I've been living in a joint family system since I'm born. There are always pros and cons. You get support from the other family members but the cons always outweigh the pros. We cannot have joint family systems in this age. Everyone wants to be financially, emotionally and socially independent.
Sir aj topic ko maine bht enjoy kiya yaqeenan ye ESA ak muzu hai jis py jitna bola jae or jitna ilkha jae kam hai meri shadi ko 12th year hai ye 2020.or abhi tak joint family system mai hi hun bal ak aam uorat k muqable kafi mukhtilf logo mai or mahol mai time guzra maine bas ye bat samjhi hai positive mind hona dosron se zada khud bande k apne liye acha hai or ak sub se ahm bat koi bhi rishta chahe wo behen ka bv ka bahu ka ya maa ka sub ko nibahten ve ALLAH ko razi karne ki koshish honi chiye insano ko nhi phir ap bht ache se sub rishte nibhaten hain mera Iman is cheez py hai kisi bhi insan ko us ki ibadat se nhi us k mamla karne se pehchanen or respect karen
Joint Family system is from Hinduism. In Islam there is no reason to stay in a house with everyone. Islam says to give separate house to every children or at least make portion of your own house and give them independence.
Sir humare dada pardada k zamane se joint family system tha humare khandan me... Lekin jo malik aur malkin hote the.... Woh bht zyadatii karte the us zamane me bhi.... Sirf duniya ko dikhane ki unity rahti thi... Haqeeqat tab bhi bht mukhtalif thi... Bahut haq mare jate the...ye sab sirf kahne ki baten hain... Aksar taya ya ghar k bade k pas zyada paise... Zyada jaidad... Un k bachen zyada ache lifestyle... Internally bht kuch chal rha hota tha tab bhi... Sirf zahir me lgta tha ki sab ka sab kuch ek jaisa hai
Love u Dr Sahab u r like a father for us ❤️ap hamesha bohut achi targa baat ko samjhaty hain ... I saw your all videos Allah pak apko hamesha sehut tunddusti de ameen 💕💕💕
Its actually the space which is demand of every person. In combine system mostly this space is left no where. Thats y one gets suffocated by other. Respect n love everyone whether one is more or less financially stable than u. Life is simple we make it complex by our opinions. Sir its really glad to hear ur opinion which is solution of the problems every house is facing today but they take it very light due to their EGO n end their relation. May ALLAH guide us to R8 path.
One , another one...after I stick to complete the whole series of your lectures, I learn how to cope with real life problems through this channel, almost every possible social and moral issue you raised helped me a lot managing my personality flaws , but also being a better person than before 💯,sir you are more than blessing to our nation😇.....🇵🇰 May Allah SWT keep you safe and sound.. ameen
ڈاکٹر صاحب اس مسئلے پرآپ نے بہت عمدہ گفتگو فرمائی ،جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم میں لڑائی جھگڑے ہونے کی ایک بنیادی وجہ تنگدستی ، یعنی کم آمدنی بھی ہیں تنگدستی اور کم آمدنی سارے مسائل کی جڑ ہیں ، ایسے خاندان جن کے مالی معاملات ٹھیک ہیں ، وہ اپنے مسائل پر قابو پا لیتے ہیں اور خاندانی لڑائی جھگڑوں سے بھی محفوظ رہتے ہیں۔
جوئنٹ فیملی سسٹم اگر محبت ہے سلوک ہے عزت ہے تو جنت ہے اور اگر ایسا کچھ بھی نہیں ہے تو یقین کرین دنیا میں ہی جہنم ہے برداشت اب نہیں ہے لوگوں میں اور حسد کی بیماری عام ہے ایسے میں بہتر یہی ہے شادی کے بعد ہی محبت سے الگ الگ کر دیا جائے
Sir Wonderful explanation ....sir you should do programs on PTV so that your golden words reaches to every pakistani ....May you live long...you are diamond of Pakistan...
Joint family system is the blessing! It is biggest curse if people have no patience (Bardasht). Nowadays it’s best to live separate in a small house and try to live close in one area. Go to each other house as often. If you think in Prophet time it was the same everyone had an independent and small homes.
وہ تمام میری حماقتیں جو ہ گی گناہوں کی چھاوں میں وہ عمل کی ساری کثافتیں، جو لکھی گہی ہے فضاوں میں تیرے سامنے ہیں زرا زرا تیری ذات واقف حال ہے میں بری سہی مجھے بخش دے میرے دل کو سخت ملال ہے میری نیند آنکھوں سے دور ہے میری حیات گناہوں سے چُور ہے یہ کرم ہے رب دو جہاں تیرا، میرا ہر گناہ پہ نقاب ہے تجھے اختیار ہے سب کا سب، میرا تجھ سے اتنا سوال ہے تو معاف کر تو کریم ہے، بس تو ہی رب ذوالجلال ہے۔ . .۔❤🌸🥀
میرے حساب سے تو جواٸنٹ فیملی انتیہاٸ بیوقوفی ہے۔۔ ہم رہ چکے جواٸنٹ فیملی میں تو ہم جانتے ہیں اسکے کتنے نقصانات ہیں۔۔ ساتھ رہنا ہی جھگڑے کا باٸث ہے۔۔ بہتری اسی میں ہے کہ سب الگ رہیں اس طرح محبت بھی بڑھتی ہے۔۔ اسی جواٸنٹ سسٹم کا نتیجہ ہے کہ آج ہم سب ایک دوسرے کی شکل دیکھنا بھی پسند نٸ کرتے۔۔ ہماری فیملی میں ایک دوسرے سےاتنی نفرتیں بڑھ چکی ہیں۔۔
Allah pak har orat k nasib achy kry or naik susral mily jahan bahu ki b izat ho beti ki tra wrna larki ki zindgi tbah hojti hai thik kaha dunya m ho dozah hn jati hai life
Joint family me reh reh k mera logical brain muj sy naraz ho gya hua hai r emotional brain r heart mil kr silent volgure galian dy ry hotay hn... R eyes me tears hotay hn 😂
Jiss tarah Dibetese bohot see Systemic Bimaariyaa paidda kartaa hai theek ussi tarah Joint Family System bohot see Mental health issues Paidaa kartaa hai..
