and behavioral programming that I had to recognize and come to terms with. I don’t like the term “empath” because it comes off (to me) as this fluttering little fairy feeling deeply, wanting the best for man kind, always wanting to solve the worlds problems and love is the answer…. Dude so many of us (myself included) are/were so damn codependent. I know I was 50 % of the problem!! I allowed that to happen. I ignored the red flags! I could’ve cared less, I was so selfish. My ego just ate up the infatuation he showed me. Lo and behold, that mother effer taught me this. Had this situationshit never happened I wouldn’t be where I am today… aware of my own BS, because in the end- I’m the only one I have any power over and the only one I, myself, can change. So thanks, Narc.
Well said I can relate so much. Doing the shadow work is painful but the only way to bolster your own terrible co dependant beliefs its so hard but so worth it in the end.
I totally relate to everything you said and appreciate your honesty and clarity. I also find it kind of self serving on many of these narcissism channels, not this one per se, to encourage this feeling of: You’re the sick one, not me. I’m an empath, and don’t you forget it! Understanding our own contribution, misguided thinking etc. is the first major step a person can take to improve their life, in my opinion. What happens to this person you’ve left behind is not your business! Wish them well and move on. If there is no further contact count yourself lucky to have escaped relatively unscathed. You have the power and strength to overcome this unfortunate experience and learn from it.
No some of us are empathetic, sorry not sorry. I really want the best for mankind and that’s ok however they taught me real quick that there are really evil ppl that exist amongst us! so you better learn boundaries real quick or get ate up! Codependency was definitely a part of the equation and that’s the difference. Most us are codependent in some way but not all codependents are true empaths. Glad you learned your lesson.
@@msliberated3899 precisely why I share my own personal experience vs someone else’s. It’s the only experience I can resonate with. I absolutely believe there are empathic people out there. I just don’t like the term empath. I heard it a lot in the New Age and that is demonic. Again… just my experience :) thanks for your response ☺️
14 years and finally married. He refused to touch me. I was in pain for 2 years. He was cheating with an ex and some girl he got on Ed meds for. I cannot explain the pain…. I filled for an annulment. He physically attacked me. I called police and filed for an Order of Protection. I got him out. I moved 2 states away. He dragged it on and did motion after motion. It cost me thousands. The hatred and evilness in this devil was unreal. 2 1/2 years later it’s done. Now I continue to try and heal.
I am so sorry you had to endure all that & go to such extremes to end it. I am in the process of exiting and going no contact. I will take a year to grieve, heal recover and move on. I have about 25 days to go b4 I get the keys. I sign the lease tmrw. :) God speed your recovery
Good morning I did this discarded the narcissist I married caught him off guard threw him out of my place into the street ,he is abusive emotionally and verbally a liar and cheater it’s been almost a year and he has hoovered twice ,called my phone and ,I get his mail sent to my address I refuse to have anything to do with that demonic misreble being ever again in my life he text me hi and happy new year it’s left on unread thank you God I’m out😊 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Discarded him 4 months ago. He definitely was not expecting it. No contact in place. It’s hard but am definitely seeing light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks Joe as usual for sharing your insights. Always gives me the strength to keep pushing forward. Bless you 🙏🏻❤️
Mine did, he had used the threat so he could stay as long as he did, used me 3 years, he had mental issues, had dropped therapy, and was drinking heavily, he threatened me saying if I made him go he was taking me down with him, and that was what his suicide note read, even said how he was doing it, he was going off his meds, and going to induce a stroke, and contacting people that helped me, anyone, to bring me down He did as he threatened. He was proven as false report to DHS, yes, one of his threats My son and I paid our last respects before they pulled the plug, I didn't find all the notes to know, that he was living a double life, until I picked up his belongings. To say the trash took itself out would be true, but it wasn't that easy, the hell he stirred up is unimaginable, and still dealing with the fall out. I had no problems from his family as they were through with him, and even pushed for us to be together to rid themselves unbenounced to me from his life of abusive behavior, so many lies, lies ,lies. Lied about who abused him even , claime a 21 year old cousin, it was Grandpa. He even lied about his sick Cat he was treating for medical care, paid thousands on, he did, I saw the bill, tortured that poor animal snowball, it wasn't his pet, it was his last ex. He paid thousands on a cat that he stole keeping it alive, IV treatments etc. to be cruel.😢
I ghosted him back in 2020. No contact for years and he’s tried hoovering so many times it’s pathetic. Unknown numbers, fake accounts trying to follow my private social media profiles, fake emails, he even went to witches - that’s how little control he has over me. It’s desperate and this is all while he has a current supply btw
@@danielj233 I had a really traumatic paranormal experience with him. I don’t feel comfortable sharing too much details. He dabbles in the dark arts is how I know it was him. That’s all I can share.
