Are The Cis (Straights) Okay?
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- Опубліковано 24 жов 2023
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It’s not gay for a man to cry when he sees the bride on their wedding day. It’s only gay if a man cries at the sight of his groom on their wedding day.
That would be extremely gay ❤
That is such a good comment. 😂
Gold comment😂
Not necessarily. It could also be bi or pan.
@@eDoc2020 Bi and pan ppl still call themselves gay
I work with a guy who was openly transphobic until he realized that I'm trans and I'm just a normal dude. Man actually told me that I changed all his views because he didn't know trans people are just people. He'd only ever seen extreme examples and genuinely didn't know. But he saw how I interact with his dog (a super sweet German Shepard) and how his dog acted towards me and it made him question everything he'd been taught. Like... they genuinely don't think trans people are people. They think we're monsters hiding under beds.
Glad he changed because so many people are full of bad faith. As in they’re willfully ignorant and will ignore any evidence that proves their beliefs wrong. Good for him for changing his mind
That must of been really scary beforehand if he said transphobic stuff to you, im so glad he had an eye opening experience, you changed his life for the better !! ❤
What are “extreme examples” tho?
@@hildisvini_9622 oh he was never aggressive or rude. I honestly wouldn't have known his opinion if he hadn't been the one to bring it up. My workplace is very big on leaving politics at home, and my boss would absolutely not have allowed transphobia.
@@kev_whatevChris chan?
I love it when I ask for pronouns from someone and they're like "Nor/mal!!!" and I act all surprised and go like, "oh sweet, neopronouns!!! Can you use them in a sentence so I can use them correctly when referring to you????!?!?!" the death glares and the flashes of anger going over some of these people's faces when I do that is pure delight.
Perfect response!
Those are the exact type of people that you inform "I/me are pronouns. Good luck with your life not using them."
I can't 🤣
So mal pronouns are "bad"/"evil" (mal in latin)?
i love the guy who was like "my pronouns are you/are/a/fucking/moron!" i was like "well everybody, you heard moron, fucking doesn't want to be referred to as anything other than fucking moron. it would be disrespectful of moron to refuse to use fucking preferred pronouns."
As a trans person with a degree in acting... Yeah we're amazing at pretending to be cis.
"Still cis tho"
When you were pretending you're cis that good, that you got a degree in acting. 😅
I was awful at pretending to be cis 😭
Trans people🤝Masking autistics
Being told they’d be terrible actors even though they have to pretend to be ‘normal’ all the time.
Trans autistic people can just hold their hands together.
Idk I have some trans friends that were pretty bad at pretending to be cis. For some reason, I'm reminded of Captain Holt pretending to be straight in Brooklyn 99.
i hope they realize "nor/mal" implies neopronouns and isn't the typical she/her or he/him so they're trans allies 🤭
Check out nor holding mal sign!
In my Mom's native language mal means bad. Nor mean not. So, you have to tell people you are not bad or foul? I hate to disagree, if you are a transphobic person you are being a horrible human.
as a neo user, i love the irony
That’s what i was thinking!
I was talking to mal, and nor had the audacity to be mad that I used mals pronouns! Nor started muttering to norself about ‘stupid woke mob’ and I tried very politely to asked mal if nor was okay.
as an autistic trans man, i had two acting gigs! to pretend to be a girl and to pretend that im neurotypical lolz
Ah masking. Gotta love it/s
Bro same, but I still ain't out of the acting gig of subconsciously pretending to be NT
well you are a girl so that should had been an easy gig
oh hey same for 17 years
Same! But instead of trans man i'm a transmasc fluid-nonbinary lmao.
The one about men crying at their weddings is SO FUNNY to me bc it’s basically just like “hey if a man finds a woman SO OVERWHELMINGLY BEAUTIFUL that it literally brings him to tears, that obviously means that he’s attracted to men!”
Make it make sense 😭😭
Because being emotional means being more feminine, which means liking women makes you more like a lesbian than a man.
I did my best to make it make sense and I think I lost brain cells in the process.
Those posts always remind me of that one Simpsons clip.
"You just kissed a girl" "what are you, gay?"
@@animeotaku307 describing having emotions as more feminine is sexist, and harmful to men because it shapes the faulty perception of themselves so many of us are plagued with. Women aren't more emotional than men, they have been told it was ok, while we've been told "boys don't cry".
That's because gay is synonymous with effeminate, even before it was used for homosexual men, that's why it's such a common insult, so they're basically calling those married men girly
@@animeotaku307 Yeah you tried making sense of it but it just turned into misogynistic stereotypes
As a cis asexual, I apologize for all the crap other cis people are doing. Also, fellas, is it gay to get married to a woman?
if you're a woman yes 😭
Men liking girly things is apparently gay so yes it is.
Men, surrounding yourself with WOMEN is FEMINISING and WEAK. To be MASCULINE and STRAIGHT you must marry a MAN. Surround yourself with HUSTLERS.
According to a lot of hatful, insecure, and bigoted men (including my uncle C). Yes, yes it is.
Marrying a strong woman is basically marrying a man
Source: my ass
Even in a non political sense, "non woke coffee" is a horrible name to give a coffee company
People want coffee to be awake, to wake them up
All the same, it would be cool if it was just decaf with an edgy name...
"This coffee just doesn't stimulate me like other brands."
"Well, it *is* anti-woke."
NGL the existence of "non woke coffee" really makes me wish I had the money to start a "non woke" business and donate the profits to "woke" charities.
@@kaspianepps7946 remember, the public image of a company is everything
Would non-woke coffee be decaf then lol?
@@SarastistheSerpent tbh idk
I dont even like coffee
“You ever been in an all-gender restroom?”
Yeah man, literally every time I’ve been in someone’s home
But not your own? (Joke)
Anyone can change their name legally to any other name they want. You don't even have to be trans to change from a "Scott" to a "Suzie". I don't know if any cis man would want to, but he could.
I actually hate my name, I want to change it, doesn’t mean I’m trans :], even tho I might be…
@@-_Sticks_- go for it! depending on where you live it could be a long process though
Or why parents would name their cis daughter "Scott"
Not in my country, trans people can tho
Pretty sure there's a song about a cis man named Sue. I always did wonder why he didn't just change his name
Halloween is gay Xmas
I love the way your mind works
So that's why I like both equally
Merry Halloween! 🎃
Is that why I like Halloween so much?
Does that mean that new year is bisexual Xmas? Cause I'm a big fan of new year and bisexual😅.
"We shouldn't get bullied"- No one's bullying Rishi Sunak. If we could bully him I promise we would have bullied him into being less shit at his job by now.
"We shouldn't get bullied" says the bullies...
@@UltraHyliawell of course, that's the whole point of being "conservative", they want to conserve the order of things. They get to bully people and marginalised people get bullied.
@@UltraHylia…say the bullies while they're attacking someone.
@@John_Weiss The only people who shouldn't be bullied are bullies in the act of bullying.