Maintaining purdah from brother in law is very tough in joint family system. When children grow up, they also struggle in maintaining purdah from cousins who are non mehrams.
Sir.... I tried my best k joint family system at least tb tk qaiem rhy jb tk sb beh' bhai ki shadi ho jaiy... But I failed, ghr ma jaghry fsaad ko khtm krny k lea qurbani deni pari, abhi sb sepret reh rhy although sbko e koi na koi msla face to krna pr rha but abi etna zaror hoa k jaghry khtm ho gy hen...so yehi kahngy k rishton ko bchany k lea jhuk jana behtr h rishtay cutoff krny se.. Hr msly ka sensible hal mojood h wqt p faisla kr lena hi behtr h
Assalamualaikum sir ...!!! Ap na belkul sahi kaha ,buzrug he insaf k sath joint system ko better Chala sakty Hain but hamary idar buzrug he farq karty Han apni olado ma ...,,.that's the reason .now I am the patient of depression to...,,
Assalamo alaikum sir. I m from India.I m Rahima Perween.I m a research scholar in education, I m married having two small kids. I always see your videos and like that most. I m your new subscriber. Your speeches are awesome, Mashallah.
جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم میں ہمیشہ ہر فیملی کا کچن الگ ہونا چائیے کیونکہ ہر لڑائی جھگڑا کچن سے ہی شروع ہوتا ہے ، بڑا بھائی اگر نوکری پر صبح 11 بجے جاتا ہے اور رات کو 12 بجے واپس آتا ہے تو اس کی بیوی کی اور اس کی خواہش ہوتی ہے کہ صبح فجر کی نماز کے بعد کچھ دیر سو کر 10 بجے اٹھ کر ناشتہ کریں اور دوسری فیملی کا شوہر صبح 7 بجے نوکری پر جاتا ہے اور رات نو بجے گھر آ جاتا ہے تو تب یہ ٹھیک ہے ورنہ بے وقت کھانے پینے اور بے وقت سونے جاگنے کی وجہ سے نوکری کے معمولات اور صحت سب پر بہت برا اثر پڑتا ہے میری امی کو جوائنٹ فیملی میں اس طرح کا نظام نہ ہونے کی وجہ سے شوگر ، بلڈ پریشر اور بواسیر ہو گئی ہے اس لیے میں جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم کے بہت خلاف ہوں ۔۔۔
People always talk about women suffering in joint family but even for men it is stressful and traumatic. Mostly there is just one male who contributes financially and takes care of parents, unmarried sisters and even families of brothers who are not financially well off. From medical bills to house rent/renovation to sister’s wedding he has to shoulder the whole burden. No one thinks of him
Joint family system in today’s day and age is just illogical and cannot work the way it did decades ago. There’s a huge generation gap and cultural differences that it cannot withstand the compromise and expectations it warrants.
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Asiya Hassan: The only thing constant in this world is change. I hope our people soon realize this and come to their senses. Dr Sahib is doing his best to educate our people.
Hmmm hum aisy e rhy productivity km hojati hai main sb ko kehta hun k aisy rahain k alag alag b hon progress b zyada hojay aur combined b controlled manner mn hon but it's really tough here to make everyone learn here.
@@MATHSMATHSInnMATHSInnBusiness Sab logue apne apne haalaat aur bardaasht ke mutabiq guzaara kerte hein. Aik poor man living in his shanty or hut, where can he go but stay put?
Bilkul drust Islami triaq b ye hi hy Bjaye ek sath marny k tang a k nafrat krny monafqat krny ki bjye alag ho jana chahye Kam az kam waqt k liye zror Es sy ek dosray ki qadar b a jati hy
Good topic. Nowadays, joint families are different. My mother in law didn’t allow her 3 daughter in laws to leave kitchen the whole day. . We only had break from 3-5. Parents should be very careful while marrying their daughters.