i feel sorry for anyone that came after me because they paid for me leaving him...he probably locked them down immediately, because i slipped through his fingers - baby and all - and he definitely didn't see it coming because she was only a few months old...he kept hovering, but i did not go back to him - i tried to keep it cordial for her sake but then he started acting like an asshole - doing stalker type shit - and even had the nerve to get his father involved as if that would sway me - eventually i filed for full custody when she was 2 and because he didn't show up to court, it was granted...then i moved out of state, and went total black out...
yesss girl, I got out of state with my baby too. waiting to be out 6 months to establish residency and then go to court so he can have visitation. so glad I never sent it the b.c. and could leave without breaking the law
By 'accident' I discarded him first, because I had no way out but out, not meaning to discard but to leave a difficult situation. But man, the retaliation was fierce. Completely exhausted on a mental, psychological, emotional, physical and financial level, it was a huge shock to find out who I was dealing with. His discard, silent treatment and slander campaign still followed, but stupid of him because by seeing the village and noticing that he had abandoned me. But he doesn't care about that. I think that first time of mine killed him because he was visibly shocked and I think he thought I was so stupid that he underestimated me. It is now four months later and fortunately I no longer feel that emptiness, but I am still working on it more.
Retaliation and the Smear Campaign from a narcissist is Standard Operating Procedure for them. The ex wife went to my work 10 years after our divorce and tried to get me fired. They never forget and forgive. By the way, it was the ex-wife's idea to leave the kids and me.
The first 2 minutes of this video accurately described the control issues I experienced with the narc. I had given him enough space to become involved in what you termed as low grade supply, somewhat reminiscent of a troll doll. When I went no contact, the narc refused to accept it and tried 37 times to hoover me in various ways. The narc was not having the loss of control, trying to overpower me, disrespecting me and my request to be left alone. I did not break my no contact or unblock. I am sure if I had accepted a hoover it would have turned into an excruciatingly painful slam dunk discard by the narc. I’m sharing this to prove your point about the narcs hatred of loosing control.
Good morning ! 🌞 Lets have a cup of joe☕☕ with Joe and to listen to his wisdom , its very unique and simple and kind at same time . 16K of us, your fans now and we all are addicted to your videos ( I am 😊) Great subject of the video and very well explained. Thank you Joe. Congratulations !!! 🤗❤
i blocked her like 5 times in 10 days i kept going back then i begged her to block me lol before she did i told her i know she is full of shit and been playing me the whole time and had others at the same time as me so she would know i know and she blamed me for her actions and blocked me so i got to let her know i know and got blocked as well win win for me. I left months ago for several weeks she never let that go must have hurt her . i just dont care anymore who blocked who i am just glad i dont have to listen to her crap and get treated like i am number 10 on the list or whatever. I deserve so much better than what ever the hell all that shit is.
I discarded her before I knew what a narcissist was and gave her a genuine closure and she begged and cried for me to stay ....ready to relocate ready to marry me .. took her back and the relationship went downhill even more till the final discard
That's what i did-I didn't know what a Narc was until i had this encounter with a Narc coworker,i was able to do the discard first after i researched online what i was up against-This Narc apparently never went up against someone with knowledge like i had of how to deal with the situation,the Narc was completely baffled when i did the discard,i never saw such bizarre behavior from a person after i did the discard either,several hoover attempts were made but i easily brushed them aside-In fact i have been able to predict every move the Narc would make & i was ready for it-It looks like i have won but i still stay on guard-never in my life have i experience such a thing! I am well schooled in Narcissist now! I will never be fooled by one again!