"There's nothing more pathetic than a bully pretending to be a victim."
-Jibanyan
My college only had unisex toilets. All the stalls were completely private, and no one seemed to have an issue with this. It was just normal, and no one seemed to be made uncomfortable by it. As a non-binary person, I preferred them being like this, as I didn’t have to feel dysphoric about using the wrong bathroom. I even found it weird when I went to uni and they only had male/female ones.
The only thing that would make me uncomfortable in the bathroom is someone filming me! Yuck!
I completely agree, I'm cisgender and pretty socially awkward so I wish that all public bathrooms were just individual rooms without any shared space whatsoever.
My college does this to! It’s such a simple but good idea that makes a lot of people feel better!
I'm not even trans and I prefer unisex toilets.
I get PTSD from childhood trauma when I have to use a men's room. I HATE those stalls that offer no privacy at all.
I wish that’s how it was everywhere, I know cis people who’ve been harassed for being in the “wrong restroom” despite being cis. I also don’t understand the separation in the first place, why not just do urinal rooms and stall rooms so people can pick? I know a ton of cis guys who hate urinals and just want a damn stall. I don’t use public restrooms myself (intersex trans man in a red state) but I hear that men’s rooms typically only have a few stalls, if more than one. It just seems so much more logical to not have gendered bathrooms.
It's actually extremely illegal to film people in a public bathroom (yes, even by the sinks) without their explicit consent! That lady could be doing a lot of time in jail for that, plus extra for posting it.
20:20 "So ain't nobody creepin'" YOU'RE FILMING STRANGERS IN A PUBLIC RESTROOM
Am I a part of the LGBTQ+ community in any way shape or form? No. Will I continue to absorb Jamie's content and be obsessed with his videos? Yes.
Edit: Thanks for the really sweet replies - I appreciate it ❤️
Just saying the folowing is a joke with that being said:
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@@shnafnif🥚
The "straights" being the awful anti-lgbtq+ people they definitely arent okay, but straight people in general are fantastic and great especially when they are supportive and kind♡ you are very welcome here :D
Allies are always welcome! ❤
@@girlwithtehface5880 Thanks 🌈
It’s crazy that this cis woman is filming in the public restroom and doesn’t think it’s creepy but she’s thinks it’s strange/creepy that there’s all gender restrooms
well those woman think mentally ill men being allowed in their bathrooms, locker rooms, changing rooms, and showers is the creepy sick part. Not the video taping........and as a father and husband i'll deff be dragging that weirdo out by its hair into the parking lot for a attitude adjustment so they don't have to video tape anything in the restroom.
@@mroselli , you aren’t educated or you listen to right wing, conservative Republicans don’t you? If you were educated you would know that there’s NOT trans women that don’t “pass”(according to people like you) going into any woman’s bathroom. If you were educated, you would know that trans women and men are the ones attacked and raped in the bathroom; especially trans women. Cis men like you think it’s okay and fun to rape and attack trans women ( the most) and trans men. I know you think trans women are mentally ill men when they’re NOT. There’s NO trans women or men that are going into a public shower and taking a shower. There’s NOT trans people going into public showers, like at exercise facility and places like that, trans women or men are going to go into and go in the shower area. You just listen to right wing, conservative,religious people and media that is right wing Republicans. Do actual research and quit repeating the lies that they spew. You are showing your ignorance by spewing these lies!
@@mroselli trans women aren’t men so your entire argument is moot. Also congrats on confessing that you plan to assault other people. People like you are the real threat, not trans women
@@mroselli Admitting to a hate crime isn’t the flex you think it is, especially when you try and justify someone attempting to film another person on the toilet.
@@thehippydisnerd4887 its not a hate crime at all
"If a trans man who looks like a man is going to enter the ladies' room, how are other people supposed to know?"
I thought they could always tell!
@@quixote1965 nah, you can't tell. you like to think you can, but you can't
@@quixote1965 i'm not trans and most of the time no, trans people that have fully transitioned cannot be differentiated from cis people. some females have overly masculine features, some males have overly feminine features, but that doesn't automatically mean they are trans. you "transvestigators" get it wrong far more often than you get it right. a cis woman was even murdered this year because someone thought she was trans.
There are some people who are unfortunately screwed over by puberty, and no amount of effort will hide their genetic sex. They are usually the ones who suffer the most from transphobes, and those who can pass transphobes usually don't even think they exist.
You can tell. My 6 year old can tell. It just happened. We were shopping in a store and the clerk was clearly a trans woman. Had man's voice. Man body, etc. They were dressed in women's clothes and obviously presenting as female. My son kept saying he and him as I tried to quickly remove him from the store from embarrassment. We can indeed tell, as could ny 6 year old.
For context my son was hiding under clothes racks and I kept asking him to stop and that it wasn't permitted. My son kept saying " well HE ( meaning the trans clerk) didn't say that". I actually felt quite badly about it but it was so obvious.
That all gender bathroom one makes me so uncomfortable. Trans people are constantly getting attacked because we are supposedly causing problems in bathrooms, meanwhile this (supposedly cishet) woman is harassing strangers and filming in the bathroom. That guy at the end that she called out, after talking about, "obviously a guy went in that one" was clearly so uncomfortable by her. In fact, all the men were clearly made uncomfortable by her, which I find interesting. And also, the "obviously a guy went in that one" comment is just weird, because I've been in plenty of mens and womens restrooms, and on average, in my experience, the men's restroom is way cleaner and nicer than the women's, so like, what?! If it's a mess, I'd personally immediately assume a woman was the last to use it, if anyone.
God, just so weird and gross and frustrating, and makes me so uncomfortable. Like, why as trans people are we made to feel like we are the problem, when there are women like that harassing people and filming them in the bathroom?! And uploading unconsenting people's faces online! None of them consented to that at all. Just ew.
That is illegal to film others in the bathroom! She should have been reported and arrested. I am sure as a CIS straight, I would have been all up in her business and called the cops on her for filming in the bathroom, followed her out of the bathroom to film her, and tracked her so I could point her out to the police. OMG!
@@RiverWoods111Just fyi cis is just a prefix, you don’t need to capitalize it
shes so obnoxious too. like, lady its a bathroom, its there for doing your business and getting out
@@DeathnoteBB I think they didn't realize they could *bold* text, and so capitalized cis to emphasize it, not to imply it was an acronym or anything.
@@TheEnmineer how,, how does one bold text in the comments,,
Imagine thinking that crying with joy at seeing your bride on your wedding day is gay….
Fellas, is it gay to love your wife and find her beautiful?
@@quixote1965 actually it is a perfectly normal reaction. the issue is toxic masculinity
Three things really bothered me about the all-gender restroom/washroom/toilet video.
(1.) Filming anyone in a washroom is creepy!
(2.) Accosting the man who walked in and shouting "a man in a non-gender restroom!" and practically chasing him to film his use of the toilet! The man was simply minding his own (private) business!