آپ معاملات کو بہت اچھا سمجھاتے ہیں ماشا ٕ اللہ۔ اللہ پاک آپ کو اس کا اجر عظیم عطا فرماۓ۔ بہت سے لوگوں کے مساٸل آپ کی باتیں سُننے اور سمجھنے سے حل ہو جاتے ہیں۔بالخصوص میرے جیسا بندہ تو آپ سے بہت کچھ سیکھتا ہے 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Maybe your family is fighting with your wife and they are acting as innocent infront of you and showing your wife cruel because it's happening in many joint family
I agree, my step dad is kicking me out; I’m pregnant and he wants me out by the time I give birth; my mum works non stop pays the bills the mortgage and gets the groceries he does nothing. Yet I cook clean and look after my younger brothers yet I’m getting kicked out, the unnecessary stress during pregnancy is not needed and I pray it doesn’t affect my unborn child. I’m pregnant but I also work two jobs I’m a lady and I don’t complain so I don’t see why men can’t do anything; alhamdulilah I’ve been blessed with a husband Who works and prefers to work. Yes I also had shortcomings I don’t tolerate lies and manipulations I sometimes speak the truth too much and it gets me into trouble but I’m only being true to myself.
Nodoubt joint family system is problematic on many grounds but at the same time those sufferings which u face in joint collaboration makes u experienced as u live with many people ,u read their psychy which helps u in future to tackle different situations peacefully,humbly.
Thank you sir for such recommending such nice channel. I have subscribed to it, now my family will learn the holy Quran in easy way. Once again humbled and grounded dear sir. Stay blessed.
A lot of people are just too poor to live independently. Their kids and wives have no idea of financial issues. Family members should be transparent to each other and discuss these matters. Fake pride is a killer! 👪
True...if a man cant provide a seperate space than he shouldnot marry both mian biwi should b earning and better if of same field..always b4 marriage one should clearly discuss this stuff without hesitation! Yh pori generation ka mamla hy bachaon ko b nafsiati issues hute aise mahol m reh kr
Sir, I have a question for you. I have seen a lot of joint family system around us and I have seen a lot of problems in joint family system. I don't think there should be a joint family system nowadays. People who are living in a joint family system and most of them suffer from a lot of problems and suffer from many diseases.
Right bhai meri sister in law meri cheezen chori krti thi or bs poochny ki dair hoti larai ho jati saboot ho in pata that siwaye is k k unko kmry sy nikalty dekha. .... Bht kuch gawaya akhir thak k ilzam lagaya to mujhy divorced dy di joint family system ny mera ghar barbad kiya;(
Raja Zain No problem, brother, don't worry, just live your life in silence and don't argue anyone it, leave your matter to Allah Almighty alone, insha'Allah you will live a very good life in the times to come.
Koi b larka ya larki shadi ka tasawar b na kre agr woh khud nhi kama skta..aur ghr nhi afford kr skta!!YH SIRF APKI LIFE NHI APKI OLAD KI MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH ka b sawal hy...inlaws ki interference aur ghr k jhagre bachon ko zehni mariz krdete hain..
You have a point. Even if family does not observe Prada, men in general do not respect women who are not mahram and may lead to quite harassment and abuse of women specially young girls.
We have strict parda protocolz in house and outside. And the summer season is just very very hot for us. Alhamdulillah we have ACs in home. But kitchen and lounge are like hell.
@@mrsumar5358 exactly.. what is the purpose of parda in home.. why women are forced to live with na mehram.. atleast saudia mein women ghero mein toh sakoon sy rehti han
꧁🌹🍥✰✰🍥🌹꧂ کوئی ٹوٹے تو اسے سجھانا سیکھو کوئی روٹھے تو اسے منانا سیکھو رشتے تو ملتے ہیں مقدر سے دوستو بس انہیں خوبصورتی سے نبھانا سیکھو جو بھایؑ اور بہنیں میرا یہ کومنٹ پڑھ رھے ھیں ان سے موؑدبانہ گزارش ھے کہ میرا چینل بھی سبسکراییبؑ کر دیں !! جزاکم اللہ فی الدنیا وفی الآخرہ
Jawed Iqbal bhai aap pahle kahan the yaar jo ab mile bahut kamal ki baten batate ho aap yaar sach me koi kisi k erade samajhne lage to zindagi aasan ho jaye.
Don't ignore this comment sir Please sir make a video on the importance of girls education.. Our parents listen may they will understand and let me study further.. Please🙏 sir dont ignore my comment..
@@AlviSultan mind ur language sir. I am not telling you anything. Ook. they are my parents and you don't have any right to say a word about them. And sorry to say sir your language shows your education and your upbringing at the same time. If you can't talk decently or with respect, I can say your education is nothing more than a paper degree.
@@hassamkhan5794 they won't force me to get married.. Actually We are from a very small city of Bihar. Here’s the education is not of that high leveled .. they said that they can't take risk of sending me in boardings or hostels.. As every one knows the crime rate or rape graph of India🇮🇳. . That's why they are fear of the evil things in our society.. Btw Alhamdulillah I am doing my graduation from Bihar university.. But for the higher studies I wanna go to Delhi Or somewhere else for good studies but can't able to agree them ..۔
@@pakistani_suits_ oh i se bihar same place frm where famous celebrity sushant singh rajput belonged to..then u r lucky..to get such parents.my advise is dont get married till u strt earning .really good and marry sime guy frm own field who encourage u fr furthur education
Joint family system bhut kam kamyab hai kyunke aj kal sb ko privacy chahiye jo k joint mein nhi hoti jo bhi reh raha hai majboran reh raha hai, purane logo main sabr, darguzar aur ikhlas hota tha aj bhut kam logon mein hai is liye join rehna bhut mushkil hai
Jazakum Allah Khayrun respected sir Javed Iqbal for recommending our Channel. May Allah swt always bless you and your family sir.