They constantly criticize you so that you will either take all their anger or you break up with them when you can’t take it anymore. For some reason, people look down in the person who breaks the relationship off. Maybe it’s so they can play the pity card.
“I’ll have to take three months off work.” Gave it away. Three months to lovebomb A Grade supply. Which from a distance even it can be seen has not occurred. As for me I divorced her, relocated, married fellow A Grade supply. Life is good. 😌🥰
He asked me to leave .. then I left with no complaints. He asked me if I would stay another night… I laughed. He is telling everyone I left him. Now I am confused who did the discard ???
That’s literally the point. For you to be confused and come asking/begging for answers. You got off easy (for now). Stop asking and go enjoy your blessing!
I don’t think it matters who did the discard/break up. Getting out of a painful toxic relationship and moving on to a positive life is what is important. Narcissist never learn or change. They do get worse as time passes and will try to destroy your life.
@@racebannon96 It may not matter to you and me but point is it sure matter to a narc they can't regulate their own emotions so its like cutting of their oxygen to leave them so yes it does matter to a Narc
@@valenciahenderson3489 Narcissists lie and deceive. When they start their Smear Campaign against their ex, they will play the victim. It wont matter who broke up with who. The narcissist will demonize their ex.
Now is the time to implement « no contact regime». 1: No contact in real life 2: Delete the narcissist on all social media 3: No contact on phone ( hang up when they hoover), block on the phone 4: If they hoover and try to engage IRL by fake « coincidence», then by « transactional» and short in your communication. Zero emotions, zero personal information They feed of you stalking their constructed social media where they stage for the next victim to look like a perfect relationship, when in reality they do the same trix and abuse all over. So DELETE them from social media asap
My ex narc was not expecting it at all. I am bedbound with a terminal disease. He truly thought he had me trapped. Desperately trying to use triangulation toward the end, he spent time making sure I was aware of how useless I had become. There was no way that I was going to spend the rest of my brief life being tortured by this monster. I deserved peace and that is what I'm finding more & more each day.
I'm so sorry to hear this. This is so evil it makes me sick reading this. I pray for you and for peace during this time. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. EVIL. He will reap. Know this.
Your so right! I discarded my narc sister before she had a chance to have any back up supply. And as you said she resorted to a guy that lived across the road that we all called "pedo freak" including her! Because he was very creepy with my neice and other kids. She went to HIM 😳 to a person she hated! 🤷♀️ she had no choice. She never thought I'd cut her off and wasn't prepared at all.
I dropped mine when i got suspicious turns out she was dropping her other supplies for me. So left her with 0 grade A supplies she stuck on B and C string.
0:05 "discarding them when they still need you." Two years ago tomorrow (literally 0:50 minutes from now) I asked her to leave my home. She was unbearable, she had finally pushed me too far. She was working on new supply and probably thought she had it lined up. I can only imagine when push came to shove, he didn't really want to leave his wife - that's speculation, I have no idea who, all I know is she didn't have new supply secured and she was out on her own with no job, no place to live, no food, no prospects. It must have been a challenging time for her. It wasn't my fault nor my problem, I forgave her 10,000 times before. Anyway... that's over and done with. She has half a man now. Feb 13, 2022.
I broke up with her thinking we would have a breakup as 2 people that loved eachother but i had no clue i was dealing with a narcissist so she ghosted and got an order of protection against me 😭
As much as it hurts now, you'll come to realize that her ghosting you & putting a restraining order against you was a blessing in disguise! She has shown you her true narc colors & now you are being "forced" to go on with your life! After all is said & done you'll be glad it happened! BeIieve me, there is nothing positive that comes from being with a narc! Stay strong, move forward & never look back!
My narc wanted a restraining order against me and the judge decided to put double restraining orders against each other. She hated that and wanted me to agree to drop both orders. I declined.
I tried to discard hime one time . He didnt Ant and now i understand the reason why: he didnt plan to have others supplies. Then he discarded me 5 months later.
