Housewife of 12 years here. I reverted at 17 after I graduated HS. And went to university while I learned my Deen. Met my husband to be in Dec of my Senior year. Graduated May 18, and got married May 22…. I eloped because my family (non-muslim) would not have supported my husband or want to be a wife/stay at home mom. I do have this degree “to fall back on” but never do I think my husband will leave me or fail to provide. I only think if he dies early to protect my children from hunger and homelessness.
As a Muslima in Uni, I think that education is extremely valuable and a privilege. U can peruse Islamic and the other education as well, also it‘s not even „western“ education cause we as Muslims have contributed into most of scientific knowledge with the grace of Allah : medicine, psychology, architecture, astrology, neuroscience anddd much more. The first university in the world was founded by a hijabi muslimah TabarakaAllah. Let’s not act like we don’t belong in the educational realm. We should put Allah first in every situation in life, as he has decreed what we’re gonna be in life. ❤ live your life and enjoy the stages of it( school, uni, marriage, children, grandchildren.) because you never know if ur gonna live until the next stage.
May Allah help this sister, she's definitely on the right path. Public Education is cancer and what makes me sad is that modern day parents think education even more important than worshiping Allah, may Allah protect us.
Education is apart of worshiping Allah. Public education is right for some people, and not right for others. If we didn't have public education, we wouldn't have doctors, teachers, historians, etc. The first university was founded by a Muslim woman. Being a housewife is right for some women, not for others. Ofcourse, you should stay with your kids 24/7 for the first years of their life. But being a housewife as a full time job for the rest of your life isn't meant for all women, every woman is unique. Our society would fall without educated women.
@@guidedstars public education is satanic and people need to realize that, it will take you away from Allah and has the potential to make you a kaffer.
@@guidedstarswestern public education is not right for any Muslim. It is filled with dangerous ideologies that are antithetical to Islam. There are alternatives to public western education. Note this does not include Muslim countries because they do not include such ideologies into their school system. Society would fall without educated women? What? Society has been going on for centuries and is only degenerating recently lmao. Plus, were the wives of the Prophet university educated? 😂 Islam is clear. The home and children is the woman’s number one priority. It should not be sacrificed for anything of this world.
This girl should be asking a sheikh not a youtuber online. and if she has problems with how her father thinks then she should discuss it with him and keep trying to convince him and not see him as the enemy here.
Muslim women- LEARN YOUR DEEN FIRST. We should at a bare minimum learn the fundamentals of Islam. There are plenty of classes both in real life and online.
@@amatulfulani6390 There is a full on attack on women, toward religious women and especially to Muslim women. It is trying to make them more liberal and a twisted independence from all their loved ones only to be made dependant on society, some organisations and the government. It is easier to go after women than men because they are less disagreeable. And men follow and chase women. So the system is coming to both women and men. The system just uses both direct and indirect attacks. It is slightly more direct on women and indirect on men. But at age, it is almost the same now.
As much as I want marriage, I rather improve myself as a Muslim woman first. I look back and imagine if I had got married younger and how I would not understand the role of a Muslim wife.
@@Mk98711 nobody said I’m delaying it. Yes you can protect yourself from haram it’s simple. Stay off social media, stay away from opposite gender and mixed events, you’ll live.
Completely agree with Dino. Only thing is that apprenticeships are extremely competitive and for most people being a 'hairdresser' for instance, will not be enough to pay our way through life - it's not guaranteed that everyone will find a spouse. In the UK there is an alternative student finance that Insha'Allah should be coming out in 2025 - it won't be enough to pay the whole fee but if I get a part time job whilst in university Insha'Allah I can pay it off. I'm really looking forward to studying law at uni Insha'Allah!! I also feel like there are loads of benefits of women working. You also have to take into consideration that the men marrying 18 year olds in this day and age do so for the wrong reasons - marriage is not just about being able to have intimacy with one other whenever you want its much deeper than that and I think people tend to ignore this. By aiming to become a housewife at this tender age I think it could potentially wreck the rest of her life. May Allah guide her to the right decision ameen
Been working since I was 20, I work in a daycare and love it, and I also love having my own disposable income. Even though it's not a lot, it's nice to have. Being 100% financially dependent on a husband isn't for me. I'd prefer a 70/30 split of division and labour when I marry. I have nothing but the up most respect for women who do choose that 100% stay at home life, though
As a Muslimah, education is important. I'm curious if this sister's family would be willing to financially provide for her & the kids if her husband dies? Since she's not educated, she wouldn't be able to provide for the kids. She would be dependent on her family to help her. Our religion encourages everyone learn throughout their life, from the youngest to the oldest. Our religion also teaches how good it is to educate girls. The Mother is the first teacher. I think this Sister should find a program that is cost effective so that she could learn a valuable skill in case something happens to her husband- he dies, is disabled, etc.
Let's think about a scenerio. A woman is educated and one day , God forbids she got into an accident, becomes paralyzed to bed and her husband dies. Now she can't do anything since she is completely paralyzed. So, who will provide for her now ? Who will take care of her children? Of course, she's educated but she can't work. What will happen to her now? See... When we say , we need education. Otherwise, we are doomed. This is illogical and bogus. There are many people who aren't educated but earning a hefty amount of money by doing a business, sewing clothes or cooking. When someone say without education what will happen when the husband dies ? Sister, where's your tawakkul? Allah is the sole provider. He provides for whoever He wills. Your husband, father, office or work they are just the means. When you know Allah is in control, you don't say such things. You trust Him like Hajera Ra who was left in the desert with a baby. Whose husband was alive and left her only because Allah asked him to. She put her faith in Allah the Almighty. And, He didn't leave her alone in that lonely desert. It's better to get education. There's no harm in it. But, considering it because you want to provide for your children, it's bogus. It's what the secular ideology tells. Not islam.
If a husband dead Islamically it's her fathers' responsibility to take care of her until she re-marry. We should not enter a relationship expecting our spouse will die soon. It's like starting a business with the strong expectation of bankruptcy. This notion of 'what will happen if husband die?' Is promoted by kuffar to discourage marriage. If any woman use these terms it's a clear red flag .
If they’re not Muslim it’s understandable, but we have Muslim parents convincing their daughters to go out and prioritize career over a family. Raising a family is so much more important than any man or woman’s career.
Brother , hairstylists need to go to school to learn that trade , as well as any kind of beauty services . I agree with you on not making the daughters feel like they need to be their own providers , always have open doors in case they marriage doesn’t work out but never tell your daughter she needs to be educated solely for the reason of maybe being single again . And teach the men how to be men . I have 3 sons only 1 son is Muslim (I’m a revert ) and I still tell my married non Muslim son he is responsible for. Supporting his wife and son and she doesn’t have to support herself because that’s the responsibility Allah gave to the man NOT the woman
@@OK75 He cannot give the sister a fatwa, so he has to give the best type of advice that he can give. He lives in the UAE, and it's not that uncommon to wear this, especially as a Muslim. If you would've done some research this brother talks a lot about how to always put Allah swt first and to not prioritize dunya over deen. Being logical, and speaking based on knowledge outside the Quran and Sunnah is not haram. What if he used a verse or hadith wrongly, he would be in grave danger for that. Regardless of his intention. I presume you're Somali, by looking at your name, it's "ceeb" to judge and leave a disrespectful swipe as you did now. Have husnul-dhan "best assumption" of you Muslim brother! This is the state we are in as an Ummah, brothers like yourself today, so-called "MEN" behave in this manner. Fear Allah swt Think about it if this young Muslimah actually gets an education without riba, it can benefit her future children and even her husband. A wife and husband should be an asset to each other and their children. What about the parents for how many years have they after the permission of Allah swt, fed her, put a roof over her head, educated her, and spent money on her health, beauty, and other resources she's benefiting from today. It would be reasonable to expect them to want her to relieve them of the financial burdens they ought to pay each month. You cannot expect the son-in-law to help out and fully take care of his stay-at-home wife. Come on Habibi....
Parents in general know what's in their daughter's/son's best interest. Maybe because you're seeing the story through the daughter's side, you think that she's in the right and her father is blocking her from completing the deen, which in most situations, that's not true. Fathers usually want the best for their daughters, getting a degree and a job could be very helpful for any woman especially in cases where the woman couldn't get married,gets stuck with a despicable husband and then gets divorced, or is widowed. Its sad to see lots of people, especially men, jumping and attacking fathers who grant their daughters' these opportunities and get called horrible names just because these men feel like their fathers ruined their chances with getting the tradwives they fantasize about
I think that his " Sounds like your problem " and him encouraging her for Ribba clearly shows that he is not amongst those who you are describing. And let's say it is, wanting what's best for someone doesnt automatically mean what you push towards is right. He doesn't want what's best for her in this precise context, he just doesn't trust her, doesn't have tawwakul and is ready to go against God to follow a very liberal and worldly way of living.
Lmao riba and seeing Islam through “a modern lense” does not scream out to you? May Allah continue to expose this spineless excuses of fathers. Women are like this today because of poor excuses of men!
@@muiiv2955 what does ribba have to do with anything and what are you talking about? Again, you're not listening to both sides. I've seen tons of tradwives who were left with nothing after they got divorced by their husbands who found a "younger more attractive woman. It's clear you're one of these men I was referring to
@RmonK2000 And so what? It is life. I also know a lot of women who chose their careers first but ended up missing their chances of getting married, or since they were focused on studies they never learned how to be a Muslim wife, making it impossible for them to get married and find someone. Truth is each road has it's good and bad sides, but what makes Muslim special is that they always chose what God prefers even if its counter-intuitive. Also if you want to be "realistic", nowadays studies in university are completely useless if your purpose is to find a Job, that road is more for those who want to focus on something long and specific like medicine, psychology, technology, architecture.. ect. If her purpose is just to find a stable job she can find a lot of free/cheap courses that will guarantee her a stable job. And finally like I already said, THIS SHOULD HAVE BEEN DONE IN PRIVATE. We don't know her, her situation, what she meant by getting married ( Now or getting ready for it for later) or what her father wants, my problem is that this video is going on an assumption and applying it as a general rule, that goes AGAINST the advice of the prophet peace be upon him just because " Today is different". What? You think Allah didnt know the state in which the world would be in when he brought knowledge to the prophet ? If you want to do something publicly and genelize, then do what has been said and agreed upon by the Quran and Sunnah. If you want to do specifics and exceptions, do them in private with a knowledgeable Imam, it's as simple.