(3.)It was gross that the young man was leaving the restroom without washing his hands (though, to be fair, he may have been so surprised and anxious about being filmed in such a private space that he simply wanted to get the hell out of the situation as quickly as possible!).
To be honest, between the women talking about "a man just used that one", linking him to the comment, the camera and the fact that there was a woman loudly interviewing everyone she encountered in the bathroom...I would leave without washing my hands too.
...Or more likely just go to the other side and wash them there.
A LOT of men don't wash their hands after using the bathroom. They think that if all they did was pee, they don't need to, since they didn't wipe. I disagree. I think it's weird. Just wash up, my dudes.
Been to more mens restrooms than I personally wanted to, but let me tell you, most men don't even wash their hands after pooping. There's even some kind of expeession around it, going something like:"Who washes their hands after they pee, has a dirty d***."
Yes, many cis guys are hella disgusting🙃
tbh yeah leaving without washing ur hands is gross but like if i was him i would leave as fast as i can
You first point out that filming people in a private space is creepy and then you proceed to … shame one of the filmed people for their behaviour in said space? Hm. Seems counterproductive. And also an assumption, as there were sinks all around and hidden and he could have already done it.
As a CIS - straight - female, I honestly wouldn't recognize a trans woman in the bathroom with me. I would see them as a woman. I see humans in the women's bathroom that could be either male, female, or non-binary as they are gender neutral, and I don't even try to figure out what their gender is. I mean, I sure as hell am not going to be looking at their genital areas. These people are some of the scariest, perverted people I have ever seen. WTF? Maybe the women's bathrooms and the men's bathrooms should ban Transphobes completely and make them hold it till they get home. I mean it is a hate crime to do these things and say these things about trans people!
I have had to go into the women's bathroom with my friend who is a trans woman because she unfortunately very much looks like she went through male puberty and everyone misgenders her based on her height, her wide shoulders and her very deep voice. And yet she is afraid to use a public toilet without a friend to "vouch" for her. I would love it if every bathroom was all gender and eventually people would just be used to it and no one would think it was a big deal.
Right??? People who go out of their way to police other people in the bathrooms are the real creeps. I'm going there to poop or pee, why would anyone else care if other people there are trans or cis?? Just do your business and go!
On top of all that hate, it's so blatant when the cis men try to pretend it's for the womenfolk's safety, when not only is there no additional risk, they've never cared before until they got the brilliant idea we'd be their perfect weapon. If abusers can get us in our bedrooms, that little stick figure sign never protected us either, so let our sisters in so we can focus on stuff that matters.
I love the idea of transphobes "just holding it till they get home"
yeah, some things should not be done in public! like bigotry and hate, do that behind your own bedroom doors. I do not need to experience that. and think about the children! they should nit be exposed to such behaviour!
IKR? How would they know? If their answer is to start lifting up skirts or peering under the toilet door? I'm telling you now, a lot of perverts are gonna get kicked in the head.
Have I ever been in an all gender bathroom? Yes. For every year of my life. That's what bathrooms are in houses. That's also what the "Family" restrooms in Wal-Marts are. Or just the general restrooms that are in small stores. I think the lady who made that video has lived a very strange, very abnormal life if she's never seen a gender neutral bathroom before.
To be honest though, all of those examples are usually just single stall. I don't think I've actually ever been in one where there's multiple stalls like that and I could actually encounter a man washing his hands next to me, that would feel like a new experience for sure. That being said I absolutely wouldn't start filming strangers about it, that was unhinged
@@rachelbrown4644 Google headquarters in NY, when I last interviewed there, had gender-neutral bathrooms: There was one common "lobby" with the sinks in it, and individual self-contained rooms that had the urinal or toilet bowl.
It meant that the stalls were _actually _*_more private_* than in a traditional sex-specific bathroom.
Single stall bathrooms being gendered is so dumb lol
I have to wonder if all the freaking out over trans people going to the bathroom is due to the terrible stalls we have with their 1 inch gap on each side. It doesn’t matter to me if it’s Suzy or Scott though, I don’t want anyone looking through at me when I’m just trying to go to the bathroom.
@@Blublizzy13 No, it's actually based on the transphobes believing "trans==only-trans-women==f@gG0ts-inna-dress" that is then combined with "f@gG0ts==ravening-s3xual-predators-that-attack-anyone-and-anything".
Yes, they really do think like that. And want to convince everyone else to believe the same
As a straight person, I can confirm that we are not ok
As a cis person I can confirm we are not ok either
@@Lilly_and_her_kittensreal asf
As a bisexual who's been in relationship with straights, they are NOT OK
As a person, I can just generally say we're not okay. We're going through a lot rn and struggling to figure out how to navigate this complex world.
Don't speak for others you narcissist
The child rapper is the son of a “popular” right wing rapper who basically does the same exact stuff on Fox News here in the US. It’s sad to see him raising his kid to be so hateful, but not surprising
Poor kid, Last Week Tonight did an episode on homeschooling a few weeks ago and covered how there's so little oversight to check that the children are getting a decent education and not being abused - I hope he's able to unlearn the hate he's being indoctrinated with when he grows up.
@@kaspianepps7946straights are physically incapable of unlearning that, that’s why they push it so much.
Totally off topic (or is it?)-your username is perfection and I adore it.
probably the same as you guys hating straight people or anyone that thinks differently than you weirdos 🤷♂🤷♂ You children are raised to hate them yet you think its some how different lol
I cant stop laughing at the idea that 'theres people bullying others into believing you can choose your gender.' Like what do they expect will happen?? "Hey there NERD! You look like you dont know that you can choose which gender youd like! What a LOOSER!" lmao
The Trans giving Rishi Sunak a swirlie and stuffing him in a locker so he misses math class.
@@quiestinliteris real as fuck LMAO
😂
You can't choose your gender. I didn't "choose" to be a woman, I just eventually figured out that's what I'd been all along.
@@electronics-girl even if it was a choice, why is it anyone's business but yours smh.
I cried the day my daughter was born. She just got engaged and I can tell you with all confidence I will cry at her wedding. If that makes me gay then I guess I'm gay.
The fact that when that woman handed her husband the nachos he reacted like a 5 year old is insane
That made me wonder just how scripted that whole thing was (note that I get that feeling a lot with these things). But if it *is* true, the bit about how he won't eat if she doesn't feed him put the tin lid on it. Like, a real man can't know how to feed himself?
@@barrylangille3523 you'd be shocked how many men force their wives/sisters/female roommates to become their mothers after moving out of mommy's house
@@friendlyneigborhoodbean I'm more shocked at how many women go along with it.
And to think I was miffed when my (then) husband started cooking something else when I'd already made dinner for everyone. If I'd been expected to prepare another whole meal... No.
@@thatjillgirl men have a tendency to drill into their wives, daughters and sisters that this is normal behavior and since they're women and it's their "nature"
"OK is masculine, Okay is feminine" - meanwhile me writing "k"
I prefer kk. So what am I D:?
