Emotional Intelligence Quiz | David Mitchell's Soapbox
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- It's quiz time with David Mitchell! Time to test your emotional intelligence!
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"That wouldn't be so much the blind leading the blind as the blind blinding the sighted" what a brilliant, Mitchell-y line
Mitchell can sometimes be a bit too much for me - I find him to be a bit pointlessly contrarian at times, presumably just for the sake of ranting about something.
But that line does capture his essence well, and its possibly the funniest thing I've ever heard him say 😂
@Stephen Hill a
Facts
0:50 please get in the habit
...I'm sitting with a bunch of letters noted down on paper and feel robbed of four minutes.
Fair point. That's 4 minutes you wont be able to spend on your cancer research.
Brilliant
tom wagner lmao
David Yhap I get that comment!!!!!
So now do you...
A) Silently sulk for a minimum of *five* minutes to make yourself feel as though you've once again regained the "upper hand"?
B) Reassemble the scattered bits of paper into a clever Origami figure of a monkey butler?
C) Belatedly realize how severely your answer to #5 has crippled your chances at having a rustle up the young lady's knickers?
Or...
D) Become uncomfortably certain that in fact *you* are the smelly fellow who noone wants to talk to about his "problem"?
“Don’t tell him, but, as punishment for your cowardice, keep seeing him”. I probably shouldn’t relate so quickly to that logic.
Ngl have done that before
I've ran into this before and done just that
Gotta love how literally everyone would ask why they're crying whilst secretly wishing they wouldn't answer. We're all lovely.
We're all adults as well. Get your shit together and please don't make it my problem.
Nope, I would want them to answer and will be honestly interested in the reasons, but it will be hard for me to convey that.
@@theloniousm4337 it's about priorities - do you care about people more, or objects like money, or non-existent things like ambition or power
@@NJ-wb1cz You are missing the point as I assume you haven't reached adulthood yet. Its about expectations of other people to have learned mechanisms of coping with their own emotions that most people learn by their late teens. I'm not sure why you are trying to transfer things over to money, ambition and power? Maybe you heard things that others didn't.
@@theloniousm4337 I don't know if I reached anything, we all have our paths and we're somewhere on them. What you're describing, rigid schedules when someone must reach something -- that's not how human development really works. It's easy to fake it in accordance to some schedule that we supposedly have to conform to, but that will merely add new stretches to the path towards our actual selves.
We can learn some mechanisms as standards and algorithms, and even internalize them, but there's far more to us and life than this.
If I would assume something about you in turn , you're simply uncomfortable with some of your own feelings due to particular experiences (or lack of particular circumstances and experiences) during formative years, thus dealing with emotions and tears of others feels wrong and can make you angry, impatient, pissed off, demanding to get their shit together etc. If you gradually reconnect with parts of yourself, your experiences and dispositions and feelings about feelings will change.
"All you can see is the effort"
I just know I'm going to remember this line far too often.
been thinking about this line for about 6 years, how about you, o.p.
My brain picks up "2 faced" lines like this apparently without realising it constantly.
This should have been the Voight-Kampff test to detect replicants.
i think a lot of people would test as replicants with this test
My mother? I'll tell you about my mother...
Sounds like something done by Germany in WW2
I took this quiz and it turns out that I'm a lesbian.
I promise I'm not a replicant, I'm just autistic!
"The blind blinding the sighted" just made me almost spit my coffee out.
Gross. Amerifag detected
"Right, shall we go", My god, it isn't right but sure feels like it.
Why not?
C, B, A, B, E (Hold up a little hand mirror and tell her "You look like this" as per the Mitchell standard of etiquette.)
Coincidentally, this is what the strings of my banjo are tuned to
I’d say “you’re dressed nice”
C babe, you look fine!
@@sams6306 I know you wrote this six years ago, but I think I know why a banjo player is watching a video on "emotional intelligence"...
C, C, A, A, A/D depending on additional context.
This is less about emotional intelligence and more about understanding social conventions in england.
First time?
Picking up on social conventions without having to be told how or why is certainly a sign of emotional intelligence.
Mônica Is it though? Being overtly racist towards minorities used to be a social convention (and in some circles it still is) and I wouldn’t really call emulating that one intelligent.