I discarded mine thanks to Videos like this and You tube because now I know what I am REALLY dealing with 18 months back and forth dysfunction. thought it was because he was such a victim, I never got discarded I discarded him 6 months in just because of the incredible insecurities that were extreme, so I guess he thought I was all in that's where you come in JOE WOW I have seen all your content and he checked all the boxes, so I waited watched behaviors and sure enough predictable I said enough no longer babysitting insecurities. NO CONTACT month 4 ...I understand the hoover now so NOPE!!!!!!!! KNOWLEDGE IS POWER
Thank God I broke up with him after 2 months, straight up blocked and no contact over 6 months now and feeling great. Don’t worry though, they go straight back to online dating if they have no supply. Stay away from them and never fall for the hoover, they will punish you. My best to you all 💕
Damn. You got out quick and unscaved.😅 Lucky you 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
@@mostHigh23 I wasn’t that lucky unfortunately, it hurt to end it as I liked him a lot but it did open a door to past trauma I needed to heal from. It was exhausting during the healing process but I’m so much happier now. My faith has been a life saver. But I totally get where you’re coming from, the abuse could have been so much worse.
You noticed the signs earlier but it still really hurts @mostHigh23
I blocked her after she asked for money. broke azz
@@LovingLightxI too got from where is he ?
I escaped & she is trapped with her own demons alongside no supply, turned her to swallow 12 psychotic pills per day till now continuing...( 1 year past. )
Mine met a new supply but it was in the grooming stage so he thought I was going to sit there & wait for the discard…NO!! While he was out on a date on Christmas Eve night, I packed my car with my things & all the gifts I bought under the tree & vanished… He simply can’t believe it lol…
That's how we do it! Mine wanted to triangulate me with the new supply. He thought he had unlimited access to me until that day he tried to call but was met with block & delete! 🚫 😂😇
yessss!!!
BEAUTIFUL JOB 👏
I was on a phone call with the narc when he dropped our conversation to pick up a bootie call from the low grade troll doll like supply. I never picked another phone call or text from him again. I waited a few days until it was an anniversary date of an important date for him, one he would never forget and I texted him that I was done, the keys to the 2nd home he owned were on the garage floor and that was the end of it for me.
I let this narc go because he show me who he really is, and I deserve better, no contact is the best way
My cutoff game is on point😂
Same!!!!!!!
I did that. Been over two years. Not a peep from him. Still working on the validation part. For me this is huge because I know that in order for me to have allowed myself to stay in that toxic AF situation, I obviously had some beliefs and behavioral programming that I had to recognize and come to terms with. I don’t like the term “empath” because it comes off (to me) as this fluttering little fairy feeling deeply, wanting the best for man kind, always wanting to solve the worlds problems and love is the answer…. Dude so many of us (myself included) are/were so damn codependent. I know I was 50 % of the problem!! I allowed that to happen. I ignored the red flags! I could’ve cared less, I was so selfish. My ego just ate up the infatuation he showed me. Lo and behold, that mother effer taught me this. Had this situationshit never happened I wouldn’t be where I am today… aware of my own BS, because in the end- I’m the only one I have any power over and the only one I, myself, can change. So thanks, Narc.
Well said I can relate so much.
Doing the shadow work is painful but the only way to bolster your own terrible co dependant beliefs its so hard but so worth it in the end.
@@martystewart5895 agreed. We’re bad asses for admitting and committing to change! 🙌🏼
I totally relate to everything you said and appreciate your honesty and clarity. I also find it kind of self serving on many of these narcissism channels, not this one per se, to encourage this feeling of: You’re the sick one, not me. I’m an empath, and don’t you forget it!
Understanding our own contribution, misguided thinking etc. is the first major step a person can take to improve their life, in my opinion. What happens to this person you’ve left behind is not your business! Wish them well and move on. If there is no further contact count yourself lucky to have escaped relatively unscathed. You have the power and strength to overcome this unfortunate experience and learn from it.
No some of us are empathetic, sorry not sorry. I really want the best for mankind and that’s ok however they taught me real quick that there are really evil ppl that exist amongst us! so you better learn boundaries real quick or get ate up! Codependency was definitely a part of the equation and that’s the difference. Most us are codependent in some way but not all codependents are true empaths. Glad you learned your lesson.