I use oki so what am i lmao
Guess I’m nonbinary then
That's very nonbinary of you!
Same, i write kk so much lol
Filming in a public restroom? WTF? That woman is terrifying. I'd be creeped the F out by her. I have a strong feeling she'd make me feel uncomfortable in the ladies' room too.
woman are "creeped the F out" by mentally ill men in their private spaces.
and their husbands, boyfriends, and brothers are going to start dragging them out like we would drag out any man out of their washrooms, locker rooms, changing rooms, showers etc by their hair into the parking lot and teach them a lesson......The future is bright
@@mroselli Breathe. Now try to make sense.
@@TransHippie I made perfect sense toots
@@TransHippie Adding that one to my lexicon xD
I said this one the short that was specifically about J.K. being fine with going to prison for misgendering someone and
I’m fine with her going to jail for misgendering people too, let's goooo!
I hadn't heard much about her for a while. I didn't realize she'd become even more reprehensible.
@@barrylangille3523 Yeah, she just doubles down, and doubles down, and doubles down. In the beginning you could give her some benefit of the doubt, like maybe she just didn't understand what she was saying. But at this point she's made it very, very clear that no, she knows exactly what she's saying, and she's proud of it.
Im joining you just like last time :p
(Even tho last time my brain didn't work and i understood it the wrong way😅)
I mean, honestly I don't care why she goes to jail, it would be nice in any case.
lmao imagine actually wanting to get jailed and share space with ain a 6'4 girl inmate with tatoos and bad face using u as a fork to eat her food. like rlly? actually wanting to share space with convicts? da hell jk! u need therapy
How is that woman not being charged with voyeurism?
"Gotta make sure there's no creeps in the bathroom"
Hun, you're the creep in the bathroom!
It's not even like she was just filming herself, she's actively filming other people
exactly !
Straights don’t go after their own
If you are the creep, it's less likely there are other creep, isn't that how statistics works
As a cisgender bisexual, It's not okay to make any hateful comments against the transgender community. With everything going on in the world, we have much bigger issues going on than to argue about something if it allows a person to find peace and happiness truly.
No, we're not okay, just like anyone else right now. My husband is thankful for his role as a member of our house.
Any hateful comments to the transgender community that person needs to seek therapy.
We spend so long arguing with each other over concepts that have already been proven that we forget that the world is burning and we really need to sort it out😅
Shut up Meg.
So what do you deem to be hateful comments or not? Is criticism of or objecting to bullying, harassment, assault, homophobia, toxic behaviour, misogyny, incitement to violence, rape and death threats, doxing and swatting included in that? Is it transphobic if a trans person does any of those things and is deemed responsible and accountable for their behaviour?
@NewSpirituality I can click on your profile picture and see in another comment you were calling Jamie, a trans man, not an actual man. That's a good example of transphobia you didn't list for some reason🤔
@@Gatheistthe issue should be their actions not the fact that they are trans???
I think it's hilarious that that person thinks that men crying on their wedding day is a "trend." This has been a common response to seeing the bride walk down the aisle for at least all of my 38 years of life. There's nothing trendy or feminine about it. It's a natural reaction to an incredibly touching moment that they've been waiting for for months or years.
The thing is they think it’s a trend because of social media making everything public before social media if a groom cried at seeing his bride they said that he was just so happy now however with social media the toxic alpha male mindset is front and centre as soon as these so called manly men see a guy crying on their wedding day they call him gay
On a positive note btw (on the topic of restrooms), when the school my daughter attend (in Sweden we call it "högstadied" ages 13-15) got their first non binary student, they changed all restrooms to be gender neutral. (They wasn't before, the school it selfe is build in the 60-ies).
that's super cool !
My university has mostly gender neutral toilets and has been like that since it was built in the 60s, ironically it's the more recent buildings that separated genders.
When I think of it, mostly the old buildings that come to mind in most contexts have gender neutral toilets 🤔
Maybe I should dig around that topic
@@nessa-parmentier What I have seen here in Sweden thou is that public restrooms are mostly gender neutral.
Nobody seems to know why there was separate boys and girls restrooms in the school to begin with....they looked the same, there was no difference in how they where build.
Now there is only signs with a wc on it.
I had a gender neutral bathroom and everyone peed there in recess. Full of hormonal teens. Nothing happened 🤡
if that were to happen here, people would just continue using the bathroom that they used to use
It's really cool!
y'know, my dad isn't the most open-minded person, he can be a bit transphobic and homophobic, but he realizes that they're still people. He treats everyone the same because he realizes that he's old and stuck in his ways and that , even if he doesn't "get it" it costs him absolutely nothing to treat them the same as everyone else
based dad (not for queerphobia ofc). wish more people could be like him.
Yeah, my mom is the same way. She will say homophobic and transphobic things under her breath or in passing, but would absolutely NEVER openly treat a transgender person badly or infringe on their rights or say anything bad to a trans person publicly. Weirdly, she also openly supports trans women using women’s bathrooms, mostly because she is adamant about not wanting to share a bathroom with trans men because she thinks that is “creepy”. Kind of an accidental ally situation
My dad: I may not understand or agree with everything, but you have to remember: I'm 65yo, I'm on my way out, my opinions don't matter!
I wish more transo/homophobic peoples could understand that they might be wrong, and that people who have different opinions than them are still people
@@notestasiskislmao my mom in a nutshell, she will be I don't understand but I wanna make sure u are safe, if u are, go ahead 😂 she is 69
"Ok" masculine...guess I should tell my husband to stop using "okidoke" then. Can't even guess what they would say that one is.
Male: OK
Female: okay
NB: Okey-dokey, artichokey.
Theyd probably say its feminine, completely ignoring the fact that english doesn't really gender words like other languages do
Conservatives: “You can’t change your gender! Transgender people will always be their birth gender!”
Also conservatives: “If a man spells “okay” instead of “OK”, he is a woman.”
@@JovanDacicI USE THIS! I’m nb and this comment has made me smile like an idiot. Thank you ❤️
Hey is Scandinavian, and I think ahoyhoy is bi.
I had a mother like that. She just enjoyed hurting people. At her cremation everybody agreed that she'd been a rather terrible person.
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To be fair, while the Anti-SJW crowd seem to not really know *themselves* what "Woke" actually means, it kinda feels like Barbie was tailor-made specifically to be everything they hate. And it was glorious :D
And then when it proved to be insanely popular, some of them tried to rewrite the script to say that the movie actually fit their views.
I doubt any of them know that their buzzwords actually mean. They're just words they've arbitrarily decided mean bad things that are vague enough to attribute to anything and anyone they don't like.
@@Asexual_Individual yeah woke seems to be their purple triangle so they know exactly which group is the target.
It's honestly funny watching them get all panicky whenever I ask what they think "woke" means.
They never even answer the question - even after I changed the question to give them more room with their answers. Gone from "could you define 'woke' for me?" To "what do you think woke means - or what does it mean to you?"