Married with 2 children's here. Its a blessing but its not all rainbows n roses. Once the reality of Marriage hits she may astray. I have many friends who got married at the age of 18. 5/10/15yrs down the line they wish they had done more for themselves.. and postpartum depression is a whole new crazy place!
Ill join the negative comment's on saying that this take is very bias and doesnt take in account a lot of Islamic things. As a muslims the way of living is very straightforward: Have tawwakul, do your best to do as many things as possible to please allah and stay away from Haram. From there, anything that happens to you is good, even if the world crumbles, because allah is with you. This mentality of " Yeah but in this time it's different" or the " Let's be realistic " is just a way to find excuses to stray away from the path because you think you know better. This is extremely wrong and harmful. Also, what makes you assume that she is emotional ? I mean it's a possibility yes, but I know a lot of young women that managed to get married early and they were happy about it, it is still a choice. And even if she doesn't get married now, having to be mentally focused on getting prepared for it on focusing on the deen would be nothing but beneficial. As for the financial aspect of things, like I said, it comes from tawwakul, but you don't need to go to university to find a decent paying job without Ikhtilat. This video should've focused on explaining to her how to deal with her father, trying to find a Halal compromise without making him angry, teaching her about patience, how to make dua and a more deep dive into the options she has. I highly advise to take down this video as it might create a lot of problems and will be an issue for you on the Judgment day, but if you feel confident enough about your advice to leave it... Allahu a3lam.
I have a soster whos finished highschool. Shes not looking to marry because shes essentially a child mentally, not because of any disabilities but because of the society we live in. In islam your viewed as an adult when youve hit puberty but here in the west its when you hit 20(these days even 20 is a child in the west, siting studies that the brain fully matures at 25). So what can she do now that shes finished highschool? Uni/further education isnt a bad solution, inshallah if they've been raised right theyll know what to avoid and what to engage with gaining life experience, maturing, learing about herself, her deen. And if she finds someone alhamdulillah.
Why hr thinks that she is being emotional... When I used to vr young teenagers I would love ro have a husband that take care me financially and I take care of thr house... Many girls dreams this, and I wasn't even a Muslim. When we are younger between 14 to 18 in my time. I dream of being a housewife take care of my husband etc. I would like to work but not my priority and for my mother was fine too she would love for someone to take care of me. I think this is all about people to people, and culture to culture. People today in the media is the one that is turning peoples way to think like what do you want to be when you grow up and bla bla bla. My husband do everything for my daughter to get into university in the future, his whole family are very well educated. Doctors etc my husband too. And I wish for my daughter to be too, but I am afraid she lose her deen. I see how university girl are this days... The mans here where I live talk with every girl they find in the street... Astarfirullah... I wish my daughter's would married a husband that would take care of her. 😢 Me my self I am struggling with my marriage... I am a reverted about 10 years, I am practicing muslim my husband is not. So much difference in our way to think our mentality yet I still respect him and I keep this marriage for the sake of my kids and our family. But Walahi is not easy...may Allah make it easy for all of us.
I agree, its not emotional decision, most girls actually want that life, also you dont have to go to university if you dont want to study in STEM especially, for the time being though I would advice her to go learn something, a skill both Islamic and secular whatever since youre not married anyways and should always focus on yourself, learning isnt just about money
Yeah I didn't like that either, I know a bunch of very smart girls that actually want to get married young. It's pretty simple really, they know what they want, so they want to invest in it early, and since its also a way of worship, it's a complete win. Plus when it comes to making a living, let's be honest, as long as you're not willing to do a long career that needs years of study, studying is useless. You can get the Job you Want by just going into an internship or something.
So becoming a wife, not only that a housewife where the husband is the sole provider is a walk in the park. Do you know what kind of dynamic you will be in, not nessaceraly negative one. However it's not easy, think about the restraint it might put on the relationship, look at social media and what it has done when it comes to expectations as a wife and a husband. You might say I can live within or below my means and be a housewife by the age of 17-18 but the reality is that not many women who grew up in the West are capable of that. Some might but that's a small minority. It's easy to talk the talk but walking the walk is a different beast. Dino is correct, she is emotional because nr.1 you cannot just say "I will be a housewife" your parents have rights over you, nr.2 Her father has to be investigated how as her "Wali" instructs her to take riba based loan, he is a wrongdoer indeed. Nr.3 She should look at other ways to make her parents happy and stop with "I want Myself, this is what is best for me". Her parents have wisdom minus the riba part. The Divorce rate among young Muslim couples is high, I would suggest anyone think and make an objective plan before romanticizing marriage and being a housewife.
@aj3706 What you are saying here is not wrong in some parts, but the issue is that you are talking solely based on assumptions. In our religion we adapt and we take each person based on her state, that's what's good about it. My problem is him generalizing and making you think that it is the only option for you, and that is just factually false. And the wrong assumption there is that her parents...well, here her father, is wise. Telling your girl to do something which includes a major haram, and when asking for more your answer is " Not my problem " doesn't sound like someone wise to me. IF we will go on assumptions like you're doing.
@@muiiv2955 I agree with you on those parts and I can agree that he’s wisdom is more about life/dunya and the formidable future based on his life experience. He is not to be taken seriously from an Islamic or deen perspective. If her father is lacking in one and a very important aspect of her life does that render him from being a wise person, the answer is “no” Yes, we can’t generalize but most people fall into that general advice he gave. Unfortunately she has little to no life experience, being a Muslim housewife and mother is completely different than being anything other than that of an kuffar. A Muslim has to walk on the middle path, don’t go to either extreme. So she should look into every possible way to get into the educational route without riba, on a degree that is practical and beneficial. Like health, social, teaching etc. She should be looking for ways to repay her parents even though she’ll never be able to do so aswell as us all including me first. It’s very immature and may Allah swt forgive us all to think of situation as back and white. She can make dua, pray Tahajjud or even istakhara prayer for education without ribe ofc. Rather than looking at the recruitment of her father minus the riba part as a do or die moment. I still believe it emotional reaction which is understandable but she has to take a step back and re assess her situation and consult with a sheikh/iman with 100% confidentiality agreements. For her to suggest an Fatwa for this matter is not mature or necessary. Find a way without riba or something else entirely
Asalamualaikum! This brother is way too young to be giving advice without quoting Quran and sunnah . He mentioned being realistic so many times which is super concerning as if there is no such thing as barakah and dua. My first question is does this brother have a daughter?😅 Financing house? Why can't you as a provider rent a house your whole life as many sheikhs do? Also he seems to be freely promoting free mixing by saying the sister should get education outside? I guess we should all be more realistic Brother faiyads take even though he agreed with the other brother is more thought out and compassionate. There's a difference between being understanding and having Liberal realistic takes
duuude, finally some level headed muslim, this guys didnt even give advice to this young revert girl to : STOP DM'ing non mahram men, laymen, lack in islamic knowledge, and all these things, they promote seclusion, haram chatting, girls and women now DM these dawah " bros" asking stuff about islam, and they're not even scholars, they just enjoy and normalized to the idea non mahram young girls are messaging them privately now, and reply with sis and give hear emojis etc. even me as a stranger to the girl i got protective jealousy over her, dawa bros needs to go extinct and called out, please read my comment above about this topic and how im over this dude, 2 comments, a bit lengthy but from the heart, and a 3rd one got deleted, guess he still wants non mahram women slide in his DMs, ohh its okay its for islamic questions, yeah say that to Allah s.w.t, who are you guys trying to fool here ? women need to know better, daughter, sisters, mothers, wives, i asked him if he's okay with his wife or daughter messaging another dawa bro about these topics, btw i ignored what he even told her as advice, its all bs and mumbo jumbo word salad, all of a sudden they are wiser and more knowledgeable on islam and business than scholars , and are super rich and alpha males and they are the real men and all muslim naive women should go to them . this is the kind of messaging and attitude i get from these fake guys , so condescending as if they know islam and life better than most , like that ali needs dawa with his bitter fitnah show etc , and all i mentioned was how haram it is for non mahrams to chat to each other privately like they just did, and still more women DM these dawa "bros " as if sheikhs and scholars dont exist, we know what they're doing, they aren't fooling anybody but the yes men and naive women, most of them look at how successful and " islamic " these guys are that they sometimes even chat them up offering marriage im guessing. all a grift, to collect naive ignorant young girls and women so they have a big pool of girls to sift through. Allah s.w.t knows best. im just glad someone else at least pointed out the haram idea of this channel and advice to " SISTERS " as if women need them to fix thier lives and only them.
is faid deleting my comments ? i agree with you, haram to DM non mahrams, and he replies sis and heart emoji, he wont like his daughter or wife or sister DM other dawa " bros " about islamic advice and topics, as if he is all wise and business smart, better than scholars and sheikhs ? read my longer comment, from the heart, that if he didnt delete them also, 3 of them, now only 2, i keep them saved, but what i replied to you got deleted didnt save it, oh well, Allah s.w.t will deal with him and his intentions and haram promotion.
is faid deleting my comments ? i agree with you, haram to DM non mahrams, and he replies sis and heart emoji, he wont like his daughter or wife or sister DM other dawa " bros " about islamic advice and topics, as if he is all wise and business smart, better than scholars and sheikhs ? read my longer comment, from the heart, that if he didnt delete them also, 3 of them, now only 2, i keep them saved, but what i replied to you got deleted didnt save it, oh well, Allah s.w.t will deal with him and his intentions and haram promotion.