@@edge21strwe are obviously talking about the social conventions related to politeness in daily interactions, nothing else. Every human behaviour that was once acceptable does not fit the subject of this rather light-hearted video.
I think you are all taking this just a little too seriously.
3:27 I find it amusing how the colloquial definition of 'fine' has changed so much. From a note of high praise in the tier of 'great' or 'superb' as in 'what a fine day'/'that's a fine looking animal' to something in the neutral/slightly negative tier along with 'mediocre' and 'okay', as in 'Don't worry about it, it's fine' or a somewhat mopey 'I'm fine today'.
Yea fine went from excellent and quality to 'average' or passable
Even more recently the definition of "nonplussed" has begun to change COMPLETELY. The original meaning was "confused" or "perplexed". Now, I only hear it used as "unimpressed". Completely different. I think people just hear the word and, (incorrectly) assume they know what it means. Well, actually, it IS correct, now, because that usage has become accepted. 🤷♂️
@@TroubleToby3040 Well at least nonplussed HAS changed because of usage. People still try to say "literally" shouldn't be used as hyperbole, as if it's wrong, when it's been used to mean the exact opposite of it's perceived meaning since 1769.
@@lmcgregoruk I have no issue with using "literally" sarcastically, but I sometimes correct people on it just to amuse myself by annoying them. It is always your prerogative to use hyperbole or irony with a word.
Comment is mighty fine
Not as much the blind leading the blind but more the blind blinding the sighted
There's no prize, but we will send the winner a present to apologize for there being no prize.
I loved that line! It's such a "David Mitchell" thing to say (proven by him saying it!)... :)
I'm actually blind!!! haha! Love David Mitchell's sense of humour!
Fucking amazing :L
I wish people would at least quote videos with the preface, "this was my favorite bit."
At least then we can operate under the illusory pretense of you not being a complete git who parrots a sound bite as if it's somehow a valid thought.
Because that's the SYSTEM dammit. The only way that statement could be more British would be if Stephen Fry said it as Melchett.
"What is the matter with you Darling!? You know full well that you pay every other round, because thats the system, damnit! BAAAA!"
but it is the system! £20 out of the person's money isn't going to matter vs a huge crushing bankruptcy
It really, really could.
General Melchett: "Are you looking forward to the big push?"
Private Baldrick: "No sir, I'm absolutely terrified."
General Melchett: "The healthy humor of the honest tommy! Don't worry my boy, if you should falter, remember that Captain Darling and I are behind you."
Captain Blackadder: "About thirty-five miles behind you."
Naestved DK
Melchett - "God it's a barren desolate wasteland out there, isn't it?"
Darling - "...turn the map over, sir."
As a man with aspergers who had to learn this through trial, error, and experimentation: pretty much all of these are e. none of the above.
1. Ask what's wrong and try to connect with the feelings they describe, not necessarily the person since you don't know them that well so you likely don't really understand.
2. You take one drink's worth of extra money or budget to pay for one of their drinks.
3. Closest to A: Wait until a time when your friend could feasibly address the smell before telling them directly and discretely.
4a. Contrive that you can only go for beers if some chore gets done that requires some time but no effort and offer to trade beers for help that would free you up to go out at all.
4b. Alternatively, secretly purchase a gift card and offer to pay for all rounds with that since it's committed money anyway, allowing them to buy one last round after it runs out if desired, ending on the "everything is fine" note.
5a. Assuming that you notice something, say "you look great" and then compliment a specific aspect of her appearance that was clearly a deliberate and highly visible choice that turned out well. Use nonsexual language like "awesome" or "cool" if you are male. High commitment choices like hair color, hair style, nails, tattoos, and body jewelry are usually safe choices as people often crave reassurance for these. This provides both reassurance and useful, positive feedback. Easy to practice with strangers that you're obligated to speak to such as drive thru workers without coming across as creepy. When in doubt, ask what it is and then compliment it.
5b. If you are a friend to this person and time permits, say they look great then "notice" any one, small adjustment to suggest if it is reasonable and quick. Do not mention makeup or major clothing choices.