Absolutely no response any time.
woke = people who believe evil is wrong but weird is fine
anti-woke = people who believe weird is wrong but evil is fine
Did she even asked for the right to film those people in the WC? I don't think so....Shall we call her "Predator" then? i wonder...
19:00 my first all-gender larger bathroom was at a convention, and my first reaction was “woah this is different, cool”. I did not think “oMg ThErE aRe MeN hErE tHeYrE gOnNa CrEeP oN tHe WoMeN” I just thought “oh this should be more normalized, everyone’s minding their own business, it’s exactly like a normal bathroom but more comfortable for people.” (I am cis btw, you don’t have to be trans to be an ally and it takes more effort to be a bigot)
edit: its been 4 months and im no longer cis (agender :P)
Yeah! I went to a con at the beginning of the month, and they had both unisex and gendered bathrooms. Nobody cares. We just need to pee.
My first all-gender multi-stall bathroom was in my college dorm. Nobody had any problem with it. The showers were all-gender, too, but each shower stall had a double curtain, so it was all very private.
Heh, "everyone’s minding their own business" -- until some insecure karen gets out her phone and starts filming her novel experience (while talking to everyone around and laughing jarringly). 🤪
I took a grant applicant to our public library and he saw his first all-gender restroom. Men's and women's were a few yards away. He looked at the signs and arrows, and complained that the "all gender thing" made him feel that he didn't belong there. He is back on food stamps. You can lead a man to the library but you can't make him think.
Ah yes. Nothing spookier than transphobia for spooky month
As a brit, nobody likes rishi sunak. That only adds to it
He's just another rich dude telling everyone else how to live while he refuses to pay taxes and hands out cash to big corporations. F*CK the Tories 😅
I don't understand your gov't, but don't you guys vote for your PM? If that's the case he had to get most of the votes, was he somehow the least awful option to people then?
@@TheEnmineer we voted for Boris (we were misled) and then he quit, we lost a bunch of PMs in quick succession, even one who was outlasted by a cabbage, then we have him. We didn't elect him
@@TheEnmineer The government was already in power at the time, Sunak became Prime Minister after a leadership election following the resignation of Liz Truss (and Boris Johnson), so whilst the party was elected by the public, the Prime Minister was not directly elected by the public in this case.
@@TheEnmineerYou're saying that as if the UK is a functional democracy
Which it isn't
so transphobes just want to be referred to as "human," i'll keep that in mind the next time they start saying something about "short women" or "curvy women" or "white women." ah ah ah, susan, you explicitly said you don't want ANY prepositions, adjectives, qualifiers or other descriptives applied to your person.
Omg this just reminded me of a story!
For some unknown reasons my university changed the labels on the bathrooms during the summer. I was there during the transition back. So one day I'm in the shower and I hear a masculine voice come in. I can't remember if they were maybe on the phone or taking to someone outside or something but they sounded male. I totally freaked out and started screaming about a man in the women's room. Oh wait. Actually, no. I quietly continued my shower and made sure not to exit the curtains until I heard them leave. I didn't call attention to our differences, it might have been a safety issue or just embarrassing for one of us. After, I simply went to the resident assistant and asked them to have a floor meeting to decide which bathroom would be which for the school year. It's literally that easy to not be a jerk.
Good on you for being a decent person :) my boss (who's a very butch lesbian, sometimes mistaken for a trans man), was using our single-stall women's restroom, after leaving a woman accosted her and loudly asked if she was in the men's room with her son?? Like ma'am there is ONE stall, nobody can go after your son. Apparently she got really embarrassed after being shown what the bathrooms looked like.
One of the funniest moments in my transition was when someone at my university just pulled off the gender signs on the bathroom doors and at the time I was a new student so I just assumed the bathrooms were gender neutral. I walked into the men's room and every guy in there looked so unsettled like deer in headlights and I only realized why afterwards (and had a good laugh about it with my friends and boyfiriend). Me being forced to use the men's room regularly in public spaces would by far be more uncomfortable for everyone else than if I just keep using the women's room as I have for the past several years lmao
My first day in the dorm in college (when I was still masc-presenting), I saw a door with a sign that said "Men's room" and almost went inside. Luckily, I didn't, because it was just some random girl's dorm room, and she had thought it was funny to put a sign that said "Men's room" on her door.
wow killer story...it's almost like the planet revolves around you and your kind. 🙄🙄
@@mroselliassuming “your kind” is referring to humans, we are all kind of a big deal on this planet
Spoiler, the straights are never okay.
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So you woke leftists want equality but your being extremely heterophobic.
@@Mrroblox-lo2sqHeterophobic is not a real thing, stop making up new words. We don’t hate on bigots, we just don’t agree with their lifestyle and the fact that they keep shoving their agenda down our throats, and worst of all, what if kids get exposed to things like that.
@@chrisbfreelanceGo away, this is a safe space for LGBTQIA+ individuals.
I swear people obsessed with what they call '''common sense''' are teenager edgelords that think lgbt people were invented 10 years ago. they really think common sense means calling lgbt people names and or saying women are inferior. like bruh, common sense means street smart lol. they give me such im14andthisisdeep vibes
@@chrisbfreelancewhich is why trans men are men and trans women are women, they got that at their name :p
"Common sense" just means "assumptions we don't want to question."
@@chrisbfreelance Sex is bimodal, but that's irrelevant anyway, because we're talking about gender.
@@chrisbfreelance look up the definition of common sense for me love, thank me later, also, accidental ally lmao
@@chrisbfreelance Sex is a bi modal distribution of bodily characteristics. This means there are two commonly expressed variations of body types, with a spectrum of individual differences inbetween and within those common variations. For example there are people with xy genetic structure and by observation their body would be described as "typically female" while posessing the "typically male" genetics. There are also people born with characteristics attributed to both sexes. There is many more types of people that dont fall into the simplified male and female categories. These are just the facts and they dont care about your feelings about a non existent sex binary.
I've always found the idea of laundry being a "feminine task" to be wild. Mostly because my parents split up the household chores a lot differently when I was growing up. My mom can cook. My dad's bad at it. So mom does the cooking. Dad's really neat and organized so he does the dishes and the laundry. Mom works from home so she pays the bills, but Dad likes spreadsheets so he writes the budget. The take turns mowing the lawn (now that they're empty nesters without two kids in the house to make do it, that is! Lmao!) So like, the idea that laundry is a feminine task is weird because my dad *always* did the laundry.
A friend from mom who is 65 has been with her husband for like 40 years,when sexism was rlly strong. They always divided 50/50 the chores, even now that they're retired
HAPPY SPOOKY MONTH TO ALL Y'ALL QUEER PEEPS AND CISHET PEEPS 🎃🎃🎃
All all of us? Never heard that before.