Yeah, I always get the "realistic" response from folks. But my issue is, where does it end? It feels like a door that once opened is difficult to close. Things will inevitably get harder for us as Muslims to practice our deen. What value is our Imaan if at the first sign of struggle against secularism, we let secularism win?
You go to school to learn the material and go home. You don’t have to free mix. Do you say the same to guys in school? Go do what you need to do and go home. Same for going to the market/store. Don’t you go there? Okay then.
This is the Problem... Women Not only Bring seperated and protected Like all of them are 10/10 princesses and No men is worthy, No they also have to compete with men in their dutys so its even more difficult for everybody... Makes No sense whats with These people?
The Islamic thing to do would be her father to find a suitable husband for her and support her in her halal choice instead of push her towards haram. As muslim dawat they should both be giving advice based only on Islam. Any advice outside of Islamic laws they need to clearly said that it's their opinion.
17 years of marriage and I am positive my husband would of left me if I did not work or he would of married a second wife. Cause I bring money value to the house he has stayed, let’s not assume all men can fully provide 100% and I will ensure my kids are educated and also on the deen and understand what it means to be a Muslim women In’shaa’allah
dino says strange things. a 17-18 year old woman can't get married and be a housewife ? what ? why does he think this is something unrealistic, while our religion claims that the purpose of a woman is to take care of the house ? why should she study at a university or somewhere else, if being a housewife (even at such a young age) is better for her, so as not to expose herself to unnecessary fitna ? her "emotionality," as you call it, actually speaks to her righteousness. it is better for brother dino not to think within the framework of "realistic", "unrealistic", but within the framework of the quran and the sunnah. advice to sister. don't go to uni, even if your family don’t like it, it doesn't matter, because there is no obedience to creatures in disobeying the creator, you can get some skills, freelance, something like that, until you get married. may Allah make it easy for you 🤍
he's speaks exactly like a follower of liberalism, whether he wants to admit it or lie to himself. He's employing the same exact fears they try to use on women to stop them from being mothers.
Where in the Quran or Sunnah does it say the sole purpose of women is to take care of the house? Getting an education does NOT go against the teachings of Allah. The Prophet said "Seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim". Yes, housewives are amazing women and very valuable. But women are not limited to being housewives, this is not a teaching of Islam. Every Muslim, male and female is encouraged and required to seek knowlege. The first word revealed to the Prophet pbuh was "READ". If women want to seek knowledge through university, she is allowed to do so. Let's not forget Khadijah was a merchant/ businesswoman, Aisha was an Islamic scholar, one of the best. The first university in the world was built by a Muslim woman, Fatima al-Fihri. Getting a higher education is not limited for men, this is rediculous and extreme. We need women in the medical, educational, historical, etc fields. Every woman is unique.
@@guidedstars 1. It's referring to seeking islamic knowledge. Not secular knowledge 2. Aisha ra was the wife of the Prophet SAW and had an amazing memory therefore she transmitted many Hadith. She didn't go to a school to study secular knowledge 3. Khadija ra inherited her business, she didn't interact with non mahram men, she had male family members and servant. Remember she proposed to the Prophet SAW through a servant after hearing about him, not seeing him. She was also a housewife and stayed home and took care of and had children when the Prophet SAW married her. Took care of him etc. Her duties towards him as a wife and the degree to which she helped him is the why she has such a high reward. 3. The first university was established by a wealthy woman. It didn't however have women attending it. In fact any place of higher education like that did not have women attending it. Sorry to burst your bubble. A woman financing a university doesn't prove anything. 4. Higher education can be for women too and is not haram for women, but it is a necessity for the man to work and provide, not a necessity for the woman. Allah highly recommends women to stay in their homes and not display themselves like the women of ignorance, the Pophet SAW outlines in numerous Hadith the role of a wife, noweher is it encouraged for women to go study and ignore being a mother. Islam doesn't promote women wasting youth and fertility to go study. This was never done in history why now? Because you think it is a right of muslim women but it's not a right and never has been. You are entitled to islamic knowledge, no where does it say women have a right to go to learn physics and philosophy and accounting. This is a privilege.
@@khalidnoor7735They’re allowed to seek any knowledge they want. I know MANY housewives who wish they could have something to work on because they are also humans with desires and a need for doing something other than cooking and cleaning, in other words they need to have a life. And theres absolutely nothing wrong with that as long as what they do is halal. Nowhere in the Quran does it mention that its haram to waste youth on education, and nobody is even asking women to waste their youth on it, they can be both mothers and study/work, they’re not mutually exclusive matters. And it’s not one fits all. Everybody is different and has different needs and capabilities, So don’t act like education is haram for women or even makruh, because this is not in Islam. Basic duties are being a mother and wife, but they can be anything too besides that if she so desires and takes care of the basics.
@@Big-gp9bi The Islamic definition of Ikhtilat doesn't stop at nightclubs and bars. While being in environment where two genders are mixed is not haram, it is highly not recommended. Interacting with them outside of necessity is.
Dino's words are so realistic. May Allah bless him. Going through a similar situation right now. The difference is it’s my MOTHER! Dad is ok with me doing whatever I want for my well being but mom is so emotional that her tortures don't seem to end.
Truth is many muslim men do as they please. They can leave their wifes to look for next thing. Nothing wrong with getting an education but being a mom is more rewarding. The problem is if a mother has low support during her motherhood it can cause her to have depressions. Also there are cases where men pretended to be something they not just to get a wife. Then the wife knows then the true him that she doesnt like. We lack honesty and true love for marriages to last and people leave familiez for their own selfintrest. Is becoming harder for traditional marriages when men cant seem to understand the woman they marry. Instead he think submission means she will obey a man without anything. Truth is a man need to earn his wife trust and respect before shes willing to be the wife he wants. Most often men negolect their wifes to go for his own pleasures. And women get overwealmed by motherhood and lack of care.
With all due respect, i whole-heartedly disagree with brother Dino. There is nothing wrong with wanting to become a housewife at such a young age. It is our God given right to be taken care and provided for. I dislike when men use "we live in a difficult time" to escape their responsibilty. If it is hard step up your game and earn more. Hard times create stong men. The world is full of many opportunities, cease it. May Allah correct our affairs.
Dinos reaction baffled me. "We live in a day where men can not afford household" An indoctrinated statement that should never be uttered from a Muslim woman or mans mouth. First of all, this is simply not true, it will never be true, as Allah created and perfected our religion knowing the hardships we would have in the future and if there was going to be a time where men and women will be expected to pay the bills together, then Islam would have decreed such. Such a statement is wrong and its just something the brainwashed society wants you to parrot so you come to terms with the 2 person tax cow working mentality. If a person can afford 1 person, they can afford 2 people, or 3 or 4. You got people on welfare and disability cheques living it up of government income thats far less than the average minimum wage monthly earner, yet they are able to get by. You live according to your means, but your job as a Muslim man does not change just because "hardship". Do we think poor people did not live at the time of the Sahaba? There are far less resources and far more hardship then having to fetch water, heat water with fire, having to deal with no AC or heat, fighting off the elements yet people carry on with their religious duties and those duties are timeless. They do not change. So we can not normalize such statements, because its as silly as saying "We live in modern times now, we can not possibly pray 5 times a day because we must work" or "We live in an expensive world we can not just deal with getting riba loan to buy a house". "No parent on this planet that would accept their daughter saying they do not want education and just want to be a housewife" ..... I do not know a single Muslim female who would say such a statement, instead, they would be proud of their daughter, and we fear that our daughters get brainwashed by this "you must work" and "you need 2 incomes" "times have changed" false mentality that is sinking into the ummah. Dinos whole mentality on this is a product of the public indoctri....ahem, education system.
People can't afford for one either. We have people living alone who can't afford to put the heating on in the Uk, or they can't afford food beyond beans and rice. Is that living? Sure but its a shitty way to live. Nobody wants to live paycheck to paycheck. I'm a teenage girl and I don't have to live paycheck to paycheck because both my parents work. I know that if I put the heating on this winter nothing bad will happen because my parents with their combined income can afford the bill. I know that when I come home from school there's a full pot of chicken and potatoes and all the vegetables I need for our dinner. Some of my friends don't have that. Also, what you said about disability is misleading bc the reason why some disable ppl can live it up as you put it, is bc government pays rent, council tax for you so the disabled person has less costs overall compared to a working man who'd get no help.
@@Cherries2249 your whole point is again "realistic" and lacks conviction to Allah azzawajal. We as Muslims do our best to submit and ask for forgiveness where we fall short. So trying to be the breadwinner is the duty of every Muslim man and not change our way to making 2 income household a norm. Any challenges and hardship that befalls such a family is a test from Allah azzawajal. Its that simple
@@waqarulshah7515 we also have free will. Women can decide whether they want to live in a house paycheck to paycheck. I don't, and my mum didn't want to either. That's the beauty of choice
@@Cherries2249 imagine being so young and you are so indoctrinated into this mentality… If such a concept was even remotely true you would find a non-Muslims NOT having kids, because if 1 income can’t support 1 person, and 2 incomes is only possible to support 2 people, then having kids would be out of question because people would instantly become starving not able to support the kids. You would find people whose spouses passed away or left them, having to give up their kids because they wouldn’t be able to feed them at all, according to your logic. If such a thing was even remotely true, you would find people actively seeking out a relationship because somebody could not possibly live in this world without having another person supplementing their expenses. It’s such a crazy ideology was anywhere remotely true than in every single country where people parrot these ideologies, how come 70% of the unbrainwashed normal population can do it, yet they can’t? I’ve lived in many countries. I am absolutely poor. I started a company while I was squatting, living 100% off the food bank, in order to get out of true poverty. You think having rice and beans is poverty??? Alhamdulillah! Go abroad and see the entitlement you were born into, because 80% of the people in this world don’t have running water, shelters, government assistance, food banks, or beans and rice to bring home to their families. Men out there in this world go out to work for 3$ a day and come home with few pieces of bread for their 5 kids. People in poor nations have the most kids, yet absolutely nobody forsakes their religious duties & they know that the husbands job is to provide and there’s no obligation for the women of the house to do it. Meanwhile in the western world we have 30-40% of the population brainwashed like yourself into thinking this. It’s not going to work. I’m double your age and I’ve seen the world. I came from poverty. It’s really sad that you don’t think Allah perfected and completed his religion and that Allah forgot to mention in 2024 you’ll need 2 incomes or 3 incomes or 5 incomes to live.