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سر آپکی گفتگو سے بہت سارے لوگوں کا یقینا فائدہ ہوتا ہے اللہ پاک آپکی عمر میں رزق میں اور علم میں برکت عطا فرمائے
I've been living in a joint family system since I'm born. There are always pros and cons. You get support from the other family members but the cons always outweigh the pros. We cannot have joint family systems in this age. Everyone wants to be financially, emotionally and socially independent.
You are more or less on target, good comment by a smart girl!
Ji correct
For sure, I can relate.
There ar lot of pros
Yes exactly
Sir aj topic ko maine bht enjoy kiya yaqeenan ye ESA ak muzu hai jis py jitna bola jae or jitna ilkha jae kam hai meri shadi ko 12th year hai ye 2020.or abhi tak joint family system mai hi hun bal ak aam uorat k muqable kafi mukhtilf logo mai or mahol mai time guzra maine bas ye bat samjhi hai positive mind hona dosron se zada khud bande k apne liye acha hai or ak sub se ahm bat koi bhi rishta chahe wo behen ka bv ka bahu ka ya maa ka sub ko nibahten ve ALLAH ko razi karne ki koshish honi chiye insano ko nhi phir ap bht ache se sub rishte nibhaten hain mera Iman is cheez py hai kisi bhi insan ko us ki ibadat se nhi us k mamla karne se pehchanen or respect karen
Joint Family system is from Hinduism. In Islam there is no reason to stay in a house with everyone.
Islam says to give separate house to every children or at least make portion of your own house and give them independence.
thats very good part of islam
Sir humare dada pardada k zamane se joint family system tha humare khandan me... Lekin jo malik aur malkin hote the.... Woh bht zyadatii karte the us zamane me bhi.... Sirf duniya ko dikhane ki unity rahti thi... Haqeeqat tab bhi bht mukhtalif thi... Bahut haq mare jate the...ye sab sirf kahne ki baten hain... Aksar taya ya ghar k bade k pas zyada paise... Zyada jaidad... Un k bachen zyada ache lifestyle... Internally bht kuch chal rha hota tha tab bhi... Sirf zahir me lgta tha ki sab ka sab kuch ek jaisa hai
Love u Dr Sahab u r like a father for us ❤️ap hamesha bohut achi targa baat ko samjhaty hain ... I saw your all videos Allah pak apko hamesha sehut tunddusti de ameen 💕💕💕
masha allh sir ap ki baten bht mazboot bunyad h ..bilkul sahi kha apne
Well said I'm going through the same even I get aggressive staying in joint family.
I am Dr Zaeed from Bangladesh 🇧🇩 , salam Dr.Javed sir, your youtube content motivates me a lot
MashaAllah. professor sahab kash pakistan ki tamam abadi ap ka ye video dekhe aur samjhy.
Jazakallah
Its actually the space which is demand of every person. In combine system mostly this space is left no where. Thats y one gets suffocated by other. Respect n love everyone whether one is more or less financially stable than u. Life is simple we make it complex by our opinions.
Sir its really glad to hear ur opinion which is solution of the problems every house is facing today but they take it very light due to their EGO n end their relation.
May ALLAH guide us to R8 path.
Sahih kaha aap ne! JazakAllah!
One , another one...after I stick to complete the whole series of your lectures, I learn how to cope with real life problems through this channel, almost every possible social and moral issue you raised helped me a lot managing my personality flaws , but also being a better person than before 💯,sir you are more than blessing to our nation😇.....🇵🇰
May Allah SWT keep you safe and sound.. ameen
Ameen Sum Ameen Yarabul Almeen
ڈاکٹر صاحب اس مسئلے پرآپ نے بہت عمدہ گفتگو فرمائی ،جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم میں لڑائی جھگڑے ہونے کی ایک بنیادی وجہ تنگدستی ، یعنی کم آمدنی بھی ہیں تنگدستی اور کم آمدنی سارے مسائل کی جڑ ہیں ، ایسے خاندان جن کے مالی معاملات ٹھیک ہیں ، وہ اپنے مسائل پر قابو پا لیتے ہیں اور خاندانی لڑائی جھگڑوں سے بھی محفوظ رہتے ہیں۔
جوئنٹ فیملی سسٹم اگر محبت ہے سلوک ہے عزت ہے تو جنت ہے اور اگر ایسا کچھ بھی نہیں ہے تو یقین کرین دنیا میں ہی جہنم ہے برداشت اب نہیں ہے لوگوں میں اور حسد کی بیماری عام ہے ایسے میں بہتر یہی ہے شادی کے بعد ہی محبت سے الگ الگ کر دیا جائے
Deewar alag hone Se Mohabbat khatam ho Jaati Hai kya ???
@@mariyamkhan8499 wo mohabat hi nahi jo deewar se khtam ho jae
@@ezzahwaheed wah kia kehna
What should I do same here in my case.