@@chandranelson2772 y'all is singular or for small groups of people, all y'all is for a large group. Happy Halloween to everyone. ✌️🎃
@@chandranelson2772 I mean yeah you guys aren’t majority bad just the minority are very loud
@@artistdudebro l don’t know, but I’m from Oklahoma and my wife is from Georgia. Neither of us have heard all you all. We have heard y’all used as a singular though.
@@phoenixthewolf6301 What? You mean the trans, lesbians, and bi’s? Aren’t majority bad? My wife is trans and a lesbian, and I’m cis and bi.
I believe this idea that "it's gay to cry at your wedding" is because men are supposed to hate being married or something.
They're just supposed to never cry, except in war or when their dog dies or something.
I'm a cis straight woman who cannot have another child. So that definition of being a woman always makes me laugh. I'm female because that's my choice, not being able to get pregnant again doesn't negate that.
Your a woman who has a condition that prevents future pregnancies, but trans women can never have a child because they are biologically male. Big difference! Women inherently can get pregnant, unless there is something wrong. Men could never
"[Boys] can't be a Suzie" Clearly this kid has never heard the Johnny Cash song "Boy Named Sue" 😂
"Kids are not born with hate." No, they are the source of most wholesome stories you see online.
Also made me think of a quote from Critical Role's campaign 2 (they are on my brain this week for... reasons). Specifically a line from Caleb (played by Liam) to Essek (NPC played by Matt): "You are not born with venom in your veins. It is learned."
Most of them are, a few have absolutely lost it over our existance and just become obsessed.
The politicians aren't obsessed. They're using it to distract people from the real problems.
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"Great at pretending to be something they're not."
Sir, you're right. I'm GREAT at pretending to be straight and cis and happy, who would've thought 😂
If someone is comfortable sharing video on the internet, to whoever may see it, in a restroom, then either the restroom offers sufficient privacy for anyone to use it, or that person had no business filming such private matters of people who did not consent. In any restroom, I would be more uncomfortable with someone filming than I would with someone of a different gender being present. That was creepy. I’m pretty sure she violated some privacy laws by filming.
It would depend on the state. That looked a lot like DFW to me, but I don't know what privacy laws Texas has regarding bathrooms. Plus, airports look very similar, so maybe it wasn't DFW. Could have been anywhere, I suppose.
honestly i felt so sorry for that first guy in the bathroom. could feel the cringe through the screen. man just wants to pee and he's getting a camera shoved in his face
I'd love to just have public restrooms where there are no gaps for people to see through in the stalls. And stalls for urinals too. I get so self conscious going into public restrooms.
I think it's the problem in the US - assuming from you comment - in France it is quite normal to have gender neutral bathrooms and no issue because it"s fully closed spaces. People would probably be more ok with the idea if you had privacy in the first place
Most places in Australia seem like that, too. I don't need a centimeter wide gap all around the edges of the tiny door, thank you. Unlike whoever decided men should stand up and pee shoulder to shoulder, I'm not really interested in making it a social experince.
If I have to choose between sharing a bathroom with folks of all genders who are minding their iwn business and sharing a bathroom with someone who thinks it's okay to film total strangers in a public bathroom....
THAT'S what should be against the law in public bathrooms, folks. Cameras.
It is in many places
Republicans are projecting...
The woman filming in the toilets would have a heart attack if she lived near me. A local council near me has put in all gender restrooms which are individual, fully enclosed toilet cubicles and a communal handwashing station. It makes it so much easier for them to clean and I never have to que for a stall. Positives all around. I need more of these in my life.
What even is the deal with bathrooms these days? I remember being like 15 and seeing people I presumed to be cis men in the women's bathroom, and no one cared. I just figured the men's was closed for cleaning or was out of paper or that they were in there with a small daughter who was just starting to go by herself but not *completely* by herself. I used the men's when the women's was occupied or out of order, and no one cared.
Just build stalls so we don't have the stupid gaps and make all bathrooms all-gender.
Same here. No one batted an eye, because it used to be assumed that there was a logical reason for it (as you mentioned above). And this is coming from a small conservative town.
same here lol who tf cares. america has issues wiht tons of silly stuff.
also some places only had baby changing stations in women's rooms so you'd cross a dad here and there
12:50 I feel bad for that unborn child, that their parent decided to turn their pregnancy announcement (something that should be a joyous occasion) into something hateful and ugly.
Same, i kind of hope the child is trans/nb because it'll make the parents lose it, but also i hope they're cis because trans/nb life with those parents will be awful
Damn if I saw that when older I'd be rlly ashamed of being clowned around 😂
We do pretend to be people we aren't, but then we come out. I catfished everyone in my life including myself for over a decade. I convinced everyone I was a cis guy and not a nonbinary person. 😂
you are a guy....learn to deal with it and live in reality with the rest of us.
Ignore the f*ckwit who commented before me. I hope you're living a happy life now.
stfu they are non binary and so am i@@mroselli
Guys, I have a definition of woman for when anyone asks:
Someone that feels comfortable using feminine pronouns and being referred to with feminine pronouns.
Does this mean I'm a woman?(cis amab)
There are many reasons that a grown man doesn’t like certain foods (ie. autism) and that doesn’t make them childish, or a bad person. But making food you know they won’t eat is purposefully spiteful. However, if he chooses not to eat rather than make his own food, it isn’t her responsibility to feed him, and choosing to do so is her choice, but to simultaneously try to publicly shame him makes the situation even worse on her part.
Always said it; the more a guy chest thumps about their masculinity and the more rules they invent, the more insecure and pathetic they really are. I have yet to find the opposite occur. Also, "non woke" is one of the most eye rolling grifts ever.
It's doubly eye rolling when you ask them what "woke" even means; and they stumble through a mumbled definition which essentially boils down to "treating everyone with respect, not being bigoted or hateful, etc etc".
Great, so you've just admitted then that you're pro-hatred and bigotry. Well done. 🤦
"A man is a man, and a woman is a woman, that's just common sense" is such a common excuse for transphobia, and it's a bullshit one. The thing is that they're painting gender as a thing that's like "its only these two things, its just that simple, no need to complicate it." but that's the thing. There is literally not a single thing in the entire universe we reside in that is simple. It only appears simple because that is only what you limit your knowledge of the subject to be. If these knuckleheads took the time to learn even more about the subject with an open mind, I highly doubt their opinion is going to stay the exact same.
no, its biology and hasn't be disputed for over a hundred years. Learn to live in reality with the rest of us....or dont 🤷♂🤷♂🤷♂ We don't give a fk anymore.....
@@mroselli for people who “don’t give a fk” yall seemed to be pretty vocal when expressing your hate towards trans people lol. And about that first part, you’re literally proving my point because being there is nothing about being trans that denying biology. Being trans is about having a gender that isn’t the same as the biological sex. There’s nothing about it that’s against biology lol, although you would know that if you ever researched it…
Also, the concept of a gender biology was invented by the United Kingdom during its colonial period.