It's next to impossible for the average man to just get married like it's nothing sisters are very very picky with thier husband decesion based on looks
Firstly what are you two gentlemen's educational and employment backgrounds? Is social media content your main source of income? Muslim dads (and moms) don't want their daughters and potential grand children to suffer a lifetime of financial instability. Its more desirable to have the daughter have a safety net of being able to provide for herself than it would be to gamble leaving her to depend on an unaspiring or unambitious and uneducated man. Which I'm sorry to say seems to be the predicament of many young men today.
I'll give you the low down on this. Father wants daughter to be independent so she does not marry someone like him who is unfaithful and downright abusive and disrespectful to his wife. He knows what men can do and what they do and does not want his daughter to be a victim to it. We girls out here who want religious and faithful men who take care of themselves (i.e. not unkempt) and can provide both financially and emotionally to our needs yet, but how does one do that with a father who is busy looking for his second wife...or fling? Alhamdullilah, I am grateful I have studied and educated myself in both academia and in the deen, because if I didn't have this career as well as focusing on my religion and my rights, what exactly do I have? I can make money whilst also contributing to my society and serving their needs rather than being stuck at home without a husband and feeling sorry for myself.
why jump to conclusion that said husband will be bad and leave ???? you guys are making the self fulfilling prophecy , buy not putting all the effort and having a suit case ready incase it doesn't work, are you not a muslim ? dont you have tawakul on Allah s.w.t ? cant you open your eyes and ears and see before you marry if he/ she is right for marriage ? and about work, is the work gonna stop her from being a good practicing muslim ? is the work haram, in a mixed environment with men ? work in art or riba or haram stuff shirk etc ???? if yes, then NO, dont promote such filth, if its a stay home job, selling halal stuff, or work is halal in general, doesn't take a lot of her time, doesn't stop her from giving her husband all his rights, and he allows her to work then no probs, but if she is not married, and only focus on job ? what is this ? is she planning to grow a mustache as well ? IF she gets married you'd think she will stop and follows her husband islamically ? or keep that boss babe money babe mentatty ? keep up the good work bruh, you guys are going places, very hot places if you keep promoting haram ideas destroying the foundation of muslim couples. you guys have life ahead, and islam behind, you'll never see the truth or go places with this, are you a westernized kafir ? or a real muslim with tawakul and iman ? you guys are breeding and creating more and more bad muslim men and women, with this mentality any good muslim man will be turned bad if his crazy wife is ready to bounce first sign of trouble, and downloaded all these feminist ideas, if the husband is fair, caring, just, and can afford it, loving etc all the good stuff, its non of your business if he marries another wife, its his god given right, without stating the stupid obvious " duhhh wHat If He's BaD etc etc " we all know the answer to that, think of positives not negatives, or your life will be dull and measurable . man , you really are annoying and make your own villains dont you ?, you'll turn anybody bad and evil as a husband .
@@BruvahSulaiman It's the reality. Alot of men left their wives like this in our community a lot throughout the generations present to past. In the past the women in our community just didn't complain about it (they had other women helping them out - even that was a struggle). Remember we live in dunya and it's a father's job to protect his family there is no guarantee a husband will always be deep down righteous (thats a barakah/Blessing the same way having a pious wife is a barakah it's not always guaranteed) .
@@consensualcode9750 The women of the past didn't complain because they had tawakkul and they knew that their rizq came from Ar-Razzaq all along. Not the men who left them. If you didn't die of starvation or live on the street before you were married and you didn't die of starvation or live on the street while you were married, then you should have enough trust in Allah that you won't end up that way after you are left by a husband regardless if you have something to fall back on or not. A bad husband leaving is quite literally a good thing. You didn't have anything to fall back on when you were 6 years old did you? But Allah provided you with what you needed to reach 7 didn't He? Then He did the same for you from 7 to 8? Then again from 8 to 9, and so on like that until you made it to where you are now? At which age exactly does Ar-Razzaq require that you become independent? You've already experienced depending on the parents Allah gave you with nothing to fall back on. Now you look to enter a marriage with the assumption that the husband you choose won't be enough for you like your parents were? The time and effort spent establishing that independence is time and effort not spent developing the skills and temperament to be the best wife and mother you could be. With no dedicated effort to becoming a great wife and mother you expect to just naturally be one? But you don't expect to continue to receive provisions from Allah without dedicated effort? And if that mentality was taught to you by your own poor example of a father given in the original comment, why would you assume that such a bad father's mentality is the correct one for you to adopt? What does a bad husband/father know about raising a good daughter or finding a good husband? If a bad husband/father wants his daughter to find a good husband, then he needs to humble himself and find a good husband/father to seek advice on raising his daughter to be what a good man would want. Projecting his poor character onto every man and teaching his daughter to doubt them all because they might be like him is nonsensical.
These comments are just distasteful. Theres nothing wrkng with being educated and being married, seriously. I love my dad, hes the reason im going to work hard and become a pediatrician or OBYN practitioner. If i am working a halal job AND obtain my degree in a halal way AND get married in a halal way, i dont see the problem? How dare you flame parents wo just want the best for their children? Before you use the excuse that im a harami feminist, of course i understand that free-mixing is haram, and i am invloved in my deen enough fo know whats wrong and whats right.
Example of the prophet's wives? The majority were not mothers (biologically). All the prophet's children were from his first wife (who was wealthy career woman before she married) except one, Ibrahim, who passed after only 2 or 3 years old. (pbut)
@@ozzieone16 "O wives of the Prophet! *You are not like any other women* " They had special rules specifically applicable to them. To avoid misconduct or any scandalous talk from "rumour-mongers in Medina" where the prophet pbuh was now Head of State
@@heregoes8839 Yes it is their duties at home they did the chores of household as their primary role a stay at home wife is someone who’s spouse provides while they do the duties of their household that’s what they did also Quran says best place for women is? their home
I look at my parents generation and think the men of my father’s generation were truly blessed with housewives who would dedicate their lives to their families and worshiping Allah. Then I look at my generation and feel depressed. I feel like I cannot attain what my father had in this day and age. It is frustrating and infuriating. I pray Allah’s wrath is upon those who have damaged our generation so much. Who have made halal hard and haram easy. Who have deviated from the path of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and the Sahaba. May anyone who advocates to be modern and to look at Islam through a modern lense incur the wrath of Allah and may Allah curse such individuals. Islam is everlasting not bound to any time period.
@@zaki0938 it still sounds wrong to tell a stranger who yk will tell the story on his online platform. you dont need to tell him in order to know that the fathers behavior was wrong, especially the riba part. and yes a woman having an education will give her the opportunity to having a Plan B when the marriage is bad and she has no way out? true she can go back to her parents but as a n adult shell want to be financially independent also to support her kids. also i think its just her father trying to show her, her self worth is more than just being her husband's servant for the rest of her life. and yes its reducing her to the level of a maid to say that fathers should encourage their daughters to be the servant for her husband as her end life goal and purpose. she is lucky, many muslim fathers will stop her from getting an education so she can get married as fast as possible without giving her the right to even consider pursuing an education and getting financially independent. was he harsh? sure but i do believe he had her best interest at heart minus the riba
@@Jijfr-vw4us she definitly asked the wrong person she should have gone to a sheikh(staying anonymous) and she wanted advice on what to do, u said that her fathers wrong but also defending what hes doing so asking for help was needed
@@Jijfr-vw4us and there nothing wrong for a women to serve her family its actually praiseworthy. getting an education is also important but if she needs to do riba for that the answer should be obvious
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Housewife of 12 years here.
I reverted at 17 after I graduated HS. And went to university while I learned my Deen. Met my husband to be in Dec of my Senior year. Graduated May 18, and got married May 22…. I eloped because my family (non-muslim) would not have supported my husband or want to be a wife/stay at home mom.
I do have this degree “to fall back on” but never do I think my husband will leave me or fail to provide. I only think if he dies early to protect my children from hunger and homelessness.
May Allah bless yall
As a Muslima in Uni, I think that education is extremely valuable and a privilege. U can peruse Islamic and the other education as well, also it‘s not even „western“ education cause we as Muslims have contributed into most of scientific knowledge with the grace of Allah : medicine, psychology, architecture, astrology, neuroscience anddd much more. The first university in the world was founded by a hijabi muslimah TabarakaAllah. Let’s not act like we don’t belong in the educational realm. We should put Allah first in every situation in life, as he has decreed what we’re gonna be in life. ❤ live your life and enjoy the stages of it( school, uni, marriage, children, grandchildren.) because you never know if ur gonna live until the next stage.
Western education refers mostly to the mixed enironment
May Allah help this sister, she's definitely on the right path. Public Education is cancer and what makes me sad is that modern day parents think education even more important than worshiping Allah, may Allah protect us.
Allahumma ameen. The system is designed to make us fail.
Ameen
Education is apart of worshiping Allah. Public education is right for some people, and not right for others. If we didn't have public education, we wouldn't have doctors, teachers, historians, etc. The first university was founded by a Muslim woman. Being a housewife is right for some women, not for others. Ofcourse, you should stay with your kids 24/7 for the first years of their life. But being a housewife as a full time job for the rest of your life isn't meant for all women, every woman is unique. Our society would fall without educated women.
@@guidedstars public education is satanic and people need to realize that, it will take you away from Allah and has the potential to make you a kaffer.
@@guidedstarswestern public education is not right for any Muslim. It is filled with dangerous ideologies that are antithetical to Islam. There are alternatives to public western education. Note this does not include Muslim countries because they do not include such ideologies into their school system. Society would fall without educated women? What? Society has been going on for centuries and is only degenerating recently lmao. Plus, were the wives of the Prophet university educated? 😂
Islam is clear. The home and children is the woman’s number one priority. It should not be sacrificed for anything of this world.