@@msliberated3899 precisely why I share my own personal experience vs someone else’s. It’s the only experience I can resonate with. I absolutely believe there are empathic people out there. I just don’t like the term empath. I heard it a lot in the New Age and that is demonic. Again… just my experience :) thanks for your response ☺️
14 years and finally married. He refused to touch me. I was in pain for 2 years. He was cheating with an ex and some girl he got on Ed meds for. I cannot explain the pain….
I filled for an annulment. He physically attacked me. I called police and filed for an Order of Protection. I got him out. I moved 2 states away. He dragged it on and did motion after motion. It cost me thousands. The hatred and evilness in this devil was unreal. 2 1/2 years later it’s done. Now I continue to try and heal.
I am so sorry you had to endure all that & go to such extremes to end it. I am in the process of exiting and going no contact. I will take a year to grieve, heal recover and move on. I have about 25 days to go b4 I get the keys. I sign the lease tmrw. :) God speed your recovery
Keep strong 💪 ❤️
Good morning I did this discarded the narcissist I married caught him off guard threw him out of my place into the street ,he is abusive emotionally and verbally a liar and cheater it’s been almost a year and he has hoovered twice ,called my phone and ,I get his mail sent to my address I refuse to have anything to do with that demonic misreble being ever again in my life he text me hi and happy new year it’s left on unread thank you God I’m out😊 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾
Narc said...when i know they're going to leave me, i leave them first.
Discarded him 4 months ago. He definitely was not expecting it. No contact in place. It’s hard but am definitely seeing light at the end of the tunnel. Thanks Joe as usual for sharing your insights. Always gives me the strength to keep pushing forward. Bless you 🙏🏻❤️
I encourage everyone to do so
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I discarded or "broke up with her". She hoovered me, threatened to kill herself and ghosted. I haven't heard from her since.
I relate.
Mine did, he had used the threat so he could stay as long as he did, used me 3 years, he had mental issues, had dropped therapy, and was drinking heavily, he threatened me saying if I made him go he was taking me down with him, and that was what his suicide note read, even said how he was doing it, he was going off his meds, and going to induce a stroke, and contacting people that helped me, anyone, to bring me down
He did as he threatened. He was proven as false report to DHS, yes, one of his threats
My son and I paid our last respects before they pulled the plug, I didn't find all the notes to know, that he was living a double life, until I picked up his belongings.
To say the trash took itself out would be true, but it wasn't that easy, the hell he stirred up is unimaginable, and still dealing with the fall out.
I had no problems from his family as they were through with him, and even pushed for us to be together to rid themselves unbenounced to me from his life of abusive behavior, so many lies, lies ,lies.
Lied about who abused him even , claime a 21 year old cousin, it was Grandpa.
He even lied about his sick Cat he was treating for medical care, paid thousands on, he did, I saw the bill, tortured that poor animal snowball, it wasn't his pet, it was his last ex.
He paid thousands on a cat that he stole keeping it alive, IV treatments etc. to be cruel.😢
I discarded him as he was grooming other supply. I was with him thinking i could not do better. I am doing 10 times better. Thank Joe for teaching me.
I ghosted him back in 2020. No contact for years and he’s tried hoovering so many times it’s pathetic. Unknown numbers, fake accounts trying to follow my private social media profiles, fake emails, he even went to witches - that’s how little control he has over me. It’s desperate and this is all while he has a current supply btw
How you know he went to witches?
@@danielj233 I had a really traumatic paranormal experience with him. I don’t feel comfortable sharing too much details. He dabbles in the dark arts is how I know it was him. That’s all I can share.
i feel sorry for anyone that came after me because they paid for me leaving him...he probably locked them down immediately, because i slipped through his fingers - baby and all - and he definitely didn't see it coming because she was only a few months old...he kept hovering, but i did not go back to him - i tried to keep it cordial for her sake but then he started acting like an asshole - doing stalker type shit - and even had the nerve to get his father involved as if that would sway me - eventually i filed for full custody when she was 2 and because he didn't show up to court, it was granted...then i moved out of state, and went total black out...
yesss girl, I got out of state with my baby too. waiting to be out 6 months to establish residency and then go to court so he can have visitation. so glad I never sent it the b.c. and could leave without breaking the law
By 'accident' I discarded him first, because I had no way out but out, not meaning to discard but to leave a difficult situation. But man, the retaliation was fierce. Completely exhausted on a mental, psychological, emotional, physical and financial level, it was a huge shock to find out who I was dealing with.