@@ezzahwaheed Mera yah Sawal hai kya bete ko alag rakhne se Mohabbat khatam ho jaati hai Maa baap ki
Ma sha Allah ma sha Allah ap bht acha kam kr rahy Hain Allah apko duniya akhirat ki kamyabi dy
Sir Wonderful explanation ....sir you should do programs on PTV so that your golden words reaches to every pakistani ....May you live long...you are diamond of Pakistan...
Nice comment
Mjy laga hamary gar ki baten kr rahy hn ham MashAllah sy akhty rahty hn Allah ki boht rehmat h...
Very good thinking sir I am agree with you
Meri life main gitni be problems hain sab joint family system ki waja sy hain.
Joint family system is the blessing! It is biggest curse if people have no patience (Bardasht).
Nowadays it’s best to live separate in a small house and try to live close in one area.
Go to each other house as often.
If you think in Prophet time it was the same everyone had an independent and small homes.
Well said !!! Ye mera life time thought hai !!!!
We're not living in 7th century anymore. In this age, the social dynamics of the society has changed. Now everyone wants to live an independent life
No way better to be safe than being mentally tortured by these relations!!
وہ تمام میری حماقتیں
جو ہ گی گناہوں کی چھاوں میں
وہ عمل کی ساری کثافتیں،
جو لکھی گہی ہے فضاوں میں
تیرے سامنے ہیں زرا زرا
تیری ذات واقف حال ہے
میں بری سہی مجھے بخش دے
میرے دل کو سخت ملال ہے
میری نیند آنکھوں سے دور ہے
میری حیات گناہوں سے چُور ہے
یہ کرم ہے رب دو جہاں تیرا،
میرا ہر گناہ پہ نقاب ہے
تجھے اختیار ہے سب کا سب،
میرا تجھ سے اتنا سوال ہے
تو معاف کر تو کریم ہے،
بس تو ہی رب ذوالجلال ہے۔ . .۔❤🌸🥀
ڈاکٹر صاحب اللہ اپکو خوش رکھے۔۔بہت خوبصورت طریقے سے اپ کام کررہے ہیں
میرے حساب سے تو جواٸنٹ فیملی انتیہاٸ بیوقوفی ہے۔۔ ہم رہ چکے جواٸنٹ فیملی میں تو ہم جانتے ہیں اسکے کتنے نقصانات ہیں۔۔ ساتھ رہنا ہی جھگڑے کا باٸث ہے۔۔ بہتری اسی میں ہے کہ سب الگ رہیں اس طرح محبت بھی بڑھتی ہے۔۔ اسی جواٸنٹ سسٹم کا نتیجہ ہے کہ آج ہم سب ایک دوسرے کی شکل دیکھنا بھی پسند نٸ کرتے۔۔ ہماری فیملی میں ایک دوسرے سےاتنی نفرتیں بڑھ چکی ہیں۔۔
Allah pak har orat k nasib achy kry or naik susral mily jahan bahu ki b izat ho beti ki tra wrna larki ki zindgi tbah hojti hai thik kaha dunya m ho dozah hn jati hai life
Mashallah best answer and solution for family system issues.
Joint family me reh reh k mera logical brain muj sy naraz ho gya hua hai r emotional brain r heart mil kr silent volgure galian dy ry hotay hn... R eyes me tears hotay hn 😂
Qasmy
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deep i feel you ...
@@aruhawaqas2659 sachiii muchiiii
Lagta hai ye har larki ka haal hogaya hai 😁😁
Jiss tarah Dibetese bohot see Systemic Bimaariyaa paidda kartaa hai theek ussi tarah Joint Family System bohot see Mental health issues Paidaa kartaa hai..
Baishak!
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Exctly aur olad b suffer krty hy .barbaad hujata hy sb kch
کتابیں دوست ہوتی ہیں۔
تنہائیوں کی تاریکیوں کی
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100% Agree❤️
Maintaining purdah from brother in law is very tough in joint family system. When children grow up, they also struggle in maintaining purdah from cousins who are non mehrams.
Sir.... I tried my best k joint family system at least tb tk qaiem rhy jb tk sb beh' bhai ki shadi ho jaiy... But I failed, ghr ma jaghry fsaad ko khtm krny k lea qurbani deni pari, abhi sb sepret reh rhy although sbko e koi na koi msla face to krna pr rha but abi etna zaror hoa k jaghry khtm ho gy hen...so yehi kahngy k rishton ko bchany k lea jhuk jana behtr h rishtay cutoff krny se.. Hr msly ka sensible hal mojood h wqt p faisla kr lena hi behtr h
Thank u Sir... You are great... Apki baten super kash k sbki soch bdly...
Assalamualaikum sir ...!!! Ap na belkul sahi kaha ,buzrug he insaf k sath joint system ko better Chala sakty Hain but hamary idar buzrug he farq karty Han apni olado ma ...,,.that's the reason .now I am the patient of depression to...,,
Bht khoob Sir behtreen or ala wazahat k sath ap nay Bht saray mamlat ko suljha dia 👍Jazak Allah khairan kaseer.
Assalamo alaikum sir. I m from India.I m Rahima Perween.I m a research scholar in education, I m married having two small kids. I always see your videos and like that most. I m your new subscriber. Your speeches are awesome, Mashallah.