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This girl should be asking a sheikh not a youtuber online. and if she has problems with how her father thinks then she should discuss it with him and keep trying to convince him and not see him as the enemy here.
Muslim women- LEARN YOUR DEEN FIRST. We should at a bare minimum learn the fundamentals of Islam. There are plenty of classes both in real life and online.
Not mutually exclusive. Can do both and it’s not gender based.
@@amatulfulani6390 There is a full on attack on women, toward religious women and especially to Muslim women.
It is trying to make them more liberal and a twisted independence from all their loved ones only to be made dependant on society, some organisations and the government.
It is easier to go after women than men because they are less disagreeable. And men follow and chase women.
So the system is coming to both women and men.
The system just uses both direct and indirect attacks. It is slightly more direct on women and indirect on men. But at age, it is almost the same now.
Where are some courses?
There are one i know, online and free, zad academy but the semester has begun now@@SmileG333
I learn my deen and I work.
As much as I want marriage, I rather improve myself as a Muslim woman first. I look back and imagine if I had got married younger and how I would not understand the role of a Muslim wife.
@@Mk98711 nobody said I’m delaying it. Yes you can protect yourself from haram it’s simple. Stay off social media, stay away from opposite gender and mixed events, you’ll live.
@@Mk98711 I’m happy pleasing Allah as I am :)
Completely agree with Dino. Only thing is that apprenticeships are extremely competitive and for most people being a 'hairdresser' for instance, will not be enough to pay our way through life - it's not guaranteed that everyone will find a spouse. In the UK there is an alternative student finance that Insha'Allah should be coming out in 2025 - it won't be enough to pay the whole fee but if I get a part time job whilst in university Insha'Allah I can pay it off. I'm really looking forward to studying law at uni Insha'Allah!! I also feel like there are loads of benefits of women working. You also have to take into consideration that the men marrying 18 year olds in this day and age do so for the wrong reasons - marriage is not just about being able to have intimacy with one other whenever you want its much deeper than that and I think people tend to ignore this. By aiming to become a housewife at this tender age I think it could potentially wreck the rest of her life. May Allah guide her to the right decision ameen
Been working since I was 20, I work in a daycare and love it, and I also love having my own disposable income. Even though it's not a lot, it's nice to have. Being 100% financially dependent on a husband isn't for me. I'd prefer a 70/30 split of division and labour when I marry. I have nothing but the up most respect for women who do choose that 100% stay at home life, though
As a Muslimah, education is important. I'm curious if this sister's family would be willing to financially provide for her & the kids if her husband dies? Since she's not educated, she wouldn't be able to provide for the kids. She would be dependent on her family to help her. Our religion encourages everyone learn throughout their life, from the youngest to the oldest. Our religion also teaches how good it is to educate girls. The Mother is the first teacher. I think this Sister should find a program that is cost effective so that she could learn a valuable skill in case something happens to her husband- he dies, is disabled, etc.
Let's think about a scenerio. A woman is educated and one day , God forbids she got into an accident, becomes paralyzed to bed and her husband dies. Now she can't do anything since she is completely paralyzed. So, who will provide for her now ? Who will take care of her children? Of course, she's educated but she can't work. What will happen to her now? See... When we say , we need education. Otherwise, we are doomed. This is illogical and bogus. There are many people who aren't educated but earning a hefty amount of money by doing a business, sewing clothes or cooking. When someone say without education what will happen when the husband dies ? Sister, where's your tawakkul? Allah is the sole provider. He provides for whoever He wills. Your husband, father, office or work they are just the means. When you know Allah is in control, you don't say such things. You trust Him like Hajera Ra who was left in the desert with a baby. Whose husband was alive and left her only because Allah asked him to. She put her faith in Allah the Almighty. And, He didn't leave her alone in that lonely desert. It's better to get education. There's no harm in it. But, considering it because you want to provide for your children, it's bogus. It's what the secular ideology tells. Not islam.
If a husband dead Islamically it's her fathers' responsibility to take care of her until she re-marry. We should not enter a relationship expecting our spouse will die soon. It's like starting a business with the strong expectation of bankruptcy. This notion of 'what will happen if husband die?' Is promoted by kuffar to discourage marriage. If any woman use these terms it's a clear red flag .
Did my Bachelor did my Masters degree and still my parents call me crazy for wanting to be a stay at home wife😂
They are not muslim may Allah guide them amin
If they’re not Muslim it’s understandable, but we have Muslim parents convincing their daughters to go out and prioritize career over a family. Raising a family is so much more important than any man or woman’s career.
@@Mk98711 lack of traditional islamic values in the home is to blame
@@ClA-fh5pb noo need to takfir doe but they are fasiq 😅
I love working
Brother , hairstylists need to go to school to learn that trade , as well as any kind of beauty services . I agree with you on not making the daughters feel like they need to be their own providers , always have open doors in case they marriage doesn’t work out but never tell your daughter she needs to be educated solely for the reason of maybe being single again . And teach the men how to be men . I have 3 sons only 1 son is Muslim (I’m a revert ) and I still tell my married non Muslim son he is responsible for. Supporting his wife and son and she doesn’t have to support herself because that’s the responsibility Allah gave to the man NOT the woman
Hes wearing a khamis and a kufiya but speaks like a Liberal, the world is a funny place
Exactly
@@OK75 He cannot give the sister a fatwa, so he has to give the best type of advice that he can give. He lives in the UAE, and it's not that uncommon to wear this, especially as a Muslim. If you would've done some research this brother talks a lot about how to always put Allah swt first and to not prioritize dunya over deen. Being logical, and speaking based on knowledge outside the Quran and Sunnah is not haram. What if he used a verse or hadith wrongly, he would be in grave danger for that. Regardless of his intention.
I presume you're Somali, by looking at your name, it's "ceeb" to judge and leave a disrespectful swipe as you did now.
Have husnul-dhan "best assumption" of you Muslim brother!
This is the state we are in as an Ummah, brothers like yourself today, so-called "MEN" behave in this manner. Fear Allah swt
Think about it if this young Muslimah actually gets an education without riba, it can benefit her future children and even her husband. A wife and husband should be an asset to each other and their children. What about the parents for how many years have they after the permission of Allah swt, fed her, put a roof over her head, educated her, and spent money on her health, beauty, and other resources she's benefiting from today. It would be reasonable to expect them to want her to relieve them of the financial burdens they ought to pay each month. You cannot expect the son-in-law to help out and fully take care of his stay-at-home wife. Come on Habibi....
Completely agree.
Parents in general know what's in their daughter's/son's best interest. Maybe because you're seeing the story through the daughter's side, you think that she's in the right and her father is blocking her from completing the deen, which in most situations, that's not true. Fathers usually want the best for their daughters, getting a degree and a job could be very helpful for any woman especially in cases where the woman couldn't get married,gets stuck with a despicable husband and then gets divorced, or is widowed.
Its sad to see lots of people, especially men, jumping and attacking fathers who grant their daughters' these opportunities and get called horrible names just because these men feel like their fathers ruined their chances with getting the tradwives they fantasize about
I think that his " Sounds like your problem " and him encouraging her for Ribba clearly shows that he is not amongst those who you are describing.
And let's say it is, wanting what's best for someone doesnt automatically mean what you push towards is right. He doesn't want what's best for her in this precise context, he just doesn't trust her, doesn't have tawwakul and is ready to go against God to follow a very liberal and worldly way of living.
uhh, riba?
Lmao riba and seeing Islam through “a modern lense” does not scream out to you? May Allah continue to expose this spineless excuses of fathers. Women are like this today because of poor excuses of men!
@@muiiv2955 what does ribba have to do with anything and what are you talking about? Again, you're not listening to both sides. I've seen tons of tradwives who were left with nothing after they got divorced by their husbands who found a "younger more attractive woman. It's clear you're one of these men I was referring to
@RmonK2000 And so what? It is life. I also know a lot of women who chose their careers first but ended up missing their chances of getting married, or since they were focused on studies they never learned how to be a Muslim wife, making it impossible for them to get married and find someone. Truth is each road has it's good and bad sides, but what makes Muslim special is that they always chose what God prefers even if its counter-intuitive.
Also if you want to be "realistic", nowadays studies in university are completely useless if your purpose is to find a Job, that road is more for those who want to focus on something long and specific like medicine, psychology, technology, architecture.. ect. If her purpose is just to find a stable job she can find a lot of free/cheap courses that will guarantee her a stable job.
And finally like I already said, THIS SHOULD HAVE BEEN DONE IN PRIVATE. We don't know her, her situation, what she meant by getting married ( Now or getting ready for it for later) or what her father wants, my problem is that this video is going on an assumption and applying it as a general rule, that goes AGAINST the advice of the prophet peace be upon him just because " Today is different". What? You think Allah didnt know the state in which the world would be in when he brought knowledge to the prophet ?
If you want to do something publicly and genelize, then do what has been said and agreed upon by the Quran and Sunnah. If you want to do specifics and exceptions, do them in private with a knowledgeable Imam, it's as simple.
Married with 2 children's here. Its a blessing but its not all rainbows n roses. Once the reality of Marriage hits she may astray. I have many friends who got married at the age of 18. 5/10/15yrs down the line they wish they had done more for themselves.. and postpartum depression is a whole new crazy place!
Ill join the negative comment's on saying that this take is very bias and doesnt take in account a lot of Islamic things.
As a muslims the way of living is very straightforward: Have tawwakul, do your best to do as many things as possible to please allah and stay away from Haram. From there, anything that happens to you is good, even if the world crumbles, because allah is with you.
This mentality of " Yeah but in this time it's different" or the " Let's be realistic " is just a way to find excuses to stray away from the path because you think you know better. This is extremely wrong and harmful.