The goal of this seems to be how to do the most good for others and least harm to yourself, to which effect I think these are better choices.
as someone with autism myself, this is incredible and I hope you write a book at some point to explain how to act in every conceivable scenario
I reckon people with Aspergers have much better social skills because they have had to work at them and pay attention. I am sometimes flabbergasted at things my sister, who is a natural "social", does, I guess because she just thinks she knows how to do "social" and wings it, whereas I have to think about every move and just work out that stuff is wrong. Problem is when I work out what is right, it is "some time later".
I often think of the social skills of us aspies as akin to the very correct grammar of people who learned English in school 😅
My take on question 5 was that answer D implies that the person is your partner, but maybe that wasn't intended. If it was, something close to A is probably best.
3:20 E: all the drinks. He's bankrupt anyway so he has nothing to lose, plus you're a tight-arsed miser.
1: C. It takes a certain degree of vulnerability and humanity to burst into tears in public, especially in the company of someone you know but not well. I respect that person enough to listen to what they have to say, should they wish to share it.
2: D. As David said, it’s drinks at a pub, not a party. Buy them a round if you fancy but that’s it.
3: D. Sounds bad but if this is someone I’m not especially close with, I think I can live with limiting my own discomfort by not seeing them as often. If this was an ACTUAL friend, it would be A every time.
4: B. If it was never acceptable for them to buy a round, we would probably agree not to go to the pub at all and just socialise at home. I daresay the poor guy would like to feel normal for a short while.
5: E. “Ooh, you look nice!” Nothing wrong with giving a compliment but something about the word ‘amazing’ seems patronising given the circumstances.
For the fourth one, he missed out the answer, "Every round, because he doesn't have anything else to pay for anymore!"
That whole quiz just made me anxious.
The tension created in this quiz; "answers we should know" makes it extremely humorous to me. Its as if someones tickling my diaphragm.
I like that so many quizzes reward you for knowing useless stuff that serves no practical purpose. Knowing useless stuff that serves no practical purpose is my thing. It's all I've got.
"You look fine as hell."
I'm a girl and I'm really bad at lying, so I had to pick D for the last one. I mean if they pressed me, and was like, how do I look? I'd say 'Great!' brightly, then change the subject.
Oh dear... The "person smells" question is a good one. It would depend how well I know them, I guess.
If they're a friend then I'd find a jokey way of saying it, like "Phew, you're a bit ripe today, mate." As long as I knew the person well enough to be confident they'd take it in the correct spirit, no problem.
If they were a mere acquaintance, like a work-colleague, then - and I know the answer to this because I had a smelly work-mate a few months ago - the brutally honest answer is: compare notes with other work-mates behind their back, and everyone agree that they smell :(
CCCP. Oh, wait...
That's what you get for rushin'!
Blyat
My problem with emotional intelligence quizzes is that I know exactly what I should do, but it's almost certainly not what I'd actually do.
BDDDD quality quiz. definitely needs a part 2 and still funny 2 1/2 years down the line
Mitchell is one of the reasons people claim the Brits are funny as shit. What a dude, love him!
For anyone not in 2012 looking to grade themselves on this emotional intelligence quiz, here's a scoring guide:
Highest possible (Best Emotional Intelligence):
Answer Sequence: A, B, A, B, A
Points per answer: 4 points each
Second Best Options:
Answer Sequence: C, A, B, C, C
Points per answer: 3 points each
Third Best Options:
Answer Sequence: D, C, C, D, B
Points per answer: 2 points each
Lowest possible (Least Emotional Intelligence):
Answer Sequence: B, D, D, A, D
Points per answer: 1 point each
Each question is scored on a 1-4 scale, so the total score ranges from 5/20 (if you choose the lowest options) to 20/20 (if you choose the highest options).
In my country, we rarely do cards, and if it's a present, it is always a bottle of wine.
prophetchannel in my country my word was law, but I had to flee because of a stupid coup d'etat
+prophetchannel where do u live?
+Scott Collinson Hmm, but are you gay or European?