Nice comment.
Thankyou for introducing quran education channel
جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم میں ہمیشہ ہر فیملی کا کچن الگ ہونا چائیے کیونکہ ہر لڑائی جھگڑا کچن سے ہی شروع ہوتا ہے ، بڑا بھائی اگر نوکری پر صبح 11 بجے جاتا ہے اور رات کو 12 بجے واپس آتا ہے تو اس کی بیوی کی اور اس کی خواہش ہوتی ہے کہ صبح فجر کی نماز کے بعد کچھ دیر سو کر 10 بجے اٹھ کر ناشتہ کریں اور دوسری فیملی کا شوہر صبح 7 بجے نوکری پر جاتا ہے اور رات نو بجے گھر آ جاتا ہے تو تب یہ ٹھیک ہے ورنہ بے وقت کھانے پینے اور بے وقت سونے جاگنے کی وجہ سے نوکری کے معمولات اور صحت سب پر بہت برا اثر پڑتا ہے میری امی کو جوائنٹ فیملی میں اس طرح کا نظام نہ ہونے کی وجہ سے شوگر ، بلڈ پریشر اور بواسیر ہو گئی ہے اس لیے میں جوائنٹ فیملی سسٹم کے بہت خلاف ہوں ۔۔۔
My son Mubarak is normal. He can speak. He is happy and healthy and peaceful soul. He is totally fine and fit. Thank God. Thank you so much.
People always talk about women suffering in joint family but even for men it is stressful and traumatic. Mostly there is just one male who contributes financially and takes care of parents, unmarried sisters and even families of brothers who are not financially well off. From medical bills to house rent/renovation to sister’s wedding he has to shoulder the whole burden. No one thinks of him
This is why men inherit twice that of their sisters
Well said
zbrdst guftgu.....asa sb valdyn ko sochna chahy
Joint family system in today’s day and age is just illogical and cannot work the way it did decades ago. There’s a huge generation gap and cultural differences that it cannot withstand the compromise and expectations it warrants.
What a flow of words and ideas..MashaAllah
Toba kren joint family sy to
We are living this life style.all of us have portions..everyone has its responsibility.but people in our society alag hony ko gunah samjty hain
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Asiya Hassan: The only thing constant in this world is change. I hope our people soon realize this and come to their senses. Dr Sahib is doing his best to educate our people.
Hmmm hum aisy e rhy productivity km hojati hai main sb ko kehta hun k aisy rahain k alag alag b hon progress b zyada hojay aur combined b controlled manner mn hon but it's really tough here to make everyone learn here.
@@MATHSMATHSInnMATHSInnBusiness Sab logue apne apne haalaat aur bardaasht ke mutabiq guzaara kerte hein. Aik poor man living in his shanty or hut, where can he go but stay put?
Mian biwi dono working hun tu finaces ka issue nhi huta and alag hujate hain ..mental health should b priorty
Dr sb. Tusi great hoo very well explained and usually people underprivileged they get feel of jealousy and things gets messed up.
Bilkul drust
Islami triaq b ye hi hy
Bjaye ek sath marny k tang a k nafrat krny monafqat krny ki bjye alag ho jana chahye
Kam az kam waqt k liye zror
Es sy ek dosray ki qadar b a jati hy
Sir ap ki all video bohat ashi hoti ha zabardast well done
Good topic. Nowadays, joint families are different. My mother in law didn’t allow her 3 daughter in laws to leave kitchen the whole day. . We only had break from 3-5. Parents should be very careful while marrying their daughters.
Then... what are u doing?
All day works?
@@mrsmohsin1024 My mother in law has passed away. Now I part time teach and keep myself busy in house work like always
Jazaakumullaah Prof. Sahab!
May Allaah accept you for HIS cause.
You are an adorable mentor.
It's always good to see u 🙂
May God always bless you.
آپ معاملات کو بہت اچھا سمجھاتے ہیں ماشا ٕ اللہ۔
اللہ پاک آپ کو اس کا اجر عظیم عطا فرماۓ۔ بہت سے لوگوں کے مساٸل آپ کی باتیں سُننے اور سمجھنے سے حل ہو جاتے ہیں۔بالخصوص میرے جیسا بندہ تو آپ سے بہت کچھ سیکھتا ہے 😊😊😊😊😊😊
Very good and logical interpretation regarding social issues. Ma Shaa Allah, sir live long and healthy life
Respected sir yeh ap ka toota phoota jwab nei hai,yeh to superb jwab hai 💯👍
Unfortunately it’s not possible anymore 😭. Everyone has bigger ego than oneself.
Family system has almost done.
U summed up
We r just trying to drag it in name of religion & culture destroying mental health of future generation
Ap ki batay sahi hai professor saheb . Khush rahay
لوگ پڑھی لکھی بہو نہیں لاتے کیونکہ اسے دبا کر رکھنا مشکل ہوتا ہے. نہ خود ضرورتیں پوری کرتے ہیں نہ کام کرنے دیتے ہیں
Wow extreeeeeeeeeeemely well nd right nd experienced talk🤲👍👍 jazak Allah
Family system is becoming a problem for this mobile generation... 😊
It was a problem since ages, my mother suffered a lot due to this evil system when there was no mobile no internet. dont try to connect it digitally.
bot achay sy ap nay is bat ko clear kiya hats off for u sir❤️
This man is gem 💎!