Also, what makes you assume that she is emotional ? I mean it's a possibility yes, but I know a lot of young women that managed to get married early and they were happy about it, it is still a choice. And even if she doesn't get married now, having to be mentally focused on getting prepared for it on focusing on the deen would be nothing but beneficial.
As for the financial aspect of things, like I said, it comes from tawwakul, but you don't need to go to university to find a decent paying job without Ikhtilat.
This video should've focused on explaining to her how to deal with her father, trying to find a Halal compromise without making him angry, teaching her about patience, how to make dua and a more deep dive into the options she has.
I highly advise to take down this video as it might create a lot of problems and will be an issue for you on the Judgment day, but if you feel confident enough about your advice to leave it... Allahu a3lam.
I have a soster whos finished highschool. Shes not looking to marry because shes essentially a child mentally, not because of any disabilities but because of the society we live in. In islam your viewed as an adult when youve hit puberty but here in the west its when you hit 20(these days even 20 is a child in the west, siting studies that the brain fully matures at 25). So what can she do now that shes finished highschool? Uni/further education isnt a bad solution, inshallah if they've been raised right theyll know what to avoid and what to engage with gaining life experience, maturing, learing about herself, her deen. And if she finds someone alhamdulillah.
Why hr thinks that she is being emotional... When I used to vr young teenagers I would love ro have a husband that take care me financially and I take care of thr house... Many girls dreams this, and I wasn't even a Muslim. When we are younger between 14 to 18 in my time. I dream of being a housewife take care of my husband etc. I would like to work but not my priority and for my mother was fine too she would love for someone to take care of me. I think this is all about people to people, and culture to culture. People today in the media is the one that is turning peoples way to think like what do you want to be when you grow up and bla bla bla. My husband do everything for my daughter to get into university in the future, his whole family are very well educated. Doctors etc my husband too. And I wish for my daughter to be too, but I am afraid she lose her deen. I see how university girl are this days... The mans here where I live talk with every girl they find in the street... Astarfirullah... I wish my daughter's would married a husband that would take care of her. 😢 Me my self I am struggling with my marriage... I am a reverted about 10 years, I am practicing muslim my husband is not. So much difference in our way to think our mentality yet I still respect him and I keep this marriage for the sake of my kids and our family. But Walahi is not easy...may Allah make it easy for all of us.
I agree, its not emotional decision, most girls actually want that life, also you dont have to go to university if you dont want to study in STEM especially, for the time being though I would advice her to go learn something, a skill both Islamic and secular whatever since youre not married anyways and should always focus on yourself, learning isnt just about money
Yeah I didn't like that either, I know a bunch of very smart girls that actually want to get married young. It's pretty simple really, they know what they want, so they want to invest in it early, and since its also a way of worship, it's a complete win.
Plus when it comes to making a living, let's be honest, as long as you're not willing to do a long career that needs years of study, studying is useless. You can get the Job you Want by just going into an internship or something.
So becoming a wife, not only that a housewife where the husband is the sole provider is a walk in the park. Do you know what kind of dynamic you will be in, not nessaceraly negative one. However it's not easy, think about the restraint it might put on the relationship, look at social media and what it has done when it comes to expectations as a wife and a husband. You might say I can live within or below my means and be a housewife by the age of 17-18 but the reality is that not many women who grew up in the West are capable of that. Some might but that's a small minority. It's easy to talk the talk but walking the walk is a different beast.
Dino is correct, she is emotional because nr.1 you cannot just say "I will be a housewife" your parents have rights over you, nr.2 Her father has to be investigated how as her "Wali" instructs her to take riba based loan, he is a wrongdoer indeed. Nr.3 She should look at other ways to make her parents happy and stop with "I want Myself, this is what is best for me". Her parents have wisdom minus the riba part.
The Divorce rate among young Muslim couples is high, I would suggest anyone think and make an objective plan before romanticizing marriage and being a housewife.
@aj3706 What you are saying here is not wrong in some parts, but the issue is that you are talking solely based on assumptions. In our religion we adapt and we take each person based on her state, that's what's good about it.
My problem is him generalizing and making you think that it is the only option for you, and that is just factually false.
And the wrong assumption there is that her parents...well, here her father, is wise. Telling your girl to do something which includes a major haram, and when asking for more your answer is " Not my problem " doesn't sound like someone wise to me. IF we will go on assumptions like you're doing.
@@muiiv2955 I agree with you on those parts and I can agree that he’s wisdom is more about life/dunya and the formidable future based on his life experience.
He is not to be taken seriously from an Islamic or deen perspective.
If her father is lacking in one and a very important aspect of her life does that render him from being a wise person, the answer is “no”
Yes, we can’t generalize but most people fall into that general advice he gave.
Unfortunately she has little to no life experience, being a Muslim housewife and mother is completely different than being anything other than that of an kuffar.
A Muslim has to walk on the middle path, don’t go to either extreme. So she should look into every possible way to get into the educational route without riba, on a degree that is practical and beneficial. Like health, social, teaching etc.
She should be looking for ways to repay her parents even though she’ll never be able to do so aswell as us all including me first.
It’s very immature and may Allah swt forgive us all to think of situation as back and white.
She can make dua, pray Tahajjud or even istakhara prayer for education without ribe ofc.
Rather than looking at the recruitment of her father minus the riba part as a do or die moment.
I still believe it emotional reaction which is understandable but she has to take a step back and re assess her situation and consult with a sheikh/iman with 100% confidentiality agreements. For her to suggest an Fatwa for this matter is not mature or necessary. Find a way without riba or something else entirely
Asalamualaikum! This brother is way too young to be giving advice without quoting Quran and sunnah . He mentioned being realistic so many times which is super concerning as if there is no such thing as barakah and dua. My first question is does this brother have a daughter?😅
Financing house? Why can't you as a provider rent a house your whole life as many sheikhs do?
Also he seems to be freely promoting free mixing by saying the sister should get education outside? I guess we should all be more realistic
Brother faiyads take even though he agreed with the other brother is more thought out and compassionate. There's a difference between being understanding and having Liberal realistic takes
duuude, finally some level headed muslim, this guys didnt even give advice to this young revert girl to : STOP DM'ing non mahram men, laymen, lack in islamic knowledge, and all these things, they promote seclusion, haram chatting, girls and women now DM these dawah " bros" asking stuff about islam, and they're not even scholars, they just enjoy and normalized to the idea non mahram young girls are messaging them privately now, and reply with sis and give hear emojis etc.
even me as a stranger to the girl i got protective jealousy over her, dawa bros needs to go extinct and called out, please read my comment above about this topic and how im over this dude, 2 comments, a bit lengthy but from the heart, and a 3rd one got deleted, guess he still wants non mahram women slide in his DMs, ohh its okay its for islamic questions, yeah say that to Allah s.w.t, who are you guys trying to fool here ? women need to know better, daughter, sisters, mothers, wives, i asked him if he's okay with his wife or daughter messaging another dawa bro about these topics, btw i ignored what he even told her as advice, its all bs and mumbo jumbo word salad, all of a sudden they are wiser and more knowledgeable on islam and business than scholars , and are super rich and alpha males and they are the real men and all muslim naive women should go to them .
this is the kind of messaging and attitude i get from these fake guys , so condescending as if they know islam and life better than most , like that ali needs dawa with his bitter fitnah show etc , and all i mentioned was how haram it is for non mahrams to chat to each other privately like they just did, and still more women DM these dawa "bros " as if sheikhs and scholars dont exist, we know what they're doing, they aren't fooling anybody but the yes men and naive women, most of them look at how successful and " islamic " these guys are that they sometimes even chat them up offering marriage im guessing. all a grift, to collect naive ignorant young girls and women so they have a big pool of girls to sift through. Allah s.w.t knows best.
im just glad someone else at least pointed out the haram idea of this channel and advice to " SISTERS " as if women need them to fix thier lives and only them.
is faid deleting my comments ?
i agree with you, haram to DM non mahrams, and he replies sis and heart emoji, he wont like his daughter or wife or sister DM other dawa " bros " about islamic advice and topics, as if he is all wise and business smart, better than scholars and sheikhs ? read my longer comment, from the heart, that if he didnt delete them also,
3 of them, now only 2, i keep them saved, but what i replied to you got deleted didnt save it, oh well, Allah s.w.t will deal with him and his intentions and haram promotion.
is faid deleting my comments ?
i agree with you, haram to DM non mahrams, and he replies sis and heart emoji, he wont like his daughter or wife or sister DM other dawa " bros " about islamic advice and topics, as if he is all wise and business smart, better than scholars and sheikhs ? read my longer comment, from the heart, that if he didnt delete them also,
3 of them, now only 2, i keep them saved, but what i replied to you got deleted didnt save it, oh well, Allah s.w.t will deal with him and his intentions and haram promotion.
Yeah, I always get the "realistic" response from folks. But my issue is, where does it end? It feels like a door that once opened is difficult to close. Things will inevitably get harder for us as Muslims to practice our deen. What value is our Imaan if at the first sign of struggle against secularism, we let secularism win?
You go to school to learn the material and go home. You don’t have to free mix. Do you say the same to guys in school? Go do what you need to do and go home. Same for going to the market/store. Don’t you go there? Okay then.
This is the Problem... Women Not only Bring seperated and protected Like all of them are 10/10 princesses and No men is worthy, No they also have to compete with men in their dutys so its even more difficult for everybody... Makes No sense whats with These people?
The Islamic thing to do would be her father to find a suitable husband for her and support her in her halal choice instead of push her towards haram. As muslim dawat they should both be giving advice based only on Islam. Any advice outside of Islamic laws they need to clearly said that it's their opinion.
17 years of marriage and I am positive my husband would of left me if I did not work or he would of married a second wife. Cause I bring money value to the house he has stayed, let’s not assume all men can fully provide 100% and I will ensure my kids are educated and also on the deen and understand what it means to be a Muslim women In’shaa’allah
If he can’t even afford the first wife, why would he marry a second💀
@@Ineedanamelolwell he asked me for a second 💀💀I told him to pray farz salaah first 😊
@@Abz637you seem to be a patient sister. May Allah bless you and your husband with stronger imaan
@@detailedemoji4615Jazak’allah may allah swt reward you too, but yes this even tested my patience!