Rachel B if he's dutch then he is both
Substantial worry at the disco hahahah Ive never seen anyone have an opinion on the dutch other than "mwah"
hugs are the right answer to every question
So everyone buying their own bloody drink isn't an option?
he's too posh for that now ;)
floooooooooooooooood he's not from north America clearly
What's that got to do with anything?
in the UK you drink in rounds so everyone takes it in turns to buy all the drinks for the group.
Thank you for informing me of that fact. I was completely unaware of the fact that the rounds system is something that exists even though it was prominently featured in this video.
CDDAA - Because hugs are awks if you're not super close and it's easier to ask what's wrong to show you care, because presents are effort and they might not expect it, because telling someone they smell is bad - just fix things by meeting in the open, Buy them drinks and coyly refuse when they offer, because them having money to eat lunch tomorrow matters more than whether they feel awkward or not, and call the woman amazing because of course you always tell girls they looks amazing its the right thing to do
2:B it's at a pub so you obviously buy them a drink.
It's probably good I didn't try to answer this when it was open.
My answer to question one was A (Immediately hug them), then D (Put the at ease by bursting into tears myself), then B (Pretend it's not happening and quietly leave) in rapid succession.
It just went downhill from there
The answer to each question is to ask oneself, "how much can I reasonably expect to profit from this situation," and act accordingly.
I'm kidding!
But not really.
MrStephenRGilman HAHA YES this is how i live my life.
You will never know love.
@@ThreadBomb Well if I’ll never know love anyways then I’m definitely not buying that person a card!
@@ThreadBomb id rather have never loved than to have loved n lost
It's self-centeredness like that which has created the current state of the world.
Heres the answers:
1: S
2: E
3: N
4: D
5: N
6: U
7: D
8: E
9: S
....I love you, and I want to have your babies.
I despise the round system for the following reasons: either I end up feeling cheated because I bought enough beer for 6 rounds and we left after 4 pints. or one of the guys brought a woman who has never bought a drink for any of us in her life. or I'm not interested in pricey drinks or I'm driving but everyone else wants costly booze!
I'm with you on this one. All I generally want is a beer, or maybe a glass of wine. I rarely drink spirits at the pub, or anything too expensive. It drives me mad when my round is the expensive drinks round, but then others get the cheap one...or if I buy a round when loads of people are present, and then a bunch of people leave without having brought rounds.
Rounds are fine when it's just myself and a couple of friends, but annoying when there's a huge group (half of whom are plus ones you don't know...).
Alex M agree. I stop in for only one & maybe a 2nd. A friend, Tim, at the pub sitting with 3 of his friends buys me & my friend a drink, or 2 drinks. Now I am suppose to buy Tim + the 3 a drink ? Four drinks for my one, though Tim did buy a 2nd for my friend,.. still ? I end up buying 6 & I drink only 2. If this only happened once,...….well ok but this has happened too many times.
Totally, the rounds system works ONLY if you are in a small tightly knit social group where you see the same people over long periods of time and all drink roughly the same thing. Worse case scenario is if you are with a huge group, only know a small portion of them and some judas stiches you up and says "your round mate"
0.23 seconds in… This is my first exposure to this channel fingers crossed 🤞 for the rest of the video
But when do we get the ANSWERS?
Just an observation of what I actually do:
B - unless its a good friend I always fuck off before being noticed
C - who would bring a card to a Brithday when they go there themselves?
A - I am very honest and would like for people to tell me should I smell
B - a friend of mine is jobless at the moment and if we where to get every round he would fell patronised
D - I constantly miss opportunities to give compliments so D
Wow, the answers in the comments aren't even close to agreeing! What did Elly say?
1. "Let me get you some tissues", go get the tissues, then ask, "If you'd like to talk, I'm happy to listen".
5. "You look nice!"
ABACAB because I've forgotten all the questions and it's a Genesis album.
Albeit a shit one.
ACABAC
All Cops Are Bad At Cuddling
B - Leave the room quietly
D - Nothing, its drinks at a pub
D - Don't tell him
B - He pays for one round
D - Right, shall we go?
I would always go with option E- Fart in their faces.
1-- C. Ask them what's wrong, even if you don't really care, because by the time they're done explaining what's wrong, you might. There's a good chance you won't, because there are very few decent people left in society today and chances are you're not one of them, but still, just on the off chance....