Jazak Allah Kash .Aysa har Family May hu Jaay Ameen
I used to live in joint family when I got married, but my wife was always fighting with my family. When I moved out with my wife all problems stopped.
bhai wo apki biwi bn k ati ha jub k joint family mn sb uski azmaish krna shuru kr dety hn
Yes 👍
Maybe your family is fighting with your wife and they are acting as innocent infront of you and showing your wife cruel because it's happening in many joint family
Deen ki Dori ki waja se Ghar Main ladari Hoti hai ....
@@theflowers9677 absolutely.....his writing skill should must be improved 😃
Zabardast Dr sahab.i listened to u on daily basis .this is an awesome lecture
Mery sasur b yhi same baat khty k mery jity Ji alag nei hony dena aur haal ye k ek dosry ko dekhna b gawara nei krty , 😢
😂😂same ......aur yehi susar sahib khud apni bevi k sath alag ghr main sari zindagi rehty rhy hongy ....
Dr Saab,bundle of thanks for telling about free Quran education on u tube
Sir i think issues rise when people get jealous of each other due to economic imbalances.
I agree, my step dad is kicking me out; I’m pregnant and he wants me out by the time I give birth; my mum works non stop pays the bills the mortgage and gets the groceries he does nothing. Yet I cook clean and look after my younger brothers yet I’m getting kicked out, the unnecessary stress during pregnancy is not needed and I pray it doesn’t affect my unborn child. I’m pregnant but I also work two jobs I’m a lady and I don’t complain so I don’t see why men can’t do anything; alhamdulilah I’ve been blessed with a husband Who works and prefers to work. Yes I also had shortcomings I don’t tolerate lies and manipulations I sometimes speak the truth too much and it gets me into trouble but I’m only being true to myself.
No issue rise when people are evil themsel3
@@creativeweirdodiy3105 not able to understand your replie
Not only economicimbalance there is many behaviors which disturb such as enterfare in every matar
Bohat kamaal MA SHA ALLAH
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Nodoubt joint family system is problematic on many grounds but at the same time those sufferings which u face in joint collaboration makes u experienced as u live with many people ,u read their psychy which helps u in future to tackle different situations peacefully,humbly.
No one wants bad experiences
Kids who live in toxic environment can never become Confident adults
@@creativeweirdodiy3105 bad experiences makes one experienced... Well that is my opinion.
@@creativeweirdodiy3105 myself being the product of joint family don't think so.
@@iqrarashid7796 well it depends with what kind of people you lived..
Zabardast. Live and let others live.best solution is seprate home.
Sahi kaha sir, hasad badi cheez hai , yahi sab galtiyaan karwata hai, I think.
No fight from One-Sided, Syed from San Diego, CA
Free Quran Education best channel on UA-cam .... thanks 🥰😍
Ek masla ye be hay Kai Ghar k bary Koch bachon ko buht ihmeyat daity hayn kuch ko km .is nainsafi k waja say b jagry banty hayn
Aisa he hai...
Its true mari sas mari devrani ko ghar ka bara khti hai or usay he har chez mein aagay rakhthe hai yeh nainsafi hai
agreed
Agree with you
100% agree aisa hi hai
Ye nainsafi karna chor dain to sb acha ho jaye
Bohot hi zabardast topic hai ajkal tu mostly yahi problem hai
I hate joint fasmily system The older brothers and sisters often use your life for own purpose
Excellent Dr. Sb. Allah apko mazeed himat de taqat de. Jazak Allah o khairan
Thank you sir for such recommending such nice channel. I have subscribed to it, now my family will learn the holy Quran in easy way. Once again humbled and grounded dear sir. Stay blessed.
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AoA Sir....apki batain bht achi Hain MashaAllah
A lot of people are just too poor to live independently. Their kids and wives have no idea of financial issues. Family members should be transparent to each other and discuss these matters. Fake pride is a killer! 👪
True...if a man cant provide a seperate space than he shouldnot marry both mian biwi should b earning and better if of same field..always b4 marriage one should clearly discuss this stuff without hesitation! Yh pori generation ka mamla hy bachaon ko b nafsiati issues hute aise mahol m reh kr
Showoff and ریا کاری
Mashallah your amazing sir. Thank you for this video 👍
Sir what about injustice and favorism in household systems. The main reason behind all fights is this i think
Ap ka question bhot acha hy
Very true.. Favoritism is the cause to one specific family and comparing with other family
It's right
Bilkul sahi hamare haan yahi hain favourism
Blkl
Salamat rhein hmesha ❤️
اکثر بزرگ یہی کہتے ہیں کہ میں جیتے جی یہ نہیں ہونے دوں گا
Hahaha ese hi h
Hahaha hahaha hahaha hahaha 😂
First comment dr Saab you are a very good motivational speaker
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Sir, I have a question for you. I have seen a lot of joint family system around us and I have seen a lot of problems in joint family system.
I don't think there should be a joint family system nowadays. People who are living in a joint family system and most of them suffer from a lot of problems and suffer from many diseases.