@@Abz637 AHAHAHA I’m sorry u ate. I’m not a feminist but priorities have to be in check lmao
dino says strange things.
a 17-18 year old woman can't get married and be a housewife ? what ? why does he think this is something unrealistic, while our religion claims that the purpose of a woman is to take care of the house ?
why should she study at a university or somewhere else, if being a housewife (even at such a young age) is better for her, so as not to expose herself to unnecessary fitna ?
her "emotionality," as you call it, actually speaks to her righteousness.
it is better for brother dino not to think within the framework of "realistic", "unrealistic", but within the framework of the quran and the sunnah.
advice to sister. don't go to uni, even if your family don’t like it, it doesn't matter, because there is no obedience to creatures in disobeying the creator, you can get some skills, freelance, something like that, until you get married.
may Allah make it easy for you 🤍
he's speaks exactly like a follower of liberalism, whether he wants to admit it or lie to himself. He's employing the same exact fears they try to use on women to stop them from being mothers.
Where in the Quran or Sunnah does it say the sole purpose of women is to take care of the house? Getting an education does NOT go against the teachings of Allah. The Prophet said "Seeking knowledge is an obligation upon every Muslim". Yes, housewives are amazing women and very valuable. But women are not limited to being housewives, this is not a teaching of Islam. Every Muslim, male and female is encouraged and required to seek knowlege. The first word revealed to the Prophet pbuh was "READ". If women want to seek knowledge through university, she is allowed to do so. Let's not forget Khadijah was a merchant/ businesswoman, Aisha was an Islamic scholar, one of the best. The first university in the world was built by a Muslim woman, Fatima al-Fihri. Getting a higher education is not limited for men, this is rediculous and extreme. We need women in the medical, educational, historical, etc fields. Every woman is unique.
@@guidedstars
1. It's referring to seeking islamic knowledge. Not secular knowledge
2. Aisha ra was the wife of the Prophet SAW and had an amazing memory therefore she transmitted many Hadith. She didn't go to a school to study secular knowledge
3. Khadija ra inherited her business, she didn't interact with non mahram men, she had male family members and servant. Remember she proposed to the Prophet SAW through a servant after hearing about him, not seeing him. She was also a housewife and stayed home and took care of and had children when the Prophet SAW married her. Took care of him etc. Her duties towards him as a wife and the degree to which she helped him is the why she has such a high reward.
3. The first university was established by a wealthy woman. It didn't however have women attending it. In fact any place of higher education like that did not have women attending it. Sorry to burst your bubble. A woman financing a university doesn't prove anything.
4. Higher education can be for women too and is not haram for women, but it is a necessity for the man to work and provide, not a necessity for the woman. Allah highly recommends women to stay in their homes and not display themselves like the women of ignorance, the Pophet SAW outlines in numerous Hadith the role of a wife, noweher is it encouraged for women to go study and ignore being a mother.
Islam doesn't promote women wasting youth and fertility to go study. This was never done in history why now? Because you think it is a right of muslim women but it's not a right and never has been. You are entitled to islamic knowledge, no where does it say women have a right to go to learn physics and philosophy and accounting. This is a privilege.
@khalidnoor7735 well said 👍 thank u for this knowledge!
@@khalidnoor7735They’re allowed to seek any knowledge they want. I know MANY housewives who wish they could have something to work on because they are also humans with desires and a need for doing something other than cooking and cleaning, in other words they need to have a life. And theres absolutely nothing wrong with that as long as what they do is halal. Nowhere in the Quran does it mention that its haram to waste youth on education, and nobody is even asking women to waste their youth on it, they can be both mothers and study/work, they’re not mutually exclusive matters. And it’s not one fits all. Everybody is different and has different needs and capabilities, So don’t act like education is haram for women or even makruh, because this is not in Islam. Basic duties are being a mother and wife, but they can be anything too besides that if she so desires and takes care of the basics.
REMEMBER! THIS IS NOT JUST THE WEST!ALOT MUSLIM UMMAH IS NOW LIKE THIS ASWELL!
Good
The father is amazing, these podcast guys want women to be dependent on them. Use your brains
Because women getting educated and working is not haraam. I have no idea why people make everything haraam for no reason at all.
Yes, but Ikhtilat and Riba is.
@@muiiv2955 ikhtilat in the sense of bars and nightclubs, yes. But even in the West, many work and school places is not like that.
@@Big-gp9bi The Islamic definition of Ikhtilat doesn't stop at nightclubs and bars. While being in environment where two genders are mixed is not haram, it is highly not recommended. Interacting with them outside of necessity is.
@@muiiv2955free mixing IS haram. It should only be done only out of necessity What?
@@nxronite9994 Yeah that's what I meant, it's not haram if it's not out of necessity
Guest is clearly a liberal person
objective reality 👏🏽 👏🏽👏🏽 MashaAllah
Theres no way i wanna be a stay at home wife... I can provide and i am
Dino's words are so realistic. May Allah bless him. Going through a similar situation right now. The difference is it’s my MOTHER! Dad is ok with me doing whatever I want for my well being but mom is so emotional that her tortures don't seem to end.
Truth is many muslim men do as they please. They can leave their wifes to look for next thing. Nothing wrong with getting an education but being a mom is more rewarding. The problem is if a mother has low support during her motherhood it can cause her to have depressions. Also there are cases where men pretended to be something they not just to get a wife. Then the wife knows then the true him that she doesnt like. We lack honesty and true love for marriages to last and people leave familiez for their own selfintrest. Is becoming harder for traditional marriages when men cant seem to understand the woman they marry. Instead he think submission means she will obey a man without anything. Truth is a man need to earn his wife trust and respect before shes willing to be the wife he wants. Most often men negolect their wifes to go for his own pleasures. And women get overwealmed by motherhood and lack of care.
With all due respect, i whole-heartedly disagree with brother Dino. There is nothing wrong with wanting to become a housewife at such a young age. It is our God given right to be taken care and provided for. I dislike when men use "we live in a difficult time" to escape their responsibilty. If it is hard step up your game and earn more. Hard times create stong men. The world is full of many opportunities, cease it. May Allah correct our affairs.
You make it really easy for yourself and hard for us men. Best search for a men in his fiftees, maybe he has enough money
@@guts8952your saying muslimahs should marry old men for money?
Dinos reaction baffled me. "We live in a day where men can not afford household" An indoctrinated statement that should never be uttered from a Muslim woman or mans mouth. First of all, this is simply not true, it will never be true, as Allah created and perfected our religion knowing the hardships we would have in the future and if there was going to be a time where men and women will be expected to pay the bills together, then Islam would have decreed such. Such a statement is wrong and its just something the brainwashed society wants you to parrot so you come to terms with the 2 person tax cow working mentality. If a person can afford 1 person, they can afford 2 people, or 3 or 4. You got people on welfare and disability cheques living it up of government income thats far less than the average minimum wage monthly earner, yet they are able to get by. You live according to your means, but your job as a Muslim man does not change just because "hardship". Do we think poor people did not live at the time of the Sahaba? There are far less resources and far more hardship then having to fetch water, heat water with fire, having to deal with no AC or heat, fighting off the elements yet people carry on with their religious duties and those duties are timeless. They do not change. So we can not normalize such statements, because its as silly as saying "We live in modern times now, we can not possibly pray 5 times a day because we must work" or "We live in an expensive world we can not just deal with getting riba loan to buy a house".
"No parent on this planet that would accept their daughter saying they do not want education and just want to be a housewife" ..... I do not know a single Muslim female who would say such a statement, instead, they would be proud of their daughter, and we fear that our daughters get brainwashed by this "you must work" and "you need 2 incomes" "times have changed" false mentality that is sinking into the ummah. Dinos whole mentality on this is a product of the public indoctri....ahem, education system.
People can't afford for one either. We have people living alone who can't afford to put the heating on in the Uk, or they can't afford food beyond beans and rice. Is that living? Sure but its a shitty way to live. Nobody wants to live paycheck to paycheck. I'm a teenage girl and I don't have to live paycheck to paycheck because both my parents work. I know that if I put the heating on this winter nothing bad will happen because my parents with their combined income can afford the bill. I know that when I come home from school there's a full pot of chicken and potatoes and all the vegetables I need for our dinner. Some of my friends don't have that. Also, what you said about disability is misleading bc the reason why some disable ppl can live it up as you put it, is bc government pays rent, council tax for you so the disabled person has less costs overall compared to a working man who'd get no help.
@@Cherries2249 your whole point is again "realistic" and lacks conviction to Allah azzawajal. We as Muslims do our best to submit and ask for forgiveness where we fall short. So trying to be the breadwinner is the duty of every Muslim man and not change our way to making 2 income household a norm. Any challenges and hardship that befalls such a family is a test from Allah azzawajal. Its that simple
@@waqarulshah7515 we also have free will. Women can decide whether they want to live in a house paycheck to paycheck. I don't, and my mum didn't want to either. That's the beauty of choice
@@Cherries2249 imagine being so young and you are so indoctrinated into this mentality…
If such a concept was even remotely true you would find a non-Muslims NOT having kids, because if 1 income can’t support 1 person, and 2 incomes is only possible to support 2 people, then having kids would be out of question because people would instantly become starving not able to support the kids. You would find people whose spouses passed away or left them, having to give up their kids because they wouldn’t be able to feed them at all, according to your logic. If such a thing was even remotely true, you would find people actively seeking out a relationship because somebody could not possibly live in this world without having another person supplementing their expenses. It’s such a crazy ideology was anywhere remotely true than in every single country where people parrot these ideologies, how come 70% of the unbrainwashed normal population can do it, yet they can’t?