2-- D. You're going out for drinks and they aren't that close of a friend. If you want to give them some sort of treat, then buy the first round and pick up a few more drinks than normal (or just pay the tab if it's a fairly brief get together), or else make an arrangement with the person's other friends-- if there is going to be a group of you present-- to split the cost of the drinks among you so the person whose birthday you're celebrating doesn't have to buy any of the drinks. It's fair and gives the person something they wanted on their birthday, but doesn't give the wrong impression about your level of interest or seem out of place under the circumstances.
3-- A. There are no good options here, but A is probably the best option because it helps address the issue while involving the fewest number of people. The trouble with asking someone who's a closer friend to raise the topic is that you are embarrassing the person in question to their friends, which is a crass thing to do. Try to approach the situation with as much sensitivity as you can, imagining how you would take such news being delivered to you, and explain you aren't trying to upset or embarrass them, but rather, you are bringing it up because you like them and want to save them from future embarrassment.
4-- B. Financial problems, like body odor, can be extremely embarrassing. While both of you know that the other person is having financial problems, insisting on buying all the drinks-- as opposed to casually offering during the conversation by saying something like "chin up; things are tough now, but they'll get better... come on, let's go drown our sorrows into a couple of pints; I'm buying"-- may make the other person feel like they are imposing upon you or leeching off you, which isn't a good feeling, especially if you're stuck in a place where you know you're going to have to do a fair bit of that to scrape by. Allowing the other person to buy a round of drinks if they want to will give him or her a way to save face and salvage a bit of their pride, which can be far more valuable to them at that point than the money they spent on the round of drinks. On the other hand, you should not allow them to spend much more than that because you know they are broke, and it would be unfair of you to allow them to spend what little money they have on things like drinks when you know they have more immediate need of it.
5-- None of the above. If you truly don't think the woman looks amazing, your compliment will probably come across as insincere, and may very well end in disaster if she starts probing for details and you can't give her any about what in particular you think she did that makes her look amazing. The second answer is rude. The third is ultimately rude, as well, because it's an obvious non-compliment. The fourth might come off as being boorish, or make the woman feel as if her effort to look nice while she's spending time in your company was unappreciated. If you can tell she made a special effort to look nice, but she doesn't look amazing, a milder compliment is appropriate, and usually well received, especially if you can pick out one or two details where it's obvious she put in the most effort or which you think had the greatest effect, and take extra time to compliment that.
"question six. a woman you know..." imma stop you right there.
Hello! Pleasure to meet you.
Now you can finish the quiz.
@@iisuperstarii7310 😂 thats funny i like that
I'm a couple years late but here goes with my personal answers,
C (not really that I hope they don't tell me, more so an indifference to them)
D (My presence there would be my present, sounds bad I guess but I'm not really invested in this person and my TIME is valuable, and I am choosing to spend my time with them, there, for their birthday and have a nice time, so, that sounds sufficient.)
B (I have personally been in this scenario and I know I want to be the person who tells the person, because as awkward as it is it's better for A, but I went with B, felt bad about it, it never got brought up and we don't hangout anymore)
B (Not much to say about this. He's my bud.)
D ( I wouldn't say anything and move on. )
2012 was definitely one of the best years.
This was absolutely the best one.
1) A - hugs help!
2) B - a card doesn't have to be expensive or have an in-depth message, and it's a nice gesture
3) D - I don't think this is the 'right' answer, but I know someone now who has this problem and it's genuinely what I'm doing
4) B - if they want to buy you a drink then let them. It might be their way of keeping some dignity in a difficult situation. You can get the rest of them.
5) A - beauty is subjective, and if somebody has put effort into their appearance then you'll make their day by paying them a well-placed compliment :)
My personal opinions:
1:C (it is basic compassion)
2:D (It's not a party and I don't know them that well, I wouldn't expect anything from them.)
3:C (It's not punishment, I can just tune it out to be nice; he IS a good friend, after all.)
4:B (I have to let him try, but I cannot let him overcompensate)
5:A (It's about making someone feel what is appropriate for their effort)
1: C, having someone to vent to even if (or sometimes especially if) they're simply an acquaintance can be a great comfort.