His discard, silent treatment and slander campaign still followed, but stupid of him because by seeing the village and noticing that he had abandoned me. But he doesn't care about that. I think that first time of mine killed him because he was visibly shocked and I think he thought I was so stupid that he underestimated me. It is now four months later and fortunately I no longer feel that emptiness, but I am still working on it more.
Retaliation and the Smear Campaign from a narcissist is Standard Operating Procedure for them. The ex wife went to my work 10 years after our divorce and tried to get me fired. They never forget and forgive. By the way, it was the ex-wife's idea to leave the kids and me.
The first 2 minutes of this video accurately described the control issues I experienced with the narc. I had given him enough space to become involved in what you termed as low grade supply, somewhat reminiscent of a troll doll. When I went no contact, the narc refused to accept it and tried 37 times to hoover me in various ways. The narc was not having the loss of control, trying to overpower me, disrespecting me and my request to be left alone. I did not break my no contact or unblock. I am sure if I had accepted a hoover it would have turned into an excruciatingly painful slam dunk discard by the narc. I’m sharing this to prove your point about the narcs hatred of loosing control.
Good morning ! 🌞 Lets have a cup of joe☕☕ with Joe and to listen to his wisdom , its very unique and simple and kind at same time . 16K of us, your fans now and we all are addicted to your videos ( I am 😊) Great subject of the video and very well explained. Thank you Joe. Congratulations !!! 🤗❤
i blocked her like 5 times in 10 days i kept going back then i begged her to block me lol before she did i told her i know she is full of shit and been playing me the whole time and had others at the same time as me so she would know i know and she blamed me for her actions and blocked me so i got to let her know i know and got blocked as well win win for me.
I left months ago for several weeks she never let that go must have hurt her .
i just dont care anymore who blocked who i am just glad i dont have to listen to her crap and get treated like i am number 10 on the list or whatever.
I deserve so much better than what ever the hell all that shit is.
I discarded her before I knew what a narcissist was and gave her a genuine closure and she begged and cried for me to stay ....ready to relocate ready to marry me .. took her back and the relationship went downhill even more till the final discard
That's what i did-I didn't know what a Narc was until i had this encounter with a Narc coworker,i was able to do the discard first after i researched online what i was up against-This Narc apparently never went up against someone with knowledge like i had of how to deal with the situation,the Narc was completely baffled when i did the discard,i never saw such bizarre behavior from a person after i did the discard either,several hoover attempts were made but i easily brushed them aside-In fact i have been able to predict every move the Narc would make & i was ready for it-It looks like i have won but i still stay on guard-never in my life have i experience such a thing! I am well schooled in Narcissist now! I will never be fooled by one again!
When does a narcissist never have a backup of supply? The person i knew always had multiple sources.
Awh! Poor narcissist.
They constantly criticize you so that you will either take all their anger or you break up with them when you can’t take it anymore. For some reason, people look down in the person who breaks the relationship off. Maybe it’s so they can play the pity card.
I did but it all Happened at the same time, I walked away and forgot my keys which they threw at me across a crowded restaurant.
“I’ll have to take three months off work.” Gave it away. Three months to lovebomb A Grade supply. Which from a distance even it can be seen has not occurred. As for me I divorced her, relocated, married fellow A Grade supply. Life is good. 😌🥰
He asked me to leave .. then I left with no complaints. He asked me if I would stay another night… I laughed. He is telling everyone I left him. Now I am confused who did the discard ???
That’s literally the point. For you to be confused and come asking/begging for answers. You got off easy (for now). Stop asking and go enjoy your blessing!
I don’t think it matters who did the discard/break up. Getting out of a painful toxic relationship and moving on to a positive life is what is important. Narcissist never learn or change. They do get worse as time passes and will try to destroy your life.
@@racebannon96 It may not matter to you and me but point is it sure matter to a narc they can't regulate their own emotions so its like cutting of their oxygen to leave them so yes it does matter to a Narc
@@valenciahenderson3489 Narcissists lie and deceive. When they start their Smear Campaign against their ex, they will play the victim. It wont matter who broke up with who. The narcissist will demonize their ex.