I’ve lived in many countries. I am absolutely poor. I started a company while I was squatting, living 100% off the food bank, in order to get out of true poverty. You think having rice and beans is poverty??? Alhamdulillah! Go abroad and see the entitlement you were born into, because 80% of the people in this world don’t have running water, shelters, government assistance, food banks, or beans and rice to bring home to their families. Men out there in this world go out to work for 3$ a day and come home with few pieces of bread for their 5 kids.
People in poor nations have the most kids, yet absolutely nobody forsakes their religious duties & they know that the husbands job is to provide and there’s no obligation for the women of the house to do it. Meanwhile in the western world we have 30-40% of the population brainwashed like yourself into thinking this. It’s not going to work. I’m double your age and I’ve seen the world. I came from poverty. It’s really sad that you don’t think Allah perfected and completed his religion and that Allah forgot to mention in 2024 you’ll need 2 incomes or 3 incomes or 5 incomes to live.
@@waqarulshah7515 we have to tie our camel as well brother
Muslims are better off getting married at a younger age instead of waiting until mid to late twenties to avoid sinful behavior.
@@STEPMOMMEE sadly nowadays Muslim families have unrealistic demands when it comes to marriage
@@Muslim-87 actually not really, men just dont know how to suffer and be competent anymore
It's next to impossible for the average man to just get married like it's nothing sisters are very very picky with thier husband decesion based on looks
@@wheelfan100 sadly a lot of sisters not all only care about looks
"Guardians of the Galaxy"
Firstly what are you two gentlemen's educational and employment backgrounds? Is social media content your main source of income? Muslim dads (and moms) don't want their daughters and potential grand children to suffer a lifetime of financial instability. Its more desirable to have the daughter have a safety net of being able to provide for herself than it would be to gamble leaving her to depend on an unaspiring or unambitious and uneducated man. Which I'm sorry to say seems to be the predicament of many young men today.
I'll give you the low down on this. Father wants daughter to be independent so she does not marry someone like him who is unfaithful and downright abusive and disrespectful to his wife. He knows what men can do and what they do and does not want his daughter to be a victim to it. We girls out here who want religious and faithful men who take care of themselves (i.e. not unkempt) and can provide both financially and emotionally to our needs yet, but how does one do that with a father who is busy looking for his second wife...or fling? Alhamdullilah, I am grateful I have studied and educated myself in both academia and in the deen, because if I didn't have this career as well as focusing on my religion and my rights, what exactly do I have? I can make money whilst also contributing to my society and serving their needs rather than being stuck at home without a husband and feeling sorry for myself.
why jump to conclusion that said husband will be bad and leave ???? you guys are making the self fulfilling prophecy , buy not putting all the effort and having a suit case ready incase it doesn't work, are you not a muslim ? dont you have tawakul on Allah s.w.t ? cant you open your eyes and ears and see before you marry if he/ she is right for marriage ? and about work, is the work gonna stop her from being a good practicing muslim ? is the work haram, in a mixed environment with men ? work in art or riba or haram stuff shirk etc ???? if yes, then NO, dont promote such filth, if its a stay home job, selling halal stuff, or work is halal in general, doesn't take a lot of her time, doesn't stop her from giving her husband all his rights, and he allows her to work then no probs, but if she is not married, and only focus on job ? what is this ? is she planning to grow a mustache as well ? IF she gets married you'd think she will stop and follows her husband islamically ? or keep that boss babe money babe mentatty ? keep up the good work bruh, you guys are going places, very hot places if you keep promoting haram ideas destroying the foundation of muslim couples.
you guys have life ahead, and islam behind, you'll never see the truth or go places with this, are you a westernized kafir ? or a real muslim with tawakul and iman ? you guys are breeding and creating more and more bad muslim men and women, with this mentality any good muslim man will be turned bad if his crazy wife is ready to bounce first sign of trouble, and downloaded all these feminist ideas, if the husband is fair, caring, just, and can afford it, loving etc all the good stuff, its non of your business if he marries another wife, its his god given right, without stating the stupid obvious " duhhh wHat If He's BaD etc etc " we all know the answer to that, think of positives not negatives, or your life will be dull and measurable .
man , you really are annoying and make your own villains dont you ?, you'll turn anybody bad and evil as a husband .
So the fathers lack tawakkul and pass that on to the daughters.
@@BruvahSulaiman It's the reality. Alot of men left their wives like this in our community a lot throughout the generations present to past. In the past the women in our community just didn't complain about it (they had other women helping them out - even that was a struggle). Remember we live in dunya and it's a father's job to protect his family there is no guarantee a husband will always be deep down righteous (thats a barakah/Blessing the same way having a pious wife is a barakah it's not always guaranteed) .
@@consensualcode9750
The women of the past didn't complain because they had tawakkul and they knew that their rizq came from Ar-Razzaq all along. Not the men who left them.
If you didn't die of starvation or live on the street before you were married and you didn't die of starvation or live on the street while you were married, then you should have enough trust in Allah that you won't end up that way after you are left by a husband regardless if you have something to fall back on or not. A bad husband leaving is quite literally a good thing.
You didn't have anything to fall back on when you were 6 years old did you? But Allah provided you with what you needed to reach 7 didn't He? Then He did the same for you from 7 to 8? Then again from 8 to 9, and so on like that until you made it to where you are now? At which age exactly does Ar-Razzaq require that you become independent? You've already experienced depending on the parents Allah gave you with nothing to fall back on. Now you look to enter a marriage with the assumption that the husband you choose won't be enough for you like your parents were? The time and effort spent establishing that independence is time and effort not spent developing the skills and temperament to be the best wife and mother you could be. With no dedicated effort to becoming a great wife and mother you expect to just naturally be one? But you don't expect to continue to receive provisions from Allah without dedicated effort? And if that mentality was taught to you by your own poor example of a father given in the original comment, why would you assume that such a bad father's mentality is the correct one for you to adopt? What does a bad husband/father know about raising a good daughter or finding a good husband?
If a bad husband/father wants his daughter to find a good husband, then he needs to humble himself and find a good husband/father to seek advice on raising his daughter to be what a good man would want. Projecting his poor character onto every man and teaching his daughter to doubt them all because they might be like him is nonsensical.
@@BruvahSulaiman women of the past suffered much abuse from their husbands and couldn’t leave lol. Not a good example to use
Now I have heard everything 😂
These comments are just distasteful. Theres nothing wrkng with being educated and being married, seriously. I love my dad, hes the reason im going to work hard and become a pediatrician or OBYN practitioner. If i am working a halal job AND obtain my degree in a halal way AND get married in a halal way, i dont see the problem? How dare you flame parents wo just want the best for their children? Before you use the excuse that im a harami feminist, of course i understand that free-mixing is haram, and i am invloved in my deen enough fo know whats wrong and whats right.
Buy a Cat and stay alone 🎉🎉🎉 congrats to your careers.
Bro! Just meet this sis and if she is pretty marry her! And she will stay home
Example of the prophet's wives? The majority were not mothers (biologically). All the prophet's children were from his first wife (who was wealthy career woman before she married) except one, Ibrahim, who passed after only 2 or 3 years old. (pbut)
Example was they were stay at home wives
@@ozzieone16 "O wives of the Prophet! *You are not like any other women* " They had special rules specifically applicable to them. To avoid misconduct or any scandalous talk from "rumour-mongers in Medina" where the prophet pbuh was now Head of State
@@heregoes8839 Yet yeah still served their husband they did household chores Prophet SAW said women should serve and obey their husband
@@ozzieone16 That's not the same thing as being a "stay at home" wife.
@@heregoes8839 Yes it is their duties at home they did the chores of household as their primary role a stay at home wife is someone who’s spouse provides while they do the duties of their household that’s what they did also Quran says best place for women is? their home
Who is this shimp you have brougt on?
Bro is mad.
here comes the fan haters
Dino did not cook
Amazing dad has her best interests at heart. Don’t listen 2 illiterates
Neutrality doesn't apply to Islam does it?!
I look at my parents generation and think the men of my father’s generation were truly blessed with housewives who would dedicate their lives to their families and worshiping Allah. Then I look at my generation and feel depressed. I feel like I cannot attain what my father had in this day and age. It is frustrating and infuriating. I pray Allah’s wrath is upon those who have damaged our generation so much. Who have made halal hard and haram easy. Who have deviated from the path of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) and the Sahaba. May anyone who advocates to be modern and to look at Islam through a modern lense incur the wrath of Allah and may Allah curse such individuals. Islam is everlasting not bound to any time period.
girl just draggedddd her father for no reason whatsoever that shihh is private
Isnt it anonymous
@@zaki0938 it still sounds wrong to tell a stranger who yk will tell the story on his online platform. you dont need to tell him in order to know that the fathers behavior was wrong, especially the riba part. and yes a woman having an education will give her the opportunity to having a Plan B when the marriage is bad and she has no way out? true she can go back to her parents but as a n adult shell want to be financially independent also to support her kids. also i think its just her father trying to show her, her self worth is more than just being her husband's servant for the rest of her life. and yes its reducing her to the level of a maid to say that fathers should encourage their daughters to be the servant for her husband as her end life goal and purpose. she is lucky, many muslim fathers will stop her from getting an education so she can get married as fast as possible without giving her the right to even consider pursuing an education and getting financially independent. was he harsh? sure but i do believe he had her best interest at heart minus the riba
@@Jijfr-vw4us she definitly asked the wrong person she should have gone to a sheikh(staying anonymous) and she wanted advice on what to do, u said that her fathers wrong but also defending what hes doing so asking for help was needed
@@Jijfr-vw4us and how can u say her father has her best interest at heart even tho hes wanting her to do riba
@@Jijfr-vw4us and there nothing wrong for a women to serve her family its actually praiseworthy. getting an education is also important but if she needs to do riba for that the answer should be obvious
What would the The Prophet ﷺ say?
HALAL SAURUSS 😭😭😭😭😭
Dino the one and only.
@@FaiyadFit YES BROO 😭😭
This dino guy is way to liberal don‘t listen to him guys get advice from real scholars and sheikh
Depends
Work and have a job and independant then think about marriage.
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