2: C, something fairly cheap but also useful, like a USB cord or something, or just buy them a drink or two.
3: _Should_ be B, actually C, only stepping to B if it was a humongous problem for me. I'm a coward.
4: B, kind of a "show don't tell" situation where you're acknowledging that he may not want to think about it, but also yeah, major financial problems. But don't get a super fancy drink (obviously), _or_ one that's so much cheaper than you usually get that it feels like an empty gesture. Especially with men, feeling useless is not a good thing.
5: A, because you're really complimenting the effort, but don't directly compliment the effort, because that has some implications that are best not touched upon.
(grew up in the US, woman, autistic, for context)
Thanks for letting us know you're autistic lmao
@@kylejones5281Thanks for letting us know you have a mental age of twelve.
@@AH-be6bu I have the mental age of twelve becuse I think that OP stating that they're autistic even though it adds absolutely nothing to what they were saying is pointless and unnecessary?
@@kylejones5281 Autism can effect how you think about social situations. Which is relevant to an emotional intelligence quiz.
Anyone else only come across this series of videos in 2018?!!
I find it hard to answer the 'buying a round' question, because I've actually never been in a bar and had someone 'buy a round'. Everyone just buys their own drink normally. Maybe it depends where you live or something.
I think start crying in sympathy is the best answer for all of them!
CDCAD
samee
I went close. I went CDCBC. The fourth answer really depends on the person though, so depending on the person it would either be A or B. The last one has no right answer on it. C is the best one because you don't have to pretend you care, D is the worst one because she'll know you don't care, but the best response possible is "You're looking good." and sitting through the boring lecture.
My answer: E) Make sure you never experience ANY of these situations.
1. B
2. D
3. A
4. D
5. D
3:E) Ignore it's just a smell. If the smell is still there the next time, proving that it wasn't just an isolated incident, tell him that while you didn't want to say anything out of politeness last time you are worried that he might not be aware and apologise for your rudeness.
4:E) Every other round, but only up to three rounds until you need to get him home or he owns up and lets you help in anyway you are capable of.
I blew snot out of my nose when you revealed question 1 answer D. It was not the most attractive thing in the world...
For the first question, I'd ask what was wrong and hope that they would respond however they felt comfortable--either by telling me or not telling me. It's about them and their comfort. What do I have to feel uncomfortable about? They are the one who is crying. And who knows--they could have lost a loved one or had a tragedy happen to them.
C-D-C-B-A
I think the onus is on the bankrupt guy to not get involved in rounds and just elect to be unpopular by buying their own drink. Then sobbing into the half a shandy.
the comments on these videos are dreadfully boring.
Especially yours.
@@damienx0x Yeah, the truth (CDDBD) may be boring, but it's truth for gods sake. To say a correct answer is boring, is boring and dumb.
The comments on these videos are dreadfully boring. How should you comment this?
A: B: C: D:
Fill in the blanks. Because:
A: I'm a lazy bastard.
Emotional intelligence:
"the capacity to reason about emotions, and of emotions, to enhance thinking. It includes the abilities to accurately perceive emotions, to access and generate emotions so as to assist thought, to understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote emotional and intellectual growth."
-Peter Salovey and John Mayer
Knowledge(required for above):
Is confident belief on reasonable basis regarding a true fact.
I argue ignorance or overconfidence is the only reason how someone could claim emotional intelligence. Since claiming knowledge regarding someone's emotions, disregarding the general problem of skepticism, is border line impossible.
"the blind blinding the sighted"... brilliant =D
AAAAA
Me too!
Yes, thank you
A D A C D
A - Hug them (because it's the best option of the 4, not the best option in practice). Why? Because you're alone 1 on 1, and they've obviously decided (consciously or subconsciously) that they're comfortable enough with you to openly cry, so I'd venture they just need a hug deep down. Some people don't want to unload their emotions on the ones closest to them, and just need a semi-stranger to talk to. Asking them what's wrong can be very uncomfortable for them, because they can feel pressured to talk, when they don't want to talk. If the person wanted to talk, they'd ask to talk. If they wanted to cry and be hugged without talking, they'd cry and not talk, and hope the person with them hugged them.