As a Cis straight man, I can confirm that doing my laundry, licking ice cream, spelling out "okay", saying "hi/hey" etc. my whole life has not reduced my masculinity one iota and I wonder what events traumatized these Alpha Chad wannabes into such a fragile state where their sense of self identity hinges on things like not being responsible for themselves in their own home and not being able to spell properly.
O.O you just made me realise that one day, we're going to see the Chad/Incel version of that concerning Michelle Rodriguez film where she plays a cisgender male* assassin who is abducted and put through the full face off transition without his consent so he presents as a woman (it's revenge for something he did previously). It's awful, but we're absolutely going to be put through a version where a Chaddic dude is assaulted and turned into an incel or, even more likely, an incel gets turned into a Chad intentionally, and regrets it for one dumb reason (not actual dysmorphia, body horror or because me never consented, it'll be that his mum doesn't recognise him or his gorgeous female friend who he always considered a Becky tells him how weird it is and refuses to be his friend anymore).
another fun video idea would be the "we can always tell" people who get it wrong. I follow a creator on fb who constantly gets called "a man" and comments on his adams apple. Trans masc, of course. his currently working page is "Trans Guy Peter Parker Webshooting Inclusivity Hour" (transphobes got his main page 'Trans Skater Boyfriend' demonetized) and he posts pictures with comments from the comment section overlaid, and it's always things like "you'll NEVER be a woman!!" and hes like "aww thanks what a great ally"
Trans Skater Boyfriend!! I see screenshots of people trying to misgender him all the time and it’s so damn funny. I experience the same thing as a trans man with long hair and an actual sense of style.
“I can tell you’re a MAN!! Your bone structure is CLEARLY MASCULINE!!”
It just comes off as super aggressive affirmation and I love it.
Those we can always tell people are hilarious, they can never tell, and they're making great accidental ally moments, they're also mistaking cis women/men for trans and trans men/women for cis, because they can always tell :D
@@Mars-jf4gyyou'll be a woman! You're clearly a man!
Enjoy your gender affirmation :p (i really hope nothing said was offensive, not my first language so i miss a lot of words and i can read stuff the wrong way, i meant it in a joking way because from what i understood you're trans masc, again, sorry if something i said was offensive)
"Nobody creepy in the restroom" Oh, there completely is. The nut with the camera taking a home movie of people peeing and pooing is absolutely creepy.
She's freaked out about men having used the toilets? Um, was she raised in a neighborhood with gender specific home toilets? How is this a new thing for her.
@@ExtraordinaryMachine333straights are maniacs
the knocking scared the shite out of me ngl
Literally thought someone was at our door, until I heard Shaba. 😭
Gotta say, though, that this was one of the best ad inserts I've seen. They were both so freaking cute with it.
Today some of my classmates showed some transphobia. So someone wanted to tell us a debate, it was about genderless bathrooms and literally all their reasons against it was if gendered bathrooms didn't exist. Like "people could be perverts" and "it takes away rights" or something like that, just go to the gendered bathrooms
Btw I moved to the farms field lands in a small town. Also I'm just a trans ally
There is something that deeply depresses me about homophobic (against gay guys) females specifically. Maybe I've grown accustomed to Women being generally the face of progressive values, what with all media I consume, but seeing women try to enforce "masculinity" is something that disturbs me profoundly.
Back when I was living as a man, women I dated would tell me not to wear bright colors, or that it was "gay" to listen to Madonna or Katy Perry.
It turns out I actually am gay, because I'm a lesbian, and now I'm wearing gorgeous frilly pink dresses and listening to whatever I want.
yeah same but the other way around. They went u must be lesbian because you're the most macho human i've ever seen. And i joke with no, its not that i'm lesbian, the only thing that r now separates me from being a dude is my clam. My friends laugh at my joke but ffs.
They're progressive but they also unconsciously perpetrate the stereotype. @@electronics-girl
Can we take a second to appreciate Shaaba's hair? It's so prettyyy!!!
That last guy just shows that some people never grow out of being spoiled brats. I half-expected him to swat the nachos away, cross his arms and demand chicken nuggies while pouting.
2:44 & 21:39 the thing about "feminine responsibilities" that I always wonder is how do men without such skills survive if they're single? Do they eat out every day because cooking is "feminine?" Do they live in filth because cleaning and laundry is "feminine?" These aren't gendered tasks, they're basic life skills that all adults should have.
some do because they're losers, so yeah
some go to mom others actually know how to do that when single and actively choose to not help once coupled up which is lowkey worse if you ask me
It’s so odd to me that people feel so strange about all-gender bathrooms. Especially the “this has sealed doors, that’s good in an all gender bathroom.” I find that odd, sealed doors are good anywhere! You shouldn’t have to deal with anyone watching you go to the toilet, it doesn’t matter if they’re whatever gender, it’s your body! I’ve yet to wrap my head around all of the reasoning for the attitude towards it, it makes very little sense.
As a paruresis sufferer..I agree with this message..
@@UNSTABLE111 I hope that private and isolated toilets are always available for you. ::)
That's kinda weird, because separating the places was made (supposedly) to be better for privacy, so something where people see less of stranger should be better, right?
It is funny how much those types of guys make big talk about being strong masculine males but will think of a million ways that can be destroyed by an action as simple as saying "hi" differently. Way to shoot yourselves in the foot and create a self-made minefield for no reason.
On a side note, Shaaba both jumpscared me with that knock and made the AD part even sweeter. You both enjoy that cottage pie!
If you _were_ one of those type guys, you would know all the ways you can be destroyed by simple actions...but YOU. COULD. EXPLAIN. _NOTHING!!!_
I'm a cis-het woman but I use "OK" and "Hey". So I guess I've got real mixed energy 😂
In the formal/informal/cute spectrum, you just choose the shortest phrase every time, and I respect the heck outta your decision. 🏳️🌈
@@JovanDacic Efficiency over gender roles haha
@@denaemichele "do i want to destroy gender roles or do i want pockets!!" -some guy on tictok
Im a cis (very not hetero😅) woman and i use hello and okay, whoopsie
enby here, I found those two to be affirming (Ok, and if typing in English probably: Hi).
If I see someone filming in a public bathroom they are going to be asked to *stop.*
Threaten legal action. It is illegal to film someone in using the toilet without their consent in many places
HAPPY SPOOKY SEASON ALL! Hope all you lovely people are having a wonderful month! I am so proud of all of you! Keep it up! 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈🦕 🎃
I mean, as a trans woman, I am pretty good at pretending to be someone I'm not. I spent 23 years pretending to be a dude after all.
man
woman
@mroselli Damm dude at least fucking try. We're not so thin-skinned that just saying "man" is going to ruin our day. I get seeing people actually be happy makes you jealous, but if you're going to try to fill the void in your shitty life by trying to drag us down with you, you're gonna have to pull harder than that.
People are so hellbent on biological sex being the be-all-end-all, not realizing that your gender identity doesn't have to match it.