Now is the time to implement « no contact regime».
1: No contact in real life
2: Delete the narcissist on all social media
3: No contact on phone ( hang up when they hoover), block on the phone
4: If they hoover and try to engage IRL by fake « coincidence», then by « transactional» and short in your communication. Zero emotions, zero personal information
They feed of you stalking their constructed social media where they stage for the next victim to look like a perfect relationship, when in reality they do the same trix and abuse all over. So DELETE them from social media asap
I've kept 2 voicemails from the ex...one is when IT realized I was gone.
"don't you fu(king get it?!?! don;t you know I fu(king love you?!"
#collapsed
My ex narc was not expecting it at all. I am bedbound with a terminal disease. He truly thought he had me trapped. Desperately trying to use triangulation toward the end, he spent time making sure I was aware of how useless I had become. There was no way that I was going to spend the rest of my brief life being tortured by this monster. I deserved peace and that is what I'm finding more & more each day.
I'm so sorry to hear this. This is so evil it makes me sick reading this. I pray for you and for peace during this time. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. EVIL. He will reap. Know this.
@@AC-ew2xr Thank you so much for your words of support.
sorry you went through that.
@@ianjohnston7469 Thank you.
Narcissists don’t resort to those with BPD. Narcissists LOVE borderlines. Those two personality disorders are magnets - like moths and flames.
Your so right! I discarded my narc sister before she had a chance to have any back up supply. And as you said she resorted to a guy that lived across the road that we all called "pedo freak" including her! Because he was very creepy with my neice and other kids. She went to HIM 😳 to a person she hated! 🤷♀️ she had no choice.
She never thought I'd cut her off and wasn't prepared at all.
I did it
I dropped mine when i got suspicious turns out she was dropping her other supplies for me. So left her with 0 grade A supplies she stuck on B and C string.
0:05 "discarding them when they still need you." Two years ago tomorrow (literally 0:50 minutes from now) I asked her to leave my home. She was unbearable, she had finally pushed me too far. She was working on new supply and probably thought she had it lined up. I can only imagine when push came to shove, he didn't really want to leave his wife - that's speculation, I have no idea who, all I know is she didn't have new supply secured and she was out on her own with no job, no place to live, no food, no prospects. It must have been a challenging time for her. It wasn't my fault nor my problem, I forgave her 10,000 times before. Anyway... that's over and done with. She has half a man now. Feb 13, 2022.
I broke up with her thinking we would have a breakup as 2 people that loved eachother but i had no clue i was dealing with a narcissist so she ghosted and got an order of protection against me 😭
As much as it hurts now, you'll come to realize that her ghosting you & putting a restraining order against you was a blessing in disguise! She has shown you her true narc colors & now you are being "forced" to go on with your life! After all is said & done you'll be glad it happened! BeIieve me, there is nothing positive that comes from being with a narc! Stay strong, move forward & never look back!
My narc wanted a restraining order against me and the judge decided to put double restraining orders against each other. She hated that and wanted me to agree to drop both orders. I declined.
@@jjones4314 yea at first i was destroyed by it but now i know it definitely was a blessing to keep me away from her! Appreciate your support
@@solice8844 same here, 2 year order going both ways so she cant contact me either. Part of me feels she didn’t expect that to be part of it.
I tried to discard hime one time . He didnt Ant and now i understand the reason why: he didnt plan to have others supplies. Then he discarded me 5 months later.
What about reverse discard?
I honestly think us empaths think about the narc just as much as they do us we hope they thinkin about us and the narc is doing the same
Thanks!
I discarded mine thanks to Videos like this and You tube because now I know what I am REALLY dealing with 18 months back and forth dysfunction. thought it was because he was such a victim, I never got discarded I discarded him 6 months in just because of the incredible insecurities that were extreme, so I guess he thought I was all in that's where you come in JOE WOW I have seen all your content and he checked all the boxes, so I waited watched behaviors and sure enough predictable I said enough no longer babysitting insecurities. NO CONTACT month 4 ...I understand the hoover now so NOPE!!!!!!!! KNOWLEDGE IS POWER