100 % agreed.life is more hell for a girl bcs parents dnt support after marriage.and husbnd is more concerned abt his family even if they r wrong.
@@hassamkhan5794 Yes you are right when girls get married then this problems becomes difficult to deal with.
100% right
Right bhai meri sister in law meri cheezen chori krti thi or bs poochny ki dair hoti larai ho jati saboot ho in pata that siwaye is k k unko kmry sy nikalty dekha. .... Bht kuch gawaya akhir thak k ilzam lagaya to mujhy divorced dy di joint family system ny mera ghar barbad kiya;(
Raja Zain No problem, brother, don't worry, just live your life in silence and don't argue anyone it, leave your matter to Allah Almighty alone, insha'Allah you will live a very good life in the times to come.
bohat acha mozoo hai
جزاك اللّه خيرًا
Koi b larka ya larki shadi ka tasawar b na kre agr woh khud nhi kama skta..aur ghr nhi afford kr skta!!YH SIRF APKI LIFE NHI APKI OLAD KI MENTAL AND PHYSICAL HEALTH ka b sawal hy...inlaws ki interference aur ghr k jhagre bachon ko zehni mariz krdete hain..
Sir sir ...thank u so much.
Why every one is not like u
بہت نازک مسئلہ آج چھیڑ دیا ہے مرشد 🙈🙈🙈🙈
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Dr Sahib toh aik haqiqat bayan kar rahe hein, jitni jaldi issey tasleem kar liya jaye, behtar ho ga!
Sahi professor SAB Hum 5 families hum ikhatay rahte Hain SAB ki appne Apne unit Hain
In short joint family mein just woi survive kr skta k jo bara badmash ho... phr chahy wo kuch b na kry... sary usk gulaam
Apke bt krny ke anerjy bht shandar hy
6:20 the solution
Yeah u right. understanding is an a art and everyone is not artist 😊
hats off 🎩 ❤️
Good Free Quran Annimation I will must search this site thanks sir
I think parda is for women so how can joint family system can work for muslims or bechari women had to cover all the time even in homes 🤔🤔
Exactly.. gher mein b sakoon nai.. joint family is haram
You have a point. Even if family does not observe Prada, men in general do not respect women who are not mahram and may lead to quite harassment and abuse of women specially young girls.
We have strict parda protocolz in house and outside. And the summer season is just very very hot for us. Alhamdulillah we have ACs in home. But kitchen and lounge are like hell.
Mrs Umar Can you share what those Parda codes are?
@@mrsumar5358 exactly.. what is the purpose of parda in home.. why women are forced to live with na mehram.. atleast saudia mein women ghero mein toh sakoon sy rehti han
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کوئی ٹوٹے تو اسے سجھانا سیکھو
کوئی روٹھے تو اسے منانا سیکھو
رشتے تو ملتے ہیں مقدر سے دوستو
بس انہیں خوبصورتی سے نبھانا سیکھو
جو بھایؑ اور بہنیں میرا یہ کومنٹ پڑھ رھے ھیں ان سے موؑدبانہ گزارش ھے کہ میرا چینل بھی سبسکراییبؑ کر دیں !! جزاکم اللہ فی الدنیا وفی الآخرہ
Kia phir ma bap ko road p dal dein .
Jawed Iqbal bhai aap pahle kahan the yaar jo ab mile bahut kamal ki baten batate ho aap yaar sach me koi kisi k erade samajhne lage to zindagi aasan ho jaye.
Don't ignore this comment sir
Please sir make a video on the importance of girls education.. Our parents listen may they will understand and let me study further.. Please🙏 sir dont ignore my comment..
Write him an email and explain your problem with your conservative/jahil parents: surgeonjaved@gmail.com
@@AlviSultan mind ur language sir. I am not telling you anything. Ook. they are my parents and you don't have any right to say a word about them. And sorry to say sir your language shows your education and your upbringing at the same time. If you can't talk decently or with respect, I can say your education is nothing more than a paper degree.
@@hassamkhan5794 they won't force me to get married.. Actually We are from a very small city of Bihar. Here’s the education is not of that high leveled .. they said that they can't take risk of sending me in boardings or hostels.. As every one knows the crime rate or rape graph of India🇮🇳. . That's why they are fear of the evil things in our society.. Btw Alhamdulillah I am doing my graduation from Bihar university.. But for the higher studies I wanna go to Delhi Or somewhere else for good studies but can't able to agree them ..۔
@@pakistani_suits_ oh i se bihar same place frm where famous celebrity sushant singh rajput belonged to..then u r lucky..to get such parents.my advise is dont get married till u strt earning .really good and marry sime guy frm own field who encourage u fr furthur education
@@pakistani_suits_ u have some relative in big cities u may live at their place ?
Joint family system bhut kam kamyab hai kyunke aj kal sb ko privacy chahiye jo k joint mein nhi hoti jo bhi reh raha hai majboran reh raha hai, purane logo main sabr, darguzar aur ikhlas hota tha aj bhut kam logon mein hai is liye join rehna bhut mushkil hai
اللہ تعالی جتنے بھی جاٸنٹ فیملی ہے سب کو ازادی دے دیں یہ بڑی رسوا زندگی ہے
Very nice sir 👍 you are described owsam .thanks for information