D - Don't bring anything because you don't know them that well. Either they just wanted more numbers, they thought you'd benefit from coming, they (or someone they know) wanted to hang out with you, they were just being friendly, or they wanted more presents (which is a kind of selfish that should not be fed).
A - Tell him he smells. If his best friends never told him, you telling them to tell him won't work, and is essentially just talking behind his back. Not telling him is just dishonest. "in some unimaginable way" What is that even supposed to mean (besides the questioner putting a random bias on the answers)? Either he knows he smells and just doesn't care (then don't bother "sparing his feelings"), or he doesn't know and you're doing him a favor.
C - Act normal. You can't possibly imagine how he really feels, because everyone deals with things differently. This guy obviously doesn't want to talk about his bankruptcy, and likely just wants to relax and de-stress (and that means not treating him differently over the $30 he might spend on beers that night).
D - "Right, shall we go?" I don't know why 3 of the 4 answers are so sexist, but let's run with it. "A woman you know has dressed up". So because she's a woman you need to throw compliments or strong statements at her? No, that's not how it works. She's a "woman you know" - could be a family friend, a friend, a work friend, who knows, but just because she's a woman doesn't mean she needs you to make a big deal about her outfit, and especially not be dishonest about it. If she looks really good, then you can say "that outfit looks really good on you". If she looks hideous in what she's wearing, you can say "I'll be honest, I'm not a fan of that outfit". You can offer an opinion, but you don't have to, and she certainly can choose to ignore it.
I'll just add this: This "quiz" is absolutely terrible and stupid. Also, why do people comment just the letters, like it's some kind of graded test? Try explaining why you chose the answers you gave. I know this video is 3 years old, and I don't care.
Why are they sexist? They're perfectly fine!
Honestly, I had 2 answers different which were the first one and the one with your bankrupt friend, but after reading it and ACTUALLY giving it proper thought I've agreed with this. True and very true. Hugging them would honestly be fine considering it all when they've decided to cry in front of you. And C, logically being a decent answer as well however it depends on your friend of course and honestly, I feel that the bankrupt friend scenario would be more lenient towards the subjective. Both A and C would be up for debate.
This quiz is very stupid yes.
If someone starting hugging me I'd literally say "what the fuck, why are you hugging me fuck off".
Crying in front of people doesn't scare some, and others are not comfortable with human contact outside of their close family/spouse, be careful with this one because some are frigid too.
omgcow what about a gentle first touch, like on their elbow/upper arm, and see how they react? I wouldn't go in for the hug uninvited, unless we're established huggers, but a concerned touch can gauge what they expect.
It's a fucking joke mate
It's been years and I still don't know. Why is there not a veritable institution that would teach these skills. I'm alone in a vast universe.
B D D D D
1 - B. C is the correct answer but if I'm being honest, there's no way I'd ask them.
2 - D. No gift required for going to the pub with a mate.
3 - B. I'd like to be told if it was me, and letting his closer mates tell him is probably the best way to go about it.
4 - Ideally A but men don't let you do stuff like this without kicking up a fuss. I'd probably let him buy one round to save his ego after I resisted a fair amount, but no more than that. If he didn't know that I know, I'd probably make up a story about winning at the races or something so I'd have a good reason to get the drinks the whole night.
5 - D. I'm not a compliment guy, whether it's giving or receiving. A is the correct answer but I just cannot be arsed with compliments.
C D C B D
Same
1. C, but only because you're only an acquaintance. If you're a close friend, bursting into tears yourself might be the best way to show empathy.
2. B a card but no present. Really though, the best thing to do is buy them a drink for their birthday. Which is sort of a present?
3. In America this would probably be A, just tell him. In Britain I'm thinking it's B.
4. B, but on the other hand I think C. If he's still up for going out for drinks, maybe he already intended to pay for every other round. This is one of those problems only men have who don't like to talk about their feelings.
5. None of these are good. A is the closest. You just say "you look nice" you don't have to exaggerate it to amazing. Just acknowledge the effort.
Ah, I was hoping for a video about how stupid emotional intelligence quizzes are lol
I think we got one!