@@mroselli yes, that is what "dude" means in context. this trans woman was pretending to be a man.
Its funny how much stuff in life boils down to "don't be a dick"
"unless you HAVE a dick, then don't NOT be a dick"
The temperature might be dropping, but the snowflakes (cishets) are still melting.
As a cis, I've never been okay. Not for a single moment of my entire life. Send help.
That last video gave me a vibe. Idk, it's definitely not okay to refuse to eat something that was made for you, but at the same time she could also communicate with him and make meals that the two of them would enjoy.
Why is it that transphobic/homophobic couples also can’t communicate with each other.
And he could also just make his own self some nachos. It's not like it's hard.
I'd be so annoyed if I went into a restroom in an airport and someone came in and started filming me and asking questions! What is wrong with people?!
My brother in law's wedding was amazing, it was a gorgeous venue and the entire wedding party looked stunning, but no one more beautiful than his bride. I fought back tears when I saw her but it fully broke me when I looked to my brother in law and saw him bust into tears at the sight of her walking down the aisle. I hope I will always remember that moment because it was so beautiful and full of love. Dudes can cry too ❤
Something that always bothered ie when they say if your (insert masculine name) you can’t be (insert feminine name). They act as if some women don’t have more traditionally masculine names. Also the whole name change thing in general ignores the fact that some cis people have changed their name too.
Jamie, you're completely right about the bathroom stalls in the US. They have huge gaps in the door hinges and at the bottoms of the stalls so you can see people's feet. For some people, it's uncomfortable to be in the bathroom with anybody because the door gaps are awful.
but they're cheap
Btw yes in America bathroom stalls have a like 1 and a half foot gap at the bottom and go about 6 feet (180 cm) for walls. It is disturbing how someone can stand up and you can make eye contact with them. This is WORSE in schools where they tend to be even shorter.
Ive been in a school where It went up to the bottom of my boobs.
You may say "but they're for kids who are shorter"
Then where are the adult bathrooms? Ohh yea locked and reserved for staff use.
Happy spooky month! Nothing scarier than homophobia/transphobia :(
True!
Not Shaaba scaring me with that knock thinking it was someone behind me in my house 😂
My housemate does not understand being transgerd or NB is not a deep dark secret. She is in her 80's and was married to a person who never came out..He lived in the closet his whole life.
I am so sad for both of them. She is a very sweet person, and from what I have seen, her spouse was so cool. They loved Laurie Anderson music and all kinds of Science Fiction. I wish they could have just been themselves 100%😢 Now it's to late.
This Halloween I am going to include them as a person of honor during ritual. Why? For just one night they deserve to walk free..
Cool people in their generation often had to hide stuff...and it was often orientation-related...the rules were so strict then and ostracism so total, you tended never to break them unless you were in some outgroup to begin with...
All the people who have never been in an all-gender bathroom - where the heck are they coming from?? I thought maybe it's a USA thing and you don't have many of those or something. But no, I was recently talking to a woman from Moscow (I live in Siberia myself), and she was so disgusted when she confirmed that of course she has never been in an all-gender bathroom! She hasn't even seen a sign for one! And I was like... how... both where I live AND in Moscow AND other Russian cities there are lots of all-gender bathrooms, esp in restaurants...
In the USA people pretend these are duper unusual. However in most smaller businesses or small offices (for example less than 15 people to share a bathroom) there is typically only 1 gender neutral bathroom. Even in shopping malls as far back as I can remember (I'm 36 and spent the majority of my tweens and teens in malls) there's male, female, and family bathrooms. The family bathrooms were gender neutral so any parents could take any kids they needed all to one place, and instead of multiple stalls it was just one larger room (with a lock of course) with 2 toilets,1 for adults and 1 for kids, and 2 sinks, 1 for adults and 1 for kids, and a changing table. Anyone could use them if they wanted. A lot of wheelchair users also prefer them because it's more spacious than the stalls in the other bathrooms, plus they can more easily get a helper in there if needed. Those were in every restroom area of every mall in the 90s-2000s that I went to. The only places that have strictly gendered bathrooms are typically very large offices, schools, etc. And even then there are many instances where people use different ones based on convenience, ESPECIALLY women will go to the men's if there's no line for the men's but there is for the women's. In honesty having 2 bathrooms would seem to be more practical for larger places and I suppose they just default to gendering them. I think I would be a bit surprised to see a super public gender neutral bathroom like the one in the video, but not shocked enough to make a whole video 😂 I might comment that wow that's different and then never think of it again lol
Love you Jammidodger and Shaaba!!
That poor 11-year-old is being *groomed* to hate people who don't affect his life at all. He's just doing what grownups tell him. I want to see him at 21 in the hope that he's escaped their *indoctrination.* I was forced into a super right-wing evangelical hypochristian church 8 years, from 8-16. And as cis bi-romantic ace, boy did that church suck. They kind of left me alone after a while because unlike the other kids who were smoking and drinking, then acting pious on Sunday, I didn't get baptized in my teens because I didn't want to lie. That was a weird time.
Anyway, to update you on my travels into "who I am" near the end of my middle-age heading to old person territory, I'm still bi-romantic Ace but I've been flirting pretty heavily with two different lesbians who both work at grocery stores. They're just so pure and honest. And very visually appealing. I haven't got the second woman's name yet, even though she's a manager. I didn't think to read her name tag. But Nicole introduced herself to me last time I was at the store where she works. So now we know each other's names. And we know we both like cats, never got married, and never had kids. I have SUCH a crush on her, but today I met an equally esthetically pleasing, friendly and outgoing woman. She has a natural rizz about her. They're probably both in relationships, but I can still look and do some minor flirtage.
Anyway, if I posted this on other social media my dad or other assorted relatives might see. I know they wouldn't say anything, but at the same time ... maybe later. I'm such a coward, still. But I had to tell someone, so I'm telling UA-cam. I'm almost freaking FIFTY-SIX and it took my mom dying this summer for me to realize there's no time like the present to be who you are.
I already told my stepdad back in 2017, and later I explained it to my mom and she was very understanding. I mean, she couldn't fathom not wanting to have sex, but she tried to understand. They were both basically like, "Oh, okay. Do you want to stay for dinner?"
So I'm gonna talk with the lady I met today next time I see her and ask her pronouns. Because I'm just guessing, and it's a not-so-subtle hint that I am "of the queers." My roomie is a lesbian and calls herself "of the gays," so that's where I got it. Thanks, random anyone who read this far. Jammidodger's comments section has become my spill zone. I'm weird af sometimes, yet boring. Shit, it's 1AM I have to get to bed.
Peace!
Had to pull this up on a seperate platform just to comment on the ABSOLUTE SASS Jammi delivered when that kid rapped the "I'm homeschooled" line. 😆 🤣 😆 🤣 Beautiful. Brilliant. 10/10. Amazing.
Spooky, scary skeletons
Are silly all the same
They'll smile and scrabble slowly by
And drive you so insane 💀