12 years later and I still don't know the answers.
CDDBD
Thank you.
God damn logical date layouts.
You don't even have the option not to go to the pub in two of these questions.
Not going to the pub is not an option in Britain.
As an American I was briefly flummoxed by the date being displayed as "04.10.12." "This video only aired on September 20th" said I "The contest can't possibly have ended 5 months ago!"
Then I realized whose video I was watching and smashed my forehead upon my desk as punishment.
Oh my, you discovered his first joke!
1.C -provide emotional support and an opportunity for the crying individual to say things outloud that they might wish to say. I am not particularly comfortable or adept at the situation, but that would sum up the average for my life
2. D - I'm not particular friends with that person, so I have no social obligations towards them. I attend their party because I'm social, because I was invited and because we're acquainted. I celebrate their birthday by buying them a pint/shot.
3. A - Perhaps I'm braver than most, or perhaps I'm just an asshole but I would identify a bad smell, try to identify the source (knowing it's them), and once identified make a joke about the situation and novelty solutions like 'hosing them off with Listerine'. Nobody *has* to bathe, but if you don't then they should expect some light-hearted ribbing on the subject.
4. B/C - I would let him buy the first round (or *a* round, anyway) but otherwise insist that he should save his money, because no use getting further into debt over pretense. On the other hand, the man is a grown up and has chosen to go to the pub so, ultimately, is responsible for his own poor judgment and if he counter-insists on paying every other round, allow him the dignity because anything else would be patronizing
5. A - If I see the effort, then I can put forth an equal effort to make her feel good about herself by telling her how good she looks. It may be bullshit and she may even know that it's bullshit, but she'll appeciate it all the same because I've never known a woman that didn't drink up compliments like an unattended, recovering alcoholic drinking up booze at an open-bar wedding. On the plus side, if I compliment her dress I might just get lucky, and who doesn't enjoy it when everybody wins?
5:E) Pick your favourite part and ask if it is a new lipstick, eyeshadow, piece of clothing, etc. Say that it looks different, but nice whatever the answer.
Ooh number 4 is a tough one
1: Run! (not really. Give a semi-hug and ask if they want to talk about why they're crying)
2: Gift Card
3: Mention a/they're smell/smellability, but not the fact that it's terrible.
4: None. If necessary, mention that it would be completely impractical, and there's no need to pretend to be not bankrupt, because you don't care (except for the part about wanting their life to improve, obviously)
5: D
David, I still want my shirt!
But no card!
1. Every fibre of my being would want to go for B, but social pressure would force me to go for C
2. Definitely D
3. D
4. A or B, depending on circumstances
5. Probably D
Just finishing now (12 yrs later), having filled out cards for every possible arrangement of answers. Now. Where do I send them again? Please, in multiple choice format. Thank you.
have the officially correct answers ever been published?
Question 2: Should buy them a drink but make sure at least 2 other people see you doing it
The correct answer for 5 is to pull out the mirror and say, “you look like this” while showing her her reflection
"entries are now closed"
nice one UA-cam suggestions
"you put too much mascara on, that dress doesn't go with those shoes, but nice choice of hair style, hey, you were the one who asked, if you didn't want me to be honest you should have said so"
1.) Probably C (minus the hoping they won't tell you part), probably followed by A depending on their response. I think it's a bit weird to randomly hug someone you don't know well without asking first. They might not want a hug! Might just want to talk about their feelings.
2.) E - buy them a drink. It's at a pub, and you don't know them that well. Buying a drink just seems the logical way around this.
3.) Probably not tell him, but don't treat him that different, so C. We Brits are terrible at confronting these things head on.
4.) ...just each buy your own drinks...never understood rounds. My friends don't bother with them.
5.) C - honest, but not lying or exaggerating. And if it's pointedly, she'd likely be upset if you said nothing.
Shame that they didn't give the answers though.
To be fair I often run into the same problem just the other way around so you're not alone.
AAAAA. Not my answers, I'm just screaming.
LOL true, true. I had to think for a minute before I did, just as you say. I just found my catch to be so humorous I thought I'd share it with the rest of us here. :)
There will be no prize but we will send them a present